9 years ago
Happy Thanksgiving Sugars!


Happy Bird-Day Sugars!

Many here may be with family and friends who may not be on your everyday list of go-to-sugar buddies, but perhaps holidays are a nice way of putting things, even sweet things, in perspective; which might help make them stay sweet for yet another spell to come.

Plenty of sugars will be spending this Thanksgiving with a sugar of their own.

“I love to cook, and I find that if you feed your SB [sugar baby] she is happier!

Staying home with an SB where I cook, candles, wine (she has to sit and share the wine while I work : ) is a good night to me.” – SD NEOhio (SDN)

Though not every sugar’s a cook…

“cooking? what’s that? Oh I guess it’s that thing that involves pots and pans and ovens and all, lol no cooking for me, working all day turkey day” – Lisa

On this, the second sugar family Thanksgiving shared via the blog (click here for last years post), let’s channel the positivity and joy that helps keep the sugar sweet.

Happy Thanksgiving Sugars!

Are you grateful for any sugar(s) this Thanksgiving? How will you let them know you’re grateful?

How do you pick a gift for a Sugar Daddy? Sugar Baby? Any hints?

Bookmark and Share

2,091 Responses to “Happy Thanksgiving Sugars!”

  1. TXSB says:

    :( And to think I worked 2 jobs to pay for all those dinners… My day was ok. Didn’t see SD today b/c he got stuck at work….but otherwise nice and calm.


    Hi!! :)

    We really, really, really need a new blog……this is taking forever to load!

  2. TexaSD says:

    Napa=ナパ テキサス=Texas lol

  3. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Irish: Lies? Never lie to you. Never.

    Found a phrase book. Ha

  4. Anna Molly says:

    Most people learn the bad words first, me included..lol

  5. always2sweet says:

    just dropping in to say hello, and see what all you lovely people are up to before O head out to work(BOOOOO!)

  6. TexaSD says:

    Irish- Konbawa=こんばわ=good evening lol

  7. Irish SB says:

    TexaSD – ahh have no idea what that means! Dont people usually know the bad words in another language? I know plenty in polish! Think that will be lost in here though.

    SDN – Lies!

  8. TexaSD says:

    ナーパ Ok cool i will try to keep in contact, have a nice meal, じゃまた。 

    TXSB- Lol translation for what you did, is called a sugar momma lol, but ya i know what you mean… how was your day

  9. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Sweetheart did that one on my own!!!

  10. TexaSD says:

    Anna- My Mom always used condensed milk in her hot chocolate

    Irish- I don’t know that lang. but I do know こんばわ

  11. TXSB says:

    I’m not a sugar momma…..just an idiot who allowed cheap guys to take advantage of my feelings. :(


    LOL….I will think about it. Good to know your dogs are trained. I don’t want my babies harmed…. :)


    That’s good to hear! If my cats have problems….yours can play “bodyguard”. :)

  12. Irish SB says:

    Haha hilarous SDN someone has cottoned on to google translator! Smooth…

  13. NapaSB says:

    well it’s off to breakfast for me, ya’ll have a great afternoon and evening!

    TexaSD – i’ll try to get in touch with you when we get to tokyo, i’m napatastic over at yahoo…i’ll keep my eye out for a beautiful attendant for you :)

  14. Anna Molly says:

    TexaSD ~ LOL, you’re funny :)

    I also mix my peanut butter and jelly together before I put it on the bread…lol. :)

  15. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Dia is Muire dhuit

  16. Anna Molly says:

    SDN ~ I can’t stand hot chocolate made with water….yuck..lol.

  17. Irish SB says:

    Dia Dhuit everyone
    Txsb my cats boss my three dogs around the place so they will be a ok!

    Just finished decorating the house and putting up the tree sooo nice looking!

  18. TexaSD says:

    SDN- she also uses Cherries lol, she is pretty hardcore when it comes to hot chocolate lol

  19. TexaSD says:

    Napa- lol ya, I like cute passengers, but you only find them in coach, the ones in business or first class are either married, or guys or my personal favorite, attendants…

  20. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    TXSB: I had a cat so the dogs group up with them…you and Irish’s cats will be fine!

    You are right I don’t know what you look like, could have missing teeth…so maybe you should share a picture??? Hey it was worth a try!!

    Anna: Ooohhh I didn’t know you made hot chocolate with milk and whip cream and chocolate sauce…ok we could work something out!!!

  21. TexaSD says:

    TXSB 30+ with good careers and still wouldn’t pay? damn you must be 1 real good sugar momma lol… Well hopefully I will not let a sugar baby treat me badly lol

  22. TXSB says:

    Hi!! :)


    Yes I did…..will respond shortly. :) BTW, hot cocoa sounds amazing right now!

  23. NapaSB says:

    TexaSD – planning on heading next door to Trader’s to have breakfast there, it is my favorite place to eat breakfast…i remember the first time we came through here and stayed there..I was so dazzled by it all…stopping by there reminds me of who I am (sounds lame perhaps?)

    and I think I am missing out on cute passengers by flying on the company jets…

  24. TXSB says:

    My cats get along w/ dogs. Do your dogs gets with cats? Only if you train them to love cats…then you can me neighbors with me and IrishSB.

    No I’m not crazy….I’ve dated before but none of my ex’es wanted marriage (well, at least not to me!). :( And no all men I’ve dated have been 30+ with good careers. LOL…..thank you for the compliment but I could have several missing teeth for all you know! :) Oh well….at the rate I’m going, I’ll consider it a blessing if I can just find a fiance by the time I’m 30.


    Heh….well, I’ve never had a BF who always paid for me. But then again I was naive and allowed myself to be treated badly. But looking back, I consider it part of “life lessons”. :)

  25. Anna Molly says:

    Did you get my mail TXSB?

  26. NapaSB says:

    Hi TXSB! How are you doing?

  27. TexaSD says:

    Napa- lol, Did you eat breakfast yet? Or you planning to go out to do that?

  28. Anna Molly says:

    I’m in the mood for hot cocoa made with milk, not water, with marshmallows, whip cream and chocolate sauce. YUMMM :)

  29. NapaSB says:

    TexaSD – haha my mother thinks i’m pretty… 😉

  30. TexaSD says:

    god my spelling is bad, ok, and another correction to that, “Our number one pet peeve”

    TXSB hi, how are you?

  31. TXSB says:

    Hi Everyone!!!! :)

  32. TexaSD says:

    Correction to my spelling, Hear it everyday**

  33. TexaSD says:

    Gf that pay? never had it, but that does remind me of all the stupid girls in college and well the ones I meet here a lot, that date the douche bags lol, god my friends and I hated that, are number 1 pet peeve, I see it everyday, here it everyday, lol, can we please spare the blog of this?

  34. Anna Molly says:

    I’m not the tease SDN :)

  35. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Hey everyone…didn’t read everything but here goes

    Cats: Like cats, 10 is a little much TXSB & Irish but would still love both of you :) Can I be the crazy neighbor with 10 dogs (that all love cats)?

    GF that pays: When I first start dating a GF I always pay, always! Once we have dated a while we treat each other.

    TXSB: You must be crazy. I am sure there are lots of guys that would marry you…do the words “you are a catch” mean anything?

    cleo: Everything you said above – spot on! Couldn’t agree more.

    Anna: I have been chasing you around this blog for days. I would tell you to call me I would be your SD but I know you like to tease me to much to give in…lol

  36. cakepatty says:


    THANK YOU girlfriend for saying what most will not admit to here.

    55 year old men who think that a 25 year old SB is with them because they are charming are not living in the real world. I am not saying that the SBs do not develop feelings for their older SDs as most women do develop feelings for men when they have sex with them. But really, how many of you will admit to dating a 55 + year old man who is probably losing his hair, out of shape and/or married, sometimes not…if it wasn’t for the allowance.

    I for one will admit to that and if that makes me a bad person well so be it. However I have turned down men that I found I just could not be intimate with because they were physically not appealing to me.

    The other side of the coin is the SB who believes that the SD is with her for no other reason then because he truly wants to help a struggling young woman pay her college tuition and it has nothing to do with her stunning face or body are also not living in the real world.

    I am sure what I posted will stir up some rage but I know many SBs who have profiles on this site and they would say the same.

    That said I do agree with you Cleo that this is about more than a 90 minute outcall as both parties pick and choose each other and it usually is ongoing and a true friendship does develop.

  37. TexaSD says:

    NC are you still here?

  38. TexaSD says:

    Napa- Well all you have to do in Nihon, is say, I have a young rich handsome american friend looking for a gf or sugar babby, they should line up for that lol. Ahh, sucks to be on company jets… I can’t survive without pretty attendants…

  39. TexaSD says:

    Anna- I don’t think they are huge, I was just playing with a blackberry bold the other day, but I asked the guy how do people type on this thing, the buttons are too small for me lol. He said people just get used to it. If you can try a Storm, I Thought they were pretty nice, and they just came out with the Storm 2

  40. NapaSB says:

    Aww TexaSD haha am I slated to become your fulltime asian woman kidnapper? I will have to get some more ninja attire if thats the case 😉

    I am only going to be there for a day and a half, and as ever flying one of the company jets… :(

  41. Anna Molly says:

    I would love to get an iPhone, but I’m not on the network. TexaSD you must have big hands. I have tiny hands so small keyboards aren’t a big deal. I’m just looking forward to getting a phone that has a keyboard. I feel like such a doofus trying to text on my phone..lol.

  42. TexaSD says:

    Napa- Have a nice flight, wish I was there lol…

  43. NapaSB says:

    Well I suppose its time for me to get ready…haha the time change is kicking my butt a little, i’ll check back in in a bit

  44. TexaSD says:

    Napa- Waa, how long do you plan to stay in Tokyo? I should be there next month, If you fly Nippon airways, find me a hot attendant lol, Let me know when you get to Tokyo, you should head down to Shibuya .

  45. TexaSD says:

    Anna- YW, I don’t really care to much for the black berry’s unless it the Storm, I have a hard time with such small keyboards lol, I just for the most part stick with the Iphone

  46. NapaSB says:

    TexaSD – Haha I think I might fail you on this one, we are headed to Tokyo this afternoon…I wish I was able to spend an entire month here instead of just a day or two at a time…

  47. TexaSD says:

    Napa- If you have a day off, you could go window shopping down Orchard road, the later tonight head down to Geylang and pick me up a woman lol… You can enjoy 2 kinds of window shopping lol

  48. Anna Molly says:

    I’m doing well, thank you :)

  49. TexaSD says:

    Anna- Hi, how are you?

  50. TexaSD says:

    Napa- yes today is a new day, you should stay out late tonight and find me one lol… Nope I usually Stay in a Condo, as I stay more than a month at a time…

  51. Anna Molly says:

    I want to get curve too….where is my SD…lol.

    Hi TexaSD :)

  52. NapaSB says:

    TexaSD – Singapore is nice…very warm. I havent gotten you a woman yet…but today is a new day :) do you ever stay at the Regent when you come through here?

  53. TexaSD says:

    NC- nope haven’t messaged her either, still debating… How is your search going? I am doing much better today than yesterday, thankfully…

    Napa- How is Singapore? Did you get me a woman yet lol? I am doing ok, I have 20 more pages to finish my report,

  54. NapaSB says:

    Hi TexaSD, I am doing well how about yourself?
    Hello NC Gent! The pleasure is mine, and thank you I couldnt agree more about Napa :)

  55. NC Gent says:

    Doing well thank you TexaSD — I know this may be rehashing old stuff TexaSD — I saw the profile of the SB in Jacksonville NC and thought she was attractive also, but the married at 21 caused me to not message her. Did you ever send her a message? I hope you are doing well!

  56. TexaSD says:

    NC Gent- How are you?

  57. NC Gent says:

    Hi Napa and TexaSD — nice to meet you Napa — you live a beautiful part of the country!

  58. TexaSD says:

    Napa- Hi, how are you?

  59. NapaSB says:

    Hi everyone!

  60. NC Gent says:

    Ok back from the phone test drive – it costs $35 for a one month test drive – not bad – you can bring it back no questions asked. The Droid keyboard won’t work for my less than nimble fingers, so it looks like the Curve Tour is the one for me but I have to read some reviews.

  61. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Hi everyone!

    JQ~ I am so glad you are back!!! YAY

    Well off to work again…. god those the day never end!!!

    Welcome to the new bloggers.. Chat soon

  62. NYC SB says:

    Second Timer SB – the only way to change your profile number is to open a new account and the only way to do that is to have a new email address… now you may still use your old email address when communicating with pots as they cannot see which email you log in with on SA

  63. TXSB says:

    Need to take care of some errands….

    See you guys later! :)

  64. cleo says:

    more of a kept woman and less of a courtesan methinks… wish i could edit the comment :)

  65. Second Timer SB says:

    Thank you, TXSB! I will try that now…

  66. cleo says:

    JQ: i would like to be clear that my comments would be very different if the SD were single; were he single it would of course become a question of are the feelings real of not. i see no reason a single sd/sb pair can’t fall for each other and make it permanent. seems akin to friends with benefits who fall for each other.

    my response is also different if the suspension of payments is temporary even though the sb likely counts on said payments… sort of like how i can’t eat out this month because so many clients are taking several weeks off or quit due to the recession. i’m certainly not offering them free lessons if they can’t afford me though, i just have coffee with them sometimes instead.

    i think there is absolutely an aspect of professional sex in the sb/sd relationship but to me it’s more like formally taking a mistress or having the exclusive services of a courtesan. this is entirely different from a 90 minute outcall.

    to be utterly blunt women have a best before date when it comes to mating and marrying and making babies. i’m past it… or at least on it. these married SDs are effectively paying a woman to give up the possibility of finding a long term partner in order to be his exclusive girlfriend even though he has a wife already.

    he already has his family and his babies… (if he wants them of course)

    what the sb doesn’t get is a man who is paying a mortgage with her, investing in their retirement together and making a family with her. absolutely she should be compensated for that because she is giving something up to stay in the SD relationship.

    so yes, she should stop sleeping with him when the money runs out, the energetic exchange is different and then really, other than a penis, what’s in it for her?

    cold blooded yes, but not wrong. and these girls have maybe ten years to cash in on their looks… as evinced by the total lack of interest my 38yo self’s profile garners.

  67. TXSB says:

    Hi and welcome! IMO the only way you’ll get an accurate response to your question is by contacting SA (their contact should be on the site). I don’t believe I’ve ever seen that mentioned here on the blog since most people just create a new e-mail. Good luck though! :)

  68. Anna Molly says:

    TXSB you have mail….I hope :)

  69. JohnQ says:

    Some interesting responses to my earlier post. Before I get into them, I’d like to emphasize that none of us really knows what is going on in Summer’s situation, so I’m more interested in using her posts to spark a generic discussion, rather than attempting to give her advice.

    As Happy Lurker points out, issues of sex, love and money underlie a fairly large percentage of the literature of every culture of which I’m aware, and it’s unlikely we’re going to nail any of this down to anyone’s satisfaction.

    Nevertheless, we have a clear distinction between Happy Lurker’s position (stand by your man, regardless of financial issues), and the position of a couple of SBs (crudely put: dump him once he can no longer make the monthly payments).

    I’m not sure where I come out on this. On the one hand, if you have real feelings for someone, it seems somewhat crass to throw him out of your life just because he can’t pay you a monthly stipend.

    On the other hand, it’s definitely true that this site is all about financial arrangements, and all participants should understand the ground rules. Moreover, payments may be seen as compensation for entering into a relationship that, by its nature, cannot involve long-term commitments.

    Possibly the most interesting response is Cleo’s:

    i spoke once to a lady who was either a courtesan with a very small number of clients, a tantric coach or a professional SB. she said regularly that she would never have an affair with a married man without money being involved because the cash was part of the energetic exchange. it somehow protected both of them.

    she felt she was giving them something they needed but at the same time she was safe and the boundaries were clear.

    Now, this logic is obviously somewhat self-serving. I suspect that most professionals are interested in the money for reasons other than boundary-setting.

    Nevertheless, the monetary aspect of professional transactions definitely does emphasize the boundaries. It’s the way a professional distinguishes clients from boyfriends. And the money may serve the same role in SD-SB arrangements.

    Note where we are, however. This is logic that applies to professional sex-workers, a category that most SBs don’t want to be associated with. Moreover, although it’s clear a lot of the men on this site are primarily interested in sex for money, many others are looking for something beyond the services provided by prostitutes.

    I guess where I end up is that if I were in a long-term arrangement, and if I had feelings for the SB that I thought were reciprocated, I would hope that she’d offer some kind of accommodation if I temporarily ran out of funds. That would indicate to me that she wasn’t solely interested in the money, but was with me for other reasons. On the other hand, I might well end things myself, on the theory that, once the relationship becomes non-financial (except for a short period), then the SB has a legitimate expectation that time invested in the relationship may lead to a commitment. Unless I were willing to at least consider a longer-term commitment, staying in an arrangement without payments would seem like leading the SB on. (Although, since I don’t have a wife to worry about, it’s possible that ending the financial part of the arrangement would make a longer-term commitment with an SB more rather than less likely, as it would tend to confirm that the SB’s feelings were legitimate.)


  70. Second Timer SB says:

    Hello, All – I haven’t been to the site in a while but would like to rejoin. The issue that I am hoping someone can help me with is this: I would want to have a new profile number. I have only recently ended my relatiionship with my SD and I do not want him to recognize me (I don’t post photos but he would know my profile number). I do not want to create a new email account so am hoping that I can get a new profile number so that I can rejoin.

    Any advice? Thank you : )

  71. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    NC – I’m waiting on Credo Mobile’s coverage to gain some strength, at least on the NE.. Worth checking out..

  72. NC Gent says:

    Phones and SBs — no free test drives lol

    hmmmm I will get one and you can check it out on the 8th NYC SB!

  73. NYC SB says:

    also NC – droid is on sale for $99 … not bad… comes with a 5 megapixel camera… very cool … hmmm now I want it

  74. TXSB says:

    IIRC, I believe you’re the only married SB on this blog.

  75. NYC SB says:

    NC – I believe you can purchase the phone and return it withing 7 days of purchase for full refund price… so im thinking they wont let you have a free test drive

  76. NC Gent says:

    I wonder if they will let me “test drive” the Droid without making at least half a down payment?

  77. TXSB says:

    NeOhio SB:
    Thank you! *takes a bow* :)


    mmmm……yes…..both sound very yummy! :)


    NC Gent:
    IMO the keyboard on G1 isn’t any more annoying than other phones…but I suppose that opinion can be different from person to person. Let us know how the “test” goes. :)

  78. NC Gent says:

    I think I am going to ask to test a Droid for a day — I heard the keyboard can be a little annoying and I use google alot — thanks for the potential invite NYC SB!

  79. cleo says:

    TXSB: fair enough, though i might add that having him for breakfast can be nice too ;>

    but still, isn’t it lovely to go out for err second breakfast?

  80. TXSB says:

    NYC SB:
    *angelic smile* :)


    NC Gent:
    I’ve had the G1 (droid) for almost a year. I use it mainly for calls, texts, e-mail, and also look up random stuff online sometimes. No complaints so far. :)

  81. NeOhio SB says:

    TXSB ~~ I second NYC SB….That by far, wins the “best line award” on this blog………!!!! Love it love it love it!!!

  82. NYC SB says:

    NC – storm is awesome… but i am a long time google lover so i would recomend the droid… if you end up getting it i will send you a gvoice invite :)

  83. lisa says:

    I don’t have cats but I have a pigeon I rescued and hand raised. Now he is a very finicky eater (nothing but birdseed and popcorn for him), and is jealous of visitors. He is constantly trying to hit on my, it’s creepy.

  84. NYC SB says:

    TXSB – haha i like that… A LOT 😀

  85. TXSB says:

    LOL….from now on I prefer he have me for breakfast and then buy me steak… 😉 Your cats are independent? Mine were adopted and my GOD they’re clingy, needy furballs!



  86. Anna Molly says:

    Sorry, can’t help ya NC.

  87. NC Gent says:

    Definitely time for a new phone — anyone have the Storm or Droid? I have Verizon and it would cost a mint to change carriers – any opinions would be greatly appreciated — sorry for being off topic but I guess we are way past that.

  88. lisa says:

    I love cats but can’t have them where I live. First of all I have a bird, and second there is a huge pet deposit. Nothing in my apartment that belongs to the landlord that is worth the amount of the deposit either.

  89. lisa says:

    Good afternoon everyone. Looks like the blog is back up. Just got back from getting my hair trimmed and picking up some healthy foods.
    Wonderful winter day here in Houston.

  90. cleo says:

    TXSB: yeah, mine did that. he bought breakfast, i bought steak. i’d like to switch that around is all :)
    Anna Molly: i can’t tell you their names, they are all over my public online life but i have two domestic shorthairs, one white and so cute and such a lady and the other a mackarel tabby who is a klutz but the sweetest thing.

    both my cats are happy to see me and affectionate while still being independent creatures. i choose to believe that they are reflections of their owner

  91. NC Gent says:

    CrèmeBruléeNY I am sure we can come to some sort of compromise on your guest room :)

    NYC SB — hmmmm can’t afford an SB after paying my half of rent — I guess I will need some fringe benefits thrown in lol

  92. Anna Molly says:

    Hi HL :)
    Nice to see you :)

  93. TXSB says:

    NC Gent:
    Cat loving men are rare….major brownie points to you! :)


    NYC SB:
    Ah…one of those men. Thank you for the invite…I will definately keep it in mind when SD & I finally take a trip there. :)

  94. Anna Molly says:

    I used to have a Persian named Yoda. He was sooo cute and sweet. We would play fetch together and everything…I miss him soo much.. :(

  95. cleo says:

    nyc sb: oh man, i dated that guy who wants to move in “can we hurry up and fall in love so we can move in together, i have to move”

    omg what?
    TXSB: i’m tired of men who have 30k in debt and nothing to show for it.
    Happy Lurker: i didn’t email you about wine because i think the LCBO has many good beaujolais … but i will email you if i ever come to paris in november and maybe you can take me to a cafe and we can drink ten of them?

    it’s the paris and the atmosphere i dream of…

    that said, if you do wish to send me a bottle of wine, which i would enjoy very much, perhaps you might wish to peruse the excellent selection at the liquor control board of ontario and save yourself the ridiculous international shipping silliness?

    regarding summer and her man. she should (and will i am certain) absolutely stay friends with him. they are clearly bonded enough to do that.

    that said, i agree with her that she needs to stop sleeping wtih him unless this is only a temporary change. he isn’t leaving his wife for her, he isn’t building a family and equity with her, she has a life to make for herself and has to make her way as best she can.

  96. TXSB says:

    Happy Lurker:
    Hi! :) BTW, every day my cats are very happy to see…lol….at least they act like it. They’re actually waay too attached to me IMO….they always follow me from room to room and 1 of them ALWAYS wants to cuddle.


    PBI but my ex used to do that! Although he wasn’t broke and made decent $, he always would indirectly suggest we go dutch or that I should pay sometimes and him other times. And whenever it was my “turn” to pay, he would always pick nice places (ie. a local steakhouse was his fav) where our dinners would easily be $150–$200. Even though it was hard on me financially to pay that much…I still did it and never once complained b/c I thought….oh well…never mind what I thought. I was wrong. I learned my lesson.

  97. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    woah excuse me NC, I have the guest room reserved.

  98. NYC SB says:

    NC – sure… but then you may not be able to afford an SB :(

  99. NYC SB says:

    TXSB – he works in a field that is not well paid but enjoys the work so much that would never leave… think social worker type of gig

    the move in thing… yeah i get it a lot so im pretty much used to it (not to sound conceited but my place is AHMAZING) you and realistic can come by when visiting NYC and i will cook you brownies

  100. NC Gent says:

    Count me in as an SD that likes cats — not so much into dogs!

    I will pay half if you let me move in NYC SB!

  101. cleo says:

    NYCSB : if you google ‘ex courtesan’ you will see a few links for ex courtesan in transition (again) … that is she. i can’t point you to the specific post but she would be happy to and is happy to email anyone who asks her stuff.

    the problem with the going half and half with someone when you’re broke and they aren’t is that they pick places you can’t afford …

  102. Happy Lurker says:

    Cats ?
    Just read the poetyry of T.S. Elliot: Lines to a Persian Cat.
    The musical Cats is based on it.
    I for one, am more of a dog lover.
    Every day when you get home there is at least SOMEBODY who is glad to welcome you.
    As to the comments by J.Q, I am right behind you one hundred percent.
    First and foremost I wish to establish friendhip.
    You make plans for life, but life overtakes you.
    Now the economy has taken a turn for the worst.
    So ?????
    If the relationship is based on friendship, it will continue to florish.
    That is also part of the mutual beneficial relationship.
    The Blues Brothers: Stand by your man !
    Even if he is married and all you will ever be is The Other Woman, literature is full of it, and part lof a tragic love triangle, be there for him.
    Thy rod and Thy staff.
    Magic words still after two thousand years.

  103. TXSB says:

    NYC SB:
    A super broke guy that wants to move in with you after “dating” you for 1 month (or I guess 2 weeks since you were away the other 2). Wow! Does he have a job or was he laid off?

  104. NYC SB says:

    cleo can you post the blog link on here?

    on dating men who are not financially well of – well i run into the following…

    a) they get intimidated by my carreer and run
    b) they think i should pay all the time bc i can

    neither of which appeals to me…

    currently the guy im seeing is super broke but he doesnt expect me nor allow me to pay all the time… we usually go half and half… so far no problems … well except the fact that he wants to move in (been seeing him for a month out of which i was away for 2 weeks)

  105. TXSB says:

    LOL….hamsters are adorable! Although at this point, I dunno if one would survive at my house thanks to my other pets (they’re quite spoiled and possissive of me.


    Yep…although I never had a problem paying my share in the “relationship”…I just got tired of it and wanted to treat me like a princess for once. Funny thing is that the guys I’ve dated all made decent money….they were just cheap..lol. Looks like we have quite a few cat loving SBs here. :)

  106. cleo says:

    Anna Molly: i feel like that exactly.. tiny little hint of plaintive

    isn’t there anyone out there i suit?

  107. cleo says:

    oh yeah, and i have two gorgeous cats… and i can’t have more cause my studio is in my home.

  108. cleo says:

    James.M: i’m not commenting because i haven’t done the sb/sd relationship yet, but i’m sure the SDs on teh blog will be happy to chime in.
    JohnQ: i spoke once to a lady who was either a courtesan with a very small number of clients, a tantric coach or a professional SB. she said regularly that she would never have an affair with a married man without money being involved because the cash was part of the energetic exchange. it somehow protected both of them.

    she felt she was giving them something they needed but at the same time she was safe and the boundaries were clear. if you email me off blog i will tell you where her blog is, it’s a very interesting perspective.

    so, to me, if Summer keeps seeing him without the money then the whole energetic dynamic is changed. i don’t think this is a case of him not paying her for a month or two, i am under the impression that he is eliminating his sugar *lifestyle* and that his family is probably tightening their belts as well.

    so, again to me, i don’t think she should keep seeing him… especially not seeing him AND trying to find a new SD.
    TXSB: i have dated too many bums and too many men who make less than i do. i am tired of going dutch EVERY single time and extremely tired of men who count nickels when tipping.

    if i don’t get to keep them anyway? screw it, i’m dating rich instead. at least when it ends i’ll have nice shoes to look at.

  109. Yaz10 says:

    Hi TXSB!

    I dont have any cats but I am thinking of getting a hamster. lol They are so adorable!

  110. TXSB says:

    Hey Yaz!!

    Sorry to hear about the pot… :(

    It’s a deal! :)

  111. Yaz10 says:

    Hello everybody!

    NYCSB: Thanks for the “correction” 😉 You are a life saver! lol You got mail! :-)

  112. Anna Molly says:

    It seems as though my NYC pot daddy has vanished…ugh.

    Is there anybody out there who wants to be my SD? :)

  113. Irish SB says:

    Hey NC Gent !! :-)

    TXSB – That is a deal and a half , we can work out the logistics nearer the time!

  114. Anna Molly says:

    TXSB ~ I would love to make it to the Midwest dinner, but I don’t think I will be able to attend…poo :(

  115. TXSB says:

    I know you’re one of the lucky one’s going to the 8th dinner….are you also going to try to make it to the Midwest meet?


    NC Gent:
    You ex-SB sounds amazing.


    Hey! Yes I also spent a lot of $$$ on my ex (mostly dinners and also some shopping)….and considering the way things ended b/t us, it makes me furious to think I put in so much time/energy(and $$$) into that “relationship”.

    Umm…..yea I already have cats too. :( So you and I and our cats can all live together if we’re both single at 50. 😉

  116. Irish SB says:

    Well hello txsb, AM, and who ever is still around!

    Totally agree with you on that one txsb, i spent $$$ on a long distance everything paid for trip of a lifetime for my ex and we broke up when we got home after years together, it sucked big time! And i have 3 cats so im nearly there on the 10 cat count! When we are 50 we can console each other!

  117. NC Gent says:

    JohnQ — I had the same question too. I actually couldn’t make a full allowance payment a few times with an SB over a 2+ year period and it she didn’t end it with me. We are still good friends well after the relationship has ended. I am guessing there are other factors in the decision and Summer most likely just focused on the main one. I am well aware that there is an extreme downside to be with a married man, and if it wasn’t for the money, most wouldn’t see me. It is a price I am willing to pay to be with higher quality women though :)

  118. TXSB says:

    I’ve learned my lesson on spending $$$ on men who have no intention of settling down with me either. My last one was pretty bad. But these days I also keep being scared that I’ll wake up one day, be 50, and look around to see 10 cats. :(

  119. TXSB says:

    Hey Anna!
    I thought I scared everyone away…lol

  120. EastCoastFilly says:

    JQ, I am going to chime in because I understand why she is ending it and Summer I hope you don’t mind. I also understand why you have these questions so maybe I can help

    One SD on here has said many times that the money is kind of like the thing that makes the relationship ok. Lets face it morally no one is ever going to jump up and scream dating a married man is ok. The SB will never have this man in the end so he helps her financially to make ends meet in return for the knowledge that she will end up alone. Maybe if you were a woman you would understand how it feels. We know after all is said and done the wife will claim him back so at least we can get something out of it. Keep in mind everyone has their own reason, mine are probably very different than most and because of my situation it is the only time in my life I have allowed myself to be with a married man. I had to make the exception because I needed to.

    I absolutely think her feelings are real. If she and SD had an exclusive relationship then she can no longer get her needs met while still seeing him and clearly is not going to sneak around behind his back. That is deceitful and dangerous, healthwise. If you’ve ever been in love or had serious feeling for someone and tried dating others my guess is it was unsuccessful. When you are in deep it is hard to connect with others let alone share your body with them.

    If he can resume helping her out than perhaps at that time they can rekindle but I think if she still is in need of financial help its best to try and get over him before she gets under another…sorry couldn’t resist that old joke.

  121. TXSB says:

    Did everyone else leave? LOL

  122. TXSB says:

    Yes, I did think about it but choose not to write it b/c she was so upset that I didn’t want to come across as “pouring salt on the wound”. And I know for a fact that at least 2 other bloggers thought the same exact thing but also choose not to say it. It didn’t really seem like Summer was looking for a “solution” to her current SD problem…..I got the impression from her that the decision to end it had already been made……it SEEMED like she just needed to vent.

    No one knows Summer’s financial situation better than her. I’m sure she realizes the possibility that she could continue seeing him w/o receiving $$. Yet for whatever reason….she and the SD has decided to end it. At the end of day none of us really know what’s going on IRL with the other bloggers. We only know what’s posted here and can only *assume* the rest.

    I know how attached I am to my SD and we’ve only been together 2 months. I can’t imagine ending things with him after 20 months just b/c he can’t pay me anymore…..but that’s just me. All SBs are different in their “needs” and I believe all SBs make the decision that best suits their own personal life.

  123. james.m says:

    Thanks, all.

    I’ll check back later!

  124. TXSB says:

    Firstly, thank you! :)

    No, SD & I don’t have a “review” time set up. Both of us are very open with each other. It’s understood b/t both of us that if either one of us is unhappy with something, we could and should bring it up at any moment.

    SD clearly stating how both him and I are free to end the arrangement at any time refers to the fact that if 1 or both of us are unhappy, we can end “it”.

    Good luck and please feel free to ask any other Q’s you may have.

    Oh also, don’t know if you already know this but my SD is a blogger here too…. RealisticSD.

  125. NYC SB says:

    JQ – I did suggest she continues seeing him sans payment… but my post somehow got m0derated and lost in cyberspace…

  126. Anna Molly says:

    Wow!!! I missed a lot!!

    Hello to all the new bloggers :)

    I’m gonna catch up on the posts now :)

  127. JohnQ says:

    Hello all. I haven’t posted here in some time. Other priorities.

    I’m writing now because of a fascinating series of posts over the last couple of days. At least I consider them fascinating. Not so much for what was said as for what was not said. In my mind, those posts cast an interesting light on one of the main fault lines inherent in the arrangements fostered by this site.

    It is essentially a cliché on this blog that both men and women want these relationships to be about more than money for sex. Men don’t want to be thought of as walking ATMs and women don’t want to be thought of as semi-pro prostitutes. Both men and women regularly say that an arrangement should be with someone you’d otherwise be attracted to IRL, even without the money.

    That everyone saying this is completely sincere I don’t doubt. Anyone who’s been involved in an arrangement, however (as I’ve been) will almost certainly have to admit to having doubts about what’s really going on.

    This brings me to the recent posts, and to what was said and unsaid. I’m talking about several posts from an SB named Summer. For those uninterested in scrolling up, Summer is about to end a 20 month relationship with an SD who’s been hit hard by the recession and can no longer afford the arrangement.

    Summer expresses considerable regret about this. She says the two of them are “incredibly fond of each other,” that her heart is “breaking,” that she would have married the SD if he weren’t already married, that she already misses him and that saying goodbye will be very difficult.

    I have no reason to believe that any of this is any less than completely honest, and agree with those bloggers who posted sympathetic replies regarding her plight.

    But here’s the part that I don’t entirely understand. This 20 month relationship is not ending because one of the parties has died, or gotten tired of the other, or because some kind of cataclysm has irretrievably separated them. It’s ending because he can no longer afford to make the monthly payments.

    To be sure, that’s an entirely legitimate reason for either party to end an SD-SB arrangement. Summer is within her rights to look elsewhere, as he would be entirely within his rights to end the arrangement for any reason or no reason at all.

    But if she has legitimate feelings for this guy, and the relationship is important to her and ending it will make her sad, then, I don’t know, why not keep seeing him?

    She could, for example, tell him that she cares so much for him that she’s willing to continue the relationship without payment, until he’s back on his feet financially. If she needs the money, she could look for a second SD while still in the relationship with the first (who then wouldn’t be an SD but a BF).

    That she has the right to end the arrangement when the payments end is beyond question. That she would do so when not seeing him any more will cause her pain strikes me as odd.

    It also strikes me as odd that every one of the sympathetic replies she received treated the end of her relationship, and the pain that will cause her, as a given. No one pointed out that it’s apparently entirely within her control to keep seeing him without the money.

    To Summer: I want to emphasize that I’m not criticizing you. This site is pretty straightforward about what’s going on, and you’re under no obligation to keep seeing an SD who can no longer pay you. I am curious, however, about whether you considered continuing the relationship on a non-monetary basis, and, if not, how you square that with what appear to be legitimate feelings of affection you have for the guy.

    And to everyone else: I’m curious about whether anyone else thought about this, or whether everyone simply accepted that an arrangement inevitably ends if and when the money runs out, regardless of the feelings that may otherwise exist between the parties.


  128. james.m says:


    When my pot suggested I try the blog, she mentioned that I should look for posts from a couple of people, because they were particularly helpful. You were one of the name she listed.

    did you have predetermine review in a couple of months to see if both parties were getting what they wanted?

  129. NYC SB says:

    james.m – when working out an arrangement it is important to voice out frequency of arrangement as well as when payments will take place… make sure that both parties are on the same page as far as expectations go… this in the long run will ensure smooth sailing… i would strongly advise you with a set payment schedule this way the financial aspect is something neither of you has to worry about and both of you are able to enjoy each others company

  130. TXSB says:

    Firstly, welcome! :) Based on my experience with my SD, the following things should be clearly discussed before an “arrangement” is agreed upon:

    1) $$$ amount: The exact amount. Whether or not it will be paid monthly or weekly etc. And also, when/how will it be paid (ex. beginning of each month; Will it be cash, check, paypal etc.)

    2) How often will the SD see the SB? Both parties should make their “availability” crystal clear and make sure the other party is “ok” with it.

    3) Will the SD and SB be exclusive to each other? (ie. SD will NOT have any other SB and the SB will not have any other SDs)

    4) An open discussion on safe sex.

    5) My SD specifically wrote in his arrangement offer: “At any time you’re welcome to end the arrangement, as is the case for me.” IMO this is a good idea so both parties are clear that this is not a BF/GF relationship and can end at any moment.

    These are the things my SD and I discussed before an arrangment was agreed on.

  131. james.m says:

    I’m an older SD (a young 60, but aren’t we all “young”) who’s been chatting with a pot mid-30s SB. First time for both of us. The conversations have gone very well, and we’re trying to arrange a time for that “first date”. We’re about 100 miles apart in the midwest.

  132. cleo says:

    TXSB: i came to the sugar bowl because i figured if i was going to have a bunch of short term relationships and not find someone to share the expenses of building a life together with? i might as well get paid instead of coming out poorer every single time.

  133. TXSB says:

    NC Gent:
    I’m in my late 20’s and ideally prefer older men too. I kid you not….the men I end dating, none of them wants to settle down! Who knows….maybe it’s me. But I’m done with “casual dating”…..


    NYC SB:
    LOL. Like I said….send them my way. Personally I’m ready for family…..and I’m sure somehow I can soothe myself with a fat bank account. 😉 Looks like I’m living in the wrong state!

  134. cleo says:

    james.m are you SD or SB?

  135. cleo says:

    The problem with the ones that want to marry you five minutes after they meet you is that they’re projecting someone else onto your cheekbones. someone imaginary or whatever, it’s rarely about the person in front of them.

    very few of those men who wanted to marry me on the third date were still around six months later. i’m at the point where fast movers are “proven immature” and i won’t date them anymore.
    NC Gent: have been told with a straight face that there’s no risk as we’re both hetero.

    have been told with a straight face not to worry because “yeah my last partner and i were open but she only slept with women…”


  136. james.m says:

    Hi. I’m a new user/new blogger. I’m just starting to negotiate my first arrangement, and wondered if you could give me some pointers about the details? I like the contract/summary arrangement, and I like putting it off until after at least one date. But, what should and shouldn’t be included in the proposition? what good (and more importantly, what BAD) experiences are there out there you can share.

  137. NYC SB says:

    TXSB – I have the opposite problem… they all wanna settle down… and move in and get married… wayyyyy soon… trust me you dont want NYC men… most are self proclaimed alpha males who hide their insecurities behind their fat bank accounts…

  138. NC Gent says:

    Hello TX SB — that is interesting that you say that. My first SB is 30 now – she likes men about 10+ years older; she is very attractive, smart, sweet, sane, has a good job and has found it about impossible to find someone to settle down with

  139. TXSB says:

    LOL…..these guys that’re looking for wives….send them my way. I can’t seem to find any (decent looking with a good career) IRL that wants to settle down.

    Well, let me repharase….they settle down….just not with me. :( Hmm….

  140. NC Gent says:

    That surprises me Cleo — I admit that condoms suck but the downside of not using condoms sucks wayyyyyyyyy worse!

  141. cleo says:

    you know it’s funny, they keep telling me that women are after commitment and men are commitment shy and yet always at some amazingly inappropriate moment like the third date they want condom free sex, or me to promise to marry them or for us to move in together…

    like what the heck?

  142. NYC SB says:

    NC Gent – unfortunately he did think that was convincing… lol gave me a good laugh though

    AM – i’d much rather the “how much” pick up line over “lets make babies” any day

  143. Anna Molly says:

    NYC SB ~ I’ve had guys tell me they wanted to have babies with me…not the best pick-up line in the world.

  144. NC Gent says:

    Good morning all! That is kind of creepy NYC SB — I hope he didn’t think that was convincing!

  145. NYC SB says:

    Good morning sugar fam…

    Piggy backing on the “baby mama” story…

    A while back when I first joined SA I met a very young and attractive hedgie… we hung out a couple of times had a great chemistry however knew that he was moving to Boston. Long story short he reached out to reconnect a month ago… between my travelling and his work we were unable to meet up. Well last night he ims me and starts talking about how much he missed me and how he thinks that in 2-3 years time I will be the mother of his children and his wife in a year… and told me not to worry if i moved to Boston with him I would never ever have to work a day in my life. I can go shopping and to the gym all day long… yeah right!

  146. Irish SB says:

    Anna Molly i usually get that because im up earlier then you guys!

  147. Anna Molly says:

    One of these days SDN :)

    Ignore my last post…lol

  148. Anna Molly says:

    O.K., I post and everybody takes off…lol

  149. Irish SB says:

    Will this reach 2000 posts before a blog topic appears!

  150. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Anna: I won’t give up!

    Taz: Not sure if there was an innuendo in there or not.

    Irish: Can’t help it…we are just meant to be :)

    Of to a customer meeting. ttyl

  151. Anna Molly says:

    Hi IrishSB :)

    Sorry SDN :)

  152. Taz says:

    Hi Irish!

    SDN – you really need to be quicker on the draw 😛

  153. Irish SB says:

    Ok SDN stop with the posting at the same time as me, its getting psychic – ish! Lol, good morning by the way!

  154. Irish SB says:

    Good morning Anna Polly and TaZ!! Just to emphasis the Z!!

    I feel so outta the loop my computer only loaded the blog once yesterday so i didnt just disapear last night my computer was sick i think its on its last legs to tell you the truth!

  155. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Anna: Damn, every time I get a chance to get you alone I miss out.

  156. Taz says:

    I am here!! Good morning :)

  157. Anna Molly says:

    Wow…I really am alone :(

  158. Anna Molly says:

    Helloooo? Is anybody out there?? Is there an echo in here…lol

  159. Anna Molly says:

    Napa, I doing good. Enjoy your room service :)

  160. NapaSB says:

    alright well room service and then bedtime for me…sigh time change :(

  161. NapaSB says:

    Hi Anna! I am good, super tired though…how are you doing?

  162. Anna Molly says:

    Hi NapaSB :)
    How are you?

  163. NapaSB says:

    Hello Hello everyone!

  164. Anna Molly says:

    Good morning SDN :)

    You missed it last night…lol

  165. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:


    Anna: If I had known you were looking for me last night!!!

  166. CASB says:

    Hi everyone. I’m sure you’re all long gone by now. I haven’t been sleeping well and have been really stressed so this is the first time I’ve been on in a while.. just woke up from an impromptu couch nap. Wanted to say hello and hope everyone is well. I hope I haven’t missed too much!

  167. cleo says:

    *drives by waving and falls into bed*

  168. Yaz10 says:

    NYCSB, ECF, NeohioSB, CremeBrulee you have mail :-)

    Good night everyone! A very tired and overworked Yaz is finally going to get 8 hours of sleep tonight…

  169. TXSB says:

    Night Anna!

  170. Taz says:

    Lol – nite my dear :) I may be going to bed…haven’t decided if I am tired or not lol…

  171. Anna Molly says:

    Naughty Molly had to go home, she had an emergency to take care of..lol

    Good night all, I have to go to bed. I’ll see you in the morning :)

  172. Taz says:

    Feel better Realistic! Nite :)

  173. TXSB says:

    Has anyone heard from RX8 lately? Haven’t seen her in quite a while.

  174. TXSB says:

    Night! See you tomorrow!

  175. Good night Realistic, hope you feel better :)

  176. TXSB says:

    I’m here…..lol

  177. LOL Taz, I do pay attention to detail :)

  178. RealisticSD says:

    I better go to bed if I ever want to sleep this off.
    Catch up with you guys tomorow!

  179. Taz says:

    Is ANYONE around but us?? TXSB – you still with us? I feel so sad right now…

  180. I wonder what all the lurking SD’s look like? If there are any around, I’m available :)

  181. Taz says:

    Lmao – forget the pumpkin…the ‘adult’ version 😉

    You even caught the time loophole! You mean business AM!

  182. They better hurry, I turn back into a good girl at midnight EST…lol

  183. Taz says:

    However – if there are ANY lurking SDs – feel free to chime in 😀

  184. Taz says:

    If this is not enough to bring them out of hiding…I think perhaps they are not around right now…

  185. TXSB says:

    Oh wow @ Anna!

    Good night! :)

  186. Taz says:

    Nite Midwest – maybe try and resend the email to me?? Talk soon hun :)

  187. Taz says:


  188. Midwest SB says:

    Goodnight sugars! Have a great evening.

    Hope you feel better Realistic! Good to see you back.

  189. Taz says:

    I was going to search for one to put up and looked over and was reminded you beat us all to it lady lol

  190. TXSB says:

    Hahaha…..nice try! :)


    LOL….don’t encourage him! 😉 I haven’t seen him for 12 days and my bday is in 2 days….this is the worst week for him to be sick! *pout*

  191. Taz says:

    AM – you clearly have the pout down as your avator shows 😛

  192. Taz says:

    I happen to agree Realistic – I am not one to take meds either…my immune system thanks me for it 😛 But seriously – eat anything you can get your hands on with Vitamin C in it..

  193. Anna Molly says:

    LOL, I didn’t say anything bad…you guys are just perverted :)

  194. TXSB says:

    Dang girl! LOL!

  195. Taz says:

    Lmfao @ AM!! Umm sweetie – this IS supposed to be a pg rated blog…isn’t it???

  196. TXSB says:

    Gah! Stubborn! *pout* Please take something in the morning if you don’t feel better. I don’t want you feeling sick on my bday!

  197. RealisticSD says:

    Nope. I’ll try to sleep it off.

  198. TXSB says:

    Hi!!!!!!!!!!! :) Did you take any meds when you got home?

  199. Anna Molly says:

    LOL Midwest :)

    Taz you gotta say it like this ~ Oh SDN, won’t you please come out and play with me 😉
    Ohhh, and don’t forget to pout! :)

    That should get his attention….lol

  200. Taz says:

    Realistic – sorry to hear you aren’t feeling up to par – you and TXSB need to get it out of your systems NOW before your trip! :) Welcome back btw!

  201. Taz says:

    Midwest – no I didn’t – I keep checking though..but don’t think it is coming…nothing in junk mail which wouldn’t make sense anyway b/c I have gotten mail from you before…

  202. Midwest SB says:

    Taz – did you ever get mail?

  203. Taz says:

    Will the ever so mysterious TexaSD and very HOT SDN please come out and play?

  204. Midwest SB says:

    Anna – just your choice of words is likely to bring them out of hiding :-)

  205. TXSB says:

    Well for SDN we need Irish……and for TexaSD we need food and naughty talk! Men are so demanding! 😉

  206. RealisticSD says:

    I think I really am getting sick. I hope I didn’t pass it onto TXSB this afternoon.

    Summer, your story is inspiring. I had an IRL SB and after she left, I thought of finding one on SA. It took a long time and a lot of effort until I finally met my current SB.

    As for STDs and vasectomies, I have never given as much thought to a vasectomy as I have now. But that would not necessarily make me want to stop using condoms. However, some SBs are simply less promiscuous than others, so the risk is just not the same with everyone. I had a few SBs in the past and condom or no condom I never felt safe enough sleeping with them. One turned out to be a iv heroin addict, so I am so glad I didn’t sleep with her. Even if I tested her for HIV today, how would I know she won’t have it tomorrow?

    As for herpes, I suppose if someone has active outbreaks and the other is not immune, he/she should take pills like Valtrex.

  207. Anna Molly says:

    Hi TXSB ~ Yes they are usually here, hmmm, maybe they’re lurking. Do you think if we stroke their egos a little they will come out of hiding?…lol :)

  208. TXSB says:

    Hi! LOL! Yes….SDN and TexaSD are usually on right now…

  209. TXSB says:

    Me too! I wish I could’ve made it to NY for the 8th! But hopefully, once the date/location is decided for the Jan. meet up….I (and SD) can make it…*fingers crossed*

  210. Anna Molly says:

    Where are all the SD’s tonight? Sugar dates? Why go on a sugar date when you can blog? lol.. :)

  211. Taz says:

    Wooohooo! So happy to hear that TXSB! I am so looking to meeting everyone!

  212. TXSB says:

    We would love to come. It’a harder for SD b/c of his work and also since he has a family…ideally for him would be a meetup in Htown during the week. As for me, I need enough in advance to I can check ticket prices and also take off from work. But yes, once SDN decides the place/date, I will definately see if I(along with SD) can make it.



  213. EastCoastFilly says:

    Summer: Thanks for sharing your story. I am sad for you that it has to end but think of how lucky you two were to find eachother. You may not find the exact same connection but maybe something different but as wonderful!!!

  214. Summer says:

    Awwww man…did I just quote a Journey song?

    Please forgive me for being so lame!!

  215. Taz says:

    That’s too bad Dee – well not too bad..well the timing is bad lol…as far as March – that’s a bit too far ahead for me lol…but not out of the question at all :)

  216. Just Dee in NC says:

    No, TX, I can’t. I can get to Atlanta in March, but I don’t have a lot of freedom or flexibility to travel.

    Taz, her section is scheduled for February 1st, but this is baby #2 and it isn’t uncommon for them to show up early. The daughter of one of my friends just gave birth to baby #2, 3 weeks ahead of her due date, and she had not dilated at all when she’d had her regular weekly OB check just 3 days earlier!

  217. Taz says:

    TXSB – I really think you and Realistic should come! :)

  218. Summer says:

    For all those SD’s who think it’s not possible to find an SB who appreciates you for far more than the money you bring to the table, don’t lose hope. She’s out there and you will find her.

    For all the SB’s who think it’s not possible to find an SD who appreciates you for far more than just your physical attractiveness, don’t lose hope. He’s out there and you will find him.

    And trust me on this…that person will appear when you least expect it.

    Funny story: my SD and I were both completely sick of this website and were just about ready to throw in the towel when we met. He’d written me an email expressing interest that sat in my inbox for weeks because I never logged in. I sent him a reply that sat in his inbox for 2 weeks because he rarely logged in. When we finally met in person it was like, “whew…where have YOU been all this time? I was just giving up!”

    I hope my story serves as some inspiration and gives hope to those who seem to be striking out in Sugarland, or just meeting people who don’t exceed their expectations. Hang in there and don’t stop believing.

  219. Taz says:

    Dee – perhaps if she has the baby before the dinner you can then make arrangements to come :)

  220. TXSB says:

    You can’t make it at all to the Midwest meet (regardless of where it is?)?

  221. Summer says:

    Sheesh, now I’m about to cry (again). Kind of alternating between tears of joy and sorrow here lately. Joy for having him as my lover and best friend these past 2 years and sorrow at the thought of that last kiss goodbye…

    I know we will keep in touch and always stay friends, and that is my only real consolation right now. If I lost him from my life entirely, I would be devastated.

  222. Taz says:

    Dee – When is it scheduled for? I can’t say I blame you – I am sure there will be more dinners and I would not miss THAT for anything in the world!!

    Summer – thank you for sharing!! It always nice to hear about fairy tales come true :)

  223. Summer says:

    Midwest – you’re so right, I know just how lucky I’ve been just to know this amazing, intelligent, generous and sweet-natured man!!!

    He’s everything I want in my future husband and now I know exactly what qualities I’m looking for. They say you can’t settle for less once you’ve had the best. (And I’m not talking about money here.)

    I’ve learned so much from this relationship and am eternally grateful for the experience. That’s why I wanted to share it on the Thanksgiving blog!

  224. Rudy says:

    TXSB, Just Dee, Taz., Hi!!

    Summer: You found a real gem for a SD:) As for the headline about babies..YES. My curiosity had the best of me so I had to click on the profile and read it. He basically wanted to met a ‘fertile’ woman who could have beautiful babies. I am old fashioned when is comes to parenting, I agree kids need two parents. There are soooo many young women who really think it’s ‘cool’ to be a young mom with a rich daddy. What they don’t realize is the weight of the responsibility will ultimately fall on them.

  225. Just Dee in NC says:

    Taz, wish I could, but even though my daughter has a scheduled C-section with the baby, I’m not going anywhere after the first of the year just in case she goes into labor on her own.

  226. Taz says:

    Hello AM!

    Midwest…nothing yet…weird…

  227. Summer says:

    Taz – I keep residences in both Austin and Houston for work reasons. Daddy is in Houston so that certainly makes life more enjoyable for me when I’m in town. All work and no play makes Summer a dull girl!

  228. TXSB says:

    Hi Anna & Dee!

  229. Midwest SB says:

    Taz – check again…it looks like it went through.

    Summer – that must be so difficult. If it makes it any better, I’m a firm believer that relationships begin/end not when we are ready, but when it’s the right time. You are so lucky to have had this amazing experience!

  230. Anna Molly says:

    Hey y’all, how’s it goin’?

  231. Taz says:

    Hey Dee! :)

    If you are interested in the January dinner – contact SDN :) The more the merrier!

  232. Summer says:

    Rudy – “Lets Have Beautiful Babies?” Seriously????

    I do believe we’ve just discovered a new niche’ in the sugar marketplace:

    Sadly there are far too many young ladies out there today who think it’s cool to be a single mom at 19 and they can’t *wait* to get knocked up by a stranger. So I’m sure these guys will find what they seek, scary and depressing as that is.

    Call me old fashioned, but I think kids need two parents.

  233. Just Dee in NC says:

    Hi, Rudy and Taz!

  234. Taz says:

    Awwww Summer – *sniff sniff* I need a tissue….

    Hi Rudy :)

  235. TXSB says:



    Hehehehe….yes….date went well. :)


    I’m very saddened to hear about your breakup with your SD. I’ve been with mine for about 2 months and I can’t even imagine how attached you must be to him after 20 months! :( BTW, may I ask where in Texas you are? (If you’re not comfy sharing that on the blog, I totally understand).

    As for the sugar meets….there is a dinner going on on Dec. 8 in NYC (I believe 10 bloggers are attending that). SDN is trying to plan another “get together” for around January I think.

  236. Taz says:

    Hi TXSB – hope your date went well today 😀

    Midwest – no email for me yet?!

  237. Rudy says:

    Good Evening Sweet Sugar Fam!

    Trying to catch up on all the topics from today.

    Summer: Welcome:) I received an email from a pot SD and he told me verbatim that he had been ‘fixed’ so I didn’t have to worry about getting pregnant. He also added that he was ‘safe’ even though he had not been tested after his previous encounters! I agree protection is very important . Yes, I would like to have a family someday, but with a husband, a house on three acres or more so the babies can run around with the dogs :) I have also read profiles where the headline reads, “Let’s Have Beautiful Babies”…

  238. Summer says:

    Taz – I’m in Texas (seem to be a lot of us here) – would love to learn more details about the upcoming sugar parties. What an interesting idea!

    ECF – long story short, the economic downturn has affected his business terribly. They’ve had to shut down several offices worldwide, lay off nearly 40% of staff, and of course I’m one of life’s little luxuries that unfortunately doesn’t make sense on the balance sheet anymore.

    Terribly sad for both of us – 20 months is a long time and we’ve grown incredibly fond of one another. We’ve both seen this coming for a long time now, as we frequently discuss his business worries when we are together – but we just didn’t want to let each other go.

    He’s handled this like a true gentleman – gave me 2 months notice, set a date for the relationship to end at the close of this tax year (very smart) and has provided a “severance package” as a departing gift…all this is very sweet of course but my heart is just breaking. A good man like him doesn’t come along every day. We’ve often said that if he wasn’t married we would have gotten hitched a long time ago.

    I know I probably won’t be so fortunate to find a connection like that again – they are incredibly rare IRL as well as in sugarland – he’s become such a part of my life I’m already missing him – and its not even over yet! That last goodbye is going to be sooooo hard.

  239. TXSB says:

    LOL @ the bold comment!

  240. TXSB says:

    I’m there w/ you….thank gawd I never got those type of nutty e-mails.

  241. Midwest SB says:

    Hi Taz! You have mail!

  242. EastCoastFilly says:

    I got all excited because I remembered how to bold…but I guess not completely :)

  243. Taz says:

    Lol ECF – I think you just wanted to make sure Summer would read it lol!

  244. Midwest SB says:

    Summer- it’s a great reply! I have to consider myself lucky that I don’t gert those types of e-mails.

  245. EastCoastFilly says:

    sorry…I somehow bolded everything, lol.

  246. Taz says:

    Where are you from Summer? I am not sure if you have read back enough on the blog – but there is a sb/sd dinner on the 8th in NY, and another one in the mid west in January…if you are interested :)

  247. EastCoastFilly says:

    Summer I’m curious, why is your relationship coming to a close. Did you guys have a 2 yr limit? Sorry to pry, I am just wondering how most relationships like this end. Mine have just kinda faded off, which is totally fine but puts you in a weird place as far as looking again. If its been more than the usual time limit between dates or seeing eachother I tend to start looking because I know we are drifting. Then again I have not had anything completely exclusive, in that case I would hope a proper breakup would ensue, as I would not go behind SDs back.

  248. Summer says:

    Just Dee – of course, be my guest!!!

    Although it’s easier to just hit the “delete” key, I must confess that I enjoy taking a few moments to fire back a one-line zinger, lol.

    THen I just block`em – not interested in reading their huffy reply.

  249. Just Dee in NC says:

    Really terrific man, but he’s not an SD. I do have a couple of emails from pot SDs. So we’ll see.

  250. Midwest SB says:

    I’m watching a shameful guilty pleasure. Shhhhhh…

    Any news on the sd front Dee? Didn’t you have a good convo a few days ago?

  251. Just Dee in NC says:

    I’m sitting here watching TV and the blog.

  252. Midwest SB says:

    Sheesh…is everyone Christmas shopping?

  253. Just Dee in NC says:

    Shoot, I wish I’d known two years ago, too.

    Summer, your response is priceless! May I borrow it? On another network I get a lot of “Hey baby, wanna f***?” emails and IMs.

  254. Taz says:

    Summer – in that case I wish I would have known about this site two years ago!! I have been here for three months now – met some nice people (especially those on the blog!!!!) but still nothing. Being from Canada does not exactly help either….

  255. Midwest SB says:

    AM, Yaz, NeOhioSB – you have enail.,…lol e-mail

    SDN – you have SA mail

  256. Summer says:

    Taz – thanks for the welcome back wishes!

    When my daddy and I found each other thru this site almost 2 years ago, SA was still sort of a “best kept secret” and most people here were serious seekers who understood the nature of these relationships.

    Now that the site has grown by leaps and bounds, the downside for members (female ones, anyway) is we now have to deal with a far greater number of inquiries from guys who can’t tell an SB from an escort. The gentleman factor has decreased greatly.

    Gotta love those one-liners asking “how much for an hour?” LMAO.

    To which my reply is, “one million dollars CASH!”:)

  257. Taz says:

    Cleo – lol it is not like he is my SD!

    Summer – it is very daunting…welcome back :)

  258. cleo says:

    hmm that made more sense when Taz’ comment about seeing SDN’s photo was the most recent… lol

    not so much now

  259. Summer says:

    Sharing and reading these stories serve to remind me of what I’m facing diving back into the sugar search after a near 2-year hiatus.

    My longtime sugar relationship (20 months) is winding to a close at the end of Dec. and I almost forgot how many frogs are on the path to Prince Charming, lol. Starting all over again is indeed a daunting task.

  260. cleo says:

    Taz: rub it in :P`

  261. TXSB says:

    *blush* LOL….I saw him in the afternoon. *blush* And yes…I wrote you back a little while ago.

  262. Midwest SB says:

    Where to start???

    Summer – Baby daddy needs to go bye-bye!

    TXSB – Shouldn’t you be lovin on RSD right about now?? Enjoy the reunion! Hope the tips help.

    SDN & Dee – Hi!

    Tru – Yeah!! Break a leg!

  263. Summer says:

    Might also be worth a mention that the same “baby daddy” also regaled me with amusing stories about his frequent trips to Thailand and the Ukraine seeking temporary “brides.”

    Why, you may ask? Well I did.

    Because “the girls over there think $200 USD is a lot of money,” he informed me. “And you’d be amazed at the things they’ll do for it, especially if you promise you’ll bring them over to the States.”

    Classy guy. And yes, he’s still on this site…small wonder.

  264. Just Dee in NC says:

    Hi, Midwest. Hurry up and jump in here.

    Hi, TX!

  265. TXSB says:

    Hi Midwest!


  266. Summer says:

    Holy wow is right!!!

    Talk about the proverbial “pregnant pause” in conversation. LOL!!!!!

  267. TXSB says:

    Wow @ the “real daddy” wannabe! Just WOW!

  268. Just Dee in NC says:

    Okay, Summer, my jaw just hit my keyboard. I guess he wanted a baby as a fashion accessory instead of a Chihuahua? Good grief.

  269. Summer says:

    One other thing, East Coast – I also naturally assumed no one here is looking to be a real “daddy”…until a pot SD made it clear during our first phone call that he’s looking for a SB who will have his BABY!!!!!

    You can imagine I lost his number VERY quickly.

  270. Summer says:

    Cleo – thanks for the warm greeting/welcome back. I rarely get to check the blog anymore, let alone post, but it’s amazing to see how this place has grown in the last few months. Wow!

    Just Dee – I dropped that 100-lb. hint today about the phone minutes and his response was he’d take care of that tomorrow because he didn’t have his “sugar credit card” with him. However, he had no difficulty keeping me on the phone after that for 2 hours, so I’m starting to wonder if I’ve picked up a cling-on, lol.

    I keep a separate cell phone for my sugar life and don’t mind spending some of my own minutes checking out a potential but there are reasonable limits I’ve set for myself. Unlike an SD, I’m not in a financial position to spend unlimited amounts of money getting to know someone.

    East Coast Filly – yep, gotta love those SD’s who announce during your first encounter, “I’m fixed!” (as if that makes protection wholly unnecessary). My first reaction to hearing this is wondering how many girls actually fell for it….my second reaction is to wonder how many STD’s he’s picked up being so careless with his Johnson…and my third reaction is to smile sweetly, say “that’s nice, dear” and hand him a condom.:)

  271. Taz says:

    Just Dee – Lol indeed I consider myself very lucky 😀

    No worries Irish – I am not holding it against you lol!

    Quiet evening tonight so far – how is everyone???

  272. Just Dee in NC says:

    Congratulations, Tru!

    Taz, you’ve seen SDN’s pics? Dang, aren’t you the lucky lady! :-)

    Gentlemen, if enough of the women can make it to Atlanta the weekend of March 19, are any of you available to join us? I don’t have a lot of opportunities or freedom to travel, and that’s the next time I can get away without raising too many eyebrows.

    After that, the next time I know for certain I could get away would be Labor Day weekend, in downtown Nashville, TN.

    I’ll probably have to settle for listening to everyone’s stories about what a wonderful meet-up they had, but oh well! :-)

  273. Irish SB says:

    Hey hey everyone!
    Stupid computer wudnt load this page all day. I must be killing it with all my uni work… yeh right!

    Sorry Taz have i called you Tax before?? Had to laugh i never noticed im blaming the proximity of those 2 buttons!

  274. TXSB says:

    Hi Everyone!!! :)

    Re: Midwest Meet
    I’m interested in going but it depends on the location and how far in advance a date/place is decided on. I will definately run the details by SD to see if he can attend..

    Congrats!!!! :)

  275. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    ***blushing*** you are to sweet

  276. Tru says:

    Taz – yes I second that SDN really is a nice and good looking guy and goes out of his way to help people or even if its just to give the advice. I tell you what ever SB that gets to enjoy your company would be one very lucky lady.

  277. Margo says:

    “TexaSD says:
    November 29, 2009 at 6:44 pm

    Margo- So shall we talk about an allowance?”

    Sorry, TexaSD :) I believe you are hot, but there are lots of younger guys at traditional dating sites, who are interested in a good looking older woman because of her maturity and sensual experience… I want a man at his prime age.

  278. Taz says:

    Really – stop it! You should have NO problem finding a SB, SDN. You are very attractive AND an intelligent man with a great personality. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder as I said – and that is me right now 😛

    I am sure if you asked any of these SB’s they would concur…and therefore – you are out numbered 😛

    P.S – can you do p.s on a blog?? well I am lol! I just had my eyes checked a month ago 😉

  279. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Taz, we need to get your eyes checked sweety…lol but thank you.

  280. Taz says:

    SDN – Lol – no worries – Irish does it too 😉

  281. Taz says:

    I only speak the truth.

    Again beauty IS in the eye of the beholder :)

    I am not holding out lol! I just told you!

  282. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Sorry meant Taz not Tax

  283. Anna Molly says:

    You’ve been holding out on us Taz :)
    I wanna see a pic 😉

  284. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Tax: Oh stop it! She is just being kind.

  285. Taz says:

    Ohh and btw sugars – I have seen a pic of SDN and he is most definitely HOT!! 😀

  286. Anna Molly says:

    Taz, I don’t know….lol

  287. Taz says:

    Hey Anna – why the venue change?? Just curious..you can email me if you would rather that than talk here…

  288. Taz says:

    Teehee…yes SDN – I do believe I would like to attend..and it is far enough in advance I can make sure not to have any pot dates that day 😛

  289. Taz says:

    A HUGE thanks goes out to NYGent, NCGent, and SDN!! Whether we can all make it or not – your efforts in planning our get togethers are greatly appreciated gentlemen :)

  290. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    I won’t share who sent me an email but I am sure some will be glad to post here if they are coming!

  291. Taz says:

    Since I will be missing December 8th…I am pouting too Anna :( But very excited for the mid west meet!! :)

  292. Anna Molly says:

    I wish I could go…..I’m pouting now…lol

  293. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    We haven’t picked a place time, wanted to see how many interested and then do logistics with more information.

  294. Tru says:

    Thank you guys, oh and I’m so looking forward in meeting everyone who is going to the First Annual Midwest meet I’m sure it will be great.

  295. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Tru: That is awesome! Congradulations.

  296. NC Gent says:

    Congrats Tru!

    When is the First Annual Midwest meet and where SDN?

  297. Tru says:

    Hey all how is everyone doing?
    I’m super happy today, last week I went for an audition to a very hard to get into drama school it was 4 long and hard hours, when I left I was on the phone to my mum almost crying because it was so hard and with only 10 places to fill there was so much talent and competition I really thought I was not going to get in….. but this morning I got a letter of acceptance.. wow still can’t believe it :)

    NC Gent – yes don’t forget the UK

  298. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    For the 2010 first annual midwest meet I have 10 potential SBs and one SD (me). SDs are you really going to let me have 10 SBs to myself? I am just saying you might want to consider joining us.

    Also to all you shy lurkers I have been contacted by one of you!!! Yes that is right the shy lurkers are welcome to join us.

  299. NC Gent says:

    This is a dream dinner for NYGent and I — maybe we need to take this show to all the major cities in the US and UK!

  300. EastCoastFilly says:

    No you can’t miss it! Dying to meet you along with all the other girls :) and of course our Gents

  301. NYC SB says:

    ECF – no way im missing the dinner… even if i need to come with one of those face masks on… hahaha… i dont think it will come to that… taking all precautions as we speak

  302. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Hey everyone…

  303. Just Dee in NC says:

    Time for me to run to the Containment Area and wave at NC Gent! Later, all!

  304. Just Dee in NC says:

    Elle, first you look over every item on the bill and make certain it’s accurate. Universities have been known to screw up invoices before. If there’s an error, send an email to both the registrar’s office and the bursar’s office, and let them fix it.

    If there’s no error, call financial aid. $5000 is a HUGE difference.

    But DON’T WAIT.

  305. NC Gent says:

    ok nevermind Elle :)

  306. EastCoastFilly says:

    NYC SB just get sick already and get it over with before the 8th, lol

  307. Elle says:

    NC Gent – No, no. I just need a place to rant about this and see if anyone has ideas. This came out of nowhere. I just have no idea what to do.

  308. NC Gent says:

    Elle — I don’t know if this is what you were asking, but I don’t think it is reasonable to find a SD in time to help with this issue. Also, if you are seeking an SD, be careful that you don’t sound too financially desperate because this will turn off a lot of SDs, or even worse, maybe cause an unscrupulous SD to take advantage of your situation.

  309. EastCoastFilly says:

    Hey all, Lots of new faces on here since I last chimed in. I think its been over a week!

    This blog is way too long to comment on anything, lol. But the STD Q is very interesting so maybe I’ll tackle that one. I think we should all use protection (condoms)…period. I know there are a lot of SDs who have had vasectomies and think that as long as you can’t get pregnant you are all ok. If an SD is single he can pick up a girl any night of the week and have casual sex with no worries so I worry about that. They are obviously more carefree than a married SD. If an SD is married and we go unprotected I would a) have to trust him completely and quite frankly only my immediate family earns 100% of my trust and b) I now have to assume his wife is also not having sex with anyone but him….. Hey…you never know, she could be getting it somewhere else too ;)-

    So final verdict for me if unless I am in a real life monogamous relationship for an extended period of time which would more than likely not be an SB/SD relationship i will cover it up. And most importantly I don’t think anyone wants to be a daddy on here. No pill is 100% effective alone.

  310. Elle says:

    I’m about 700 miles away, so I have to resort to calling.

  311. Elle says:

    I have a small amount that I’m supposed to cover. It is not $5,000. Everything is supposed to cover this.

  312. Just Dee in NC says:

    Go talk to your financial aid people face-to-face, Elle. They have access to emergency loan funds for situations exactly like yours. And they also need to know that someone on their end screwed up in the financial aid package they offered you. If your scholarships and loans weren’t going to cover 100% of your tuition, fees, books, and room & board, you should have been made aware of that when you received your initial offer of financial aid. And if they told you that your package DID cover 100%, someone on the school’s end needs to figure out how their estimates were so very far off base.

    Just remember that if your package isn’t supposed to cover 100% (and most packages DON’T), you’re still going to have to be able to cover the excess for every semester going forward.

  313. NYC SB says:

    TXSB – exciting send our regards to realistic… 😀 … go get it chica 😉

    where is miss villa and oc…

  314. NYC SB says:

    i think im coming down with a cold… ugh… serves me right for partying all weekend…

    elle… sorry dear… i am so glad i am no longer in school… tution bills were always traumatizing for me

  315. Just Dee in NC says:

    Summer, why don’t you just tell this man that you’ve nearly used up all your minutes for the month on your cell phone plan? That will remind him that at the very least, he should offer to pay your cell phone bill. I have a friend here in town who is one of those needy, clingy guys, and when we first met he would call me 10 and 15 times a day. It didn’t matter how many times I told him that my plan didn’t have a large number of minutes, or that leaving me a voice mail used minutes AND listening to voice mail used minutes – and he would leave these 3 and 4 and 5 minute messages if I didn’t answer or if I hung up on him. So finally I had to make him pay my cell phone bill for like 3 solid months. It finally sunk into his head that my phone was not there for HIS convenience.

  316. Elle says:

    Bad day, sugarland.

    I got a bill form my university, apparently with my scholarships and loans I’m still $5000 behind for next semester. Anyone have any ideas how I can make $5000 quickly? :/

  317. Just Dee in NC says:

    NC Gent and Anna Molly, here’s how you answer the “Why were you interviewing someone there? Why weren’t you doing the interview in your office?”

    “We already have someone in that position. Interviewing in the office would tip our hand that we’re about to fire/promote her.”

    Running into someone I know is one of the reasons I like to meet someone at one of the larger bookstores. Then you can use the “Oh, Sally, this is Curtis. We were both looking at (book or author or genre) and got to talking.”

    Or even: “Some of my (Mafia Wars/World of Warcraft/whatever) crew are getting together.”

  318. TXSB says:

    Hi NYC SB and anyone else who just joined!

    That’s scary! Yikes!

    I’m about to get ready and head out to the sugar pad to meet SD in 30 minutes. Haven’t seen him in 12 LOOONG day…hehe…feel nervous like it’s our 1st date or something! LOL! I will see you guys in a few hours… :)

  319. Taz says:

    Hmmm…is it siesta time on the blog?? :(

  320. cleo says:

    Anna Molly: i can’t stand tiger’s smarmy grin. Ugh.
    justwonderin: any sensible person with herpes has most likely never shared it with a partner. it is also very difficult for a woman to give it to a man and yet very easy for a man to give it to a woman.

    so for the SD’s that one is probably a lesser concern (unless they have skin abrasions of course)
    Lunae: be careful saying NSA meeting as some people use that term for sex.
    TXSB: i wouldn’t let any pretty woman i know go south of rome by herself. just by the way. i was followed in to my hostel in naples. fortunately the hostel keeper was very quick on her feet.

  321. Taz says:

    Hope everyone is having a fabulous Monday!!

    Hi NYC SB – was wondering where you have been! Nice to see you :)

  322. NYC SB says:

    OMG… spent like 3 hours cathing up on blog… ::faints::

    now i have nothing to say lol … hi sugars 😀

  323. cleo says:

    Re What gets my attention in email

    i like a nice, not too long, email that indicates that you’ve read my profile. there are a lot of hooks in it you can use to start a conversation. that said, please please no more than three paragraphs that aren’t much longer than this one.

    i dread answering the long emails, sometimes they take days to get to because it seems like so much work.
    re photos or not: i expect a photo before meeting unless you can justify not sending one… in which case i expect a full name or something for my own safety.
    re network of SB’s in each town: the SDs should do it too.
    (Hi Summer, I’m glad you are here, I’ve read some of your old posts!)

  324. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Catwoman…I think you will find that you will at least find new/good friends on the blog. I know I have.

    If you have any questions about sugar dating please ask but before you do you may want to review some of the past blog posts. Might help ge you up to speed :)

  325. Anna Molly says:

    CremeBrulee ~ That would be fun :)

  326. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    AM – You def. should! Can’t wait to hear about it. Maybe we’ll have a mini eco discussion group.

  327. TXSB says:

    Welcome!! :) I do believe this site works….My SD and I found each other here.

  328. TXSB says:

    Oh gawd we need a new blog….at 1750+ posts….this is taking forever to refresh!

    Hi! :) Yes I’m a bit nervous about the $$ too. SD is back and he’s going to help me look up ticket prices. I’m also blessed to have “Happy Lurker” in Amsterdam and he’s been giving me some info. on activities/hotel prices etc…him being a local is a major plus. Several other bloggers have travelled to Europe and have been giving me tips on weather, prices etc. I think this will be much easier once I check ticket prices and decide on a frigging country! :)

  329. NC Gent says:

    I love talking about myself CB (jk) would be glad to share with you over dinner — we are doing some pretty interesting stuff IMHO.

    Welcome to the blog catwoman — I have had a few positive experiences as a result of being a member of the site.

  330. Anna Molly says:

    I took a LEED course and was going for my certification, but the company I worked for went out of biz and I never finished the course. I do have one certificate for green building basics and LEED. Very interesting stuff and if given the opportunity I would love to finish my certification.

  331. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    NC – I’m a bit of a non-tree hugging eco-geek.. Congrats! maybe we’ll hear more over din.

  332. cleo says:

    SDN: i reply to one liners IF they reference my profile or his profile is awesome and IF they are polite. otherwise no.
    Tru: i had a conversation today that made me realise i was VERY wrong in my comments about London and I wanted to apologise. well not so much wrong as very outdated. last time i was there i got killed but i hadn’t realised that the pound had fallen so in relation to north american currency.
    txsb? i retract my don’t go to london advice … that said, be careful of the major european cities, many of them are horridly expensive (and be careful, sometimes it’s 2euro for a cappuccino at the bar and 10 euro at a table)

  333. Catwoman says:

    Hello.. I am new to this site.. and wanted to welcome everybody..
    Does it really work here?
    Someone had some good experiences?


  334. NC Gent says:

    Yes CB — I am impressed you remember that. I do work related to sustainability and environment. We just launched a new “green” product that is doing very well :)

  335. Anna Molly says:

    LOL..NC, that is what I was going to use for my excuse if I ever saw somebody that knew me. That is why I try to go for lunch meetings instead of evenings, but so far the meetings in NYC have worked and haven’t had to use my excuse yet.. :)

  336. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    NC – Sustainability/environment enthusiast if I recall?

  337. NC Gent says:

    Yes I was very uncomfortable about it — one I knew through business dealings, and the other I played poker with — when I saw the guy at the next poker event he was asking a lot of questions but I changed the subject lol I told him I was interviewing an office manager – he asked why I wasn’t doing that at my office – I am pretty sure he didn’t believe me but it kind of died after that — thank gawd!

  338. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    TXSB – Aha! don’t worry about that.. you can BI any time.

  339. TXSB says:

    PBI = Politely Butting In

  340. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    TXSB – what is PBI?

  341. Anna Molly says:

    You must have been horrified NC…I would be..lol

  342. TXSB says:

    The comment you made about not all prolonged exchanged leading to dead ends. :)


    NC Gent:
    Yikes! LOL…yep…that will defiantely make any SD switch to “long distance SBs only!”.

  343. Summer says:

    Lunae – any time a pot SD has offered an allowance before meeting and starts talking seriously about wanting me to quit school/job for him, I run like the wind!!! Never a good sign.

    Hell, I didn’t even quit my job for my husband back when I was married!

    A good SD (or good man in general) wants to help you achieve your career goals, not slow your progress in reaching them.

  344. NC Gent says:

    I had one local sugar date and I saw two people who recognized me! Never again! All of my sugar is long distance sugar lol

  345. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    TXSB – que?

  346. Anna Molly says:

    I’m like you NC, I would prefer a relationship where me and SD have some distance between us. NYC is a good meet up place if the pot comes to the city for biz or what not.

  347. Summer says:

    I don’t date self-centered men in real life – I run away from those types – so I wouldn’t accept that in an SD either.

    I’m looking at personality traits here, not money. That’s why I haven’t even brought up the subject of allowance yet…playing my cards close to the vest and waiting to see how long it takes him to broach the subject.

    Personality test. Sincerity test. We’ll see if he passes or fails.

  348. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    NC – Big difference of course when it’s long distance. I wouldn’t correspond/speak with a local for two months if I knew a coffee/drink was a possibility within a 5-mile radius. So of course, your scenario is much more understandable.

  349. TXSB says:

    Him offering an arrangement without ever meeting you IRL is not a good sign IMO. At this point I would just say trust your gut instinct about him. Good luck with whatever happens. :)


    PBI but good point!

  350. NC Gent says:

    CB — my best sugar relationships involved a relatively long period (4 to 10 weeks) of getting to know each other. I always go for distance arrangements so that kind of forces that to happen I guess. I obviously felt I had a chance with the recent one, but I always knew in my mind that she wouldn’t be able to go through with it but I felt it was worth the investment because I liked her.

  351. TXSB says:

    SD NEOhio (SDN) says:
    the SD & SB should care and respect each other.

    *big thumbs up* to this. Just like a husband/wife or BF/GF or any other relationship….a SD/SB relationship can only be successful when there is mutual care and respect.

  352. Lunae says:

    TXSB – yes you have it correct. And I’m and just not the type to jump when told to. I’ve sent my second email requesting a first meeting. No reply as yet. This one I just going to have to walk away from.

    NEOhio- I feel the same way. I am not one for a “pay per play” scenario. I would like something more along the lines of a relationship myself.

    It takes all kinds, hopefully he will find what he is looking for.

  353. TXSB says:

    I didn’t communicate any long distance SDs when I was searching…all my pot SDs were local.

    Personally, I never had any issues with “naughty talk”. If the pot brought up anything related to sex, I would tell him directly that I’m not willing to “talk naughty”, or send “sexual pictures” or discuss any “sex details” without an arrangement in place. I would tell them that the only thing related to sex I’m willing to talk about are STD/HIV and whether or not either one of us have them. Some men respected my directness and “behaved”….others “poofed” which showed they weren’t real SDs.

    As for making sure the time isn’t being wasted….since all my pot SDs were local, I always met them for a “1st” date within a week (I understand this would be different for long distance SDs). I also keep my profile available and kept on “searching” until an arrangement was offered and my allowance paid.

  354. Summer says:

    In my experience, the man who will give a small gift early in the courtship process has a considerate nature, and that’s the kind of man I want to date.

    Just not into those guys who are all about THEMSELVES.

  355. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    Summer/NC – On further thought, not all prolonged exchanges necessarily lead to dead ends. I’ve managed to maintain some interesting relationships with pots (no longer pots naturally) who share some of my interests. Not every connection will fall neatly into a pre-defined bucket.

  356. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Lunae: I am believe an initial first meeting NSA is the way to go. I like putting some time in getting to know someone before that first meeting – I don’t think you can set a time limit. You have to read each opportunity and determine when it is a “dead end” as CB said.

    I do not like “pay per play”, I want a relationship and this doesn’t qualify to me. I am happy to work with an SBs schedule, the same as I ask her to work with mine.

    A first meeting should be like a first date in the traditional sense. I wouldn’t ask my date if I was going to get lucky if I take her to diner and I wouldn’t expect her to ask me how expensive of a restaurant will I take her to.

    If you look back at all of the advice given there is one central theme: the SD & SB should care and respect each other. If that isn’t happening then why go forward?

  357. Summer says:

    lol….sorry I meant “naughty talk” – can’t type today!!

  358. Anna Molly says:

    Summer ~ I know what you mean about the naughty talk…I hate that.

  359. NC Gent says:

    Just wondering — we got FULL panel STD tests together AFTER we knew each other a while. We were together over 2 years. I guess she could have lied to me, but we earned each other’s trust. We were very close friends, and I guess at some point, you know someone well enough to trust them.

  360. TXSB says:

    Wait….this guy is offering you an arrangement without an initial 1st meeting? You wrote he wants you available on “his terms”….will “his terms” effect your school or work schedule? Sorry if it sounds dumb but I don’t want to misunderstand something and comment based on that.

  361. Summer says:

    Thanks for the tips and advice everyone. While I never expect financial support of any kind before I’ve even met someone, a small gift (such as an e-gift card or gas card) is always a nice touch and shows that he appreciates my time.

    (sighs) Sadly, a lot of guys out there approach us just wanting to get some free nuaghty talk with no intentions of pursuing an arrangement.

    Got to be a way to distinguish the winners from the losers before investing a lot of time & energy. No matter how much I enjoy his company, I don’t have unlimited cell phone minutes to burn.

  362. Lunae says:

    Oh wow Beach Girl I had no idea about Nike’s practices….I’m stunned, pissed off and speechless……

  363. Lunae says:

    He is not asking that I leave school or work only that I somehow manage to juggle all three…. I wouldn’t leave school for anyone..it is way to important to me. I think he is just feeling a bit rushed….these things really should not be worked out while your at work. LOL. Maybe He will agree to my idea of an initial first meeting NSA where we can better get a feel for each other and whether or not we are even compatible.

  364. TXSB says:

    Later… :)


    NC Gent:
    Sorry it didn’t work out after 11 weeks…..you must’ve really liked her to give her that much time.

  365. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    NC – Agreed. 11 weeks is a long time but if there were consistent indications there may be potential, it’s worth pursuing I suppose. After a while it becomes easier to recognize dead ends.

  366. justwonderin says:

    NC Gent-
    You mentioned you and your potential SBs get tested. Routine STD panels don’t test for herpes unless you ask for the specific test. How do you rule out that your partners don’t have herpes and if you go by what they say, how do you know they are not lying or asymptomatic. Just curious.

  367. Anna Molly says:

    11 weeks is more than just a little though…sorry it didn’t work out NC.

  368. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Lunae~ He does do good things for kids, but then again, he is sponsored by Nike… And Nike is known to have sweat shops… where they use kids to do the work at 12 cents a month… Also Nike is known to cut the fingers off of these kids so they can insert the insoles faster!
    So….. Really not a Fan….

    Ok really leaving now, have a good day!

  369. Anna Molly says:

    I love it when a guy takes the time to get to know me a little before the first meeting. It makes the meeting even more exciting and relaxed. Sorry for any typos, my nails are wet…lol.

  370. TXSB says:

    You definately should not leave school or work for an SD. That being SD….if he doesn’t understand you neeed to work or go to school and is not willing to compromise at all on the timing of meetings….the do you really want an SD like that? A SD who really cares about you will compromise based on your “needs”….this is supposed to be a mutually beneficial *relationship*….and a *relationship* requires compromise on both parties. :)

  371. NC Gent says:

    Good point CB regarding keeping track of time before meeting someone. I recently spent 11 weeks getting to know a potential SB and an arrangement never materialized mainly because she was too nervous about my marital status. However, I have no regrets on the time invested because it truly was enjoyable getting to learn about her.

  372. Lunae says:

    I am not a fan of Tiger Woods but he does have one saving grace…and that is the fact that he has done some wonderful things for children with all that money he makes.

  373. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    NC – Likewise.. should be a very interesting evening :)

  374. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    Summer – I imagine if you were enjoying the get-to-know process, you wouldn’t be timing it. If conversations revolve around him exclusively, that’s reason to move on. Try vocalizing your concern but I don’t think expecting some sort of time-spent compensation at this juncture is reasonable.

  375. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Lunae~ that is amazing!! You are right we should have a circle of SBs all over… You are very nice!!!

    AM~ i am with you on the tiger woods thing, I do not like him…

    See you later sugars!

  376. Lunae says:

    I have a question. I have a pot SD that is requesting an amount for a per visit arrangement. I’m totally green when it comes to this but I know that my time is very limited between work and school and he wants me available on his terms, with numerous visits within each month.

  377. NC Gent says:

    Hi CB — looking forward to meeting you in 8 days! I was glad to hear that you are coming to the sugar dinner party :)

  378. Lunae says:

    I agree. There is safety in numbers and it would do a lot to reduce the stress of traveling pot SDs. I know anytime I have traveled anywhere it was always easier knowing that I had a connection at the end of my journey. So if anyone needs help in the Birmingham, Atlanta area please let me know. I have a spare bedroom with a twin bed and you are most welcome to come and stay with me. It’s not the Ritz but it is safe and totally drama free.

  379. Anna Molly says:

    Exactly NC, he really chaps me…lol. Tiger should retire, I’m sick of him..lol. The fact that I don’t like him isn’t obvious is it :)

  380. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    He is a moron if for no other reason than putting his family in that position–inexcusable.

  381. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Anna Molly: I am not surprised that you would turn down an SD you don’t “click” with – no matter how wealthy. You are a true class act.

    Summer: I agree with NC Gent, I would provide travel costs and a small amount for incidentals for a first meeting but then again I wouldn’t but 5 hours into an SB without having the details resolved – time is valuable for both of us. Big flag to me.

  382. TXSB says:

    Beach_girl gave some really good tips regarding travel/safety. As for how much time to invest…that’s totally upto you. Some people invest hours….while others invest days…and yet some others invest weeks. If you don’t feel comfortable and for whatever reason, “red flags” are going off….then it’s totally upto you as to when you want to say “Sorry….but I don’t think this is going to work”.

  383. NC Gent says:

    I give Tiger the “Moron of the Year Award” for going out in public with her. He is according to most polls the most recognizable person in the world.

  384. Anna Molly says:

    I couldn’t be his SB, his voice would get on my nerves….lol
    I don’t care how much money he has and I don’t really like him anyway.

  385. TXSB says:

    Good Morning NC Gent, Lunae, Summer, Beach_girl, Anna and anyone else I’m missing. :)

  386. Anna Molly says:

    Ahhhhh, Yes I most certainly think so 😉

  387. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    NC Gent: I think you are correct! It may not have been an spoken arrangement but given his situation that is exactly what was going on!

  388. NC Gent says:

    Summer — most (but not all) SDs will be reluctant to provide some monetary support prior to meeting. I have sent a modest amount of money in advance to cover travel expenses, but that has been it. If you haven’t talked about your needs yet, and are 5 hours into it — that is a bad sign.

  389. NC Gent says:

    That was very sweet of you Lunae :)

    Topic change — who thinks the bar hostess from NYC that Tiger Woods had in Australia was his sugar baby? Count me in as a big yes on that one — looks like Tiger may have been caught with his hand in the sugar bowl :)

  390. Summer says:

    Another concern that I have is that I’ve invested about 5 hours already talking to him and so far the conversation seems to be only about his needs, not mine. This is a big red flag for me.

    I would think a 5-hour investment on my part (phone, chat, etc) would merit some kind of small gift from him to show sincerity without me needing to ask. What about you?

    how much time do you invest in a potential before moving on if he’s not showing you something tangible in return?

    There comes a time to “fish or cut bait” as they say and having a FT career doesn’t leave me unlimited time for endless chat/phone calls.

  391. Summer says:

    Lunae, that’s a great idea! We should have a network of SB’s who look out for each other in various cities….would make us all feel safer.

  392. Lunae says:

    I am in Anniston,Al Which is not very far from ATL. If anyone ever comes out this way and has need of a back up just let me know. Safety First always. I would have no problem driving out to pick anyone up and lending them a room in my house, if a situation came up.

  393. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Hi Summer~ I think some SDs are here on and off, meaning, they get a SB and hide their profile, then once it’s over they try again. It does not mean he has multiple SBs right now, he may have had 1, 2, a few… you should ask him..
    as for the STDs, you can protect yourself and also ask that you both get tested.
    If you like him, you can ask him to come to you. If that is not a possibility, you can ask that you have a plane ticket confirmation, hotel confirmation, and make sure that it’s in your name. So if things do not work out. you are not out on the street trying to figure a way back. Also, if you know any SBs that are in that area, try to contact them and see them… safety first!
    I am sure others will add what I have missed, but always go with your gut instincts

  394. Summer says:

    Good morning sugars! Have a question & could really use some advice:

    I’ve been exchanging some great emails with a gentleman who is a longtime member of this site and he lives halfway across the country…he wants to meet me in person now.

    I’m a bit skeptical for obvious reasons and have safety concerns.

    Since he’s been on the site practically since the day it started, I’m assuming he’s already dated several ladies on here who may be able to vouch if he’s a safe date, or a fake, or a whackjob, etc…

    just kinda worried b/c if someone has been on the site that long I tend to think there’s a reason they haven’t found their match, or maybe they are just a serious player who keeps a stable of partners (STD worries). Is this a reasonable concern?

    Not sure if I should be posting his handle here but would be happy to talk with ladies offsite about this. He is in his 40s, lives in Atlanta, GA and works in Information Technology. If this rings a bell with any girls in the Atlanta area or elsewhere plz let me know how to contact you privately to share intel. Thank you!!

  395. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    SE~ I am so happy you are back, How are you? missed your posts here!!!
    Welcome back, hopefully here to stay?

    The Dentist was a nightmare …. oh well its done for another year!!

    Hi eveyone

  396. Anna Molly says:

    Dee, don’t be silly :)

    Hi Lunae, I know what you mean. The years keep going by faster.

  397. Lunae says:

    Morning Everyone!
    Sorry I’ve been away, work is killing me, have I mentioned I hate retail. LOL
    Add to that class and the desperate need for a new roommate, it just seems I do not have time to keep in touch with anyone.

    I hope everyone had a great week and was able to enjoy the holiday with friends and family. I do not know about you guys but it just doesn’t seem right that Christmas is right around the corner… where has this year gone?

  398. Just Dee in NC says:

    It’s me, Anna – I seem to run the guys off.

  399. Anna Molly says:

    I think everybody left….sigh..

  400. Irish SB says:

    Pleased to meet you SuthrnExec!

    Think im going to go laptop broswing – i know its only one ‘not responding’ away from losing further work on me!

  401. Anna Molly says:

    That’s great, I hope you won’t be a stranger.

  402. SuthrnExec says:

    Greetings Anna – yes, NC and I go WAYYYY back! LOL

  403. Anna Molly says:

    Awww a bromance…how sweet :)

  404. Anna Molly says:

    Hi there SuthrnExec :)
    Nice to meet you :)

  405. NC Gent says:

    Southern Exec — so good to see you here again! Glad to here things are going well for you — SE was my first blog bromance I think lol

  406. SuthrnExec says:

    How are you NCGent, my old friend? It’s good to see you.

    Greetings everyone else! Some of you may think I am new to the blog, but truthfully, I am so old, I’m new! I have been away from the blog for a bit but not due to boredom! Things are going quite well in my corner of the world. I hope everyone had a great holiday (in the US anyway). I just wanted to drop-in and say “hello”!

  407. NC Gent says:

    Hi Tru — nice to meet you! I am glad we are getting more UKers to post!

  408. Just Dee in NC says:

    And on the flip side of what Anna Molly just said is this: Even a man who is plain, with no pretense of “good looks” at all, can be the sexiest man in the world if he has the right personality.

  409. Anna Molly says:

    SDN ~ It doesn’t bother me if a guy doesn’t have a picture. Women aren’t usually visual creatures like men are. I do appreciate a photo after we establish communication. For me it’s more about who the person is and if they have substance. I’m not saying that physical attraction isn’t important at all mind you :)
    I’m just saying that you could be the most handsome man in the world, but if you have the personality of a brick wall or are stuck on yourself I will find you very ugly :)

  410. Irish SB says:

    SDN – iv noticed the irish comments when i was away from the blog its good to know i am missed!

    Tru – half the country is flooded there is a meter of flood water in some areas 100s of houses destroyed…. and it is sunny where i am , mind you its still baltic!

  411. Anna Molly says:

    SDN ~ What gets my attention is an email that expresses a ture interest in me and what I have to say. I like it when a guy emails me and asks questions about what I wrote in my profile, such as, what do you like to cook? or Who is your favorite band? Just like NC actually :)
    Compliments are always nice too, of corse the only thing you can compliment me on is my smile. I do need some sort of anonymity for obvious reasons :)

    While a thought out email is always nice, I don’t want to read a book. I’ve received emails that are two pages long…not kidding. It was very nice and sweet, but too much for a first email.

  412. Tru says:

    Hi NC, Just Dee, BG and Anna Molly how are you today?

    IrishSB – You have sunshine really!!! Its so windy and lots of rain in London the temperature has drop so much over the last couple of days they are even saying its going to snow again!!…

  413. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    So AM what would get your attention, or any of the SBs out there? What should my email to you look like?

    I don’t have a picture, I am shy, how much does that hurt?

    Irish!! You are back. Missed you.

  414. Anna Molly says:

    Hi IrishSB and Tru :)

  415. Irish SB says:

    There was no one around earlier!

    Morning NC, Just Dee, BG and Anna Polly. It is sunny right now such a rare sight im unsure what to do now.. Can i get an extention on a paper because i want to utlise the sunniness…

  416. Tru says:

    SDN – Sadly im in the UK but maybe next time.

  417. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Just Dee: lol…promises, promises.

    AM: Well Anna I guess we covered what NOT to write…well maybe it would work if an SB sent it but I don’t think it will convey the impression I have of you and the type of SD you are wanting.

    I always appreciate when a pot SB writes to me and a thought full well written message always gets my attention. I think NC Gent is spot on with the content of the message you should send.

  418. NC Gent says:

    Anna – things that increase my chances of responding – I am physically attracted; we have common interests; the SBs email gives me an indication that she actually read my profile, and lastly — ask me a question — that usually gives me an extra urge to respond — questions like — I saw you like music — who is your favorite band? you get the point I am sure :)

  419. Just Dee in NC says:

    Now SDN, if I’d known that was you sending those emails, I would have jumped all over them! 😉

  420. Anna Molly says:

    Good Luck BG :)

    I look at profile from all over. NYC is a business mecca so I have a good chance of finding someone who travels in. As far as the email is concerned, I never send them. I’m thinking I should start though.

    To the SD’s ~ When you receive an email from a SB, what is it about that email that makes you want to respond (other than the fact she’s a hot babe)..lol? Tips on writing an affective email would be appreciated :)

  421. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Wait my emails saying “Hey baby, wanna f***?” aren’t working? Wondered why I wasn’t getting any replys. Damn back to the drawing board.

  422. Just Dee in NC says:

    The one-liners that I get tend to be along the lines of “Hey baby, wanna f***?” Although that has not happened here on SA.

    A doctor on another site emailed me after reading my profile, and in his emails he was warm and witty and easy to talk with. Moved to instant messenger, and I can’t get more than 2 or 3 words at a time out of him. I’m long past being willing to do all the work to get to know someone.

    Another man had a profile that didn’t say anything at all, but he had a photo and I really liked his smile. So I emailed him and asked him, what is you’re looking for? why are you looking for an SD/SB relationship? Tell me something about you. And the response I got back was, “Well, I really don’t know what I want.”

    That’s it. Entire response. Somebody else can help him figure it out.

  423. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Have a good day all, off to the dentist….
    Talk soon

  424. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    I always reply to a nice email – not a one liner, a cut and paste mass email, or a suggestive one. If I add her to my favorites and she sends me an email this seems like a no brainer to me.

    Any one else get emails that say “Hi do you like me”? I got this, I mean really put some effort into it.

    Gmail is working fine for me – sent and received.

  425. Just Dee in NC says:

    NC Gent, I’m with you on that one. Two men have added me to their favorites, and I sent both of them a short note, and not a word from either.

  426. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Just Dee: There are multiple reasons an SD would view pot SB profiles. Newbies may feel safer thinking of having a long distance (out of state) relationship even if it isn’t practical for him.

    Like NC Gent I some times just browse the site. A face will catch my eye so I read the profile.

    Also many SDs travel and having an SB when away from home may be attractive to them.

    The SD may also not care about paying travel costs for the right SB – I fit this category. I am very picky about who I see and I would rather see her less and pay travel if needed.

  427. Anna Molly says:

    I received a gmail last night and it worked just fine. Nothing this morning though. My gmail account doesn’t get too much action :)

  428. NC Gent- says:

    by the way Dee — here is one that baffles me even more — someone adds you as a favorite – you send them a thoughtful email – and then they don’t even respond — I would love to hear a good explanation for that one.

    Good morning Irish SB if you are still here.

    Anyone else having problems with gmail?

  429. Just Dee in NC says:

    I looked into getting tickets to see them this year and all I can say is ….. OUCH.

  430. NC Gent says:

    Good morning Beach Girl!

    Dee — sometimes I look at a profile that there is no chance in reality for something to happen because a picture of heading catches my eye. Also, I look at profiles in towns I travel to, so that may be happening. Also, you never know when something might work out – I have been talking to a pot-SB that I never thought would have a chance to blossom!

  431. Anna Molly says:

    Hi Dee :)
    Good to see you this morning :)

  432. Anna Molly says:

    I want to go see Trans Siberian Orchestra, I too have heard the show was really good.

  433. Just Dee in NC says:

    Morning, NC Gent and Anna Molly.

  434. NC Gent says:

    Good morning Dee, SDN, Anna — I have been thinking about going to see the Trans Siberian Orchestra — I heard it was very good, SDN.

  435. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Good morning Just Dee, NC Gent, Anna Molly

  436. Just Dee in NC says:

    SDN, I have a question for you, for all the SDs, and even for the lurkers:

    Gentlemen, if you live in Oregon or Iowa or New Hampshire or Mississippi (or wherever), and you know you want a sugar baby who is local to you – why are you reading profiles of women who are 500 and 1000 and 3000 miles away?

    Seriously – that has me scratching my head. Between this network and one other that I’m on, easily 75% of the men who view my profile are too far away for even an SD/SB relationship to be realistic.

  437. Anna Molly says:

    Good morning everyone :)

    TexaSD ~ How was the whip cream and cherries? LOL

  438. NC Gent says:

    Good morning all! Back after a long and somewhat relaxing weekend.

    Regarding the question of birth control and STD prevention, I have this conversation with an SB before we are intimate. My first SB and I got tested together so that we didn’t have to use condoms. We trusted each other. I use condoms otherwise. I don’t like them but the down-side of not using them is huge!

  439. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Tru if you are in the states you should try to see the trans-siberian orchestra.

  440. Just Dee in NC says:

    Morning Tru, Beach, Irish, SDN, and lurkers.

  441. Tru says:

    SDN – I’m good thanks just about to start my too do list i’m pretty much free until the 11th so if you can think of any fun things which I can do the please keep me posted on that :)

    Morning Beach_Girl

  442. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Good morning SDN, Irish, and tru!

  443. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Hey Tru!!! Doing good this morning. You?

  444. Tru says:

    Morning IrishSB and SDN how are you guys today?

  445. Irish SB says:

    Just about SDN and iv 5 hours ahead – im not feeling that victorious!

  446. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Good morning!

    Morning Irish…lol you did beat me :)

  447. Irish SB says:

    Good morning all!

    Iv beaten SND to first morning post!

  448. Just Dee in NC says:

    I’m trying to catch up on all the “gifts” and other requests on Facebook. I’ve been uninstalling games and deleting people off my friends list who are only there because they play the games that are deleted, but the remaining people are just sending me twice as much stuff to make up for it.

  449. always2sweet says:

    well, Im gonna try to hit the hay. might check back if I cant sleep. Night sugars!

  450. always2sweet says:

    now Im feeling the echo :(

  451. always2sweet says:

    hahaha nope I am still here.

  452. Just Dee in NC says:

    Whew. This place was starting to echo.

  453. always2sweet says:

    Im a midwest night owl, its midnight here

  454. Just Dee in NC says:

    Am I the only east coast night owl?

  455. cleo says:

    TexaSD: if you contact her? take paranoid sugar baby levels of caution along with your email


    good night all

  456. TexaSD says:

    Cleo- Who knows, lets not find out though lol.

    ALL- maybe her husband is really a lame deadbeat that she supports, and now needs money… who knows lol, anyways lets hope for the best for me lol, I will debate this, and I will let all of you know if I contact her

    GOOD night all,

  457. cleo says:

    TexaSD: are you the type that looks good with scars?
    JustDee: i am assuming that once he finds out something about her he’ll do some investigating. Personally the more I think about it the less I’m into a married SD so I wonder why a single SD would be interested in a married SB… but then i look at her pics *g*

    anyway you’re right that that kind of thing happens but so are the folks who point out that he might not actually be a marine…

    you’re also right that i don’t want to see TexaSD hurt but I think he’s smart enough to catch her in her story if she turns out to be a liar… especially with your hints about local schools etc.

  458. TexaSD says:

    Dee- Maybe we really need to do a recon mission lol

  459. TexaSD says:

    Oh, Maybe I will contact her this week

  460. TexaSD says:

    Cleo- Ya what Dee said lol

  461. Just Dee in NC says:

    Cleo, worst that happens is her husband gets back from Afghanistan or Iraq, finds out his wife has been screwing around AND getting money for doing so, and gets some of his buddies together. It wouldn’t be the first time.

    I just hate to see TexaSD on the wrong end of the eventual fireworks. And he’s FAR too trusting. He won’t know he’s been suckered until it’s way too late.

  462. TexaSD says:

    Cleo- and I get a black eye lol

  463. cleo says:

    Texa: yeah i remember you mentioning, but i never saw them. i do think there’s some drama potential here, 21 and married and looking for an SD but you never can tell what the story will be.

    dude, worst that happens is we all get a good story ;>

  464. TexaSD says:

    Anna- goodnight, I will dream of the whip cream and cherries lol

  465. TexaSD says:

    Cleo- She had some really eye poping pics before those, I did think these were much tamer, but ya maybe I will contact her… i am racking my brain… and if all goes well ehh, at least NYGent and Sincere can make fun of me…

    A2S- lol your right, I would need a pic of the 18 yr old friend first,

  466. Anna Molly says:

    night, night all. Sleep tight and sweet dreams :)

  467. cleo says:

    TexaSD: the wife of the maybe marine lol

    i didn’t think her pics were that slutty and i liked her profile. i did think all the cautions dee raised were worth keeping in mind but if you can’t get her out of your mind then for all of our sakes SEND THE EMAIL!
    FE: be a bit flattered, TexaSD has pretty hot taste from what i can tell.
    FE: re this thing with your friend.

    i tend to believe your friend because it’s just the kind of thing someone that age might do and then not really know how to get out of it. she’s what a year ahead of you?

    i would contact the site and let them know her email/profile # and i would tape the convo and i would talk to my folks so they know what’s up but i’m not entirely convinced that then going to her parents (who she no longer lives with) is the right next move. that said, you’re there, we’re here, trust your gut.
    TLG: yay i missed your humour *g*
    JustDee: i’m so trusting i’ll mail (paper copy and electronic) anything i write seriously (not blog posts… and not comments here or whatever) to myself before i pass it on … but you know, sometimes i wonder if the hrm… suspicion makes us less likely to grasp opportunities.
    how did you all see FE’s profile, i never saw the # of it

  468. lara says:

    FE good luck in sorting this out and definitely talk to your parents. Change all your passwords and hide your profile ar take your pictures off for a while.

    Good night everybody, have a great Monday, hope to see you all soon.

  469. always2sweet says:

    tsk tsk have you no shame TexaSD?!?!?!

    HAHAHA J/K its all in good fun

  470. TexaSD says:

    A2S- Well the friend is 18 lol…

    TLG- Dude you miss a lot, wb from Mexico

  471. Anna Molly says:

    Lots of new developments while I was away.

  472. The Lone Gunman says:

    Back from Mexico.

    Wow–is it THAT late?

    G’nite all………


  473. The Lone Gunman says:

    Back from Mexico.

    Wow–is it THAT late?

    G’nite all…..


  474. always2sweet says:

    hahaha TexaSD you are terrible

  475. TexaSD says:

    F E, Tell crazy she owes me a real pic of her lol

  476. F.E. says:

    You guys are right. As much as I don’t want to believe that she would do this again, there is no way to guarantee she won’t. I’ve always been watchful of who I tell secrets to, but I never thought I’d have to guard my pictures and random personal information, like what my favorite movie is.

    I’m going to call my parents now and have them contact her parents tomorrow and talk to them about the situation. I’m still going to stay the night here though because it’s late and I don’t think I’m in any physical danger.

    This is just a weird situation – one that I never thought would happen to me.

    Thank you, everyone.

  477. TexaSD says:

    Dee- she was the back up for the Marine wifey, but your right, radar is soo off lol, which btw, I still thinking about that wife….

  478. Just Dee in NC says:

    TexaSD, you need to send your hinky meter back for a complete overhaul. You’re way too trusting of strangers.

  479. TexaSD says:

    A2S- ya that would have sucked…

  480. always2sweet says:

    ouch! that sucks TexaSD, but atleast you found this out before you contacted her.

  481. TexaSD says:

    I feel so used… I was about to contact her friend lol

  482. TexaSD says:

    Ok that was interesting….

  483. TXSB says:

    Like I said already….even IF she deleted this profile, apologized etc…..you have no way of preventing her from doing this in the future on this site and on other sites.

    If she’s being this cooperative….then go ahead and delete ALL of your pictures that’s on her computer.

    This person is not your friend and if I were you, I would stop being friends with her….delete her off her Facebook/Myspace so she can’t get a hold of your pictures or other details.

    Talk to your parents for sure.

    BTW, if she’s 18 and you’re under 18…..I’m pretty sure it’s illegal for her to post pics of a minor (especially on a adult dating site!). Whether or not her parents can “do” anything to her is not the issue here…..the issue is that they need to be aware of what their daughter this. So IF this happens in the future again…..they won’t be surprised.

  484. always2sweet says:

    I think that its wonderful that she apologized etcetera, but seriously honey, it takes to friggin seconds to create a new email address, and just a couple minutes to create an SA profile. And do you know that this is the only website dating or otherwise that she has used your information on? The mature and responsible thing to do is to tell your parents and hers. I understand that she is your “friend” or whatever, but this is a serious thing that she did. And there is nothing to say that she wont do it again. You need to let her know that you take her using your identity seriously, and the way to do that is by getting serious and getting your and her parents involved. It may not be the cool thing to do, and I understand not wanting to narc on your friend, but it needs to be done.

  485. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    F.E.~ Please… you need to tell someone, she can do it again!!!
    I would be so pissed if someone did that to me. And looking at the profile, it’s still there just no photos…. Girl get the adults involved!!! please , this isn’t fun and games… this is serious! she can make another profile , another email,,, and next time I’m sure she will use passwords!

  486. F.E. says:

    TXSB: Well, I definitely have lost all trust in her.

    I’ll talk to my parents about it tomorrow when I get back home. She’s 18 and is actually away at college, but she came to visit her parents for this past week for Thanksgiving. Could her parents do anything since she’s technically out of the house?

  487. lara says:

    I can not believe such a thing! Kids think this is funny and they don’t think about the consequences. FE it’s a good thing you spoke up!It’s not fair.

  488. F.E. says:

    Wow, that was one of the shortest confrontations I’ve ever had. And now my friend is in the bathroom and taking a shower, ironically enough.

    Well, she deleted her profile in front of me. She told me that I could email the guy she’s been emailing and tell him that she had lied about who she was, but she wasn’t going to email him again or tell him herself.

    It was weird because she didn’t respond how I thought she would. I thought she would deny it or get mad, but instead she became really awkward. She said she had just created a profile for fun, but used my pictures because she thought I was prettier than her. She said she was talking to that one guy because she liked the attention. She kept apologizing too… saying that she was just a little jealous and she never meant to meet any guys from the site or anything.

    I’ve read the emails between her and the guy and there’s no serious information (address, phone #, full name, etc.) about me in them.

    I know everyone here is saying I should get adults and etc. involved, but I don’t know now. She apologized and deleted the profile and I’m about to delete the email address she created.

  489. TXSB says:

    If you go on the SA site, you’ll see a button for “contact us”. Write to them and let them know that that particular profile is using YOUR pictures and let them know that you are under 18.

    Second, this person is not your friend. She’s not a psycho…but if she’s spending all this time making up fake profiles using your picture and your “life stories”, then there’s something mentally wrong with her and she needs help.

    No matter what you friend tells you…….you have no way of preventing her from doing this again. Please let your parents know this happened and have your parents talk to her parents.

  490. always2sweet says:

    I like a couple of her songs, I am actually a little obsessed with the song Paparazzi…but something about her just freaks me out a little bit lol

  491. Margo says:

    Yesterday I was at the concert of Lady Gaga in Toronto. She and her dancers were amazing.

  492. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    a2s~ I totally agree

    F.E. ~ you should tell your parents or hers!! This is NOT ok, It can be dangerous for you, you have no idea what she is telling them… please contact the site and tell the parents or any adults that you know, this is very serious!

  493. always2sweet says:

    *sigh* JD we are stuck in the same boat, what to do?

  494. TexaSD says:

    FE ahh, I seen your profile before

  495. always2sweet says:

    I also agree with everyone who said you need to get some adults involved as well. This is not ok, and it could potentially be VERY dangerous!

  496. Margo says:

    Yes, Cleo, we should.

  497. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    F.E.~ You need to contact the site girl…. Stephan at seeking arrangements dot com
    She should not have done that at all. It is wrong. If I were you I would reconsider her as a friend , especially if she is putting your life on a site that you do not want to be on!!!

  498. F.E. says:

    Just Dee in NC: I have a voice recorder in my purse since I’m learning a foreign language and I can set that up and hide it to record our conversation. Honestly, I don’t think she has an ulterior motive or anything. She’s not exactly the psycho type. However, you never know…

    And she’s here so… here goes my confrontation. Hopefully if I remain calm, so will she.

  499. Just Dee in NC says:

    Get the adults to witness this, F.E. You aren’t an adult, and therefore you have no authority over her. Just because you say “stop” doesn’t mean she will.

  500. Taz says:

    Good luck F.E. – everyone here is accurate in what they told you…she really isn’t your friend.

  501. F.E. says:


    Sigh, I do need to confront her. Ahh. I’m actually at her house right now, but I’m on my laptop, not hers. I’ll talk to her when she gets back from picking up food for us. This is going to be awkward.

  502. Just Dee in NC says:

    Don’t feel bad, A2S, neither do I.

  503. always2sweet says:

    guess I dont have any SD takers from the blog. :( boo! lol

  504. Just Dee in NC says:

    F.E., is this friend of yours also under 18? In order to keep her from doing this again on other sites, you will probably have to get your parents involved and quite likely an attorney. This girl obviously can’t meet these men in person, or they would find out real quick that she isn’t the person they’ve been emailing/chatting with. HOWEVER, that wouldn’t stop her from setting up a meeting and giving one (or more) of these men your REAL name, REAL address, and REAL phone number.

    You need to get the adults in your life in on this now.

    And A2S is right – this girl isn’t a friend. You need to cut ALL ties with her before she does something that really screws up your life.

  505. cleo says:

    a2s be careful with IP address advice, i have a static IP but most folks share a block of them with every single client of their ISP

    okay off for a while :)

  506. F.E. says:

    TXSB: I have the profile number, but you are right. She could create another profile…

    What bothers me even more so than the fake profile, is that she’s been talking to this guy from here through email for a few months now and is using a bunch of my information and stories. So basically some guy thinks he’s talking to me… it’s weird how accurate she is when describing me.

    Oh god, I’m going to have to confront her. Ahhh. I hate confrontations and the fact that I’ve seen her blow up drama before makes me even more anxious.

  507. always2sweet says:

    FE honey even if you are not “the confrontational type” you NEED to confront her. This is a seriously grievous offence. Not only is this a breach of trust as friends, but I am sure that post pictures of a minor online, especially on a dating website has to have some serious consequences! Your “friend” – and I use that word loosely as she is clearly not a friend(no friend does that to another) – sounds like she might even need some help. What she did is not cool by any stretch of the imagination. Your first step needs to be to get in touch with the admins her and not just have her email blocked, but her entire IP address. After having done that you really need to say something to her. This should not be something that you just let slide. Its really a form of identity theft if you think about it.

  508. TexaSD says:

    Whats the profile number F E?

  509. F.E. says:

    Hi Cleo! Lol I feel a little weird constantly refreshing the page for answers.

    That sounds like a great idea, but she knows that doing something like this is completely out of character for me. I don’t even like talking to people I don’t know on myspace or facebook lol. Plus, ironically enough, a website like this isn’t something that I would ever tell her about. She would find it weird, especially since I’m still in high school (a senior, but still).

    Ahhh this is such an awkward situation. I just want to get rid of the profile without her knowing that I knew.

  510. TXSB says:

    You would have to contact SA in order to have the profile taken down. I would imagine you would either have to give them the profile #…OR give them the e-mail address associated with the profile.

    Please keep this in mind: Even if SA deletes this one profile….you friend can easily make another profile on this site….or even on other sites using your pictures and information.

    So at the end of the day….one way or another….there really is no way to stop this in the long run without confronting her.

  511. cleo says:

    FE: don’t apologize, this blog is for the unhappy tales too…
    TexaSD: uh huh… suuuuure you are ;>
    JustDee: thanks, i’ll take you up on that (and take us off blog too :)

    no one in my circle likes that kind of book so they can’t judge it with the right criteria

  512. cleo says:

    lara: i was a touch drunk and er in the mood at the time, the crassness of it hit me later when i was realizing what a putz he was. still don’t really get why it didn’t get my back up at the time. i think because he was using my age strictly to refer to fertility and so i didn’t really *hear* it…
    TexaSD: no, i don’t have the financial and personal resources to be a single mother and no family in my town.

    too bad, i’ve been told for the last ten years that i’ll be a great mom. my guess is my kid will find me and it will be a lost six year old with a druggie mother or something. am sad i don’t get to do it but stopped thinking it will happen.
    FE: wow.

    um wow.

    have you considered something like this:

    you: omg omg i found the coolest website!!! it’s called SA and it’s… blah blah blah want to help me make a profile?

    and then, you make one and you “look at similar SB’s” and when her back is turned plug in the one she made of you…

    “omg those are MY PICS!!!” and see what she does *g*

    and then get the admins to ban the email address and delete the profile.

  513. Just Dee in NC says:

    Cleo, I was a member of Romance Writers of America for several years, and regularly judged manuscripts in both local chapter contests and in the Golden Heart contest, which was the RWA annual contest for the best manuscript by an unpublished writer. Writing is hard, but evaluating and critiquing a manuscript is easier. And yes, I have several friends who I’ve stayed in touch with who write for Harlequin, Silhouette, Mira, and they’re usually really good about reading manuscripts for unpublished writers. So you start writing, send me your first 3 chapters when you get them down (no matter how rough or how short they are), and we’ll go from there.

    And Cleo, if your trip next year gets you to Raleigh on a weekend, and it’s the RIGHT weekend, you and I will run up to Richmond, VA for a monthly meeting of the Virginia Romance Writers. Awesome women, and you’ll fit right in. I’ll find out which weekend their meetings are on.

  514. TexaSD says:

    Cleo- I like the lacy white stuff lol.. you know i just kidding righ

  515. F.E. says:


    This is probably a rather odd post and I hope it’s okay that I post it here. I didn’t really know where else to put it.

    In short, unbeknownst to me, a friend of mine created a profile on this website using my pictures from facebook and some of my information and has also been emailing men from this site pretending to be me as well.

    She doesn’t know that I know, and I found out rather accidentally. I went to her house last night and she was in the shower. We’ve been friends long enough for us to give each other free roam in each other’s houses so I went to her laptop to get on facebook. However, she had a few screens up. One was of this website and she was logged in. The other was an unfamiliar email account. I know I shouldn’t have snooped, but my curiosity got the better of me. I found her profile on this site and the ensuing pictures of me. Then I looked at the emails, which were from a male stranger and dated back quite a few months, and saw that she had been communicating with a, I guess you guys would say, Sugar Daddy, but using my name and some of my details. For example, she talked to him about a vacation that I had taken this past summer.

    I put everything back the way it was and pretended that I hadn’t even gone on her laptop when she got out of the shower. I haven’t talked to her about it because she’s the drama type… big scenes and all. I don’t know what to do. This just really freaks me out. It’s a little too Single White Female for me… straight from a Lifetime movie. I’m fairly sure the fact that I’m 17 is also an issue.

    I searched around on the website when I got home to see if there was anyway I could notify someone about this and I found the blog. From reading the other posts, my situation isn’t your usual fodder lol.

    Is there anyway her profile with my pictures can get deleted? That’s the question the past few paragraphs have been leading up to. I really don’t want my pictures on here, but I’d feel uncomfortable talking to her about it. I’m not the confrontational type.

    I hope I haven’t put a damper on the mood here. :)

  516. cleo says:

    Texa: rofl, you wear panties?

    *wow, girls please join me in the image of a cute texan in a proper hat and some sexy lace knickers*
    lara: oh milady thank you for the kind words! i won’t actually lie about my age, i’m too stinking proud of every line and every gray hair to do it… i can’t be that hrm… unfair to myself. (it’s tempting though, someone like NYGent is definitely older than i am but won’t ever see my profile in his searches… )

    i actually think that i know the romance genre extremely well and to write something (the first time) that is fairly formulaic seems the way to go. i just need a couple of unbiased critical readers rather than friends… and i prefer said readers to be hrm… deeply into or writing romance. i’ve been blogging for hmm… five years now? so i know i can write regularly anyway.

  517. TexaSD says:

    Cleo- Maybe he saw you in the suit lol. You getting ready for kids? ohh

    TXSB- you too? looking for some pitter patter?

  518. lara says:

    Oh Cleo and by the way old it’s not appropriate, it’s experienced, baby, that makes a biiiig difference in any situation let me tell you.

  519. cleo says:

    TXSB: well i kept thinking i’d decide later … and now it’s later and it seems… unlikely at best. i mean i guess i might meet, fall for, and decide to have kids with someone in the next year but well… i’m not holding my breath *g*

    as for the STD’s i get tested three months after i split with any partner EVERY TIME. anything less isn’t responsible (least here where the tests are free)
    TexaSD: oh you have no idea, that was the second last time i saw him. it should have been the last… but he was cute and i hadn’t realized just how damaged he was :)

  520. lara says:

    Hi Cleo,

    You look good by any standards. There are some things we can not force like for example how others think. Ok, ok, I understand why marketing became such a science but eventualy I am a firm believer that if it’s ment to be it simply happens.

    There are ppl your age here (not that I am far of it) and they found what they wanted. Just be positive, it will come…

    You should write something, not ncessary harlequin….You are very smart and I bet creative in this field.Don’t know anybody to help you with the pot. manuscript reading though… maybe some ppl working in the firld here?!

  521. TexaSD says:

    Did the you’re so old comment turn you on? Because that would have had my panties down pretty quick lol

  522. TexaSD says:

    Cleo- I love it when you chime in, I always get a cool story to read lol

  523. TexaSD says:

    TXSB- Ok you will have email shortly,

    Lara- I am in the process lol

  524. cleo says:

    Rudy: heh, i’m visiting people with dialup, i do drive bys…
    hey SDN!
    TexaSD: if you give me an email address i’ll send you a pic of said trinity costume *g* and you can determine if anyone not hitting on me in it is gay or not …

    as for Sincere? i actually wouldn’t mind at all if he took me up on it…

    (oh man, can’t breathe AND can’t walk? so awesome being left that way…)
    JustDee? You know harlequin writers? i am planning to try my hand at writing one, do you know one who might be willing to read it when i’m done? friends HAVE to be nice to you and i need honest…

    re SD4me – okay i’ll fix up my profile over there or something, but man, i’ve gotten fifty emails NONE of which i can READ!

    re your question? i know a man with a brand (originally typed bran lol) new daughter because of that very thing… he’s so silly now “she takes folic acid, i should have known” um dude? *I* take folic acid, it has really positive health indications for ALL women…

    that said? i had a man who KNEW it was my fertile time trying to insist on no condoms (on the THIRD DATE when i wasn’t even really ready for sex let alone barrier free intimacy) because “you’re so old, you can’t honestly expect to catch the first time and i KNOW i’m safe and all my lovers since my last test were safe and…”

    Margo: i’m in toronto, there’s a few of us, we should grab a coffee sometimes… (unconnected to the middle meet that SDN is organizing)
    man, this conversation is making me tempted to lie about my age to 35 or 34… since i look that age anyway. i’m pretty sure i’m getting cut out based solely on my being nearer to forty than thirty…

    ahh whatever.

    on a totally unrelated note? did any other canadians catch the end of the gray cup? that was amazing! (canadian football superbowl thingy)

  525. lara says:

    a2s: yes

  526. TXSB says:

    Good Night!

  527. always2sweet says:

    yeah, I think I got your email when the blog went down, right?

  528. TexaSD says:

    Ok gimmie a sec lol

  529. lara says:

    a2s: I am kind of a private person to say so…

    TexasSD: TXSB and if I am not mistaken a2s too.

  530. TexaSD says:

    TXSB- lol I hope so, we are giving out gold here lol

    Rudy- goodnight, have fun at work lol

    Yaz- Hi, and goodnight too lol

  531. TexaSD says:

    Lara- ok that was just hot… ok, umm who has your email or if you have ym?

  532. always2sweet says:

    seriously, why not?! Its happened before, and the SDs on the blog seem great!

  533. lara says:

    Good Night Rudy and have a nice week.

  534. Rudy says:

    Lara: Thank you :)

    Well, Monday is quickly approaching for me, I must go to bed; it’s going to be a busy week for me at work.

    I hope everyone has a great night!

  535. TXSB says:

    Hi Yaz!

    Yep…believe me…among all the naughtiness that’s been going on lately….I’ve been sitting in the corner like a good girl and taking notes for SD. :)


    Happy to hear about the 2 pots! :)

  536. lara says:

    Texas SD here in public it’s a little bit too explicit…. LOL.

    a2s I guess from the blog some could sense one’s personality. So why not?!You never know who will say yes.

    TXSB very interesting subject….

  537. Yaz10 says:

    Evening everybody! Just passing through to say hi to you all…

  538. TXSB says:

    Wow…..I was blushing while eating and reading! All of you need to be banished into VillaC’s dungeon for not behaving! 😉

    I’m over 25 already… :( BUT under 30. :) So yea….been giving lots of thought lately to kids and stuff.


    Funny you brought up pregnancy issues….I’ve been wondering about that too lately.

    Perhaps Stephan will consider this as a blog topic for SDs and SBs. How often do you all practice safe sex? Even if the SB is on BCP, what about STD/HIV concerns. How many SDs/SBs actually “talk” about this before getting intimate? Has anyone here ever actually gotten tested or requested that a SB/SD get tested before taking things to the “next step”?

  539. TexaSD says:

    Lara- Ohh, how so? Ask away lol

  540. always2sweet says:

    well since it looks like we are blatantly asking…any SDs on the blog want to consider me as a pot? I would be a wonderful SB! :)

  541. lara says:

    Good luck Rudy, I hope you will find a nice SD sooner than new year.

  542. lara says:

    Welcome TXSB, enjoy your dinner.

    Texas SD I might ask for some advice…. one of those days.

  543. Rudy says:

    Midwest: No worries! I am still trying to catch up :)

    Just Dee: Doing well and taking a break from the SD search. I am going to revamp the profile; maybe I will have a fabulous SD for the new year.

    TXSB: Hi ! Traffic is not so fun, I have to fight it ever morning. Glad you made it home safely.

  544. TexaSD says:

    Hi TXSB- sounds like your drive sucked, well good to be back huh?

  545. TexaSD says:

    NYgent- Interesting, maybe a 2-5 year increase on the lower end, and the Upper end, not clearly defined? What about other attributes? like personality size, height, schooling, interests?

  546. TexaSD says:

    Midwest- Well then Goodnight, good Luck with work

    SDN- Well what can I say, If you need tips, let me know. I am a rich with techniques lol. Ohh the mistress isn’t letting you back in. But in all honestly, you know you like it when they play hard to get lol

  547. NYGent says:

    texasd: my profile lists 22-34 with more flexibility at the back end, though I’m considering an upward adjustment at both ends.

  548. TXSB says:

    Hi NYGent, TexaSD, Lara, Rudy, Anna, Dee and anyone else who’s on! :)

    So my 4 hour drive turned into 5 hour drive thanks to holiday traffic and horrible rain. Just got home….eating Subway and catching up. :)

  549. Midwest SB says:

    I bid y’all goodnight…Emprire Strikes Back is over…good guys won..and a reality check that I have to get back to a regular work week tomorrow is staring me in the face.

    Hey Rudy! Sorry I missed you earlier.

  550. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    TexaSD: You are my hero…getting an allowance! I bow before the master.

    I am begging to be let back in the basement but Irish is playing hard to get :)

    Hey All: Rudy, Anna, NC Gent, Mango, Taz, lara, a2s, lurkers and any I forgot.

    Headed to bed but will be back!

  551. Just Dee in NC says:

    Good, Rudy, and you?

  552. TexaSD says:

    NYgent-Oh I see, Hmm, ok what about your “type”

  553. NYGent says:

    texasd: if an sb who could be my daughter is ok with it so am I. Grand-daughter, not so much (I exaggerate slightly but you get the point)

  554. TexaSD says:

    Midwest- Cool, I was about to ask someone to look at it lol…

    NYGent- what is your age range?

  555. Midwest SB says:

    TexasSD – sorry…I wasn’t even thinking about your desire to be discreet. I’m in NW Indiana, near Chicago.

  556. lara says:

    I am excited 4 u Anna Molly. Hope it will go well.

  557. Anna Molly says:

    Yep, I’m going to the meeting :)
    I’m so excited :)

  558. Rudy says:

    Just Dee: How are you?

  559. Anna Molly says:

    Dee, that sound goood :)

  560. TexaSD says:

    ohh champagne and strawberries, with chocolate sauce? you girls are bringing it all out tonight lol, I hope TXSB is taking some notes on Xmas gifts lol

  561. Anna Molly says:

    Thanks NYGent :)
    That would be lovely!

  562. lara says:

    Hi Rudy….

  563. TexaSD says:

    Anna- lol, are you going to the NY meeting?

    Margo- So shall we talk about an allowance?

  564. Just Dee in NC says:

    Ready Whip? Anna, you need some strawberries and champagne with that.

  565. NYGent says:

    AM i fly back on redeye tmw nite. will send you a pic from here.

  566. lara says:

    Hi NY Gent, if in Cali hope you enjoy the nice sunny weather.

    I vote for chocolate also, can I add strawberries?

  567. Rudy says:

    TexaSD: LOL you are too funny

    Hi Anna, Margo, Midwest, Lara, Taz & NYGent :) I think I covered everyone :)

  568. Anna Molly says:

    What if I throw in some chocolate sauce?

  569. Midwest SB says:

    Hi Taz and NYGent!

  570. Anna Molly says:

    Hey NYGent :) Are you still in Cali?

    TexaSD ~ I wasn’t trying to be funny, I’m serious. I have the ready whip and the cherries right here!

  571. TexaSD says:

    NYGent- really, did you see how pretty she was?

  572. Midwest SB says:

    Click my name and you’ll see my locale (not in TX, was browsing new members).

  573. TexaSD says:

    Anna- Lol I actually laugh and snorted… that was funny,

    Rudy- Well I am trying to become Margo’s SB

  574. NYGent says:

    TexaSD: she is below my minimum age range otherwise I can’t really comment.

  575. Rudy says:

    Good Evening Sweet Sugar Fam!

    The blog has become quite steamy :) I am blushing!!

  576. TexaSD says:

    Lara- lol

    Taz- hi how are you?

    Midwest- where are you?

  577. Anna Molly says:

    I will never get to see TexaSD’s profile. What do I have to do TexaSD, get on my knees and beg? Say pretty please with whip cream and a cherry on top? Come on…you’re killing me :)

  578. lara says:

    Hi Taz.

    Midwest good luck.

    I am waiting for the next episode…. Texas SD, meantime i turned on the heater just to get in the mood….

  579. TexaSD says:

    Margo- Not Married, 26, no kids lol

  580. Taz says:

    Good evening everyone :)

  581. Midwest SB says:

    Texas ladies, I just stumbled over a nice profile in DFW.

  582. Margo says:

    TexasSD – that’s life! SM has quite a choice on this website :)
    And the age of SB is important. How old are you?
    Are you married, by the way? I don’t want a married SB.

  583. always2sweet says:

    no kidding, things are getting a little hot and heavy on the blog tonight.

  584. TexaSD says:

    Midwest- ya, it is pretty nice….
    Anna- lol that would be funny
    Lara- well its cold, we need some heat lol

  585. always2sweet says:

    hey midwest!

  586. lara says:

    a2s: good thanks.

    OMG things get steamy around here….Like it even more.

  587. Anna Molly says:

    TexaSD ~ I could say something really naughty, but I’ll get kicked off the blog 😉

  588. Margo says:

    Midwest SB – I met several guys online suggesting buying me shoes and worshiping my feet, but never wanted to have a real meeting with them. Maybe that is not my thing.

  589. TexaSD says:

    Midwest- I am more of a leave you huffing and puffing, can’t walk or your legs will give out on you, kind of guy lol

    Anna- lol

    Margo- Tantric sex… whoa, your hardcore lol

  590. Midwest SB says:

    Hi Lara and a2s!

    Margo – suggest he lick your boots…oh wait, that was SDN. Try it anyway!

  591. Anna Molly says:

    TexaSD ~ You’re mean…lol :)

  592. Margo says:

    But chemistry is always physical. I want a guy who knows how to please a woman and prefer someone who is good in tantric sex.

  593. always2sweet says:

    hey lara, how have you been?

  594. Anna Molly says:

    Hi Midwest :)
    I won’t know until 5 minutes before I have to leave for the train station..lol

  595. TexaSD says:

    Anna- Lol haha… I was thinking you would try to check it out

  596. Anna Molly says:

    Did you check me out or pass me by TexaSD?
    Dang, you must have skipped over me. I was sooo hoping to catch a peek at your profile :)

  597. lara says:

    Hi always2sweet, Midwest, Margo and Anna Molly and of course everybody else.

  598. Midwest SB says:

    I haven’t seen NYGent’s type. I would thing she appeals to many SDs.

  599. TexaSD says:

    Lara- I already got Hungry the minute i saw you in here lol

  600. Midwest SB says:

    Hi AM. Hows the wardrobe decision coming along?

  601. TexaSD says:

    Margo- I have girls throw me freebies lol… Well so when do you want to have our first meeting? We can see if their is non physical chemistry, lol

    Anna- :I saw your profile when I was browsing lol

    Midwest, you liked her huh? Me too, I thought NYgent would like her too…

  602. lara says:

    Well I had an amazing Thanksgiving. I will not mention the food part in detail but it was awesome(it’s dinner time and I don’t want to tease you too much). International flavour and good laughs.

  603. Margo says:

    TexasSD – look, you are starting with an allowance :) Are you really that good in bed?
    But I am not looking for an escort type or pay-per-play, relationship is important. Chemistry comes first!

    Just kidding. I know that guy from a real life.

  604. Anna Molly says:

    Are you calling my name TexaSD 😉

    Hello everyone :)

  605. Midwest SB says:

    Thank you, TexasSD, but i will pass. I did peek at your college student in NY…you like the exotic ladies! It’s funny because I like her profile, just found her look to be so erotic and her written profile to be girlie sweet. A bit of playing both sides. No matter what, it’s tough to really form an opinion without meeting.

  606. TexaSD says:

    Nope, All I had was IHOP KFC and Papa Johns, it was good though lol. How about you?

  607. lara says:

    I am good thank you, Texas SD, anything special about Thanksgiving?

  608. TexaSD says:

    Midwest- Lol I don’t know, I never emailed her, but I have the profile if you are curious…

  609. TexaSD says:

    Margo- So you wanna be my sugar momma? Well then lets talk about allowance, I am accustomed to a certain level of life… lol

  610. Margo says:

    Hello Sugar world,
    I’ve been out of the blog for a week too busy working on my new business, and don’t know what happened here. Almost 1500 messages are in the new blog. When can I read all that? Is anyone planning a meeting event in Toronto area?
    And there is something I want to share. Some guys are so good that it makes sense to become a Sugar Mama… They look really well, take good care of themselves, and the most important is the way they make you feel in bed.

  611. Midwest SB says:

    Evening sugars! Hope everyone is well.

    Good question Dee. There is more than one reason to wear a condom. I’d be curious to see how they approach safe sex in general.

    18 y.o. virgin? Did she try to e-bay her virginity and fail? Sorry, but I’d take an experienced lover any day of the week.

  612. TexaSD says:

    Lara, hi how are you?

    Anna- you in here lol?

  613. lara says:

    Hi everyone,

    Wow, long blog! I hope you had a great weekend and a nice Thanksgiving. Not too much sugar for me….Just the one on the cookies (arghhhhh).

  614. TexaSD says:

    Dee- LOL….. I saved her profile, just for you…

    On the Pregnancy issue, 100% of the time, ehhh the last SB was probably like 70% ish. She did use the pill. Did I trust her, ya I did. Also though I think it should be noted, She had a baby when I met her, and she was only 8 months. I do remember her saying she didn’t want another baby for a while.

  615. always2sweet says:

    is anyone still here?

  616. Rudy says:

    TexaSD: I am doing well about to watch The Amazing Race. I love Chinese food. I grew up on meet & 3s as they call them in TN..lol. I don’t know if anyone else says that. For this reason, I like ethnic food when I go out. I have been on a sushi kick lately. Enjoy your meal, I will be back :)

  617. Just Dee in NC says:

    TXSB and TexaSD, an 18-year-old virgin who wants to remain a virgin, but wants thousands of dollars every month? Would someone please remind this child that Harlequin Romances are FICTION, not dating manuals or biographies? And if she doesn’t believe that, send her to me and I’ll introduce her, face-to-face in real life, to a whole bunch of women who write them.

    Cleo, you mentioned SD for me. I’ve gotten a LOT more responses there. Some of them men are clueless, that’s very true. And I’ve emailed a couple who are complete narcissistic *sses. HOWEVER, I also discovered a couple of men there who are intelligent, articulate, experienced SDs who know what they want, and I’ve invited them to join over here and come to the blog.

    I also discovered that the only pot SD from here who has contacted me is also a member there, and has a MINIMUM of four separate IDs there … and all of those IDs active and in use daily. He isn’t looking for a sugar baby – he’s looking for a harem.

    All SDs, I have a question for you. Sincere, I will admit that this question was prompted when you said you tried to break up with this SB and got intimate with her instead, but please don’t think I’m criticizing. Here’s the question, and maybe this should be a whole blog on its own:

    Sugar Daddies, how do you handle birth control with these young women who are in their prime baby-making years? Do you use condoms 100% of the time? Or do you believe a woman who tells you she’s on the pill? And if she says that, how do you know she’s actually taking the pill exactly as required for it to be maximally effective?

    In other words, Sugar Daddies: How are you protecting yourself against a surprise announcement? We all know, in our real lives, plenty of men who tried to break up with a girlfriend, had sex with her instead, broke up a couple of weeks later, and then found out she intentionally got pregnant. You’re desirable men and you have money – you’re good targets for unscrupulous women.

    Comments, gentlemen?

  618. TexaSD says:

    Eastern- I think it was Beach girl and SincereSD who gave that advice not so long ago, Hopefully They will read it, and feel good

  619. TexaSD says:

    Rudy- I m doing pretty good, debating on what to do for dinner, I am thinking chinese, and as I don’t like to eat alone, I am waiting on a friend, other than that, all is quiet on the western front… What are you doing this evening?

  620. Rudy says:

    Hi TexaSD: I am doing well :) How are you?

    EasternSureBaby: WONDERFUL news regarding your emails!!

  621. TexaSD says:

    Eastern- Awesome, glad the advice worked out for you… Ya keep sending them out, try to pick people within a few states of you, that could help out some.

  622. EasternSureBaby says:

    Well, the tip worked, I sent out 7 emails, and got 3 replys. 2 were promising, one said I lived to far away. At least I’m back in the running. Im feeling much better now, at least not so rejected 😉 hopefully there will be more to come…

  623. Rudy says:

    SDN: I am doing well, gearing up to watch The Amazing Race. I had my football fix earlier this evening; the TN Titans are improving. How are you?

  624. TexaSD says:

    SDN- How are you? Tell me in all honesty, Do you miss the basement? lol

  625. TexaSD says:

    NYgent- oh you will probably like her lol

  626. TexaSD says:

    Cleo- Lol, ya, he would probably be gay, then I wouldn’t be worried doing anything with his wife lol. Well i hope SincereSD takes up that Idea, I have a feeling he might actually consider it, although, I don’t know. How are you?

    Rudy, How are you?

  627. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Rudy: How are you doing tonight?

    I am headed to watch American football in a few.

  628. NYGent says:

    texasd: sure, though i don’t want to criticize anybody publicly

  629. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Hey cleo!!

  630. Rudy says:

    Hi Cleo :) I thought I had scared everyone away :(

  631. cleo says:

    TexaSD: dude, if a 6’4 woman in pvc doesn’t distract the husband? he’s gay. *g*
    TXSB: trust me honey, your dating pool is so much bigger than mine it’s not worth wishing for inches. heck i’m too tall for TexaSD at least and probably several other bloggers here…

    don’t make my mistake with the kids thing, here i am 38, no man in sight and no money… if you want em have em. (well i’d wait to be over 25 but that’s about it)
    Rudy: see above *g*

    my height came with great gifts of athleticism etc. but has intimidated more men than you can believe…
    wow, reading a random POF profile and it says
    “if you are over 35 and looking for a sugar daddy you are looking for a sugar granddaddy”

    OCSUgarbaby: i see your point i really do, personally i like the chatter and would rather they did a new blog more often instead. when it gets over 800 comments it takes FOREVER to load but i don’t want these fine folks to have to be quiet as i enjoy the silliness.

    sorry, not to be disagreeable, just want the other perspective out there too.
    Sincere/TexaSD: i would actually do that if he asked…

  632. Rudy says:

    Good Evening Sweet Sugar Fam!

    Thanks for the tips and feedback regarding my earlier question :)

    Gemini: Hi ! I have missed you and your Christian Louboutin avatar :)

  633. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Hey a2s

  634. always2sweet says:

    Geez, going to work + not checking the blog in 24 hours = 800+ new comments and dont know what the hell anyone is talking about. lol hello all!

  635. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Hey everyone. How is it going?

  636. TexaSD says:

    TXSB- Take care, have a safe trip, ya I will hear from you tonight,

  637. TXSB says:

    Hi to the people who just joined! :)

    Bye to the ones leaving!

    I need to wrap up packing and start my drive back home….I’ll see you guys later in the evening. :)

  638. TexaSD says:

    Irish- sounds like a plan, you have class tomorrow?

    NYgent- I would like to know your opinion on a SB if you would care to give it.

  639. EasternSureBaby says:

    I need to run. Nice chating with everyone! Have a great night, catch ya all next time the computer is free!! Thanks for all the tips and advice!

  640. Irish SB says:

    TexaSD – Im just getting ready for a TV night, reclining chair, loads of tea, snacks and company from the blog! It really doesnt get better than that after the crazy wk end!

  641. TexaSD says:

    NYgent- Well NYGent, maybe you should be browsing like me, I bet that could help you out…

    TXSB- all this talk of Singapore has me wanting to go now… I think I miss it too much lol

  642. Anna Molly says:

    Hi BG, have fun at the store :)

  643. Anna Molly says:

    Hi NYGent ~ Don’t worry, I’m sure you’ll have that “problem” soon enough.

    Casablanca was on last night, my fave :)

  644. TexaSD says:

    Beach- I might do that lol

  645. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Sorry had a friend drop by unannounced…

    TexaSD~ I didn’t know about the married SB sorry, you should contact her and found out lol 😉
    You should do what feels right you know!

    Anna Hi girl!

    Hi everyone, talk to you all later gotta run to the store..

  646. TexaSD says:

    Eastern- Oh yea, i forget about Libraries, cool, see, just needed to kick start your mind lol

  647. NYGent says:

    Gemi and OC: welcome back. your contributions always enliven things!

    sincere: wish I had your “problem”!

  648. TexaSD says:

    Irish- yw, what are you planning on doing tonight?

  649. EasternSureBaby says:

    TXSD, that might work… and now that I think about it, I might even be able to do that at the library! I end up there often enough waiting for the kids sports practices to end! I have ton of pix on my cell. I ususlly just send them to whoever wants to see them. Not so easy to post them anymore.

  650. Irish SB says:

    TexaSD – Thanking you! Finally finished it by missing my morning class but it went well.. I wasnt fit to talk by the time i got home. By the time i got up on all my sleep I undid it with a party! Early night for me..

  651. EasternSureBaby says:

    Would love to have that as a benifit with my SD.. have him pay for someone else do the clean up! Spent yesterday doing that! Part of the arrangement of me living here.

    Hi Irish!

    OC, sounds like you found a winner. I hope it all works out for you sweety!

  652. TexaSD says:

    Welcome back lucky charms, how did your paper go?

  653. TexaSD says:

    Eastern- Is there a Fedex Kinko’s near you? I think you can rent a pc for like 1 dollar an hour or something

    Gemini- Hi how are you?

    TXSB- ya she would probably say something that would make me laugh lol..
    to the virgin’s credit, she did state that she was not opposed to non penetration forms of “fun”

  654. Irish SB says:

    Hey TexaSD, Gemini29, EasternSureBaby, CrèmeBruléeNY, TXSB and anyone else i missed!

    My house warming party finsihed up at 6am and after a day of cleaning i am exhausted!

  655. TXSB says:

    No, with Dee I meant she’d have some hilarious comment to make about it. :) And you’re right, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin. What I found “ridiculous” is that a girl would think that a man would spend thousands of dollars on her (ie. be her SD) and not expect..intimacy. But then again, if this girl is only 18….it doesn’t surprise me that she’s this naive. I would love to see the other profiles though…


    Hi!!! :)


    Ah ok. Sorry to hear about the ex btw… :(

  656. EasternSureBaby says:

    Well, I’m living with a friend, (Seperate bedrooms!! and my daughter shares mine with me!) and have no pictures on this computer. Mine crashed! When it rains it pours…. bad luck in my case! He won’t let me download anything on it either, so I have no way of putting new pix on here. Oh well… Glad you like my profile! That makes me feel better!

  657. TexaSD says:

    Eastern- Ya keep trying, can’t hurt. Also try switching out pics every so often, see if that helps you out. Your profile is actually i think pretty good, I don’t think you need any work on that. just try out some different things see what works

  658. Gemini29 says:

    I’m very very late on this..but Happy Belated Thanksgiving sugar fam! Been working hard these past few weeks, please excuse my absence!

  659. TexaSD says:

    Crem- Turning off the phone, god, I don’t think I can do that lol :(

  660. EasternSureBaby says:

    TXSB: I came to this sight end of Aug. or maybe sometime in Sept.? Not really sure. My sis suggested it. I have not had a real SD relationship before, but was involved with someone for a long time, but he was just using me for all the wrong reasons. Took me to long to figure that out. I would like to have someone in my life, but not so one sided this time. Would like for him to do some of the giving!

    I have tried to approach/email a few SDs but so far, heard nothing back. Guess I just keep trying. Thanks for the advice TXSD.

  661. TexaSD says:

    TXSB- Dee saw that profile too? Well I don’t think its ridiculous to want to be a virgin, she is only 18, however with that being said, I think it is probably unreasonable to expect an out pouring of SD emails. lol but who knows I could be wrong,( there might be a hundred who might try to convince her to lose it lol)
    There are a few who to me are prudish, not as Prudish as the virgin, but probably approaching that lol, again, Its just easier to show you, and get your opinion lol

  662. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    TexaSD – Indeed. Trick is to avoid email, bbry, and turn phone off. Takes practice but works.

  663. TXSB says:

    WOW…..a virgin SB who wants to remain a virgin but be a SB….LOL! Gawd I wish Dee was on right now to read that! :) And yes….ummm…..that’s definately…”prudish” (more like ridiculous actually).

  664. TexaSD says:

    Crem- Isn’t that the best plan? I love doing that, however I find that it doesn’t last long before something comes up, or someone finds out I am not working or busy lol…

  665. TexaSD says:

    Eastern- I think its going to rain today, if its not already lol, Ya some guys are ready willing and able to jump in the sack fairly quick… I don’t think your profile is bad, the other SB’s and even an SD said just go look threw a bunch of SD profiles and maybe try writing some of them, I think that is good advice.

    TXSB- ya i love singapore, I have plenty of Job offers there, although they pay isn’t as nice. But man I could tell you stories of all the good times in Singapore, 1 time I drove all the way to Bangkok, fun, (long like you would not believe)

  666. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    My plan is to have no plan.. Busy few days and time to unwind..

  667. TXSB says:

    I haven’t looked at your profile yet b/c I’m at my parents house visiting (long story)…lol…..but may I ask, how long have you been looking for a SD? Will this be your 1st time or have you had a SD before?

  668. TexaSD says:

    TXSB- Ahh the prudish ones… Well I would have to show you, and let you come to your own conclusions, but I am sure there are some SDs who have seen some.
    Hmm lets see, well off the top of my head, there was a self admitted virgin, who also wants to stay that way for a while… (to me prudish lol)

  669. TXSB says:

    I forgot to ask….earlier on you made a comment you that found some SB profiles “prudish”…what you please give some example or clarify? I only ask b/c I’ve looked through SB profile before (although not a lot) and never came across anything I could consider prudish. What does an SD consider prudish? :)

    BTW, good to know about Singapore. I will keep you posted.

  670. TexaSD says:

    Crem- Lol ya, who knows… I am pretty good, what are your plans for the day?

  671. EasternSureBaby ID# 382856 says:

    Rudy: Hi EasternSureBaby! Lovely profile. You are beautifu!

    Thank you so much for that. I was wondering if my profile was appropriate. Still think I might want to make some changes, any suggestions? Im just not getting any attention. The ones I do, well, is it possable to get to know me before trying to get me in bed? I’m hardly a prude, but not a slut either! Just makes me wonder about some men!

    Texas SD, MD is great, now that it has stopped RAINING!! I’m so done with it! I’m sure not as nice as TX, but it’s home! I’m planing a trip to San Antonio in Jan. Going to see my Sweet Baby sis. Can’t wait, love it there

  672. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    TexaSD – Have to disagree but then, we weren’t flies on the wall 😉

    I’m well.. yourself?

  673. TexaSD says:

    OC- You too.. Hope you keep us updated on your SD/BF in training lol

  674. TexaSD says:

    Crem- Lol, hey he is a normal guy and depending on what the girl looks like, probably did the normal thing given what she was in the mood for lol

    How are you by the way?

  675. TexaSD says:

    Beach- On what makes me think or wait, I could only show you each profile 1 by one and go threw everything lol… other than that, each person is different, as each profile is…

  676. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    TXSB – Hey girl..
    Sincere – Triumph of hormones over mind (shaking head in dismay).

  677. TexaSD says:

    Beach- Well, back to the NC girl, she is married (well thats what is in her profile, if its not true, well thats some advice to give to all the SB’s lol) She lives in an area with 2 large marine bases, she is young, and oh so lovely… I guess it was Dee who thinks some of her education choices are unusual, giving the area, and perhaps she isn’t telling everything she could be telling, and There might be some potential for Drama involving a potential Marine husband and his friends

  678. TXSB says:

    Hi CremeBrulee and VillaC! :)

  679. TexaSD says:

    Hi VC, how are you doing?

  680. TXSB says:

    LOL @ your breakup attempt. (sorry!!). Yes, please do the breakup at a PUBLIC place. :) And it seems you already have 3 strong pots so congrats on that! Look forward to hearing what happens next….

  681. TexaSD says:

    SincereSD- perhaps you should have Cleo or Taz go to the same Starbuck (just an idea) and have them watch you try to break up with her next time, and maybe they can give you some advice lol

  682. VillaCypris *396153* says:

    happy sunday all!

    OC – how did you know i was here?? 😉

    unf not for long…. have massage/reiki at 1430 and then off to watch the vikings beat up on the bears… 10-1 baby! 😀

  683. TexaSD says:

    Beach- I do tend to analyze things quite a bit. When people write things, they have a specific intention, So what I try to do is figure that out, debating is good, because it allows arguments to be presented which I might not have thought of or considered, I like that… i know I am not the brightest or well informed person, and sometimes I want you guys to see what I am looking at and see what conclusions you can reach from the information provided… hence why I wanted to know about the ideas of our fellow bloggers about the married NC girl, I really am considering her…

  684. TexaSD says:

    Anna- Lol yes, I think we need to seek treatment…

    SincereSD- did i get it wrong, are you the softie or was that really NYGent lol
    ahh being intimate, ya she knows what she is doing lol

  685. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TexaSD~ no I am just saying you don’t know if you will waste their time… In my opinion you should write to them, if it clicks meet them,That is what i would do… but you have your way… nothing wrong with that
    I am just wondering what you are debating ? Is it that maybe you think that things aren’t going to work out?
    just curious, I AM Very Curious!!! just trying to understand why you wait… didn’t mean that you were an elitist

  686. TexaSD says:

    OC- I think everyone is participating and giving “this a chance” I guess I don’t understand what you are trying to say by that… No one here i think ignores a SB request for advice, or would dismiss a SD’s advice or would not want to hear from a SD or SM or a SB… I like to hear from anyone, about anything lol, I am not picky about that lol… I don’t think you are arguing against going off topic

  687. CrèmeBruléeNY says:

    OC – Glad to hear of your news..

  688. Anna Molly says:

    Hi BG :)

    I agree with you. You never know what will happen unless you take the first step and get out there.

    Maybe TexaSD suffers from the same disease as I do…overanalyzationitis :)

    TexaSD ~ You’re a sweetie…I’m not trying to give you a hard time :)

  689. SincereSD says:

    Here’s an update on my SB situation as there were several comments on the last blog:

    My attempt at breakup didn’t go so well. I guess I was too reconciliatory and she promised to change. Unfortunately we ended up being intimate so my next attempt will be at a public location early next week.

    I’ve also been in the process of looking for a new SB. Have gone on numerous dates and now have the dilemma of trying to choose between 3 strong pots.

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Sincere, next time wear TWO pairs of underwear. It will make you think TWICE before you do something you may regret! LOL Sorry, it is a little trick someone told me a very long time ago and always works!

  690. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TexaSD~ I agree that it helps other blogs, just the cooking thing … don’t know …. it’s ok I get off topic plenty! and yes we are here to get to know one another and have fun… Yes I know what is written at the top… 😀
    it’s ok just my opinion, when the cooking was on I left… not my thing… I love to cook but…. ah well

    TXSB~ it is the small things, but for me that was HUGE! I never get that. Only the SBs say i’m cute or hot… it was really nice!

  691. TexaSD says:

    Beach- I am not worried about them wasting my time lol… I just don’t want to waste their time, When I am ready to make an email, I intend to meet them and really see if I can make this work. So if that sounded elitist sorry.

  692. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TexaSD~ you won’t know if they will waste your time or if it will click, you have to do it!!!
    If you like someone why not mail them? why debate it?

  693. TexaSD says:

    Geez i found a fee typos (sorry everyone) I do need to do some more proof reading.. I will try to stick to shorter comments for the time being lol

  694. TexaSD says:

    TXSB- I did some study time in Singapore, (it was the best)

  695. TexaSD says:

    TXSB- Well I am always looking for a reason to go back to Singapore lol

    Just in case you didn’t read the blog lol

  696. TexaSD says:

    OC- True the blog is not exclusive, however non members can only look at a few profiles before the system forces them to obtain a membership, (Thats how I became a member, I was only allowed to see a few profiles prior to signing up)

  697. TexaSD says:

    Beach- Lol I am not accusing anyone of doing anything, I don’t think its bad. I think its good for the site that this blog can go off topic, that is a main reason sometimes for new blogs, it also shows that people on her aren’t all elitists, that we all have normal lives, and that we can all enjoy why were are hear and share and respond to each other as friends/family… And that even by sharing we are making possible SD/SB relationships.

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      AGAIN, nothing wrong with going off topic. Yes, we are all real and love to have a place to come to talk about our sugar ups and downs. It is the bond that joins us. What keeps us posting is the desire to help each other thru this very raw emotional journey. Humor and side convo’s are fun I agree. We each need to determine if it can be taken off line or into IM. Agree or disagree. It is not to be determined or voted on. A family that works together to see something flurish is what matters. More SD’s posting is a top concern for me right now. I want the SB’s to have them to bounce ideas off of and other SD’s can find (as some would call a Bro-mance) friendships as well. Debating is not productive or fun. I just ask that you give this a chance…

  698. TXSB says:

    LOL!!! Thank you! That’s a great line! :) BTW, how’re things with your SB?


    LOL…yes….it’s the “little things” that make a huge difference in our daily lives… :).


    Not revealing the exact main destination on the blog..but it’s in Asia (not Japan or China!). And the 2nd “part” probably somewhere in Europe. But I have a cousin who’s studying in Singapore….if she can’t fly back to my home country to see me, then I will try to drop by there to see her.

  699. TexaSD says:

    Beach- Like the cooking, if you read the top of the blog we are on right now, you will see something lol

    Tho not every sugar’s a cook…

    “cooking? what’s that? Oh I guess it’s that thing that involves pots and pans and ovens and all, lol no cooking for me, working all day turkey day” – Lisa

  700. TexaSD says:

    SincereSD- Ya I actually agree with what you say, I do need to send more emails, I am just going threw things slowly and double checking. Perhaps mainly thats what I do at work, so i approach this with that same tenacity lol… Now If I only proof read my posts, right? I have a few on my favorites list, That I am debating on emailing, i just read a lot of profiles about Time wasters, (which honestly sometimes terms me off to the entirely, but I do understand why they would put that.)

  701. Anna Molly says:

    Hi Sincere :)
    Nice to see you :)

  702. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Sincere~YES I KNOW , I am so excited about the F1 being back!!!
    The reason for sleeping in, is I finally have a day off YAY me.
    How is it going with your SB , or not SB??

    TexaSD~ I agree that some off topic leads to new ones… but sometimes we get way, way, way off… like the cooking…
    Don’t get me wrong I DO IT TOO!!! not accusing anyone!

  703. TexaSD says:

    Correction to what I wrote, “They aren’t To out People”

  704. TexaSD says:

    OC- Well I am never here to attack anyone lol, Poor unsuspecting SA members? I disagree with that, when you post your images to any corporation or company, they can use your pics your information you provide, or really anything without telling you. The profiles I put up are to “out people” I am just sharing my interests with other members, I think its helpful sometimes to see why a SD finds a certain member’s profile compelling. Sometimes it can be helpful, but if people are seeking privacy usually they will state it in their profiles, or not post a picture… I don’t think I have ever put up a profile number if they stated privacy. (which then again, if they want privacy why not blur your pics, or not post any at all, which some do) so I guess it all depends on the person

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Good point on the profiles being “out” there. I agree. However if they wanted non SA members to view their profile they would post it themselves. The blog is not exclusive, it is open for all to see. Plus, I think that sugar dating in general is all about discression. Maybe that is why so many SD’s won’t post their profile numbers here on the blog. My life long mantra…do onto others as you would want done to yourself.

  705. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    OC~ lol, It was nice to hear from a MAN…. I was very happy when I read it!!!

    TXSB~ it is awesome to be told… it is a great sunday 😀

  706. SincereSD says:

    TXSB says: *sigh* My education has been added to the “list” now….The topic during dinner was how I “must” go back for my MBA

    Just tell your parents MBA means “married but available”.

    Beach_Girl*395953 says: Finally slept in, til 9 am!! i am shocked!

    Were you celebrating that F1 is back in montreal for 2010?

    TexaSD says: Beach- I have emailed AsianSB, No SB yet, I have emailed 2 girls, but they haven’t login for a few weeks, so who knows maybe they gave up, or are busy, or don’t like my profile lol.
    Beach_Girl*395953 says: TexaSD~ You need to be mailing more SBs is you want to find one!

    TexaSD, BG give good advise. You need to play the odds and send lots of email. I made a post earlier under “The Sugar Daddy Gentleman” if you want to back and read my comments. Here’s an excerpt:

    To give you an idea of the selection process:
    – sent out 100+ mails, received 24 responses (if true SD’s are so rare, why didn’t the others respond?)
    – reduced candidates to 10 after email and IM communications
    – went on 10 dates with some repeats over the course of 2 weeks
    – narrowed list to 4 serious candidates and spent some time with each before deciding best fit

  707. TexaSD says:

    TXSB- Oh yea, that reminds me of something I wanted to ask you, About your Trip, where you going, I have probably missed that, and what is your ultimate destination?

  708. TexaSD says:

    TXSB- I will find out for sure this week, and I will let you know.

  709. TexaSD says:

    Beach- Well getting off topic I have noticed, has led to many new blogs, so i don’t discourage freedom lol… Besides for the Most part, Stephan will delete comments or edit things if we get way off, or start degrading people…

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Nothing wrong with freedom, but let’s support the Sugar Blog! It means so much to so many. TexaSD, what gets edited are the posting of poor unsuspecting SA members profile numbers. They can’t defend themselves. Don’t you agree? lol You are so funny!

      • OCSugarbaby says:

        On the topic of this sugar blog spawning new blogs.. It happens all the time! Kudos for them all. However they all come back home eventually. It is the draw of the new bloggers and SD’s that are lurking. Sick addiction actually, I know I am one of them!

  710. TXSB says:

    Hi! Sounds like you’re having a GREAT Sunday so far…. :)


    I will not be having McDonald’s for a looooong time. BTW, approx. when will you be in Tokyo? Feb? Now that SD is back….he’s going to help me figure out my trip details.

  711. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    OC~ I agree that we do get way way off topic…. one night it became a cooking blog … lol

    Hi everyone!!!

  712. TexaSD says:

    OC- Yes, more than a pretty face, I would hope 3 pics (no pro looking) I would also advise to have 3 very different pics, in terms of what you are wearing, face shots, body shots, Bathing suits or maybe a little skin, Nice dress, I dunno something interesting. I have found plenty of pretty faces, but sometimes the other pics they have sometimes match their profiles (prudish, pro, things of that nature)

  713. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    OC~ you have to be premium to do that! I wish I was, i would so send a little note too

    I got the best compliment today, I was called Stunning!!! 😀
    And that I had a great smile 😀
    And absolutely gorgeous 😀
    Ahhh now I feel GREAT!!!

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      My advice to get more views is to click and ready thru as many profiles as you can and that you find interesting! It is like bees to honey! They will inturn click on yours and read it. Not all will reply but it gives you a higher percentage of visability! Click! Away!

      Beach you are Stunning. How can you NOT be we are twins!

  714. TexaSD says:

    TXSB- Cool, did you eat any McDonalds yet lol?

  715. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Hi OC~ girl how you been?
    Yes it would be nice to have The Cali SDs back…

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Beach! Yes, it would be great if and when I can get the two Cali SD’s to forge their way back to the blog. But too soon for that. The intervention takes a village!
      I will email you about the rest.
      Villa? I know you are out there!!! Come play!

  716. TXSB says:

    PBI but NYGent wrote his views on “profile pics” last night also. If you scroll up and look at NYGent’s post at 8:49 p.m. last night, you’ll get his views on pics. :)


    ‘Morning! Heading home this afternoon. Also received a text this morning that SD is back in town (FINALLY!) and so I get to see him again after not seeing him forever. :)

  717. TexaSD says:

    Rudy- There is also the accident click, I do that a few times every time I am browsing

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Rudy, my favorite thing to do when I wanted to freshen up my search was to go thru my “who’s viewed” you entries. I would click on each of them and ready their profile. If someone piqued my interest (maybe 1 in 100..lol) I would send them a quick note thanking them for viewing my profile and add a little something about what caught my attention about theirs. That is how I found my current PotSD/BF in training. Also view the new profiles and click thru and read their profile. It is funny how so many of them in turn then read mine! Change it up and keep your profile fresh. Yes, pictures are the arrow to the SD’s reply trigger! But if you are just a pretty face without too much substance, the conversation quickly peeters out.

  718. TexaSD says:

    Rudy- Well Obviously its the photo that gets me in the door, However, I do read the profile’s, to see what kind of person she is, and to decide wether we are on the same page, wether we will get along, or anything like that before I would even email them.

  719. TexaSD says:

    OC- well it sounds like you scored big.. I will keep my fingers crossed for you, Ya, keep us updated, Other than that, how goes it?

    TXSB- goodmorning, when you heading home lol?

  720. Rudy says:

    Good Morning Sweet Sugar Fam :)

    EasternSureBaby: Welcome! I joined earlier this month and I am fairly new to this type of thing as well. I would also suggest if you haven’t already…read some of the previous blogs regarding first dates with SBs and SDs…there is some REALLY great advice and also tips on how to spot certain red flags during email conversations and profiles before you meet a pot SD. I highly recommend the blog discussion about the 20/20 interview. I found some really great advice on there. I wish you the best as you meet pot SDs and don’t hesitate to ask questions; everyone here is really nice and can and will offer you great advice. I have learned so much and wished I had checked the blog out before I set up my profile.

    OCSugarbaby: Nice to virtually see you :) I hope everything is going well with your pot SD. It would be great to meet the new SDs…it’s always nice to get feedback from the perspective of a SD. I have received profile views and emails, but they poof! I know this is common, but I am positive and I am going to start fresh with new photos and profile. It was discussed earlier regarding photos: As a SD do you really care more about appearance than the content of a pot SBs profile, do you prefer there to be a balance…i.e. great photos and profile…just curious. I know from a common sense perspective, there should be a great head shot, a classy full body photo…but some of the SD profiles I have read touch on content too. As a SD, what makes you email a pot SB? I ask this because some SBs receive profile views, but no interest is expressed so there must be an issue with profile content??

    Well, I have dinner to wrap up and a naked Christmas Tree. I hope to chat with everyone later this evening:)

  721. Anna Molly says:

    I’m good TexaSD, thanks for asking. How are you?
    Trying to clean house today, but it’s not working out too well. I keep getting distracted..lol

  722. TXSB says:

    Good Morning Everyone! :)

    Hi! Glad you decided to come back…..I look forward to “seeing” you here and reading your posts. :)

  723. TexaSD says:

    Anna- How are you?

  724. TexaSD says:

    EasternSure- Hi, how is Maryland?

    Oc- How you been?

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Hey TexaSD! I am doing great. Just busy getting to know my PotSD. It has been a whirlwind! He is so very different and kind and just plain AMAZING!
      I thu a brick into the mix just before we were about to meet. I told him that I had to be honest with him and that after a long and hard sugar soul search, I wanted to find someone who I can have a REAL relationship with. The sugar or allowance part just was not sitting well with me. His offering of a huge allowance was not the draw. He and I have so much in common! Well, good news! He wants a real relationship too! He however wanted to be clear that I would still accept gifts etc from him because he loves to pamper. He agreed that that sugar dating is getting to him too. It has been a long struggle trying to find the right person for both of us. We are enjoying the getting to know you aspect and I will post updates as I can. I think and hope this could really work. At the end of the day I need to rest my head on my pillow and feel good about the person I am with. It can not be just because of his extreme wealth but for how he treats me and the chemistry it naturally brings. So we shall see!

  725. EasternSureBaby ID# 382856 says:

    Neiman Marcus! oh, pass that along when you are done! Nice place to drool.

    Thank you everyone for the warm wlecome. I hope to get to know both sides of this blog, SB and SDs. Nice seeing both points of views.

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Hi EasternSureBaby! Lovely profile. You are beautiful! This is a great place to come to post your sugar questions or concerns. Not to worry, you will hear both points of view. Welcome!

  726. Anna Molly says:

    I’m trying to clean my desk, drool over a Neiman Marcus catalog and read the blog at the same time…not going too well..lol.

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Good Morning Sugars!
      I think I might stage a SUGAR intervention. What happened? 1300+ comments on this post and all are just chatter. Now I know you all have each others email addresses! I see them fly around here like little flying saucers.
      Don’t go getting your self in a tizzy. I am not suggesting that you can’t talk about non sugar things! (please re-read that last sentence)
      However, out of respect for other sugar family members who are looking for a place to talk sugar or even being respectful of the person who puts so much effort into keeping this blog up and running! (kisses to Stephan).
      Consider using IM for the side chats about non sugar info or ahem.. TMI Flirting. It is impoossible to scroll thru 1300+ posts on a mobile device!
      Let’s all try to continue to make this the best sugar blog EVER!
      I want to bring my 4 new SD’s BACK to the blog!!! But they take one look at the chatter and have no ideas what is going on.
      Support the Sugar Blog!!!!
      ok, intervention over…

  727. Anna Molly says:

    Hi NC :)

    EasternSureBaby ~ Welcome back :)

    Hi Dee and 2Chic and everyone I missed :)

  728. Flo Rida says:

    CASB – i’m very sorry, hope you are well.

    Sweety – Beach – morning, i’m not staying long as I have to dash. Glad you got some sleep.

    Eastern – welcome, yes we don’t know what we’re doing but we try :-) ciao

  729. NC Gent says:

    Dee and 2Chic — count me in for lunch, coffee, drinks, whatever or all of them when 2Chic is in town. I really enjoy getting to meet the fellow bloggers – both male and female (and for those of you thinking, I am straight lol)

    Welcome to the blog EasternSureBaby!

  730. EasternSureBaby ID# 382856 says:

    I was on mid Oct. had a SD tell me the people on the blogs don’t knw what they are talking about. I think that is why I came back. He wasn’t one to give advice. I only posted once, so, now I’m back! Thanks for the welcome.

  731. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Welcome EasternSureBaby. We are all here to help one another!
    You say you haven’t been here in a while, have you ever posted before?
    I cannot recall, regardless… Welcome, Happy Sunday lol

    Hello Sugars! Finally slept in, til 9 am!! i am shocked!

  732. EasternSureBaby ID# 382856 says:

    I have not been to the blogs in a while now, but decided this might be a good place to come more often. I have had on SD date, he was sweet, very polite, but there were some issues in his personal life that made me nervous. I kinda regret that now, but life goes on. I’ve learned volumes from the blogs and would like to get to know all of you more. Your advice and stories are wonderful. I will come back more often to learn from you and keep my spirits up. Have a great day everyone!!

  733. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Off to training all day. Talk to everyone soon!

  734. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    CASB – you have SA mail.

  735. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Morning: Doing it now CASB :)

  736. CASB says:

    SDN: Did you have a chance to look over my profile?

    Flo Rida: Thanks for the advice, I will take some of it into consideration (the not being LA part is actually not offensive IMO because generally an LA girl is not a good thing and every time I get a message from a man on this site or others they always tell me how great it is to hear that — it has nothing to do with not being from LA, it’s not being like LA girls, also it has nothing to do with LA men). Anyway, while I appreciate the advice, I was really just addressing SDN with the profile comments, but thank you for taking your time to do it.

  737. TXSB says:

    Good Night to whoever is on right now…… :)

  738. TXSB says:

    Night! I’m slowly getting there……

  739. Rudy says:

    Okay, my eyelids are getting heavy. I hope everyone has a good night :)

  740. Rudy says:

    TexaSD: Ooops! No, I didn’t see her profile, but I was trying to keep up with the comments. Yes, I had a fun time. It’s the one time I get to watch the same movie multiple times!

  741. TexaSD says:

    Rudy- Sounds like fun lol

  742. Rudy says:

    TXSB: I did! They keep me on my toes and they are both ‘busy’ just constantly getting into stuff. I have to physically pick my niece up to keep her away from some things. My back was so sore the last time I kept them! However, tonight wasn’t so bad. They both have a case of the sniffles so they had Benadryl, but they fight their sleep like a boxer. Despite the workout they give me, I love to spend time with them.

  743. TexaSD says:

    Rudy- I mean the NC possible marines wife…. lol

  744. TXSB says:

    *sigh* I have absolutely no interest for it. I want babies…lol. In the last year or so……my entire “outlook” on what I want my life to be has changed. :( BTW, you must’ve had your hands full w/ a 3 and a 1 year old!

  745. Rudy says:

    TexaSD: I was reading the earlier post that mentioned Cleo’s height. My nephew is three and my niece is one.

    TXSB: I say go for the MBA!!

  746. TexaSD says:

    Rudy- Did you take a Look at her profile?

    TXSB- Ya I emailed her not so long ago too lol

  747. Rudy says:

    Cleo: I am with TXSB…I feel really short now!

  748. TXSB says:

    How old are your niece/nephew?


    LOL……I know. BTW, you wrote earlier that you e-mailed AsianSB…I’m very proud of you. :)

  749. Rudy says:

    TexaSD: LOL…seriously, I am glad you do! I wanted so badly to chime in during the Marine conversation, but I had to keep my niece out of the dog food (they have a house pet) and my nephew was content to watch The Ice Age six times. However, my niece kept trying to take my Blackberry so I had to put it away. I am glad you and TXSB are still up :)

  750. TexaSD says:

    TXSB- Lol not as a SB, but as a person lol,

  751. TXSB says:

    Hi! :) Yes….interesting as always…..

  752. TXSB says:

    LOL….as a “available SD”…of course the blog nags you for more details! And as a SB who’s “not on the market”….details about me don’t interest the blog. :) My sisters are still teenagers….they’ll go through this nightmare in a few years.

  753. TexaSD says:

    Well Rudy, We do think about you when you are not around, So I ask myself,”How can I make this blog more interesting”?

  754. Rudy says:

    Hi Sweet Sugar Fam!

    Just arrived home after babysitting my niece and nephew..it’s been a long day. I have been trying to follow the blog via my Blackberry; interesting topics as usual :)

  755. TexaSD says:

    TXSB- lol I am so curious about you now, its funny I think the blog knows more about me than you… what do they say about your sister?

  756. TXSB says:


  757. TXSB says:

    *sigh* My education has been added to the “list” now….The topic during dinner was how I “must” go back for my MBA. *sigh*

  758. TexaSD says:

    CoCo- Goodnight

    TXSb- So how is it going with Dad and mom lol?

  759. TXSB says:

    LOL….yea…I like to eat with dad while visiting…and his “dinner time” is usually around 11:00.

  760. Coco says:

    Good night Sugars…

  761. TexaSD says:

    TXSB- late dinner lol

  762. TXSB says:


    You’re 5’11″…..dang girl! You make me feel like a midget!

  763. TexaSD says:

    Cleo- LOL thats hardcore lol, that should be distracting if the Husband catches us lol

  764. cleo says:

    TexaSD: dude i’m willing to wear platforms, that’s practically DEMANDING to go on teh mission *g*

  765. TexaSD says:

    NYGent- they profile I put up was the Married NC asian girl (possible marine wife lol) How is your search going?

    Cleo- you wanna go to the recon mission too lol? We will need another set of night vision goggles lol…

  766. cleo says:

    TexaSD: oh sorry, i mean “yes, i’m 5’11 flat footed…”

  767. NYGent says:

    TexaSD: yes, nominally. don’t know what “married NC” is (and I’m single anyways

  768. cleo says:

    TexaSD: it’s my ‘trinity’ costume… which i rock in case anyone is asking

    *snicker* that’s what i’ll put up, me dressed up as trinity doing the bullet dance

    *dies laughing*

  769. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TexaSD~ I am taking a break from the search, just too…….blahh… it’s always the same thing so… and with work, I do not have much time left, unless I find a SD that will provide for me… so for now, i’m working …

    You need to be mailing more SBs is you want to find one!

  770. TexaSD says:

    Cleo- well that would explain a lot lol

  771. TexaSD says:

    Beach- I have emailed AsianSB, No SB yet, I have emailed 2 girls, but they haven’t login for a few weeks, so who knows maybe they gave up, or are busy, or don’t like my profile lol, how is your search going?

    Cleo you are 5’11 flat foot right?

  772. cleo says:

    TexaSD: i am on DIALUP which means i visit and then turn off the internet for a few hours…

    i’m not *reeeeally* 6’4, only in the platforms that the catsuit requires…

  773. TXSB says:

    BRB ….dinner.

  774. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TexaSD~ that’s good… did you find a SB yet? Did you talk to Asian SB?
    You should get a move on , boy!!! lol 😀

    NYGent~ a nice day of golf and Dinner in Sonoma… Ahhh what I nice day….lucky you , I miss it there!

  775. TexaSD says:

    Cleo 6’4 only a tad lol, where did you go? you been silent for a while?

  776. cleo says:

    NYGent: i’ve been on SD 4 me for a while… and all i get there are total creeps and men who SEEM awesome but can’t be arsed to pay for their memberships. now maybe i’m wrong BUT if you won’t pay for the membership why would i expect you to pay for anything else?

    as for seeking millionaire, i went there and found nothing worth emailing… at least here some of the SDs seem attractive/interesting

    re the pics, i agree with all the comments about them, mine are currently the best/most representative of current me i have but i am not pleased with them. that said, if the profile sucks they won’t keep reading and it’s easier to fix text than get pics out of thin air. friend and i are supposed to do some but haven’t yet… (okay we did but both of us were having ‘non-photogenic’ days even though we looked great in the mirror)
    TexaSD: guess i’m a bit too tall for you huh? *g*
    Napa: have an awesome trip!

  777. TXSB says:

    LOL…you should already have SD’s e-mail from what photo forwarded you the other day. Mine is tx_sb at hot mail.

  778. TexaSD says:

    Beach- Ahh that explains it, I know what thats like. I am ok.

    NYGent- Do you have an SB, and did you check out married NC?

    TXSB- I will get your email from photo, lol

  779. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TexaSD~ i’m good, I have been working that’s why I haven’t been on
    How are you?

  780. NYGent says:

    TexaSD: no offense taken, most would agree with you.

  781. TexaSD says:

    Beach- How are you? long time no see

    TXSB- Sorry Nostalgia lol

  782. TexaSD says:

    Napa- NONE FROM THE 3rd floor… dont be fooled lol

  783. TexaSD says:

    Napa Ok cool- well then by all means, also head down to Geylang road, pick me up something nice…

  784. NapaSB says:

    haha okay one more comment, TexaSD – you underestimate me, and just let me know if you change your mind about the lady…i will grab one after I eat at the deliscious Thai place on the third floor 😉

  785. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Napa~ have a great trip girl!

  786. TexaSD says:

    Napa- Ok, Photo has it, but if anyone has yours, I will email you 😉 lol I was joking about the Orchard Towers comment, once you get to Singapore you will understand the joke lol… But if you get bored there, I have plenty of things you can do for fun

  787. NapaSB says:

    TexaSD – I know it :( but I am not calling the shots on this one haha or any of them really, i’ll take a bunch of pictures for you but i’ll need your address

    i’ll see ya’ll when I return..or perhaps i’ll get a chance to check in while I am over yonder. I dont know if I will ever catch up with the blog if I leave it for a week…GOODNIGHT SUGARLAND!

  788. TXSB says:

    Hi!! Sounds like you had a delightful evening….as for the other site, as someone already wrote, it’s more of a dating site. Being a single man…..if you’re open to having a GF….there’s no reason why you can’t give it a try. :)

  789. TexaSD says:

    NYGent- Lol sorry about the softie comment,

  790. TexaSD says:

    Napa- you are missing the nice attendants, always worth it, plus you get your own bedroom….

  791. TXSB says:

    Hahaha….my post wasn’t going through for a minute there and I was….worried. :)


    All jokes aside, I’m being very serious. And you’re more than welcome to e-mail me and/or RealisticSD with specific profile #’s. In addition to giving you my thoughts on the profiles(even SDs if you’d like)….you can also find out if SD had previously contacted any of those girls.

  792. NapaSB says:

    TexaSD – no Singapore Airlines, taking one of the company jets

  793. TexaSD says:

    Ohh, take a pic of the Merlion statue and email me when you get there lol

  794. TexaSD says:

    Napa- Singapore women can fly to the US without Visa’s ( just need their passports) :) I haven’t brought one home in 6 months, please find one about 4’10 she will fit if she crouches lol

  795. NapaSB says:

    TexaSD – I do not know, but I will certainly let you know just as soon as I do :)

  796. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    NYGent~ I think the millionaire site is a dating site not an arrangement site
    depends what you want, a SB or a Girlfriend?

    TXSB~ I was having problems too before, but it just takes longer i think…

    Taz~ hey girl,

  797. TexaSD says:

    Napa- are you flying Singapore Airlines? best airline by the way to everyone, I will drive to IAH (george bush airport in houston) just to fly on Singapore airlines

  798. NapaSB says:

    Goodnight TXSB! Have a great night and rest of your weekend

    okay now I am really leaving…haha I am so bad about saying I am going to get off and then lurking around for another 30 minutes

  799. TexaSD says:

    Napa- I work there a lot, when is the next time you will go? I will ask for an assignment there promise

  800. NapaSB says:

    TexaSD – I will pick you up a lady, but I am not sure how I am going to get her back…she will have to be very little and squeeze into my luggage!

  801. TexaSD says:

    TXSB- Lol you really want me to? There is a few other Houston SBs I was thinking about too, maybe we should go over them and debate if they are fool of it or something lol

  802. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TXSB~ lol test???

    Taz~ I am too tired to read up on the blog,,,,

    Night Napa and Midwest

  803. NYGent says:

    Hi all. just back from day of golfing and a fine dinner and local wine in sonoma (aka the “new provence”) with a friend in lieu of poof SB.

    SBs: listen to Flo Rida. I hate to admit it but us SDs are extremely shallow, with short attention spans. it is true that the vast majority (Flo says 90%, I’ll say 75%) of a SD’s response is based on photos. Maybe 10% is based on the $$ figure listed, and 15% on content of the profile. So many SBs obsess over the narrative of their profile even though it has little impact in the end. For most SBs a great profile will only help a little bit while a terrible one can snatch defeat from the jaws of victory. IMO (and Flo’s I think) SBs would be advised to spend more time on getting the most flattering pics possible (go to a studio photog if you’re really serious), make sure there is at least one good face shot, one full body shot and a third with a slight bit of tasteful daring.

    On another note: does anyone have a view on SA’s sister site? (seeking millionaire i think it’s called). Sometimes I think for someone like me (who someone tonite called the softie or soft one, proabably accurately), it might be a better bet than SA where some of the SBs (present blog company excluded) can take advantage if you let them. I am trying to become less of an enabler but it’s not easy to change one’s basic personality … However, a quick skim indicates that the quality of the women on the sister site is not up to SA levels and certainly not to blog levels.

  804. NapaSB says:

    TexaSD – I am going for work :( but i get to stay at Trader’s which is my favorite hotel there so I am excited about that…i’ll tell you what I am not planning on doing there, chewing gum 😉

  805. TXSB says:

    Night and have a safe flight to Singapore!


    Hi! Doing good…..how’re you?

  806. TexaSD says:

    Napa- If you get bored, you can always Drive to KL I used to do that almost weekly…

  807. TexaSD says:

    Napa- Go to the Orchard towers and pick me up a woman lol

  808. TXSB says:

    Gawd….I was having trouble posting for a moment….lol….bad memories came to mind.

    Yes! Write her! Please… :)



    Hi! Another interesting night here….

  809. NapaSB says:

    night Taz!

  810. TexaSD says:

    Napa- Really? I was there earlier this year… What do you plan to do there?

  811. Taz says:

    Night Midwest and Napa!

  812. NapaSB says:

    alright well I guess I am off to bed as well, I am headed to the always lovely Singapore tomorrow for a week so I need my beauty sleep :) ya’ll have a great night!

    TexaSD – As soon as I get back we will have to conduct our mission 😉

  813. Taz says:

    Hey BG – I just got caught up lol…interesting convos…I am pleading the fifth here as I think it has been well debated :)

    How is everyone this evening?

  814. TexaSD says:

    Napa and I (maybe Cleo) are heading to North Caroline for a recon mission lol

  815. NapaSB says:

    Goodnight Midwest! Sweet dreams:)

  816. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Ok I didn’t catch up on the blog, but what the hell???

    TexaSD~ night vision goggles? lol

  817. TexaSD says:

    Midwest- Goodnight, Dont worry, we will find out some more info lol

    Cleo- lol

  818. NapaSB says:

    TexaSD – I love 2 way radios! gosh why didnt i think of that? haha my friend and I have some that are watches…we love talking to eachother on them at work :) haha super nerdy i know

  819. Midwest SB says:

    Ok, sugars, undercover agents, ninjas, catwomen and all…I’m off to sleep. Have a superfab evening. TexasSD…time to hone your SWAT skills again.

    Night, night.

  820. NapaSB says:

    cleo – 6’4″ is fiinnnnnneeee with me! who wouldnt want a tall beautiful woman next to them in a matching catsuit? a crazy person thats who wouldnt

  821. TexaSD says:

    TXSB- lol, Well maybe I will contact the married Houston SB…

    Napa- Tomorrow I will go out and get the night vision goggles, the sell them here at those hunting stores. ohh, and like maybe some 2 way radios? we will need code names, but I think napa and texas should be fine lol

  822. cleo says:

    Napa: i’ll find flats if my being 6’4 is a problem though…
    Texa: seriously? SWAT uniform? *drool*


  823. NapaSB says:

    cleo – absolutely!

  824. NapaSB says:

    TexaSD – haha now i’m all excited!

  825. TXSB says:

    OMG….it would be awesome if you got a SB in Htown!!! Then you have a reason to come here often and then SD & I will have another “sugar couple” to hang out with….(ok sorry….I know I’m getting waaaaay ahead of myself here!). :)

  826. cleo says:

    NapaSB: i have a pvc catsuit and 5″ platform boots… but they aren’t over the knee… anyway, since i have the costume (mostly) can i come too?

  827. NapaSB says:

    umm and perhaps the cover of darkness…but now i’m just getting into the details

  828. TexaSD says:

    OHHH Napa- I still have my SWAT uniform, the vest and helmet is real 😉 its all black, we should be good :) When you wanna head out?

    2chic, I have no idea what she is, maybe I should email her?

  829. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Hello Everyone!

    How are you all tonight?

  830. NapaSB says:

    p.s. i have always wanted night vision goggles….and i think thats all we need, ninjasuits, night vision goggles and passion for our mission

  831. NapaSB says:

    haha TexaSD I’ll bet you would look fantastic in a black leather catsuit and thigh high boots

  832. 2Chic says:

    Hi Yaz!

    TxSD…. . She could possibly a military spouse, or she could be a military brat, or dependent. But if she is in that area, there is nothing there but Marines, and they can get CRAZY! without any remorse. Seriously, unless you know for a fact she is not a mil spouse of a marine, I would be very, very careful.

  833. TexaSD says:

    TXSB- Lol I don’t have anything against married women, I think there is probably 2 of them I am considering, even the married Houston girl 😉 lol

    Napa- Ok, I will go out and buy night vision goggles (finally I have a reason) what else do we need, Tell me what your ninjasuit looks like so we can match

  834. TXSB says:

    LOL! Looks like the ninjasuit is going back in the closet for now…. 😉

  835. Midwest SB says:

    Napa – he might like the ninjasuit…don’t put it away yet!

  836. NapaSB says:

    ….dang so does that mean the investigation is off? :( and i was so excited to put on my ninjasuit and sneak around…

  837. cleo says:

    TexaSD: i can’t look at her profile from here (dialup blarg) but it seems to be that maybe (MAYBE!) you’re hesitating for a lot of reasons that people would call instincts but the only real thing you can ‘point at’ is her marriage so that’s what’s causing the snag in your brain.

    my guess is you’re never going to email her because something in your gut tells you not to

  838. NapaSB says:

    I hate packing…honestly if there was one thing that I could pay someone to do for the rest of my life it would be packing and unpacking…i travel A LOT for my job so you would think i’d be used to it, but i put it off and whine about it every time…haha such a baby

  839. TXSB says:

    I’m assuming you have a premium profile where you can narrow down your search? Perhaps you can choose “single”, and “divorced” when searching. :)

  840. NapaSB says:

    Hi Midwest!

    haha TexaSD I am absolutely down for a recon mission! I’ll have to pick up my ninjasuit from the dry cleaners though….blah speaking of i really need to start packing

  841. TXSB says:

    Depending on the location and date, I’m sure we could twist the arms of NYGent and NC Gent. :) The odds of RealisticSD being able to go is very, very slim (he’s married)…but once a date/place has been picked, I will definately beg him to see if he can join.

  842. Midwest SB says:

    Hi TXSB and Napa!

  843. TexaSD says:

    SDN- Thanks, ya I didn’t think anything was wrong with her profile, and I know what you mean about her age and being married. Another reason why I haven’t contacted her. As to the meeting in the NY, I wish too, however I don’t know at the moment.

    Everyone- Don’t worry, there is another SB in Houston that I liked to, but she is married also (damn my luck)

  844. TXSB says:

    I agree with you. There are waaaay more SBs compared to SDs. SDs can have their “pick”. IMO it’s not worth it for a SD to pursue a SB where there’s potential for serious drama (in this particular case, it *could* be a very angry husband who could be capable of God knows what).


    No e-mail yet…. :(



  845. Yaz10 says:

    Midwest SB: LMAO 😀 Cant wait to meet you!

  846. TexaSD says:

    Napa- LOL, I am still considering it. Maybe we should make a trip and do some investigating

  847. Midwest SB says:

    Gracious! Dee I respect your opinion, valuable experience and desire to want to share what you know with TexasSD. I also think Flo Rida has a point that there is judging of a person who cannot defend herself and assumptions made that cannot be verified. I feel certain that TexasSD is an intelligent man and able to make his own wise and ethical choices. Whatever happens, we should wish these two adults well and hope for the best.

    So…a Gorilla and a penguin walk into a bar…

  848. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    TexaSD: I viewed her profile when you listed it. I didn’t think she had a bad profile or pics.

    I always believe in caution with a pot SB. I do worry about her being 21 and married. If she was older it wouldn’t bother me but I do think you could be sucked into some drama.

    There are more SBs then SDs (sorry ladys) so why take a chance? I vote for someone that you don’t have to wonder about.

    Also hope you can/want to attend our get together. I have had NO SD’s sign up…not that I would hate having all those SBs to myself :)

  849. Just Dee in NC says:

    TXSB, has either of my emails to you shown up yet?

  850. NapaSB says:

    Dee- i agree that she probably is, but TexaSD has gotten the lecture and I dont see the harm in him pursuing this young lady who has caught his interest.

  851. NapaSB says:

    TexaSD – oh okay, i kind of figured that we went worst case with that one. It is something to be aware of though and now that you have listened to all of us ladies about marine’s and their ladies I hope it is something you will avoid if she does turn out to be a military spouse. Otherwise, GO FOR IT! :)

  852. Just Dee in NC says:

    Napa, there is nothing in her profile that says she is a military spouse. But she’s 21 and living in a city that is heavily military, so it’s a good bet that she is.

  853. TexaSD says:

    Napa- All I know is what is in her profile, and the city she lives in has 2 major marine bases. I think the Marines are the biggest employer in the city too, so we are just guessing her from what we know about the area, for all any of us know, her husband could teach kindergarden lol

  854. NapaSB says:

    TexaSD – HI!! do you know for certain that she is a military spouse?

  855. TexaSD says:

    Napa- I know what you guys mean about this, another reason why I haven’t done anything yet lol…

  856. Just Dee in NC says:

    Flo, there are red flags all over her profile that tell me she isn’t being truthful, and that there is a LOT about her that TexaSD would need to find out before he ever consented to get involved with her. You bet I’m going to bring out those red flags when they appear. So she isn’t here to defend herself. So what? It’s TexaSD who would have to investigate the reality of who she is, and I would hope he’s smart enough to know that he needs to go deeper than just taking her word.

    I would hope anyone here would draw my attention to something hinky in a potential SD’s profile, and would keep harping on it if I were too infatuated or short-sighted to look at the information objectively.

  857. TexaSD says:

    SDN- what do you think? Just out of curiousity

  858. TXSB says:

    LOL…..hi!!! :)

  859. NapaSB says:

    hmm i cant resist adding in that i agree with the ladies on this one. Marines are a risky gamble…I would recommend leaving their spouses in the look but not touch department :)

  860. TexaSD says:

    Dee- Nude and semi nude? Are we looking at the same pics? the only semi-nude pic (i guess) is the one where you can see her bra. the other she is fully clothed…

  861. TexaSD says:

    Flo- I am sure there is more than the Marine bases there, I was just reading what it said on Wikipedia lol, I know what you mean Flo. I don’t think Dee is attacking her per say, just stating her opinion on the information made available to her. I am not upset or anything

  862. Yaz10 says:

    Wow shall I come back at later time? lol

  863. Just Dee in NC says:

    TexaSD, a woman with class doesn’t have to put nude and semi-nude photos of herself out there. Those also aren’t the types of pictures that bring in the quality, classy men. AND, the fact that she’s married by itself should require that she put out much tamer and classier photos.

    Sorry. She’s tacky and she’s a tramp, and she doesn’t want anything from a man except money and drama. And that drama will PROBABLY include her Marine husband and some of his buddies beating the living crap out of whatever sugar daddy they find hanging around her.

  864. 2Chic says:

    Dee, you must message me at sugarandchic at americal online so we can make this happen. Yes must meet the NC Gent. I have great contacts at a lovely winery in NC. Meet at the Bistro and make it a grand evening.

  865. Flo Rida says:

    Just dee and others – i’m sorry but I think it’s really bad form beating up on a SB especially as TexaSD says he likes her (for his own reasons). Frankly someone can criticize everyone’s profile (including everyone on this site & me too). it’s even worse that she probably doesn’t know what’s going on & can’t defend herself.
    Attack me all you want.

    Btw there’s a big healthcare facility & many insurance jobs plus a few Fortune 500 companies in Jacksonville.

    TexaSD – forgive me but I don’t think it’s a good idea to post profile #’s of ladies you are interested in on a public forum. Maybe privately with people you trust BUT it’s your decision.

  866. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    I am…at least for now.

  867. TexaSD says:

    Dee- Her profile used to be different with different pics, she deleted maybe a few weeks ago only to create the profile you see now, you said her pics are tacky, lets just say, the ones before it, had my very hot lol… I think she has tamed it up to be honest lol. Ya I googled the city and I found out there is a lot of marines in that city.

  868. NapaSB says:

    haha Dee you make me laugh!

    hi everyone! how are ya’ll doing this evening?

  869. TXSB says:

    Night Anna!!!


    OK, will keep an eye out for it.


    TexasSD? SDN?
    You guys still with us?

  870. Midwest SB says:

    AM – Sugar dreams!

  871. Just Dee in NC says:

    One of the advantages of being an Old Fart, Tru. 😉

  872. Coco says:

    Anna Molly – Good night.

  873. Tru says:

    mmm love Amaretto…

    Just Dee – Love your upfront to the point know holding back advice. x

  874. Just Dee in NC says:

    G’night, Anna Molly!

  875. Anna Molly says:

    Gute Nacht! I’m going to sleep now…see y’all in the mornin’ :)

  876. Just Dee in NC says:

    Cool, 2Chic! We’ll definitely be able to find a chance to get together. And we’ll get NC Gent, too, at least for lunch or coffee or something.

  877. Just Dee in NC says:

    The Amaretto sounds wonderful, Midwest.

  878. Just Dee in NC says:

    TX, I sent an email to SDN last night around 11 pm, and he didn’t get it for hours. I’m guessing Yahoo is having difficulties.

  879. 2Chic says:

    Oh. that is ideal, I have a sister in Greensboro, I always travel through to see her when I am home. Miss the lush greenery aaahhhh. Went to school at FSU..Fayetteville.

  880. Midwest SB says:

    Dee- Vanilla vodka or Amaretto de Sarona. Gotta restock soon.

  881. TXSB says:

    No e-mail yet…. :(

  882. Anna Molly says:

    Hi SDN….I’m sleepy to tell the truth, I’m about to turn in for the evening. I don’t know how much longer these toothpicks can hold my eyes open :)

  883. Just Dee in NC says:

    Thanks, Anna Molly!

    2Chic, absolutely! I’m on the east side of Raleigh.

  884. 2Chic says:

    Yes, I was in NC all summer, will be back prob around the Easter Holiday. We must meet. We will have a ball. Promise!

  885. Anna Molly says:

    Dee, I concur with you on this one too :)

  886. Just Dee in NC says:

    {bowing} Thank you, TX.

  887. Just Dee in NC says:

    What you got to drink, Midwest?

  888. TXSB says:

    I loooove it!!! Just LOOOOVE it! :)


    Mama Dee seems to be making some valid points…hope you’re taking notes. :)

  889. Just Dee in NC says:

    Hi, 2Chic! And thanks. :-) You ever come back to visit?

  890. Midwest SB says:

    Hi Dee and SDN! I’m putting up Christmas directions and don’t know where to start! Perhaps a drink will help this along.

  891. 2Chic says:

    TxSD… listen to Dee she is on point about this. I am originally from NC, the Wilmington Coast, and I know all this to be true. Red Neon Flag Boo.

  892. TXSB says:

    Dee and SDN:

  893. Just Dee in NC says:

    Anna, I’ve been online since I got my first CompuServe account in 1984. I’ve been watching people on boards and in chat rooms for 25 years. I’ve seen WAYYYY to many people like this girl, and they want excitement and money and don’t care how many people get hurt along the way.

    She’s lying about her current educational status, so what else is she lying about?

  894. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Just Dee, Anna how are you tonight.

  895. Anna Molly says:

    Wow Dee, what a way to make an entrance..lol

    Hallo, btw :)

  896. Just Dee in NC says:

    TXSB, you have email.

  897. Just Dee in NC says:

    Hi SDN.

  898. Just Dee in NC says:

    TexaSD, about the Asian girl here in North Carolina –

    First of all, she’s most likely married to a MARINE. There isn’t anything in Jacksonville except the Marine base. You really want to mess with our jarheads? There have been a couple of affairs that turned into homicides among Marines/Marine spouses in Jacksonville in the last 2 or 3 years.

    Second of all – and no offense is intended to you younger ladies – but she’s 21? Drama is all she knows. It’s what she’s looking for.

    Third, my personal opinion, her second photo is tacky and tells me that she doesn’t care who she attracts, as long as she attracts someone with money.

    Fourth, a major in architecture and a minor in cosmetology? Sorry, not in North Carolina. Cosmetology is taught in high schools, in trade schools, in proprietary schools run by particular salon chains, and in community colleges. Architecture is an intensive, competitive program, requiring a bachelor’s and a masters, and there is no way on God’s green earth that someone who is truly working on their bachelor’s for architecture would have time for a completely separate full-time program. Oh, and it’s a 2-hour drive from Jacksonville to the nearest bachelor’s program in architecture.

    In other words, TexaSD, her profile isn’t quite honest and that raises all kinds of red flags with me.

    21 and already cheating on her husband? Why doesn’t she just divorce him?

  899. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Hey everyone…not even close to caught up but wanted to say hi.

  900. TXSB says:

    Hi Coco!

  901. Midwest SB says:

    Hi Coco and 2Chic

  902. TXSB says:

    Ah ok @ the 2 sent mails. I’m going to save the married profile # for now….not logging into SA to view profile while at parents. BTW, I know many SDs aren’t comfortable with a married SB….have you made up your mind whether or not you’re ok with it? If you’re truly not comfortable with it…..then no point in even “thinking” about anyone who’s married…..my 2 cents.

  903. TexaSD says:

    TXSB- I have only sent out 2 emails… and they haven’t replied yet, Well they haven’t login, yet either

  904. TXSB says:

    OMG….I didn’t know this! (actually, didn’t see anything on the blog about you actually writing!) LOL! Everyone I’ve asked you’ve always said you’re “thinking”! You’d tell us if you had a “1st date” set up right? :) *big angelic smile*

  905. TexaSD says:

    Hello Coco and 2chic.

    TXSB- the married one 4XXXXX

  906. Midwest SB says:

    Alrightt ladies, we are sounding a little bitter for a Saturday night! We all have to sort through the muck for the keepers, but it tends to be worth it.

  907. Coco says:

    Hello Sugars….i did step away for a couple of hours…let me try to catch up with all of you.

    Hello TexaSD, 2Chic, Cleo, Taz, Midwest…

  908. TexaSD says:

    TXSB- I have sent out emails already lol…

  909. TXSB says:



    I agree with Midwest. NYGent, NC Gent, Sincere SD….all the other SDs have jumped in the pool already….you’re watching from the side. You gotta jump in sooner or later…(ideally sooner!). :)

  910. Flo Rida says:

    TXSB – just shows that men think with their little brain as opposed to their bigger brain. I still think that as long as the pics are ‘hot’ even a bad profile will get interest. that’s why I think SBs should obsess about pics & not profiles.

    cleo – does that mean that Toronot men are attracted to women with bad food (joking). Well NY has a LOT of jerks – when i’m hit on I sometimes joke by asking where they’re from – they say UES, West Village blah & I say ‘i’m sorry I can’t date you, you see a girl has to pass a test to date a jerk from the UES and I failed the test, but I can re-sit it in a month will you wait? but if you can prove that you’re not a jerk I could apply to the mayor for an exmeption’. if they look at me crazy I know they have no sense of humor & it puts them on notice that i’m not interested in a jerk (alas many are not worthy).

    PS i’m sure NY men have horror stories of women too – dating is tough.

  911. TexaSD says:

    Cleo- I don’t know, Secretly hoping to meet a woman that I will keep, Well I don’t. know about that… But ya time constraints, possible drama, I don’t like to hide, or have to watch where “we” go, I just like to relax and enjoy my time, The Tampa girl though, I will probably contact, I should check to see if she has been online recently..

  912. 2Chic says:

    Hello Sugas, how are you this evening.

  913. cleo says:

    TexaSD: why does the marriage bug you? are you secretly hoping to meet a woman you will ‘keep’ ? otherwise it should make no difference unless her schedule is wonky because of it?

    that said, midwest and anna are right, at least dip a toe in the pond

  914. cleo says:

    Midwest: trust me, this IS a small family…

  915. TexaSD says:

    Midwest- Lol Sometimes I am very indecisive, My first choice is married, ohh today guess who I saw at the Mall, my ex gf lol, and she gained like 40lbs it was weird lol, I almost didn’t recognize her…

  916. Anna Molly says:

    Midwest is right :)
    Just trying to give a tender nudge :)

  917. Taz says:

    Lol – they are all making me happy I am in Canada and had to deal with the fam last month 😛

  918. TXSB says:

    Haha….yes….it’s a very good idea to e-mail a pot SB whose profile catches your eye!!! :) I’m curious….what is it that you’re “thinking” about? If the you like the pics and the profile…the only way for you to learn more is by writing her…no?

  919. Midwest SB says:

    Oh my…you are all making me glad I have a small family!

    TexasSD – At least NYGent is putting it out there. If you keep waiting, you may not get your first choice!

  920. TexaSD says:

    TXSB- Ohh, I know, the one in Tampa, no I didn’t email her yet, but good Idea, maybe i will email her. Ya, my family makes me laugh, It wasn’t always like this, to be honest, I don’t really know how we got to this point, I get along with everyone, same with my mom, although she doesn’t really like being with the east coasters as much as the west coasters lol.

  921. TexaSD says:

    Anna- NYGent, is he the soft one, when it comes to SBs? I am thinking, don’t rush me lol

  922. TXSB says:

    LOL @ your family! You guys should have your own reality show… :) I don’t remember details on the girl…but I remember you posted the profile # of one you were “thinking” about….she was Asian..had 3 pics and a LOOOONG profile.

  923. Anna Molly says:

    TexaSD ~ Yes, cheating is fun and sometimes too much fun..lol

  924. Anna Molly says:

    TexaSD ~ Oh for goodness sake just email her…lol. Stop analyzing everyting and just do it…..JMHO :)

  925. TexaSD says:

    Anna- lol sometimes cheating is fun…. enjoy it,

  926. TexaSD says:

    TXSB- lol Your welcome, It gets worse in australia and new zealand lol, they almost hate each other lol. I have sent out 2 emails, no replies as of Turkey day… both have not logged since the 16th… About the asian sb I shared? I am guessing thats the married one in North Carolina? she did login today, although I haven’t decided what to do…

  927. cleo says:

    Flo Rida: Toronto: town full of men who aren’t attracted to women with very good food.
    TexaSD: my mom didn’t talk to her mom for 16 years and then there was some weird reconciliation five minutes before my nana died. aforementioned dad and sister feud. then my aunt on my dad’s side HATES my other aunt on my dad’s side. the hated sister has a daughter, i get along with both but they hate each other. the aunt in rome (the less hated aunt) and her daughter have a huge feud and her son (my cousin) isn’t interested in the family at all. on my mom’s side everyone blames everyone else for how no one hangs out but no one fixes it. so lame..


  928. TXSB says:

    Hey Anna! :)

  929. Anna Molly says:

    I really have to get back on my diet…ugh. I’ve been cheating since Thanksgiving…lol.

  930. TXSB says:

    Speaking of your profile…have you written to any of the SBs you were thinking about? What about that one profile you shared with us? Some Asian SB (NOT AsianSB from blog)??

  931. Anna Molly says:

    How come only one of the blog SB’s got to see your profile TexaSD, that’s not fair :)

  932. TXSB says:

    TexasSD & Flo Rida:
    Both of you just made me feel a whole lot better about being stuck with my family for the last few days! Thank you. :)

  933. TexaSD says:

    Tru- There is another London girl, but she doesn’t blog much (and I will admit it, the only Sb here that has seen my profile)

  934. Flo Rida says:

    Just dee – it’s been a long time – have fun in NC or whereever you are this Txsgiving.

    Cleo – advice is always ‘caveat emptor’ I don’t really know the Toronto – Ontario area but I like the boardwalk.

    TXSB – I asked my parents if I should marry Forrest Gump & they looked sadly at me.

    Hi to everyone else!

  935. TexaSD says:

    Cleo- I know what you mean, the My Cousin in Washington doesn’t talk to my uncle in FL, My cousin in DC doesn’t talk to anyone… 2 of my brothers in CA aren’t on speaking terms with Dad, (well maybe 1 last I heard, think it has to do with his gold digger wife and his mother in-law, thats what mom thinks at least) My Aunt in California doesn’t speak with my Grandma, and my uncle in CA is going threw depression and maybe a divorce. and thats just in this Country lol,

  936. Tru says:

    So I guess im the only person which is UK based online, wow is it really only 3 SB which are UK/Ireland?

  937. Midwest SB says:

    TexasSD – We can play in Chicago until the sun comes up then fly along the lakeshore and watch the sun rise!

    Hi Flo Rida and Cleo!

  938. cleo says:

    TexaSD: man i hear that family feud crap… my dad and his sister haven’t spoken in a freaking decade and BOTH of them think *I* want to hear about it!

  939. Flo Rida says:

    Technically all our ancestors hailed from the savannah in Africa – so we’re all African’s, or we are descended from single cell organisms in the oceans so we’re from the oceans, or all higher elements were ‘fused’ in the cores of suns so we’re all from stars somewhere in the galaxy – ethnicity is only relative to time.
    I’m proud to be African-oceanic-stars in galaxy

    TXSB – I still get the ‘marriage’ and ‘baby’ conversations so you’re not alone.

    Midwest – say hi to everyone on 8th.

  940. Tru says:

    Nope not for now but it is 2am!!

  941. TexaSD says:

    TXSB- ahh yea, Its been awhile since i been in the “middle east” (by choice) lol… but really I haven’t noticed that much on the asian side, other than when I am actually there… oh well lol… Really I didn’t know hispanic girls here get the same lecture…

  942. TXSB says:

    LOL….plenty of Asian and Middle Eastern cultures have that “issue”. Heck I know Hispanic girls who get the same type of lectures… :)

    Hi Flo Rida, Cleo, and Tru! :)

  943. Tru says:

    Books or the board games are good ideas a 1st edition book is even better :)

  944. TexaSD says:

    Midwest- Well I was really thinking of testing out that New Falcon I bought lol

  945. TexaSD says:

    Tru- Nice, you off to bed anytime soon?

  946. Just Dee in NC says:

    Hi True and Flo Rida and Cleo!

  947. cleo says:

    Flo Rida: i don’t want to obsess, but i do want a profile that reflects me well… so i want to make sure my deep love of couch surfing is mentioned as well. once it’s done though? all that will change are pics
    SDN: yeah, i agree with you, pics are staying the same until i get a better body shot :)

  948. Flo Rida says:

    I just finished watching Forrest Gump with the family – I love that movie, sometimes SD & I do our imitations by saying ‘Ruuuuun Forrest ruuuuun’ and ‘so I mettt der Prezident ahgen’. Now i’m watching ‘Willy Wonka’ i’m sad I know.

    Felicity – would u seriously get on a plane to come all the way stateside? surely there must be someone closer to home?

  949. Tru says:

    TexaSD – Im good thanks went to see lily Allen in concert today which was really good better then i though it would be.

  950. Midwest SB says:

    Charter a jet and I’ll show you the town :-)

    This is the calm before the storm…I’m just resting up.

  951. TexaSD says:

    Midwest- Well then maybe you should head out tonight and call out a friend.

    TXSB- OK, the marriage thing your dad was saying sparked my interest thats all, Reminded me of India lol.