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Sugar Match: How to Find Yours


Sugar Daddy Dating For the Wise

All of us will inevitably hit a road block a long the way, and finding a great Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby doesn’t normally happen overnight.


“… I am relatively new also (less than a month) and have waded through LOTS of pot SDs. However, I am now seriously talking to 2 amazing men and will be meeting them shortly. These 2 slowly but surely pushed the “relationship” forward- I was able to tell within 2 days of emails and IMs that they were for real. I’ve now learned to cut ties with those all those time wasters a lot sooner than I did at first….. saved me lots of time.
I guess I trying to say real SDs know what they want and make it clear early on.

While it may take some time to figure out the best approach for you, here are some tips to navigating the SD/SB playing field with minimal time/effort loss…

Messaging: Create a magnificent introductory message and tailor it to each potential you see fit.

Monitoring: Feel free to observe your inbox… but tread carefully the waters of the ‘Sent’ box. It’s a useful tool perhaps, but if you’re like many, you may be slightly discouraged to see an unread message (indicated by a red X) even though the message recipient has logged-in post-delivery. There are many, many reasons why someone may choose not to open a message, and I’ve learned it’s simply best not to speculate on the matter.

Profile Text: This is your chance to introduce yourself, make your pitch, stimulate interest, and set the terms for all potential dialog. This is your territory, your world, and you make the laws. Anyone contacting you will do so on the conditions you set here and being vague or vivid is totally up to you.

Photos: Make them clear, recent, and gorgeous. If you opt out of posting them on your profile, be ready to explain why and provide off site…

Sugar Babies:

Do you have a preference for Sugar Daddies who post a photo, or not?

Are you hesitant about showing your face in your profile? How do you determine which pics to show in your profile?

Are you ever asked for XXX pics? How do/would you respond?

Sugar Daddies:

Whether you’re married or single, do you think twice before telling a Sugar Baby your real name?

Do you plan on dating numerous Sugar Babies, or are you seeking just one great girl/boy?

Have you ever been questioned by a potential Sugar Baby as to your wealth? How does/would that make you feel?

Do you prefer giving set allowances, or ‘open/negotiable’ support?

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  9. sweetredhead says:

    I see you wagging your tail Gordon lmao

  10. Gordon says:

    Thank you Nico, I have been around women awhile and know how much expense and effort you put into a first date.

    Also a gift confirms to a woman that she is in the company of a genuine benefactor who may or may not be for her but he is real.

  11. Nico says:

    Gordon ~ I’ve been reading through the blogs and seems as though I am at the tail end of each; however, I saw your response to the question re: gift giving at the first meeting and felt compelled to comment.

    I can tell you that I have not personally ever expected a ‘gift’ but what you propose could melt a woman. The gentleman typically picks up the tab (although I’ll admit to having paid to get the heck outa there before) but if the man is who is represents, he will pick up the tab. For an intial date/meeting that’s all I could hope for (and a good connection). What you propse goes well beyond expectation (on my part) and would be a welcomed treat. Extra Kudos to you.

  12. How Attract Women says:

    Thanks. Nice information. Your post on attracting women has been somehow accurate with what I am researching on. I also believe that in order to attract women, one needs to overcome shyness. Some guys find that this is what that hold them back. Hey, I like your content, can we exchange blogroll? I am going to make a new blog soon. Do let me know by email. =)

  13. sweetredhead269443 says:

    With this type of relationship you can “feel” the person out. First by what he says in his profile. Then by emails or messenger or phone conversations. Don’t be afraid to ask questions. Don’t worry you will scare anyone off. If they are scared off by your questions then they are not the person for you. Always be yourself. Don’t try and put on an act. Be truthful. That is the only way you are going to find the connection you are looking for. Never settle because you are not getting responses. The one for you is out there, just have patients.

  14. OCSugarBaby says:

    Beach and Gordon- SB’s all around the world will be flocking to your profile. It is nice to know that there are true gentlemen SD’s out there! 🙂

  15. Beach says:

    Thanks for the post Gordon.

    The idea of having options based upon whether you make a connection is a great idea. I agree she deserves some appreciation for making the effort, even if the meeting does not lead to a further relationship.

  16. OCSugarBaby says:

    Gordon- I like your style! Very nice. I posted a similar comment but it was deleted!

  17. Gordon says:


    I tried to answer Monday and if the blog is working now I will offer an opinion.

    If a woman takes the time to dress and make herself up, if she overcomes apprehension and second thoughts, if she go through the trouble and expense of tranportation, If she shows up and is who she advertised herself to be. She deserves and has earned a gift.

    Flowers draw to much public attention, you will never pick the right perfume.
    I carry two (different colored) envelopes in my jacket pocket each containing a greeting card, inside one is cash and one has a Neiman Marcus gift card. Whether a connection or match is made she gets a gift. During the meet I make a judgment call and slip her an envelope. Some women are hesitant to accept cash from a stranger, no woman turns down a Neiman Marcus gift card.

  18. Beach says:

    I am interesting in hearing what an SB would think is an appropriate gift for a first meeting. I don’t think it is a good idea to bring cash, but think it is appropriate not to show up empty handed. It would seem that if she takes the time to meet, you should show her some appreciation for her time and show that you are serious about setting up a relationship if they are the right one.

    Would be interested in an SB perspective.

  19. OCSugarBaby says:

    Alexis- I am sorry that happened. Take your time in getting to know each other. They can only fake it for so long. If the person isn’t willing to give you enough information to feel confidant that they are who they say they are, move on. A person who has nothing to hide and wants you to feel good about their validity will put forth the information. Some may be a bit guarded at first but will eventually warm up. Acting is just that. An act, people lie, but, if they are a good SD or SB they will let things unfold in time and NOT be in a hurry. Patience is hard, but hold out for someone who is REAL. They are out there.

  20. SuthrnExec says:

    Great question Alexis – Go to this blog topic (http://www.seekingarrangement.com/blog/?p=130) and see if there are answers to your questions there.

  21. alexis says:

    I have been trying to meet a good SD”real one”
    But so far iv met fake ones. One of them actually admitted to me that he was fake because he said he couldn’t lie to me anymore. I was very upset because i felt i wasted time on him. The other SD acted like he was rich but really he liked to steal little things.. it was so weird

    How do you pick out the fakes and find the real?

  22. Beauty says:

    happy new year everyone

  23. Sweetgemi says:

    Hi everyone.
    Hey Coco i am a black and British girl living in Montreal Canada.
    You should try looking into getting a work visa for Canada, they aren’t difficult to get.

  24. dreamer says:

    i finally got on a computer and found my # lol. its 201176

  25. Miss T says:

    With regards to the poster who had a SD want her to fly out to meet him: I had a guy want me to drive down to meet him (I live in Canada, he lives in the US, he wanted to meet in the middle, about a 3 hour drive away from where I live). I told him that’s not possible as I don’t have a car, then he asked me if I would take the bus. Um no. Have you been on a bus lately? They’re gross! Plus there’s a risk of being beheaded! I told him if he could come here we could meet for dinner or something and see how things go. He said if he was gonna come here he at least wanted to spend the weekend with me. I’m really not sure what to do at this point… There does seem to be a shortage of SD here…

  26. chocolatevenus says:

    Hi everyone, how is your xmas day going! I had to escape for a bit, so thought i would come and see my new friends here!


  27. SuthrnExec says:

    Good night ladies – Merry Christmas!

  28. Jenniferbbwsb says:


    OC.. have fun!!

  29. OCSugarBaby says:

    Nite you two! I am trying to watch a movie… It is in French and has English subtitles… need to pay attention. lol

    Sweet Dreams!

  30. lisa says:

    I am going to work on my profile and do a premium membership for a month, change pics. don’t know that it will make a difference though as I get plenty of view but no emails. but I will get a chance to see all those guys who have me on their favorites list.

  31. lisa says:

    Goodnight everyone, gotta go to bed now.
    My daughter and my parents are going to have their christmas stuff tomorrow and drop by on friday , providing it isnt’ pouring down rain.

    Merry Christmas

  32. Jenniferbbwsb says:

    OC, I am so happy for you. Now, I am going to work on my profile after the holidays and get some better pictures.

    I know that this will work out for me!! You have to think positive!!

  33. Jenniferbbwsb says:

    Lisa, Merry Christmas to you. Have a great day with your family on Friday.

    OC, Merry Christmas to you also. Stay warm and blog away!!!

    I will try to get on throughout the day, but I will be cooking and having fun with my son. I will be thinking of you all. May Santa bring you a smile on your face and a song in your heart.

  34. OCSugarBaby says:

    Hi ya Jennifer- ahhh you gotta love kids at Christmas!

  35. Jenniferbbwsb says:

    Now you two…. getting a little fresh.. wait a minute… that’ ok. You two are made for each other!!!

    Just got done doing the Santa thing.. My son too forever to go to sleep. It is a good thing that the bike was already put together!!

  36. OCSugarBaby says:

    Dang SuthrnExec- What’s your profile number again? lol 🙂

  37. SuthrnExec says:

    Someone up there somewhere asked what the top things that attract a man to a woman. I have no research to back this, so this applies only to me. Here are the things on my list:
    1. Her smile
    2. Feminine nature
    3. Intelligence and Confidence
    4. Sense of humor
    5. Physical attractiveness

    If I need elaborate, let me know 🙂 Any other SDs want to chime in?

  38. lisa says:

    Good evening Jenniferbbwsb, hope your christmas eve is nice.
    I just got off the phone with a friend.

  39. OCSugarBaby says:

    Merry Christmas Jennifer 🙂

  40. OCSugarBaby says:

    Stephan- Thank you for making the old August Blog a hyper-link above.

    Everyone should click on it and read what SD Ben wrote as the first comment on the topic. Very well written.

    Here is the topic again in case you missed it in my posting above. Worth the read!

    What Should You Get For What You Give?

  41. Jenniferbbwsb says:

    To all the wonderful SB’s and SD’s…. Have a wonderful Christmas.

    SE… to answer you question

    1. Personality ( able to laugh at self)
    2. Means (being able to provide for family and SB)
    3. Power (not the bad type)
    4. Looks ( taller than I am)
    5. Fame (don’t really care for)

  42. lisa says:

    Enjoy the movie. I’m going to try to call a friend if I can reach her, not sure if she is working tonight.

  43. OCSugarBaby says:

    Lisa- There always a few klunkers. Keep the faith.

    Ok, Im gonna finish my movie. I am watching House Bunny. lol

    I will be back later! 🙂

  44. lisa says:

    Good night SweetEuro, have a wonderful Christmas.

  45. lisa says:

    I have recieved some emails from some sds that were looking for something else, a little more sick and perverse. One sent me a list of all the things he was into, and well I am not interested in abusing my body and being hurt for some guys pleasure, and this particular sd was also looking for someone who wasn’t after his money. wow

  46. OCSugarBaby says:

    Nite SweetEuro… sleep well and again Merry Christmas! 🙂

  47. OCSugarBaby says:

    Maybe we can get some new ones to join us tonite. lol

  48. SweetEuropean says:

    Mmm bedtime for me, i’m falling asleep! I’m going to look through all the old blog posts when I have some spare time 🙂 Merry christmas everyone! 🙂 xx

  49. lisa says:

    It would be interesting to hear from the sbs on here that have sds what gifts their sds gave them for Christmas and what the sds gave their sbs
    sweetredhead, did you get something nice from you sd?

  50. OCSugarBaby says:

    I am the type of person that loves to learn at every turn, so reading the old blogs was a fun way of getting some insight to the SD mind set. Which is STILL a mystery to me. lol

    I read one old post from an SD that he is looking for “True Intimacy” with his SB. Someone who he has chemistry with and can find refuge in their time spent together. I liked reading that.

    Another SD in some of the older post (I think it was September) wrote exactly how he handles a first meeting. He spoke of how he handles the financial and expectation setting issues. Again, very insightful.

  51. SweetEuropean says:

    I hope the SDs reading the blog decide to join in aswell at some point! Maybe then we could all find a nice SD here like OC! And it would be nice to see more of a male perspective and learn more things from a SD point of view.!

  52. lisa says:

    Blogs are addicting. I am a member of 2 blogs where we talk about nothing except what freebies we got in the mail. lol

  53. lisa says:

    we have fun complaining 🙂 it is so simple, if we all could have a sd spoil us rotten and fulfill every need, we wouldn’t have anything to complain about, lol

  54. OCSugarBaby says:

    I think there are more SD’s out there that read but don’t comment. Which is ok. But I think that we need to continue our discussions of what we want in a SD/SB arrangement. It helps us all fine tune our communication skills.
    Look at how many new SB’s have said that they were reading the blogs for a bit then joined in. Heck, I was one of them! lol

  55. SweetEuropean says:

    Lol, we don’t always complain, we have fun too! 🙂

  56. lisa says:

    I am getting zero emails but when I was getting emails, I dont’ think the guys knew about the blog. I just don’t see a lot of sds getting online and talking about their experiences, we have very few sds on this blog, it’s mostly just us complaining sbs

  57. OCSugarBaby says:

    Well maybe thru the gift of Blog we can let them know what we want and need. lol

  58. lisa says:

    Wow, I learned something. I always thought it was more of a European thing since mistresses were common in Europe and that’s basically a man providing financially for a lover. Alot of sweet and low or salt daddies on the site though, lol

  59. SweetEuropean says:

    I think a Sugar Daddy is more of an american thing, looks like it’s catching on in Europe though 🙂

  60. lisa says:

    this is sad, here we are here on the blog on christmas eve, lol. we should be having fun and spending time with family. well I have to work tomorrow so I won’t see my family till friday, they are older and it’s not safe for them to be out on the bus after dark.
    I’m drinking cocoa with marshmallows and listening to tv. I made some rice for my pigeon but he so picky and won’t eat it because I over cooked it. you rescue a bird, and he becomes a snob, yikes.

  61. lisa says:

    it’s suprising that European sds are not more common, especially with Europe’s more liberal, open mindedness I would think it would be widely common, and french men are known to have mistresses (or so I have read or heard) and a mistress is a woman you support on the side.
    I always thought American men were more rigid, more into sex than romance.

  62. OCSugarBaby says:

    I love reading all the old blogs. There is one from August that is titled:
    “What Should You Get For What You Give?”

    Give it a read. I liked how there were several SD’s that gave input on the topic.

    The topic of SB’s not feeling like the guys that are filling up their IN box really understand how to be an SD. Many variations on that topic.

  63. SweetEuropean says:

    Coco, not really! I mostly have people contacting me who want me to travel to the US to meet them or “If only you lived in the US” messages!. Theres only one premium SD in France (I don’t trust non premium!) and i’ve already met him so theres no more SD’s in France for me! I get alot of people who visit the south of France on holiday asking to meet, which i’m fine with but I would like a longterm(ish) arrangement and I can’t see that happening! Hopefully SA will become more popular here sometime soon! As for dinner and a hotel, that just sounds like a nice date not a proper SD! People really should learn! Iol. I hope you find a nice US SD! (They’re the cutest anyway!)

  64. lisa says:

    I had one guy who I talked to a few months back and we actually talked on the phone several times and he understood the process and even made a tentive date with me and said he would bring me some financial assistance and we would have lunch. However he just could not get himself motivated to take the 4 hour drive or 1 hour flight to visit me. He is still on here, I guess he is looking for someone in his town.

  65. lisa says:

    I had one guy who was looking for a dinner date when he was in town. He mentioned alot about how passionate and sensual he was, but said nothing about an allowance or even a gift for my going to dinner with him.
    Sorry the visa process is so hard, I think it is unfair that Europeans have so much hassle coming to the US and my city is full of illegals from mexico that get benefits and everything but Europeans get hassled. that’s not fair.
    On the other side, I would love to live in Europe. I love London and France. London is a great walking city with excellent transport, regardless of the breakdowns. My city has horrible bus service and the weekends are the worst with buses running every 45 minutes if they show up.
    I love Europe.

  66. SweetEuropean says:

    Haha Lisa! “Non materialistic woman”, he seems to be in the wrong place! I think people need to fully understand how an arrangement works before signing up to SA, i’ve received messages from people who treat it like a dating site, and even some who seem to think that i’m an escort haha! Thank god they’re the minority!
    It’s 1:30 here now, i’m so tired, i’m going to eat a pizza to try and wake myself up, lol! Merry christmas 🙂

  67. chocolatevenus says:

    Hi Lisa, maybe we just hear about the good US SD !!!

  68. chocolatevenus says:

    SEuro, Merry Xmas to you x I have looked into moving/working in the US just for a few years, but the visa restrictions are a nightmare! But hoping that a US SD will take pity on me! I always get interest from cute US SD. But you are soo right about the UK SD, you can spend months just talking it is so fustrating! Or they think dinner & hotel room is all about being a SD!
    Do you have better luck with the EU SD?

  69. lisa says:

    SweetEuropean: there are those kinds of sds in the US too. Half the man that I have talked to (back when I was still getting emails) didn’t understand the allowance thing. When I asked some of them what they were looking for, they said, a casual relationship with no hassles. when I told them what I was looking for , a nice man to spend time with and do things with, but still having our own lives and respecting each other’s personal lives, and some financial assistance so I could afford some nice things, they disappeared or one guy changed his profile to say he was looking for a non materialistic woman who wasn’t into money. huh, why was he on a sd sight??
    Merry Christmas to you too, must be about 1 am over there

  70. BettieGirlDD says:

    Glad I went. More later. Merry Sugarmas!

  71. SweetEuropean says:

    Hey Coco, I know what you mean about people not being ok with the allowance, most of the people who have contacted me from europe don’t seem to understand how a SB/SD arrangement works! Don’t you just wish you were in the states sometimes, these US girls get all the good SD’s! I had a UK SD contact me once just to ask me if he could add me on facebook, he never mentioned wanting to meet me or anything like that! haha. Merry christmas by the way, I noticed it just turned midnight in England!

  72. chocolatevenus says:

    Hi SweetEuropean, nice to meet you! You live in a fab city..you lucky girl! UK SD well they are very hard work. At the moment I am meeting white men who are interested in black females and work in the allowance side later! They dont seem to like the allowance side at all which is a pain as that is what I would like, but only been at it for 6 months! And think would have more luck in LOndon.

    My list would be

    Generousity (everything else is irrelavent without it

    Power & fame are not high

    C x

  73. OCSugarBaby says:

    What attracts me is to someone is…
    1) Personality- Make me laugh and you will have a friend for life. I don’t mean the life of the party guy necessarily. To me humor is down to earth, find the laughter in the little things. Someone who isn’t above having a pillow fight when the moment presents itself.
    2) Wealth- Monetary wealth is great, but wealth is not just that. It can be an abundance of love, friendship, generosity and seeing the glass half full.
    3) Looks- Heck yeah looks are important. Each woman has a few key look factors that make them go- hmmmm baby!
    4) Fame – In a sense of taking pride in what they put out into the world, then yes it makes the cut.
    5) Power- That is just a trip I never sign up for!

    We all know that men and women are wired different, but if a man can try to understand that on a daily basis, it makes it easier. The same goes for women, we need to try to understand that monosyllabic answers ARE the best you can do at times. lol

  74. Silver says:

    Personality, Looks(the dream they are taller than 5’8 so i can wear heels), Power then last of all Means.

    That’s how my list would go, I don’t think that Fame should have anything to do with anything, if anything I see it turning more people off than on honestly…

  75. SweetEuropean says:

    SE, I think power is very attractive, and weatlth generally comes with the territory. Personality is probably the most important thing on the list, fame doesn’t matter to me at all and height isn’t an issue, as long as the SD isn’t shorter that me, which he probably won’t be then i’m ok!

    What atrracts men to women?

  76. lisa says:

    I am attracted to wealth, power, looks (but don’t care anything about height cause i’m 5″1 so most guys are taller than me, and personality.
    I don’t care anything about fame, celebrities actually turn me off.

  77. SuthrnExec says:

    Good evening everyone! Things seem a little slow tonight – so that got me thinking… Based on what I have read and through literature and observation, the five things below are the things that attract women in general to men. My question is, are SBs attracted by these same things in their SDs? The five things are:
    1) Means (Wealth, possessions)
    2) Power (Influence, Leadership, provide safety)
    3) Fame
    4) Looks (Including height)
    5) Personality (Humor, creativity, romance, intelligence, mystique etc.)

    Let’s hear it SBs – which would you eliminate or what would you add?

  78. SweetEuropean says:

    Oooh i’ve just realised it’s been christmas here for nearly 10 minutes!

  79. lisa says:

    Good evening everyone. Hope everyone is having a nice christmas eve. i’m exhausted, the store was so busy. Have to work all day tomorrow 🙁
    family will come by friday if it doesn’t rain

  80. SweetEuropean says:

    Merry christmas OC, I hope so! 🙂

  81. OCSugarBaby says:

    Merry Christmas SweetEuro! I think that you and Coco will be fast SB friends. So much in common 🙂

  82. SweetEuropean says:

    Oooh Coco, i’m an English girl too! Living in France now though. I like Leeds, haven’t been in a long time though! What are English SD’s like?

  83. SweetEuropean says:

    OC i’m here! lol. Congratulations for you and SE! I had no idea! Oooh chrstmas tomorrow, this is my first christmas in France and apparently they eat fois gras here instead of turkey! Should be interesting! I hope everyone has a great sugar filled christmas! 🙂

  84. SuthrnExec says:

    You too NC – although I have gotten a jump-start on my SB dream!

  85. OCSugarBaby says:

    Hello NC- Merry Christmas to you too! You are right, SweetEuropean did say she was traveling during christmas. Hahaha, you and I gave Bette the same advice, great minds think alike. You never do know if you don’t… (you get the picture) lol

  86. NC Gentleman says:

    Merry Xmas all! I hope everyone has a great holiday. I hope you have a blast Bettie! You never know if you don’t take a chance.

    SweetEuro said she was going to be away from a computer for a few days. I think she went home for Xmas 🙂

    May all your SB/SD dreams come true in 2009!

  87. OCSugarBaby says:

    Coco- I am glad you joined us in the blog. There is another SB SweetEuropean but she in not in the UK. I think she is in France. Speaking of SweetEuropean, we have not heard from her in a few days!

    SweetEuropean- Where are you???

  88. BettieGirlDD says:

    Ok OC I’ll be back on briefly tonight after Grandmas House. Which is where I’m going directly after I see MRN.

  89. OCSugarBaby says:

    Bette- Check back in later if you can. I for one will be here! lol

  90. SuthrnExec says:

    Welcome Coco – and thanks for your good wishes!

  91. BettieGirlDD says:

    Coco.. what a great nickname!
    I think I’m going to leave perfectionist Bettie in the library and ship off to see Mr. Right Now in a couple minutes. Merry christmas to ME for a change!

  92. chocolatevenus says:

    Oc, thank you! I love Coco..yes please!

  93. OCSugarBaby says:

    Welcome Chocolatevenus- I may have to call you Coco for short! 🙂

  94. chocolatevenus says:

    Have a fab holiday everyone, enjoy your day.

    I have not posted before, but have lurked around the blogs! But just wanted to send my good wishes to SE & OC..it keeps us all hopeful for the right one!

    I am a black british SB based in the north of England (Leeds) would love to get to know any other UK based SB

  95. OCSugarBaby says:

    Bette- I think you will make the right choice. Sometimes you just have to take a chance, you may be pleasantly surprised. 🙂

  96. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I thought what I was looking for was impossible. But I did find it 🙂 so did OC. So it is possible.

  97. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Use your gut feelings, if its not what you want and are looking for, don’t settle. You WILL find what your looking for.

  98. BettieGirlDD says:

    I”m back! We had sushi and it was very nice. However, someone lied about their age by about 20 years.. (hint: it wasn’t me) But he has a point that he needs to fib a bit to get his foot in the door. He’s a cool guy but doesn’t want anything steady and has another SB whereas I pictured this being one on one.. so do i keep looking or go to his hotel when my office closes in an hour? Hmmm…

  99. OCSugarBaby says:

    BettieGirl- Have fun and come back and tell us how it went!

  100. SuthrnExec says:

    BTW, good luck with your meeting Bettie!

  101. SuthrnExec says:

    thanks bettie – i have it saved – but if it never will post here, that doesn’t do any good.

  102. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Good luck!! BettieGirlDD hope you have wonderful lunch!!

  103. BettieGirlDD says:

    Suthrn: hit Ctrl+a (select all) and Ctrl+c (copy) before you hit send and you’ll never lose a word to the vaccuum of the internet!

  104. BettieGirlDD says:

    Sweet potato fries are better for me, until I douse them with honey. Mmm!
    Sweetnothings.. If you were in his shoes would you offer to fly someone to meet you after one day of emailing? Even if money was no object I still would want to know someone before I went through the effort. Food for thought. Speaking of.. I have an impromptu first meeting lunch with an SD I’ve been planning to meet for a couple weeks! I woke up late and look like heck, wish me luck!

  105. SuthrnExec says:

    Good morning all! Merry Christmas to each of you! I had a well thought-out Christmas message written, but alas, the blog refuses to accept it! I suppose this will have to do!

  106. OCSugarBaby says:

    sweetnothings- Should you fly to meet the Potential SD for the first time? You were looking for opinions right? Well, I am sure we each have a few of those hanging around.
    I always go with my gut. Do you know enough about this person to feel comfortable? How has he been at making you feel that way? Secondly, if he even offered that you could bring a friend, he is sensing that you may be uncomfortable. I would have liked it if he then stepped up and said that he would come to you for the first meeting/date. That to me would mean that he takes your feelings and puts your comfort first. Just my two cents. But I want you to really think about what make you feel comfortable. No one can tell you the right answer. However your gut never lets you down!

  107. OCSugarBaby says:

    My plan for the day is one that I have looked forward to for days! I have no family here in California, so it is going to be just me and Duchess (my chocolate Lab), relaxing today.
    I rented about 6 movies and plan on getting upder the covers all cozy and warm, watch movies and blog ALL day long! Maybe a nap in there somewhere too. lol

  108. OCSugarBaby says:

    Good Morning Sugars! What a glorious day. Twas the night before Christmas and all thru the blog..

    I have 12 wonderful day off and plan on catching up with all of you, so get to blogging my friends. I’ve missed all of you so very much!

  109. dreamer says:

    Merry Xmas to everyone!

  110. SB SanFranDiddle says:

    Merry Christmas eve all.

    Lisa: You and me both will get to work the whole day 🙁 Just keep your eyes open for a great SD to be waiting in your inbox when we get home 😉

  111. Sweetredhead says:

    I am traveling to Orlando today be with family on Christmas eve. Then back home this evening to another Christmas eve party.

    Up early Christmas morning with the kids. They are so excited 🙂 Then off to my parents for Christmas dinner with about 30 family friends.

    Not sure if I will have time to log on. Would like to wish you all a joyful and safe Christmas.

    Lisa…You have to make the best out of any situation you are you hun. If you have a positive attitude, your whole outlook on thing will be a lot better.

  112. Sweetredhead says:

    Sweet potato fries are wonderful. They taste much better than the reg fries. Plus they are better for you 🙂

  113. Sweetredhead says:

    Merry Christmas everyone! Hope everyone’s Christmas is a safe and Happy one.

    I love sweet potato fries!

  114. lisa says:

    Sweet potato fries? Hope they don’t taste like sweet potatos, I don’t like them, but I do like candied yams.
    Have a great Christmas eve everyone I have to work all day 🙁

  115. lisa says:

    sweetnothings, it would be better if he could come to you, and since you have only been talking to him since today, it’s too soon to take off somewhere you aren’t familiar. Have him come to you, it wouldn’t cost him anymore than if you flew there. If you want to go through with it, make sure he fedexs those tickets to you BEFORE you go anywhere and make sure they are legit. You don’t want to end up stranded. I wouldn’t do it though

  116. Anonymous says:

    Merry Christmas everyone! Hope everyone’s Christmas is a safe and Happy one.

    I love sweet potato fries!

  117. Silver says:

    Well I am very new to this whole thing. I just hope that by being honest and being myself that things will move along smoothly, even when there is the fear that no one will want myself…

  118. Jenniferbbwsb says:

    SuthrnExec…. Thank you!

  119. sweetnothings says:

    So I am having a dilemma. I have been on this site for almost a month. I have gotten a lot of propositions. A man emailed me today expressing interest. We have discussed my current situation. He has offered to fly me out to see him this coming Monday, of no expense to me. I was just reading in a previous blog that you should never have a SD fly you out without meeting them first. Do you think I am making a mistake? He is going to fly me back the same night. Opinions???

  120. SuthrnExec says:

    Yes indeed Jennifer – things certainly will look up if that’s where you’re looking to start with! I am confident that each of you will find that someone who is looking for the unique combination of qualities that you have. They’re out there, it’s just a matter of getting the two of you together. It can, and will, happen.

  121. lisa says:

    Let’s hope 2009 brings those of us who are sdless the right sd.
    we all gotta gripe sometimes, we’re not stepford wives

  122. Gail says:

    Sig… a truffle fry? I got curious and googled it…the parmesan kind or whiskey?…(smile)

  123. Jenniferbbwsb says:

    I just wanted to say, thank you all for listening to me gripe the last few days.
    Things will be better in 2009.

  124. BeautifulBluegrass says:

    AND, yes I have been asked for XXX pictures… too many times… I used to keep chatting with the, whilst trying to steer clear of anything sexual, but now I just block ’em. Most of the men that contact me don’t do that, so why waste my time with few those class-less men?

  125. Jenniferbbwsb says:

    OK, I go to work for 13 hours and look at what happened…

    Congrat’s to you both… SE and OC.

    Gail… now what is you boo boo? and how can I help.

  126. Sig says:

    Answering the topic questions:

    1. I think twice about revealing my real name, yes. In most cases I will have more reputation at stake than the SB.

    2. I don’t know if I will date more than one SB, but my plan is just one.

    3. I have not yet been directly questioned about my wealth. In the right context it would not be a problem, but if that is the only point of interest then I would move on.

    4. I prefer a set allowance once we come to an arrangement, plus, of course, discretionary gifts and other intangibles.

  127. Sig says:

    Just had truffle fries last night at dinner. Yummy.

  128. BeautifulBluegrass says:

    I had a tough time chooing my pictures. I actually just changed 2 of them and picked recent pictures (taken within the last month) and where I look like me on a good day (not gussied up but not frumpy) and that show me in different settings.

  129. BeautifulBluegrass says:

    I have no preference for those that post a picture, however, I do want to see one once we have corresponded a few times. It’s only fair, right?

  130. lisa says:

    Hi everyone, just got in from work .
    Fries are always good, they go with everything.

  131. SuthrnExec says:

    And you know what the best thing about her was?? SHE ORDERED FRIES as one of the sides of the entrée!! How could you not like that! :d

  132. BettieGirlDD says:

    Congrats you two crazy kids!
    And to be cliche, SE do you have a brother? 😉

  133. OCSugarBaby says:

    You all are so sweet. Thank you for the well wishes… I am blushing…

  134. BettieGirlDD says:

    NC – glad you enjoy my humor 🙂

  135. sweetredhead269443 says:

    LMAO I knew u2 could not keep it secret for long! You were to excited. I am so Happy for the both of you!

  136. Gail says:

    OC and Suthurn Exec…
    Sugar Daddy Match: How to Find Yours….
    I found my SB/SD on the Sugar blog…(smile)

  137. DCbrownsugar says:

    Awww a match made in blog heaven =)

  138. NC Gentleman says:

    Congrats OC and SE!

    And Bettie – great answer you made me giggle!

  139. SuthrnExec says:

    Thank you my dear. Indeed, the secret is out!

  140. OCSugarBaby says:

    This Sugar Baby is sooooo happy! True happiness found among the Blogs! Who would have thought, certainly not me.
    Ladies, I have met a true SD gentleman. Oh, no worries the blogging will continue.

  141. Gail says:

    LOL…OC and Suthurn sitting in a tree…k-i-s-s-i-n-g….I am happy for the both of you…

  142. stephan says:

    OCSugarBaby & SuthrnExec: Splendid!! 😀

  143. OCSugarBaby says:

    SuthrnExec- Our lunch date yesterday was amazing! You are everything I could have wished for and then some. I guess our secret is out! lol

  144. BettieGirlDD says:

    NC I’ll tell you what I tell the would-be time wasters: You can come here and look for yourself :p

    SE We’re dying to hear about your lunch! If it wont post you know how to reach most if not all of us!

    DC You hit the nail on the head: It makes a bad impression.

  145. kittylainy says:

    interesting note about SDs and photos, I’ve just been chatting with 1 SD, and chemistry seems to be great so far, but I haven’t asked for a pic… now I’m nervous.. too good to be true?

  146. SuthrnExec says:

    Lunch was fantastic! She is just as incredible as I thought she would be. The chemistry was wonderful, she is even lovelier in person than her pictures portray and we had a blast!

    OC, is there anything else you would like to add? 😉

    Just think – if it weren’t for the blog, this probably would never have happened. Thanks Stephan, et al.!

  147. BettieGirlDD says:

    I like some the SDs who have the ‘artsy’ photos where it shows like their jaw and their suit.. so its anon. but still gives a lot of info.

  148. SuthrnExec says:

    Good morning friends!! So, I had this lunch meeting yesterday. If this posts w/out any issues, I will let you guys know how it went…

  149. OCSugarBaby says:

    I have not tried to be all work and no play. Oh, I like to play! lol

    Sorry about the one liners, I have been a bit distracted. hehehe

  150. DCbrownsugar says:

    Afternoon ladies and gents!

    I think my opinion on the pic has been stated several times.

    As for nude pics, I’ve never been asked and I certainly wouldn’t grant such a request. While I’m sure an SD is very much interested in the phyical aspect of the relationship, explicit pictures sends a bad message. I want a genuine friendship with a gentleman. Is that too much to ask for?

  151. OCSugarBaby says:

    I prefer if a Sugar Daddy posts a picture. Fair is fair, I have one posted! However if they have the need to be discreet, I would like them to offer one in their first email. Another side note on pictures… I am not going to be sending you a string of photos. Mine are a very good, current representation of me. Yours should be too.

  152. Gail says:

    Oh, and I didn’t forget you Mish…figured you were still sleeping, or working at the lab mixing all kind of genetic crap together…

  153. Gail says:

    It doesn’t matter to me whether he has a photo. I give every SD the opportunity to enter my inbox. The key is, can he communicate?, Is he consistent with his words and actions? And lastly. can he hold my attention and make me laugh and smile? I want back all that I give:)

    And speaking of pictures…dreamer…you sure look dreamy in yours:)
    Must have been your recent SD date…(smile)

    I agree with Bettie, it can be a downer to see the SD you have been chatting you ass off with, logging in everyday. That’s why I don’t even look anymore. I really don’t want a SD that’s always in the candystore checking for the new flavors of the day. I know my flavor is the best for the right SD!!! LOL

    I wonder what OCSB has been doing…one line entries…hmmmm… remember OC all work and no play leads to a boring life.

    Lunch date….I think SuthrnEx failed to elaborate on his date. Or did I miss it…maybe I was there…maybe I was the lucky one…LOL…
    and then again maybe not….:) Sorry suthurn…just being nosy right now…LOL

    Nurse Jennifer…I have a boo-boo…I know you are getting ready for your shift:)

    I must admit my profile needs some work for 2009. I really haven’t been searching lately. Just doing my own thing:) Truly addicted to the blog and the lives of others:)

  154. OCSugarBaby says:

    Good Morning Sugars! Wow, feels like I haven’t caught up in ages. Last day of work until the 5th of Jan. Lots of time to blog then!

  155. NC Gentleman says:

    Thanks SE — I hope your meeting went well! I am sure you all can hold down the fort without me…..

    and Bettie – why didn’t I get the chest shot??? lol just kidding – I would never ask for, nor want, naked or scantily clad pics….. however, after I knew my SB a while, I definitely wouldn’t refuse them.

    Wishing all a prosperous and fun 2009!

  156. SuthrnExec says:

    Enjoy the luncheon NC Gent, and the time off. We’ll try to hold everything down and under control until you can join us again.

  157. BettieGirlDD says:

    I think waiting to see a picture after a few emails helps me envision how things could be before I get too picky about looks. I admit I skip by guys with mustaches because I think they’re goofy.

  158. NC Gentleman says:

    Welcome to the group Yasmine. I read your blogs yesterday, and I know it can be very frustrating here, for both the SBs and SDs. After a few weeks you will be a pro at weeding out the fakes.

    I hope everyone else has a great holiday break. We are having my Xmas luncheon for my company today at work, and then we are off until the New Year. I won’t be blogging that much over the holidays. It was great to get to know some fellow bloggers this year. Hugs!

  159. BettieGirlDD says:

    The SD I met last week seems very taken with me, says things like “his sugar baby” and “my beauty queen” yet he logs in every morning. Too much info is dangerous!

  160. BettieGirlDD says:

    I think waiting to see a picture after a few emails helps me envision how things could be before I get too picky about looks. I admit I skip by guys with mustaches because I think they’re goofy. I also for some reason find it concievable a SD would travel quite far to see me, but not if they’re from California or NYC. I know its not logical but in my mind I think “why would they come to Buffalo?” and rarely even view the profile.

    No serious SD has asked me for racy pics yet although I did show one I really like my muscled skaters legs in booty shorts. Twice I’ve responded to requests to see my chest with some form of “come see them for yourself” and the guy stopped contacting me altogether. I also assume all pics of guys under 35 who just show their chest/abs are just here for sexychat.

  161. SuthrnExec says:

    Good morning blog-topia! These are great questions that will give us further insight into the thinking of the elusive SB ans will also reveal what we SDs are thinking – when we actually take the time to do it! LOL

    I aways wait to reveal my name until I believe I have determined in my mind that the motives of the other person are not hurtful. I think it’s common sense.

    I’m certainly only looking for that one, incredible lady. And that’s enough. I don’t need to try to become the “conquer” in SB/SD relationships and see how many I can line-up. It’s totally not about that.

    For me, the SD/SB relationship is about CHEMISTRY (too bad no one has ever said that :-)! If that is what both are seeking, financial details won’t be the first and most frequent subject being brought up. I understand that many SBs have the financial aspects of things as the first priority and in that case, perhaps it’s appropriate to talk about that early and often – but I’m not seeking that kind of person. Oh I will take care of her – but not if there’s no chemistry between us.

  162. Kittylainy says:

    Are you ever asked for XXX pics? How do/would you respond?
    – I have never been asked. If I were asked, I would not provide unless it’s an established SD. I don’t trhink it’s necessary, a revealing pic is enough, plus it will just make seeing the real deal so much better.

  163. Kittylainy says:

    Do you have a preference for Sugar Daddies who post a photo, or not?
    – Normally, in a dating world, I would prefer a gentleman that post a photo, but in a SD world, I really do not care, as long as I am provided with one upon request. Because I understand that they probably have a significant other already, and would rather remain anonymous. I am suspicious tho, when I get a george Clooney look-alike professional picture. I think that goes the same way when a SD sees a sb photo all professionally done. Makes you wonder if they’re for real or not. (it really bugs me tho, when I get #s that are their home # and their only number… who doesn’t have a cell now-a-days?)

  164. lisa says:

    I prefer sds that post photos but I understand that there are situations where they can’t. HOWEVER I do expect them to send a couple good pics when they make contact with me. I have talked to several sds that had no photo and offered no photo and wanted to meet. How are you supposed to meet someone when you have no idea what they look like? And most guys don’t even mention what they will be wearing. giving a broad discription of height, body type (which is often misrepresented), hair color, etc makes it difficult to single someone out. Many people can have the same physical description but look completely different frome each other.
    I prefer a set allowance as “open negotiable” leaves alot to be discussed as it could mean anything.

  165. dreamer says:

    i like it when sds post a photo, but i understand they cannot always do this.. And i have a very hard time decided on the pic to put up on my page. No matter what type of picture I post I get a negative comment about it (too sexy, not sexy enough, it makes me look too young, too old…..) but I have learned that unless they are youre SD or someone you care about, it doesnt matter..

  166. NWgirly says:

    It’s been awhile since I have been on the blog hope I have been missed = ].
    I don’t really have a preference whether or not the SDs have a picture posted because I assume it is just to be discreet but I do ask for a picture after a couple of emails, I’m more interested on how compatible we would be rather than looks although they do matter somewhat. I believe all the SBs on this site have been asked for nude pictures and that’s why it is clearly posted on my page do not ask me for nude pictures.

  167. yasmine says:

    lol funny they have a picture of cassie up there 🙂 she does have a GREAT and wealthy sugar daddy. i envy her