9 years ago
How Do You Like Your Sugar – Rough or Sweet?

9 years ago
How Do You Like Your Sugar – Rough or Sweet?

There are plenty of alpha male Sugar Daddies out there and there’s at least one sugar baby who’s ready to meet one…

“I’m in a bit of a bind because the potential Sugar Daddy I’ve been seeing is very nice and all, but I think I want someone with a bit more…roughness? Aggression? I don’t really know how to put it…but…manliness, I guess? He’s pretty much left the choice up to me and I’m just kinda thinking that this could either end very well or very badly. You would think with all the alphas males running around NYC I’d have run into one who’s a little more assertive, but maybe I’m just so direct that I don’t see the pot SDs I have met as enough for me…” – Bunny NYC

Would you like a sugar daddy who was more assertive than passive?

Would you like a sugar baby who’s more direct than vague?

How can you tell how aggressive or mild a sugar will be before you meet?

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845 Responses to “How Do You Like Your Sugar – Rough or Sweet?”

  1. I love aggressive SBs. RAWR!

  2. D-Dubs says:

    *raises his hand*

    “I can be aggressive!”

  3. Amanda says:

    I would love an agressive SD. Has something to do with the raw power that turns me on, yeah I know youve got money and nice stuff, but all that means nothing if you dont have the conviction of power to back you up.

    Or am I just talking crazy?

  4. Chambord says:

    Hi Sugars,
    I just recently set up a profile on the site…but I read here that some of you met ur SD’s on the blog.
    Do you mean this blog?? or another?
    Any suggestions…???

  5. Margo says:

    TXSB – giving gifts is not about value of time. Most of men IRL don’t do anything like this at first date, so the one who gives looks generous and has an advantage. My friend told me:”I didn’t ask him about anything. He did it without any obligations.” She was very impressed with the guy who gave her the gift, because she compared him with other guys who did nothing for her. And she is a very attractive woman.

  6. photogirl says:

    TXSB – Glad things are going so well for you two!

    OC – Good to hear things went well for you last night and it sounds like you have a fun weekend ahead!

    Flo – What a way to cheer the guys up… I am sure everyone will have a good time!

  7. Muse says:

    I stumbled upon this while I was reading actual news and just had to share with you guys.


  8. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    TXSB – Don’t. In reading my question again, it does sound serious 😀 Surprised you didn’t respond with “Freak! Mind your own business!”

  9. TXSB says:

    *feels dumb* LOL….eventually when he and I end up on that tub…I don’t think lessons in swimming is that he’ll be interested in. 😉

  10. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    TXSB – I was absolutely joking :) Swim lessons in bathtub.. you know.

  11. TXSB says:

    Dunno about bathtub’s exact size…I guess its your average deep soaking tub….SD could probably tell the size better.

    As for him paying for lessons…it doesn’t make a different to me whether or not he chooses to pay. We talked about the trip last night and he sent a text today saying I should take swim lessons and I said “ok”. The $$ part on who’s going to pay for it never entered my mind b/c it’s something I can afford to pay for. My allowance is generous and I have a job. I’m very grateful for all the extra gifts I’ve received from him and very grateful for this trip (a trip that I could never afford to go on without him). So the few hundred dollars for swim lesson is not important considering the “big picture” on everything else I receive.

    Thanks! I’m soooooo excited about having him all to myself for a few days straight!

    Flo rida:
    Have fun tonight! :)

  12. Taz says:

    TXSB – sounds like fun! Hope the two of you have a WONDERFUL time!

    Flo – you sound like a trip lady! Keep having fun and keep your SD happy 😉

  13. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    TXSB – How big is bathtub in sugar pad and will Realistic pay for lessons?

  14. TXSB says:

    That’s cool! Although Realistic and I didn’t meet here on the blog (we met on the site where I contacted his fake profile)….I’m surprised more people don’t meet other from the blog here. Seems like plenty of SBs and SDs are looking.

    On a more exciting note….looks like I will probably be going on my first trip ever!!! :) I have strict instructions from SD to learn how to swim within the next 6 weeks! :) :) :)

  15. TXSB says:

    No set date but probably in 1-2 weeks. The sugar pad is slowly coming together. Living room furniture will be delivered next Wednesday and we still need to find a dining table we like. I need to get those curtains hemmed since the stupid window is a “weird” size. (that’ll probably take a few days). But I’ve bought most of the kitchen stuff (sans food), bed’s ready with linens etc…bath stuff is there….internet/cable is running. Once the rest of the furniture arrives, it’s just a matter of me packing my closet. :)

  16. Anna Molly says:

    Yay! I’m balanced! Now I can do sales tax….yipee!

  17. TXSB says:

    Glad to hear about your dates…good luck on the other 3! :)

  18. NeOhio SB says:

    OC: Bingo…..I was just talking to my SD about Zest for Life and that is a huge key to the success we have had….the passion, the chemistry, the romance, the true magnetic connection that you have. when you find the right SD partner///..that you crave to be together again….that my dear, IS priceless.

  19. Anna Molly says:

    I prefer to get to know someone a little before I give out my number.

    I have to be somewhat selective because of the whole being married thing. I’m so bombarded with emails that if I gave out my number to everybody it would ring all day long….(roles eyes)….lol.

  20. Flo Rida says:

    NC Gent and OC – thanks – makes sense – I guess if you conduct good pre-screening & have the courage to say ‘sorry I don’t think we’re a match’ then it would help.

    OC – great that you have such success – seems like it comes in waves – but I also think it helps that you are fabulous :-)

    All – Everyone is pretty low over deal dying & we had a drink yesterday which just resulted in a bunch of depressed drunk dudes – so I’m suggesting tonight we go to a strip joint – it’s hard for a guy (straight) to be depressed with such quality distraction & if I start kissing my girlfriends it’ll drive the strippers wild (a lot of them are lesbians or bi). My krewe will be smiling ear to ear :-) I know i’m crazy but from a guy perspective i’m also fun!

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Flo: You are one crazy girl, but I like it! Thank you for the compliment. I have no problem finding prospective SD’s it is cutting to the core of them being right for me. I can check their background but their character is one thing that will play out quickly. Can’t hide everything!
      Maybe it is my attitude, location, personality… don’t feel that I am a 10 by any standards! I am over 35, living in a land of make believe and it could be that I am real and that is a novelity out here. This Midwest girl isn’t going to question the how or why it is working! Just going to choose wisely and hope for the best this time around.

  21. NeOhio SB says:

    There have been so many posts about allowance money vs. gifts…that i finally decided to put my 2 cents in. Yes, a monthly allowance is wonderful…i don’t have a set amount, but i get well over 10k per month in an allowance…BUT…i will honestly admit…the gifts, the flowers, the shopping trips ( i would never ever walk down newbury st. in boston and spend 12k within 1/2 hour on my own)…the “life experiences” bring far more memories than do the money in the bank account. Staying at the best of the best hotels, going to the nicest restaurants, enjoying the champagne and wine….Those are the things that mean the most to me…and always will. I remember once NYC SB posting about a “gift daddy” and i truly appreciate her wisdom and thoughts, because I am right there with her.!

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Hi NeOhio! I know what you are saying about the experience. My choice always narrows it down to not his generousity but his zest for life and that he takes the time to show me new things and shares his wisdom. But the perfect SD for me is one who can see the things I can teach him.

  22. NC Gent says:

    Flo — I think extended communication ahead of time does increase the chances of success, but a lot of people don’t want to do that. It is easier to spend one hour over lunch rather than 5 hours texting, emailing, etc.

  23. Flo Rida says:

    TXSB – SD’s only need to be ‘paid’ in terms of kindness & respect & interest (even feigned). Nothing else is necessary.

    All interestingly the percentages come up to 10percent which when you consider that 88percent of options expire worthless means that dating SBs is like buying an option (with dinner or gift being the option premium).

    I had a conversation with Myron Scholes (Black Scholes) at the University of Chicago – I wondered if BlackScholes valuation model could apply to dating SB’s with volatility equating to SB flakiness or SD-SB chemistry and the risk free rate of return equals ‘sitting on the couch doing nothing (hard to do in NY btw)

    I know a lot of people are saying ‘what is this chick smoking’ but I know that NYC SB is a closet trader.

    Finally I can’t believe the percentages are so low, can this be solved – raised by better pre-screening? I think NYC SB said she preferred meeting in person to endless email – phone (& I think other SBs agree) but does an elongated email phone session increase your chances of success? (bear in mind i’ve only had one SD-BF or whatever he is in my life). ciao peep – pax

  24. RX8sb says:

    NYGent says:
    October 30, 2009 at 1:24 am
    …or at least some tangible gift to make it their worthwhile — and a nice dinner doesn’t count for that),…

    Food for thought, Flowers count as a gift.

    I get so thrilled when I get flowers, esp. when they know me enough to give me my favorite ones. A gift doesn’t have to me thousands of dollars, Hell I had one date make me a card because I had to cancel for getting sick. I was tickled pink.

    I don’t get the mindset where a gift is just forking over money, or they are entitled to it. You give someone a gift because you though of them when you saw that gift.

    Maybe I am just old fashioned but that is what I always thought a ‘gift’ was supposed to be a token of someones regard or just because it reminded you of them.
    Anna Molly says:
    October 30, 2009 at 10:00 am
    …I’m ready to be the one getting spoiled for a change

    I second that Anna Molly, is why I am here as well. Before I fell on hard times I was always the one with the money, and most of the time had to fork out the dough whenever we went out. Only once did I actually date a guy that made more then I. But he was so cheap I still had to fork out most of the dough when we were out.

    If I ever get to make it to the first date, It will be a pleasant and nice change to have my date pay for dinner.

    RedMaru says:
    October 30, 2009 at 10:03 am
    Just tested out my handmade soap…

    Awesome I used to make all of my beuty cosmetics back in the day, talk about pampering. Nothing I have used before or after ever came close to how they made my skin feel, and how awesome my hair was.
    And Good Morning everyone. I feel like shyt and I fear it is not allergies. 😛 Figures that i would get sick the day before halloween. Esp since I found that the nearby pricent is having a bash for the kiddies and will have MCGruff out.

  25. RedMaru says:

    I’m back from eye doctor appointment, just had my pupils dilated…eye doctor said it was necessary(my foot) but at least my insurance covers it. How is everybdy?

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Update from last nights pot SD date: Ahhhmazing! What a sweetheart. I am so glad I txted him yesterday afternoon and we moved our meeting up.
      Between the fabulous pot I met on Monday and the one last night I actually may have to create a panel of SB./SD judges off line to help me choose. My picker is off, so I totally don’t trust my singular opinion. HELP!
      I have three other pot dates this weekend, but not sure they can top these two gentleman!

      TLG: I am so sorry to hear about your week. Sucks, I know. I tried to wait for you… :) Big Virtual SB Sugar hug

      • OCSugarbaby says:

        Flo: I spend a fair amount of time in pre-communication (all chemistry testing and building, NEVER $ discussions). At least a few phone calls, several emails and even maybe a few txts. But if possible, within the first week or so I like to set up a time to meet for dinner. I just don’t have time for short lunch dates with my work schedule. I love Sunday afternoon dates (sailing or venturing out to explore an art exibit). By the third or forth communication I have a pretty good idea if I am just a cast of many or if he can remember our previous conversations. If he mentions my dog, he is golden! lol

  26. TXSB says:

    That was very sweet of her….as you wrote, it showed that she really cared about making a good impression. :)

  27. SouthernGent2 says:

    TXSB – the sb has no obligation to “compensate” other than showing up on time, being dressed properly for the location, and carrying on a good conversation. Anything above that is a bonus to me, just as I posted above about all the effort my new TX pot put in for meeting me.

  28. SouthernGent2 says:

    The percentages NC Gent posted are probably accurate for me as well. I have to admit that no matter how they turn out, I generally enjoy the first dates and meeting someone new. I try to go in with a positive attitude to see what happens, and also to learn from the experience. Though I have had a couple of pretty bad first meetings, I still don’t mind giving the gift up front. It was my decision to meet someone, and I feel its the respectful thing to do.

    I have to add that my first date with someone new last week was great. This girl really put some effort into it. She emailed me a couple of pictures of what she might wear, and she wanted my opinion going in on certain matters about our meeting. This girl wanted to make a great impression, and I appreciated that. So giving her a nice gift was a no brainer.

  29. TXSB says:

    I have a question:
    To those of you (SDs or SBs), who think that SDs should give the pot SBs money or gift on the 1st date just for their time (I’m not talking about travel costs here)………..in that case what about the value of the SDs time?

    A lot of these men are busy with demanding careers (that’s why they have the $$ to be SDs!) or married and they also need to schedule the 1st date based on their own schedule around work and/or family. How should the pot SB compensate the SD for his time? Or is the SDs time “worth” less than that SBs time?

    I’m still trying to understand the concept behind giving SBs money for the time….especially since from what I understand, there are more SBs out there than real SDs. As in more “fish in the ocean” for the SDs to choose from compared to the # of real SDs out there for all the women……am I wrong?

  30. Anna Molly says:

    Now I’m off by 4 cents….yay me!

  31. Anna Molly says:

    Its a balmy 52 here :)

  32. lisa says:

    Good morning everyone

    Out of the 5 sd meetings I have had 2 took me shopping, 2 were just coffee(one led to a second date the next day and allowance two days later), and one paid me half month’s allowance during the hour long lunch meeting.

    I think it’s good for the sd to bring something be it a gift or cash as this is not match.com thus setting this type of meeting apart from the other sites.

    Have a good day everyone. I’ve got to get going, busy day
    oh and cold too…. 56 degrees

  33. NYGent says:

    NC Gent: interesting, I come up with similar percentages, around 25% and 5-10%. And my guess is that isn’t all that different from dating IRL in terms of second dates and LTR’s. Which maybe proves that in the end you can’t force or fake chemistry, with or without $$?

  34. TXSB says:

    “NC Gent says:
    Do you SBs think it is insulting to get $50 to $200 on a first date?”

    *** My 1st dates never cost me anything. I didn’t spend hundreads of dollars at the salon, I didn’t have to take off work to meet the potential SDs, and I have my own car and all the dates were local (within 15-20 minutes drive) so I didn’t have to take bus/cab etc.

    If a potential SB *has* to take time off from work b/c you two can’t come up with another time to meet, if she *has* to take a cab/bus/plane to meet you……in those cases I see nothing wrong with a SD compensating the “travel” cost. But IMO it should be crystal clear to the girl before and part of the “discussion” in letting her know that you will be compensating for the travel cost so she somehow isn’t under the impression that the cash is a random gift.

    As for me, b/c I never really spent any money in meeting my SDs, yes, I would’ve been insulted if someone tried giving me money for my few hours in having dinner with him. Escorts/prostitues require money to spend time with a man (including dinner/drinks whatever). I’m not an escort and I’m not dirt poor(ie. I can afford a tank of gas). I had one potential SD give me $200 cash on the 2nd date…..but the few others I met never gave me any money or gift and it never effected my opinion of them negatively.

    I should add that on my 1st date with Realistic, he didn’t give me anything (apprantly I’m the 1st pot SB not to get anything from him on the 1st date!) and I never thought of him in a negative way b/c of it.

  35. Anna Molly says:

    Ugh!…I’m off by 35 cents, I hate that!

  36. NC Gent says:

    Good question NY Gent — I would say about 20% of my first dates lead to a second date, and about 10% of my first dates lead to an arrangement. When you start multiplying the percentages from initial contact to eventual arrangement, the odds are astonishingly low, for me at least.

  37. NYGent says:

    ECF: I have not met any SB under 22 but in general I don’t see a pattern of degree of drama or haughtiness or lack of consideration based on age. Some 22-24 y.o.s I have found to be quite polite and punctual and some in their late twenties or early-mid thirties to be of the “my time’s more valuable than yours” variety. And vice versa. So I can’t really generalize.

    Based on SouthernGent and Realistic SD glad to see I’m not the only SD who has shelled out on a first pot date, although does sound like all of us may be contracting that practice based on the fusillade we’re hearing here. As for SBs who I never anticipate seeing again, I do not generally give anything beyond the dinner/lunch but I do pay their cab fare home or drop them off if on my way.

    question for all: assuming you’ve had a pleasant email or phone chat before the fist SA date, and there is mutual like for each other’s profiles, what percentage of time do you actually generate real chemistry when you first meet? More than 50%? Less?

  38. NeOhio SB says:

    Happy Friday pre Halloween to everyone!
    Wow…i go away a few days to Boston w/SD and tons going on here…too much to catch up on. First of all, Boston is fabulous for a nice sugar escape. Stayed at the Mandarin Orient Hotel (phenominal) , fantastic spa, great shopping on Newbury, B & G lunch w/oysters and martinis, Scampos for a great dinner..and tons of smiles, laughs, passion, romance, champagne and great wine. Heading w/ SD to Palm Beach Mon- Wed and attempting to take VC in my hide away bag so she can enjoy some sunshine :)

    BG: How far are you from Toronto? I may have a pot SD for you in Toronto. Will email you, just had no idea w/geography up there.

    NYC SB: Congrats on your business deal. Have not been able to sign onto my Y mail, but will contact you through my personal email in re: Chicago Waldorf hedgie seeking SB in NY.

    Will catch up on some of these blog postings and share my thoughts.

    Wishing everyone a fantastic and fun Halloween!!

  39. RedMaru says:

    Well off to eye doc…be back later

  40. RedMaru says:

    Hey AnnaMolly!
    Actually no it was quite easy – just melt the base add fragrance, stir and pour into mold and let set. Just as easy as with scented candles.

  41. Anna Molly says:

    I’ve always wanted to go on a shopping spree at Lush, their soap smells so good :)

    RedMaru – Was it hard to make your own soap?

  42. RedMaru says:

    Hey Morning sugars! How is everybody? Aw man I rest my eyelids for couple o hours and miss the action again 😉

    Having a relaxing morning for once going to the eye doctor so I get to go into work late today…..yah for sick leave!
    Just tested out my handmade soap in the shower on myself and its a go!

  43. Taz says:

    Happy Friday everyone! I am off to some appointments today – catch up later!!

  44. Anna Molly says:

    Beach_Girl – I’m ready to be the one getting spoiled for a change :)

  45. NC Gent says:

    BG — I didn’t find it offensive, and there is no need to leave. It is a blog – everyone is entitled to an opinion.

  46. Margo says:

    BG – just because they spent on gas and he is a nice person, even if the chemistry was not there.

  47. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    NC~ I didn’t mean to say you need to stop giving or that it’s not nice. I just think if there is no chemistry why give them anything? I am sure they were happy…. My opinion, now stopping …. I am off , sorry for saying anything that offended anyone.

  48. NC Gent says:

    I think I gave $50 twice — both times we had exchanged a few emails – had a quick lunch – there was no chemistry – I handed them $50 for gas money – they BOTH thanked me and moved on. I know $50 isn’t a lot and it wasn’t meant to be a lot. I wasn’t trying to prove to them that I was an SD by giving them $50, just as I am not trying to prove I am an SD by giving someone $200. Both are chump change but nice gestures in my opinion. Not everything has to be about proving that your an SD.

  49. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Anna Molly~ no need to explain, you want to get spoiled and treated right, I didn’t know you were married!!! If it’s right for you, then never mind anyone else….

    Taz~ I don’t get it why you keep getting mail like that. Like me, I get mail from overseas!!!

  50. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Margo~ That is a good point, $200 is a good amount…And I think it all depends on the person

  51. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    NC~ I think, You should do what you please really. If you want to give someone something go for it… It depends on the person. I never got anything on a first date! And I know they weren’t real SDs, so …. I do think 50$ is not alot , at all….

  52. Anna Molly says:

    Good Morning :)

    I could comment on why a married woman would be looking for a SD, but I don’t want to write a book today :)

  53. NC Gent says:

    I never judge someone for their opinions BG :) I guess I will stop giving money on the first date – never occurred to me it could be insulting — thanks for the enlightenment :)

  54. Margo says:

    NC Gent – my opinion is that you should continue doing that,
    My friend met a guy from NY, and he gave her $200 as a gift at first date. She was very impressed because other men didn’t do it. That was one of her best relationships, and when she tells me about that guy, she often reminds those $200. So you are absolutely right.

  55. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    NC~ I think if someone gave me $50 to have lunch, yes I would insulted… If I took time off my work, which for 2 hours I would be paid more than 50$, then yes. I rather not get anything ….
    Sorry I know this sounds like I’m a total bitch….

  56. Taz says:

    Margo – indeed I did email him back with that suggestion and got yet another reply NOT worth positing. He wanted a test drive…I don’t think so!

  57. NC Gent says:

    Point taken BG — I guess it compensates them for their travel costs and some of their time. I have never had someone turn it down. Do you SBs think it is insulting to get $50 to $200 on a first date? I am open minded on it, and I don’t think it has insulted anyone. There has been only one time that I had a date that wasn’t struggling financially, but she turned out to be married to a wealthy guy.

  58. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Hey Sincere~ how you been?

  59. Margo says:

    What I mean by the trial – if everything goes well after the first meeting, he gives your the allowance for remaining part of the month, and two of you continue with arrangement. But if the chemistry is not that good, then you part your ways and you keep the amount for first half of month.

  60. SincereSD says:


    I saw in a previous post that Realistic was interested in tantra. I sent some ebooks on this topic to your hotmail account.

    I know the two of you will enjoy the art of tantra (and don’t be afraid to experiment). 😉

  61. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    photogirl~ I love it , lmao 😀

  62. photogirl says:

    Beach_Girl says:
    There is a town called Fucking in Austria too!!!

    There is a Lowering Licking Road in Morehead Kentucky.

  63. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    SG2~ “the sb’s that are in the younger age ranges do have obvious built in advantages.” Really???

    NC Gent~ Not all SBs are struggling financially!!! And $50 to $200? what for?

  64. Margo says:

    Taz – I see your point, but why wouldn’t you negotiate half month allowance for example, if everything else looks well but he wants a trial?

  65. NC Gent says:

    Good morning all. I usually give something on a date too, but the amount depends on the chemistry we have and how much effort the SB has extended to get to this point. However, in a few cases when I have been sent fake or misleading pics, I don’t give anything. I don’t think it is a good idea to reward bad behavior. The amount I give typically is between $50 and $200 — not a lot of money to me, but a lot of money to someone who is struggling financially.

    ECF — I know you weren’t asking me, but I haven’t found the “sense of entitlement” to vary much with age. I have found the biggest factor in that is the person’s upbringing.

  66. SouthernGent2 says:

    EastCoastFilly – “entitled” is not a good word in my book. That sort of attitude becomes a turnoff. That being said, the sb’s that are in the younger age ranges do have obvious built in advantages.

  67. Margo says:

    TXSB – I cannot agree. When you do many job interviews, spending hours just to get there, and they ask you the same questions or they ask you negative questions because they have too many candidates to weed out, and you don’t get the job, – this is a waste of time unless you are new in interviewing process and appreciate any experience. The same with meeting a pot. I wouldn’t be resentful even there is no agreement, if he is an interesting person or that was a restaurant I would like to visit anyway. Otherwise I would better go to gym or have meaningful conversation with my friend.

  68. EastCoastFilly says:

    Realistic and NYGent: do you find that the younger girls 18-24 are more entitled? just curious as I feel the younger generation is guilty of that. NO OFFENSE to you younger girls on the blog, I think you are all fantastic!!!! Clearly you are more mature and on another level 😉

  69. SouthernGent2 says:

    NYC Gent – too many posts to read, so I must be missing some of the story. Sounds like people were too rough on you. I always give a cash gift to a someone I meet first time, even if I realize during the meeting I will not see her again. I want to show I am serious, and I just feel its the right thing to do.

  70. RealisticSD says:

    NY Gent said, “just find that so many SBs have this attitude of ‘my time is all-important.'” Yup, I’ve seen a lot of that. I am very respectful of people’s time and expect the same in return, but in sugar-dating I’ve ran across so many pot SBs who think their time is so valuable even though they just sit around the house all day with no job or school, family to take care of, or higher purpose in life. Amazingly, I’ve been lectured by such characters about how little free time they have and how precious that free time is, and it’s just hard for me to sit there and listen to it with a straight face.

    And yes, I couldn’t believe there was nowhere open at 10 PM for dessert on a Thursday night.

    And for those curious about the drilling planned for last night, the curtains were too long, so I didn’t have to drill the walls after all.

  71. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    It’s Friday Sugars!! YAY…. 😛
    Have a good one!

    Flo~ thanks for the list

    Taz~ that’s funny!!

  72. Taz says:

    I am sooo going to bed now lol…check out this profile 😉 1XXXXX

    Nite SugarFam

  73. Mina says:

    NYGent gets all the sweethearts.

  74. TXSB says:

    I’ve never been to the east coast so can’t say anything about the people there….but I guess it’s hard for me to imagine a girl having that kinda attitude anywhere b/c I personally consider it to be very stuck up and conceited. And honestly, it saddens me to hear that it’s something that’s encountered by SDs. I consider potential SD to be my equals. The way I see it is that if I expect them to compensate me for my time by giving me gifts/cash, then what should I give them to compensate them for their time? SD & I talked about this tonight actually and he was sharing stories about his past SBs. And I told him that it’s just difficult for me to relate to girls having these kinda attitudes since that’s not how I conduct myself.

    And yes, I completely agree with you…..at the end, if the chemistry isn’t there…it isn’t there. :)

  75. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    NYGent~ I agree chemistry is a must, and if it’s not there it’s a deal breaker.. It may be a NYC thing, I don’t know.
    I do hope you meet some that will appreciate you! and yes you being clearer and more specific for the first date would help a lot… It would help weed them out at least

  76. NYGent says:

    TXSB I agree with you for the most part, but something is different about SD/SB dating. I just find that so many SBs have this attitude of “my time is all-important and boy if you don’t deliver an arrangement offer on the first date you’ve wasted my time.” Maybe it’s an east coast or NYC thing but often when I go on a SB date with a pot who doesn’t walk away with an arrangement offer (or at least some tangible gift to make it their worthwhile — and a nice dinner doesn’t count for that), they are pretty po’d and resentful at what they consider a wasted effort.

    I should add that this is not a universal attitude of SBs I’ve met, but it’s fairly frequent.

    I always try to caveat by saying in advance that everything is contingent on chemistry, but the caveat tends to get forgotten. I suppose being clearer and more specific in advance would help but even if you really are both totally on the same page in terms of the kind of arrangement you’re looking for, if the chemistry isn’t there it isn’t there. .

  77. Muse says:

    NY Gent: It definitely does.

    I figure it’s all a numbers game (dating, jobs, sa dates, etc) There are a lot of wrong situations but if you aren’t looking, it’s unlikely you’ll find the right one.

  78. TXSB says:

    “RealisticSD says:
    I told my SB tonight that she was the first not to get anything of value on the first date.”

    LOL….yep…..and I told him that I’ll be sure to make up for it in the coming months. 😉

    You have no idea how happy that story made me!! :) I’m very proud of you for saying “no” in a situation where you were clearly contacted b/c she actually believed you would just fork over the money.

  79. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    NYGent~ wow that is Horrible!!! I can’t believe the nerve of some people!
    You are definitely too nice!! She is a rude and spoiled girl with no manners!
    I think you are way too nice …. I hope you find someone that will appreciate you for you, and not treat you like a ATM!!!

  80. Taz says:

    **shakes head at NYGent**

  81. NYGent says:

    Also for those who think i’m too easy: I had a former sB who I havent seen in over a year text me this week insisting that I buy her an emergency airline ticket to fly home to Eastern Europe on two days’ notice. (I had done that once when we were winding down our arrangement). I responded sorry but can’t. she texted back saying “yes you can, $600 is nothing to you.” I ignored her. Of course the fact that she even asked maybe says something . . .

  82. TXSB says:

    “NYC SB says:
    you as an SB just wasted couple of nights meeting other pots … how does that make you feel?”

    I met several potential SD’s before Realistic….had 1 or 2 dates with them. Obviously it didn’t work out with them for one reason or another. But I don’t feel like my time was ever “wasted”. Personally, I don’t have a “packed” social calendar. If I meet up with a man for dinner or drinks and spend a few hours with him(especially when he’s paying for dinner/drinks), it’s not like I’m “sacrificing” something else to do it.

    IMO it’s not different than interviewing for a job. How much time do you spend filling out applications and doing interviews before landing that 1 job that you take? Each job interview you go to makes you better prepared for the next interview. It’s not different than traditional dating. Not every man you go out with ends up becoming your boyfriend and/or husband. I’m assuming most women don’t end up marrying their very 1st boyfriend. It’s all a learning experience for the next job interview, the next relationship, for the next date with a potential SD. Unless I had a really horrible time with a man(in traditional dating or a potential SD), I never consider it a waste of time just b/c it didn’t lead to something long term.

  83. NYGent says:

    TexSB: looking forward to it.

  84. TXSB says:

    *** Frigging Htown…everything apparantly closes by 10:00 tonight! SD and I hung out for a while…and then I wanted desert. So we tried FOUR different places in our area (we were on a time crunch b/c he needed to get home soon)….our last choice was McDonalds! Heck even that was closed! (the dining in part of it)

    Although I know I can come across a bit harsh at times, I hope you know that its never intended to offend you. Even though I don’t know you IRL, I get the impression that you’re a good man and it’s frustrating to see you find these “characters”. If I didn’t care at all, I would just ignore your posts. BTW, I told Realistic tonight that if/when we go to NY, he’s in charge of making sure we get to meet you. :)

  85. TXSB says:

    Sorry to hear it didn’t work out with the SBs.

    1) My SD, on this site I contacted him.
    2) As for searching locally or nationally, that depends on how flexible your schedule is. Personally, b/c of my job, I didn’t have the flexibility to travel frequently. However, plenty of SBs who’re students or have the type of job that allows them to travel frequently search for SDs all over. So it totally depends on how often you’re able to travel (unless you found a SD who travels to your particular city frequently).

    LOL….wow. Looks like you found a true prince. 😉

  86. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    NYGent~glad you had a good time, even if it wasn’t with the SB!

  87. NYGent says:

    Hi all, back from the play (musical) Memphis which I recommend to anyone. Went with an old friend who I knew would enjoy it and sure enough she said one of the best musicals she’d ever seen. (front row seats didn’t hurt!) I had nice time but sadly kept mourning the fact that my young SB from before (not the latest flake, who is history) who I had originally invited wasn’t there, our having broken up, but that was not meant to be. At least I don’t take it personally because after our breakup I notice she isn’t looking for another SD, in fact has left the site entirely, so I don’t think it was me so much as she just realized the whole SA thing was just too creepy for her taste.

    No offense taken from all the critics. Please don’t feel guilty for voicing your views, they are welcomed even when brutally honest. We all have different approaches/styles to this and mine is evolving I think in a productive and hopefully more perceptive and realistic way. Maybe I will graduate eventually to Realistic SD ll.

  88. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    nite Lisa!

  89. lisa says:

    nope never been there, lol

    Going to climb under the covers and go to bed now. Sleeping late tomorrow

    Good night

  90. RealisticSD says:

    Princess_Kort, given the time, energy, and money it takes to find a good SB, I hope it would last some time. Obviously it is not a life-long type relationship, but with the right person I would hope it would last at least a good while. Also, NSA=no strings attached.

    I completely understand NY Gent’s position. I have done the same thing many times and have wasted untold sums on first sugar-dates that went nowhere thereafter. I told my SB tonight that she was the first not to get anything of value on the first date. Since it seems to be working out between us, my conclusion has to be that not giving up front may be good policy, as giving an SB something for just appearing for a date sets the precedent that we are just paying for the SB’s presence and that she needs not do anything but just be there.

    Better get to bed now.

  91. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Lisa you’ve never been to fucking Austria? LOL, Ok i’m done being bad lol, I have to much information, i mean useless, information in my head 😛

  92. lisa says:

    I’ve been to Austria but never that town, lol

  93. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    What are the mothers called? In this Fucking town?
    What would you be learning at the Fucking High School?
    Does the Fucking Hospital help you with anything else?
    If your friend came from this town, he would be known as your Fucking friend.

  94. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    There is a town called Fucking in Austria too!!! Wonder if the towns people are called Fuckers hahah, or if they have a city school lmao

  95. The Lone Gunman says:


    I’ve always been an ecologically observant SD; catch-and-release, catch-and-release…:)


  96. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Lisa~ a carmen luvana blow up doll lmao, that is funny!

  97. lisa says:

    There is a Houton, it’s in Scotland, lol

  98. The Lone Gunman says:


    I’m not in Houston—or for lisa’s benefit, Houton.


  99. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TLG ~ HA, I know it wasn’t you just JK

  100. lisa says:

    hmmmm not bad, looks kinda plastic though, lol

    maybe we could send him a carmen luvana blow up doll, lol

  101. Taz says:

    TLG – sorry to hear that. But LMAO @ releasing another sb back into the wild!

  102. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    hahhah check out this one!!! 40XXXX
    He wants to take a SB to the Styrofoam factory hahha

  103. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TLG~ sorry I gave you away 😉 , didn’t mean too! lmao

  104. lisa says:

    wells it’s cooled down to 57 here right now. :)

  105. The Lone Gunman says:


    Why, thank you!


    never mind.


  106. lisa says:

    ATM in the bedroom, how handy, now if we could attach a shopping mall to it, we’d be set without having to leave the bed, lol

  107. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Lisa~ he would be great for you ??? he’s from your city!!! 😀

  108. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Lisa~ 81 wow you kill me girl, it’s 36 here

  109. lisa says:

    Beach_Girl, it was 81 today, tomorrow in the 50’s so I can wear one of my cute coats.

    Taz: He was from another site…I should know better , lol I thought you were going to say he was from Texas, you should have known better as there seems to be alot of weirdo sds in Texas

  110. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    HAHAH this is what one guy wrote in his profile, thought it was funny
    “I am not an ATM machine but I do have one in my bedroom!!! LOL”

  111. Taz says:

    He was from another site…I should know better 😛

  112. The Lone Gunman says:


    Pot-kunching, eh? Is that what you kids are calling it now? 😉

    Well, I just released another SB back into the wild tonight.

    Will be letting go of the last one over this upcoming weekend.

    Things just stopped working out for us. They had both become too matter-of-fact about the arrangement. It was no longer mutually beneficial..and I got tired of the one-sided turn things had taken.

    I have some irons in the fire right now, so I don’t think I’ll be The Lone Gunman for long, but it does suck to have to end things on such a sour note.


  113. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Hey Lisa!!! it’s been a while… Glad it’s getting cooler, but rain sucks!

  114. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Hummm you seem to be getting a lot of those kinds of messages ….. hahah

  115. lisa says:

    sounds like a winner Taz

  116. lisa says:

    Hi everyone
    Off tomorrow so i’m up late tonight. the cold front is here! But so is rain:(

  117. Taz says:

    How do you think I responded to this?:

    “I’m in agreement with everything you have said… and also enjoy the fact that you are flexible

    In all seriousness, many of the key values and traits are important to myself as well. Something long term, with one woman, nsa, mutual attraction, compatability, and comfort are all key for me as well. The amount you are requesting is fair to me as well on a monthly basis, I am more then ok with this.

    However I do have one request. Sexual chemistry is equally important, and although sex isn’t the only driver behind an arrangement of this type it is important. I would suggest we meet for an initial encounter, see how well our chemisty is (although I’m sure neither of us will have our best ‘stuff’ for a first meeting lol) and go from there.

    If you are in agreement, I say we figure out the details and meet. Thoughts?”


  118. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Taz Yes it is, guess they are all out on sugar dates!

  119. Taz says:

    Hey Beach!! It’s quiet in here lol

  120. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Red Maru~ thanks your look awesome too!!!

    Taz~ if someone’s profile is hidden but then looked at you, you see who has viewed you if your premium.

    NewSB in SB~ No I don’t think that’s TexaSD, he’s 27 and from Texas…

    NYGent~ Don’t know what decision you made , but I’m sure it’s the right one! Which play where you going to see?

    Anna Molly~ are you married??? sorry didn’t know!

    My hands are soft and my nails are always red! I do them every week. As for getting all fixed up, well I do have make-up and hair done every day…. Even on my days off!

    How is everyone?

  121. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Princess_Kort~ Have a great date!! Hope it all works out for you!

  122. Princess_Kort says:

    Uh I mean LUNCH with my pot… Not kunch with my pot ~ LOL! :-)

  123. Princess_Kort says:

    Thanks ladies for the tip. For some reason I never thought of that.

    Ok so I have been reading the coversation with NYGent. NYGent ~ (and I may be speaking out of turn) I really do not believe anybody meant any harm. I personally can say it is hard to see a good SD like yourself get played in such a manner by a less-than deserving so-called SB. It puts a bad taste in your mouth and we don’t want you ruined for other good SB’s out there. In my most humble opinion I would say she does NOT get another chance. I am new to the SD/SB arrangement and even I know that a thank you must be given shortly after the date. Even if she had some cofusion about what a NSA arranagement is (which I have no idea what NSA stands for, although I get the idea of what it means) a thank you was still in order. She messed up and now it is time to move on. These discussions that are held on here are very informative and, yes, most times very entertaining. I hope no one has any hard feelings…

    Ok I must finish my schoolwork and go to bed. Tommorow is a big day! It’s Friday (yea!!!), I only work a 1/2 day and I get to have kunch with my pot! Goodnight everyone!


  124. I’ve heard the train is a beautiful trip. I lived in in upstate for about 3 mos (until the snow came), near Albany. I took the train from NYC to Hudson (I think). Don’t remember much though.

    So you have a creative and an analytical side :-)

    Flo Rida – I wish I could have said it that eloquently. I’m mired in guilt! There are times when a delete button would be useful.

  125. Flo Rida says:

    NYGent – my humble obeisances if I caused offense, my intent was not thus though I understand completely if I’m not forgiven. Please understand that though my words were harsh, they were imbued with frustration & a desire for you not to be disrespected by Ms. Invisible.

    NYC SB and OC – your merest gesture commands obedience.

  126. Anna Molly says:

    I really enjoyed the train ride, it’s so much better than taking a plane. The trip is certainly something that is do-able for me and wouldn’t have any problem meeting someone in the city. Never heard from Mr. $350 again; I guess he took my advice and found his new baby on the street corner..lol

    We own a retail store in town and I keep the books from my home. I also build websites and do graphic design. :)

  127. Anna – sounds like another trip to the city is in order. How was the train last trip? Have you heard anymore from that guy you were to meet?

    Your boss should be very understanding. What type of biz?

  128. Anna Molly says:

    I’ve been slacking at work….good thing I’m married to the boss..lol

  129. Anna Molly says:

    Why is this blog so addictive? LOL

  130. Anna Molly says:

    I hope its soon, He comes to the city almost every week for biz, but I think he is stuck in Cali next week and he was in Texas this week. The week before that he was in Newark of all places and begged me to come and see him, but I couldn’t because it was such a short notice…..sigh

  131. Awww..are you going to meet soon There’s something to be said for the ones you take time to know.

  132. Anna Molly says:

    I just finished a chat with one of my pots…..he is soo dreamy :) I’ve been talking to him for three weeks now.

  133. Anna – that has worked for me too.

  134. Anna Molly says:

    Princess – What I do is favorite the profiles I like and that is my way of just saying “hey, I’m interested” and I have had some luck that way. I figure if a guy is interested he’ll let me know. If you have a premium account you can view the people who fave you and just send them a note saying thanks and sometimes you get a response that way too.

  135. Princess_Kort says:

    Thanks ladies! :-)

    Nico ~ I kind of got the feeling that there is no norm. LOL. But I thought I would ask. I do 100% agree that it dows to come down what is best for each person.

    Anna Molly ~ Do you initiate the contact?

  136. Anna Molly says:

    Hello BTW

  137. Anna Molly says:

    Nope, sorry. I wish I did….I think :)

  138. Welcome Princess!

    Hi Nico and Anna!

    Do any of you know some of the pots from New Orleans?

  139. Anna Molly says:

    Princess_Kort – Hello and welcome!

    I think a SD/SB relationship can be long term if that is something that both parties want. Why give up a good thing :) As far as the search is concerned, I search locally, in the surrounding states and Canada simply becuase I’m only a couple of hours away from there. I let the gentleman come to me. My mama told me that a woman should always let the gentleman give chase :)

  140. Nico says:

    Welcome Princess :) This is a friendly and very helpful room as I’m sure you already know.

    First – relationship lengths vary. I think there was actually a blog topic on this some time ago (research old blogs).

    The norm??? There is no ‘norm’ here as you’ll note opinions vary significantly. What it boils down to is what feels right for you. Know your desires, boundaries etc and respect them. Communication is key including the duration of the relationship and allowance expectations.

    Compromise only when you feel comfortable doing so and specific questions are more easily responded to :)

    Best to you and welcome again!!!

  141. Princess_Kort says:

    Good evening everyone! I have been reading the blogs for some time but have never posted so… yea today is my first post!

    So since there has been some great advice given on here, I am desperate need of help and have some questions. I am new to the SD/SB relationship and am still getting my feet wet. I have had only one arrangement that only lasted a month. First question is, are these arrangements generally short-term? I was a bit suprised that it ended so quickly. Although I do think it had something to do with the amount of time he wanted to see me.

    I am also curious about the search. Is it more common to search only within my area or should I be open to all over the country? And do SB usually make the first move or do we sit back and wait?

    I have a ton more questions but don’t want to overload it. I am excited as I have a late lunch date with a pot tomorrow afternoon and we shall see how it goes. He really doesn’t want to discuss much in email and wants to discuss it face to face. Is this the norm????

  142. I’ve got the game on too.

    OC – Bummer about the date….and the Tx guy.

  143. I was afraid that would come out the wrong way. I am sure his intentions were nothing but genuine. I just wasn’t sure if 1) it was a regular practice and 2) if it does leave hime vulnerable.

    Sorry if I offended you NYGent. Hopefully you know I meant no malice.

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      NY Gent is busy watching the game. Speaking of! Now I don’t have to Tivo it. My pot SD just cancelled our date for tonight. Hmmm not happy with last minute cancellations. But he is really cute…

      • OCSugarbaby says:

        Great news! I txted another pot that I hoped to meet this weekend and he is free to meet tonight! Whoo hoo!!! Update you later~

  144. Ophelia says:

    Will DO Flo.
    Super advice.
    Mail coming soon.
    Thanks again.

    NY Gent, what a lovely man you seem to be, so nice to hear from the male perspective.


  145. NYC SB says:

    OK everyone… leave NY Gent alone… he acts in good faith and he is a man of kind nature… he didnt hand the girl a wad of cash for her time… but if you go back and re read his initial story about the date he said that he liked her enough to spend more time before deciding on a definite arrangement…

    Now… I am not making excuses about this particular girl bc what she did was rude … but please think about it in your own shoes… an SD likes you and wants to get to know you before fully commiting to an arrangement… you go out once, twice, three times… and then he poofs or even worse offers you an allowance far bellow your range… you as an SB just wasted couple of nights meeting other pots … how does that make you feel?

    What NY Gent does to avoid this situation (SB feeling like she wasted her time) is provide somewhat of a downpayment … so in the event that they part ways no one feels bad…

  146. NYGent – Since I’m very new to sb dating, I may be speaking out of turn here. I do see that other sds here do offer up some token (gift, cash, etc.) during the first date as a gesture of good faith. I wonder if it’s also a practice to insure the sb would want a second date…much in the same way that women get all dolled up if we’re excited about a new date. Do you think there’s a chance the sb who texted tonight is hoping for another generous gift, but she wasn’t that interested? Not meant to be harsh…just curious.

  147. TXSB says:

    “Flo Rida says:
    TXSB – NYGent – to be clear I’m all for shopping & cash advances, including generous ones BUT I only want them going to deserving souls not Ms Invisible arm candy.”

    *** I agree with you Flo Rida. But I think by now we can all agree that NYGent is not the best at judging “deseving souls” on the very first meet.

    “NYGent says:
    anytime I gave cash on a first meet was after we’d already reached agreement in principle on an arrangement and the $$ were more in the nature of “earnest money” or downpayment on allowance”

    *** Can you please clarify the above? What is a “principle on an arrangment”? Are you saying that with this girl that you gave the cash to, you offered her an arrangement during the 1st meeting and she agreed to it? That it was clearly understood by her that this money was not a “gift”….but part of her 1st allowance? Sorry but I just want to make sure I understood it right.

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      NYGent…I don’t care what they say you are a very good judge! Who cares what others may think. At the end of the day you need to be okay with your actions.

      Flo… I only got past rule 2… again my ADD… LOL The past two SD’s I met with this week remember more from our conversations than what I stated in my profile which is basically 3 lines of text. Works just fine for me!

      Yuck, Marathon tongue, self proclaimed prick viewed my profile after I wrote that little response diddy to Gemi on the blog. Yikes he is from Texas!

  148. NYGent says:

    I guess I deserve all the rebukes, but do want to clarify that with one (really dumb) exception, anytime I gave cash on a first meet was after we’d already reached agreement in principle on an arrangement and the $$ were more in the nature of “earnest money” or downpayment on allowance to seal the deal. First date non-cash gifts (e.g., clothes or shoes), which I’ve also done are a little different story, as they were pursuant to an invitation to do “a little shopping” and hence almost an implied promise, which sometimes worked out well and other times ended up in me getting burned. The majority of SB’s say that is a bad idea, too, and I’ve reassessed that strategy to either eliminate or cut way back. So the toughening program continues . . .

  149. Flo Rida – Hello and great advice!

  150. Hello sugars.

    Taz – don’t know for sure. I tend to think so.

    I’d love 10K a month, but I’m not holding out for it :-) That would be a suspicious lifestyle in this neck of the woods.

    I’d be willing to help screen…I’m still learning though.

    If a Thank You note is $500, how much is a Thank You kiss? Don’t answer that!

  151. Flo Rida says:

    TXSB – NYGent – to be clear I’m all for shopping & cash advances, including generous ones BUT I only want them going to deserving souls not Ms Invisible arm candy.

    Ophelia – i’m an idiot can u email me at [email protected] g place. ciao

  152. Flo Rida says:

    Profiles – to save time:
    Rule1 – don’t say anything negative – no I could lose a few pounds
    Rule2 – Personalize be unique – don’t say you’re fun prove it with a story or your humor. Don’t say I’m a foodie say ‘Do you think Per Se is better than French Laundry’ don’t say I’m well travelled say ‘I’ve travelled to 37 countries & can’t decide if dining at Felix overlooking HK Central or snorkeling at the Great Barrier Reef is my most memorable experience’
    Rule3 – weed out undesirables & also tell people what you want ‘if you are between 30 & 45, emotionally grounded & able to provide mentorship & financial assistance then I’d like to hear from you, I won’t bite (unless biting is what you’re into… kidding!)
    Rule4 – upscale it – show you know their world (of course this only applies if you really do).
    Rule5 – SD will read the tag line & look at the pics & read the profile. but you can lose them on the tag line – examples Boston Barbie – Simply the best – Better than all the rest – A glimpse of bliss. Insert a line on discretion & balance. Keep it short (SD are very busy and have short attention spans – they’ll decide within 1 min to move on).
    Rule6 – Add a line on being 100 percent committed to this & understanding mutually beneficial (with chemistry)
    Rule7 – do not add all your interests – most SD aren’t interested in the same things – they don’t care about pilates or Twilight or being a girly girl. Only add interests that connect with them (generally s-x, sportsm food, business, sports cars, travel).
    SD lists the SB types as Investigators, Arm Candy, Drama Queens. The only acceptabe category is ‘I’m arm candy on Loubotins and for the right man I offer a glimpse of bliss’.
    SD are thinking what will this SB do 4 me – in life as well as the bedroom – r they drama, disease, drug free, do they understand me, will I get along with them, r they fun & balanced, will they follow through. Make sure you answer all these q-s rest is supply-demand.

  153. TXSB says:

    NC Gent:
    Good luck with the house and congrats on the good date. So far she sounds like a keeper. :)

    On the subject of profiles being taken down:
    IMO profiles should be taken down once an arrangement has been agreed upon AND the 1st allowance (or at least half of it) has been paid. Now in my case, SD and I agreed on an arrangement over e-mail one evening, and I met him the very next day for dinner where he gave me my full allowance for the month. So things kinda happened fast.

    But I had a situation where another “SD” and I agreed on an arrangement…but a few days later he dissappeared but I saw he was logging on the site.

    Since I still log on the site now and then to view other profiles…my profile is there but hidden.

  154. TXSB says:

    Looks like you already got a good tongue lashing from Flo Rida and others about giving $$$ to potential SBs on the 1st date so I won’t add much else on that. But I will say this….just like the whole “shopping” situation I gave you my opinion on, unless the girls you’re meeting are escorts, there’s absolutely no reason to give these girls cash for their “time”. And if you’re really that desperate to get rid of some $$$, hell go to the local women’s shelter and give that cash to the women there. I guarantee you that your generosity will draw tears in some of these women.

    And yes, the girl’s excuse as to why she didn’t contact you is pathetic. NSA doesn’t equal to lack of manners. As someone else already wrote…it speaks volumes about her character.

  155. lisa says:

    wow it’s finally going to be cold in Houton tomorrow… in the 50’s with a north wind, i’ll finally get to wear one of my coats :)

  156. EastCoastFilly says:

    NYGent, sorry late on this topic but I had to chime in. Please don’t give large amounts of money to someone you just met. Your just getting together to see if there is chemistry. I liken this to when a girl puts out on the first date, if she waited maybe the guy would see what a gem she was but he got what he wanted so he moves on to the next girl missing what could have been. When you give these girls money your not giving them a chance to get to know you, and I hate to put it this way so excuse the phrase but “work for it” in a sense. They may have every intention of seeing you again but when you give them cash right away they haven’t had a chance to really see who you are so they figure they can keep doing this and get quick cash from every guy they meet with no commitment. Especially if they are really young and have no intention of sleeping with an older man to are afraid to. i know when I was in my 20s, heck even until my early 30s older men were just not attractive to me at all. If she was allowed to feel something for you other than the thickness your wallet, it could move beyond date 1.

    I have met so many men for a first date and only TWO out of at least 20 gave me 200.00 for train fare. I was completely shocked they gave me anything but so appreciated it because every time I treck into the city it costs me money!! Even just enough for the train and cab fare would be enough.

    You’ve been had too many times (slaps hands) stop already, lol.

  157. Ophelia says:

    Thanks Flo! yes poor old Ophelia!:)
    Have indeed taken bridge + ferry countless times, NEVER in a copter though….
    Fancy :)
    Even though I used a Helicopter as the fastest taxi home, monthly, from Nice airport to Monaco…where I lived for years with my swedish F1 boyfriend…
    Ahhhh those were the days!….

    OK so hello to PS, NYC and OC.
    This blog fascinates me. I’m totally new, have garnered some interest but I’m sure being in LA helps, no?

    Would love some advice if any of u want to email me please do so on
    “Lineage07 at y mail com

    Thanks all.

  158. Flo Rida says:

    justbob – I know many smoking hot girls who get more than $10-20k per month – hell if I was a lesbian I would pay $10-20k for these women. but this is NY, & it’s more time commitment than a once or twice a week arrangement. Btw Nico is right $10k per month only buys a basic but decent lifestyle in NY it’s certainly not glamorous at that level.

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      The allowance topic has been debated to death over the previous blogs. It boils down to personal pref/choice. Someone who offers a high allowance does not always want to spend 24/7 with the SB. They get a high or rush from providing that level of pampering to the special girl in their life.

  159. Anna Molly says:

    If I was going to base an allowance on someones looks/personality, I think I would be more concerned with the personality aspect. I already know I’m attracted to them otherwise I wouldn’t be on a date with them. On the other hand, if I go out with them and they have the personality of a brick wall then I would have to deduct points and adjust the allowance accordingly :)…lol

  160. NC Gent says:

    Thanks! I will remember to add $500 for thank you notes – all the dang upcharges sheeshhhhh lol

  161. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    NC Gent – Sure. Courtesy comes at an additional cost not often included in specified range. Typical surplus is $500 if you are keen on Thank You notes.

  162. NC Gent says:

    as always — good point Nico — location and amount of time expended are important factors…. any SBs agree that looks/personality of the SB plays a factor in deciding your budget range? Not trying to create controversy, just curious.

  163. justbob says:

    thanks guys that helps

  164. Nico says:

    Just Bob….add into the equation where you and your SB live…i.e. NY more expensive then say North Dakota 😉

  165. NC Gent says:

    I have talked to a few pot SBs that have been offered $5k to $10k but the guy wanted a lot of their time, and in one case, the guy wanted a rent-a-wife for $7500 per month. Most of the SBs I talk to are in the $1.5k to $3k per month range, but I am only looking to see someone once or twice a month and maybe occasional travel — go much lower than that and you will definitely get what you pay for lol IMHO

  166. Gemini29 says:

    justbob – I tend to think that if an arrangement allowance is that high, that it normally shows that a high amount of time will be spent with the other party…whether just together or at events or traveling together or a live-in arrangement.

    I think a more normal arrangement across the board is between 2-5k, although some are in the higher 5-10k range, and then it just depends on the persons involved and the level of chemistry/attraction/character/personality and time involved together and generosity of either party.

  167. Anna Molly says:

    I don’t know justbob….I think it is unrealistic IMO, but I’m sure there are some SB’s getting that much. There are different types of arrangements out there; maybe that 10 – 20 number includes gifts, and travel expenses as well as the allowance.

  168. justbob says:

    I hear that realisticSD about IRL. Been out of this for awhile and just getting ready to get back in it. What would be normal. Would loke to also hear from the girls

  169. RealisticSD says:

    justbob, asking for 10-20K on SA is crazy and I doubt anyone will pay it. IRL, definitely can happen.

  170. justbob says:

    Going of topic here but have a question. How can a SB really ask for 10,000.00 to 20,000.00 a month for an allowance. Am I just cheap or is that crazy

  171. RealisticSD says:

    RX8sb said, “You could always ask the ladies and gents to help you weed through your potentials?” Very good idea. While we SDs tend to just get carried away with a pot’s physical beauty, others (esp. SBs on the blog) can pick out trouble a little more objectively.

  172. NC Gent says:

    Thanks for the offer to help Realistic. I have an offer from another SD. We can have an SD party at the lake house!

    You are right Nico — when it just feels right :)

    sorry if this is a repost — first one didn’t go through hmmm

  173. Margo says:

    By the way, I always thank them in return. If I don’t reply, that would be rude.

  174. Nico says:

    Anna Molly….during my last arrangement I just hid it but in my new relationship we both removed it completely….we just did it on our own without urging from the other.

    I guess all that so say, you’ll know when it is right :)

  175. RX8sb says:

    NYGent says:
    October 29, 2009 at 2:32 pm
    at least I didn’t apologize to her or say “no prob,” that’s progress

    One step at a time. Change doesn’t happen overnight. so Congrats on your first step. 😉

    You could always ask the ladies and gents to help you weed through your potentials?

  176. RealisticSD says:

    NC Gent, I’ve got my drill ready for any project. Let me know when to come down, lol. But in all seriousness, sounds like you’ve got a real SB if she is willing to give it several dates before discussing an arrangement and if she took her profile down while the arrangement is pending.

    Anna Molly, I don’t know when the best time to take a profile down is. My profile is paid for I forget how many months, so no point taking it down. I am not searching at all, but I do use it to check people’s profiles from the blog and that sort of thing. I don’t mind sharing my password with my SB so she knows I’m not looking for a replacement for her.

  177. Margo says:

    So why do the guys send me thank you emails after taking me out for lunch or dinner, instead of waiting me to thank them? Is anything wrong with that?

  178. Nico says:

    Woohoo NC. Good for the chemistry 😀 A boathouse huh…..wow!!! I remember back to when you first bought the place…actually before you went under contract. The talk about the house party….LOL.

    Congrats :) Taking her profile down is a good step…especially when you’ve not asked for that. You deserve a good lady *fingers crossed* :)

  179. NYC SB says:

    NC Gent – thats awesome… good for you… and good for her

    NY Gent – you should meet CB she is awesome… will thank you after date… and not to mention stunning 😀

  180. Anna Molly says:

    When do you take your profile down? What does everyone else do? No need to hurry with an answer, I won’t be needing to know anytime soon…lol

  181. NC Gent says:

    Hi Nico — I have really enjoyed having the lake house… added a boat house this summer and did some other projects outside — it is time to start working on some inside things – trying to recruit an SD from here to help on that — he knows who he is!

    I had my first SB date in 2.5 months last evening. It went really well, but we haven’t discussed the details of an arrangement. She wants to have one or two more dates before we talk about that, but she did take her profile down :)

  182. RealisticSD says:

    “where do you find these girls”? On SA. I’ve found plenty of them myself.

  183. Muse says:

    I’ve been lurking for a few weeks but I had to speak up about this.

    NY Gent- That’s very sweet of you to give cash gifts when you meet but please stop. You don’t have to (and shouldn’t) give a cash gift to someone just for having a drink/meal with you. Perhaps when you reach an agreement, you can give an envelope as a token of good faith until you can get her the allowance, but you don’t need to do so before that. It just sets you up to be viewed as an ATM.

    and while I’m talking…

    I love the blog. You guys are such an interesting, intelligent, fun group to follow.

  184. NYC SB says:

    NYGent – where do you find these girls…

  185. AsianSB says:

    Just checking up on the blog before I head to sleep 😛 Have a nice day everyone :)

    NYGent- I think you have the right idea already. And as everyone said, let this one loose.

    I’ll catch up with you guys, when I’m awake. Night for now

  186. RealisticSD says:

    NYGent, as I have told SBs before, “You never get a second chance to make a first impression.” But in all seriousness, your analysis is correct. They are juggling multiple pots and don’t want to make plans for the future when they have hopes of a better pot by then. Then they find out the other pots aren’t real SDs so they come back.

    Also, the “NSA” acronym is just awful, and everyone interprets it a different way.

    I’ve had SBs take 2 days to respond to a text, and their excuse is, “Well you’re married and we don’t want to get you in trouble,” but when the same ones need something, they text anytime. In any case, I have a separate cell phone for SBs and it remains muted at home.

    One option for you is to say, “I have plans with someone else,” but if you want to meet up after the play for some adult fun, let me know.” Beware though—it might seem like a way to get rid of her, but she just might say yes, and then you have to turn her down. That’s happened to me before as well with SBs who treated me poorly.

  187. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    A “thank you” should take place regardless of monetary gestures.

  188. Anna Molly says:

    That was nice of you NC and nice of your date as well. Saying thank you is such a simple thing and the right thing to do.

  189. Nico says:

    NC good to see you :) How comes the house? How is the SB situation?

  190. NYGent says:

    Nico/Taz: i’m pretty sure she is not new to SB/SD so I doubt there was a mixup — i think today’s “are we still on” was a bit of a flyer on her part and she was at least half-expecting me to say “no.”

    others re “toughness”: points well taken — at least I didn’t apologize to her or say “no prob,” that’s progress

  191. RedMaru says:

    Hey folks I’m back and I missed the juicy stuff again I really need to pay more attention…lol

  192. NC Gent says:

    NYGent — just for a reference point, I had a wonderful SB first date (dinner) last night and I gave her a two hundred dollars for the time we had spent getting to know each other and for the time going to dinner with me. I had discreetly given her the money, and I wasn’t five minutes down the road after the date before she thanked me via text message for everything….. you definitely need to lose that chic and as Flo Rida suggested — get a little tougher or maybe better at reading the SBs??

  193. Anna Molly says:

    NYGent – I agree with everyone else….no second chance with this one. If you invited her on a second date there is no reason why (if she was truly interested) not to get in touch with you way before now.

  194. Flo Rida says:

    NYGent – whiskey tango foxtrot – will you STOP giving cash advances to the undeserving. Please direct it to deserving souls. I know you think of it as a ‘cost of doing business’ but your track record of detecting genuine people is poor. Sorry but don’t look for sympathy when you keep on repeating mistakes. I know this is harsh – it’s meant to be. Btw a ‘Thank you’ txt is ALWAYS appropriate. If you really like her give her another chance but make it clear she’s on probation.

    Ophelia – I’m sorry but Ophelia had a sad ending ‘sweets to the sweet farewell’. Have you driven across the bridge from Copenhagen to Malmo? I’ve taken a helicopter, ferry & driven – the rental car was insanely expensive. By all means email me. Btw quoting Charles Barkley (spelling) ‘I’m not a role model’

    Taz – Ophelia – I’m working exclusively with Gemi right now on her profile but I can respond to specific q-s. i’ll also post a general post (when I have time) that applies to anyone. PS NYC SB and OC are excellent profile writers too, they’re even better than I am :-)

  195. Nico says:

    Good afternoon NYGent. I don’t post much anymore but lurk quite a bit. My take on your evening is very similar to yours as I have been on the receiving end of that same ‘mentality’.

    While it’s very possible she is new to the NSA concept, manners should always shine through and a thank you note, whether it is an email or text message, speaks volumes about her character and what can be expected should your arrangement have continued beyond that point.

    It all boils down to how you feel about it and I would have to second your vote on this one.

  196. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    NYGent – Doubt your profile requests Pot SBs not EMAIL you after 1st date.. Asuuming of course she has your address..

  197. Taz says:

    Lol…yes it was in fact VERY rude to not say thank you!!

  198. photogirl says:

    SG2 – In my opinion her behavior was in the wrong… NSA means no text messages….Now that is a new one! Please…it was rude of her to not give a “Thank You” after dinner(in person) and she also should have sent another note(call, email, text) to thank you for the cash gift as well. Glad to hear you wont be thinking about seeing her again!

  199. Taz says:

    It is totally up to you NYGent – you are the one who met with her – you would be the one to know if you should give her another chance 😉 In her defense..it could have been a very honest mix up – with her trying to be considerate – which IS a good thing! Has she had an arrangement before?

  200. NYGent says:

    ok bloggers tell me if i’m off base here. As I reported a couple blogs or so ago had dinner with a pot at a fancy place last week (tuesday I think) and was ambivalent but interested enough to give a significant cash gift as a show of good faith and seriousness. We made tentative plans to see a broadway show (tonite), but after the dinner never heard back from her, even to say thanks for the gift (the amount of which she did not know at time of dinner and i’m sure exceeded her expectations). So I said heck with it and invited a regular, non-SB female friend a few days ago. So today i get a text from Ms. non-grateful saying “are we still on for tonite?” i respond that i’m surprised to hear from her and made other plans when i never heard back from her, even to ackowledge the gift. She responds “in your profile it says NSA so I did not want to bother you with text messages.” One text in a week to thank you is supposed to “bother” me? She then says “I think there was a misunderstanding I hope to c u if u change your mind. Thanks with a delay!” I tell her I’ll “think about it” (although I won’t)

    My guess is what happened, and this is not uncommon I’ve found, is that some pot SBs will treat an offer of a date, event, etc. an option they can exercise if no better offer comes along. I’ve had no-shows and last minute (even last second) cancellations for what I’m sure is just this reason. Actually, it sends a red flag that they may be an escort who got a nice gig that’s too lucrative to pass up, or at a minimum they are juggling several pot SDs and they wait til the last minute to decide which one’s offer to go with. Either way, I usually don’t give a second chance (and the times I have did not turn out well)

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      NYGent: Yep, you are walkin down the right path on this one. She could and should have said thank you that evening or the next day. At that time she would confirm that she accepts your offer for a second date. Not having contact is questionable. I give her credit for reading your profile. However if she was truly interested she would have made contact far before today. She needs to be put in the “not interested” file drawer.

  201. RedMaru says:

    Hey Ophelia mail right back at ya!

  202. Taz says:

    NewSB – maybe I am lost – is that TexasSD??

  203. Ophelia says:

    Thanks RedMaru
    You have mail x

  204. RedMaru says:

    Hey Ophelia no prob I appreciate and you can email me naeneq at yhoo.com

  205. Taz says:

    Flo – So am I lol…and I don`t understand my hesitations over the phone – but it went well – apparently I did not sound nervous at all 😀 Do you think now that you have some time (of course, after you are caught up on sleep!) you could take a peek at my profile if I email you??

  206. Quick note during lunch 14XXXX. Tell me if you think I’m right!

  207. Ophelia says:

    RedMaru….meant to be an exclamation point!!!

  208. Ophelia says:

    Good morning everyone.

    Thanks for the greeting RedMaru?

    Any chance you would be interested in saying hello on email?

    Also, Flo Rida, Ive been reading lots of your blogs, you inspire me, since im new to this whole new interesting world…. Im a fellow Brit, well half, the other half is Danish….But spent years living in London…
    Would you be interested in contacting me via email also for some well needed tips!

  209. RealisticSD says:

    Giving massages all day is too tiring. Getting them, on the other hand, is a whole different story.

  210. Anna Molly says:

    I give great massages, so I’ve been told :)

  211. RedMaru says:

    Realistic – you are so right!!! Aaaaaah! ever thought about the massage business…lol

  212. RealisticSD says:

    Just felt everyone else’s hands and mine was the softest.

  213. Anna Molly says:


  214. Anna Molly says:

    how do you know you have the softest hands? do you guys have an ongoing softest hands competition?

    funny :)….he didn’t deny it though.

  215. Flo Rida says:

    SD’s deal died this morning, sad, at least I can sleep now.

    Taz – latest thinking on nerves is to tape or film ‘prior experience’ & constantly replay tape – film but with controlled breathing so that your heart rate remains normal. Repetition & success breeds confidence which controls nerves. i’m really into psychology.

    Kitty – Thanks for being a good sport. Now that deal is dead. apart from sleep & deal wrap up – I have some time, if you want feel free to email me at atllgw @ g place. If you don’t that’s fine as well.

    NYC SB – congrats babe on your asset management fee & business venture. I’m sure you know this but usually management fees apply to more illiquid asset classes than liquid ones, but I’m sure you can vary the percentages – it’s important for tax purposes.

  216. RealisticSD says:

    Just turns out I have the softest hands at work. My feet might even be softer than my hands.

  217. TXSB says:

    “RealisticSD says:
    So do women prefer a man’s hands to be soft or hard and callused?”

    *** I prefer soft but firm.

    Yep…old fashioned vaseline…at about $3.50 for a tub.

  218. NYC SB says:

    Realistic – how do you know you have the softest hands? do you guys have an ongoing softest hands competition?

  219. NYC SB says:

    TXSB – Bath and Body works has now come out with gloves for that purpose alone (moisturizing of hands and feet)… this way you dont have to use the latex gloves and go through many pairs of socks…

    Vaseline truly is awesome… big tub for under 3 bucks

    yup everyone i love bath and body works hahaha … no this was not a paid advertisement

  220. RealisticSD says:

    “reminding him to bring his equipment for the bedroom”: OK now, there is only one way to interpret that statement, lol 😉

  221. RedMaru says:

    Hey Realistic! Thanks for checking me out!
    Hey TXSB! Old fashioned vasoline eh? Inexpensive too 😀

  222. TXSB says:

    “RedMaru says:
    I cant find a lotion to save my life to keep my hands hydrated.”

    IMO nothing beats Vaseline Petrolium Jelly as a moisturizer(not to mention the price!). Back in college I had met girls who used to stock shelves at a grocery store but their hands were incredibly soft. I asked them how they managed it and they told me that at night, when going to bed, they would slather their hands in petrolium jelly, put on gloves, and then take the gloves off in the morning.

    I did that with my hands and feet (using socks on feet) 2-3x/week all through college and for quite a while after that. Then I just stopped. I do carry lotion with me and will apply it on my hands when it feels dry….but I can’t tell you what difference it made to do that “nightly routine” on hands/feet. I have tried most lotions that you find at normal stores (CVS, Wal mart etc) and no lotion even comes close to making my hands/feet feel as soft or hydrated. I recently started doing it with my feet again and will start on my hands.

  223. RX8sb says:


    Thanks maru, it is mild but finally cold here in vegas, it is 8 am the temp is finally creeping past 50f

  224. TXSB says:

    Oh gawd…I just re-read what I wrote! The windows where SD needs to put the curtains up is in the bedroom…..that’s what I meant for all you perverts! (that includes you too Realistic!). :)

  225. TXSB says:

    NYC SB:
    LOL….apparantly SD’s mind went to the gutter too! That’s what I get for reminding his to bring his equipment for the bedroom!

    New SB:
    So texaSD didn’t confirm it was his profile right? Unless he actually told you it is his profile…..I think you should share it so we can take a peek. :)

    Regarding nails:
    I’m VERY petite….so my hands are small. My nails are natural and oval shaped and I’m lucky that I can grow a bit (with help from Nailtek!). I loooove bright colors! Most women I see usually wear neutrals or do french…..so with my nails I usually like to do something that’ll catch someone’s eye. I have different shades of reds, oranges, purples, pinks, greys, corals etc.

  226. RealisticSD says:

    AsianSB, I like your new profile a lot. I prefer face pictures first but I think there should be a full body or upper body shot, preferably clothed, as in your case.

    RedMaru, I think your profile is nice and to the point.

    Taz asked, “Question for everyone – if someone has a hidden profile and they view you – does their profile then show up for you to see?” I think so.

    SouthernGent2, sugar-dating has also taught me to look carefully at forearms for track-marks. And yes, TXSB did show me her pristine forearms on our first date, lol.

    So do women prefer a man’s hands to be soft or hard and callused? The girls at work are evenly divided on this one.

  227. RedMaru says:

    Hey RX8sb the weathers mild here in GA and I’m at work….How are you?

  228. RX8sb says:

    And an update on the sugar romance site, so far no email back like they said with you sent everything to them. — The submitted form and the photo’s requested.

  229. RedMaru says:

    Hey photogirl got it and mail right back at ya!

  230. photogirl says:

    Thanks RedMaru – mail is on the way.

  231. RX8sb says:

    Good Morning Ladies and Gents.

    How is everyone this morning.

  232. Taz says:

    Why do I get more nervous about a phone conversation than meeting in person? Lol…I have issues I think…

  233. NYC SB says:

    Red – try the true blue spa collection from bath and body works… i love the “look ma, new hands” … its soooooooo hydrating… i only use it when the winter gets the best of my hands…

  234. RedMaru says:

    Sorry that’s yahoo

  235. RedMaru says:

    Hey photogirl! Its naeneq at y place

  236. photogirl says:

    RedMaru – I thought you had posted your email here but was not able to find it. Have something to send you.

  237. RedMaru says:

    Hey sugarfam….at work a nice slow day here (for once)
    Thanks for the compliment AsianSB 😀
    Rough hands do not feel good nor do dry hands for me. I’m partial to exfoliants though I cant find a lotion to save my life to keep my hands hydrated. Although I’m not petite my hands are porportionate…thank goodness

  238. NYC SB says:

    I have small hands … I would say about 90% of men I have ever went out with have noticed my hands and made some comment about it… as in you have such cute hands… or your hands are tiny (now i have a sharp comment regarding this one which usually has them rolling on the floor) …

    point being… while most men wont notice the color of your polish they will notice whether or not your hands are cared for…

    AM – i have bright red polish… to match the Cls and someone told me my fingers look like candy 😀

  239. Anna Molly says:

    Photogirl – Although I’m not petite….I’m 5’7 :)

  240. Anna Molly says:

    photogirl – Me too.

  241. photogirl says:

    Morning Anna. I am the same way… I’m only 5’4 about 100lbs. Overall very petite. I save the bolder colors for my little toes :)

  242. AsianSB says:

    Hey Sugars, how is everyone’s day so far?

    Thanks RedMaru for the feedback, just checked your profile too. You get straight to the point and its very easy to read 😛 I still think my profile might be too long. You really have a nice natural glow in your pictures :)

    Most girls I think take care of their hands, having rough hands is just not a nice feeling.

  243. SouthernGent2 says:

    I think my feeling on hands goes back to an experience in college. I was with a girl where things were getting a little bit hot and fun. Not quite to the moment, but getting close. And I am touching her hands and they feel a bit rough, but I don’t say anything, but all of a sudden I feel like I need to take a better look. And she says something like “i worked part time in a factory last summer, and I think my hands are tougher than some of the men that worked there”. So poof, the elevator went down fast and interest was totally lost. So from that moment on, I always look at hands very early on before things might happen.

  244. Anna Molly says:

    I have small hands too, so I have to wear clear or pale colors on my nails. Ugh….if I put red on my nails it wouldn’t look right.

  245. Anna Molly says:

    Good morning photogirl :)

  246. photogirl says:

    SG2 – The same goes for the men 😉 minus the polish of course!

    Good morning everyone!

  247. Anna Molly says:

    SouthernGent2 – I used to bite my nails, I know it’s a terrible habbit. I try hard not to do it and haven’t in a while….I’m in recovery. Although I used to bite my nails that doesn’t mean I didn’t take care of other things. I take good care of myself :)

  248. SouthernGent2 says:

    RealisticSD – take some advice from me about girls with nail polish and taking care of their hands. I always look at hands as early as I can. They are an absolute important feature and can be a deal breaker. If she doesn’t take care of her hands or nails, she probably isn’t taking care of other things. In other words, would I let those hands touch me where I really want to be touched? If I can’t visually picture those hands giving me pleasure, then I will not be interested.

  249. RedMaru says:

    BTW Beach_Girl Love your pics too!

  250. RedMaru says:

    Morning sugarfam if anybodys here quick shout out before I head to work.
    AsianSB – saw your profile and it looks good. You’re specific in what you want without being long winded. I had to shorten mine a bit. Love your pics! You have such a cute smile!

    My profile no: 210789 its not pending anymore I think

    Welcome Ophelia!

  251. KittyBabe says:

    hello Sugars….
    thanks to all for the feedback..Ill be updating soon ! = )
    Flo rida- thanks for taking the time even though you were tiered, I didnt take ofense to any of it, on the contrary I will keep it in mind when I update!

  252. Ophelia says:

    Hi all.
    I’m new, and just found this blog the other day.
    UTTERLY fascinated….
    I LOVE that there is a general sense of comraderie and generosity.
    I am in the LA area and would love to have some contact with any local girls for advice and chat…AND from any of you excellent bloggers!

    Hope to be in touch with you all soon!

  253. TXSB says:

    Can you please post the # again?

    Even though I’m not looking, I’m curious as to who the fake SD is.

  254. Taz says:

    Question for everyone – if someone has a hidden profile and they view you – does their profile then show up for you to see?

    Nite everyone!

  255. lisa says:

    Hi Everyone

  256. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Asian~ awww your little doggy is too cute!!!! Nite

  257. AsianSB says:

    Bye Beach, have a nice night!

  258. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Well good night all

    Off to bed for me! talk soon

  259. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    The pics you can get from you, if you want to find anything else go browse around save it and the get it on the gravatar thing
    hope that helps…. some use their own photos, some use photos of things they like

  260. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    thanks Beach I had found the web site but dont know where to get the cute little pics

  261. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    you can add any photo you want, and then it displays it here… in the little box on the side….
    is that what you were asking?

  262. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Ms B ~ it’s en dot gravatar dot com

  263. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Asian Glad you like!! 😀

  264. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    How do you find the avator found the web site regestered but dont know how to find pic. I’m computer challenged

  265. AsianSB says:

    Hahah Beach, I like the way you think :)

  266. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    NewSB in SB~ nite girl

    Asian ~ You said you had the second as a profile pic before, so if you put the 3rd first and the 1 3rd then it’s all new!

  267. AsianSB says:

    Night NewSB :)

  268. AsianSB –
    I like your second picture…it’s a beautiful pic of your face. Just an FYI..the one in the dress may be showing more than you intended (Respectfully). I like your profile otherwise.

    Alright ladies…unfortunately, it’s late for me and I have to retire. I will send him to the blog.

  269. AsianSB says:

    Beach- Thanks for the photo input 😛 And I never even thought of that option, but I think I will take your advice :) hehe

  270. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    NewSB in SB~ tell him to come to the blog , maybe he will find someone lol
    Maybe him… maybe not?!?!? He won’t tell us either way….

  271. AsianSB says:

    Well, whether A or B, you should post his profile #.

    Because if A, that he’s pulling your leg, then he deserves it 😉
    And if B, then there is no harm done 😛

  272. So…here’s his response:
    I never knew there was a blog…..sh*t. what did they say??? I am curious now. Is there a way I can read it??? l

    A – He’s pulling my leg b/c he wouldn’t give out his profile before

    B – I have the wrong guy…have to say that details in his profile matched perfectly

  273. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Asian~ I would change the last for the first!

  274. AsianSB says:

    Hmm, Sugar’s do you think, a face picture as the main picture is better or a full body picture?

    My prof # 324759, I can’t choose to whether use the first or second picture as my main.. It use to be the second picture(face) but since I’ve been back, I wanted a change..

  275. Anna – he wasn’t that tough to find.

    Ladies – still waiting on the confirmation…this is funny.

  276. AsianSB says:

    Where is TexaSD when we need him:P

  277. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    NewSB in SB~ nope just getting here…. He mailed you back saying it was him??? I don’t get it

  278. Beach Girl – were you in lurk mode and suddenly appeared at the last comment???

    I’m confirming – there are some details in his profile that match with his story on the blog. I’m hesitant now b/c he responded to my e-mail quickly…not his “laid back” style.

  279. Anna Molly says:

    NewSB – You could give us some hints….that way you really wouldn’t be telling us….right?

  280. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    NewSB in SB~ thought he didn’t have a photo on his profile?
    hi everyone, how are you all doing?

  281. Anna Molly says:

    NewSB – You’re mean and a tease….just kidding about the mean part..lol:)

  282. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    NewSB in SB~ not fair not fair we ALL wanna know what he looks like.

  283. Anna Molly says:

    NewSB “I found TexasSD…but promised not to tell.”- That’s not fair :) promises are made to be broken in certain situations…this being one of them..lol

  284. Ladies…I found TexasSD…but promised not to tell. Wasn’t looking for him really, but once you stumble across his profile, he’s hard to miss!

    Nite Realistic!

    Evening NYC SB…didn’t watch the 9th…is it over?

  285. NYC SB says:

    unfortunately im not watching the game …

  286. NYC SB says:

    Hola SUGAR FAM!

    I am finally coming up for air… catching up on all your banter…

    TXSB – i totally laughed at the drill comment… my mind went straight to the gutter i must admit… but its so endearing how cute you guys are!

  287. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    NYC SB I think most of us went there LOL

  288. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    nite RealisticSD

  289. Anna Molly says:

    NYGent – I was just being honest :)

  290. RealisticSD says:

    Good night bloggers.

  291. Anna Molly says:

    Ms Behavin – What is this guy thinking? Setting up an interview….please! I wonder how many emails this guy receives?

  292. Ms Behavin – I saw that earlier…ROTFLMAO!!! NEXT!

    RealisticSD – We also feel sexy and confident when there is something pretty and lacy on underneath – even if we don’t plan on showing it off right away. (I’m sure TX SB will share the same sentiments).

    Asiansb – Thanks for the insight. I wish I had travelled more in my college days. (TLG gets a little credit for asking).

    TLG – Passport is still not stamped!!! Maybe I’ll go the the local international airport and sweet talk the cute security guards :-)

  293. RealisticSD says:

    AsianSB, I wish dating here was like in the movies, lol.

  294. AsianSB says:

    TLG- Oops, Didn’t even talk about US dating. haha

    US dating to me, is very much of a bore. I guess I left US at the tender age of 15, that I never experienced an actual dating scenario. But I would guess, it would be like the movies, and/or similar to dating an expat in HK.

    NYCSB – I totally skipped over your blog entry yesterday, I am really excited to know that you were once from HK 😛 If you ever come visit, we can visit LKF together and get some drinks, heh.

  295. RealisticSD says:

    So what exactly is the role of the 28 year old guy? The 48 year old’s tenet? I assume he means tenant. Do you think the rich guy offered him money to find him the right SB? To weed out the drama queens and ATM-types? I used to give that some thought.

  296. AsianSB says:

    TLG- I would say I do not know if I have the best perspective of the differences, because I usually date expats living in Asia, and have been on very very few dates with locals of Hong Kong/China.

    I would say, in Asia, the few dates I have been on with locals, they really let you know that made an effort. Meaning, booking tickets and making reservations well in advanced. And they treat you very nicely like a princess, they listen to you and like your opinions. When I went on dates with locals, I always felt like.. I had to be the more aggressive one with coming up with interesting topics to talk about. Things did not go as smoothly because there will always be a communication problem, (I speak Mandarin in a Cantonese speaking country, haha.) But I usually converse in English.

    But with the expats I’ve dated, it seems that all the dates were not as well planned, and very much down-to-earth. The guy would joke around and be more playful and not worried about hurting your feelings/questioning your thoughts and views. I have a lot more fun with expats because there is not a language barrier and we have more in common. I feel that everyone I meet abroad is very well traveled and experienced in life because, they left their comfort bubble (their home countries) for somewhere exotic and new. These dates usually go along very smoothly, but I noticed I am getting use to being treated sweetly and kindly by residents of Hong Kong and other people who have lived here longer.

  297. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    sorry ladies…

  298. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Ok lasied… I have found us all a winner. Y’all must check out this profile ,I’m still lmao…

    Profile Number 4XXXXXX

    Now don’t everyone rush and email him at one time!!! LOL

  299. The Lone Gunman says:


    How do dating styles compare between HK/China and the North Americas?


  300. AsianSB says:

    I haven’t been on a first date yet with any SD, but a SB should try to look her best, or atleast feel very confident with her presence. I do not personally put on make up but I feel confident that my natural look would be a better first impression than with the help with make up.

    But it basically boils down to how you feel about your self, as what JennaBeth said.

  301. RealisticSD says:

    “but they can tell when you feel good about yourself”. Agreed. Women feel more attractive when they are dressed well and have make-up, nailpolish, etc, so it makes things smoother.

  302. AznCanadian Rose says:

    Realistic SD: haha, thanks for the analysis.

    I would never suspect you of engaging in that sort of behaviour- you seem like a real gentleman!

    JennaBeth: You’re totally right, although guys have notice nails painted but just not comment on it.

    And I’m afraid I am guilty of the rolling out of bed look, but my last boyfriend didn’t mind. Haha.

  303. JennaBeth says:


    It was about time to do get the mani/ pedi anyway. :-)
    It was for a nice dinner at a very nice place , so — silly me , I thought it was worth a little effort. :-(

  304. JennaBeth says:

    RealisticSD — Thanks . I just have no idea why they take the time to set it days in advance , confirm hours in advance — then poof! If I wouldnt have met my past SD here , I would be soooooo discouraged by now .

    BUT first impressions DO matter ! true, guys may not notice what color nail polish you have on , but they can tell when you feel good about yourself and that makes a good first impression .
    I dont think anyone would go for a first looking like you just rolled out of bed , lol. And I am actually intelligent , but no pot SD would even get to know that if I wasnt also attractive enough to meet in the first place . I think both are equally important to pot Sds.

  305. TXSB says:

    Regarding getting “dolled up” for the 1st date:
    I like to get dressed up in the sense that I will wear something appropriate, make sure my nails are done, put on makeup, and blow/dry straighten my hair. Most of the SD 1st dates I had were for dinners (although never anything fancy) or drinks.

    I would never spend hundreads of dollars getting ready for 1st date. I blow dry/straighten my own hair. I do my own make up. I get manis/pedis every 5-6 weeks BUT I have a collection of OPI (around 30) polishes and change my polish color 1-2x/wk….so my polish looks “fresh” most of the time anyway. The only thing I may actually spend $ on getting done are my eyebrows if it’s been over a week since I had them done.

    I may stress myself out trying to decide on outfits, coordinating makeup, and picking polish color (as Realistic found out before our date!)….but I wouldn’t actually spend $$$ having everything done professionally.

  306. RealisticSD says:

    AznCanadian Rose, it’s the whole conquest idea. Why go hunting if you can buy meat at the grocery store? Basically, it’s too easy to look at porn on the internet, and some guys like the challenge, just like they prefer to seduce an SB on the first date and then disappear rather than call an escort. The escort is more certain in terms of providing sex, but the SB is more exciting and challenging. The escort may provide an orgasm, but not much of a pad to his ego.

    Now, don’t get me wrong. I don’t call escorts, sleep with SBs on the first date, or collect nude photos of SBs, and I am not condoning such things, but just giving you some insight into what I perceive as the psyche of these individuals.

  307. TXSB *psycho theme plays in background*
    Drama sb knows where to find the sugar pad????? Good thing she can’t afford the bus ticket out!

  308. AznCanadian Rose says:

    Thanks guys/gals,

    I needed that reassurance. :)

    So as it was occuring, I thought:

    :Why would someone pay for a premium account to slowly collect soft porn when it’d be cheaper and faster by sifting through the net?:

    but then I realized people can be freaky….

  309. TXSB says:

    OMG….my entire face is red! *blush* You’re awful! 😉 Ummm…errr…you know what I meant! *runs away*

    New SB:
    LOL…thanks! This is just the beginning…I’m sure him and I will keep entertaining this blog for quite a while. :)

    You have mail too.

    Got your mail. I will write back tonight….I have quite a few comments about the #’s.

  310. RealisticSD says:

    JennaBeth, the poof-daddy mystery is a common theme on the blogs and there are many hypotheses/reasons why someone would poof, but generally they disappear before setting up the date as opposed to standing an SB up like that. There is truly no excuse for it whatsoever. Whether he got cold feet about the whole thing, or an emergency came up, or he got distracted by another SB, or whatever, there is not one reason (other than laying in a hospital bed unconscious) why he shouldn’t have let you know that he was cancelling.

    Also, is it really necessary to get all made up and dressed up for the first meet? Funny thing, my SB was worried about nail polish colors before the first date, but I never even noticed her nail polish. Speaking for myself, both physically and intellectually, I look at the SB’s bigger picture and at things that cannot be covered with make-up.

  311. AsianSB says:

    AznCanadian Rose- As everyone else has said, do not do anything you are not comfortable with. And I second the opinion of RealisticSD, the guy you are e-mailing seems to be a photo collector.

  312. AsianSB says:

    TXSB you have mail 😛

  313. TX SB – Never a dull moment. Sounds like you two are going to have great times to share…to drill or not to drill. Hehe.

    Welcome Azn Canadian Rose – I second TX SB. Don’t let the fakes draw you into something that makes you uncomfortable. Be patient and a great guy will sweep you off your feet. Pay attention to the SD posts, as they set great examples.

  314. RedMaru – Thanks! Missed that earlier!

  315. RealisticSD says:

    No TXSB, I didn’t take my ring off. Why try to dampen the gossip? I do wonder what they think with me bringing two different girls within one week to see their apartments.

    AznCanadian Rose, why would a guy need to see a nude photo before meeting a girl? Obviously you met a photo collector.

  316. TXSB says:

    “AznCanadian Rose says:
    The nude photo would not have included my face-but I did not feel comfortable….Did I make the right decision?”

    *** Rule #1: NEVER do anything that makes you uncomfortable. It doesn’t matter what it is. If you are not comfortable doing it, do not let a man pressure you into it.

    On a side note, personally I would NEVER send nude photos to a potential SD. Even if it doesn’t have my face….I expect my SD (or pontential SDs) to be a gentleman. And a gentleman doesn’t ask a lady to send nude photos! (unless it’s his gf/wife whatever)

  317. RealisticSD says:

    TXSB said, “So you’ll need to bring your drill tomorrow night.” Now, do you mean that literally or figuratively? Lol!

    April, sounds fantastic, but I think you’ve been watching too many romantic comedies. I think in reality, it has to look like he had his way with her spontaneously, not that he had planned all along to have his way with her.

  318. TXSB says:

    New SB:
    LOL….we had soooo much stuff that the cashier and I were just trying to put everything back on the cart while he was gone! Him and I are already making up “stories” about me to the leasing office at the sugar pad…lol. I’m sure those people think he’s nuts! BTW, getting the “room” was his idea. :)

    So he went to this apt. with the “drama queen pot SB” and her bf to look at the place. So that day when they went, it was SD, a friend of his, drama queen SB, and her BF. The very next week, SD took ME to the same complex to look at the place since it’s VERY nice and approx. 5 min. from his work. The leasing office ppl. remembered him but didn’t say anything. Even though the place is only in his name….SD told me when he went by himself to sign the lease, the lady kept referring to both us (as in saying “you guys”) when talking about the place! :) To make matters worse, I’m not even sure if he took his ring off when he went!

  319. AznCanadian Rose says:

    I’m new to SA, but I’ve been reading posts on this blog.

    Such useful info here! Thank you all for such awesome posts.

    Since I am new: I guess I’d like to find someone who can take charge.
    An SD who knows what he’s doing.

    I have gotten a number of msgs.

    One of them seemed quite serious and when I refused to send him a nude photo of myself; it was determined that I was not serious?

    The nude photo would not have included my face-but I did not feel comfortable….

    Did I make the right decision?

    Also, have any of you gotten msgs from a “lawyer” that have extremely poor grammar and spelling?

  320. lisa says:

    TXSB sent you an email, hope it gets to you

    Good night everyone, gotta call my friend and then get to bed so I can get up for work tomorrow.

  321. NYGent says:

    April: wow, nice but awfully high standards — does such a man exist? Not I . . .

  322. NYGent says:

    Have been occupied at work and not much time for blogging lately, but back for a while. Must say it’s hard keeping up with those Texans and Canadians, they can be a blizzard of info!

    RedMaru, tried to critique your profile but said pending approval . . .

    Anna Molly and I did have nice time, but she is much too kind — makes me sound like a cross between Gary Cooper and Jerry Seinfeld. Not hardly . . I wish!

  323. Asiansb- He seemed quite interested in you. He’ll be in touch. You may have stumbled across his profile…he hinted someone on here did. Sweety worked him over pretty good and he still didn’t give out his profile number…pretty funny really.

    My world is quiet, but my pot confirmed for the 5th…yeah! We’ve been e-mailing for a month already. It goes quickly. Seems like a real gentleman and has had an sb beore, so wish me well.

    TXSB – You could have made up some crazy story to the cashier and people in line about where he left his cc…have some fun while in that awkward moment. BTW – When people said to “get a room” you took it to heart!

    Hi JennaBeth and April!

  324. JennaBeth says:

    So I posted this to the topic before this one and noticed no one is over there,lol . But I’d love some feedback , opinions , etc

    Im a first time poster so please be kind But I just need to vent to some who know where Im coming from .

    So the question was . . .. Do I have any sugar in my near-plans , well I actually DID , tonight , and I yes , the sugarbaby , GOT STOOD UP by my potential SD !

    Got all dressed up , mani /pedi / salon — the works ! And sat and waited at the resturant for a half hour , before I just decided I was looking stupid sitting there by myself , and left.

    I even confirmed with him 3 hours prior to make sure we were still on ( he said yes ) , and texted him when I got there .

    Can someone tell me where this went wrong ?

  325. Anna Molly says:

    Hello Asian SB, JennaBeth and April :)

  326. TXSB says:

    “RealisticSD says:
    (my final verdict is never questioned by my employees)”

    *** Mmmm……for some reason I really liked the way this line sounded in my head! LOL! I won’t question your “final verdict” on anything either…. :)

    BTW, yes, yesterday at Bed, Bath, and Beyond, I looked at the prices of some stuff but to be honest, I was just in a shopping spree! I was shocked when I saw the total and right then Realistic says “oops, I forgot my credit card. I’ll be right back.” At that moment I had all these images of me just standing there with sh*tload of stuff that needs to be paid for and him just dissappearing! Heck he drove so it would’ve been a LONG walk for me to get back to my car too! But he came back….with the CC. :)

    BTW hun, I went tonight, took care of the dishes/bedskirt, and I also got curtains. So you’ll need to bring your drill tomorrow night for the window. :)

  327. AsianSB says:

    Haha New SB, sadly I don’t even know his profile number 😛 So no way to contact him other than on this blog. heh but he does seem very nice.

    What’s new on your front?

  328. Morning Asiansd! Have you heard from TexasSD today?

  329. JennaBeth says:

    Hello all ,

    Ive been on the site for awhile , but just started reading these blogs . Everyone on here seems so nice and helpful ! Wish I would have read some of this stuff BEFORE I went on a date ! lol

  330. AsianSB says:

    Hey Sugarfam, just woke up, need to catch up on the blog now 😛 oh and my profile is updated :)

  331. April says:

    I find an assertive, decisive man to be more attractive, personally. I think what many women want is a man who is masculine, decisive (but those decisions must be the RIGHT ones), in control but not controlling, yet sensitive to women & their needs, gentle when the time calls for it, and romantic. For example, a man that leaves a trail of rose petals to the bedroom, where all the candles are lit & the bubble bath is drawn (very romantic), yet takes her, takes control, and “has his way with her” is a great balance. In fact… that’s what it’s all about.. .the right balance of masculine and feminine energy.

  332. lisa says:

    that is a fake sd, NewSB someone on the blog told me about him several months ago.

  333. Lisa – you have mail

    Anna – are you using the e-mail that you use for SA?

  334. Anna Molly says:

    I’m sooo hot! LOL

  335. Anna Molly says:

    yay…it worked!

  336. RedMaru says:

    Lisa your email has mail…I couldn’t resist!

  337. lisa says:

    Your avatar has arrived Anna Molly

  338. Anna Molly says:

    I tried the gravatar site, but it isn’t working :(

  339. Anna Molly says:

    New SB – I hear ya :)

  340. Lisa – whats your email…I see a Houston SD that might be of interest

  341. Realistic – Nice…I bet you do that to all the new sbs! Hilarious!

    Blog question: I try to be the submissive one as many men I know are not comfortable with an agressive woman. I’m not a dominatrix, but am independent, itelligent and strong-willed. It’s too bad those are not always considered good traits. I do like a confident, but not cocky, man…someone who can stand up to me when needed…someone who can show me he’s the boss in the heat of the moment. *sigh*

  342. ok guys I just peeking in to see whats new!
    Anna Molly I am so happy you had a great time with NYGent.. I figured he would be a sweety of a man anyway! happy you have confirmed my hunch!!
    and thats about all folks good night!!

  343. Anna Molly says:

    lol… :)

  344. RealisticSD says:

    “haha…Realistic could offer a lot more [than 2 cents]” But TXSB forgot to mention yesterday that I left my credit card (the secret one for SBs) behind when we were in Bed Bath and Beyond. Lucky for her, it was just in the car. But when she was standing in line and I went to the car to get it, I had her worried for a minute that I might run off, lol.

  345. RealisticSD says:

    The whole blog question has had me perplexed for a couple of days now. Am I aggressive/assertive or passive/mild? I am generally mild-mannered and happy with a smile on my face, yet I am rather loud and silly at the same time. I am efficient and goal-oriented and run my work like clock-work and as an absolute dictator (my final verdict is never questioned by my employees), yet no one who works for me would consider me bossy and my employees feel more like brothers and sisters than subordinates. Hence, I never have turn-over of employees–they come, join the family and stay (unlike my colleagues whose employees are always changing or looking for a way out).

    In relationships, if the SB wants someone to be in total charge, I will be, and if she has strong opinions about things that don’t matter to me, I let her decide. So with more passive SBs, I have taken charge of everything and they joined in for the exciting ride, and with more assertive types, I have gone along with what they say as it is really not that big a deal, for example, where we have dinner.

    So I am still not sure what I am in terms of assertive/passive.

  346. lisa says:

    I wasn’t aware there was a Galleria in Dallas, but I’ve never been to Dallas, lol Haven’t been out of Houston in almost 7 years

  347. Lisa says:
    Beware of the SDs who only offer “2 cents” lol
    *** haha…Realistic could offer a lot more….

    I forgot there is a Galleria in Houston. Momentary lapse. Perhaps when my sweet sugar daddy comes along, I will get out a bit more.

  348. RedMaru says:

    Cool! Thanks Realistic!

  349. RedMaru says:

    Thanks New SB good tip!
    BTW Saw your profile love your smile!

  350. lisa says:

    Beware of the SDs who only offer “2 cents” lol

  351. lisa says:

    oh there must be a Galleria in Dallas, is that what you mean by D?

  352. RealisticSD says:

    Red Maru, when your profile update is finished, let me know and I’d be happy to give you my two cents.

  353. lisa says:

    Memorial city is off of I-10 and probably the second best mall in Houston (not couting the malls in the suburbs). Going to the Galleria is always fun.

  354. Lisa – Galleria was where I went ice skating for the first time…many people were entertained! I don’t recall the Memorial City Mall. I lived in FW, so only spent some weekends in D. I’d love to see it now.

    Anna – Those shows are funny. I get cheap thrills from scaring the *** out of my son all the time…he loves it! He’s going to be great at practical jokes someday :-)

  355. RealisticSD says:

    Farm Girl said, “I also have passed an FBI background check and hold the government badge to prove it. How sexy is that?!? Do y’all think that would be a selling point to a pot?” Mu answer: Yes, definitely.

    Niki, as for an asexual SD, I think the general consensus is that it is hard to find a guy who will throw money at an SB just for her presence. Maybe if he is 90 and even Viagra won’t help his situation, it might work. But if I was 90 and unresponsive to ED drugs, the last thing I’d want would be to be teased by a 20-something-year-old hottie.

    As for the guy wanting Depo-Provera shots for his SB, he’s thinking the right thoughts but his way of expressing it is just rude and condescending. In reality, the only way an SD knows his SB won’t get pregnant is if he’s had a vasectomy plus a confirmatory spermatogram, she’s had a hysterectomy or tubal ligation, if she has an IUD, or if she is getting Depo shots every 3 months.

  356. lisa says:

    New SB in SB : The ice rink is still at the Galleria. There is also an icerink at the Memorial city mall down the street from me but it’s not as interesting because the mall doesn’t have the multi floors to look down from.

  357. Anna Molly says:

    I’m watching a show about the best haunted houses in the country…..pretty funny. I would love to scare people like that..lol

  358. TXSB – *wipe brow* Phew…missed that one! Maybe Realistic can offer some pointers.

    I haven’t been to Galleria in years! Do they still have the ice rink? One of my favorite memories was out there in D. Alley…great band playing in the square.

  359. TXSB says:

    New SB in SB:
    Wow….sounds like another winner! I can’t imagine any woman writing to him or responding to his contact after reading that!

  360. TXSB says:

    Anna Molly:
    Awww…..glad to hear you two had a good time. :)

    Oh I’m not going to stop completely…and definately not in 24 hours. I’ll cut back on it for sure….but not stop totally.

  361. Anna Molly says:

    Thanks OC and NewSB :)

  362. NYC SB – We will be seeing you in Fortune Mag soon! Congrats!

    Any man would be lucky to have you. I’m sure you will find the right gentleman for your current situation.

    Anna – Kudos for class!

    Red – I, too, decided to shorten my. Might I suggest changing “working girl” to career-oriented or the like? It’s funny, but you have to remember people don’t always get the meaning you imply when written.

  363. RedMaru says:

    At the risk of restating, I’ll say thanks again OC (hugs!) I shortened it hope it wasn’t to much but to the point. But anywhoo I’m heading to exercise and home so I’ll see ya later sugarfam 😀

  364. Bunny NYC says:

    Agh, been busy for the past while and finally caught up on the blog while eating dinner. Brain is too frazzled to form coherent thoughts.

    However, I will say to AsianSB that if you’re looking to ride and have the money to do so (or want to be spoiled that way), I highly recommend joining the Jockey Club in Hong Kong. You can meet lots of people that way as well. Also, the new racetrack in Sha Tin (the one that was built for the Olympics) is the equivalent of a 6 star hotel for horses. The place is flat out fantastic and beautiful.

    (In case you’re wondering why I know this, I’m an expatriated Hong Kong-ese who does go back every year :P)

  365. RedMaru says:

    Hey New : That guy is a piece of ….work

  366. RedMaru says:

    Thanks OC! Yeah it could use a snip snip here and a snip snip there…lol
    Hopefully it won’t take long for approval

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      RedMaru: The content was good, but just try to say the same thing in a shorter version. Also make it clearer between the two parts/ description and what you are looking for. They are very different sections and you restated a few things. I can understand wanting to stress the important points, but less is more. Love the pics!

  367. Helloooooo sugars…ran across this and just had to share!

    Must be completely disease free and willing to undergo periodic medical screenings as well as receive depo-provera injections on schedule. I’m not interested in creating a family or child support payments from any arrangement such as this.”

    More from the same profile:
    “You aren’t that attractive and you can’t offer anything worth wasting money on. If you can cure cancer, I’ll talk to you”

    I couldn’t help myself! He shows a great deal of wealth, but no character. Too bad. Close to home too.

    I do understand the desire to be disease free and wanting to avoid any surprises, but this goes too far.


  368. Anna Molly says:

    NYGent is a gentleman for sure, soft spoken and handsome. After lunch we walked back towards his office and he showed me some sites along the way. We shared a sweet goodbye and parted ways. It was wonderful. He is very sweet and kind, not to mention funny. Whoever becomes his SB will be a very lucky lady :)

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Hi girls! Let’s let Niki get use to our sugar sweetness, she may not be ready to post her number quite yet. It is hard to take the wrapper off the candy and expose yourself to strangers. She may trust us in time…

      TXSB: Promises promises promises?! lol

      Anna: You are my sugar favorite of the day, you held discression to the highest degree. That is what I like to see! Ohhh but it is so nice to confirm my fantasy version of NYGent!

      RedMaru: Two words…shorten it (your profile) Even my slight ADD could not read the whole thing. Totally fixable!

  369. RedMaru says:

    Anna Molly….do tell do tell 😀
    Can I get some suggestions on mine pretty please
    Profile no: 210789

  370. TXSB says:

    Anna Molly:
    Yes…do share details about your meeting with NYGent. :)

  371. NYC SB says:

    Anna Molly – Is NYGent all we imagined him to be?

  372. TXSB says:

    Hi Everyone!

    “Niki says:
    the question im wondering is.. do you all have much luck?
    I havent even had so much a an email.. could it be because my profile is boring? i have my thing set at open-negotiable.. help me please, lol i need some SB etiquite”

    *** Niki, approx. 3 weeks into joining, I met my SD here. But then again I hear there are members who’s been searching for a SB/SD for months. If you post your profile number, we’ll be more than happy to give you suggestions….but in my personal opinion, I do believe a huge part of it is also just luck.

  373. RedMaru says:

    Anna Molly- you can go to gravatar.com and set up an avatar linked to your email

  374. Taz says:

    and the weather is actually finally BEAUTIFUL here!

  375. Anna Molly says:

    How do you add the pictures to you posts?

  376. RX8sb says:

    and bye again

  377. Anna Molly says:

    It rainy yesterday and rainy today…ugh! Oh yeah….and cold :(

  378. RX8sb says:

    doing good here as well. though we have a tad of a wind storm.

    hello taz

  379. RedMaru says:

    Hey Taz! I’m good dealin with the weather in Atl. Now its warm but it was chilly yesterday…I wish it would make up its mind

  380. Taz says:

    Hi Niki, RX8sb and RedMaru – how is everyone this afternoon!?

  381. Mina says:

    Back from my european sugar travels for the time being. Off to the east coast in a few days :)

    Would you like a sugar daddy who was more assertive than passive?
    I do like someone who is assertive and takes the lead, but there has to be a balance. Generally I am very laid back but somewhat of a planner by nature (just to have an idea of what’s going on, I don’t plan down to a T) and my SD is too.

    Would you like a sugar baby who’s more direct than vague?
    Vague is good with strangers or those you don’t trust. So why be vague with an SD or SB?

    How can you tell how aggressive or mild a sugar will be before you meet?
    Forced conversation topics, too eager too meet right away, demanding – whether for pictures, meetings, time, etc.

  382. RedMaru says:

    Hi Niki welcome whats your profile number and the sugarfam would be happy to take a look see

  383. RX8sb says:

    Thanks hun.

    I answered the topic through agreeing with Taz LOL

    I like a strong dominate confident personality who won’t be intimidated by a confident dominate woman.

    And you go FarmGirl. There are only 2 types of vehicles that I personal can see sense for. The Fast and sporty race car, and the can haul anything semi. I am a horse person after all.

  384. Niki says:

    Im new to all of this, but after browsing alot of the blogs and just briefly skimming over them and trying to catch up, i think i have a really good idea of the do’s and dont’s with a SD & SB relationship.
    I actually have had a SD before, persay, he didnt lavish me with gifts or pay my bills, but every time he came in to town, him and his friend and a friend of mine and myself would meet for dinner, drinks and good conversation.. and it wasnt dinner at applebees, it was def. fine dining. But, he never expected anything more and i never asked for anything more, there was a few occasions while he was in chicago and New Orleans he would call me on a whime offering to fly me down but of course i was working and wouldnt be able to, and i didnt know how serious he OR the alcohol was,lol but he was a great guy, we still talk on occasion, i havent saw him in over a year.
    But the point im trying to get to, is, i always thought in a traditions SD & SB relationship, there wasnt sex, i always thought it was about the SD wanting a beautiful, breathtaking SLT for arm candy, to take out, show her off.. now it seems to be all about the sex.. and with all due respect.. again.. i thought SBs all are beautiftul, stunning young ladys. now after browsing this site, they come in all shapes an sizes. and again i DO NOT Mean that in no disrespect what so ever, the question im wondering is.. do you all have much luck?
    I havent even had so much a an email.. could it be because my profile is boring? i have my thing set at open-negotiable.. help me please, lol i need some SB etiquite

  385. RedMaru says:

    Welcome back RXsb!
    On the blog topic though I sorta answered it already i tend to like a commanding presence so though I like the range of mild to agressive I tend to gravitate toward aggressive I guess. Oh and yeah heres my profile no 210789 please check and feel free to field suggestions….hugs

  386. James says:

    Farm Girl, that’s too funny! Must not have been much of a Farm Man!

    For some reason, that reminds me of this story I loved from the Gulf War, wish I could find the photo — she’s beautiful, feminine and strong. Apologies for the length, but I think it is telling and on point:

    “One might say Jacque line Phillips Guibord has blown her cover.

    Until recently Ms. Guibord, her red hair dyed black, was spending her evenings slinking around Provo’s seamier haunts trying to buy drugs and arrest felons as an undercover narcotics officer with the Provo Police Department.

    Then she agreed to pose for a magazine advertisement for Wrangler jeans. Now the picture has become a favorite pinup of American troops in Saudi Arabia.

    A sex object? A woman fully clad in thick denim and leaning against her patrol car with a shotgun? That is apparently what appeals to the troops in the deserts of the Middle East, where Muslim sensibilities rule out the more traditional locker decorations.

    This is what two marines wrote: “We are in a country where women are treated different than in the States, and are not near as beautiful; your picture is a constant reminder why we are here. If you have any similar pictures, please send a few to this office for distribution.”

    It was signed by Staff Sgt. Brett A. McKee and Sgt. Scott E. Orsborn, attached to the Criminal Investigation Division of the First Marine Division. They said her picture was posted in every American military police and criminal investigation office in Saudi Arabia.

    And when Lieut. Comdr. John E. Jendro, a spokesman for the Navy, was asked how popular the advertisement was among servicemen in Saudi Arabia, he said, “Most every marine seems to be aware of the poster.”

  387. RX8sb says:

    Well I am back, and I also managed to find the required photo’s but I had trouble decided which 3 of the 4 i liked best so I sent 8 instead

  388. RedMaru says:

    See ya RX8sb!

  389. Farm Girl says:

    Thanks Red and RX8! I’ll add it to my profile!

  390. Farm Girl says:

    Regarding the aggressive / submissive thing…I need someone confident and fairly aggressive. I rarely want to take the lead in relationships because I have to do so much of that in my career. I don’t want to be the boss when I get home. That is where the SD can step in with the pampering and spoiling.

    Here is an example of my dilemma…I am 5’2 and very feminine. Even my muck boots are pink. I was out one night and had to drive the farm truck because my car was in the shop. The truck is a one-ton, crew cab, long bed, diesel, dually. My love interest walked me out to my car, but couldn’t kiss me good-night. Later, he said he was intimidated by the truck. Puh-leeze! It is just a vehicle, not an extension!

  391. RX8sb says:

    Have to run errands. bye for now. and have to hunt for those pictures. is going to take awhile as my photos aren’t organized. Never was a priority.

    have fun everyone.

  392. RX8sb says:

    THat is exactly what I was thinking. ROFL

  393. Anna Molly says:

    RX8sb – If you decide to join let us know how it works out, I’m curious for sure. I know what you mean about the email thing….it’s free….yeah right. At least with SA you can read and respond to the emails you receive.

    I wonder how many of those emails from the other site you’re on are from real members and not site admins.?

  394. EastCoastFilly says:

    mostly lurking past few days, busy with work and I’m curtailing my addiction, lol.

    Realistic: why don’t you just remember the time stamp, so if your last post read was at 11:03 AM scroll down to there and continue on? Thats what I do, its a number just like a post number would be :)

  395. RedMaru says:

    Farm Girl says:
    October 28, 2009 at 11:53 am
    I have my passport, and it has been stamped. I found that if you ask nicely, the customs agent will always stamp or write something on the page for you.

    I also have passed an FBI background check and hold the government badge to prove it. How sexy is that?!? Do y’all think that would be a selling point to a pot?

    Hey Farm Girl Very Cool flaunt it honey!

  396. RX8sb says:

    Farm Girl says:
    October 28, 2009 at 11:53 am
    passed an FBI background check and hold the government badge to prove it

    Well hun it at least proves that you are not a crook and are who you say you are. So if you have it flaunt it.

  397. RX8sb says:

    I am also on elite dating, and even though I get alot more emails there then here, the site is poorly done and you have to fork out 200$ just to email on that blasted site.

    So I have no idea if the guys emailing are nice or losers. As I am not allowed to read the emails unless I upgrade to the second level.

    There is no way I am forking out that much cash when things are tight at the moment. I have priority’s to consider.

    But from all that the other site offers it seems reasonable. And they have an extensive phone interview. And say they support a safe meeting to ensure both sides benefit.

    mmm. Maybe I will join anyways and report my findings for others.

    On a side note looks like the fall storms are finally starting. Rats I was hoping my son could bled of this extra energy he has this morning by running amuck outside.

  398. Farm Girl says:

    I have my passport, and it has been stamped. I found that if you ask nicely, the customs agent will always stamp or write something on the page for you.

    I also have passed an FBI background check and hold the government badge to prove it. How sexy is that?!? Do y’all think that would be a selling point to a pot?

  399. Anna Molly says:

    RX8sb – It sounded a little fishy to me. Why wouldn’t we be just as interested in what the guy looked like. The site gave me a high end escort service vibe, but that’s just me. There may have been many successful SD/SB relationships evolve from the site. Maybe you should check into it….you never know.

  400. RX8sb says:

    Very true. That is why I have been hesitant to sign up with them.

    But I am tired of the fake profiles and scammers that all of the sugar sites seems to be riddled with. And finding someone in my area who is legit is hard.

    As vegas is the ‘never happened while you are here’ city. They all seem to think that they are the shyt and that you will bend over and take with they do because you are here to offer services. and that is just a load of bs.

  401. Anna Molly says:

    I’m talking about the site that was mentioned by the way :)

  402. Anna Molly says:

    I don’t know, it kinda bothered me that they asked for 6 (3 face and 3 body) photos of the women, but didn’t ask for photos of the men…….that isn’t fair…lol.

  403. RedMaru says:

    See ya LisaMarie

  404. RX8sb says:

    Good Luck Asian. and have a good night.

  405. RedMaru says:

    AsianSB- It is addicting! But you get some sleep and good luck on your midterm I’m sure you’ll do fine. Have a good one Asian 😀

  406. AsianSB says:

    RX8SB- This blog is rather addicting, haha..

    But I think I’m off to sleep, have a midterm tomorrow :( Wish me luck, I hope to read more about this date of yours, Anna Molly 😛

    Have a wonderful day Sugars

  407. Lisa Marie says:

    Ahhh about an hr from where I was. Drove there a few times.

    Ok Sugars..i am off for now…gotta get some work done!

  408. RedMaru says:

    Hey photogirl!

    Hey LisaMarie – I live in Atlanta

  409. photogirl says:

    Anna Molly – Glad you had a wonderful time…figured you would 😉

  410. RX8sb says:

    I heard that it works like an interview place where they actually do a virtual sit down with the ladies and the gents then match up the best fits.

    Sounds good in theory, but a lot of things sound good in theory.

  411. Lisa Marie says:

    Hi AsianSb and Red Maru.

    Its kinda cold here in TX. Its been raining off and on the past week. Much needed rain though.
    Hey Red where in GA are you. I just moved from Columbus a yr ago.

  412. Margo says:

    Anna Molly – of course the lunch was delish! Tell us more about him :).

  413. Liv. says:

    Gooooooo, NYC!

    Very, very proud.

  414. RX8sb says:

    congrats Anna, and good luck on the great pot.

    and has anyone heard of or tried~ sugar romance (dot) com??

  415. RX8sb says:

    AsianSB says:
    October 27, 2009 at 10:39 pm
    RX8sb- sexy car
    Thanks hun, I love my car.
    Wow, just realized. Responding to everyone and keeping up with this blog is actually very tough.
    Yet you will find yourself doing it everyday like the rest of us. It is rather addicting.

    NYC SB says:
    October 28, 2009 at 10:06 am
    newly formed business venture
    Congrats Way to go, glad that everything is going so well.

    RealisticSD says:
    October 28, 2009 at 10:43 am
    I read up to #312 and pick up from there? Any good strategies?

    I use firefox and just leave the window open with other tabs I am looking at. when I am done I close saving my previous tabs and when I get back online the page opens to where I closed the site on. Makes it very easy to catch up.

    Morning Asian 😀 Hiya Red. 😀
    was below the 50s here when we woke up. but finally sunny outside and at the 50 mark

  416. Anna Molly says:

    I had a wonderful afternoon with a wonderful gentleman. Lunch was delish :)

  417. photogirl says:

    Good morning.

    NYC SB – Congrats on the venture, but the lack of the companionship and intimacy is too bad. Best wishes on figuring out what will be best for you in that regards.

    Anna Molly – How was the trip to NYC yesterday? Or is that tomorrow?

  418. RedMaru says:

    Hey LisaMarie, AnnaMolly, AsianSB, and Rx8sb!

    Hey Rx8sb its chilly here in GA too sunny but chilly it rained last night

  419. Anna Molly says:

    #1 – We could always number our own posts, but I think that could get annoying and I think most would just forget to do it :). That is all I have in regards to the post subject.

    Blog Topic – I’m a submissive woman so it’s obvious what I prefer :)

  420. AsianSB says:

    Good morning RX8sb and Lisa Marie :)

    What I tend to do is have my “search box” open (press ctrl + f) and type in a small phrase or someone’s name that I remembered from where I left off. Such as, I can search for my name AsianSB and just click next next next, until I get to my last post, and that is where I usually leave off.

  421. Lisa Marie says:

    good idea! they should # the posts…then we can pick up where we left off if we remember the #. These blogs get so long and it takes forever to go through them

  422. RealisticSD says:

    Finding where I left off the blog is such a pain. Why don’t they put a number next to each message then I can remember I read up to #312 and pick up from there? Any good strategies?

  423. RealisticSD says:

    NYC SB, it’s so fun to mix business with pleasure.

  424. RX8sb says:

    GoodMorning Ladies and Gents.

    How is everyone today? It is Finally over 50 here so getting not that bad of a start.

    Ok Just wanted to chime in, now back to catching up on the happenings.

  425. Lisa Marie says:

    Good Morning Sugars!

  426. NYC SB says:

    Thanks ladies you are so sweet 😀

  427. AsianSB says:

    Wow, NYCSB you really have your life on track, it’s great that you are starting a business venture! Congratulations.

    Yes, the Sugarfam is cheering for you :)

  428. RedMaru says:

    Congrats to you NYCSB on your venture I’m sure you will prosper! Your sugar fam is rootin for you all the way

    Rah Rah NYCSB!

  429. NYC SB says:

    OK Sugar fam… so I have been MIA partially due to my day job … other part is due to getting stuff set for my venture with my SD… I am happy to say that all legal documents have been signed and I am ready to go… hopefully soon enough I will be changing my handle to NYC SM …

    Due to our newly formed business venture SD and I have mutually decided to not mix business with pleasure… and put a clause in the contract which we call “asset management fee” which guarantees me $xxxx per month even if I dont make profits… this way he is still providing me with the support he has been thus far and takes a lot of pressure off me…

    This leaves me in a bit of a bind because I seek sugar relationships for more than just the monetary aspect of it… I need the companionship and intimacy as well… At this time I am unsure if I will be looking for another SD or just date someone IRL… the dating someone IRL seems a bit easier as long as he understands and can deal with my current availability constraints… soooo IDK hahaha

  430. AsianSB says:

    I was recently having passport and visa issues. Turns out, my China Visa was expired while I was still residing in China, and my student Visa to HK also expired, all at the same time that my US passport had to be renewed.

    Luckily, it only took me 3 months to fix all of that. haha. My passport usually fills up very very quickly, I almost couldn’t get back into HK last year from Macau, because I ran out of pages.. after I added MORE. Urgh, I guess living in Hong Kong has too many traveling opportunities to pass up.

    RealisticSD- I’m glad to hear that you are having better luck with SBs now and that TXSB sounds like the perfect one for you. :)

    Margo- I think it just depends on the girl, some girls wouldn’t even go to that length, while others find it acceptable to sleep with the SD on the first date. But you are right, an arrangement needs to be in placed first.

    **Just updated my profile, to something more concise and easy to read. I will repost my profile number once it is approved. Looking forward to all the Sugars’ feedbacks, SBs should chime in too :)

  431. RedMaru says:

    Morning sugars how is everyone…at work sneaking in blog hits…don’t tell anyone.
    Realistic: the more you put on the blog the more I want to get some of your skin cells to clone and keep you…lol You are right though I noticed that the real SD’s want you to have goals, aspirations being doing something with your life. Sugar is meant to be a supplement or compliment not a source of dependence.
    Which is why I would like my SD to be a mentor as well as a benefactor. I would love to travel and shop too but as a up and coming entrepreneur with my own small business (in addition to my nine to five) I would like to be taught the tricks of the trade so I can become just as successful.

  432. NYC SB says:

    Bianca – I really hope your pot is not from NYC …

  433. Margo says:

    texaSD, TXSB, NC Gent – thank you for answering my question why girls agree having sex at first date.
    Even if a girl used to hook up quickly in non-sugar dating, she should stop doing that if she wants an arrangement. If the guy pushes her or things naturally go this way because of strong chemistry, she should stop it and say – I like you, but I want an arrangement.

  434. RealisticSD says:

    New SB in SB said, “Passport is ready! Never even stamped.” What’s a bummer is that some countries don’t even stamp passports any more. That sucks!

  435. RealisticSD says:

    Lannie, I don’t agree to all the perks up front, but I do tell them what their monthly allowance would be, and I do put in some effort to get a sense of what their other needs might be. If there is good communication, the way you do it works—the SB would tell me how much she needs and I would know that she is being honest and I would provide it. On the other hand, if the SB feels uncomfortable with stating her needs or if she is saving for a rainy day, then the set allowance is easier.

    As for the pair of SBs, one was in school and the other was taking a semester off, so neither was working at the time, although their parents did help one of them some (they were roommates). I think these two in particular were using me, although they played it off a lot better than other SBs who are just there to use you like an ATM machine. But I let it drag on for too long, so I have no one to blame but myself. The worst was that the one who sat at home all day would complain that seeing me twice a week was just too much! I can’t believe I put up with that for two months. In retrospect, I suspect they were both on drugs, which is the only way I can explain their incessant sleeping and the fact that their sleep resembled more of a coma than sleep (they would be completely unarousable).

    As for your statement, “I recently noticed a trend where it appears many SB’s are looking for big money and not in school, raising children or even with goals for the future,” I have seen a fair bit of that as well. Some people just want the easy way or the short-cut in life, but these people typically don’t have the ability to make a sugar relationship work. They are mentally disorganized, so their life is in shambles, and no one can fix it for them and they also can’t mentally get their head around a mutual relationship.

    Also, SDs don’t want someone hopeless or totally helpless. I remember with one pot, I told her she needs a solid plan for her future as I am not looking for a life-long dependent, but rather a sugarbaby.

    As for TXSB, she is intelligent, hard-working, and pretty much on top of things, which is a huge draw for me. Also, I feel that the relationship is mutual and she is not just playing me for cash, as was clearly the case with some previous SBs. I have learned a lot from dealing with each SB, and so it becomes a little bit easier to avoid the same mistakes.

  436. lisa says:

    Good morning everyone

    A cold crisp morning in Houston, 52 degrees, brrrr I’m going to need to wear a sweater

    On the subject of Sd viewing other Sds, I have had Sbs view my profile,kinda creepy. Back when I was a premium member for one month and could see who viewed me (it made no difference in the amount of response I received) a couple premium sbs viewed me.

    Have a great day everyone

  437. AsianSB says:

    Night Beach!

    I guess it is also time for me to get back to work. :(

  438. AsianSB says:

    Goodnight Taz!!

  439. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Well good night lurkers, ladies and gents!
    Off to bed for me….

    texaSD~ good night, hope to have mail soon.. ahhahahhah 😛

    night all

  440. Taz says:

    Signing off for the night…before i fall asleep…

    Sweet dreams everyone!

  441. Vixen says:

    Bianca-If he’s had an SB in the past and actually knows what he’s doing, then hopefully he will be the one to bring up exactly what your arrangement will entail.

    Be aware that there are many SDs who use the first date to gage chemistry only and will not bring up the arrangement piece until after the first date.

  442. Taz says:

    texasSD – it was worth a try 😛

  443. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Still no mail :(

  444. AsianSB says:

    Heh, he might reconsider now :-p

  445. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    hahhaha Asian yeah he might…. or he will wear a mask!!! hummm

  446. texaSD says:

    Taz– lol

  447. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    AsianSB~ yes , Please do Doll…. would be great to see what he looks like!!! 😛

  448. Taz says:

    Haha – but you don’t do email 😛

  449. Taz says:

    Ha…you can get my email from Beach…lmao…but I cannot say exactly where I am from on the blog :O

  450. AsianSB says:

    Beach- Aww, well, if he does come see me, I’ll take a sneak picture of him :p

  451. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    AsianSB~ don’t believe him…. he won’t tell us…. hahahh 😀

    texaSD~ stop teasing! 😛

  452. texaSD says:

    AsianSB– oh we are getting there, but, i think i can last at least another week

  453. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    AsianSB~ he isn’t budging,,,, :( ahhh well…. at least he might see you in HK

  454. texaSD says:

    Taz- are you in Toronto?

  455. Bianca_babe says:

    Thanks Vixen and Beach Girl

    Yes, it is a nice place that we are meeting at. He is very particular about what he wants and is hoping for in a relationship, which is refreshing, but very foreign to me. I guess I will wait with anticipation and see if we are what each is looking for. As its’ my first meeting, do I start the conversation about the arrangement, or does he?


  456. AsianSB says:

    Bianca_babe- You should already think of dressing up, heh. I agree with Beach that he will be taking you to a nice place.

    So late in the US, yet still so many people on. I see that we are still interested in seeing TexaSD, are we breaking you yet? :)

  457. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Bianca_babe ~ he might be taking you to a nice place and didn’t want you to feel uncomfortable… i don’t know…

  458. Taz says:

    No there is no shame here lol – I am 30 right on 😛

  459. Vixen says:

    Bianca-I am not used to men telling me specifically how to dress on a 1st date. I do ask the men what kind of restaurante we’re dining at so I can dress accordingly (casual..upscale..etc)

    Some men are known for making requests such as for a dress..skirt..etc
    Just make sure whatever he asks of you that its something you feel comfortable wearing.

  460. texaSD says:

    Taz– lol not at all, i was just curious, if you want you can give me a rough estimate lol

  461. Taz says:

    Is that a trick question TexasSD lol!?

    Welcome Bianca_babe!

  462. Bianca_babe says:

    Just wanted to introduce myself. This blog has answered so many questions that I had.

    I am going to meet my first pot SD on Thurs and I am very nervous. He is very handsome (at least his photos look this way) quite confident and has already told me how he wants me to dress for the date. Is this a normal request for a first meeting?


  463. texaSD says:

    Beach, See i know we did something like that lol

  464. texaSD says:

    Taz- how old are you? i just curious

  465. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    lol i know, i did ask you to look and see if they were hot, you said yes!
    hummm sucks for me!!! 😀

  466. Taz says:

    If you are bored sometime check out girls from a province over for me please lol – ontario 😛 what are they like?

  467. texaSD says:

    Sweety, thats it, ya i can’t remember either if we looked, but it sure feels familiar LOL

  468. texaSD says:

    LOL you and I looked at girls from Montreal before, or at least i think that was you

  469. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Sweety, and i don’t know if we looked at Montreal SBs but i did ask if they were prettier than me!!!

  470. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    She’s pretty!!!

  471. texaSD says:

    Beach what was your old screen name again?

  472. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Did what???? I’m just curious as to what you look like, as you know what i look like is all,,,,

  473. texaSD says:

    ok you know I am having the feeling you and I did this before lol 400944

  474. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    texaSD~ what’s her profile, i want to see other SBs from here

  475. texaSD says:

    Beach- Lol noo i mailed a chick in houston, the last girl to look at my profile was a premium member from Montreal 28 years old wearing a black dress, I remember Beach you are from montreal I couldn’t remember your age but i do remember you had a black dress err leather

  476. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    lol texaSD~ i don’t have mail from you :(
    and if you wanted to see me like i said my profile is right there!!!!

  477. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    you mail a girl in montreal?

  478. texaSD says:

    Beach Taz- I am not mad just in case you are thinking or something

  479. texaSD says:

    Montreal lol thats why I thought it was beach

  480. texaSD says:

    No I just emailed the chick(or him or whatever it is)

  481. Taz says:

    I am orange – but was not intentionally looking for your profile – where was the mysterious orange member from?

  482. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    I don’t know texaSD , but you could see where they are from….
    so did you mail the SD? did it work?

  483. texaSD says:

    ahh Maybe it was OC goodcall

  484. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    texaSD~ no I was never Orange… sorry. But i am from Montreal….
    I think maybe OC is orange

  485. texaSD says:

    Well I know RedMaru is premium. I could have sworn you were too, and I know someone else is.

  486. texaSD says:

    It sounds Familiar Vixen, but i can’t remember at the moment.

  487. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    texaSD~ black dress??? no black leather top!!! black dress was the old profile… i dont know who is premium in the ladies here…. sorry

  488. texaSD says:

    Besides RedMaru

  489. Vixen says:

    texaSD- just curious as to whether you are familiar with a former blogger on here named Vixentreat

  490. texaSD says:

    I thought I saw your Profile your in Montreal… black dress, the last girl to view my profile was orange, wait is there a blogger here with an orange account?

  491. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    nope i’m not texaSD~ i’m blue, look beside my name is a number ,,,, that’s my profile

  492. texaSD says:

    Your a orange member right Beach?

  493. texaSD says:

    Flo- I think she will forgive you for a late night tired reply

  494. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    texaSD~My profile is posted here, you would know if it was me…and i am not asking any more questions about your profile , if you want to send me mail , you will,,,, if not ,,,, it’s ok…

  495. texaSD says:

    Were you trying to cheat me to reveal my account :( I feel used

  496. Flo Rida says:

    KittyBabe – I agree with OC’s comments on the 3 cities but this can be explained in text. Firstly there is no magic bullet on profiles (I do not have one) BUT if I were a SD reading your profile there are three problems 1 – I may not be interested in any of the interests you have & 2 – I may not identify with what you are looking for in a SD & 3 – your profile tells me little to nothing about what you can do for me. Forgive the bluntness as i’m very tired AND I know the above may not be very ACTIONABLE for you. Finally you say that you are receiving replies but not within your desired age group – well depending upon your desired age group that may be unavoidable – my SD has a 14year age gap. I’m already working with a different SB on her profile and i’m debating whether I can take on another profile revamp. Give me some time to mull (though frankly given the above harshness i’m not sure you’d want my help) and again apologies if I was too brusque.

  497. texaSD says:

    Beach I don’t know if its her, or Him pretending to be her.. Its a female blue account… unless thats one of you playing a joke on me

  498. texaSD says:

    But I will try to email a SD to see if that works…

  499. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    texaSD~ his SB sent you mail?

  500. texaSD says:

    Beach- Its from “one” of his SB, its that loser guy from H Town i posted earlier

  501. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Taz~ Doll, lets not go there…..

    TexaSD~ how can you get mail from a SD? I thought we couldn’t mail our own group? unless your a SB????

  502. Taz says:

    Lmao Texas I would love to hear how that went!

    Hey Beach – how was your day?

  503. photogirl says:

    That is very odd TexasSD as from my understanding SBs cannot contact SBs and SDs cannot contact SDs.

    What did he say to you?

  504. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    from an SD???? hahhahahh

  505. texaSD says:

    Ya, just seeing why, I told him, I was checking out the competition

  506. texaSD says:

    I was helping Lisa with searching, now I guess some of them were curious why I was looking, I got one email, LOL :))

  507. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TexaSD~ you are sugar baby??? hahahhha

    Taz Still here girl

  508. Taz says:

    Anyone still here?

  509. texaSD says:

    Lol- 3 of those SD’s looked at my profile

  510. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    night TXSB!

  511. TXSB says:

    I gotta turn in too…starting to yawn.

    Good night everyone!

  512. texaSD says:

    ah ok, I gotta eat, If i dont come back, i fell asleep lol..

  513. TXSB says:

    I’m in that area so go there all the time. Although I can only afford Macy’s, BR, Ann Taylor, Marshall’s etc…..I do window shop often at Saks, Nordstorm etc.

    How often do you come here?

  514. texaSD says:

    TXSB- ahh been awhile since I been to the Galleria

  515. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Night TexaSD!

  516. TXSB says:

    “RealisticSD says:
    Thank you, you just made it a lot easier for me. Now I know what gifts to get you that will be appreciated, lol”

    *** Hahaha…..that’s not an all inclusive list! 😉 You’re sooo lucky that you’re not able to go to the Galleria w/ me…b/c even just 1 hour with you at Saks…ok, I’m drooling just thinking about it! 😉

  517. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Your right, totally forgot about that! oups I am trying to learn mandarin it’s so hard,,,,but i can say a few things and sing happy birthday! 😀
    not that it’s going to help me any!

  518. texaSD says:

    Beach- just like a few words, and they speak Cantonese in HK along with english

  519. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    texaSD~ you said you were going HK, do you speak mandarin?

  520. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Yes that’s right texaSD

  521. texaSD says:

    Only premium know I listed them right?

  522. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    that’s great texaSD!!! when are you going to mail them? or are you waiting to see if they will mail you?

  523. TXSB says:

    Are you blue or orange? Can I at least get that much? Pretty please…. :)

  524. texaSD says:

    Beach- I have found some girls, my favorite list has about 9 now,

  525. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    texaSD~ how is the search going any dates?
    since your not telling ….. :(

  526. texaSD says:

    Oh wait, i am not going to say

  527. texaSD says:

    TXSB i can’t remember if you did either, but i know someone did lol, hold on I will check if you did,

  528. RX8sb says:

    I am sure that if I wasn’t born in california or lived most of my young life back east, that I would like vegas more and be able to tell you how great it is here. but in all honesty i can’t.

    besides the 24.7 convenience I have tried to leave vegas now for … mmm hold please … 4 times now I think because I really don’t like it here.

    I miss green, and autumn where the weather bites at you and you get to wear your layered clothes and long jackets. I was born in the autumn and it is my favorite season, and I don’t get one here.

    the spare moment while I am putting my son to bed to check on the blog, is done. this time i am off for the night. before my son wakes. so talk to everyone tomorrow.

  529. TXSB says:

    I don’t remember but if I did….I lied!! BTW, I do think I *may* have just viewed your profile.

  530. TXSB says:

    I know your question is for RealisticSD but since he’s gone for the night…I wanted to mention a few things. I’m sure he will correct me if I say anything that’s not accurate.

    He can answer about his previous SBs but I do have a job. Him and I have an agreement for a flat monthly “allowance” that’s paid in cash. But I will add that in addition to my allowance, he does offer/has helped me with other “things” that’re not part of our arrangment…..but that’re “gifts”. Now please keep in mind that just b/c I get that cash every month, that doesn’t mean I’m spending it.

    I’m not in school and don’t have kids. I use the money for various items (I’m not comfy getting in too many details here), save part of it for major purchases that I know I will be making in the future(house for example in a few years) BUT…I will say this…part of my allowance also goes into savings for the future/emergencies. I don’t think any of us can put a “limit” on how much you can have in savings.

    I guess my point is that I don’t know about other SBs, but for me, my allowance isn’t about what I need at this very moment…..it’s also about planning for the future in terms of being able to afford a house someday, having enough $$$ in the bank if God forbid I’m in a horrible accident and can’t work for months…or just savings in period.

    *** Oh on a side note, Realistic is VERY generous and to be honest, I have a hard time believing there are too many of him out there.

  531. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Did everyone leave????

  532. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    New SB in SB~ night girl, I wish you tones of travel sugar dreams…. 😀

  533. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    texaSD~ I wasn’t there when they were giving patience away…. hahhahh

  534. *sighs* Getting late. Sweet sugar dreams all!

  535. texaSD says:

    TXSB- Weren’t you saying to be patient lol?

  536. texaSD says:

    One day I will “One-up” Realistic, my goal is in 10 years or less… lol

  537. texaSD says:

    Realistic is just loaded lannie, I have come to terms with that, so should you lol…

  538. Follow the blog Beach- I think it’s telling!

  539. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TexaSD~ i hate fishing!!! hahhah just send me a hello??? :)

    New SB in SB ~ sorry , trying to do other things at the same time….

  540. TXSB says:

    The suspense is killing me! How can you be so cruel? 😉

  541. texaSD says:

    Well that would narrow it down to much beach lol your such a cheater

  542. Beach – I do have a passport…just hoping I get to travel extensively next year…fill it up!

  543. Lannie says:

    RealisticSD says:

    “Well, with the pair, it was their allowance (approx $20K for 3 months, but dumped them at the beginning of the third month), then they needed help for a mover ($500) a TV and furniture (approx $4500), urgent help with rent and bills ($1.7K), travel ($2.5K) and some other things I forget at the moment. Granted, having two SBs doubled the allowance, but my point being that an SB costs a lot more than her allowance. The same will be true for any SB.”

    Wow! I must be doing something wrong…lol.. that seems very extravegant. When you make an agreement are you agreeing to all this up front? I love a generous man but honestly in my past long term sugar arrangement there were many months of each year that I refused an allowance when I did not need the financial help. Call me crazy but this is not a job for me but a mutually beneficial relationship and I am always upfront in my needs right to the penny and on what months I need that help for tuition or art supplies. Did these SB’s have jobs? I recently noticed a trend where it appears many SB’s are looking for big money and not in school, raising children or even with goals for the future. Realistic do you ever feel like you are being used when things like that happen? I have been so overwhelmed with my responses on this site that I am just trying to figure out why to some degree. Hope you have a sugar filled week.

  544. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    how tall are you?

  545. texaSD says:

    Beach-Nope i wouldn’t tell you if you did, but 1 time someone on the blog did view my profile, I will not name them tonight though haha

  546. texaSD says:

    RX8- Ahh I miss Vegas how is it?

  547. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    New SB in SB~ you don’t have your passport? I would love to go to HK , Italy … I love to travel!

  548. I hope to have to get a new passport by Dec 2010 b/c it will have stamps from Italy and warm, exotic places! Travel Daddy will work nicely.

  549. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TexaSD~ hummm if I viewed you , would you tell??? Coz i think did!!!

  550. TXSB says:

    “RX8sb says:
    you should check out ikea”

    *** Thanks! Yea I was trying to make the place cozy and warm (not like there’s a lack of warmth in Texas!)! SD and I did check out Ikea! :) LOL….our living room is from Crate&Barrell, bed frame from Ikea, today got a lot of the bedding, bath, some kitchen stuff from Bed, Bath, and Beyond. Still in search for dining table.

    No offfense taken! :) I quote stuff just to make is clear what I’m responding to…..but yea, I do have a tendency to quote too much at times.

    No problem! (btw, we’re the same age lol). But when you do feel “ready”, pretty please share it!!! :)

  551. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    My passport was not stamped when I got it!!! :)
    you will get there New

  552. RX8sb says:

    you are welcome BG always glad to help a friend.

    yes texaSD I am in vegas.

  553. Texas SD – Have a few…one stateside and one in HK. Think BIG!!!! (I don’t think you need any encouragement here!)

    Gemi – Let’s put those passports good use!

    Nephron – Is St. Louis one of those “undesirable” locales?

  554. texaSD says:

    New– Don’t feel bad, I was like that a few years ago, then things picked up, and I have a few stamps now :), Hell i even overstayed 1 country lol

  555. Gemini29 says:

    Pft, I missed them all.

    And I have a current passport.

  556. texaSD says:

    New SB in SB– Or when i go to HK again lol

  557. Asian- Welcome! You are a lovely and well-spoken young lady. These SDs give great profile advice, so you are well on your way to sugardom!

    TLG – Passport is ready! Never even stamped – oooh…it’s a virgin :-)

    TexasSd – Welcome..your search may be over if these sbs have their way :-)

    Hellooooooo sugars!

  558. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    texaSD ~ lol not fair …. hahahahah your from Houston? Dallas?

  559. texaSD says:

    Beach I became a premium about a month ago. so go fish…

  560. TXSB says:

    Yes, do you need a toothbrush. As for you not remembering the colors, I think you blocked out the shopping experience out of your mind….too traumatic for you! 😉

    I always include the car payment and bills in the allowance”

    *** Ah ok. See I view the “allowance” as a flat sum given to me to use as I please (for me to pay rent/bills/groceries/shopping etc). I wonder if most SBs or SD’s include “bills” as part of the allowance too?

  561. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    oh texaSD are you a blue member???

  562. texaSD says:

    you know who I haven’t seen ATL, what happened to her? is she just lurking or did she get a SD?

  563. texaSD says:

    I am about 8 years older than asian, thats what I will give ya tonight beach lol

  564. texaSD says:

    Asian ya you too go get an early lunch or something

  565. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    texaSD~ ahhhhhhhhhh, not fair…. :(
    lol how old are you, where do you live, how tall are you , i’ll try and find it hahahahha

  566. The Lone Gunman says:

    Are they all gone?


    Now we can talk about them….


  567. texaSD says:

    TXSB and beach, someday lol

  568. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Night Asian, talk soon….

  569. RealisticSD says:

    Well, good night sugar-bloggers. See y’all in the morning!

  570. AsianSB says:

    Thanks, TexaSD, hope you have a wonderful night, get some rest, heh.

    Getting off this blog, is harder than I thought.

  571. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TXSB~ sorry girl, didn’t know someone else mentioned that…
    I was wondering why .,,, is all! didn’t mean to offend anyone…

    RX8~ night girl! and Thank you again

  572. TXSB says:

    I’m dying to see your profile/pic. If you’re ever comfy enough to share your profile # with me, send it to me at TX_SB at hotmail (if not then I totally understand…no hard feelings).

    Yep, RealisticSD is my SD. Thanks for the wishes….I’m hoping to have the sugar pad move-in-ready by end of next week. :)

  573. TXSB says:

    I’m dying to see your profile/pic. If you’re ever comfy enough to share your profile # with me, send it to me (if not then I totally understand…no hard feelings). :)

  574. RX8sb says:

    txsb oooo very nice those sound lovely. i adore rich colors and the red was a great choice.

    you hits enjoy your pad. you should check out ikea, there is one in phoenix and LA they are also online. i almost spent a fortune there.

    ok i am now going to bed lol night sugars

  575. texaSD says:

    AsianSB, goodluck and have a nice day

  576. TXSB says:

    I have a current passport.

    Beach Girl:
    The reposting thing is a habit in the sense that I like to be very specific on comments that I’m referring to when writing stuff. OCSugarbaby already made me promise to cut back on reposting stuff and I’m working on it…..but it’s going to take a few days to get rid of the “habit” totally.

  577. RealisticSD says:

    What I have done is repost just an excerpt, a few words or a line or two so people know what I am responding to.

  578. The Lone Gunman says:

    Taz says:

    Was I the one excited to travel lol?!

    That was photogirl.

    Apparently she is anticipating expanded horizons; maybe she has something coming ON the horizon?


  579. texaSD says:


    This blog moves mighty fast at times, and it can be a chore trying to sort out who is responding to what.

    OMG yes it does, and I miss what people say all the time and sometimes It seems that I answer someone questions before they even say it, which makes me scratch my head lol.

  580. photogirl says:

    I don’t know about you Taz… but I did say I was looking forward to :)

  581. AsianSB says:

    RealisticSD- I have a lot of food for thought now, I’ll rewrite my profile when I’m back from class. I appreciate your help, thanks again. Your feedback is very useful, I never really saw it from that perspective.

    Hope everyone enjoys their day.. (or their night!)

  582. RealisticSD says:

    Well, I started off with the allowance with TXSB, but from previous sugar-dating I realized that the whole thing is best off with a sugar-pad. I don’t like meeting in hotels (a topic of previous blogs) and some SBs don’t like the SD to come over to their places and even if they don’t mind him coming over, they complain that they feel lazy or bored at home. So I realized that the sugar-pad is the way to go. Even before I met TXSB, I had decided I was going to get a sugar-pad, and once I met her I realized that she’d be better off with a new place to stay at, so I offered her to stay at my sugar-pad for as long as we’re together (plus one month in case I break up with her). I will pay all the bills for the place, because it is technically my home-away-from-home, even though it will clearly be her residence.

  583. Taz says:

    Was I the one excited to travel lol?!

  584. The Lone Gunman says:

    Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TXSB~ why do you repost comments? why not just answer them? just curious?

    Can’t speak for her, but the reason I do is so that everyone interested can follow along and understand what my response relates to. This blog moves mighty fast at times, and it can be a chore trying to sort out who is responding to what.

    I don’t always do it, though; just when it makes sense to me to do so.


  585. RealisticSD says:

    AsianSB, I just reread my second paragraph, and it sounds kind of harsh, but is not meant that way. As I said, I actually like your profile a lot, but I am thinking of how most people might perceive it.

  586. texaSD says:

    TXSB- I always include the car payment and bills in the allowance, I think maybe i go about things differently. I focus on what it takes to live, and let them use their job money as mad money, Car payment/insurance, rent, cell, utilities, and what is left over gas and food. thats the main reason i put allowance at 1-3k per month, i mean everyone should be able to live ok with that in TX, right? and if they work 35-40 hours a week and make 10/hour thats like another 1k clear, all in all that isn’t so bad, well at least i think it isn’t

  587. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TLG~ Hey I have my passport and i love to travel….no kids , no nothing…. hahhah

  588. The Lone Gunman says:

    So, regarding Passports….

    We have two who are in the process (one of which seems excited about ‘expanding her world’. Hmmm.)

    One has one, but also extenuating commitments..

    How’s about the rest of you?


  589. TXSB says:

    Holy crap the blog is busy!

    “RealisticSD says:
    Honestly, RX8sb, I mostly ignore the allowance amount stated (I know I will somehow be in trouble for saying this).”

    *** No complaints here! :) BTW, yes, I will vouch for the fact that you’re VERY easy to deal with in terms of arrangment and $$$ issues…and very straight forward. Unfortunately I don’t think most SDs are like that. :(

  590. RealisticSD says:

    TXSB said, “you could offer to pay off her CC debt. You could offer to pay her car payment. You could offer to buy her a laptop (or give her money so she can buy one).” Thank you, you just made it a lot easier for me. Now I know what gifts to get you that will be appreciated, lol 😉

  591. RealisticSD says:

    AsianSB, I agree with TLG on dropping the age-related equivocations. You’re 19 and there is nothing wrong with it unless it makes you feel uncomfortable being intimate with a man twice your age. Remember that youth is the currency of sugar-dating.

    Also, drop the, “I am not exactly sure why I am on this site,” and instead figure out why you’re here. If you don’t know what you want, the sugar relationship will never work. Sorry to say it so bluntly, but if money, gifts, and travel won’t make you happy, then you’re on the wrong site. There are plenty of other sites where guys would love a relationship where the girl thinks that “laying out on a plain grass field—looking up into the blue sky” will “be enough for me”.

  592. AsianSB says:

    RealisticSD- Oh, I see what you mean. I wanted to make a point that I did not want a business transaction, but I think I need to reword it so it does not come off like I am looking for a relationship. Thank you for your input and suggestions.

    TexaSD- Ahh, no worries. I hope you get your rest. I know about 7-9 stables and riding centers in HK. But, sadly in HK, I am not able to ride frequently.

    TLG- Aww, that is very sweet of you. I will reword the first part, I always felt it to be misplaced.

    Beach- Ehh, I guess that means a photo update?

    RX8sb- sexy car :) haha, good night to you.

    Wow, just realized. Responding to everyone and keeping up with this blog is actually very tough.

    TXSB and RealisticSD- Ah.. I must be very slow, so you to are together, haha. I hope your sugar pad will be very homey for you to in no time. How TXSB described it, sounds already perfect.

  593. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TXSB~ why do you repost comments? why not just answer them? just curious?

  594. texaSD says:

    RX8- you are in Las Vegas?

  595. Taz says:

    Lisa – you don’t want to have to wear a coat! I want summer!!

    TLG – being Canadian and saying I am available to travel – I AM in the works of getting my passport…

    Lively night on the blog! Fun catching up :)

  596. TXSB says:

    Yes, I agree that an SD ends up spending waaaay more than the allowance. But from texaSD’s post, I gathered that this particular girl had her allowance listed at $10k-$20k….and I assumed she’s not including dinner, trips, gifts etc. on this amount. IMO in Texas giving someone just $10k cash in allowance a month (excluding everything else) is ridiculous.

    “texaSD says:
    RealisticSD– on the amount thing, thats why I like women who are really just looking for an allowance as opposed to gifts, Sometimes I have so much stuff in my head, I can’t even remember to eat, let alone what pair of CL’s to buy or someone’s ring size”

    *** “Gifts” doesn’t have to be rings or CL’s or others items that YOU’re buying for her. Outside of the allowance, you could offer to pay off her CC debt. You could offer to pay her car payment. You could offer to buy her a laptop (or give her money so she can buy one)….etc. Personally I consider “gifts” to be any money my SD spends on me outside of my allowance….since none of it is part of our “arrangement”. Anything given to me outside of my allowance is purely out of generosity and I consider it a gift (and am VERY greatful for it!).

  597. texaSD says:

    anyone microwave their toothbrush besides me?

  598. RealisticSD says:

    TXSB, the sugar-pad will look all great in no time! I’m glad you’re keeping track of the colors because if someone quizzed me about what colors we bought, I’d be stumped. Reminds me of the old movie Green Card, where they ask all sorts of dumb questions about what color the wife’s toothbrush is and all. The hell if I knew what color my own toothbrush is. Which reminds me, I better get a toothbrush for the sugar-pad, lol 😉

  599. texaSD says:

    AsianSb– I am not going to lie, I didn’t read all your profile, it was late and I was crashing

  600. The Lone Gunman says:


    Always remember that Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers from the male of the species.

    I checked your profile, and you are correct–I found it too wordy. Comes across more as the preamble to a book, rather than a profile.

    Rewrite the first section, dropping the age-related equivocations. I’ll let others chime in now with their viewpoints.

    BTW–from your photos, you are quite lovely. California lost a lot when you went to China.


  601. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    hahhahh TexaSD~ you are thinking???? lol about?
    web cam photo???? hahhaha

  602. texaSD says:

    Asian Sb, wait i think its a housing sub-division, but i think there is a equestrian center like right next to it.

    ya you did type that, but when i copied and pasted it, the page said profile not available (probably I didn’t do it right)

  603. AsianSB says:

    texaSD- Coincidence indeed, heh. Glad to make your list

  604. texaSD says:

    AsianSB there is this place out in the NT called St Andrew place (if i remember correctly) they have an equestrian centre

  605. RX8sb says:

    that would be tempting TLG as mine is current, but I have my son to consider, and he still comes first.

    and on that note I bid you all good night.

    it is getting late, so good luck and have a fabulous day tomorrow.

  606. RealisticSD says:

    AsianSB, I personally like your profile, as it’s very romantic and touching. I like romantic sugar-dating, and if the relationship feels too impersonal or business-like, I get turned off rather quickly. But I think some SDs might be concerned that you’re looking for too much of a relationship and will be clingy and emotionally needy, especially since you say that “money does not need to be a deciding factor of what is fun”. I am not disagreeing with anything you say and I personally prefer your honesty and romanticism, but keep this fact in mind.

  607. TXSB says:

    SD & I bought quite a few home stuff for the sugar pad. For the bedding color, it’s solid taupe color sheets, and the duvet coverts are striped (although solid) dark red/maroon. SD picked the red saying it’s a “sinful” color. :) The bath color are dark gold. I was looking at some wall decorations too but but didn’t see anything that grabbed me….living room colors are dark brown/deep orange/deep yellow. I forgot all the brands and the stuff if over at the other place so can’t look now. :(

  608. AsianSB says:

    texaSD says:
    October 27, 2009 at 10:22 pm

    Asian, i think you mean 324759

    Hmm, I thought I typed that. Thank you for the correction :)

  609. AsianSB says:

    TLG – haha, thank you for the explanation, was wondering if you were going to add more or if I had to e-mail you for the information.

    I am disappointed to realize that is what a travel daddy is though. I was hoping it was a SD that traveled a lot and to various places, meaning likely to have a SB at the place he traveled to.

  610. texaSD says:

    I have faved your profile, i saw it the other day… or at least i think thats you
    hell of a coincidence

  611. texaSD says:

    Asian, i think you mean 324759

  612. texaSD says:

    I am in Texas, I am from Vegas, I grew up there near Cheyenne and Tenya(for all the LV bloggers) , Went to School there, a lot of my friends still live there… I am thinking Beach lol ;)… I don’t do pictures well, and I am probably one of the few people who actually doesn’t own a picture of themselves,

  613. The Lone Gunman says:

    AsianSB says:

    TLG – Can you explain what a travel daddy is?



    Oh–wait….you wanted more, didn’t you?

    Over time the Sugar world has developed it’s own set of language shortcuts. A Travel Daddy is an SD that rewards his SB(s) with travel to various and sundry places that are of passing interest; Vegas, for example, or Cancun.


  614. AsianSB says:

    Here is my profile number: 324759

    I am feeling a bit nervous of what the feedback would be..

  615. texaSD says:

    Asian SB- Yep, Actually that sounds pretty cool, HK I haven’t been for a while, I heard that they are going to finally do something with the old airport in Kowloon

  616. The Lone Gunman says:

    AsianSB says:

    TLG – Can you explain what a travel daddy is?



  617. photogirl says:

    TLG – Yes, I am very much looking forward to the expanded world!

  618. lisa says:

    photogirl, no I didnt’ catch up on the blog, was busy when I got home from work. The days are getting shorter so I become a prisoner of my home earlier and earlier. Got to get ready for work tomorrow and get to bed soon, Have a good night everyone

  619. AsianSB says:

    TLG – Can you explain what a travel daddy is?

  620. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TexaSD~ Vegas? Live in Vegas or are you in Texas ? sorry i’m confused lol
    you should send me a mail here… lol
    sorry too curious!

  621. The Lone Gunman says:

    AsianSB says:

    Question for SBs and SDs, I have a rather long profile message, but I have noticed everyone else seems to have something short and sweet. Which is the way to go? Do long profile messages turn SDs away, (I don’t think I would like an SD that wouldn’t even take the time to read a profile though..)

    Without actually seeing your profile, it’s a hard question to answer.

    If you will post the profil number, we can all look it over and give you feedback (including other SBs!).


  622. texaSD says:

    AsianSB- you still here?

  623. AsianSB says:

    TexaSD- Are you traveling for work? Maybe we can chat when you visit Asia for your next trip. Manila is a 2 hour flight, and I think Tokyo is about 4-5 hours.

    Question for SBs and SDs, I have a rather long profile message, but I have noticed everyone else seems to have something short and sweet. Which is the way to go? Do long profile messages turn SDs away, (I don’t think I would like an SD that wouldn’t even take the time to read a profile though..)

  624. texaSD says:

    Beach- nope, I am actually from Las Vegas,

    RX8- I think i saw a few, mind you a few is under 5, but there seems to be a lot of SD’s there, some of them are full of it though, the net worths and yearly income don’t match, if you have 5m and your income is only 175k then they are an investing idiot or didnt update their profile…

    TLG — 90 days, ok that sounds probably about right then. thanks,

    well anyway about the porn star, she wanted a per meeting cash thing, which all I can say is ehh

  625. photogirl says:

    Lisa – ewww…it may has well have been! I take it you didn’t see my post earlier.

    “Speaking of escorts I just had a very uncomfortable experience. I decided spur of the moment to shoot a memorial going on… one of the men there helping approached me asking what I was doing and if I remembered him. Confused I said no, I do not. He tells me I came to his parents house. So I thought oh… a wedding! Nope. He tells me I came to his house for an out call!! WTF… I told him I do not know what he is talking about, I don’t do that kind of thing and he obviously has the wrong person! Creeped me the hell out!”

  626. The Lone Gunman says:

    photogirl says:

    TLG – Working on getting my passport!

    That’s great to hear!

    It’s the first step towards an expanded world. Just think of the kinds of places you could go with your SD (travel Daddy?) once you have that document.


  627. lisa says:

    uh was it that creepy naked guy in the yellow raincoat that flashed you?

  628. RX8sb says:

    awesome. i am glad that you got them. one of these days i will get away from the desert.

    and texaSD you find any decent ones near vegas? and that profile of the asain you listed his profile? 😉

  629. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TLG~ My Passport is up to date… And I love to travel…

    Photo~ girl, i need to go an visit!!! it’s getting too cold for me here,…

    TexaSD~ Are you from HK?

    Lisa, I’m sure the cold weather is coming your way! i’m trying to send it to you hahhaha

  630. The Lone Gunman says:


    I *think* they autodelete after 90 days.


  631. lisa says:

    texaSD says:
    October 27, 2009 at 10:04 pm
    I have a question, how long does an email stay in your mailbox, I can’t find the one from the Pornstar

    about as long as someone stays in the pornstar’s box, lol

  632. texaSD says:

    Asian SB- I will be in Tokyo in January-April and I will be in Manila in December 18th i think when i leave, which is about a 2 hour flight to HK

  633. photogirl says:

    Lisa – I would have taken your creepy experience of mine any day!

    TLG – Working on getting my passport! :)

  634. lisa says:

    my passport expires in January but I think your passport has to be valid for at least another 6 months when you travel to a foreign country as I remember the “let enter for 6 months” being stamped on my passport when I used to go to England.

  635. texaSD says:

    I have a question, how long does an email stay in your mailbox, I can’t find the one from the Pornstar

  636. lisa says:

    photogirl, I ran into creepy people today too, at work. Some lady was looking at our display of chewing gum, you know juicy fruit, spearmint, etc . She picked on up and asked me “do you know anything about this gum, is this gum good for chewing?” I told her I hadn’t tried it yet.

  637. texaSD says:

    AsianSB- Ya I have a friend there right now

  638. The Lone Gunman says:

    Okay a relevant and random sort of question:

    How many SBs have current passports?

    I have headed out of the country for long weekends, and would LOVE to find someone who would enjoy the travel, but find that many SBs don’t have the proper papers for leaving/reentering the US.


  639. lisa says:

    I just want it to get cold enough so I can wear a coat , darn

  640. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Lisa~ oh shut up, 70!!! pffft you would die here,,, the summer get to about in the 80s and that is for a month or so. Then it get’s cold, then Freezing which is below 32.

    TexaSD~ hahhahah too many comments come to mind, but not one I’m gonna post….

  641. photogirl says:

    I got a little sunburn here today while running into creepy people.

    But loving the breezy weather! We also got some much needed rain this evening.

  642. The Lone Gunman says:

    Current temperature 61F here in DFW.

    AH Hahahahahahahah!!!!


  643. AsianSB says:

    texasSD – Wow, that’s awesome. My university is actually located on the Kowloon side, heh. Do you ever travel back to HK?

  644. lisa says:

    uh oh, it’s 62 here right now, burrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

  645. lisa says:

    I’ve been in lurk mode texaSD , multitasking, listening to Youtube, reading email, etc.

  646. texaSD says:

    Beach, I had one contact me,

  647. texaSD says:

    WB lisa, I have left a few posts for you

  648. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    texaSD~ You totally should, I want to see the reply hahhahah

  649. texaSD says:

    Beach, Really I couldn’t help, although I haven’t contacted her. Hmm,

  650. lisa says:

    It was a freezing 70 here today.

  651. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Lisa~ hey girl!!! how are you? hahha you read the leave you comment of this product here” type thing hahhah it must be funny!!!
    Ahhh don’t rub it in girl, it’s 34 here

  652. lisa says:

    The leaves won’t be gone in Houston till spring.

  653. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    RX8~ yes, I did Thank you Thank you…. I got everything, sent you one back….Yes, the colors here are awesome, but the leaves are almost all gone, and it’s soooooo cold!!! i’m Freezing!

  654. lisa says:

    It’s never too late

    One the subject of pornstars, gee i’ve lost track of them, not familiar with any of them after the 1980’s.

    Ladies, something funny to do when you’re bored. I am stuck home every night and have am spending my evenings laughing hysterically, well I laughed so hard I almost choked on my hot chocolate. Go to the adult product websites like “adam and eve” and view the reviews that guys do about their experiences with the “love dolls” it’s really funny thinking of a guy using one of these things.

  655. RX8sb says:

    NC gent i remember releigh, was there this time many years ago for 2 months. I remember the belt way was like driving through a tunnel of fire and gold. i miss the colors of autumn back east.
    how are you doing?

    hello lady BG how are you? did you get my emails hun?

  656. Nephron says:

    SD. From St. Louis. What about you?

  657. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Nephron~ SB from Montreal

  658. texaSD says:

    TLG- I couldn’t help it…

    RedMaru– LAST LOGIN BLOCKED BY MEMBER, your slick lol

  659. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TLG~ ROFLMAO you’re killing me hahhaha

    Nephron~ SB or SD? where you from?

  660. Nephron says:

    I think it’s too late for me. I’ve already read all of today’s posts. I’m such a loser!

  661. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TexaSD~ no i’m in Montreal ,,,, oh I’m Sweety…. you weren’t here when I changed it back to BG lol
    Send me mail on my profile give me your email, or i’ll send mine lol, i wanna see!!!

    You faved a porn star hahahhah what if the photo is a fake? taken from the net? hahha

  662. texaSD says:

    RedMaru– I didn’t know you are in ATL

  663. The Lone Gunman says:

    texaSD says:

    PS I did favorite 1 of the pornstars lol

    Would you mind taking me out of your Favorites folder?

    Thank you.


  664. texaSD says:

    beach- I don’t have a pic up on here, haha… where abouts are you, just out of curiousity? are you a TX SB too?

  665. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TexaSD~ that is what I was told, I don’t know…

    Nephron~ welcome to the blog!!! good luck not getting addicted! I think we all are… lol…

  666. texaSD says:

    PS I did favorite 1 of the pornstars lol

  667. texaSD says:

    Beach, you think that is a fake one? I don’t, but I could be wrong

    Photo, I didn’t know she has one, whoops… I thought she didn’t and she was saying that the ones in Htown are crap, which so far, she is right, I think I have only seen 2 or 3 tops that seem real to me, some are either full of bs, themselves, or want a playboy model (which there is some on here and at least 3 pornstars, 1 married…)

  668. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Photo~ oh no! you got a bug? Hope it’s not H1N1,,, my friend has it, they say….kinda scary!

    TexaSD~ I wanna see what you look like!

  669. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TexaSD~ you should be finding us, without SDs , one! hahhaha

  670. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TexaSD~ yes, i did see…

  671. texaSD says:

    right now i am guessing everyone is taking a look?

  672. Nephron says:

    Hi all. First time on the blog. Just joined the site a couple days ago

  673. photogirl says:

    Hey BG – Been better, seemed to have caught a bug.

    TexasSD – I believe Lisa has a SD, but boy are you trying for her!

  674. texaSD says:

    Beach- Ohh, well all you SB’s have sooo many stories about pot SDs, I thought I just take a look and see what type of guys are on this site, Just to see where some of you are coming from, you saw 319599

  675. texaSD says:

    Lisa- what about a SD in LA, i found this asian dude, he seems pretty decent.

    or if anyone curious lol

  676. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Lol texaSD~ why are you browsing SD profiles? I saw him, he looked nice, but I was told he wasn’t a real SD!

  677. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Hey Photo, how are you?

  678. texaSD says:

    Beach Photo- like gemini said, i am to passive to reply, lol, But reality I don’t have any reason to go to Tucson..

  679. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TexaSD~ so mail her, what you waiting for,,,snow? hahhah
    get to it, you can mail me too…. lol

  680. texaSD says:

    Beach– Funny thing is I viewed her, i don’t know if i Faved her, but she sent me an email, I thought she did that because she knew, but if thats coincidence well I will be damned

  681. photogirl says:

    TexasSD – No, non-premium(blue) cannot see who viewed them or added them to their favorites.

  682. texaSD says:

    Question to the SB’s,

    Can a non-premium SB see if I looked at her profile or if I favorite her?

  683. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TexaSD~ we know we have been viewed or faved, but not by whom, So If you fav a Blue member , SEND HER MAIL hahhahh

  684. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TexaSD~ hahha ok, I was confused there for a moment!!! Thought I might of asked you something and forgot…
    You should get on those replies there Mr Texas Man, SBs are waiting… lol

  685. texaSD says:

    Beach-Ohh, you were saying Hi and I missed it.

  686. texaSD says:

    Gemini–Plus its easy to weed the passive ones out….they never respond to my initial emails!

    ok so I am guilty of that, I think I have still 13 to respond to.

    I wouldn’t say I am passive, just more laid back…

  687. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TexaSD~ hi, late reply?

    Hey NC, Gemi

  688. Gemini29 says:

    Evening sugar fam!

    Letsee…blog questions…
    I prefer my SD to take the lead… I end up doing so much of all the planning in my real life relationships that it would be divine to have a SD initially and often take the lead in where we are going, what we are doing, etc…. although a nice balance of asking for my input and taking things I like into consideration are always nice too. I’m not looking for a passive SD, but neither a control-freak. Something nice and in the middle, with a bit of older man “lets go do this, I think you’ll like it”.. :)

    I think you can tell how a bit about a person’s aggressive or passive side through email. Plus its easy to weed the passive ones out….they never respond to my initial emails! Same goes for the too aggressive ones….they tend to send me an initial email full of their demands and needs. But seriously, I don’t think you can get the real measure of a person until you spend some time with them in real life.

  689. texaSD says:

    hi beach, sorry for the late reply there

  690. RedMaru says:

    Beach_Girl I’m good just working and sugar searching
    Hey NC_Gent Thanks hugs!

  691. NC Gent says:

    Hey Red! I drove from Raleigh to Greenville SC – rained the whole way so I feel your pain!

  692. texaSD says:

    Lisa– ya maybe you are right about the Htown SD’s, so far, I am finding nothing that seems right… and I don’t like some of their faces, maybe not genuine people… who knows, but I think I am starting to see where you come from

  693. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Hey Red how are you girl? haven’t seen you in a while!

  694. RedMaru says:

    Hey Beach_Girl!

  695. RedMaru says:

    It has progressed from drizzlin to raining here in GA

  696. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Evening Sugars!!!
    Wow, too much to reread… lol
    how is everyone?

  697. texaSD says:

    Lisa- I found a SD in H town, although just by reading his profile, I think he is BS… he makes 300-400 net worth is 500-750 and is willing to spend about 1-3k… not worth your time IMO but if you want to look, let me know.

  698. RedMaru says:

    We’re still here Realistic!
    Hey lisa! Missed ya

  699. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    OMG too funny too funny what was she thinking?

  700. texaSD says:

    RealisticSD– lol, and when i say LOL i really mean it

  701. RealisticSD says:

    OK, three posts in a row makes me feel like I am having a monologue. Time to take a break…

  702. RealisticSD says:

    Speaking of my IRL SB who found an IRL BF, once I was traveling to a tropical resort and she wanted me to pay for her and her BF to come down and wanted me to get them a room so we could all hang out. And this SB was supposedly valedictorian of her class! Things like this make me wonder if people are completely devoid of intelligence.

  703. RealisticSD says:

    RedMaru, they say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder 😉

    Although, personally I am not sure that is entirely true. Some SBs are beautiful in the eye of every beholder, lol.

  704. RealisticSD says:

    Honestly, RX8sb, I mostly ignore the allowance amount stated (I know I will somehow be in trouble for saying this). If it is in the 0-5K range, then it is fine. If it’s 5-10K, then I figure that’s what I’m gonna end up spending on her, and if it’s above 10K, then I know she’s never getting it in this part of the country, so I give her my offer, which has never been turned down. I am very straight-forward and fair-minded (I think my SB can vouch for that), so in the sense of an arrangement, I am easy to deal with. But I do realize that the arrangement leaves out many other expensive perks that come with being my SB.

  705. RedMaru says:

    Wow Realistic you’re generous bet you’re handsome too…wink

  706. texaSD says:

    LIsa- What about a Dallas SD, I have been browsing the SD profiles and which IMO some are bs, even i can see that, and some don’t add up with their amounts, and what they are will to spend on a SB, 1 guys is a multi millionaire and will spend less than 1k, but he makes supposedly 500k-1m… umm pretty stingy, I also am wondering if their Net worth needs to be updated, I mean seriously some of these guys are pretty wealthy and no one keeps that much liquid… with the market and home prices, I know they can’t be that rich in properties especially in some of the Location some of them say they are in… but I have a good amount of honest ones so far, and I found 1 guy that made me laugh because this is truly a slick guy…

  707. RX8sb says:

    your name rings very true realistic, and thank you for the allowance clarification.

    so when looking at a profile allowance amount. do you view it as a combined sum? gifts and cash? or separate?

    that is what i always thought- combined sum. starting to think i was wrong

  708. RealisticSD says:

    Well, with the pair, it was their allowance (approx $20K for 3 months, but dumped them at the beginning of the third month), then they needed help for a mover ($500) a TV and furniture (approx $4500), urgent help with rent and bills ($1.7K), travel ($2.5K) and some other things I forget at the moment. Granted, having two SBs doubled the allowance, but my point being that an SB costs a lot more than her allowance. The same will be true for any SB.

    My most expensive SB was one who never had an allowance. I must have spent 100K or so on her travel, gifts, and business over a year or so. At the end, she found a useless (yes, by every objective standard useless–no real job, not good looking, not good in bed [per her own account], and long-distance) boyfriend and she was still hoping that I’d continue to support her even though she now felt “guilty” sleeping with me.

  709. RedMaru says:

    I’m home sugars and its drizzlin in GA did I miss the action again…Darnit
    Hey Realistic!

  710. Lannie says:

    Would you like a sugar daddy who was more assertive than passive?

    I choose a sugar daddy based on many things and the ability to be flexible is one of them. I generally am the passive one but can easily take the lead when needed. In the sugar world I think this is one of the great things about an arrangement as you get the chance to often jump into many roles and there is nothing better than sugar coating.

    How can you tell how aggressive or mild a sugar will be before you meet?

    I do something that irritates some SD’s as I first will only correspond by email and ask quite a few questions to gain a grasp of where this person is coming from then messenger and finally phone and if I am pushed after just one or two messages to meet I will strike him off the list everytime. I also ask what their ideal first and second meeting would be like and at what point they feel comfortable discussing an arrangement. I think it is important to know as much as one can in advance but I do not think there is any key to actually knowing how one will be as it often takes years to know some one in the real world.

  711. texaSD says:

    RealisticSD– on the amount thing, thats why I like women who are really just looking for an allowance as opposed to gifts, Sometimes I have so much stuff in my head, I can’t even remember to eat, let alone what pair of CL’s to buy or someone’s ring size

  712. texaSD says:

    Lisa- wow another H town girl, thats cool, 381XXX i like this girl in DFW but she says the words older, and well as I am older than her, I don’t think of myself as an older man…

    and another thing, i guess maybe i should start looking at these SD profile’s because sometimes when i read all the SB comments, I really wonder what these SD’s say on their profiles

  713. RealisticSD says:

    I apparently missed a lot of drama on the blog today. Funny thing is that reading it all, I think there was a lot of talking past one another going on. My bottom line is that it is wrong to use others. I will never use someone else myself for money or for sex, and I’d rather be used than use someone else. Indeed, I have been used many times before. The statement, “Money can be replaced, being used and violated cannot,” rings true. I don’t miss the money, but I hate the feeling of having been used by SBs.

    RX8sb asked, “if you are expecting sexual activity on the 1st date, why don’t you save yourself a lot of frustration, time and money by simply calling an escort?” Personally, I have never had sex on a first date, but I could perhaps answer for men who do want that with IRL dates or SBs by saying that they likely do not like the idea of an escort (i.e. pay-for-sex), they prefer the romance and seduction, and the chemistry might just build up during the date.

    As for my smiling while shopping at Bed, Bath, and Beyond, I am always smiling, lol. But I did enjoy it :)

    TXSB said, “If you makes you feel any better, my SD is very generous with my allowance but its not anywhere near $10,000.” That is technically correct, but add up all the costs of my having an SB and it will easily approach or even exceed that, particularly if a relationship lasts only a short term. My last pair of SBs, I easily spent 25K on them in two months, and in the past two weeks I have spent well over 10K. I am not complaining, as I realize that having an SB is a very expensive luxury.

  714. lisa says:

    Yes i’ve been here most of my life, not many sds in Houston though

  715. texaSD says:

    Lisa, thats right your in TX too, I was shocked to find that many bloggers in TX lol

  716. texaSD says:

    RX8- it helps to have some sort of goal, 36-60k a year is a good amount of Tax free money… of course thats if it last a year, so I guess have some sort of plan… I think each woman comes to their amounts their own ways, mom’s have kids to feed, or need college, or some just need some attention, or some are self medicating, who knows, I don’t know if that weeds out jerks, sometimes i wonder what some of these women are doing on here to be honest, I just read 1 profile of a girl and her husband (god fearing) are looking for a job that pays at least 4k a month, they have 6 kids and don’t want to do anything immoral… kudos to that, but what is she doing here?

  717. lisa says:

    Texas is alot cheaper to live in than other places I would think. Rents are cheaper here, as are many other things but those sbs asking 10k might be looking to spend alot of money on luxuries that most likely cost the same everywhere, like designer handbags and all.

  718. RX8sb says:

    i myself put 3 to 5 K in the hopes that it weeds out the jerks.

    don’t know if that works though. as I was getting a lot of creeps on the open- amount.

    what are your thoughts?

  719. texaSD says:

    RX8– Oh not that I could see and i mean really, 10k is a lot of money 120k a year… i don’t mind 3k thats do-able, 5k if she is a greek goddess but no way i could do 10k, But then again, I do look at the profile’s that say 10k-20k, just to see what these women look like lol

  720. RX8sb says:

    I thought wordpress was just being wonky, sorry for the double post. it didn’t register on my puter that i had already posted.


    over 10K is a bit extreme. ouch, did she offer any input as her out there price?

  721. texaSD says:

    TXSB- Oh there is women in TX looking for that kind of money, although I mainly see it in Dallas, not H town, so that was a bit off for me, plus she is only 18, maybe she isn’t 100% serious on that amount, who knows

  722. texaSD says:

    Taz RX8- Oh I am patient, been looking for about a month now, I haven’t emailed them yet, and I think i still have about 13 more emails to read, but I did just get a little discouraged, she was so pretty, i don’t think i could care if she talked or not lol…

  723. TXSB says:

    Heading to gym….will catch up when I get back. Later!

  724. TXSB says:

    Yep…”busy” day. :)
    10k-20k in Htown?! (for that matter, in Texas!!)
    IMO that’s ridiculous for someone here…it may make sense for someone living in NY but why on earth does she need $10,000 minimum a month living in Htown….dang!

    If you makes you feel any better, my SD is very generous with my allowance but its not anywhere near $10,000….and the potential SD’s I met here, none of them would’ve paid that much either.

    Perhaps some of the other SDs will share their thoughts on someone in Texas asking for $10k-$20K.

  725. RX8sb says:

    sheesh, I am always agreeing with you Taz, Stop That. j/k

    buy i still do agree with you.

    now about those details on the bedding shoping. I have to curtail my spending. so would love to vicariously live through your shopping. 😎

  726. RX8sb says:

    sheesh, I am always agreeing with you Taz, Stop That. j/k

    buy i still do agree with you.

    now about those details on the bedding shoping.

  727. Taz says:

    Sorry TexasSD…you should not feel inadequate though – you will find the one who appreciates YOU – I think I am echoing everyone by saying – be patient :)

  728. RX8sb says:

    texaSD o wow yes…

    o… i love shopping for bedding, I leave my wallet in my car trunk most of the time when I go in those stores, especially ikea, I can spends gobs of cash on that.

    so, details lady. what colors, designs, where.

  729. Taz says:

    Yes indeed it was harsh…I am not here to judge anyone either way – I think OC is genuinely happy and sharing with us her experience which is appreciated as is anyone elses.

    Aside from that, everyone has their own opinion – we all don’t always have to agree, it is nice to see things for another persons perspective…can’t we all just be friends?

  730. texaSD says:

    TXSB-So I am currently shopping, and I found a cute little asian girl in H Town, however she is too expensive for me 10k-20k a month,
    way to make me feel inadequate…

  731. RX8sb says:

    finally got my son to take his nap that he has been fighting for what seems like forever and decided to catch what I was missing on the blog.

    and looks like OCsugarbabe had a great date with her pot so, congratulations that is awesome 😀

    welcome kitty, you don’t look familiar so you must ne before my intro from I think 4 blogs ago, to those here that get sucked in. lol

    and wow that was harsh. So is it a welcome or goodbye. I am confused on that one

  732. texaSD says:

    TXSB-I can see there has been quite a lot of drama today.

  733. TXSB says:

    LOL….yep…somehow I talked him into helping me with duvet covers, sheets, bath stuff etc…lol. And he did it all with a HUGE smile on his face. :)

  734. Soer SB says:

    how pathetic, that one would think that just because someone in nieve then it is ok to use them.

    I should stop second guessing myself… I was debating if I wanted to chime in on the blog, but thought twice as to the rude one, buy figured that it would not be that bad. Yet again I prove myself wrong by having to read such drama ridden drivel, sounds like the little one feeds on conflict.

    Do as you were ordered child and change the topic.

    To think how vile people become when the internet makes you anonymous so one thinks that they are not responsible for their actions.

    I can only pray that it doesn’t bite on thier a– when the sh– hits the fan.

    well goodbye.

    if I wanted to read\listen to such drivel I would have not left my ex all those years ago.

  735. texaSD says:

    wow 1.5 hours at 1 store, if its not a car dealership, or electronics store, I don’t think I could do that…


  736. TXSB says:

    BTW, since we were talking about SD’s spoiling their SB’s with shopping yesterday….big kudos to Realistic for putting up with me for 1.5 hours at Bed, Bath, and Beyond! (he HATES shopping!)

  737. texaSD says:

    Margo– I am still fairly young, and when I was in college it was pretty normal for girls to hook up with guys on the first night, or at least within the first 3 dates… thats fairly common to now for the younger girls 18-24 in college, if they are not in college 18-28. once they started getting about that age, I have noticed women will slow down some. But then again, they “hook up” with guys roughly about their own age, so on this site i think they put don’t expect sex or something because they aren’t to sure about sleeping with an older male.. (or at least thats what I think, not really sure honestly)

  738. texaSD says:

    Asian SB- I used to live in the New Territories…

  739. TXSB says:

    “Margo says:
    But men say that there are many girls who do sleep with them at first date. Why do the girls do that? Do they enjoy having sex so much that they cannot wait or there are other reasons?”

    *** TY Margo! Here are my opinions as to why girls sleep with men on the 1st date:

    1) Some women have no problem sleeping around and will sleep with anyone they’re attracted to. A friend of mine refers to these girls as “town bicycles”….These girls will sleep around and they really don’t care what others think about it. They’re just “having fun”. Just like there are men who’re willing to f**k anyone they find attractive….these wome are the female versions of those men. Not every man or women need a emotional attachment for sex.

    2) Then there are wome who’re naive and let their emotions control them. They go out with a guy who sweet talks them…and they fall for a guy’s words. They think “Oh he really loves me and wants a long term commitment”….or on sugar situations, these women hear promises of $$$, trips, shopping etc and believe every single word coming out of a man’s mouth….never once stopping to think that he *may* be lying. So since they believe all of the sweet words coming out of the guy’s mouth, if they’re attracted to the guy and the guy pushes for sex…they don’t think twice about giving in. Because after all, the guy couldn’t possibly be a liar (note the sarcasm).

    Just my 2 cents.

  740. The Lone Gunman says:

    Margo says:

    TXSB – I like your posts. But men say that there are many girls who do sleep with them at first date.
    Why do the girls do that? Do they enjoy having sex so much that they cannot wait or there are other reasons?


    Best guess is to see if they are as compatible horizontally as they are vertically.


  741. Soer SB says:

    ? decided to join the conversation and chat with those in sugartown. lurking is all well and good but i am not much of a vouyer.

    o, does it help or hinder to list per then 1 city, buy just 2 , 3 max?
    i have just the main city i am closest to but mind traveling a reasonable distance. or would it ne best to just state it in profile instead.

    typing by phone so pardon for mis types. I sometimes miss when my auto type inserts random words.

    makes for interesting reads though lol

  742. KittyBabe says:


  743. KittyBabe says:

    Thanxs OC!
    you have a good point. I actually did that because I was going to be spending some time in Miami and wanted to meet someone there. Im between Vegas an La but sadly Vegas girls have a bad reputation that I dont wanna be a part of (because Im not a Vegas girl) SO I think Im just gonna keep LA. dONT worry not hurtfull at all! ….helpfull , yes

  744. Flo Rida says:

    Soer SB – oh I have a lot of drama IRL. Who r u?

    Kitty – I need to catch a flight but will look at your profile tomorrow or Thurs.

    Gemi & Liv – you both have separate mail.

    Liv – I think i’m in love or just have a huge crush on the blonde in lingerie (who’s not a playmate btw).

  745. KittyBabe says:

    Thanxs CP~ AND SOER~ Ive had e-mails but from SD that fall out of my age box… I know it’s call a “daddy” but I dont wanna feel like Im dating my dad! lol
    also Ive been updating it recently trying to makeit as accurate with my present expectations…
    ANYWAY; yeah catching up with the blog could be a mission. but there are always people that you know have something to say that its good to read and learn from. no ofense to anyone lol

  746. Soer SB says:

    KB have you thought about upgrading your account every other month or so? that way you keep refreshing on the new status.

  747. Soer SB says:

    thank you kittybabe

    and looks like you are back to the blog, so welcome back.

    after catching how long the archives are and the comments, i have decided not to bother reading the blogs history.

    though considering how insightful Flo Rida is I am tempted to just read her post as they usually have no drama.

  748. CakePatty says:

    Hi Kittybabe-

    Hmmm……I think you are very attractive and your profile is very well written and not too long. The only thing I would change: I think it’s dolce vita instead of dulce. Not that that should matter. I am really surprised you have had that many views and not a single e-mail. Maybe some of the SDs can chime in

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Ok KittyBabe, at the sake of trying to be helpful not hurtful. But knowing someone may say it and not use as much tact or compassion I will try to infuse my supportive feedback on your profile. The first thing that jumps out at me is your multiple listing of cities. Sorry but it rings out “PRO”… You may very well be able to or spend time in those cities. Men on here looks for flags just as we do and listing multiple cities is a flag. Maybe just list two and mention the reason for the multiple cities in your profile.

  749. KittyBabe says:

    hello soer sb! welcome to sugar chat!

  750. Soer SB says:

    thank you for the welcome. maru.

    and i have noticed the same thing, as well as one person having 2 to 4 profiles up at once.

    one time they were all together, hard not to notice. some of them had one bought membership some had more.

  751. KittyBabe says:

    oohh ok , no thats it! sorry… 315865 lolol
    (that wouldve been bad )

  752. KittyBabe says:

    ohh sht! I think i send the wrong profile number…!!! ooppsy let me see

  753. KittyBabe says:

    CakePatty: here is my P number 315865 feel free to say whatever with the feedbacks anyone!!!
    RedMaru: thanks for the pom poms ! lol
    maybe my translation gets in the way … maybe I email something that sounds funny?who knows., I speak spanish! =) but check me out and let me know..

  754. RedMaru says:

    Hi Soer SB! Welcome!

  755. Soer SB says:

    I am more of a dominate personality, however I like it when a man takes charge. Not in a creepy I am going to hurt you way. just assertive and knowing what they want.

    that is the only question of the blog topic that i feel like answering. So on to the standard greeting.

    Hello fellow bloggers, I have joined a while ago but decided to chime in finally.

  756. RedMaru says:

    What is it with these guys claiming millions income and net but are light blue. Don’t tell me they can’t afford to pay for a membership….lol

  757. RedMaru says:

    Hey KittyBabe welcome back!
    I totally understand your frustration but don’t lose motivation. I’ve been viewed 209 times and I’ve been favorited but no emails….
    DONT GIVE UP (breaking out pom poms) Cheering for you!

  758. CakePatty says:

    if you want you can post your profile number and the regulars can maybe give you some feedback

  759. KittyBabe says:

    hello sugars !
    Ive been a little disconnected from the blog so Im trying to catch up on the topics but Im really starting to loose motivation and need your help!
    I rarely get emails anymore. Ive added a picture with my face (which I didnt had before) hoping it would bring more emails. Myprofile has been seen 6hundred and somthng times!!! but no emails,… whats going on ???
    Im not ugly. no kids. Im young. I really dont know whats making POT SD look away ? I dont wanna give up, but it’s frustrating!HELP!

  760. RedMaru says:

    Oh yeah OC grats on your date, crossing fingers and toes

  761. RX8sb says:

    Kit-Kat*367987* says:
    October 27, 2009 at 2:47 pm

    Also I dont know if we Know but the Gravatar thing follows us by e-mail address so if you want to Be anonomus or inciteful political or whatever it would help to change your e-mail address or your gravatar thig shows up anyway!

    it says so in the info at gravator’s site. I changed my handle for my reasons, and everyone here knows what car i drive so i am hardly hiding.

    If I wanted to hide I would have used my other junk mail account.


    Congrats OC on the date going well.

  762. RedMaru says:

    Hey sugarfam I found ya! And hey new blog!

    Yes I like my SD’s ranging from moderate mild to aggresive. I would like to be spoiled. I can usually tell the mildness or aggresiveness of a sugar by the conversation.

  763. Margo says:

    TXSB – I like your posts. But men say that there are many girls who do sleep with them at first date.
    Why do the girls do that? Do they enjoy having sex so much that they cannot wait or there are other reasons?

  764. TXSB says:

    Kit Kat:

  765. Txsb
    I do not .
    I know TLG does! I am sure there are others but I dont remember who, I know he does though!

  766. really nice Oc you always try to keep the peace on here. I always admire how you seem to keep a level head lol I have to work on that….You should be a meadiator!!

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Yea the date was good, but not sure I want to move forward and accept his offer. I need to think about this one. I do like him, however 😉

  767. TXSB says:

    Kit Kat:
    Would you happen to know how to post stuff in italics or bold?

    LOL…yea I know. :)

  768. Katrina says:

    Oc I am happpy for you I really hope it all works out you mos def deserve someone as wonderfull as yourself!

  769. TXSB says:

    Good to hear it went well! Hopefully it’ll lead to something good….

  770. TXSB says:

    Dang girl…you’re so needy! 😉 OK, I promise I will try to use a shortened version since not everyone is a quitter like me (since I quit trying to read this blog on my phone). :)

  771. Also I dont know if we Know but the Gravatar thing follows us by e-mail address so if you want to Be anonomus or inciteful political or whatever it would help to change your e-mail address or your gravatar thig shows up anyway!

  772. OC andTXSB she is talking about a post long ago and recently Reposted about 2 weeks ago Villa Cypris Went off about this guy in NJ who made somebody bleed.. I dont know why she(lady8) isnt reffrencing the post but We already been on this Nj ruff guy followed by Doom & DomDaddy
    Hope I helped
    and Txsb I agree if a lady aggrees to Override her hormones who can be at fault other than the capitan of the ship!
    cant get mad at a man for trying to get something for nothing. its skeezy but alas
    just like these SD’s who get the hypo-stupidtized from Really beautiful Potsb’s who are Scheaming they are skeezy also!
    maybe some folks Nature to just be a USER and these people are out there. it IS up to the indivivual to Screen, ask advice, and Listen to their intuition!
    I always talk to about 3 sb’s before I hit the NEXT button or go out on a date,
    as of yet None are getting past the the Eletronic state so…. still I wait prefecting my style and thoughts on this SB stuff

  773. TXSB says:

    OK….so onto a happier topic…SD just texted me….I get to see him in an hour. :)

    Does anyone else see their SD or SB for more than 3x/wk?

    Just curious as to how “common” is it for people in this “situation” to see each other several times/wk. I usually hear about 1-2x/wk.

  774. TXSB says:

    Hahahaha…….I like doing it so that there’s no confusion as to what I’m referring to. :) OK, I won’t paste your posts…….. :)

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      TxSB, deal but not posting only mine will only give us poor CrackBerry users a half a mile. Just try a shortened version. Pretty Please? 😉

      • OCSugarbaby says:

        On a good sugar note…
        I had a first sugar date last night with a new pot. Very interesting. Great Kisser! But that is all I will say for now. Still have to see how things unfold…

      • OCSugarbaby says:

        LOL no not NEEDY, just keeping the blog flowing smoother and sans drama!

  775. TXSB says:

    “OCSugarbaby says:
    Oh new Name TXSB! I like it but it gets confused with TexaSD. By the way I was not intentionally picking you or your posting style. It does however is confusing to re-read the same question on a hand held device (small screen) I love your posts! lol I think you are the latest Blog addict!!”

    *** Yep…new name! :) And yes, latest blog addict. Took care of some stuff in the AM and now waiting for SD to leave work. BTW, I’ve given up trying to read this blog on my phone….takes forever to load.

  776. TXSB says:

    “RX8sb says:
    responding to her post. She keep saying that once there is an agreement that no matter what happens that it is all good and there is no foul when things turn bad.

    I am simply reminding her that rape or abuse is rape or abuse.
    And that just because there is an agreement, things can still turn badly. and there have been cases where the woman have been beaten bloody. As posted a few blogs ago.”

    *** I’m actually sitting here literally laughing my ass off. I’ve been talking about women who have sex with men BEFORE receiving their allowance and then complain when they don’t get their allowance….and you actually got the above from all my posts? I give up. There’s absolutelyl no point in me adding anything else on this topic.

    “RX8sb says:
    yet she still thinks that when you meet someone with the intention to start an agreement then you will not be a victim no matter what happens. and that her not having been raped or victimized her working in a place that helps those women gives her the right to speak for them.”

    *** Again if this is what you got out of all my posts, then I have clearly wasted my time and words. Oh and btw, I never confirmed or denied as to whether or not I’ve ever been raped or assaulted…..but thank you for assuming that I haven’t. I’m done with this topic.

  777. NC Gent says:

    Ok — I am really confused how we got to this point — maybe I can suggest we get back to the blog topic and off the current one. We all recognize that there can be both SD and SB victims in the sugar world, and we all need to take appropriate steps to protect ourselves :)

  778. RX8sb says:

    TXSB says:
    We obviously have very different definitions of “victims”. Just b/c a man tells a woman I’ll give you xyz, and and woman ***VOLUNTARILY ***agrees to engage in sexual activities with the man without waiting for the man to follow through with this promises……..this makes the man a jerk and the woman naive……..but in my humble opinion, I wouldn’t consider the woman a “victim”. (I guess I could say she’s a “victim” of her own naiveness).


    responding to her post. She keep saying that once there is an agreement that no matter what happens that it is all good and there is no foul when things turn bad.

    I am simply reminding her that rape or abuse is rape or abuse.
    And that just because there is an agreement, things can still turn badly. and there have been cases where the woman have been beaten bloody. As posted a few blogs ago.

    yet she still thinks that when you meet someone with the intention to start an agreement then you will not be a victim no matter what happens. and that her not having been raped or victimized her working in a place that helps those women gives her the right to speak for them.

    Find such thoughts to be destructive and misleading

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Well Lady_8/RX8sb, I think we need to put away the highly sensitive topic and take off the caps lock for today. I do not condone a poster getting in the face of another. Opinions will be opinions. Let’s let it rest and play nice. TexSB is entitled to her opinion and she did nothing wrong.

  779. RX8sb says:

    *But I just feel violated that the 1st guy gave my phone # and pic to someone else w/o my knowledge/consent.
    *Bunny—sorry to hear you still have the stalker problem even after blocking him.
    *My friend went out with JB from Clarke, NJ. He promised her an allowance of thousands of dollars a month, but he had no intention of following through. He just used her for sex and it was very bad sex. He made her bleed. So be careful out there! Freaks are waiting for u!

    ***You would be AMAZED at how many members of this site and other SD dating sites are on that blacklist for doing HORRIBLE things to women. My girlfriend and her “blacklists” have saved my butt on a number of occasions, and I highly recommend that you add this to your screening method in addition to running criminal background checks.***

    ~So I take it that you want to keep blinders on. I can find many instances where one was made a victim.

    So if you wish to keep your blinders that is for you to decide.

    But to say that just a woman says yes at one point then later says no and the issue is forced, that she is in the wrong is just false.