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Sugar Dating: Off Again, On Again


With so much change constantly about, it’s normal for sugars to press pause on their Sugar Daddy dating.

Some choose to delete their profile, since you can always create a new one. Others choose to HIDE their profile from appearing in new search results, while keeping their SB or SD account in-tact for when they step back into the sugar bowl.

This type of dating seems to attract people whose lifestyles are subject to serious change, or who have the need to form relationships that won’t negatively impact other aspects of their lives.

Have you ever taken a break from the sugar bowl?

Have you found benefit from connecting with fellow Sugar Daddies or Sugar Babies?

Have you met any NEW Sugars lately?

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73 Responses to “Sugar Dating: Off Again, On Again”

  1. Jensen says:

    Nice post. There’s a similar topic thats related to this in Yahoo answers or Google groups, I think. I’ll find the link and post it back here.

  2. XRumerTest says:

    Hello. And Bye.

  3. Debt Consolidation says:

    For Certain Sugar Daddy Dating: Off again, On again will get tons of interest simply due to the fact it can be amusing reading.

  4. Beach says:

    HotMama, I agree with your point that the SB does need an understanding up front as to the financial resources an SD can and will provide, however your approach is awfully cynical.
    There are many different flavors of relationships here. It is great that you are able to attract very wealthy men in exchange for sexual favors and if that is what you desire, more power to you. And if you swim with the sharks, you do have to take care not to get bitten.

    However, I do have to take exception to several points.

    Not everyone who has made money is egotistic, arrogant, spoiled and childish. I deal daily with people making seven and eight figures and while some fall in this category, it is a very unfair statement across the board. If that is all you see, maybe you should consider running in some different circles. It could be an enligtening experience.

    There are all flavors of SD/SB relationships here and, while this place has more than its share of posers on both sides, there are people who have a different idea of the size and scope of the relationship. Just as you said, that is why people can list what they are looking for. To say who is and isn’t an SD based upon your standards is just as condensending as you claimed NC to be.

    Finally, it is great that you live in NYC and that they have everything figured out there. However, remember that the remaining 92% of the country doesn’t really care. We have actually gotten electricity and computers out here in the sticks and the internet here too and can on rare occasions figure things out for ourselves.

    HotMama, I am sure you have some experience that would be helpful to the SBs here, however it isn’t necessary to be condensending or rude to get your point across. People here will welcome you with open arms all they ask is that you provide the same level of respect I am sure you would like to be shown.

  5. ppp1256 says:

    Hello: I have a question for the ladies. I noticed that when I email someone it takes a few days for them to get back to me. Is that common or is it that ladies are overwhelmed with emails?

  6. HotMama says:

    With all due respect, sweetie NC Gentleman, you’re not a Sugar Daddy. A SD is a man with a GREAT deal of money who talks openly about money with his Mistress. He gives her a great deal of cash on a weekly or monthly basis and expects her to be at his beck and call because he’s paid for it.

    I’ve seen quite a number of men on this site who don’t know what a Sugar Daddy is. Here in NYC, we know. If you don’t see this as a business deal, you are not a SD. Sweetie, the site even gives you the chance to decide how much money you expect per month. How much more of a business deal can it be?

    Some money? Surely, you joke? I get cash on the barrel head, have a fantastic time with my SDs. And where in my post did I say I didn’t enjoy or like these guys. You apparently don’t know the kind of men I’m talking about. Some serious BIG TIME cash. Guys worth big bucks here in NYC. Guys you might read about.

    Of course I want a 3rd SD. By the way, if the SBs you had didn’t bring up the subject of money, those aren’t SBs. I guess the idea of SD/SB has been diluted by the internet and this has become a kind of dating site, where guys with some bucks who are married or have some money, want some kind of a sexual relationship with a hottie that isn’t tainted by the reality of money.

    Sweetie, this is a MONEY site. Have fun hanging with the babies here. Me, I’m a hot Mama. Make NO bones about it. You want hot times, hot sex, kink, orgies, fulfilling your sexual fantasies, yet staying with the wife you love, etc. you find a sophisticated woman like me.

    There’s lots of rooms for all kinds of approaches to consensual sexuality. Do not even use the word “sorry” around me; I find that insulting and condescending, as if your way was correct, and mine was somehow not quite up to your more gentlemanly standards.

    As for “ALL of the successful business people that I know are kind, caring, hardworking and fair people”, that’s the funniest thing I ever heard. Come on, you have to agree. ALL those superwealthy people aren’t sharks???

  7. NC Gentleman says:

    Wow HotMama — I am sorry you feel that way, but I am curious why you are looking for a 3rd if you do feel that way. I have never been called egotistical, arrogant, spoiled (but I have been called childish). ALL of the successful business people that I know are kind, caring, hardworking and fair people. However, having said that, I think if you are looking it purely as a business deal, I do agree the business person has a distinct advantage in negotiating a deal. I have never viewed it as a business deal, and with the two long-term SBs I had, we never even talked about money. I gave her a lot of nice things and some money, and they were both happy.

    Happy searching, and I know everyone has a different idea of a perfect arrangement.

  8. HotMama says:

    Hi to you all. As a mature woman who has had two serious Sugar Daddys (both very wealthy men), I can tell you that these arrangements are NOT what you think they are. Once a man starts paying you for your sexual attentions, he changes completely and feels he basically owns you. These men are businessmen and they feel that you’re providing a service just like anything else they buy. Also, they feel they can stop the relationship at any time. I had one SD for almost a year (he actually proposed to me, then broke up with me saying it was all a “fantasy”) and another one for about 6 months. It’s a certain kind of guy who sees himself as a SD. That guy is egotistic, arrogant, spoiled, childish, and presents a VERY tough front to the business world. Why do you think he made so much money? By being Mr. Nice Guy? I have so much to tell women here, but I’m also looking for my 3rd SD. I’ll tell you this…you have only ONE opportunity to negotiate money and that is at the VERY beginning. Don’t mess up, ladies, and undernegotiate your worth. If he has the balls to say he’s got the money, negotiate VERY high, he’ll come back with a lowball, you settle for the middle. NEVER forget….this is a BUSINESS arrangement.
    Peace, Sally

  9. sweetredhead......2694432.... says:

    Good morning everyone. It’s Friday!!!! Working over time. I will catch up on the blog this weekend (I hope) Looks like everyone has some pot Sd’s to look forward to. Good luck!!

    Have a wonderful day 🙂

  10. lisa says:

    Hgirl it’s 261545 I haven’t updated it in a few weeks, I don’t even log into it much anymore. Kind of lost interest.
    I can’t help but feel upset tonight as what I had worried about happened. My mom answered the phone today and said she was me and found out about my credit situation. I have had these calls for over 2 years so it’s not an issue anymore and i’m tired of hearing her try to get information from me. I’ve put that issue aside as I decided paying my rent and food is more important than trying to pay thousands of credit card debt, mostly interest from ridicoulous rates. I don’t stress on that anymore. I’m feelin free and now my mom keeps going on. She is self rightous and takes on other peoples’ responsibilities and never forgets to remind you what she did for you.
    I’m looking forward to my day off tomorrow. I ordered the store to deliver my computer after 3 pm tomorrow. I felt bad for being so mean to the sales rep but lisa needs to get tough and mean to get something done. lol

  11. Hgirl says:

    Well I hope that you stay positive even when it’s hard, Lisa! We’re all pulling for you and all the other unattached SBs out there (including me!) What’s your profile number if you don’t mind my asking? I am dying to see what you look like!

  12. lisa says:

    there are some creepy ones Miss T I don’t think a sb should travel to meet a stranger with the expectation of spending the weekend. there aren’t alot of sds in my city and it’s a large city. About half the sds in my city are non paying which means they aren’t serious and can’t respond back to messages. I rarely log onto my account as I get no response anyway. I know this without checking because the messages are forwarded to my email and for the last few weeks, zero response

  13. Miss T says:

    I’m thinking about deleting my account. There doesn’t seem to be a lot of SD’s in my area. I’ve even tried messaging a few that are close but still probably a plane ride away, and no response unfortunatly. And I haven’t had a message from a potential SD since the creepy one who wanted me to take a bus down to where he lived to spend the weekend with him, and that was before Christmas….

  14. BerkshireSD says:

    We all get stood up sometimes. Heck, my best friend since 7th grade even stands me up. 😉

    Keep smiling.

  15. lisa says:

    about the Wife swap show, I watch it every week and that british guy was a jerk, I could strangle him, lol I did post a comment about him on a yahoo forum.

  16. lisa says:

    Gail please send some of those sds to me, you have a surplus and I have a deficit, lol

  17. lisa says:

    Good evening everyone. Got in from a busy day at work and guess what? no computer delivered today. My parents spent the day at my place waiting for it to come but it’s been rescheduled for tomorrow and I will be out most of the day tomorrow as it’s my moms birthday and I have errands to run. I was firm with them and said it would have to be delieved after 3 pm, I was down right mean for me, lol so it should be here tomorrow after 3 pm. And of course the collection agencies called nonstop today and my mom answered every call and said she was me and now she knows alll my personal business and the collectors think they have finallly reached me. I hate invasions of privacy. My dad kept saying “make sure you call them, do you remember which card” it’s like these people have been callling me for several years so it’s not a big deal to me anymore and I am not going to call them.
    My daughter is having a great time in Newyork. I look forward to talking to her later tonight when she gets back from dinner and a broadway show.

  18. Nico says:

    Good evening family! I had a busy busy busy day sorry to not have been able to contribute. I’ve been stood up a couple of time ~ but I keep jumping back up and dusting myself off. I have disappeared from the site a time or two, take a break, reprioritize and get back in. I’ve had luck in the past…I know I’ll find it again 🙂

  19. Natty*296451 says:

    Henri, I AM british, we don’t act that way……….well at least I don’t. You must be french to make a comment like that LOL. No worries, just kidding with you about the french comment.

    gurlnextdoor- Yes, I just don’t have any tolerance for rudeness. Especially since I used to be a smug person. Lost alot of friends, made alot of enemies.

  20. gurlnextdoor*274735 says:

    Aww Berkshire congrats…love is a wonderful thing, wherever and however you find it. 🙂 Lately I’ve been taking a break from looking for a SD. Things are still going well with my French professor, I’m hoping he’ll be able to come back to the States soon. I haven’t really had any luck in finding a SD that will stick around. The three that I did meet were all nice but kind of disappeared after awhile.

    Also Natty I heard about that guy on Wife Swap…very rude man. And I agree if he even thought (or perhaps knew) he was going to be that rude and mean, then he should have never went on the show in the first place.

  21. BettieGirlDD*273192 says:

    aj you can: meet in a public place, do your research (if you can’t google him he prob isnt a very outstanding businessman) and most of all trust your instincts.

  22. HenriLouis*294522 says:

    Hi Natty,
    We also see some of these series in Europe.
    I saw it once and wonder what it brings to both couples.
    To be rude is so easy, so child like.
    To be civil and well mannered is difficult. It reoccurs all the time on this blog, SBs who are not respected.
    As to the show, it should be controversial, the audience loves the bad and the ugly.
    This person is vetted and contracted because there will be an uproar.
    More viewers then.
    Of course he is British, they have cultivated being obnoxious to an art.
    At the same time if the program goes over the hill, they will say: yes but he is British you see. For this reason they did not contract an American from Obama land, much too sweet these guys.
    Then the viewer would be really offended.
    It must be a cashcow this show.
    This is how the world turns.

  23. aj says:

    Wow! No i didn’t hear about that! I don’t watch too much tv…I’ll have to check that out on youtube. Jeez..

    Good Luck next week too! Excited to swap stories!

  24. Natty*296451 says:

    Me too 🙂 I’m meeting my pot SD next week and a few other girls are as well so I guess next week will be full of chatter and good stories. Oh I don’t have it, but off topic, did you hear about the man on the Wife Swap show? I don’t have ABC I think they air some of the programming on different channels, but apparently this bloke (and a Brit of all people) who lives in America has been getting death threats for insulting a woman. I watched him in action on youtube and I think he was very rude and if he didn’t want to participate in the other woman’s way of being, he shouldn’t have agreed to do the program in the first place!

  25. aj says:

    Natty – thanks! I will let you know. Probably going to meet him later next week. Yay! I hope he’s not a poser.

  26. HenriLouis*294522 says:

    Hi Berkshire,
    Great name by the way, one of the loveliest counties in South England.
    “My SB loves to read this blog”
    I have not written what I do for others to earn ten browny points from my sugar family here.
    No, I have done so to draw her out.
    A lioness would defend her cubs at all cost.
    She does not.
    Thanks to your generous support her kids are not in the position of that child in Africa.
    In reality you do not only support your SB, but also her children. If you do not pay the mortgage the kids and the mother would be evicted.
    I hope she now realizes that some real esteem for you would be justified.
    It would also be more than fair, that she explains her children in all honesty that you are the pillar of this family.
    Like a bridge over troubled water.
    Yes, did not I say this morning it is a musical day ?!

  27. Natty*296451 says:

    AJ-Lucky girl. I hope he’s real 🙂 I’ll bet he is.
    Apt on the 30th floor? Owns a vineyard? Well grab a glass of wine and go for it!

    Good Luck, do let me know if he’s real……..send me a vintage bottle. I don’t drink wine but it’s a fun way to decorate my kitchen with the reserve and vintage bottles.

  28. aj says:


    BettieGirlDD – all I can do is meet him in a very public place i guess?!

  29. HenriLouis*294522 says:

    AJ, sounds great to have your own vineyard.
    Do give us a winetasting on the blog.
    The Decanter magazine would love to receive a report from you
    on this vinyard and some photos of you as Madame La Chatelaine.
    Appartment overlooking the lake.
    Sounds like a true SB dream !
    Go for it, girl and enjoy,

  30. BettieGirlDD*273192 says:

    aj I would be worried for you if crags list DIDN’T weird you out!

  31. aj says:

    maybe its craigs list that is making me weirded out.

  32. aj says:

    Natty- yes I know, but this sd seems really good! offering me an apt. overlooking the lake? 30th floor? also owns a vinyard and makes wine? i LOVE wine…he could be a con artist! lol.

  33. Natty*296451 says:

    I sure hope so……………..now only if the godess Fortuna was a good stylist I’d be set LOL.

    aj-I know what you mean, but look at this way. How does the person you are going to meet know YOU are real? LOL. You might just be a ghost for all i know!!!

  34. aj says:

    Thanks for the advice… It does freak me a out to meet someone online. How do I know if they are real? I guess I won’t until I meet them…

    This blog is quite helpful! 🙂

  35. HenriLouis*294522 says:

    Natty and NC,
    The godess Fortuna is on your side.
    You are on the threshold of something new.
    A new page in the book of life.
    I guess you both will make a succes of the first meeting.
    “Nothing compares to you ” wasn’t it a tophit a few years ago by this Irish mega star ?
    NC I know exactly what your emotions are, but you will find that the fresh SB you will meet, has other qualities at least as fascinating.
    CARPE DIEM, seize the day,

  36. NC Gentleman says:

    I have definitely took breaks a few times from the “sugar bow.” After things ended with my first SB (amicably even), I stepped out of the game for about a year. It was really hard to find someone comparable, and I probably unfairly have compared all future potentials to her — I guess kind of like a first love lol

    The blog is great for connecting here, and yes I am meeting a potential new sugar baby in about 3 weeks.

  37. Natty*296451 says:

    I have to agree with you gentleman. I think sometimes even though it may seem impractical you have to take those big risks to get those big returns.

    Berkshire, you must be a very patient and gentle man to deal with everything. I do hope you are getting what you need in return. 🙂

    Henri, wow you seem to give, give, give. A sugar St. it seems like.

    Guess what guys!! Going on my first potential sugar meeting!! A bit nervous but I hope that we get on and that he fancies me. I hope he does. We meet up next wednesday. I’m not one to dress up, but I’ll compromise with myself and dress up smart 🙂

  38. HenriLouis*294522 says:

    Hi Berkshire,
    Things we do for love, is what cropped up in my mind, when I read your last message. It is a compliment for your personality that her kids like you.
    They are very perceptive of who you really are deep down and that is a man with a big heart.
    Hgirl and Gail, great character you have doing community support.
    For years I have a foster child in Ghana, who grows up to be a happy person, because thanks to my contributions the child can go to school and does not go hungry .
    Then in Ukraine I support two students from different universities to become a linguist by sending books and background info. You would not believe how hard they study to be able to attain a better life. An average family of four can live on 20 Dollars a week. Recession has hit the population harshly. The average age of a male is 59 years. Great for pension insurers to be in that market. Nobody will reach the pension age of 65, so all the money remains in the hands of the insurer.
    We are in a kind of long distance learning situation by internet. We have just been researching Kundera and Dan Brown.
    I am the only one to open a window for them to look at the Western world.
    Have you ever done that ? For one year score A in all the exams ?
    Yes, it gives great satifaction to help others to a better life.

  39. BerkshireSD says:

    Yo to Lisa. I have read your comments for a long time and understand all your circumstances.

    You are in a very tough spot. When we first met my SB flew to me buying a $300RT ticket on the promise I’d meet her and reimburse her. I must have ’cause she’s still with me. 🙂

    That little seed of trust was what allowed her to meet me, because believe me I know the stories of the other losers (and winners) she has met. The best women I have met have put themselves out at least a little to get to me. The ones I’ve fronted were generally disappointing.

    During our 2+ month break in the fall, she drove sometimes 3hrs to meet guys, but the point is she met several in that short time – good ones and bad. She also got her needs met to at least some extent in that time.
    Not a bad record overall in this game, right?

    The thing is Lisa, I have seen your profile. You are a great looking woman. Your writing skills prove you to be educated, intelligent and most likely very interesting company.
    You might be one of the best SBs out there for all those reasons, but you are not meeting because you are not taking any risks. You have got to find some way to take more risk within your limited financial condition and get someone into your life.

    If not for yourself, do it for the benefit of us men who find it so rare to meet the good ones.

    Peace and love all around.

  40. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    SE ~ I agree with you…. too much drama ….

  41. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    good morning ~~~

    awwwww Bettie…. that’s too bad… but look at the bright side…. if someone behaves in such a manner on the first meeting, imagine how much worse it could get…. good riddance 🙂

  42. SuthrnExec says:

    Bettie, Having been stood up (twice, no less) several months back, I know the feeling! I assure you it isn’t you. There are a million things that could have happened but don’t dwell on it – just move on.

    Great news about the 2nd interview!

    Berkshire, that seems like more drama than I would be willing to deal with but each to his/her own. Good luck in how you handle it.

  43. Name (required) says:



  44. BerkshireSD says:

    Thanks. Well, nothing is perfect, just like those ideal marriages that suddenly you here are in divorce.

    My SB loves to read this blog but she is shy and won’t comment.

    When she saw my earlier msg, she said hey bozo, I only told you I love you so you would pay the real estate taxes on my house which were 2mo overdue. Meanwhile, she’s still in love with her last boyfriend who SHE dumped over a year ago. She flips out when she sees him around town with his new, hot, 12yr-younger-than-her girl. How pathetic is that? She’s in her mid thirties after all. 😉

    Well, at least her kids seem to like me for real, although I think I caught the younger one giving me the finger instead of waving goodbye when I dropped her off at school this morning.
    Anyway, her mortgage is due in another couple of weeks, so the sugar should be flowing again soon enough.

  45. Name (required) says:

    Thank you for the help ladies! 🙂




  46. BettieGirlDD*273192 says:

    Aaaaaand my job interview went great.. expecting 2nd interview early March.
    However I definately got stood up last night! It was some guy who randomly approached me via myspace but he had a real SD vibe to him, so I felt him out in that direction and he was very much on board. Last I heard from him was an email around noon: “on my way see you at 7.” Granted I did get to the meeting spot at 7:04, but I was keeping an eye out and its not even like he could have gotten a look at me and ran. (who would do that anyway?) Of course we didnt exchange numbers…
    I’m paranoid it’s someone messing with me!

  47. Cookie*297645 says:

    Good morning everyone! I would definitely buy the book as well, reserve a copy for me!!!! LOL

  48. Natty*296451 says:

    Hi Gail!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    As long as the book has photos in it, I’ll buy a copy.

  49. Gail says:

    LOL @ Suthurn….No time right now:) perhaps after the end of the month:) Enjoy your day everyone!!!

  50. Gail says:

    Hgirl-I volunteer as well. This is my V-DAy. I volunteer twice a week:) for 10 hours…

    Berkshire SD…I am happpy for you…Love is a beautifu thing:)

    SG2-Welcome back…nice to see you post. It’s hard not to lurk around:)
    and you know what we have been up to….LOL….we have all been good:)

    Lisa-Glad to hear your daughter made it safely to NY..I am wishing good thoughts your computer makes it home:)

    Morning Suthrn,Natty,cookie, Name and OC Sugar:)

    OCSugar…I know you are up!!!!

    It’s off to volunteer I go…bye everyone!!!

  51. SuthrnExec says:

    Gail, perhaps you and Kitty need to write a book!

  52. Gail says:

    Hurray for you Kitty…I am most fortunate as well..I am wondering could we be dating the same Sugars? I have 6 sugars that I will be meeting too…LOL and possibly a 7th:) I guess there is safety in numbers..right? LOL…SA has been the perfect place to meet potentials. I am having the time of my life…..

  53. SuthrnExec says:

    Good morning everyone!

    SouthernGent2, good to see you again. Hope things are well.

  54. ~*kittylainy*279647*~ says:

    Name (required): I can’t be with a SD that is in love with me, but I cannot reciprocate. The relationship would not have let it gone to the “love” level in the first place. I am not one to break hearts, if the arrangement started to become a “relationship” or getting too attached, I would immediately pull the plug. There is no sense in keeping a gentleman hanginG WHEN I HAVE NO INTENTION ON A FUTURE,

  55. Natty*296451 says:

    Kitty Lainy-6 SD meetings!!! Go girl 🙂 That explains where all the SD’s are. They are all hanging out with Kitty Lainy in Canada! LOL Good luck, hope you find the right match.

  56. Cookie*297645 says:

    I have been on a break. Well, more like I sort of gave up.. but I’m back with a brand new account! The last time I met an SD was November. I’m definitely ready to jump back in to the sugar bowl 🙂

    Oh and CONGRATULATIONS Berkshire.. wish you the best of luck! Love is beautiful.

  57. Natty*296451 says:

    Name (required)

    Uh oh, the L word. Well if he is in love with you and that feeling isn’t shared, it’s best to a) communicate that you like him as a SD, as a friend, but you don’t share the same romantic feelings. (all of this in a gentle yet firm way) then b) ask him if he thinks he can handle the situation even though you don’t share the same feelings. If you don’t think he can or responds with an honest “no”, I’d probably break off the arrangement. I know that this is easier said than done, as the extra dosh, or trips, or perks might be nice, and I can’t make the decision for you, but in the long run, the guilt of him using you or you using him might catch up to you and this relationship and arrangement could cause that unwanted drama for you.

    I hope again to have made one or two good points. I’m not the best at giving advice, but I try to put myself in the situation (which I have been in a situation where I was in love the other person wasn’t) and I will say that the drama and heartbreak looking back wasn’t worth sticking it out for the sake of the relationship, let alone an arrangement.

  58. Hgirl says:

    Morning darlings!!

    Because I have yet to find my perfect SD (although I have a few promising potentials), I do not yet know what taking a break will be like. Sorry to be so boring!

    Off to a meeting, then biochemistry, then volunteering, then a seminar (I’ll try to pop on again around lunch if I grab a moment)!

  59. SouthernGent2 says:

    I’ve been on a break to some degree. Mostly from posting in the blog, but I have been reading most days. So I do know what most of you are up to.

  60. ~*kittylainy*279647*~ says:

    Have you ever taken a break from the sugar bowl?
    ~I’ve taken many little breaks where I am too preoccupied with my everyday life. I also take little response hiatus when I have several pots. on the go, just so I am not bombarded, and I can focus on providing well thoughtout responses to my lovely Pots.

    Have you found benefit from connecting with fellow Sugar Daddies or Sugar Babies?
    ~Definitely, I love the support from fellow sugardaddies/sugarbabies. It’s good to know what the others are thinking and are encountering similar issues. It is also fun to pull our craniums together to discuss and overcome problems together.

    Have you met any NEW Sugars lately?
    Well i took a little search hiatus but I have been in constant contact with several pots. Meeting one tomorrow… and then next weekend, I am meeting 6 different sugars 🙂 YAY!!!! Can’t wait!

  61. lisa says:

    AJ I wouldn’t travel 6 hours to meet an sd, well I actually couldn’t. They should at least come to you the first meeting.

    Good morning everyone. Well my daughter arrived in New york late last night and kept me up till 1 am text messaging. Glad I got a text messaging pack, lol. She called this morning and they are headed out to breakfast. My parents are coming to stay all day to see if my computer gets delivered today, I certainly hope so. I can hardly wait to get off work at 4 so I can talk to my daughter again.
    Have a great day everyone.

  62. Name (required) says:

    Thank you for writing your thoughts Natty! 🙂

    what if…

    the guy is in love with me

    but im not in love with him


  63. Name (required) says:

    oh my


    an apartment…offered

    or…a car? oh my

    lucky you!


  64. sweetredhead......2694432.... says:

    Good morning everyone. My new job is going very well. Still trying to get used to getting up so early. My boss is very pleased at the way I am leaning my position very quickly. I come home mentally exhausted, it’s A LOT to learn. But I like it.

    I miss all of you, Hopefully I will get acclimated soon and be able to Blog again.

    Hope everyone has a wonderful day.

  65. aj says:

    Good Morning! I have yet to meet any pot SD on this site and admit that sometimes I consider taking a break….BUT not ready to take one yet 🙂

    I do have 2 pot SD that I met on CL and now I don’t know how to proceed…

    i guess both of them have to do with looks…i have not actually met them in person but it is a 6 hr drive just to go on a date with them and i value my time…

    one has offered and apt. and a “late model european car” but made no mention of anything else (allowance etc)

    the other one thought i was asking for too much but still would like to go on a date. i’m not super attracted to him but if he could offer what i am seeking that might change things 🙂 do i just be blunt and ask him what his budget is b4 going on a date?

    hmmm .. now what?

  66. HenriLouis*294522 says:

    Hi Berkshire,
    What a great lovestory unfolded in a few lines.
    Congratulations.The love of your life. It is unique to find real love here on this site.
    This morning at the gym, my muscles did not shriek, it was more like Jennifer Lopez: LOUD !
    I have to get rid of 6 kilos, that is the target set.
    There is one off now, so in 3 weeks time I would be there.
    If I continue, to slim down in three months I will be so thin that I only have one stripe on my pyajamas.
    In one month’s time I need a whole new garderobe, a whole new set of clothes. No doubt my pot SB would like to give some fashion advice and to choose a whole new wardrobe for me.
    To bad for her, shopping time is then reserved for her, said the egotist.

  67. Natty*296451 says:

    Hi Name (required)

    As a sugar baby, what I look for in a potential sugar daddy, is personality. I like to know what they do with their time, where I would fit in, and see if it’s someone I could be a platonic friend with overall……..initially. Then, obviously in the SB/SD situation, you’d like to know that this person is able to make the situation mutual and can afford to help you or give you gifts, whatever you are looking for. And as far as looks, if I meet someone who makes me laugh, is willing to help me with the fiscal part of the arrangement, and isn’t asking me for a relationship or too much of my time, as long as he’s got a great smile and is healthy , I’m not too hard on the looks part.

    I don’t know how much of that helped, but hopefully you can find one or two points that guide you or give you another perspective.


    x Natty

  68. BerkshireSD says:

    I took a different kind of break. After being with a wonderful SB this summer, we could not find a way to get our lives in sync and stay together. I thought I needed her to remain with me and could not see her only occasionally long distance.

    But we stayed in touch, and over time our differences melted away. I realized I was wrong and couldn’t live without her. We are together again and very happy. She is the love of my life and always will be.

  69. Name (required) says:


    I had thoughts of…what should be first? (for me it’s love lol)

    1. just the money? income/networth
    2. “ooo I like him!…” just love?
    3. “o I like him! ooo and his income!”

    I was curious…

    as a sugar baby…what do you look at first?

    would you date a man that isn’t your type in terms of looks? etc


  70. Natty*296451 says:

    I think that since I’m still new to this, I can’t say that I’ve “taken a break” but I’m getting to that point. I’ve received messages from interesting blokes to say the least, but I’m still waiting for that ideal SD and the ideal arrangement. As far as connecting with people, this blog is amazing. It’s easy to write someone off when you read a profile because you can’t talk the individual and learn their story and why they are here, and this blog is great, and Stephan’s article was great, because I’ve benefited from feeling okay being a SB and that although I want it to be discreet (we all do I suspect) I don’t want to feel guilty about it. I haven’t met any new sugars yet, but I sure hope to 🙂

  71. HenriLouis*294522 says:

    Good morning everyone in sugar land,
    It is a quarter to seven over here and I am invariably in a good mood.
    It is going to be another wonderful day for me.
    Nice new subject. I like it. It gets me musically inspired.
    Of again, On again.
    Billy Holiday `love is like a faucet, you turn it off and on`, beautiful tenor with Lester Young in the background.
    Dave Brubeck `take five` I simply love the swinging break by drummer Louis Bellson.
    I believe that I only am in my third week on this site, so I have not been on a cloister retreat from it yet, too addicted. But in the month of May, I will be sleeping with the nuns in Northern Spain walking the Way again off again and on again.
    Have you found benefit from connecting with fellow SBs and SDs. Yes, indeed, it brought me new friends across the world, after all I am in Europe. This holds good for SB and SD. With some I honestly connect in a spiritual sense, we share a view on life, there is this click.
    No, I have not met any SB in person over here, the majority of you living in the States.
    A special Hi to Lisa, just keep going on, someday you will meet a nice man interested in you as a person and not as a hollow box to fill. There are still some kind men out there. Sure I look upon myself as one of them.
    Going off to the fitness centre now, singing `let your body talk loudly`.
    But to quote my look/a/like Arnold in The Terminator I´LL BE BACK !

  72. Janette says:

    I have never pulled my page off the site completely, but I have let weeks go by with out logging in. I am going to visit another country for a while and sublet my place. I’m not as interested in finding another sugar daddy so soon after my last one jumped ship. I want to focus on my dreams for now.

    I have definitely benefited from connecting with other sugar babies through this blog. Everyone on here is so interesting and honest. As a whole I have benefited from meeting other sugar daddies in the sense that I have more in my savings account than I ever imagined.

    I met this SD a few weeks ago who was actually hot! I was really shocked.

  73. lisa says:

    I haven’t met a sd since September. Met a total of 4 in the span of my membership. Only thing that keeps me hanging around in the blog, the site hasn’t been any different than the traditional dating sites for me, just men lying and looking for free sex.

    Tonight I feel like a hollow vacant box 🙂