9 years ago
Summer Sugar


This June, the sugars getting spun into hot pink candy at Gay Pride celebrations accross the USA.

Student SB’s are looking forward to some well deserved R&R.

What’s on your agenda this summer?

What does a perfect summer day with a SD or SB look like to you?

Anyone planning any summer trips with a sugar?

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751 Responses to “Summer Sugar”

  1. karl says:

    I hope there will SD and SB party this summer for gays

  2. fay says:

    summer is about enjoying the sun and eatting good food lol most of all nights full of passion.

  3. DorkyGuy says:

    Yep, that’s exactly what it is!

  4. DC says:

    I think she is gorgeous as well but almost too gorgeous. Like Angelina Jolie. I like people (men and women) with some imperfections or edginess to them. Like I think Parker Posey and Mary Louise Parker from Weeds are really hot and I absolutely adore Anthony Bourdain.

    Dorky Guy- is that a picture of Homer and it says Sugar daddy? That is to funny! Hard to tell because the pic is so small

  5. DorkyGuy says:

    Every redblooded male in America will go see this movie just because she’s in it. Maybe twice!

  6. NYC SB says:

    and they made a huge deal that her nippies were showing at the premiere last night… why do people have to hate on her… she is a GODDESS!

  7. Silly in Toronto #330786 says:

    ok, now I’m curious too ! what’s Lisa’s profile number ?
    geez ! 114lbs, 5’6″ is super tiny !!!

  8. DC says:

    Hey Red!! Hi NYCSB!

    I am pretty close as well…..but weigh a little less. Did you see the big deal they made about her thumbs? Jeez…I guess they had to find some imperfection

  9. NYC SB says:

    Random fact of the day: Megan Fox is 5’6” and 114 lbs with proportions of 34c-24-34 – as am I 😀

    that totally made my day LOL

  10. Bird says:

    Hi there, I’ll be making my first trip to New York in a few days. I haven’t got around to setting up a profile but I think that’s the next step for me.

  11. RedMaru says:

    I meant Best Buy(whoops)

  12. RedMaru says:

    Hey DC 😀

  13. RedMaru says:

    Good afternoon Apple and any lurkers
    Wow I’ve been out of the loop I see I’ve missed alot. I like Best But too(nerd history major(class of 2000) waves hand in the air)

  14. DC says:

    Good morning Apple, good morning Lisa-

    Lisa, saw your profile and don’t know why they aren’t beating down your door. You are a cutie!

    Apple- so excited for you. I grew up in NYC. You are gonna have a blast.

  15. Apple-332079 says:

    Good morning Suthern, and any lurkers out there!

    Advise Me – I think you did the right thing, and it was very tactful indeed. Hopefully he gets the point and moves on.

    midgetfury47 – Wow, that is wonderful! Best Buy is not just for engineers, you know (nerdie communication major raises hand) 😉

    Well folks, it was a hectic weekend, schlepping the majority of my stuff back home to LA. I’m only here for a week, gosh I miss this city. Now to start packing for New York!!

  16. SuthrnExec says:

    Good morning Lisa!

    Advise me, that sounded very gracious. Now let’s get you some real Sugar!

  17. lisa says:

    Good morning everyone. I’m getting ready to leave for work. I get off at 2 today so I can be home early. More views on my profile but no emails :(

  18. DC says:

    G’nite Nico. Nite Lisa, Bird and Advise me.

    Advise me- that sounded perfect!

  19. Advise me says:

    thanks everyone ! i sent him something aloing the lines of : while the allowance is not everything for me when it comes to an arrangment i am looking for a true SD/SB experience but i with you the best of luck in your search.

    i believe that was classy enough. not that he deserved it with that email of his but i try to take the high road

  20. Bird says:

    I’m along the same lines and would see what it this could offer.

  21. midgetfury74 says:

    SE, Thanks for the handy way to respond to the situation as i think that is more than likely how events may unfold.

  22. Nico*213385* says:

    *hugs* SE :)

  23. SuthrnExec says:

    Good evening folks – Nico, (g’nite Lisa), midgetfury, AdviseMe, Bird and DorkyGuy, if you’re still out there.

    Midget, I would not press the issue at the moment. That is not saying that you can’t bring it up at some point, but with your recent shopping, I would let it ride for now. If he offers to take you shopping again, you could sweetly mention that “shopping would be great, but I really have some bills I need to take care of…” He would understand and “get it” without being offended. I like Nico’s approach as well – setting aside a specific time for the discussion puts the focus on that and it can be taken care of quickly.

    AdviseMe, I wouldn’t worry too much about sparing the guy’s feelings – I think he was very tactless with his email to you. You don’t have to be mean, but simply tell give him the facts – you need an SD – period, end of story.

  24. Silly in Toronto #330786 says:

    Lisa- I’ll go shopping with you ! love it !!
    Nico- I’ll be your personal shopper !

    Midget- Congrats !!

  25. Nico*213385* says:

    Good night my family. Must treat the headache and pray for sleep. It’s been a pleasure….g’night.

  26. DC says:

    Nico- we are on the same page as far as shopping goes 😉 Designer handbags…I don’t get it…waste of money to me

    And I agree about spending quality time with your SD without the distractions. If you truly like one another it’s about talking and being intimate. You don’t need fancy dinners or shopping.

    Lisa..I am not totally against shopping. Maybe that is something I would like after getting to know an SD. But to be taken on a shopping spree in the first meeting just so I could see he’s serious and to impress me…well that doesn’t sit well with me.

    Midget- that’s great, congrats. If you want an allowance best to state it up front. It gets harder as you get attached to them to put that on the table.

    Lisa- what is your profile number here? If you don;t want to post it then e-mail it to me

    Advise me- he must be kidding…. I think you know what you should do. Be glad he showed his true colors up front. He must not give you much credit for being savvy about these kind of things

  27. Nico*213385* says:

    OOOhhhOoohh…I can soooo relate 😉

  28. NitemareSD says:

    How do you know how truly compatible you are if you’re always being entertained by other means.

    which is precisely why its a bad idea to keep a vibrator in the drawer of the night table.


    Another Starbucks date? How lame. As soon as he’s comfortable with you he’ll be taking you to Dunkin Donuts and Circuit City.

  29. DorkyGuy says:

    I tend to like some entertainment, but I prefer the social interaction.

    I’ve got a pretty introverted personality… I can engage socially for a while, and then my “social batteries” are depleted, and I need some space.

    Putting some entertainment somewhere in the middle of the date gives me a break from engaging and lets me recharge. It really helps. I don’t feel drained by the end of the night, and I am a much better companion when we are interacting.

    Wierd. I would much rather be wired as a social butterfly 😛

  30. Nico*213385* says:

    g’night Lisa

  31. Nico*213385* says:

    Midget…I congratulate you!!! That’s amazing and VERY generous on his part. I would caution you about leading with that topic, although I must admit it is something that you will have to address sooner or later.

    In my situation I did not discuss matters of assistance during any of our ‘dates’ but instead set aside a separate time to discuss that matter specifically. We took a nice long walk on the beach and discussed options and what worked best for us both…got a lot worked out and some exercise *grin*

  32. lisa says:

    gotta log off now as my best friend called so i’ll be going to bed as soon as she stops talking, lol Have a good night everyone

  33. Nico*213385* says:

    Lisa, it’s only like that if you desire the object in the window. For me I could take it or leave it. I don’t know one designer handbag from another and couldn’t care less. It would look very out of place with my 2 year old jeans anyway. Now, that’s not to say I can’t dress up….I’ve worked in a professional environment for years, suits and such were an everyday wear for me; however, I am not a matchy matchy sorta person and can do without all the shopping.

    Home Depot….highly practical for me….considering I’m still working on my house but enjoy it honestly. ….another reason I couldn’t do an apartment. I would go nuts not being able to change/warm things up some. Kudos to you my seester 😉

    DorkyGuy~ I know this may sound odd but I personally do not like too much entertainment. I think it takes away too much from the company of the person you’re with. How do you know how truly compatible you are if you’re always being entertained by other means. Now, I do love the theater and some small outdoor venues for concerts and such but appreciate intimate times….

    Now I’m rambling. Inhaled too many paint fumes and bug spray.

  34. midgetfury74 says:

    So my question now is, should i bring up the topic of a monthly allowance or should i leave that as a door he should open?

    Again, thank you to all the people on the blog for their amazing advice (even as i lurk in the shadows) and for encouraging me to continue my search or else i may have missed out on this amazing experience.

  35. Bird says:

    It’s my first post I’ve been lurking for a couple of weeks, I’m addicted. This is mainly due to me being new to the sugar world .

  36. lisa says:

    midgetfurry74 that’s great

  37. midgetfury74 says:

    So i posted a few days ago about the guy that was a poof daddy after our first date, but i stuck in there and moved forward with another pending SD first date set for today. Result… *drum roll*….

    it was absolutely fantastic! He chatted with me this morning and asked what my favorite store is, BestBuy (nerdie engineering grad raises hand:P), so he said ok then we will meet there at 3 pm. I ended up having a HUGE shopping spree that included the TV that i have been lusting over for months, a new blu ray player, a set of amazing head phones that again i have been lusting after, and butt loads of movies to watch on the new set up. After this I had a very euphoric dizzy feeling going on and asked if we could hop over to Starbucks and sit for a while. We ended up spending another hour and a half enjoying our coffee and chatting. He had to head home for dinner with his kids/grandkids so we hugs and said we would get together for lunch during the week. Though there were no set plans I definitely feel he will not be a poof daddy as he has put forth a very significant effort on our first date and has called/texted/chatted with me since we ended our date earlier this afternoon.

  38. lisa says:

    most of us who have jobs aren’t free to travel. I have had several guys in the past think I could just take off and visit them. Another thing was that they weren’t offering to replace my lost income from not working.

    I would compare window shopping to a woman bringing you home for an intimate evening, stripping and dancing sexy and then sending you out the door as it’s look don’t touch, just looking, lol

  39. DorkyGuy says:

    DC, I hope you get a chance to travel with your SD!

    I can see how having a married SD would really limit your activity options though. Requires some flexibility on the SB’s part to work around it I guess.

  40. lisa says:

    Dinner is ok but I get enough walking since I don’t have a car. It’s so hot and humid in Houston you can’t walk anywhere in the summer without risking heatstroke.

  41. lisa says:

    Nico I love home depot too but since I live in an apartment, i’m stuck with white walls and dirty stained grey carpet. I buy whatever I like and at 43 I still shop in juniors. I wear what I like and feel that if someone laughs at me, well it’s not a bad thing to make someone laugh. At least they noticed me as I didn’t even notice the bland outfit they were wearing, lol

  42. DorkyGuy says:

    @Nico: Dinner + walking/window shopping sounds like exactly the kind of slow paced, intimate date I enjoy. Glad to hear SB’s don’t need a shopping trip every visit… Typical guy that I am, I’m not a big fan of shopping.

    @Adviseme: I can’t imagine that a successful guy with means could reach that point with such horrible spelling. I suspect he’s been a fake all along, and that his supposed fame is a lie. I don’t suggest confronting him for your own safety. Just a simple “I’m sorry, we’re not a match” or “I now have a boyfriend” should do it.

  43. lisa says:

    my guess is that the 10-20k was bait as not many men are going to pay someone 120-240k a year for a woman. Just let him know that you are on this site for a real sd/sb relationship and it’s a very cheap shot for him to be trying to get his part of the arrangement without doing his part for you. The guy has no intention of paying anyone, he’s looking for free sex and using his money to lure and then he pulls it back. Being rich and powerful does’t mean generous.

  44. Nico*213385* says:

    Advise me “Delete” Unless that’s what you’re looking for, and I’m going to assume (probably safely) that you’re not……he doesn’t even deserve a response; however, if you choose to respond, he certainly doesn’t deserve anything well thought out.

    Lisa ~ I don’t like to shop because it’s too stressful. I want a personal shopper. Somebody to pull the outfits in advance of my visit and one that knows my size so I don’t disillusion myself into thinking I still have the body of my late teens. Pull my outfits and then not lie to me about how I look in them….kinda like a gay friend 😉

    I wanna get in and then out of the store as quickly as possible. You might faint when I tell you this but, I’ll spend more time at Home Depot than a mall and enjoy myself 10fold!

  45. Advise me says:

    lisa you are right… except he had the money to be an SD he is well known businessman. his range is 10-20k but i guess i am not worthy of his money or something. i dont want to sent him a mean message. how do i do this tractfully

  46. lisa says:

    Advise me, welcome to the blog and let me put it this way “lose the bumb, he’s not a sd, he’s looking for free sex. Tell him to try the seeking fantasy site or go pick up some drunk woman in a bar. Some men just don’t get it.

  47. lisa says:

    DC and Nico, you both hate shopping? I think you need retail therapy, it’s not normal for women to hate shopping. My mom hates shopping, my best friend hates shopping. I guess I will have to shop more to make up for those who don’t shop. Come on you gotta help boost the economy, it’s your duty, lol

  48. Advise me says:

    Hi there’

    Long time lurker first time contributor.

    I met a man a while ago. We had a nice coffee date and he seemend like he would be a gread SD. HE is well known, wealthy and just a wonderful mentor. As we parted ways he told me that he would get to know me and help me out. DId not heard from him since. Until yesterday. He send me the following email

    “How have u been; I have been thinking about seeing u but only want to do it on friends with benefits basis without dollars involved. Don’t need that to interfer.”

    how do i tell him that i need the financial support than dont need a lover rather a SD. this is seeking arrangments after all no?

  49. Nico*213385* says:

    DC ~ sorry for the delayed response. My SD is not married. He lives on the east coast and I am on the west. There’s always dinner out and walking and window shopping (I abhor shopping) but window shopping is always fun. We just enjoy each other’s company and people watching :)

  50. lisa says:

    lol “sweat” shirt lol and i’m so nice I don’t even swear, well except when I get ticked off but not in my everyday language like it seems everyone does these days.

    I Prefer shopping by myself because I can bargain hunt and stretch my dollars whereas if someone takes you shopping,if you save money, it does’t benefit you, lol. Sex is ok but I have the perfect lover and although I don’t see him that much, he’s the best.

  51. NitemareSD says:

    Your mother lets your daughter swear?

    Maybe you should advertise how low maintenance you are. No need to take you shopping since you can do that by yourself. No need to provide sex since you can get that on your own.

  52. lisa says:

    Then why am I not getting any messages Nitemare? 70+ views, one 2 line email this morning from some slob in his underwear. lol

    I’m wearing my daughter’s swearshirt in the second picture.

  53. NitemareSD says:

    Oh Lisa, if you aren’t just the prettiest little thing in Houston!

    My favorite picture is your #3, and the new middle one is very nice. You are leading with that dream-away stare. And don’t you look so young in all those pictures. An irresistible gem for anoyone in your area.

  54. lisa says:

    No shopping ??? I love shopping, I don’t have to be taken shopping as I can do that myself with my allowance but shopping is high up there for me.

  55. DC says:

    Dorky Guy- it depends. I would always want to meet for a coffee date or two before entering into any arrangement. If the SD is married then most likely the dates will be in private but it depends. One SD said that even though he was married it was safe for him to be out and about but most of the dates would take place at my place. With my pot regular SD he really just wanted to send time with me and talk and get to know me. He wasn’t interested in dinner or watching a video. Just wanted to be intimate and to talk. No shopping involved but that’s fine with me as I’m not really here for the shopping trips. I know he travels quite a bit and if he offered me the chance to travel with me I would jump at the chance.

    Nico- is your SD married? If so, you have dates in public?

  56. lisa says:

    proper dates with flowers and gifts and formal or informal dining.

  57. Nico*213385* says:

    Nope…dates in public 😀

  58. lisa says:

    Sex is part of the sd/sb relationship usually but as a woman I don’t have to advertise if I want just sex so it’s not a priority to me. Women can get free sex, we don’t have to go on a site. I’ve got a great lover and have other interests besides sex so I am looking for more from a sd than sex and I hope he is looking for me too.

  59. lisa says:

    DorkyGuy this was my exboyfriend, not a sd. He showed up last week after dumping me last year. Right after that I gave up on serious relationships and have focused on sd dating. Boyfriends are users. I’m not interested in playing house with any guy who won’t marry me. If he doesn’t care if i’m standing out in the rain waiting for the bus, then I certainly am not turned on by him and have no desire to be intimate with him. I’ve tossed the emotional side away and am now looking for mutual fun with financial benefits. I’ve had 2 sds in the past year and a couple great shopping dates with two others whereas I never found a real boyfriend when I was looking for something serious, thus this site has been more accomodating for me.

  60. DorkyGuy says:

    DC, I’m really sorry about your bad experiences with the flakes, and I’m very happy that you found someone who is making you happy!

    All the other questions about eithics aside, that’s the most important thing. Are both sides happy with the relationship? If so, then not much else matters.

    Quick question raised by Lisa’s comments. I kinda figured that most of the time, the SD would be taking the SB out for an actual date. But it sounds like in actual practice, the SD’s just expect to drop by the SB’s home most of the time for booty. Is that really how these relationships usually work?

    Maybe my idea of how the relationship is supposed to be is too idealistic :/ Y’all are jading me!

  61. lisa says:

    DC this is the ex boyfriend who said he wanted to take care of and spoil me. He idea was to mentor me about getting a bicycle and working as a waitress 7 days a week. I can see myself riding a bicicyle along the freeway at midnight in my neighborhood and working in a restaraunt with my allergies. lol this while he lives in a nice home and drives a mercedes. Our early dating was great and then turned into him stopping by late at night for booty calls. I don’t need someone stopping by, I need someone to take me out.

  62. lisa says:

    Hi Nitemare, DC

    getting more views but 0 emails. Just that onliner this morning from the guy in his underwear. Note to guys if your only picture is in your underwear,make sure you got a great body, this guy looked like a young boy, lol

    trying to beat the heat here, it’s 103

  63. DC says:

    Nico- it took me a few months to find my SD and still not sure if this will be a regular thing but yes, anything good is worth waiting for and worth the effort. A few times he dropped the ball and I sort of pursued him a little but I am glad I did

    Dorky guy- the jerk I met the other day was approaching my “position” as if I would be his “personal assistant” in charge of organizing his “fun” and while yes, that did seem like a good idea at the time it became so de-personalized for me that it turned me off. I also once had a guy who thought I cold combine my personal assistant skills from previous jobs I’ve had, with my cooking skills and my sugar baby skills into one. He said if he could find someone with those skills he’d fill 3 positions at once. I was willing to give that a go but he turned into a poof daddy.

    Nico- well said.

    Lisa- you certainly deserve a little spoiling but this ex boyfriend…he just sounds like a mess and you deserve better in your life. I hope you keep him at the curb where he belongs. Also I got a ton of views, lots of e-mails the first weeks when I joined, then it went down to a trickle and now I am lucky if I get one every two weeks. Seems extremely slow lately…as if I heard from every sugar daddy out there already and the new ones are not contacting me.

  64. NitemareSD says:

    It seems the posting too fast error is global, not individual. Thus your conjours prevented my posts, like some tragic corrollary to the uncertainty principle.

  65. lisa says:

    I’m still miffed about my ex boyfriend showing up outa nowhere after 14 months thinking he could get a booty call. He said he would call and a week later,nothing. He thought he’d just show up and resume things. Well he’g gotta audition and impress me first. He apparently doensn’t want to do that so he tossed out like a snotty kleenex

  66. lisa says:

    Hi Nitemare I knew you were there, lol
    I kept getting “you’re posting too fast, slow down” lol

    Yes his coverage expired on the 9th. I haven’t heard from him and he’s no longer on the site but I have sent him a couple nice emails just to say hi. I always like to be fair when someone is fair with me but I don’t think he’ll be back. I think the sex thing made him uncomfortable although I thought that was what he wanted but I guess not.

    I’m back on SA with same pics, need to change them but I take horrible cell phone pics.

  67. NitemareSD says:

    Stupid blog wasn’t letting me post – I was already on it Lisa –

    Hi Lisa, As of a few days ago your SD is no longer paid in advance. He’s on credit in addition to being on the lamb. Don’t give up entirely, he’s battled back to you against the odds once already.

  68. lisa says:

    Nitemare Nitemare channeling Nitemare where are you??

  69. lisa says:

    edit I didn’t “go robbed” I “got robbed” lol

  70. lisa says:

    Hi Nico, stinky feet? I got the chili cheese ones, they smell good, lol

    No I doubt many of the sds would last long here. My last one (the one that dumped me a couple weeks back) would leave my house at 11 pm at night not even looking around. I would watch him till he got safely in his car on the other side of the parking lot (parking is a big problem here) and he would keep saying it wasn’t necessary. He didn’t know that a white 65 year old man with a weak ankle carrying cash on him was prime for a gang of thugs or a armed robber.

    I am really looking to be able to save a few months bill money so that I could be a little secure as now I have no savings. I have a couple projects I want to complete first, one being new bedding and the other being a decent tv as I only have a 13 inch tv that is 4 years old and it will go out at any time.

  71. Nico*213385* says:

    Lisa ~ a true sugar daddy is not going to care as much where you’ve been but what you’ve done to better yourself. Never gauge yourself by the standards of others…they wouldn’t do well in your shoes. I think you’re great and have accomplished a lot 😀

    ….Fritos smell like stinky feet 😉

    LOL @ DorkyGuy

  72. lisa says:

    Good afternoon everyone. Gee I guess DorkyGuy would throw me in the trashbin. I’m not in my 20’s or illiterate but I do have blond hair, blue eyes, and have had a lot of financial problems since I got on my own at age 39, this was something I was proud of until I came into contace with so much put down. I was raised in kinda a cult like situation growing up, spent my teenage years preparing to live in the dessert until God came back. I didn’t go to college, I did graduate from a technical school though and made straight A’s. I married at 22 to a scammer who left me before our daughter was born and I moved back with my parents. Lived with them till 4 years ago and finally had the motivation to get on my own feet. I had to do some really bad stuff to survive that has drove a wedge forever between my family and I. I gave up being with my daughter to gain my indepence as she is a tool of my mom. I struggled, worked hard, go robbed and had to quit good job since I couldn;t be out late at night, got another job that was stressful and brought me to tears everyday and didn’t pay the bills. Was close to being out on the street last year till my married lover saved me. Got a good job after the hurricane, and am doing very well now. No car, living in ghetto, but I’ve got the rent money and food so I thought I was doing well. I also have a daughter that will be the first generation of my family to go to college. I am looking for a sugardaddy because I love to shop and like nice evenings out and fun.. I used to be looking for a husband but why do that when today’s man does nothing but use a woman for free. If I ever decide to remarry he will have to traditional and old fashioned and believe in marriage and providing. And I will give out no free milk. The equal to the destitute bimbo is a man who says he loves a woman but will not commit his life to her, doesn’t want the responsibilities of a husband but wants the benefits of a husband.

    Profile update, 59 views, several have added me as a favorite and only that one lousy email. And I forget which of you ladies said you’ve been on here for months too, it is different for us ladies as we have more competition with the ration of sbs to sds. No legitimate sd should have any problem finding a sb on here.

    What’s for dinner at lisa’s? fritos and bean dip :)

  73. Stiletto says:

    Hi Everyone… :)

  74. Stiletto says:

    Lol DorkyGuy :)

  75. DorkyGuy says:

    What? Nico’s taken? That’s it… I’m leaving the blogs forever!

  76. Nico*213385* says:

    Raine ~ I must say, a “true” relationship can be just as elusive as the “true” SD relationship; however, you get out of it what you want. You can learn from bad situations too.

    While I can definitely see the downer side of things…don’t forget I only just recently found an SD after over a year of looking, one must remain positive that it will happen. There are plenty frogs out there for both but, if you give up kissing now and/or have negative feelings about whether it will/won’t happen then you are only fulfilling your own prophecy.

    The fairy tale doesn’t happen for everybody and I too can be just as leery…(is it too good to be true) but, fact of the matter is ~ good things still happens to good people, albeit not always when we want.


    THANK YOU SE ~ You’re too sweet to say *BLUSH*

  77. raine says:

    Hi all.

    Nico: ~We should be taking something from everything we do, see, read etc because everything in life should be treated as a learning experience. We do things to better ourselves so that we may help others that are less fortunate.~

    This was what I thought I was aiming for—mentorship—in this search, but obviously I was dead wrong: unless I’m prepared to get on my back, I might as well continue to mentor and do everything my-dam*-self. oh well, the SDs’ loss.

    **resumes lurking**

  78. SuthrnExec says:

    DorkyGuy, you gotta watch that Nico – you might learn a thing or two from her if you’re not careful… :-)

  79. DorkyGuy says:

    Nico*213385* Says:

    I would imagine being a SD is an amazing situation to be in to empower another human being to be able to rely solely on themselves (and not just in a monetary sense) and not ‘have’ to turn to somebody else for help.
    Wow, that is a really great way to look at it! Thanks, that really helped to shift my perspective.

    On a side note… I stumbled on a profile where the SB pitched the idea of being an Executive Assistant to the SD. Now there is one smart SB who will be reaping rewards of that relationship for the rest of her life. Makes me wish I needed an assistant!

  80. Rancho Sante Fe SB says:

    **Cold Beer is gone** now I have a warm heart. Perhaps I did overlook his that he is trying. I’ll lurk, listen and learn now.

    Sending Trinity a cold beer now. Don’t want you to be left out.

  81. Nico*213385* says:

    We should be taking something from everything we do, see, read etc because everything in life should be treated as a learning experience. We do things to better ourselves so that we may help others that are less fortunate.

    I would imagine being a SD is an amazing situation to be in to empower another human being to be able to rely solely on themselves (and not just in a monetary sense) and not ‘have’ to turn to somebody else for help.

  82. Nico*213385* says:

    DC ~ I like your direction but on a global scale don’t we all mentor somebody? Don’t we have children that look up to us? People that we look up to? And, if there were an individual that acted in both capacities as a benefactor AND as somebody who can give us direction and support on how to manage to pay the rent on our own ~ without their help, wouldn’t that be the ideal relationship?

  83. DC says:

    Hey dorky guy-

    My pleasure. I am, like you, learning as I go. Many myths have been dispelled for me. I never thought anyone would be interested in a 50 year old sugar baby. I signed up mainly out of curiousity.

    I know others disagree with me but I don’t see that much difference between a woman who needs help paying for school and books etc and a woman who needs help paying her rent. Both are a necessity. It would be different if the woman needed help paying for her Laboutin shoes. Although there are many sugar babies out there who profess just that and have every right to ask for whatever they want. And there are sugar daddys who are happy to be their knight in shining armour so they can buy those shoes. To each his own.

    Even if I were 25 I would find the mentoring to be a nice perk but not really the reason I would be here.

    While I initially arrived here for the financial help I have found that finding the “right” sugar daddy is the most important thing. I need to like the person. And like I have mentioned I had 2 sugar daddy options. One was a creep and the other is an outstanding guy who wants intimacy and companionship and to truly be my friend. I got lucky

  84. DorkyGuy says:

    SuthrnExec, I agree.

    I feel like I’ve got a wealth of knowledge and business resources that would be at a SB’s disposal… If she took advantage of them, it could set her up for life. I don’t think many SBs realize the opportunity they have with the strong SDs out there.

  85. DorkyGuy says:

    Woot! Hot princess rides in on her stallion to save the SD in distress! My hero!

  86. Nico*213385* says:

    **chiming in at Dorky Guy’s Defense**

    I know he doesn’t need my help in clarifying; however Rancho ~ if you read above to the number of other posts by DoryGuy, you’ll see that he has a lot of insight. Maybe not the experience of a seasoned SD but certainly as a gentleman with the desire to gain knowledge and understanding. My posting my comment was simply to get clarification on his comments. I believe that is why we’re all here and or have spent any significant time here (the blog) and that is to gain insight and mentoring from our peers on how/what works best and apply that to our own respective SB/SD relationships.

  87. Trin says:

    Where is my beer? :)

  88. DorkyGuy says:

    *passes Rancho a cold beer*

  89. DorkyGuy says:

    I hear ya DC… I don’t pretend to have thought this all through… thanks for helping me think of it in a new way :)

    I just really have trouble wrapping my head around a relationship where she doesn’t have a valid choice to leave, and there’s no path to improving her situation.

  90. SuthrnExec says:

    DorkyGuy, you do raise an interesting question – and point – about mentoring. It does seem to be mostly ignored as a benefit of the SD/SB relationship. It could be that some SD/SM do not know HOW to mentor someone. I would imagine that many SD/SM’s probably mentor more than they realize – they just never thought about a name to put on what they are doing. Also, I would imagine that there are SB’s that don’t know how to go about asking for mentoring. There seems to be a movement afoot to emphasize mentoring more and more, which is a good thing.

    I know there are a lot of SDs that do mentor – some have been well-known on this blog. But outside the blog, is it talked about? Anyone else have any ideas? Do you agree that in the SD/SB relationship, mentoring is pretty much forgotten? If so, why?

  91. Rancho Sante Fe SB says:

    Dorky Guy,

    It would be more attractive if you maintain a more open outlook in your search for a sugarbaby. Quite honestly I am wondering if you are sincere in truly using this site. Based on the following comments from you:

    “Just upgraded my account… preparing to be overwhelmed with escorts and scam artists.” and

    “If a girl is completely financially destitute, she should not be looking for a SD to rescue her from it. She should be working to better herself and pulling herself out of her destitute state. I know many may not agree with me on this, but it’s really what’s best for the girl.”

    This attitude and comments may be the reason you are not having luck.
    I was destitute and unemployed at one point in my life. I was fortunate to to find an incredible SD who took the time to encourage, assist and help me back to a better life.

    It sounds like you real need SD 101 lessons. Or get back on the road to finding a traditional relationship. Whatever you decide, I hope you are happy. I really don’t feel that you are SD material. Just my .02 cents.

  92. DC says:

    Dorky guy- what about the woman who is out of work and struggling for the first time in her life due to the downturn in the economy. Who would be working if there were jobs to be had out there? I have found that those with a steady job have no idea how hard it really is out there in the job market right now.

    “are sugardaddies only interested in white, blond/blue-eyed, fake body, uneducated, border-line illiterate, financially destitute, 20 something year olds?’

    …absolutely not. I have met a few and been contacted by many men in their 50s who want a woman closer to their own age. It’s no just about the mentoring or the arm candy aspect of being a sugar daddy. They want someone they can relate to, have a conversation with, have things in common with etc as well as great sex. So many have said to me that they have no interest in a woman half their age.

  93. Mi$$y says:

    What ever happened to the old fashioned way of putting ourselves through college ?
    Be a stripper!

    gimme money!!!!


  94. DorkyGuy says:

    I guess thinking about it, the destitute girl in the second scenario could really benefit from the mentorship of a strong SD to help set her on a path to success and independence.

    That mentorship role seems to be mostly ignored in practice, but it really does have an important part to play.

  95. DorkyGuy says:

    lol, I guess I should clarify what I consider to be financial destitution.

    A girl who is in college by choice and is using this as an opportunity to better herself is very different than a girl who absolutely has to find a SD because she’s unemployed, has no skills, and she and her kid(s) will starve without an SD check. The first is a “by choice” arrangement on all sides, and the second would simply be exploitation.

    I’ve got no problem with the college student scenario. If she wanted to, she could leave college and work full time, and thus it’s by choice.

  96. goodgirl says:

    Good Morning!!!
    I can say as a 27yr old blonde haired blue eyed girl, nearing fiancial destitution, they don’t want me either. (maybe it’s cuz i’ve still got some brains left, natural in all my body parts, and i can still read) lol
    Sometimes, they take months to write an email. I’ve had some members keep looking at my profile, over and over for quite some time…and for some reason, no contact.
    Lisa~ i agree with 3 out of 4 of your reasons. Just because he’s been here for months, doesn’t mean he’s not great. It means he hasn’t found whatever he’s looking for. I’m great…and i’ve been here for 3-4 months now. :)
    Dorky~ Angela300373 Says:
    June 14th, 2009 at 2:30 am
    The beauty of Sugar is it is whatever you make it! Each Sugar arrangement is unique!
    ~~absolutly true!!!! And it’s the reason i keep fishing! 😉

    Sweetred~sounds like you’re gonna get to live on a boat!!! :) :)

  97. Nico*213385* says:

    wow…I should really learn how to proofread before I hit *send*

  98. Nico*213385* says:

    Good morning Red and other sugar siblings :) Happy Sunday!!!

    Hello Dorky Guy ~ To seek an young(er) educated gal is to seek a college student which also goes hand in hand with financially destitute although working toward a brighter future.

    The best things is to ask each of them a serious of thought provoking questions, what they currently do (school or just live at home/roommates etc.) and what their goals are.

    I know you already know all this but I felt the need to respond to your comment.

  99. sweetredhead says:

    Ut oh Dorkguy your in trouble!! lmao

    are sugardaddies only interested in white, blond/blue-eyed, fake body, uneducated, border-line illiterate, financially destitute, 20 something year olds?

    I am 40 and have redhair, so nope not all they are looking for because I have several sd’s contacting me :)

    I was just offered to buy a boat for $500. A friend of my parents want to get rid of it. My boys are driving me crazy they want me to buy it. KIDS!!

    They have no idea about money. sure I will just take it from the grocery money and the rent and utilities money and buy it. sheeh lol

  100. DorkyGuy says:

    Just upgraded my account… preparing to be overwhelmed with escorts and scam artists.

  101. NitemareSD says:

    are sugardaddies only interested in white, blond/blue-eyed, fake body, uneducated, border-line illiterate, financially destitute, 20 something year olds?
    its ok if one eye if grey.

  102. lisa says:

    Good morning everyone. Getting ready to go to work. Still very tired.
    I’ve got ton of views on my profile, favored a few times and one email which I have read and hit delete. 4 things made me do this. first the guy has been on this site for many months (if he’s that great,he’d be taken already), second he is in his underwear (only picture he’s got and that’s just lowclassed and tells me what he’s after), third he sent me the email at 3 am, kinda weird for a married guy to be up at 3 am sending emails, and fourth his email was “Hi”. He problably sent this seam “hi” message to everyone.

    Have a great day everyone. Be back after 4

  103. DorkyGuy says:

    Angela, what you said about blue profiles is true. I’ve been guilty of doing the same kind of thing with the SBs.

    I have been ignoring all of the profiles with no photo. Not even opening them. I was talking with a SB today, and she linked me her profile… which had no photo. She sent a picture, and she was stunning.

    The point being, SDs, there are lots of good reasons an attractive SB wouldn’t post her photo. That’s not a reliable way to filter profiles.

    What SA needs to do is have a setting where a SB can make her photo visible only to orange SDs. That would get her picture out there, and help protect her privacy too.

  104. DorkyGuy says:

    Kimberly, your post is a good one. I actually encountered some of these issues today.

    I was going through the SB profiles, trying to find those between 25 and 35, and found very few. I asked a SB friend about this, and she said that she thought most SBs were under 25. I’m sure there are lots of reasons for this, but it’s a little disappointing.

    “uneducated, border-line illiterate”… is absolutely out of the question. I don’t want to take a SB to the enjoy a museum with me if she’s going to mistake the water fountains for artwork.

    “financially destitute”.. absolutely not. There is no way I would want a SB depending on my allowance for basic necessities. That sounds like a formula for a tragedy. If a girl is completely financially destitute, she should not be looking for a SD to rescue her from it. She should be working to better herself and pulling herself out of her destitute state. I know many may not agree with me on this, but it’s really what’s best for the girl.

    Also, if you send a mail to a Blue SD, be aware that they cannot read or even respond to your mail. Could be you’re sending messages to Blue SDs that they just can’t see.

    @Angela, thanks for the kind words! I am learning a lot, and having fun doing it! This really is a great community for exploring all kinds of new things!

  105. Angela300373 says:

    I don’t think they are looking for just that. (I hope not anyway…lol)
    The red X might mean it has not been read yet… a green check mark when it has been read.
    Don’t lose hope…we all seek something special and individual.
    If they are not responding to you just try not to take it personally….
    I know I am not everyone’s cup of tea but for the right one…I am the best thing that ever happened to them…

  106. kimberly says:

    This question may not have any relevance to the above posting, but I am very curious, are sugardaddies only interested in white, blond/blue-eyed, fake body, uneducated, border-line illiterate, financially destitute, 20 something year olds? Seems to be quite abit of bias preferences in those who are responded to. The majority of my missives are deleted and not even read, no curtesy response, just a big red X. Interesting if I do say so.
    If this is not the case please let me know, just maybe I’m off track here, but I don’t believe so.


  107. Liebchen says:

    Thanks for all of your thoughts, guys. Lisa- after reading up on the blog archives, (I have to admit, I’ve been a serial lurker for maybe a week now) I kind of expected that to be your advice 😉 I totally understand what you’re saying though, and I did think it seemed a little backwards, that’s why I just wanted something small, like a token. And johnq- 50 dollars? Wow, what I wouldn’t do with 50 dollars right now, ha. But that’s definitely a good idea for later….

  108. Angela300373 says:

    I know your reasons…. and respect that! I also like that you stated that in your profile.
    I just meant that maybe we shouldn’t exclude all the blue profiles since maybe they do have legit reasons for not being orange. I know I will try not to discount anyone who is blue until I know the whole story from this point on…..
    You seem (just from what I have read on the blog and your profile) to have a firm grasp on what this site is about (so many don’t …it is sad) so if you choose to go orange…I think you will be a great SD.
    I would -to quote Jason Mraz- “Let the geek in the pink”

  109. Angela300373 says:

    The beauty of Sugar is it is whatever you make it! Each Sugar arrangement is unique! I have a semi-arrangement with a sugar couple (we haven’t made long term plans but I have seen them 3 times now..)
    There is no instruction manual for this…we just make each other happy!

    They are ok with me having other sugars and that is great! I am still seeking “the one sugar Daddy” of my dreams but get to have lots of fun in the meantime!

    I am open to whatever type of relationship my SD wants as long as it is not marriage…LOL

  110. DorkyGuy says:

    lol Angela, the reason I’m blue is I’m not actively searching yet, still on the fence whether I want this or a conventional girlfriend. Maybe a blend of both?

  111. Angela300373 says:

    What’s on your agenda this summer?
    My agenda is to stay cool! Find the SD of my dreams and have great times with him.

    What does a perfect summer day with a SD or SB look like to you?
    I don’t care what we do as long as we are both enjoying it!

    Anyone planning any summer trips with a sugar?
    Not yet but hope to!

  112. Angela300373 says:

    Hello All,

    Welcome back Joules….I have missed you!
    Welcome to the blog DorkyGuy!
    Although you are blue…I think you will make a fine SD! I wish you luck in your search! (I am in TX too, hint hint)

    I had a great Sugar weekend last week, went to the beach, went to The Chocolate Bar (my dream store), saw The Hangover with the girl from my sugar couple. We didn’t go shopping this time but the beach day was just as much fun in my book! I got a lil red but next day I looked great!

  113. lisa says:

    Good evening everyone. I’m very tired and going to bed soon. Gotta get up early tomorrow for work.

    A word of advise on sd gifts, make sure you get something that is either returnable or something you could use just incase he is a no show. I have to admit it seems like an opposite approach though as the sd should be bringing the sb a gift. A gift on the second date for him would be ok.
    Have a good night everyone

  114. Silly in Toronto #330786 says:

    hey everyone.. just popping in for a quick hi..have a pot SD meet up monday night, just waiting for confirmation, wish me sweetness !
    good idea about the SD gift ! maybe I’ll pick something up too..

  115. johnq says:

    Liebchen: If you know something about him, you might pick a book that you’d think he’d like. Alternatively, if your budget is $50 or so, a bottle of good scotch is appreciated. And a man who doesn’t appreciate good scotch isn’t actually worth knowing anyway.

    DorkyGuy: isn’t it nice in this market to have no leverage? Every once in a while we find out why the traditional values make sense.


  116. lisa says:

    Good evening everyone. Had a nice day with my family but am glad they finally went home. My profile is finally approved, lotsa views but no emails as of yet.
    Gotta get started cleaning up the house now.

  117. Nico*213385* says:

    LOL @ SE :) love it 😉

    It is miserable warm and standing directly in the window putting up the blinds is HOT…..and it’s no party….unless you consider my puppies helping out a party.

    My SD is replacing the external unit to my air conditioner though…..my air handler is too big for it and it’s not working efficiently. I am putting up the blinds to cut down on the heat. So far so good 😀

  118. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    Hi Suthrn, Nico, Liebchen, Trin, GG, Dorky and all lurkers….happy weekend everyone!

    Liebchen, sounds like a go on the chocolate. Gets my vote anyway. He will think of how sweet you are as he’s enjoying them on his way home!

    What’s on your agenda this summer? Being creative trying to find ways to keep up the business cash flow…summer is my slow time :( Hopefully some sweet sugary days/weekends sprinkled in there somewhere too.

    What does a perfect summer day with a SD or SB look like to you? Sleep late, breakfast on the deck, strolling through the market or hiking in the mountains, a picnic lunch or sidewalk cafe. Later, dinner in or out and maybe a show/concert, then wrapping the day up with some quality snuggling and pillow talk 😉

    Anyone planning any summer trips with a sugar? Hopefully. Always optimistic!

  119. SuthrnExec says:

    i’m well – getting warm in these parts too. ahh The blind-hanging party! I’ve hosted my share of those! (Hope every reads your post before mine or else they may get a very wrong idea!)

  120. Nico*213385* says:

    😀 how are you? I am in the process of hanging blinds in the house. Trying to cool it off a bit. Hotter than *ahem* lately.

  121. SuthrnExec says:

    Good afternoon Nico –

  122. Liebchen says:

    No, he’s not married, I can see how that would be a bad idea :)

  123. Nico*213385* says:

    Hola SE :) and fellow sugar seesters 😀

  124. SuthrnExec says:

    Good afternoon folks! Did someone say chocolates?? LOL Just popping in to say HELLO!

  125. Trin says:

    I agree with Nico! Can’t go wrong with chocolates!

  126. goodgirl says:

    Liebchen~ hmmmm…thets a tough one. is he married? if so, it may not be a good idea. If not, sure! I think it’s sweet :)

  127. Nico*213385* says:

    Liebchen ~ I usually go to the book store and pick up a lil’ box of Godiva Truffels. My SD loved them and actually called me from the road afterward and indicated he LOVED them….the chocolates didn’t even make it home :) Who doesn’t like chocolate 😉

  128. Liebchen says:

    Hi sugars! Hope you’re all having a great weekend. I’m looking for a little advice. I’m having my first date with a pot SD this week. I want to bring him a little gift of some kind, no big deal at all, just something so he’ll think about me later. But I’m having trouble deciding if that would be sweet or just silly. Any thoughts?

  129. DorkyGuy says:

    Think you’ll find that guys like that are seldom receptive to constructive criticism.

  130. DC says:

    Morning sugars!

    I’m tired too Trin! Been drinking too much wine lately. Need to get back on a healthy diet again.

    Lisa- sometimes it has taken about 8 hours to get my profile approved

    Hitting the beach today with my pot BF, not SD

    I wrote a long e-mail to the boorish over compensating pot SD about why we were not a good match and he hasn’t written back yet. Curious if he will and if he does, what he will say.

  131. Trin says:

    Good morning everyone. I am so tired…:)

  132. lisa says:

    Good morning everyone. Just got up. Gee how long does it take for a profile to get appproved? The last times i’ve done it, it was only a few hours.
    Gotta hit the shower now. My family is coming over at around noon.

  133. Nico*213385* says:

    …before I disappear completely…he means too much to me to allow him to disappear completely from my life. He is a good guy and perhaps one day he’ll come to his senses. I may or may not be available to date at the time. Currently occupying my time with a SD, work and school. :)

    ooooooh moderation hell….another reason to go to bed aaaarrrrgghhhh

  134. Nico*213385* says:

    …before I disappear completely…he means too much to me to allow him to disappear completely from my life. He is a good guy and perhaps one day he’ll come to his senses. I may or may not be available to date at the time. Currently occupying my time with a SD, work and school. :)

  135. lisa says:

    Good night Nico.

    I’ll send you an umbrella, lol

  136. DorkyGuy says:

    Nico, I’m sorry to hear your guy is trapped in that. It is an addiction, and he has to want to break free of it to actually do so.

    One positive point.. he had the good sense to make room for some companionship in his life. He just needs to prioritize that a little higher.

    lol @ anyone I know reading this, and pointing out that I am “the pot calling the kettle black”. Probably true, but I feel I’m making progress.


  137. Nico*213385* says:

    That’s kewl….20 more umbrellas it is then 😉

    I bought my house for next to nothing and I guess I am used to owning. I like my space but also like my privacy…so no condos or apartments for me. My SD helps cover my landscaping/lawn maintenance and my mortgage payment is probably not much more than what you’re paying for rent. 😉 To each his own though. Need to know where I’m going to live in 20 years after I pay off the mortgage.

    Alright girl ~ I am headed outa here. Hafta finish studying and get to bed. Have a good night and….good night Dorky Guy (cute name btw).

  138. lisa says:

    I have no desire to buy a house as I am lucky to be able to pay my rent in the ghetto . I dont’ make much money and have zero savings. My credit is bad too. I like small places if I’m living alone and would really like to live in an effiency apartment rather than this large one bedroom, I have so much space I dont’ use. I would rather rent and enjoy any extra money that to put everything into a house and have no fun.

  139. Nico*213385* says:

    Well ~ you’re one step ahead of me 😉 and a few umbrellas ahead too LOL. Do you have any desire to buy a home?

  140. lisa says:

    I am debt free as I rent and have no car. My credit cards went deliquent but after years, they have given up on me. They got more than I spent with all the interest I was paying for all those years.
    I have rent, water, elec, phone/internet, bus fare, food, etc and pay for everything with cash now

  141. Nico*213385* says:

    Hahaha….Lisa ~ I am hyper conservative. I did have many pairs of shoes but now am down to less than many men I know. The last pair of jeans I bought was was almost 2 years ago. My SD bought me a dress but I am following Dorky Guy’s comments and putting my monies toward becoming 100% debt free.

    I don’t even own an umbrella. I am in Florida and rainy season is ALL summer long yet I would just run from the car to the building in lieu of actually buying an umbrella.

  142. lisa says:

    I have 12 umbrellas and I want more but yesterday and today I couldn’t find any that excited me. I love colorful umbrellas and buy them in bunches, I need about 20 more

  143. lisa says:

    and many times by the time you get something paid for, you are bored with it. when it’s not shiny and new anymore, it’s not fun. It’s like women and clothes and shoes, I have 50+ pairs of shoes and my closet looks like a store but i’m not satisfied and I really have nothing to wear.

  144. Nico*213385* says:

    Dorky Guy ~ it’s an addiction. He could buy and sell that house five times over yet his passion (or affliction) is his love for work. It’s like the pack-rat. The person that doesn’t grow up with much/anything typically tends to hoard things in their adult life. He grew up poor and opened his first company at 17 and has worked like that his entire life….now being no exception.

    It’s sad because we’re highly compatible….sans the job of course.

  145. lisa says:

    I think i’m incapable of developing deep relationships anymore. I gave my all to so many relationships only to be used and have my time wasted so i’ve learned to be uninvolved emotionally with anyone, even my family to some extent. There are things in my family that will forever divide us and I treat dating relationships as business as if the man is not looking to make me his wife and take care and provide for me, then my time is valuable and I look at it as a temporary thing that I want to benefit from the most I can as afterall i’m wasting my time with them.

  146. Nico*213385* says:

    It is sad and many that reflect back on their life do so with regret….”I should’ve…”

  147. DorkyGuy says:

    The real answer is for a guy like that to buy a house he can afford in the first place, so he doesn’t have to work himself to the bone to pay it off to the neglect of his marriage.

    I agree exactly with your last sentiment. Balance is key. You can be wise with your finances, and still enjoy life without resorting to the dollar menu.

  148. lisa says:

    my uncle worked day and night and weekends to build his business. He did this for about 30 years and ended up dying before he retired (61) of a cancer caused by exposure to materials he worked with.

  149. Nico*213385* says:

    LOL ~ I personally develop a little more of a relationship with my SD ~ for me it’s like dating somebody…everything BUT the strings.

    Things with my X were great and he was a great guy but, as you stated earlier, he became and is still, a slave to his work. Giving so much to work made all other aspects of his life suffer. Many successful individuals that I’ve met have a hard time acknowledging balance which you touched on earlier….he worked so hard to pay off the house only to find the wife leaving him (because he worked too much) and she takes the house.

    BALANCE is truly key.

  150. lisa says:

    Nico that’s the type of man i’d like to marry but at the same time we’d probably be eating off the dollar menu. Anything that takes all your money, even a home, can become an object of resentment when it keeps you from enjoying life. And in time, just like anything we purchase, the excitement wears off.
    I am not looking to marry anyone though. Why should I? I work hard, full time, clean my house, do laundry, why would I want to marry a guy so I could continue working hard, and having obligations to him? If I marry again he will have to be the old fashioned provider type.

    Sugardaddy dating is supposed to be fun. You don’t have to worry about whether he cheated on his taxes and will get caught or if he is in deep debt as you still have your independence (or you should have) and you’re not liable for his mistakes.
    Just like the sds don’t have to worry about when the sb gets old and cranky like thier wives, they can just drop her and find a new one.

  151. Nico*213385* says:

    OOOPs correction….it is a huge turn OFF when people have to use their money to define who they are…

    **removing foot from mouth**

  152. Nico*213385* says:

    Hello Lisa ~ I wanna jump in and not take sides because I feel you both have very valid points

    Lisa ~ my X boyfriend (not SD) paid for his house cash ($1.2mil) and was a very conservative individual, which I actually appreciated. It is a huge turn on when people have to use their money to define who they are.

    Dorky Guy ~ hello we’ve not met….I am old school on the site 😉 I appreciate your perspective as well because what that does show is the SD is responsible in more than one area of life, which could lead to a more long term arrangement because of his forethought 😉

    *pardon me if my ramblings don’t make sense ~ studying all night and looking for a mental break.*

  153. DorkyGuy says:

    LOL! umm…. LOL

  154. lisa says:

    many of the sds are married and the wife always has plans for what to do when something gets paid off, lol

    I know very few single guys who own houses. My ex sd has a house but he is like 65 years old and got divorced after his kids were grown. Wife took other house, he kept one they lived in.

  155. lisa says:

    If you pay your house off, sacrificing for years, and then it’s paid off and you have extra money, then the next day, your wife leaves you for spending so much time working to pay the house off, gets the house and alimony, and you’re broke again, or you get killed the next day and don’t get ot enjoy the money, etc etc.

  156. DorkyGuy says:

    lol yeah, that’s just my two cents as a single guy. Most of the play money I have available now is due to aggressively paying down debt, and a refusal to take on more debt. It’s made a big difference in my disposable income. I keep forgetting the wife part of the equation though… Would be interesting to hear what some of the other SD’s think.

    You’re right on one point. If the guy is living lavishly on credit, it may hurt him in the long run, but the SB can just walk away when the piper comes calling.

  157. lisa says:

    lisa is about to shoot fire from her eyes,lol

    Good evening Nico
    I’m back on SA but my profile is still pending. I didn’t change it much and need to change pics.

  158. Nico*213385* says:

    Ha…loving the debate…Dorky Guy….tough to win with Lisa 😉

    …but am enjoying the entertainment 😀

  159. lisa says:

    if the sd is married, most likely the wife has already put that extra money when the mortgage was paid off into other use. lol

    most single men I meet in everyday life don’t own homes, they live in apartments because the ex got the house and the kids or they don’t have time for the upkeep. I would never want to own a house, too much work, I’d love to live in a highrise condo though.

    When my ex got his mercedes paid off, he bought a house, thus no extra money for spoiling me.

  160. DorkyGuy says:

    paid off= lower monthly expenditures=more play money=happy sugarbaby

  161. lisa says:

    some people near my neighborhood lost much of their front yards years ago when the city decided to widen their streets. One grocery store had to go out of business because the new freeway expansion took most of the parking lot.

  162. lisa says:

    paid off house means nothing as you still have to pay taxes, insurance, upkeep, neighborhood fees, etc, you never really own your house. Some people are paying more in taxes in a year than they would pay renting an apartment.

  163. lisa says:

    the paid off stuff doesn’t make any difference to a sb as we’re not going to live in the house or own the car or have to deal with it being repossed, as it is nsa. I am most impressed with a man who is generous as I have seen many people who have alot of stuff and they are supercheap with others. my ex boyfriend was driving a 50k mercedes which was nice but didnt’ help me as I was still standing in the rain waiting for the bus to go to work and bumming a ride home when I worked late.

  164. DorkyGuy says:

    JohnQ has it right. The new status symbol isn’t the fancy house or fancy car… it’s the paid off house, paid off credit cards, paid off car, debt free status, and of course the classy sugarbaby.

  165. lisa says:

    I’d take 2-3K a month as long as he was only looking to get together 3 or 4 times, none of that 2-3 week stuff without he was really fun to be with.

    I like the high powered kind. oh about the cars, yes that is true, I had a boyfriend who drove a ferrari, and well, you know

  166. lisa says:

    gee it takes forever to get your profile approved.

  167. DC says:

    hi John-

    I agree with everything you said. I am not looking for an SD for the bling or to impress anyone. I want to be with one SD that I like, admire and respect. This guy reminds me of Trump who I can’t stand. And I think he would be best suited with someone younger and hotter that he could impress others with to match the fancy car. I have always thought that men who have to drive the fastest, most expensive cars are overcompensating for something else.

    And he’s only offering 2-3 K.

    I really appreciate everyone’s feedback. It just confirms what my heart was telling me.

  168. lisa says:

    yes and that’s why I prefer discussing things online before we meet because when you meet someone , you’re nervous, trying to make a good impression, and there are other people around and if you’re like me, you feel like all those people know what you’re up to, lol
    If a man won’t discuss things online, I don’t waste my time meeting him. I once had a date with a man who wouldn’t discuss anything till me met. We met and he talked about an arrangement in detail with me and I thought I had him. well he said it would be a couple months before we could start because of family obligations (that was wrench thrown in when I thought everything was going well) and well I never heard from him again although he is still on the site last time I checked.

  169. DC says:

    Thanks Red. Don’t forget legs!

    That’s too bad that he wasn’t more up front with you Lisa but some people have a problem being honest to someones face. It’s good that you are continuing your search and I bet someone great shows up soon.

  170. johnq says:


    In my experience (which is not insubstantial, given that I spent the 90s at ground zero of the Internet bubble), men with serious money normally don’t brag about it. They don’t have to. And a $100K car can be purchased for a lot less than $5K a month. That’s obviously significant compared to the normal person’s income, but isn’t much of an indicator of real wealth.

    This guy sounds seriously insecure, and possibly self-obsessed. It’s one thing to hope that your expensive car will be impressive when you drive up. It’s something else entirely to boast about the cost to impress someone you’ve just met. I predict any relationship with him will mainly involve him talking about himself and how great he is.

    The only advantage I can see is if possibly you could position yourself so that he could brag to other people about how expensive you are. So maybe he’d go for $20K a month, as long as he could drag you around to his friends and comment on your cost, and possibly your value. I suspect, however, that he couldn’t afford $20K a month anyway, so it’s probably a lost cause.


  171. lisa says:


    DC just don’t cross the street, you could get hit by a car

  172. RedMaru says:

    I got a phone number from one(not on SA) and I read his profile and I’m a bit eh. He’s inviting me out.

  173. RedMaru says:

    DC – Keep fingers, toes and anything else I can physically cross for you 😀

  174. lisa says:

    it says i’m posting too quickly too, lol

    I hate being left hanging by a sd, it would be nice to have a regular one that is dependable. I had one for a month but now he’s gone. He isn’t on the site anymore either. When he left that night , he was talkign about stuff we would do in the future, etc. But he’s poofed. At least meeting him was fun and worth my time, lotsa shopping and I was able to refill my contact lenses for awhile so I dont’ have to worry about that expense for awhile

  175. DC says:

    What’s up with the blog today- keeps saying I am posting too quickly

    Lisa, that is awful. I’d suggest wearing motorcycle body armor when your are at the bus stop but you’d die from the heat

    It’s okay Red. I saw some red flags when we were e-mailing and I should have trusted my instincts. He was very business like, there was no real connection. It has just made me feel really lucky about SD1. I just hope he wants to have something regular with me so I can stop my SD search.

  176. lisa says:

    downtown Houston we have a rail line that goes a few miles (only one line in this big city) and drivers are always crashing into it and causing accidents as they have no sense when it comes to waiting for the rail to pass.

    I have been almost hit several times when I was crossing with the signal. The problem is the drivers that are turning and they don’t even look for pedestrians and are busy on their cell phones. The almost hit you and then when you give them a nasty look, they cuss you out.

    I’m living for the day we run out of oil (and it will happen someday) and everyone is walking. It will be hard for the fat lazy Houstonions that won’t even walk across the street on a fall or winter day.

  177. RedMaru says:

    lisa – Wow and I thought GA (especially in downtown and St Mtn) was the only place where drivers didn’t care about pedestrians.

  178. lisa says:

    percy is ok right now. The problem in Houston is that they are obsessed with widening the road and they have no regards for sidewalks, bus shelters or pedestrian safety. The mall area is a mess and you risk your life when you cross the street. when you’re crossing with the walk signal,lines of cars are turning in your direction. they have built a enclosed bridge for the hospital personel to cross safely from the medical center to the mall but have done nothing for the rest of us. The bustop at the mall is right out in the sun inches from the trafic. If there would be an accident (the busstop is right at the intersection) and the cars ran off the road, anyone at the bussto could be killed. I was once injured by flying constrution debris at a busstop ( a wooden road block was hit by a car and it flew at me, knocked me down and bruised my entire back). I contacated the city and they never got back to me and the the thing that hit me layed broken on the sidewalk for months.

  179. RedMaru says:

    Evening sugars 😀
    Just popping in for a little while before I head off to the gym. I just read about your date DC…sorry bout that. I totally agree constant bragging is such a turn off.

  180. DC says:

    This is true. It’s why I love my car. Someone could smash into it and I wouldn’t care and it gets me from point A to point B. I really feel for ya with the heat. Heat makes me very cranky. Are you spritzing Percy down with water?

  181. lisa says:

    any car beats the bus. I’m stuck inside not able to even go down to the store as it’s just too hot out with dangerous heat indexes. Plus my ac is not cooling much :(

  182. DC says:

    I hear ya Lisa. My car sounds like part of it is going to stay at the curb when I drive it off every day.

    It’s just that he had to go on and on about how much it cost, how much money he has, how much money in property he has…blah, blah…blah. I think I’m more suited to the quiet, unassuming wealthy types who don’t need to brag about it to impress someone. Maybe that’s all he was trying to do. After he gets my e-mail he will get my drift and it’s for him to decide. Basically just want to say…I get it, you’ve got 100 million dollars, you don’t need to impress me…I like you because you are a nice man and attractive…now shut up! LOL

  183. lisa says:

    I don’t mind a fancy car. My first sd had an old suv thing, well it was made before they had suvs and it was dirty and clunky, no ac so the windows were open whenever we went somewhere and I was blown to shreds.

  184. DC says:

    Hey Lisa- this guy was driving a $100,000 car I had never even heard of (and I showed up in my 23 year old Toyota LOL) but he made sure to tell me the cost. I don’t doubt for one minute he has the moolah. But I am just not impressed by bling. SD#1 wouldn’t be caught dead driving a car like that.

    I know I am unusual in that that kind of stuff does not impress me.

    The good thing is that meeting him really made me appreciate SD1 much more and really endeared me to him. This guy was an over the top braggart. A little is okay but this was extreme. And usually these types have the lowest self esteem but I don’t think that was the case with this guy

    Yes, OC….sugar coated definitely. I am composing it now. I just got an e-mail from him saying he really enjoyed meeting me. I was hoping he was gonna change his mind as well LOL

    GG- that is great!! I’m so happy for you. What a good friend Scully is!

  185. lisa says:

    Have a great weekend OC!

  186. OCSugarBaby says:

    I am off to start my weekend! Have a wonderful weekend everyone.

    DC- That is great about SD #1. Love that you are going to be honest with #2. Nothing beats honesty, with a light sugar coating of course.

    Lisa: Stay sweet my friend.

    GoodGirl: I call them MY-Garita’s! Yummmm

    Later Sugars! ~OC

  187. goodgirl says:

    really good!!!!!!!!!!!
    i’m totally excited :) thanks for asking dc!!!! 😉

  188. lisa says:

    I doubt it as the shelterless busstops and the 100 degree heat index make it dangerous to wait for a bus.

    Sorry about your date DC, I don’t like a bragger either, flashy is fine but when they start rumbling on that’s another thing. And i’ve found that those that brag the most are usually not all they say. Many times they are living on credit or they start telling you how they can’t afford to give you this or that even though they seem to have plenty.

  189. DC says:

    Hey GG- how was the …ummm…you know….

  190. DC says:

    Thanks GG. Good to know in case he ever comes back. Stay away from The Donald!!!

  191. jasmine says:

    trust me urs in houston is probably better than here…i gotta leave,im coming back on sunday….bye everyone!!!!

  192. lisa says:

    I rode the cta as a child, superior to the metro in houston though

  193. goodgirl says:

    Hello :) i’m goodgirl and i’m a partial addict. Just takin it one day at a time. lol
    Had a FANTASTIC lunch today!!! Too many margaritas and a ton of laughs! 3 1/2 hour lunch :) Scully is cool, btw, for anyone who wondered…

    JQ~ as of today… 37-30-39… lol 😛 thats just for you.
    Dorky~for the last time… I LIVE IN MISSOURI!!!!
    DC~ he deleted his profile a month ago… but he’s Donald. 😉

  194. DC says:

    LOL Lisa!

    Just back from a pot SD date. Not quite what I expected. First time we met.

    Yesterday I had my first real date with an SD I met once before. It was absolutely wonderful, I really like him. He is respectful, sweet, incredibly down to earth and romantic and affectionate. He is probably exactly the same today with his wealth as he was before he acquired the wealth. His toys do not define him. Only problem is that we did not make future plans even though I know he had a really nice time. I don’t know how often I will see him or if I will see him again.

    So I thought I should meet this other pot SD just out of curiosity. He is the complete opposite. One of these guys with a ton of money who has to brag about it, gets what he wants all the time and had to tell me how much he paid for his car. While we probably could have fun together, he is so the opposite of what I am looking for and the complete opposite of SD#1. The kind that would probably start pointing out my imperfections if you know what I mean. I was kind of hoping he wouldn’t like me so I wouldn’t have to tell him it wouldn’t work out but he wanted to go forward. I am probably going to e-mail him and be honest with him and see what he says. Too bad because he was offering a nice arrangement.

    JohnQ- none of that means anything of course. There is a lid for every pot as my dad used to say. Some men like curvy and some like the anorexic look and some like in between. All that matters is that a woman is confident and likes the way she looks and is healthy and projects that outward. Self esteem is what counts.

  195. jasmine says:

    well i must leave,i have to take my kids to their uncle for the weekend,ugh i have to hop on the good ol’ cta sheesh,lisa i feel ya…ugh

  196. lisa says:

    ok so Trin you’re saying you don’t inhale?lol

  197. Trin says:

    I always check the blog but haven’t posted that much lately…:(

  198. jasmine says:

    hello trin!

  199. jasmine says:

    name’s jasmine and im kinda addicted but have learned to pull away from the screen.

  200. lisa says:

    my name is lisa and unlike OC I don’t have a problem and i’m not addicted. I have everything completely under control as long as I have a computer, the blog is working, etc, I am ok.

  201. Trin says:

    Hi everyone! :)

  202. OCSugarBaby says:

    Welcome DG! The group has SD’s too. The blog is addictive. But most of us will never admit our vice. Me on the other hand…

    Hello, My name is OC and I am a Blog addict. I have worked hard to curb my addiction by sprinkling in some sugar. My life is fuller now that I have learned to step away from the screen. lol 😉

  203. DorkyGuy says:

    There’s a support group? Anything that involves a group of SBs is bound to be fun!

  204. RyD says:

    Ohh well welcome back NYC SB if you do reactivate. Would you want to e-mail me…ryanthedon at gmail? Love to hear from you!

  205. lisa says:

    Now OC! we don’t need a support group, well I dont’ as I can quit anytime I want, I don’t have a problem. It’s all under control :)

  206. OCSugarBaby says:

    It is fun to see the newest Blog Addicts! I can email you the link to the support group if you send me your email. (kidding…) 😉

  207. lisa says:

    I’m busy hiding all my stuff so that when my family comes over tomorrow they won’t see it, lol
    They are coming over for an early father’s day tomorrow.
    It feels like my aircontioner is not working again :( it always happens when I;m having company. It was 80 when I got home today and turned it lower, now a few hours later it’s 90, it’s not working and of course the office is closed for the weekend. :( It’s unbearable in here when the ac isn’t working. We will be very uncomfortable tomorow

  208. Gail says:

    OC….while your sugar cup is runeth over…mine keeps dribbling in….(smile) I am doing great….will be starting my weekend at 4:00 today. Next week I will be in the bay…taking my favorite daddie out on the SF Wharf.

    Lisa,I did a bit of shopping too…I now have some cute kahkis shorts and a lacy black tank top. I have to find some cute black sandals next : )

    I see the blog is full of new and old SDs/SBs…Whew….when it rains it pours. Everyone always comes back : )

  209. jasmine says:

    thank you OC!

  210. OCSugarBaby says:

    Oh My goodness, my Boobies will never be a 40! lol 😉

  211. johnq says:

    In today’s important scientific news:

    “Men prefer averagely shaped women, according to a study that compared the body shapes of ordinary women, Playboy centrefolds and professional escorts.

    The work, by Rob Brooks at the University of New South Wales in Sydney, Australia, and colleagues, suggests that the popular notion that a waist-hip ratio of 0.7 is the most attractive only holds if the rest of the body is average (Behavioral Ecology, DOI: 10.1093/beheco/arp051).

    “The orthodoxy says that you will be attractive with a certain waist-hip ratio no matter how the rest of your body varies. Our study shows this is not the case,” says Brooks. His team asked 100 male students to judge the attractiveness of 201 line drawings of female torsos with different hip, waist and shoulder measurements. The men showed a preference for women with a waist-hip ratio of 0.7 – but only if they had an average-sized waist, hips and shoulders.

    When compared with groups of real women, including Playboy centrefolds, Australian escorts advertising on the internet and average Australian women between the ages of 25 and 44, the latter group most closely matched the preferred body shape.”

    I honestly have no idea what this means. As best I can tell, the “average” woman’s measurements are 40-34-43, which is a waist-hip ratio of .79, or considerably higher than the optimal .7. So it’s not clear how you can have both “average” measurements and a .7 ratio. Possibly additional scientific research is needed.

    In any event, this may be good news for those women whose body shapes don’t exactly match Playboy standards. On the other hand, the study was carried out in Australia, and I’m reliably informed that most Australian men are at least half-drunk most of the time, so it’s possible the results are less than trustworthy.


  212. OCSugarBaby says:

    Miss Jasmine! How pretty do you look… OMG Fabulous. Love the new pic!

  213. jasmine says:

    thanks gail! TGIF!!

  214. lisa says:

    Hi OC, Hi Gail

    yes i’m tired out from shopping. Just put my profile back up, same one as I dont’ have any new pics right now.

  215. OCSugarBaby says:

    Gail! I had a feeling if I came on you would be here. How are you my sugar sista? Lisa Penelope too! You shopping girl you!

    I am so glad it is Friday! My sugar cup runeth over, I am ready for a weekend of R and R.

  216. Gail says:

    Look at pretty Jasmine!!!! It’s time you checked in : ) Welcome back!!!

    Lol @ Lisa….Let the search begin!!!! Happy Friday sugars!

  217. johnq says:


    I’m around from time to time. The easiest way to get in touch is for you to post your user number (found at the top of your profile).


  218. jasmine says:

    lol probably.. :)

  219. lisa says:

    I’ve got the same pics but have found if you go away for a little while and come back, it’s like new as there are many new members I see but then i’m seeing some of the same old tired sds. lol I will keep my other site profile hid for awhile as it’s stale over there. Latest potential seems to be online 24 hours but still hasn’t wrote back to me even though he initatied contact. Probably a little boy in his parent’s basement playing on the computer, lol

  220. jasmine says:

    ahh,i just finished last night putting new pics on mine last night.

  221. lisa says:

    I see you jasmine
    I just put a new profile on here, actually the same one but i’ve been off here for 2 months, was on another site and just hid that profile for awhile.
    it’s pending now

  222. jasmine says:

    never mind

  223. jasmine says:

    hey does anyone know how to get ur pic on this blog?

  224. jasmine says:

    ahh had a little accident with the babys,lets just say ketchup accident.

  225. jasmine says:


  226. lisa says:


  227. DorkyGuy says:

    Conservative girls are hot!

    Just sayin’

  228. lisa says:

    yes it happens when you least expect it. I had 3 potentials, two that I had been talking to for a week and then he emailed me on a sunday because we were compatible in zodiac signs. we talked and met friday and he brought me 200 dollars and asked were an atm was as he wanted to give me some more to make it half because he felt he wanted to start an arrangement with me. Then on monday we met for dinner, he brought me the other half, a coffee maker, coffee grinder and some goumet coffee beans. So In 8 days I went from two deadend potentials and no money to a sd and 1000 in shopping money. The other two potentials continued to email me and then disappeared. Funny how these buys says they come to your city on business twice a month but you can be chatting with them fot two months and never seem to get into town,lol

  229. jasmine says:

    dont worry lisa u will find someone again,like i always said last time,

  230. lisa says:

    It was great because he shared my conservative political views and we had so much in common. He did lie about his age though and confessed on our first meeting. I did think he looked too old for 53, turned out he was 65. We got together 4 times though.

  231. lisa says:

    well let’s see since you were last on, I have met a sd, had a monthlong arrangement, seen him last week for the last time and poof. He was a great guy though and gave me a month’s allowance on our first and second dates and gave me apartial amount for june before he poofed. After an 8 month draught it was nice to be able to go splurging again, lol
    Now i’m back to lookin

  232. jasmine says:

    man how long was i off this blog?

  233. lisa says:

    Yes that’s Percy, i’m his sugarmama, lol

  234. jasmine says:

    is that ur pigeon lisa?

  235. jasmine says:

    same here…

  236. lisa says:

    Hi jasmine long time no see :)

  237. jasmine says:

    good afternoon everyone!!! havent been on for a long time,i hope lisa is still here! if ur are helllo!!!!

  238. NYC SB says:

    vixen… what spot?

    ihop sugar date?

  239. lisa says:

    and still not broke :)

  240. lisa says:

    Good afternoon everyone. Gee goodgirl that jerk is at it again? He must be really poor if he’s going to all the trouble to sue over 200, lol anyway I will be looking for you on “judge judy” lol

    Got back from the mall. almost melted standing in the hot sun at the bus stop for 20 minutes. THe took away all the bus shelters to make way for wideing the road so now the bus stops are inches from the cars racing by.

    DId ok, got a nice bedskirt for my bed for 12.75, originally 75 and the perfect color, they only had one left. Also got some stuff at sephora, and some fun lingerie(not sexy but fun) and stopped for my quisadillas and fried pickles. Relaxing now. Looking forward to spending the day with my family tomorrow.

  241. Regina *337921* says:

    Sport NYC? Is it a website? :O
    Hi Vixen :) Wish you luck!
    Have you ever been in one? I never…

  242. vixen says:

    we’re at the spot NYC

    Hi regina..got a date at ihop tomorrow

  243. Regina *337921* says:

    Mornig all…
    Came from school & have a few mails from some probable SD.
    Maybe I’ll have someone 4 the summer LOL 😀
    What about u?

  244. NYC SB says:

    where is everyone?

  245. DC says:

    yep, gonna leave at 10:30. Trying to wake up!

  246. Jai says:

    Nope! lol Just doing some hair and hanging out with my sister :) Shouldn’t you be on your way to meet your pot?

  247. DC says:

    Hey Jai! School today?

  248. DC says:

    NYC- wow, he sounds amazing. That’s wonderful!

  249. Jai says:

    Morning all! :) GG How are you even awake right now? lol

    Hey Villa, NYC, DG, DC!!! :)

  250. DC says:


    I cannot believe that guy, what an a*hole

    I’m in Seattle as well. I’ll go kick his butt for you!

    But seriously…can you e-mail me his profile # so I make sure I don’t ever meet him. Jai has my address

    Welcome Dorky guy!

    Meeting a pot SD in an hour. Have to drive 30 minutes and I am so tired and a little hungover from yesterday…..so not really in a mood to meet someone.

  251. DorkyGuy says:

    Well, that’s the law in Kansas where you live anyway.

  252. DorkyGuy says:

    I think the actual law is that if a guy gives you $200 for Mother’s Day, and then discovers that you’re not his actual mother, he can go for triple restitution 😛

  253. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Wow. Just ignore him. Empty threats…

  254. goodgirl says:

    PS… he’s in seattle, i’m in kansas city. He said he’ll be in my area in two weeks to file! hahaha (explorer much?!?!?)

  255. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Keep a record of all your communication in the event that he won’t leave you alone… you could use it as evidence if you need to file a ‘harrassment restraining order’ against him.

    Have fun with Scully!

  256. goodgirl says:

    NYC~thanks :) i feel better now
    VC~ it was a western union. it kinda freaked me out when i got it too, cuz i never told him my last name. he just called me up and said to go to western union because he had sent me a mothers day surprise.
    some sd we would’ve been! lol
    gotta go now… i have a date with scully in an hour 😉

  257. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    GG – it is a ridiculous case without ‘merit’. Is there any proof that he gave you the money? Was it cash, a check, etc?

    NYC SB —- ahhhhhh…. i thought you had found a master of the universe in NYC for me… 😀

  258. NYC SB says:

    VC – we have SF SD, dorky, storm just to name a few LOL

  259. NYC SB says:

    GG – seriously???? what is the story with refund guy?

    ps. per the law a gift was given on a holiday thus his case has no merit :p

  260. goodgirl says:

    i’d like some suggestions… please :)

  261. goodgirl says:

    refund guy is back. he’s threatening to sue me over the $200 ‘gift’ he sent me on mothers day. lol

  262. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    who is “we” ??? you can email me… yahoo… villacypris … hmmm… you’ve piqued my curiosity!

  263. NYC SB says:

    VC – we have quite a demand for your company 😀

  264. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    i’m happy for you! men such as him are quite rare, in my experience. so enjoy ~~~~~ x

  265. NYC SB says:

    i absolutely agree 😀

  266. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    NYC SB – sounds like this new ‘arrangement’ will be best for both of you… he can satisfy his desire to be a mentor/benefactor, and also have the freedom to look for a GF/wife…and you can have the benefits of his financial backing as well as his friendship and guidance, while keeping your own options open in other areas.

    excellent. :)

  267. NYC SB says:

    VC – he is a great guy… he told me that he wants more of a gf/wife rather than an NSA relationship… i fully agree with him as he is older and never been married (he is 52)

    Lisa – the half allowance is not bad at all as currently my arrangement with him is VERY substantial at 20k a month … i will be more than happy with half of that 😀

  268. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    have fun lisa!

  269. lisa says:

    that sounds ok except for the half allowance part. My sd came over last week and gave me a third of my allowance and said he was waiting for his deposit from his side business and then he’d have more. We were intimate and well he poofed after that. I’m not sure if he lost interest or if he died, lol Anyway I’m in search of a new one and will hold off intimacy for more than a month now as it seems a month is too quick.

    Have a great day everyone, gotta get to the bus stop now, be back this afternoon

  270. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    hmmmm… he sounds like a really “decent” guy… caring and supportive, with a high degree of *emotional intelligence* which allows him to realise that you’re not attracted to him sexually. interesting!

  271. NYC SB says:

    Oh you guys nothing bad happened – My SD called at 3am to let me know that if i want we can continue our arrangement at half the allowance but it wont involve sex as he could tell i am not attracted to him in a sexual manner… however he would like to be my benefactor and support me in my trading endaevours (i cannot spell) … which is BEYOND generous of him… we would meet for dinner couple of times a month and just talk and enjoy each others company

  272. lisa says:

    What happened NYC SB?

  273. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    hey NYC SB! :)

    how are you?? bad night eh? :(

    sounds like a fun day, lisa! enjoy your shopping!!

  274. lisa says:

    Good morning Villa :)

    I’m getting ready to go to the mall for awhile to shop. I’ve got a couple hundred left from the last allowance my now ex sd gave me. So i’m going to go out and do some retail therapy. lol I had a potential but he poofed. I’ve got to get back early so I can contact the office again about my running faucet that has been running for almost 2 weeks. I’ve also got to do some work on the other site with my profile, hide it or something and work on doing a new one for SA and see if I have any new luck.

    Looks like another scorcher here.

    Have a great day.

  275. NYC SB says:

    RyD – i am not on SA… unfortunately… after last night i am considering re activating my account 😀

  276. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    good morning, lisa! don’t worry, there is only one “you”! :)

    what do you have planned for your day off?

  277. lisa says:

    ok my potential has poofed. He read my email yesterday and was on the site all day and is one right now and still no answer. That means he’s probably emailing alot of sbs. Reading his profile again he sounds identical to one that contacted me several times (everytime I updated my profile) on SA. Same job, same area, etc so I think it’s the same guy and if it is he has been on for over a year.

  278. lisa says:

    humm is there another lisa on here? I went to be at 10:30.
    Just got up, gotta hit the shower. I did talk to my best friend for a couple hours last night.
    Going to go shoppping today.

    Glad DC and Apple’s dates went well

  279. Apple says:

    oh, and for those that will inevitably ask – the date was very nice, he was super sweet and adorable. :)

  280. Apple says:

    i can’t believe you guys are still awake! i decided to just stay up and do my last final now instead of waking up early.

  281. DorkyGuy says:

    lol GG, check your email, you goof

  282. goodgirl says:

    damn. kitty came back. i hate kitty.

  283. goodgirl says:

    crap. kitty jumped out the window again. stupid kitty.

  284. Lisa says:

    So is this how people communicate on here!?! Smart! :] How is everyone?!

  285. DorkyGuy says:

    lol, now I’m wondering what a dork looks like. Maybe I should be wearing my Spock ears.

    Jai, email incoming!

  286. Stiletto says:

    Lol, don’t worry Dorky, you’re not being stalked … :)

  287. goodgirl says:

    hey dorky…. email jai
    you’ve got a few sbs that want to chit chat with ya, you MAN you. lol

  288. vixen says:

    dorky we are not stalking u..plzz respond to Jai’s email..thanks

  289. Jai says:

    :) Thanks Cherry! Nice to meet you. Ignore my seemingly stalkish behavior of Dorky 😛

    Why are you up so late Cherry?

  290. CherryGlossPhilly says:

    Yay! Thanks, DorkyGuy… :) You dont look like a dork!!! Jai, you seem really cool btw. Ive been lurking your activity on the blogs. lol.

  291. DorkyGuy says:

    Yeah, I’m on late… I’m in the computer business, and I’m working at the moment. Just reading the blogs and setting up my profile in between tasks. Gotta invest some time into happiness!

  292. Jai says:

    Dorky guy, can we exchange emails? I’d like to say something to you, but I can’t on the blog :)

  293. Trin says:

    You are on late tonight DorkyGuy!

  294. DorkyGuy says:

    April 21 seems kind of long, but I’ve had high pressure work projects consume months of my time like that. It sucks, but it happens.

    As long as we’re speculating what the real reason might be, it is entirely possible that he could be telling the truth.

    Based on your relationship with him, is he usually honest, or does he usually seem to be hiding something?

  295. Trin says:

    Shaffa- He might have another “someone” on the side but still keeps in contact with you to keep you in case it fails. He would make the effort if he wanted to be your SD. Just my .02 cents. Another scenario is that he hasn’t come to terms with really taking the plunge into SD/SB relationship 100%. So many go poof and I think it is that SB’s out number SD’s by far so they have a buffet to chose from…:(

  296. DorkyGuy says:

    pffft, y’all are making me blush!

    My profile *342017* is updated and pending review (with pic). Hopefully it will be live tomorrow. I’m not taking it orange until this fall, because I just won’t have time to date until then, and I don’t want SBs pursuing something before then that just can’t happen.

    Besides, I’m not 100% sure yet that I shouldn’t be trying conventional dating instead. I value your honest feedback.

  297. Trin says:


  298. Jai says:

    Dorkguy is hot!!! :)

  299. Stiletto says:

    Oh!!! Dorkyguy…. :)

  300. goodgirl says:

    oh!!!!! Dorkyguy is cute!!! :)

  301. Trin says:

    Well….helllllooooo DorkyGuy’s avatar…;)

  302. DorkyGuy says:


    Go to gravatar.com and set up an account… when you create your avatar there, it automatically appears here because they are both WordPress sites.

  303. Shaffa says:

    Hello everyone…reguarding poof daddies (Ha.) So you’re seeing a SD for a month or maybe two, then all of a sudden he’s so extremely busy with work (starting a new factory up in July) He still calls, texts, emails and acts as though he wants this. But I havent seen him sense April 21st. Am I being stupid or what?

  304. CherryGlossPhilly says:

    HI NCGent and everyone else, thanks for the warm welcome. Johnq, if you’re out there, give me your screename so we can chat. How do we do that?
    And also, how do we get small, cute pics on here?

  305. Stiletto says:

    Nice DC! Happy for ya :)


  306. Regina *337921* says:

    Can you explain how can I use mu photo here?

  307. DC says:

    Hey Apple-

    Hope your date goes well. My SD just left. First real date. I got really lucky. He’s generous, sweet and a really good guy. I hope he wants to see me again. It was worth the almost 2 months wait.

    Meeting someone else tomorrow just out of curiosity but would be happy to see this SD exclusively if possible

    Nite all, I’m exhausted!

  308. Regina *337921* says:

    Hello everyone…
    I’m new in SA, hope i’ll find a SD in this summer but 2 tell u the truth… I’m nervouse (don’t know what 2 say, what 2 do… nothing!)

    What’s on your agenda this summer? I’m doidn some grade @ college but I do have all July free. So… I hope I have found a SD till that time 2 have the best summer ever!

    What does a perfect summer day with a SD or SB look like to you? Great Time with my SD. No rush, no pressure, shopping, late luch/dinner & relaxation!

    Anyone planning any summer trips with a sugar? I Wish…

  309. Apple says:

    Yeah, I’m on the west coast. It’s a late dinner because he had meetings. Okay, I’m outta here. Good night!

  310. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Are you on the west coast? That’ll be fun! Fancy dinners are great :)

  311. Apple says:

    Hi Villa, thanks! Picking out what to wear, etc. :) so fun, I feel like I haven’t gone on a proper fancy dinner date in a while.

  312. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Good to hear Stiletto~ anything exciting going on in ATL?

    Hi Apple – hope it goes well! :)

  313. Apple says:

    Evening, all! I have a date tonight, kind of nervous!

  314. Stiletto... says:

    Doing great too!

  315. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Fantastic! I’m doing very well. How about you?

  316. Stiletto... says:

    Hi Villa! How’s it going?

  317. jasmine says:

    good evening villa

  318. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hi jasmine ~ i like your name ~ reminds of many sultry nights in Tunisie~

  319. jasmine says:

    good evening everyone

  320. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hi Stiletto!

  321. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Whatever you like…. for your last meal 8)

  322. SF SD says:

    And does it include ice cream?

  323. VillaCypris *276489* says:


    SF SD….. good timing… I just arrived home…. sure, sign up! I’m sure NYC SB wouldn’t object :)

  324. Stiletto... formerly Cyanide says:

    Did I hear the word ‘Stiletto’? :)

    Hey everyone…

  325. SF SD says:

    “We could have a whole new diagnostic category to ourselves…. stiletto-wearing, fatale-esque young women who deliver death via sexual ecstasy.”

    Uh, can I sign up somewhere for this?

  326. RyD says:

    Hey NYC SB. Reading over this blog, i’d like to chat if that would be alright? What is your profile number so I can message you?


  327. SF SD says:

    Hmmmmm. DG, with all due respect for your creative suggestions, I suspect that a rating system on SA would be just about as successful as rating systems have been on any other site — and that it would be soon followed by a blog devoted to the merits of the rating system. Just my $0.02. :-)

  328. SF SD says:

    Wow. Two blogs going at once. I just left some smashingly brilliant comments on “Breaking Up,” but I suspect they now belong to the ages.

    OC – You said something in the previous blog about balance and communication being the key and about SBs and SDs having each other’s best interests at hand. Comments both savvy and wise, and I would commend them to DorkyGuy, who is certainly not off-topic, as he explores the possibilities of the sugar world.

    JQ – Sage investment advice. Trading individual stocks, using “insider” information exchanged on a “privileged” forum, is not investing. Play if you will, but consider it amusement, with any wins belonging to the same category as a Vegas jackpot.

    Stormcat – A bittersweet tone in your recent observations, but I hope you will continue to favor us with your comments, no matter what you decide to do.

    VC- Agree that women over 30 look majorly hot in nude photos. In a more genteel manor, I would offer this quote from William Blake: “Art can never exist without Naked Beauty display’d.”

    On Topic – No plans for exotic summer sugar travel, though always looking for the opportunity. The best I can come up for the moment is a private balcony overlooking a yacht harbor in sunny California. But, alas, no opportunities for skinny dipping.

    Cheers, all.

  329. lisa says:

    also I have found that trying to ask a sd what he was looking for and telling him to feel free to ask questions just results in poof daddies. I have sd virgins contacting me that have no idea what a sd does and they say they have questions to ask but they won’t ask me, they just want to meet right away. I never do that as I have to know someothing about the sd before I meet, that we are on the same page, etc. It’s kinda like you don’t just go to a job interview without first knowing something about the company and if it’s something you are qualified for.
    My faves are the ones that want to meet right away but have no picture. It’s kinda hard to meet someone when you have no idea what they look like. Dark hair, blue eyes, grey hair, 5′ 9″ could be anyone and I dont’ want to be staring over everyone that walks by. It is odd that it seems no one tells me what they are wearing asks me what I will be wearing when we meet. It’s so much easier to spot someone if you only are looking at the ones wearing a certain color or outfit.

  330. DorkyGuy says:

    Hey Lisa, I wasn’t suggesting that all of the forums be locked to paying members… only just that one section. The idea behind that would be to keep a SD from creating a bunch of free SB profiles and then posting positive reviews about himself.

    Maybe you’re right though… Maybe having it locked to paying members doesn’t matter on the SB side.

    @RedMaru – Heya! Good to meet you!

    Glad to see you ladies are exercising. My doc told me I needed to walk more, so I logged into my WoW account and deleted my mount.

  331. lisa says:

    Have a great evening RedMaru I’m going to head to the mall in the morning for more shopping, my last until I find a new sd.

  332. RedMaru says:

    Lisa I totally understand I got a deal through my job and its less than a block from my house. I walk too which is free. And speaking of I’m heading out. All of you have a wonderful evening and stay sweet!

  333. lisa says:

    DorkyGuy I tried a paid membership for a month , total waste of money. If the forum became paid, i’d have to leave and go back to all the free forums I participate in. Most of us sbs on here are not paying members.

    I wish I could start going to the gym but I don’t have the money to spare. There is one a mile from me but you have to pay for a whole year to get a good deal. I’m not sure about doing it in the summer, working out in a cool gym and then standing in the hot sun at the busstop afterwards.

  334. RedMaru says:

    Well I’m working towards 125 myself hence my almost daily trips to the gym.
    hi DorkyGuy 😀 Dont believe we’ve met welcome and don’t worry about going off topic we do it all the time thus leading to new topics. But I like the idea of a forum to weed out the fakes good idea.

  335. DorkyGuy says:

    By the way, (in my humble opinion), size 0 is wayyyyyy too skinny. Bones just aren’t attractive.

  336. DorkyGuy says:

    Totally off-topic, but figured I’d toss this out there.

    I’ve been reading through all of the blogs to figure out if the SD/SB thing is for me. Seems like an ok match so far, but as Stormcat said, it’s a path fraught with fakes and traps.

    I stumbled on a blog that was discussing enhancements to the site, and another blog that discussed the need for a rating system so SB’s could rate SD’s, and SD’s could rate SB’s… kind of a way to identify fakes and warn the rest of the community.

    Stephen said in one post that a Forum system is coming. What if the Forum had two locked sections… one that only paid SB’s could see where they could discuss their experiences with SD’s, and one that only paid SD’s could see where they could discuss the SB’s?

    Sure there would be the danger that someone could vindictively tarnish someone’s reputation without cause… but I think the kind of person who does that is quickly discovered for who they are. I think that the need to identify and out fakes, escorts, and scam artists is the much bigger problem.

    It would definitely have a positive element too… as people would certainly talk about their positive experiences with SB’s and SD’s, and this would enhance members’ reputations as well.

    Just some thoughts out of left field.

  337. lisa says:

    well I used to weigh 83 pounds before I got pregnant. After that I couldn’t get down past 95 and now 18 years later i’m steady at 105 and hate it. I wanna be size 0. lol

  338. RedMaru says:

    hey sugars just popping in again.
    Hey lisa – Did you just say fat I saw your size 5 and if your fat then I must be obese must be the reason I can’t even get to first base let alone an SD.

    You’re tiny Lis’

  339. NitemareSD says:

    You must be lucky because I’m not in NY during July.

  340. lucky1 says:

    New York next month 😀

  341. lisa says:

    well his regular income is defered mostly into his retirement fun being at he is a couple years away from retirement and he has a side company that is his mad money. I don’t think he is in financial trouble but probably doesn’t have as much disposable income as he’s used to. I mean these rich people think they are having problems when they’re living 10 times as well as we are, lol He was a very nice gentleman though and totally honest (except for the age thing) and even though he hasn’t been in contact much, he did tell me the situation on our last date.

  342. DC says:

    Sorry about that Lisa. Maybe he is deeper in financial trouble then he told you and that could be why he is distancing himself. And the fact that he is no longer at the site also suggests that

  343. lisa says:

    I know how you feel DC. I met my sd and then seen him 3 days later and then not for almost 3 weeks and then last week before he vanished. Was getting comfortable with him but I guess he just wasn’t interested. He is not on the site anymore either. Last time he seen me (last week) he did give me 300 and said that I should keep looking for a sd as he wasn’t sure how things were going with him and if he wanted to be a sd.
    So i’m looking again. It was well worth my time though.

    I have plenty of fat on me :( I wish I was boney like those old women who walk in the mall and their legs look like skin covered skeletons.

  344. DC says:

    Thanks Lisa and Villa-

    We’ve only spent a few hours together before so still a little nervous and hope we hit it off. We first met on this site practically 2 months ago so pays to be patient.

    A size 5 is teeny Lisa. I doubt you have an ounce of fat on you!

  345. lisa says:

    Cool and I thought the enterntainment/track the flight location built in tvs in seats were cool.

    Good luck on a great evening DC!

    I’m back to searching.

  346. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    good luck, DC!!!!!

  347. lisa says:

    I wish! no i’m a size 5 in junior. I used to be 3 a few years ago. I’ve got to go out to the mall tomorrow and do some more shopping as I didn’t spent much money today as I got some good buys.

  348. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    lisa –

    San Francisco – May 20, 2009 – Virgin America, the California-based carrier, announced that as of today it is the first and only airline to offer Gogo® In-flight Internet service on every flight. As of today, guests on any of Virgin America’s 100 daily flights have the option to surf the Web, check e-mail, or log on to their corporate VPN – all from the comfort of their seats at 37,000 feet.

  349. DC says:

    Lisa- you are like a size 2 right?

    Sitting here waiting for my SD to come over. This should be interesting

    Red- I’m nervous!

  350. lisa says:

    you can use the internet on the plane? I thought all electronics had to be shut off because they interfere with signals?

    I always flew british airways though

  351. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Ohh nitemare… i’m on the plane… switched to virgin, they have WiFi on all their flites…. i’m coming, don’t worrY!

  352. lisa says:

    something good though, well I think it is. When my lover was undressing me, he accidently pulled my skirt over my head thinking I was wearing a dress. It’s good to have your skirt fit over your upper body without being unzipped, maybe i’m not fat after all, lol

  353. lisa says:

    I didn’t have a date, just my lover came over (he’s the one i’ve been seeing for 4 years). my sd has vanished. My potential is just in the early stage of talking. He said he had a hundred questions for me, I told him to feel free to ask and he read my email but hasn’t wrote back even though he’s been online all day it seems. He wanted to meet right away and I NEVER do that. Not wasting my time meeting anyone that I know nothing about. no picture either

  354. lisa says:

    Hi RedMaru
    I’m back from a busy day. Saw my lover and then went out shopping with my allowance from my ex sd. I went bargain shopping at marshalls. Found a few things but nothing really jumped out at me. You can find some great buys there, mall stuff at reduced prices. I did get some nice bath towels though. Also 2 pairs of shoes.

  355. RedMaru says:

    Lisa! 😀
    How was your date?

  356. lisa says:

    well she’s not here and she’s not over there, let me look under here, nope she’s not here

  357. RedMaru says:

    Hey sugars hows everybody doing. I miss anything?
    Welcome to all lurkers and newcomers 😀

  358. NitemareSD says:

    Hmmm. Did Villa really go to work, or did she actually board the plane after that lengthy delay?

  359. Trin says:

    Hey everyone! Finally got to read the blog…a lot of new people! Welcome! :)

  360. lisa says:

    I don’t think so, it’s a scorcher here today. I don’t have a car so I spend alot of time at hot shelterless busstops. I would like a nice cold front right now, lol

  361. DorkyGuy says:

    Lucky you!

  362. lisa says:

    DorkyGuy I’m in Houston

  363. NC Gent says:

    Hi All! Welcome to the blog, Cherry — I am sure johnq will be back and flattered as well. Hope everyone is having a great week — mine has been hectic :)

  364. DorkyGuy says:

    Guess you’re not around my part of Dallas… no problem with too much sun here. Thousands still without power from the storms last night, and they’re looking at evacuating houses from flooding today with thunderstorms still over much of the area. We had a tornado-y formation go right over our neighborhood yesterday. I rushed to my ex’s house, and got the kids into the bathtub with a mattress while the tornado sirens blared. Winds knocked out their power, so we lost radio to know what was going on… all we could hear were the sirens and neighbors honking and tires squealing as they jumped in their cars to try to race out of the area. They are still without power today, so I’m taking them ice and food. I told ’em I’d put ’em up in a hotel, and they may take me up on it if they’re still without power tonight. It’s the most drama I’ve had in years!

  365. lisa says:

    Hi everyone. Back from doing some shopping. Went to marshalls and found a few items I liked. Lucked out on the way home as I was waiting for the bus, one of my few nice neighbors saw me and gave me a ride home. Now I need to run across the street and get something to eat. I feel like chicken but that’s a couple blocks away don’t know if I want to get out in the scorching sun again. There is like no shade anywhere around here.

  366. CherryGloss says:

    I’m yet another lurker emerging from the shadows….Nice to finally meet you friendly people!:) Just curious, where did that charming ‘johnq’ fellow go? He seemed really wise and definitely the kind of guy I’d like to get to know…but I’m not so sure thats what the SD blogs are for. 😀 Nevertheless, if you return, johnq, just know that I gleaned a lot from your last musings on the blog. Very insightful indeed. This is coming from a newbie 22 yr old SB! :)

  367. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    And for me to go workout! Have a good one NYCSB! x

  368. NYC SB says:

    hmmm well its 4pm in NYC… I think its time for me to get out of work 😀

  369. NYC SB says:

    haha ABABY you know me ohhh sooo well….

  370. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    I don’t throw mine either…. that’s so childish… not to mention isn’t half the thrill leaving them ON?????

    Ok, dorky. We’ll take you to Per Se, and if we REALLY like you, we’ll bind and gag you, put you in the G-IV and head back to Yountville for another culinary experience.

  371. Ababy80 says:

    nycsb wouldn’t want to sratch the red soles

  372. DorkyGuy says:

    With that kind of attitude, I think you guys should pay for dinner! I’ll cover the tip though. I usually do 5% if the service is good.

  373. NYC SB says:

    its ok we already replaced him with storm 😛

    also dorky… my stilettos are uber expensive i would never throw them at people

  374. NYC SB says:

    its ok we already replaced him with storm 😛

  375. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    He’s smarter than we thought…. trying to incite us to unleash even greater levels of cheek-searing punishment on him…. by insulting us….

  376. NYC SB says:

    VC i think dorky just called us FAT!

  377. DorkyGuy says:

    VillaCypris *276489* Says:

    June 11th, 2009 at 1:37 pm
    Maybe dorkyguy would want to volunteer to be the first “victim”.

    NYC SB Says:

    June 11th, 2009 at 1:38 pm
    lol only if his profile goes orange before that

    pffft… and give up all of the perks of being a blue profile?

    If I were orange, and I suggested that the two of you should split a meal because it’s cheaper… and, let’s be real… you should probably be watching your calories anyway… you would just laugh at me. But, as a blue, it’s just expected!

    In either case, I might have to dodge a flying stiletto, but I’m pretty nimble on my feet.

    Besides, as a blue, I can forget my wallet every third date, and nobody thinks anything of it.

  378. VillaCypris *276489* says:


  379. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Excellent! You can be there are 18h25 then :)

  380. NitemareSD says:

    NW510 is delayed to 2:45 CDT. I dug out my old sport jacket and a white shirt.

  381. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Oh that is hilarious! I just read the review in the NYTIMES, 1968. Sounds like a must-see!

  382. NYC SB says:

    storm does a happy dance

  383. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    The diagnostic criteria will be revised and the final draft of DSM-V will be submitted to the APA’s Council on Research, Assembly, and Board of Trustees for their review and approval. A release of the final, approved DSM-V is expected in May 2012.

    Lucky you! A consensus it is…

  384. Stormcat says:

    NYC SB Says:

    June 11th, 2009 at 1:45 pm
    storm should be the first victim

    VillaCypris *276489* Says:

    June 11th, 2009 at 1:47 pm
    Yes! Good idea…

    Seems it’s a concensus!

  385. Stormcat says:

    Death by sexual overdose

  386. Stormcat says:

    Not so new! 1960 Film Three in the Attic!

  387. Stormcat says:

    That would be the DSMV? The DSMIV is the current edition.

  388. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    We could have a whole new diagnostic category to ourselves…. stiletto-wearing, fatale-esque young women who deliver death via sexual ecstasy.


  389. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Yes! Good idea… then he can compile his findings into a report and submit it for consideration, as the DSM-V is set to be published in 2012.

  390. NYC SB says:

    storm should be the first victim

  391. VillaCypris *276489* says:


    i’m waiting for storm to pull out his copy of the DSM-IV and offer up a diagnosis…. 😀

  392. NYC SB says:


  393. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Or we could do it “pro bono”… just one.

  394. NYC SB says:

    lol only if his profile goes orange before that

  395. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Maybe dorkyguy would want to volunteer to be the first “victim”.


  396. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    HA! 8)

  397. NYC SB says:

    such man does not exist VC 😛

  398. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Although as a pre-requisite to our company, we’d have to ask that the man undergo cardiac tests, to make sure he is fit to “survive” the encounter.

  399. NYC SB says:

    VC no doubt about that 😀

  400. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    We would make a good pair, NYCSB !

  401. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Ohhhhhhhhh wow…. I do have 6″ red stilettos… but not black hair!!!! Sorry to disappoint ! HA!

    That photo on the “beach” is actually me standing in the Dead Sea, on the Jordanian side.

  402. NYC SB says:

    i guess my blog personality does not reflect that

  403. DorkyGuy says:


  404. NYC SB says:

    Dorky – the black haired femme fatale in 6 inch heels is me LOL

  405. DorkyGuy says:

    LOL! That was a shock… From VC’s posts, I had her pictured completely differently. I had her pictured as a black haired femme fatale with 6 inch red stilettos. You would probably have the time of your life with her, but might not survive it. Checked out her profile, and did a double take at the hot blonde wearing jeans on the beach in the picture. Boy was I off.

  406. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hi Panther. Nice to have some sunshine here, isn’t it.

  407. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    No, I did not. Unnecessary, as we connected on a higher plane where such bANALities are not needed…

  408. Panther SD says:

    Greetings all! Checking in from a quick lunch break….

  409. Stormcat says:

    btw VC Did you even get one of NM’s form letters?

  410. Stormcat says:

    GG I’m not quite sure what the total amount is that’s there. Wait a minute while get my monopoly game out and count it!

  411. Stormcat says:

    Reeeaaally VC? You’re not a couple? All these months I didn’t flirt with you, wasted!!

    No jest! I know . . . All in fun!!! :)

  412. goodgirl says:

    Stormcat~ it’s a drunk smiley if you want it to be. 😉
    –How much is in the budget? I’ll be needing that…
    –i’ll be at all the sugar meets that are either in my area, or i am ‘sent’ to. (wink, wink)
    –you pick all the sugars you’d like. i’m not picky/ possesive. 😀

  413. NYC SB says:

    dorky – lol im young but i get your references 😉

  414. Stormcat says:

    Does that last post have some kind of a drunken smiley?

  415. Stormcat says:

    As for testing the new strategy/idea. Marvelous gg. How much do you need? Which of the sugar meets will you be attending? What other sugars will be there?

  416. goodgirl says:

    whooooo told you i was younger?!?
    storm~ the martinis there are considerably larger than the dinners, so i will be plenty of fun. 😉

  417. DorkyGuy says:

    *sigh* I should probably stop telling jokes that I then have to go on to explain 😛 Note to self… no more references to 80’s pop culture when talking to younger SB’s

  418. goodgirl says:

    i’m quite certain that it will be right up your alley.
    and they serve it ona nickle. lol

  419. Stormcat says:

    You mean like the chef ppooouw fusion gormet serving the main entree on the center of a susan b anthony dollar?

  420. goodgirl says:

    who is elaine?

  421. goodgirl says:

    consider yourself ‘rescued’.

  422. DorkyGuy says:

    And there is Elaine!

  423. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    What’s funny to me is that everyone seems to assume that nitemare and I are a “couple” when in fact I have never even seen his profile, nor do I know anything about him, other than he lives in the state of NY. Thus, my reference the other night to him as the “blog ghost”…

    As I’ve said many times… all in good FUN. x

  424. goodgirl says:

    Stormcat Says:

    June 10th, 2009 at 11:17 pm
    It is also quite timely as well as i’ve been thinking about giving up my search for a personal SB and concentrate on flirting with all the terrific SBs on the blog. I can donate my SB budget to help all my favorite SB correspondants travel to Sugar Meets and keep the lifestyle alive. I don’t really need the complication of the other parts of the SD/SB interaction anyway.
    Hey Stormcat :)
    Wanna test out this new idea of yours?
    I could use some of that ‘budget’ lol
    If you feel like travelin to KC, i know some pretty good restaraunts that serve tiny little dinners. hehehe

  425. Stormcat says:

    Hi GG 8)
    I hope you came to rescue me from myself!

  426. Stormcat says:

    Perhaps the Seinfeld writers are SA bloggers! 8)

  427. goodgirl says:

    Good morning sugars!
    Dorky~ it almost always is. lol :)

  428. DorkyGuy says:

    LOL… reading through the blog this morning is a bit like watching an episode of Seinfeld, but more random.

  429. Stormcat says:

    YEA!!! I’m dancing for you too!

    Oh VC – :( I’m sorry! I guess from your further non-response that my tease was in some way unpleasant. I’m like many others here feeling happiness in your conquering the nitemare fortress. I guess I just wanted to join in the fun. Forgive me? 😀

  430. NYC SB says:

    yes sir it was… and i managed to walk away from it without any additional work to do … i was supposed to be working insane hours from today through july… but my boss saw reason with me and said that the additional work is not necessary 😀

    so im doing the happy dance

  431. Stormcat says:

    NYC you must be in a celebratory state of existance today! Wasn’t your spo yesterday?

  432. Stormcat says:

    Thank you VC! Perhaps I should write the case up and submit it to the insurence companies’ newsletter. I may have single-handedly discovered the first truly cost effective preferred treatment modality for psychoanalytic based therapy.

  433. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Yes, congratulations on your psycho-analysis of someone you don’t even know, based on random silly posts on a blog! That takes talent!

  434. Stormcat says:

    Wow! It’s hard to believe that such a load of gibberish could actually come from such a clear mind as mine!

  435. Stormcat says:

    Contraire VC, Your posts *could* be interpreted otherwise. Only an astute outside can make such an observation. Self evaluation is usually eroneous as the intensity of denial contrevenes directly in proportion to the level of pain inherant in sch admission.

  436. NYC SB says:

    I will let my assistant know 😉

  437. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Uhhhhhhhhhhhmmmm… yea… you must not be awake yet storm… 😛

    all in good fun… as i’m not desperate for anything, certainly not attention!

  438. Stormcat says:

    Good Morning, barely, Sugar World
    I believe that all these fragmented not-announcements of the NM/VC rendaveau time date and place may just be a desperate call for attention from two sugar crossed blograts on the verge of conspiration. Perhaps NYCSB ought to assign her assistant to help her scope out the travesty before it bacomes a legitimacy.

  439. VillaCypris *276489* says:


  440. lisa says:

    gotta go now, lover is on his way

  441. lisa says:

    Hi RedMaru
    no she has lotsa friends as she’ always on the phone and she also has grown children. But I live 4 blocks from where she works and 2 miles from where she lives so it’s easy for her to just stop by when she’s on her way home from work. Problem is she stops by at 9 pm and I go to bed at 10 or so on, she usually stays till midnight even though i’m laying on the sofa falling asleep.

  442. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    morning, RedMaru!

  443. RedMaru says:

    Morning sugars!
    Hey lisa – just read about your friend. She sounds kinda clingy almost needy. Are you her only friend?

  444. lisa says:

    I won’t I mean she’s one of these people that doesn’t like to have fun. I get down alot but I always enjoy having fun. She’s lived in her apartment over 2 years and still hasn’t unpacked all her stuff.
    Instead of going out for a burger, she would rather warm up something she’s has in the fridge for 3 days.

  445. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Well Lisa, just enjoy your fantastic day and don’t concern yourself with persons who lack common courtesy.

  446. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    NitemareSD Says:
    June 11th, 2009 at 10:56 am

    “Ultimately we have to go underground with the location lest we risk clashes between Villa fans and Nitemare rubberneckers.”

    Sounds more like a match up between Manchester United and Real Madrid… the clash of the futball hooligans!

  447. lisa says:

    play it safe, meet at Starbucks lol

  448. lisa says:

    she is a good friend but thinks nothing of just popping in at the spare of the moment. She just got a car which could be a plus to have a friend with a car but she only drives to and from work because she doesn’t like to waste gas money. She doesn’t want to go to the mall or to eat anywhere, just sit around. She works usually at 4 pm and stays in bed till it’s time to go to work.
    I’m trying to avoid negative people but mainly she’s lacking in manners. Once she called me when I was talking to a sd and since she got a busy signal she showed up pounding on my door. I had to end the converastion with the sd to hang out with her. Needlesstosay I didn’t talk with the sd again. My upbrupt end probably made him think I was trying to get rid of him.

  449. NitemareSD says:

    Seating? Is there a back door? What kind of place is this – its a little bit east and a bit south of houston than I am used to. I never even heard of the street. I worked in that area in ’83 and it was a bit like Lisa’s neighborhood.
    I have another idea since Gramercy is a little bit loud.

    Ultimately we have to go underground with the location lest we risk clashes between Villa fans and Nitemare rubberneckers.

  450. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    She is the one whom you are trying to avoid because she is negative, right?

  451. lisa says:

    I already talked to her last night. She’s off today so she thinks because i’m off she can come over. I make plans on my days off whereas she just wants to sit around and do nothing. If I invited to come shopping with me, she’s be bored as she hates shopping and will not spend money, she’s super frugal and thinks I waste money.

  452. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    You are leaving the blog, nitemare??

    Good for you Lisa… don’t let her ruin your day.

  453. lisa says:

    I’m still here anticipating a fun day. My lover is coming over and then i’m going shopping with my sds money from last week. I can’t believe my friend just called asking if I was home. I told her I was having company this morning and she’s still calling to see if she can stop by. I didnt’ answer the phone as i’m not trading a day of passion and shopping for a day of sitting around the house listening to what her ex did or having her peeking out my window to see if he ex’s car comes out of the apartments across the street. She is also very critical of my sb lifestyle. She thinks it’s unsafe to meet guys online but she goes to bars, gets drunk and sits on strange guys laps, takes up with lowlifes.

  454. NYC SB says:

    nitemare – last seating at milk and honey is 930 and no you dont need to get tatooed to get in 😉

  455. NitemareSD says:

    Tragically the fiction and the reality are already colliding.

    Lisa I’ve never seen any evidence that you are a subling. Don’t weaken your blog image. The blog is going to need you all the more once I am gone.

  456. lisa says:

    umm tight black girlpants, short black hair over eyes, lotsa eyeliner, umm

  457. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Nitemare is “emo” Lisa!!!!!!! You’d love him in person 😉

  458. lisa says:

    All this time I thought Nitemare was covered in tatoos and had a big ring hanging from his nose and now I find out it’s not so?

  459. lisa says:

    Nitemare maybe we are both sublings??

  460. NitemareSD says:

    Ha! That’s the way I feel today – like a subling!

    I’ll meet anywhere they’ll let me in at 9:30. As long as I don’t have to get tatooed or pierced.

    I request Lisa’s services as a medium for communication between your world and the dream world.

  461. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    we should do L O N D O N as well!!

  462. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Congrats Joules!!! That’s exciting!

    nitemare – just have a car waiting for me….

    nycsb – love it!!!! nice!

  463. lisa says:

    Good morning Joules

    Aunts, scorpions, hum I will never be an aunt because I have no sublings.

  464. lisa says:

    throwing some scorpions your way Nitemare :)

  465. Joules *300035* says:

    Gooooood morning everyone!

    Nice to see you again Lisa!

    How is everyone today?

    My sister had her first baby (boy) on the 10th and I’m still soaking up all of that…I’m a first-time Aunt!!!

  466. NitemareSD says:

    What could I have been thinking last night. I can’t possibly get to the airport at 5pm.

    Dorkyguy was funny.

    Someone has totally thrown me off my game.

  467. NYC SB says:

    VC – thats a GREAT start 😀

  468. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    NYCSB —- heeeee heeeeee… he did say that being under my razor thin stiletto was ‘heaven’… so that is a good start, no? 😉

  469. NYC SB says:

    VC the name is more than perfect… the drinks are spectacular… all we need is for you to convince nitemare to go with it 😀

    oh stormcat where art thou?

  470. lisa says:

    Dorkey guys are ok. Now i’m worried that i’ll get charged for the water leak since I didn’t let the guy in but he looked like a thug, now I see him out carrying stuff around so he is working here. I wish we had regular repairmen here, not these people that are late on thier rent and thugs. I am expecting my lover over later and then i’m out for the day so I can’t sit around all day on my day off waiting for them. One time they came in on me when my lover was here.

  471. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    The red ants and scorpions did it!!! I’m up Lisa!! AHHHHHHHH!!! :)

    hey NYC SB – sounds like an interesting place… apropos… even the name!

  472. lisa says:

    He wasn;t carrying any tools or anything

  473. lisa says:

    eek I think they were here to fix my water leak but I didn’t let them in because the guy looked like a thug. They have the tenants that can’t pay their rent do the repairs here. I see him now going through the parking lot with his cart of stuff. He is dressed in a rocker tshirt and pants that are about to fall off so I didnt’ know he worked here. I don’t need anyone in here today as I’ve got company coming over. They have waiting almost 2 weeks to fix the leak, they can wait till tomorrow. I hate having someone like that in my apartment seeing what I have.

  474. NYC SB says:

    lisa – did you like dorky guys addition to your blue profile list?

  475. lisa says:

    sigh good I was worried there for a minute. lol

    now I will throw a handfull of red ants and scorpions into everyone’s bed, get up now

  476. SuthrnExec says:

    Oh, you’ll be acquitted just like he was.

  477. lisa says:

    I just hope I don’t end up shooting my ex wife, lol

  478. SuthrnExec says:

    Absolutely! I can see you sitting there with Percy on your shoulder – you could be the Baretta of Sugarworld – weeding out the pretenders and ridding Sugarworld of the poof-daddies – purifying the sugar bowl in the process! You would collect your fee up-front, of course.

  479. lisa says:

    wake up wake up everyone I’m going to put a snake in your beds if you don’t get up

  480. lisa says:

    I have met people before without knowing anything about them and I usually found out within 5 minutes that I had wasted my time. I’ve got alot to do on my days off next week and can make time for a sd meeting but I don’t want to meet some guy who is looking for just a dating relationship. He hasn’t answered any of my questions about what area he is in or anything so I know nothing about him.

    And if i’m to become a consultant, I should charge a fee right? lol

  481. SuthrnExec says:

    You should meet him – just think of it as making an investment in the sugar-world at-large. You could become a SD consultant!

  482. lisa says:

    Good morning SuthrnExec

    I’m taking to a new potential sd. He’s a sd virgin so i’m trying to mold him.
    He wants to meet asap because he has a hundred questions. I asked him to feel free to ask me any questions he had. I dont’ want to meet someone and then find out they are not looking for a sd/sb relationship. I’ve got a busy work week next week and my time will be limited to meet.

  483. SuthrnExec says:

    Good morning Lisa! Hope your day goes well.

  484. NYC SB says:

    nitemare – i would like to suggest a new location for your auditions… its called Milk and Honey in nyc … kinda like an underground bar… would go over great with the underground world of SD/SB’s

  485. lisa says:

    Good morning everyone. I got up early this morning even though i’m off from work. Went to bed early last night too.
    Getting ready to hit the shower and then my lover will be over late this morning and then I will be going shopping in the afternoon.

  486. Marisa says:

    Well, my ideal vacation would be to head off to Thailand for gender reassignment surgery! Yeh, does not sound like much fun however, I have waited a painful life time.

    I had about 8 Sugar Daddies write me, but in the end only one actually met me. I was surprized that being a transgender intersexed girl would get the responses at all. Alas, the one did not go far as I could tell there was no real plan or desire for me to have the surgeries. There is this fantasy many have of the quote “SHEmale” …a beautiful woman with working penis. So those into such women do not want to give them what they need, which is to be whole.

    So in the end, the summer will be spent in the coffee shops and loud rock and punk bars working on my animation portfolio. If I can get into the game or film industry as a 3d modeler or concept artist, I would not be a millionaire but I would hit about 60k-140k which would pay for the surgeries easy. :)

    Oh, and Pride weekend is big for me being both Trans/Intersexed and bi-sexual!!!!!!!!

  487. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Ciao ciao! x

  488. Mina says:

    Here’s hoping.. 😉
    I’m off to bed, ciao!

  489. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    You will keep the trip exciting, I am sure!

  490. Mina says:

    I get along with both surprisingly well; One I have known for a little over a year, but I have had extended trips with the other. The key is whether they can tolerate me and my short attention span 😉

  491. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Yea, hope you two get along well! I’ve never been to Asia, that would be exciting! Sounds like a great couple of trips! :)

  492. Mina says:

    I’ll casually mention it and see what he thinks, lol. It’s a two week long holiday so I’m sure this will be quite the trip.
    Even moreso excited about Asia since I’ve yet to explore that part of the world in depth. :)

  493. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    That will be so exciting! I love Cairo. Great city with so much history and ambiance… maybe you’ll get to Monte Carlo as well 😉

  494. Mina says:

    I’ve been away from this blog for much too long! To be honest, I’m not entirely sure of the itinerary, he says it’s a surprise. I hate surprises but I’m going along with it because he seems very excited and I don’t want to spoil the fun, lol. I just know that I land in London and depart from Cairo! (He gave that much away, ha)

  495. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    I always come alone.

  496. NitemareSD says:

    Yes. I can be there. But come alone to limit the damage to the blog.

  497. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hey Mina! Glad to see you again :) where in the maghreb are you going??

  498. Mina says:

    Thanks, doll. You too :)

  499. Joules *300035* says:

    MINA!!!! Hey lady! I was just on my way out! Hopefully we can catch up soon; hope all is well in your sugar-life!

  500. Mina says:

    What’s on your agenda this summer?
    Travel, shop… The usual. My summer agenda doesn’t differ much from my winter, spring, autumn agendas.

    What does a perfect summer day with a SD or SB look like to you?
    A villa overlooking a private beach, relaxing in an infinity pool. My May vacation, basically.

    Anyone planning any summer trips with a sugar?
    I’m going all over Europe and northern Africa with one of my SDs in a few weeks, then off to Asia with my other SD in July. And of course the occasional domestic travel sprinkled in the mix.

  501. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    A few minutes of heaven is worth a lifetime of hell , eh ?

    Goodnight Joules! x

  502. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    NW 510 – 16h57 – LGA.

    I trust you will be there to greet me upon arrival….

  503. Joules *300035* says:

    Guess I’m headed outta here, too. I’m bored outta my mind tonight and can’t sleep though!

    Good night everyone!

  504. NitemareSD says:

    What time does your flight arrive tomorrow?

  505. NitemareSD says:

    Villa – it was an easy escape. A few minutes under your power and I was in heaven.

  506. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    You’re welcome!

    If he asked you, “what can i do to help you”…

    perhaps you should sit down and make a list of what YOU need help with… and then make a second list which takes your needs and translates them into workable goals which someone else could understand and assist with, if he wanted.

    At least you would have it in writing, in front of you, and the very act of putting on paper what your needs truly are might help with get some clarity in your own mind as well…

  507. goodgirl says:

    good night villa :)

  508. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    good night GG. hang in there!

  509. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    If you “worry” you’ll manifest the fear and anxiety that generally go along with it…. figure out what you want, and then communicate it with confidence. Not everyone’s expectations will match up, and if they don’t, both can move along with no time wasted nor disappointment experienced.

  510. goodgirl says:

    i know your right villa. :)
    maybe i should sleep on it. lol! i just don’t feel like i’m ever gonna be attracted to anyone. ugh! even when i’m typing this, i know how stupid it sounds…
    i’m going for a nightcap.
    good night all! i’ll be lurking tomorrow. lol

  511. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Don’t get discouraged GG! I’ve started to think about it as not much different than “real life”… for in life, you like someone, and he doesn’t like you… or someone likes you, you dont like him… so the challenge is to find someone who is attracted to you as much as you are attracted to him… and it can take a LONG TIME to find that mutual interest… and then all the other attributes have to be in place as well… it could be rather daunting, but if you give up, you’ll never know what you could’ve missed out on!

  512. Joules *300035* says:

    I’m just actually too worried about making an ass outta myself by answering the question the way *I* think it was being asked. Men tend to have different trains of thoughts than women so I just always make sure we’re on the same train

  513. goodgirl says:

    hi back!
    he sent me another one, and did elaborate. he has a nice sense of humor. i’d post it here, but last time i did that, i got caught and dumped. lol :)
    we’ll see. i’m not holding my breath…
    i’m starting to feel like stormcat.

  514. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Me, too, Joules. Otherwise it’s a waste of time, if people can’t articulate what it is they are seeking…

  515. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hi GG and ababy….

    nitemare, how did you get out from under my stiletto???

  516. Joules *300035* says:

    I always get my pots to elaborate when they’re asking vague questions

  517. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    HI GG, sorry got distracted on the phone there for a minute.

    Your pot sounds like a man of few words…let’s hope they are sincere ones!

  518. goodgirl says:

    hi everyone in sugar land :)
    suzieq~ i’m still here for our dear stormcat. lol. i’m not sure what happened to ‘her’ :)
    i got a message from a pot today… 1st contact, he says: “tell me how i can help you”
    that was it… i’m like…uhhh, let me count the ways? lmao
    maybe that works for him usually, but i’m not sure what to say to that. lol

  519. NitemareSD says:

    Stormcat Says:

    June 10th, 2009 at 11:32 pm
    Not really giving up! Just questing the worth of it. There are really a lot of booby traps for the uninitiated. And even the experienced fall prey too easily to the hope of attaining an unattainable ideal. It is a sobering realization to find that someone whom you thought was it has suddenly vanished leaving a lame excuse or nothing at all.
    The thing I find that makes it palatable is minimizing your net exposure to the other person so you don’t get taken for anything big.

    Of course, it is probably something I did anyway. LOL

  520. Joules *300035* says:

    VC – Thanks! It was taken a few weeks ago on a business trip to Kansas City. I’m actually getting ready to go back next week.

  521. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    Storm – I thought you had two on the go there..did they both poof? :(

  522. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    I like that first photo of you! Looks very nice :)

  523. Ababy80 says:

    storm dont give up so easily! nycsb will come around eventually

  524. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    I’m good Joules, thanks.

  525. Joules *300035* says:

    Thanks SuzieQ! How have you been? How’s sugar life goin?

    Hey again VC!

  526. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hi Joules!!

  527. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    Hi Joules, welcome back!

  528. Joules *300035* says:

    Awesome! I updated my main profile pic and it FINALLY got ok’d today!

    *waves hello to everyone*

  529. Stormcat says:

    Also, whenever you’re confronted with anything even guestionable or that seems terrific make sure to write it here and you’ll get fantastic analysis. I’ve been saved from scams more than once.

  530. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Yea, one of my guy friends on here last night sent me two profiles, one 301xxx, the other 332xxx and it was the SAME woman, same pix, same info… he said he sees that all the time, all over the site.

  531. CARTIER says:

    I dream of findin my loyal SD this summer, submission and complete pleasure for this honey bunny thiss summer, ummm beach white sands hot weather, little clothes and new belly dancing skills!!!!!!!!!!! Muah Daddy

  532. Stormcat says:

    Dorky – Traps are all written about extensively in the blog archives. But just hang out for a while here and you’ll see them over and over.

  533. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    Uh oh, more boobie talk! Deja vu

  534. Stormcat says:

    My uncle told me once that a booby was a bird that stuck his head into a bee hive and said “Boo! Bee!”

  535. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    ahahahah! suzie, i knew you’d ask which “cheek”!!!!

    both… all four… maybe only one!

  536. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Sorry Storm… that does SUKK. So many charlatans in the world, and it’s worse if you really did like her and think she was “it”… :(

    It takes more work and patience than usual, perhaps, in an arena such as this, to find someone who has integrity and is honest with the other person. It will be worth it once you find her!

  537. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    Hey Storm, sometimes I think I hang out here just to get some laughs when I start feeling discouraged too…what can we do right? I’d rather be happy and laughing than grumpy and moping and this place always cheers me up :) :) 😀

  538. DorkyGuy says:

    Hey Stormycat, would love to find out more about these booby traps before sticking my foot in one. Would definitely like to find out more about your experiences that have led you to this point.

    They’re not actual booby traps are they? Because boobies are one of my favorite things :(

  539. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    And which cheek would that be? 😉 Oooh, I’m being cheeky tonight!

  540. Stormcat says:

    Now I’m lol thanks for joining us SzQ and Dork

  541. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    That’s right, Suzie! He rather enjoys the feel of metal on his cheek.

  542. Stormcat says:

    Not really giving up! Just questing the worth of it. There are really a lot of booby traps for the uninitiated. And even the experienced fall prey too easily to the hope of attaining an unattainable ideal. It is a sobering realization to find that someone whom you thought was it has suddenly vanished leaving a lame excuse or nothing at all.

  543. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    Way to go VC, keep him in his place lol!

  544. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Last time I checked nitemare was under my razor thin stiletto heel…

  545. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    Aha, now they’re coming out to play. Hi Dorky, welcome!

  546. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    Wow, there’s quite the echo in here tonight…anybody home? (home? home?)

  547. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hi SuzieQ!

    Appears that way… but we know there are many members in the audience sitting in the darkened theatre watching the tragi-comic SA blog! ha!

  548. DorkyGuy says:

    StormCat: “Hey dorkyguy – lol Are you sure you aren’t nitemare under a psudonym?”

    If Nitemare is under anything tonight, I’m sure it’s a SB, not a pseudonym!

  549. SuzieQ*297329* says:

    Hi VC, Storm…all alone here on the blog tonight?

  550. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    No. Why are you giving up tho?

  551. Stormcat says:

    Kinda sounds like a whimpy way out doesn’t it?

  552. Stormcat says:

    That way I can Idealize all I want and never be dissappointed!

  553. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Awww…. why are you thinking about giving up your search??

  554. Stormcat says:

    It is also quite timely as well as i’ve been thinking about giving up my search for a personal SB and concentrate on flirting with all the terrific SBs on the blog. I can donate my SB budget to help all my favorite SB correspondants travel to Sugar Meets and keep the lifestyle alive. I don’t really need the complication of the other parts of the SD/SB interaction anyway.

  555. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Exactly! A fantastical ideal, projected onto the image which one has created in his head… sometimes difficult to comport with reality… or what if one has NEVER even seen a photo of the person??

  556. Stormcat says:

    I agree that is an interesting question. How much of your own idealized projection is contained in the persona the makes the person seem lusterless or flat whan you actually encounter them in reality?

  557. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Yes, that’s in “the Trial”… which I have not yet read myself. I’ll have to look up LeGuin’s book as well. Sounds quite interesting!

    East Egg is the site of nitemare’s SB summer camp… Gramercy Park is where the screening begins…. aahahh… so silly… 😀

  558. Stormcat says:

    Or was that the Egg Island meet?
    Anyway, the parable of the doorkeeper is really beautiful. Is that contained in “The Trial”? I definately want to read that.
    I am somehow reminded in this about a short story by Ursula LeGuin entitled “The Ones Who Walked Away from Omelas” which deals with the unsatisfactory philosophy that the greatest good for the greatest number justestifies any wrong done to the one. Also a very provacative read!

  559. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    No problem!

    I wouldn’t ban you from the meeting, not to worry….

    “I was really looking forward to putting a person with the persona.”

    That would be an interesting blog topic…. what has been peoples’ experience meeting someone with whom they’ve only communicated via telephone, email or IM… has it been difficult to make the transition from the “invisible” persona to the real person who stands in front of you… ???

  560. Stormcat says:

    I’m sorry VC I knew that. but Redmaru’s name was right there in front of my face and I wrote it in wrongly! I suppose you are going to ban me from the Gramercy Park meet now. It will be sooooo sad, as I was really looking forward to putting a person with the persona.

  561. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    I suppose I should watch what I say, before nitemare removes me from the Gramercy Park Hotel and takes me over to Bellevue…!!

  562. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    There is a parable in the book – a man seeks the Law, the Light, and spends his whole life bribing the doorkeeper to the door he knows he must pass thru to be free. He bribes him with everything he has, waiting for permission to pass thru, which is never given. Finally, with his last breath and nothing left to give, he asks, “how come in all these years no one else has passed thru this door?” And the doorkeeper replies, “because this door was made only for you, and now I am going to close it.” The man does not discover until the very end that he is both the prisoner and his own jailor.

    Rather thought-provoking, on the ways in which we hold ourselves prisoners in our own minds, by adhering to beliefs, actions, programs which are so ingrained that we never realise all we have to do is change them and we are free!

  563. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Storm – it was moi who asked if you’ve read THE TRIAL…. 😉

  564. Stormcat says:

    Hey dorkyguy – lol Are you sure you aren’t nitemare under a psudonym?

  565. Stormcat says:

    Hey RedMaru, It ( the trial) is something i always intended to read. Ever since i read “When Kafka was the Rage” about the sexal reveloution in the village and the overemphesis on superfluous intelligence for the sake of popularity. I can’t ever remember the author although I read several other of his books.
    Just for the fun, Red, try “The Master and Margareta” by Nobokov It is a fantastic read. Fantacy and the abserdity of modern social systems. Banned in the USSR, if course. You won’t be able to put it down.

  566. lisa says:

    Have a good evening RedMaru I’m still got chores to do around the house.

  567. RedMaru says:

    I actually saw some SDs from SA on this other site too….small world eh? But anywhoo I’m on my way to the gym you have a great date and great evening..
    that goes for anyone lurking too…

  568. lisa says:

    my potential is from the other place too. I am going to put my profile back on here in a week or so and hide the one over there. Gotta go back and forth to keep it new.

  569. RedMaru says:

    Maybe I’ll have that summer I keep dreamin of described in my previous post and right in time for my b-day too!

  570. RedMaru says:

    Well crossing my fingers for ya that it goes well with your new pot. My chances are actually improving with this other site…who knew?

  571. lisa says:

    yes well I trained my last one and he was a eager learner but fizzed out. DOn’t know what happened to him, and his hasn’t been on the site in days.
    Wow i’ve got the next 3 days off, lots to do.

  572. RedMaru says:

    I have the utmost confidence you train him good…lol

  573. RedMaru says:

    Hey lisa 😀
    I was about to chalk this blog up as dead. It’s mild to hot here in GA. It’s the weirdest thing I’m on another SD site with one picture and have got two emails in two days, favorited, and responded back to.

  574. lisa says:

    Good evening everyone. Back from work, washing, and going down to the new CVS to get my freebie with the coupon they sent me and to use the gift card I got free too, lol

    It is soooo hot here. I have a new potential sd that emailed me. He sounds ok. Not looking to meet him this week though as I have my 3 days off planned already. Just sent him an email asking him what he is looking for. He’s one of those virgin sds that has never done this before. I need to mold him into the idea sd.

    What’s for dinner Lisa? Cheese puffs and bean dip

  575. RedMaru says:

    Hey everybody good evening to ya!
    What did I miss besides all my regular sugar blog family 😀

  576. Sweetredhead says:

    oops their. watch for spelling mistakes lmao and proper punctuation hehe leaves me out!!

  577. Sweetredhead says:

    There are also the high priced call girls :)
    Ask what they are looking for. What would be there perfect situation.

  578. DorkyGuy says:

    Back on the “noob question” note…

    Reading the blogs, it sounds like there are fakes aplenty both on the SD side and SB side. For the SD, what are the things to look out for when looking for a SB? I know there are “pros” and scam artists. Anything else I should be alert for? One blog post mentioned SB’s that may try to blackmail the SD. Ouch! What are some good questions to ask a potential SB to help weed out the fakes early on?

  579. NYC SB says:

    Dorky – very funny! you are blue for now… soon you might have to go for orange… this way you can get to her heart 😀

  580. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    dorkyguy…. that’s hilarious!

    i’m off to acupuncture! good day all! x

  581. DorkyGuy says:

    Oh, Lisa wouldn’t like me… I have a blue profile (atm).

    Blue profile = on the first date, they ask the SB if they can borrow $200 so they can buy her a gift.

    Blue profile = he takes you bowling and gives you a pair of tube socks to wear so he won’t have to rent shoes.

    Blue profile = for support, he endorses his mother’s social security check, and asks if that will cover two months

    Blue profile = he doesn’t order concessions at the movies, and rails about how the price of popcorn is a big scam. Instead, you stop at a gas station before going to the movie, and he has you smuggle in a bag of skittles in your bra. He then spends 20 minutes complaining about being exploited by the cinema because previews started when the movie was supposed to start.

    Blue profile = he swoons you into bed by telling you he’s going to solve all of your transportation problems, then after sex he gives you a bus pass.

  582. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Storm – have you read “the trial” by Kafka?

  583. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Thanks! Glad someone read them :)

  584. Stormcat says:

    VC – all of them!

  585. NYC SB says:

    dorky guy – you should go out with Lisa!

  586. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    or did you mean the one on energy psychology?

  587. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Cool, thanks!

    I like to mess with nitemare… he’s funny :)

  588. Stormcat says:

    Hey VC, Southern
    Enjoyed your posts last night VC even though I read them after the fact!

  589. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hi Storm and Suthrn :)

  590. SuthrnExec says:

    DorkyGuy, no worries – you did not take the blog off-topic — this is what it’s here for, to answer questions and give support. You questions and comments are all welcomed!
    I agree with VC – you workout what fits for you – you will find and SB that will work with that.

  591. Stormcat says:

    Good afternoon everyone
    DorkyGuy – Not at all off sbject, Actually quite the contrary, anything that has to do with Sugar dating is right on subject. (Unlike some of the silliness I’ve been posting lately) As to answer your first question, there are alot of members on this site that feel the way you do. They either put it in their profiel or write it, up front, in their first contact letter. Some have the same impression that you have, about the nature of arrangements, and try to fit in by not saying anything about their real feelings. I personally believe that your expectations are the more desired by most but that they are the least expressed in order to avoid dissappointment. But that is only my personal belief and there is no data available to support it. Anyway, without being to verbose, I’d say you have found the perfect forum for your goals. Just state them clearly in your profile and, theoretically, those who aren’t interested won’t contact you or write back. (The exception are the scammers and fakes, they contact everyone)

  592. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hi dorkyguy…

    In my opinion…. no… you are NOT expecting too much….

    “I am more about the friendship, companionship, and chemistry than I am about sex.”

    There are many women on here who have the same attitude and are seeking the same level of connection as yourself. Of course, some want just “NSA fun” however they might define that, but many others recognise that physical “sex” is enhanced by connections on other levels, such as mentally, emotionally and intellectually. And if someone is your friend and the relationship has a basis in genuine affection and respect, so much the better.

    As for being third priority in your life, I would think the person who meets your criteria in those other areas would be evolved enough to understand that children and work must come first and second. Often quality of time spent together transcends quantity, and if she’s emotionally healthy she will understand this…


  593. DorkyGuy says:

    I apologize to everyone in advance for taking this blog post off topic…. Just the SA website has no forum in which to ask questions, and it appears the only place that I can post a question to the community is in these blogs.

    First question… I am curious whether what I am looking for even qualifies as a SA relationship.

    Of course, I accept the “sugar” part. I am single, but very busy with work and kids, and I anticipate the SB will have to put up with many frustrating interuptions due to these priorities. Conventional dating would just be impossible, as few women would accept being #3 in my life! I am more about the friendship, companionship, and chemistry than I am about sex. The SB profiles I have seen that say “NSA fun” are a total turnoff for me… I’m looking for something more than a casual hookup, evolving into real friendship and companionship. I expect the relationship to be genuine in its own way, and if she’s just not feeling it, I expect her to move on.

    Second question… In another blog, I saw mention of “exclusivity” in the SD/SB relationship. To me, if any relationship moved into the sexual, I would want (and give) exclusivity just because I am so cautious about STD’s. I am surprised to find that exclusivity exists in the SA world, with terms like NSA scattered throughout the profiles, and I’m curious to find out how this generally works and what the expectations are.

    Am I expecting too much of a potential SB?

    Again, sorry for taking the post off topic, and I highly recommend that SA implement a forum system!

  594. SuthrnExec says:

    NYC SB – I agree with JQ’s basis summary – it doesn’t make sense and there’s something suspicious about it. I wonder if he really paid anything at all to gain you access.

  595. johnq says:

    NYC SB:

    What you’re describing now seems relatively innocuous, though it doesn’t exactly match the way you described it in your first post on the subject. Or even your second post, for that matter. I remain somewhat dubious about any site that charges $500 per year but you have to be invited to join, so I suspect what you’re actually describing is this guy allowing you to use his password on a site that he’s a member of. Financial planning sites that provide access to sophisticated modeling tools are out there, and may actually be worthwhile.

    Good luck.


    PS: anyone who tells you that fibonacci numbers have anything to do with investing is either a crook or a crank. There are all sorts of nut cases out there with extensively reasoned explanations as to why some kind of mathematical formula will actually give you the golden key to investing success. I used to so some work for a “financial engineering” firm, and I guarantee that any mathematical formula that actually worked would have been sniffed out and traded into oblivion at least two decades ago (if not much earlier). It’s also worth pointing out that if these things worked their proponents wouldn’t be describing them at great length on web sites, and charging clients for access to their advice. They’d be spending their time on a private island, or possibly paying off the national debt.

  596. NYC SB says:

    oh JQ… i wont argue… he didnt tell me about the site i knew about it from before… its not like he runs the site and its not a site where you invest money it is simply a training website which gives you resources (which include trading strategies) for you to test (in a demo account of course)… you dont send them money or anything like that… now that i have access to this opportunity i will see what the fuss is all about… i already have my strategy in place which works for me (but if you dont keep on reading and learning you will get left behind)… it was a very nice gesture on his part to get me access to it

  597. johnq says:


    Someone you don’t know tells you about an incredible online site where you can make lots of money because the experts will tell you their money-making secrets. What’s more, even though this incredible offer would normally cost you $500, because he likes you he’s going to give it to you for free. And you’ve apparently convinced yourself (or allowed someone else to convince you) that there are some trading strategies that work better for everyone if everyone else follows them and that fibonacci sequences have some relevance here.

    Incidentally, the first of those propositions is clearly wrong, and the second is simply nonsensical. We’re back to Bernie Madoff: tell people that you’ve got an exclusive opportunity that you’re willing to let them in on, then explain it with some nonsensical mumbo-jumbo. It’s amazing to me how easy it is to sucker people with those kinds of schemes, but I’m afraid what we’re seeing here is exactly that in action.

    Here’s my advice: keep your money in CDs. If you really want to go out on a limb, go with a low-cost Vanguard or Fidelity index fund. You are pretty much the definition of someone who’s going to be taken to the cleaners by these people. Sorry if that’s insulting, but if your bs detector can’t figure this one out, then you need to stay away from any investments that involve any actual decision-making on your part.

    Alternatively, you can simply wire me all of your money. You’ll end up at the same place financially, but at least you won’t be surprised.


  598. NitemareSD says:

    NYC SB

    I recommend trading around a core portfolio of SDs.

  599. NYC SB says:

    JQ… while what you say may be true this site is pretty incredible when it comes to knowledge sharing and staying on top of education related to the trading… when it comes to trading strategies you are correct most become useless when everyone starts using it… HOWEVER the type of trading that i do the opposite is true… if everyone uses the same strategy it makes trends more predictable and reliable… think fibonaci sequence in trading its a self fullfilling phropecy because most traders use it to some extent 😉

  600. johnq says:


    I can’t tell you what to do about the pot SD, but I can pretty much guarantee that a site that claims you can get access to the strategies of successful traders for $500 is a scam. Successful traders don’t post their strategies online, since that would guarantee that the strategy would very quickly become unsuccessful. Unless that is, the strategies are already conventional wisdom, but in that case you don’t need to pay $500 for access to the information. So either your pot SD is gullible or thinks you are.

    Incidentally, scams quite often operate by attempting to convince people that the scam is actually a very exclusive opportunity and that you’re very lucky to be allowed into it. See, e.g., Bernie Madoff. So it’s possible, or maybe even likely, that you’ll get into this exclusive site and find out that the trading opportunities are in fact an opportunity for someone else to take your money from you.


  601. NYC SB says:

    interesting development… a week or two ago i went to an event for my previous job where i met a lot of men (4) who seemed like potential SD… havent done anything as I feel my current SD might be upset.

    one of the pots in particular offered louboutin shopping in lieu of appetizers and dinner in the city … i declined… well today i get an email saying “since i cannot appeal to the unreasonable side of you (shoe addiction) let me try to convince you to come out by appealing to the entrepreneurial side of you (trading). i have signed you up for a year memebership at xxxx [underground trading site where most successful traders reveal their strategies]. Also i got you the xxx system which should be genious when it comes to trading. Maybe dinner next week (louboutin store as appetizers still)”

    membership for a year $500 – trick is you cannot gain membership unless you know people as this place does not accept new memeber so this is like HUGE

    trading program $3000 – always wanted it but didnt want to spend the money

    now i am conflicted! what is an SB to do???

  602. SuthrnExec says:

    Good morning everyone! I hope all is well in sugarland today.

  603. Stiletto... formerly Cyanide says:

    I see the new avatar, had it for a few days now. Hmmm… I wonder if everyone sees my green lips, or the avatar. Oh well :)

  604. NYC SB says:

    i see the green lips now… maybe it takes a while to change?

  605. Stiletto... formerly Cyanide says:

    Wait, you see the green lips picture now, or you’re wondering what happened to it? You shouldn’t see it as I changed my avatar.

  606. NYC SB says:

    no its the green lips picture

  607. Stiletto... formerly Cyanide says:

    Don’t ya see it NYC SB? :)

  608. NYC SB says:

    where is the stilleto picture???

  609. Stiletto... formerly Cyanide says:

    Good Morning all :)

  610. NYC SB says:

    Good morning everyone 😀

  611. lisa says:

    Good morning everyone

    Kalebarkab: go spam somewhere else

    Getting ready to go to work. Have a great day everyone

  612. Apple-332079 says:

    I guess I make it to the blog right after everyone goes to sleep, darn. Well, the west coast is the best coast, so carry on 😉

    +What’s on your agenda this summer?
    I’m going to New York for a 12-week internship! Most exciting thing, seriously. I can’t wait! Only 1.5 more weeks until I take off.

    +What does a perfect summer day with a SD or SB look like to you?
    Morning jog/hike, lunch at a cute cafe, stop in a museum, maybe some shopping, nice dinner at a restaurant with an outdoor patio, followed by a movie in a park. Or a rooftop party. And then snuggle time :)

    +Anyone planning any summer trips with a sugar?
    Well, I kind of planned my own summer trip. 😉

  613. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Me, too. I’m going to bed soon. talk to you soon. enjoy! xox

  614. Joules *300035* says:

    Good to see you as well! I’m makin me a good ole chillie dog then goin to crash out here in a bit :)

  615. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    I’m well, thanks! Glad to see you :)

  616. Joules *300035* says:

    heeey VC!!! Thanks! I’m actually quite happy to be back! I’ve missed chattin with everyone in here (well, the ones I don’t chat with outside of here at least lol).

    How have you been?

  617. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hi Joules ! Welcome back!!!!! xoxox

  618. Joules *300035* says:

    Jai – thanks for the compliment; I think. It’s actually my name though *shrug*

    As for everyone I don’t know, it’s really nice to see so many different people in here versus when I was in here last time!

    As for everyone else, hello again! I’m glad to be back (finally!) and am ready to start looking again! Let’s see if my quick success last time works again for me this time!

  619. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    I’ve done that before… piloting my G300, one of 5 manual transmission in the USA… no sympathy for someone in a sebring… !!!!!

  620. NitemareSD says:

    The smoking gun?

    MAY 19–Driving to see his girlfriend Sunday evening, Andrew Jones recalled being “excited” about their approaching rendezvous. Which might explain why Jones, 34, was allegedly masturbating while supposedly “talking dirty” to the woman on the phone (while simultaneously piloting his 2002 Chrysler Sebring). Of course, that doesn’t really explain why the West Virginia man was wearing women’s underwear and stockings at the time.

  621. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    well… that shut everyone up, eh?

  622. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    actually, on “the smoking gun” there is a contract entitled “One Pimp’s Sex Slave Contract”. perhaps you could incorporate it into your own…

  623. NitemareSD says:

    That’s the spirit.

  624. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Actually, last week i went to phantom… and I thought of you… instead of the “opera ghost” you are the “blog ghost”… ahahahahhahhaha

  625. VillaCypris *276489* says:


    you can’t contract out “affection” or “sex”… even a nitemare knows that…

  626. NitemareSD says:

    nitemare… what would constitute a “compensating committment from the SB”???

  627. NYC SB says:

    almost – how about he gets you a used car?

  628. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    nitemare… what would constitute a “compensating committment from the SB”???

  629. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    hahaha NYC SB… coool… perhaps I can set up a bottle of Moët & Chandon, ‘Dom Perignon Rosé’ 1996, for your reward…

  630. NitemareSD says:

    I would never lease a car.

    I would never cosign creating a long term financial commitment without any compensating commitment from the SB.

    That leaves buying the car and letting the SB use it – which would require a lot of confidence in the person – or letting the SB lease (or finance)

  631. NYC SB says:

    villa – i will win that competition hands down… ababy can vouch for me

  632. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Trin – that’s funny…. just pretend like you’ve never talked to them before…

  633. Bombshell says:

    Whomever Nitemare is delegating to, had better be a willing and able man.

  634. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Well… whomever can drink the most “Diamonds and Pearls” at the Rose Bar and Jade Bar will gain admission to East Egg!

    Almost – I’m not an “SD” so I cannot say… perhaps nitemare can offer some wisdom…

  635. Trin says:

    SOooooooo…now I am having people contact me that have already contacted me before with pictures. This is getting funny! How am I going to respond to those emails…ummmm…well we talked before…but then you poofed! :)

  636. NYC SB says:

    gramercy park hotel – NYC???? hahaha

  637. NitemareSD says:

    not far from Bellevue…

    Its a bit of a trip for me, but SBs just love the convenience of meeting there.

    And there’s plenty of free parking on the street for me.

  638. almost says:

    Coming out of lurk mode to ask a quick question.

    Is it asking to much to ask my SD to lease me a car in his name? There is no way I’m going to get the one I want since I am so young and I have no credit. I also have no family to speak of so getting a cosigner would be almost impossible.
    Would any of the SDs here lease their SB a car for a year or two?

  639. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    delegating to whom?

  640. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hmmmm… interesting choice of venue.. not far from Bellevue…

  641. NitemareSD says:

    I can’t handle any of you. That’s why I’m delegating.

  642. NitemareSD says:

    I’ll never tell who.
    The screening could have started already.

    Auditions will be held 9:30 Thurs night at the Gramercy Park Hotel’s lounge.

  643. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    That will be up to my discretion… and since I like storm, and his interest in acupuncture and other alternative methods… chances are he will be admitted to the camp. Plus, I don’t think Nitemare could handle all of us, could you my dear… !?

  644. NYC SB says:

    hahaha thats funny… im interested if storm attends as well 😉

  645. VillaCypris *276489* says:


  646. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    yes… NYC SB… east egg is the fictional town immortalised in “the great gatsby”… aka Sands Point… Nitemare is setting up a camp for SBs there this summer and has asksed me to screen attendees… are you interested? 😉

  647. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    segue…. si…. the author is Fred P. Gallo. i’ve been going to acupuncture for almost two years… it’s fascinating to me… anything which we cannot “see” …. but rather which operates in the energetic sphere…

    oh, did you nitemare… i saw you posted that “someone” had a new profile pic but when asked, you never responded “who” it was you saw….

  648. NYC SB says:

    summer paradise on east egg?

  649. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Well… you asked for “the latest” and that is the latest… so… tant pis, eh?

    When do I start screening SBs for the summer paradise on East Egg?

  650. NitemareSD says:

    VillaCypris *276489* Says: June 9th, 2009 at 11:35 pm BTW —- it’s not just women “under 30″ who look good in “nudie” photos…
    Yeah, I noticed that yesterday.

  651. Stormcat says:

    Thanks VC – that is interesting. I have been having accupuncture for the past two years and have dabbled in a lot of energy related therapies. I can Google it but who is the Author?
    By the way I saw a pic of you on another site and thought Wow that’s what VC looks like. I need start flirting with her. This seems like the perfest seguay has been provided by none other than you yourself.

  652. NitemareSD says:

    Oh no, its not like that at all. You’ve shed light today on both of our lymphatic systems.

  653. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    BTW —- it’s not just women “under 30” who look good in “nudie” photos…

  654. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Did you…. well, according to her… the colon is the “trashcan” and the lymphatic system is the “sewer”… so you’re right to cleanse the colon first…

    even though I know you’re just mocking me… again… :(

  655. NitemareSD says:

    Isn’t that marvelous. I just recently cleansed my colon. My lymphatic system is a mess.

  656. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Storm – to interrupt your flirting … i think you’d like this book i found, given your past posts…

    Energy Psychology: Explorations at the Interface of Energy, Cognition, Behavior, and Health, Second Edition introduces the exciting new paradigm of energy psychology and presents the latest research on the subject. This second edition begins by tracing the roots of energy psychology and contrasting them with contemporary approaches, and then explores the interface with cognition and behavior, and provides instruction in treatment applications. Drawing on more than 35 years of clinical experience, the author investigates the body’s energy patterns, focusing on the relevance of acupuncture, homeopathy, prayer, and applied kinesiology to energy therapy.

  657. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    Hi Nitemare. :)

    Nothing much. I found the most fantastic woman naturopath here in Minneapolis that uses the light beam generator to do a cleansing of the lymphatic system. I had one tonight and one saturday. Absolutely amazing. People totally neglect the lymph, but it’s a vital part of being healthy!

    how are you ? is the summer tent camp coming together?

  658. NYC SB says:

    storm – backpeddaling?

    NYCBOY – you found a gem… maybe he was trying out the site met you and never had the reason to join as a paying member

  659. NitemareSD says:

    Hello Villa, what’s the latest.

  660. Ababy80 says:

    storm – obviously, i was not raised under a rock.. but im pretty sure i recognized you in that porno last night 😉

  661. lisa says:

    If I could find a husband (not boyfriend ) that would take care of me and I would not to hold a job, I’d cook, clean, etc but if i’m out working paying bills then I have no reason to be a good wife, if the man isn’t being a traditional husband, I will not be a traditional wife. If i’m working and paying my own bills I have no reason to do someone elses’ cleaning and laundry.

    Gotta go to bed now, have a good night everyone

  662. NYCBOY says:

    Ummm my SD didn’t have the paid account and I got more gifts than I knew what to do with. But maybe that’s just me.

  663. Stormcat says:

    NYCSB – -Are you backpeddeling?

  664. NYC SB says:

    Nitemare – yes i am under 30 (clearly the nudie comment was just a joke lets clear that up)

  665. Stormcat says:

    Abby – reallly now this discussion is all theoretical. Of course you knew that. So I actually haven’t had to deal with the wife on this plain yet.

  666. lisa says:

    ha ha I just a violation notice email from yahoo answers for a question I answered like 2 years ago that I don’t even remember. I don’t even go on that anymore, lol

    Going to bed now, have a good night everyone

  667. NYC SB says:

    storm – there will be no actual work papers involved its all just for show

  668. NitemareSD says:

    NYC SB Says: nitemare my nudies are always up
    So you are under 30 then.

  669. Stormcat says:

    I donno NYC The heat might fry something important!

  670. Ababy80 says:

    storm – what, your wife didnt want to join? was this before or after you snuck in the sb to cook you breakfast

  671. NYC SB says:

    storm – copier tango is a go

  672. Stormcat says:

    Well I haven’t had any nudies taken that I care to post. Well I don’t really have to count the 7 porno flicks I made back on 02 with the govenors wife, do I?

  673. NYC SB says:

    Ababy of course you have… we slept together… LOL

  674. Ababy80 says:

    or two… or three… HAH!

  675. NYC SB says:

    yeah i know he wanted the other one… ummm guy im not here to sponsor your drinks…. neither is Ababys SD… this is when you disappeared for a minute

  676. Ababy80 says:

    ive seen ur nudies

  677. Ababy80 says:

    wait… he tried to drink… oh but you ordered TWO!

  678. NYC SB says:

    nitemare my nudies are always up j/k

  679. Ababy80 says:

    lisa your not? could of sworn all women were created for was to cook clean and feeeeeed the male ego

  680. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    lisa… you are hilarious!

  681. NYC SB says:

    Ababy – LOL the MR Bigs hahahahaha that was great!!!! Man that night was such a good time … minus the guy trying to drink my drink at eat the olives from my martini ~ UMMM BACK OFF MY DRINK!

  682. VillaCypris *276489* says:

    good evening!! :)

  683. lisa says:

    if you want breakfast, mcdonalds is in front of my apartment, get your own breakfast as i’m not june cleaver, lol

  684. Ababy80 says:

    LOL im loving this

    stormcat – make sure cleaning the apt is part of the deal

  685. Stormcat says:

    NYS you and I will have to think of something else then! Maybe a little copier tango?

  686. NitemareSD says:

    NYC SB Says: June 9th, 2009 at 10:42 pm
    General comment… why would an SD contact someone without a picture up??
    Its an opportunity to ask for the nudes we are really after.

  687. NYC SB says:

    stormcat LOL i dont cook! :p

  688. Stormcat says:

    A perfect summer night would be emailing my form letter to 301 local SB and having 300 ignore it and one perfect SB answer and make an immediate complete connection with me. Ask for no money up front. And volenteer to cook breakfast at my place after my wife leaves for work.

  689. NYC SB says:

    Hi you guys!

    LOL at LISA…

    General comment… why would an SD contact someone without a picture up?? Dont you want to see if you like the persons appearance? Thats very odd… I guess a reference from Sex and the City “Sexy is what I try them to see after I win them over with my personality”

  690. Ababy80 says:

    nitemare – im not sure how all 300 of us will manage to roll outta bed by 8am, you have higher chances of winning the lottery. with that said im sure we will have to find our own rides home, and never expect to hear from you ever again

  691. lisa says:

    I deposited it last friday morning. It’s posted, not sure how long it takes to clear as it’s a local check.

  692. NitemareSD says:

    I never wait two weeks to meet. If you can’t meet tonight we just are not right for each other.

    (P.S. I’ll need you gone by 8 am)

  693. Ababy80 says:

    nitemare, will you take all three hundred of us out in two weeks??

  694. NitemareSD says:

    Well, Lisa, I won’t be in your area in two weeks because you’re going to the MOON!

    Did the SD’s check clear?

  695. lisa says:

    Yes Nitemare one of those 300 sbs might be looking forward to you being in their area in 2 weeks.

  696. Silly in Toronto #330786 says:

    Trin- ok, experiment on !! I took down my pics and changed my profile a bit..I’ll keep ya posted !
    Red- I hear you ! but I keep plugging away.. think of the reward of sticking to it !!

    What’s on your agenda this summer? Working, transitioning and hopefully finding an awesome SD!

    What does a perfect summer day with a SD look like to you? breakfast in bed, a lazy walk along a beach then a short shopping trip for something new, candle light dinner and then skinny dip in the lake blank blank :)

    Anyone planning any summer trips with a sugar? once I have one, I will definitely want to plan something ! I look forward to an amazing summer !

  697. NitemareSD says:

    A well written form email sent to approximately 300 SBs should elicit at least one response,

  698. Waldo says:

    I’ve been on the site for a week and have sent ten messages with zero response. All messages were polite, personalized for their profiles, and pointed out our commonality. So, my bland and boring shtick doesn’t work here. Fair enough; point taken.

    What should I try next? Rude, bawdy, haughty, metaphoric, mysterious, romantic, poetic? I can write in any style and will be your messaging monkey; just tell me what you want. I need to know my audience.

  699. Bombshell says:

    I would also throw in a visit to a couple of friends: Louis Vitton and Chanel

  700. Bombshell says:

    Perfect summer day would involve a picnic in thw woods, some sangria, brie and duck mousse with a nice French baguette, followed by wet kisses on the touche and some light spanking.

  701. Jai says:

    Meant your* 😛

  702. Jai says:

    Trin, hope you meeting went well today!!! :)

  703. Jai says:

    1st-JOULES love the name! :) I’m all over those in my chem class. Js, kJ etc. Love it :)

    Got the potatoes, now to the meat (Can you tell I’m hungry? 😛 )

    What’s on your agenda this summer?

    SCHOOL :) and hopefully some rest and relaxation. My mother, step father, and sis will be back in the states permanently in August, so that is something to look forward to as well.

    What does a perfect summer day with a SD or SB look like to you?

    Perfection is impossible, but ideally it would involve the two of us 😛 , lots of laughter, wit, and learning, with a bit of tlc sprinkled in.

    Anyone planning any summer trips with a sugar?

    I hope so! With a few sugars actually :) We’ll see what happens.

  704. NitemareSD says:

    Another addition to my list of SB admissions that are sure to have the SDs running at them:

    I took down my picture and then people started contacting me.

  705. Paige says:

    What’s on your agenda this summer? Work! And hopefully meeting some great new SDs. =]

    What does a perfect summer day with a SD or SB look like to you? Just a nice lazy day- sunshine, maybe some shopping, a trip to the idealistic SDs house, maybe with a pool- lol. =]

    Anyone planning any summer trips with a sugar? No, but hopefully!

  706. DC says:

    Wow Trin!

    I’ll have to try that.

  707. Trin says:

    I did an experiment based on conversations with others and took all of my photos down…now I have double the email everyday! It is weird…has to be the mystery of it all that SD’s can’t resist…;)

  708. lisa says:

    actually I can’t live without the blog, lol

  709. RedMaru says:

    lisa – Lol

  710. lisa says:

    DC i’m very quiet till I get to know a person then I’m very outgoing and yes I joke a lot.

    Nitemare I don’t want to be on both sites at once. I know you are on several sites. Aren’t you the guy that contacted me on e-blah a few years ago, oh yes you’re the cabinet maker guy with 3 kids that rejected me because my list of 3 things I absolutely couldn’t live without didn’t include the bible. I chose stuff like air, food, water

  711. DC says:

    Hey everyone-

    Hey Red- l agree with SR- email those SDs first. I only had 2 respond but one wants to meet for coffee. Of course, until I actually meet them there’s always the poof daddy possibility, especially since this guy was originally looking for someone half my age.

    Lisa- are you this funny in person? Seriously girl, you always make me laugh with your sarcasm.

  712. NitemareSD says:

    Lisa, keep profiles active on both sites so guys will assume you are a pro and contact you.

  713. RedMaru says:

    Company is always nice even in a rut
    thanks lisa (passes the Ben and Jerry’s your way)

  714. lisa says:

    RedMaru I’d like to help you but i’m down in that rut myself. lol Tons of views but no real response lately. Getting ready to hide my profile on that site and put a new one on SA and see if I can get some fresh responses as i’ve been away for 2 months and was burned out.

  715. RedMaru says:

    Sorry I have email slump…. After sending out personalized emails and not even being favored with a response not even a “no thanks”and one really good email back and forth with one I hoped to be a pot talking about likes and dislikes but never heard from him again even after the thank you and invite I sent to ask something about me…..I’m in a rut with emails. Anybody wants to extend a hand down and pull me out it would be appreciated

  716. lisa says:

    a blue sd is the man who will take you to the dollar movie night even if there isn’t anything you want to see

    a blue sd is the one that will order one drink so that you can share it with refills

    a blue sd gives you a sniff card instead of a bottle of perfume

    a blue sd will buy you elf makeup instead of Yves st Laurant

  717. lisa says:

    I added my last sd to my favorites list and he seen it and because I was a compatible zodiac sign he emailed me. We seen each other for about a month but since we became intimate last week, he has disappeared.

  718. RedMaru says:

    lisa your description of blue sd profiles…ouch lol

  719. Ababy80 says:

    “sweetredhead Says:
    June 9th, 2009 at 6:20 pm

    You guys really need to mail SD’s I have had great responses from SD when I have written to them :)”

    I agree with sweetrehead, that is how i met my current sd! i mailed him!

    side note – make sure its personalized, not some generic “i think your hot”

  720. lisa says:

    Hi RedMaru we ate at Wendys because it across the street from me, it was ok. I like to spend a few minutes with my daughter. I’m off on saturday so my family is coming over for an early father’s day.

  721. RedMaru says:

    Hey lisa! Hope you enjoyed dinner 😀

  722. lisa says:

    Good evening everyone. Back from having dinner with my daughter. Relaxing now. I did run over my toes with a stock trolley today. I guess i’m trying to compete with my lover’s wife who severed her toe last week.

    Orange profiles, premium paying members
    Blue profiles on Sd, cheapskates not serious about being a sd. Many just signed up for a membership so they could check out the site, many are tryign to find a way to communicate with sbs without paying. This would be the same guy that would park under the bridge and have you walk a mile to the show because he didn’t want to pay for parking.

  723. RedMaru says:

    Welcome to the fold Liebchen! 😀

  724. sweetredhead says:

    Liebchen feel free to ask your questions. We will all be happy to answer to the best of our abilities :) There is a great group here on the blog. All helpful and caring people :)

  725. Liebchen says:

    Thank you! That’s one of about 50 bajillion questions I have, but I’ll save them for later. Also, thanks everyone for being so open on here, it’s really helped me gain some insight into the sugar world.

  726. sweetredhead says:

    Hey red. Don’t lie to the girl nightmaresd DOES bite! lmao

  727. RedMaru says:

    hey sweetred 😀

  728. RedMaru says:

    Hey everybody popping my head in for a brief moment
    Welcome to any newcomers and lurkers(c’mon on out don’t be shy we don’t bite – well most of us don’t)
    To Liebchen – Premium profiles are orange and free members are lt blue

  729. sweetredhead says:

    A premium member will have an orange profile. Non members will have a light blue profile.

  730. Liebchen says:

    Hi everyone. I am also coming out of lurk mode :) because I have actually been wondering the same thing about premium members. How exactly do you tell if someone is a premium member? I’ve only seen a couple of profiles that actually say that, or are there just not that many in comparison to the rest? I’m having some trouble taking people seriously.

    Thanks, and btw, you guys are hilarious sometimes.

  731. sweetredhead says:

    You guys really need to mail SD’s I have had great responses from SD when I have written to them :)

  732. Ababy80 says:

    i did, take two veryyyyy soon. i dont think the mr bigs are ready for us

  733. OCSugarbaby says:

    Hi Miss Lisa Penelope! Enjoy your dinner with your daughter. 😉

  734. lisa says:

    Good afternoon everyone just got home from work

    agenda for the summer? staying cool and counting the days till fall comes. Texas summers are unbearable

    plans with sd? no

    Summer trip, no I don’t get my vacation time till after october because I have to be at work a year before I can get my vacation.

    Getting ready to meet my daughter at the bustop and then go grab a burger before she goes home.

  735. NYC SB says:

    ABABY!!! LOL you loved your nyc trip… and meeting ME!!! and however many boys we talked to that night

  736. Ababy80 says:

    midgetfury – at least you didnt travel to nyc to have a great time to go poof! oh well lol i wrote if off as an awesome trip. dont worry about it, there are plenty and i mean plenty of GOOD men on this site, just be patient.

  737. OCSugarbaby says:

    Midge Welcome! We love when lurkers come out of lurk mode and blog.
    There can be a million reasons why, but you my sugar sister are not one of them. I can list several…
    1. He is talking to many SB’s at one time and can’t seem to keep up with just one.
    2. He is a newbie and may have cold feet
    Just leave it at your last response to him and keep forging on! He will come around if he figures out he is missing out on a fabulous sugar! Which I am sure he is! ~OC

  738. OCSugarbaby says:

    Hi Ryan! Gay or straight we all want responses from our emails that we send. Premium members have the ability to respond. Non or blue members have limited access. So don’t take it personally. Just know that the response from non premium’s may or may not happen. Watch their log in date too if you can see it. Some may have come on just to see what the scoop is all about and then never log back in again. Keep your chin up and blog your progress! ~OC

  739. Midgetfury says:

    Huge lurker coming out of the shadows for a brief moment for a bit of advice. I think I have had an experience with a “Poof Daddy”? We emailed, we talked on the phone, we sent texts, finally had a wonderful lunch after which he called me again (i missed that call but returned it in 30 minutes) to here from him no more. It’s really bumming me out, i sent him an email earlier today just saying Hello as my last attempt at reconnecting. Did I miss something? egh

  740. Ababy80 says:

    luckily that never stops anyone in nyc

  741. NYC SB says:

    my fellow SB is not of legal drinking age 😉

  742. Ababy80 says:

    nycsb – HAHA! make poor decisions aka bring fellow sb (check) buy expensive shoes (check) never hearing from him again – priceless

  743. RedMaru says:

    Hey sugars!!!!
    OOOOh new topic that was quick.
    Whats on my agenda for the summer – well my birthday for one
    getting ready for scifi anime conventions in September and work both at my nine to five and at my crafts business.

    A perfect day with an SD. Yah a chance to dream. Sleeping in waking up to a nice luncheon somewhere to talk, joke, laugh. A outing to the aquarium, zoo, museum, or beach followed by shopping trip trip of course with stops to gamestop, a spa trip and teavanna, and river street sweets. Then a concluded with a light dinner and romantic evening with home movies with little or no actual watching of them…lol

    Any sugar trips….Ah one can dream can’t they?

  744. NYC SB says:

    i believe the words were “GO have some fun… make poor decisions… buy expensive shoes” ~ my response “THANKS DADDY”

  745. NYC SB says:

    well if he is not there i can meet other men… of the non sd type

  746. Ababy80 says:

    wait wait NYCSB he wont BE THERE??? what the hell, wheres the fun in that??

    What’s on your agenda this summer? no agenda – maybe a few trips, sugar time with my SD, take a class or two

    What does a perfect summer day with a SD or SB look like to you? rolling around in bed all morning, reading or not reading =) late lunch where we discussed life goals and life lessons, a nice little shopping trip to saks – nothing extravagant just enough attention to make me feel beautiful and delicate, followed by some wine and conversation, or no conversation … lol

    Anyone planning any summer trips with a sugar? not yet but hopefully soon

  747. NYC SB says:

    I am not on SA but here is my take on this… if an SD doesnt want to pay for membership then how will he spoil you… maybe he is on the fence of whether or not he wants to join the site?

  748. Ryan says:

    Hi guys

    Sorry this is irrelevant to the topic but I don’t know where else to ask it. Do other SB’s feel like a SD is sketchy if they don’t have a premium account? I’ve been reading the blogs a bit but never posted. I’m a 20 year old gay SB for anyone that cares.

  749. NYC SB says:

    Interesting topic….

    What’s on your agenda this summer?
    Vegas trip mid August, other than that work work work and some relaxing by my pool 😀

    What does a perfect summer day with a SD or SB look like to you?
    Perfect day in general is sipping on some bubbly at the louboutin store 😀

    Anyone planning any summer trips with a sugar?
    well my Vegas trip is sponsored by the SD but he wont be there

  750. Joules *300035* says:

    What’s on your agenda this summer? Working on building up my company & searching for a SD!

    What does a perfect summer day with a SD or SB look like to you? No rush, no pressure, shopping, dining & relaxation!

    Anyone planning any summer trips with a sugar? Not yet