9 years ago
Sugar Dating and Marriage?

9 years ago
Sugar Dating and Marriage?

For many of us, marriage is not in the equation when it comes to our Sugar Daddy dating, but for some, it’s the ultimate arrangement…

Would you have an arrangement with a married Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby? Why or why not?

Are you looking for a monogamous Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby? What do you think about having multiple sugars at once? Would you?

How long do you want to stay in the Sugarbowl?

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640 Responses to “Sugar Dating and Marriage?”

  1. venturaSD says:

    I have no problem with having a married sugar babe, as long as her hubby does not know my identity, and is not gonna come after me with a gun.

  2. Jade says:

    I have absolutely no problem with having a married sugar daddy.

    I’m a new sugarbaby so sugar daddies in the tri-state area or anywhere in the United states or Jamaica who will pay for travel expenses check me out. I have clear recent pictures.

  3. Would you have an arrangement with a married sugar daddy or sugar baby? Why or why not?

    In my case, I’m open to all possibilities. But I prefer a smart married sugar baby though. I don’t want us to get caught and cover our faces with a paper bag out of shame.

  4. I kinda liked Flo’s list of what to do before meeting at home. LOL

  5. Carolyn says:

    I think there is nothing creepier than a guy who wants to “do business” so to speak without every having met you. I think that the complete disregard for personal safety on his part is a grade A indicator that your safety probably doesn’t matter to him either. :(

  6. Flo Rida says:

    Taz – I blogged on how I brough up my allowance in the archives. Then Realistic or Sincere said they wanted to see ‘Use of funds’ (being expenses and debt) to which I would reply this is not relevant. Substitute the amount that works for you.

  7. Flo Rida says:

    OC – don’t you know my sense of humor by now!

  8. Taz says:

    Have fun and good luck Yaz!!

  9. Taz says:

    Hey everyone :) Friday again – woo hoo! Got back from my date – went very well – very nice gentleman (and close to home yay!) We will see – he said he wanted to see me next week again – he knows what I am seeking as far as a monthly allowance (I have been very good about talking about this BEFORE meeting, but fell off the band wagon here apparently) just not a specified amount. Any ideas how to bring this up now lol??

  10. Flo Rida says:

    JennaBeth – u need to turn off the ‘wierdo magnet’ that is currently activated on your profile. Kindly wiretansfer me the sum of $10,000 and I will arrange!

    Seriously though here is protocol for visiting someone’s home (ok it’s a tiny bit excessive).

    1 Ask for email from work email account.
    2 Ask for blown up face photo next to passport ID page or drivers license (where face is clearly identifiable)
    3 ask for pic of drivers license
    4 secure funds in advance for driver who is trained in martial arts
    5 receive half allowance in advance
    6 deposit all docs above plus verified home address with ‘home base’ friend plus instructions to go to police if you do not send a safe txt at designated hr
    7 In daylight SD assumes ‘police prone’ position and your bodyguard pats down for guns, knives, drugs
    8 Hands behind back – bodyguard uses duct tape, tie clamps or old fashioned rope to secure hands and 4ft separation on feet
    9 Bodyguard scans searches home for drugs, weapons, kidnappers hiding in closets, cameras, recording devices

    AFTER all this you can meet him in his home!

    Enjoy darling.

    NYC SB – I am going to Eastern Europe for 11 days let me know if you are in Prague. I’m sure i’ll be working hard (not).

    Play nice peeps

  11. TXSB says:

    Good Morning everyone!

    We watched Paranormal Activity. Nope…it wasn’t the movie. *sigh* Things with ex ended a few months ago (it was a total shock to me). I still haven’t deleted him from FB and last night, I was just lonely and like an idiot went to his profile and was looking at pics. I was too scared to go to bed b/c of the movie, and then got depressed thinking about ex. :(

  12. Yaz10 says:

    Hi Everyone!!!!! Slow day for me today. Getting ready for my date :-)

  13. EastCoastFilly says:

    Are any of you girls weary of answering profiles that say looking for no drama, fun dinners and travel. Doesn’t that signify they won’t give you an allowance? It seems to be the younger guys and I am hesitant to email back anymore as I dont think it amounts to anything.

  14. Coco says:

    Hello Sugars…..

    Omg…i have to admit that I’m addicted to this blog even though i never had a chance to leave a comment.

    Ya’ll have great comments and I guess it wouldn’t hurt to seek your advise.

    I’m a new bee on the site. I dated a SD in the past through a different site over 6 years ago who ended up becoming my BF…but things didn’t work out and we ended up being friends after that.

    I’m single now and ready to seek another SD…not looking to get attached since i have a 4 yr daughter. Just don’t want to date people who aren’t matured enough.

    I noticed that most SD look at my profile but don’t leave any msgs. Does my profile turn them off or am I in the right path?

    By the way…I love ya’ll.

  15. 2Chic says:

    Shout out to “Just Dee” I am from Wilmington area originally. So happy u are here.

  16. cleo*406468 says:

    so weird, my profile was approved this morning but my third photo (which i put up hours before i changed my profile – like 12 hours even) still isn’t…

    anyway the best advice i’ve heard here or anywhere is to trust your gut and respect yourself… so i concur with everyone else: don’t go to his place until you’re ready to ‘seal the deal’ so to speak :)

  17. lisa says:

    You have to pay for the toothbrush before you can open it and feel the bristles against your teeth, you have to pay for the ice cream cone before you get to lick it.

    Have a good day everyone

  18. TXSB says:

    NYC SB:
    Have a fun and safe trip! :)


    “NewSB in SB *395409* says:
    Many sbs here have stated noone gets a test drive…or “get to know you” session until 1/2 or all of the allowance is paid.”

    I completely support the above statement. There are too many men out there ready to “hit it” w/o any interest in paying the allowance. IMO it’s not worth it for a woman to take that risk. I forgot who but someone wrote a great analogy a few days ago….you don’t get to try a toothbrush before buying it. :)

  19. Just Dee in NC says:

    Hi, 2Chic! Thanks for the welcome. Where do you live now? I’ve been in Raleigh almost 26 years and love it here.

  20. Jenna – Depending on the time frame, I would worry if he doesn’t have the hotel/flight booked yet. Have you been able to check him out in any way? Also, I agree with all the others that you should always be in a public place for the first date. If he’s sending up red flags, it may be good to trust your instincts. Many sbs here have stated noone gets a test drive…or “get to know you” session until 1/2 or all of the allowance is paid. Just my $0.02! Good luck!

  21. TXSB says:

    Others already mentioned the whole not going to his house on the 1st meet. It’s sad to hear that this “SD” has no interest in having a face to face convo w/ you before “getting to know you”. I wonder if he’s had other SBs actually say “yes” to this.

  22. TXSB says:

    This is weird…..my comment to photogirl posted before comments that were already posted.

  23. Rachel 386002 says:

    Jenna – If your gut is telling you something is wrong… then something is wrong. Never underestimate what you sense/feel. There are reasons we doubt and are unsure of things. I agree with everyone else here.

    On a side note, I had a good conversation last night (phone) with a pot SD…. then it took a major turn for the bad. Asked me to drive to nyc to spend the night with him… ummm… sorry, I’m not that kind of girl (is what I said). He said well how many “dates” (said with a higher pitched annoyed tone) do I have to go on before you’ll get nasty.

    This was when I told him that it isn’t going to happen… at least….not with him. He then asked for at least phone sex. I wished him a good evening and disconnected the call and immediately blocked his #

    Seriously thinking about deleting my profile and not looking anymore. Well, back to work. I’ll be back on later.


  24. Anna Molly says:

    I concur with everyone.

  25. JennaBeth says:

    Or even the hotel first , point being — he wants to “get to know each other ” before we even have dinner .

    Like I said , I just politely told him , Im not that kind of girl , and I’d like a face to face conversation over dinner first . We’ll see what happens .

    No hotel is booked , no flight is booked yet , and really until Im actually there having dinner — I think my odds of getting stood up are about 70%.

    And if I never hear from him again , after he reads that email , well then I’ll know !

  26. EastCoastFilly says:

    Jenna: Is he actually asking you to go to his house? Thats a no, no even in real life conventional dating. Despite our innocent intentions that signals early on that your ready for you know what in a mans eyes.

  27. NYC SB says:

    Jenna Beth – I am more concerned about your safety at that point. You have never really met the man and your first meeting is taking place on his turf… in his place… what if he turns out to be some nut job and forces himself at you… this is the internet and you just never know… im sure you have thought about this as well so im just reinforcing

  28. Just Dee in NC says:

    Good morning, everybody.

    SouthernGent2, what part of the South do you call home? Raleigh, NC here.

  29. NYGent says:

    Yes, something weird going on with chrono of comments on the blog.

  30. NYGent says:

    JennaBeth: as a SD I consider it a counterproductive strategy to invite pots to my place on first date, it sends the wrong signal and usually chills any further relationship. Certainly never before dinner for someone i’ve never met. Very occasionally after dinner if only briefly to wait for a car service to arrive to take her home, if we had dinner in my nabe. Second date is a different matter, if the first date was a good one.

  31. Anna Molly says:

    Hi photogirl :)

    Like I said….he likes it on the bottom….lol.

  32. VillaCypris says:

    Jenna Beth – scroll up and read the article I posted yesterday afternoon… illustrating exactly what NYC SB just wrote…

  33. EastCoastFilly says:

    If there are any SDs who would not mind sharing their emails address and would like to give me advice let me know. I dont’ want to post details here :(

  34. NYGent says:

    Photogirl/Jenna: I suspect you’re right that there’s more poofing by SDs. But it’s not infrequent with SBs. In my own experience I have been “stood up” (in the sense of a complete no-show or a cancellation so close to the date as to amount to the same thing) approximately 7-8 times. Poofing on emails happens a lot, I’m sure for everybody of both sexes, I don’t even keep count of that. I think a lot of that is people reflexively express interest when there’s really not much interest in the first place, so the poof doesn’t really mean much.

  35. JennaBeth says:

    NYC SB–

    I agree, and yes , I will have a hotel for the night , theres no way Im flying 9 hours in one day ! lol

    I told him , Im sorry , but I just dont work like that , and I actually do need to have a face to face conversation with someone for a bit , before I can make that decision .

  36. NYC SB says:

    Jenna – He could have been working late that night… not unusual… however his proposal as to how things play out if you two were to meet is not cool… shouldnt he take you to a public place to talk first before going to his place… also if you are flying in shouldnt he book you a hotel room?

  37. JennaBeth says:

    photogirl— Ive had pot SDs tell me stories of poof SBs , but for the most part , ( in my experience ) I gotta say theres more poof-daddies . Are we talking actually stand you up for a date or meeting , or just drop off the face of the earth email/ texting wise all of a sudden ?

  38. SouthernGent2 says:

    Its Friday. Back in town. Am I still FOS?

  39. photogirl says:

    Poof Daddies seem to be reappearing all over the place. I am curious if the SDs experience this with Poof SBs?

  40. photogirl says:

    Jenna Beth – Sounds like he has things backwords. Yes, I have read that many SDs have seperate cells. If he says he leaves it at the office does not make sense as to why you are receiving texts late in the evening. He could have brought it home that day? Maybe the SDs can answer this better.

    Good morning Anna Molly and SG2… that is odd that SG2s comment keeps dropping to the bottom.

    NYC SB – Enjoy your trip!!!

  41. Anna Molly says:

    Hmmm….you must like being on the bottom :)

  42. Anna Molly says:

    Shouldn’t SG2 be before me?

  43. Anna Molly says:

    Hi SG2 :)

  44. JennaBeth says:

    Good morning all !

    A couple questions to anyone on here:

    Is it customary for someone to have a phone that they only use and leave in the office . But then I get text messages from at 10:30 at night ?

    Is it normal for a ( long distance ) first date / meeting ,to go in this order —
    plane lands , meet pot SD at his place to “get to know each other” ( as he put it ) , then go to dinner and drinks . Am I just old fashioned or being a prude , But doesnt dinner and drinks come first before either person can really make a decision ?

  45. NYC SB says:

    Good morning sugar fam! I am leaving for my Euro trip tomorrow… so I probably wont be on the blog much for the next 2 weeks… :(

  46. Morning y’all.

    Palm – I’m in ND territory.

  47. Anna Molly says:

    I missed a lot! Hello and good morning to everyone new and the not so new :)

  48. photogirl says:

    TXSB – Glad you had a great night! Curious what movie you watched. Was it the movie that made you think of your ex? I sent you an email a couple days ago…did you get it?

  49. TXSB says:

    Hi to the blog….is anyone still on?

    I had a great evening w/ Realistic. Thursday’s are our “evening date” night. We had a wonderful dinner at a cozy/romantic Italian restaurant followed by a move.

    Now I’m at home…too scared to sleep (thanks to the movie) and depressed over my ex. :(

  50. cleo*406468 says:

    SincereSD was it you that I saw a few blogs ago mention ‘not much of a SD scene in toronto’? cause that implies that you know where such minute action is to be found…

    which might be fun if i feel like taking my fryes out on the town…

  51. photogirl says:

    Good evening everyone… I see it has been very busy in here!

    Hope everyone is having a great week!

  52. lara says:

    Thanks guys, never thought you’d respond. I read some on this blog . It’s pretty cool, unexpectedly I could say.

  53. palm says:

    Yaz hang in there, im sure the right ssugar daddy will find you.
    I never email a Sd i just ad to my fav those who’s profile i like i see what happens . i’ve had a few pot Sds but it never went beyond a couple of dates as i didn’t like the arrangeent they were offering.
    NewSb Im in indy.
    welcome Lara.

  54. Yaz10 says:

    Welcome Lara! :-)

  55. lara says:

    New to this lifestyle. Afraid that it could go wrong. Any advice for a newbie?
    Decided to do it because it is so hard to get a commitment in the real world. I find this as being more honest and upfront.

  56. Yaz10 says:

    Palm, It is happening to me here too…SDs I am attracted to and I feel I have a connection with don’t even care to reply to my emails :-( :-( (so I am not emailing anybody anymore) but I keep getting emails from SDs I am not interested in. Smh

  57. Palm, I’m in IN. Where are you?

  58. palm says:

    “”Yes I am going to give him a chance and get to know him a little more. He seems very sweet. Funny how life works, the ones you are attracted to, won’t give you the time of day, but the ones you are not attracted to are ready to do anything for you. *sigh* Well in my case, anyways,..””

    Oh yaz im on the same boat here that’s why we need a good sugar daddy until we find the right guy.
    no im not from Canada, im in the Midwest but where im originally from is not far from your homecountry.

  59. That is so true Yaz. I’ve been friends with guys who would be great companions, but I just “wasn’t into him”. I’ve been told my picker is broken. *sigh*

  60. Yaz10 says:

    Yes I am going to give him a chance and get to know him a little more. He seems very sweet. Funny how life works, the ones you are attracted to, won’t give you the time of day, but the ones you are not attracted to are ready to do anything for you. *sigh* Well in my case, anyways,..

  61. Yaz10 says:

    Hey NewSB!

    Salut Palm! :-) Are you in Canada too?

  62. Yaz10 says:

    No, babe I said ” he is obviously NOT JUST after a piece of ass” LOL

    I am not a fool and I know that some men can be extremely patient but the ones who are JUST looking for sex quickly vanish after they realize that they will not be getting any anytime soon lol.

  63. palm says:

    salut Yaz , eh oui une autre francophone.
    I agree with D-Dubs, it’s still what he wants………….just kidding.
    have fun on your date, give him a change and see what he is about.
    Welcome just Dee, Im sure NC gent will be glad to be friends.

  64. Hi D Dubs…did you get your date last night?

    Hi Yaz10

    Welcome Dee

    I’m back from cocktailing with friends…might be a few type-0s.

  65. Yaz10 says:

    Welcome Just Dee :-)

  66. D-Dubs says:

    Yaz, did you say a guy wasn’t “after a piece of ass”….
    ummmmmm…not possible.

    He may be more respectful…or more patient…but, its still what he wants.

    Just sayin’

  67. D-Dubs says:

    what’s goin’ on in the blog tonight?

    hey y’all!

  68. Just Dee in NC says:

    Can a newbie jump and say hi? A MARRIED newbie? 😉

    I have to say, this is one spirited group! More than 570 posts in a bit more than a day? Keeping up with y’all isn’t going to be easy!

    My profile and pic are still pending which means the email isn’t operative yet.

    And hey, NC Gent, since we’re neighbors can we at least be friends?

    Back to /lurk mode now!

  69. Yaz10 says:

    Good evening everyone!

    Red Maru: You are welcome! Glad I was able to be of any help :-)

    Wow it is very quiet around here……alloooooooo ( Echo) lol

    Lisa, come back please, Palm is not here to fight with anybody :-)

    Sooooo, I have a date 2moro lol No, not a sugar date unfortunately. I accepted to go out to lunch with a guy who has been pestering me for soo long. Lol I dont think he is SD material but he is very sweet and has been constantly trying to keep in touch with me even when I was totally ignoring him. It has been months so obviously he is not just after a piece of ass or else he would have disappeared a while ago lol
    Oh well we will see how that goes…

  70. palm says:

    …Lisa just because we disagreed in the past doesn’t mean that we can’t be here for each other.

  71. palm says:

    NewSB yes I am a returning bloger, I dont participate a lot but Iam always lurking.Lol this blog is addictive.
    Hi Lisa !

  72. Rudy says:

    Hi RedMaru :) I am new and doing well, but tired.

    TXSB & YAZ10 thanks so much for the advice on my profile and photos. I am trying the favorites technique and I am going to be brave and send some emails out!

    I hope everyone had a great day!

  73. RedMaru says:

    Evening sugars…been away all day and I see I missed alot incl lisa :-(
    Hows everyone doing?

  74. lisa says:

    palm has attacked me in earlier blogs so I will go over to my political blog now. Good night

  75. Hi Palm…Welcome! That is unless your a returning blogger :-)

    Thanks…catching up with old friends is always good. Will you be joining us tomorrow?

  76. palm says:

    hello NewSB have a goodtime!

  77. lol…dance with day laborers. One thing I’ve learned in the banking/fundraising world is never judge a book by it’s cover. Most of the wealthiest people I’ve met are the least pretentious. One day laborer could be the owner of a concrete conglomerate.

  78. lisa says:

    I’m home tomorrow night too. I hate being trapped in every night. Wish I had someone to go out with. My best friend works evenings and by the time she gets out of work, it’s late and she only wants to go to dumpy neighborhood bars and dance with day laborers. No fun

  79. Let’s do something tomorrow night. I’m sans child…a blog cocktail party? We’ll share recipes and funny stories.

  80. lisa says:

    Hi NewSB in SB, nothing going on here either, stuck in for the night
    Off tomorrow

  81. Lisa – careful what you ask for :-)

    Good news: Creepy phone sex guy is gone! Plus, pot sd date finally got in touch with what appears to be very good alibi. Rescheduled date.

    Bad news: No date tonight :-(

    Good news: Having cocktails in a little bit with a long, lost friend.

    Helloooooooooooooo sugars!

  82. lisa says:

    I think you should take him a nice lunch when you go visit him, maybe treat him to dinner at your expense, lol

  83. Rachel 386002 says:

    yes, then I should tell him what a lovely time I had and we should do it again on a regular basis.

  84. Rachel 386002 says:

    oh Lisa… he’s SUCH a keeper! LOL

  85. lisa says:

    Good evening everyone

    Rachel, wow, see good things come to those who wait, not. sounds like a great guy.

  86. Rachel 386002 says:

    Cleo – great profile! Very well written. I’m thinking about hiring someone to write mine for me (just kidding).

    Good evening everyone…. good news, I got a email today! Remember how I said I haven’t even gotten a comical creepy email…. well my prayers have been answered… I got one today.

    This man of my dreams asked me to travel to him (on my dime) so I may take care of his needs for the evening then go home. Please note I am paraphrasing. His email was cleverly disguised… this is the translation.

    DEFINITELY time to redo my profile! I’m still waiting for SD #1, starting to become less hopeful. It has been almost 2 months now.

  87. VillaCypris says:

    Flo Rida – yes, I did read your blog post in which you stated you are on a first name basis at the LP boutique…. I chukkled to myself… and when circumstances permit, we can go lingerie shopping together…. 😉

  88. VillaCypris says:

    And from the same paper…. another illustration of why safety is so important!!!! Even if you think you *know* someone…..

    Police hunt man who raped woman in front of son
    Police are hunting a man who raped a woman during a date where her three-year-old son was present.

    Published: 2:53AM GMT 05 Nov 2009

    The 23-year-old victim had met the man via the internet and they had met in person several times, Scotland Yard said.

    At about 11.30am on September 30 they met on the M2 and the victim followed him to a block of flats within 10 minutes’ drive of the centre of Sutton, south London.

    While drinking tea in the flat, the suspect punched her in the face, knocking her unconscious, before committing a sexual assault, a Yard spokesman said.

    The woman managed to escape with her son and fled the flats at about 3.30pm.

    The suspect is described as white, in his late 40s and of muscular build. He called himself Derek.

  89. VillaCypris says:

    I’m not sure if this is going to post…. but it is OH SO PERFECT for this blog topic…. you’ll have to replace the DOT with “.” and take the spaces out between the dashes…..

    www (DOT) telegraph (DOT) co (DOT) uk/ news/ newstopics/ howaboutthat/ 6474312 /Caught-on-camera-naked-love-rival-flees-furious-husband.html

  90. cleo*406468 says:

    Flo Rida: i dearly hope you went back to sleep…

    i like your changes and i made most of them but i’m hesitant to get too sex-ay in my profile because i don’t want to imply that i’m some crazy nympho when what i have is a truly healthy sex drive…

    i am bendy though

  91. SF SD says:

    Just a clarification that there is no judgment about who does or does not belong here implied in my previous answer. This is just how things have worked out for me.

  92. SF SD says:

    Greetings to my fave sugar bloggers and to new arrivals!

    Would you have an arrangement with a married sugar daddy or sugar baby? Why or why not?

    My sugar relationships have all observed the double standard. I would not consider a married SB because of the possibility of discovery, retribution, or worse by an offended husband. At the same time, my SBs have been comfortable with a married SD. Part of this is the assurance that a man who intends to stay in his marriage will not pursue an obsessive sugar relationship. The downsides are the scheduling challenges and the discretion requirements. My most recent SB was okay with these, because she didn’t have time to meet the demands of a boyfriend, but really liked having a man in her life.

    Are you looking for a monogamous sugar daddy or sugar baby? What do you think about having multiple sugars at once? Would you?

    Personally, I could not handle multiple sugars. However, I don’t think it’s reasonable to restrict an SB’s social activities without mutual agreement and a very generous and consistent allowance. In either case, an understanding about safe, um, conduct outside the sugar relationship is very important.

    How long do you want to stay in the Sugarbowl?

    As long as it works. I’ve been in and out of the sugarbowl over a period of seven years. I’m currently contemplating the future.

    SF SD

  93. always2sweet says:

    hey guys, yet another question lol. Can you only search specific profiles if you are premium? I have been thinking about going premium(thought it might help me out in sugar land) , but now have to hold off a bit longer since my car got smashed into last night. booo! Have any of you noticed a substantial difference, or increase in positive feedback since going from standard to premium. Obviously theres the ability to refine your search more, but Im wondering about feedback etc from SDs. Also, any SDs or SBs want to have email contact? Im really enjoying taking part in the blog, and getting to knoe more sugars!

  94. TXSB says:

    Question regarding hidden profiles:
    If my profile is hidden, then it doesn’t show up on search at all right? I’ve had it hidden for the past month or so yet today I noticed that I’ve gotten like 6 or 7 “views” since it’s been hidden. Also 2 days ago someone added me as “fav”. I don’t have a paid membership so can’t see who fav’ed me or viewed me….but I’m surprised b/c I thought hiding it meant no one can view it.

  95. TXSB says:

    Flo Rida:
    LOL…..oh if its just “peeking” then men (and women) can peek away all they want. I’ve been hitting the gym 3-4x/wk with my trainer for the past 2 months. I’ve always been “skinny” but since I started the gym 9 months ago and modified my eating, I’ve been gaining muscle and curves in all the right places. :) I’ve never been so proud of my body in my whole life (and this is just the beginning!). So men can peek away all the want…… :) :) :)


    Welcome back! :)

  96. Vixen says:

    Gemini29-Hey have you thought of maybe taking your sugar search over to Georgetown?

  97. Gemini29 says:

    oh my god. go away for a few days and come back to a totally new blog to read up on!

    Would you have an arrangement with a married sugar daddy or sugar baby? Why or why not?

    Not very interested in a married sugar daddy. Too many time constraints, and would just prefer my sugar daddy to be single. Also bad karma and all that, not something I want to get tangled up in.

    Are you looking for a monogamous sugar daddy or sugar baby? What do you think about having multiple sugars at once? Would you?
    Um…it would depend on how “serious” the sugar daddy and I were. If it were becoming more long term and therefor more serious, then I would probably want us to be monogamous…but if it were short-term and/or still in the early stages, I probably wouldn’t mind. This all holds under the honesty and truthfullness thing though, both parties should own up to all other SBs or SDs.

    How long do you want to stay in the Sugarbowl?
    As long as I can…the sugar bowl has been kind to me, although still looking to A) actually MEET my gift daddy and B) hope to find a steady Mr.Perfect SD!

  98. Flo Rida says:

    Cleo – suggestions only ‘I’m toned beyond belief & flexible (Pilates) too – care to find out’. When you say that you can travel you should specify that you will travel after reasonable travel expenses have been advanced and your safety is assured.

    i’m tempted to go back to bed – heavy night. ciao peeps

  99. Kari says:

    Would you have an arrangement with a married sugar daddy or sugar baby? Why or why not?

    Yes, I would. It would not bother me because I am not in this to break up a family, or steal a woman’s husband. I am not looking for marriage and a SD is not looking for a wife. So, why would it bother me?

    I am relatively new to this. I had a SD in the past and it worked out quite well, but it was never like an arrangement. We dated for a while (he was 15 years older than I was) and then I lost my job and he helped me out financially. I just have a question for seasoned SBs. What are some of the things I should look out for in SDs? How do you approach an arrangement with a SD?

  100. cleo*406468 says:

    Yaz: thanks! i’ve been told that before by people who care about such things… i’m just glad they look pretty in sandals!

    i also get linda carter and laura dern and many years ago (before she got really scary) celine dion… which is funny cause they don’t really look like each other!

  101. Miz_Red says:

    Helllllllo sugars!!!

    IM BACK!

    I’ve been away from SA blog for a few weeks now bc- I moved! I finally got my house! How is everyone & what’s going on in this blog???

    xo- Red

  102. Yaz10 says:

    Cleo I like that second pic! You do have cute feet lol :-)

    Oh and you do look like Carrie Ann Moss but only prettier!

  103. cleo*406468 says:

    Flo Rida: yeah, it’s a cute parrot. okay i get what you’re saying, all my good headshots are old so i’ll get a friend to take some new ones. in the meantime i’ll put up a slightly old headshot (i’m prettier now but it’ll do)

    interesting that you can tell my form is good, most people wouldn’t notice

    i hate profile headlines it’s so hard to make one that isn’t lame…

    okay no non porn star comments…

    all right i’m changing it around, sometime next week it will clear again. what do you mean about insert the travel thing?

  104. Yaz10 says:

    Good morning Sugar Fam! :-)

    It is chilly here in Albany today brrrrr

    Flo Rida: To answer your question, I would say that I would not be offended at all lol if it is just an innocent peek.

  105. Flo Rida says:

    Cleo – my you do have ‘ahem’ physical assets.

    TX-SB & Cleo – I meant ‘peek’ not ‘drool’ but funny comments.

    Palm – welcome

    Cleo – ok take these comments at your own risk.

    Pics – I’m a big fan of 1 face shot, 1 body shot + 1 extra. I’m assuming the calves is the one extra – excellent form btw. Face shot should have a smile, body shot should be in black (slimming) & show off your assets. Spend a lot of time to get the right pic (but make it effortless) as SD’s think with the little brain more than the big brain. Also I wasn’t sure you were showing someone the finger (b4 I worked out the canary?) also the face pic only shows 1 side & the canary is a distraction – this is your show there should be no distractions.

    ‘Be gentle, I’m new (but not stupid)’ – I wasn’t sure if I should be afraid of you or if this was witty – maybe that’s what you want, maybe SD’s won’t be confused – maybe insert a LOL in there or ‘be gentle, I’m new and prone to biting (but not all the time – kidding!)’

    I’m not built like a porn star – rule #1 – no negatives – delete.

    Like to find someone I would date – this will confuse men as you’ll get men who will not support or spoil you so add ‘but I’m also seeking…’

    Insert – Travel (after safety & travel expenses are discussed’).

    My $0.02

  106. palm says:

    good morning sugars!

    Would you have an arrangement with a married sugar daddy or sugar baby? Why or why not?

    I prefer an arrangement with a married sugar daddy because it allows me to have more time away from the sugar daddy and not risk falling in love ,knowing he’s not available.A none married sugar daddy is fun too as it allows you to be more spontaneous. I guess either one would be fine with me.
    On an other note, my last pot SD turned out to be a fake one . I don’t think he knows what being a sugar daddy is, he wanted to meet once a month and do a pay for play. I have a job that take care of myself and a litlte more, so I sd for me is for the splurge. I wonder if it’s not easier to find a SD IRL because the one i met before IRl always knew what a sugar relationship is about.

  107. cleo*406468 says:

    Flo Rida: hey they freed my profile, do you mind looking at it now?

    I’ve put my hand at my nipple level, waited until they noticed, and led their eyes back up. but that was when i was younger and less subtle

    TXSB: yes, exactly

  108. Flo Rida says:

    Cleo – LOL I sometimes think ‘hello lips talking here – kindly move your eyes two feet higher’. I’ve never said it though.

  109. TXSB says:

    Flo Rida:
    Depends on *how* he’s sneaking that peek. If he’s realy just taking a peek and then just shows a momentary appreciation for what he sees, then it’s ok. If he’s taking his time to undress me with his eyes and making it obvious that he’s imagining having sex with me (all this lasts way more than a “peek), then that’s just irritating and gross.

  110. cleo*406468 says:

    Flo Rida: can i answer too since it was my terrible tmi that started it?

    when a guy sneeks a peek and does it with respect and appreciation? i love it. when he leers? practically drools? looks at me in a way that makes me want to take a shower? so yecch.

  111. RX8sb says:

    Was chilly here as well. Maybe vegas is finally going to settle on a fall like atmosphere.

    Morning Maru

  112. RX8sb says:

    WOw Good morning everyone. LOL lots to catch up on from yesterday afternoon.

    How goes the sugar?

    REmember the one that messaged me trying to scam the phone number, his profile was deleted. LOL wondered who he pissed off.

  113. RedMaru says:

    Morning sugars at work its Thursday and it was cold last night. I’m definitely going to get an electric blankie brrrr…

  114. NYC SB says:

    Good morning sugars… hope all is well… im hustling at work

  115. Flo Rida says:

    vC – Victoria Secrets is sometimes referred to as Vicky C’s by my friends hence VC. Did u read my blog of ‘you know you have a shopping addiction when you are on first name terms w the manager of La Perla’ btw I went to ‘lingerie NY (or was it Miami) a lingerie runway show last yr La Perla & Gilson were sponsors – also went to a tux lingerie party last yr – yes I am over the top on lingerie.

    Yaz & Taz – TXSB – following on from the tmi last nite – when u wear something low cut & a guy ‘sneeks a peek’ are you a) grossed out b) excited c) depends on guy?

  116. SincereSD says:

    Would you have an arrangement with a married sugar daddy or sugar baby? Why or why not?
    I tend to bypass profiles with married SB. My reasoning is because it is too hard to match schedules or be spontaneous. I have seen married SB in the past but they have been separated.

    Are you looking for a monogamous sugar daddy or sugar baby? What do you think about having multiple sugars at once? Would you?
    I prefer to be in monogamous SB relationship as I don’t want to be in a discreet relationship or be to contend with jealous BF. I have no problems if my SB is bi-sexual and her bi-relationships are casual (same comment as above wrt dealing with jealous GF). Having 2 SB seems like a lot of work and I’m not sure how I would juggle 2 from a financial or schedule perspective. I’m currently involved with a SB but have gone on dates with other pots as I’m not sure where my current relationship is heading … timing time for my pot dates is difficult enough.

    How long do you want to stay in the Sugarbowl?
    Sugarbowl was a short-term solution to address the missing intimacy in my life and freedom from the drama of a mistress. However, it has postponed moves to separation and getting divorced as I have been a SD for the last 6 years. Ideally, I find someone to settle down with but that’s not going to happen as long as stay in Sugarbowl and date young models. that’s a long way of saying not more than 2 years.

  117. Anna Molly says:

    Sure is quiet today :)

  118. Anna Molly says:

    Good Morning everyone :)

    There is rain and possible snow in the forecast for my area today…UGH!

  119. lisa says:

    Good morning everyone. Wow i’m tired from getting very little sleep last night. Does anyone know if I could report my neighbors’ barking dogs to the animal control? They have 3 pit bulls that they used to keep tied outside their door but for a long while, they have kept them inside, but last night they had them all out, barking nonstop all night. They are right under my bedroom window. Reporting anything to the office is fruitless as no one in there understands English, the dogs owners are thugs so I don’t want to deal with them, but I need my sleep and can’t put up with this every night. I’m half asleep now and I have alot of physical work to do today and i’m not in a good mood.

    Have to leave for work soon, will be glad when it’s over.

  120. cleo*406468 says:

    you know it’s funny, i would have totally enjoyed the french convo…. but man it’s weird to read/write french without the accents…

    D-Dubs you do get points for punniness tha’ts for sure.

  121. TXSB says:

    OK that’s just disgusting and creept…


    Good luck on your date! I’m sure you’ll have no problem….just keep her laughing.

  122. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Nite y’all…. Off to bed too!!!

  123. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Yaz ~ We need to exchange mail, does anyone have Yaz’s email and mine? send her mine please!!! Thanks

    D-Dubs~ HAHHAHAH lol,

  124. D-Dubs says:

    well, as much as I’m enjoying all this alone time…

    I better get some sleep.


  125. D-Dubs says:

    what’s google?

    I can barely turn this thing off and on.

  126. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    D-Dubs~ use google lol to translate!
    Yaz~ you didn’t tell me what the food was like???? :(
    I love food! Bonne nuit Yaz, a bientot!

  127. Yaz10 says:

    Lol you got most of it right!

    Oh and I dont want him to fall in love with me lol I just want him to know that he has a secret admirer hehe

    Ok Good night now!

  128. D-Dubs says:

    you were talking about the food and beauty of the Ivory Coast…
    and how you hope to go back for the holidays.

    at least that’s what I was able to figure out.

  129. Yaz10 says:

    Haha D-Dubs sorry! She is all yours now :-)

  130. D-Dubs says:

    and Yaz…
    as the old saying goes…

    “you can’t make someone love you. all you can do is stalk them and hope for the best”

  131. D-Dubs says:

    No fair! I don’t speak French!

  132. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    D-Dubs~ we are back to English

  133. Yaz10 says:

    Im off to bed now lol Take care of D-Dubs 😉 lol

    Bonne nuit ma belle!

  134. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Yaz~ I would love to go, if I can, I would totally go with you!
    What is the food like, I love food!

  135. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Ok back to English, or else no one else is going to get on here lol

  136. Yaz10 says:

    Yes! Et je sais que tu vas adorer la nourriture locale! Yummmy! Cela me manque aussi :-(
    Je te ferais savoir quand je retournes l’annee prochaine et on ira ensemble! LOL!

  137. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Yaz ~ Je veux y aller avec toi! 😀
    I saw photos, c’est tres magnifique!

  138. Yaz10 says:

    Haha tu devrais y aller un de ces jours! C’est tellement beau et les plages sont magnifiques!! Ca me manque et j’esperes pouvoir y retourner pour les vacances prochaines!!!!! :-)

  139. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    J’aimerais tellement aller sur la Cote D’Ivoire!!!

  140. Yaz10 says:

    OOOOh you guys should invite me to the wedding! LOL!

  141. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Yaz~ I too have a slight French accent when I speak English lol, I don’t think I have one, but…. everyone says I do…

  142. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    D-Dubs~ Lmao!!!

  143. Yaz10 says:

    BG: Nope I am not from Canada lol

    I am from the Ivory Coast which used to be a French colony until the early 60’s. We adopted their culture, education system and language LOL. When I was in high school, back home, it was mandatory to learn two foreign languages so I learned English and Spanish. :-)
    I have to say; we thought that it was a pain in the ass back then to learn new languages but it is pretty damn useful today to be multilingual.
    I have a slight French accent even when I speak English lol.

  144. Yaz10 says:

    I wont say no names because I would rather….virtually stalk him Haha

    Yes, when they look at you regularly they stay on your list but the date they checked you out changes.

  145. D-Dubs says:

    …suddenly I’m figuring out how I should propose to Beach Girl…

  146. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Yaz Are you from Canada?

    D-Dubs ~ yes I am french Canadian!

  147. Yaz10 says:

    Lmao @ Oui! Oui! Never knew men thought that was hot lol.

    French is my first language. lol I shall try that next time…hehe

  148. D-Dubs says:

    who are you talking about Yaz?

    and, I’m not really sure that works.

    do people move to the top of your list when they look at you repeatedly? or do you have to look for when they did?

  149. D-Dubs says:

    you guys do say things funny…

    are you French Canadian at all?

    I used to see this girl from Quebec City…and, when we were…ummm…let’s just say…intimate…she would say (sometimes loudly)…Oui! Oui!

    gotta say…that was pretty damn hot.

  150. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    D-Dubs~ eh!

  151. Yaz10 says:

    Well I do “dig” someone here but it looks like he doesnt “dig” me. :-(
    Shall I check out his profile on a daily basis until he notices me? lmao!

  152. D-Dubs says:

    I just really dig Canadian women…and, they dig me…lol

  153. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    D-Dubs lmao dude!!! you kill me!!!

  154. D-Dubs says:

    yeah…ummm…I really don’t want my wood split. sounds kinda painful.

  155. Yaz10 says:

    Lmao D-Dubs is in love!

  156. D-Dubs says:

    O Canada!

  157. Yaz10 says:

    LOL Cleo I love you sense of humor! :-))

  158. Rudy says:

    Thanks for the feedback everyone :) I have updated my profile so it should be available sometime tomorrow. Let me know if I should tweak it some more.

    Have a good night!

  159. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Cleo~ you are so awesome!!! have a good night my Canadian Friend!!! we Canadian people are a little crazy!

  160. cleo*406468 says:

    D-Dubs: is this when i tell you i like splitting wood? yes i mean with an axe.

    seriously sleep!

  161. cleo*406468 says:

    D-Dubs: okay cause that wasn’t making any sense to me 😉

    oh dear, i have a client in six and a half hours. i think i should sleep. lovely to meet you all, you seem like such fun, i’m terribly afraid i’ll waste a lot of time here.

  162. D-Dubs says:

    I have a feeling that cleo can make shopping at the hardware store sound sexy…

    just sayin’

  163. D-Dubs says:

    oh yeah…
    did I forget to mention shoes?? my bad.

  164. cleo*406468 says:

    D-D: i’m sorry, i didn’t mean to make myself icky by connection. i did have the good sense to chuck him at least?

    and you don’t like shopping for shoes too? sliding a boot up her leg and slowly stroking the zipper? caressing her foot as you slip the shoe off? surreptitiously fondling her when the salesgirl is otherwise engaged?

  165. D-Dubs says:

    “measure up”?

    geez…now relating to that perv…it brings up a whole ‘nother image.

    thanks for that.

  166. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    D-Dubs~ Just what I need,,,, how did you know?
    when? where? lol

  167. cleo*406468 says:

    D-Dubs: geeze now i’m afraid i can’t measure up to the hype *g*

    i love canada too, i feel lucky to live here and to have seen some of it but there’s so much yet still to do. i really want to see the northern lights IN the north for example.
    yaz: right but i didn’t say women that are considered beautiful by the media, i said “women they consider beautiful.” these are very different things. i (for example) get told i look like carrie anne moss on a regular basis. great, if you think CAM is hot that’s awesome… but i’d rather look at michelle pfeiffer.

    don’t underestimate your ten ness for someone… let them do that.

  168. D-Dubs says:

    I’ll have to come up to Quebec and shop in person with you.

    I only like shopping for two things…lingerie and swimsuits…and, no, not for myself.

  169. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    D-Dubs ~ when is the delivery? lol

  170. Yaz10 says:

    I wanna see a pic of D-Dubs!

  171. Yaz10 says:

    Cleo: If I was a Victoria Secret model or a perfect 10 then yes I would think that he might feel intimidated but I am far from that so it can’t be that…lol

  172. D-Dubs says:

    I love Toronto (and all of Canada)!!!
    I only live about 4 hours from both Montreal and Toronto…and, even closer to Ottawa.

    You don’t have to worry about sending anything…I’ll check back another time, I’m sure. I’m so damn curious now.

  173. D-Dubs says:

    so, you picked up the Western Union already? nice.

  174. Yaz10 says:

    D-Dubs: then just be yourself and make sure to always make her feel comfortable around you. That shouldnt be too hard to do right 😉

  175. cleo*406468 says:

    D-Dubs: many months later he told me this. i think it may have been the instant i got over him.

    i’m sorry my profile is down, i can email you a picture if you tell me where to send it but i’m in toronto which is kinda far from louisville.
    Yaz10: that’s hilarious. all that and he never replied? that’s … i don’t understand. i think maybe we underestimate just how scared some men actually are of women they consider beautiful?

  176. TXSB says:

    “D-Dubs says:
    so, I don’t get a chance to see what had that guy so excited…over, and over, and over again”

    OMG…..I almost chocked on my drink reading this! Priceless….

  177. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    no still waiting D-Dubs !!! lol but you do have mail…

  178. D-Dubs says:

    I was kidding hun. I will do all those things (except maybe the flowers, kinda corny, no?)

    I’m always a gentleman and want to make my date happy and comfortable.

  179. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    D-Dubs ~ I am still waiting on the lingerie !!! 😉 lmao…

  180. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Yaz~ yucky!!! oh now I got that in my head! ewwwyyyy

  181. Yaz10 says:

    LOL BG we believe you! :-)

  182. Yaz10 says:

    Click on Who has viewed my profile and it tells you the date and time the person viewed you!

  183. D-Dubs says:

    really? mine look pretty chronological.
    I guess no one goes back to look at me a second, third, or fiftieth time.

  184. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    D-Dubs is a cutie!!!

  185. D-Dubs says:

    BG asked me to wire her some cash and buy her some lingerie online in exchange for that public endorsement. Obviously, I went along with it.

  186. TXSB says:

    OK that’s just disgusting and creept…

    I wanna see your profile too! Pretty please.
    Good luck on your date! :) I’m sure you’ll have no problem….just keep her laughing. :)

  187. D-Dubs says:

    worst thing is…cleo’s profile is down now…so, I don’t get a chance to see what had that guy so excited…over, and over, and over again.

  188. D-Dubs says:

    wait a minute…
    how can you guys tell how often someone is looking at your profile?

    didn’t know that feature was available.

  189. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    D-Dubs ~ YAY I had mail!!! thanks… cutie

  190. Yaz10 says:

    Ewwwwwww! lmao I never thought about that! It happened to me on another dating site too and I finally contacted him first and nicely asked him if he was going to check out my profile every day forever or introduce himself. He never replied to the email but didnt stop checking out my profile on a daily basis. I blocked him. It is happening again here and I find it very strange…

  191. D-Dubs says:


    If I do any of those things you just described, then I surely wouldn’t be myself…

    just kiddin!

  192. D-Dubs says:

    I’m kinda curious how you eventually, later, found out that information.

    And, next time…yeah…you can keep that to yourself, please. thanks.

  193. D-Dubs says:

    Beach Girl, I dropped you a note. Check your inbox.

  194. Yaz10 says:

    Bring her flowers! Talk about yourself a little bit but make sure to really listen to her when she is also talking, stare in her eyes and tell her she is beautiful, make her feel comfortable, and be yourself…

    Aaaaaaah the hopeless romantic in me… 😉

  195. cleo*406468 says:

    Yaz10: sorry if this is way tmi. i contacted a guy on a regular dating site once because he had looked at my profile. i found out later he (so much ew) used to use my pictures for masturbation regularly!

    never never tell me that
    no really, never

    anyway it’s either that or he’s trying to work up the courage to contact you.

  196. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    D-Dubs ~ My number is there, where is yours????
    As for your date, hummmm…… Have fun!

  197. Yaz10 says:

    Looks like NYGent disappeared again lol

  198. D-Dubs says:


    You’re absoultely right. I should do that.

  199. Yaz10 says:

    D-Dubs if you are looking for an SB here, shouldn’t you post your profile number first? 😉

  200. D-Dubs says:

    I should say that I do have a date tomorrow night with a lovely young woman from this site.

    Keeping my fingers crossed.

    Any suggestions?

    And, don’t say just give her a brief case stuffed with unmarked bills…lol

  201. D-Dubs says:

    anybody out there near Louisville, Kentucky?

    that’s where I’m stuck on a dreadful trip for work……’yawn’.

    after three weeks in Vegas, my company sent me here. talk about culture shock…

    the only thing these places have in common is the first letter in their names.

  202. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    D-Dubs ~ that would be a culture shock! Where are you going after Louisville

  203. Yaz10 says:

    LOL You are right about the overpaid players and the outrageously priced tickets!

  204. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    D-Dubs ~ 😀
    you crack me up!

  205. D-Dubs says:

    line forms on the left, girls… : )

  206. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    D-Dubs ~ you will have many takers here…
    I like that you are very subtle… lol

  207. TXSB says:

    You’re hilarious! :)

  208. D-Dubs says:

    let’s change the subject…

    so, who wants to be my SB???

  209. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    D-Dubs ~ LMAO

  210. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    D-Dubs ~ I don’t watch baseball

  211. TXSB says:

    LOL….thanks Yaz! Yea that was my 4th attempt and I see it too finally! I said “good night” to VC 3x and none of it showed up!

  212. Yaz10 says:

    TXSB: I can see them! :-)

  213. D-Dubs says:

    Why you ask?

    1. The overpay players…in fact, they spent $300 million on signing three players from other teams for this season, including two of the three starting pitchers they used in the postseason (Burnett and Sabathia), and their firstbaseman (Teixiera).

    2. So many of their players (past and present) are admitted, and not admitted cheaters. A-Rod, Pettitte, Clemens, Giambi…

    3. They gouge their fans by overcharging for tickets and everything else in their new billion dollar home ballpark.

    4. Their fans are THE most obnoxious in all of sports. Dallas Cowboys fans, you’re a close second.

    Other than that…I love the Yanks. : )

  214. TXSB says:

    *this is a test*

    For some reason my posts aren’t showing up….(or atleast I can’t see them). :(

  215. Yaz10 says:

    Lol @ D-Dubs you do hate them with a passion, don’t ya?

  216. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    VC~ good night 😀

  217. D-Dubs says:

    The Yankees stand for everything that’s wrong with sports.

  218. Yaz10 says:

    NYGent: Yes it has worked for me most of the time. I, also, make sure to thank SDs who put me on their Favorites list and let them know whether or not I am interested.

    How do you deal with people who do not contact you or put you on their Favorite list but yet check out your profile EVERY DAY!? Weird…

  219. cake patty says:

    Love the Yankees, they deserved to win

  220. VillaCypris says:

    BG- I don’t have a TV, so no, I don’t “watch” much…. thanks Yaz10! Good night!!!! :)

  221. Yaz10 says:

    Good Night Villa!! :-)

  222. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    VC~ you are the sports fan and you didn’t watch??? lol Joking, I have no clue, just heard it on the radio, kinda… I wasn’t paying attention to it!

  223. VillaCypris says:

    Nite Nite – i’m going to sleep…. xx

  224. VillaCypris says:

    hmmmmmmm… verryyyyy in teresting :)

  225. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Yaz~ hi, how are you? I contact SDs, if they are not interested they usually don’t respond. But I do fav some…

  226. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    VC~ I think so, 7-3 I think I heard?

  227. NYGent says:

    Yaz: that is a good strategy. if i am favorited by a SB and I am interested I will generally initiate contact. Of course if she emails me directly and I like what i see and read I will probably also respond. I think too many SBs are too reluctant to express initial interest whether by favoriting or direct email. There are so many, many SBs on the site and it’s so time-consuming searching through all of them that often gems are missed and if you initiate things it can lead to something that wouldn’t otherwise happen. Really it is not a big deal to most SDs.

  228. TXSB says:

    I’ve read on here that other SBs do that too (the adding to favorites and waiting for the SDs to contact). There’s nothing wrong with it. Out of the SDs that I initiated contact with…many of them wrote me back. Heck with RealisticSD, I contacted him first (and that worked out real well since we’re together now). :)

    I think it’s best to follow the same approach one would follow IRL. Even in traditional dating, if I’m attracted to a man, I have no problem “hitting on him” and making the 1st move. I don’t mind taking the risk of being rejected by a man…..heck men do it all the time with women (taking the risk). I applied the same policy in searching for a SD. As you wrote, just b/c something works for 1 SB, it may not work for others. It’s definately a trial & error process. :)

  229. VillaCypris says:

    BG – did they! Wasn’t paying attention tonight….

  230. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    D-Dubs~ lol, Why do you hate the Yankees?

  231. D-Dubs says:

    I swear I hate the Yankees more than my ex-wife. And, that’s saying something.

  232. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Hello Sugars!!!
    Hey VC~ Think the Yankees won….

  233. cake patty says:

    Flo- sounds like hangin with your sd is really stressful at times but I guess worth it for you or you would not do it

  234. Yaz10 says:

    TXSB: I used to do the same and end my emails just like yours but I stopped. One thing that I have noticed on this site is that even tho there are more SBs than SDs it is best to avoid contacting a SD. Men will always be men and they love to be the ones chasing women and not the other way around. They somehow get bored with a woman that they got almost too easily. IMO

    What I do now ( which has been working for me :-)) is just add someone I am interested in to my Favorites list instead of emailing them. It shows that I am interested but at the same time I am giving the person a chance to take the first step or do nothing ( if the interest is not mutual). I have received a few emails from SDs thanking me for adding them as Favorites and we started exchanging emails shortly after that.

    Like I said, it has worked for me… :-) but it might not work for others…

  235. VillaCypris says:

    HAHAHAH!!!!!!!! THat just occurred to me… VC prob meant VS… lololol

    no thanks, I’m a La Perla girl all the way… with hopes to be introducing Carine Gilson into my wardrobe shortly….

    hahah that’s too funny… i see “VC” and think it’s me!!

  236. Taz says:

    lmfao VS..but hey if you are interested I can forward along your addy 😉

  237. TXSB says:

    Why does the age issue make you nervous? If a man thinks you’re lying b/c you have 29 in your profile, then that’s his problem. Although I don’t see why….looking at the pics, you don’t look “old”.

    Yes, while searching I did e-mail potential SDs when I liked their profile. In fact, my current SD, I contacted him. :) I would usually say “Hi I enjoyed reading your profile…”, then pick out something specific to show them that I read their profile. For example, if they have “mixed” as their ethnicity, I would ask what exactly is their ethnicity. I remember one wrote he had lived in 7 different countries so in my e-mail I asked which countries. In my case the point of mentioning something specific was to show that I actually did pay attention and read their profile. I would end my message with something like “I think we’re looking for the same thing…please take a look at my profile and let me know if you’re interested”. Keep it short, sweet, and to the point.

  238. VillaCypris says:

    Taz says : On another note – recently I had a proposal from a married sd (from another site) to have phone sex with him for lingerie. Unfortunately it was for VC (he has an account there), and phone sex with strangers is not my thing 😛 But hey whatever floats ones boat – I am sure he will find a taker 😛

    The proposal was for ME?? LoL.. hahahahahahhah
    too bad he contacted the wrong girl eh???? :)

  239. Yaz10 says:


    I loved your profile! :-) TXSB is right, although your pics are gorgeous it would be ideal if you had a pic with a big smile on your face :-)!!

  240. TXSB says:

    I just have to say that your “lines” are hilarous! They always literally make me LOL! :)


    Good luck on your date! Phone sex in exchange for lingerie….hahahahaha….that’s something I personally haven’t heard before.

  241. TXSB says:

    Welcome! :) I’m also relatively new to the sugar world and am currently in my very 1st sugar relationship.

    My thoughts on your profile:

    1) As Flo Rida advised someone else on the blog earlier, you need at least 1 pic where you’re smiling! A huge ear to ear smile. :) The 2nd pic, IMO you look a bit pissed in that pic…although your hair/skin/lip looks gorgeous.

    2) The last paragraph where you mention why you left it “open-negotiable”, in my opinion that line doesn’t need to be there. Plenty of SBs have that option in their profile…..no need for you to “explain” why you’re doing it. I also don’t think you need to write that you don’t want to be “demanding”…..there are a lot of men out there ready to take advantage of someone who’s too nice. There’s nothing else in your profile that makes you seem spoiled…..so that line gives me the impression that it’ll be easy to “push” you around b/c you’ll give in easily.

    3) I think you should add more details on the type of SD you’re looking for since your amount is open. Are you looking for a flat monthly allowance, or gift daddy, or travel daddie? It looks like you have a full time job so are you able to travel or do you want someone locally? If able to travel, how often are you able to travel? Do you want to meet someone 1x or 2x every week OR do you want someone a few times a month? Is your schedule open to meet someone during the daytime (which is the case for many married SDs) or are you only/mainly available during evenings/weekends? If you do know the answers to these questions…I think the more details you can put in your profile on things that’re not flexible (your availabity, travel etc), the less time will be wasted.

  242. Taz says:

    Hey everyone! Glad to see the blog has lightened up :) Hope everyone comes back and plays nicely :)

    All you ladies – you know who you are!! You cracked me up on the blog tonight – thank you – I needed the laughs!

    I have a date with a pot tomorrow (confirmed yay!) – close to home which is nice (45 min). We have been chatting and emailing for about three weeks and he seems very sincere :) (no sex talk at all!) I am pretty excited! 😀

    On another note – recently I had a proposal from a married sd (from another site) to have phone sex with him for lingerie. Unfortunately it was for VC (he has an account there), and phone sex with strangers is not my thing 😛 But hey whatever floats ones boat – I am sure he will find a taker 😛

    Welcome Rudy :)

    TLG your wonderful humor is always appreciated as well! 😀

    Whew a lot to catch up on!!

  243. Yaz10 says:

    The Lone Gunman says:

    “Still others have been taken away in the MotherShip, and are even now anxiously awaiting their next anal probe.” Lmao You might be right on that one!

  244. Yaz10 says:

    Welcome Rudy! :-)

  245. Rudy says:

    Hi Everyone :) I am new to this blog, but I have tried this SD/SB arrangement before, but nothing came of it. I have met and received emails from a few SDs who are in the business of playing games and I got so frustrated I gave up, but I have decided to try again. This blog is very helpful because it provides a lot of insight that someone like me could benefit from. There are so many new SBs (including myself)who unbeknownst to them are sending the wrong message to a potential SD. If anyone has the time, I would really appreciate it if you would view my profile; my number is 405748. I would greatly appreciate some feedback positive or negative :) The whole issue of age makes me a little nervous because I really am 29! Also, do you email a potential SD if you are interested and if so, what do you say? I don’t want to come across as a demanding drama queen, I would really like to meet someone with whom I can connect with.

  246. NYGent says:

    TexSB: can’t disagree with your analysis.

  247. TXSB says:

    Damn…I can’t believe someone complained about you being “very affectionate”!

    Realistic is very affectionate and I love it! As for sex and emotional connection, even my SD says that he needs an emotional connection first. Even though the quality of the sex is better when there’s a connection, I still believe that many men out there (especially the kind that want to “test drive” pot SBs), are just looking to “hit it”.

  248. NYGent says:

    TexSB: “most men don’t need an emotional connection to have sex.” I suppose that’s true in a technical sense, even in my case, but to me it sure does make a big difference and it’s so much better if there is the connection. As for SDs being afraid to have the SB develop an emotional connection, that may be true of many married SDs but for single SDs like me I find the opposite: it’s the SBs, particularly the younger ones, who want nothing to do with anything emotional and view sincere expressions of emotion by the SD as a bit yucky. I’ve actually had an SB tell me I’m “very affectionate” and not intended as a compliment . . .

  249. No worries ladie. We remind ourselves that the bad ones weed themselves out so we can focus our time on the right ones. I’m off to bed. Sugar dreams!

  250. lisa says:

    Have a good night, I’ve got to get up early for work tomorrow, going to bed soon

  251. The Lone Gunman says:

    lisa says:

    I wonder how many of the sds that haven’t logged into their profiles lately are dead?

    Statistically, there’s a good chance that some of them are dead.

    Then there’s those who found something and no longer feel the need to log in.

    Yet others stopped logging in because of uncleared chakras forcing them into the Witness Protection program.

    Still others have been taken away in the MotherShip, and are even now anxiously awaiting their next anal probe.


  252. Margo says:

    TXSB is right. Don’t take it emotionally, ask for half of allowance to start.

  253. Margo says:

    OC: I had a similar situation. Next day he send me a message that the sex was not good. He is still hoping for something.

  254. lisa says:

    I hate the ones that don’t confirm. I only came across that later in my online dating experiences. When I did regular online dating, it was custom to confirm the night before, maybe even an email the next day, tell what you would be wearing, etc. The ones that were vague and made dates for friday on monday night and then were missing in action, were usuallly flakes but of course I have come across those that set a date early in the week, disappear, and when I presumed they were gone, so I didn’t waste time going to meet them, they would email me hours later wondering were I was. No confirmation, no meeting, simple and yes give them the benefit of the doubt that they can’t contact you, that is till you find them back online the same day or later, I’ve seen that too. However it wasn’t until I joined this site that I realized that there were so many businessmen who had no access to computers, blackberry, etc outside of their office, very odd.

  255. *sigh* I guess that the ones who don’t confirm dates for tomorrow night are also dead, caught by the wife (not supposed to be married), or under a big rock and can’t reach a computer/phone. Time to start over…NEXT.

  256. lisa says:

    I used to have credit cards, now i’m strictly cash (well except when i’m in the parking lot, lol)

  257. Oh wait..I have a cc machine! (not really)
    Lisa – maybe your coke dealer should get one

  258. JennaBeth says:

    lisa — omg ! too funny ! Id love some wire transfer sex ! lol

  259. lisa says:

    sex under the ATM

  260. Yaz10 says:

    Omg Lisa you are on a roll tonight! lol

  261. TXSB says:

    LOL @ wire transfer sex. :)

  262. lisa says:

    yes let’s have wire transfer sex first :)

  263. TXSB says:

    Have you suggested to him that perhaps both of you can compromise and that he can give you HALF the allowance now? The lines he wrote about trust and investment etc are just crap. I can’t believe women actually fall for stuff like this. *sigh*


    Umm….same with your guy. It’s retarded that this “SD” needs phone sex from you before meeting you. Why doesn’t he just call a phone sex line? Obviously he doesn’t need to know the woman IRL to have a “connection? wit her (since he hasn’t met you IRL). And yes, I would also ask him if he’s willing to pay you that 1 month’s allowance BEFORE the phone sex. I bet just like OC’s guy, he’ll come up with some lines about trust. *sigh*

  264. lisa says:

    OC has wind (I think I will cover my nose now, lol)

  265. lisa says:

    well it can make us feel better when they don’t write back, lol they died
    maybe their wives found out about them. there’s another scary thought, an sd’s wife finds his profile, bashes his head it and takes his identity setting up dates with sbs to get revenge, yikes

  266. Yaz10 says:

    Good night OC!!! :-)

  267. JennaBeth says:

    Enjoy your WIND OC ! :-)

  268. lisa says:

    he got all hard but by the time he got in the hole, he was limp, ooops sorry, going to wash my mind out with soap now, lol

  269. JennaBeth says:

    lisa — Ive thought that too actually , lol . thats so horrible !

  270. Yaz10 says:

    Lisa you are just too much! LOL!

  271. lisa says:

    yes maybe the sds we email that don’t write back are dead. The had another type of arrangent, lol

  272. VillaCypris says:

    Lisa – LOL!!!!!!!!

  273. VillaCypris says:

    OC – awwwwwwww…. no “stupid stikk”…. you’re way too smart and classy for people like him…. he’s so transparent….

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Yaz: I am glad I made you laugh 😉 Humor has to get us thru all this…

      Villa: Oh sweetie that stick can hit ya when you least expect it. sometimes I don’t duck fast enough. When they are so cute it makes your reaction time slower. I am sure some SD’s can attest to that! LOL
      Now, I am going home to down some WIND!!! Nite all :)

  274. Yaz10 says:

    Lmao Lisa! *stepping away from PC*

  275. lisa says:

    I wonder how many of the sds that haven’t logged into their profiles lately are dead?

  276. Yaz10 says:

    LOL Lisa! My friend and I were dying at OC’s “1-800-I dont- think-so”!!

  277. lisa says:

    uh oh, let me get my first aid kit, Yaz10

  278. Yaz10 says:

    Lol OC, you and TLG are killing me on this blog! :-)

  279. Lisa – random thought – try dipping your raw veggies in hummus…yummy.

  280. Yaz10 says:

    Ok ok I’m good now :-)

  281. VillaCypris says:

    OC writes : “I’m applauding you! Wow truly amazing…You are really special…”


    Wow. Thank god you are too smart to fall for that BS!!!!! :)

  282. lisa says:

    I don’t even want to picture that, lol maybe he’s texting with his extra digit??

  283. JennaBeth says:

    OC — I dont know, I wouldnt give in yet if I were you . I could be wrong. Hold on to your aces !!!! lol :-)

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Sexting is even dumber, how the heck can you do everything??? I only have two hands! That is my answer when they send the sexts and get a bit to frisky!

  284. lisa says:

    look it happened again, i’m answering questions before they’re asked, lol

  285. Yaz10 says:

    1800- I dont think so- ROFL!!!!

  286. lisa says:

    uh oh OC needs a glass of “wind” lol probably blow her into the beehive that Villa is sucking, lol

  287. lisa says:

    phone sex is so outdated, geeez

  288. JennaBeth says:

    new SB in SB —- NO WAY ! Ive had a few cyber -guys recently too , when I finally told him no , he disappeared , it was all he was prob looking for anyway .

  289. Lisa…OMG…*spitting wine* That was HILARIOUS!!!

    Thanks all. I wrote back ….Sure! After we meet and agree on an arrangement.

    I doubt I will hear from him again. Thanks to the blog, it’s a lot easier to screen these guys. NEXT!

  290. lisa says:

    why do my comments keep ended up posted before prior posts? weird

  291. VillaCypris says:

    Lisa – HAHAHAH!!!! That happened to a guy I know here in Minneapolis… his yacht was featured in a major magazine, and there were photos of him and his mistress on the teak deck of the boat… so his wife saw the article and said WTF is that?????? NOT good….

    New SB – another manipulation tactic…. I, personally, would not have “phone sex” with anyone with whom I did not already have a “relationship”… you’re beautiful, you’re talented… you don’t need to compromise yourself for that idiot…

  292. That’s what I thought. Thanks!

  293. Yaz10 says:

    lmaooooooooooooooooooooo @ OC!!!! :-)

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Hi Yaz! ok, I txted back Pot#2… “OK I will give you my full trust. Maybe I am foolish but I really like you as a person” His quick txt back was “I’m applauding you! Wow truly amazing…You are really special…”
      LOL not sure I will give him my full trust, but really wanted to see how he would react. I do like him. Maybe today was a off day communication wise, don’t know. I will mull it all over. I had three very nice dates with him now and today kind of threw me off. I need a glass of wine and some alone time… I need to leave work and start on that!

  294. Yaz10 says:

    New SB: DELETE!!

  295. lisa says:

    Percy likes to have phone sex, he tries to mount my kitchen phone, maybe it’s Percy contacted you, who knows what he does when i’m at work all day, lol

  296. lisa says:

    New SB in SB one word for your potential: DELETE!

  297. Evening sugars! I’m just going to let bygones be and start fresh! Interesting reading tho!

    NYGent – ***hug*** None of us would ever be ashamed to be seen with you. Next time you have theater tix, remember your fav in IN!! :-)

    TLG – Shameless!

    I’d like some feedback if possible…chatting with a pot, but he’s not avail for a date for a month or so. He wants to have phone sex. I’m thinking that should be saved for after we have our first date. Any thoughts?

  298. lisa says:

    regarless the magazine article will probably end up on 20/20 or one of the daytime shows, not very discreet. Of the sd will be vacationing in France with his wife and she will see his pic on the cover of the magazine displayed on one of the newstands. lol

  299. VillaCypris says:

    hmmmmmm yes… very convoluted… could mean many things…

    agreed…. i would never post photos of myself, with anyone… i wonder which french magazine is running the article?

  300. lisa says:

    hmmm maybe I need to buy bandaids, yes that’s it, i’m out of bandaids, lol

  301. lisa says:

    Without it is an arrangment between two people who really don’t need to be discreet, I doubt there will be many people who want to post pics, that is except for the ones that do these tv show things.

  302. JennaBeth says:

    What does everyone think about the new discussion post asking for pics with SDs and SBs together ?

    I dont think they will get too many , but I could be wrong . There are none posted as of now . For 2 reasons — Married SDs never allow pics ( cant have evidence ) and Single SDs dont like to be refered to as ” Sugardaddies ” . Just a thought .

  303. lisa says:

    I didn’t open it but I was really excited to get it for some reason. I also remember almost leaving my purse at her house. It was a big white box that said first aid. He was not there though, but my parents were, very weird

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Sugar Freud would say Lisa, you are protecting yourself from both your family and your lovers wife… Which still means crap, but that is my 5 years of psych…

  304. VillaCypris says:

    hmmmmmmmm…. what was in the first aid kit???

  305. lisa says:

    that’s multitasking, lol
    I asked this when I posted this morning: Had a dream that I was at my lover’s house and it was my birthday (which is actually next monday) and his wife gave me a huge first aid kit as a gift, huge about 4 feet wide, what does this mean? lol

  306. VillaCypris says:

    Ahhhhhh really? I haven’t contacted any…. just noted their presence…. hmmmmmmm… interesting… that’s too bad….

    yeah Lisa… get me some “bee sting” lips!!!!! hahahahha!!!!!!

  307. JennaBeth says:

    VillaCypris — there are ! but they also happen to be pretty flakey recently

  308. lisa says:

    great idea Villa, get your nutrition, plump your lips at the same time, lol

  309. VillaCypris says:

    OC – I’m going to create a fake SD profile from Favre-land and set out to seduce you…. lol… did you watch the game sunday! Was phenomenal. I thought we were going to blow it in the 3rd Q….

  310. VillaCypris says:

    Definitely right out of the hive… live on the edge baby!!!!!! 😉

    JennaBeth – I didn’t get down there that often…. driving on I-95 during the season is a nightmare… I’ve seen a lot of hot SDs in Miami tho! :)

  311. JennaBeth says:

    VillaCypris- Im in Miami

    OC — Thanks ! :-) haha , very true :-)

  312. lisa says:

    Is that the honey in the bear shaped bottle? Or are you going to suck it directly out of a hive? lol isn’t honey full of calories? The only thing I know about honey is that it never spoils. I learned that from the in-store entertainment and fact tracks that play all day while i’m working.

  313. VillaCypris says:

    OC – ya, sorry…. I got used to the 24 hour clock when I lived in Monte Carlo… and my best friend is a major in the US ARMY so we refer to time in that manner….

    JennaBeth – where is the “other coast” of FLA? I lived in Palm Beach for a few years, and loved it.

    Lisa – just for you, I’m going to sukk down some raw honey tonight :)

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      JennaBeth: I get a ton of emails from Florida. Funny! Actually I get a ton of emails period. *no haters please… lol
      I said emails, not quality emails!!!

  314. lisa says:

    it’s 19:07 in Texas

  315. JennaBeth says:

    OC — sadly Im not in LA :-(
    but for some odd reason , i get messaged from alot of men in LA . I have no idea why , Im on the other coast in FL
    I do love LA though :-)

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      JennaBeth! No worries, we can still compare sugar’s. I love your profile! You are beautiful. Sist’as that help are the best sist’as ever! 😉

  316. lisa says:

    it’s like they are the grossest thing there is, but steel oats sound just as unappealing. lol

  317. VillaCypris says:

    Uhmmmmmmm…. i’ve never touched a brillo pad… steel oats is what I’m referencing….

    hope you can eat soon, OC, although it is only 1700 in LA…. lots of time to indulge yet tonight…. :)

  318. lisa says:

    Brillo pads or steel oats? I hate brillo pads, I haven’t touched one in years, the last time I touched one, I felt I had to scrub my hands raw to get that icky smell of them.

  319. VillaCypris says:

    lisa – lol – NO – they are GOOD for you… and YUMMY! :)

    OC – yeah, lucky you! I have a SS in my area too… it’s rather funny that theh same men contact both of us with the same messages….. good to have SB friends!!! :)

  320. RX8sb says:

    No kidding.

    Well I am off, Have fun everyone, and good luck in your sugar endeavors

  321. Taz says:

    Mika just post your profile number :)

    Sorry OC I have to add a small comment…investments don’t get immediate returns BEFORE you actually invest. I am sure everyone has their own opinions, perhaps he would be willing to compromise?

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Taz, I work so hard not to be jaded, but when I get the hard court press about sex without an arrangement it just makes me stand on high alert. No one wants to be hit with the stupid stick. But I am a very trusting person and the last SD burnt my edges a bit so I am a bit more guarded. I just need to relax my stance and tell him I will stand naked infront of him and he can look and not touch! LOL jk

  322. lisa says:

    :( darn steel oats, are they anything like steel wool aka brillo pads? those things scare me

  323. VillaCypris says:

    hahhaa…. no… definitely not him….

    OC says: I’m not renting you I’m investing in you… If you don’t understand that then that’s that…

    that sounds like a manipulation tactic to me!!!!

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Hi Villa! Yea it may be a stand off! At least JennaBeth and I can help one another in LA weed out the flakes. I am so glad to have a sugar blog sister in my area now! Yippee…

      • OCSugarbaby says:

        I am sending out my SOS post to my blog SD friends for help, I am afraid it is getting lost in all the oatmeal! lol

        You guys are making me hungry, still at work and hours away from dinner…. hahaha

  324. lisa says:

    steel oats? ouch I guess that isn’t the one with the man in the hat on the box, lol

  325. JennaBeth says:

    OC — you have mail :-)

  326. VillaCypris says:

    ja, i saw starbucks started selling oatmeal…. interesting….

    the apple cinnamon is instant oatmeal… you want to eat the real oatmeal, the steel cut oats.

    i just had a beet salad with frisee, chevre, and pistachio clusters. mmmm!

  327. JennaBeth says:

    Flo Rida– NO ! It was a paying promo modeling gig , not the easiest to find , but I was hoping it would be worth it , obviously not. . . . . . I wouldnt sweat it too much if it was just TFP or TFCD.

  328. lisa says:

    I like oatmeal but is has to be apple cinnamon flavored. or the kind they used to have at starbucks with brown sugar, nuts and fruit

  329. cleo*406468 says:

    Flo Rida: oh sorry, i added a word and didn’t realise it would disappear until re-approved…


  330. VillaCypris says:

    Ciao little sis! Behave 😉

    good idea – Lisa – irish steel cut oats… you have to cook them, however…

  331. Flo Rida says:

    JennaBeth – was it TFP or TFCD? Darling you should NEVER turn down paying modeling gigs for SDs – sorry for your trouble.

    Mika – simply state what you just said in your profile say ‘I’m very open sexually but I want a true connection with your mind and soul in addition to your other organs and appendages. Seekers of escorts need not apply.’ or words to that effect.

    Lisa – you’ll hate this but oatmeal is filling – low calorie – high fibre or fiber in the US.

    VillaC – hey big sis

    Now I’m truly leaving. ciao peeps.

  332. lisa says:

    Too many peanuts though, I like brazils, walnuts and filberts best

  333. VillaCypris says:

    Lisa – yeah, disgusting AND sad….. mixed nuts sound good! yum! :)

  334. Flo Rida says:

    Cleo – FOS stands for fresh out of school (in my book) but others think of it as Full of Sh-t – with a vowel edited from the last word.

    Signing off. I’m dragging this 64 year old out with my juvenile 12 year old friends. :-)

  335. JennaBeth says:

    Flo Rida — very tough to do in practice . I passed on a promotional modeling gig one day , because it was one of the days he told me he could meet , and he “really , really , really” was looking forward to meeting me . Whatever , Im over it .

    OC — geez I think I got that same text , lol

  336. Mika Sadaf Marie says:

    bye flo

  337. Mika Sadaf Marie says:

    lol well i am looking for a sexual relationship but i also would like to have a connection with that person
    and i dont want a sugar daddy who feels the need to hold money over my ahead because he feels im obligated to have sex with him

    i so see no problem with having sex with my SD in fact that is somthing i want but i dont want him to feel that i sleeping with him just for his money,
    i want him to know its because i like him and i enjoy his company
    does that make sense

  338. lisa says:

    Villa I saw some real porkers in the store today including a young boy, it is just simply disgusting how heavy so many Texas kids are.

  339. lisa says:

    I have a can of mixed nuts too. I just ate some cherry tomatoes too.

  340. VillaCypris says:

    Hi Flo Rida 😀

  341. VillaCypris says:

    Cleo – FOS = Full of shit
    is a reference to some prior postings….

    Lisa – well…. :/ … you’re not still supposed to be “hungry”… have some more fruit perhaps??? :)

  342. Flo Rida says:

    NYC SB – i’m an unusual assistant – no bigee. big hugs

    SG2 – well I thought FOS meant fresh out of school (someone abbreviated it in an old blog & I asked what it meant)

    Cleo – Your profile is pending so I can’t comment on it.

    Red Maru – just change ‘working girl’ to ‘I have a career in blank’ ‘My job provides stability, I’m looking for you to provide a decadent splurge’.

    Minka – i’m sorry darling but did you make a statement rather than a q-s? Maybe i’m being dim. Alas you’ll find all sorts in this highway – some are awful but some are great – just block the awful ones but being open sexually WILL attract a lot of strange people (as well as good ones).

    Taz – i’m 64 years old in a 28 year body :-) and in the words of Charles Barkley (spelling) I’m not a role model -also no kids :-(

    JennaBeth – only accept flaky behavior IF there is little cost to you AND there is great reward (extreme SDs can be very busy and you can’t bag the elephant on a 1 day safari with no adversity). The art is minimizing the cost & assessing the reward – tough to do in practice though.

    My $0.02

  343. RX8sb says:

    F.O.S = Full of Shyt


  344. lisa says:

    Thanks Villa but am I still supposed to be hungry? I didn’t have time to eat anything but junk at work today.

  345. cleo*406468 says:

    hey just want to thank you all for being so welcoming… do please comment on my profile if you think i should change anything…

    what’s a FOS?

  346. JennaBeth says:

    OC –Im trying to stay positive here ! I mean them flaking on the first date , so actually not much kissing in that sense at all ! :-)

    lisa — yeah , this is his 3rd chance . why am I so nice ?

    I had one “poof” last week , and one lunch first date , only to have him ask me if I would act like a “madam ” and personally find him an SB ! wtf !! I told him to get back on the site and thats not my job . Apparently I wasnt thin enough ( im 5’5”, 123lbs ,34d-26-36 not exactly big in my book ) even though he saw , no kidding 12 pics of me , why did he decide to meet me if I wasnt thin enough ? Ugh ! Im so frustrated!

  347. Mika Sadaf Marie says:

    TAZ- thank you, im not sure how to go about sharing my profile though. do i just paste what i wrote in the comments.

  348. Mika Sadaf Marie says:

    well i can understand that some SD’s are busy and if that type of arrangement wouldnt bother me but only if he specified that right away.

    but not bothering to get to know me at all?
    what does that say about him?
    i could be a deranged lunatic (im not but you get what im hinting out)
    plus im like a total germaphobe too

  349. VillaCypris says:

    Good evening everyone….

    Lisa – i am SO proud of you for what you’re having for dinner!!!! 😀

  350. lisa says:

    JennaBeth, it depends on the guy. If he sounded legit and just had something come up, I would give him one chance, if he does it again, delete. If something doesn’t seem right though, then you might not want to give him a second chance.
    I had a guy do that to me twice, and he was kinda vague about meeting, didin’t confirm with me the next morning so I felt he wouldn’t show up and he didn’t, he said he had showed up and I wasn’t there, so I thought he might have missed me, gave him another chance, he poofed.

  351. JennaBeth says:

    A question for you all —

    How many times do you let someone flake/change date at the last minute , before you write them off ?

    If I hadnt found my past SD here on this site , I would have given up hope by now ! Having a bad run of kissing frogs :-(

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      JennaBeth… Then stop all the kissing! 😉

      • OCSugarbaby says:

        Oh the Pot#2 who txted that …ok, let me copy exactly what he said…
        “Let’s see first if there is a great mutual affinity sexually then we can proceed”
        I did not respond and he then came back with…
        “That’s the way it works my love…it’s either
        a) you trust me or b) I trust you …I need 2 trust you and if you don’t trust me then we can’t make this work anyway…if there is a real connection it’s not really about the monthly allowance… An upfront allowance is very professional and I’m not looking for that. From my point of view…Rent is paid in advance and interest is paid in arrears…I’m not renting you I’m investing in you… If you don’t understand that then that’s that…”

        Ok, am I too sensitive to the sex first scenario or does he have a point? I am so confused right now, I thought it was funny but now I am wondering if I am jaded. I don’t think that I am. I am just thinking that an SD can come back and give me some insight. SD’s (only please I want a man’s opinion) please chime in. Sorry girls but I want to see the man’s view, I know what we have to put up with weeding out the flakes, and I want to see if I am not seeing this correctly before or even if I choose to reply. Thanks for your understanding my plea for SD’s voice first…

  352. TXSB says:

    Regarding to topic of SDs being interested in the SB as a person, I think part of it also is a personal preference of some SDs. Maybe some SDs think that getting to know the SB too well might lead to a emotional attachment on the SBs part. I’m sure all of us can agree that *most* men do not need to have a emotional attachment for sex.

    If a SB is specifically looking for someone who’s willing to invest the time/effort into creating a emotional connection, then she needs to make that clear from the beginning. Not every SD wants a GFE. Some SDs see their SBs only 2-3x/month. I see my SD 4-5x/WK but I would imagine it’s difficult to “get to know” someone who you only see 2-3x/month.

    I guess my point in all this is that just b/c a SD doesn’t want to “get to know” his SB, it doesn’t make him bad or a “fake”. It’s a personal preference.

  353. Yaz10 says:

    Everybody has their own preferences but seriously guys…

    If I was an SD reading the blog today I would be thinking twice about voicing my opinions on any topic on the blog or stating my preferences for fear of being misunderstood. We need SBs AND SDs on this blog so let’s not scare the few SDs that we have here away.

    Welcome Roda. :-) Your input is appreciated, however, you could have expressed your opinion without calling anybody names.

    I am an SB so no matter what happens I will always stick with other SB :-) ,HOWEVER, I always try to put myself in an SD shoes and try to understand their preferences.

    Oh Welcome Cleo!!! :-)

  354. TXSB says:

    LOL! Don’t forget you have a FOS buddy…NC Gent. 😉

  355. TXSB says:

    Wow! I can’t believe that little brat told you that she’s embarrased to be seen w/ you in public b/c of your age…and then has the nerve to say that she’s ok with getting a “hang out allowance”!!! Geez. Oh and yes, I am sooooooooooooo proud of you!!! :) *HUG* *HUG* *HUG* Seems like you’re slowly starting to get your guard up and not fall so easily for these dumb lines. Keep up the good work! :)


    LOL! Yikes. To be honest, I would just ignore him after that txt. Not even bother replying. This man wouldn’t be worth the time or effort.

  356. Yaz10 says:

    LOL @ SG2! No you are not!

  357. SouthernGent2 says:

    Been driving all day. I see I missed a good blog day. Good to know I am FOS :-)

  358. Taz says:

    Mika – I feel the same way. Some sd’s (fakes) are not interested in you as a person at all. It is disheartening but keep your chin up :) How long have you had your profile up? I used to get a lot of emails from fakes when I first had my profile up…now they are more quality :) Perhaps you want to share you profile for some feedback? If not, maybe don’t be so open and up front about your sexuality in your profile…maybe keep that info back for someone that deserves to know that about you!?

  359. Taz says:

    OC – I defintely agree that there should not be LIES in any relationship – sugar or otherwise!! Everyone should be honest and up front (married, or perhaps even something else more important in sugar land) so any pot’s can have a fair chance to make an informed choice about who they spend their time with…EVERYONE is definitely entitled to their preferences and their reasons for them…

    Hello Cleo :)

    Red – couldn’t you say something about being independant…a hard working person…rather than working girl? (if you are determined to leave it in there that is) :)

    OC – I just had a guy do the exact same thing….but still completely denied he was demanding a test drive!!! Lol…he said that is how he could tell if we had CHEMISTRY!! Right. I politely informed him if we did not have chemistry we would most certainly NOT be heading to a bedroom and said we were not suited for each other. He agreed lol…

    Flo – How old are you if you don`t mind me asking? No judgments here fyi – your personality reminds me of myself when I was younger….ahem…before I became a mom and forgot what it was like to have some fun 😛

  360. Mika Sadaf Marie says:

    so i want to throw in interesting question out in the field,

    i mentioned in my profile that i was open minded sexually and that i am interested in couples, and that i am bisexual all of these are true
    but as a result of this i have noticed that alot of SD’s feel since they are financially assisting a young sugar baby that they feel sex is an obligation because of their money

    i love sex more than the average but i do not want to feel obligated to sleep with someone simply because they are spoiling me.
    i would like the street to be two-sided.
    the reason why is state this is because the potential SD that i was corresponding with had no interest in getting to know me.

    in fact he was visually attracted by my profile ( pictures etc) he has no interest in getting to know me at all and just wanted to jump straight into it.

    it made me feel as he felt i was a vehicle for his own pleasure. it really spoiled the moment and needless to say the amount of money he was offering for assistant suddenly seemed like dirt.

    im not interested in traditonal dating by all means im a student and i have a limited amount of time but i feel that a generous arrangement that truly works out consists of a mutual agreement, and it shouldnt be entirely one sided.

    communication is so key,

    (still hoping that a kick ass SD is out there)


  361. lisa says:

    sorry dinner tonight is mashed potatoes, raw green beans and fruit.

  362. Anna Molly says:

    I would like to have some Vindaloo…mmmm, spicy! Just like me :) heheh

  363. lisa says:

    Good afternoon everyone. Please don’t throw tomatoes at me for being sexist but I have to agree and understand a sd not wanting a married sb. In the exchange, the sd provides financial assistance to a sb, and most men would not want to be giving money to someone who might use if for her household expenses which might include the husband. As far as an Sd being married, that is ok because his roll is to provide assistance, not be a husband, so he is doing his part. It is acceptable for a man to have an affair but it’s just a little not so good for a woman to do the same thing. I had a terrible marriage, sexless for about 2 years but I never strayed while we were married. I do have a married lover, but he is a man and he does provide a good life for his wife, she is a very lucky woman.

    Ok, I’m going to eat now

  364. RX8sb says:

    NYC SB: mmm dim sum … O you said dum dum oops was fantasizing.

  365. RX8sb says:

    maybe a play on words

    office wife
    paper collector
    desk dater

    or on a serious note just a job title

  366. NYC SB says:

    Flo – DUH im a dum dum … oh well

  367. RedMaru says:

    Hey I’m back everybody and I see I got some comments thanks guys
    Welcome cleo406468 and of course your suggestion matters as much as anyone else’s I could reword that but not sure how. Trying to say that I work at a 9-5 you know show independence but not too much

    Hey Yaz!

  368. Flo Rida says:

    NYC SB – You said ‘or just lie and tell everyone I am an adminsitrative assistant’ no worries my dear

    Cake Patty – no harm no foul so no biggee, having said that SD had a high speed car crash – air bags deployed broken bones ambulance, hospital stay + one of SD’s friends almost lost an eye in a MMA fight with a professional MMA fighter. SDs lead incredibly stressful lives & have huge testosterone (beyond most people’s comprehension) this results in abberrant or outlier behavior – I fit in because I understand, adapt am funny and everyone likes me. This is a unique skill & why i’ve survived as long as I have (4 months) It is stressful though – lots of politics too.

  369. Yaz10 says:

    Hey everyone!

    Wow have I missed a lot…..

  370. cleo*406468 says:

    redmaru: i’m new here so maybe don’t listen to me but still, are you sure you want to put “working girl” in your description?
    nygent: i’m glad you’re learning to respect yourself :)
    everyone else: hi :)

  371. Rachel 386002 says:

    WOW… I goto work and actually WORK all day and look at everything I missed!

    I must say that traffic on page page has come to a HAULT in the past week. NOTHING at all… not even a comical creepy email.

    Question to the world. I have been sorting through some unread emails and I have had a few people email me from nyc asking me to meet them the next time I’m there… not for anything other than a coffee or lunch.

    I kind of feel like saying I do goto the city, but only when I have something to goto the city for! So when I’m there with my girlfriends, I can’t say, “excuse me ladies, I need to go on a date… see you in an hour or so”.

    This makes me wonder as to the logic behind their emails. Some seem like REALLY nice men that I think I’d get along with real well.

    I definitely think my profile needs tweeking. UGH.

    What do you guys think?

  372. NYC SB says:

    or “thats interesting, but last time i purchased a vibrator they wouldnt let me see if we match sexually before moving forward with payment”

    :shakes head:

  373. cake patty says:

    Wow Flo Rida. You really hang out with a mature crowd don’t you . They sound like they are 12 year old boys with way too much time and money

  374. NYC SB says:

    OC – I think you sooooo should reply and say “Im not a car as such there is no free test drive prior to making a purchase” or you can go with my all time favorite “Do they normally let you test out a toothbrush prior to purchasing?”

  375. NYC SB says:

    Flo Rida says:

    NYC SB – one of my current roles is as an office admin assistant to SD’s personal life. No mischief intended.

    Flo – Me confused! what is this in regards to?

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      OMG! Pot#2 and I have been talking about allowance and plans for our arrangement, then..then…then (said with complete laughter)…he just txted me that he is on board with everything. So then he txted tonight he will see if we are a match sexually to then move forward with the allowance. Bwahhhh hahahaha he has just asked for a test ride! lol Not even going to respond to txt. I am laughing, this is just too much to take some days!!!

  376. NYC SB says:

    NY Gent – Im reading in disbelief… She thought she could get away with this? I think her stunning beauty has gone to her head… I am SO SO SO proud of you!

  377. Flo Rida says:

    NY Gent – I meant a hang out allowance for a DIFF lady (at a much lower price) there’s clearly too much emotion & history (and also rudeness) for this to work between you and her.

    Red – I think the profile is fine BUT my standard comments apply – the face shot should have you smiling, the full body shot should be you wearing black (trust me black is slimming – i’ve worked in TV & the camera adds 10lbs – sometimes i’ve had nightmare that there are 5 cameras focused on me adding 50lbs!). I don’t know how you feel about racier attire (it’s a comfort factor but hey everyone has to compete). Finally I think (correct me if i’m wrong SDs) that SDs pay 70-90percent attention to the pics then 10-30percent to the profile – so pics are more important. Good luck.

    NYC SB – one of my current roles is as an office admin assistant to SD’s personal life. No mischief intended.

  378. NYGent says:

    Flo Rida: I think she is looking to resume the same 4-figure allowance as before or maybe only slightly less, certainly above 3 figures. And doubt she’d want to be seen by her friends with me (too embarrassing, etc.), so I don’t think the hang out allowance is an option, but thx for the idea

  379. Mina says:

    Would you have an arrangement with a married sugar daddy or sugar baby? Why or why not?
    My SDs in the past were married and my current SD is married as well. I haven’t put much thought into it, but I suppose it’s just a preferrence as it’s generally easier to keep boundaries intact.

    Are you looking for a monogamous sugar daddy or sugar baby? What do you think about having multiple sugars at once? Would you?
    In the past I’ve had standard SDs and travel SD at once. With my current SD I see him enough that I don’t get the urge to see anyone else. I have always told SDs that it’s up to them to have multiple SBs (as long as they make me aware of it – and I’m not one of several) but that I would hope that I am more than enough for them! And in all cases, I was and am. :)

    How long do you want to stay in the Sugarbowl?
    Until I get bored enough with it.

  380. RX8sb says:

    and NY Gent.. you are a true gentleman and don’t worry about chaf… those of us who know, think that you are aces.

  381. Anna Molly says:

    Way 2 Go NYGent! :)

  382. RedMaru says:

    Good going NYGent!

  383. Flo Rida says:


    I am loud & proud of you!

    Having said that I thought her response was inconsiderate, rude & ‘why couldn’t you tell me this earlier’.

    Finally (if you are interested in future) she is talking about a hang out allowance (which could be just paying for drinks or the occasional meal NOT gifts and not 4or5 figure allowances) and this may be of interest to you as attractive women usually have attractive friends & also women think well if she’s into him maybe I should pay attention too – a ‘connector’ may help connect the dots & be worth hanging out with (for an appropriate fee of course).

    Once again – very proud.

    My $0.02

  384. Mina says:

    Way to go, NYGent!

    The topic of married SBs/married Sds has ruffled a few feathers, it seems…

  385. RedMaru says:

    Hi 2Chic – Glad for your happiness 😀 and applaud you on your business as a fellow entrepreneur 😀
    Thanks for your story and insight!

  386. Flo Rida says:

    TLG – well if u need to ask! You could hang with my crowd (or we could hang with you) there are some ‘mellow’ humourous people in my group – it’s not full of crazy people (like me).

    Red – i’ll post some comments on your profile soon.

    2chic – great story!

  387. NYGent says:

    Guess I won’t be posting any pics of this relationship to the new blog:

    Discussed with former 22 y.o. SB (see prior blogs) whether any possible basis for a rapprochement. Her position (paraphrasing): (1) not ready to be intimate with you and not sure I ever will be; (2) you’re my father’s age and i’m embarrassed to be seen in public with you; (3) if you want to pay me an allowance and go on dates etc. just to hang out with me, that would be dandy; and (4) if you’re so shallow as to value the physical aspect of a SB relationship over companionship, you probably won’t be interested.

    I responded (paraphrasing) thanks but no thanks. OC, Flo Rida, TexSB et al: I know I’ve set pretty low expectations for you, but aren’t you at least a little bit proud of me?!

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      NYGent… Immensely PROUD of you my friend :)

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Where is NC Gent? Hey, you are so right on the one sided blog comments! I totally understand your feelings about getting lied to about someone saying they are single when they are NOT. Makes me very upset! Gee I get involved in my sugar projects and miss the good blog action.
      But, correction to your statement on what I posted. I posted that I prefer single SD’s and that the sugar bowl is over flowing with them so it makes the selection easier. However, I have dated and considered married SD’s! Preference? Not going to knock ones marital status. Not that type of bloger!

      Now if everyone will respect ones preference nothing more should be said or said with distain. I was married and we were both faithful to each other, but in the end that still did not save our marriage. I just shake my head at the 100 roads this topic can lead to. I prefer to keep my opinion to myself on married SB’s.

      Nevertheless, if someone wants to tell me that my preference is wrong… bring it on, because no one has the right to tell me how to choose my SD. end of post…

  388. Taz says:

    2Chic – good for you and never look back :) Thanks for sharing! :)

    TLG – you are baaaaaad lol!

  389. Margo says:

    The sugarbowl complements marriage in a certain way.

    Anna Molly, could you please write here what are advantages for a SD having married woman as a SB? That would help.

  390. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    2Chic~ Glad that you are finally happy, or happier! 😉
    There is someone for everyone out there… Thanks for sharing!

  391. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TLG~ you are one funny guy! Thanks for the laughs

  392. Nicole says:

    Wow, thanks for sharing your story 2Chic. Inspirational!!!!!!!!!!!

    Go get it girl – live your dreams and may good fortune smile on you always.:)

  393. The Lone Gunman says:

    Flo Rida:

    I don’t get it.

    Was it supposed to be a hot single chick or a hot married chick that was to pee on the loser?


  394. 2Chic says:

    Hello Sugars,

    I wonder into these blogs from time to time to read up and get educated. I have been out of the loop for a minute, but am back. I joined this site back in July. The emails were slow and after a while I just got bored with it all. I have had a SD and our vibe was all good. Before I go any further, let me say that I AM MARRIED and would like to share with you my perspective of why I am SB’n it. As another stated earlier, people come from different situations and circumstances. I did not start out with such a mind set, but after 14 years of enduring emotional and mental abuse, I began to feel I deserved so much better. Up until August of 2009, I had never been unfaithful to my husband. In spite of the misery, I remained devoted, but after so many years of tears, neglect, and sadness, the last episode of tongue lashing snapped the final thread that held my heart to him. It is hard to put into words, all I felt was a numbness. I did not care anymore what he thought, said, or tore from me. I was like I want to be happy. We do have children and that has been the second adhesive to the marriage. But after so much pain, my own children began telling me to get out. (How is that for a an eye opener?)
    Now here is where the problem starts, my husband is military, this caused us to travel a lot, which meant that my college degree did not help me when it came to having longevity on a job. This in turned created a dependence towards my husband. So now that he is retiring, I am finally creating the business I have dreamed of, the dream I had to put on the shelf in order to support his career. With the success of my business, I will be able to be self sufficient, and get the heck away from this man forever. We are in CA, and the law favors the women in most cases, but as for me I am at a point to where I just want out and nothing more from him than to continue to provide for our children. The less he has over me, the happier I will be. I am now accustomed to being alone without my family, I am originally from NC and my entire family is back east. It gets lonely, but I prefer the West coast for there are more opportunities for my business. When I discovered SA, I was floored, and at first a little skeptical, but curious. After a few meetings, and rediscovering that men thought I was beautiful, it boosted my confidence. I never paid any attention to other men stares before, for my husband was always making me feel as though I was a culprit to invite stares from the opposite sex. For me I am just now awakening to who I am, and where I am heading. I am choosing me now, I have finally realized that I am a beautiful woman. I do stand out in a crowd and will no longer be ashamed of it as I have been made to in the past. I am going to take advantage of what life offers and refuse to accept what has been thrown at me in contempt. So heres to you Anna Molly, go for yours, find your happiness.
    I just recently ended my very first extramarital affair( due to his work relocation). He was married, and it worked out fine, he knew my aspirations and admired me for such strength. I did not demand anything from him, it just all fell into place. He wanted to assist me because he knew my heart, my passion, and that I was sincere about him. I choose to be a SB because I want to experience true kindness, attention, and support. I also would like a man in my life who wants to see me reach my dream, and become independent. The site presents opportunities for women such as myself who has aspirations, and a determination to succeed. Women who just need some financial backing to move forward. For me it is more than a $$$ arrangement, I search for a friendship with substance, passion, and respect. Do I object to him being married, of course not, because each situation is different. My goal is to get out of a horrible marriage, to get on my own two feet, and gain a great friendship in the mix of it. There was a time when I would have scolded myself for such a mindset, but after a moment of self reflection I realized that I couldn’t grow old and unhappy. That is the path I am headed down if I do not get out. One day my children will be gone, and I will have remained too long and it will be too late. I can’t do it! So before anyone passes judgment, get the facts on each situation. It is not black and white.

  395. RX8sb says:

    I too love your stories Flo Rida. Awesome.

  396. RedMaru says:

    On the question of advice and feedback can I ask my sugarfam a favor: Take a look at my profile if you haven’t already I would like feedback especially from any SDs present number is 210789. I shortened both paragraphs and I hope not too short.

    Thanks sugarfam 😀

  397. TXSB says:

    Flo Rida:
    LOL! I always loooove your stories. :)

  398. Flo Rida says:

    NC Gent – I agree with you, I have my own preferences & this is causing way too much drama. Again sorry if this caused offense.

    Let’s change tac (sailing) with a story. So two guys (who are good friends) are having a heated but good natured argument about whether Philly teams had more national championships than Chicago teams (cities changed to protect the innocent) and I have no freaking clue as to what they are talking about but michievous me says ‘well if you both think you’re right and agree that Wikipedia is definitive, then let’s make it interesting, if you lose the winner gets to pee on the loser’. and then they argue that they don’t want each others pee, and then they ask me to pee on the loser and I say I don’t want to pee on the loser & so the bet is struck with ‘a to be announced third party smoking hot chick gets to pee on the loser.’ so off to wikipedia we go and then they argue about whether college teams should be in the list, whether ties (football national championships) should be excluded or included as half or whole. Bear in mind everyone is pretty drunk right now and after 30 mins we have a loser, then the winner and his friends spend 3 hours convincing hot girls to come back to a hotel suite and pee on the loser- oh I forgot the word hot came into the list as both guys said they didn’t want a non-hot girl peeing on them. Girls think we’re f-crazy. some girls want money t do it. Bear in mind it’s me who’s asking the girls. In the end nothing happens (winner said he was just wanted to wind the loser up). Another freaking hilarious nite out!

    Hopefully this will distract everyone!

  399. NYGent says:

    Seems like the various opinions have been thoroughly vetted (and then some), so I will just add a couple cents worth. there are so many different permutations of what people are/are not looking for that it is almost impossible to generalize. I have seen many single SBs say they are not interested in a married man, whether that is because they question the morality of it, or don’t want to be time-constricted, or both or some other reason, who knows. Conversely I’ve seen an almost equal number of single SBs say they actually prefer a married SD, perhaps because they want to make sure it is NSA and stays that way (or maybe some other reason). I pesonally (as a single SD) prefer a single (or possibly divorced) SB, although I would not automatically exclude someone who is married but separated or totally estranged. Again, just personally, I would not feel right if I could potentially be accused of aiding and abetting the breakup of a marriage which is still functioning, even if not so well, esp. if kids are involved. I guess my point is there are all kinds, and they all have the right to “life liberty and the pursuit of happiness” through this blog or IRL, however they may choose to define and pursue it. I also echo those who have urged refraining from ad hominem attacks on this blog, it’s a good blog and all should be encouraged to keep participating.

  400. RX8sb says:


    The arrangement is more about two people just wanting to get together and have all the benefits of a relationship but without the stress, and also with high class spoiling.

    A win/win for everyone.

    if you find that there is more developing then that is life. If not then you come away with priceless memories, and an enriched life.

    Has nothing to do with preferences, those are attached to what a person wants.

  401. Carolyn says:

    I personally think that considering the dynamic of the sd/sb relationship, assuming it is strictly that, there is really not a lot of room or hypocrisy regarding marital status, etc. Certainly, everyone is entitled to their preferences, but I was actually shocked by the number of married people who are in the sugarbowl. I thought it would be all lonely hearts looking for a significant other. But, when I screwed my head on correctly, I realized that the sd/sb relationship isn’t really about “dating” in any sort of traditional sense and it isn’t about sex although lord knows that goes on. It’s really about arranged companionship (the definitions vary). Where in there does it say that the members of the arrangement have to be single? What? Married people can’t be lonely?

  402. RedMaru says:

    NCGent -I’m okay but a mite chilly as the temp has dipped here in GA.

    To address what I missed….and I have to chime in too at the risk of sounding like a parrot I have to chide you too Roda….chill dear. Everyone here is entitled to an opinion, but no need for belittling and name calling especially when simply and opinion or preference was expressed with no insult or offense intended. NCGent and SG2 have provided helpful advice and insight of SDs POV and have been gentlemen enough to apologized if that POV has offended or hurt. Everyone has their own preferences and choices and thats what SA is all about as it has something for everyone. So you are welcome and can express disagreement but in a respectful manner.

  403. TXSB says:

    NC Gent:
    No, please don’t “keep to yourself”. There are plenty of SBs on this blog….we need the SDs to participate and share their views. Just b/c 1 person is unable to express their views without being rude and name calling, please don’t let the change the way you are on this blog.


    Anna Molly:
    Echoing Flo Rida, I’m sure you realize by now that we want you to stay on this blog. :) I do have a question for you out of sheer curiosity. You have mentioned that your husband is aware of your sugar world. How did you talk to him about this? I’m assuming you somehow brought up the topic on being interested in getting a SD…please correct me if I’m wrong. How did the conversation go without offending your husband? Most men would freak out if their wife mentioned getting a SD.

  404. RX8sb says:

    Why doesn’t everyone take a breather and cool down. That really shouldn’t be too hard considering the weather.

    Everyone is entitled to personal preferences.

    I prefer someone who is at least 5 inches taller then me, and dislike blondes (male) My family are all dark featured and that is my prefered type. And the 5 inch rule because I love heels, esp. boots. And I have once been with someone just 1/2 inch taller then me, was just wrong.

    I see daily what my mom puts my dad through, and I think him a saint. Because of this I find that I would not be overly critical if he did try to find someone who actually put him first for a change. This site, my abusive ex and my mother has changed my views on relationships, and marriage.

  405. NC Gent says:

    Flo Rida — I agree that I maybe could have voiced some of my opinions a little differently. At the same time, several SBs (OCSB and Gemini for example) have stated several times that they only want single SDs. I didn’t take any of that personally at all. There was also not any uproar from any of the married SDs when their preferences were stated. Why should there be an uproar when SDs state their preference for single SBs — talk about double standards. No wonder this blog is mainly SBs.

  406. TXSB says:

    I don’t think anyone referring to you as being rude or attacking anyone. :)

  407. Flo Rida says:

    RedMaru – hi – hope Atl is warm enough (it’s warmer than NY). Have you been in touch with AtlNicole? i’ve got to run to work.

    Roda – the above may have been harsh on you, please stay.

  408. Taz says:

    I was not attacking at all – just trying to clarify that someone being married is a preference – not something that disqualifies you from being the sugar bowl. To each their own – live and let live 😉

  409. Flo Rida says:

    Roda – everyone has personal preferences and NC Gent and SG2 were merely stating their personal relationship preferences (everyone has some preferences). I agree that others could take an inference that married Sbs should not be here (but that’s not what they said). Everyone is and always has been welcome here (absent malice)

    Anna Molly knows she is welcome here and I sent her an email last night. Equally you are perfectly entitled to say that SG2 and NC Gent could have been more considerate and sensitive (they were both unwittingly insensitive) but they had no malice and apologized and clearly welcomed Anna Molly here. You in comparison used certain rude words, you are allowed opinions but kindly don’t be rude.

    sorry if this is disturbing you Anna Molly (i mean no harm).

    Can we all just get along?

  410. NC Gent says:

    Hi RedMaru — I am doing pretty well (other than the personal attacks). How are you doing?

    Thanks for your support TXSB. I was thinking to myself (and maybe I should keep it to myself) I was hoping that SBs/SDs would come to our defense with the same vigor as when an SD made personal attacks on an SB :)

  411. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Red~ have to put the christmas lights up around the house! this is the time when I wish there was a man around, so I wouldn’t have to do it!
    talk later, nice to see you back

  412. RedMaru says:

    Awww ya leavin BeachGirl?
    You have a good one

  413. RedMaru says:

    Hey NC Gent did see you slip in here…How are you 😀

  414. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    I am off sugars!
    everyone has a right to be here and share..
    See you later sugars!

  415. TXSB says:

    SouthernGent2 & NC Gent:
    I’m totally baffled that you guys are being attacked for simply sharing your views. As a woman, even though I realize it’s a double standard and unfair, I actually agree with many of the things you two wrote. The sugar world is not about being right or wrong…it’s all about personal prererences and you two are more than welcome to have yours. I hope this doesn’t deter you two from sharing your views in the future. :)

  416. RedMaru says:

    Wow I try to do some work and miss the action….
    Welcome Roda
    Hey Taz and Flo Rida 😀

  417. NC Gent says:

    Thank you Flo Rida.

  418. Taz says:

    Having been married and divorced myself…along with cheated on and lied to in that relationship – I would much prefer having someone cheat on me physically than emotionally but that is just me and what I have taken from my experiences.

    Not all arrangements with married people include the married person lying to their spouse as well…although MOST are lol..not all.

  419. Roda says:

    nc gent Don’t judge you? It appears that Anna Molly is already being judged by you and SG2 you don’t know her. and i read the blog a lot, and yes i know a little about both of you.
    Flo Rida we are all here to share right? they were rude to anna molly funny you are not defending her

  420. TXSB says:

    Yep, I got home late and was trying to “wind down” before bed. :)

    No, I don’t plan on telling my future bf/fiance/husband about my sugar relationship. As far as me waiting until I’m actually married to stop with being my SD, I don’t have a good logical explanation for this. It’s just how I feel. I would not marry a man who wasn’t able to provide for me financially (unless he lost his job/company whatever but that’s a different scenario). As for my “emotional/physical” needs, I grew up in a culture where even today women are expected to sacrifice themselves for their family.

    As much as I hate to admit this, many of those beliefs are still with me today. Unless I was being abused, once married, as a wife my #1 priority in life will be my husband and kids. If I were to have a sexual relationship with a man other than my husband, got “caught” and if that leads to a divorce and the breakup of my family, that’s not something I’m prepared to deal with. There are many factors that may break up my future marriage….me cheating on my husband will not be one of them.

    Now emotional affiars are a whole different thing. Plenty of married men and women have people in their lives who they have “emotional affiars” and that’s not something I’m opposed to if I was unhappy w/ my hubby. But I don’t plan on sharing my body with any other man once I’m married. Of course my feelings could change 5,10,15 years from now….I can’t really guarantee that it won’t. But this is how I feel right now.

  421. NC Gent says:

    I was reluctant to respond to Roda, but here it goes.

    Roda — I never ever said or implied that Anna Molly didn’t have a right to be here. I also never said she should go to AM. Also, I am not sure why my preference for a single SB makes me “arrogant and full of shit.” We all have preferences. I am not asking you to like my preferences, just please don’t judge me for the preferences I have. I don’t even know you. Thanks.

  422. Flo Rida says:

    Roda – kindly tone down the language – everyone is entitled to a point of view – just state it calmly and without malice.

    Sweety – Wikepedia (which is not definitive) believes that prostitution IS Legal in al of Canada but related activitied (operating a brothel & licensing) requires restrictions. in any event I don’t think sugar relationships are prostitution. Finally prostitution is legal in England but solicitation is illegal in England.
    Generally escorts need licenses in the US as well.

    Still not a lawyer (or a prostitute).

  423. Taz says:

    Personally I have never looked at it as a SD paying a ‘premium’ to anyone based on anything. I thought sd’s were supposed to WANT to help an sb out or show them a great time if they had chemsitry and a desire to do so? Of course everyone has preferences (which would possibly inhibit someone from getting to know someone married and yes maybe limiting themselves and missing out on someone wonderful) but chemistry is not based on whether one is married or not – or there would not be affairs taking place in this world. I am sure some single sb’s would PREFER a married sd, as some PREFER a single sd…just as some have no preference at all. There are benefits and downfalls to either. Saying that a sb should NOT be in the sugarbowl b/c she is married is like saying that a sd should not be here either if he is single. Everyone has their story and preferences. Perhaps a sb is staying married for her children, among other things…just the way sd’s do. Choosing to be open to someone married (male or female) is a personal preference. I think it is a little harsh to say someone does not belong here based on marital status – we all have our own stories, preferences and desires. Personally I am not here to sacrifice ANYTHING and hope that my sd feels the same. These arrangements are supposed to add something to your life whether you are a sd or a sb, whether you are married or a single…no matter what your story is.

    Now if those sb’s or sd’s are in fact FAKE. That is a different story…

    Kudos to you Anna Molly for being up front about your circumstances with any pot’s you have :) BG – if you are in touch with Anna – please pass along my email :)

    SugarBaby – in Canada the person receiving the gift does not pay any tax, I do believe someone can ‘gift’ up to 10 000.00 per/person without being taxed. The laws are very similar to the U.S…if there is companionship and not receiving or giving money for SEX it is not prostitution. In sugar relationships/arrangements sd’s and sb’s are just much more up front and honest about their desires IMO.

    Flo – not sure of prostitution being legal. But being an ‘escort’ is 😛

    Welcome Roda :)

  424. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Roda~ you are right, everyone has a right to be here. And welcome! 😀

  425. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    RX8 ~ I want warm weather…..

  426. RX8sb says:

    I’ll send you some heat. They said it would get to the 90’s again today. though it was in the 50s this morning.

  427. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Hi RX8~ good, off to put the Christmas lights on ,,,, and it’s so cold!

  428. NC Gent says:

    I am guessing that a sugar relationship in Canada isn’t illegal/prostituion for the same reasons that it isn’t illegal in the US though.

  429. Roda says:

    anna molly you have as much right to be on this site as any. NC Gent said to go to am , it’s a affair site, not sb/sd site.

    nc gent why don’t you go on there,AM, you seem cheap .

  430. RX8sb says:

    Hello BG how are you lady?

  431. Roda says:

    SG2 and NC Gent

    you are both so arrogant and full of shit. you think that married sbs can’t be here or shouldn’t be here? why? you guys are married and you are so full of double standards. just because you wouldn’t be with a married sb , or single mom or even someone that was divorced,no wonder you both can’t keep your sbs… anna molly is here for the same thing as everyone else to get treated right and get what she doesn’t at home.

    anna molly there are plenty of sds that are with married sbs , don’t stop looking because those 2 jerks don’t want a married sb.they don’t know what they are missing. plenty of sds to go around.

    my 2 cents for you all…

  432. RX8sb says:

    LOL that is too funny, she has to get a prostitute business license.

  433. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Flo Rida~ no Girl… prostitution is illegal…but in Amsterdam it’s legal

  434. Flo Rida says:

    Sugar Baby – prostitution laws are very different in Canada from US – I think prostitution is legal in Ontario and Quebec but the lady needs a license(?).

    Still not a lawyer (or a prostitute).

  435. Sugar Baby says:

    NC Gent – thanks for the info i will do some internet seaching.

  436. RedMaru says:

    Not yet but its next on the list when I free up some money

  437. RX8sb says:

    O ouch. I have a waterbed and cranked up the heat. The house is very drafty. do you have a heated blanket?

  438. RedMaru says:

    I’m good RX8sb just a tad on the chilly side as GA is in the fifties now. Slept in a fetal curl all night trying to keep warm. My apartment is in serious rennovation so for the moment no heat. And my lil cheap CVS heater fan went…but then again it was cheap…lol

  439. NC Gent says:

    Sugar Baby — I would be surprised if the laws in Canada aren’t similar regarding the prostitution rulings in the States. I am not a lawyer though, but I bet if you do a little internet search, you can find some information on the topic. That is how I found my information regarding the law in the States. I had some of the same questions when I first started. During that search, I found an interesting tidbit (because my first SB was in RI). In Rhode Island, prostitution is legal as long as the bartering and transaction occur indoors. Some lawmakers are looking to change that law, but that made it a clear cut case for me, in addition to the other rulings lol

  440. RX8sb says:

    LOL Every morning I usually go make my ‘Frothed Nutella Machiacato with starbucks coffee’. Wakes me up and these days warms as well.

    I could kill for a decent uninterrupted nights sleep.

  441. Anna Molly says:

    I have on my boxing gloves…..lol

  442. RX8sb says:

    ahhh.. typo’s Sorry that is what I get for not getting the coffee started this morning..

    Successful When Not what.

  443. RX8sb says:

    I am doing well. just breaking in my morning and getting some coding started.

    How are you this morning RedMaru

    And I agree with you as well. That is what I am seeking as well. Also you are who you hang out with. I was the most personally successful what I hang around horse people and affluent people.

  444. RX8sb says:

    And wow just finished catching up on the blog. And my aren’t we charged up this morning.

  445. photogirl says:

    SG2 – Yes, in my opinion you are short changing yourself. That would be like a SB saying she excludes divorced or single dad SDs… and I personally know of several divorced and single dad SDs. Again, we all have preferences but when you exclude too many options… you may be missing out on something great 😉

  446. RedMaru says:

    Hey RX8sb How are you
    Hi Sugar Baby
    I also agree with photogirl after a second skim – I do want a connection as I want a friend, mentor, and lover as well as a benefactor. Someone to watch me grow and improve and take pride that he was a factor in that growth

  447. Sugar Baby says:

    photogirl – you are right they don’t care about who they sleep with for me i am looking for a connection too and i don’t care to have sooooo many SD so i just want to make sure i come across right with them

  448. RX8sb says:

    Good Morning Ladies and Gents.

    How is everyone doing?

  449. RedMaru says:

    Morning sugarfam 😀
    Hows everyone today. I got my hair relaxed and didn’t relized how much it grew. I wonder if I should post a new photo
    AnnaMolly- You’re staying(jumping up and down) YAY!!!
    NYCSB- grats on the pot may it be sweet
    lisa – Interesting dream 😉

  450. photogirl says:

    Sugar Baby – This is not only about sex with me. And as Brandon put it… prostitutes don’t care about the men they sleep with… they only care about the money. It is strictly transactional for them. I am looking for a connection, chemistry, friendship etc. And ofcourse prostitutes will sleep with anyone… there is no physical attraction involved, atleast from what I have heard.

  451. SouthernGent2 says:

    Anna Molly – I was probably a bit harsh earlier. Maybe I should have also said I simply filter out the married sb’s as personal preference also. Heck, I find it a bit difficult to consider divorced sb’s or single moms. And I do realize that I might be short changing myself with such limitations.

  452. Anna Molly says:

    I’m with photogirl :)

  453. Sugar Baby says:

    i wonder if the law is the same as for canada….cause i know i have been asked what type of financial need i was looking for so i decide to put an amount so maybe they would not ask that but it just raised some red flag for me.

  454. Anna Molly says:

    SG2 – Its just how I feel about married sb’s. I couldn’t do it.

    That’s how you should have said it to begin with :)

  455. NC Gent- says:

    I recognize that Anna Molly :)

  456. SouthernGent2 says:

    Anna Molly – its nothing personal. Its just how I feel about married sb’s. I couldn’t do it.

  457. NC Gent says:

    Sugar Baby – the U.S. Courts have consistently ruled that as long as companionship, friendship etc are a part of the arrangement, it isn’t prostitution. For example, if this wasn’t the case, a date with dinner, drinks, entertainment followed by intimacy and cab fare home could be considered prostitution. There would be a massive gray area that would fall under prostitution if there wasn’t the “companionship” latitude.

  458. Sugar Baby says:

    Hey photogirl yes i agree that men are lacking something in the marriage just like some women do too. But i have a question to put out there and this is why i have not made the final step in connecting with a SD when do we step over the boundary of prostitution and just seeking what we want cause we are taking money and we are having sex with them. I don’t need a cop at my door step.

  459. Anna Molly says:

    My statement was not directed at you NC

  460. NC Gent says:

    For the record, I think it is 100% acceptable for a married woman to seek out a sugar relationship. Personally, I don’t seek out married SBs for the reasons I stated above. That isn’t a double standard, it is a preference.

  461. Anna Molly says:

    There is a difference between having a personal preference and just flat out telling someone they shouldn’t be here at all because of their marital status.

  462. Anna Molly says:

    I have read posts from married men saying “I don’t want to leave my wife, but she isn’t providing me with what I need”.

    Well, I don’t want to leave my husband, but he isn’t providing me with what I need.

    I just don’t understand why it’s o.k. for a married man to feel that way and seek out a relationship like this to meet those needs, but it’s not o.k. for a married woman.

  463. photogirl says:

    Yes, SG2, maybe from a financial aspect…but what about the other things like intmacy, companionship etc? The married SDs are here because they are lacking that in their marriage… so what is the married SB to do when she is lacking the same?

  464. NC Gent says:

    Here is my perspective on it — I figure I pay a premium aka allowance for a single SB having to put up with the hassles of being with a married SD. Why should I have to pay a premium to a married SB? It isn’t like it is a sacrifice for her to be seeing a married SD.

    Secondly, I think it would be really awkward especially if husband knows about the arrangement. This may be harsh, but under this circumstance, it seems to me that husband is pseudo pimping out his wife. Why doesn’t he provide for her? Instead, he is having her see another man to provide the things that she wants. So I know you can counter with what about the single SB that has the serious bf – well I pass those by too — too much drama. I guess it all comes up to supply and demand issues too — there are plenty of single SBs with the attributes that I seek — why would I seek one is married under the current supply-demand ratios?

    Having said all this — there is one scenario where I would consider a married SB, but this scenario has never presented itself…. a married SB whose husband doesn’t know and all she was seeking was nice gifts and experiences… I guess this type of arrangement is better suited for AM, but I would consider that scenario. If that is the scenario you are seeking Anna, put it on your profile, you might generate some interest. I know plenty of SDs that have looked on AM looking for an affair while providing some spoiling — just not to the same degree as SA.

    Again — nothing personal — just my perspective that I hope provides insight into the difficulties that a married SB is likely to encounter. I think this is far better than being patronizing.

  465. photogirl says:

    After all… aren’t we all looking for something that is missing?

    A married woman seeking a SD is no different that a married SD seeking a SB. I understand everyone has their own preferences… but to say a married woman has no right being in the sugar world is just wrong IMO.

  466. NYC SB says:

    Why are there double standards with married SBs vs married SDs????

    I would think that a married SD would get along better with a married SB as you would both be on the same page… but I digress

    Had a pot date last night… I think it went well… had it been an investor meeting. He got so excited about my business model and vision that he wants me to meet with his people and work something out…

    umm I need to learn how to shut up about work… or just lie and tell everyone that I am an administrative assistant

    frustrated now

  467. photogirl says:

    Or how about a Married Sugar Momma…

    I would have thought people would be a little more open minded in the sugar world.

  468. SouthernGent2 says:

    Its just how I feel Anna Molly. A married woman has a man that should be providing for her.

  469. Vixen says:

    SouthernGent- Is it ok for a married woman to have an affair though as long as she’s not a SB?

  470. Anna Molly says:

    With men it’s always a double standard. Men can have multiple partners and get praised for it, but if a woman does…omg she is something less than desireable. Men can carry around a few extra pounds and it’s o.k., but women forget about it.

  471. Anna Molly says:

    Why shouldn’t a married woman be a SB?

  472. SouthernGent2 says:

    Married sugar baby? – for me, never would happen. I know its a double standard, but a married woman should not be a sugar baby.

    Multiple sb’s? – can’t do it. I prefer one only, though I have to admit the first meeting dates can be a bit of an adventure, some good and some bad. But really the focus is to find one person only.

    Multiple sd’s? – I expect to be the only sd when I am with someone. That being said, I understand there is the possibility of someone else. I simply tell her that I want to be exclusive, but if I find out there is someone else, then I will walk immediately. In other words, what I don’t know probably won’t hurt me.

  473. Margo says:

    TXSB – just asking: so you plan to stay in he sugarbowl till you actually married. You would be engaged, plan a wedding and see a Sugar Daddy at the same time. Will you tell your future husband about this?

  474. photogirl says:

    Anna Molly – Hang in there…yes we all have our days. Although I am no longer married I have had my doubts because I am a single mother of 3… Some men just assume that your looking for someone to be a dad to them…and that is just not the case for me.

  475. photogirl says:

    Lisa – You do have some strange dreams…

    I rarely remember mine, but I admit I’ve had some very odd ones myself.

    TXSB – You were up late 😉 Glad your first SD/SB relationship is going so well for you.

  476. Anna Molly says:

    Good morning everyone….I just couldn’t stay away :)

    TexaSD – Yes, I’m married :)

    Sorry for the rant yesterday, but everyone has those days when they need to vent. I should be good for a while :)

  477. lisa says:

    Good morning everyone
    Getting ready to go to work
    I had a weird dream that I was at my lover’s house and his wife gave me a huge first aid kit for my birthday, It was about 4 feet wide, what could that mean?

    Have a good day everyone.

  478. TXSB says:

    “NC Gent says:
    I have an ex-SB who has a profile up in Las Vegas. She is less than truthful about her marital status, among other things. If you are further interested, please let me know.”

    I think this is a great idea. We SBs have shared (here on the board and also through private e-mails) profile #’s and our experiences with fake, creepy men we have come across on SA. Men who were just a waste of our time and effort.

    I think it’s a good idea for the men to do the same in regards to the “SBs” they’ve encountered who turned out to be escorts or who were dishonest etc.

  479. TXSB says:

    1) “Would you have an arrangement with a married sugar daddy or sugar baby? Why or why not?”

    My current SD is married.

    *Advantages* of a married SD:
    It keeps me from getting emotionally attached. My SD has all the qualities I look for in a BF. If he was single, it would be very easy for me to get emotioanlly attached and start hoping to become his wife someday. Since I know that he already has a wife and children with that wife, it keeps be very grounded to reality (which is what I need in my relationship w/ him).

    *Disadvantages* of a married SD:
    Time and place restrictions. My SD & I have more of a BF/GF relationship. We’ve been together about a month. Initially we talked about him seeing me 2x/wk. LOL…since our 1st date, we have seen each other 4-5x/wk! :) *BUT* I mostly see him during the afternoons…I only get 1 evening/wk. I don’t see him on weekends b/c he’s w/ family. I found out today during the holidays he’ll be out of town w/ family for 1 week so obviously I won’t see him then either. I can’t call him in the evenings or weekends no matter how much I miss him. A lot of fun events (concerts, plays, shows etc) that take place during the evenings or weekends….he can’t go w/ me. We also have to be careful about where we go or how we act in public b/c he may bump into someone who knows his family. Its a bit frustrating b/c I really do miss him at times …but I knew what the restrictions were when I agreed to be his SB.

    2) “Are you looking for a monogamous sugar daddy or sugar baby? What do you think about having multiple sugars at once? Would you?”

    For me:
    Going back to what another SB wrote earlier, I’m not looking to share my body with multiple SDs. With an SD, I was looking for a “BFE” and that’s what I have with my SD. He keeps me satisfied emotionally, physically, and financially….I have no need to look for another SD.

    My SD:
    He’s married so I’m obviously sharing him w/ his wife! I told him in the beginning that ideally, I would like to be the only SB in his life…but I don’t “demand” it. But that *IF* he does get another SB, I would at least like for him to make me aware of it. My SD has assured me that I’m the only SB and he’s not searching for another one. He already sees me 4-5x/wk….so to be honest, b/t his wife and me, I don’t think he has time for another SB! :)

    For Others:
    If someone wants to have multiple SDs or SBs, then that’s a personal decision. We’re all adults here. I believe as long as people are honest with their SDs/SBs and take the necessary precautions to stay safe in regards to intimacy……then there’s nothing wrong with it.

    3) “How long do you want to stay in the Sugarbowl?”

    Until I get married. Once I become a wife, I plan on being completely devoted to my husband. I’m currently single and not even dating anyone casually. I need to find someone to date first, then get engaged, plan a wedding, and get married. So it looks like I’ll be in the sugarbowl for a while.

  480. TXSB says:

    Hi Everyone! Just caught up on the blog…have quite a bit to add. Hope everyone had a great day! :)

    “Yaz10 says:
    -Some SDs would just like to use me as an experiment because they have never “dated a black girl” before.”

    I’ve never understood this attitude from men! I’m not black, white, or hispanic…and I deal with this all the freaking time from men (in traditional dating and dealt with it while searching for a SD). Men saying “Oh you’re from ____. I’ve never dated someone from there.” Its really irritaing….makes me feel like a social experiment of some sort.

    I see several of you know how to write in bold or italics on this blog. Can someone PLEASE let me know how its done? Pretty please…. :)

  481. TexaSD says:

    anna your married?

  482. RainyStreet says:

    Having a really f***ed up week..no time for sugar dating for me :( oh well maybe later?

  483. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Sorry just pissed off! Lucky that is all I wrote!

  484. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    If anyone that has my email has Anna Molly’s could you send it to her!! Please 😀

    Anna Molly ~ don’t go, fuck the small minded people that think married people aren’t allowed here. You have every right to be here!
    We should mail

  485. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    RX8~ doing good!

  486. RX8 sb says:

    I am doing well hun.

    just relaxing before bed, reading a food storage 101 that my dad bought, and taking advantage of my son going to sleep early.

    How are you?

  487. Margo says:

    Anna Molly,
    You can leave what you started, but what will you do next? Something important is missed in your marriage. Where will you find it? Would you join an ordinary dating site, where you will find all kinds of BS, and guys will ask you out for a drink and expect having sex with you at the first evening without giving anything at all? You less likely to find serious long term relationship there, because you are married.

    What else? Hanging out with your girlfriends, complaining that you are unhappy in your current relationship, and that’s all? Time passes quickly, and in five years you might not get what you can now. Think again, Anna Molly.

  488. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Hey RX8~ how are you girl?

  489. RX8 sb says:

    hello ladies. o and gents. 😉

    I are we have a birthday girl… happy birthday rachel. november rocks, buy I am biased so don’t take my word for it.

    and great advice Lisa. I was a little bold in my reply
    “what kind of arrangement are you looking for. I am looking for a Real SD/SB relationship and will not hey into an arrangement without any chemistry.”

    I wasn’t exactly tactful, but he message back saying
    “he thinks we want the same thing”

    so he gets points for responding. I also took your advice Lisa on asking him what his plans for the meet are.

    so I am now in a waiting game.

    funny, the one I thought might ne a pot turned into trash, and the one I thought was trash might ne a pot. I think I have got to stop jumping to conclusions. I still have a lot to learn.

    and Hello to the newcomers, always love meeting new people.

    Hello BG, And lady you are gorgeous and don’t let anyone tell you other wise.

  490. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Nite New SB

  491. Awwww…ladies we are the newly inducted into the mutual admiration society! He he. On that note, I’m off to bed. Sugar dreams!

  492. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    you are beautiful New, sexy girl!!! wow

  493. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Thank you!! blushing…. lol

  494. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    New SB in SB~ I think i’m hot, not sure if he does! lol

  495. photogirl says:

    New SB in SB *395409* says:
    Beach Girl – bwah hahaha … NEXT! Some day they will realize that we are in our PRIME!

    Sooner better than later preferrably!

  496. Too tall…yes. He mentioned accepting our age if we were hot…I don’t recall his objection to blondes.

  497. photogirl says:

    BG – Oh stop!

  498. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    NewSB~ I’m 5’9″ so I think I’m too tall for him, and probably too far, and too old and blond, I think he doesn’t like blondes?

  499. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Did TexaSD ask me out when I wasn’t here???? hahhahh

  500. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    New SB in SB~ If they would realize that we would all have found SDs by now.
    Have you and TezasSD set a date yet?? What??? did I miss something?

  501. Nope…just teasing. I thought you two had some good banter going

  502. Have you and TezasSD set a date yet??

  503. Beach Girl – bwah hahaha … NEXT! Some day they will realize that we are in our PRIME!

  504. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    New SB in SB~Age is only a number , some SDs don’t think so….

  505. I have a big day tomorrow too so I’m disappearing soon. Age is only a number…never an excuse 😉

  506. lisa knows I,m kidding. She gave me grief yesterday.

  507. photogirl says:

    Yes… I remember but I am close to the same age as you two.

  508. photogirl says:

    New SB in SB – I have been crashing early the last week or so…but I blame it on the cold and not my age! :)

  509. photogirl says:

    Welcome Always2Sweet…and I agree on the suggestions!

    Happy Birthday Rachel. We have a lot of birthdays coming up over the next month or so!

    Lisa – Thanks! Email is on the way.

  510. now who is too old??? goodnight lisa.

  511. lisa says:

    Have a good night everyone. Got to be getting ready to go to bed, have to work all day tomorrow. Goodnight

  512. lisa says:

    photogirl my email is posted in my post above yours, if it hasn’t moved again, lol

  513. lisa says:

    I think I lost your email too

  514. always2sweet says:

    This is all such great support and advice, I appreciate it so much ladies!

  515. Vixen says:

    Rachel- Happy birthday to ya!

    Always2sweet- Welcome and keep your chin up. Just remember that in the sugar world pictures are essential for a majority of SDs. Unfortunately, a great profile will only say so much so put up the most flattering pics you can get your hands on.

  516. photogirl says:

    Lisa – I seemed to have lost your email… do you still have mine?

  517. lisa says:

    kittykatcalvin at the y I will check to see if I have yours

  518. always2sweet says:

    ok, just got a chance to read everyones advice, and I am so happy that I decided to stop lurking and actually take part in the blog. This advice is greatly appreciated and so very helpful. I appreciate you guys pointing out the good, and not so hot parts of my profile, and all the tips. Adjustments are definately in the works!

    Flo: what a great idea about adding that I am willing to relocate, and under what conditions. alos, thanks for the tips on areas that could use some fine tuning and revamping

    lisa: you are so right about the princess thing. I would imagine that it annoys an SD…it annoys me lol

    New: the blog is already helping me more than I imagined thanks for the advice, I am off to find the rest of those tips!

  519. lisa says:

    That’s a great idea, mention your goal to attend fashion school, sds want to hear what you want to acomplish in your life. The desire to get out of debt is good too. Both of these show responsibility.

  520. RedMaru says:

    Like your profile.
    Most of the suggestions I had were already said!

  521. lisa says:

    And it does take time. I joined this site a year and half ago, met a sd a week later, but he wasn’t really sd material, but he was a nice guy, younger than me though. The arrangment lasted a month before he moved away and he couldnt really travel. I also had a couple no shows, and two shopping date sds , back to back weekends last year. It was fun but at that time I was out of work and had little food so money would have been more practical. After an 8 month drought with just fakes, a sd contacted me, we met a few days later, and I had a month’s allowance just like that. He was a nice guy and we go along so well but he was a little too old (lied about his age by about 14 years) and he wan’t much for driving to my town and after a little over month, he poofed and deleted his profile. A month later I was contacted by a very sweet gentleman who is still in my life, we have yet to meet though, hopefully sometime in the near future.

  522. RedMaru says:

    Hearty welcome to you always2sweet

  523. always2sweet says:

    Thanks so much for the advice lisa, I will definately be making some adjustments to my profile. Omaha is a fairly nice size city, about 3/4 of a million people in the Omaha metro area. Its a pretty wealthy city too, and one that is least affected by the recession. I think that some things that I can add are wanting to get out of debt, and being able to pay tuition for fashion school. I got into argueably one of the best fashion schools in the world(FIDM in LA) but I cant even think about affording it now. Do those sound like good things to mention? And I will definately find or take a 3rd pic to post. Other than does what I have up seem ok? Sorry that I keep bothering you with a million questions, but I really appreciate you helping me out!

  524. Hi & welcome always2sweet. I, too, have been here about a month and in the midwest…I am in Lisa’s age bracket. As a rule, I’ve noticed the most activity is from the metropolitan areas. Hang in there and be patient. Flo Rida will have some great advice. In the meantime, go to the Halloween blog and look for the post with tips on how to write a profile. It’s about 1/2 way through and it’s a long one. I adapted mine after I read them. Yours is a little long and we’ve all learned that the sds need to be able to pull information quickly. Hope its a good starting place!

    I’ve found the blog gets you through the quiet times and makes you realize most of us face many of the same issues.

  525. Flo Rida says:


    Generally I like the profile, it’s well written, mature & you’re pretty.

    I think you should swap out the photos – don’t slouch (it makes anyone look fatter) stand tall, also the full body shot should be in black (it’s slimming for everyone). The other photo should be a full face with a big smile (you’re not smiling enough).

    I’d drop the Caucasian – Meditteranean man – i’m guessing their are not too many of them in Omaha & if you’re open to dating more than why say it – it just deters the non-Caucasian-Meditteranean men.

    i’d drop the book bath and Dexter – generally men won’t care.

    Otherwise I really like the profile – but seriously darling you’ll have to be patient in Omaha, Nebraska so add something about willing to relocate and or travel (after reasonable travel funds sent in advance and safety concerns addressed). Be patient and have fun!

    PS Lisa also gives great advice!

  526. lisa says:

    You might want to take out the “princess” part as I have read that it annoys alot of guys for some reason, not sure why, lol

  527. lisa says:

    always2sweet I would post a third pic and maybe one with a more closeup of your face. I would also mention any goals you have and what you are looking to acheive in the long term. I myself am older and don’t really have any advanced career goals, oddly I somewhat happy with were I am but I do mention my goal to build a little emergency fund and the desire to aquire a car in the future, no necessarily for leisure although of course I would want that too but as a way to expand my work options, living options, etc. Most of the sds on here want to know what goals you have, etc. I’m not sure what size Omaha is as i’ve never been to Nebraska (i’m from the midwest too, Indiana) as I live in Texas and even in this huge state, sds are limited. It takes time and you have to weed them out but it can happen.

  528. RedMaru says:

    Happy B-Day Rachel! Party! Whooo!!

  529. always2sweet says:

    my profile is # 399320

    I live in the midwest. Ideally I would like to get the hell out of here, but I am not opposed to having an SD in my area

  530. lisa says:

    always2sweet :

    what area are you in? And yes everyone gets though short messages that really say nothing. What is your profile number?

  531. always2sweet says:

    Its not too private I guess, I am just seriously lost. I have had contact with a few SD’s, but I dont even know if I am doing that right. I basically have repeatedly gotten the you are so cute, too bad you dont live closer spiel. I have never really been the kind of girl who said I want this, and I feel I should be treated this or that way, and when I try to I feel really bad(I know…makes you wonder what the hell I am doing here right lol). But I do know that I want to be treated like a princess and spoiled, and I know how to treat a man. I figured Ive done enough for men who didnt deserve it, so why not be in a mutually beneficial relationship?! But aside from knowing what I want, I dont really know how to get it. Ive always been a shy “sweet” girl. SD’s dont seem to go for me. Im not sure if its b/c Im not “perfect” or b/c I just dont come off as a good SB or something. I dont know if that helps, but I hope it does. I understand you not wanting to Big Sugar a 4th SB, but I appreciate you even taking the time to respond

  532. Flo Rida says:

    Rachel – happy bday
    K-K – I trust you r well!

  533. Flo Rida says:

    Paige – u seem like a cool chick – my first post was shortly after you posted so I remember you. You seem to disappear & re-appear. I grew up in London.

    Always2sweet – what’s troubling you lady – perhaps we can all help? Or is it too personal. As I said b4 ‘i’m not a role model’ & I already have 3 SBs asking me q-s so i’m reluctant to take on a 4th. can you at least post to the blog or let us know if it’s too private?

  534. lisa says:

    Welcome always2sweet I have limited experience and am an older sb which automatically cuts my chances but I can give you some advice.

    First of all sbs outnumber sds on here at least 10 to 1 which means there is alot of competition. There are also alot of fake sds that lower the playing field.

    Never send additional pics to any sd that requests if you already have some up as there are many pic collectors on here.

    If you have a question about a sd that contacted you and you are in any of our states, you can feel free to ask for advice, compare notes on sds.

  535. always2sweet says:

    Can I ask for a Sugar mentor? LOL I am serious. I feel like I have “potential” her, but am so utterly lost on how all this works. Any experienced Sugars want to take me under their wing? I would love you forever!!! :)

  536. lisa says:

    Happy birthday Rachel
    I’m right behind you on the 9th

  537. lisa says:

    Darn :( the prepostition that would lower my daughter’s tuitition is getting defeated. It’s odd that everyone says crime is bread by lack of education but the voters in my neighborhood are against the community college being annexed by the school district. My daughter’s tuition would have been cut in half had this passed.

  538. Rachel 386002 says:

    thank you thank you!

  539. hey all just checking in with my sugar sisters, I hope it all is going well!

  540. Paige says:

    I joined seeking a few months ago in the summer just after leaving school hoping to meet some guys and find a SD to have some fun with and help me out when I started as a student in London. I’ve been at university for rather over a month now and have been contacted by lots of guys. Some of them are out and out nutters, some of them sleezy and some of them just time wasters but there are plenty of potentials and I have met up with quite a few for coffee. I’m in central London so its real easy to meet. Almost all the guys have been married. Do I care? hell no, why should I? I’m looking for an arrangement, isnt that what this site is all about? If they want to cheat on their wife with a teenage girl thats up to them. I have found the married guys much the nicest, far more attentive, charming and thoughtful. And, lets not forget, far more generous too. Oh, and I almost forgot (like hell I did) the sex has been great, these older married guys certainly know how to treat a girl in bed, sooo much better than the guys I have dated up till now.

    So I will deffinitely be here in the sugar bowl for plenty of time yet and no way will I be limiting myself to monogomy. Why should I? I don’t imagine for a minute they will be.

  541. Rachel 386002 says:

    Nice take OC!

    Thanks Anna Molly!

  542. Anna Molly says:

    Happy B-Day Rachel!

  543. Rachel 386002 says:

    Hi all! Today was a beautiful day here! AND it’s my 30th bday…. YAY! Now onto the blog questions:

    Would you have an arrangement with a married sugar daddy or sugar baby? Why or why not? Yes I would, it’s not up to me to judge anyone. I can just as easily be judged for being a SB. It’s about the relationship between me and the SD. We either have GREAT chemistry or its a no go.

    Are you looking for a monogamous sugar daddy or sugar baby? What do you think about having multiple sugars at once? Would you? I think it’s okay for a SD to have multiples, but honestly… I’d like to find one SD who can take care of my needs. I’m a one man kind of gal. :)

    How long do you want to stay in the Sugarbowl? Hmmm… well I’d like to get my first taste of sugar before I leave. I don’t know how long I’ll stay, I’d have to say it depends on the SD. Maybe I’ll stay till my sweet tooth is settled….. I’m sorry… I HAD to say that!

  544. Anna Molly – I’m sorry you are experiencing what so many married couples face after stagnation and a lack of effort. Even if this isn’t right for you, I hope you will stay on the blog.

    I guess it brings up the question…If the truth isn’t working for someone, would it be inappropriate to create an “alter ego” and not tell people the truth. I know we’ve all bashed the fakes, but there may be times when the truth is more than most can handle. The main disadvantage I could see is that I would want to chose if I were with a married sd. I could see a heading like…Ask me no questions and I’ll tell you no lies”. This is the sugar world ater all…if you cannot pretend here, then where can you?

    I have been exchanging e-mails with a newbie. He’s married and work has him travelling often, so he is only able to meet once a month or less. My profile states 1-3K. What would be a fair arrangement for a ldr arrangement like this?

    Married SD – I have considered it when I would object in a traditional relationship. However, I’m not looking to marry an sd.

    Multiple partners. – I doubt it. I would like to stay disease free.

    Sugar bowl – since I’m new I will pass on this one. Enjoying the adventure for now.

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Would I be in an arrangement with a married SD? NO, too restrictive. Bad first experience! Plus the Sugar Bowl is over-flowing with single SD’s.
      Multiple SD’s? (kind of made me giggle, made me think of multiple O’s… hahaa) Sexually NO, one should be enough to meet my sexual and shopping needs. Multiple partners…now that one I may think about. I am taking my interviewing to a whole new level of screening!
      Sugar Bowl Finish? My Sugar bowl is not made of sugar (not a hard candy finish), it is more like a beautiful Limoges bowl that I will cherish when it is in use and lovingly put away when it is not needed. ~OC

  545. always2sweet says:

    I dont think that I could have a relationship with a married SD, but I wont say never either. I’d like to believe that I wouldnt howver.

    I dont think I would be opposed to an SD having more than just me as a SB as long as I knew how everything was going to be in the beginning. Ideally I would like to be the only SB and have just one SD, but I see nothing wrong with “dating” around

    As far as how long I will stay in the sugarbowl…I am unsure at the moment. I dont want to say that I am getting discouraged(since I have only been here a short time), but it is a little disheartening to have only had a couple of messages so far. No meetings or pot SD as of yet. I actually sort of wish I had a more experienced SB or even an SD to help me, and let me know if I am going about this the right way. I suppose I will invest more time in this site though, and see how it goes. Im am hoping it picks up a bit for me.

  546. RedMaru says:

    Anna Molly – we all have bad days and we all get discouraged. No worries. Sometime we all need a pep talk. Hell I got discouraged because like Yaz I’m black and I’m also curvy in the pearish sense. My first and so far only sugar date was through another site and he turned out to be a cheap flake. I got discouraged started to think that it was me and that no one wanted someone like me. But after lurking around the blog and seeing all the varieties of sugar and paid compliments on my looks, I realized that like so many of the sugarfam have said already it takes time and theres sugar for everybody just takes some of us longer and we might have to kiss a frog or two 😀
    But keep chin up and stay with us!!
    Hugs 😀

  547. Anna Molly says:

    Awww, thanks you guys…I guess I needed some pep talk :) I have to admit, the blog is too addicting to give up on all together. I don’t know, I’m just so frustrated and I feel as though most men believe that a married woman isn’t as deserving as a young, single girl (no offense to anyone). Just because I’m married doesn’t mean I don’t have a lot to offer a nice gentleman.

    When I first met and married my husband, he spoiled me rotten. I never needed or wanted for anything. After 13 years of being together; I just feel like I’ve been put on the back burner. I have to beg him for spending money, he works all the time and he doesn’t bring me flowers anymore. He buys what he wants and forgets about me. We have more than 20 guitars, 16 amps, a classic car, a very small fishing boat and God knows what else and yet I can’t remember the last time he took me shopping or even cared if I had decent clothing. I do have a job, but 200 bucks can only go so far and I usually end up spending that money on groceries and gas. Gosh, I guess I’m having a bad day…lol

    NC Gent – You didn’t hurt my feelings hun :)

  548. RX8sb says:

    Well I am off as well. nap time.

  549. RedMaru says:

    Your are so right Yaz see you later!

  550. lisa says:

    I did in the past but back when I redid my profile, I got a new profile number so the old blocking didnt’ work. He is one of our great Houston sds, lol

  551. RX8sb says:

    Have you blocked him? He sounds very unstable.

  552. lisa says:

    that must have been someone else, I don’t remember that

  553. RX8sb says:


    I remember another canned one you listed where you said

    (insert name) (insert adj)


  554. lisa says:

    He has sent me this same message several times along with a couple that I can’t type here.

  555. RX8sb says:

    Have fun Yaz

    LOL Lisa, so does he actually not fill in the parentheses?

  556. RX8sb says:

    I have been thinking of listing another city. there are several towns and conjoined cities that are close to and in Vegas. So far I have narrowed it down to two.

    Green Valley would be closer to where I am located, But I do more business in summerlyn.

  557. lisa says:

    and of course there’s that one guy who emails me often with this canned message: “hi, if your(instead of you’re) fun and like lots of sex, we can work something out”

  558. Yaz10 says:

    Great chatting with you guys! It is around 4:40pm here and I have to run to Barnes and Nobles to grab a book I have been dying to read and then go to the gym.

    Vixen—> Your answer on Monogamous SDs? Couldn’t have said it better myself!! :-) I just can’t have multiple SDs. I would feel sooo weird…

    Anna Molly you wouldnt believe the amount of B.S that some of us have to deal with here. In my case, being young AND being a minority has its ups and down.

    -After a first date, many pot SDs tell me that they are surprised that I do not act “black” and that they were expecting me to be using slang or profanity in every other sentence.

    -Some SDs would just like to use me as an experiment because they have never “dated a black girl” before. SMH!

    -Some SDs think that because I am young it means that I will use them as an ATM or I will be naive enough to sleep with them on the first date just because they promise me diamonds and money. RFLMAO!

    See? The list goes on and on. lol But most of the time the good outweighs the bad because there are some real gentlemen here who KNOW how to treat a lady and make this experience oh so worth it! :-)

    Vixen is right. Anything good takes time to find. There is a lid for every pot on this site. ( I think this is a quote from OCSugarBaby lol). Give it one last try and you might just find the perfect SD for you! :-)

    Allright guys I am out! Talk to you all later!!!! :-)

  559. lisa says:

    That’s all I get anymore if I get an response at all. 20 year old guys wanting to meet me, yeah sure, lol

  560. photogirl says:

    RX8sb… I don’t think there is anything wrong with your profile… I get them too. Have you tried changing it to another local city?

  561. RX8sb says:

    I am starting to think something is wrong with my profile. I keep getting the creeps.

  562. lisa says:

    I have received those kinda of messages before. Usually it is an initial email from someone whom i’ve never heard from before and they email me that they are in town for the night and would like to meet. This usually happens on days that I work and I find this in my inbox around 4 pm which is way to short of notice for me to meet anyone. I can’t say for sure but it seems that any sd that was looking for a serious arrangment would want to get to know you as much as possible before meeting and have some kind of plan for when they are in town, even if it is just dinner to see if there is any chemistry.

    You should ask him what his plans are for the two of you meeting.

  563. RX8sb says:


    just ‘I am in Vegas for ten days. Want to meet?”

    I am thinking he wants an escort. But I promised myself that I would do my best not to be so judgmental. So I will wait for his response.

  564. lisa says:

    Did he give you any idea what he had in mind for the time the two of you would spend together?

  565. RX8sb says:

    Well I finally emailed this one guy who wanted to spend time while he was in Vegas. Wondering if this one is legit.

    Having my doubts though.

  566. photogirl says:

    RX8sb – The temp has been swinging here like that too… may be part of the reason I can’t seem to shake this cold. I rarely get sick and have not felt like this in years!

  567. RX8sb says:

    Has been an annoying yo-yo here. Gets nice and cold, then unnaturally warm. Then right back down again. There is no time period to get used to the temp. swings. Is annoying.

    I miss more temperate climates.

  568. lisa says:

    It’s 75 here , feels great, but no really cool weather is in the forseeable future.

  569. TexaSD says:

    Photogirl, I unhide mine a few times a day… Nope no contact yet, i am weeding them down, i dont like to contact them until i have narrowed the field to maybe a handful then i will go from there.

  570. RX8sb says:

    It is currently in the low 90’s, very unfall like. and yesterday it was in the high 60’s. go figure.

  571. Vixen says:

    Anna Molly- I’m sure there are SDs who understand that your reasoning for being a married SB might mirror theirs for being a married SD. Trust that whether single or married, all of us SBs go through the same BS. Anything good takes time to find. Don’t let anyone or thing dissuade you. This lifestyle can be both exhilarating and rewarding, just be prepared for the pitfalls.

  572. photogirl says:

    Texas SD – TLG does have a profile here… he isn’t hiding like you are. 😉
    Have you made contact with any of those pot SBs yet or still just browsing?

  573. RX8sb says:

    NC Gent says:
    November 3, 2009 at 4:54 pm
    Hi RX8 — I obviously didn’t think all Vegas SBs are escorts, because I had one for 7 months. The weather is spectacular here today — mid 60s, sunny and dry — I love Fall!

    How lovely. I miss real fall. we were stationed in Illinois for my younger years and this has always been my favorite season. I go into the mountains frequently.

  574. photogirl says:

    Would you have an arrangement with a married sugar daddy?
    Yes I would and have. It seems there are more married SD’s out there than single ones. Atleast from my experience.

    Are you looking for a monogamous sugar daddy? What do you think about having multiple sugars at once? Would you?
    I would prefer if I was the his only SB, but I have discovered if you are not local to each other, they tend to have a local SB as well…or to cities they travel to often, which I would rather not be involved in. I don’t mind there being another SB, but I don’t want to be one of MANY.

    How long do you want to stay in the Sugarbowl? Too soon to tell. One sugary day at a time :)

    Anna Molly – Hate to see you go so soon…. think you should give it some more time.

  575. lisa says:

    stay on the blog Anna Molly

  576. TexaSD says:

    Yaz- Austin

    Anna Molly- TLG i think doesn’t have a profile here, but he still chats, maybe that can be you lol

  577. NC Gent says:

    RedMaru — I had to read your posting twice also — at first I thought he was offering those things, then I realized he wasn’t offering anything other than travel opportunities.

  578. Yaz10 says:

    You dont have to go Anna Molly! Well at least, stay on the blog with us!
    :-) :-) :-) :-) Pleaaaaaaaaaaase :-)

  579. NC Gent says:

    Anna Molly — I sincerely apologize if I hurt your feelings. I do think it will be difficult for a married SB to find an SD, but that is just my opinion. I have enjoyed your comments on the blog and I hope you will stay.

  580. RedMaru says:

    Don’t go Anna Molly! We like you here!

  581. RedMaru says:

    I saw the part where he said first and most important he can offer NO financial assistance, monthly allowance, etc.
    I applaud his honesty at least he says it upfront.

  582. Vixen says:

    Married sugardaddy?
    Yes currently in an arrangement with a divorcing SD. It has its challenges. However since my SD was in what amounted to an open marriage, time constraints wasn’t really an issue. The idea of no condoms certainly was. I prefer single SDs but am willing to give a chance to a married SD who can hold my attention. My experience has been that the married ones usually lose my interest by the 2nd date. Just takes a special married SD i guess.

    Monogamous SD?
    Monogamy is essential for health reasons. Condoms will only protect against so much. If an SD is married I expect to share him only with his wife. If he’s single then he’s all mine and vise versa. Should he desire more SBs then its time for me to make an exit. I do not engage in multiple SDs. Why share your body with so many men at once. Makes me question what kind of mental or physical connections you could truly have with any of them.

    Length of sugarbowl
    Depends. Im with Cremebrule. I alternate between traditional and sugar. Not sure if I could see myself doing this past 30. The thought of dating poor men doesn’t sound appealing either. Whats a girl to do?

  583. Yaz10 says:

    TexasSD which part of TX do you live in?

  584. Anna Molly says:

    I’m sure there are SD’s out there who would prefer a married SB, but they are far and few between which is why I think I’m going to hang my hat up on all of this SD/SB stuff. All of this just seems like a big waste of time to me and I’m tired of all the BS to be honest. I’ve put in too much time and effort with all of this and I’m done. As NC Gent put it I suppose having a married SB would seem “weird”. Oh well, I wish all of you the best of luck. C’ya!

  585. TexaSD says:

    RedMaru– I think he is a serious SD, if you re read what he wrote…

    a quick check to pay the rent, or someone posing as a sugar baby and spells it hooker.

    Meaning a real SB not an Escort

  586. NC Gent says:

    Hi RX8 — I obviously didn’t think all Vegas SBs are escorts, because I had one for 7 months. The weather is spectacular here today — mid 60s, sunny and dry — I love Fall!

  587. RX8sb says:

    Yaz10 says:
    November 3, 2009 at 4:35 pm
    I just thought I would add my two cents to the discussion.

    Wow thanks for the vote of confidence hun. LOL. just recatching up on the blog. as i am being bullied to start lunch

  588. NC Gent says:

    Heya RedMaru —

    TexaSD — if you are interested, you can email me at sdjohn44 at the gmai1 dot com sorry for the encryption — saves me from the web scanners/spammers.

  589. RX8sb says:

    Hello, how is everyone. got waylaid lol.

  590. RX8sb says:

    Thanks, that second email was a bit too phishy sounding. I try my best to put my suspicion of others at bay, but that was just too much.

    I am tempted to start listing another city.

    every guy that has contacted me thinks that just because I live in Vegas I am an idiot and a hooker.

    Maybe, summerlyn, green valley, blue diamond or perhaps Boulder city.

    mmm worth finding out. *crosses fingers*

    How is the weather there NC Gent.

  591. RedMaru says:

    Hey CremeBrulee, Yaz10, TexasSD, NCGent, and Rx8Sb 😀

  592. Yaz10 says:

    Lmaoooo Red Maru yes you are sooo right! Hehe!

    The funny thing is how he keeps mentionning that race is not a factor AT ALL! Lmao

  593. Yaz10 says:

    Good Morning TexasSD! :-)

    Faaaaaar from you lol! I am in Albany,NY. I used to live in Laredo, TX for a little while tho. Boy was it HOT down there during the summer! lol

  594. lisa says:

    sounds like he should try eharmony, lol Is he expecting to marry someone the minute he meets them or drag out a long relationship with no perks?

  595. RedMaru says:

    Hey some more people! Hows this for brutal honesty. Found this on another one of the SD sites was wondering if any SBs encountered anything like this:
    About Me:
    1000 kisses

    I know at how to treat at woman and make her feel really special. Race, height, distance etc just don’t matter. I’m a really fun guy.

    Hope you have a passport!!!

    Lets have some fun!!!

    What I’m Looking For
    First and most important, I can offer no financial assistance, monthly allowance, gift cards, bank deposits, a quick check to pay the rent, or someone posing as a sugar baby and spells it hooker.

    Looking for a SERIOUS long term relationship and the trophy that wants to be put up HIGH on the shelf.

    You consider yourself spectatular and want to be pampered, drink champange, and travel to fun places, and create new adventures. Yes, I want the trophy woman/wife. Now is that not what its all about. Taken care of and in need of very few things.

    Race absolutely does not matter and is not a consideration AT ALL.

    Now, who among you is ready for the real deal!!!

    how bout that eh?
    Maybe he would have more luck on eHarmony?

  596. TexaSD says:

    Yaz- good morning? where are you from lol?

  597. TexaSD says:

    Yaz oh, I sure there are, I was just curious on girls to avoid, I am sure there has to be none escorts, maybe D Dubs is looking at the “models” are the under 30 girls,who probably have a higher chance of being an escort, i guess if you expand the search like me, you will potentially weed some of the escorts out by default lol.

  598. Yaz10 says:

    Good Morning Everyone :-)

    On the topic: Just because an SB is from Vegas doesnt automatically make her an escort! I understand that most SDs out there keep meeting girls from Vegas who offer nothing more than escort services but it would be unfair to say put ALL Las Vegan SBs in the same bowl. There might be genuine SBs out there just like RX8sb.

    I just thought I would add my two cents to the discussion. :-)

  599. TexaSD says:

    Oh, that was posted to D-Dubs

  600. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    Hmm.. maybe I should actually answer some of the blog questions every once in a while.

    Sugar-dating is inherently a more open-minded approach and as such marital status is not a show-stopper as it would be in the traditional world. However, it depends on how compartmentalized the SD or SB’s marriage is and the extent to which is creates challenges to maintaining a sugar relationship.

    As for monogamy—can an SB truly expect a married SD to be hers and hers only? Probably not. After all, they are polygamous by virtue of being that—a married SD. From a preference standpoint, yes I’d prefer to be the exclusive partner but would not oppose “another” if guaranteed respect and the SD takes full precautions.

    Sugarbowl gets a bit murky sometimes so I jump in and out for fresh perspective. It’s not a full time quest and unless some major life event takes my attention away, I’ll keep dabbling so long as it does not interfere with other aspects of my life.

  601. TexaSD says:

    Wow, well i Had some potential SB’s in Las Vegas, but I haven’t contacted them yet or set up and meetings, but thats something I will think about, I wonder what women you had met there and if I have them in my fav’s list

  602. NC Gent says:

    BTW, D-Dubs — I have an ex-SB who has a profile up in Las Vegas. She is less than truthful about her marital status, among other things. We had some fun times but the dishonesty was a real buzz kill. If you are further interested, please let me know.

  603. NC Gent says:

    Good call RX8sb — sounds like he was scamming to get your cell number.

  604. RX8sb says:

    is actually what has happened.

    “will send you pictures to your email of choice” Gave him email he did send photo’s

    But they were very hard to discern, both were old photo’s, one was darkened and an odd angle, one was edited in photoshop and hazed.

    then on email #2
    “i can send more clear and recent to a cell if you would like”

    I have learned caution and I never send traceable personal information to people I do not know. I have not only my own safety to consider but the safety of my 19 month old son as well.

  605. RX8sb says:

    oo new blog topic

    Would you have an arrangement with a married sugar daddy or sugar baby? Why or why not? Would ensure a more nsa arrangement. It depends on the person. Having seen first hand why some would choose to do so I am having a hard time looking at it as a bad thing.

    Are you looking for a monogamous sugar daddy or sugar baby? What do you think about having multiple sugars at once? Would you?
    It depends, so long as they are disease free. but many, I cringe at the thought. I don’t mind 1 other maybe 2. I will find out for sure my comfort level once I do actually come at that in my personal experience.

    How long do you want to stay in the Sugarbowl? No idea. I like the idea of being spoiled for a change, and from reading everyone’s experience it would be difficult to date someone poorer.

  606. lisa says:

    I am probably the only female on here that believes in a the double standard. I too think it’s ok for a married man to have a sd but it just seems wrong for a married woman to have a sd. I know it sounds sexist, but as i’ve heard before, men do no like stiring another man’s gravy, if you get what I mean, lol

  607. NC Gent says:

    Not sure exactly what you are asking RX8sb, but my profile doesn’t have photos but in my first email I offer to provide them. If the SB profile doesn’t have them, I ask the SB to provide photos when they are comfortable providing them. Hope that answered your question.

  608. NC Gent says:

    I know it sounds hypocritical, but I am not interested in having a married SB. It just feels weird to me.

    I am really not into having multiple SBs at once. I can’t afford it financially and just don’t have that much time. I had a monogamous arrangement with a long term SB. Neither of us liked condoms, and we got tested together a few times during our relationship.

    How long in the sugar bowl… I am actually thinking may be one more long term sugar relationship then time to move on to things like fishing lol I do find the lifestyle somewhat addicting though.

  609. RX8sb says:

    D-Dubs says:
    November 3, 2009 at 2:39 am
    As for different or weird expectations, I just retunred from a few weeks on business in Las Vegas, and this place has to be the worst for potential SB’s. I couldn’t find one who were interested in anything more than providing an “escort” service. The only difference was…they could see a few pictures of their potential “client” before agreeing to meet for sex. I was pretty disappointed since I was looking to connect with someone out there because I will be visiting frequently over the next six months.

    As the only Las Vegan on the blog you are just not looking very hard. and Second, I think I finally understand why I keep getting crap for emails.

    And on the topic of photo’s ..this question is for the SD’s…
    on the profiles that have no pictures do you right away request an email with a promise to send photo’s… Then once photo’s sent they are hard to discern, old and purposely fuzzed out. Saying that if there was a cell number he would be more then happy to message clearer more recent photo’s.

    I recently got that, and after not succeeding in getting my cell phone has become a poof daddy.

  610. lisa says:

    Hi RedMaru

    Funny thing about my schedule is back when I was working nights, it was difficult to regular dating and the minute a guy found out I couldn’t go out night and had to work every weekend, well that scared most of them a way. But I had tons of time during the day to have met a married sd. Now i’m working days and free every night but finding a boyfriend to go out with at night is just not happening. I only have 2 or 3 days free during the week which limits my time as I have other things I need to do on those days. I guess idea for me would be someone that could meet me initially during the weekday (before dark) and then would be able to meet me evenings or occasional days as if I had someone that could come get me, I could be out any night of the week.

  611. RedMaru says:

    Hey there you are lisa 😀
    I too am open to the prospect of a married SD though there would be a time factor in the amount of time spent.

    I would like a monogamous SD but I wouldn’t expect it as most want an NSA to begin with. Could I juggle multiple SD’s with a job don’t know

    My stay in Sugarland till I find Mr. Right or decide that this really isn’t for me..

  612. lisa says:

    I am open to having a married or single sd
    A single one might have a more time whereas a married one might be limited in his availability.

    Sounding sexist, I think it is more acceptable for a sd to have more than one sb than for a sb to have many sds. A couple sds would be ok, but anything over that might be a little skanky.

    I plan on staying the sugarbowl until I find someone permanent to settle down with . With today’s men, that won’t happen for a long time.