9 years ago
Making Non-Sugars Sweet

9 years ago
Making Non-Sugars Sweet

While it may be ideal to find sugar online, there’s always a chance you might stumble upon a man or woman who you feel would make a great Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby outside of SeekingArrangement. Whether it’s in the mall, at the country club or even the dentist office, sometimes sugar finds you.

Sugar Conversion

If you find yourself wanting sugar from someone you meet offline, you might want to find out if your expectations jive with theirs. If you’re not upfront about the type of relationship you want in the beginning, you might be setting yourself up to be let down.

Have you ever sought a sugar arrangement with someone you met offline? If so, how did it go?

Would you give a non-sugar a chance to have a relationship with you? Would you show them SA?

Do you ‘normal date’ and seek arrangements at the same time?

986 Responses to “Making Non-Sugars Sweet”

  1. goodgirl says:

    well, i have 2 pot meetings coming up and i am sooo excited about both!! one is close to me so i’ll be able to see him often. the other is far, but he comes to my town about once a month, so we’ll see… i’m sure that with the one i’ll only see once a month, it will take quite some time before i’m comfortable enough to get too much into an intamate (i can’t, for the life of me, make that word look right!)relationship. but i am excited never the less.
    the one close to me has me a bit excited too! one of our friendly bloggers is going to introduce us (thank you scully!) i can’t wait for lunch friday! :)
    crap! what should i wear?!?!
    good night, sugar land! :)

  2. Jai says:

    Thanks gg!

  3. goodgirl says:

    come on over everyone!

  4. NYC SB says:

    im like the only one left… haha

  5. NYC SB says:

    im here still :)

  6. Stormcat says:

    NYCSB – You still here?

  7. lisa says:

    Hi everyone my sd just left. KInda odd night. He came in and said he had to talk to me. He gave me a check for 300 dollars which I will deposit tomorrow. Said he was having money troubles waiting for some payments to come in and then he would have more. It’s drawn on a credit union which is not in my city so I can’t go cash it, have to deposit it tomorrow an wait for it to clear. I so prefer cash. Anyway the evening went ok but I’m going to turn in now, very tired. Have a good night

  8. Trin says:

    Hi everyone! I imagine everyone is in bed. Thanks for the encouragement about my potential. :)

  9. Stormcat says:

    hey Renee have we met?

  10. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Good night Gail… nice choice of words… “pitch tents”… HA!

  11. Apple says:

    NYC SB, Gail – Ooh, I hear you… I am allllll about safety first, nearly to the point of paranoia! :) Thanks for looking out though, I appreciate it.

  12. Gail says:

    Good nite Sugars…..I am sleepy too. Sweet Sugar Dreams to All.

  13. Gail says:

    LOL @ Villa…..really….as much as you two banter back and forth…and how he proclaims his desires for you….I just think you don’t know it yet : ) Plus he’s never asked me to help pitch tents…..lol……

    Good attitude Silly…..Hit the NEXT button till you find the one : )

    NYC SB makes a good point, “SAFETY FIRST!!!”

  14. Renee says:

    Hi, Everyone – What was the chicken and tape incident? I would check through old blogs but there are too many

  15. SuthrnExec says:

    Me too Toronto – nite folks!

  16. Silly in Toronto #330786 says:

    that’s it for me.. night night

  17. Gail says:

    Apple….you would be amazed at what can transpire before actually meeting a SD in person. I have developed wonderful sugardaddie connections before meeting. To this very day I have SD friends for over 2 years, we have never seen, each other but talk weekly and maintain a great SD friend relationship. I also have SB friends that have traveled and enjoyed the benefits of Sugar for months before finally meeting : )
    It can happen… Sugar can have almost no limits.

  18. NYC SB says:

    haha i will host the party ๐Ÿ˜€

  19. NYC SB says:

    Apple… word of the wise about NYC sugar life… if you swim with the sharks you might get killed… just be very careful about everything…

  20. Silly in Toronto #330786 says:

    sounds like a blast ! my friend is in SD for the week.. wish I were there too ! maybe we can all meet up in NY ! i’ve never been.. could do a sugar party !

  21. Apple says:

    Silly – Hi! My flight is booked for June 20th :) I’ll only be in New York for 12 weeks though, then back to San Diego. I’ll miss the beaches over the summer for sure, but I’ll be in THE CITY! woohoo.

  22. Silly in Toronto #330786 says:

    Hi Gail.. yes, met 2 and not a fit but looking forward to a great day tomorrow !

    NY SB- yes, of course.. condoms for sure !! safety first ! I’m super paranoid about that !!

    Apple- when do you move ?

  23. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Gail… nitemare and I are NOT a couple… hahahahahaha!!!!!

    He won’t leave NY… he’s waiting for SB summer camp to start!

  24. SuthrnExec says:

    From what I gather we seem to be pushing the limits – we’re both new at this so we don’t know any better! I think I missed the chicken/tape incident.

  25. Apple says:

    And yes, I’m sort of new, I made a profile in the middle of May, lurked the blog for a good while, and started posting in the comments last week.

  26. Apple says:

    Gail – aww that’s cute. My sugarlife so far only exists in the virtual world. Lots of nice back-and-forths with potentials, but I can’t meet anyone until I move to NY for the summer.

  27. Gail says:

    Evening Silly,

    Did you have a sugar lunch date recently? How did it go?

  28. Gail says:

    I don’t think there has been very many long-term connections made on the blog. Yours may be the first. I remember one flirtatous couple ended up in a disaster…remember the chicken and tape incident? Or maybe some are just not telling.

  29. Silly in Toronto #330786 says:

    hi all ! well the stars must be lining up ! sounds like most of us had a good day ! hopefully they will line up for Lisa too !

  30. Gail says:

    Hi Apple,

    Tell us who has been shaking your SB Apple tree (smile)…..in other words how is your Sugarlife so far? You are new here right?

  31. SuthrnExec says:

    I am extremely fortunate, that’s for sure.

  32. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    hi Apple!

    LoL Gail… blue BERRY mojitos…. so yummy!

  33. Gail says:

    Awwww Suthrn…..you two are like two turtle doves……coo…coo…..(smile)

  34. Apple says:

    I hope Lisa’s night is going okay…

    Hi Gail, Suthrn, Villa! yay!

  35. Gail says:

    Goodnite Cyanie : ) Sweet SD dreams to you!

    Blue Mojitos…..isn’t that what the Smurfs drink when they are partying? LOL…..I can imagine you and AJ with blue lips : )

  36. SuthrnExec says:

    Things are going well – busy with work. No updates right now – just enjoying the sweetness of my sugary life right now ๐Ÿ˜‰

  37. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Gail – sugar SAGA is more like it! Hope she has a great time!!

  38. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    I’m fabulous, thanks! 8)

    Got to meet AJ last night, we had drinks and dinner in Minneapolis… was SO MUCH FUN!!!! Blueberry mojitos are YUMMY!

    hi Cyanide~

  39. Gail says:

    Greeting Suthrn and Villa : )

    So Suthrn whats been happening lately with you…any new updates, plans,

    Villa, I already received confirmation that she is safe so far…(smile)
    its funny I feel like I am waiting to read then next chapter of a sugar date.

  40. Cyanide says:

    Hello all…. nite all :)

  41. SuthrnExec says:

    VC – how the heck r u?

  42. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    hi Suthrn!

  43. SuthrnExec says:

    Me too Gail – good to see you.

  44. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hi Gail… ๐Ÿ˜‰

    the jet has landed!!!!

  45. Cyanide says:

    Hi NYC SB, how’s it going? :)

  46. NYC SB says:

    Poor Lisa… I dont really like this “SD”

  47. Cyanide says:

    Me too Apple! I edited my profile and the second I did, messages started trickling in! Lol. What’s your major?

  48. Apple says:

    *messages, oops.

    I’ve been thinking about upgrading to premium just to see who’s favorited me, lol.

    Oh! and about the blog topic —

    I don’t think I would be able to seek out a sugar relationship off-site, BUT. Since joining SA, when I’m out at Starbucks, or at the grocery store, etc… I always try to spot the men that could secretly be SDs. LOL, does anyone else do this?

  49. Apple says:

    Hi Cyanide! Nice to meet youuuu. I’m getting sleepy myself. If the blog stays this quiet, I’m going to take a nap before I get cracking on some studying.

    I edited my profile to add a note about when I’ll be in NY and it still hasn’t been approved yet so I can’t read my message or anything tonight. *pout*

  50. Cyanide says:

    Hi Apple :)

  51. Cyanide says:

    Lisa’s SD should be arriving any moment now :)

  52. Apple says:

    Good evening all, got my laptop back after class, HOORAY!

    Trin – Suthern said exactly what I was going to: those SBs are in the PAST. You are in the PRESENT, and hopefully the future! I’m sure he’ll fall under your charms easily enough.

    Lisa – sorry to hear that your night is off to a rocky start. maybe you can still squeeze in a quick power nap?

  53. Jai says:

    Positivity Lisa!!! Be positive. Put out into the universe what you wish to receive. :) Good thoughts coming your way.

  54. Cyanide says:

    Was just joking, hon. It’ll work out.

  55. lisa says:

    He didnt’ mention anything about bringing my allowance :( . Remember we are still justing trying things out , he is back to meeting others.

  56. Cyanide says:

    We don’t want him getting robbed…especially if thats your allowance :)

    Seriously though, talk to him about how this makes you feel. He might just be pretty absent-minded and doesn’t know this is how he’s coming across :(

  57. lisa says:

    then I have to worry when he leaves around midnight or so, that he will get robbed on the way across the parking lot to his car. If you want to park near my apartment, you gotta get in early as the parking lot is full by 8 or so and you have to park onthe other side of the complex

  58. Cyanide says:

    So sorry you’re going through this Lisa :(

    Blowing a kiss your way…

  59. lisa says:

    and I can barely keep my eyes open. My contacts are killing me. I need to take them out but i’m blind without them

  60. lisa says:

    If I have to tell him to do something, its useless, he should offer. I was looking forward to seeing him tonight but now i’m just pissed off at him. I’m not looking for a booty caller.

  61. Cyanide says:

    If he was the last caller, try *69 on your phone.
    That will give you the number of the last call that came through

  62. lisa says:

    I don’t have his cell number as I erased it from my phone because my daugher is always looking at my cell phone. I dont’ have caller Id on my home phone either

  63. lisa says:

    well i’ve decided i’m not in the mood anymore so he is going to have to wait longer for intimacy :( It’s been a very long day and i’m tired

  64. Cyanide says:

    Sorry, meant GG. LOL :)

  65. Cyanide says:

    BB, could you pick me up some strawberry ice cream please? :)

    Lisa, WE are hungry. Have him pick something up for you to eat…

  66. goodgirl says:

    Crud. Call him back and ask him to bring you something!!
    Hi Cyanide :)
    BBL~ going to the grocrey store. All this talk about feeding Lisa made me hungry!

  67. lisa says:

    ok my sd just called. He got off work, stopped to grab a bite to eat, went home and is getting ready to come over now, will be here around 8:30 :(

  68. Cyanide says:

    Hi GG!

  69. Cyanide says:

    Lol at strip poker :)

    He really should feed you though.

  70. goodgirl says:

    i don’t even know how to play poker, and would probably never play ‘strip’ anything. Probably. :)

  71. goodgirl says:

    I was teasing, silly girl. I do hope he calls soon! ๐Ÿ˜€

  72. lisa says:

    I don’t have any cards and not looking to play strip poker

    someone keeps calling and hanging up on my answering machine. Darn collection agencies calling when i’m waiting for a call.

  73. goodgirl says:

    Lisa~ i’m with Gail. Tell him you’re hungry! …i guess if you don’t you’ll just have to BE hungry! he sounds like a nice guy. If you say ‘I would really love to go eat, wouldn’t you?’ He’ll probably say yes. :)
    Otherwise, my advice would be to break out the cards. Strip poker time! ๐Ÿ˜‰ lol

  74. lisa says:

    I dont’ know as he’s doing that running late thing again. Last week he kept delaying and instead of coming at 5:30 he got here at 9 pm. He is supposed to be here in 15 minutes but if he calls right now, it won’t be till after 8. He seems to wait till it’s time for him to be here and then he calls and says he’s just leaving the house.

  75. Cyanide says:

    Bye Red!
    Just see how it goes when he gets there. You never know, you might have an awesome time :)

  76. lisa says:

    Have a good evening RedMaru

  77. lisa says:

    I dont’have my computer on when he’s here as I don’t want him to know i’m discussing him, lol

  78. RedMaru says:

    Alright sugars I’m out to drag myself to the gym
    lisa got my fingers crossed for you I’m sure it’ll go great!
    Have a great evening sugar family!

  79. lisa says:

    I’m afraid I’m much too tired and hungry to be much of a host too, I was feeling all warm and everything on monday when I was off work and rested but he didnt’ want to come over then because I had to get up early to work the next morning.

  80. lisa says:

    well I can tell already that’s he going to be late again. He said he’d call when he left and since it takes 45 minutes to get here it’s obvious he won’t be here at 7:30. He has probably already ate as like last week, he didint’ offer to take me to dinner. We just sat and talked and watched tv and he tried getting friendly but it was that “time” so i had to avoid it so I didnt’ have to bring it up. I feel like i’m on a first date, but before it just happened, of course we had went out someplace to eat first or something.

  81. Cyanide says:

    Hi Jai and Red!

    Lisa, when he’s not looking, sneak in here and drop little tidbits of what’s going on… :) Lets live vicariously through Lisa!

  82. Jai says:

    Hi Cyanide

    Lisa, just go with the flow. Don’t force anything unless you want to and you’re feeling overwhelmed with thanksgiving ๐Ÿ˜‰ if that’s the case, be the woman you are and show your SD a wonderful evening.

  83. RedMaru says:

    Hey Cyanide(waving wildly)
    lisa – before he comes over take a deep breath exhale…you got this
    better than you think and everything is going to be fine. I would say go out to eat he should have no problem with it

  84. Jai says:

    Maru, that brain genie worked some magic on me! ๐Ÿ˜›

    Hey Gail! Good to see you too!

    Aw lisa, that is terrible :) Hopefully your SD will blow your mind with a great time and you’ll forget you’re tired.

  85. Cyanide says:

    :) Wish I could help you Lisa. I do wish you good luck though, and hope you enjoy the evening.

  86. lisa says:

    Help how should this evening go with my sd, please give me some advice on what to do when he comes over, I would know to do flow into things if we were going out and then coming back here but him just coming over, I don’t want it to be a crude evening, lol

  87. Cyanide says:

    Hi everyone. Just checking in… :)

  88. RedMaru says:

    Hey jai How was the brain masseuse I sent ya? ๐Ÿ˜€

  89. Gail says:

    Why change the topic…..I haven’t responded yet : )
    Hi Jai!!!!! Nice to see you!!!!

    Have you ever sought a sugar arrangement with someone you met offline? If so, how did it go? I have never sought sugar arrangement offline. I am kind of shy….unless I a couple of drinks in my system: )

    Would you give a non-sugar a chance to have a relationship with you? Would you show them SA? Absolutely…..I probably would not share until after we are married. Sometimes, it’s best to keep it a secret.

    Do you โ€˜normal dateโ€™ and seek arrangements at the same time? lol…
    I will never tell…..that’s one of the things about Sugar Dating….no one needs to know it all…..

  90. lisa says:

    Maybe a pigeon or a squirel, lol

    I just had one of those nights I couldn’t sleep. Been tired all day and now I’m waiting for my sd to come over. I wish he would have came a little earlier.

  91. Jai says:

    Why didn’t you sleep well last night lisa? I give up sending you mail lady, I’ll send a pigeon or a fox with a note strapped to it’s back next time ๐Ÿ˜›

    Hi Gail and Maru :)

  92. lisa says:

    Hi Jai still no email from you.
    I’m trying to stay awake. i didn’t sleep well last night

  93. Gail says:

    LOL…..Lisa you are such a worrywart….If it was me, I have no problem when he knocks on the door, having my purse ready, and saying, “Let’s go get something to eat before I die.” but that’s just me.

  94. Jai says:

    Evening all :)

    How is everyone?

  95. RedMaru says:

    Thanks Gail ๐Ÿ˜€

  96. RedMaru says:

    Wow…the blog has grown
    we really need a new topic soon. Any suggestions anybody?

  97. Gail says:

    He hasn’t found you yet Red…..watch a couple months from now, you will have no time to blog…that’s because your sugar life will have you flying high.

    By the way….I believe I saw AJ waving at me from the window seat of a huge jumbo jet. She flew over so quickly…..I could understand what she was saying…..I hope she landed safely…..Ahhhhhh just gotta love the sugar in the air!!!

  98. lisa says:

    Thanks RedMaru

  99. lisa says:

    plus he’s old enough to be my daddy, lol

  100. lisa says:

    Hi Gail I can’t help but be nervous. I would so much more prefer if he came and picked me up, we went and had some dinner and then came back to may place. Him just coming over here like he did last week just makes me feel like I don’t know what to do. I dont’ have any food in the house to cook. I dont’ really buy groceries. Not much to do here and although I know I need to be intimate with him, it just seems kinda funny for him to come over and for us to just do that. Kinda cut and dry. I mean his hasn’t mentioned anything about it and has been a complete gentleman but I know he wants to but how should I go about this evening with him?

  101. RedMaru says:

    Hey Gail! Sadly I have none yet…(pushes bottom lip out) I don’t think any of the SD’s where I live like me. Plenty o hits to my profile but no bites only one response from an out of state that I hoped to be a potential but then no more communication after a few emails

  102. RedMaru says:

    I just read the previous posts sorry I’m late but rooting for a speedy recovery for your dad and good luck with your SD date. I’m sure you’ll wow him ๐Ÿ˜€

  103. Gail says:

    Evening Red Maru…..we were waiting for you to share your sugar experiences…(smile)

    Hi Princess Lisa….I will see him at 7:30 if you are not feeling well…(smile again,,,kidding) RSF is right……your SD may be still looking…but based on what you share with us, he chooses to see you. Energize and put that pretty smile on your face!!!

  104. lisa says:

    Good evening RedMaru waiting for my sd to come over later this evening

    feeling really dizzy though

  105. RedMaru says:

    Finally got a free moment…..
    Hey everybody what did I miss?

  106. lisa says:

    I just talked to my family. The surgery went well but he has to wear a patch for a week which means he won’t be able to get out much because he’s elderly and has a tendency to fall and break bones, having half his sight means he has to be careful.

    I am working on finding a second one if I need to but i’d prefer just this one but he has met so many potentials and as a guy he can chose. He did give me my entire allowance for may so I just presumed he had picked me but it’s still up in the air.

  107. NYC SB says:

    lisa – hope all went well with your dad! I also hope that a new and amazing SD comes your way… this way you can have 2 ๐Ÿ˜€

  108. NYC SB says:

    silly – oh my! let me stress this for you… i dont want to sound like a mom but in an NSA relationship you make sure you use condoms… for a while… a long while… and get tested … there are a lot of things out there… its not worth to play with your health like that…

  109. lisa says:

    Rancho he really hasn’t chosen me yet. When I met him and he hid his profile I also hid mine, he said that wasn’t necessary because the jury was still out. Well he cancelled 3 dates over 2 weeks with me and unhid his profile and is on the site everyday. He broke off with me but decided to give me another try so I haven’t got him yet.

  110. lisa says:

    I’m having some coffee now but it really doesn’t help me much. I’m waiting to hear from my parents about my dad’s surgery. they had their cell off all day so I couldn’t reach them. So I can’t lay down as they should be on the bus home now.

    I just wish he’d come ealier so we could go for dinner as i’m starved. We could go out and have some dinner and still come back here and have some quality time together and he could be going home before its really late. I haven’t told him that it’s dangerous here so I worry about him walking across the parking lot to his car at midnight. I am giving him the benefit of the doubt that he is trying to keep in a situation hoping that I will be intimate with him but it would still be nice to have some dinner first. I was going to buy something but I really can’t afford to buy anything as it’s cheaper for me to just grab a dollar burger than to go out and buy a bunch of stuff to cook.

  111. Silly in Toronto #330786 says:

    hi all.. NYC Gent…. that’s the kind of arrangement I’d like as well.. monogomous.. condoms no fun !! lol

    still no luck here

  112. Rancho Sante Fe SB says:

    Really? I am amazed. I also believe that some posters may lack knowledge of proper blog etiquette or as Suthurn suggested don’t know how to tell when they get e-mail. It’s truly distracting. Sorry to say, kind
    of like passing notes back and forth to each other and everybody sees it.

    I like what you have to say SF SD and Suthrn Exec. Each Sugar relation-
    ship is different. The key is COMMUNICATION between the SD and SB.
    I appreciate knowing what is expected from my SD, and in turn he knows what I want. It makes the sugar all the more sweeter.

    Lisa, sometimes we do things that we do not like. Your SD sounds like a gem. There are many SBs that would love to see your SD @ 7:30. He chose you. Hello.

  113. SuthrnExec says:

    If you want to make the phone ring, go lie down and take a nap. Otherwise, you’ll never hear from him! lol

    Lisa dear, I’m sure everything will go well tonight – probably so well you won’t mind staying up late. And if he doesn’t treat you right you let us know and we’ll go kick his ass!

  114. NYC SB says:

    cup of coffee maybe?

  115. lisa says:

    I can’t just fall asleep and besides my family will be calling any moment. My dad had lasar eye surgery today and they should be getting home any moment, the phone will be ringing.

  116. NYC SB says:

    i agree with southern…

  117. SuthrnExec says:


  118. lisa says:

    well we did meet for lunch on our first date and dinner on our second but when he came last week he changed from coming at 5:30 to coming at 9 pm so I did go without dinner. I told him i’m free after 5:30 today but he isn’t coming till 7;30. He hates driving during rush hour. I got up early today and worked very hard and am sleepy already. I wanted to see him last monday when I was off and rested or tomorrow when i’m off but since I have to get up early to work the next day he picked tonight. He has a flexible work schedule and doesn’t have to get up early like I do.

  119. NYC SB says:

    Lisa… I feel you on the staying up late thing… have you voiced your concern to your SD regarding this issue? I really really really hope he either takes you out or at least brings you some food… part of this arrangement business is you being treated to restaurants you may not be able to go to normally…

  120. SuthrnExec says:

    Great feedback Rancho! I was beginning to wonder if I was the only one that knew how to tell when I got a new email! LOL

    Trin, don’t be nervous – there’s a reason why the SBs are in his PAST. You be your unique self and that will be fine. If you’re you and he’s not impressed by that, then it’s best not to move it forward anyway. No doubt he will be favorably impressed!

  121. Jai says:

    lol i spelled because wrong. Sorry

  122. lisa says:

    Hi everyone Back from work. My sd emailed me and is coming over at 7:30. I wish he’d come earlier so we could go somewhere. I’m way too tired though having trouble staying awake right now, kinda dizzy. I wish we could have got together on my day off tomorrow when i’m rested but he never wants to get together when I have to work the next day as he wants me to stay up late. Just because i’m off tomorrow doesn’t mean I will stay up late tonight as i’m exhausted and have been up since 6 so i’ll start getting sleepy around 10 regardless of if i’m off tomorrow.

  123. Jai says:

    Hi RSFSB :) I think most of the people who post ‘you’ve got mail’ have the email addresses and are just notifying the person they have mail in their email inbox. I think this is done becase it’s easy to become so interested in the blog that we don’t check our emails :) I don’t think it is the intent of any one here to cause issues for fellow sugars ๐Ÿ˜€ Just here to enjoy and share in each others experiences.

  124. SF SD says:

    Okay, I guess I’ll post something on topic.

    I found my original SB in the relationships section of the back pages, just before they declined and the web really kicked in. I don’t date or spend much time in bars, but these days I am more outgoing with women and would be much more likely to respond to a random a cue from a non-sugar.

    I’m with JQ on the general idea that the SD/SB relationships are NSA. These arrangements are not forever, and all of us are shopping here. But everyone’s situation is a little different, so it’s better to communicate before you assume.

    I recently took down my ad, but told my SB that I didn’t mind if she continued to logon. I figured that unless we agreed on an exclusive there was no point in having her feel guilty about it.

    I think NYC mentioned that she’s holding the line because of the level of support she’s receiving. And, NC, I certainly understand your situation. It’s one that I wouldn’t mind giving a try someday, if the circumstances are right.

    Good luck with all your potentials, ladies. :-)

  125. Rancho Sante Fe SB says:

    I wanted to take the time to voice my opinion. I have been here for quite awhile. I find this blog to be very informative and a wonderful source to learn from others experiences.

    But, I am starting to wonder if this blog has turned into personal mailboxes? For those of you that post “you have mail” or “check your mailbox” repeatedly each day, would it be too much to ask that you exchange e-mails. Stephen will be more than happy to assist you with this.

    I really appreciate your efforts, as I really would like to read more about experiences and ways to deal with sugar life. Reading through all the other stuff takes away from the topic and our opportunity to learn. Thank you!

  126. Trin says:

    Hi Apple,

    We are nailing down a date/time but I am nervous since he has had some SB’s in the past. Always worry that I have to compete against the past!


  127. Jai says:

    hey all, in class. What’s up?

  128. Apple says:

    Hello all! This not having a laptop issue is KILLING ME!!! In the middle of finals too, whew.

    It’s so frustrating to not be able to meet any of my potential SD’s until I actually get into the city.

    Trin – ooh, how exciting! Are you guys meeting for lunch or dinner? fingers crossed!

  129. SuthrnExec says:

    JohnQ, good points. I would emphasize though that instead of advising people to “get over it”, have a discussion about it with your SD or SB. Aside from the fact that there are so many other issues that can be resolved with clear, open and honest communication (yes, I really am a man), this one should be dealt with head-on as well. I think by just “getting over it” you are assuming a bit about what the other person is thinking and it never hurts – and always helps – to discuss these issues.

  130. Trin says:

    I am hopefully meeting a potential early next week. I am a little nervous.

  131. goodgirl says:

    don’t think it is… would it say on his profile? lol! this guy doesn’t say anything about exotic locations :)

  132. NYC SB says:

    GG – hopefully its not explorer!

    everyone is quiet today!

  133. goodgirl says:

    hello :) i’m here! (been in lurk mode today)
    fyi~ my finger is a 5 ๐Ÿ˜‰
    i got messaged by a pot, again. we had been mailing back and forth a month ago. i thought he poofed. turns out he was ‘busy’ (ok.) he’ll be in my area in 2 weeks, so we’re going to lunch. lol!

  134. Trin says:

    Where did everyone go???? Heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeellllllllllllllllllllloooooooo!

  135. Panther SD says:

    Raine ~ What size ring would that take? :)

  136. Panther SD says:

    Raine ~ What size ring would that take? :)

  137. NC Gent says:

    I had a 2.5 year sugar relationship, and we were sexually monogamous – we were both only having sex with each other. The main reason was that we both preferred sex without condoms. We both got tested a few times in the relationship. I guess we both demanded it but it also something we both wanted. Once again, every sugar relationship is different.

  138. raine says:

    Hi all. Let me see if I got this right: some sugars expect monogamy in this type of relationship? Really?…

    *snort* *guffaw*

    I might as well get this out now, since the other cats are out of the bag: uh, sir, you won’t be the only one, so unless you produce a ring (whoops, almost forgot: as my SD you’re to keep your emotions in check AT ALL TIMES) monogamy is SO not an option!
    Competition be damned, I will more than likely continue looking (I suspect he’ll be doing the same *shrug*).

  139. Sweet says:

    I agree NYC..I’ve been in situations where the SD demands monogamy on my part only with the option for him to continue to roam..also been in a situation where when I asked for it he said he wished me all the best in finding an SD that would provide that..at the end of the day what matters is that both individuals are honest about their expectations from the beginning

  140. NYC SB says:

    I agree with JQ… SHOCKER!

    Sweet- while you have a point there many SDs will say that they want monogamy with the option to end things whenever… if that is SF’s agreement than I would be upset to find them looking… if not however all bets are off the table

  141. RedMaru says:

    Hey johnq
    I agree with the postings so I won’t repeat what was said.
    Hey Panther mail right back at ya

  142. Sweet says:

    Agree with u 100% JQ..not sure why SB’s expect their SD’s to stop looking considering what type of arrangements they are in..I believe the option to continue looking is part of what defines an NSA relationship..others may certainly disagree but be forewarned SB that if you go down the path of asking him for monogamy, very likely chance you will find yourself right back on SA SD-less

  143. johnq says:

    Relationships are inherently complicated and unique, and everyone here presumably approaches this thing in an individual fashion. Nevertheless, it seems to me that, absent an understanding to the contrary, “NSA” implies non-monogamous, and also implies that the relationship may end at any time and for any reason, including that one party or the other has found someone they’re more interested in. Thus, I don’t believe an SB should assume that her SD is going to stop looking around, nor should she assume that he’s necessarily going to have only one relationship at a time. (This applies equally well to SBs.) Again, this presumes that the parties involved have not reached some different understanding.

    If an SD or an SB chooses to stop looking elsewhere, as some on this site have done, that’s a great thing for him or her, since it presumably means that he or she is satisfied with the relationship. If either party expects the other to do so, however, that begins to transform an NSA relationship into one involving strings. That may or may not be what each party wants, but it shouldn’t be expected absent a discussion. At least in my opinion.

    There are a lot of reasons why SDs (or SBs) may leave their profile up and continue to log onto the site, but one likely reason is that he or she is continuing to look around. For anyone concerned about this, my advice would be (a) get over it, and recognize that you’re in an NSA relationship and have no expectation of monogamy, or (b) talk to the other person about your expectations. Recognize, however, that if you go down path (b), the other person may conclude that avoiding such entanglements is the main reason he or she is on this site in the first place and end the relationship. Or possibly the relationship will move to another level. But at least the expectations of the parties will be aligned.


  144. Trin says:

    I am surprised at the lack of SD’s in my area as well. I see so many in LA, NY, etc…

  145. Panther SD says:

    Trin ~

    The sheer amount of SBs out there is mind-bogling. Reading through their profiles and emails could easily be a full time job. I personally don’t like continually searching and sifting through emails. Since i live in a small market I don’t have to deal with the large volumes like those SDs living in NY, Chicago and Los Angeles. But there are time i wish i had more options since very few SBs appear to live in my city.

  146. Panther SD says:

    RedMaru ~

    EMail & VMail back at you.

  147. Trin says:

    It doesn’t bother me if they log on or not. How long do SD/SB relationships last? 6 months? a year? Curious if they move on since there are so many options with how many SB’s there are out there…

  148. Panther SD says:

    It takes a while to wade through emails and personalities to find what you want. It really takes a while to wade through emails can coversations with SBs to get an understanding of what they REALLY want.

    Since everyone thinks differently it’s always a roll of the dice.

  149. DC says:

    Mornin’ sugars-

    Southern Exec- well said.

    I think what you wrote applies for this site and any other site. If someone is happy and content in their relationship, whether it be a sugar one or more conventional one they tend to not look have wandering eyes.

    The difference here is that at this site, the sugar daddys are the ones who can sit back and let the sugar babys come to them where at conventional sites it’s usually the men who have to do all the pursuing. For the most part, at least initially, they are like kids in a candy store

    So I think new sugar daddys are just overwhelmed by all the prospects and maybe not quite ready to decide on just one.

    When I meet someone at a regular dating site that I like and am attracted to I always hide my profile and I will do that here as well.

    Of course there are players at every site who have that “shiny ball” syndrome going on and are always looking for something better. They are usually easy to weed out

  150. RedMaru says:

    Very true NC Gent
    Panther if you’re still here mail back at ya

  151. Jai says:

    Morning all :)

  152. Panther SD says:

    Red ~ Mail back at you.

  153. NC Gent says:

    Thanks Red Maru — hugs!

    I concur with what SE said on SFs question — he is wise. I was never on the prowl for another SB when I was happy with my current SB. Your SD may be uncertain about how you feel about him also — it took me a few months to stop looking after I had my first — wanted to make sure things worked out. I have come to accept that most SB/SD relationships are tenuous at best. I think the monetary part puts another level of stress on a relationship. Also, this may seem cold, but if someone is paying/purchasing something, it is human nature to always shop for the best deal ๐Ÿ˜

  154. RedMaru says:

    Well said SuthernExec always good to here from SD point of view on these questions.
    Hey Panther if you’re lurking in the shadows, you have mail

  155. SuthrnExec says:

    Morning all!

    SFsuga, I wanted to respond to the question you posed, “Are SDโ€™s ever satisfied, or are they always looking?” Ultimately, of course, it depends on the SD. I keep my profile hidden because I am absolutely satisfied with my situation and I donโ€™t want to deal with the email โ€“ not that I got tons of it, but I do respond to each one but because of my situation, Iโ€™d just as soon not deal with the email.

    There are some that are probably never satisfied and the mindset of “the grass is always greener…” pretty much governs their life – which is unfortunate because until they can get a handle on that, they can never be content with hardly anything. Sadly, this kind of attitude is really an excuse for someone not to move forward โ€“ although they would argue that they are always trying to โ€œimprove their situation,โ€ what they are doing is trying to โ€œimprove their situationโ€ without improving themselves โ€“ and until we start with ourselves, we really canโ€™t improve our situation and we likely wonโ€™t ever be content. Ms Bombeck was right when she said, “The grass is always greener over the septic tank.โ€

    Sorry to get on a soapbox but that attitude is one of my hot buttons! (can you tell) Now, having lectured on that, I will suggest that there are several other reasons why your SDs might be logging in everyday. They may not want to hide their profile right now because maybe they are not convinced of how good they have it with you as an SB. This realization may come in time. Maybe they donโ€™t know they can hide their profile. Kinda hard to believe but Iโ€™m sure it can happen. Maybe they enjoy getting the email from pot SBs โ€“ it feeds the ego. Also, if your relationship with them is truly a NSA relationship, they probably donโ€™t think it would bother you โ€“ or they probably arenโ€™t thinking about it at all!

    Donโ€™t know if this helps any at all, but thought Iโ€™d give you a SDโ€™s perspective on your question.

  156. RedMaru says:

    Hey SuthrnExec ๐Ÿ˜€ and NC Gent ๐Ÿ˜€
    NC Gent ๐Ÿ˜€ Crossing my fingers for you that it goes well.

  157. RedMaru says:

    Hey Cyanide ๐Ÿ˜€ goodgirl ๐Ÿ˜€ and Panther ๐Ÿ˜€
    It’s drizzling here in GA which is good in a way cause yesterday it was 90

  158. goodgirl says:

    hello everybody!!! :)
    i just got done talkin to scully ๐Ÿ˜‰ (hey girl!) i can’t wait for lunch next week!
    it’s gonna be a bright, bright sunshiny day!!

  159. Cyanide says:

    Good morning WOS (World of Sugar) :)

  160. Panther SD says:

    good morning all. A little cool here today, but sunny.

  161. SuthrnExec says:

    Hey Gail – missing you too dear!

  162. NYC SB says:

    SF – dont worry about them logging in… remember that this is an NSA relationship and enjoy it while it lasts ๐Ÿ˜€

  163. NC Gent says:

    Hey Gail – I will email you the gas station address – nice to see you again.

    Too funny SE — I actually joked with her yesterday that I wasn’t going to get any tats or body piercings for her — she has a tattoo on her shoulder that I am not too crazy about but she is super cute so I over looked it lol I’ve compromised myself!

  164. Gail says:

    LOL @ Suthrn…..Morning Suthrn……there you are….been missing you too lately….

  165. SuthrnExec says:

    You didn’t offer to get a tat and pierce a few choice body parts?? LOL

  166. Gail says:

    Morning Sugars!!!!

    NC…..you did you offer to pump her gas? lol…..darn it….I have to find the gas station to that you are hanging out at…it maybe a SD hotspot : ) Nice to see you here this morning….I have missed you posting.

    Pretty deep thoughts Stormcat. For me….I just like to enjoy what life has to offer me. Lately its been apples and oranges….no hot fudge sundaes : )

    Jai-Missed you too….we have to catch up!!!

    SFsugga- You are lucky to have found two!!!! It’s better to not worry about them logging in…..you will get a headache : ).and I would just diversify at different place.

    Going to work….some SBs do work ya know….Happy Day to All!!!

  167. NC Gent says:

    Well – I just struck up a conversation with her — you know, the hi how are you… starting talking a little bit more… she revealed she wasn’t doing too well… stressed about separation, finances, etc. so when convo started to end because finished pumping gas. I gave her my business card… she said that she thought I was handsome but I wasn’t really her type because she goes for more of the “bad boy” type. So I said – no problem but when you get tired of the bad boys treating you like crap get in touch… I thought I would never hear from her again but I got an email – we shall see how it goes..

  168. SuthrnExec says:

    NC, exactly how did that conversation go?

  169. NC Gent says:

    Hello all – been pretty busy at work and laying low. I hope all are well.

    I thought the topic was interesting and timely. I actually met a potential SB at a gas station this past weekend – yes a gas station while we were both pumping gas I struck up a conversation with her… gave her my business card, and she emailed me a few days later…. we shall see how it goes but we are having our first “date” next Friday. She is 31, recently separated, and needs some modest support.

  170. SuthrnExec says:

    Good morning everyone.

    Stormcat, I think you’re pretty accurate in your description of the common thread. Safe travels!

  171. RedMaru says:

    Morning sugars(yawn)
    My neck and my head is hurting today……thats not a good combination
    I missed lisa and Stormcat awwww but I like what he said.

  172. Stormcat says:

    Good morning y’all
    I’m on my way upstate today so I’ll miss the morning’s discussion. But for a while now, Iโ€™ve been thinking to define the common thread that binds us here together as a unique group in societal terms. I know that itโ€™s not just the type of relationship(s) that we are seeking. Those are so varied and individual as to defy categorization. I think it is a more general need that we each acknowledge in our terminology โ€œno dramaโ€ and โ€œno strings attached.โ€ However much we each like or dislike those constraints.
    If I can trust the fact that my lover loves me unconditionally, โ€œno strings attached,โ€ I donโ€™t need to look outside for affirmation. In that circumstance Iโ€™m able to reach out and commune with that same love existing in all others. Itโ€™s when this trust weakens that I begin to fall prey to the thinking that I am no longer lovable as is and need to earn the love that others offer. Without the unconditional acceptance inherent in that trust I experience a barrier to all the rest.
    The act of giving sugar is not compelled by the act of having received or the prospect of receiving sugar, nor is quantity or quality compared, rather the giving is solely motivated by the altruistic nature of the love trust. The thread that binds us here is the honest active search for that love trust.

  173. lisa says:

    Good morning everyone Getting ready to go to work. Looking forward to my sugardate this evening too.
    Have a great day everyone

  174. SFsuga says:

    I honestly don’t think I can handle anymore than two SD’s, but if things start to fade then I will un-hide my profile.

  175. SFsuga says:

    I’m concerned because I feel that I have found two perfect SD’s for me. I removed my profile from public view, but I log on once in a while to participate in the blog.

    Are SD’s ever satisfied, or are they always looking? I’m worried that mine are not satisfied with me because they still log on everyday. Gosh, I must really like them if I’m getting so stressed about this.

  176. SFsuga says:

    Q: Do you all (or would you) remove your profile after you have found the perfect SB or SD?

  177. Jai says:

    Sorry gg I was working on stuff for lab :) hope you’re sleeping well. I’m so addicted to the blog I’m in bed on my phone lol

    Gail! I hate I missed you. ๐Ÿ˜€ we need to catch up.

    If I mispelled things, please forgive me. Typing on a phone using a stylus is difficult.

  178. goodgirl says:

    JAI!!! where are you?!? :) you’ve got mail ๐Ÿ˜€

  179. goodgirl says:

    oh. :) sweet sugary dreams everyone! meet ya for coffee in the am.

  180. goodgirl says:

    Good night all! I was gonna say hello, but i just got done catching up and i’m sleepy.
    SF~ I knew it ๐Ÿ˜‰ …now, where’s my ice cream cone? lol!
    Stephan~ *hug* thanks!

  181. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Ummmmmmmmm… SF SD…. i do NOT invite people to the MN state fair… ugh!

  182. Silly in Toronto #330786 says:

    EXCELLENT Stephan !!

  183. SF SD says:

    BTW, goodgirl, the deportment thing WAS a compliment. Thanks for taking it in stride. Miss Primm would be proud! ๐Ÿ˜‰

    G’nite, all.

  184. Trin says:

    Thanks Stephan! Yippee!

  185. lisa says:

    no Jai as long as you don’t want to meet immediately, you’re safe. My emails from the site come to a different email address.

    I’ve got to get to bed soon and get up early tomorrow to go to work.

    Good night everyone

  186. SF SD says:

    Wow! The link to the wish list blog is up already! Haven’t been through it all yet, but liked Suthrn’s comment about getting an idea from a past conversation. Trying to replay a few of those now. :-)

    So, yes, DC, we have met and are still at the stage where everything is being discovered. Part of the reason for my brain freeze, I guess.

    OC, we are all new to this at some time or other. Agree that virgin SDs can work out fine, once the sincere have been sorted from the shysters and the wannabes.

    My observation would be that each arrangement has been different. Applying the assumptions from a previous arrangement can take you only so far. There may be some awkward moments, but a honesty and a certain amount of flexibility can make up for lack of experience on either side. Just my $0.02.

  187. Jai says:

    Just making sure you’re not getting my emails and immediately pressing ‘delete’ :)

  188. lisa says:

    I haven’t had any email in that box since i’ve been home.

  189. lisa says:

    jai I still havent received the email Isent myself, my box must be down

  190. Jai says:

    Oh ok, so you’re not just ignoring me lol ๐Ÿ˜›

  191. Trin says:

    So I have a pot but he has had four SB’s in the past. I am nervous that I will be compared and don’t have what it takes…hmmmmm….

  192. lisa says:

    jai there must be something wrong with my mailbox as I just sent myself an email to that adress and it doesn’t show up. I have problems from time to time with it being delayed.

  193. lisa says:

    Jai are you sure your emailing me at kittykatcalvin a the y place? My inbox is empty :(

  194. lisa says:

    I need to check my email,hold on a moment

  195. Jai says:

    Guess I should go work on my lab notes for tomorrow.

    Lisa, I keep emailing you and you haven’t emailed me back :( What do I have to do to gain your favor and get an email back? ๐Ÿ˜›

  196. lisa says:

    Good night DC

  197. DC says:

    Okay, I’m off to share some dinner and a bottle of wine with a friend. Have a great night everyone!

  198. Jai says:

    Darn. Hopefully you guys will be able to coordinate better down the line. You’re sacrificing sleep, he may have to sit in traffic a few times :)

    DC-I don’t know if I should email you or tell you here lol check your email later if you’re not still entertaining :)

  199. lisa says:

    I just gotta think of an alibi because my family will be ringing my phone off the wall in the evening, especially since my dad is having outpatient eye surgery in the morning and they’ll be getting home around the time I do so they’ll be calling.

  200. lisa says:

    well my lover is 57, my ex boyfriend also 57, this guy is 63. I told him he could come by after 5:30 as I need to get home, shower, clean up and get myself looking decent. But he won’t come at that time because of trafic, probably around or so. He prefers to come on the nights before my day off so I can stay up late, thing is after getting up at 6 am and working hard all day, I’m getting sleepy by 10 so I don’t really feel like staying up late. I’d rather do something on my day off but he won’t come over earlier because of traffic.

  201. Jai says:

    I have a thing for older men lol but I’d never been with a man this much older than me before now. What time’s your sd coming by Lisa?

  202. DC says:


    I usually date men about 5 years younger then me but I was with a man once who was about 65. It was a different experience. Nice though.

  203. lisa says:

    I have never been with anyone old enough to be my father, lol oh duh, I guess that’s what a sd is, duh lol My last sd was younger than me

  204. Jai says:

    Understandable Lisa :)

  205. Jai says:

    Bye OC :)

  206. lisa says:

    Good night OC nice to see you on the blog :)

    Jai I do want to move to the next level and I do need my allowance for June so I have to show that I have something to offer too

  207. OCSugarbaby says:

    Hi Suthrn! ๐Ÿ˜‰
    I am here, but sadly need to go….. Later Sugars!

  208. Jai says:

    Evening Suthrn :)

  209. Jai says:

    Lisa-Owe just seems like a strange term for your end lol I hope you actually want to move to the next level. :)

  210. SuthrnExec says:

    Hey OC! ๐Ÿ˜‰ Didn’t know you were still here.

  211. SuthrnExec says:

    Good evening everyone…

  212. OCSugarbaby says:

    Stephan- Can you book mark that Wish List Blog topic under SF SD’s post? That way we can all go back and find it! Thanks! :)

  213. lisa says:

    Jai well it is my part of the mutual agreement, lol

  214. lisa says:

    I had thousands of dollars worth of household goods from when I was married but when I had to move out suddenly a few years ago, I couldn’t take them and really didn’t care anything about them at the time, I just wanted my freedom, privacy, and my lover. It was just recently that I started wanted to get new household stuff

    Makeup is easier to carry home Creme household goods are too heavy to drag on the bus and to walk home carrying, lol

  215. Jai says:

    Lisa-Owe it to him? Really?

    Lol good idea SF SD :)

  216. SF SD says:

    Okay…. toaster and blender are off the list… ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Maybe I’ll take a look at that wish list blog. ( http://www.seekingarrangement.com/blog/?p=134 )

  217. lisa says:

    well he came over last week kinda late due to issues and we just sat and talked and watched tv. I know he wants to get intimate and I owe it too him as he has already proven he’s legit but I wanted to wait to make sure he respects me, but its been a month so I’m ready but I do so want to go out somewhere too. He hates driving over here at rush hour as I live near the busiest interstate freeway in the city and I dont’ get home from work till very late afternoon so that means he won’t come by till 7 or 8.

  218. Jai says:

    SF SD-Understandable :) Thanks for even taking the time to explain.

  219. DC says:

    You sound like me a year ago Lisa . I had nothing. A friend just left town and gave me all her china and silverware and now I have serving for 12 people. Party time!

    Thanks for the compliment OC~

    Spa certificates- you can’t go wrong. A whole day at a spa…facial, mani pedi, body scrub…….what woman wouldn’t love that!

  220. CrรจmeBrulรฉeNY says:

    less makeup, more houseware?

  221. OCSugarbaby says:

    DC: Virgins are what most of us are here. I think that an SD virgin can really work out! They can pave the way along side of me not dragging my sorry SB butt to do things the way their old SB did them. I prefer the newness of it all.

  222. Jai says:

    Lol I should have given a disclaimer with practical ๐Ÿ˜› I’m much more relaxed with the approach and seek thoughtfulness and practicality over expense and opulence. Lol but it looks like I need to go back to SB Academy ๐Ÿ˜› I’ve got it all wrong

  223. lisa says:

    I want to change my bedding, I’ve had it 3 years and it still looks great but I want something new and brighter.

  224. SF SD says:

    Jai, I don’t mind being asked, but I’d rather not say too much about what I do. I will tell you that I work in a tall building and that you would recognize the company. :-)

    Gift-wise, I like the idea of thoughtful and practical. The gift card suggestion was good, too, OC! Maybe I’m thinking too hard.

    Dang, lisa, I’d be bringing over some take-out. No way should an SB go hungry. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  225. lisa says:

    I’ve never been to a spa. There is one a few blocks from me but the “spas” in my area are really fronts for asian prostitution.

  226. CrรจmeBrulรฉeNY says:

    Lisa!! Bedding again?

  227. lisa says:

    I have one spoon, one fork, one knife, not fancy either, lol I just don’t get into buying dinnerware when I never eat on it, lol

  228. lisa says:

    practical isn’t what it’s about, lol Do you think I really need 44 dollar eyeshadow or 40 dollar blush, no but I wanted it, lol Now i’m looking to get some nice expensive (hopefully on sale or clearance) bedding but that’s not really splurging as the nice bedding can be “mutually beneficial”

  229. OCSugarbaby says:

    Ohhhh YES, I love spa certificates! Can never go wrong with that. However I think that she could add to her list what her favorite spa’s are.

  230. OCSugarbaby says:

    I was asked once what I was passionate about and it really made me think and I had given my answer which lead me to tell him about my goals and things that I would like to save for or dream about.

  231. CrรจmeBrulรฉeNY says:

    SF SD – Spa Cert perhaps?

  232. DC says:

    Hi OC-

    My last SD date was 2 weeks ago. Have had a few write me. They are all SD virgins and when I try and explain a little about what is involved ( or what I have learned from all of you here) they are all surprised and say maybe it’s not for them. I think they thought being an SD meant nice dinners. They all say they think traditional dating might be more their style. I would like to hear from some SDs who have done this before.

    Oh and I’m definitely still searching. Until I know for sure I am in some kind of relationship then I keep looking. I know how fragile these relationships are in the beginning and most don’t pan out.

    Lisa- you worry too much girl about stuff that doesn’t matter. He’s coming to see you. If he wants to eat on fancy plates and use expensive silverware he should take you out.

    SF SD- I would be happy to receive flowers or chocolates. Have you met her already? For me a thoughtful gift always wins out over an expensive one.

  233. Jai says:

    I meant practical if he doesn’t want to do blingy OC lol Practical would be a gift card like you and Lisa suggested as opposed to a car :)

  234. OCSugarbaby says:

    Jai: Practical? Really? Sugar dating is taking it to a whole nother level of fun. Please dont say a toaster… lol

  235. lisa says:

    I wouldn’t even turn my nose down at a target giftcard as long as it was a high amount, lol I love target

  236. lisa says:

    SF SD giftcards to a favorite store, better yet a visa or amex prepaid card, or cash in a nice envelope is always welcome. Flowers are nice if you are going to her place but not if you’re going to be out and have to carry them around.

  237. OCSugarbaby says:

    Chocolates are not good, exactly. The calorie thing, sucks. I love the idea of a wish list. We had all made up them a while back, like a game. Called our favorites…Color for (future reference), perfume, flower, etc…

  238. lisa says:

    it’s been a month since I met him but he is on the site everyday so I guess he’s still shopping around. He’s coming over tomorrow evening, not sure if just to visit like last week or if we’re going out. I feel like a quiet evening at home but if he wants to do dinner that will be great. I guess I’ll just pick up some snacks just in case because I cannot cook and embarrassingly I have no dishes or flatware since I live alone. If my family comes over we eat with our fingers or plastic forks. It;s impossible to go out and buy kitchenware and drag it on the bus, lol

  239. Jai says:

    Something thoughtful and practical SF SD. Maybe something she mentioned during your initial conversations :)

  240. OCSugarbaby says:

    SF SD: We had a great topic a while back about gifts. No girl would turn her nose at a High End Store gift card! Whoohooo!

  241. OCSugarbaby says:

    DC: Why wait, keep searching. Actually it seems when you least expect it it happens. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  242. SF SD says:

    Moving back to some sugar conversation. Anyone have a suggestion for an appropriate gift for an SB early on, before you know a lot about her personal tastes? Flowers, obviously, though sometimes difficult when meeting in a public place. Chocolate doesn’t work when she’s watching her weight and eating accordingly.

    Of course, there’s always the new car, but I’m trying not to get too flashy with the bling at this stage… :-)

  243. lisa says:

    Hi OC :) I’m hear, on the phone with my bestfriend
    My sd is coming over tomorrow evening hopefully. I am nervous though as I am ready to get closer to him, not sure how to handle it as I know he wants to but the last couple dates I kinda avoided it. I have many emails from nonpaying members, so delete.

  244. OCSugarbaby says:

    DC: Any good sugar dates? I have a hard time reading thru all the posts, so not sure if you may have already posted something. I love your hair by the way. You and sweet red have such cute hair styles.

  245. DC says:

    No dates OC :( Waiting to hear back from a pot SD about starting something. He’s been so busy. Waiting sucks LOL

  246. OCSugarbaby says:

    Lisa how goes it with the SD? Are you meeting him this week? Chili’s?

    I think that the post that are calling out for attention should be ignored. Silly ploy for attention really now.

  247. DC says:

    I still see Anonymous’s post. You don’t see it? Do a “find” for anonymous and it’s right there.

  248. Jai says:

    :) SF SD, I’m glad I wasn’t the only one who saw Anonymous lol I actually posted in response, but since there is no Anonymous, I’m going to look silly ๐Ÿ˜›

    May I ask what kind of work (or non work :) ) you do?

  249. SF SD says:

    Hmmm. There used to be an Anonymous post, but it’s gone now. Is there is smiley for “shrug?”

    I’m doing very well, Jai, and thank you for asking. Working late (yah, right) and kind of watching the sugar world roll by.

  250. OCSugarbaby says:

    Lisa Penelope! I finally get time to blog and you and Gail are MIA.

    Suthrn are you lurking too? God lets get this back to a decent sugar conversation!

    Dates? Dinners? Anyone?

  251. Jai says:

    I think she went to take a bath OC. I guess they are just poofing lol

  252. Jai says:

    Ok, now SF SD’s post disappeared? Am I going nuts? lol ๐Ÿ˜›

  253. OCSugarbaby says:

    Jai, did you delete anonymous? Poof they are gone!

    Where is Lisa?

  254. Jai says:

    Is Anonymous posting? I can’t see them anymore.

    How are you this evening SF SD? :)

  255. DC says:

    Hi everyone-

    Just popping my head in while fixing dinner for a friend.

    Natasha- that is wonderful news…congrats! Love at first site is nice but so is love that builds up over time as you get to know someone. I hope this works out for you.

    Ashamed- don’t give that jerk the power over you to make you feel bad about yourself. Just because 2 people are not compatible sexually does not mean there is anything wrong with either of them

    Lisa- just say NEXT!

  256. Natasha says:

    Hey sugar fam!!!! long time no see…I gave up on sugardating and just got into a serious relationship!!! It was love at first sight for him…me im working on it. but it is going great. I am happy. hes more than happy.

  257. SF SD says:

    After reading Ashamed’s story, I think it’s the so-called SD who should be ashamed. Seems to me that he was trying to cover up some sort of inadequacy on his part, was in over his head and looking for an “excuse” to get out of the arrangement, or was just a total cad.

    As difficult as it may be to rebound from such an experience, I’d encourage you cast side any self-doubt. Hopefully, you’ll encounter a worthy gentleman as you continue your search.

    Anonymous, I’m enjoying the flow of the conversation here. Being a newbie, I can’t say what may have been considered a proper SA blog in the past. However, I have no reason to doubt anyone’s stories. Nor have I felt pressured to shared personal information. Might I suggest that the way to re-enter an online discussion group is to introduce yourself and make a positive suggestion or two?

  258. RedMaru says:

    Well finally I’m done and my eyes are tired so I’m out too folks. Need…recharging. Have a great night everyone.

  259. lisa says:

    I think I will hop into the tub for a hot bath.

  260. RedMaru says:

    Enjoy Jai have a great evening!

  261. lisa says:

    whatta dork, He still wants to meet me after work saturday, even if it’s late in the evening. BLOCK!

  262. Jai says:

    Aw, I’m sorry you feel that way Anonymous :( I love the blog though it does get lengthy at times :) I think that’s the great part about it though. It’s a free flow and everyone gets to know each other. Hopefully we haven’t made you feel too uncomfortable and you’ll stick around for a while. Maybe you can show us how it’s done and get the blog whipped back into shape ๐Ÿ˜‰ Ok, the brain masseuse is tapping his foot..lol I’m gone

  263. lisa says:

    now he wants to know when I get off on saturday. lol I work very hard on saturday and get home later, not in the mood to meet a stranger when i’m exhausted and especially not at night for the first meeting. I’m trying to lose this guy. He’s too anxious, no mention of spoiling as I think he’s just looking for an affair.

  264. SF SD says:

    “…deportment adds the sense of action or activity to a mode of conduct or behavior; comportment (โ€™behavior or bearingโ€™) does not have this.”

    This is exactly the way I meant it, Villa. It is abundantly clear that gg must have gone to finishing school. Miss Primm, the headmistress, makes sure that her charges understand the bounds of socially acceptable behaviour, such as applying sprinkles to one’s ice cream with the proper deportment.

    You are in Minnesota? Invite everyone to the state fair! Once they hear about mini donuts and french fried cheese curds the SDs will be taking numbers and standing in line. Then off to KC for dessert?

    “I treated it like that and walked with confidence! No one batted an eyelash at us and we talked like old friends.”

    Trin, you are so right. Actually, this what-are-other-people-thinking thing happens from the SD side, too. At first I was nervous about being “seen” with someone more than 20 years younger than me. Now, I don’t give it a thought. What I do think about is what might happen if we meet someone one of us recognizes. It can and will happen, no matter how far you may be from your home turf. We always have a story so we can introduce each other in a matter-of-fact way. The informational “job interview” works pretty well.

  265. Cyanide says:

    See ya Jai

  266. Jai says:

    Well, my brain masseuse is here (thanks Maru ๐Ÿ˜‰ ) Catch everyone later ๐Ÿ˜€

  267. RedMaru says:

    Finishing up reports and debating whether I want to hit the gym or go home and rest.

  268. lisa says:

    He’s free tonight and would love to meet me as soon as possible. Like yes, I’m sitting here doing my toenails, facial, etc gettign ready to see my sd tomorow evening. I think i’ll just jump up and go meet this guy. lol

  269. Cyanide says:

    Lol Lisa. What did he say?

  270. Cyanide says:

    Thanks, you too Jai. So what’s everyone up to this pm?

  271. lisa says:

    ok the married guy that’s faithful just wrote me and would like to meet me this evening. so I think I will just go out right now and meet this complete stranger at moment’s notice, lol. I told him that I like to wait a few days and get to know a little about a person before considering meeting as my time is limited and I like to make sure there is something we have in common to make meeting desirable.

  272. Jai says:

    Pleasure to meet you Cyanide :)

  273. Jai says:

    If I have your email address, you’ve got mail lol ๐Ÿ˜€

  274. Cyanide says:

    Hey Red, whats goin on?

  275. RedMaru says:

    Drink a glass for me gg I could use it…lol
    Have a great evening
    Hey Cyanide

  276. Cyanide says:

    *Shaking hand* Hi Jai! I’m Cyanide :)

  277. Jai says:

    Hi Cyanide! :) I don’t believe we’ve met *extends hand* ๐Ÿ˜€ I’m Jai

  278. Cyanide says:

    Hey ladies :)

  279. Jai says:

    Good times gg. Enjoy :) and you’ve got mail

  280. Jai says:

    Thanks Maru lol I was beginning to think you’d forgotten :)

  281. goodgirl says:

    sorry kids :) bbl~ my bff just came over and brought me some wine ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€

  282. RedMaru says:

    I sent him over he should be knocking on door any moment now….lol

  283. lisa says:

    lol I think so, lol I love it when I read these sd profiles where a married guy is expected a sb to be faithful to him, no boyfriends, etc. lol

  284. Jai says:

    Hey all :) Finally back from school.

    Maru what happened to that brain masseuse? I’m hurtin ova hea ๐Ÿ˜›

  285. RedMaru says:

    lisa – isnt that sort of a contradiction(scratches head)

  286. lisa says:

    Hey Redmaru, goodgirl, everyone else

  287. lisa says:

    I just got a message from a guy who is his profile is married but states on his profile “I am not a cheater” looking for faithfullness in a sd relationship. ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

  288. RedMaru says:

    Hey lisa ๐Ÿ˜€

  289. RedMaru says:

    Hey goodgirl ๐Ÿ˜€

  290. lisa says:

    Hi everyone back from having dinner with my daughter. Looking forward to seeing my sd tomorrow eveing.

  291. Anonymous says:

    Ashamed, You can’t honestly tell me that you met with someone a few times and he gave you money and you called that person an SD? You speak nothing about having chemistry with this person or knowing him well enough to even take the relationship to another level.
    A little pocket cash on the second date does not make him an SD. The story sounds fishy to me…
    I would love to say “sorry for your bad experience” but you need to hold back the goodies until you know this person a bit better. Plain and simple

  292. goodgirl says:

    there’s my fav jq :) (for some silly reason, every time i see your posts, i read your name GQ… hmmmm) ๐Ÿ˜‰

  293. RedMaru says:

    I like that rebuttal johnq can I borrow that?

  294. johnq says:


    I hope nothing like that happens to you again, but if it does, after he tells you that the sex isn’t working for him, my advice would be to look at him blankly and say, “Sorry, but I didn’t realize you’d started.”


  295. Trin says:

    I had Taco Bell last week and it is EL DIABLO in a TACO! haha!

    Ashamed- I have had guys in the past as shallow as your ex-SD. I don’t even think I will call him that since true SD’s are full of class, spoil you rotten, and treat you like a princess. I think you got a fake loser that probably had something wrong with himself so he turned it around on you. Just learn from the experience and if you would have done anything differently…maybe more screening or ask different questions to really delve into a potential’s mind.

    I ditto what everyone else says that no one can take away your dignity nor how beautiful you are! :)

  296. RedMaru says:

    Anytime…mail right back at ya

  297. Jai says:

    ooh thanks Maru :)

  298. Jai says:

    Red you have mail

  299. RedMaru says:

    Got it Jai mail at ya (sending a cute brain masseuse your way also)

  300. RedMaru says:

    sweetred – I can only imagine….a cough, a pimple

  301. Jai says:

    Maru, you have mail again :)

  302. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    I am taking the kids to CeCe’s pizza tonight, if they ever get home. They went out on the boat with some friends and the boat broke down had to be towed and not they are waiting for a bus to get back to the boat launch to where the truck is.

  303. Jai says:

    She will after tb Red lol

  304. Jai says:

    Lol Lisa! Enjoy. I truly believe taco bell is satan in-taco

  305. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Send TP?? Lisa WTF?? lmao you need to wipe your butt?

  306. Jai says:

    Crazy here too Red. I think my brain needs a massage.

  307. lisa says:

    darn I got cut off too soon
    Just got home from work, have a big welt on my cheek as I got hit by a crate lid. I hope it’s gone by tomorrow.
    Had 3 messages in my inbox from nonpaying members wanting me to contact them, HOW?? lol
    Gotta run now to meet my daughter at the busstop to go eat at taco bell. Everyone send toilet paper, lol Be back later

  308. lisa says:

    Hi everyone just got home from work and have

  309. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    You would never believe what people think is an emergency and HAVE to see the doctor NOW lmao

  310. RedMaru says:

    Yeah they’re keeping me busy. I hardly even got a lunch break. I needed a blissful distraction.

  311. RedMaru says:

    Yeah they’re keeping me busy. I hardly even got a lunch break. I needed a blissful distraction.

  312. RedMaru says:

    I second what everyone else said Ashamed keep your head up ๐Ÿ˜€ (big hug) and welcome to the blog you’re amoung friends here !
    Hey sweetred

  313. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Hey Jai. Been a crazy week. How are you?

  314. Jai says:

    Hey Red!! Long time no read ๐Ÿ˜›

  315. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Hi everyone :)

    Tired of Stupid people today so here I am looking for intelligent people lol

  316. Jai says:

    Scully i tried to email you but it didnt work. Maru, you’ve got mail

  317. Ashamed says:

    NYC I am nowhere near New York. I appreciate the offer however! All of you are great.

  318. NYC SB says:

    WOW Ashamed… thats terrible… if you are in the NYC area let me take you out and introduce you to some better quality men… I am on Yah00 … contact me… hell i will even throw in a massage for you my treat!!!

  319. Sweet says:


    Its quite possible that the a-hole was suffering from sometype of sexual dysfunction..he probably realized midsex that u were too much of a woman for him and couldnt keep erect much longer..hence the abrupt ending on his part to save face..whatever alcoholic beverage u may have consumed might have had u believing the sex was going well all the while not noticing his increasing softness. If a man can’t keep it up then he doesn’t deserve u!

  320. Scully says:

    You know what Ashamed, Isaac Newton actually looked at failure as something different, he realized that when failure happened, the right answer hadn’t come along yet. Now I know how you feel, I had a similiar situation happen and believe me I do understand that feeling.

    But look at the positive, at least you now know that A) it wasn’t you and B) that he was looking for something that his attitude will never let him find. GF, I can tell you this, when he’s done something like that, as cold and cruel as it was, I can guarantee it wasn’t you, he either felt guilty or he was unable to finish. And if he was a sicko who liked to humiliate women, then you’re much better off now than later.

    Take a deep breath, look at your own reflection and say this ten times, “I am beautiful and I deserve much better”, then get a glass of wine, take a bubble bath and let it go. Do you want someone who is a sorry excuse of a human being to be in control of you? Because if you don’t let this go, he wins because he maintains control over you. Think about it…….Don’t let him knock you off the horse without having the courage to get back up on that horse……

  321. Jai says:

    this situation does not define you Ashamed. It’s simply an unfortunate happening. So big smile ๐Ÿ˜€ things will get better. Let’s start by changing your handle. Instead of Ashamed how about Renewed or Restored :) or MuchBetterNow?

  322. RedMaru says:

    Hey Jai hows classes
    Ashamed – I very sorry that happened! That guy was what Scully said plus a jerk and bastard which is no reflection on you because a much better one than him is waiting!! Dont a let a bad apple spoil your search!

  323. Jai says:

    i’ll email you the link scully. I dont think i can post it here :)

  324. Ashamed says:

    Kind of hard to keep on going when you have zero self esteem left. I will just get a second job at McDonalds or something. At least maybe then I can have some dignity left in me

  325. SuthrnExec says:

    Wow Ashamed – I am really sorry that this happened to you – no one deserves this kind of treatment – and unfortunately he probably won’t get what he deserves! I would encourage you NOT to give up on finding a great SD – they’re out there. I also have to think that your chances of running into another “classless” act like that SD are pretty slim as long as you take your time getting to know someone. You seem to do everything right – just believe it must have been one of those one-in-a-million flukes. Good luck in whatever you choose to do!

  326. Scully says:

    Well Jai share woman!!!

    Ashamed I am soooooooooooo sorry to hear that experience!!! That guy was a total ass and he knows it! There are plenty of great guys out there, don’t this one person spoil what could be a good fit when you find him.

    Just take a deep breath and keep going, he’s out there!

  327. Jai says:

    that is damaging Ashamed. I’m sorry that happened. I tend to say better you find out now, but what a terrible situation to be told in :(

  328. Ashamed says:

    I had a terrible experience with an SD. I believe this experience ends my search for an SD.

    Story goes like this: I have been talking to this SD for a while. We had agreed on everything and got along great. After couple of dates where we just had dinner and talked he gave me some money so I feel comfortable that he can take care of me. Some time after that I met him at his place. Passion took over and clothes were off. Mid-sex he stops and tells me “I think I speak for both of us when I say this is not working out.” I am mortified at this point, get up, put my clothes on and leave. Sad part is that I thought the sex was good. New low! FML!

  329. NYC SB says:


  330. Scully says:

    You two have mail!!!

  331. Scully says:

    I got em!!!!

  332. RedMaru says:

    Scully you have more mail

  333. Scully says:

    ok how bout this, since the blog is getting full again, email me at bohiemanredhead at the hotmail. I’m part of a real estate group that uses yahoo, it works pretty well :)

  334. RedMaru says:

    Hey Trin
    Don’t worry NYC I’ll get em good for ya…He knows better than that
    I use yahoo but the other would be fine with me too.

  335. Trin says:

    I use Yahoo…

  336. NYC SB says:

    red – storm did not show up :(

  337. Scully says:

    Where did Storm go?

  338. Panther SD says:

    Either is fine with me.

  339. Scully says:

    I can do that! Whats the main isp that everyone uses, hotmail yahoo gmail what?

  340. Panther SD says:

    Red ~ Mail back at u

  341. Panther SD says:

    Storm ~ Have fun

  342. Stormcat says:

    Panther, You’re doin great!
    See ya’ll later I’m going to that lecture!

  343. RedMaru says:

    Panther – teasing moi? I’m totally innocent ๐Ÿ˜‰ LOL
    You have mail

  344. Scully says:

    Well what am I wearin? I got dressed in the dark this morning…

  345. NYC SB says:

    i do meatpacking too …. :p

  346. NYC SB says:

    close enough

  347. Panther SD says:

    Scully~ See you’re suppose to be wearing a skirt when you walk past the copier. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  348. Scully says:

    Meat packing? I thought she did stockings ๐Ÿ˜€

  349. Panther SD says:

    Red~ You always teasing me…. don’t make me come down there.

  350. Stormcat says:

    Oh your office! That’s the one in the meatpacking district, Right?

  351. Scully says:

    Giggle giggle giggle…….looks over at Panther and giggles some more…

  352. RedMaru says:

    (Hands Scully a map) Okay here comes Panther start giggling

  353. Stormcat says:

    OK I give up! :cek: Where do I go for my punishment? ๐Ÿ˜ฏ

  354. Scully says:

    I’m lost……some one hand me a map?

  355. NYC SB says:

    storm – follow your passion to my office…

  356. Stormcat says:

    You’re just setting yourself up for failure and then it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.

  357. Scully says:

    I’m game ๐Ÿ˜€

  358. RedMaru says:

    Scully I say we both walk past Panther right now how bout it?

  359. Stormcat says:

    NYC Oh Baby! You still didn’t tell me where to the office is!

  360. Scully says:

    Sureeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee, I mean I gave Storm my number, he never calls, but I did get to talk to GG yesterday :) But she hasn’t left me voicemail either darn it!

  361. NYC SB says:

    everyone – officially i have been stood up 3 times by storm today

  362. RedMaru says:

    Scully do you really want voicemail? That’s what I really wanted to say. Too many typos – working too hard again.

  363. Scully says:

    You’re such a brat!

  364. RedMaru says:

    Gee that’s tough one Scully (giggle)

  365. Scully says:

    Red I don’t have your voicemail goob!

  366. RedMaru says:

    You can voicemail too Scully if you like ๐Ÿ˜€

  367. Scully says:

    Red what would he do if we both passed by the copier laughing and giggling at the same time

  368. Panther SD says:

    Ahh if you put it that way.

    I simply wait for the company to depoist my shares. Since you’re talking about what goes on behind the red curtain I’ll just look out the window and wait for Red or Scully to wak past a copier.

  369. Apple-332079 says:

    NYC SB – yes, I’d like that! I feel like I could learn a lot from you.

  370. NYC SB says:

    storm – if you make it at 3 i will take out all this stress on you in a very rewarding way ๐Ÿ˜‰

  371. NYC SB says:

    scully – my company is doing a stock offering so im working on due dilligence and what not aka not having a life!

  372. RedMaru says:

    Yeah I want to know too NYC SB

  373. NYC SB says:

    panther – the work that goes along with them is just incredible… not to mention the financial “pillow talk” between lawyers and underwriters…

  374. Scully says:

    Hey Panther, I’m good or I thought I was :) NYC what are you doing with stocks?

    Red! How’s it going? I want voicemail!

  375. Panther SD says:

    NYC SB~ What makes them frustrating?

  376. Panther SD says:

    NYC SB~ Did not mean to leave you out, so HELLO!

  377. NYC SB says:

    stock offerings are frustrating!

  378. Panther SD says:

    Scully!! How are you today love?

    RedMaru!!!! You have mail and voice mail. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  379. RedMaru says:

    What is Storm being punished for?
    Mail at ya Panther

  380. NYC SB says:

    storm – 3pm is almost here…

  381. RedMaru says:

    Not much just work work and more work……aren’t I lucky.
    Hey again all:D

  382. Scully says:

    Ohhhh so he does come out when you talk about him!!!

  383. Stormcat says:

    Well that’s OK Panther as long as you stay on call for emergencies. I’ve been in and out all day myself. Actually makin some pretty good progress on this one project!

  384. Panther SD says:

    Afternoon all!

    Storm~ No i was actually putting in some work this morning.

  385. Stormcat says:

    Hey Panther, Suthrn. Nitemare – you lurking? I have a feeling were about to get hammered here!

  386. Scully says:

    Yep, Imma show her my punishment tools :)

  387. Scully says:

    Storm you’ve mail back :) I wonder how GG is doing with the take the kiddo to work day

  388. Scully says:

    Hey Red,

    So what’s happenin hotstuff!

  389. Stormcat says:

    Punishment? ๐Ÿ˜€

  390. RedMaru says:

    I’m back.
    NYCSB – Your generous SD just loves your company?
    Hey Scully ๐Ÿ˜€

  391. Stormcat says:

    NYC I did not! You stood me up! ๐Ÿ˜
    Scully you’ve got mail back.

  392. Scully says:

    Yes NYC you are correct, the grass does look greener on the other side!

    Storm stood you up??? WOW, sounds like it’s time for punishment now :)

  393. NYC SB says:

    skully – everything looks great from the outside… in reality its not that shiny… generous SD and I have zero sexual chemistry, pot offering to buy shoes is probs full of it and just trying to show off hoping i will sleep with him and storm stood me up twice already!!!!

  394. Scully says:


    I think I’m done playing taxi!!! Storm you’ve mail…….

    Red I haven’t seen him all morning, who knows about that one. NYC, I soooo don’t know about you woman! You have it all, a SD who is generous and a potential who wants to buy you shoes and you’ve Storm sitting there as your assistant, sheesh woman, but hey when you got it, you got it!!!

  395. NYC SB says:

    apple – when you come to nyc i would love to meet up ๐Ÿ˜€

  396. Apple-332079 says:

    NYCSB – Okay, yep, I definitely missed that part. That’s a shame. I wouldn’t want to disrespect your current either. Does this new guy happen to like Asians? I kid. ;). I will be in New York this summer too!

    Ababy – nice to meet you! I’ll stay far, far away :)

  397. NYC SB says:

    i already have an SD who is more than generous with me… i see him 2-3 times a month… he was adimant that i do not have another SD… i wouldnt want to disrespect him …


  398. Stormcat says:

    Definately you too trin!

  399. Trin says:

    Me too Storm? ๐Ÿ˜‰

  400. Apple-332079 says:

    NYC SB – wait wait wait, back it up. You find him irresistable AND he wants to take you shoe shopping. Did I miss something? Why are you not prancing down to 76th and madison? lol

  401. NYC SB says:

    storm – you got mail

  402. Stormcat says:

    NYCSB I guess I’m really blowing this assistant thing! Crossed communications? Maybe you can yahoo me at Stormcatgl.

    You too Abbey80 I’m always up for new friends. 8)

  403. RedMaru says:

    Hey Scully – I was working all morning. I was about to ask you the same thing ๐Ÿ˜€ about Panther

  404. NYC SB says:

    ummm i am kind of torn on the issue… since i found him almost irresistable last night… might be a bad idea to meet him …

  405. Scully says:

    Wow NYC, so are you gonna go meet him or what?

  406. NYC SB says:

    scully – the email read “would love to do dinner sometimes, we can go shoe shopping in lieu of appetizers on 78th and mad (louboutin store… insane shoes last night by the way). zero expectations beyond dinner unless you find me completely irresistable”

  407. Scully says:

    I’m back :) I had a blast working in the kitchen with my 15 year old daughter, the questions they ask!!!

    NYC, shoe shopping? This is what will happen if you just do dinner huh? Count me in!!! ๐Ÿ˜€ Ok, I’ll behave…..

    Red I don’t think you’ve missed anything or not that I saw, what did you do with Panther, make him YOUR money slave ;), he’s been awfully quiet this morning!!

  408. NYC SB says:

    i love sb friends ๐Ÿ˜€

    and i was in my office at 12 storm but you were not there… hmmm

  409. Ababy80 says:

    i love how nycsb makes friends so eassily

  410. RedMaru says:

    Afternoon sugars…finally got a break. I know I missed something so what I miss?

  411. goodgirl says:

    gotta go. takin my kid to work today. i kinda hope she’s bad at the office so they’ll give me the week off. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  412. CrรจmeBrulรฉeNY says:

    saw nothing.

  413. Stormcat says:

    CrรจmeBrulรฉe – Oh I so embarrased, You didn’t see that! ๐Ÿ˜ฏ

  414. Stormcat says:

    Louboutin Louboutin Louboutin Louboutin Louboutin Louboutin Louboutin Louboutin Louboutin ๐Ÿ˜€

  415. Stormcat says:

    NYCSB I was here at 10 am and I’m here again (12) 8)
    Where are you?

  416. goodgirl says:

    i like Louboutin because they actually have my size. (i wear a 5) it’s sooo hard to find anyone who sells nice shoes under size 6.

  417. CrรจmeBrulรฉeNY says:

    Cipriani to blame?

  418. NYC SB says:

    blah i cant spell to save my life today… hangover much??

  419. NYC SB says:

    lol i get all hot and bothered when someone says Louboutin…. its like an instant aphrodisiac

  420. Cyanide says:

    Mentor… I like that :)

  421. CrรจmeBrulรฉeNY says:

    Louboutin – yes.

  422. NYC SB says:

    Ababy LOL

  423. Jai says:

    Morning all! :)

    Out the door to study with my lab partner before the exam.

    Have awesomely enriched, lucrative days today! ๐Ÿ˜€

  424. Ababy80 says:

    apple stay away from my potential, he loves asians!!

  425. NYC SB says:

    apple – you could be adopted ๐Ÿ˜€

  426. NYC SB says:

    HEY CB!

    are you free friday?

  427. Trin says:

    Good Luck Silly! :)

    I will have to keep the “mentor” thing in my arsenal just in case! LOL!

  428. CrรจmeBrulรฉeNY says:

    Greets morning sugars!

  429. Apple-332079 says:

    Hello all!

    I’ve missed the blog! My laptop died – right in the midst of finals, natch – and I have only been sort of following along with the blog on my G1.

    Trin, ABaby – it would be a little bit different for me if I were to be spotted out and about with my SD, mostly because I’m Asian-American, and I am attracted to Caucasian men. Lol. I like the “mentor” euphemism though… I’ll keep in mind, just in case. :)

  430. CrรจmeBrulรฉeNY says:

    Thought SD heaven was only in afterlife.

  431. NYC SB says:

    good luck silly ๐Ÿ˜€

  432. silly says:

    ok, will have to catch up later
    morning all !!

    ok, getting butterflies !!!! less than 30mins to go b4 my lunch.. eek !!!

  433. NYC SB says:

    Trin – As a told Ababy offline… When I am seen in public with my SD by people I know (yes it happens) I introduce him as my mentor… which he kind of is… Also if you refer to him as “Daddy” most people will think you are his daughter … so they no longer stare at you weird…

    most of the time as stated above we give it more meaning than it has… because we are uncomfortable being seen with an older man… in reality no one cares… and if they do you shouldnt! at the end of the day you choose to lead this lifestyle and you should be ok with it…

  434. Trin says:

    Oh…and good morning everyone! :)

  435. Trin says:

    Ababy80- Brought up a good question….I was feeling a little awkward meeting a 50+ year old man but I treated it like I was meeting my boss for a job interview. I treated it like that and walked with confidence! No one batted an eyelash at us and we talked like old friends. Head held high really makes others back down and not even try to figure out the situation. This is about you wanting to be an SB so at the end of the day will you see these other people again…probably not. Just my 2 cents!

  436. goodgirl says:

    yep. i keep mine in a similar place :)
    gotta go get ready now. bbl

  437. NYC SB says:

    haha he is a man after my heart… which is conveniently located in chrisian louboutin shoes…

  438. goodgirl says:

    Sounds like you’ve made a new friend! :) YEAH!!! New Shoes!!

  439. NYC SB says:

    LMAO… i also must have had one too many belinis because i just got an email from one of them saying how he is oh so willing to take me shoe shopping if I have dinner with him … oh my what have I done?

  440. goodgirl says:

    nyc~ sounds like you need an assistant ๐Ÿ˜‰ lol
    scully~ so far, i can’t find 1 guy who does it all– i think i might need a few. :) we’ll see… i don’t ever want to live with a guy again. it’s wayyyy too much fun just me and my daughter ๐Ÿ˜€

  441. NYC SB says:

    yes i must have flirted lots… i have like 4 emails from my “networking” this morning…

  442. Scully says:

    OF COURSE it’s ok sheesh woman!!! Make it erotic flirting who knows what might happen ๐Ÿ˜‰

    And I’ve been up and going since 5:30 am hyped up on ……life! All this baking is making me hungry ๐Ÿ˜‰ Anyone care to join me for calzones made from scratch? yummmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

    As far as living longer, I say let things happen as they shall, don’t sweat the small stuff, and who the hell needs more than one man under foot? Holy Batman, a woman would go nuts!

    Ok, I’ll be back in a bit, the crust should be about done rising so by the time I get it all put together should be done by 11:00 am ๐Ÿ˜‰

  443. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Welcome gg. Thought it was interesting. Although in the comments to the article, someone wrote, “shouldn’t the headline be MARRYING OLDER MEN IS HUGE HEALTH RISK FOR WOMEN”.


    LOL NYC SB – months ago there was an article somewhere about “flirting” and the verdict was… it is GOOD for one’s health… all around…. so continue! x

  444. NYC SB says:

    on another unrelated note…. i was in offline SD heaven last night… I TRIED SOOOO HARD TO BEHAVE…. im such a bad SB…. flirting is ok though right????

  445. goodgirl says:

    thanks for sharing villa ๐Ÿ˜€

  446. goodgirl says:

    i wonder then, what would be the result for an sb with multiple sd’s? does she die a lot sooner? may be a good reason to find the right ONE ๐Ÿ˜‰

  447. NYC SB says:

    storm – where were you??? its 1028….

  448. SuthrnExec says:

    Thanks for the attempt with the avater instructions, but I decided a few months ago I wasn’t going to bother with it.

    That is interesting VC – but i also wonder how lifestyle in general in Europe affects the longivity of both men and women. I wonder if the same conclusion can be applied for couples in the US. My gut tells me the results would probably be similar, just more pronounced for the US.

  449. VillaCypris *276489* says:


    Yes, I do believe we are!!!

  450. Stormcat says:

    So it seems that the study shows that a man should marry someone close to his own age to help her live longer and then have a young SB which will help him live longer. My aren’t we a societially enlightened group! ๐Ÿ˜€

  451. Stormcat says:

    Interesting VC so what’s good for the goose isn’t always good for the gander.

  452. VillaCypris *276489* says:


  453. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Good morning!!!!!! OMG, it’s SUCH a beautiful day here!!!!!!!

    So, my perusal of the morning headlines has yielded this article, from the Telegraph UK :

    Men ‘live longer’ if they marry a younger woman

    A man’s chances of dying early are cut by a fifth if their bride is between 15 and 17 years their junior.

    The risk of premature death is reduced by 11 per cent if they marry a woman seven to nine years younger.

    The results suggest that women do not experience the same benefits of marrying a toy boy or a sugar daddy.

    Wives with husbands older or younger by between seven and nine years increase their chances of dying early by 20 per cent.

    This rises to 30 per cent if the age difference is close to 15 and 17 years.

    Scientists say the figures for men may be the result of natural selection โ€“ that only the healthiest, most successful older men are able to attract younger mates.

    “Another theory is that a younger woman will care for a man better and therefore he will live longer,” said institute spokesman Sven Drefahl.

    The study examined deaths between 1990 and 2005 for the entire population of Denmark.

    On average in Europe, most men marry women around three years younger.

  454. Stormcat says:

    Hi Suthrn – I posted instructions on how you and Panther could get your avitars up but I put a url in it and the blog cops deleted it.

  455. Stormcat says:

    Morning everyone, Nice day in the big apple! 8)
    Ready for the 10am NYCSB. I hope you’re not going to stand me up!
    I’m planting a big rotodendrum today so I got to go out and dig a hole. I ought to hire a gardner for this but I like digging projects. It’s a zen sort of thing. Just digging away and let my mind be free to wander the universe . . .
    Scully – its morning, quiet down a little, you’ll send all us blobbing bloggers into shock if you wake us up too fast!

  456. goodgirl says:

    hi cyanide and suthrn :)
    scully~ you know good and well… you came upstairs, and jumped me out of bed! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  457. Scully says:

    Well what did I do now? I wasn’t there I swear! Or at least I’m not admitting to anything ;).

    Ok upstairs is dusted, cleaned and now I’m finishing laundry. Today is a perfect day for baking, so I’ll bake the pooches some treats and see what I can get into for dinner.

    Be back later :)

  458. SuthrnExec says:

    Morning GG, Cyanide, Scully.

  459. Cyanide says:

    Good Morning everyone :)

  460. goodgirl says:

    good morning! i wouldv’e slept longer…damn you scully :)
    gonna make some coffee now. *yawn*

  461. Scully says:


    Time to clean the upstairs…….I’ll log back in later ๐Ÿ˜‰

  462. Scully says:

    GM Lisa and Suthrn,

    I’ve been cleaning …..someone should volunteer to be the maid :)

  463. SuthrnExec says:

    Good morning Lisa! Have a great day at work.

  464. lisa says:

    Good morning everyone
    getting ready to go to work

  465. Beach_Girl says:

    VC~ night, i’m off too!

  466. Beach_Girl says:

    VC~ did you leave?
    where is everyone? :(

  467. Beach_Girl says:

    Ababy~ i never said you where shallow! i don’t know you at all… from your posts you seem really nice… if your comfortable with him, i just think you shouldn’t care what others think…. it’s just my opinion…

  468. Beach_Girl says:

    Ababy~ you are only worried about what others think?

  469. Beach_Girl says:

    it’s Offsprings and the new Metallica! ๐Ÿ˜€

  470. Beach_Girl says:

    lmao raine~ i’m in music mode too right now ๐Ÿ˜€

  471. Beach_Girl says:

    Ababy~ sorry if i’m being blunt, it’s just the way i am…. but you like talking to him… does it bother you ? that is the only question , not what others are thinking…. they might be thinking wow lucky her or lucky him
    doesn’t matter!!!

  472. Beach_Girl says:

    Ababy~ you care what others think?
    you know what, someone told me once, that “others” have more important things to think about than you! that i was the only one making these imaginary things up in my mind so…. i stopped caring what other thought, and you know what it’s a lot better this way!
    yeah i’m not saying that sometimes i don’t get annoyed by a stare but then maybe she thinks i’m cute, or that she should get those jeans , or that she wishes she would look like me ,,, you don’t know! so don’t care

  473. Beach_Girl says:

    Silly you got mail back ,,,, oh no don’t leave i’m too curious now!

  474. Beach_Girl says:

    Ababy~ do you feel uncomfortable? that is the only question that is relevant really! well it’s only me, and i usually don’t care what others think! 8)

  475. Beach_Girl says:

    raine~ oups forgot to say…. i don’t hide money in my clothes or the pantry but if you do,, i could go over and have a money hunt!!! ๐Ÿ˜€

  476. Beach_Girl says:

    raine ~ Slash? the guitarist??? but you should be drinking Jack Daniels lmao ๐Ÿ˜›

  477. Beach_Girl says:

    Silly~ maybe , i don’t talk to my dad’s side of the family so maybe,,,

  478. Beach_Girl says:

    Ababy~ who cares what others think, Fuck’em!
    the only person’s opinion you should value is your own! if your comfortable with your date, then there is nothing else that should matter…. ๐Ÿ˜€

  479. Beach_Girl says:

    Silly ~ south shore

  480. Beach_Girl says:

    raine~ yes i did! see money going out my pocket, how am i supposed to go to NYC if i can’t keep my cash??? 8)

  481. Beach_Girl says:

    Silly ~ hi…. i looked at your profile, you look familiar to me, have we ever met?

  482. Beach_Girl says:

    SuzieQ~ good night girl! what color is the living room?

  483. Beach_Girl says:

    raine~ the beasties YAY!!!! woo…. party at raines house! lmao
    it just crashed, i don’t know what it had, just that it cost me a whole lot to have fixed! i’m so tired of paying out, when is the money gonna stay in my fucking pocket?
    why are you playing music? is it loud?

  484. Beach_Girl says:

    Trin~ better than me, i didn’t even attempt too! it was way too much,,, since last thursday,,,, nope , i just started blogging lmao ๐Ÿ˜€

  485. Beach_Girl says:

    raine~ computer died, i wasn’t doing anything really….. 8) and i missed it! i couldn’t do homework, or anything…. :(

  486. Beach_Girl says:

    There was a reunion last thursday????? and i missed it!!!! sucks!

  487. Beach_Girl says:

    SuzieQ~ nothing is happening really…. same old for me!
    Hey Raine!

  488. Beach_Girl says:

    Lisa i’m sure you will figure something out! good night
    talk soon
    SuzieQ~ i haven’t been on since thursday so yeah it’s reunion time lol 8)

  489. Beach_Girl says:

    Hey SuzieQ~ how are you colorful girl?

  490. Beach_Girl says:

    Lisa~ well you should offer to go see him …. my opinion, good night
    talk soon

  491. Beach_Girl says:

    well i couldn’t finish it,,,,, so it was done by another transcriber :(

  492. Beach_Girl says:

    VC~ no typing an autopsy report lol

  493. Beach_Girl says:

    Lisa~ i think you had said you didn’t like him? and that he lived too far? If you want it to work maybe try and go see him, even if you have to take a cab tell him to pay for it ! just a thought

  494. Beach_Girl says:

    VC~ LMAO lol

  495. Beach_Girl says:

    Hey GG~ i looked at your profile today you are too cute! sorry had too! ๐Ÿ˜€
    VC the morgue lol, i was doing autopsies notes when it died lol too funny ๐Ÿ˜€

  496. Beach_Girl says:

    VC~ since Thursday afternoon, i was doing homework and all went blank!
    Lisa~You didn’t see gardener for a month? wow… that sucks,,,, i’m sorry girl!
    you will find someone soon i know it!

  497. Beach_Girl says:

    oups …. wanted to do this 8)

  498. Beach_Girl says:

    Hey Lisa~ how is the gardening SD? or do you have others? (H)

  499. Ababy80 says:

    HAHA NO I said (sry for csaps) caring too much about what others think is shallow, not that you were calling me that lol and thanks for ur advice and ur help i think it must be pre date jitters

  500. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Sorry beach. I was in the shower. I’m going to bed now tho! Sweet dreams ~~~ good to “see” you again! ciao

  501. Ababy80 says:


  502. Ababy80 says:

    yup we get along just fine!!

  503. raine says:

    Naw, just this slash–>”/”. Lol. Whiskey doesn’t agree with me, especially not the “Man in Black” stuff. ๐Ÿ˜›

    Ababy: as long as you’re comfortable, where’s the problem? You and the SD get along, right (age difference notwithstanding)?

  504. Ababy80 says:

    i dont when we are talking, i very much enjoy the conversations. its everyone else that makes me nervous, i could be his duaghter- he has sons older than i am!

  505. Ababy80 says:

    i guess i care too much :(

  506. Silly in Toronto #330786 says:

    good night all.. BG you’ve got mail..

  507. Ababy80 says:

    hes 32 years older….

  508. raine says:

    For the NYC trip, I’d probably stash about fifty here and there in the meantime, BG…someplace you’d likely forget about, like a pair of shoes/jeans you don’t wear often and/or the pantry/cabinet. [I’m so slash happy tonight, lol.]

    Hi, Silly in Toronto. Again, I’d recommend the rss, even at the computer. As for the SD situation, I got nothin’, given I’d suspended my search. ๐Ÿ˜

  509. Silly in Toronto #330786 says:

    good question ! I’m meeting a pot SD for lunch tomorrow…

    BG.. do you work full time ? you kind of look familiar too.. LOL you could be one of my cousines !!

  510. Ababy80 says:

    off topic but very much needed advice… which im sure has been discussed numerous times…

    babies – how do you deal with the stares, the looks, the uncomfortable akwardness of being with a MUCH older sd??

  511. Silly in Toronto #330786 says:

    hey BG.. where are you ? west island ? other part ?

  512. raine says:

    I’m celebrating my weeklong home alone status! Wooo! Loud enough to feel it, but just short of pissing off the neighbors! *lol* Again, wooo!

    You just got your car fixed *recently*, didn’t you, BG? ๐Ÿ˜

  513. Silly in Toronto #330786 says:

    geez ! took me forever to read the days action !

    Lisa- LMFAO !!!!!!!!
    GG- LMAO !!!

    so the SD meet didn’t happen.. work got too busy so I suggested a phone call instead. but he was too busy..

    then one of the pot SD’s ( which I think is a fake SD ) said he wanted to meet then went poof

  514. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    well girls I’d better jump in the shower and try to scrub this paint off. But my new living room looks AWESOME! ๐Ÿ˜€

  515. raine says:

    My method usually works until around the 700th entry or so*, at which point I’m strictly lurking via the rss. ๐Ÿ˜•

    *can’t have the bberry freezing, ya know.

  516. raine says:

    Dang, BG. What happened to your computer? Out of memory, corrupt file(s) or did it just crash?

    **now playing: the Beastie Boys.

  517. Trin says:

    I skimmed but it was long!

  518. raine says:

    Congrats, Trin! It takes skill…and peeking at the rss feed occasionally. 8)

  519. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    Skimming for the juicy bits…you know, office photocopiers, exotic travel destinations, news of reunions, that kind of thing. :)

  520. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    Wow, now there’s a girl with too much time on her hands! (I confess…I skim)

  521. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hi Trin!

  522. Trin says:

    Holy Cow Batman…I finally finished reading all the posts. WHEW!

  523. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    Well thank you raine I appreciate that. I do have my priorities you know lol!

  524. raine says:

    Oh, date. We’ll excuse you this time, SuzieQ.lol ๐Ÿ˜€

    Just plain working (much like myself), huh BG? ๐Ÿ˜›

  525. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Yeah, me, too!

    Yes, I think so…. aj, nico, gail, lisa, OC, sweetred… i cant remember anyone else without going back.. been too many thousands of posts since then! HA!

  526. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    Ha, some reunion if BG and I weren’t there! ๐Ÿ˜›

  527. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    Oh wait, I was on a date, guess that’s why I missed it!

  528. raine says:

    ^Oh crud, strike two: “neighbors”.

  529. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    There was a reunion? HOw come no one invited me? :( Guess we’ll have to have another one soon!

  530. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    yeah! i missed the reunion last thursday night… !

  531. raine says:

    SuzieQ: Getting buzzed and trying to tick off the beighbors! ๐Ÿ˜›

  532. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    BG – got it….I read you mind lol!

  533. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    BG – are you emailing me or what? Details too juicy for the blog? LOL!

  534. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    Hi VC! Feels like a family reunion…I haven’t been on much lately. Busy busy busy. Just a bit of lurking ๐Ÿ˜‰

  535. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hi SuzieQ!

  536. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    Hi raine, what’s up tonight?

  537. lisa says:

    His son is visiting him at this time, he’s home from college so I don’t think I want to go to his house, could be kinda akward. Gotta hit the bed now

  538. raine says:

    G’nite, lisa.

    Hi BG and SuzieQ!

  539. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    Loud, as in colours, not volume lol! How’s your social life these days BG?

  540. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    good night goodgirl. nice plan… my skinny stiletto heel would pierce them thru the heart. sweet.

  541. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    Getting late out east is it? Good night GG & lisa

  542. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    I got into the body paint tonight…not intentionally, it’s supposed to go on the walls but I guess I’m more tired than I thought. Or I inhaled too many paint fumes…I look very colourful!

  543. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    ahh.. right.

  544. goodgirl says:

    adios sugars :) i have to go to work tomorrow. :(
    good night, sleep tight,
    don’t let the bed bugs bite.
    but if they do,
    just take a shoe,
    and smack em til they’re black and blue!

  545. lisa says:

    Beach he cancelled on me twice because he didn’t want to drive but he only lives 30 miles or so away but he did drive over to see me last week. I am feeling more comfortable with him now and ready to become intimate when he wants. We just held hands and hugged a little this last time but then again I didn’t want to lead him on then because I was “outa commision” if you know what I mean.

    Good night everyone

  546. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    ahhh…. i was too excited… brain clouded over… i saw one, back in 1994… crazy! so what did this one die of… mine was a motorcycle accident but half the face was gone so initially i thought it was a gunshot wound thru the mouth. doh.

  547. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    Good evening sugars, how is everyone tonight?

  548. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Beach – what are you watching autopsies for?

  549. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Good night Lisa!

  550. lisa says:

    I’m going to go to bed soon. Gotta get up early tomorrow for work and then have dinner with my daughter.

    have a good night everyone

  551. lisa says:

    I met him a month ago and have seen him 3 times. He came by last week and is suppposed to come see me this week but he’s on the site everyday so he’s still looking and I worry that he’ll find someone else. He’s legit so I don’t want to lose him and have to go back to dealing with fakes.

  552. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    OMG, that is funny… maybe the computer’s vaso-vagal response was too much and it passed out. LOL

  553. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    registered for what? lufthansa?

  554. goodgirl says:

    hey :) thanks for the tip~ i’m registered. maybe i’ll be able to get out of town before 2010. lol!

  555. lisa says:

    he came to see me last week and is supposed to come over thursday evening. But he is still on the site everyday and unhid his profile so I guess I haven’t won him yet. It’s been a month since we met and I’m ready to move forward with him, hoping it’s not too late. Other potentials have hit the dirt, on failed my google checkeup really bad, one stood me up on date, one disappeared, lots of one liner freebie sds contacting me so I delete them

  556. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    damn… more like the morgue??? you’ve been MIA for a long time, no?

  557. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Hey VC~ my computer was at the Dr’s, it was sick! now a little better but it still coughs a little lol

  558. lisa says:

    good evening Beach_Girl

  559. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    hi Beach!!
    where have you been???

  560. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Hello Sugars!!! 8)
    i’m back! how is everyone?

  561. lisa says:

    darn these smilies didin’t come out, urgh

  562. lisa says:

    :nod: :sleepy: :spam2:

  563. raine says:

    Yeah, Ababy80…good thing I’m just sipping rum, skipping the occasional word and half-butchering emoticons in the process. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  564. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    I’m drinking water….. so I know what I’m saying! True… we used to have fires in Palm Beach… with the ocean breeze fanning the flames… was lovely!

    raine – i hope you can leave the country! i always get emails from Lufthansa offering special fares from ORD to all points in Europe…. check it out! :)

  565. raine says:

    No, Stormcat, it’s fine: I’m over that past stuff (I’ve bigger fish to fry, plus the malibu is helping *lol*). I just plain want no parts of that. It’s more of a personal choice, like my hardcore(?) abstinence. ๐Ÿ˜›

    VC, I’ll just pass through to visit relatives and MOA. ๐Ÿ˜€

  566. Ababy80 says:

    fire, wine, and an erection? lol i think one too many glasses of wine is getting the conversations mixed up.

    and you can have a fire in florida. ill roast my marshmellows here thank you :)

  567. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Me, too! 8)

  568. goodgirl says:

    ahhhh. love fire- wine ๐Ÿ˜‰

  569. goodgirl says:

    :) i haven’t been contacted for that yet… :) would need serious help getting there. but, i’d totally go!
    they just said on oprah that an errection lasting more than 4 hours would make the penis die. :( sad day.

  570. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Ababy – I love it here in the winter!! So refreshing… perfect for a fire… bottle of wine….

  571. Ababy80 says:

    HAHA yeah you will NEVER see me there in the winter AGAIN….

    unless im sugar bribed… but thats another story

  572. raine says:

    ^Oh, for corn’s sake: make that “…would BE a threat to my security and patience.”

    I have yet to travel outside this country; I’d like to think I’ll get to it before my daughter starts high school.

  573. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Why does everyone want to come here???? OHHHHHHHHH… because it’s SUMMER!?!?

  574. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Minnesota!!!! To see me????? :)

  575. Ababy80 says:

    minnesota??? im in!!

  576. Stormcat says:

    Raine capital p : P ๐Ÿ˜›
    Sorry If I pushed a button. I just think that life is too short to miss something because of something that someone else did to me!
    Do I really wantr to say this? I don’t want to seem antagonistic.

  577. raine says:

    Ah yes, I read that in your response. As it turns out, I experienced the best and worst relationships (in a few cases, with the same individual). As such, for future reference, the pot SD is strongly advised to stay focused in/on the arrangement and keep his emotions in check. I understand that I cannot theorize/hypothesize/otherwise foresee how he’ll think/feel as time wears on, but to let the mushiness (for the lack of a better word, real or otherwise) come in would a threat to my security and patience. I didn’t come in here to fall in love under the guise of seeking a SD/SB relationship.

    To make myself a little clearer, I do expect to interact with decent male human beings who have at least an elementary understanding of what this type of relationship entails. *please excuse the novel; blame it on the rum and coke* :p

  578. Stormcat says:

    Oh GG I thought you were going to Minnesota with Scully! ๐Ÿ˜€

  579. lisa says:

    i was in London in 2000 and london and paris in 2003, haven’t been anywhere since. I love Venice though

  580. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    That sux, Lisa. I love Roma. Was there in 1995 and 2003.

    hopefully you can travel someday soon, gg !!

  581. lisa says:

    but then its not everyday that you can stand over a hole peeing in a little cubicle with a picture of the pope watching you

  582. goodgirl says:

    lisa~ they’re talking about ‘fix-a-flat’ right now. lol!

  583. lisa says:

    the turkish toilets were not much fun either

  584. lisa says:

    I went to Rome in 92, hated it. Too many kids going around trying to rob tourist so I spent most of the 3 days I was there inside my hotel room or walking around with all my money in my socks.

  585. goodgirl says:

    i know. i’m soooooo jealous. i haven’t been anywhere in 10 years. my mom travels the country all year… *sigh* someday…

  586. goodgirl says:

    ok. i don’t usually watch oprah, but very interesting sex talk on tonight… ๐Ÿ˜‰

  587. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    ooooooooooo…. roma!!! 8)

  588. goodgirl says:

    no. i’m here. lol! my mom called and i had a poodle problem. i’m puppy sitting again. my mom’s going to rome in the morning. she left the dog at my brothers house. i got the puppy. :)

  589. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Where’s goodgirl? Are you laughing yourself to death???????

  590. Stormcat says:

    Oh yeah reine – I think you said that you only tolerated a sugar relationship. I thought that it seemed that by limiting yourself to that you deprived yourself ot the possability of experiencing the best and the worst of the other types of relationships.

  591. Stormcat says:

    Good job lisa ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

  592. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    But if he’s passed out… he’ll never know you left…

  593. raine says:

    [Blasted trackball!]

    I’ll try to behave this time*, although with Daft Punk nothing is guaranteed…

    *how am I limiting myself again, Stormcat? I meant to ask earlier, but I was @ work and thus couldn’t concentrate on an adequate response/rebuttal.

  594. Stormcat says:

    No way, I only go out with women who have the same color hair as my wife and I always give them a bottle of the same perfume that my wife wears. lol

  595. NitemareSD says:

    You never said when. Two days notice and the salon was closed one of those days. Not much chance to get ready.

    Now here I am in a slightly exotic location eating room service because my roommate passed out on me and I’m not allowed to go out without him.

  596. lisa says:

    hey I just made a different smiley ๐Ÿ˜› ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

  597. lisa says:


  598. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Nahh.. that’s not what i wanted! I was trying for the one where the tongue is sticking out…. booooo.

  599. lisa says:

    good evening raine

    stormcat, no a wife says “where did you get that blonde hair on your shirt?

  600. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hi raine.

    THANKS!! ๐Ÿ˜›

  601. lisa says:


  602. Stormcat says:

    VC capital P

  603. raine says:

    Evening, folks.

  604. Stormcat says:

    Lisa, LMAO on this one babe. But you’re kinda soundimg like what a wife says during sex. “Baige, I think I’ll paint the ceiling Beige”

  605. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    excellent! hopefully the ATM machine was working :p

  606. lisa says:

    no I gave him too much to drink, he remembers nothing

  607. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Lisa, that’s so nice of you to look after him…. at least he has an alibi!!!
    Does he remember tho?

  608. lisa says:

    He was with me Villa, I had to call his doctor

  609. lisa says:

    Villa you have to multitask, if you gotta guy that just goes and goes, do like I do and make a mental grocery list, sort laundry in your mind, plan what you’re going to do whenever he finally gets off of you and goes home, lol

  610. Stormcat says:

    It still cracks me up LMAO

  611. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Nitemare – I posted the invite more than 48 hours ago… we were going to go dutch… I drink, you eat… must be your alzheimer’s… you forgot. :(

  612. Stormcat says:

    Touchez VC 8)

  613. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Ummmmmm… stormcat… four hours is a looooooooooong time to get pounded… unless you only have sex once a year… then perhaps you can recover in between……..

  614. goodgirl says:

    lol :) thanks. a** not coming off yet…keep em comin ๐Ÿ˜›

  615. lisa says:

    I can see them rushing off to the doctors or if it’s night, call an ambulance for the emergency room, lol whatta they gonna do , hit it with a hammer?

  616. NitemareSD says:

    Figures you’d tell me after it happens.
    I was going to ask what happend to the idea.

  617. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    deportment adds the sense of action or activity to a mode of conduct or behavior; comportment (‘behavior or bearing’) does not have this.

  618. Stormcat says:

    What cracks me up are the disclaimers that say “If you have an erection lasting more than 4 hours call your doctor” What is he Gay. Hell most couples would pay a lot for an erection that lasts for more than four hours!

  619. lisa says:

    haha they are advertising V I A G R A on tv right now

  620. lisa says:

    a customer comes into the store and asks where the over the counter

    V i a g r a is located, clerk says “the fix-a-flat” is in aisle 5 :)

  621. Stormcat says:

    Actually, and I’m by far not a linguist but I think the defininition that GG cave for deport(ment) is actually the definition for comport(ment) or comport (depending on the form of the word.) Deport means to (if you want to use the word conduct) conduct some thing or person away from you.

  622. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Well…. I skipped over most of those posts where people were discussing dessert and custard and creme brulee etc…. so I suppose I shouldn’t proffer an opinion… although it struck me as sarcasm.

    So…. nitemare… tonight is the KRUG dinner at Soho House… guess you didn’t want to go that badly… for the food…

  623. goodgirl says:

    ah ha. i thought he was saying that we all KNOW that i have the model behavior, or deportment, what have you. lol! i’m still gonna take it as a comliment. :) good evening by the way, villa ๐Ÿ˜€
    lisa~they say it burns calories. i’d have to laugh all day and in my sleep to do any good. quick! someone tell a joke!

  624. lisa says:

    Good evening Villa

  625. lisa says:

    Nitemare 20’s are good as long as they come in bundles, lol

    Are you comparing yourself to an ATM?

    Girls Nitemare is an ATM machine!

  626. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    I think SF SD was being sarcastic gg…. in that if HIS posts were deleted based on content, than yours should have been as well… given your “deportment”. :)

    or not. I can’t read his mind.

  627. NitemareSD says:

    Or in many cases laugh some of it off.

  628. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    And Lisa and Nitemare…. good evening :)

  629. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    You rang, goodgirl? ๐Ÿ˜‰

  630. NitemareSD says:

    I only give out 20’s – just like the ATMs.

  631. lisa says:

    wouldn’t it be nice if we could really laugh our A** off, lol

  632. lisa says:

    I am happy with just paper, green paper with numbers and that ugly benjiman franklin guy I think, is he the one on the 100 bill?

  633. goodgirl says:

    roflmao ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€ lisa~ you’re hillarious!

  634. goodgirl says:

    it means ‘behavior’. i do love google. …i’m gonna take that as a compliment. Thank you SF ๐Ÿ˜€ i like sprinkles. diamond sprinkles. lol

  635. lisa says:

    I should have had my ex husband deported :)

  636. lisa says:

    I hate big words :(

  637. goodgirl says:

    he can deport me after he gets me ice cream. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  638. goodgirl says:

    DEPORTMENT: the manner in which one conducts oneself :
    ~i don’t get it. where’s villa? she’s really good at explaining the big words. lol :)

  639. lisa says:

    goodgirl I think he wants to deport you? I dunnoh having a blonde moment myself right now, duh

  640. lisa says:

    well Nitemare I have lotsa shoes, i’m sure I can find a special sole for you

  641. NitemareSD says:

    I need the women with the special sole.

  642. goodgirl says:

    SF says…”And we should all know by now that gg is a model of deportment.” ummm? forgive my blonde-ness, what?

  643. lisa says:

    But Nitemare you promise marry me. me and me family of 10 brothers an sisers will move to your house in teh us, right? we all needa visas

  644. NitemareSD says:

    Well, Lisa, I knew you did your best work online, but most?

    To avoid the perception that I was sending out a generic inquiry, I personalized the begining of each message with:

    Dear Profile Number XXXXXX

    Where XXXXXX was their actual profile number. I got a 26% response rate with 18% of those asking how I found out their profile number.

    While many responded that I was not a true SD and that I if I was asking that question I needed to be on the partner site, SeekingMillionaire, far more thanked me for being their first email that didn’t mention sex.

    The average Western Union demand for providing the information was $237.

    Several women mentioned being available to me in their area in two weeks.

    Two Ukrainians wrote back that I was the only one for them and that a visa would only cost $400.

  645. Missy says:

    Watch for the ones that put a hyphen between anal and retentive !

  646. SF SD says:

    Whoops! Is there a smiley for being red faced? Either this was a transient occurrence, or I was, uh, hmmm, navigating incorrectly? I wish I wore glasses, so I could claim they were steamed up.

    Thx, stephan, but it’s okay now. [crawls back under rock]

  647. lisa says:

    well I wanted a webcam relationship with you Nitemare, you know I do most of my work online, i’m not a phone or meet for real person,
    Lets be platonic friends

  648. stephan says:

    Hello SF SD – I’ll look into the deleted post issue, but I wasn’t aware of anything being deleted. Hmmm… Well glad you’re back and don’t run off!

    It would be very strange if the posts were deleted but odder things have happened. Feel free to email me at [email protected]

  649. NitemareSD says:

    I just finished writing to all 95,600 female SBs on the site and not one of them will admit to being anal.

    You girls are so uptight with your personal info.

  650. SF SD says:

    [peeking through the keyhole…]

    Dunno what happened, but for some reason all the posts that had anything to do with me were deleted from the previous blog.

    Maybe because I’m not on SA? Or maybe someone thought that the frozen custard fantasy flirtation was in violation of the generally accepted rules of conduct? (God forbid that I would ever consider a double concrete, especially with sugar on top. And we should all know by now that gg is a model of deportment.)

    Anyway, I don’t expect this message to last very long. But thought I’d let a few of you know that I didn’t flake.

    Y’all are great folks. Good luck in sugar land!

  651. lisa says:

    headache? drink a cola :)

    how bout some kind computer that we can wear over our heads and the screen is infront of us so we can walk and be typing on the keyboard at the same time? Maybe a bluetooth kinda thingy that orates the messages in our ear as they are typed on the blog?

  652. NitemareSD says:

    Lisa Says: June 2nd, 2009 at 8:08 pm automatic text messages everytime a new posts shows up. Why donโ€™t we just quit work, quit school and sit in front of the computer 24/7? lol
    I tried that but it gave me a headache. Now I watch more TV

  653. lisa says:

    automatic text messages everytime a new posts shows up. Why don’t we just quit work, quit school and sit in front of the computer 24/7? lol

  654. Jai says:

    Omg, there is no catching up lol Just popping in to say hello guys. Off to study, study, study. I need blog summaries sent to my phone every 30 minutes lol ๐Ÿ˜› Night all

  655. lisa says:

    Have a good evening RedMaru
    you know another weird thing is something that Mexicans do. My stepday is Mexican and several times when my mom was sick (headache, stomacheach, etc) he would rub an egg on her forehead,then break it and put it under the bed, the egg would turn a weird color as it was supposed to have taken the illness away, weird but it worked a few times

  656. RedMaru*210789* says:

    (can hear the crickets chirping) Hate to leave but I’m off to the gym despite this headache to see if sore muscles can override the pain till I get home and get some cola and chocolate. See ya later

  657. RedMaru*210789* says:

    lisa – wow you learn something new everyday. I’m not a fan of cola but i’m liable to try it.

  658. RedMaru*210789* says:

    Can’t take all the credit…it was lisa’s idea. But I’m game…I would love one here in my city.

  659. lisa says:

    cola was originally a medicimil drink, or at least Pepsi was. Caffeine is used in Bufferin which is a strong headache medicine.

  660. Stormcat says:

    Ok back to the topic at hand!
    lisa , Red – I agree a sugar club is just the most perfect Idea I’ve ever heard. In fact a whole franchise of clubs one in each major city around the world. Could even be associated with a B&B concept so that traveling couples would have a place to stay. I can structure it and handle the IP if anybody else wants to handle the business part.

  661. RedMaru*210789* says:

    I think Panther disappeared or fell asleep…lol He’s got mail when he wakes up/reappears

  662. RedMaru*210789* says:

    Hey Stormcat…lol I’m going to try that.
    lisa – Really cola? With all that caffeine interesting

  663. lisa says:

    it was a hot day in Houston today. Looking like rain any moment though.
    I find that cola helps headaches.

  664. Stormcat says:

    Oh Red maru! It might be that you’re hungry? Just eat a small piece of (dare I say the word) chocolote. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  665. RedMaru*210789* says:

    Sorry bout that….Well try to relax and enjoy the rest of your evening. I’m having a headache myself due to GA weather heating up.

  666. lisa says:

    I’m getting ready to hit the tub, of course the water is still running nonstop, going on day 4 now of water wasting.

  667. RedMaru*210789* says:

    Sometimes I wonder if some these SD’s on here know what they want or they just come on here for kicks just so see how many hits and email they can get. The non specific paragraphs are getting on my nerves a tad

  668. RedMaru*210789* says:

    Awww take a nice soak if you can (passing you a aromatherapy bubble bath and good ginger tea) My search continues my messages getting read but not responded too ๐Ÿ˜‰ It’s been a busy day at work for me.

  669. lisa says:

    Hi RedMaru

    very tiring, went straight to the washateria when I got in from work, just getting able to relax. Haven’t heard from my sd today and still need to check my inbox.

  670. RedMaru*210789* says:

    Hey lisa…how was your day today.
    SD/SB club would be totally awesome we could all meet up and have a party!

  671. lisa says:

    Good evening everyone, wow I can’t even begin to catch up on the posts. Just got back from work and doing laundry.

    As far as turning an offline man into a sd, well I find it hard enough to find an offline man who believes in paying for dinner, let alone one that would cover me with sugar. I prefer finding one on this site as it;s more direct and true half the people on here still don’t understand the concept, at least you can find it out sooner. I guess it would be similiar to someone who was gay or transgender, although they have clubs and places they can go to meet people like them, they would probably find it easier to find a specific lifestyle by going online. sds and sbs don’t have clubs or organizations where they can meet. So I would have little chance on turning an ordinary guy into a sd.

  672. RedMaru*210789* says:

    You’re leaving already Scully(pushes out bottom) okay
    Have a good one ๐Ÿ˜€

  673. Scully says:

    Ok all it’s been fun! I’m back with some Bombay Sapphire Gin and Vermouth…….Time for me to slip back into reality!

    I’ll catch you all tomorrow ๐Ÿ˜‰

  674. RedMaru*210789* says:

    It does you’re right…hee hee
    But it is the Enterprise…

  675. goodgirl says:

    ah ha. :) from here it looks naughty ๐Ÿ˜‰

  676. RedMaru*210789* says:

    Hey goodgirl – Its the Enterprise from the new Star Trek movie. I saw it twice as was hooked.

  677. goodgirl says:

    uhhh. redmaru? what is your avatar?

  678. RedMaru*210789* says:

    Stormcat is dinner ready….lol
    Panther if you’re still here mail call for ya
    Sweetred – I like 1800hotbabe

  679. sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Now shhhh I frying okra

  680. sweetredhead*269443* says:

    I think you got my point lol

  681. Stormcat says:

    Sweetred That’s not enough digits. It has to be something like 1800bigbabe or hotbabe or catbabe

  682. RedMaru*210789* says:

    See ya goodgirl!!

  683. sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Storm just call 1800babe :)

  684. sweetredhead*269443* says:

    ๐Ÿ˜ฏ The conversations that happen when I am at work!!

  685. RedMaru*210789* says:

    Okay Stormcat….make enough for me ๐Ÿ˜€

  686. goodgirl says:

    i’m going too~ my poodle party is about to begin… dun dun dun.. :)

  687. Stormcat says:

    I hate to leave this perty but I gotta cook dinner.
    But I’ll be in and out. So just pretend I’m still here.

  688. Stormcat says:

    GG You never know when you’re going to need to make an obscene phone call.

  689. Stormcat says:

    I’ll have a cavados please!

  690. goodgirl says:

    you collecting phone #s storm? to go on the shelf beside the profile numbers, right?

  691. goodgirl says:

    yuck. the wine was bad. *passing out white russians*

  692. Stormcat says:

    NYC You still didn’t send me you’re phone #.

  693. goodgirl says:

    wine all around! :)
    darn scully. i was hoping for a noisy photo shoot during desert! lol

  694. Scully says:

    Ok all, it’s been a fun time but I’m outta stuff! I’ll be back later !

  695. Stormcat says:

    Here comes Sweetred!

  696. NYC SB says:

    ok all… gotta go to a lovely charity event at my favorite restaurant :)

    will check back tomorrow

  697. Stormcat says:

    I do I do! ๐Ÿ˜€ :) 8) ๐Ÿ˜ฏ

  698. Scully says:

    Umm GG when we go to lunch, no photos and we keep it quiet :)

  699. RedMaru*210789* says:

    Nice poem Stormcat you have a way with words….
    Hey goodgirl – pour me a glass!

  700. goodgirl says:

    *thumbs up! :)

  701. Scully says:

    Ummm I’ve a martini sitting here, but I’ll join ya!

  702. goodgirl says:

    Trinity. check the 1st post :)

  703. Scully says:

    Ok, how is it we girls suck guys in with poetry like that?
    Eh Nitmare?

  704. goodgirl says:

    alrighty~ who wants some wine? :)

  705. Stormcat says:

    Ok my favorite erotic Poem!

    Sottoportico San Zaccaria by Kenith Rexroth

    it rains on the roofs as
    it rains on my poetry
    under the thunder we fit together like parts
    of a magic puzzle
    twelve winds beat the gulls from the sky
    and tear at the curtains
    and lighting glisters on
    your sweating breasts your face
    topples into dark and the wind sounds like an army
    breaking through dry reeds
    we spread our aching bodies in the window
    and I can smell the aroma of hay
    in the female smell of Venice

  706. NYC SB says:

    trin — i did… a long time ago ๐Ÿ˜€

  707. Scully says:

    LOL, We do tend to get off track don’t we?

  708. Trin says:

    OMG! I don’t think anyone has answered the blog questions! LOL!

  709. NYC SB says:

    wow scully pretty sweet

  710. Scully says:

    Ok why is everyone so quiet????

  711. Scully says:

    Storm I think you have mail ๐Ÿ˜‰

  712. Scully says:

    LOL sureeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee I do that under another name too ๐Ÿ˜‰

  713. Stormcat says:

    I thoght that looked familier! ๐Ÿ˜€

  714. NYC SB says:

    ahhh did not know that :)

  715. Scully says:

    I also do erotic photography ๐Ÿ˜‰ I like finding subjects who are open to my suggestions and let me photograph certain scenarios ๐Ÿ˜‰

  716. Scully says:

    Uhhh NYC it is actually a hobby of mine I write under a pen name ๐Ÿ˜‰

  717. Scully says:

    Oh yeah and the song that’s playing is……….Bad Things by Jace Everett.

  718. NYC SB says:

    scully – you should be an erotica writer ๐Ÿ˜€

  719. Stormcat says:

    Redmaru – I just hope my wife never finds this!
    Scully – its not a suggestion!

  720. Scully says:

    Oh Gail get back out there already, STOP holding back!!!

    Me? A Tease? Pfft you have no idea…….

    For instance……..

    We are dancing……..his skin hot under my touch as we dance the dance of seduction……sliding my leg over his thigh…….my hands over his chest as he leans me back seeing a slight curve of a nipple showing through a shirt……….his fingers sliding down over my chest, whipping me up in a straightforward fashion, our eyes meet…………his lips move in closer to mine, we can feel the sexual tension…………

    Hey I could go on, but you all use your imagination ๐Ÿ˜‰

  721. Panther SD says:


    I’m suprised you did accept my release for when you get here. You must have something better in line.

  722. Stormcat says:

    NYC Where ever you want, baby!

  723. RedMaru*210789* says:

    But observing is so good right now(breaks out popcorn) Scully. You, Stormcat, Panther, and NYCSB are so entertaining!
    Mail back at you Panther

  724. Scully says:

    LOL, I knew it!!!!

    Ok I’ve to stop thinking of all these seductive lil scenarios…….sheesh!

  725. NYC SB says:

    Storm – quick learner! where am I going? hahah

    Scully – what a tease you are!

  726. Gail says:


    This wasn’t a sugar weekend…it was a basketball weekend. Lots of basketballs : ) I was with a group of friends. And that’s the truth….

    I haven’t been able to sugardate in a while because I think my IP address is blocked at the login page….because I was able to login in Nevada…but not here at home in Calif….

    I am okay with it right now because I am really busy with work….as soon as sa unblocks me it will be time again…I suppose. I traveled for over 9 months, so I am just chilling out right now on the blog.

  727. Stormcat says:

    OMG Scully, now I’m going to need the cold jacussi!

  728. RedMaru*210789* says:

    Scully – Oh I forgot to put that on my profile whoops ๐Ÿ˜› You’re that is a bad habit of mine I need to work on.

  729. Stormcat says:

    NYC – come on up baby. I’ll run some cold water into the jacussi for ya. Oh and I’ll help you out of those nasty work chlothes.
    That is what an assistant does, right?

  730. Scully says:

    Or the smell of his skin close to mine as he spins me around the dance floor making me very aware of his presence……..

  731. Scully says:

    Ahhh poor NYC, aren’t ya glad that I didn’t explain further………..

    You know although the thought of a tender touch of his hands over my heated skin after the copier has just passed over and gigglin over that naughty picture does have its advantages…………;)

  732. Stormcat says:

    I know GG we got to find the devilish grin smiley for this site. ๐Ÿ˜•

  733. NYC SB says:

    uhh all hot and bothered right now… terrible… thanks guys!

  734. Scully says:

    LOL wait til next Friday, GG!!!!! ahem…….

    umm explain more?…………ahhh you’ll have to read the book ;)….

    Storm I never knew! Sequel? Oh my………the things we see here! I need something cold………..

  735. Stormcat says:

    Actually those two movies had a major impact on my life! That’s why I always wanted to take part in a sequal! ๐Ÿ˜›

  736. goodgirl says:

    ohhhh. i love naughty tues ๐Ÿ˜‰ *devilish grin*

  737. Panther SD says:

    Scully ~

    I don’t get it.. explain more. lol

  738. Scully says:

    Red I’m soooooooooooo gonna break that habit gf, your profile said NOTHING about voyeurism………….maybe we need to work on that huh???

  739. Scully says:

    Yeah but NYC you know you wanna! There’s nothing more delicious than the feel of the heat of the copier on your……………….well when he pushes the button and………..I’m sure everyone here gets the idea ๐Ÿ˜‰

  740. Stormcat says:

    Don’t worry Panther blogging is a major aggrivator of dactidislexia!

  741. RedMaru*210789* says:

    Scully – Who me I’m just an observer

  742. Scully says:

    LOL, you are trying to remember the name of the Steakhouse when you were with the SD? Oh Girl, come on!!!

  743. NYC SB says:

    i actually just used the copier… not in ways described above

  744. Scully says:

    Besides Storm you only watched it for the seduction scenes between Joan Collins and Larry Hagman ๐Ÿ˜‰

  745. Stormcat says:

    Copier seems to be very heavily used. I supposed were going to have to buy a good service contract.

  746. Panther SD says:

    plance = plane.

    Geezzz my speed typying sucks….

  747. Gail says:

    It was fabulous….I am having a hard time trying to do scheduling right now, and getting my reports ready….but I took a quick peek in here and you all are doing other things….(smile)….so I stopped working….

    It was 3 days of basketball games, and really nice dinners. I went to eat at a steakhouse….all I remember was that part of the name of the place was Chris….LOL

  748. Scully says:

    I know, but I’ve only seen 3 in the cellar!

  749. Stormcat says:

    Scully, It’s two movies. ๐Ÿ˜

  750. Panther SD says:


    Sure you have an open invitation to visit. You just have to sign the following release when you get off the plance.

    Panther is not liable for “RedMaru’s” lack of constraint if she tries to mount and ride him on a rollercoaster after a limited shopping spree. Both parties agree to continue their sex-romp on the nearest copier Scully or NCY points out in the area. Further more Panther is allowed 15 minutes of rest (Gatorade optional) after each romp and is allowed to pull your hair and smack the *censored* when he really gets excited.

    Once you sign that I would be more than happy to meet you at baggae claim. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  751. Stormcat says:

    btw trin great avatar! Very clear!

  752. Scully says:

    WB Gail!!!! How was the vacation??? Details, details, details!

    And yes Storm I do know that movie ๐Ÿ˜‰

  753. Stormcat says:

    Everybody’s on the copier! I’m feelin pretty dated here! Y’all don’t know those films 3 in the Attic, and 3 in the cellar?

  754. Scully says:

    Damn it no one told me! Make upppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppp!!!!

  755. Stormcat says:

    No Scully you’re on the copier. Were makin a movie. Sequal to the first two. Not cheap porn either. High class porn!

  756. Trin says:

    I am on the copier! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  757. Scully says:

    Whose bein naughty? I thought it was you and Panther ๐Ÿ˜‰

  758. RedMaru*210789* says:

    Okay…Panther can I come to the Mall of America…goodgirl told me to ask you…

    Wow…some of you in here are being naughty again…lol Can’t turn my back for one minute ๐Ÿ˜‰

  759. goodgirl says:

    stormcat has mail :)

  760. Scully says:

    Oh hell…….I’m probably in the celler!!!

  761. Stormcat says:

    Allright!!!!! 3 in the celler, 3 in the attic, and 3 on the copier! 8)

  762. Scully says:

    OK What does a girl have to do to get attention from a certain someone here???

  763. Stormcat says:

    Oh Scully . . . :(

  764. NYC SB says:

    im ok with Trin being there

  765. Scully says:

    Ummm Storm, when it comes to you…..I don’t wanna be careful ๐Ÿ˜‰

  766. Scully says:

    No he really has my number, the lil goofball has never called though! I can’t wait til next week!!!

  767. Stormcat says:

    Scully . . . be careful . . . .

  768. goodgirl says:

    stormcat~ i’m #1 ๐Ÿ˜€ hahahahaha!!!

  769. goodgirl says:

    oh. there you are! i tried to catch ya- you hang up fast!! :) did you really give stormcat your #? or is this a ruse for him to get me to let him call ๐Ÿ˜‰

  770. Stormcat says:

    Trin You’re here! I’m OK with it. But NYC’s the boss. So you might have to come in when she’s out.

  771. Panther SD says:

    Still here looking busy while typing out a report.

  772. goodgirl says:

    hey scully? still around?

  773. Scully says:

    Wooo hooo I just talked to GG!!!!

  774. Stormcat says:

    So I guess that the job comes with a club membership.
    Say NYC, Are we alone here?

  775. Trin says:

    Can I get in on the action? I am really good with a copier?

  776. NYC SB says:

    chizzles? as in chizzled abs? than yes

  777. Stormcat says:

    And what about parking? You up for that.

  778. Stormcat says:

    Ok but do I have to provide my own chizzles

  779. NYC SB says:

    i do actual work then :)

  780. Stormcat says:

    NYC whats wrong with 2PM and 4PM?

  781. Stormcat says:

    Clown Call!
    8) :) :( ๐Ÿ˜‰ ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜› ๐Ÿ˜ ๐Ÿ˜• ๐Ÿ˜ก 8)

  782. NYC SB says:

    job description – must be able to meet at 10am 12pm and 3pm

    benefits – unlimited use of copier, office and conference rooms

  783. Stormcat says:

    Well I’m the battery charger!!! ๐Ÿ˜ฏ

  784. Stormcat says:

    I depends on the job description and the benefits. 8)

  785. Stormcat says:

    You too GG. Scully gave me her’s.

  786. NYC SB says:

    storm- you wanna be my assistant? hope you can keep up! cuz im the energizer bunny

  787. Panther SD says:

    LOL – true Storm. I’m always getting into trouble.

  788. Stormcat says:

    NYC SB Can I have your phone #? ๐Ÿ˜€

  789. Scully says:

    The girl can’t help it………she needs more…….he hasn’t found what he’s looking for……..their still standin in the rain……….he can’t help it and she’s just that wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy…….

    Ok, I can’t carry a tune n a basket……

  790. NYC SB says:

    panther -all i was saying is that if you are the boss and you no longer wish to play with the girl you could always fire her… or if she no longer wishes to play with you you are still in position to fire her… I LOVE MY JOB…. dont want to get fired :)

    But once I am the boss I will have a HOT HOT HOT male admin whose uniform will be jeans and no shirt… chizzled abs… and i will have daily briefings with him at 10am 12pm and 3pm

  791. Stormcat says:

    Cave panther – OMG I hope it isn’t a witches cave! Get out of there! they’ll turn you to stone.

  792. goodgirl says:

    scully~ you now have my phone # :)

  793. Scully says:

    Too late Panther, what was left unsaid was already spoken…………ding dong!

  794. NYC SB says:

    storm you are a funny one

  795. Panther SD says:

    NYC SB~

    The boss thing makes an interesting story. When i was hiring for certain positions…. well probably best i not say in public.

    I’m already seen as a cave-Panther. I need to maintain a somewhat professional image. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  796. Stormcat says:

    my job hasn’t affected me -tick- affected me -tick- affected me . . .

  797. goodgirl says:

    actually, i’ll email you.

  798. goodgirl says:

    email me scully…

  799. Scully says:

    LOL ummm yeah GG, I already had that one planned ๐Ÿ˜‰

  800. Scully says:

    Storm…….I’m NOT that talented! Wait does that mean I don’t get to fly out now?

  801. goodgirl says:

    lol scully :) i guess we figured out who’s payin for lunch! lol

  802. Trin says:

    Gosh, I go to lunch and all these posts happen! :)

  803. Stormcat says:

    Scully – I didn’t say. Anyway just hold your cursor over the smiley you want to use and wait a few minutes. A little box will appear that tells you the code that was used.

  804. Scully says:

    OMG……..lunch with GG is gonna be……..intriguing……..

  805. NYC SB says:

    Panther – yeahhhhh yeahhh yeahhh you say that because you are the boss!

  806. goodgirl says:

    panther you’ve got a deal. ๐Ÿ˜€ …now, tell me more about your, um, “personality”. i’m intrigued ๐Ÿ˜‰

  807. Panther SD says:


    Depends on who wrote the morals …. hehe

  808. Scully says:

    Ummm Panther, GG and I are having lunch next week, we thought we’d fly in for that day, you offering shoppin?

  809. Panther SD says:

    NYC SB~

    Business and pleasure mixes just fine as long as there is a binding contract, fees have been paid and membership dues have been paid..etc…etc…


  810. Scully says:

    LOL Shhhhhhhh Storm, oh hell cat’s outta the bag any way huh?

  811. Stormcat says:


  812. Scully says:

    Storm, I still don’t have that spreadsheet, where did you say it was?

  813. NYC SB says:

    boss is out right now ๐Ÿ˜›
    i have a HUGE copier and the office overlooks the statue of liberty…

  814. Stormcat says:

    Maybe cause . . . .
    Cats don’t have any morals? ๐Ÿ˜›

  815. Panther SD says:


    I will only invite you if we agree on a hard LIMIT at the mall. As a matter of fact I would have you sign a contract when you get off the plane for my own protection.

    The mall is across the street from the airport. They get you flying in…

  816. NYC SB says:

    no my boss is not my SD… thus never done the office sex thing… and i dont like to mix business with pleasure….

    outside of an arrangment that is

  817. Stormcat says:

    If so let me know when he’s out?

  818. Scully says:

    Oh here we go……….the blog just went to hell in a hand basket……….why is it you get those two cats together and they jump on me?

  819. goodgirl says:

    redmaru~ ask panther ๐Ÿ˜‰ lol

  820. Stormcat says:

    Is the boss your SD?

  821. Panther SD says:

    OOo i need to go check the website.. i didn’t know there was a Black one! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  822. RedMaru*210789* says:

    Hey goodgirl – let me know when you’re going I wanna go!!!
    Mail right back at you Panther

  823. Stormcat says:

    See dactidislexia! ๐Ÿ˜ก

  824. NYC SB says:

    im actually not… but when the boss is out im allowed to play…

  825. Stormcat says:

    I’m sure ablut that! ๐Ÿ˜•

  826. goodgirl says:

    yep. love the mall. bring the american express. lmao

  827. Scully says:

    OK scratch that……I was thinking of toys …………(embarassed emot)

  828. Scully says:

    LOL :D……..see NYC I told you!!! GF only take GOLD OR SILVER!!!

  829. NYC SB says:

    i know im addicted… ugh

  830. Stormcat says:

    NYC You’re probably the only one here that’s getting anything done!

  831. NYC SB says:

    i take amex… especially if its a black one… and i have a great ability of racking up points fast ๐Ÿ˜›

  832. Scully says:

    NYC you know they will “suck you in” and it’s all our fault right? This is according to Nitemare!

  833. Scully says:

    Pfffffffft American Express………….lmao

  834. NYC SB says:

    im here … had to do some work today :)

  835. Stormcat says:

    Hey Panther – hope you’re prepared. Mention the word mall and GoodGirl falls immediately and hopelessly in love!

  836. Scully says:

    Damn it I told you that upfront!!!!

    Umm…….Storm I thought you were gonna rescue me……..where’s the life jacket!

  837. RedMaru*210789* says:

    What’s wrong with American Express Scully?

  838. Panther SD says:


    Scully was talking about possible office romances and I thought sex on a copier would spice things up. Or in the conference room during working hours.

    But Scully spoiled the fantasy when she said no AMERICAN express.

    I was like “$%#*”, there goes my entertainment points not my next purchase.


  839. Stormcat says:

    See Nitemare, I knew it wasn’t a boat. Scully’s afraid of the water! Has to be a mirage.

  840. goodgirl says:

    i’m having ice cream for the 1st time all year. it’s blue bunny birthday cack flavor. it’s delicious…like panthers ‘personality’ lol :)

  841. Stormcat says:

    So does this mean that you don’t want to go kayaking, Scully?

  842. Stormcat says:

    What happened to NYCSB? I was just getting used to her caustic rapier wit. :)

  843. Scully says:

    Welll I need a life jacket and a boat that doesn’t sink!

  844. Stormcat says:

    Just don’t get in over your head. 8)

  845. Scully says:

    OH OH Red, copier stuff…………Panther wants some chick to do something on a copier ๐Ÿ˜‰

  846. Scully says:

    Ummm I don’t do water!!! I can’t swim!

  847. Stormcat says:

    Let’s see Circumference of the earth == 25000Xpi miles . . .
    Yes! Several times!

  848. Scully says:

    Giggling at Panther…………..ok I owe ya one!

  849. Scully says:

    Oh oh oh wow!!! Wait!
    Am I going over water?

  850. Stormcat says:

    GG I highly doubt that! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  851. RedMaru*210789* says:

    Hey Jai…don’t worry I missed it too.
    Sometimes Panther I think I may be working too hard…
    But whats this about a copier?

  852. goodgirl says:

    wow panther. wow. *blushing*

  853. Stormcat says:

    Sorry Scully ๐Ÿ˜ฏ
    Where do I mail the Airline ticket?

  854. goodgirl says:

    did i hear an offer to go to the mall????!??? ๐Ÿ˜‰ I”M IN!!!

  855. Stormcat says:

    Panther – 1
    Scully – 0

  856. Panther SD says:

    Red ~ Mail back at you

    Scully~ Taking it all at once might be too much for you, i suggest you try taking it in slowly until you get accustomed to it.

    I’m talking about my personality of course. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  857. Stormcat says:

    I definately don’t like that shredder idea.

  858. Stormcat says:

    Makes me get my fingers in the wrong places. It’s good for well . . .
    But not good for typing.

  859. goodgirl says:

    goodness sake! i’m gonna have to catch up on the blog really quick. be back soon (maybe)
    scully~ totally depends on who’s buyin ๐Ÿ˜‰ right now, i can’t even treat to taco bell. lol!

  860. NYC SB says:

    yes and press the on button if you want as long as i can use the shredder afterwards

  861. Stormcat says:

    Not all of us. My dactidislexia is acting up. ๐Ÿ˜•

  862. Scully says:

    LOL ๐Ÿ˜€

  863. Jai says:

    whew, i missed a lot. We’re on break in chem. Hope you are all having wonderful days!

  864. Stormcat says:

    I’m pretty sure thought that NYCSB and Scully on the copy maching would make for a pretty hot office.

  865. Panther SD says:


    I think you work harder then me. Geeeeeezzzz

  866. Scully says:

    Oh I want it all!!!!!

  867. Panther SD says:

    Why Scully…. what could you possibly want? ๐Ÿ˜‰

  868. RedMaru*210789* says:

    What a thread…I have to stop working so hard…lol I miss all the juicy stuff
    Hey Panther…you have mail

  869. Scully says:

    I don’t do malls…..what else ya got?

  870. RedMaru*210789* says:

    My day is fine Scully don’t worry I’m on my way….

  871. Stormcat says:

    I thought maybe you could miss interpret the meaning if it was read in the order posted.

  872. Panther SD says:

    Wow…. :)

    See no one visits Minnesota. I see i have to tease SBs with trips to the Mall of America

  873. Stormcat says:

    Oh well, I’m 8)

  874. NYC SB says:

    how so storm?

  875. NYC SB says:

    Scully you come and join in …

  876. Stormcat says:

    NYC SB I think the blog timing is working against me today. :(

  877. Scully says:

    Grumbles at NYC, BRAT!!!

  878. Stormcat says:

    Now I know I don’t like the way that came out.

  879. NYC SB says:

    Storm… leaving work know… im coming to get ya!

  880. Scully says:

    You work alone……………ok I’lll behave……………for now……………

  881. Scully says:

    Red!!!! How’s ya day??? SAVE meeeeeeeeeeeeee!

  882. Stormcat says:

    I din’t think I like the way that came out.

  883. Cyanide-babe says:

    Lol, that was funny Scully! :)

  884. Stormcat says:

    Well I have a copier in my office. . But I work alone. . .

  885. RedMaru*210789* says:

    Okay I’m back from a meeting about nothing. Hey again everybody
    It seems I missed the good stuff again….;) grumbles.

  886. Scully says:

    Did I type that outloud? Oops

  887. Scully says:

    Well the mood I’m in…….let’s just say if Storm were a lil closer, ahem I’d find out why his name was Storm ๐Ÿ˜‰ (giggling)

  888. NYC SB says:

    not that i have tried it… just wishful thinking on my end

  889. Stormcat says:

    Yes Silly, break a leg!

  890. NYC SB says:

    umm copier machine sex… or any office sex = HOTNESSS!!!

  891. Panther SD says:


    I agree with you on that. I avoid any and all potentials who work with me. Not worth the stress of setting up a meeting room for my fantasy meetings….

  892. Scully says:

    Yeahhhhhhhhhhhh no kiddin? Ahem……no comment

  893. Stormcat says:

    Scully – watch for copier sex. If the print button gets pushed accidently. Well . . . ๐Ÿ˜ก

  894. Panther SD says:


    Good luck!!! Let us know how it goes.

  895. Scully says:

    No he said he thought about hittin on me when we worked together. I come acros when you first meet me as very cool and very controlled. Perhaps you put it best one day……I pity the man who unleashes that beast……she’s been pent up quite a long time……

    But I NEVER mix business with pleasure. Perhaps he approached me because we no longer work together.

    ON the copy machine? Are you kiddin? LOL

  896. Silly in Toronto #330786 says:

    ok, so stay tuned.. may be meeting my first POT SD this afternoon !!

  897. NYC SB says:

    just google the book :)

    its nothing bad… actually it helps you SDs out… it talks about how you should be understanding and supporting of your SDs limitations… and it talks about “free lancing” aka meeting SDs off line as it was written pre SA

  898. Stormcat says:

    Monae are you hiding?

  899. Panther SD says:


    I’m sorry, you said he wanted great office sex? Like on the desk or on the copying machine?

    What’s wrong with that?

  900. Scully says:

    Ok Storm or Panther, whose about to take the place of the money slave Panther let out last month hmmmmmmm?

  901. NYC SB says:

    well NSA is kind off questionable when you are in arrangement with someone who is single… what can i say? I like my SDs unavailable (attached to someone else) this way its harder for him to want anything other than NSA

  902. Stormcat says:

    NY You wouldn’t happen to be willing to let one of us deprived SDs, or is it depraved SDs, Take a look at the manual or maybe you could yahoo stormcatgl and give up the source.

  903. Scully says:

    He said he wanted great sex and felt like I would give that to him. He mentioned already having a woman he paid to stay home, he said he missed the excitement………yeah ok so do I. But I want more, I will have more and he won’t nuff said :)

  904. Scully says:

    GRRRRRRRRr ๐Ÿ˜€ fine have it your way then………

  905. Scully says:

    LOL :d fine have it your way!

  906. Panther SD says:

    NYC SB~

    Taking the allowance off the table? That’s interesting. I suppose he wanted more then a SB – no strings attached relationship. Hmmm…

  907. Stormcat says:

    No Scully space between them not in them! ๐Ÿ˜•

  908. Scully says:

    This one said he’d thought about hitting on me when we worked in the same office, but refrained because I came across as very untouchable. But in that same breath said he felt like I was very available………what the hell? I was the one drinking wine, he drank coffee……all I can say is that he’s a nice guy, he has the Frank Sinatra charm and wit and it could have been a good match, but oh well……

    I’m looking for a certain type……I’ll find him….unless Storm keeps selling my phone number!

  909. Panther SD says:


    No need to feel down. He just wasn’t the right fit. There is plenty of that going around from both sides.

    One lady ( i won’t call her a SB, she was just crazy) approached me on the site asking if I would just send her gifts and money but never meet or talk on the phone.

    You just can’t make this stuff up!

  910. SuthrnExec says:

    Storm, I’m enjoying watching this from the sideline – you’re doing great – hang in there!

  911. Cyanide-babe says:

    Hello Panther and everyone else :)

  912. Scully says:

    LOL : P ok there!

  913. Stormcat says:

    Scully you also got to space your emotions out. Otherwise they get burned out and they don’t show.

  914. NYC SB says:

    Scully – happens all the time… even on this site according to one of my fellow SB’s … an SD took the allowance off the table because he liked her too much… seriously?

  915. Scully says:

    Ummm that didn’t quite work! Ok Storm send me your spreadsheet?

  916. NYC SB says:

    its not a well known manual… its actually very hard one to find online as there werent that many copies printed… but when i want something i usually get it… or in this case i met the woman that wrote it at a charity event and she gave me a copy… its signed as well… i felt special!

  917. Stormcat says:

    Hi Monae – welcome! You are new here aren’t you. What’s your profile # Everybody wants to know.

  918. NYC SB says:

    ps… good way to spot a pot SD offline is if he approaches you and he is married ๐Ÿ˜‰

  919. Scully says:

    :P:P:P back atcha Storm!

    So Panther, if you knew a lady and you had done business with her in the past, it was all legite. He saw me on a site, not this one, but decided to approach me, when we had lunch he decided that since we knew each other, he only wanted an affair with no compensation. I’ve since declined the offer……..I walked away from that luncheon feeling pretty low……..ehhh I’m back up now!!! Thanks to Storm and his kind words. DC has been a fantastic “cheerleader” too.

    I didn’t realize that kind of thing could play on your confidence!

  920. NitemareSD says:

    Marriage is apparently a Titanic commitment.

  921. NYC SB says:

    nitemare – why dirtbag… are you really that bad?

  922. Panther SD says:

    Hellooooo Scully, Storm, Monae, Nitemare, NYC, Cyanide, Southern and RedMaru. And all the lurkers as well. :)

  923. Stormcat says:

    Sugardaddy 101? I should have known. The SB’s have a manual! :(

  924. Panther SD says:

    Hmm… would i approach someone outside the website with a SB proposal? I have before and they few I approached were open to the idea, especially if they were not looking for “love”.

    It is possible.

  925. Stormcat says:

    Scully – Thats emotion with a capital p ๐Ÿ˜›

  926. NYC SB says:

    Monae… on bringing up the subject… its tricky… but it could be done… however if you met a true SD he will offer freely… dropping hints here and there about financial struggles always help… good book to read is sugardaddy 101

  927. Stormcat says:

    Southern – Feel free to jump in here anytime.

  928. Scully says:

    Well the dog is about 40 lbs and I’m slightly over 150lbs……….dynamite comes in small packages though.

    Me? Provokin people? Hmmmm the only person I’m about to provoke is you :p

  929. Stormcat says:

    Nitemare – maybe the boat is a mirage and it’s really the witches cave. Are we all about to be turned to stone.
    SB opinion please>

  930. Monae says:

    Ummmmm I wouldnt look for a SD offline lol Im too shy I woulndt kno how to bring it up lol I like this site because everyone is aware and I dont really have to explain what Im looking for plus im VERY picky!!!

  931. NitemareSD says:

    Mathematically then it is far better to be a fake/jerk SD.

    Considering name change to DirtbagSD

  932. Stormcat says:

    Scully are you provoking people again.
    Are you bigger or is the dog bigger? If it isn’t the dog then you just put him/her off.

  933. Stormcat says:

    NYC SB maybe in pure numbers but there are very many pros on this site and I feel like the pro SBs balanced against the Jerk/fake SDs leaves the balance pretty much even. But that is only an impression. Impossible to know for sure.

  934. Scully says:

    Nitemare, just cause we say a few sweet words, we smell good, we look good and we can talk the talk and walk the walk…….well darlin that doesn’t mean you can’t turn around and walk away……..helloooooooooooooo

  935. NitemareSD says:


    They suck us in. Its all their fault.

  936. Scully says:

    Can someone buy me a bigger office chair? My dog thinks it’s part hers and she’s knocking me out of it…

  937. Stormcat says:

    See ya later DC Pick some of those nice wild mushrooms that your area of the world is known for. Watch out for the shrooms though. Or look for them if that’s your preference. 8)

  938. NYC SB says:

    Stormcat… you should be picky! thats why this site is great… you should get EXACTLY what you want in an SB… arent SD’s outnumbered here anyhow?

  939. Scully says:

    Yeah well that’s whatcha get when you sell me off!

  940. Scully says:

    Ok DC, you’ve mail :)

  941. Stormcat says:

    Scully You’re back! I have mixed emothons 8) :) :( ๐Ÿ˜‰ ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜› ๐Ÿ˜ ๐Ÿ˜• ๐Ÿ˜ก ๐Ÿ˜ฏ

  942. Scully says:

    I’ll email ya DC :)

  943. DC says:

    Hey Scully-

    What offer did you get..I missed that.

    I’m off to walk around the lake. As addicted as I am to the blog I just can’t pass up a sunny 80 degree day here. They are too rare. Have fun everyone!!

  944. Stormcat says:

    Well then nitemare ๐Ÿ˜ก . . . I am officially ignoring you too! ๐Ÿ˜€

  945. Scully says:

    Oh uhhh Nitemare, we don’t exactly suck you in, you just fall for it…………who said men are complicated????? :)

  946. Scully says:

    Woo hooo new topic!!!! I love it!!!

    I am now the mother of a junior, sophomore and sixth grader. I’m bumming today with the kids going to dads for six weeks. I still have the dogs are they are like my children!

    I decided to decline yesterdays offer at lunch. Sorry no compensation for my time regardless whether it’s cash or otherwise makes me think you want me for an easy lay, nopers sorry I’m not easy ๐Ÿ˜‰ Well except maybe for Storm ๐Ÿ˜› But then he’s always sellin me off to the lowest bidder damn it!!

    GG, where you wanna go for lunch next week woman?

    And heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy everyone!!!

  947. Cyanide-babe says:

    Nice curtains GG :)

  948. NitemareSD says:

    I thought DC asked about getting in the same boat. Sometimes the blackberry jumps a bit with the scroll

  949. goodgirl says:

    nitemare~ i’m gonna leave that alone ๐Ÿ˜€
    hey everyone! i moved my dsl line upstairs… how does everyone like being in my bedroom? ๐Ÿ˜‰

  950. SuthrnExec says:

    It’s not often anyone gets a chance to nudge Nitemare – he left the door ajar and I had to kick it in!

  951. NitemareSD says:

    You chicks suck us in. Its all your fault.

  952. Stormcat says:

    Hey southern – that’s it kickim wnhen es down! ๐Ÿ˜€

  953. Stormcat says:

    Cool NYC! Good for you:)
    I’m a ways off from that as I kinda had a setback on the first round. I’m not so sure this second round is going much better. Maybe this time I’m being too picky.

    Hi Nightmare! How do so many get in the same boat.

  954. SuthrnExec says:

    Nitemare, I’m not sure it was clear about the wife thing – is it good or bad?? LOL (kidding, of course)

  955. DC says:

    Thanks Storm…right back at cha!

  956. NYC SB says:

    I am no longer on SA (currently in an arrangement) thus no profile number… I just enjoy the blog

  957. NitemareSD says:

    My first experience with an SB was a number of years ago. We met at the bar of a fancy restaurant where we both had dinner. We talked and I asked to see her again.

    We dated for about 4 weeks when she began to bring up the subject of being an SB. She had an SD and wanted to switch to me.

    It was all a surprise to me since I had never entertained such an idea back then. Because I was surprised by the revelation so late into getting involved, that hurt the chances of it happening tremendously.

    About 3 yrs later we got together for a few months for a friends with benefits type relationship. Her sex life with her SD was non existent and she needed “it.” Again I was not interested in becoming her SD and we parted cleanly.

    Not long after that I found a wife which is what I wanted. Now I don’t want that wife anymore.

  958. Stormcat says:

    What is open dating? Isn’t dating open until you commit otherwise?

  959. Stormcat says:

    Hi Red Maru 8)

  960. RedMaru*210789* says:

    Open dating is good too

  961. Stormcat says:

    Oh! I forgot ๐Ÿ˜‰

  962. RedMaru*210789* says:

    Ooooh new blog!
    Hey everybody ๐Ÿ˜€
    I haven’t tried to find a sugar relationship offline but am open to the possibility. Ideal I would like it as someone mentioned before with the pot sd bringing it up that way I know he’s comfortable with it too.

  963. Stormcat says:

    DC I’m liking you more and more.

  964. DC says:

    That’s how I feel. I am curious about meeting people and all types of relationships. And you never know up front how something will evolve. That’s what is so wonderful.

  965. Stormcat says:

    Hu Reine Well maybe not all that open minded. Why do you want to limit your relationships. I mean wouldn’t you like to experience as many types as possible. Who knows sometimes something that you imagine you wouldn’t like turns out to be your favorite.

    Hi NYCSB. Interesting technique. No such reciprocal for the SD though. btw what is your profile number?

  966. raine says:

    That reminds me, Stormcat: I wouldn’t tell the man about SA, either! *lol* That’s all I need: essentially introducing him to the competition! ๐Ÿ˜•

    *thanks for the extra smileys, btw. ๐Ÿ˜€

  967. raine says:

    Hi, all. I wouldn’t mind one bit if I met a sugar offline (hey, NYC SB! We’re on the same page!lol), but wouldn’t bring the subject up, however…I’d most likely give him that honor.

    As for normal dating: NO, just NO. I don’t do romance or that LTR stuff. Gentlemen, expect to get your feelings hurt if you approach me with this nonsense! ๐Ÿ˜ก

    **resumes lurking/research on sugar dating**

  968. Stormcat says:

    I like SBs alot. They are more open minded about intimacy and are for the most part among the most beautiful women. 8)
    I haven’t looked for this type of relationship off site. Haven’t even achieved it onsite. But then I’m new at this.
    If I met someone off site and entered in this I probably wouldn’t tell her about SA. You’ld have to be stupid to tell your girl how to find a new SD! ๐Ÿ˜€
    As far as how far I’t like my sugar relationship to evolve. The sky’s the limit. I’d like to keep it as a secret passion but If love evolves I would allow it to move that way too.

  969. Stormcat says:

    Lots of people trying to get motivated today. I jst can’t seem to get into working, or anything.

    OK Jai (and everyone else) here are the smiley’s I found so far.
    8) :) :( ๐Ÿ˜‰ ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜› ๐Ÿ˜ ๐Ÿ˜• ๐Ÿ˜ก ๐Ÿ˜ฏ
    8 ) : ) : ( ; ) : D : P : | : ? : – x 8 O

    I generated a list of all combinations of two letters and symbols and tried posting it on an old subject wut the site cut me off. I’ll keep trying. Maybe I’ll put a small piece at the end of all my posts.

  970. NYC SB says:

    This is probably my favorite way to meet SD’s… and it is how I met my current one. In New York if you go out to the higher end bars most of the older men you meet are pretty open with this type of thing. Prior to my SB ways many men will offer an arrangment which usually made me appaled at the time… oh how things have changed!

    The only tricky part about meeting a pot off line is bringing up the issue… however a true SD will offer it on his own ๐Ÿ˜€

    At this time I would not normal date… too much juggling if you ask me… and if I did meet someone wonderful for a traditional relationship I would not bring up SA… however, I would end my current arrangement as it is unfair to my SD and the man I met… but only if the traditional relationship is an exclusive one… most of the time I cut guys after date 1 or 2 anyways

  971. Jai says:

    sending you motivational vibes trin :)
    Have fun gg! Im the same way with my house lol

  972. Trin says:

    I am at work trying to get motivated…:)

  973. goodgirl says:

    hi jai ๐Ÿ˜› i’m here between cleaning jobs… i’ve stopped sweating now, so back to work for me!! *return to lurk mode*

  974. goodgirl says:

    actually, i’m about 2/3 of the way dona with my housekeeping for the day :) i’ve got a guy coming over on thurs to inspect my mold problem. my mother instilled it in me to make sure my home looks perfect before i invite people in. i know it sounds a little neurotic to clean my whole house for this guy. i’m sure he probably wouldn’t care, but i do. :) thanks mom!ugh!
    hi missy :) haven’t met you before. welcome to the blog! ๐Ÿ˜€

  975. Jai says:

    Yay! Hi DC! Hi Trin!

  976. Jai says:

    oh wait…is that gg?! Hi gg! Hi Missy!

  977. Trin says:

    I am here checking in…

  978. DC says:

    I thought it was something I said LOL

    Have you ever sought a sugar arrangement with someone you met offline? If so, how did it go?

    ….I met a guy at a regular dating site and he was telling me he had a sugar type relationship with someone he dated a year ago but did not meet at a sugar dating site. So yes, if he offered I would consider it as I like him

    Would you give a non-sugar a chance to have a relationship with you? Would you show them SA?

    ……of course. I date on and off this site. I am ultimately looking for a life partner whether I meet them here, at another site or at the supermarket…doesn’t matter

    Do you โ€˜normal dateโ€™ and seek arrangements at the same time?

    ….yes, at least until my situation changes financially, I will probably seek an SD who understands that I am also looking for a more traditional relationship and would welcome that so I don’t get too attached to them as most of them are married. As for someone I meet off this site..not sure what I would do as I wouldn’t expect them to be understanding. I did tell one guy I have dated a few times and he was okay with it on the surface but I am sure if we continued to get closer he would want me to stop seeing my SD.

  979. Jai says:

    ok blogging from my phone is not working

  980. Jai says:

    now there’s no one here and i’m here lo

  981. Missy says:

    Seems we all have too much free time, don’t we ????

  982. goodgirl says:

    :) thanks jai :)

  983. Jai says:

    gg you have too much time on your hands lol

  984. Trinity says:

    Wow, new blog! yahoo!

  985. goodgirl says:

    Q:what time is it??
    A: tooth-hurty :)

  986. goodgirl says:

    hehe… i’m gonna have to think a lot about this one ๐Ÿ˜‰ hmmmm…. now i’m thinking about the crush a have on my daughters dentist! lol! i think i’d have to get to know him before i could decide any of this! currently, i do not normal date, and i’ve never sugar dated with anyone that i met offline. i might resume normal dating though, for say, the right dentist ๐Ÿ˜€