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The Gentleman’s Guidebook is HERE!




Below are two paragraphs from the Sugar Daddy Guidebook, on sale now.

The Eroticism of Daddy

“…Another element that spins Sugar into hot pink candy is the whole concept of Daddy. Women’s sexual fantasies – based, I admit, on anecdotal evidence, but a lot of it – frequently revolve around a Daddy figure. I don’t mean their actual fathers, but the idea of an authority figure who doles out punishment, yet at the same time loves and protects her. Women don’t see themselves as children in this fantasy – indeed, the mentality here is ageless – but as being “powerless”, at the mercy of a powerful man.

Daddy carries an enormous weight on his strong shoulders: after all, women have been repeatedly told that their fathers influence their sexual development, and that they tend to fall in love with men who remind them of him. Thus, sex with a Daddy figure is fraught with Freudian overtones, shrouded in secrecy, and tinged with taboos. It doesn’t get any hotter than this!”

Excerpt fromSeekingArrangement: The Definitive guide to Sugar Daddy & Mutually Beneficial Relationships”.

What distinguishes a sugar relationship from a boyfriend/girlfriend one? What distinguishes a sugar relationship from just a regular ol’ NSA relationship?

Sugar Babies:

What are you are willing to give or do for your Sugar Daddy that you wouldn’t necessarily do for a boyfriend or for a friend with benefits? What do you work harder at for your Sugar Daddy than for an established boyfriend or an NSA guy?

What are you willing to tolerate (in looks, behavior, attitudes etc) in your Sugar Daddy that you might not be so patient about in a potential boyfriend?

Sugar Daddies:

What do you expect from your Sugar Baby (in looks, behavior, attitude, etc) that you don’t as comfortably ask for or expect in a long-time girlfriend, wife, or friend with benefits?

534 Responses to “The Gentleman’s Guidebook is HERE!”

  1. flowerpush says:

    Hi everyone, new to this site but a long time blog reader. I have become addicted to this blog lol. I have to say though that the choices of SD’s aren’t what I would like them to be. The spelling errors, oy vey. I saw one man that spelled intimate encounters “intement incounters”. Am I supposed to believe that is a multimillionaire? Even if it was I wouldn’t give him a chance.
    There are certain things that I would be more willing to accept from a SD that I wouldn’t accept from an established boyfriend, that isn’t one of them. Lack of time to spend with me is a big one that I would be more than willing to accept considering most of these men are very busy.I think that is about it though. I don’t think that SDs deserve preferential treatment because they have money, I know my worth too. I have a pretty open mind about things like appearance and personality regardless of finances.
    I love this blog! I especially like reading Lisa’s posts. You crack me up Lisa.

  2. girlygirl says:

    LOL @ OCSugarBaby…

    I wonder if we met the same guy! One time I spoke over the phone with a published author who asked me to tell him my weight. I obliged…but he then requested that I lose twenty pounds in ONE MONTH before meeting him.

    Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m aware that appearances matter — but I am 5’8″ and 140 lbs! I am twenty-one years old, and exercise allll the time. He said, “I weigh 145, so you can’t weigh only 5 pounds less than me,” which, in retrospect, I think should be his problem more than mine. Give the man some protein smoothies and put him on the Schwarzenegger diet. LOL

    I stopped talking to him. Then I answered my phone one day because I didn’t recognize the number, and there he was. I tried to be polite, but he asked, “So, have you lost any weight yet?”

    “Oops! No… have you hired a personal trainer and a nutritionist for me yet, sweetheart?”

    That was the last time we talked. ;.)

  3. Beach says:

    OC, have never been to Elisa’s will have to try it. I thought it was a state law here that you had to have Fish Fry on Fridays.

  4. BlkButtafly~264118~ says:

    Kitty Kitty Kitty! 287819 πŸ˜‰

  5. lisa says:

    Hi everyone , just got in from work.
    Got an email in my box from a guy who has had me on his favorites for a long time, he has been on this site for months. just a two word message, not so sure if I should respond or not, he want’s to chat. Also has an unrealistic budget, makes me suspicious.
    Have a good evening everyone, hope the blog is back up

  6. gurlnextdoor says:

    Yep I agree with OCSugar

  7. OCSugarBaby says:

    Good Morning Everyone! πŸ™‚

  8. BlkButtafly~264118~ says:

    good morning everyone! i can’t believe i’m in florida but freezing! brrrr

  9. Spanish Vixen says:

    OCSugar: It’s awesome that you could tell that red flag, though! I’ve been trying to be able to notice those flags more, as I seem to be the queen for attracting creep-o’s. Had one SD pretty much have a complete mental breakdown on me. Not kidding. He started cutting and drinking and telling me how much he needed me in his life even though his wife had kind of found out about me. I was like “whoa whoa whoa. I ain’t being shot by no baby’s momma!” so I dumped him. But still…I should have been able to read him better!!!

  10. Gail says:

    Morning Sugars!!!!Saturday Morning Wake Up…5:02am Calif time:)

  11. lisa says:

    Good morning everyone
    I’m headed out to work, very tired, wish I could have slept it.


  12. Astrid says:

    Just a quick question for all of you experienced SD’s and SB’s, where can I search for someone by number? I am a premium member but can’t seem to find that.

  13. OCSugarBaby says:

    BTW he had an amazing profile: CEO, PHD, well spoken in his wording. But a first class or should I say class-less SD! πŸ™‚

  14. OCSugarBaby says:

    Red- When they insist on having you call instead of a few email exchanges it is a red flag. I found out that the hard way. This one SD told me he was too busy to email. (I did push back and ask him to make me more comfortable that I prefer to have at least a few exchanges).
    Ok, mistake number 1; I called him and he was normal for the first couple of minutes then he asked me some basics (that were clearly already on my profile), okay, so after 4 or 5 questions (it felt like a job interview) asked me my dress size, which I told him size six. By this point I was getting a little annoyed. He was pushing the “crude” envelope a bit too far. So I asked him what his dress size was! He paused for a moment and laughed and said he didn’t wear dresses. If you know me, I love to joke. But this guy was starting to go down! He then asked me how much I weighed; my bust measurements and if I would send more pictures. I got to the bust measurement question and laughed my a** off and told him that he was barking up the wrong tree and I wished him well and said goodbye (all while still laughing my a** off at him). I now know that if someone can’t exchange a few emails he is rushing the process. Not my kind of SD. If it seems like a RED flag, it probably is.

  15. Red says:

    thank you lol you guys really are a great help

  16. BlkButtafly~264118~ says:

    Red, NSA means no strings attached

  17. Mina says:

    Red, call him from a blocked number. If he insists you give him your number first, don’t and move along.
    It’s simple.

  18. cro34 says:

    Lisa: what city are you at?

  19. Red says:

    sound naive*

  20. Red says:

    Ok, so this is my first time doing this and I just created my profile 3 days ago, since then I have hits out the ass lol. I need advice if any is willing to give it. First off I know I said naive but what does NSA stand for? lol I dont know exactly how to respond to some of my messages bc they ask me what Im looking for. I keep getting messages from one potential SD but he keeps insisting I call him or nothing and I may be young but Im not dumb, Im not going to just give my number to someone the first time they message me. Any comments?

  21. lisa says:

    sounds like a good idea. My computer is in my kitchen so I can’t do that,lol of course I could drag my laptop and dsl box in there but I’m too lazy too. I’m getting a new desktop whenever I get to file my taxes so then I can get a router and use my laptop in bed. lol

    have a good night. It’s going to be a cold night here.

  22. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I am going to go get warm under my blankets and watch some TV I will check back later.

  23. lisa says:

    my daughter is almost 18 and never been in the hospital, luckily since I don’t have insurance. She is very independent though and stays down the street with my mom. she goes to highschool and works half day so we don’t get to see each other much, as when we get off work it’s getting to late to go out on the bus. She is so disiplined that she goes to bed early, I don’t know how she does it.

  24. sweetredhead269443 says:

    My son is in the hospital, picking him up tomorrow morning. My youngest son is doing his own thing with a friend he has sleeping over. i am hiding out in my bedroom being a good mom and staying out of their way πŸ™‚

  25. lisa says:

    I had such a fun last 2days kept busy but am on the friday night down. Have to get up at 6 am and leave really early because of stupid sat bus schedules. I can’t wait till monday when i’m off again and can sleep late

    It would be great to be able to get out on friday night or have so much fun that it would be too tiring to go out on friday night. But it’s just me and my bird and my daughter’s turtle that came to visit for a “week” 2 years ago, lol

  26. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I think I better get the guide to arrangements lmao. because here I am sitting here bored ughh

  27. lisa says:

    261545 I have two pics showing and one pending

  28. sweetredhead269443 says:

    what your profile Number Lisa, I never have looked at it

  29. lisa says:

    yes I think he likes me, odd but then he has had no contact with other birds, I have had him since some kid knocked them out of the nest on my porch, they stomped his sibling to death. He was like 3 weeks old. His parents live outside. He is humanized.

  30. sweetredhead269443 says:

    idk we will have to ask him that hen he gets back lol. And you think I am strange…your being hit on my a bird!!!

  31. lisa says:

    a striped pointy nightcap

  32. lisa says:

    they were all on this afternoon while I was at the mall. I guess everyone else has a life on friday night, we are stuck in, I can’t get out at night and i have to get up early tomorrow and work all day. on top of that the pigeon that I am taking care of is hitting on me I think, that’s creepy, he likes to sit on the back of my chair and pick at my side and coo.

  33. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Lisa you crack me up!!!

  34. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I meant his nightly relaxing drink, not a hat lol

  35. lisa says:

    Do you think he wears a nightcap? lol

  36. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Where is everybody tonight. i leave for a few hours and everyone comes and goes. I took a shower I swear πŸ™

  37. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Yes I know, Hope he is having a good time. Maybe we will get to hear about it over his night cap πŸ™‚

  38. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Lisa you wild thing u lmao

  39. lisa says:

    Gordon is out with his sugarbaby tonight

  40. lisa says:

    One time at my last job we had a serious nat problem and couldn’t get rid of them (it had something to do with the freeway construction they said) and the customers would be swatting nats off their faces. We employees were always joking about it. One day I googled maggot pictures and printed one out on a large sheet of paper and trimmed it, put it under my button front blouse and when over to one of my coworkes and said “we have maggots too” and opened my blouse to show the maggot pic (I was wearing a tank top under the blouse

  41. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I keep this up and I am going to make poor Gordon choke on his brandy lol.

  42. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I am not a nut…really I am not. I just think you need to losin up sometimes, do something spontaneous. Life is to short to worry about what other people are going to think.

    I do know how to be refined, I know how to act in all situations. But sometimes you just have to make a fool of yourself πŸ™‚

  43. lisa says:

    My mom used to get on the little horsys in front of walmart, yikes
    I am really straight and stern when I go out, I guess it’s that german disipline. My mom says I need to “loosen up”

  44. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I rode a bike through toys R Us one time lmao

  45. lisa says:

    I’m going to do the chicken dance right now, lol
    I better stay in the box, I scare people, lol
    my mom does that to me, when I was little she was so stade but in her old age, she and my daughter like to embarass me. when we used to go to Home depot she would have my dad push her on the lumber cart or she would get in trouble in the store for going up the lader, pure embarasment for me. My daughter use to wait with me at the busstop when I went to work (back when I was working evenings) and she would hold up her political sign whenever we were having an election.

    I have alot I would like to do but get embarassed easily

  46. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Ok so I am a little strange. IDK. I just like to do thing out of the box sometimes lol. Have fun and not care what people think. My fav saying:

    “Work like you don’t need money,
    Love like you’ve never been hurt,
    And dance like no one’s watching.”

  47. sweetredhead269443 says:

    [email protected] he is Cute πŸ™‚

  48. lisa says:

    Good evening Cro34

  49. lisa says:

    ok sweetredhead that sounds a little strange, lol I guess you would need pirate outfits, lol
    I just added a new pic to my profile but it’s pending, taken earlier today.
    I have been trying on plaid skirts and may post a school girl pic sometime. lol

  50. BlkButtafly~264118~ says:

    good evening cro34

  51. sweetredhead269443 says:

    hi Cro34, How are you this evening?

  52. BlkButtafly~264118~ says:

    Hmmmm…..only if Captain Jack Sparrow was there! Yum! πŸ™‚

  53. cro34 says:

    this is Cro34

    Hello Everybody

  54. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Oh Guess what I seen today. They have a pirate ship here (well ok I think its for kids) But doesn’t that sound fun!. pretending to be a pirate for a day go out on the ship and play pirate. Ok maybe its just me. But I think it would be fun.

  55. sweetredhead269443 says:

    yea yea lol. I seen you yawn once or twice hehe

  56. BlkButtafly~264118~ says:

    No No I was listening intently sweetred πŸ™‚

  57. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Good evening everyone. Welcome back to the blogs Beach nice to see you here. Always helpful to get a SD take on the boards. We need more of the True Sd’s here πŸ™‚

    Ok now for my humble little opinion. I think every situation, every “arrangement” is different. There has to be “wiggle” room. I personally don’t have a set figure/arrangement that I look for. I first look at what is written and what he has to say to me and how he approaches me. Then a conversation hopefully comes out of it. Getting to know each other a little better. And one of my big things, does he have a sence of humor (very important)

    To me personally the money is an added bonus not the main reason for choosing a certain SD. There has to chemistry, similar likes and dislikes (but not always, opposites do attract) I am not going to go past the talking stage if I do not feel there would be a connection. Its a waste of my time and his. If we do get to the meeting stage, I think it should be to meet and further see if you are compatible. I don’t feel you should be obligated if you meet and there is no attraction there. Be honest. Agree that either one can choose to part as friends and on good terms. Remember we are all looking for someone we can connect with. Not everyone is going to connect and that doesn’t mean that person is a bad person.

    I could go on but I won’t lol. yeah I hear you all….finely she shut up lmao

  58. BlkButtafly~264118~ says:

    I have a question (possibly not even needing to be asked) but I have a potential SD that wants to meet soon and asks what I want to do however I don’t have a definite idea. So he says that he wants some privacy maybe (which is fine with me) I just never wanted to meet privately with an SD for the first meeting. I’m not thinking wrong right? I just think it’s safer on my part to meet in a public/semi-public place

  59. OCSugarBaby says:

    Beach- God I miss going to Elsa’s on a Friday night for good a burger! πŸ™‚

  60. Jai says:

    True OC. I really want something more than a money exchange. I’d like to have a real enjoyable, learning, edifying experience with someone and I’m willing to wait for that. Again, you guys rock. Thanks for the feedback πŸ™‚

  61. Beach says:

    Sure, this is a whole lot more fun that what I really should be doing. Good luck.

  62. Jai says:

    Thank you so much for the perspective Beach. I haven’t called him back yet and I don’t think I will. It was moving a little too fast me. I have a date tonight, a meeting tomorrow morning, and another Sunday before church. We’ll see what happens. Thank you guys for all the great advice. I love this blog. πŸ™‚

  63. OCSugarBaby says:

    Jai-Hold out for Chemistry. Easy to say and even hard to actually do. Be picky! The right situation will hit you like a ton of bricks. I think if you go with your gut you will make the right choice. Don’t give up on finding your true Sugar-Mate. πŸ™‚

  64. Beach says:

    If he asks you flat out, it is ok to tell him if you have a specific situation you are looking for. That is why he is asking. But make sure you are comfortable with him first.

    If you are still unsure what he is looking for, you can steal a technique good salespeople use. As part of the conversation, ask probing questions to understand what the prospects needs, what is their expectations are and what is their budget is. This isn’t usually done directly, it is often more effective with open-ended questions that get them talking. Things like as “what do you like about”, “what experience have you had with” or”what would be ideal”. If he won’t open up with you about his expectations, that is red flag #1.

    I think a good SD should approach this before things go to far (ideally somewhere between attraction and intimacy) to make the SB feel more comfortable. If they don’t, it really is ok to nicely ask what kind of arrangement they are seeking and expect to see some token of good faith before things get out of hand. They know what they can afford, you don’t.

    If he said he would not contact you and let you take the lead and now has e-mailed you twice and is pressuring you to give him an answer, that is a red flag #2.

    Finally, don’t be afraid to walk away if the creepiness or uncomfortability factor rises too high or especially if you are feeling pressured. Attraction is a tricky thing to begin with and expectations here are all over the board.

  65. Jai says:

    bri-They are really sweet and helpful, aren’t they? πŸ™‚ This blog is great

    Bettie-That’s true πŸ™‚ He probably has an idea what to expect if he’s done this before.

    OC-It’s weird, I tried to explain the whole situation, but the post just disappeared. We’ve met in person. He was really understanding that it was my first time doing anything like this and put me at ease during our meeting. He asked me several times during the meeting what I expected and what I wanted. When we were leaving, he let me know that he would allow me to contact him as I seemed nervous and that there was no pressure. Now he’s emailed me twice since that meeting hinting/and flat out asking what I wanted. I guess I have some thinking to do if I plan to pursue this with him or any one else for that matter. Thank you for your two cents πŸ™‚ It helped.

  66. OCSugarBaby says:

    Crap Sig is going to be all over me for my spelling today! I meant awkward not ackward…

  67. BlkButtafly~264118~ says:

    WOW! I had to run to two different jobsites today and i missed soooo much! So in a nutshell YAY to all the good news and BOOOOO *thumbs down* to all the bad news! πŸ™‚

  68. Beach says:

    LOL, thanks Sweet. They seem to be wiggling better now, though I will still use that excuse for any typos.

  69. OCSugarBaby says:

    Jai-First off he would make me uncomfortable too. Have you discussed how often he would like to see you and his expectations? I have a hard time giving advice when I don’t know the whole story.

    If he is making you feel ackward it is not a good situation. The uncomfortable feeling could be coming from not having enough information or a strong comfort level with this potential SD.

    I don’t think it is a good thing to discuss an arrangement until you both have met. Having chemistry is crucial to making this work.

    However you should have in mind what you are willing to accept as far as an allowance. This can be done by taking stock of what you intend to do with this additional money. School, bills, etc… Only you can come up wth that factor.

    Again,just my two cents… πŸ™‚

  70. BettieGirlDD says:

    If he resents you for being “golddiggery” he needs to find another website… he’s gotta know you can’t fake real passion, and he’ll want to show appreciation. Call me an idealist…

  71. bri says:

    Jai – I know what you mean, and it feels awfully uncomfortable. Makes it seem way more like a business deal (escort, etc.) than it should. You feel like you are putting a price tag on what time with you is worth while also being subjected to have to decide on a number! I don’t really know how to deal with it but there are plenty of seasoned SBs on here who are very sweet and helpful!

  72. Jai says:

    He really hasn’t put anything on the table except for the fact that he’s very interested. He just keeps asking me what I want. How much I’d like for an allowance etc I don’t know how to answer that without coming off goldiggery I just feel awkward discussing the money, but I know it’s necessary. Especially if he’s asking flat out.

  73. OCSugarBaby says:

    Jai-What exactly is he offering you?

  74. Jai says:

    Hi everyone πŸ™‚ Please help. I’m still struggling with the whole arrangement discussion. How do I present myself as self assured without seeming desperate or greedy? I think I may be wearing this potential SD thin with indecisiveness..any suggestions?

  75. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I wonder which lucky girl Beach is looking up….Beach, glad you have the feeling back in all your fingers and toes. You might need them sometime πŸ™‚

  76. SuthrnExec says:

    Good luck cartier.

  77. cartier says:



  78. Jenniferbbwsb says:

    Thank you Lisa..

  79. gurlnextdoor says:

    Kitty I will definitely do that.

  80. lisa says:

    I’m glad to hear you have a potential sd, Jenniferbbwsb, hope things get better for you.

  81. Jenniferbbwsb says:

    OC.. thanks, I have missed being on the blog. Things haven’t been very good here at home. But things are starting to look up. I am talking to a pot. SD. Will see how things go.

  82. lisa says:

    I have several plaid skirts (got some of the them when I was in London) and lots over over the knee socks. My married lover appreciates them and likes to see me in them whereas my last boyfriend didnt like them and actually wanted me to dress like a 60 year old, lol He was boring

  83. OCSugarBaby says:

    Jenn-We are good! She is waiting for the weekend and can’t wait to head to her favorite Saturday spot…The DOG beach! I’ve missed you girl! πŸ™‚

  84. Jenniferbbwsb says:

    OC.. how are you and your puppy?

  85. Jenniferbbwsb says:

    NC gent and Sweet Euro.. glad that you two checked in and sounds like you both had a wonderful time in Paris.

    Bettie… do you have a plaid shirt or pants, if you do you can make it into a skirt.
    it is very easy to do. then all you have to do is add a white shirt.

  86. OCSugarBaby says:

    Hello Again Beach! I do love WI. Some things I miss… the freezing cold NOT at all. Tell the ladies how they can find you? πŸ˜‰

  87. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    Bettie: When I was in first year University, I found one for $2 at a thrifty store… and yes.. I wore it as an everyday clothing.. *sigh* to be young and silly.

  88. BettieGirlDD*273192 says:

    Aww NC and SEuro… thinking about how sweet you two are really warms my lil heart.

    Kitty I had a shiny pleather pencil skirt in my ‘fun’ drawer.. its perfect. I may have lent it out to a friend who moved away, though.. maybe a SD will get me a new one someday!

  89. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    gurl: definately try it.. and let him know that u have a lil surprise for him…. only if you’re REALLY HAPPY…hopefully he gets the drift

  90. gurlnextdoor says:

    Kitty I love the little school girl idea…maybe I should try when I go to NYC.

  91. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    awww… have a safe flight!!!!!

  92. NC Gent Sweet Euro says:

    Hello all – we just got back from a long day in Paris πŸ™‚ we went to notre dame, sainte chapelle, the louvre and the eiffel tower – lovely day – we have mid-morning flight – night all – lots of walking today!

  93. BettieGirlDD*273192 says:

    And yes from what I hear it is still cold in some places warm others.. Imagine that.

  94. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    you should and wear a tight blouse and pencil skirt… with a high slit~ ROWR

  95. BettieGirlDD*273192 says:

    Ooh Kitty good for you. I dont need glasses nor do I wear a bun but I might start…

  96. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    mmm SD and I are going to Niagara Falls tomorrow… I am excited πŸ˜€
    There’s going to be a little school girl surprise for him, if he treats me well… πŸ™‚ I AM SO NAUGHTY!!!!

  97. lisa says:

    yes and I think it’s the opposite in the southern hemosphere.
    It is horrible here in the summer, and going from the hot outside to the cold aircontioning in buildings constantly isn’t pleasant.

  98. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    Cold in the north and warm in the South… it’s awesome eh?

  99. lisa says:

    I have never been up in the East area, I have been to Toronto once and it was cold. I have to say I prefer the cooler weather to our harsh summers in Texas. It’s horrible, you can’t even get out without being soaked in sweat.

  100. BettieGirlDD*273192 says:

    Good story, lisa. I went to west virgina once.

  101. lisa says:

    I haven’t been to California since I was 8, my mom used to take me every year, then she got remarried and we moved south.

  102. lisa says:

    I lived in the north (Indiana, Illinois) till I was 10 and then the south Texas for 11 years (very warm) and have been in Houston since then, not as warm but nothing like up north. I’m spoiled now and can’t stand cold weather.

  103. BettieGirlDD*273192 says:

    *singing* I wish they all could be california girrrrlllssssss

  104. Beach says:

    Thanks Bettie. Yes those are a faint memory…..

  105. BettieGirlDD*273192 says:

    Beach what you do is look at any SB’s profile and up in the url put in the number you want instead and hit enter/go.

    The cold makes you appreaciate those couple warm months…

  106. Beach says:

    OC, I moved from a warm climate TO Wisconsin in what was obviously a moment of temporary insanity. It was -21 (-40 wind chill) on the way to the office this morning, so you are obviously brighter than I am. On a positive note, I have the feeling back in all my fingers and eight of my toes.

    Also, how do you look someone up by profile number? I have not found it under any of the search features.

  107. lisa says:

    A&F not A&E lol abercrombie and fitch

  108. lisa says:

    Hi everyone, back from the mall. I thought retailers where supposed to be lowering prices, I found very few sales on anything worth it. Found a cute sweater dress but they didn’t have my size, found my size in another color but it wasn’t on sale. πŸ™ ended up getting my mom a cat calender for 75% off and a couple sweaters for me from Hollister and A&E one was 70 marked down to 20 the other was 50 marked down to 15 so that’s a good deal. now I have about 100 sweaters hanging in my closet, lol

    Back to work for me tomorrow, have to work all day tomorrow and sunday. The weather is nice though, it’s in the upper 40’s but sunny.

  109. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    Don’t know why it is so hard for people to understand but alas.. Sunday lunch! SD’s going to be so mad that we’re having sushi.. I told him we’re having… “authentic Asian food”. just stretching the truth a tad.

  110. BettieGirlDD*273192 says:

    Sushi with watermelon is a no-go. Don’t people understand I have a habit to feed?

  111. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    wish you could come to… what happened to Sushi with watermelon? lol

  112. BettieGirlDD*273192 says:

    Ah Kitty.. wish i could go to the club opening with you! I’m going to keep it low key with some friends.

  113. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    No problem Bri: best of luck πŸ™‚

    I now have a headache~ Meetings always create MORE stress. I have to travel to another city an hr away to see meet with a client AFTER work… and have to drive back, get ready and attend a club grand opening tonight at 10pm.

  114. gurlnextdoor says:

    Yep SuthernExec it’s great! πŸ™‚ Good luck with your date Bri, remember to just be yourself and never to give up hope. You’ll find your perfect SD sooner or later.

  115. OCSugarBaby says:

    Stephan is the wonderful mysterious all knowing Blog Master from SA!

  116. bri says:

    ocsugarbaby – i would LOVE that. thanks for the offer πŸ™‚ who is stephan?

    kitty – you’ve been very helpful!! thank you!

  117. kittylainy says:

    Bri… The only advice I can give is… You do not owe them anything treat them like any guy u’ve ever dated and don’t do anything unless u want to… Ur not an escort and they’re not buying u stuff to sleep with you… Best of luck.

  118. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I think If I was having as much fun as them, the blog would be my last thought lol

  119. OCSugarBaby says:

    Hey STEPHAN! Please share my email with Bri

    Bri-I will talk with you offline if you would like, regarding your meeting jitters. πŸ™‚

  120. Jenniferbbwsb says:

    Hello to everyone… again.

    Gail thanks for the kind words. I know that things will get better. See I am putting on my happy face!!

    Still no word from NC gent and SweetEuropean. They really must be having fun!!
    Good for them!!

  121. sweetredhead269443 says:

    We all a nervous when we set up a meeting. I usually talk to the men I will meet get to know them a bit before a meeting. You can tell a lot about a person when they have to write instead of talk πŸ™‚ or in phone calls.

    Good Luck and I hope he is all you are wishing for πŸ™‚

  122. bri says:

    so i think i might be meeting with a potential next week…i’m a little nervous. i’m not sure what to expect.

    gurlnextdoor: i’m happy to hear that πŸ™‚ i really like hearing success stories, gives me hope

  123. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Salad, Tuna, and carrot stick lunch. Gotta love dieting.

  124. SuthrnExec says:

    Gurlnetdoor, it IS nice when your expectations are exceeded, isn’t it!

  125. gurlnextdoor says:

    Thanks Kitty, I’m happy too. I actually found someone who was beyond what I was looking for. I didn’t expect to be getting flown around the country all the time, but I’m not complaining. πŸ™‚ And I will shop, shop until my little heart is content, lol.

  126. sweetredhead269443 says:

    What is the deal here in Florida with visiting hours….Only one time a day in the evening. ughhh. I have to call to see what the doctor says, call to check on my son. This is frustrating

  127. gurlnextdoor says:

    And I love T.I’s song Whatever you like:

    Shawty you the hottest. Love the way you drop it.
    Brain so good could have sworn you went to college.
    100k deposit. Vacations in the tropics
    And everybody know it ain’t tricking if you got it
    You ain’t never ever gotta go in your wallet.
    As long as I got rubber band banks in my pocket.
    Fiver or six rides wit rims and a body kit.
    You ain’t gotta downgrade you can get what I get

    My chick can have what she want.
    And go in any store for any bag she wants.
    She ain’t never had a man like that.
    To buy her anything her heart desire like that.

  128. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    Hey gurl: awww I am so happy for you!! GO SHOPPING!! SHOPPING!!!!! I’m glad you’ve found someone that is like a true SD…

    WEll folks.. I got to go get ready for a lunch meeting~
    Have fun and stay sugary sweet 😑 <3 <3

  129. gurlnextdoor says:

    Good Morning Everyone!!! Things with my Boston SD must have went well because we’re going to NYC in like 3 weeks to meet again! πŸ™‚ Ok, now that I have that out of the way, what is this I hear about fake boobs??? You can’t feel your nipples after 4 years…hmm, well I guess I won’t be getting a breast augmentation anytime soon.

  130. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    have a wonderfully productive day GAIL!

  131. OCSugarBaby says:

    Suthurn is a true gentleman…. I had no worries! LOL

  132. Gail says:

    Okay everyone….I have to get my day started…Have a wonderful day and talk with everyone later!!!!

  133. Gail says:

    LMAO….OCSugar…LOL….ya just had to say no:)

  134. OCSugarBaby says:

    He better NOT say any such thing!

  135. OCSugarBaby says:

    Hey Gordon-I think Frank and Mel would love a formal introduction to T.I

  136. Gail says:

    LOL……speaking of the Devils(just kidding) Morning Suthurn Exec:) We need it….tell us you experience with perky nipples….LOL

  137. ~*kittylainy*~ says:


  138. SuthrnExec says:

    Admit it – you’d be disappointed if nobody showed up!

  139. sweetredhead269443 says:

    See what I tell you talk boobs and there pops SuthrnExec lmao

  140. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    HAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!! “talk about boob and they will come”

  141. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Here are some lyrics to a sugar daddy some, made me laugh…

    Γ‚β€œ Ssh Ssh psst psst mami mami come here let me talk to you, come here let me talk to you come here
    Ah come with me baby, I can be your sugar papi baby, your sugar pimp
    I like it sweet and low too, but I am no artificial sweetener naha.

    come on and let me take you around the world,
    I got my platinum metro card
    We can go underground undercover under your wear
    Because with my looks I cannot be seen in public naha.

    Come on donÂ’t lie to me baby, I know Latin Girls love their coffee with a whole lotta sugar and givingÂ’ sugar is my business marinate on that like marmalade baby”

  142. SuthrnExec says:

    Dang – this blog needs a dose of testosterone!!

  143. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    actually it sounds more like a smart investing and saving.. thus rich retirement song

  144. BettieGirlDD*273192 says:

    lainy sometime we should go to a nice karaoke club and sing only sugar songs.. maybe they’ll get the hint.. I”ll do Material Girl.

  145. OCSugarBaby says:

    Look what I started… LMAO

  146. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    Working so hard,every night and day
    And now we get the pay back
    Trying so hard saving up the paper
    Now we get the lay back
    Working so hard every night and day
    And now we get the pay back
    The pay back,the pay back

    Sugar, honey, sexy baby
    When we touch it turns to gold
    Sensitive and delicate, kinda like a tuberose
    You know you are my treasure chest
    It’s pure perfection when we kiss and
    You’re my Mr., I’m your Miss

  147. sweetredhead269443 says:

    You know they are out there. Talk about boobs and men come out of no where lmao

  148. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    lmao @ jumpsuit

    There are a lot of good sugar baby songs:
    Luxurious: Gwen Stefani
    Champagne kisses, hold me in your lap of luxury
    I only want to fly first-class desires, you’re my limousine
    So elegant the way we ride, our passion it just multiplies
    There’s platinum lightning in the sky
    Look I’m living like a queen

    This kind of love is getting expensive
    We know how to live, baby
    We’re luxurious, like Egyptian cotton
    We’re so rich in love, we’re rolling in cashmere
    Got it in fifth gear, baby
    Diamonds in the rough, is looking so sparkly

  149. Gail says:

    LOL…do they inject a majic drug?..LOL…imagine the effect of perky nipples in a T-shirt….OK SDs…I know your out there:) Great morning topic:)

  150. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    I think you lose you nipple sensation in 4 years. HOWEVER: you can get your surgeons to make your nipples permanently perky! woohoo science!

  151. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I am shaped like Dolly Parton. Had a designer (when I was young) design a outfit for me. He said I had the perfect shape my shoulder and hips were the same width. He made a jump suit. I hated it! it emphasized everything I wanted to hide. Oh if I could do it all over again I would not want to hide what I had πŸ™

  152. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    ^ i just noticed how that could sound rude… but it wasn’t meant to be… i wanted to say I like my little boobs without really enhacing the unattractiveness of it

  153. BettieGirlDD*273192 says:

    sweetredhead.. I just dont bother fighting with buttondowns.. knits are my friend. I’m a “sweater girl” just like in the 40s… haha..

  154. Gail says:

    I would mind a little lift or enhancement though….LOL….I guess it doesn’t matter…mine get perky and perkier at the appropriate time. I was wondering if you have implants…do the nipples still get perky…sorry this may not make sense…LOL…

  155. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    redhead: I like my proportionate body

  156. OCSugarBaby says:

    I do look like I fit right in, even though I am a Midwest girl who is a transplant in the OC. I guess it is the Scandinavian blonde and blue eyes that make me look like a CA native.

  157. BettieGirlDD*273192 says:

    My dorkieness/nerdiness is “endearing” to some. Might as well work what I’m workin’ with. Speaking of.. hey stephan, you ready for some BSG tonite???

  158. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I could never understand why woman would want big boobs. I always hated mine. Hard to find bathing suits that fit right. blouses would gap open. Men talk to your chest and not to you. Everything has to be tailored. buying larger cloths then tailor then down to fit the rest of you ughhhh its a pain!!

  159. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    I have little real ones

  160. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    ya.. I like the ones who work hard to be where they are… I think they’re the real estate ladies…
    they are 100% golddiggers

  161. Gail says:

    Hurrrah for real breast…:)LOL that’s me too!!!

  162. Gail says:

    I watch the show too….I am envous of their lifestyle:(….I want to go to work like that and get paid too:)

  163. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    lol good for u OC!!! proud of u… the temptation would be difficult to resist

  164. Gail says:

    LOL SweetRed…Yes Stacy and Clinton would know:)

  165. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    LOL @ Redhead

  166. OCSugarBaby says:

    Kitty-LMAO, Winters here are a breeze! I moved from Wisconsin, so when the people here are freezing I laugh! I have never even turned on my heat since I move here. I love the whole package, palm trees, ocean breezes, fast cars, tan people and yes some of the biggest breasts I have ever seen in my life! lol Mine, however are real. LMAO

  167. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    I know OC is gorgeous… I watch the OC and the real house wives of OC πŸ™‚

  168. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Gail these days I go for the kitten heals. And my boots are a lower heal. No spikes for me anymore. I also like comfort, but you can be comfortable and in fashion πŸ™‚ just ask Stacy and Clinton lol

  169. Gail says:


    Yes…that’s what you will see a little farther down along the beach cities. Los Angeles more like traffic and smog. OCSugar is closer to the beach.
    I am in Northern Calif….less than two hours to San Fran…and 2 hours to Lake Tahoe, where there is snow:)

  170. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I grew up with brothers and had sons (1 daughter) so I know all about the super hero’s they are great! SO add me to the dork group too.

  171. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    I didn’t say a dork is a bad thing btw…. no hate mail either… just envy….

  172. Gail says:

    Kitty-I hate winter too! I will stay in if it is cold…that’s when its nice just to have someone you don’t mind cuddling with…during the summer I am out…gone…traveling somewhere…anywhere…on the beach,lake…just OUT!!!EVERYDAY. Today I am resting…worked too much this week.

    Sweetred-I perfer comfort over looking cute at least when I am lounging. I can’t handle tall heels anymore:) My legs and feet are beat dead at the end of the day:)

    Bettie-Hmmm…I had to google him…my…you must just admire his maturity(LOL) and creative mind:) You are no dork. but his pic made me laugh:)

  173. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Betty and OC your both dorks lmao just kidding.

  174. OCSugarBaby says:

    Bettie-I love Spid’y! I was a huge fan as a kid, heck I am still a little kid for the most part! No, you are a wonderful dreamer. That is a special quality that you should cherish! πŸ™‚

    Kitty- The summers are great in Orange County, nice breezes off the ocean. *No hate mail please… lol

    Gail-Yes, always smiling, that is ME!

  175. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    GAIL: when I think about moving to LA, all I can envision are palm trees, sunshine, sandy white beaches and beautiful men/women….

  176. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    redhead: *highfives* that’s me every day…..

    Bettie: you’re a dork…

  177. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    **** I sounded really ignorant there.. yes I know there is winter in Cali too.. I mean snowy winter.

    How is the summer in Calfi? Humid? or is it fairly dry?

  178. BettieGirlDD says:

    So I had a dream last night that two friends and I were going into a movie theater when comic book legend Stan Lee was coming out although he was much younger and well over 6′ tall. We all shook his hand and I lingered to give him the eye.. so he gave me his card and we both totally knew we were gonna talk sugar later. Then my friends asked me why I was flirting with that geezer and I said “duh, he created Spider-man”

    Is this a good omen or am I just a dork?

  179. sweetredhead269443 says:

    When I lived up north, I wore fashion boats [email protected] Try wearing leather healed boots on ice and snow!! my feet were frozen, I am lucky I didn’t fall on my butt….but I looked good lol

  180. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    OC: I want to SO incredibly bad.. I hate winter.. I HATE HATE HATE winter!

    Gail: hello hello~

  181. Gail says:

    OCSugar-Kisses back to you! I see you are smiling over and over again! do your cheeks still hurt?

    Kitty-Don’t give up on Calif yet, you will love it here:)

    Jennifer-Hello stranger!!!!Nice to see you…things will get better. Stay positive:)

  182. Gail says:

    I love Uggs boots…but this year I found some really cute boots from Skechers. They are like Uggs, but look much nicer. Alot more detail on them:)

  183. OCSugarBaby says:

    GAIL!!!!! *kisses*

  184. OCSugarBaby says:

    Kitty-I had my share of bitter cold winters. Life is too short not to live in Sunshine!

  185. Gail says:

    Yes everyone….sunny and warm in California:) Good Morning All!!!

  186. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Good morning everyone. 58 here today. I am COLD!! lol. I am from the north also but been spoiled here for the last 3 yrs. Not it gets below 60 and I freeze!!

  187. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    so jealous OCSB… SO JEALOUS!!!!

  188. OCSugarBaby says:

    Good Morning Sugars! Come to California, it is WARM and SUNNY.

  189. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    Remember me moving to California? Probably not going to happen. It is a lot harder to get a Green Card than I thought. I am stuck in the Canadian cold for now… πŸ™

  190. lisa says:

    It is going to be a pain to take off all these clothes to try on clothes at the mall, I feel so weighed down and I love my Ugg boots but they make my feet feel so heavy

  191. lisa says:

    it has gotten colder here every winter too. I am wearing a sweater dress, sweater, wool peacoat, neckscarf, no hat (I look like a dork in one) and no gloves (lost them) and I almost froze taking the trash out. My lover cancelled on me, he is in bed sick with a sore throat so I’m heading to the mall early. A latte sounds good

  192. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    global warming is a lie… I think this is the coldest it’s ever been here….
    I am wearing a pencil skirt and boots… a pea-coat and pashmina… how about gloves? NO GLOVES!!! I think I got frost bite when I was outside getting the mail…
    BRRR….BRrrrr… BRRRRR

  193. BettieGirlDD says:

    Spanish Vixen.. where up north are you going? Me and kitty are hanging Sunday!
    It’s 3F here.. brrr!

  194. lisa says:

    Good morning Jenniferbbwsb

  195. Jenniferbbwsb says:

    Thanks Kitty.

  196. lisa says:

    I grew up in the north but have become spoiled. I spent 11 years in the Rio grande valley where it is kind of tropical and mild. I don’t like the hot summers here but 32 is too cold for me.

  197. SuthrnExec says:

    It was 10 F here last night (-12 C) down here in the South – these folks are freaking out but since I moved here from up north, it’s a piece of cake! I love it!!

  198. lisa says:

    Good mornine everyone. Well it’s about 32 here, supposed to warm to about 50. I will go out this afternoon to the mall.
    Mailbox still empty.

  199. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    Jen: Sorry to hear that you are ahving a tough time.. but ur a toughie and I know you can get through it all with a smile.. esp with ur optimism… I do wish you the best of luck though…

    No haven’t heard from NCSWEET… think they’re enjoying themselves too much

  200. Jenniferbbwsb says:

    Good Morning to everyone.

    Kitty: great pictures!

    I haven’t been blogging much lately, but I have been keeping up. I have really missed you all. Trying to get things straighten out at home. I really would like to have a SD now to get away from it all, even if it is for just a day. But thing will look up and I will get through it all.

    Now, on to better things..
    Has anyone heard from NC Gent and SweetEuropean? They should have been in Paris yesterday. I know they are have a great time.

    hugs and kisses

  201. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    BTW it is -20 C here! Definately get-your-tongue-stuck-on-metal-pole weather…. BRRRRRRRRR

  202. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    thanx blkbuttafly/SuthrnExec.
    I am not too sure if I like the first pic…

  203. BlkButtafly says:

    Welcome, Kayboo!

  204. BlkButtafly says:

    Good morning everyone! Awesome pix, kitty!

  205. SuthrnExec says:

    Welcome Kayboo – you’re in good hands with the great folks on this blog. If you have any questions, don’t be afraid to put them out there.

  206. SuthrnExec says:

    Kitty, nice pics – great variety.

  207. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    New pic is up!!! LEmme know what you think!!!

  208. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    I love it… I get into my office, turn on my network server… unforward my phone… sign onto the blog… and a new work day begins haha.

    KAYBOO!! I’m an Ontario girl too!! welcome… You will hear this said a million times: be patient a real SD takes time. This blog is a great place to get advice… and some amazing SDs are here too.. it’s a very comfortable way of getting to know one another.

    Sincere: Hmm… Big smoke= T dpt… isn’t hamilton even smoggier??

  209. Gordon says:

    Bri, you had a question for me after I logged out last night? Sorry I missed you. My profile is 284842, send an email

    Kayboo, I was new here a little over a week ago and the bloggers became my best source of advice and encouragement. There are plenty of people who read the blog and do not post. Some of my best prospects saw me here and emailed. Good luck

  210. Kayboo says:

    Ahh new here, trying to keep up with the blog. SW Ontario girl, and man having a hard time finding a decent SD.

  211. jasmine says:

    Good night everyone!hope to talk to everyone tomorrow!

  212. Spanish Vixen says:

    gah haven’t been able to check this all day

    Looks like I’ll be going snowboarding for the first time tomorrow…with a guy…who’s my age…hahahaha!

    @Kitty: I’d LOVE to meet you sometime πŸ˜› I’ll be up north next week actually!!!

  213. Atlantian says:

    Good night all! My pillow is beckoning…

  214. Atlantian says:

    Jasmine, yes I did. I felt so bad for Gretchen (I actually like her). Tamara is a major creep for getting her drunk like that. And watching her son practically molest Gretchen.
    gross. just gross.

  215. BettieGirlDD says:

    Sincere.. I feel so naive having just put my first fib on my profile after almost two months… I thought putting up sexy pics was being competitive enough but I’ve been doing myself a disservice!

  216. jasmine says:

    Atlantian,you watch the epsiode on tuesday?

  217. SincereSD says:

    Kitty – Bettie is correct … Big smoke = Tdot = GTA

    Sweetred – Yes, I’m suggesting a little fib … say 20. It wouldn’t be the first time someone changed their age here. I’ve come across a number of SB who fell within my search boundaries but were clearly younger or older. Call me jaded but I’ve come to expect some inaccuracies within profiles … I don’t mind as long as the inaccuracies are minor and are close to reality. BTW, I was previously on a site that had minimum age of 21 for members; miraculously, these SB became younger on a different site.

    Bettie & Bri – I agree age is just a number but a potential SD may have a certain search criteria and people may have certain stereotypes or biases which may prelude a certain age group.

  218. BlkButtafly says:

    good night everyone! my top lashes keep meeting my bottom lashes! πŸ˜‰

  219. Atlantian says:

    Speaking of women’s age and maturity…..The Real Housewives of Orange County all act like cracked out sorority girls. They are TOO old for that nonsense.

  220. lisa says:

    Good night everyone. I’m going to get in bed and watch some tv.

  221. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I am going to get get warm and cozy under my blankets. Good night everyone.

  222. jasmine says:

    I’m still an icecube.I had to find parking.

  223. lisa says:


    it’s down to 53 here

  224. sweetredhead269443 says:

    wow!! its 38 here tonight and I had to go put on a sweater. I am COLD!!

  225. jasmine says:

    Good evening everyone here.I just came back from the mall and it gotten even colder -15 below.

  226. sweetredhead269443 says:

    nite SuthrnExec

  227. SuthrnExec says:

    G’night ladies! Have a wonderful evening – i must put my old tired bones in the bed. Adios!

  228. sweetredhead269443 says:

    What a bunch of little match makers you are lmao

  229. bri says:

    blkbuttfaly – i guess i missed him πŸ™ i could have really used his opinion. oh well, maybe next time….

    i don’t know about changing my age. i’m very mature for my age and i am confident that the right person wouldn’t mind what that number is – it is after all just a number.

  230. BlkButtafly says:

    Awesome, Gordon! Goodnight!

  231. lisa says:

    Good luck on your date Gordon

  232. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Good Luck on your Date Gordon. Hope you have a wonderful time! Have a good evening.

  233. SuthrnExec says:

    Go get ’em Gordy!

  234. Gordon says:

    It’s time for me to tuck my tail between my legs and leave the room, besides my corgi wants to walk then go to bed. Good night All

    PS: I will miss tomorrows meeting, I Have a Date! Root for me

  235. lisa says:

    I’m waiting for my sd to come too, not so sure about the knight in shining armour. I would be more comfortable in a mercedes than on a horse

  236. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I have never been insulted so politely before lmao

  237. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I am waiting for my knight (SD) in shining armor To come take me away….

  238. BettieGirlDD says:

    maturity and age.. not the same thing… ive worked with some women my mom’s age who acted like 8th graders.. and met girls younger than me who acted waaay more mature haha.

  239. BlkButtafly says:

    *sigh* we were rooting for you, Gordon…your very own personal cheerleaders…..i was just sewing the “G” into my midriff top LOL

  240. lisa says:

    Hi everyone i’m back, on the phone with a friend who talks way too much, lol

  241. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Gordon…. LMAO and whats wrong with romances novels? Know any Italians on white horses to come take me away?

  242. sweetredhead269443 says:

    He knows where I am πŸ™‚ Now behave! lol

  243. Gordon says:

    Red keeps rebuffing me, she waits for that Sicilian bandit on the white horse.

    I think she has been reading too many paper back romances

  244. Yasmine says:

    Awwwwww come on Sweets go get him lol

  245. sweetredhead269443 says:

    No, u2 stop that, no match in blog heaven. Not this time.

  246. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I LOVE a man in uniform……I even married one lol

  247. sweetredhead269443 says:

    oops that comment came in late meant that for the Elvis and daddy reference not the power couple one lmao who that could have been misunderstood eek

  248. Gordon says:

    I photos of my father and uncles in uniform while saving the world in WW11, hats tilted, sly smiles and sparkling eyes. What woman could resist them?

  249. Yasmine says:

    Another match in blog heaven πŸ™‚

  250. Yasmine says:

    Lol Buttafly i was about to say the same thing!

  251. sweetredhead269443 says:

    shhhhhhhhhhh don’t tell BlkButtafly. LMAO

  252. BlkButtafly says:

    Uh oh!….Is that another blog power couple slowly emerging??? lol

  253. BlkButtafly says:

    i’m still laughing at your elvis comment, sweetredhead….sort of brings us back a little to the actual topic of this blog….especially the point where a girl usually falls for a guy like her dad (dad’s old military photo = elvis’ military photo) LOL

  254. sweetredhead269443 says:

    But alas he leaves me out in the cold pinning for his affections πŸ™‚

  255. Gordon says:

    But Red I have always known that you loved me;-)

  256. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Gordon…I LOVE you!! now that’s a way to think. maybe I will adjust my age hmmm…

  257. SuthrnExec says:

    Nite Jennifer!

  258. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Night Jennifer….she comes and there she goes lol.

  259. Gordon says:

    A woman age is adjustable and is no ones business except her and the DMV.

    In my small town I assume that every woman is fifteen years older the she looks, but if she looks great who cares.

  260. Jenniferbbwsb says:

    Everyone have a good night… Sweet dreams to all

  261. BlkButtafly says:

    But do it quickly before he hides his profile again

  262. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I like his voice not his outfits lmao, I think he actually looked best when he was in the military. I have a picture of my dad in the air force and he looks exactly like Elvis lol

  263. BlkButtafly says:

    Hey, Bri! Ask Brandon about suggestions for your profile! I just did and he gave great feedback!

  264. Jenniferbbwsb says:

    Kitty.. hi to you also, thought you went to watch your movie. lol

  265. ~*kittylainy*~ says:

    Bettie: Hello my Sugar Sis!

    Jen: hi

    redhead: I like Elvis cuz his outfits sparkle. <–I can be a dumb blonde too

    ok no more procrastination.. back to movie πŸ™‚

  266. Jenniferbbwsb says:

    So do I. I keep trying to get him to open up and talk more. We are going to try to talk tomorrow.

  267. sweetredhead269443 says:

    SincereSD are you telling her to lie about her age? Or did I misunderstand?

  268. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Jenniferbbwsb Thanks. That’s great, hope it goes well for you!

  269. Jenniferbbwsb says:

    Doing well, just got my son to sleep.

  270. SincereSD says:


    Here’s my feedback on your profile:

    * add a comment about your maturity level. I’ll bet many SD tend to stay away from younger potential SB fro that very reason.
    * tweak your profile a bit; increase your age slightly; add your expectations; your occupation (student?), etc.
    * add more information about your preferences for e.g. age ranges, married or not, whether you will travel to see a SD, etc.
    * read other SB profiles for more ideas

    Be patient and good luck with your search.

  271. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Guess I am a lone Elvis fan lol

  272. Jenniferbbwsb says:

    Update on me.. I started chatting with a pot. sd. We will see how things go.

    SweetRed.. sorry to hear about the job.

  273. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Hi Jennifer!! how are you tonight?

  274. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Good luck Bri, just be patient you will find your SD.

  275. Jenniferbbwsb says:

    Good Evening to everyone. How is everyone in sugar land?

  276. SuthrnExec says:

    Hang in there bri!

  277. bri says:

    thank you everyone for your replies/advice!!! i really appreciate it. it’s hard to know what to expect and i’m grateful that you all are so kind and willing to help πŸ™‚
    i’m going to make some adjustments based on your input and we’ll see how it goes…

  278. BettieGirlDD says:

    I think big smoke – TO, as one of the roller derby teams is the smoke city betties (no relation)

  279. sweetredhead269443 says:

    anyone like Elvis πŸ™

  280. lisa says:

    Good night everyone. I’m going to call a friend and watch some tv.
    Going to do some lite shopping tomorrow

  281. SuthrnExec says:

    Love me some Sinatra, Diana Krull and Harry Connick, Jr.

  282. lisa says:

    Kittylainy, that doesn’t make sense as he says he has to be discreet but has his picture posted and wouldn’t his wife know what he was doing

  283. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Mel Torme’s publicist coined the name, “The Velvet Fog,” to describe his smooth style but he hated it (hecklers called him “The Velvet Frog”).

  284. BlkButtafly says:

    goodnight kitty!

  285. lisa says:

    Good night Kittylainy, pleasant sd dreams and warm weather for you

  286. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    btw folks: SA creator is looking for a SB.. πŸ™‚ 280759

  287. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    Well folks, it’s been a pleasure, as always.
    However, my proposal is all finished, I just uncorked my bottle of Icewine, and Eyes Wide Shut’s in the DVD player (HD DVD version). So I am going to relax and enjoy the rest of the evening with my kitty πŸ™‚ Nitey nites~ Have a wonderful evening everyone πŸ™‚ <3 <3

  288. lisa says:

    by the time the post finally posts, no one knows what we are talking about, subject has changed

  289. lisa says:

    I was telling sweetredhead that my daughter had a good parttime job at a doctor’s office, to raunchy I guess, lol

  290. Gordon says:

    The post was acctualy in context a half hour ago

  291. Gordon says:

    I posted that Sinatra called Mel Torme the Velvet Fog.
    Maybe the word Velvet set off alarms

  292. lisa says:

    my last posts are still under moderation too πŸ™

  293. SuthrnExec says:

    Hey Gordan and all! Love the iPod! I’m pretty much a techie when to comes to the electronic stuff – love um!

  294. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Are you talking dirty again Gordon? Shame on you!

  295. Mina says:

    Sometimes it seems to happen for no reason, Gordon. Unless you’ve been given a dunce cap, I’m sure you’ll be fine. πŸ™‚

  296. Yasmine says:

    What is up with guys sending 2 or 3 emails and disappearing?

  297. Gordon says:

    Have I been put in time-out? The moderator has been holding an innocent Sinatra/Torme post for over twenty minutes!

  298. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    Big smoke= Hamilton?

  299. SincereSD says:

    Kittylainy said, “I am 100% sure I am the ONLY Canadian on the blog…”

    Well, Kitty you are wrong about that.

    If you are in the Big Smoke and need some company, I’d be glad to treat you to dinner or lunch (if you can convince Stephan to exchange our contact info). It’ll be strictly platonic, as I already have an SB but we’ll probably have of battle scars and interesting stories to share.

  300. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    πŸ™ it’s so difficult when it is something that is totally out of your control

  301. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I really liked him too πŸ™ we still talk but that’s about it.

  302. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    redhead: it is true, I have found that about doctors.. they have no TIME at all!!!

  303. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I have met a Doctor on here. But he is 2hrs from me. And always too busy. I did meet him though, and he was great. But doesn’t have the time for me πŸ™ He keeps saying we are going to meet again, that he had a wonderful time. But just hasn’t happened πŸ™

  304. BlkButtafly says:

    yessss…some non-frugal doctors….that is if non-frugal is even a word!

  305. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    at least use it to get to know some doctors…

  306. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    redhead: smart

  307. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I don’t mix business with pleasure πŸ™‚

  308. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    Redhead: perhaps maybe you can make this doctor your SD!

  309. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I am an office manager for a Doctors office I have 10yr experience. This Job I was running the office and would be well paid which is very good for here in Florida. Most Dr office want to pay you nothing for working your butt off. While they make a lot of money.

  310. lisa says:

    Looking for a job is a pain and when you dont get the one you want,it’s worse. My job is ok, alot of physical work but 100 percent better than the one I left, very little stress and no more night work

  311. lisa says:

    I listen to the spice girls sometimes. My daughter had all the spice girl dolls when they were popular. I also have a picture of her posing by their wax figures in London rock circus (it has since closed).

  312. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Wish I didn’t have to look for another job this one is perfect for me. But I can’t wait πŸ™

  313. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    I have the Spice Girls on Cassette

  314. BlkButtafly says:

    oh man cassettes, i still have some of those…..i already have sooo much to tell my unborn children LOL too bad by the time they come i’ll have forgotten all about cassettes

  315. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    aww that’s too bad redhead.. it’s ok,,, bad luck comes in 3s but good luck comes in 4s

  316. lisa says:

    he is old blue eyes I think

  317. lisa says:

    aaarrrrggggg sweatredhead I hate delays. my job was delayed a month because of hurricane Ike. Are you going to look for a different job or wait?

  318. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    Gordon: *listening to SInatra* aww romantic music~ He is the artist that Micheal Buble reminds me of and I have heard his music, just never knew who he was. (not very musically educated)

  319. sweetredhead269443 says:

    sometimes I think if I didn’t have bad luck I wouldn’t have any at all……Stay positive stay positive………

  320. sweetredhead269443 says:

    arrrrruggggg. I just got an email from the employer I was really hoping to get the job from. there is a problem with their licensing and it could be 3 months before they open the new medical office.

  321. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    blkbuttafly: oppsie sorry… but I shall still prowl for u

  322. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    haha Gordon: you are a die hard fan

  323. BlkButtafly says:

    Noooo I represent the east coast yes but I’m in Florida

  324. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    yes.. blkbutterfly I am inton the whole cellphone craze too.. but everything else.. please keep simple.
    I have a rotary phone in my bedroom.. (for esthetics really) haha

    I got 6 new phones in 2008

  325. Gordon says:

    Old? I bought the White Album when it came out on Vinyl, then 8track, cassette, and CD, I just rip it for Ipod

  326. BlkButtafly says:

    I have to admit….I’m 22 and I love my electronics like my iphone and the ipod i had before i got the phone…but some things i will just keep simple until they make me change….i’ll just stick with DVDs πŸ™‚

  327. sweetredhead269443 says:

    lmao @ Gordon that’s too funny

  328. lisa says:

    I remember records and 8-tracks. I miss records because the record covers were nice.

  329. lisa says:

    I hate when the power goes off for even a moment and everything is flashing 12:00

  330. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    well he nevr contacted me.. But I shall try anyways.. tank you for the tip.. you are now accepted as one of my wing woman and I will keep a look out for gents for u!
    ur in nyc rite?

  331. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I remember 8 tracks and record players, my son has no idea what those are lmao

  332. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    HAHAA!! I know wtf?? BLURAY????!!!!! what about HD DVD?????
    I jjust started my HD DVD collection and now I have to start a BLURAY Collection???!!!

  333. BlkButtafly says:

    Kitty, He might…I say it’s worth a try…for you that is….that’s why I still passed along the number *nudge* *nudge* *wink* *wink*

  334. Gordon says:

    One last high tech advice from Gordon, be careful on the mail page, the Reply and Delete buttons are way too close. Alas

  335. BlkButtafly says:

    Ahhhh yes the 8th wonder of the world….how to set the time on those darn VCRs…well I forgot what year it is….how to se the time on those darn VCR/DVD players and Blu-ray players and blah blah blah w/e else they have now….man I sounded older for a second LOL…..I remember when all we had were VCRs and VHSs….i had to walk 10 miles in the snow just to get to Blockbuster to get that last VHS of Clueless….

  336. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    maybe he’ll travel to meet ya….

  337. sweetredhead269443 says:

    no one had to show me how to use the computer. Give me any program and I can figure it out.

  338. BlkButtafly says:

    Girrrrrrlllll lol I know what you mean! And he actually answered! He is the real deal too. Like I said I googled him and picture matched with profile with name. *sigh*…..and LOL, Gordon that sounds like something I would do for my mom

  339. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    I know how to build websites, do simple software programming and graphic design…

    but I cannot set the alarm on my clock.

  340. lisa says:

    I am just not into the new electronics as much anymore although I do have the basics, but if I don’t get that darn converter I won’t be watching tv after feb 17.

  341. sweetredhead269443 says:

    If I get new electronics my son just shows me how to use it lol. And he is 11. How dumb do I feel!

  342. lisa says:

    my daughter taught me how to use the internet , the computer, and the Ipod.

  343. lisa says:

    I wonder what color I would have if I grew a beard, lol

  344. Gordon says:

    BlkButterfly, My daughter got tired of me asking questions and gave me Ipod for Dummies

  345. lisa says:

    I always end up getting the cord stuck on something in the house and about strangle myself, lol

  346. sweetredhead269443 says:

    My dad is Italian if he grows a beard it red lol he has dark hair. My brother is blond with blue eyes (yes same parents) he also grows a red beard.

  347. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    Gordon: I did that with my SDs Ipod, but then I had all these cords and wires in my purse.. AND it took me like 5 minutes to set up the thing. I like to just plug and go… I am stubborn hahaaaaa

  348. Gordon says:

    Kitty, just for you, download “Sophisticated Lady”

  349. lisa says:

    Lisa: part German, Dutch, and Irish.

  350. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    oo BlkButtafly I want him… DAMN distance!

  351. BlkButtafly says:

    look @ u Gordon! lol just got an ipod and already giving electronic advice! *sniff* *sniff* they grow up so fast!

  352. lisa says:

    I posted about Frank Sinatra but my post is under moderation πŸ™

  353. lisa says:

    Strangers in the night
    New york, New york (we used to dance to that one in dance class)

  354. Gordon says:

    Kitty, get an Ipod and load all of your CDs into it. Pick up a car radio adapter for $25 and all of your music is with you

  355. BlkButtafly says:

    wow sweet redhead…1/2 french canadian 1/2 italian with red hair….sooo exotic! πŸ™‚

  356. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:


  357. lisa says:

    I was in Toronto in 1988 (august) and the mornings were very cold. My then husband and I stayed at a very friendly guesthouse on Spadina, off of Bloor, that’s all I know of Toronto , and of course there is that big tall thingy.

  358. BlkButtafly says:

    hmmm…now I want to go to Canada! I’ve never been πŸ™ poor poor sheltered me….oh and kitty, 73261

  359. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    redhead: neither do I!!! *high five* I have a CD collection and because I drive company cars, I lug my CDs around with me all day.

  360. Gordon says:

    “Ah The Apple Tree” was originally called When The World Was Young” which is also the name of a famous Sinatra song.

    Apple Tree is a beautiful bitter sweet true sugarbabbie song”

  361. BlkButtafly says:

    kitty: *hug* no prob, girl!

  362. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Ive been to Canada once. Took a ferry around the thousand islands. And I am 1/2 French Canadian! 1/2 Italian

  363. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    Gordon: it’s true, every region is vastly different. (like the states) But Montreal is a very European city so it’s unique. I love it. And Vancouver is in the West end, very earthy city. And Toronto is very “americanized”.

  364. lisa says:

    I have a Ipod nano in pink metalic, love it but really don’t take it out much, don’t want to get robbed

  365. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Now I really feel out of it, I don’t even own an ipod .

  366. Gordon says:

    Kitty, I spent a couple of weeks in Montreal last June. Great city, pretty girls on bicycles in sundresses smiling at strangers, great food, I loved it.

    I know Canada is huge and every region is very different,

  367. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Good evening Gordon. Look at you go with an ipod lol. I am a country music lover and old rock.

  368. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    blkbuttafly: *hugs* thanx anyways…

  369. lisa says:

    Good evening Gordon, and unlike all these cold sbs, I had to turn on my airconditioner tonight, it was in the 60’s today and my apartment really warmed up with the sunlight.
    You will love your ipod, just remember to Never just plug it into your computer if your itunes get messed up , I did that when my computer crashed and lost all 400 songs on my ipod and since most where purchased I couldn’t afford to redownload them.
    Apple tree, Is that ‘don’t set under the apple tree with anyone else but me?’ I think I have heard that one

  370. BlkButtafly says:

    Hello, Gordon!

  371. OCSugarBaby says:

    Finally someone thinks I am funny! πŸ™‚

  372. BlkButtafly says:

    Thank you OC, finally some feedback on my not-so-appealing compound names LOL

  373. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I am expanding my horizons lol. looking in other states.

  374. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    OC: too funny.. ur on a roll today! hahaaa

    Gordon: it is freezing here.. so I am making hot cocoa πŸ™‚ so I’m comfy

  375. BlkButtafly says:

    Ohhh ok….I’m sorry πŸ™

  376. BlkButtafly says:

    You sure aren’t lying sweetredhead….ugh! i though you know being the other sunshine state….maybe you know something!…but alas nothing….at least not yet

  377. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    I am… by Niagarafalls.. eastern central.. above.. Michigan…
    Vancouver is above Seattle
    so.. too far πŸ™

  378. Gordon says:

    Hi Folks, I wanted to stop by and say hello. Santa gave me my first Ipod for Christmas, I am getting so modern;-)

    As I type I am listing to that most beautiful Sugarbabie song “Ah The Apple Tree” I have a wonderful recording by Peggy Lee, even better is the Dinah Shore version which is hard to find

    How is everyone tonight?

  379. lisa says:

    not many in Houston either, I think I counted about 34 premium ones and those in Dallas and Austin are not willing to travel to Houston. πŸ™

  380. OCSugarBaby says:

    I like… SuthurnSugar and NCSweet….

  381. BlkButtafly says:

    i’m not too familiar w/canada (being ALLLLL the way in Florida) but I think it was Vancouver…..sorry for my geographic ignorance but where is that in relation to you?

  382. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Try Florida, none here either πŸ™

  383. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    aww.. I am touched πŸ™‚
    was he from Toronto? If so, please share πŸ™‚

  384. BlkButtafly says:

    Oh yea SEGent2!…and actually kitty i thought about you the other day b/c i emailed a guy in canada (who actually answered back!) b/c i just LOVED how he worded his profile description (though I KNOW im too far away probably) and he gave me his full name and TOLD me to google him and said he wished there were more SBs who didn’t use guys like him just for ATM machines

  385. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    OO ya.. segent2 I love how their names are so similar

  386. OCSugarBaby says:

    You are thinking about SEGent2…. where has he been?

  387. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    I am 100% sure I am the ONLY Canadian on the blog…

  388. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    I am in CANADA!!!!!!!!!!!
    You know how hard it is to try and find a SD in CANADA???

  389. BlkButtafly says:

    I agree about the CA area…there are sooo many I’ve seen on the west coast πŸ™ *sigh*

  390. lisa says:

    i’m off to take a hot bath

  391. Atlantian says:

    They are Lisa. Many of them admit to it, saying that they want more kids immediately (many of them that do have twins are getting up there in age…)
    The miracles of In vitro….

    And Bri, I like your profile. I agree with the pictures. Maybe have one closer on your face and another more full body? I’m not going to say anything about the wording, but maybe be more specific on what you want if you don’t like what you’re getting now.
    You’re lucky you’re in the CA area. Much more SDs over there πŸ™‚

    eeeek Now I need to read for Philosophy…I’m getting distracted on here

  392. BlkButtafly says:

    oh yea nitemareSD…..i was like hmm idk bout that name but OK intriguing LOL

  393. SuthrnExec says:

    They’ll trickle back – the blog troubles caused many to drift away.

  394. lisa says:

    whatever happened to nitemareSD? he hasn’t given us any wise words of wisdom lately.

  395. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    wasn’t there like 3 different NCs??? NC gent? NC exec? and someone else? There should be more SDs on the site

  396. BlkButtafly says:

    Speaking of great SDs on this blog….whatever happened to um Pantherbot and…..there’s someone else but I can’t remember their name….not Sig or Gordon b/c they are on here pretty frequently…

  397. SuthrnExec says:

    Bri, welcome! Let me offer some feedback from a SD perspective – but don’t miss out on the great ladies here who can give you some good feedback. I would tell you that it’s important to show your maturity and level-headedness in your profile. Many young ladies on this site who are in your age range present themselves as frivolous and primarily after money, making it more difficult for you. Be patient. Chemistry with the potential SD is critical to success and if your profile presents who you are and reflects your maturity, you should be fine. I was on the site for a few months and didn’t have too much success – stood-up twice, in fact! It was on this blog that I met an incredible SB. I can’t speak for her, but I don’t think we thought we would meet in person when we initially met on here. But through the blog, and subsequently through email and phone calls, it was obvious that the chemistry was great.

    That was a long winded way of saying that the blog is a great place to meet people, get feedback, advice and tips – and who knows? It might be just where you meet your SD.

    Good luck – and feel free to pick our brains!

  398. BlkButtafly says:

    HAHA Hi OCSugar!

  399. lisa says:

    yes the rest of us on here are on here because we don’t have a sd to take us out on the town, we are sitting home eating junk food and drinking coffee and complaining (well I am, lol)

  400. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:


  401. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    Bri: Keep this in mind though. Your profile is about YOU! What works for one might not work for another so just change it around and see what really works for you. We try and give general advice. But come on.. we’re all still searching… so who are we to talk.. ASK OCSB when you see her around.. she’s lured herself one of the best SDs out there, she’ll sure be able to give great advice

  402. lisa says:

    and it seems odd that all these twins are being born

  403. OCSugarBaby says:

    Hey Bri- Welcome! I am concerned that you are “unsure about this whole idea and i don’t just want to be somebody’s call girl”

    Talk to us, what are you unsure about? Trust me; no one will treat you like a call girl unless you allow them to. Self assurance (without a tainted attitude) will remedy that. How can we help?

    YES, wonderful SD/SB relationships DO exist!

  404. lisa says:

    I find this trend in hollywood with all these celebreties having twins to be a little suspicious, makes me wonder if they are tampering with nature and maybe having invitro inplantation of two embryos, I dont’ know it just seems odd as I know very few people who have twins

  405. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    haha brangelina comparison that’s hilarious… are you guys thinking about adopting 10 kids from africa AND have twins of your own??

  406. lisa says:

    Nice profile Bri, but I agree you need some larger pics

  407. BlkButtafly says:

    Awww Bri you’re so cute! I agree on the full body picture as well….as far as wording eh i’m not exactly satisfied with mine as of yet so i dare not speak on yours lolol

  408. BlkButtafly says:

    Hi SE!!!! and yes u are…..like Brangelina and etc…..hmmmm I’m think SuthrnOCSugar and NCSweetEuro LOL…i’m horrible i know but i tried

  409. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    Suthenexec: You know you are.. u and ocsb are like the fairytale of SB/SD

    BlkButtafly: Thanks.. sometimes good quotes just comes to you πŸ™‚

    BrI: you are adorable. Perhaps you have a larger photo to add to your profilke? one with full body? Your description is very wholesome and genuine. Both great. Maybe you should elaborate a tad more on what you are looking for and who you are. Esp if you think you are being treated like an escort, convey more PERSONALity to your profile/ I think people who search for the Escort types are put off by the profiles with real depth, because the person has depth and they probably don’t care for it.. that’s just my opinion tho.

  410. SuthrnExec says:

    Wow – we’re a power couple!?! πŸ™‚

  411. bri says:

    oh thanks! i would definitely appreciate that =)

  412. BlkButtafly says:

    I love it! “As all great things like sex, pilates and diamonds….it’s the quality that matters, not quantity.”….that is going STRAIGHT to my facebook status LOL

  413. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    whats your profile number Bri maybe we can provide some insights. I think 700 views in a month and 80 messages are a good record that’s about 12% contact rate, not bad at all, esp because it’s only been a month.
    You will hear this often: but be patient and perhaps be more specific about what you are looking for. When you do that, your ratio is bound to drop, however, you might in turn get some higher quality responses. Remember. As all great things like sex, pilates and diamonds… it’s the quality that matters, not quantity.

  414. lisa says:

    there are alot of creeps on here, you gotta weed them out. I have been on this site for several months with very little luck, met some guys months ago, a couple shopping trips with dinner , etc but more disappoint than anything, and i’m older so time is running out, but I still keep my ad up, there’s always a chance when you have a profile posted.

  415. BlkButtafly says:

    actually you can ask the blog power couples SuthernExec/OCSugarBabe and NCGent/SweetEuropean….they are having a blast!

  416. lisa says:

    I have noticed several times in my area that there will be 3 new members that have no pictures, similiar profile, physical description is always different but they have the same blank basic profile, bland and not really mentioning their interests or hobbies and they will join within hours of each other and never log on again, seems to be the same guys as they have bland usernames and use lame words such as “looking” or hornymale
    or young hot sugardaddy, etc and they are all very generic about what they are looking for, thus fakes
    But again I see many guys who were on this site when I joined months ago that are still here, they are either fakes, or impossible to please, or just bored

  417. bri says:

    thanks for clarifying ladies.
    i’m beginning to think maybe i’m the problem though.
    i’m relatively unsure about this whole idea and i don’t just want to be somebody’s call girl. perhaps my expectations are too high?

  418. lisa says:

    the free ones , especially those who have been members for months and sign on regularly but never upgrade to be able to communicate are more likely playing or just looking for pictures, the premiums can be fakes too though and cheap. sending emails to premium sds has been a waste of time for me as they never reply but a free member won’t even be able to read your message, let alone reply.

  419. Atlantian says:

    The thing about free members is that you always have to watch out for them more so than premium members. The likelihood that they are fake/not serious increases, so they could be serious, but you usually have to watch out.

    I mean, some of the premium members are creepers too, though…

  420. bri says:

    hmmm…i think i become more skeptical by the day.
    someone enlighten us with a fairytale success story already!!!!!

  421. BlkButtafly says:

    wow only a month and 700 views and 80 messages! that’s awesome…sorry nothing’s worked out so far though πŸ™ and i think what lisa is saying is it can SOMETIMES put up a red flag if a SD doesnt even pay the money for a premium membership…..isn’t always the case but SOMETIMES they can be the cheap ones…

  422. lisa says:

    I have had almost 400 views and only 3 messages

  423. lisa says:

    the men that are free members can’t send or read messages and many of them just sign up to look at pictures and then they disappear without joining. I am not having much luck with the premium ones either

    woman can send messages and receive messages with both free and premium but you can’t view who’s viewed you or search specifically. However I have had a free membership for months, switched to premium and got many more views but only 3 messages in the last 3 weeks, all flakes, one guy wanted me to send him xrated pictures, one was in town and just emailed me to meet right away and was not interested in chatting and possibly meeting the next time he was in town, in other words he was just looking for something now, and the third was from Canada and wanted a woman who could travel without notice and be available any time he called, with very little allowance offered.

    so basically the free sds can’t read or send emails

  424. bri says:

    lisa – are the free members not as good?

    lol, sorry i’m new here…i’ve been registered around a month but am still learning how everything works as i don’t go on too often.
    no luck so far though, i’ve had 700 views and around 80 messages but can’t seem to find something that works =(

  425. lisa says:

    odd that today when I got up I was remembering the plane crash in the potomac back in jan 1982, the plane crashed and ended up in the river, and then this afternoon this plane crashes. I heard everyone survived this one though but imagine being in that cold water.
    got back from the mall, had my green tea frap, in for the night.
    another free member viewed my profile, oh wow, πŸ™

  426. jasmine says:

    I’m really happy that everyone survived.

  427. jasmine says:

    I just heard it right now by my brother,he’s telling right now of it going down.

  428. Yasmine says:

    Yes i just read about it!!! I am sooo glad no one was hurt. It is freezing here so i can imagine how cold the Hudson River must be right now..

  429. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Did you guys see the news on the plain crash on the Hudson? Amazing! no injuries, the pilot and passengers and rescue crew did everything perfect.

  430. Yasmine says:

    Hi everyone! i see there is another jasmine here lol

  431. BlkButtafly says:

    good afternoon everyone! I sooo want that book! Too bad I can’t still get my barnes and noble discount haha. I’m driving and blogging too! LOL how is everybody! *sigh* still searching for my perfect SD

  432. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    come to niagara falls πŸ™‚

  433. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    SV: I love random road trips!!!!

  434. jasmine says:

    Good afternoon spanish vixen.mine not so good.

  435. Spanish Vixen says:

    Good afternoon everyone! How’s everyone doing?

    Mine’s been one hectic week. No SD dates this week, since my current SD had to go out of town for business. hopefully next week :D. We seem to really be going well together. Cross your fingers that it will be kind of long term :D.

    In other news, I’m planning a really random 2 day road trip with my friends tomorrow!!! lol. Not sure where we’re going or how we’re getting there…but we’re going πŸ™‚

  436. lisa says:

    talk to everyone late. gotta go down to the mall now for a frapaccino and a spicy chicken sandwich

  437. jasmine says:

    I know,I live here.

  438. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    Bettie: COME PARTY WITH ME!! I’m going to a club grand opening tomorrow night. It is invite and VIP only πŸ™‚ swanky.

  439. lisa says:

    I’m off tomorrow and going to sleep late, see my lover, and go shopping in the afternoon, no sd dates for me either

  440. BettieGirlDD says:

    OC I think you’re amusing, too. Just trying to get a little work done inbetween all the cancelations/neverminds whizzing around me.. How do I not have sugar plans tomorrow night? I might just have to go throw darts with my friends..

  441. lisa says:

    repost sorry

  442. lisa says:

    I know but after living in a warm climate for 33 years I have forgotten the harsh winters of the north (I lived in Chicago and Arlington Heights as a child).

  443. jasmine says:

    Lisa hey at least ur in those temperatures.

  444. lisa says:

    well something is freezing here today, my ipod keeps freezing.
    sending warm weather vibes to everyone. tomorrow it’s supposed to be cold though, low 50’s πŸ™

  445. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    OC: that’s ok you have a tough audience today

    Darn you all nice weather places!!!

  446. lisa says:

    63 degrees above zero here today πŸ™‚

  447. lisa says:

    I have come across plenty of those want more, pay less sds. lol
    I am in a dilema now as I have to leave soon to go down to the mall again to meet my daughter. When I went out this morning I wore an outfit that goes with my coat but now it is too warm here to wear a coat but I need to wear a long sleeve sweater. I am wearing a cute short sleeved sweater and will have to put on a long sleeve botton front over it so i’m gonna look fat. I’m going to have a frapaccino at the mall so I know I will be freezing.

  448. jasmine says:

    Kitty its -5 degrees below zero!

  449. OCSugarBaby says:

    Lisa- I would hope that SD’s would never feel that way! (comment: the ones that offer the least and want the most) LOL

    Just kidding, I love cracking myself up today…

  450. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    YASMIN: how cold is it there? it’s -16 C and our gas isn’t freezing…
    GURL: make sure it’s warm!!! haha no one likes a sniffily SB. YOU HAVE TO CHECK it out.. so sexy πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ for those.. lonely evenings haha

  451. jasmine says:

    I got the car started mina,but thank you though.

  452. lisa says:

    We don’t have much winter down here so I love to wear winter clothes and I have two really cute coats that I get to wear very rarely. It is so hot here in the summer that you gotta wear alot of sunscreen or avoid exposed shoulders.

  453. gurlnextdoor says:

    Thanks Kitty…yeah it is hard finding an outfit to wear in the winter. I need to go to the mall and buy some more winter clothes, lol. But I think I have a cute outfit for the night, it’s casual sexy so it will have to do for now. And I might have to go check that website out, lol.

  454. lisa says:

    well it’s 63 and sunny here today, not the cold day they predicted so i guess I can leave my coat home when I go to meet my daughter.

  455. lisa says:

    the ones that offer the least seem to want the most too. a turnoff to me is when a sd chooses the lower amount.

  456. jasmine says:

    Kitty thnks,but I got the car started.I’m in the gas station pumping gas right now and its freezing!

  457. lisa says:

    please pay attention to the road seriously. you don’t know how many times i have been almost hit by a car while crossing the street and a driver was not paying attention. Half of the people in my city should not be driving.

  458. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    OC: I definately take everything into consideration. Hence my constant contact with $300 SD hhhaaa btw: your joke was fine.

  459. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    ur driving and blogging??!!! haha I do that too…
    go to the gas station and I’m sure an attendant would be more than happy to help. GOOD LUCK!!!! would u like me to call a tow for u?

  460. OCSugarBaby says:

    I was told that my joke was not funny… lol

    Kitty-SD’s come in all shapes and sizes (from $ to $$$$$$). Goes back to knowing where you want him to reside in that spectrum. But try to measure in other factors.

  461. jasmine says:

    Hey I’m sorry if I’m changing the topic right now,but I got literally stuck right now.I was just driving down the street and about to make a left and then the car turns off on me!and the gas station right there.I think my gas froze overnight.

  462. lisa says:

    if a sd is cheap with money, avoid him
    if a serious boyfriend is cheap with time spent with you, dump him

  463. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    Will do!

  464. OCSugarBaby says:

    Kitty- The door swings both ways. Sorry, ok seriously… If you aren’t getting what you desire out of the relationship and clearly communication is broken down and issues can’t be resolved. GET OUT!

  465. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    oo Good luck gurl!!
    Don’t you hate winter? it’s so difficult to pick a pretty outfit and have to worry about freezing at the same time!

  466. gurlnextdoor says:

    I love reading stuff online…I guess it’s my innate curiosity that makes me read one thing, and then another, and then another, etc. Well I have another date with a potential SD tonight. This week has been pretty hectic actually, lol.

  467. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    OC, Sweetred: I love both philosophies of conduct and believe me, I definately try my best to remember that whenever in contact with a potential. Now my question is this: how do you ensure that you will be spent on and he isn’t just “cheap”?

  468. lisa says:

    I can’t still long enough to read a book, I have to be on the move all the time. I like to do alot or research online though

  469. lisa says:

    In past relationships I have been the giver and have been taken advantage of so it has to be two sided as you get no respect when you do all the giving, people stop appreciating it and start to expect it.

    I love money and I admit it, and afterall when we shop, we are boosting the ecomony, lol

  470. gurlnextdoor says:

    I’m thinking about buying the book, not real sure right now. First, got to finish up The Boleyn Inheritance.

  471. lisa says:

    I never bring up money and want I have obtained from the few that I have met was their idea. However I have dated many guys in the past that wouldnt’ even buy dinner and I said nothing and got nothing.
    I am subtle but can’t help but get disgusted when I hear of men taking and taking from women and not giving anything.
    If money is not important, there are many casual dating sites, and sex sites where you can hook up and the man won’t give you cent.
    I am honest and although I don’t mention it to potentials, money is an issue with me, why would I want to date a rich man and watch him have a nice life while I go without the fun things?
    I have never really gotten that far as to negotiate or build any kind of arrangement other than the first one which was shortlived but being that this kind of thing is not a “live happily every after” thing, I don’t want to spend too much time getting to know someone before I see an allowance and spoiling and I definately would not get sexual with any man who avoids the spoiling part as I already have a great lover so i’m not desperate for sex like some of these men are.
    Chemistry, friendship, intimacy, and cash all play a valid role in sd dating
    but if the cash is absent, it is not a sd relationship

  472. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I know personally I like doing things for people who do not EXPECT me to do for them. Its not fun if you are expected to do certain thing for someone, it should come naturally.

  473. OCSugarBaby says:

    Lisa- Your concern is valid of those that are afraid to discuss any arrangement $$$. I am convinced that whispering what you want or need works a whole lot better than raising your voice. Not having the $$$ on your mind gives the SD a feeling of “wanting” to show appreciation vs “having” to show appreciation. Other SB’s have confirmed that just because you have agreed upon a $$$, if you concentrate on other facets of the relationship, the SD usually goes above and beyond that original $$$.

  474. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    I am now torn.

    Is Sugar Daddy dating:

    ~really about $ exchanging physical love and affection?


    ~Casual/serious dating a wealthy male (please replace with mommy and female for those sugar mommy and male sugar babies) with expectations of pampering.

    Can it be both? or something completely foreign? I personally think it is more casual dating a wealthy male. I am not even that caring about the allowance/gift aspect. Yes, even though, I admit, I do complain about $ sometimes, but I still hang out with the SD because I am more in it to more have fun.

  475. SuthrnExec says:

    Kitty, we men are interesting creatures – don’t give up on us!

    OC, in my opinion, you’re doing it right – and very well.

  476. lisa says:

    I have found some guys that were on some conventional sites are also on the erotic sites, and the other sd sites. these men are not necessarily rich or generous and most are not perverts, but they just see all online sites as the same and join and post their profiles. Many guys on this site are not sd material and are just looking for casual flings

  477. BettieGirlDD says:

    I actually did intend to keep it.. had just brought home a puppy. Now I have hardwoods…

  478. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    OC: ya, I tried to word that really carefully so it doesn’t condone “selling” yourself. But what he was getting at is knowing your self worth and present it outward and not sell yourself short.

  479. lisa says:

    as far as placing value on yourself, they say that if you ask for nothing, that’s what you will get. If you let a man use you for sex and offer nothing in return (like so many men in conventional dating who won’t even pay for lunch do) he will do so. I do get a little concerned about the ladies on this blog when they put down the importance of the money part, it’s ok not to push it but if you downplay it too much you will get a man who offers nothing and uses you like I think some members on this blog have sadly experienced. When I was 20 I thought if I made out with a guy he would like me and even if he wasn’t treating me right, I thought he would change, but if you meet a sd who is quick to get intimate with you but will not discuss finanances or wants to wait, then I would avoid him.
    There are plenty of sites for those just looking for a nice guy (if they exist, lo) where you can have a regular relationship with no perks, but this is a sd sight so it should be a factor.

  480. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    hahah Bettie: were you trying to buy a carpet shampooer and then returning that too? lmao

    Lisa: men frustrate me to no end. However, I love them nonetheless. I often wonder to myself what did I do wrong to not even recieve a call back or a msg back. If only they would just tell me. “Ya, you’ve turned me off by your last comment, bye.” Perfect. or “I already have a SB, thank you.” I get the I am going to be really busy this week, so we’ll talk later. mid week, I text: hope your week’s doing ok and you’re not too stressed.” NOTHING BACK! makes you wonder… they don’t even have 5 sec before they go to bed to text back “t-h-x” Maybe they are, like you said, don’t want to contact until they can meet. I don’t know… men. *sigh*

  481. OCSugarBaby says:

    Kitty- I think I understand what you were trying to say about knowing your own self worth. I never want to be thought of as Selling Myself.
    I want to be appreciated and that will never have a ceiling value! πŸ™‚

  482. lisa says:

    I did find a cute dress on sale at the mall this morning but the dressing rooms were locked an none of the 4 employees in the small store assisted me so I just stuck the dress back on the rack and walked out.

  483. lisa says:

    working in retail, I never buy anything and use and return it, that makes too much hassel for overworked retail workers like I am, well I don’t deal with all that crap anymore. But think how you would like to buy something that someone else had used and returned, especially when it’s the last one the store has. Doing this is fraud. I do find it kinda gross though to think that we buy clothes that have been tried on by others. lol

  484. lisa says:

    I have found that the ones that take forever to write back, meet, usually never materialize. I can understand that it might take time to meet if he has a busy schedule or lives in another town but I would think that you would email back and forth and get to know each other in the mean time until you find the time to meet. It seems the ones that put me off for a month or till whenever they are in town are not interested in keeping in touch and either disappear or email me when they are in town (usually when I have just got home from a hard day at work) and expect to meet immediately that night because they are leaving town the next day.

    I have found they either take forever to meet or want to meet on the spot without even talking before.

  485. BettieGirlDD says:

    I’m an idea borrower… haha. I tried buying a carpet shampooer once and ALL of them had been opened and returned.

  486. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    Kind of off topic but I really wanted to share.
    A very very knowledgable SD (not my SD, but someone else’s) said to me, “let this be your best business lesson; if you cannot negotiate and persuade people how much YOU are worth AND obtain it, then you cannot sell at all!”
    I kind of reworded what he said to me. But worth pondering.

  487. jasmine says:

    But there is one guy,but he is taking forever just to respond back.

  488. jasmine says:

    I feel ya lisa.one was actually wanted me to talk literally filthy,I said hell no!I’m gone!

  489. jasmine says:

    I feel ya lisa.one was actually wanted me to talk literally filthy,I said hell no!I’m ups!

  490. lisa says:

    Jasmine, I have met 4 guys, been stood up by a fifth, not one meeting in 5 months. πŸ™ lotsa views but no emails, too many free members looking

  491. lisa says:

    I have to agree that men who want to be called “daddy” creep me out a little. And I avoid any man who speaks of dominance or anything weird as I don’t find that sexy, and would not want to meet a stranger who was thinking that way.
    My dad was 40 when I was born and i spent very little time with him, since my mom and him split when I was 4, but I would not choose a man like him. He was abusive and a heavy drinker so I tend to avoid any man who is a heavy drinker.
    I prefer men in their 50’s which of course are too young to be my dad. lol

  492. jasmine says:

    Is anyone here having trouble findind an sd? I’m sure am.

  493. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    dALLAS: meow?

  494. Dallas says:

    OCSugarBaby- You are not alone, I feel the same way. I see the word “daddy” as more of a playful term. It makes me giggle, tehe.

    On a more personal note, my father passed away when I was at a very young age. Mom had numerous father figures in & out of our lives. I didn’t get along with one of them so I was allowed to move out at only the age of 16 (thanks mom, lol). So that’s probably why I don’t have a problem using that term because I do not connect it with my father. (begin Dr Phil session Now….. πŸ˜€ )

    Kittylainy- “Here kitty kitty kitty…” (evil grin)

    sweetredhead- Sorry to hear that your camera broke. πŸ™

  495. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    bettie: that’s my idea u idea thief. and WHAT??? “it will be past our lifetimes that humanity appreciates the brilliance that is britney. I know its over my head…”
    for the record: I an a closet Britney fan and I just bought her newest CD. I am now out of the closet and yes.. I love Britney. Not for her artistry, but for the entertainment value.

  496. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    I wonder if it can be rendered via Photoshop? Maybe I can try and play with ur pics and smooth out the statics if I get bored tonight.

  497. BettieGirlDD says:

    sweetredhead.. So buy a camera and return it!! gotta get creative when climbing the social ladder. (SD’s pretend I didnt say that.. it’s tacky..)

    Kitty it will be past our lifetimes that humanity appreciates the brilliance that is britney. I know its over my head…

  498. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Thank you. Its a web cam. Very hard to get a true pictures. My camera broke πŸ™ I wanted to make sure I had recent pictures not older ones.

  499. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    oo almost forgot:
    Redhead: I like these pics, but they’re staticy. is it a webcam/cellcam?

  500. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:


    bettie: there’s a Britney Spears song called aye papi… “oo papi.. aye papi.. oo papi~ oo Lovey” ahh the great lyrics of Britney Spears πŸ™‚ I am so excited to hang out with you on sunday!! I’m more excited about that that than meeting my SDs… perhaps I should start a girl friendship site!

    I like say, “oo I think I’ve been a naughty little girl and needs to be punished.” *little pouty face* That drives men WILD.

    redhead: Thank you for presenting the difference between straight courtesy actions and chauvinistic intentions.. I never thought about that before.

  501. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I understand what your saying OC. It is fun to play (roll Play ect) But I still call my father Daddy when I want something lol. So I have trouble disconnecting that. It just does not come naturally to me to call someone else Daddy. For years after I got married I had a very hard time calling his parents Mom and Dad.

    I have always been spoiled by the men in my life. I am not just talking about getting what I want. I am talking about the way I was treated. I was always treated like someone special.

    I like men to treat me like a lady. Open door ect. But some men use it in the wrong capacity and in a chauvinistic way , that I DO NOT LIKE. I treat the men I am with, with respect and in turn I expect to be treated with respect.

    I think it is taught from father to son. My son’s always opens a door for a lady. When my youngest was little, he would help ladies in the store carry their groceries ect. It was so cute. He was taught to respect woman, and always treat them with respect. My sons are older now and have girlfriends of their own. They Always have the girls chasing them (they are handsome boys, if I do say so myself ) But I think its because of the way they treat the girls.

  502. OCSugarBaby says:

    Bettie- I am not sure if this translates to correcly for the French version…Salut papa! πŸ™‚

    Nothing wrong with gettin a little dirty sometimes lol πŸ™‚

  503. BettieGirlDD says:

    I like that I can take care of myself.. but am definately looking for more opportunity to work my playful delicate side. And although it’s a little dirty I’ll definately say “thank you Daddy” but with tongue in cheek. I believe in spanish they say Aye Papi, and that’s kind of hot..

  504. OCSugarBaby says:

    Kitty- I hate that! You are correct in feeling like it is an uphill battle finding a man that is either equally as strong or stronger. I prefer the stronger without being arrogant. I think that is what brought me to SA too! πŸ™‚

  505. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    My big post that was “waiting for moderation” has now vanished. πŸ™

  506. OCSugarBaby says:

    I have and will again say “Thank You Daddy”… I love to play and my sexy side always will kid and joke. They are words that will come out of my mouth! I love the feminine connotation that comes with saying them. I guess I am different. I don’t take it that seriously. Yes, I am an advanced degreed individual, and yes I am a confidant, self reliant woman. But I do not use the words as labels. I enjoy my playful side and it will always conquer my serious everyday conventional side. πŸ™‚

  507. BettieGirlDD says:

    Hey everyone, Scarlett johanssen’s looking for a SD – 232628 haha…

  508. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    I am contemplating, because I fear a biased opinion on relationships. This one: “How to Get a Rich Man: The Princess Formula”: Donna Spangler, intrigues me…

  509. jasmine says:

    Good morning everyone! How’s everybody today?

  510. Spanish Vixen says:

    I’m seriously thinking about getting it. I mean, I adore my current SD and we’re doing wonderfully, but you can never learn too much…right? πŸ™‚

  511. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    well is it free PREMIUM membership?

  512. BettieGirlDD says:

    well it comes with free membership so if you’re a member already you can’t go wrong…

  513. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    anyone planning on purchasing the guidebook?

  514. Jenniferbbwsb says:

    Good Morning to everyone!!

    I am so excited for everyone and their dates!!!
    I had a new email.. we will see here it goes.

    I am off to do some girlly things!! Now let’s all sing “I’m going to wash that gray right out of my hair.”

    Everyone have fun.

  515. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    gurl: awesome πŸ™‚ Good luck

  516. gurlnextdoor says:

    Well Kitty at this point we’re taking things slow.

  517. SuthrnExec says:

    Kitty, great point. Maybe I overstated it a bit when I included men in the “comfortable in their skin” remark. There are still many men who are intimidated by women who are intelligent, strong, confident and/or powerful. I think that has more to do with the way men see themselves than the way they see women. Men who have that problem probably have issues with other aspects of their lives because the issue is with their own insecurity. Insecurity and poor self-worth/self-image are very damaging. I believe that issue must be addressed before someone can truly be happy and reach their potential.

  518. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    GURL: YAY!! so glad your date early this week was good! πŸ™‚ is he your full-time SD? or taking it slow?

  519. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    I like the pendulum parallel. I do, however, must say that in my experience with younger men, the pendulum is definately to the other extreme. I am an educated, strong and confident woman and it is very difficult to find men my age that is just as, if not stronger than I. And that is why I love the concept of Sugar Daddies.
    Like you said, Chivalry is general courteous behavior and should not be limited to just women.

  520. gurlnextdoor says:

    Ok, I agree that my upbringing by both of my parents definitely influenced the way I perceive men and women should interact on a sexual and a day to day basis. I was brought up pretty traditionally, so I was taught that chivalry is an art that a man must master, not some old relic that only reappears in your dreams and quickly fades away. Therefore, I’m naturally more attracted to older men. Especially ones who hold doors open for me, offer to help carry my luggage, that type of thing. It doesn’t seem to be as prevalent in younger men nowadays. πŸ™

  521. SuthrnExec says:

    Sweetred and Kitty, I agree with you that there seems to be more of a balance between independence and femininity among women in general nowadays. It is typical in society when there is an imbalance and inequitable in the way a certain segment of the population is treated (whether it’s race, gender or whatever), the pendulum tends to swing a bit too far and overcorrect and then it time it settles in balance. I can recall many times when I would open the door for a lady I would receive very disapproving looks, several times verbally scolded for doing so. Many times I have offered to carry a heavy bag of groceries to her car and be turned down – and once chastised! It doesn’t seem to happen so much anymore – not going to try to read the mind of a lady (I know better than that! LOL), but it seems there is an understanding that while women are still not treated equally in every situation, things have improved greatly – women and men seem to be more comfortable in their skin. Therefore, chivalry is appreciated and accepted by women. Women are still special to me and I will treat them that way – especially the woman that is extra special! πŸ™‚

    For the record, I hold the door for men too – it’s just plain old politeness.

  522. ~*Kittylainy*~ says:

    Sweetredhead: what you said about strong women that needs a feminine side.I agree and it is true, I find young men (men my age) to be dependant for their female counterparts!!! In my last relationship, I was younger than him, and I felt like a sugar mommy.

  523. BlondieNYC says:

    Two things that will immediately kill my libido
    Men who say “call me Daddy”
    Men who call me “Mommy”

    My stomach immediately churns and I start walking away very, very, very, very quickly.


  524. sweetredhead269443 says:

    Its the age old, men provide for their family and the woman take care of the family. Today you have a lot of woman who are the providers and the men who are taking care of the family.

    I have found with younger men, because woman have become so independent they are not very gentlemanly. They do not pick up the check, or open a door. For so long now woman have said I am strong and independent and I don’t need you.

    I think you can be a strong independent woman. Work and be well educated and still keep your feminine side. I think it is finally coming back into balance.

  525. jasmine says:

    Makes them feel dominant.that’s what I meant to say.

  526. jasmine says:

    To me in my opinion,I think that’s them dominant and makes them feel good.

  527. Summer says:

    Wow, that is fascinating, sweetredhead! Thanks for sharing your insight. Guess it just goes to show you that what women seek in a mate can be strongly influenced by male family figures other than “daddy.”

    Makes perfect sense…I just never really stopped to think about it before!:)

  528. jasmine says:

    That right there sounds unusual if you ask me.To have you call them daddy like summer said icky!

  529. sweetredhead269443 says:

    He was my mothers father

  530. sweetredhead269443 says:

    I feel exactly the same way summer. “call me Daddy” is a turn off to me. I am just the opposite in what I look for in a man. my father was 5’8″ I tend to like tall men. My father was a caring and loving man, and honest with great integrity (which I do look for) But he was not into outside interests, like hiking, horses, boating like I am. I took that more from my grandfather who was really like a second father to me. I actually look for men more like my grandfather not my father. My Grandfather was over six foot and a big man. In personality and presents. The most straight forward and honest and smartest man I ever met. My father was a wimpy man, letting my mother control him. I hated that aspect of my father. My grandfather on the other hand was a strong man and ran his household.

    So I guess its fair to say that my “daddy” issues are from my grandfather not my Daddy. Don’t get me wrong I loved my Father, he is just not what i look for in a man.

  531. Summer says:

    Hmmm….interesting question of the Freudian connection women have with their fathers. Although I could NEVER think of my Dad in a sexual or romantic way (icky!), I will admit that he influenced me a great deal in the qualities I look for in a mate.

    I was fortunate to have a loving, successful man for a father who had high standards of honesty and integrity for people…which is probably why I’m such a stickler for honesty in my relationships today and have zero tolerance for games.

    He was also one hell of a handsome fella (rather a Clark Gable look-a-like), which is why I seek men who resemble him a bit in their physical stature and features…he was quite irrisistible to women and was married three times to three good-looking women, having three good looking kids!

    Perhaps what intrigues me more is the question of why so many men want to think of their lovers as little girls. Why so many older men chase after women young enough to be their daughter or grand-daughter, or why so many prefer the shaved public area to suggest pre-puberty girls. The whole “daddy” complex has always interested me and repulsed me at the same time, because the *last* thing I want to think about in the throes of passion is my father! LOL!!!!!

    In the heat of the moment, when my guy says, “call me Daddy!” I honestly want to run like the wind. Am I the only one who feels this way?