12 years ago
What is a “Mutually Beneficial Relationships”?

12 years ago
What is a “Mutually Beneficial Relationships”?

Krystal wants to know the meaning of Mutually Beneficial Relationships

(Krystal Writes)


I was happy to come across your site a few weeks ago, and I have now signed up for a “standard” sugar baby female account. I am wondering what the term “mutually beneficial relationships” means exactly. Do they always have pre-arranged end dates? I am looking for an arrangement that doesn’t start out with too many rigid expectations, though I don’t know if there are any sugar daddies with this same philosophy? Any advice you all can give will be greatly appreciated.

(Stephan from SeekingArrangement.com Writes)

Hi Krystal,

You asked if arrangements usually begin with an end-date in mind. That’s a good question, and I’d also like to know how many people set up their last date before it happens. Does this work? Does agreeing to a ‘last date’ from the beginning help solidify an ideal arrangement, or would most people rather leave the option open for seeing each other again? I lean towards choosing an end date as soon as it’s reasonably possible… I just like the “commitment to not commit” aspect of it…I guess that’s a new Seeking Arrangement marketing line: “For those committed to not committing” πŸ˜‰ Though all might not agree…anyone think sugar daddy relationships are a type of commitment?

As for whether or not there are sugar daddies looking for loose, casual arrangements; Yes. There are men who have posted recently on THIS BLOG about how they’re looking for something deeper than a “cut-and-dry” arrangement, and wish to have an intellectual bond with their sugar babies. Would anyone else care to share what they think about deeper sugar daddy relationships?

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  65. BerkshireSD says:

    A set amount would be artificial in your case.

    Being soft about the money gives you the chance to develop a good relationship with a fine SD. Let the giving come from the heart and let the act be comfortable.

    Let a bond and trust grow between you and someone you truly like being with.

  66. BlondeinNYC says:

    Hey Nicole- I’ve noticed a lot of UK SD’s, too funny! Keep reading the different entries in the blogs and you’ll find that there’s a lot of advice regarding allowances. As Stephan has said, it’s best to be clear and have a short simple conversation about what you’re seeking with a SD. You can ask for a small amount or a large amount, it’s up to you; would you prefer weekly spa treatments instead? Talk about your expectations and desires.

  67. nicole says:

    Joined the site yesterday and waiting for my profile to be approved, i cant wait. I came across this site by accident and so after doing a bit of research of members, i thought this would be something i would like to try. I dont see a lot of UK based members so was wondering if anyone from the states etc had SD relationships with people from different countries and if they can be succesful?

    I am also a little worried about raising the aspect of money, i think i would just like to just experience what a SD relationship was without putting a price on it. I am a pretty independant woman and the thought of asking how much is a little off putting. Is it better to see how the discussion progresses or have a set amount in my head?


  68. Charlie says:

    Ok….. so I’ve been approached by more than a few guys on a well-known website, some of which I would be willing to meet for a first date… however, I would like to know more about what I should do safety wise as I’ve never done it before! Advice anyone?? xx

  69. stephan says:

    kim: You shared a truly beautiful memory and experience with us. Proves that love see’s no boundaries. Thank you, thank you.

  70. kim says:

    I in the past had the most wonderful relationship ever.
    My SD was older, a retired Doctor with grown children and a wife.
    Although I knew it was a NSA relaionship, that made it the most wonderful.
    He and I went to places every few onths (Vegas, Tahoe, Bahamas, etc..) But I always knew he would go home to his wife. As long as you are able to deal with that it works.
    This relationship lasted longer for me than any other relationship I have ever had (about 11 years).
    My SD found out he was ill and never told me why he broke ties with me. He just never contacted me again. I tried everything (within reason, keeping his secret) to contact him and learn why he never contacted me again.
    Last year I spoke with his son and found out he died in January of 2006. It nearly killed me. I knew I had fallen in love with my SD, many many years ago, He knew it too.
    To this day, I do not nor will I ever, regret having that relationship. I may never share my life with someone as my parents were able to do, but I did share the best part of me with someone that loved me specifically for me and the wonderful time we had together. We never fought or argued, how many relationships can truely say that? How many relationships can anyone truely have where they have not one single bad memory?

    I was truely blessed. I hope I can be again.

  71. Ben says:

    Just wanted to post briefly. A mutually beneficial relationship is defined above as both sides helping eachother. Let’s be honest folks and call it what it is – we’re talking about a relationship much like a man and his mistress in my opinion. This may not be right away – but I think most SDs are looking for somebody they can truly enjoy, respect, spoil, and whom they can have intimate contact. I think there’s even the possibility that a SD/SB will come to love eachother over time – if not become great friends. Now – there may be women and men here who simply are exchanging companionship and support and not, ahem, sex – but I’d say we should be honest about why we’re here. We can have a ton of fun in these relationships and really help eachother if both sides are open and honest.

  72. True Red says:

    Thanks you guys I have been looking at profiles that don’t have pictures and we get to talking and next thing you know i see there picture and they are not attractive to me even a little.

    Also why are there so many on here that say they want a long term realtionship and if you read more into there profile they sound as if they don’t want to be a SD. It makes this whole hting a little hard then it needs to be.

    I mean I cam on this site because I know what my role is and what I am looking for and I thought that the expectation for that kind of relationship would be clear but from some of the profiles that i read it seems as though the meaning of SD/SB got lost in translation some where. I just want to know that there truly is SD out there that know there role.

  73. stephan says:

    SunnyBunny: Good questions! I’ve posted your latter question: “…how do you β€œdiscuss” this with the potential SD” as the latest post on our blog. Hopefully we’ll get some feed back from other sugar babies and sugar daddies on the site.

    The easiest way to set your expectations right from the beginning is by utilizing the ‘allowance’ feature in your profile. Yet, you did mention that you weren’t interested in monetary support? Irregardless, no matter what your expectations are, it’s always best to put it out there in the first message. How? By being literal, direct, exact. This is, for lack of a better term, the business side to an arrangement. The sugar daddies on this site are not shaken by blunt negotiations- this is how many of them make a living. With that in mind, you shouldn’t hesitate to be direct about your expectations as soon as an arrangement seems possible.

    The best rule is to always let your expectations be known during the “Fact Finding Stage” of an arrangement- before any hard feelings can be felt.

    True Red: Hello! HunnyBabe pretty much speaks for me on this one. I don’t enjoy having to wait for a picture to be ‘sent’ to me, and knowing that this mystery person has already seen MY likeness adds insult to injury, yet, you never know what high profile celeb is behind all that mystery. This is a sugar daddy dating site, and many of the men and women here are in very client facing positions that could be compromised if word of their sugar daddy dating habit were leaked to the press.

    So, basically, I was just trying to add (in probably too many words) that there may be more legitimacy to someone not posting a profile pic on a sugar daddy site as opposed to a normal online dating site.

  74. Rosie says:

    WOW I have to remember to proof read LOL. I meant to say:

    Welcome to our new people.

  75. Rosie says:

    Welcome you our new people.
    True Red: I have to agree with HB you have to be open to those that don’t have pic. Some of the better SD’s won’t put that on here. Most of the ones that I have talked to will send a picture after they are sure you can be trusted or that you aren’t someone they don’t want to find them. You do need to have a lot of patients when looking for a good SD.

    I have a question for you All: I am finding that when I start talking to a SD after about 2 emails they will always ask what do you like sexually? I seem to get tongue tied at this point. lol I am honest but also tell them I couldn’t tell them everything or there wouldn’t be any surprises or excitement in what could happen. I am I right or do you just put everything out there? It seems like after that I don’t hear from them.

    If any SD can also jump in and tell me what most of them are looking for I would be very grateful. Thanks
    Rosie πŸ™‚

  76. HunnyBabe says:

    SunBunny: Well, first i would say, about ur profile u should be clear on who u are, what u like andwhat u dont like(that would help u eliminate guys u wouldnt be interested in automatically)…and about the appproach u should have with them financially-wise, i’d say, do it when u first talk to them, before u get more involved into a friendship and all and it becomes harder to even mention the subject, and don’t be shy about it hun…I hope i helped a bit at least,if u need anything else just let us know!!!

    True Red: First i would say u shouldn’t be closed to the idea of meeting guys who don’t have a pic, because u could miss out a lot, there’s a lot of fine gentleman, who just have to protect their identity, but they’re very handsome and attractive, so don’t be close to that, what u can do is make sure they send u pic before u guys meet πŸ˜‰ …and as i told SunBunny be clear in ur profile in terms of what u looking for and what u dont like and what u like, to eliminate all the ppl u wouldnt be interested…I hope it helps babe.


  77. True Red says:

    Hello everyone, I am new to the site as well as being new as a sugar babby. I am not as young as some but not old either. I am having a hard time finding a SD or keeping contact going between us. I really look for ones with pictures do to the honest fact that Money is not always enough if there is no attraction. Atleast for me. I don’t want to waste anyones time if I know that what I see is not going to work for me even if what they see works for them. I guess I could use some advice on how to take a different approach to this since I am new. Also are them men on here really SD I mean I read so many profiles that say they are looking for a serious realtionship and that is it. I don’t know I am just getting a little discourage and was hoping for some support here.

    I have read alot of the blogs and everyone seems to be so helpful and sooo nice I figured it was safe to ask for some advice.

  78. SunBunny says:

    Hi Stephan,

    Well, I wanted to start out by saying that I guess I am just confused as to how exactally you are suposted to word your profile to make this point stand out-without sounding like a escort.

    Above and beyond just the profile, how do you “discuss” this with the potential SD? Any comments on what you have said or how you have brought it up in a conversation, etc… HB, Confused, Rosieopen, etc…Thanks πŸ™‚

  79. HunnyBabe says:

    Slacker694202000: The best advise i can give you is: send an email to Stephan with your profile number, or maybe if u dont mind send him the number through here, and he’s gonna tell u more specificly what ur doin wrong with ur profile…I wish i could help but is kinda hard if i can’t really see ur profile then i don’t know what ur doing wrong, but Steph is a pro so he’ll help for sure!!


  80. slacker694202000 says:

    I have been a menber of this site for quite sometime… I am a standard{free} member . I’m a 25 y/o guy an have not received one message from any potential sugar mommy… someone look at my profile an tell me what i am doing wrong any advice would be more than helpful

  81. HunnyBabe says:

    Hahahaha…i know uh? i rock!!!! now U owe me a check πŸ˜‰ …kidding hun, is a pleasure to give ideas to hel improve the site πŸ˜€

    HB xxx

  82. Stephan says:

    HunnyBabe: You are sooo KEEN! How’d you know the best website to link your username to?! that helps us get more users on seeking arrangement, you rocks the party that rocks the body! lol πŸ˜€

  83. Stephan says:

    *ROFL* Hunn πŸ˜› That’ll be my next project hehe

  84. HunnyBabe says:

    SunBunny: Hey im sorry i didn’t really write anything before(sorry Steph!!!)…i’ve posted a llot about this before, i wish there was a way to find the comments we’ve posed by user name(Steph!!!! lol), but if u have time and read the comments i have posted in other articles before, u’ll see probably a lot of useful advice, if u need anything else just let me know and I,ll be happy to help πŸ™‚


    HB xxx

  85. Stephan says:

    Hello SunnyBunny! Welcome!

    I wonder why no one has responded to your question yet…hmmmm *shouting* “Hunnybabe, Buttercup, Annabelle, Confused!!” let’s just say there’s more than a few qualified sugar babies with first hand sugar daddy advice on how to set expectations.

    From what I’ve gathered, it sounds like your set on not using money as part of your arrangement. Are you seeking less direct benefits instead of money?

    I’m interested in what some of the sugar babies have to say about this. Here’s a previous blog where you might be able to find some talking points: http://www.seekingarrangement.com/blog/?p=1

  86. SunBunny says:

    I just wanted to say that I am so excited to hear from all you awesome women here on the blog! I am not new to this whole SD/SB experience however like all walks in life, you learn more every time you try something new. I have always been so frustrated with traditional dating, as people tend not to be honest with each other in regards to what they are searching for, what they need to be happy or what they are willing to sacrifice/give up in order to get to those goals. So all the wisdom, experience, and insight from other members both male and female help me to refine how I handle things and hopefully to make a better connection happen sooner! πŸ™‚
    I would love to have your thoughts on a subject relating to the “mutually beneficial arrangement” and asking for an allowance, (never use money, as this can be construed as prostitution) gifts, things of that nature…

    I was with a man for over 3 years, and I don’t quite remember when things changed to the point when I could start asking for things, i.e.: I really like these shoes (louboutins) or Nordstrom’s is having a sale, I would like to go shopping, or even simply I am having some tough times financially this month-could I have some money to help keep things financially stable…

    In going into this again, I am nervous as to how do I ask or set the financial expectation from the beginning? Any help would be greatly appreciated! I hope to hear back from you soon!!!

  87. stephan says:

    rosiesopen: I’ll definitely stay around for the ride, and wishing you a swift return πŸ™‚ Have a great weekend Rosie, and do check in πŸ˜€

    confused: That is a good thing to keep in mind- background checks are a wise precaution, but sometimes their accuracy can perhaps be a bit off. I’m glad your sugar daddy search hasn’t been put on hold because of this, and it looks like you’ve simply enhanced YOUR search from this experience.

  88. rosiesopen says:

    Thanks Stephan, I am just taking a break for medical reasons but I will be back better than ever!!! πŸ™‚ Then I will have some nice pic. to post. lol I will be checking in off and on to see how ya’ll are doing. Don’t keep yourself out of the loop too long Stephan you could be missing a really good thing πŸ˜‰ lol.

    Have a great week-end all. πŸ™‚

  89. confused says:

    HELP! I just got rejected by a potential sd because he did a background check on me and didn’t like something he saw. If any of you have ever tried that people search thing, even the free version, you know that it isn’t current, actually goes back about 20 years. He entered my info (I guess he got my name from his caller id stuff , he called me but I have an unlisted number so I guess you can still get info. Anyway he saw a man listed as a possible relative and decided I must have a husband. The name he saw was my husband, actually my EX-husband whom I have been divorced from for over a decade. I did a background check myself on my first boyfriend who died over 20 years ago, and it says if I purchase the service, there is a phone number and current adress for my boyfriend! This is interesting since he is in the cemetery and I doubt he has a phone??
    Anyway keep in mind anyone whom you do a background check on, the info is not always accurate. I checked on my dad and it came back that he had lived in another town where his brother actually lives. I know my dad never lived in that town because he and my mom have lived in the same town for the past 30 years.

    So my search for an sd goes on and no more phone calls or giving out numbers till I actually meet in person first.

  90. stephan says:

    rosiesopen: I know that was quite the back and forth, but exciting it was! You know that you can still use the site pretty effectively with a STANDARD membership don’t you? If not, than goodness I’m sorry! But, if your needing a break I understand (I’m on my 2nd month of my online dating break). I’ll definitely keep everyone posted about future SeekingArrangement parties should they happen. Ya ain’t gotta go ya know! πŸ˜›

  91. rosiesopen says:

    Wow that was like watching a tennis match. lol
    Krystal: Welcome to SA Hun. I don’t have any advice for you now as I am still searching myself but wish you all the best in your search and like the other girls said just be safe.
    Unimpressed: I haven’t seen you hear before thanks for your input. you have any other experiences you would like to share?
    My time is almost up here and I am not sure if I am going to be able to renew or not but I just want to thank Stephan for all your support Hun. I will be back at a later date to check up on all and see how things are going and to when this big party is going to happen πŸ˜‰ Stephan you should have my email, if you could drop me a line when and if. I would be very grateful. If you don’t let me know.
    Be back soon. πŸ™‚ Rosie

  92. HunnyBabe says:

    awwww πŸ™ …its ok Steph i understand im sure Butter will too πŸ˜€ …too bad u’ll be missing the fun loll!!!


    HB xxx

  93. stephan says:

    babe and cup- I can’t IM with members…it’s part of a contract I signed with SA— very restrictive about contacting members through the site or the blog, and the webmaster enforces this strictly—sorry, i shouldn’t have gotten myself so far in the clouds I forgot about my non-engagement contract! I hope this doesn’t break up the traveling louboutins…

  94. HunnyBabe says:

    Maybe he’s sleeping ZZZZzzzZZZZzzz…

  95. buttercup says:

    maybe you could come online now??? πŸ™‚

  96. HunnyBabe says:

    hahahaha….we’re on 2008 u know Steph??? πŸ˜‰

  97. stephan says:

    I just sent… oh my goodness i could have just added u but that shows you how unfamiliar i am with messengers lol ;P

  98. HunnyBabe says:

    awwwww….Steph is totally not adding us lol

  99. stephan says:

    The same guy also does “shirly q. liquor”…

  100. stephan says:

    HunnyButter: you two should check out “Betty Butterfield” on Youtube. She’s my obsession!

  101. HunnyBabe says:

    hahahahaha…i just saw the shoe comment hahahha

  102. stephan says:

    buttercup: that’s a nice reason to have a sugar daddy πŸ˜› :o)

  103. stephan says:

    back at ya HUNN! πŸ™‚

  104. buttercup says:

    Yes! That’s exactly what I was talking about πŸ™‚ They’re my obsession πŸ˜›


  105. HunnyBabe says:

    awwwwwww….i totally love Steph lolll

  106. stephan says:

    That sounds so catchy. what are louboutins? I wiki’d it and it took me to ‘Christian louboutins’- a shoe designer? those shoes are sizzliln!

  107. buttercup says:

    sisterhood of the traveling louboutins πŸ˜€

  108. stephan says:

    Sure- but I’m more of a blogger than a chatter fyi πŸ˜‰ OH and I am doing this because I think we can be like the sugar daddy dating ya ya sisterhood.

  109. buttercup says:


  110. HunnyBabe says:

    Steph…u should have msn and add us!!! lol

  111. HunnyBabe says:

    yay!! got it

  112. buttercup says:

    HAHA yes I know you definitely do πŸ™‚ Butters is the cutest!! Oh wait no maybe Ike is the absolute cutest.

    Showing culture here … πŸ˜€


  113. stephan says:

    HB: you have m-a-i-l.

    butter: I know! butters is a good one too (ever watch south park?)

  114. buttercup says:

    Ohh butter is such a cute nickname!!! I’ll use it from now on!

    HB I’ve added you on msn πŸ™‚


  115. HunnyBabe says:

    Still waiting for Buttercup’s email-msn Steph…..

  116. stephan says:

    butter: it was the 1 you registered with the blog with πŸ˜€

  117. buttercup says:


  118. HunnyBabe says:

    uh???? im confused and my nickname is not even confused lol

  119. buttercup says:

    I just sent you an email from my address! Haha care to tell me where I have mail?

  120. stephan says:

    Buttercup: You have m-a-i-l

  121. HunnyBabe says:

    Yes yes go ahead!!!!

  122. stephan says:


    Do I have the GoAhead on that???

  123. buttercup says:

    thanks for the idea!

  124. buttercup says:

    HAHAHAHAHA I think we will indeed!

  125. stephan says:

    Just don’t you two go running off and leaving us like a two cent whore! J/K

  126. buttercup says:

    Oh lovely! Let’s wait to see if HB approves of the method!

    Thanks Steph πŸ™‚

  127. stephan says:

    Buttercup/Hunnybabe: Absolutely, I’ll send you two eachothers email addy’s!

  128. buttercup says:

    stephan, do you think this an option?

  129. buttercup says:

    well maybe if you send yours to stephan and i send him mine, he could pimp you out to me or me to you!!!

  130. HunnyBabe says:

    oooops….my bad..now u know my secret!!!! loll πŸ˜‰

    Shoot its a shame we can’t exchange msn’s throught here πŸ™ …we could chit chat πŸ˜‰

  131. buttercup says:

    you’re a GIRL??? hahaha just kidding πŸ˜€

  132. HunnyBabe says:

    This forum is quickly turning into gay lesbian porn (jk)

    LUV YA Buttercup

  133. HunnyBabe says:

    Awwwwwwww hahahahah….no no, ur gonna be My sugar baby!!! πŸ˜‰ …OMG ur the cutest thing!!!

  134. buttercup says:

    I love you tooo HB, wanna be my sugar baby??? πŸ˜›

  135. stephan says:

    ppp1256: Good question!!! At the time there isn’t a ‘screen name’ search available on SA.

    We realized after we started the blog that people would probably want the option of viewing eachothers profiles like you mentioned. Look for us to implement a PROFILE LINK option on the blog within the next few weeks, but for now, it’s completely islanded. I definitely think this is a must do!

  136. buttercup says:

    Aww pp1256, this is so sweet of you!

    Unfortunately I am not even on the site anymore, since I am not ‘seeking’ another arrangement due to my unbearable happiness with my current situation!

    Also, I would not use the same screen name here, that I used on SA to protect my identity.

    You really are a sweetheart though, as HB said πŸ™‚



  137. confused says:

    Although I am a little older, I have always been attracted to older men. Every man I have dated (with the exception of my ex husband) has been 50+. I had a sugar daddy from this site that was several years younger than me and I felt awkward about that. I find there aren’t enough older sugardaddies on this site though.

  138. HunnyBabe says:

    I love You Buttercup!!!

  139. HunnyBabe says:

    Ooops i dunno what hapend but i commented to Krys after Steph posted a comment, because i thought it was Krys whowrote that, no wonder i was confused lol….no no the email i wrote u was about a member….did u get it or not Steph?

    Thanks HUN

    HB xxx

  140. buttercup says:

    Well one free SD site does have a blog but they don’t have … STEPHAN πŸ˜€ Seriously, it’s really not as good as this one, because they rarely ever post articles and the articles do not feel warm and human as they do here.

    To answer your question about older men, my SD is over 50, yet there is this aura of power, intelligence, wisdom and charisma that surrounds him and makes him totally irresistible. I also love the clothes he wears, his mannerisms, and the sex…. well the sex is just mindblowing and better than every young guy I’ve ever slept with so far – and I am very very serious πŸ™‚

    Darling we are all attracted to different men. It’s really not hard at all to meet a man over 50 who has all the qualities that make someone desirable to most women. But if you don’t find yourself attracted to any man, just don’t go for it. You will regret it if you do. Don’t date anyone you wouldn’t normally date outside this concept, and treat it as casual dating…. casual dating with exquisite benefits πŸ˜›



  141. HunnyBabe says:

    lolll….Anna Nicole Smith and her husband…omg that’s hilarious lol…No no hun is not ike that at all, i mean there’s more mature ppl of course, but most of the guys here are between 30 and 45 i’d say…there’s all kinds of SD’s for all kinds of SB’s πŸ˜‰ , dont freak out, i wouldnt get involved with someone i dont feel attracted to either…

    pp1256: ur a sweetheart i dunno if u could do that on the advanced search but i tell u since now that my profile its hidden πŸ˜‰ …ur still a sweetheart!!!!


  142. ppp1256 says:

    krystal, the best thing about this site in addition to this blog is that it has young sugar daddies i.e. successful people in their thirties. All you have to do is search.

    Which brings up a question: Stephan, Is there a way to search by sugarbaby name? I looked at the advanced search but there was not a way to search by name. What if i wanted to quickly look at the hunnybabe, buttercup and krystal’s profile?

  143. Krystal says:

    Thanks HunnyBabe, Buttercup & Stephan!

    I am intrigued by this site, and I think it’s the only one that has a blog for its users. I am on a couple regular dating sites at the moment, but I would like something a little different. What if I don’t find myself attracted to the guys on the site— assuming they’re all on the 50+ side. I just don’t know if i can see myself being attracted to sugar daddies. when i think about sugar daddies i picture anna nicole smiths ex husband…tell me that the guys here aren’t like that.

  144. HunnyBabe says:

    Krys: Oh im glad u read it…yes well i think that it would be a better way to promote the site as well, because more mebers would tell their curious friends to check out the blogs to see what’s this all about….


    HB xxx

  145. stephan says:

    HunnyBabe: Yes I totally remember the second part of your message now— about promoting the blog through the site more. I am trying to change a few things with the blog.

    For starters, I wan’t the banner on the top to have the trademark SA image of a guy and girl keeping a secret.

    Also, it’s way too hard to register to leave comments on this blog, I think. Does anyone have a website they can link this blog to?

    Luv ya Hun!

    Buttercup: πŸ™‚ You brighten my day darlin! I hope all is well with you, and yours πŸ™‚ If you ever want to treat us with a sugar daddy story (either in a post OR the comments) let me know (that goes for you too HunnyBabe/Rosie, etc).

    Everyone is welcome to submit a POST for the Sugar Daddy Blog!!! Send your sugar daddy questions, stories, topics and advice to: [email protected]

  146. HunnyBabe says:

    I know!!!LOve is in the air!!!! la la la la …i dont even know the song just the chorus lolll…but u guys get my point πŸ˜‰

    LUV YA

    HB xxx

  147. buttercup says:

    Awww there’s soooo much love on this blog!! I love it πŸ™‚

    Krystal, you MUST let us know how it’s going, and if you ever have any questions/doubts about people you meet on the site or just general concerns, feel absolutely free to talk about it here!! I think the greatest advice I could give you after making sure to ALWAYS be safe, would be to take everything slow. I did this, because I was too shy to be excessively demanding about financial things, and it really worked to my advantage in helping my SD trust me and making him WANT to do things for me (yay)! So be very slow and veeery discriminating πŸ™‚

    HB I love you toooo πŸ™‚ I think you’re the sweetest commenter ever πŸ™‚ and you always give good advice πŸ™‚ I’m so glad there’s such a happy cheerful person around!

    Stephan πŸ™‚ Well… You are just a S W E E T H E A R T πŸ™‚ You are doing such a good job on this blog, please don’t ever go away!!!

    Do you think you could make a post on safety guidelines for SBs? Like for a first date or if they fly out to meet a potential match? I think more and more people will start to consider arrangements and some might turn to this website to find out what it’s all about – it would be good if we could help some girls avert possible problems by just giving them a few safety rules! If we can get a discussion started in this comment thread to give you material for an upcoming post that would be fantastic πŸ™‚

    LOVE as always πŸ™‚


  148. confused says:

    A mutually beneficical relationship to me means that you help each other. You as the sb give the sd companionship and if he is married, you might fill the void in his marriage, he is return helps you financially so you can live a better life or reach your goals, takes you places you might not be able to go on your own, shows you the better life and you in return give him your trust and companionship and satisfy his needs.

  149. HunnyBabe says:

    Hey Krystal…me as buttercup i tell u hun that most of my posted comments could probably answer ur question or at least help u a bit!!! …im glad ur reading the blogs and u like them hun!!!

    Steph: Ur the best!!!
    Buttercup: i adore u girl!!!


    HB xxx

  150. confused says:

    Thanks I look forward to reading new comments on this blog and it is disappointing when all those new comments are spam.

  151. stephan says:

    confused: I am completely at my wits end with these spammers! I know there is a problem, and for whatever reason, they’ve targeted that one post about poser sugar daddies and nothing else…yet. I’ll go through and clean out the spam again today, but I can’t promise they won’t come slimming their way back. Don’t worry, I still have a few tricks up my sleeve, they’ll regret ever posing as sugar daddy bloggers!

  152. confused says:

    this is off topic, sorry but has anyone noticed that on some of the questions on this forum, there is spam. On the question about poser sugardaddies there are over 100 comments that are actually advertisements. This ticks me off as I think I am going to read some new comments and it turns out to be a bunch of spam ads.

  153. Krystal says:

    buttercup: Thank you!!! I will keep your advice in mind! I haven’t finished my profile yet…still uploading pictures in all.

    I must say I’m touched by how nice you and all the girls are here….I was afraid the girls would be catty or put each other down, but it looks like for the most part people are very supportive here, so thanks buttercup and the rest of you good people πŸ˜€ LOVE U MORE

    Stephan: Thanks for the tips πŸ™‚ I really appreciate this blog!


  154. buttercup says:

    Haha most of my comments could be a response to this post πŸ™‚

    Good luck to Krystal πŸ™‚ I hope you find a wonderful situation here! Don’t forget to be careful and stay completely yourself πŸ™‚



  155. unimpressed says:

    Suprise ladies! All men deep down are looking for a committed, serious and long term relationship. But of course they hide behind the “I’m just playing the field” role to ……1)Feed their ego 2)Pass time until the “ONE” does come along 3)Avoid rejection 4) impress their buddies.

    The SD site is a playground until someone comes along on or off site that raises the bar towards a quality instead of a cheap relationship. You may “cost” a lot but your value to him is indirectly proportionate.