Many here have said that their arrangements benefit from a lil’ sugarcoating… to keep some feelings or personal opinions private for the sake of creating and maintaining an ideal, mutually beneficial arrangement…
by Happy Lurker
“When my SB says she is made of truth
I don’t believe her, for she lies
That she might think me some untutored blogger
Unlearned in Sugar World’s false fantasies
Thus vainly thinking she is not after money or gifts
Of which she knows I am very generous with
Simply I smile for her false speaking tongue
On her side is simple truth suppressed.
But wherefore says she not she is unjust?
And wherefore say not I that I am too old to be conned?
Oh, that sugar best habit is in seeming trust
And SBs in sugarland love not to have truth told.
Therefore I lie with her and she lies to me, And in our faults by lies we flattered be.”
Honey Baby: “That’s what I think is great about a sugar arrangement. Its almost a performance. I’m not saying it is staged, but its fun to be given the oppurtunity to shine in the spotlight, knowing you are a successful man’s arm candy, and that he is showing you off to the world. You can be anyone you want to be. You can still be yourself, but you can play like a pussycat doll, act like an actress, dance like a stripper, bang like a pornstar. Why? Because you’re “acting”, you’re “sugar-coating”, you’re “putting on a show”. Not because you’re “lying”, but because you are stepping out of the lines, and doodling all over the page and just getting messy with life. In a sugar arrangement, this is what both parties expect the most. To have a wonderful time without risks of arguing while together.”
Would you withhold certain info in a sugar-arrangement that you’d otherwise be honest & upfront about in a ‘traditional’ relationship?
Are sugars expected to be as forthcoming about their personal feelings as those in traditional relationships?
Is ‘lie’ too strong a word for simple sugar-sweetness?