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SeekingArrangement & Good Morning America

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  1. OCSugarBaby says:

    Ben: Who doesn’t like Chipolte! Last time Suthrn was in CA I was craving Panda. So he went and got us lunch there. Flexibility is key good chemistry. I try to comment often for the sake of the new SB’s that keeping an open mind and will bring many wonderful things. Looking and thinking outside of of the box is important. P.S. You have mail

  2. OCSugarBaby says:

    Ben: Hello! I bow down to your wisdom. I have read all your old posts and found your comment to be spot on. When I first started on SA I found so much wisdon in your statements and quoted you several times. Dont vanish again for so long! :)

  3. Ben says:

    Emily – hope you don’t mind a SD commenting here. I think the SB/SD arrangement can be many different things for different people. For some, it is maybe a structured money for sex arrangement that is just fairly regular with two people who know eachother and have an understanding. From what I’ve heard in talking to many SBs and SDs it is often much more than this. For me, the arrangements have never been just about sex – I could go pay for it if I were just interested in that. At the same time, I realize that the SBs aren’t just here as they would be on match.com – they are often in need of financial support – and as I’ve said before, I think if a man can’t make a long term commitment to a woman – or at least leave that open ended, that they have a future – he’s got to realize that there’s an opportunity cost to a woman in spending time with somebody that is married or isn’t interested in anything long term. I like the word mistress as another name for a SB, if you look it up on Wikipedia it talks about the difference between a mistress, courtesan and prostitute. Mistresses are “kept” and in many cases taken care of similar to the way wives are, but just as a separate relationship, but it is often somewhat lasting – and there’s definitely an emotional connection.

    I guess it all depends on you and what you want. If I were a woman, I’d be less concerned about whether he buys me Chipotle or to takes me to a fine restaurant than I would be about what kind of guy he really is and whether or not we have chemistry. Is he trustworthy, kind, attractive and fun? For me, and I think for many – the relationship comes first – in other words finding somebody you enjoy and who you actually ‘want’ to sleep with vs. ‘have’ to – comes first, and then the money part comes later. Money is still key, but it is much easier if you two like eachother. I have had SBs say they want an allowance because I like them and want to help them, not because of anything they are doing. In a way I guess it is a bit like having a wealthy boyfriend for them.

    As for his email – well, that’s too bad. It sounds from your account like he didn’t have to hand over $$$, so he should just be mad at himself. I’d say if he hadn’t sent the email he was being pretty generous. To be blunt – if you think you are going to get a grand for each time – wel – I’d say that’s a lot to ask of a SD. Realistic allowance amounts per month I’ve seen range from $1K-$2K, some women do get more, but I think these are rare occasions – especially given today’s economy. Anyhow – hope this helps. If you think he’s a decent guy and this is worth salvaging I’d say write him back and suggest you two meet in person. I think we all know email is often an inadequate form of communication.

    The getting started phase always seems to be the tough part. What some have suggested (myself included) is that a SD pays 1/3 to 1/2 of regular allowance in the “getting to know eachother” phase – after that when real intimacy is involved it moves to full allowance if both parties agree.

  4. Emily says:

    Need some opinions ladies, please. I’m new to this sugar babe thing but IMO a sugar babe gets “set up” by her sugar daddy meaning bills paid,use of a credit card, an “allowance”, trips etc and in return the guy gets companionship and regular intimacy which will probably become sexual eventually…but not simply a hooker type situation where the girl shows up does a sex act get paid and leaves.
    My new SD and I met up 3 times. 1 time for dinner at a mid priced sushi place , once for lunch at a casual in expensive but quaint restaurant that I picked. Each time he brought be a 100 dollar phone card to charge up my cell phone. I was having car problems and told him about it and asked if he could help me pay for it- he said he could. I got a tune up which cost 400 dollars after parts and tax and paid for it myself. The third time he invited me back to his place one evening. I was hungry for some appetizer type food and he suggested ” Chipotle!”. I hate chain restaurants and can go there myself. We settled on California Pizza Kitchen which is not top notch either but I didn’t say anything. We went back to his place and he said his back was hurting so I offered to give him a massage to help him relax and I did a really sexy full body massage but no sex. It was getting late and I had to go ( I have a child). He walked me to the car and put some money in my hand for the car (I didn’t count it there but it was about 300 60 of which i had to give my babysitter for watching my child that night) and gave me a kiss goodnight. I thought we had a reasonably good time , but the next day he sent me a nasty message about buying me dinner and paying 300 dollars and not getting any” release”! I was totally insulted. Number one he took me a cheap chain restaurant and the amount of money he gave me I could have made
    exotic dancing with out having to have sex with anyone. If I were a hooker I would charge a lot more than 300 bucks for any kind of sex act and I stayed with him for 4 hours! I could see if he gave me a grand or something. Anyway, I wanted to ask you ladies how you draw up an agreement, ( i haven’t done that yet) what kind of things you ask for and when do you get sexual with your SD? What is the difference between a Sugar baby and a call girl to you?

  5. Gail says:

    Happy St. Patricks Day to you Henri:) I hate negative behavior and others that don’t know how to be nice. You are always nice Henri:) Have a great day!!!

  6. He'sAHotSB says:


    she bought the LOUIS VUITTO…Pochette Montaigne…in Ivoire Epi Leather! LOL


  7. HenriLouis*294522 says:

    Hi to everyone,
    It took me quite a while to read up.
    I know there is a new one running now, but I felt I wanted to add to this one.
    Gail, so good to read that you are in contact with Lisa. You are a wonderful person with a big heart. Tell her my voucher is still waiting for her to be picked up when she joins all of you in NYC. It is for the pole instruction.
    I know it will make her laugh.
    Katherine, I keep discovering beautiful things in you. Loved what you said about the Secret. Even before I have read it, I lived in the positive. That is why my life is so amazing. Also the “peace of buddha”came over me.
    I will send you the story in your mailbox.
    Everyone !
    Have a great day !

  8. Joules*300035* says:

    and ya, i think you may be correct as i used that word in my reply to victoria that never would re-post lol

    i ended up having to re-word it totally and shorten it just to get it to finally post

  9. Joules*300035* says:

    thas interesting!

    ok, i’ll check my email….but i think i’m staying in the other blog for now. it gets tiring trying to refresh both of them with dial-up lol

  10. Young&Fabulous!!! says:

    Joules just replied to your email……Well, sugar fam I will be on & off here….Gonna go watch rock of love bus on my dvr :) Talk to ya’ll in a little bit…..Good night to all the babies who are going to sleep.

  11. ChocolateSnowBunny says:

    Joules I’m gonna send you an email.

  12. ChocolateSnowBunny says:

    That is so weird. I think for me it may be the word c ha t.

  13. Joules*300035* says:

    CSB, it did that to me as well last night and again a couple times today. just figure out how to re-word it

    don’t talk about the ‘windy city’ C hic ago

    and i don’t think you can use the abbreviate O M G

    other than that, beats tha hell outta me?!

  14. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    So that’s where everyone disappeared to…hmm I’m going to move over there too then.

  15. ChocolateSnowBunny says:

    Are there key words that are not allowed?

  16. ChocolateSnowBunny says:

    Ok my comments are being held again.

    WHY does this happen?

  17. ChocolateSnowBunny says:

    No, I love having fellow night owls to chat with.

    Oh and good luck, glad you have mail in your inbox.

    I actually got mail in my gmail account for sugar dating but I’m not sure who it’s from lol. He sent a photo and asked how I like it. I told him, I’m confused and not sure how he is. Guess I’ll find out tomorrow.

  18. Joules*300035* says:

    well guys, i think i’m goin to mainly stay on the newest blog now since that seems to be where everyone else is at lol

    goin to be workin on my email off and on but as always, i’ll be up all night!

    hiya CSB!!

  19. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Hey CSB, glad to have you up with us tonight.

  20. ChocolateSnowBunny says:

    WOW…that was a lot of catching up in the few hours I was gone.

    So I just watched Rachel Getting Married and saw a preview for a movie called “Elegy.” You guys have to check out the trailer. The relationship looks like a perfect SD/SB relationship. Well in the sense of the love that they seem to have.

  21. Joules*300035* says:

    thanks gnd

    i think i’m goin to write him a nice long email reply in a few min and where ever i decide to throw in the part of reminding him about my phone he’s supposed to get me online….guess i’ll try to figure out how to bring up the allowance thing as well

  22. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Yeah Joules you might want to talk to him about that. I know my old SD had an entirely different idea of how I was supposed to get my allowance than what I had. He wanted to give me money everytime we met but I wasn’t too cool with that. So that and the distance issue killed things between us.

  23. Joules*300035* says:

    i’m just thinking, however, that since his goal is more of a LTR then maybe before i plan a trip to nashville that he and i should talk more about my allowance lol

    don’t get me wrong, he’s done great so far (300 for car rental and highspeed i-net, 300 for clothes, 6.00 for a pack of batteries for my digicam & 75 for Sushi for dinner; plus all the expenses on his end lol)…. but i need the actual MONEY so i can buy myself what i need (smokes, gas, food, bla bla bla)

  24. Joules*300035* says:

    YF, hells ya! and it’s not an “IF” I get to nashville, it’s WHEN lol i just have to make it clear to him in advance that it will be a mixed visit: pleasure/business as I have clients out there and modelling gigs….which he already knows this

    GND, yes, i’m super-duper lucky!!!

    i probably couldn’t have navigated this all so easily if it weren’t for my sugar family!!!

  25. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Aww Joules I’m so happy for you. You’re a lucky one, snagging a SD on the first date like that.

  26. Young&Fabulous!!! says:

    Yay!!!!!!!!! Joules that’s awesome maybe if you come to nashville we can meet up & go shopping or something *l0l* So he’s officially now your SD…I’m so happy for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  27. Joules*300035* says:

    so, my (no longer potential!!!) SD is in Nashville (the one i met yesterday)….i just now got an email from him and here’s the last thing he said in the message……”You need to plan a trip to Nashville sometime!”

  28. Joules*300035* says:


    its hard for me to answer that question as it seems everytime i do so, my post gets blocked from being posted !!!!

    asked him if i came on too strong
    told him i understand how life can be super busy
    told him i’d appreciate a response one way or the other…..

    had a (good) response in a couple hours!

  29. Joules*300035* says:

    sorry guys, just having a (non-SD) relationship crisis over here lol i’m back now tho

  30. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Hmm yes true Y&F but he says he doesn’t work much anymore and is pretty much retired. So maybe I could convince him to make a move down to the south, haha. Then all would be well.

  31. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    For anyone over in the UK, I just saw the greatest profile from this SD.

  32. Young&Fabulous!!! says:

    Then don’t relocate. I’m more of a florida summer weather type girl. I’m a sun goddess is the summer time. Bronze as I could be. :)

  33. Young&Fabulous!!! says:

    *l0l* GND that’s too funny!!! It kills me. “SD’s” try to pull us in with that kind of stuff. That would never attract me to a pot sd.

  34. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Yeah he’s emailed me back twice so far. The only downside is he lives up North and as much as I don’t mind relocating, I don’t like cold climates.

  35. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Haha I just saw a profile that looks like it’s an ad for the Real World meets Girls Gone Wild. It said “High Compensation, Travel, FREE Rent!!!” Lol

  36. Young&Fabulous!!! says:

    GND – Hope it turns out well especially with 3-5k a month. Your very lucky!!!! I’m green with envy tehehe :)

  37. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Thanks Kitty Kat (lol sorry couldn’t help myself). Yes he seems legit so far, no mention of sex or “send me some pics”. So I’m hopeful.

  38. Katherine/Kitty says:

    alright, Tony. I’ll catch you another time or something. Wasn’t able to log in with the password and email. I keep on when it comes to checking for your profile though. But I’m sure it’s not a problem with whatever you put in it. I’m afraid there just might not be very many SM’s on here? I’ve certainly seen the couples (for SDs&SMs) lurking around here and there, though!!

    GND that’s so awesome to hear. I hope he continues to be promising, and real!

    Night all :)

  39. Victoria prof. no. 302242 says:

    Thanks alot, Joules! Really! And, if you’d like to email me (I’m the occasional self-promoter), you can at: [email protected]… And thanks again! So, how’d you call him out? I mean, did you just say “Hey, why’re you flakin’ out on me?”…

  40. Gail says:

    They are reviewing it…for its contents…hopefully it will post in a little while…

  41. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    Gail i’m hurt, i would never mislead you. I got shitman from my uncle Otis he’s dead now but he would always say “shitman” thats all no tricks or games. i gave the wrong password by mistake the first time. :(

  42. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Yeah I’m happy, he seems like a nice laid back guy and I think that there is a possibility that he would make the perfect SD for me. Plus with $3-5k a month I could pay off these stupid college loans.

  43. Young&Fabulous!!! says:

    Everyone take a deep breath….Woosah *l0l* Anywho my profile is still pending :( What does my comment is being moderated mean?

  44. Katherine/Kitty says:

    and night again beach 😉

  45. Joules*300035* says:

    way to go GND!!!!

  46. Katherine/Kitty says:

    hahahaha SWEET GND!!!! I love it when that happens :p

  47. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Gail ~ we can be positive and sometimes we need someone to help a kind word when we are negative or just sad … isn’t that why we are all here to help one another!
    so i’m off now i changed my profile and can’t do nothing more tonight
    nite sugars!

  48. Gail says:

    Yes thats what he gave me…And do you think that I was gonna put in that? I got scared as to what else was on his profile…he is all your Kitty2….lol….

  49. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Hmm well I was intending on going for a SD who lives down in the South seeing I’m allergic to wintertime (haha I heard that in a song once). But the SD I emailed lives up north and just emailed me back asking what was my ideal arrangement and said he loved my pics and profile. Plus he’s offering an allowance of $3-$5k a month. Haha I am one happy girl.

  50. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    Katherine/Kitty: yes

  51. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Woohoo I just emailed a SD and he’s already mailed me back. Yay! I have mail :)

  52. Gail says:

    LOL…Gurl…thats expressing a thought…what were you thinking?

    Y&F…BeachGirl…you are all so sweet…I know that you didn’t have bad intentions:) just trying make sure that we all stay positive…we don’t need to drive away SB just because of their differences.

  53. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Kitty Katherine~ i changed my profile the way you suggested
    your right it reads better!!!
    thank you so much

  54. Katherine/Kitty says:

    is it what you gave Gail earlier? with “Shitman” as a password *laughing in hysterics*

  55. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    Katherine/Kitty: i’ll give u my info u can just log in

  56. Katherine/Kitty says:

    😀 thanks BG, sleep tight <3

  57. Katherine/Kitty says:

    Dude the name changing. hahahaha
    Tony I can’t seem to get a look at your profile but as soon as I can, I’m willing to give my two cents :)

    Gail: I understand your negative predisposition towards me. I appreciate that you’ve said it. But now I think we can leave it at is and no longer have the need to discuss it anymore.

  58. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Gail~ didn’t want to offend … and i was just trying to explain what i thought might of happened!
    I’m Katherine can speak for herself! she might be little but a marine watch out! lol

  59. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Night BG

  60. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Kitty Kat~ ( not sure how to call ya now!) thanks i’m going to change it now the no fakes and i think you wrote it great i’ll change that too lol

  61. Joules*300035* says:

    nitey nite nite BG

  62. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    KITTY can u hook my profile up please???

  63. Gail says:

    Beach Girl, I am sure that Kitty2 is able to speak for herself.

    There is no need to make anything worse than it is…a real SB Yamine has repeated this over and over again , ” If you don’t have anything nice to say…don’t say anything at all.”

    And by the way…this is not a cat fight…its about being real and expressing your thoughts, feelings and opinions. Meow:)

  64. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Your welcome Tony…I’m gonna do the proactive thing and actually go look for some SDs tonight. I’m thinking Florida though, I prefer long distance SDs.

  65. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Thanks Sugars!!! hope your right, i’ll have awesome dreams of all of us Traveling the world with as SD and for T SM
    talk to you all tomorrow

  66. Katherine says:

    pardon the nitpickiness, and again, you can take and leave what you want, I’m just another gal :p

    I agree about the “no fakes” part unless there’s a gentler way to say it. *shrug*
    OH! you have your interests there, love it. Still should throw that into my own profile lol, but maybe you can put them in a bit more of a list. Like, “I love: traveling and experiencing new cultures, lounging in the sun (i’m very good at this!), music ( rock,pop,almost all music, but not country), dancing, reading, visiting museums, the arts” Reads a bit easier, I’d say. Any one else’s take?
    Awesome that you put that you’ve been in an SD/SB relationship before.
    At one point you spelled dining as “dinning” hehehe so cute. just like the I’m dont do drug. lol

    The “what you expect description”? PRISTINE. Good work 😀

  67. Joules*300035* says:

    i’ll be here off and on. just gotta email reply from my b/f so i need to read/reply to that plus i need to get those pics uploaded

    regardless, i slept SEVERAL hours earlier in the middle of my day so i’ll be here all night again (and as usual lol)

  68. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    Goodnight BG think of us:)

  69. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    Thank you thank you

  70. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Goodnight BG, just dream you’ll wake to an inbox full of mail and watch in the morning you’ll have at least one new message.

  71. Young&Fabulous!!! says:

    I apologize to anyone if my comment made it look like I was dissing lisa. I do not know her personally. I apologize. As far as I know of what I have read she is a wonderful woman & has very good insights & advice. So if I offended anyone in regards of lisa I am very sorry. :(

  72. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Thanks Tony, your sexy yourself. You’ll find a SM in no time.

  73. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Ok sugars!!! i’m off to bed now , it’s almost 1 am and i’m not getting any responses tonight. I think my mail is broken! lol
    gnd~ your welcome!
    nite all

  74. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Haha there are two conversations going on simultaneously on both threads. Lol this is pretty fun.

  75. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:


  76. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Thanks BG :)

  77. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    gnd~ you are sexy girl!!! i just looked at your profile!

  78. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    GAIL did u look at my profile??

  79. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Joules ~ just replied to ya!!!

  80. Katherine says:

    Ok back to Katherine it is. Ah well 😉

    Gail: YOUCH. I wasn’t intentionally negative!! I just tried to say it like it was. Even looking back on it I didn’t think it was too harsh. Either way. My apologies for commenting when I don’t know her personally.

  81. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Yay Joules, your not going to sleep yet!

    Gail that was a negative comment on your behalf also. “unless your a hellcat in disguise.” Two wrongs do not make a right.

  82. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    GAILGAILGAIL ur back!!!!

  83. Joules*300035* says:

    ok, just got 3 emails sent out to everyone that gave me their addy

  84. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Sorry Joules i thought you said you were off to bed .. My Bad :)

  85. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Gail~ we are all here to share, we might be negative at times, yeah, we get frustrated int the search, and all the fakes out there collecting pics. We all let off steam .. I think Kitty2 was just saying what she read here coz i asked who Lisa was…
    no cat fits allowed lol

  86. Joules*300035* says:

    SHYT!!! bed, THIS early! hahahahaha

    you all are nuts!

    plus i usually always say g’nite first; DUH! lol

    just had to take pics of my clothes and talk to a friend of mine on the phone (the one that WANTS to date me lol)

  87. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    GND~ thank you i was just thinking that too… a little too harsh i thought
    going to do that tonight b4 i go to bed

  88. Gail says:

    Katherine-You will have to be Kitty2…there is already a Kitty. And she is the Kitty who plans and organizes all of the Sugar parties. She has not left the blog.

    Tell me Kitty2 how you can comment on someone you don’t know? And as far as being negative, your comment is kinda negative in regards to Lisa. You would have had to been on the blog the length of time we have in order too appreciate her beauty. Unless you are a hellcat in disguise…

    Thanks BeachGirl for the kind and positive comments. I will share that with Lisa when I speak with her tommorrow.

  89. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Y&F i know made me kill myself laughing this morning when it got approved lol
    Kitty~ thanks for looking!
    oh if you are on myspace http://www.myspace.com/blondy_lyane
    that is moi!

  90. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    BG I love that black top in your first pic! :) But take out the “please no fakes” as your second sentence. Other than that it’s good.

  91. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Hey i think i’m having a problem with my mail here… sent a few out and no one has look at them???? funny

  92. Kitty! says:

    Y&F: yes Lisa is indeed fine. Gail has been in touch with her.
    Beach I’ll check out your profile :)

  93. Young&Fabulous!!! says:

    BG – You already know what I think tehehe :) You seriously are very gorgeous!! & the Little typo about the not doing drugs makes me giggle. *l0l*

  94. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Kitty~ i think joules said she was off to bed??? not too sure maybe i miss read, it does happen me being half french and all lol

  95. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Oh Sugars i did change my profile yesterday, wanna tell me what you think :)

  96. Young&Fabulous!!! says:

    Well, I didn’t see any posts from her yesterday. So I think she’s been gone for a couple days now. She normally posts everyday…I think…..I hope she’s ok & nothing bad has happened cause I remember reading she lived in a bad neighborhood. Hope she is well!!!!! & hope she comes back to the blog. There for a minute she was a little negative but everyone has been like that a time or two. Times are hard right now & it’s understandable.

  97. Katherine/KITTY!!! :D says:

    hehehehe omg it’s so nice to be heard by the name I most commonly go by 😀 Thank you for the flexibility!!! Wonder where the other Kitty went..

    now I wonder where JOULES went lol. hahaha unlike her to head to bed without a g’night!

  98. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    I like Kitty too!

  99. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Ktty~ that’s too bad for lisa , i hope she gets better! good thoughts to her too!
    As you can see i’m a little , ok a lot, into being positive and sending positive energy to others :)

  100. Young&Fabulous!!! says:

    Katherine – I like kat or kitty so I will call you……KiTTY!!!!!!! *l0l*

  101. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Y&F ~ how long has she been gone?

  102. Katherine/KITTY!!! :D says:

    Lisa is someone that used to post on the blog a lot. And for a while too!! She had really good advice. But then I guess a slump hit and she became rather negative? So she’s out for a bit or maybe forev’s. :/ We hope not. She was a lovely add to the blog.

    *FOCUSSSED* 😀 hehe

  103. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Young&Fabulous she seems to be on a hiatus…I’m sure she’ll be back soon. :)

  104. Young&Fabulous!!! says:

    Lisa is a wonderful woman!!! I’ve read ALOT of her posts. Wonder where she is??!?? She’s normally on or have at least answer some of the blog questions etc. etc. Hope she’s ok!!!

  105. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Who is Lisa????

  106. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Kitty~ sending you all the focus you need girl! In the navy??? your so little!
    we will get SDs soon i just know it! let’s just keep focused! lol

  107. Katherine*305371 says:

    haha I have a history of getting what I want to. And now that we want SD’s? .. 😉 hehe. Seriously though. Crossing my fingers.
    So good that you’re so focused. I need a bit of that. I have to wait another half a year to become an officer in the navy so I’m sorta lacking direction & a job at the moment lol. And yet I have 20Gs worth of loans to pay off.. OH boy.

    lol thx Tony. p.s. I like Kat better than Kath :) Normally the nickname is Kitty, but there was another one of them when I joined the blog so I was forced to give it up :p

  108. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:


  109. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Tony: My dad tried to get me to watch Deal or No Deal. I’m not big on game shows but it was surprisingly good.

    And yes Katherine I love her too! She’s inspired me to look into starting my own matchmaking business after college. I know I’d love to do something like that since I do it now all the time for my friends, hehe.

  110. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Katherine~ i know just i never watch tv… dunno why. I know about the secret …. I always get what i want and more so i’m not complaining
    I know it sounds unreal, but my goals , everything i got ! I’m really focused i guess.. A happy go lucky girl!

  111. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    Damn Kath well put my lady Confucius :)

  112. Katherine*305371 says:

    p.s. this blog is totally hoppin tonight!! 😀

  113. Katherine*305371 says:

    BG: The secret is both a book and a movie basically describing the power of positive thinking (mainly, as well as negative thinking). If we tend to focus on what’s negative, not only will we PINPOINT those negative qualities in everyday circumstances.. but we’ll actually “attract” ourselves to poor situations. Whereas if you focus on the positive, you can find the good in situations, you can set your goals high, and if you really keep your mind on them, you will make them happen/you will unconsciously make a path for your goal to happen. It’s SWEET.

  114. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    T~ TV???? i feel like i’m wasting my time! i don’t know why, always something better to do, yeah i’m a little hyper! :)
    joules ~ why write your mail like that?

  115. Katherine*305371 says:

    GND: Aw man I LOVE millionaire matchmaker!!! Patti’s such a riot!!!
    Lisa, may I email you as well? 😉

  116. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    GND: do u like deal or no deal?

  117. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Tony~ my life never went shit bad… well ok i can say now it is, i guess.
    lol maybe read the secret????

  118. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    BG: You need to catch up on House you’ll love it

  119. Joules*300035* says:

    Y&F, i’ve gotta get some pics taken of my gifts from the weekend and get them uploaded to my facebook site….email me your email addy and we can talk some business maybe…..


    and for whoever else wants it, there’s my email addy lol

    *nudges the lurking Lisa*

  120. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Katherine~ yeah he seems open to the idea of travel, he’ s in NY lots and it’s not far from here!
    Tony~ last time i watched a show on that black thing in my living room. wow i can’t even remember but.. i heard he wasn’t that good! and Family guy isn’t that cartoons?

  121. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    GIRLSGIRLS:: Don’t stress girls everything will be ok, think back to all the times in your life when shit was bad, they’ve all ways work themselves out. P.S. Watch the Secret

  122. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Ok I guess I’m the opposite of everyone. House is good because Dr. House is so sarcastic and I love sarcasm. 24 puts me to sleep though. I only watch 4 shows on TV: Real Housewives of Atlanta, Millionaire Matchmaker, Gossip Girl, and the Real World. All shows that are a waste of my time, but that help to balance out my overly analytical and curious personality.

  123. Joules*300035* says:

    alrighty then! re-wording my post from last night worked….not that i even remember what the questions were that i was replying to! lol

    anywho, i need to upload these pics of my rental car to my facebook (SD/SB only) page

  124. Young&Fabulous!!! says:

    Joules – If you feel as though your settling for less than you want try to not to put so much effort in it. Does that make sense? If it’s not what your looking for but maybe in time it could be just keep in contact. It never hurt a girl to go shopping & have a good meal *l0l*….I’m happy you have other pots!!! Get em’ girl!!! *l0l* Every woman on here deserves that special someone whether it be just a BF or whether it be a SD. It could turn into something beautiful. But then again it could be “it is what it is” ….Have you heard back from your studio guy? The nerve of him standing you up twice…1st he sleeps late then doesn’t call for your meeting. Men are so silly sometimes. How’s business going? If you need any clients I know alot of local Nashville rappers. Some are signed some aren’t. My friend actually makes beats & what not & is trying to get his name out there. His beats are outrageous!!! Just remember ladies….”You have to go through some duds before you get to the big bang or at least that’s how it is with fireworks” :)

  125. Katherine*305371 says:

    Agreed, Beach, about the “hope we all get what we want.” BUT–if they’re far away.. well.. they have the money if they’re a true SD, right? So maybe they could spare a weekend or two here and there and call it a business meeting? This guy from BC is willing to do that?

  126. Joules*300035* says:

    ok, there’s one last part that i need to re-word with my post reply to victoria lol….something or another in the first paragraph lol


    the only last part i can not get to repost…i was just telling you about how one of my pot SDs had disappeared on me and i called him out on it and got great results and apologies; then disappeared on him myself due to my sudden increase in my workload BUT i at least emailed him like four days later and told him how busy i was but that i would get back in touch with him mid week

    everyone experiences those ‘houdini’ pots but it’s all a matter of how YOU handle it

  127. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    BG: Are u serious BG House is the hottest fucking show on tv!!! KATHRINE: 24 is ok

  128. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Katherine~ i hope so , he seemed really nice and really honest no bs kinda person. Married , kids and all . But the down side he’s in BC way far! And the ones from here, where i am, want someone far!! WTF….Hope we all get what we what !

  129. Joules*300035* says:

    trying again….


    there are no answers as to how long it will take to meet a good pot SD or even a good SD. that’s a question with no answer!

    my opinion as to what makes a good SB is willingness to travel, friendly, open, honest, blunt and realistic

    i would check out ur profile (as i’m quite meticulous) but i’m sleepy. you can check mine out and get some ideas from there if possible. i get probably as many promising emails as i do actual views

  130. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    T~ House is quack! lol

  131. Katherine*305371 says:

    BeachGirl: I can’t wait for you as well. Hope that guy you talked to last night turns out to be a connection! Well, if he’s going to spoil you & give you a good allowance and whatnot 😉

    Tony: go for 24 lol

  132. Joules*300035* says:

    try this one more time….

    last repost from last night….

    Victoria, Ola!

    pot SD/SBs alike play that disappearing game. usually it’s because one or the other is busy with work however. i had excellent results from a pot SD after his disappearing act. i waited about a week and then just sent a nice email asking what was going on, if i had come on too strong, if he was just super-busy or what & politely asked him to let me know something. he profusely apologized as he’d been so busy with work and we began chatting again….then *I* did the next disappearing act on him as my business started picking up but I was only ‘gone’ for like 3 or 4 days and I made sure to email him and apologize. i told him i’d get back in touch with him early next week when my business slowed back down a little bit.

    there are no answers as to how long it will take to meet a good pot SD or even a good SD. that’s a question with no answer!

    my opinion as to what makes a good SB is willingness to travel, friendly, open, honest, blunt and realistic

    i would check out ur profile (as i’m quite meticulous) but i’m sleepy. you can check mine out and get some ideas from there if possible. i get probably as many promising emails as i do actual views

  133. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    yes love it, also House

  134. Joules*300035* says:

    alrighty, that worked for all my replies EXCEPT the one to Victoria lol i’ll try and figure it out now….

  135. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Tony~ Family guy really!???? lol

  136. Joules*300035* says:

    another post reply from last night….

    GND, o ya, and after i left my meeting with my pot SD i went to see my actual b/f lol it sure has been nice being able to go see my b/f several different days this week (cuz i had that rental car) versus one day for a couple hours every two weeks or so! lol

    i dunno why, but i really felt i needed to see my b/f after meeting my pot SD. all he and i did was just chill out (i showed him all my new clothes, which i don’t think he liked ANY of them *rolls eyes*). i curled up on his lap and just layed there watching tv with him. my b/f is wierd though cuz he isn’t really affectionate at all….but it’s good cuz i can’t stand guys pawing all over me lol

    i guess my double-life was just getting the best of me today (mentally) and was feeling a little guilt; maybe thats why i went and saw my b/f after meeting my pot SD lol

  137. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Katherine~ no i got a lot of bull from guys on this site, like i’m gonna do this bullcrap and that girl,
    Last night talked to a guy, he was straight forward , don’t know if there is a connection yet! i can’t wait for a connection with someone , and no i won’t settle for someone i don’t like!
    i can’t wait for someone special again.!

  138. Joules*300035* says:

    Remember, these are my post replies from last night so it may not make sense lol

    Y&F, i don’t feel as if i’m wasting time as i still remain in contact with other pot SDs and will continue to persue them as well. at this moment however, i’m definately feeling as if i’m settling for less than i want.

  139. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    no for Hoodmark

  140. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    man i love family guy

  141. Joules*300035* says:

    i’m going to try to repost it, part-by-part lol….try to figure out whats being blocked

  142. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Tony~ yeah … are you a stand up??? lol no wait … you write for Hallmark!

  143. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Joules ~ i don’t get why they would block a post
    i think my blond hair is getting to me :)

  144. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    I try BG, missed my other calling

  145. Katherine*305371 says:

    Woahhh, BeachGirl.. I hear the past tense!! “Got” a lot of bull? That mean you think youll be settling for the one SD you went out with last night? Wait.. but the rest of your message confuses me. You didn’t feel any connection?

    Joules: YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Omgoodness. That’s AWesome. What a change of heart :)

    Man, I hope we all do indeed have stories soon enough!

  146. Joules*300035* says:

    oh well, whatever. i actually had some very good things to say (from my blocked post last night) but i guess you all won’t ever get to read it as when i try to post again it STILL gets blocked

  147. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    Can we all just get along? Someone needs a hug from Dr Phil? We r in this shit together, we need to stick together:) now hug in make up!!!!!!!!!

  148. Joules*300035* says:

    ggrrrrrr i didn’t say O M G (incorrectly) in my post nor did i talk about the windy city…why do i keep getting my posts blocked from showing up?

  149. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Tony~ you are too funny !!! LMAO

  150. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Joules~ who is editing??? what do you mean?

  151. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    BG: i’m going to change it to bullcrapit

  152. Joules*300035* says:

    Victoria, Ola!

    pot SD/SBs alike play that disappearing game. usually it’s because one or the other is busy with work however. i had excellent results from a pot SD after his disappearing act. i waited about a week and then just sent a nice email asking what was going on, if i had come on too strong, if he was just super-busy or what & politely asked him to let me know something. he profusely apologized as he’d been so busy with work and we began chatting again….then *I* did the next disappearing act on him as my business started picking up but I was only ‘gone’ for like 3 or 4 days and I made sure to email him and apologize. i told him i’d get back in touch with him early next week when my business slowed back down a little bit.

    there are no answers as to how long it will take to meet a good pot SD or even a good SD. that’s a question with no answer!

    my opinion as to what makes a good SB is willingness to travel, friendly, open, honest, blunt and realistic

    i would check out ur profile (as i’m quite meticulous) but i’m sleepy. you can check mine out and get some ideas from there if possible. i get probably as many promising emails as i do actual views

    GND, o ya, and after i left my meeting with my pot SD i went to see my actual b/f lol it sure has been nice being able to go see my b/f several different days this week (cuz i had that rental car) versus one day for a couple hours every two weeks or so! lol

    i dunno why, but i really felt i needed to see my b/f after meeting my pot SD. all he and i did was just chill out (i showed him all my new clothes, which i don’t think he liked ANY of them *rolls eyes*). i curled up on his lap and just layed there watching tv with him. my b/f is wierd though cuz he isn’t really affectionate at all….but it’s good cuz i can’t stand guys pawing all over me lol

    i guess my double-life was just getting the best of me today (mentally) and was feeling a little guilt; maybe thats why i went and saw my b/f after meeting my pot SD lol

    Y&F, i don’t feel as if i’m wasting time as i still remain in contact with other pot SDs and will continue to persue them as well. at this moment however, i’m definately feeling as if i’m settling for less than i want.

  153. Joules*300035* says:

    i’m being edited again by the mystery person that don’t like me talking anymore on here lol

  154. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Tony~ my password was fuckit for a while lol! but Shitman i like

  155. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Gail~ i’m not saying this site sucks, just saying i got alot of bull.
    i’m glad to be on here, don’t get me wrong . It’s nice to know that there are some nice SDs out there. i just haven’t found one yet!
    I can’t wait to make that first real connection :)

  156. ChocolateSnowBunny says:

    Joules: You’re the bomb!!! You’re all our inspiration. Yes, there are real SDs out there ladies. Don’t settle for less that you deserve. Trust your instincts and make sure you feel comfortable. We’ll all have fabulous stories soon!!

  157. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    GAIL:: did u get that

  158. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    BG: that is a hot password. lol

  159. Gail says:

    Joules-I have found a true SD connection takes time. It’s exciting to have the e-mails in your box…but to me it will always be quality over quantity.

    And a woman can never have enough SD friends. I have traveled so many places and experienced so much fun that I could never afford. I have received gifts and been helped at my time in need. But more importantly I gained friendship from around the world:) People I woud have never met if I hadn’t joined a year ago. You make SA what you want it to be:)

  160. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Tony~ i like that password, I’m gonna use it! lol

  161. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Joules~ So happy for you :)
    I wish i had an SD right now , lol!
    i did have a pot SD last night , he was straight to the point, let me check him out and also ask what i wanted and so forth.
    After that, he sends me a mail saying he’s out of town for the week and will get back to me asap
    he’s kinda cute and really honest , i really hate all the bull that i got here!

  162. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    GAIL SORRY: password:Shitman

  163. Gail says:

    lol…I knew he was a jokster…he really is a ghost:)

    Nitemare…we just have to keep wishing her back:) I am working on her. I may have to do bribes….like Starbuck gift cards…:)

  164. Joules*300035* says:

    Gail, I dunno if Lisa’s hello would apply to me or not though. I just hope she didn’t take my offer to her out of context as I was only extending an offer of (private) friendship to her….anywho….

    yes there will be a 2nd date with my SD

    yes i called him my SD versus POT

    i’m thrilled that everything has gone so quickly and smoothly for me since i joined SA. I just hope that I’m proof that this site works and for everyone else that runs into those oh-so-familiar pic collectors and wierdos….there ARE true SDs out there! Just be patient everyone!

    The first meeting was DEFINATELY awkward (or however you spell it lol). He spent almost $300 on clothes for me (and that was AFTER a 30% off coupon that we by chance lucked upon getting). Sushi for dinner was about $75 (I couldn’t help but try to look at the receipt so I could tell you all lol!!!). We went to Walmart to check out the prepaid cellphones as i had already mentioned to him. He bought me a $6 pack of batteries for my digital camera but I opted to not get another prepaid cellphone. I instead told him I would rather have my unlimited Cricket phone for only like $5-10 more per month.

    However I must say that I definately won’t be revealing to my SD much more about my past than I have already. I don’t feel it’s necessary and frankly I’m tired of being judged for all of the partying I did (lol) when it never amounted to any addictions or arrests or anything….just a lot of being around the wrong kind of people. But, as I DID mention to my SD, Mi Vida Loca is responsible for me having the opportunity to travel around so much and see the world, so to speak, so i don’t regret a second of it!

  165. Gail says:

    lol…here I go….

  166. NitemareSD says:

    I feel Lisa is not that far away.

  167. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    ok CSB

  168. ChocolateSnowBunny says:

    Tony: I suggest you change that password as soon as Gail is finished.

  169. Gail says:

    On the Water-Not everyone will agree with what a person has to say…thats where we all have to agree to disagree. LOL…and what we disagree on today we may agree on other things tommorrow…:) The nice thing about this blog is we can say what we want…and the polite people will respect what we have to say… and not try to push their opionions on us… I hope that makes sense:)

  170. ChocolateSnowBunny says:

    Onthewater: you haven’t upset me but have a good night anyways.

  171. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    What??? Katt

  172. Katherine*305371 says:

    seriously, tony? lol

  173. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    GAIL GAIL:: username: [email protected] password: iphone

  174. Gail says:

    I said yes….:) (wicked laugh:)

  175. OnTheWater says:

    Okay, I think I’ve upset enough people for the day :)

    Goodnight sugar family and lost Lisa (wherever you may be) you’ll always be part of the family!

  176. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    GAIL GAIL: Will u fix it if i give u the password??????????????

  177. Gail says:

    Tony…Yes…first get off of it and let us see what we have to work with…heeheee…by the way did I tell you that this is my first time that I have done a boys profile? LOL…..

    Joules…after this last incident…I too would not want to post. She is near and dear to many of our hearts on the SA Blog. She will always be part of our family. I keep hoping and praying that she will come back.

  178. Atalanta says:

    It’s probably been said before, but Jamisen, I completely agree with you about the ageism thing. SD and I were talking about it the other day.

    It’s so unfortunate that people don’t think a person of my age can relate and converse with someone older than me! I feel like they just can’t accept it for whatever reason? I cherish my youth, and I found someone else who will to? Clearly others take it for granted.

  179. OnTheWater says:

    Maybe someone has some subconscious underlying GUILT! lol

  180. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    CSB~ i’m good changed my profile yesterday and noticed some mistake lol
    but i think it’s ok … you wanna look
    I;m so glad your better

  181. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    OTW I agree. I had a SD (lasted only a month) who was married and I didn’t feel the least bit bad about it. HE was the one who contacted me, not the other way around.

  182. OnTheWater says:

    Katherine – I guess I made the mistake of sending a message to one of our board lurkers tonight! (Whoops) He seemed quite upset about what I had posted earlier. When I went to msg him back to explain myself he had blocked me as well!!

  183. Angela300373 says:

    your code of Daddy’ Want want Daddy’s girl full use
    (Ummmm huh? It is not even a sentence)

    I have done everything on your I wish list.
    (ya good for you, thanks for telling me)

    I love meat,especially breasts and thighs. Want to meet at smitty’s?

    I am shy, virgin from Kansas, I am looking for my first time to be with a red headed snake worshiper.

    My Pa the town preacher has told me that red headed people are the devil and since I am going to hell for having premaritial sex it might as be with the best.
    (Whoa! Maybe meant to be funny but I don’t get it)

    hey there, if your fun with a good sex drive we should talk
    (I’m NOT so I guess we shouldn’t talk…LOL)

  184. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    OTW~ it makes sense to me, i had an SD before and he was married…
    He called it quits when she found out … :(
    not here to find another!

  185. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    GAIL: Will u fix it if i give u the password??????????????

  186. Katherine*305371 says:

    OTW: why are you catching flack about the moral cross? Cos then I’d be in some trouble as well… hm.


    And Joules: SO glad you’ve decided to go forward with the SD. Glad he treated you to such nice stuff, too! :)

    Gail: it’s awesome to hear you caught up with Lisa. I never talked to her, but I’ve read so many of her posts and we were all wondering where she’s at & how she is. Thanks for relaying the message!

  187. ChocolateSnowBunny says:

    I’m better Beach_girl. Just introduced myself on the new blog.

    How are you doing?

  188. OnTheWater says:

    Joules – congrats!I’m glad things went well :)

    In other news, it appears I’m now catching some flack (privately) for my afore mentioned comment about having a cross to bear….

    I must clarify. I don’t JUDGE anyone who is participating in extramarital activities, I actually prefer to look for an SD who is married. However, if you are participating in such, that is YOUR responsibility. When I’m with someone, I respect their marriage to the utmost – BUT if your wife was to find out I did not LURE you into anything you weren’t looking for on your own….is this making sense to anyone?

  189. Gail says:

    Good Joules…that’s really great to hear. The first meeting with your first SD can be akward…but it looks like it turned out okay for you. I hope it get even more exciting for you.

    I too have thoughts of Lisa throughout the day while on the blog.
    By the way I was in touch with Lisa …she told me to tell all of you that have sent her nice messages hello:) And you all know who you are:)

    Someone was mentioning the pole dance lessons at the SugarParty. We already had the lessons in Vegas. Sam our SD went all out for us and treated us VIP all the way. It was incredible. We had a room at the Palms, with a pole,music, lights, an instructor, Jason and company…and drinks to wet our whistles…lol…We posted pictures…but not here…lol…

  190. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Joules~ Good for you , glad it went well!!! :)

  191. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Joules good to hear your date went well. Will there be a date #2?

  192. Joules*300035* says:

    Gail, i’m pretty rested. i was hanging out with family earlier today and crashed out asleep on the living room floor for several hours. i now have a slight headache and neckache from doing so but nothing a mild painkiller wont get rid of in 10 min (at least, once i finally get off my butt and take one! lol)

    other than that, all is well! my pot SD and i had a pretty good time. i got a very nice email from him that I just now got to read.

    i’m also sitting here working on a rough-draft for an ad to get my DJ client some gigs out here then from there i have a couple more clients to start talking to and working out all of the details (especially the financial part! lol)

  193. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Hi CSB~ how are you tonight?

  194. ChocolateSnowBunny says:

    Looks like you guys got the blog topic you requested. Introductions…

  195. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    GAIL: I’ll take u up on that offer:)

  196. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:


  197. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Hi Sugars!!!
    Joules~ how did it go?

  198. Joules*300035* says:

    my meeting with my pot SD last night went very well. i got quite a few nice articles of clothing, went and ate sushi and just chilled out together.

    i just read the email from him and everything’s good; in other words, nothing went wrong last night lol

    Lisa, I was napping earlier and had a dream about your pigeon?! lol Only it was really bright blue (kinda more like a cartoon character). That bird was the coolest bird in the world! He loved eating sunflower seeds and just chilling out in your hand and climbing up peoples’ arms in order to chill on their back lol

  199. Gail says:

    Welcome back Joules….How are you doing? Rested now:)

  200. Gail says:

    No jokes…just the facts… Tony the ghost SugarBabyBoy. You are still not available. Sheesh…just give us you password we will all work up one for you in a minute….lol…

  201. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    no not a picture collector, i haven’t even checked u all profiles, i consider u all fams now and i wouldn’t check out my family like that.

  202. Joules*300035* says:

    good evening everyone!

  203. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Hey Victoria

    Gail and Katherine, I guess I would see it as a positive if clinginess and loneliness weren’t big turnoffs for me.

  204. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    No ladies i haven’t forsaken u, i was just working on my profile. i see u all have jokes :)

  205. Katherine*305371 says:

    hahaha hi Victoria :)

  206. Gail says:

    Perhaps Tony is a picture collector…we view him…he views us and wallah!!! possible Sugarmamas? Just kidding Tony!!!!

    GND, I too see it as a positive. YOU may be the sunshine he is looking for:)

  207. Victoria prof. no. 302242 says:

    Hi, sugars! Just thought I’d drop in on my new favorite sugar family… No more lurking for me! :-)

  208. Katherine*305371 says:

    GND: I hear ya about the lonely part… but the perk of that would mean he would spoil you (possibly) tremendously in comparison to other SDs. I’d say give it one shot, one meeting, if he’d be willing to come to your area. BUT. On the other hand, the gut knows best, so maybe looking around is indeed the best way to go. And you’re certainly attractive enough to hook another SD in an instant.

    Gail: Sorta glad to hear that I’m not the only one having trouble seeing Tony’s profile!! Someone on this blog (can’t remember who) has seen it, though. So I don’t know what the scoop is.

    Tony: What do you think of our “commentary”?

  209. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Well Katherine that’s just my guess. I’m starting to get doubts on whether or not I want to meet one of my potentials. He’s a nice guy but seems a bit…lonely. I dunno, I’m not one for a guy who kisses the ground I walk on. So, I think I’m going to continue my search in the meantime.

  210. Gail says:

    Tony appears to be a ghost SB boy. I cut and pasted this from his profile “Profile Not Available”. It’s been like that all afternoon. What are you trying to do Tony create an interest?..lol….or are you not dressed?

  211. Katherine*305371 says:

    ohhh, okay. thanks GND.

  212. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    going to look now

  213. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Hmm “out-of-the-box” sexual favours? Sounds like kinky sexual favours if you ask me.

  214. Katherine*305371 says:

    Tony: a couple other SBs and I gave our input–did you go back and see?

  215. Katherine*305371 says:

    hahaha night OTW
    good luck!

  216. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    Hi u all i’m back from conditioning, showered and ready to fix my profile. i’ve been thinking about it and i’d really appreciate ur help

  217. Katherine*305371 says:

    haha seriously. bound to get an SB if they post the number, eh? hehe
    p.s. what are “out-of-the-box” sexual favors?

  218. OnTheWater*291388* says:

    Almost time for The City….sick, I know. Have a good night everyone and good luck!! I just sent out like 10 e-mails, we’ll see how that goes!

  219. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Yes OTW they are. So if any of you rarities are out there reading this blog, feel free to post your profile numbers. Us SBs would really appreciate it. :)

  220. OnTheWater*291388* says:

    Rarities are always welcome to apply :)

  221. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Good evening everyone. Kickboxing class was brutal but I’m glad I went. :) I think I’ll stick to my traditional workout routine of going clubbing every other Friday or Saturday night and dancing like crazy in 3 inch heels for 2 hours straight, lol. It’s really good cardio and I don’t mind doing it. Anyway, looking over the blog I agree OTW. If a SD’s profile looks too good to be true, 9 times out of 10 it is. Then again there are those rarities like someone I found, who turns out to be 100% legit and a hell of a catch.

  222. OnTheWater*291388* says:

    Jamisen, I’ve often thought that too…I mean the ad is right at the top!

  223. Jamisen/305521 says:

    On and back to the quick topic or SDs only seeking sex (or out-of-the-box sexual favors), you would think that SA’s partner site, seekingfantasy.com, would alleviate that. Nope.

  224. Jamisen/305521 says:

    That’s what I thought.

    You should add that blue=not serious. Although, that can apply to a lot of orange too.

  225. OnTheWater*291388* says:

    Jamisen – it says all BUT the orange :)

    Orange= Promising
    Blue= lazy and possibly cheap

  226. OnTheWater*291388* says:

    Okay let’s start with these…..

    “Seeking Sweet and Busty Girl”…..Sweet AND Busty? This guy sure is picky

    A classic fav…the guys that say they make $1 million a year but are willing to give away 10-20 thousand a month (ladies if it looks too good to be true, it probably is)

    Feel free to post your own :)

  227. Jamisen/305521 says:

    Wait, I always though orange meant that they were premium.. Was that a typo, OnTheWater, or have I been mislead this entire time?

  228. raine says:

    Thanks, Katherine; this is one of those blasted seasonal colds* [*maybe as a surprise to no one, when spring or fall arrives]

    So the orange is premium, standard is blue – or vice versa? I’d seen a bunch of the former recently…

  229. Katherine*305371 says:

    SERIOUSLY. I’m out as well, bbl!

  230. ChocolateSnowBunny says:

    Ok guys 24 is on. It’s the only show I watch on tv besides sports oh and Jeopardy. Check in later.

  231. Katherine*305371 says:

    things are well enough. still in the searching stage.
    CSB: OH. That is good to know! Maybe I’ll be switching over to your side as well! lol

  232. ChocolateSnowBunny says:

    That’s for SBs Katherine. Standard men don’t have much emailing privileges etc. I can’t remember the full details though.

  233. raine says:

    OTW, I’m going to look at it before I start work tomorrow.
    Apparently it’s way too much like right to show all sides of this lifestyle in this 24hr news cycle age.

  234. ChocolateSnowBunny says:

    Evening Katherine. How are things?

  235. Katherine*305371 says:

    really, eh? you two have a point. but whatabout with Joules’ Point of View that the Premium status doesn’t really add too much to what you can view as a Standard member?

  236. ChocolateSnowBunny says:

    LOL…yet their profile always talks about how serious they are and how they’re not looking to play games. Yeah Ok. That’s my filter too, blue is ugly lol.

  237. OnTheWater*291388* says:

    I can’t help but laugh at some of the things guys have put on their profiles…we need a sep. page just to post rediculous things we find! lol

  238. OnTheWater*291388* says:

    CSB, I totally agree, as I’ve said before….they’ve got millions but not the monthly fee? I ignore all but the orange results :)

  239. Katherine*305371 says:

    evenin CSB :)

  240. Katherine*305371 says:

    raine: you’re still sick?? :( feel better SOON, eh??
    OTW: I can’t wait till ChocolateSnowBunny checks this blog and sees that 😀

  241. ChocolateSnowBunny says:

    LOL….What timing onthewater…he’s a non-paying member..I don’t bother with these SDs. Maybe some SBs have had luck with them, but I still don’t understand how a real SD can’t pat thirty dollars, if even to check it out.

    As for the video…Yuck, don’t have anything more to say that hasn’t been said.

    Good evening, my sugar darlings.

  242. Katherine*305371 says:

    Ah, Jamisen. thanks. I’m glad you like the use of moral cross. Unfortunately I can’t take credit for it. That was all OTW 😉 She brought it up and I followed suit (with a ton of spelling errors that I just noticed lol)

    I like to hear how you’re on this site and don’t think sugar dating is anti-feminist. I wholly agree. There is so much more than can be said, and you only BREACH the topic in one paragraph!

    p.s. welcome back to the blog alicia 😉 hehe I was caught in the same situation. I was still reading up on the old topic before I noticed there was a new one.

  243. raine says:

    ^Indeed. I’d add a few more pennies’ worth on this, but I’m battling a head cold that won’t let me think straight 😐

  244. OnTheWater*291388* says:

    Has anyone seen CSB tonight? I was just looking at the new members and there’s a guy with a heading that reads: Chocolate Daddy Looking for Cute Snow Bunny. Now I assume he means this to have a racial connotation…just thought it was a funny coincidence.

  245. OnTheWater*291388* says:

    Raine – yeah, I watched it a little bit ago.

  246. raine says:

    Hi again, folks. OnTheWater, I presume you saw the segment in question?
    Red it is; thanks, ladies.

  247. Jamisen/305521 says:

    Katherine, I agree with you and love your use of “moral cross.” And if you think your man friends wouldn’t be happy, just think, I go to school for womens and gender studies. I’m writing a paper on feminist/gender theory now. But I do not think that sugar dating is anti-feminist. When we are talking about forced prostitution, that is a problem. Every SB on this site has agency in choosing to try sugar dating. And if the public would stop the prejudice against older women/younger men (ageism, again, with a little power struggle thrown in), the public can no longer use the reasons they’ve used to say why sugar dating is wrong.

  248. Alicia*299952 says:

    Oh man I’m behind – a whole new topic and I haven’t even caught up on the rest of the previous topic …. so if anyone wrote me, sorry =)

    Ya know, what I don’t get is they paint this in such a bad light and yet models use their bodies to gain money and they aren’t looked down upon or maybe they are by most of middle america.

  249. Katherine*305371 says:

    Jamisen: well put.

  250. Katherine*305371 says:

    I’d agree with you, actually. We talked about that a fair amount on the previous blog. There are actually a plethora of SBs that enjoying having an SD that’s married. With them you have “no worries of attachments and all that drama” –Joules ;), it’s automatically NSA, more discreet, & they tend to pay more for your bills, gifts and travel (SweetRedHead).

    To each his own on weather you’d want a married man or a single one, but I really don’t think you should have to bear a moral cross just cos you’re gonna be they’re SB. I agree with exactly what all the rest & you say: If not you, then someone else. So why not let them spoil You?
    *shrug* Man my friends would not be happy to hear me say that lol

  251. OnTheWater*291388* says:

    Jamisen- I agree. A lot of North America’s dating ideals, etc are VERY different from the rest of the world. i.e. Look at how vastly different relationships are in Europe vs. the US. I think the ageism just follows suit. People automatically assume if they see an older man and a younger girl that she must be in it for the money and he for sex; this is not always the case.

  252. Jamisen/305521 says:

    Hi Sugar Family! Welcome Tony and Foreversmiling!

    I hope everyone had a good day today.

    One point I want to make about the blog video- Did anyone notice how they always equate sugar dating to call girls/escorts? I’ll give them credit for trying to discredit the prostitution link here, but I personally believe that sugar dating is NOT escorting. There are many men who contact SBs who are interested in sexual favors only, but those men don’t have the correct idea and I’m sure they must find it hard to find a SB. In the short time that I’ve been part of the blog, there are numerous SBs who have found SDs that respect the idea that a sugar relationship does not have to be all about sex.

    I really think that people’s problem with sugar dating is the age issue. We have a big ageism problem in our society, and society thinks that two people with a great difference in age can only have sex in common, and on top of that the age difference make it weird. Society has a hard time believing that two people many years apart in age can have legitimate conversations.. if anything, this blog is proof to that.

    Sorry, that was so long but those are my two cents. :)

  253. OnTheWater*291388* says:

    When I first started all this I had objections to having an arrangement with anyone who was married….then it ocurred to me – if not me, then someone else anyway. While being “the other woman” is never completely appealing, I don’t feel like I should have a moral cross to bear because someone decided to cheat on their wife….thoughts?

  254. Katherine*305371 says:

    p.s. to answer your question I’m doing alright. I had been talking to one SD for a while now.. and today it came out that he’s looking for loads of sex more than anything. Clearly he was ready to spoil in return, but he wanted it on the first meeting and “as much as possible” thereafter. I am Certainly not looking for that sort of relationship.

    How’s your search coming along?

  255. Katherine*305371 says:

    haha good point, OTW. very, very good point. That lady in the video totally put the negative spin ONLY on the SBs.

  256. OnTheWater*291388* says:

    Oyyy….can’t they leave us alone?! There are SO many worse things people could be doing with their lives. I also love how they always put the SB in the negative light, what about these married men?

    How is everyone tonight?

  257. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Well gotta go everyone, be back in an hour or so.

  258. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Hmm Katherine, maybe I’ll bring it up to one of them. I’m sure they would sponsor it too if I showed them a little something I learned in class, hehe.

  259. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    I heard a rumour that one of the sd’s was going to sponsor pole dancing at the next sb party…I offered to bring my portable pole and show the gals a few moves…yummmy! Gotta go!

  260. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    I am off to class too GND…hope you have as much as I do!

    P.S. Our kickboxing class is called Foxy Boxing…now that’s a sb class!

  261. Katherine*305371 says:

    haha GND i would bet an SD would “sponsor” ya if he knew that’s what you were up to. *wink, wink* teehehee O:)

  262. Katherine*305371 says:

    haha pole dancing classes ARE amazing. GND take our word for it 😉
    I donno about you, SuzieQ, but I think it even boosts the confidence a bit. I love being able to do some of the things you see behind the scenes on TV shows and movies :p

  263. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Oh Suzie that would be awesome! I always wanted to go to one of those classes. Oh well, maybe one day I’ll get to go…

  264. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    Why don’t you come to my pole dancing class instead? Way more fun! *wink*

  265. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Hey SuzieQ, doing good. I’m going to a kickboxing class tonight, gotta work off this little tummy that seems to have appeared on me overnight. Argh! I hate gyms…

  266. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    Here’s a nugget I tell my adult dance students:

    Research tells us it takes an average adult 50 repetitions of a new activity (ie swimming, dancing, basketweaving) before we feel half way competent at it. So when they mess up their steps, I tell them don’t get all peeved, instead, they should be positive because now they only have 49 more times to go! In other words, every mistake brings them one step closer to getting it right.

    I’m applying that theory to finding my sd too…every creepy loser brings me one step closer to my real sd. Hurray!

  267. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    Hello sugar family, how is everyone today?

  268. Katherine*305371 says:

    yes. raine: RED. allll the way red for the first pic. It makes you stand out, I agree with GND.

    GND: thank you.

    wonder how tony’s doin with fixin up his profile.

    and the problem with viewing the profiles is all fixed. I kept looking at ones that were under approval or whatnot.. and it just happened to be like 5 in a row so I got all antsy.

  269. Katherine*305371 says:

    ah, now I might just watch it, raine :)

    &forever: well, there are certainly a share of non-ideal SDs on here, but as I’ve heard from most of the other people on the blog, it’s worth looking around & waiting to find the “kind, caring ones.”
    Such a bummer that you and I keep attracting the sex-crazed ones tho… what’s up with that? I mean.. eventually, maybe. But first meeting, I don’ think so! *shakes head* How frustrating. I’m excited to be meeting some good ones eventually!

  270. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Hmm Katherine that’s weird. Dunno what to tell you (about the profile viewing that is).

    Raine wear the red dress first. Red says I’m hot and sexy, rawr! lol

    And yeah Katherine just be patient, you’ll find a good guy sooner or later. Just don’t settle for less than what you deserve (oh lord I sound like my mother, lol). But yeah, a true SD will want to know about you as a person and not just be all about sex.

  271. foreversmiling says:

    Thanks for the welcome everybody!

    @Katherine, I’m still waiting to talk to someone on here who doesn’t expect to have sex with him on the first meet. I say it’s not happening, I get called a time waster, blah blah blah it’s so annoying. How come I don’t attract the kind, caring ones that want to get to know you lol?

  272. raine says:

    My bad, Katherine: the reference comes from a scene in the John Waters film “Female Trouble.” [you can also google/look it up on youtube.] I got weird jokes like that, dontcha know…

    My SD(s) has to occasionally think really hard outside the box *lol*.

  273. Katherine*305371 says:

    okay I’m literally having a problem. I can’t seem to view someone’s profile when I replace the numbers after the “id=”

    has anyone had this problem? what am i doing wrong?

  274. raine says:

    Gnd: *envious swoon* that’s what I’m talking about!

    [should I wear the blk dress or the red for the 1st pic? Hmm…]

  275. Katherine*305371 says:

    raine, what are you talking about with the cha-cha heels? I’ve seen that before but I don’t understand what it means.

    I think it’s awesome that she [GND] has three potentials. Finding an SD that’s right for you is totally worth shopping around first.

    and GND: I’m glad to hear that the sex hasn’t been a big part of the SD/SB relationship. I’ve started to wonder. Guess I’ll just keep looking and waiting for the ones who are at least willing to go at my pace.

  276. raine says:

    question: if I take a picture(or three) with my phone, can I upload them onto my profile with same? I think I can pull it off, but I just wanted to know if anyone has @ least attempted this.

  277. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Yeah well I’ve been on here since like December of last year. But I’ve had sex with one of my potentials although it wasn’t a big part of our conversations, nor is it still a big part. The other two are the same, it’s more of “let me find out more about you” than “so what’s your fav position”. Which I like a lot.

  278. raine says:

    Hi there foreversmiling! Don’t wanna leave you out 😉

    Gurlnextdoor: gadzooks, woman, you too with the three?! [Man, where are those blasted cha-cha heels?!]

  279. raine says:

    Hi again, sugar fans. I see we have a shiny new SBro in our midst [hi Tony, and welcome!]

  280. Katherine*305371 says:

    3potentials?? Damn girl. And you’re rather new, right? Atta-way!!! 😀
    But the arrogance thing…I hear ya. I’m in the stage of debating whether or not I’d wanna deal with that. This one SD has a lot to offer but he’s both very egotistical and quite the dominant one. Ugh.

    How often are these guys asking you about the sex and for it? Seems like it’s a deciding factor in some instances. I don’t like that. :(

    p.s. hi foreversmiling!

  281. SuthrnExec says:

    Welcome Foreversmiling – good to have you in the neighborhood!

  282. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Hello foreversmiling and welcome to the blog.

  283. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Katherine my search is going good. I’ve found 3 potential SDs, two of which are looking for something long term. The third I think is a bit too much into himself for my tastes though. I mean I like some arrogance but too much is a turn off. Then the other one seems to think I am heaven sent, lol. And then of course there is Superman, who seems to be perfect in every sense. So I’m still gunning for him. :)

  284. foreversmiling says:

    Don’t worry Katherine, I’m in the same boat–not a sugar mommy, just too curious for my own good lol. Sugarbaby here, nice to meet you all!

  285. Katherine*305371 says:

    I don’t get it!!! how come you guys can all see his profile?? I can’t see it :(
    Now I feel left out, lol. (just kidding)

    OC: how are you doing? Did you have gorgeous weather in CA this weekend? We had our first 60 degree weather of the year in MA yesterday and it ROCKED!

  286. OCSugarBaby says:

    Tony: I dont think you are doing anything wrong. Just keep searching. We have not seen a SM on the blog, at least not since last fall, as far as I know. I think the number of SM’s are even fewer than SD’s. But hopefully that will change with all the air time SA has been getting! Hang in there. :)

  287. OCSugarBaby says:

    Tony: Holy profile batman! If you ask us we will *look up* your profile and give you feedback. LOL :)

  288. Katherine*305371 says:

    Southern Exec: =) That’s all. lol
    GND: how is the search on your end going?

  289. SuthrnExec says:

    Tony, as you can see, you’ve come to the right place!

  290. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    Listen i want to to blog more with u all but i have to go to conditioning, but i’ll be back to blog asap. :) Thanks for the advice will chat more about it when i return. Tony

  291. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Yes I agree with Katherine. I mean your a hot guy (yep saw your pics), but you need to explain why you’d make a great Sugarboy (hmm is that the name?). You also need to explain more of what you’re looking for your ideal arrangement to be like. For instance do you mind travelling, are you looking to see your sugar mommy once a month, etc.?

  292. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    No u should be able to view it, maybe i should put them things in my profile??

  293. Katherine*305371 says:

    Tony, did you just update your profile again? I can’t see it, it’s like it’s getting approval?

    BUT. it might help to explain what kind of arrangement you’re looking for.. you’ve highlighted your qualities in your description, but you haven’t mentioned why a SM would be lucky to choose you as the S..Boy? lol Can you be discreet, do you understand the terms of NSA, etc.

  294. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:


    Age: 30; from Boca Raton, United States
    Profile created on January 2009
    Last Login on 16 March ’09 – 09:52 EDT
    About Me
    City / State:

    Boca Raton, Florida

    United States

    30 years old

    1.83 meters (6′ 0″)
    Body Type:

    Eye Color:

    Hair Color:



    Bachelors Degree

    Ex Athlete
    Marital Status:

    Smoking Habit:

    Drinking Habit:


    Good Company , Laughing, and Fun

    I enjoy cooking at home or dining out, jogging, cycling, partying, kids, comedy, sports events, movies, reading, love fireplaces, boating, animals, traveling, spending time in, long walks, playing volleyball, tennis, camping, I’m passionate, and drama free. P.S. Poly Sci Major
    Arrangement I am Seeking
    I’m Seeking:

    Sugar Mommy
    I Expect

    Open – Amount Negotiable

    Open and Fun

  295. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    What am i doing wrong? I get hit on all day long here in FL, but i cant get looked at on this site, i might be on hard times right now but I’m still one hell of a catch. Confused

  296. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Your welcome and you’ve come to the right place for advice. Now what kind of questions do you have?

  297. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    gurlnextdoor thanks :)

  298. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Hey Tony welcome to the blog.

  299. Tony: Profile Number 287167 says:

    I’m new to this scene and could use some advice. I’m a straight, 6’0 225llbs ex pro athlete who is very handsome, athletic, ripped, extremely smart, well spoken, funny and blessed (hint):). I fell on hard times about a year and half ago and joined this website with the hopes of finding someone, but to no avail. Please help, Chocolate!!!!

  300. Mia says:

    Maybe. I think more people would have definitely been drawn to watch had they been seduced by the idea instead of repulsed by it.

    If the SB hadn’t been done up as vapid, as you put it Atalanta, viewers would have def. thought of it differently.

  301. Atalanta says:

    Personally, I think this story could have sold more if it was done properly. It’s so biased when it doesn’t have to be.

  302. Mia says:

    Mmmmm, I saw this a few weeks ago as I was joining SA.

    I found it funny too in its abject negativity.

  303. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    I love how she said sugar babies are “giving up their self respect for the good life”. WTF? I have lots of self respect, enough to not settle for some guy who doesn’t know what it means to spoil and treat a lady like a lady. It’s segments like this that make me sick.

  304. Katherine*305371 says:

    agreed, Victoria & Raine. Wouldn’t more SD’s be nice…but only if they’re true SD’s..

  305. Victoria prof. no. 302242 says:

    I agree with Y&F, let people live their lives how they want. I’m new, but it’s not because of anything I saw on tv… I just felt like going in a new direction with my dating life. But, I do understand how things like this will increase membership… Hopefully, we’ll get more SDs as well as SBs! :-)

  306. SuthrnExec says:

    Just remember guys and gals, it’s all about telling the story that sells – it’s not about the real story or even the whole true story. Did you notice Diane Sawyer’s opening remarks, setting up the negativity before the reporter even began her story? Very subtle…

  307. Mina says:

    Even “bad” publicity is still publicity, lol.

  308. Atalanta says:

    Yeah, I remember this from a while back, but I concur with others in that the girl representing SBs was not shown in a positive light. Again, we are vapid girls who just want money for materialistic things.

    Is it impossible to find a sugar relationship where the SD mentors his SB? haha. News giants seem to think so. I think once they start interviewing “smarter” SBs (or stop editing interviews and B-roll to tell a certain, negative story) then sugar relationships won’t look that bad.

  309. raine says:

    I’m all for increased membership as a whole after these stories; I’m just keeping my ear to the ground for the SD stampede! :)

  310. SuthrnExec says:

    I think it originally aired on Jan 29.

  311. Angela300373 says:

    There’s no such thing as bad publicity! There’s no such thing as bad publicity!
    All the close minded people who don’t understand never will and any show on TV or news won’t change that! Likewise, all those who understand or participate in the lifestyle will not have their minds swayed by media.
    BTW: I have been posting but getting the moderated message how can I tell when it has passed approval (will the this is being moderated disappear? …And again, where are the rules for the blog so I can avoid being moderated.

  312. Gail says:

    Is this new? I saw it back in January. But my favorite part is definately Stephan….:)

  313. SuthrnExec says:

    Interesting segment – and again, thank you, Stephan, for being the most eloquent speaker in the segment! OC brings up a very good point in that most of the segments that are aired are strictly from the point-of-view of the SB that does appears to do nothing more than shop and travel – at least that “appears” to be all they do. I am sure that in most cases there is more to it than that, but the segments aren’t highlighting it – perhaps they know that the way it’s spun will create more controversy which translates into higher viewership which means more $$.

    I think more positive will come out of this than negative. There will be more people drawn to the web site (It would be interesting to see a plot of the membership numbers beginning the day any major network airs a segment on SD/SB lifestyle and then the next 5 days following). The increased media coverage will eventually bring the concept more acceptance and then they will focus on other issues that are on the “edge.”

  314. NC Gentleman says:

    I had to laugh at the segment but I agree with Nika — should bring even more SBs to the site! Not that the ratio isn’t already very favorable for SDs! Life is good!

  315. raine says:

    I presume you all may have seen this segment, as I myself am unable to do so (@ least right now).

    What gets me is that we’re almost always shown in the least favorable/most questionable light. Then again, this is the mainstream media we’re up against here…

  316. Nika/WildCat/302039 says:

    What’s funny is this will be another large group of possible babies to the front much like the Tyra show.

  317. Young&Fabulous!!! says:

    I wish people would leave the whole SD/SB world alone. If your an outsider you have no say so. You don’t know what it’s like so why judge? If someone’s happy let them be happy & let them live their OWN life. They automatically want to point out what they think is wrong & all that hooblah. LET iT G0!!!! The sugar world will never go away…It’s been here way too long to just disappear now 😉

  318. OCSugarBaby says:

    Stephan: You were eloquent and handsome as ever! What a great job promoting SA.
    The clip was interesting. I think the girl in the segment showed little direction in her life other than shopping and traveling. Maybe I missed her life direction? Modeling? If she was the typical SB example, she is only one side of the spectrum! It showed such a very small side.