9 years ago
Sugar Santa

9 years ago
Sugar Santa

Sugar Santa has a lot of sugar daddies and sugar babies to spoil this year, so keep your mailbox in reach and the sugar cookies warm, Sugar Santa is on his slay and he’ll be here in the morn’!

How are you spending X-Mass and New Years?

Are you spoiling a sugar for the holidays? Care to share?

How has your sugar search gone this December?

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  1. Boston Honey says:

    Gail – You can still see Dallas? I can only see my eyeball… LOL. Thank-you for the compliment.

    MCM- Hello to you too. I love your avatar. Yet, I have to admit I thought it was a gorilla next to rock climbing wall… as it is so tiny on my screen…

  2. Sweetpea says:

    Hi everybody, I know I am late coming and the party is over :(
    Only now I manage to login surfing.

    About the pic on the profile, i personally think minimum one is needed to increase the chances of hitting. Once they start reading your profile, leave it to the reader’s mind if they are interested. What your write is an initial screening stage.

    Just a little sharing about photo taking. I am not photogenic either, but we don’t need to go to studio to take a nice shot. Use your camera on your handphone, take your own half body shot whenever you feel like. As you know professional photographer will only present one or two shots out of entire 100 shots of his work. So, just snap it and choose the best you like and keep it in your computer.

    Lighting is very important to get a nice picture, it makes a whole lot different in your look–more attractive and classy. Again you don’t need to go Studio for one. The best place I discover is the fitting room in a nice departmental store. Look for the lighting that has a 3-point light setting—imagine you sit in a salon, in front of the mirror, two lights from both sides of the mirror and one on top. If you can find similar type of light setting in the fitting room, you will have the best studio there for your sexy and nice looking shot.*why shy when you are on your own!! (I am not talking about other type of shot though.* :). In general, it is difficult to find a 3-point light setting in a private place, however, I found the setting of two-point lighting from both sides is better than one point lighting from top. So, ladies, SNAP SNAP SNAP for yourself. Oh yes, tilt your face a little bit instead of straight from front. Try all angle to get the best shot.

    However, for a full body shot, I don’t have a solution to do it on my own unless you have a tri-pod, but you can always ask your buddy I guess ;P

    Night everybody!!

  3. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Good morning all. Whew too me a half hour to read what I missed.

    UncommonSB If anyone you know see’s your profile ask yourself this question. How did they see it? and Hello they were on the site also!

    I don’t think anyone IRL who see’s your photo on SA will even comment as they too are on or looking at the site.

    Off to work for me. Have a good day everyone.

  4. LASB says:

    G’nite Yaz!

    TXSB – Hey, did you notice a trend with the poof daddies and the ones that were super hung up on pictures? I’ve found that the less worried about pics they were, the better looking they were in real life. And the ones who are super into the pics, have been overweight or with less than average in looks. I’m not sure why that would be, but a trend I’ve been noticing. Personally, I put very little weight on their photos. In person, many people come off very differently than in a photo.

  5. TXSB says:

    Good night!

    Agree….when men stop hitting on me in real life…that’s when I’ll freak out. :)

    True….sometimes you just gotta suck it up and do it


    It’s bed time for me…..good night ladies! :)

  6. Yaz says:

    Good night babes :-)

  7. LASB says:

    UncommonSB says:
    I mean, this IS a breeding ground for shadiness and perversion on both sides of the equation, but it leads me back to wondering if I should somehow revise/clarify my profile to appeal to the type of SD?

    UncommonSB – I pretty much do that IRL, because my “audience” is a certain type. In college when we’d hit the clubs, my friends would dress provocatively. I’d go casual, but consistently got more attention from quality men. I think there’s a fine line where you can be sexy w/o slutty. And personally, I rely more on charisma than anything else. As a friend once told me, “You’re never the hottest in the room, but somehow you manage to get all the guys eating out of your hand.” A backhanded compliment, but I’ll take it.

    I agree with you on getting better pics. It’s on my to-do list. :)

  8. UncommonSB says:

    TXSB & LASB: I’m not one to encourage posting all of the profile pics, but as for the ones you send upon request, I would suck it up and play dress up one day with a camera. It’s in your best interest if you think it may be ‘costing’ you the opportunity to see how beautiful you are in person.

    I too am very camera shy, and have only recently come to the realization that I need to focus on getting more pics of myself taken while I’m still young and slim. Almost everything I have is a group shot with friends, exes or coworkers.

  9. LASB says:

    TXSB – It’s a bit of an ego blow, but since I do ok IRL, I’m not too worried. Now, when men stop looking/approaching IRL, then I know it’s time to get some work done. lol.

  10. UncommonSB says:

    LASB: It’s been the polar opposite for me. I send pics and they feel compelled to reply with innapropriate ones. Yuck. Can’t we flirt and woo each other a bit, making sure we’re on the same page, before you go there?

    I mean, this IS a breeding ground for shadiness and perversion on both sides of the equation, but it leads me back to wondering if I should somehow revise/clarify my profile to appeal to the type of SD?

  11. TXSB says:

    LOL @ the BCP q…..btw, I like just “Yaz”….without the 10. I was wondering why the “10”…

    Haha….I can’t tell you how many pot SDs dissappeared after I e-mailed them pics..back when i didn’t have pics on my profile. Its definately a blow to the ego. Like you I’m also camera shy and hardly have any good pics.

  12. LASB says:

    I’ve actually have them poof after I email them photos, which tells me I need new photos. I’ve also had a lot of them say I look much better in person, which again points to that issue. I am sooooo camera shy, though. I really hate being photographed.

  13. Yaz says:

    Ok I dropped the “10” next to my name lol….

  14. UncommonSB says:

    Yaz: LOL – Ask and ye shall receive. Just might take awhile. My request is also being processed.

    It appears that all remaining SDs are on backorder, and are scheduled arrive some time in 2010.

  15. TXSB says:

    When I searched for a SD months ago and found my ex-SD, at that time I didn’t have any pics at all b/c I was worried about privacy. Now that I’m back “on the market” again….due to various personal reasons, I was just like “***k it” and posted face pics when I updated my profile last week. In my experience so far, while it doesn’t necessarily increase the *quality* of the pot SDs….it does make the search easier IMO. Eliminates the extra step of having to e-mail pics and then waiting to see if the “SD” likes it. And as I mentioned my experience with the pot SD….I’m sure there are some SDs who didn’t contact me before b/c they didn’t see any pics. Now I’m considering putting up a body shot.

    Good points…here are some *possible* reasons pot SDs may poof after exchanging a few messages:
    1) They find someone else or get busy with family/work.
    2) They get cold feet like you said….especially if they’re new to the sugar dating world.
    3) Some fake SDs realize that they’re talking to a SB who’s not going to give them sexual pics or free test drives.
    4) Sometimes after a few messages….maybe they just lose interest…maybe they just don’t feel any “chemistry”.

  16. Yaz10 says:

    Damsel in distress here; needs a SD asap!!!!! Where o where are you knight in shining armor? O Sole mio!

    *** Dont mind me guys, Im just having one of my moments lol*****

  17. UncommonSB says:

    Yaz: Okay. Couldn’t help but ask. I’ve been wondering that everytime I saw you post.

  18. UncommonSB says:

    Beach: I have only had one drop off. Not sure why. All of the others who have contacted me I dropped. For one reason or another… mainly too aggressive about intimacy during initial emails.

  19. Yaz10 says:

    LOL no I didnt name myself after the birth control Pill ( Yaz)
    Yaz is just a shorter version of my real name :-)

  20. UncommonSB~ he’s not my pot yet! …. hopefully it will happen!

    TXSB~ I know … it’s just annoying!! Ok , Good night!

    Yaz~ bonne nuit, a la prochaine!

  21. UncommonSB says:

    TXSB: Maybe it’s cold feet of some sort. The thrill of the chase or to find out if it will be an easy test drive, and then bolt just before it gets to a real arrangement discussion.

  22. LASB says:

    TXSB – Thanks for that info. I’m still on the fence about posting clear face pics, so that gives me something to think about. I don’t get piles of emails, yet still enough meets where I haven’t felt pressure to change my profile. Unfortunately, I haven’t liked anyone enough to do an arrangement.

  23. UncommonSB says:

    Yaz: You wouldn’t have happened to name yourself after the other Yaz (pill) would you? I can’t help but think of it everytime I see your name as Yaz 10mg!

  24. TXSB says:

    LOL….believe me….I’ve been through the same thing. Pot SD contacts me…we exchange some messages and everything is going well….and then he’s gone. I just move on to the next….if I’m not worth his time…then he’s not worth mine. Good night!!!! Talk to u soon!

  25. Yaz10 says:

    Bonne Nuit BG :-)

  26. UncommonSB says:

    Beach: Good night and good luck with your pot!

  27. TXSB~ I know, but why contact me… if your not interested???? I just don’t get it!

  28. UncommonSB~ I dont’ know, he logged in today …. I don’t know maybe I offended him… but to have a SD that travels to my city … That is rare and he seemed nice… he looks ok too… I don’t know!
    Well i need to sleep, hopefully i can!
    talk soon sugars! Good night!

  29. UncommonSB says:

    Done. It’s a casual one, but shows my figure in a fitted tank top and jeans. From the neck down though.

  30. TXSB says:

    I have given up trying to figure out why men do anything….lol.

  31. Yaz10 says:


    Where o where is Yaz’s SD???? *sigh*

    Ok back to the regularly scheduled program 😀

  32. UncommonSB says:

    Ok, I’ll upload a bodyshot.

  33. UncommonSB says:

    Beach: Let’s hope for the best and assume any poofing going on right now is due to the holiday season. Almost everyone has dropped off the map and won’t resurface until next week.

  34. TXSB says:

    If you’re uncomfortable with face pics….then as you mentioned, a body shot upto the neck is better than nothing. At least it lets the SDs know that you have a great body…lol.

  35. Yaz10 says:

    Yup just by looking at your pic I could tell that there was something..”ethnic” about you :-) Plus your curly hair makes your look exotic which can make you stand out in the crowd. I would say hide the eyes if you want but upload two more pics. One body shot and another face shot where you are smiling :-)

  36. NYGent~ thank you…. We did talk a bit and then he poofed… I sent him a little hello today, he read it… but no reply! I don’t know…
    I have 3 clear pics of me on my profile… so I don’t know

  37. UncommonSB says:

    Yaz10: Thanks. Guess it’s kind of hard to prove anything with such a limited headshot, but I’m just so nervous about anyone recognizing me. I have a very unique, multicultural look so it’s not like I blend in with a crowd. Plus, I have long, very curly hair which is yer another highly distinguishable feature.

  38. TXSB says:

    I have no problem writing to a SD if I like his profile….it’s not different than other things in life….if you really want something……you gotta go after it instead of waiting for it to come to you. :)

  39. Yaz10 says:

    Uncommon SB: I took a look at your profile and I have to say that you need to post a couple more pics because you are a hottie! :-)

    Ok now I am going to read it lol

  40. cleo says:

    NYGent i’ve sent emails like that myself. i always assume life happened.

    well, if i’m really interested to start with

  41. UncommonSB says:

    Darn, it may still be pending 420460 (hate that) since I changed a couple of words earlier today. If it’s pending I can always copy/paste I suppose. Let me know if it comes up. Oh, and I prefer honesty over fluff as far as feedback is concerned :)

  42. NYGent says:

    cleo: i accept that. i just think too many sbs get hung up on who initiates or tries to maintain contact.

    my very first SB i contacted first, she responded, and for whatever reason i let it drop. then a month later she emailed with a simple “still interested?” we ended up in an arrangement and if she hadn’t sent that email we wouldn’t have.

  43. NYGent says:

    uncommon: sure if you post your profile i’d be happy to review and comment, i’ll be nice i promise.

    and if you have a great look then all the MORE reason to use it to your maximum advantage and why hiding it diminishes your chances.

    just put yourself in an SD’s shoes: you see pics of an attractive SB in one profile, and a “headless wonder” in the next. which one are you more likely to contact?

  44. UncommonSB says:

    Oh, and by bodyshot I mean fully clothed of course :)

  45. UncommonSB says:

    I have NEVER had anyone not like my look, but now you all have me trying to figure out how to reveal more of it to ‘compete’ somehow. I know there are a lot of sb’s on the site, but really, aren’t most of them pretty questionable?

    Maybe a bodyshot up to the neck will be better than nothing. At least it would show my figure…

    Ugh. I think I need more help with my profile. Peer review anyone?

  46. cleo says:

    MMM: my avatar is my real back…?
    NYGent i might email you first… i might smile at you first… i might talk to you first… but it’s still your dance to lead

  47. NYGent says:

    uncommon: i agree there are situations that demand more discretion. I’m just saying it’s a fact that it dampens your chances, maybe just a little, maybe a lot, you will never know. I guess the compromise is to post pics with a minimal mask or blur — but if it’s too minimal then you’re running the risk of someone recognizing you anyway, esp. if your profile text and vital stats give you away. So I don’t really have an answer, if you want/need a greater degree of discretion then fewer emails go with the territory, and vice versa. you have to decide for yourself the balance you’re comfortable with.

    the other option is to have full pics but hide your profile and just email SDs in whom you have interest. I know a lot of SBs are of the view that they will not initiate contact. i personally (and i think most SDs who have blogged on the topic) have no problem being emailed by an SB and do not view her as less ladylike or feminine whatever just because she went first. in fact it is flattering.

  48. photogirl says:

    I was hoping so NYGent – I know what visual creatures you men are :)

  49. TXSB says:

    I agree about maximizing my chances. I have a pot SD that I’m currently talking to….well, he viewed my profile weeks ago when I did not have any pics up…but never contacted me. As soon as I put up my pics very recently…lol…he wrote to me! And now we’re talking. *IF* he becomes my SD then I will ask in down the road whether or not it was the pics that made him write to me…but right now, I’m thinking that’s what made the difference. As I’ve read on the blog before…SDs have sooo many SBs to choose from…and many just don’t have the time or patience to go through the extra step of asking for pics. And as you said, it also makes it awkard if they don’t like me purely based on the pic.

  50. NYGent says:

    photogirl: that one and one of yourself should draw plenty of interest . . .

  51. UncommonSB says:

    NYGent: On the point of blurred or masked pics, I personally don’t feel comfortable revealing my identity to every anonymous browser online.

    I mask my eyes on my profile and have only a headshot. Especially since I have run in the same circles as prominent local members of my community, I can’t imagine anyone who has ever held an executive or high-profile position taking a chance on a peer or associate stumbling upon their profile.

    What would be considered a happy medium then, that allows a pot SD to feel confident that I am as attratctive as I claim to be, without compromising my identity? I’m genuinely curious about an SD perspective on this.

  52. NYGent says:

    txsb: i will add that you have no way of knowing whether the SDs who email you because they like what they see would have emailed you without seeing your pics. And you certainly cannot know how many people who didn’t email you before when you didn’t have pics would have if you did. so the question is: if SBs are trhing to generate interest and attention, why not maximize your chances rather than minimize them?

  53. TXSB says:

    Photo & Cleo:
    Hi!!! :)

    Guilty as charged…it was you I was thinking of when I wrote to Moonpatrol. LOL….and yes…since my pics have been up, the # of e-mails I’ve gotten has increased significantly…although as a friend pointed out to me…that doesn’t necessarily guarantee *quality*…but it certainly get’s the attention.

  54. cleo says:

    wow y’all say a lot when a girl leaves for a while

  55. NYGent says:

    and txsb, i am willing to wager that since posting pics you get a lot more emails than before (even if some are just “pretty” and “impressive”)

  56. NYGent says:

    moonpatrol: i suspect the SD TXSB was referring to would be me. there are some similarities between our experience of early and generuus spoiling. While I don’t necessarily agree with TX that any significant spoiling must always await agreement on an arrangement, i’ve come to conclude, (based on the barrage of well-meaning criticism i received, and my own experiences), that excessive early spoiling doesn’t necessarily produce results and even can be counterproductive. I have no specific advice other than to perhaps dial it back a bit, at least at first, while still maintaining an essential spirit of generosity.

  57. TXSB says:

    Re: Pics
    I will say that having clear pics saves time….b/c the SDs that do write you obviously already like what they see. I didn’t used to have pics on my profile but since they’ve been up…it’s nice to not have to e-mail them and hope that the SD likes them!

  58. photogirl says:

    well darn NY Gent…. I just put my profile back up with this very erotic and sensual image. But none of myself yet :(

  59. NYGent says:

    btw maybe i should keep quiet. with the exception of some, mostly married sbs who have a particular need for discretion, I would say that most of the regular blogger SBs have 2 or 3 very nice and clear profile pics posted. this puts them at an advantage, all else being equal, over the “competition.” far be it for me to encourage other SBs on the site to take steps that would make them more competitive to the detriment of our wonderful blog ladies.

  60. NYGent says:

    Beach girl: in your case you already have 3 clear photos posted so i doubt that the SD poofing had anything to do with the extra photo you sent. who knows why people poof, they just do.

    but to answer your question, yes it is very hard to not have any clear pics of someone, then get one privately, and then tell them “sorry but your pic turned me off.” Most people myself included will just not respond at all or make up some other excuse (“stopped looking,” “found somebody else,” etc.).

    This is why generally i just skip profiles where the only photos are blurred, masked etc. I don’t want to go thru the hassle of asking for pics and then having to say something if i’m not attracted by the pics that are sent. I know some SDs are not necessarily dissuaded by lack of pics in a profile but I think the majority are and I most certainly am to the point where I don’t even bother anymore in their absence. I have always believed that SBs who don’t post clear pics are at a distinct disadvantage, yet 60-70% either mask or blur their photos.

  61. Hello everyone…Molly is still playing poker so I thought I would drop by. How is everybody tonight?

  62. Gail says:

    LOL…..okay…I was wrong….good joke Uncommon SB. Great way to end the evening here. Good nite all!!!!!

  63. Gail says:

    You are so kind MCM : ) And I love reading about then entire Kennedy clan. Now John Jr….would have been my husband : )

    James….why would you think that I would send a pic of your gun to someone else? It may impress me and then what would you do…lol…

    Uncommon SB….I don’t speak spanish…but my daughter is fluent in Spanish. Aren’t they called multi-lingual? I don’t believe that it is tri-lingual : )

  64. trilingual someone that speaks 3 languages

  65. UncommonSB says:

    Sorry, hit enter before continuing with the joke.

    What do you call someone who speaks 3 languages? Trilingual
    What do you call someone who speaks 2 language? Bilingual
    What do you call someone who speaks 1 language? American

  66. MusicCityMistress (MCM) says:

    Gail: I know, I love it!! How neat to have an artistic sibling :) My brother is the artist in my family; I am more music and theater. I can draw stick figures:) lol…. I have been MIA on the blog due to the holidays and I always like to say ‘hi’ to the bloggers I haven’t seen before. I was welcomed by several SBs on the blog when I joined a few months ago and it was nice. I try to do the same for others, but sometimes I miss people :(

    Midwest Mistress of the Dark says, Gail – A formal welcome back. I’ve been on a few months, but don’t hold a candle to the seasoned bloggers. Oh yes she does :)

    james.m: Thanks, I agree my profile is quite smashing:) (JK)

    Well, I am excited to delve back into my book about the Kennedy Brothers, I hope everyone has a great night:)

  67. UncommonSB says:

    Just got off the phone with a hispanic friend who I try to practice my spanish speaking skills with – still learning, but getting there. Anyway, she just told me a funny joke.

    What do call someone who speaks 3 languages?

  68. Gail says:

    Hi Boston Honey….nice pic of you in your Dallas cowboy attire. You sure bring the blog alive : ) Yes….now we really need to see his gun…lol

  69. Boston Honey says:

    James – Oh, I like engraved lighting bolts…with ducks flying in the background…. he hee… Au Revoir….

  70. 2Chic~ hey girl

    Hi everyone

    I don’t get SDs, I finally get a mail… He said send me another photo… well I have 3 so why don’t you send me one… and I might send another….
    He does, I send another,,, everything seems fine…. POOF
    WTF…. nothing,,, he left… i don’t get it…if he doesn’t like what he sees why not just say so???? is it that hard?

  71. Boston Honey says:

    James – Keep in mind that just because your gun delivers Modified (or whatever) performance with one load doesn’t necessarily mean it will do the same with other loads. Also keep in mind that just because the barrel of a gun or its choke was marked “Modified” or “Improved Cylinder” at the does not mean it will deliver Modified or performance with all loads.

    Ok, this East Coast SB has to go to bed…LOL…this has been fun..

  72. james.m says:

    Nice, tight pattern. Hits the target every time. Full set of tubes, so I can be appropriate when smaller is called for. Nicely engraved, although not a heart or a lightening bolt.

  73. Gail says:

    A pic of your gun? face not gun…..speaking of guns…I shot my first gun ever….it was kind of scary. I wasn’t alone….went to the firing range with 6 other SBs : ) Some of us were braver than others.

  74. Boston Honey says:

    Hello Gail. Pleased to meet you!

  75. 2Chic says:

    BeachG, Hello!
    How are you?

  76. Boston Honey says:

    James that is hilarious….. We all want to see your big gun…. Is it patterning well? LOL…

  77. james.m says:

    actually, Gail, it wasn’t me, it was one of the other SDs. Just explaining why we often don’t say hi and just jump in with both feet

  78. UncommonSB says:

    James: LMAO on the “free test drive” profile. I wish I were clever enough to think of that… might add something similar though now that you’ve got my gears turning.

  79. Gail says:

    Oooooh….I get it James : ) two letters



    takes too much time and space….lol…….

  80. james.m says:

    I’d send you a picture of my gun, but I’m concerned you might forward it to TXSB, and she’d be “impressed”.

  81. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Hi everyone!

    Midwest Mistress of the Dark~ I am stalking you again lol…. you are too cute!

    Did I miss the party!

    Anna, Naughty molly~ i’m here!

  82. NYC SB says:

    Look at all of you having such fun… i was tending to broke bf… he is not feeling well… and no i didnt pull out my nurses outfit for that :p

  83. Gail – I’m typically on as Midwest. I changed my name in keeping with the blog party!

  84. Boston Honey says:

    level not lever…

  85. Night all! Very important business to attend to!

  86. Boston Honey says:

    James – You betcha baby! 😉 Oh, aren’t you smart…Good Catch… :-)
    FRS SD – Well you know to look for the studs so that is a good start. My Dad gave me a handy lever and my own toolkit…yeah…. oh, not for a swing though….LOL…didn’t mean it to sound that way.

    ESB- I love thrift stores, 2nd hand stores, rummage sales, auctions, auction houses, and consignment shops. I have found some amazing deals on antique furniture dovetailed and all…you will never shop any crappy places again once you know what you are looking for…. As for the jeans took everyone’s advice and went to TJMAX, and online boots – signed up for emails get blitzed on the sales and coupon codes….

    Lisa – If I was in your position I wouldn’t want to either. I just sent wacky and fun video emails to my girlfriends…..

  87. James – are you good with power tools? Swings, poles and studs seem to be a recurring theme. No freud their either.

    Lisa – sweet dreams!

  88. Gail says:

    Lisa…..I will not glance your way….lol…..I know that you will fry me to a crisp and feed me to Percy.

    Thank you for the MMD…weren’t you someone else? I just remember the pearls avatar.

    Wouldn’t it be interesting to have everyone post their real pics on their avatars? It was just nice to see the real face of everyone.

  89. FRS SD says:

    Duty calls. Must attend to very important business. Night, ladies

  90. james.m says:

    I’d love a little, Gail. I must warn you though, we had a discussion sevferal blogs ago in which it was decided saying hi to everyone, while friendly and polite, took up too much space which could be better devoted to double entendre, freudian typos and general sillyness. So, please don’t be offended if people don’t always say hi.

  91. james.m says:

    no freud tonight. I meant meat and I meant studs

  92. james.m says:

    just read a smashing profile. It ends:

    IF you are seeking “Free Test Drive” — skip my profile and resume taking your medication please.

    anyone here want to ‘fess up?

  93. Gail says:

    Really? Oh goodie!!!! Of course I will talk to you James….lol….I have bacardi and coke…want a shot?…..I really think the liquor is making me quite friendly today….(smile)

  94. FRS SD – I am roflmao **wiping tears** Was that a freudian slip with midwest “meat”?

    I want to know how SDN can jump start a blog party and then ditch us for football…bah!

    Gail – A formal welcome back. I’ve been on a few months, but don’t hold a candle to the seasoned bloggers.

  95. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    Going to get ready for bed. Have to get up early for work.

    Have a good night

  96. james.m says:

    Gail – I feel left out. So, I’ll say hello. Now, maybe you’ll talk to me. Or not

  97. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    As long as you aren’t irregular, you’ll be ok

    Gail I was trying to fry you to a crisp with my eyes of darkness, remember to gaze.

  98. FRS SD says:

    Hi Midwest — did a little social work for dinner.

    I guess I didn’t know what I was getting into when I suggested a little wine (beer, martinis, cosmos, etc.) before blogging tonight. This is quite a group.
    Naughty – what did you do with sweet alluring?
    Gemi – how did I mis out on the massage?
    BH – what makes you think I know anything about hanging swings? All I know is its important to find the studs
    ESB – happy birthday
    SDN – I leave you alone with the ladies, and look what happens. For those of you thinking about the Midwest meat, we’ll have two rooms — one with SDN alone, and one with him with supervision

  99. Gail says:

    Hi MCM….I haven’t formally been introduced to anyone here recently….I have made myself comfortable only speaking to those who have taken the time to welcome me such as you : ) As Lisa’s says I have an official Sugar blog pass as I am one of the old regulars….not the new regulars.

    I just googled the pic…..very nice. I do appreciate art as my sister has alway painted and got all of the artistics talent in our family. I wish avatars weren’t so tiny. When Lisa had her pic up there….I blew her up too and she had the case of red eye…lol…

  100. ESB says:

    LMAO I can’ t type anymore, need to go to bed… fall into more like. Not feeling sorry for myself any more, Thank you my wonderful friends. I’ll be back when I can.. in a few days… please don’t make me try to catch up on the blog. WOW, will take forever missing 2 days.

    HUGS to all, Good night!!

    And thanks again for being part of my birthday!!

  101. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    MMD: The tacos are actually not that bad, it’s the atmosphere that’s bad. If you want ugly, broke, nasty men hollering at you, you’ll love it.

  102. james! Hi FRS SD! Hope your evening improved!

    Lisa – All that is about to change for youl However, I think it’s a great reminder to be grateful for the wonderful impact others can have…party on! I’ll have a chicken taco wth tomatoes and home made salsa…with a bud drat please!

  103. james.m says:

    BH – Holland and Holland? Is that a reference to what I think it is?

  104. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    I’ve already announced the Houston party. It’s to be held down the street in the parking lot that has a mobile taco stand, there’s a dumpy bar in the shopping strip and plenty of sds (NOT!) standing around in the parking lot looking for day labor.

  105. BG – get on msn girl! I need to talk to you!!

  106. ESB says:

    I heard that!! want to be part of the fun this year!! Boston, your wardrobe sound very nice. Im jealous. Wish I had the money to buy clothes. Got the body for it, just not the wallet… soon though. Gotta make some changes, and I think one of the jobs I aplied for is going ot bome through for me!! YEAH!!

  107. Lisa's SD in NYC says:

    I can’t find a decent place on her bus line.

  108. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    I think those are called dots, lol I just googled it, it’s video messaging with your webcam. I threw my webcam away soon after I bought one as I felt I was being watched. I’m on camera at work, at the mall, on the bus, at the laundrette, as least I want my privacy at home.

  109. Lisa’s SD – That’s a long time to go from the house mother to the lady of the house!

  110. Gail says:

    Lol…..oh….so those 3 days are for you? I think you should host a Houston, Texas meet….that way you and Lisa will have more than 3 days in 2010.

    ESB…MMD is right no pity parties…just birthday parties…..Haaaaaaappppppy Birthdaaaaay to you…..I sing after drinking a couple shots…..

  111. MusicCityMistress (MCM) says:

    UncommonSB: Do tell:) and what is the wine selection for the evening? I am a Riesling girl.

    Gail: Hi! I don’t think I have met you before. My avatar is A Sunday Afternoon on the Island of La Grande Jatte painted by Georges Seurat; it’s my FAVORITE piece of artwork. I have thought about changing it because it doesn’t appear to be very clear, but I really like it….lol

  112. Lisa's SD in NYC says:

    Aren’t jots those little candy drips on white paper strips? is it eye candy?

  113. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    eyejot? sounds painful

  114. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    I’ve got a whole week in October 2010.

  115. Boston Honey says:

    ESB – Well I have a total day planned of activities which require several outfits, lets just say, sexy cocktail dress oh so conservative, bikini, and evening dance-club wear…which is part of my outfit i.e. the boots…. I just had to tell one SD that I am in NY for NYE day and night so it will have to be next week that we meet.. 😉 I didn’t want to be left sitting at home with nothing to do and this year I am not working on NYE!!! YEAH! Finally, I am tired of working all holidays, all weekends, etc….

  116. photogirl says:

    That is a very long time to wait!!! Sounds like Lisa and Lisa’s SD need eyejot 😉

  117. ESB – you are in great company tonight! No pity parties here!

  118. Lisa's SD in NYC says:

    i doubt i could stop her. she’s got another 3 days she’s holding for me at the end of 2010.

  119. ESB says:

    mid, yuymm!! Love that idea.. will have to try it.. rooom mate has a well stocked liquor cabenet!!

  120. Boston Honey says:

    Oh yes ladies…have fun with eyejot…I sure have….giggle……

  121. Boston Honey says:

    Lisa that is funny.

  122. ESB says:

    Yes, today is my b-day, but I had to work, my room mate fixed me supper, so that was the high light of my day!! Going out with my sis will be the celebration. Tonight was just drinking cause I’m feeling sorry for myself… no date, no SD, no kids, even Baby Girl ditched me… brat!! lol

  123. Gail says:

    The airlines was in shock to see you on the plane….just as I was to hear that you really went….I think you need to go more often so all those terrible things don’t happen at the airports again. What do you think Lisa’s SD? (smile) and by the way does she have to do what you said again? lol…….

  124. PG and ESB – Mix the apple with a little buttershot…caramel apples!!

  125. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    Just making it safe by checking all baggage, and boarding the flight nude. Clothes will be available for purchase at the airport. Gee my parents are going to have fun when they travel in March.

  126. Boston Honey says:

    Ohhh, your right Midwest Mistress. I am thinking my Foxy Red Fur Coat (Which I totally just found for a killer deal at a 2nd hand store, fur shop said I got an amazing deal….) that matches my hair…and boots. Yeah…. Yes, back up plan….

  127. photogirl says:

    BH –
    Just checked out eyejot…. gives me some ideas 😉

    ESB –
    Yes, it does but I prefer the raspberry!

  128. ESB says:

    boots, nice!! What else you wearing for new years?? Dare we ask??

  129. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    Gail my air travel has brought bad luck air travelers. It seems everytime I fly after a long time, things start happening. 2 incidents happened in Houston: power outage in entire airport, then an otter got loose and was in the airplane parking area.

  130. BH – If the rest doesn’t arrive, I hear a trench is a good back up plan!

  131. UncommonSB says:

    MCM: Just started my 2nd glass of wine. With all of the SD’s watching ball, what do you call the opposite of a sword fight?

  132. Gail says:

    Lisa’s SD….you have got to be kidding….no, that happened?..ROFL

    MCM…I blew up your avatar at 400%….still can’t see the pic…is that you there? I love chocolate covered strawberries that are from Sheri’s berries….Yummmy!!!!

    ESB….I thought today was your birthday…celebrating both days…Yaaay…Enjoy!!!

  133. Boston Honey says:

    My boots arrived for new years…yeah…. Now, if the rest will only arrive….

  134. MusicCityMistress (MCM) says:

    UncommonSB: I agree! I think everyone is preparing for New Years; this is the party before the party.

  135. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    MMD: no he wasn’t in on it, I remember that post lol

  136. Boston Honey says:

    Have any of you ever seen or tried eyejot? eyejot dot you know the rest It is so much fun. Except for the fact that I seem to be the only one of my friends IRL who has a camera on her super powered laptop. Ahh, yes, no love, eyejot mail. However, the CEO of eyejot did resond to me with an eyejot after all of my suggestions and ideas… LOL.

    Boston Honey

    PS: If you do try it I want an eyejot from you….LOL…
    hollandNhollandsb at the google place….

  137. UncommonSB says:

    Sorry, typos. Argh.

  138. UncommonSB says:

    Midwest: Agreed, I sorta drifted off during the sports talk. Sorry SD’s (and SB football fans too) but I’ve never been into watching ANY sports on tv. I do enjoy going to games, or better yet, physically participating in a sport or activity.

    Back to the fun stuff. So if this is how my fellow sugars get with a little wine or liquor in them, I’m am even more interested in going to a meet. I would be laughing all night (with not at) at all of this frisky behavior!

  139. Lisa – Wasn’t there someone who did that to an sb at customs to give her a scare as a joke? Many blogs back. Make sure your sd wasn’t in on it!!

  140. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    Boston Honey: Funny? Gee you mean I didn’t have to do all that when I met him at the airport?

  141. ESB says:

    I”ve never tried apple, but want to.. does it taste like green apples? The raspbery it wonderful… my favorite. Thanks for the b-day wish. If it was a better one, I wouldn’t be here, no offense, but my plans fell through AGAIN!! so here I am… at least I have all of you to keep me company, adn you are all in such a fiesty mood tonight too!! Absolutly love it!!

  142. Boston Honey says:

    Uncommon SB – Harley Sportster for you..

    Lisa’s SD–that is funny.

  143. Vikings 0: Bears 13. Looks like the sds will be back if this keeps up.

  144. Uncommon – We were having fun until football took over. I’m enjoying Clive Owen as King Arthur. I still prefer the old Excalibur and Camelot.

  145. photogirl says:

    ESB – Raspberry Ice…yum. I had to go with the apple as they were out of raspberry. Hope you enjoyed your birthday!

  146. UncommonSB says:

    MCM: Hello there!

    Looks like everyone is feeling pretty spunky this evening!

  147. ESB says:

    Sis says she has a “surprise” for me. O h boy, this wil be good. She is teh CRAZIEST person I know. Woulnd’t put it passed her to hire a stripper!! this is gonna be fun!!

  148. MusicCityMistress (MCM) says:

    Lisa’s SD in NYC: LOL….

    Lisa: Hi! I have missed you too :)

    ESB: Raspberry Ice :) That sounds yummy! I hope you have a good time at your sisters.

    Uncommon SB: A sugary ‘hi’ for you too :)

  149. ESB says:

    Smmirnoff, Raspberry Ice… to die for and goes down WAY to fast..

    MCM: Thank you for the birthday wish.. yes, the reason for the over indulgence!! My kids ditched me, so I’m on my own!! Well, shit!! I’m going to my “sisters” tomorrow and getting totaly ripped!! She said I HAVE to!! lol…. I don’t have to wrok WEd, but do tomorrow!! so I need to stop now.. drinking tht is

  150. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    lol SD

  151. UncommonSB says:

    Boston: Motorcycles are so much fun! I love Harley’s, but since I’m vertically challenged they have never really fallen within my realm of comfort to drive one. They are very heavy for small short people like myself. I actually considered buying a bike in my early 20’s and the only one that ‘fit’ me was an Aprilia. It was a cute little mini Italian sport bike that I could sit on and actually touch my toes to the ground! Good luck to you if decide to get one, but be careful!

  152. Lisa's SD in NYC says:

    Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:
    December 28, 2009 at 3:25 pm

    Be prepared, to take off shoes, drop your pants, hike your skirt up so they can search you for extra appendages, etc. lol

    Just like the typical SA first meet.

  153. ESB – Smirnoff lemon or vanilla – yummy!

    Gemi – OMG – He’d be a fool not to oblige…He’ll be fluffing the pillows and checking his breath every 5 minutes!

  154. MusicCityMistress (MCM) says:

    Midwest: Sistas we are :) Doing well !

    Cleo & Naughty Molly: How in the world are you?? I have missed you.

    ESB: Happy Birthday!!

    Okay, while trying to catch up on the blog post I have this current visual…..all of the SBs are sitting in a room together with
    I have my Riesling (and everyone else has their favorite drink of choice) and Chocolate covered strawberries accompanied by lots of naughty giggles:)

  155. Gemini29 says:

    Hi Midwest Mistress! 😉 No SD for me to kiss yet…. that hasn’t stopped my mind from wandering down that path though, lolol!

    My naughty side says…. an hour or two at the CL boutique followed by an hour or two at the VS store trying on everything in the store, followed by an hour or two back at his place = bliss for both of us! 😀 But maybe that is just me and my over-active imagination.

  156. ESB says:

    key board keeps moving..that’s great!! the Smirnoff is emptying itself!! Im feeling WAY yo good

  157. MoonPatrol says:

    SweetRedhead :
    Thanks I changed my profile and made it look better: I go watch a dvd of the Mentalist now instead of football!!!

  158. *flirty voice* Hi Gemi! The boys left us for football, so it’s just us ladies…hmmmm. Hope you have someone to kiss for NYE…preferably an SD :-)

    Pardon my typeos…keyboard keeps moving.

  159. O.K. ladies and gents, I’m off to a poker game…..I’ll see you later. I’m hoping I’ll walk away with some money and my clothes 😉

  160. Gemini29 says:

    Ok I’m back with parts of me oily and parts of me… not. LOL. You girls got all saucy and crazy whilst I was gone, sorry to have missed it.

    Eeeiii, I have new *non sugar* NYE date after work! 😀 Yay, someone to drink champagne and toast in the new year with!

  161. ESB – I almost lost it the first time I saw that t-shirt!

    MCM – Thank you! We are sistas! Hopoe you are well!

  162. cleo says:

    omg i miss my motorcycle. some bastard stole it and i haven’t been able to buy a new one.

    have my license though…

    have a great night y’all, i’m outtie

  163. MusicCityMistress (MCM) says:

    Hi Sweet Sugars!

    I hope everyone is doing well :)

    Midwest: I like the new name!

  164. ESB says:

    Midwest, that is funny!!

  165. Have a wonderful evening ladies…a bubble bath with a glas of wine sounds lovely.

    SDs – enjoy your game…may your team win!

    BH – I can ride with the best of them. Just don’t wear the shirt that says “if you can read this, the bith fell off”.

  166. ESB says:

    Boston, give me a FAt Boy any day… used to have a HOnda 350 Dream… lost her to my brother

  167. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    I have ridden on a Harley before. nothing better than the wind in your hair and the freedom on the back of a bike. oh the memories.

  168. Boston Honey says:

    I am off to my hot bubble bath with a nice glass of Merlot in hand…. Let the boys watch the game. I can’t sit still and watch sports only Hockey once in a while…

    Just curious…any Harley riders in the group? I am thinking Fat Boy all decked out in chrome…….or an XR 1200, my jacket matches that one already… Vroom, Vroom…. Any of you SB’s want to ride bitch? Or perhaps any SD’s? LOL….

  169. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Time for me to put on my jammies and snuggle in my bed and watch tv. After I do laundry, cut my sons hair and get my scrubs out for the morning lol a woman’s work is never done!

    Have a good night all.

  170. I guess I should take a shower before I put on my Pats jersey. I don’t want to ruin it.

  171. ESB says:

    Holy cow, what have i missed!!

    Evening everyone!! Molly, sweetred, CA, yaz, and everyone.. I”M a little tippsy, thought I’d come join the party!!

  172. SDN – You may bring Cleo out of hiding with that selection. I think I have some bears boxers somewhere :-)

  173. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    This was after I was texting a friend who likes the bucs and making comments about them loosing ughhhh

  174. Ladies – we were outdone by Minnesota vs Chicago. Da’ Bears!

    BH – I most certainly do! ‘nuf said!

  175. CA Dreamin SB says:

    I’ve got my longhorns jersey on!

  176. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    I watched the saints vs bucs yesterday. The saints blew it, I was pissed!

  177. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    I have mostly small brewery beers: leinenkugels, yuengling, great lakes, etc…

    Football party at my house!

  178. JSO-TXSD says:

    sorry girls, football.

  179. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Me, me, I love football. Nothing better than to see men tackle each other lol.

    Fire still going? I will be right over! With my suggle and heels in hand.

  180. Boston Honey says:

    What if I don’t have a jersey?

  181. Yaz, I like to watch sometimes too 😉

  182. We should all get dressed in our fave jerseys and go watch football with SDN.

  183. Boston Honey says:

    Midwest — Ahhh, I bet you do and I am confident you know how to use them too…. giggle… I have to agree with you….nuf’ said… :-)

    I think it is a swing and a pole set on spin…… Now, who put those up?

  184. Yaz10 says:

    Ooops I meant sit in the corner…

  185. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Monday night football, any one care to join me? If so don’t knock, just come in…beer in the drink fridge, wine in the wine fridge.

  186. BH – What else is that hanging from the ceiling? A swing?? :-) I love my pearls … expecially with nothing else but great heels.

    Yaz – We know better *sly smile*

  187. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Did you all pass out? Getting the hose!! wake up!!

  188. Yaz10 says:

    Wow you guys are out of control! lol I will just it in the corner and watch 😀

  189. Boston Honey says:

    Six Handed with hot oil dripping from the ceiling? …Ayurvedic style.. Hey, who hung that up there? I think it was James….and JSO…. Ayurvedic, Banya, and Tantric style….?

    Midwest brought pearls for everyone too…? Thanks…giggle… And Naughty Molly is taking charge…..watch out! 😉


  190. CA Dreamin – only for you darlin’

    Yaz – It gets better every day!

    JSO – Toys? Don’t forget the batteries!

    Gemi – where are those wonderful handcuffs you were talking about earlier?

    We’d better put NYGent on retainer as we just don’t learn!!

  191. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    What did he do this time?

  192. Yaz10 says:

    2010 looks promising :-)

    Sincere, are you behind bars yet? lol! 😀

  193. CA Dreamin SB says:

    You sing so sweetly Midwest 😉

  194. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    It was gemini asking for a massage, that’s what started it, then it all had a mind of it’s own lmao

  195. CA Dreamin – Come here and I will serenade you…
    I’ve heard people say that
    Too much of anything is not good for you, baby
    Oh no

  196. CA Dreamin SB says:

    Now Sweetred – tell the truth – you started the whole thing with the hot sauce… :)

  197. JSO-TXSD says:

    going to make supper will be back in a bit

  198. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    It’s the wine I think. I think I need to cut them off soon! I am the innocent one here. All warm by my fire in my snuggie. Halo all straight and away from wondering hands in the dark.

  199. JSO – What are YOU bringing to the party?

  200. CA Dreamin SB says:

    Champagne and chocolate!

  201. JSO-TXSD says:

    SDN have you been giving candy to the girls again. looks like they are wired on suger…lol

  202. Out of control! Me! No Way! 😉

  203. 2Chic says:

    Did someone say …. “Barry White” ….. lol.

  204. CA Dreamin SB says:

    Hey JSO – He doesn’t have everything under control…I’m feeling awfully neglected!

  205. JSO – should be jit – “just in time” :-)

    Sweetred – that ‘s the spirit…leopard print on a red head…OH MY…More Barry White…

    Taz – I have plenty of endurance… I’ll be here for you dear!

  206. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    JSO-TXSD: Welcome to the party! Watch out for Naughty she is out of control.

  207. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Good evening JSO-TXSD poor SDN is enjoying himself WAY to much lol.

    Is that a gun in your pocked or you just happy to see me cowboy?

  208. Midwest ~ It comes with experience 😉

  209. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    fine I will wear leopard skin heels under my snuggie.

  210. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Midwest Mistress: You never disappoint.

    Naughty: You said it would be a secret!

    Sweetred: Come here I got a “hug” for you.

    Taz: I will stay up for you :)

  211. JSO-TXSD says:

    good evening everyone. I see that SDN has everything under control.

  212. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    It’s not the hugs I am concerned about lmao

  213. I like Naughty Molly…. she knows her way around the dark!

  214. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    In an hour I won’t be here :( I have things to do and 5:30 am comes way to fast!!

  215. CA Dreamin SB says:

    photogirl – nope – now i’ts a black and white photo

  216. Time for a name change

    Skip the snuggie and find your sexiest shoes! SDN is giving out hugs…don’t want to disappoint him :-)

  217. I think I know what SDN is up to….hehehe

  218. Figures – I am missing the party!!! Y’all better not be passed out in an hour when I get back! Lmao…

  219. They call me Naughty for a reason 😉

  220. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Still giving “hugs” sweetred

  221. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    SDN your too quiet, what are you up too over there!!

  222. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    OMG midwest you have me laughing so hard!! I can’t breath!!!

  223. photogirl says:

    Is my little plumeria pic showing up still? I changed the photo but I still see the flower.

  224. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Keep the lights out I am enjoying this!

  225. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Naughty molly!! crawling deep into my snuggie and hiding my parts from wondering hands. I feel so violated!!!

  226. Midwest says:

    Sweetred – NOW what are you up to??? :-)

    What’s that buzzing sound?

  227. photogirl says:

    Four handed…six handed… I could use one of those…shoot at this point I’ll take two hands.

  228. Ooops, sorry…those were my hands 😉

  229. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    My hands are in my pocket, sheeh I get blamed for everything!

  230. Boston Honey says:

    Oh my aren’t you all having fun? Just think, this is only online….ha hmmmm..

    Uncommon- Congrats – Mammoth rocks!
    Alluring Anna – I am with you I like La Grand Dame VC…. and J.
    Have you tried Nutella yet? Good thing you don’t have a webcam or there would suddenly be a huge spike increase n bandwidth at SA….

    SDN — Must be my background but I see a six handed massage in unison. Now, lets see the Four Seasons or Mandarin top that….he hee… They only offer four handed….LOL….

    Anyone want to throw ducks for the Weim? Note to self…do not leave unmentionables near the cage, in the hamper or anywhere a boneheaded focused bird dog can go, stand on her hind legs, jump, or find…….. sigh….chewed…ruined…


  231. Midwest says:

    *sigh* james…you have great hands…wait…sweetred….will someone please turn on the lights!!!

  232. CA Dreamin SB says:

    The SD’s who show up late for this party (or miss it) are going to be awfully sad

  233. TXSB says:

    LOL…we have another SD blogger who used to do the same things you mentioned. Buying pot SBs gifts early on and then being surprised when it didn’t work out. Anyway, what I’m about to write below is my personal opinions…

    1) I only asked if you were searching for locals b/c *IF* you were willing to have a logn distance SB, obviously that would give you more *options”. But your budget and how often you want to see a SB determines if a long distance SB will work for you.

    2) On the 1st date, meet the pot SB for drinks or lunch/dinner. Afterwards…go your separate ways. You pay for the meal and/or drinks….that’s it! Do not buy her anything or give her money. Do not suggest going to the mall or any other “store”. The one and only reason for a 1st date should be to see if there is mutual chemistry. If a “SB” *expects* you to give her gifts or pay her money on the 1st date….please move on. **Of course, if the SB has any “expenses” such as cab fare…then you should pay the expenses…but that’s it.

    3) Look at this as a business arrangement…since you *will* be spending thousands of dollars on a SB. Be less emotional…especially in the beginnng. There are some very cunning “SBs” out there who knows that nice guys like you fall for their “sob stories”. Leave your wallet at home if you need to…lol….just take enough cash to pay for the meal/drinks. Do what you need to do but do NOT fall for a SBs sob story on the 1st or even 2nd date. If a “SB” tells you she doesn’t have enough money for rent…then she should’ve been out looking for a frigging job instead of spending time on SA!

    4) As for the profile….if I was reading that paragraph in a profile…I would think that you don’t know what you want and are very new to this. I think you need to write out something that shows more confidence….that makes you seem more decisive. It should let SBs know that you know exactly what you want and will not be easily “taken”.

    From the few posts I’ve read by you on the blog…you seem like a nice guy. I think you just need to change your approach….but hopefully you will give it a try and not give up. :)

  234. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Ok who turned out the lights?? I will not be held responsible for feeling my way around the room and what I may touch!

  235. I’m such a naughty, naughty girl…… 😉

  236. CA Dreamin SB says:

    LOL Naughty Molly!

  237. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Hi Photogirl welcome to the party.

    Midwest we even have lions and tigers and bears..oh my lol

  238. Midwest says:

    Gemi – lucky undies, fmps and champagne, massages by Sweetredhead…oh my!

    This party is getting saucy *in my Austin Powers voice*

    2nd glass of wine…. *sings Barry White* “you got me going babe..bamp bamp BAMP”

  239. photogirl says:

    Chocolate syrup, whip cream, body rubs, fires, bear skin rugs…
    Don’t forget Sincere’s music playing in the background…

    Lurkers – You sure you’re not going to come out and play with these ladies?

  240. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Every mans dream, being the only man in a group of sexy woman :)

  241. CA Dreamin SB says:

    SDN – You sure there’s enough of you to go around? 😛

  242. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Awww SDN I feel all warm and fuzzy now :)

    Naughty molly is sticky and Gemini is getting slippery, ok I missed something. lmao

  243. I’ve got all kinds of goodies at my place…..who wants to come over for a visit?

  244. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Gemini29: Thanks for the oil/body visual…now I need a cold shower.

    Sweetred: Good idea, starting my fire too.

  245. CA Dreamin SB says:

    Gemi – Naughty Molly has some chocolate and whipped cream :)

  246. Gemini29 says:

    Yup! Well blog party away girls (and SD) …I’m off to go forage for dinner and rub oil on my body.

  247. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Turning on the fireplace, I’m cold!! anyone got a bear skin rug?

  248. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Plenty of hugs to go around *** big group hug ***

    Edible undies…lucky ones…now this is a blog party!

  249. All I’m wearing is chocolate sauce and whip cream, but I have to admit….it’s getting kinda’ sticky. Maybe I should take a hot steamy shower.

  250. Gemini29 says:

    I’m not wearing edible undies!!! But I am wearing my lucky ones, lol.

  251. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    hey now if your passing out hugs SDN I want my share :(

  252. CA Dreamin SB says:

    SDN – you do know how to make it all better, don’t you…

  253. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    lmao ya ya blame me. I not the one wearing editable undies lmao! I have the leopard print snuggie on remember.

  254. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    CA D SB: I am sorry…come here sweety and let me give you a hug…make it all better. Here have some champagne…you like chocolate?

  255. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    MoonPatrol I suggest you just tell some things about your personality your likes and dislikes. From what you write it would seem you are an easy target. No offense. But damn leave the warm fuzzy feeling for later lol

  256. Gemini29 says:

    How you can tell that Gemi has had something to drink tonight :

    NYG can do more than just drink it out of my fmps!! 😉

    I blame this all on Sweetredhead and her hot sauce!

  257. CA Dreamin SB says:

    SDN – I’m hurt! *sniff, sniff* I was simply pointing out you were the only one who had posted anything, and as a result, deserving to be the only one to watch!

  258. CA Dreamin SB says:

    My drink of choice: Prosecco – fell in love with it in Italy – one particular kind though – some are really bad.

  259. Yes, wearing a snuggie would completely mess up my edible wardrobe 😉

  260. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    CA D SB: Are you implying that I would rig the count so all the SBs were mine? I am feeling very indignant right now.

  261. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    I can’t help it if my horns keep knocking my halo off.

    Adjusting Halo again.

  262. Gemini29 says:

    CA Dreamin – YOU were getting concerned…how about ME?!! lololol

    Oh and I’m a happy flirtatious drunk except when I drink too much and then I become a tired wanna-sleep-now drunk 😉 And my drink of choice IS champagne. MMMM.

  263. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Naughty Molly: Now I know why you didn’t want to put on a snuggie lol

  264. MoonPatrol says:

    TXSB: How do you run? I should be able to do this. Its like when I go to the gym and run on the machine right?
    The problem with my first few SB’s is they knew what they were doing but weren’t real SB’s because it was asking for money on the 1st date or stories of the neediness. I bought items on the 1st date because we went to the mall which is a bad idea instead of parting after dinner and saying I’ll call ya later. Maybe I should quit looking only local. Main deal is I’m failing at this and about to give up. I have lost my sex desire as a result of wasting the money which killls my sex drive. My profile:If there is chemistry and you want to be seeing me some times during the week or weekend, then that will work for me. We could watch movies at home on a Friday or go the the theater shows when they come. I can contribute to your needs if we have a warm fuzzy connection all the time. I just would be willing to give to you what makes sense and keep you feeling happy. I am laid back and want to share my success with a willing partner.

  265. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Its all Gemini29’s fault I am innocent…innocent I tell ya.

  266. Midwest says:

    Sweetred – james was on once

    why limit it to one choice…bring all the sauces! Add some champagne so that NYG will appear and drink it out of our fmps!

  267. CA Dreamin SB says:

    That gives a whole new meaning to the words “hot stuff” – whoops – did I just say that?

  268. Did somebody say chocolate sauce and whip cream? How did you guys know what I was wearing?

  269. CA Dreamin SB says:

    SDN – that’s too much for me to scroll through – is it a safe assumption you’re the only one who has posted in the last 60 minutes?

  270. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    LMAO what a typo!! I got ideas there that I am NOT gonna share!! lmao

  271. CA Dreamin SB says:

    I was getting concerned with the hot sauce sweet red!

  272. Hmmmm, seems as though Molly is getting us in trouble……….again.

    By the way…..I prefer champagne 😉

  273. Gemini29 says:

    lolol @ hot sauce, I was gonna say “Damn! You mean business!!”

    *dies of laughter*

    chocolate sauce 😉

  274. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    oops chocolate sauce.

  275. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Gemini29 do you prefer, hot sauce or whip cream? lol

  276. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Go ahead scroll up and check.

  277. Yaz10 says:

    LOL @ Midwest’s jaaaaaaaammmmmmmeeess :-)

    James you better get over there as fast as you can 😉

  278. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    I think all the SDs that have posted in the past 60 minutes (from this post) should get to watch.

  279. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    I think they have enough ideas already lol. But a little help and visual aids keeps them in a cold shower lol

  280. Before you even ask, the word snuggie never came up in our conversation….lol

  281. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Midwest no more wine for you!! lmao

  282. Gemini29 says:

    lolol but ideas are what keeps them motivated!! 😉 😉 😉

  283. Gemini ~ I talked to a pot today who I know for a fact would love to watch. He said he would even offer a nice bonus 😉

  284. Midwest says:

    I’d pay! or play? Pay for play??? Nope, I’d do it for free! Test drives?

  285. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    SDN you wonder why your always in trouble lmao. Same way I get myself into trouble. I don’t even need wine lol.

  286. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Good grief Genini29, don’t give them any idea’s lmao

  287. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Gemini29: Watch??? Heck I think this could be a pay per view special.

  288. Gemini29 says:

    Sweetredhead- I don’t caaaaaree….besides, I’m sure there is a SD out there who would looove to watch! 😉

  289. TXSB says:

    LOL…..I’m literally laughing my a$s off right now!!! You’re awful…. 😉

    CA Dreamin:
    LOL….don’t encourage him! 😉

    I’d offer to give you a masage too…but as Sweetredhead said….don’t want u to get the wrong idea… :)

  290. Midwest says:

    SDN – Bwah hahahaha! Good one! Can’t wait for the 12th!

  291. CA Dreamin SB says:

    SDN – I’m sure she was *impressed* probably even thought you were *pretty*

  292. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    I give great massages, but don’t want you to get the wrong idea lol.

    Good evening Gemini29 :)

  293. Midwest says:

    I’m here, sexy lingere, fmps and wine! *in my come hither voice* jaaammmeeess….

  294. Gemini29 says:

    SDN, maybe ‘not compatible’ was meant literally. 😉

  295. I will be snuggie free this evening 😉

  296. Gemini29 says:

    I missed ANOTHER (abliuet online) blog party! and there was wine and beer and sapphire martinis??!!!


    You guys always have all the fun without me while I’m at work. :(

    So anyway, hello to everyone else here! Work was killer, I think the kitchen tried to take me out seven different ways to sunday, I have more bruised, sore and unhappy body parts then I know what to do with. I wish I had a massage therapist living in my closet, I could so use a massage right now!

  297. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    hmmmm what kind of pictures did you sent? huh huh? lol

  298. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Taz: Damn and all my lingerie is dirty.

    On a side note…I sent this nice pot Texas SB some pictures of me the other day and I was sure she would be “impressed” but she stopped emailing me after saying we weren’t “compatible”. Any idea what I could have done wrong?

  299. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    I prefer the snuggie and leave the lingerie for more private times :)

  300. Why do I only see the RED snuggies??

  301. Sweetred – definitely lingerie 😀

  302. SDN – that includes SD’s too 😛

  303. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    I have a leopard print snuggie :)

  304. UncommonSB says:

    I’m very interested in the CA meet. It’s a much shorter and more affordable commute for me. Ooh, maybe I can schedule my trip to Mammoth at the same time! Who can help me out with the details?

  305. Sorry SDN – no snuggies at this party – lingerie only! 😛

  306. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    Hello Everyone.

    james.m: I am all up for a wine blog party, especially if there are SBs and snuggies!

    The Chicago meet has 7 people right now and 3 potentials. We still have room if anyone is interested midwestmeet yahoo.

  307. Moon ~ SD’s and SB’s deal with all kinds of BS. I know I’ve felt like giving up many times, but I’m still here and I know that one day I will find my dream SD. I’m sorry to hear about your trouble and it can be a disappointment when you find out the person who you thought was the one ends up being a dud, but don’t give up! You came here for a reason and it would be a shame if you didn’t stick around long enough to find her. You may have to put up a lot, but the reward of finding that one special lady will make it all worth while. :)

  308. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    No Lisa I do not have an SD.

  309. UncommonSB says:

    Moon: I agree with TT. I am fairly new around here, but it seems like the crazies and fakers love to pounce on fresh meat. I’m certain that genuine, sincere SD’s exist (just as genuine, sincere SB’s do) and that one of them is out there for each of us.

    Even IRL it’s hard to find compatible people, whether it be an employee, friend or love interest. Sadly, it’s the way of the world. Those of us with intelligence, personality and good intentions are outnumbered in all areas of life.

  310. TXSB says:

    About to go check mail… :)

    I 2nd that! If we judged all the SDs based on our experiences with *some* “SDs”….lol…I would’ve been off this site by now!

    Taz’s idea is actually pretty good. *IF* you’re comfortable sharing…having some of the blog SBs and/or SDs check out your profile may not be a bad idea. Even if you don’t want to share the profile #….you can copy/paste what you have written in there too. Again…you don’t *have* to….but it’s certainly an option.

  311. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Hi Gail, Nice to see you :) Thanks I could use a drink about now, and I don’t drink lol. So here I am coffee in hand. Freezing my buns off. It’s cold here in Florida today. Being on the water it’s even colder and windier.

  312. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Moonpatrol There are many frauds on both sides of this. You need to be careful. If someone asks you for money up front I would run the other way. Unless you have discussed an arrangement and have at least gotten to know a little about her.

    If a woman tells you she is broke and needs help in a first conversation, run like heck, she is going to drain you.

    The money is not what it is all about, and If someone brings it up right away with out even getting to know you, then something is wrong there.

  313. Boston Honey says:

    TXSB – you have mail….

  314. Moon Patrol – perhaps you want to have some of the SB’s or SD’s check out your profile and maybe give you some tips?? Not ALL SB’s are like that…if I judged all of you SD’s on some of the ‘SD’s’ I have previously met..well I would not be here either!

  315. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    Hi Gail

    I am preparing my parents for their trip in March. They are elderly so i’ve got to search their suitcase before they travel.
    Be prepared, to take off shoes, drop your pants, hike your skirt up so they can search you for extra appendages, etc. lol

    Going to take a hot bath now

  316. TXSB says:

    I’m sorry to hear about your experiences. As for you losing the money….As another SD blogger can tell you if he’s comfortable sharing….that he had gotten lectured big time from the blog SBs for spending money on girls right in the beginning….without having an arrangement. It’s one thing to give a little gift…or small amount of cash as a token of appreciation (say maybe around $200 or so)….but to spend hundreads of dollars…perhaps even 1K or more on girls without having an actual arrangement…is not a good idea IMO.

    Moon, if you don’t mind sharing, I’m curious as to what your criteria is for SBs. Do you look for a particular age range? Are you only searching for locals? How long did you know the 1st girl before you paid her rent? Did she ask you to pay it? How long did you know the 2nd girl before you bought her the boots/purse? Again….did she ask for it or was it your idea to buy the items?

    Sorry to ask so many q’s….just trying to see what you can do differently to prevent this in the future. And I know it’s frustrating…but please remember that there *are* SBs who’re not like these girls you’ve met so far. Us SBs meet “fake SDs” all the time….we have the same frustrations that you’re feeling. I hope you won’t give up….

  317. Gail says:

    Lisa….you are killing me again with your jokes….lol….

    Moonpatrol…yes…it’s true…just like Lisa says you will find her, your own special SB… Lisa was found….and now she is no longer lost…(smile)
    You never know, you may meet her at the New Year’s Eve blog party!!!

    Sweetred….you can have a shot of bacardi from the bottle I bring…it’s free…no charge.

    Just cooked a huge pot of Jambalaya…going to eat dinner early.

  318. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    Don’t give up MoonPatrol, not everyone is like that.

    I suspect airline travelers will be felt over for extra body parts when they fly.

  319. MoonPatrol says:

    I’m realizing that this site has brought me only trouble. The only one I was ever really attracted to blew me off when I paid her rent after two dates, I am still unable to get a response when I text or call. So I’m more bothered by the intention than the actual money loss.The other two were scraping for money constantly and one was under the guise that she was new to this. I said no to seeing her after I got her a purse and boots and will take my loss anyway. The last one we are still talking and I rescued her from her problems but she isn’t what I envisioned for this and am feeling alienated even from myself. I haven’t had many responses from the kind of woman I expect so maybe I need to change my profile or even get off this site totally before I lose even more. I have helped my current GF and got her out of a bad situation, but it was more for compassion than passion and here I am the risk taker as she is supposed to pay me back. I hope theres a question inside of this paragraph .. so have at it.

  320. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    My job is ok, just too much physical work. Pay is so so but coworkers are great.
    No sd yet sweetredhead?

  321. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Lushes!!! lmao

  322. Boston Honey says:

    TXSB – u have mail.
    Yes, you have to be specific, leave nothing for assumption, be very clear. I have learned the hard way in work/life experiences….


  323. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    Interesting how everytime I fly after a long while, there are problems with air travel shortly after. I had to take my shoes off and since this guy hid something in a condom in his underwear, I guess we’ll all have to drop our panties next time we fly, lol

  324. Sweetred – yes we did chat about a New Years blog party..the wine party is extra I believe :)

  325. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Yes lisa I am. Even though I do love my job, it’s gets crazy at times. I have a very fast paced job, hard to slow down when I get home.

  326. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    Good afternoon


    Just think how much harder it would be to unwind if you didn’t love your job. You are very lucky to have a job you love :)

  327. CA Dreamin SB says:

    That’s okay James – Midwest and I have our own table at the lunchroom – the sb’s who can make all conversation stop table :)

    I can’t come to the New Years Eve party – but y’all have a part without me and I’ll just have a glass of wine with me the next time I sign onto the blog!

  328. TXSB says:

    Hi Sweetredhead, Anna, James, Taz, CA Dreamin and anyone else who’s on! :)

    Yes…looks like from now on, I have to be specifically ask for “face” pictures!

  329. Boston Honey says:

    LASB and TT – Just saw your older post. No, no experiences there…. However, I read a lot and traveling to new places is always fun, exploring other cultures….

  330. Hello everyone……did you miss me? 😉

  331. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    James, I think I was reading to far back, when we were talking about a new years evw blog party. That’s ok I am up for one now too :) Have to unwind from the monday from heck at the office

  332. Boston Honey says:

    TXSB–That is why I ask for a nice face picture….no assumptions or anyone left wondering….have to agree “Ewww” … What are some people thinking? Well, I know what they are thinking but to all SD’s out there please send a nice face picture if you decide to share….

    CA Dreaming SB – No, its dinner time……

    XO, BH

  333. james.m says:

    SweetRed: I don’t think we were planning on waiting until New Year’s Eve for the party. In fact, Naughty Molly is trying to talk Alluring Anna into starting now. (I do like Naughty Molly’s style!)

    Ca Dreaming. I was here, but arguing with a lawyer. I would much rather have been blogging with you all.

  334. The blog party is on New Years? I got lost somewhere lol…I’m in :)

  335. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Good evening everyone. I am in for a blog party, only have to work till noon on new years eve. I will bring the party hats :)

  336. CA Dreamin SB says:

    AND apparently I intimidate everyone because once again, I show up and all conversation stops!

  337. CA Dreamin SB says:

    I think we intimidate them AM – :)

  338. Why do the lurkers have to be so shy!

  339. james.m says:

    and they didn’t invite us? how lurkish of them

  340. NYC SB says:

    James – did you know? the lurkers have a party of their own to attend :p

  341. james.m says:

    do you think if the lurkers join in the party, they might become friendly enough to come out of hiding?

  342. Muse says:

    ESB: Happy birthday!! I hope it’s absolutely, ridiculously amazing.

  343. TXSB says:

    Happy Birthday!!!! :)

    Wow….sounds like you’re having a great December! :) Hope you have a wonderful New Year! :)

  344. UncommonSB says:

    Midwest: It was a snowboard company that offered the trip, free and clear of any timeshare presentations! I’m still in shock. I never enter, hence never win, anything! Even though it doesn’t include airfare, it’s only a flight from AZ to CA, so it’s cheap travel anyway.

  345. UncommonSB says:

    CA Dreamin: You’ve got mail.

  346. 2Chic says:

    Good Afternoon Sugas!

    You are soooo freaking cool, thank you for the song. I love it! Barry White, oh yeah!…. here is a great big hug and smile… *HUG* — *SMILE*

  347. Midwest says:

    Uncommon – very nice! Are you going to have to sit through a time-share presentation? Who is going with you??

    Boston – it is soooo hard to find the perfect jeans – Yeah you!

    Cleo – glad you’re back

    Boston – I’ve shown up at the door…. TMI :-)

  348. TXSB says:

    Hi Everyone! :)

    Nope…no longer a pic virgin! LOL….and yes…I still can’t believe some men actually do it (but then again, some women aren’t much better either).

    Hope you had a wonderful holiday! Even though it was Yaz who broke the copyright laws…I’m still willing to be your cellmate! 😉

    LOL….yep, not an angry drunk here either! Ditto on the flirting….alcohold just takes my flirting to a whole new level!

  349. UncommonSB says:

    CA Dreamin: Great! How long will you be here for?

  350. CA Dreamin SB says:

    If you’d like to have lunch let me know

  351. CA Dreamin SB says:

    I’ll be there in a couple of weeks!

  352. UncommonSB says:

    CA Dreamin: Yes. I’m in a suburb of Phoenix, about 30 mins from downtown.

  353. CA Dreamin SB says:

    Uncommon – you live there now?

  354. UncommonSB says:

    Good afternoon everyone! What’s this I hear of a blog party? Could be trouble, in a good way :)

    So, I got an email a few minutes ago that I won some random sweepstakes that I entered a few months ago! I don’t even enter anything, but my mom sent me a link to enter for a Mammoth Mtn vacation since she knows I love to snowboard. And whatta you know… I won a 5day/4night stay (sans airfare), a massage and lift tickets. Woohoo!

    CA Dreamin: I’m from Phoenix.

    Boston: Glad you found some jeans that fit!

  355. cleo says:

    photogirl: oh they’re only in florida in feb/march. right now they’re still at their farm… which is where i was for the weekend.
    why thank thee miss. dreamin!

  356. CA Dreamin SB says:

    Are any of the bloggers from the Phoenix area?

  357. CA Dreamin SB says:

    Boston – YEA!!!! Glad you found some great new jeans

  358. Boston Honey says:

    Blogging martini party? – I am thinking Bombay sapphire martini straight up with olives—mmmm…. might be dangerous. Stephen better not have more then one or Brandon will not be happy in the morning… He he…

    ESB–Did that trench coat arrive? One SD told me that his date arrived in nothing but a trench coat and heels. Interesting….I told him that wasn’t happening with me, at least not the first meeting….LOL….

    Yeah, thanks all for the input I have fab new jeans that are long enough off the rack….and my best guy friend confirmed the nice a%% part.

    Go Dallas….whoop, whoop… he hee…

  359. CA Dreamin SB says:

    Hey Cleo! You’ve been missed

  360. photogirl says:

    Cleo – Are you in Florida visiting them?

  361. cleo says:

    hi sugars

    i don’t think that i’m going to try catching up, too much to do and missed too many days. i’ll read it one day when i’m bored.

    hope you all had a terrific weekend while i was basking in the quiet with my folks!

  362. Yaz10 says:

    2 chic~ you better find Sincere a good lawyer because NYGent is already taken :-)

  363. Yaz10 says:

    Sincere~ TXSB wasnt the one who broke 7 copyright laws by posting lyrics of a song on the blog, it was me lol and I am still on the run lmao

  364. Midwest says:

    CA Dreamin – Thanks! I think so too! Looks like we have many lucky ladies who know their prince sd is right around the corner!

  365. CA Dreamin SB says:

    Midwest – you’re such a lucky girl!

  366. Midwest says:

    Hi AM, James, NYC SB, DB and all others!

    Blog wine blitz??? I have to wait until later, so you will all have a great head start! Besides, james spoiled me with wine all weekend :-) He has a great new blog name, but will probably wait to use it until everyone has their wine buzz.

    Make sure Gemi joins us …she’s my blog crush :-)

  367. CA Dreamin SB says:

    So…James, what time do you suggest we start the party? I’m thinking 2 PM Pacific, then the SD’s can join in as they get off work.

  368. James ~ As far as who drinks what, you’ll just have to come back later and find out :)

  369. James ~ How many people are still going to Chicago? I’m out of the loop now.

  370. NYC SB says:

    Gail – haha maybe i can keep his attention for longer than 2 weeks… cuz i wont put out by then LOL

  371. james.m says:

    I wonder if Alluring Anna drinks wine and Naughty Molly drinks beer? that could be interesting…

    No fair starting the party until after dinner, so that we SDs can join in. We have to work, you know, to support all SBs in the manner to which they would like to become accustomed!

  372. DB ~ I don’t drink wine, but I love a good beer.

    If I’m like this sober, imagine what I’ll be like when I start drinking…lol

  373. Yes! I want in on the action too :)

  374. DesertBunny says:

    Moolllly, have you been drinking wine? Tell the truth, now….

  375. So, when is this blog party again?

  376. CA Dreamin SB says:

    How sad would that be – our blog party and no SD’s show up???

  377. CA Dreamin SB says:

    HEY – Naughty Molly is back!!! :)

  378. There won’t be any blog crushes formed if we don’t have any blog daddies come out of hiding.

    Oh lurking SD’s PLEASE come out play with us….we won’t bite. Well, I might 😉

  379. DesertBunny says:

    As for me… I am sticking with my original :)

  380. Gail – I have my day planned out lady!! Lol…I promised my daughter to go play in the snow this afternoon! Fresh snow – wonderful! Lol..I really don’t like the cold but I can do it this way and it is the first snowfall of the year (I can have a bit of appreciation for it lol) and it is muuuch more fun living vicariously through a child’s eyes :)

    DB – I wonder how many blog crushes with be FORMED on that fine evening 😉

  381. DesertBunny says:

    Hello All!

    There is a blog party being organized? Hmmm… sounds interesting. How many blog crush’s will be revealed on that fine evening?

  382. Gail says:

    TT….don’t you want to lay in the snow and make a snow angel?….it’s really fun….and after drinking wine….you really wont feel the coldness.

  383. Gail says:

    Blog party in the morning on a Monday? Beer, wine….I will take a shot of bacardi, coke back….lol…..

    Happy Birthday ESB….I hope you have the best birthday ever…remember you can do anything you want..it is YOUR day.

    Hi Red : ) Nice to see you back…thank you for keeping the blog real : )

    Mina…Fendi and vacationing…what a life : ) I am envious…have a wonderful New Year. I wondered where you were….thanks for the update.

    NYSB…what great Xmas gifts…its always nice to maintain friendships with SDs. Sounds like you and IRLSD could match up pretty well. I always enjoy reading your adventures.

    Anna Molly….no need to apologize…liquor is the truth serum for SDs and SBs : )

    Lisa….Yaz…..I keep missing the both of you : (

    NYGent…loved your humor on the blog…I hear you have a wonderful personality too : )

    Sincere SD….what are you still doing on here still?…those SBs you have been meeting must not be cutting the mustard…lol…if you are looking for a great SD…he’s the one ladies: )

    Wow….this is the most I have said in awhile….back to real life :)

  384. AM – I have so much unopened wine left over from Christmas – everyone brought three bottles and only two were opened :O The roads were icy and I inherited a whole bunch of wine…anyone want some?? Lol…if so, you must arrive in your pj’s :)

    I feel like ESB when she was relaxing watching the snow. However, I am not touching ANY of it!! It IS pretty. I am not shoveling. There are enough kids in the neighborhood that want to explore their entrepreneurial skills 😀

  385. CA Dreamin SB says:

    AM – You can drink anything you want to drink! :)

  386. I’m going to apologize for anything I might say right now…I’m sorry :)

    When I start drinking I tend to become very flirty. Just a heads up :)

  387. I’m all for a blog party….when shall we schedule it? Can we drink something else other than wine? I would prefer an ice cold beer :)

  388. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    ESP Happy Birthday!!

    Just a quick lunch, then back to work. Crazy day at the office. Is it 5pm yet???

  389. Soooo – question for the SB’s (of course I welcome any SD input as well!)…

    I have heard some SB’s that they connect with SD’s on regular dating sites. I am just curious about your experience with this (perhaps in comparison with finding a SD on SA) – what are the differences you encounter, how do you deal with broaching the topics of sugar dating and mutually beneficial and allowance and..lol.. etc…etc…what the hell do you say in your profile that keeps you from getting way too many emails to filter through?

    Just curious 😛 The task seems quite daunting to me…

  390. Dreamin – Yes in dire need! My younger bro and sis are supposed to be coming for a visit today – HOWEVER, we are getting our first REAL snowfall and they are about three hours away – so we will see…I would be happy delaying it for a day 😛

    Wine party?? Sounds like a BLAST! Do we all get to celebrate our morning headaches with each other as well? :)

  391. CA Dreamin SB says:

    Hey James – Glad you had a good holiday week

    ESB – Happy Birthday!

    I’m all in for the blog wine party and good for you Taz!!! Take it easy!

  392. Good Morning (afternoon) fam! Today, I have decided, to do ABSOLUTELY nothing. It has been soooo long! 😀

    Happy Birthday ESB!!!! Enjoy your day sweetie! :)

  393. photogirl says:

    Happy Birthday ESB!!! Hope you have a wonderful day!

  394. james.m says:

    Despite the copyright laws, let’s all join in and sing to ESB:

    Happy Birthday to you,
    Happy Birthday to you,
    Happy Birthday dear ESB,
    Happy birthday to you!

  395. james.m says:

    Well, I obviously missed a lot last night while recouperating.

    SDN – it looks like you’d be well advised to offer WINE instead of Happy Meals with the Snuggies!

    That might be an interesting blog party. Everyone sits down in front of their computer at the appointed time with a couple of glasses of wine, and let the fun begin! We’d better send a bottle to Stephen, too, just in case!

  396. Mina says:

    Hope everyone had a great holiday!

    How are you spending X-Mass and New Years?
    Spent Christmas in South America with my family (surprise courtesy of my father) and off to Cabo in a few hours for the remainder of the year – – and then some.

    Are you spoiling a sugar for the holidays? Care to share?
    I love gift giving moreso than receiving, probably because I’m so spoiled every other day of the year, I don’t mind sharing the wealth for one day 😉 But I did got some fantastic gifts this holiday. SD got me quite a few things (The most practical being airline gift certificates, ha) but my parents beat him to getting me the Fendi luggage I’ve wanted for a few weeks.

    How has your sugar search gone this December?
    I’ve had an SD for a few months now. And we are oh-so-good together.

  397. CA Dreamin SB says:

    Thanks – you have mail

  398. CA Dreamin SB says:

    Hello NYC SB

  399. NYC SB says:

    IRLSD – Find me that girl who is drop-dead gorgeous, has a MENSA-level IQ, and who has a great personality and I will divorce my wife and marry her

    Well idk if I am drop dead gorgeous but I do carry my MENSA id in my wallet… and I think I have a pretty kick ass no nonsense personality… let me know when your divorce is final 😉 kidding about the divorce part of course

    Also, you are the type of man that loves the thrill of the chase rather than the chase… so the Polish girl scenario will allow you to have that thrill while the SB from Xmas will give you the release you need… might work out well for a while…

    TXSB – you are so right… everyone claims they want long term … what that means its purely subjective IMHO… the SDs on the blog are a special breed of SDs and they really are looking for something long term, however I think that most men on SA define long term as “as long as it works for me” … cant really blame them… they have the allowance and they can call the shots

    Also… umm im glad “IT” was impressive… just wait till you get something that’s not even impressive at which point you say to yourself “really? This is your bragging right? Did you confuse inches with centimeters?”

    SweetRed – your input on the blog has been missed 😀

    NYGent – I think you are better of offering her a barter arrangement… legal advice for 3% of her settlement…

  400. CA Dreamin SB says:

    Good morning all!

  401. Midwest says:

    I’m off for some quality time. Bye for now!

  402. Midwest says:

    OMG – Did I miss the party last night in lieu of SLEEP???

    NYGent – CA suits you! Time to start telecommuting. Sorry it didn’t work out with Mrs. Woods, but good for you for sticking to your principals!

    AM – I liked Strangers on the Train. I believe there was a remake with James Woods & Elizabeth ??? That I enjoyed.

    2Chic – 3’9??? If he wears your 4″ heels he will almost come up to your waist!!

    TXSB – You’re no longer a pic virgin…aren’t those guys unreal?

  403. TXSB and 2Chic ~ Sounds like we have the same problem when we drink. I become a terrible flirt…..lol. At least I’m not an angry drunk :)

  404. Good morning everyone :)

    Slow morning today :)

  405. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Good morning all.

    MusicCityMistress Hi, nice to meet you. I have been MIA for months. Had to get treatment for blog addiction. See how well it worked, I am back sigh.

    I am now off to work. Lot’s of sick patients to see.

    Have a great day everyone!!

  406. SincereSD says:

    TXSB, I’ll be your cellmate for copyright infringement 😀

  407. SincereSD says:

    MY dedication to 2chic … Barry White in the background;

    Nothin?and nobody
    Baby, could ever take or stop
    The love
    that I have for you
    It’s very simple, you see it’s
    Baby, it’s real
    It’s so, so real
    What I feel

    I’ll do for you anything you want me to
    You’re my world, my hopes and dreams
    Without you, girl, it don’t mean a thing
    For you I’ll do anything you want me to
    You’re my world, my hopes and dreams
    Without you, girl, it don’t mean a thing

    I never thought that I would be knowin’eel the fire
    I’m burnin?up from one desire
    The thrill from loving you
    I can’t help myself, I swear it’s true

    I’ll do for you anything you want me to
    You’re my world, my hopes and dreams
    Without you, girl, it don’t mean a thing
    For you, girl, I’ll do anything you want me to
    You’re my world, my hopes and dreams
    And without you, girl, it don’t mean a thing

    I never thought that I would be feeling
    Love so strong for so long and still willin’no, no
    No, no

    I’ll do, girl, for you anything you want me to
    You’re my world, my hopes and dreams
    Without you, girl, it don’t mean a thing
    For you I’ll do

  408. SincereSD says:

    Hmm … TXSB that’s a perfect lead in for my response to Gemi …

    nycsb #2 says: 2. i hope this one is ok to ask: do you ladies take care of your business ‘down there’ before sleeping with a sd? or maybe the sds could chime in, do you men like it shaved or bald?

    Gemini29 says: 2. Erm. I like it Brazilian. And whenever I get a SD, that will definitely become part of the arrangement! lololololol…

    Ladies, speaking from experience I tell you that steel wool hurts more than razor burn 😯

    I believe there as another blog when this was asked before.

  409. TXSB says:

    *sigh* Yes..I’m serious. I tend to get very friendly if I drink too much….being single doesn’t help the situation. I desperately need to be supervised in those occassions…

  410. 2Chic says:

    OMG…. R U Serious!

    That is funny!…. You def need supervision, and I thought I was a handful…. lol

  411. TXSB says:

    LOL….I guess I’ll never know now! Good night!

    When I drink….the people around me become the object of my affection! :(

  412. 2Chic says:

    TxSb…. when I am out, and it’s not business related, which is rare, I have a glass of wine. Just glad to confirm that I am not the only one. But my word …. I do have a ball when I have a glass of wine and in the company of the object of my affection…. lol.

  413. NYGent says:

    welll it’s late even on the west coast, nite all.

  414. NYGent says:

    txsb: i guess the other point is how do you even know it was “him” and not lifted off some “other” site?

  415. TXSB says:

    I’m also a very “lightweight”, and I also become a very different person when buzzed…that’s why I’m very careful about how much I drink when I’m out.

  416. TXSB says:

    Good night!

    Oops… :( You’ll at least be happy to know that I didn’t tell him that I was impressed…lol. I literally just wrote “Unfortunately I do not think we’re compatible. I wish you luck in your search”. That’s it.

  417. DesertBunny says:

    Til’ tomorrow….

    Sleep well, Sugar’s!

  418. 2Chic says:

    TxSb… thanks… I am glad to hear about the alter ego, nice to know I am not the only one,…. for me I don’t have to drink “too much”, one drink and OMG…. a different me shows up. The men that have been lucky enough to taste my honey actually loves her. To the point of preferring her over the completely sober me. I was beginning to think something was mentally wrong with me… lol.

  419. NYGent says:

    txsb: even if you were impressed for god sake don’t say so, they will just keep doing it! i’m assuming (hoping) you didn’t tell him “very impressive but not my type.”

  420. TXSB says:

    I 3rd that (after DesertBunny)……about the explicit SDs hooking up with explicit SBs.

  421. DesertBunny says:

    I meant about them hooking up and leaving the rest of us alone 😉

  422. TXSB says:


    LOL….thanks. What can I say….great minds think alike… 😉 And yes, I have a alter ego when I drink…too much.

    LOL…b/c it *is* pretty and I *was* impressed….LOL. :) But aside from that, I definately don’t see this guy as a serious SD now. In fact, I already wrote him back and told him that I wish him luck in his search and I don’t think we’re compatible. I would NEVER send explicit pics to a pot SD…I have no idea why men out there think it’s ok for them to do it.

  423. DesertBunny says:

    NYGent – I second that!

  424. DesertBunny says:

    2Chic – You are very welcome, my dear. Enjoy!

    LASB – :)

  425. NYGent says:

    txsb: ahhhck! why would you post that you found it “pretty” and were “impressed?” you’ll just encourage such behavior!

  426. LASB says:

    Recovering from a last minute trip to Vegas and need to catch up on some zzzs. Goodnight all! Sweet sugary dreams!

  427. Yaz10 says:

    LOL NYGent is on a roll tonight….

  428. Yaz10 says:

    IRLSD~ Sounds like you are a dream SD….however I do not see the need for you to set up so many dates with other pots….If I were you I would focus on just one ( which is Polish girl since you seem to like her a lot) and if things dont work out then look for other sbs….IMO

  429. 2Chic says:

    Does anyone else have an alter ego when they drink alcohol. I totally do, and it is crazy!

  430. NYGent says:

    txsb: i can’t believe any guy would think sending such pics is a winning strategy. then again so many sbs post pics that are almost as explicit. maybe the two types should hook up and leave the rest of us alone.

  431. 2Chic says:

    TxSb… whats up baby girl!

    See you have been holding it down. Like your posts, and agree with you totally.

  432. TXSB says:

    Hey….been a while since I caught you here!

    Hahahahaha…..as a matter of face, it is “pretty”! I’m actually quite impressed….*blush* I just started my SD search a few days ago and this is the 1st time this has happened….I’m just shocked and amused.

  433. 2Chic says:

    Beach Girl… Ola Miha!

  434. LASB says:

    Hi Taz and TXSB. Glad you are still up keeping the bloggers company. :)
    TXSB hahahaha! Was it “pretty?” LOL!

  435. TXSB says:

    Hey Taz!!

    I’m literally laughing here reading all your posts about Mrs. Woods……..frigging hilarious!

    On a side note……I just got pics that I was expecting from a pot SD. Along with face pics, he decided to send some pics of his..umm…privates. I choked on my drink when I saw it…..was NOT expecting to see…*IT*!

  436. TXSB says:

    Hi to everyone…….just catching up ….hope everyone had a wonderful evening! :)

  437. LASB says:

    Good evening all! Just wanted to say hi. Lurking tonight. :)

  438. Hi AM! I am ok..tired..holidays have been looong lol..have yet another ‘Christmas’ to celebrate tomorrow…yes at my house – AGAIN. They are trying to volunteer my house for New Year’s too – gaahhhh lol…only if I get to leave for the night 😛

  439. 2Chic~ hey sugar sister! how are you?

  440. 2Chic says:

    Got it ,and thanks so much Desert Bunny, let me know if you will be there so I can introduce myself.

  441. CA Dreamin SB says:

    And I’m also headed off to bed…goodnight everyone

  442. CA Dreamin SB says:

    Goodnight IRLSD

  443. IRLSD says:

    going to bed. good night everyone

  444. Anna~ I might be here for lunch, i’ll let you know when i’m on…
    It has been a while!

  445. IRLSD – you have mail :)

    Gem – I have read that if a lot of people think really hard about one thing it can in fact manifest itself. Soooo…maybe ya’ll can concentrate on a super SD that takes care of all of our needs 😉 I AM willing to share with my sugar fam 😛

  446. Anna~ I am working until around 9pm tomorrow, I can mail you when i get home?

  447. IRLSD says:

    Gemini, if this Polish/Turkish girl doesn’t work out, I’ll just have to gallop over to you. My guess is that white horses don’t travel that fast, so be patient—it may be a while before you hear the gallop of my horse.

    Taz, you’ve got mail.

  448. I’m good! I want to catch up with you tomorrow. Will you be around?

  449. DesertBunny says:

    Beach_Girl – What’s up, pretty lady?

  450. Gemini29 says:

    Beach Girl – Maybe if we all wish together, at the same time, and make it the biggest strongest wish in the whole world….. a SD will get his wings. I mean, wait, we’ll all get a SD! 😀 😉

  451. Hi Anna~ i’m good how are you?

  452. CA Dreamin SB says:

    DB – you have mail :)

  453. We all wish we had a SD that would come Gemi, you are not the only one!

    Hi everyone!

  454. NYGent says:

    AM: I walk when I can. and yes i’ve been to and golfed in bermuda, very pretty island. and nice shorts they wear there . . .

    gemi: given your profile I doubt he can be very far away . . .

    taz: must be the different time zone for me . . .

  455. 2chic – NYGent is right – the munchkin story is priceless!!

    NYGent – you are full of piss n vinegar tonight – I, for one LOVE it!!

    IRLSD – you have GOT to email me. Eerie almost. I gave it to you earlier but haven’t heard from you. hotmail – spicensugar2009

  456. DesertBunny says:

    Hi SugarLand!

    Midwest – Ummm… I don’t know what happened to the Rose Bowl offer. I guess I missed that. Darn! But you and your SD should rendezvous in SoCal in Feb :)

    2Chic – You have mail :)

    CA Dreamin – You have mail :)

  457. I have got to give up and go to bed…..way too many typos..lol

  458. Gemini29 says:

    Mmmm sushi. Devious bloggers, whetting my appetite!

    how is everyone’s night going? I keep dreaming of my golden sugar daddy knight in shining armour…when will I find him?? Or he find me??

  459. CA Dreamin SB says:

    NYGent – yes, the weather here is part of the charm. I really do like it a lot

  460. Pars are nice! I miss golfing…I haven’t been in a long time! Maybe I should pick it up again.

    NYGen ~ Do you walk the course or do you cart it? Just curious :)
    Have you been to Bermuda? The have a beautiful golf course there.

  461. NYGent says:

    AM: no birds (although a heron was in my backyard, along with a bobcat) but a fair number of pars which is good enough for me.

  462. NYGent ~ Any birdies today? Hopefully not too many bogies and I certainly don’t see you asking for a mulligan.

  463. NYGent says:

    on the subject of lyrics: repeating them on the blog is all in good fun and harmless, but few people realize that taking even one line of a song or poem is potentially a copyright infringement. As ridiculous as it seems, the heirs of the guy who wrote the “Happy B-Day to you” song will sue a theater or film producer if the song is sung without permission and royalty payment . . .

  464. IRLSD says:

    Thank you Sweetredhead for your support. I am really not trying to use Polish girl. Even if it works out the way I hope, she will look back in life and thank God that she met me. It turns out that even though she’s Polish, she’s lived in Turkey her whole life, so if anyone is familiar with the culture of Polish-Turks, I’d appreciate it if they chime in, lol.

    Oatmeal cookie said, “Not to mention no woman, language barrier or not, is going to think, oh hey, you’re giving me 5K a month or paying my rent/tuition for 5-10 hours of my NON-sexually required time, for absolutely nothing but your good nature.” So what is she thinking exactly then? She knows this is not a real job. BTW, I left out her best text for some reason when I posted all of the other ones this morning: “Hopefully, you will also help me figure out myself.” OK, in what language can a girl say that to a guy and it not have any other connotations? And her English is not bad—her choice of words is very good, just some grammatical mistakes in terms of tense or conjugation of verbs.

    Now to update you all, I texted her in the evening, asking her how her work was today and telling her that I thought about her situation today and decided that if things pan out I’ll get her a car soon so she could get around easily and that I will sign her up for good GRE classes as it is most important that she concentrates on her education. She then said that she has been in the U.S. for two months and from the first day prayed that she would be given “a sign that will change everything in my life.” She was starting to give up and was even looking for return flights home when I showed up in her life. And now I am that sign. As she put it, “So you are sent to be my God to fulfill my dreams. But why me? Why did you come to a stranger girl to offer that much?” I ended up talking to her for about half an hour on the phone and talked about these same things. She wanted to push up our initial meeting to Tuesday instead of Wednesday and I agreed and said I’d pick her up from her place and drop her off there as well. And she did look me up on Google (thousands and thousands of hits to look at, none that I’ve run across that are bad). And no, she did not tell anyone else (friends, family, etc) about my offer.

    Now I agree with all of you who say that if I said I want sex to give her all this, she would refuse. But that is not the deal I am offering her. The deal is simple—I will take care of you and in return I will have the satisfaction of having been the angel in your life.

    Those who think she won’t fall for me forget the power of “the knight in shining armor who saves the princess trapped in a desperate dungeon” mentality in women. I am not going to sit back either. There will be plenty of innuendo and flirtation that will make her wonder how I feel and thereby arouse her curiosity. I’ve used this method in the past and it has worked (just wasn’t planned out before).

    Plus, think of other issues I’ve exploited time and again. Lonely girl in foreign land. Boredom. Minimum-wage job. Lack of transportation in a city where you need a car to even get to the grocery store. In reality, women in these situations are dying for someone to save them from all this misery. And for any SB on this site to claim that they would refuse my offer is a little funny to me—then what is she looking for? The reality is that there is a little SB hidden in every woman.

  465. 2Chic says:

    NY Gent…. Dear, I will have to accept the label “shallow”, nothing against little people… but just not for me…. vivid flash backs of him licking his lips to kiss me… ugh! What a horrible, horrible memory!

  466. LOL…I didn’t repeat the whole song so maybe they’ll let me off with a warning.

    North by Northwest is a great film. As a matter of fact, I like most of Hitchcock’s films. Although, I really didn’t like Strangers on a Train too much.

  467. NYGent says:

    2chic: you mean you don’t go for 3 foot 9 men, how shallow of you!

  468. NYGent says:

    CA Dreamin: hope we have continued good weather this week but not sure . . . rugged weather is part of the “charm” of this out of the way place, anyway.

  469. CA Dreamin SB says:

    North by Northwest – what a great flick – easily one of my personal top 5

  470. NYGent says:

    AM: watch the lyrics copying the feds will be after you just like yaz and I can only post so much bail . . .

    as for Hitchcock there are so many I find it impossible to rank, my fave is North by Northwest followed by several tied for #2 and several others at #3. I believe Midwest is also a hitch aficiondo.

    sorry is this is repost, others didnt go thru.

  471. 2Chic says:

    running really fast now , covering my ears and screaming…”make it stop, make it stop!”

  472. 2Chic ~

    We represent the Lollipop Guild
    The Lollipop Guild, the Lollipop Guild.
    And in the name of the Lollipop Guild
    We wish to welcome you to Munchkin Land

    sound familier? lol

  473. 2Chic says:

    If anyone mentions Willy Wonka Chocolate Factory or Wizard of Oz…. don’t mind me…. I will be in the corner lying in a fetal position with thumb in mouth.

  474. 2Chic says:


    a lesson learned well on my behalf…. lol

  475. Hmmm, think I’m just a little tired considering I completely messed up the previous post.

  476. NYGent says:

    2chic: i remember that story, still one of the all time best on the blog.

  477. NYGent ~ Wizard of Oz is one of my all time favorite films of all time. Included in my all time favorites list is: Casablanca, Gone with the Wind and Psycho :)

    There are a bunch more, but I don’t feel like writing the whole list :)

  478. 2Chic says:

    Every time I think of the Wizard of Oz, I recall the horrible meet I had with the POT who looked like one of the little people in the Oz……..(having mental flashbacks…going to lay down in fetal position).

  479. Boston Honey says:

    NYGENT- I think Ms. Woods is hanging with John Daly already… He signed his autograph for her in the beer tent and Enquirer already saw them together while hmmm mmm Mr. Woods was filming the Tag ad….LOL He must have beat you too it. Although, I am sure you can be SD#2…ya’ just gotta’ be quicker….


    Good night all. Bon anniversaire ESB! Maybe you will get a trench coat for your birthday.

  480. NYGent says:

    AM: wizard of oz is clearly one of the top 10 films ever made. #6 and #10 in the two AFI top 100 lists.

  481. Yaz10 says:

    Lmaoooo NYGent you crack me up! :-)

  482. I’m supposed to be in bed, but I just had to check in one more time. I just finished watching Wizard of Oz, of course, I picked it up towards the end…..sigh.

  483. NYGent ~ Seems as though we are in the same boat…..here’s a paddle :)

  484. CA Dreamin SB says:

    NYGent – Awww, I’m sorry. I really thought you two might have something. I can’t beleive she wanted a free test drive! She wasn’t even willing to give you 1/2 months allowance first?

  485. 2Chic says:

    Happy Birthday to ESB! Yay! (horns and confetti filling the air)

  486. NYGent says:

    well Mrs. Tiger poofed on me so I am back. I really don’t understand, we were getting along so well by email and phone calls, discussing our mutual interests in foreign films, sushi, even golf, prior relationships including her stint as a nanny for Jasper Parnevik. She even “implied” that she was preparing to offer me an arrangement. Then she started dropping hints about a “trial period” and I made clear that, even if 3% of $500 million = $15 million, there would be NO FREE TEST DRIVES! After that I never heard from her again. I mean, was I wrong to stick to my principles? Honestly some of these people, I just don’t get it . . . Sigh . . .

  487. Midwest says:

    I’m off to bed as well. Goodnight sugars!

  488. CA Dreamin SB says:

    Happy Birthday ESB

  489. Midwest says:

    Oopsy –
    He doesn’t grasp that dating can entail someone leaving your life as quickly as they entered it.

  490. I’m off to bed. I think I’ll watch an old movie and drift off to sleep. TTYL

  491. Midwest says:

    ESB – Happy Birthday! Have a cupcake with a candle at lunch from all of us! Sorry, but these are the kind of surprises that I’m not willing to share :-) Sweet dreams!

  492. Midwest says:

    I have to say I completely agree about bringing a child to any date, but specifically a sugar date. It goes back to expectations in the sugar worldm providing that place of peace, and no drama. She should arrange the date when her child can be with someone. I don’t introduce my son to 90% of the men I meet in any dating scenario. There was one time that I did, due to travelling arrangements, and I regret it now. He doesn’t grasp that dating can entail someone leaving into your life as quickly as they entered it.

  493. ESB says:

    Midwest: Wonderful surprises? Do tell!! Send me the details girl… I’m living through you vicariously!! So close to having my own SD, but yet, so far away… Good night everyone… have fun. Hate that I keep popping on then having to leave. Just to much going on these days!!

  494. ESB says:

    Mid, I have NO idea what I’m going to wear them with, besides a hot number for private viewing only I have yet to wear… told my BFF about them and she suggested it with my trench coat! :) Now, if I just had someone to do that for!! lol…

    I will probably wear them under dress slacks for work on cold days to help keep my legs warm. Or a wool skirt… Gotta look professional when I work, usually wear skirts and a jacket/blazer. This time of year, those boots will come in handy keeping me warm.

    I need to run. Gotta get up early and back to the office in the AM. Totally sucks because tomorrow is my b-day. :( Really don’t want to go to work. Had so much fun with my kids this weekend… Baby Girl wants me to play hookey and hang out with her and watch movies and eat junk food all day… sounds like much more fun than being on the phone all day. sigh… guess I gotta grow up

  495. ESB – I LOVE boots! Teehee..how can I not – I am from Canada right?!

  496. 2Chic- you got mail…

    IRL SD – I have no doubt at all that you are a witty and charming man..trustworthy as well. This is no slight against you or any other SD, even if I knew a man very well and trusted him, if something is NSA, why would you want to expose your children to that?

    Photo/Yaz – right there with you ladies! I am a mom and would NEVER bring my child on a first date…or any sugar date for that matter…I am not one to judge, but I would never expose my child(ren) to someone I did not know and was not comfortable with – JMO…and don’t want many people in and out of her life…definitely not for her well being…again JMO. I understand some people are ‘stuck’ and without help or options – perhaps in that case the SD can offer 20.00 for a babysitter?? It may not bother the SD or the mother, but it will have some kind of impact on the child…

    ESB – lol…we all love you – no manners required 😉

  497. Midwest says:

    ESB – Hi! My weekend was full of wonderful surprises! I love the knee high boots – haven’t found any though. What do you think you will wear them with? I did find a great pair of fmps at Aldo for a deal :-)

  498. ESB says:

    OOps, my bad, AM, CA, 2Chic, Taz, and anyone I missed, Good evening!! I’m so excited about my boots, I totally forgot my manors!!

  499. ESB says:

    NY Gent: about Mrs. Tiger Woods.. go for it and I wish you the best of luck!! LMAO!! You are too funny!!

    Midwest, How was your weekend?

    About boots and dresssing up.. my daughter works are Bass outlet.. thre is this darling pair of boots I love, $120. Well, with the sale and her family discount.. I scored a sweet pair of knee hight leather boots for a mere $25!!! Yea, I love my kids!! 😉

  500. CA Dreamin SB says:

    DB – send me the info if you don’t mind – slmc71 at yahoo

  501. Midwest ~ I’m good! Thanks :)

  502. 2Chic says:

    Desert Bunny,
    Send me the link please with sugar on top, sugarandchic at aol.

    ..lol .. Glad you feel me … always trust your intuition, it is there for a reason.

  503. Midwest says:

    DB – Keep us posted! What ever happened to the Rose Bowl offer from an sd out your way?

    Hi AM! Having some quiet time. Very nice weekend. How are you?

    CASB – That’s a great question. I’d like to know the same from the married sbs/sds…how often are their spouses home; do they have an open marraige; how often do they think they can get away in a month. I know this is a touchy subject and would suggest to post your answers as anonymous so nobody can give you any grief. I’ve seen some fallout about married sbs and do not want to repeat those hard feelings. This is simply out of curiousity.

  504. CA Dreamin SB says:

    DesertBunny – I tried to email you and it bounced!

  505. What is everyone up to tonight?

  506. DesertBunny says:

    Midwest – Hi! I posted a link for CA Dreamin to an amazing party in SF that a friend of mine is throwing, but I forgot that I am not supposed to do that… bad bunny! So I will send it to her privately if she is interested (and to anyone else as well). However, I am planning a SoCaL meetup in Feb!!

  507. TT (AKA Tantalizing Taz) says:

    Hi 2Chic – I know girl..something does not feel right…your intuition is in high gear too 😉

  508. CASB says:

    Questions for the SBs: It seems like many of you have BF’s and look for SD’s. Do your BF’s know or how do you manage to keep it completely hidden? (I don’t have a BF, I’m just curious) Or if you didn’t have a BF prior to a SD, do you continue to look for a BF while dating a SD?

  509. Boston Honey says:

    I wanted to add that I don’t pounce on someone in the first email and say, “Who are you? What do you do?” If our email exchange is substantial then I ask a lot of fun questions, they answer and ask back questions too and we both share a lot of great information. Then, we usually talk and or text on the phone and set up a time to meet for dinner, spa date, etc… By that time, I usually know a lot about the SD and they of me too. We usually have already seen each others other professional profiles too and I love that, I love having a mentor or someone to maybe call in the future with a question. I am all about networking….ha ha… I want long term and will source the right SD for me and find out what they want and hope they have similar goals too. Of course this may not work in all cases but safety is my number one goal.

    I have had 2 stalkers. I know friends and women who have been raped. I have had fellow students beat up and raped and it is not a good scene. I have been following the underground stories of recent rapes in Boston, on the T, and in parking lots of major hotels. I have volunteered in Women’s Shelters over the years and through my career seen and heard a lot of things that were just horrible.

    Thus, I really hope that each and every SD and SB is always safe, smart, and no one gets hurt and has a fantastic time! Each of us will have our own requirements for meeting. Some people like the thrill and excitement of a total stranger and kudos to you! That just isn’t my style…. That is what makes the SugarBowl go round and round…. Here is to Sugar in 2010.

    XO, Boston Honey

  510. CASB says:

    LASB – I’m just E of the 405 and just N of the 101 :)

  511. Midwest says:

    DB -Hi! what are you putting together?

  512. DesertBunny says:

    Ooops! I forgot that I’m not allowed to post that….

    CA Dreamin – I have info on a couple of parties in the bay on NYE…
    I hope everyone is well!

  513. MusicCityMistress (MCM) says:

    Hi 2Chic and Cakepatty40 :)

    Wow, it’s obvious I have missed quite a bit on the blog, too much for me to try and catch up on.

  514. CA Dreamin SB says:

    Midwest – I know exactly how you feel – recently sold the first car I ever bought with my own money. I was sad to see it go – but got a much new, much nicer one. Still felt bad to watch ‘her’ drive away!

  515. MusicCityMistress (MCM) says:

    Ca Dreamin: Hi :) Fishermans Wharf sounds like a lot of fun!!

    Midwest: Hi:) I am glad you had a nice weekend.

    Sweetredhead: I don’t believe I have met you before, I have been MIA since the holidays. Hi :)

  516. 2Chic says:

    Good Evening Sugas,

    Very interesting posts, I will ignore a few. Something just doesn’t feel right with it.

    Eastern SB… thanks for the advice, I will talk it over with him and see if he is willing to work with me. I know he will want to kiss me, and I may not be able to handle a smell of smoke and nicotine… ughh!.

  517. Midwest says:

    CA Dreamin – I do. I was very sentimental about the old one. I feel like I’m betraying her…silly,isn’t it? It’s not a new car – just newer. It’s nice though and was the right price. Let’s hope for no more accidents.

  518. cakepatty40 says:

    Oatmeal cookie- that was so well said. A beautiful young girl could easily find a SINGLE man who will offer her the same thing

  519. CA Dreamin SB says:

    Midwest! New car – that’s great! I know it’s sad to get rid of the old one – but don’t you love the new one?

  520. Midwest says:

    Hi CA Dreamin, MCM!

    I’d like to have a quiet NYE curled up to my SD. I’m not sure what the plans are yet. Things need to fall into place soon.

    I did get to replace my car – somewhat bittersweet.

  521. CA Dreamin SB says:

    Hi MCM (you too Midwest)!

    I’m trying to find something to do here in SF for New Years…maybe something down at Fishermans Wharf

  522. MusicCityMistress (MCM) says:

    Hi Sweet Sugars!

    I hope everyone had a great weekend :)

    How are you spending X-Mass and New Years?

    Lots of parties and family gatherings…

  523. CA Dreamin SB says:

    And decimal point being off or not – 3% of a boatload is still a boatload!

  524. CA Dreamin SB says:

    NYGent – on a separate note – I can’t beleive you’d choose a Swedish millionairess over us!

  525. NYGent says:

    taz: hey if i pull off this gig there will be more than enough $$ to go around to sustain all bloggers, as in “drinks are on me!”

  526. CA Dreamin SB says:

    NYGent – thank you for the laughter…let us know if that works out for you.

  527. Midwest says:

    Hi Taz! MY weekend will require some recovery time!

    NYGent- You make my day! Very funny :-)

  528. TT (AKA Tantalizing Taz) says:

    Hi Midwest – how was YOUR weekend 😉

  529. TT (AKA Tantalizing Taz) says:

    LMAO – NYGent…can I tag along and be a SB?? Think she would go for that??? I am nearly certain with your charm and wit she would be thrilled :)

  530. Midwest says:

    Evening sugars! Hope everyone is well!

  531. NYGent says:

    here was my initial email to her:

    “Ms Elin, I stumbled across your profile and think we might be a match. My search criteria are 29, blonde, athletic, modeling experience, “european,” billionaireness — and what do you know, you popped up! This can’t just be coincidence, can it? I have several more pics if you’re interested, looking forward to hearing from you!”

  532. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    Good evening everyone

    Read my lips “NO FREE TESTDRIVES”

  533. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    mimi ask him for clarification. It could mean many things. Giving you an allowance for a months trial, or Nothing and want to be intimate and see how that goes first before he decides financial support. I would be careful with the later. I have heard many stories. They get what they want from you and you never hear from them again.

  534. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    lol he does aim high.

  535. Yaz10 says:

    LOL NYGent you are such a golddigger 😉

  536. Yaz10 says:

    Wait a minute!! SHE IS GETTING 500 MILLION??????? OMG! I thought I heard 55 millions…..Never knew Tiger was a billionaire…wow…

  537. NYGent says:

    mimi: a “trial period” is fine as long as he pays you the allowance, or say half of it, up front. otherwise no deal . . .

  538. NYGent says:

    yaz: you’re off by a decimal, it’s 3% of 500 million (but very negotiable if there’s “chemistry,” or for that matter even if there isn’t . . .

  539. Yaz10 says:

    Mimi~ A subtle way of saying he wants a test drive maybe?….

  540. mimi says:

    Merry belated Christmas to you all.

    Met up with a pot today and he said something that confused me and I wasn’t sure how to ask him for a clarification and I’m hoping you ladies and gents will be able to help with clearing it up for me. He said he’d like a “trail period” before he decided on a set arrangement with me. What is he referring to?

  541. Yaz10 says:

    hummm whats 3% of 55 millions? Hehe NYGent you lucky guy 😀

  542. TT (AKA Tantalizing Taz) says:

    LMFAO NYGent – you would leave us that easily?? **SNIFF SNIFF**

  543. NYGent says:

    CA Dreamin: I played well, one little grip adjustment made all the difference.

    Mrs. Tiger Woods: NOW will you marry me? (see prior post) Or at least be my SM? Or really, whatever arrangement you want, you name it. My financial requirements are minimal, 3% of whatever you end up with is plenty. And I PROMISE to leave the site and not even look at another SB.

    P.S. bloggers, if this works out it’s been nice knowing you, good luck . . .

  544. Yaz10 says:

    NYGent~ I’ll keep your number on speed dial just in case I get caught lol :-)

  545. Yaz10 says:

    TXSB you got mail :-)

  546. TT (AKA Tantalizing Taz) says:

    Agreed Sweetred – of course there are always exceptions to every rule..but for the most part I would have to agree.

  547. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    One of the problem I think Sd’s are facing is they expect 18,19,20 year old girls to act like mature woman. No offense to any of you who are that age. Maturity plays in that also.

  548. TT (AKA Tantalizing Taz) says:

    Hi everyone!

    IRLSD – I have some thoughts on your situation that I have refrained from commenting on thus far, and will continue to refrain from doing so on the blog. If you are interested in hearing my thoughts – I’m at hotmail – spicensugar2009 :)

    OK back to catching up 😛

  549. CA Dreamin SB says:

    TXSB – you are too funny

  550. My perfect SD is out there too. I just wish he would tell me where he is :)

  551. NYGent ~ You’ll find her :)

  552. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    I agree TXSB. I also do not require full names when I meet in a public place and local. It is not necessary.

  553. TXSB says:

    Umm…above please insert “buy you a drink” after “having a random guy”…..I just re-read it and that just sounds bad. For the record, I don’t *have* random guys at bars!

  554. TXSB says:

    Re: Knowing SDs names
    Now I know we all have different “rules” when it comes to pot SDs….but here is what I “follow”. So far all my pot SD meetings have been local….I always meet them in a public place. I don’t require that a pot SD give me his full name, work info. etc…..b/c I can understand why many SDs would hesitate due to privacy reasons. It’s not different than going to bar and having a random guy…..if a guy “hits” on me at a bar or club, I don’t require he reveal his full name, work info. etc. before I sit down and talk to him for an hour or so.

    I’m in no danger physically by meeting a man in a restaurant or bar for a few hours……I think if I require a SD to give me his full name, work info. etc. before the 1st date, then I should be willing to do the same. And to be honest, I’m not comfortable sharing my full name and other info. with a man I’ve never met. Of course, if the SD offers me an arragement, then he definately has to share his full name, work etc. just b/c I won’t be alone in a room with someone without knowing their info….

    Keeping in mind I’m only sharing my PERSONAL experience/expectations with local SDs. If I were meeting a long distance SD where I had to fly to his area…then of course I wouldn’t go to a strange place without knowing his information first.


    Off to meet friends…..see ya’ll later. :)

  555. TXSB says:

    Yaz & Photogirl:
    Although the idea of a SB bringing her baby on the 1st date sound horrible to you guys (and also to me)…somehow I don’t think it’s that rare. My ex-SD also told me that one time, one of his SBs brought her baby on their “1st date”.

    Awww…..I’m sure you’ll find her when you least expect it!

    NYC #2:
    I use my regular cell # and so far, never had any issues. But there have been times when I asked for the SDs # and called him with my # blocked for the 1st convo…so that’s always an option if you don’t want to get a 2nd phone.

  556. Boston Honey says:

    OC-excellent advice! Points well taken. I also agree with you and have said it before. I need a first and last name too and I want to know who you are, what you do, and the company you own. I do my due diligence as you all should too. I have even suggested to a few SD’s on SA to change their location, email, and profile as this tech savy girl figured out who they were in minutes. They did change their online profiles and emails and thanked me. At first I understand privacy but SB’s please be smart!!!

    Always let someone know where you are going…. Meet in public, don’t drink too much!

    IRLSD- I like one fact and that is you don’t hide who you are to the real deal SB. I don’t see anything wrong with her knowing your company. It all comes down to mutual respect. IMO.

    OC—- XOXO. (((hugs baby girl))))…. BH. :-)

  557. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Ugggh the saints lost. They were doing so well and they blew it!!

  558. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    nycsb #2 I ask for their # and when I call them I block mine. I think an sd would be considerate for our safety.

  559. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    IRLSD why are you trying so hard to explain your actions? If you are comfortable with your choices then you do not need approval from anyone. We all make choices and we have to live with them. To me you seem like a pretty decent man. Honest to a fault too lol. Yes I say fault because I am always getting myself into trouble with my honesty also.

    It is great that you are here and asking advice and getting feedback. It really does put prospective on things and let’s us see a different point of view. Sometimes we even adjust the way we are doing things, because what we did not see before becomes a little clearer when talking it out with others.

    One thing you have to remember when you see the comments here, we are woman and we are very protective of each other. If we know them or not. WE have all been down the road with an Sd who was not above board. I think sometimes we can be a bit bias. You know how it goes “men are dogs” lol.

    I enjoy your stories and posts. They make me laugh :)

  560. oatmeal cookie says:

    IRLSD — I think actually you are reading her words as what YOU’D like her to mean. When, really, her words mean exactly what they say-
    She says she wants something not only materially rewarding but emotionally fulfilling and that also she wants to interact with people in order to come into her “own” and discover herself — in your job, she won’t be interacting with people but actually being “discreet” and hidden away and far from a professional and legitimate job she can place upon her resume as real life work experience.
    I think she will decline your offer if she discovers what it truly entails.
    She sounds like a girl who wants more than a mall kiosk job, and she truly believes in working hard, legitimate work to achieve her goals.. particularly because she’s not just putting herself through community college but through a Master’s degree.
    I’m sure if she wanted something easy, that merely required her beauty and body she’d have considered being a stripper and making fast cash.
    Not to mention no woman, language barrier or not, is going to think, oh hey, you’re giving me 5K a month or paying my rent/tuition for 5-10 hours of my NON-sexually required time, for absolutely nothing but your good nature.
    Entering a contract like that, and she will know exactly what it means. And if she doesn’t, she’ll still feel obligated to oblige you as you’d like..
    I highly doubt if you just sit back she’s going to fall into your lap in love. And it sounds like you’ll be waiting for her to make the first move.
    She seems young and innocent, but not that kind of girl.

    And I say all that from personally experience. I’m a young, beautiful girl. I’ve always gone to prep schools, then later a top 10 college, entered a top 10 MA program- studied abroad, speak a handful of languages, and work in a field that requires security clearances that I was recruited while abroad in my late teens.
    I would not entertain your offer.
    It involves too much risk. If you just state exactly what you want, let her decide if she’ll take it or not. Otherwise, leave the “employment” opprotunity out of it, that’s just bait. Say you’ll pay her rent and tuition and you merely want friendship. If it evolves from there, wonderful. If not, you do have to take that risk..

  561. always2sweet says:

    granted I am a less experienced person on the blog, but I dont see the harm in asking for the sd’s #. the only problem I can forsee is that sd’s seem to be a lot more private about sharing their information as well. Are you sure you cant go get a prepaid? If you have a walgreens near you, they sell track phones for like $20. Im sure that a CVS or even a walmart or something of the sort offer something simillar

  562. CA Dreamin SB says:

    NYCSB – You can get a cell phone without a contract from WalMart and use it. You can also call them and block your number so it doesn’t show up. Just depends on how you’d like to handle it.

    Another option is skype.

  563. nycsb #2 says:

    i have an urgent question: several sds have asked for my number but i don’t feel comfortable giving it out. i read other blogs saying to get a prepaid phone or google voice, which is n/a. what’s the next best option? should i ask for their number and call from a blocked number?

  564. CA Dreamin SB says:

    Update: I have sunshine!!!! YEA!!!

  565. CA Dreamin SB says:

    NYGent – you should have let me know you were going golfing – I would have come up and enjoyed some of that sun and driven you around in the golf cart 😉

  566. always2sweet says:

    NY Gent ~ I work on a golf course as a course bartender during the summer, and I see a LOT of people golfing when Im sure they should be at the office haha.

    Im so jealous of all you people getting some sun, it has seriously been a winter wonderland here. I mean ridiculous amounts of snow!

  567. CA Dreamin SB says:

    NY Gent – I’m jealous! I don’t have any sun at all! You know, I’ve noticed all I have to do is hop in the car and drive 15 miles north and the weather is completly different! Hope you had a great round!

  568. NYGent says:

    yaz: one step ahead of the cops, eh?

    txsb: i wouldn’t know, i’ve never had an sb that perfect, still searching for her . . .

    ca dreamin: so we finally got some sun, yay! it got me on the golf course when should have been working . . .

  569. always2sweet says:

    Hey all! A very belated Merry Christmas to everyone! How was everyones Holiday?!?!?! I got stuck at my sister inlaws, and then at my sister’s….twas a VERY snowey Christmas in the Cornhusker state!

  570. Sweetpea says:

    the right one? friends forever? Happy ever after? To be honest, haha… I am not sure about myself.

  571. TXSB says:

    I need to ask you something in private……

  572. IRLSD says:

    Sweetpea, believe me, I am sincere. I just can’t keep it going forever with someone who is either too sticky or who is just obviously abusing me for cash and who treats me like an ATM machine. In the past I had an IRL SB in a position similar to Polish chick and it was a miraculous experience and it lasted quite some time. If I am seeing way too many SBs now, it is because I’ve decided to play a number’s game. If I need to meet 100 SBs to find the one right one, so be it. But once I find the right one, she’ll be the joy of my life and we’ll remain friends forever.

  573. IRLSD says:

    Now, I want to add that I may not have been very descriptive or accurate about my initial encounter with Polish chick, which probably lasted 2-3 minutes, at most 5. She works at a toy kiosk at the mall and the exchange is more or less as follows:

    Me, “Hi, I was looking for a Christmas gift for my niece and nephew and was wondering which of these is the most popular model.”

    Her, “Well, for girls this one and for boys this one.”

    Me, “I like this one for boys, but not so much the girl one.”

    Her, “How about this one or this one?”

    Me, “Yes, I like this one.”

    Now going to the check-out counter, I hand her my credit card (and actually I was a little nervous or even shaky which is very very unusual for me around women):

    Me: “To be honest, I am an xxx (a type of well-paid professional) in xxx part of town (where the best of such professionals would be found) and I actually drove all the way up here (a 45 minute drive) just for you. My friend met you here and told me about you and so I had to drive up here to meet you because I am looking to hire someone and he thought that you are what I am looking for.”

    Her, “Great! After Christmas I was planning on looking for a new job… (and then goes into her educational background and graduate school plans).”

    Me, “Well, I’d need you for just 5-10 hours a week and will pay you this ($5000/month scribbled on the back of my business card).”

    Her, “May I ask what the job is?”

    Me, “E-mail or text me and I’ll tell you all the details.”

    Her, “OK, I’ll e-mail you for sure.”

    So this was the extent of our exchange. And the e-mail and cell number on the back of the card are clearly different from the e-mail and office number on the front. Unless she is an idiot, she looked me up online and saw that I really was who I said I was and then in my e-mail I told her I wanted a personal assistant to run errands with me. So this is the proper background to the text messaging today.

  574. Sweetpea says:

    IRLSD: I think u don’t seem to be a sincere SD, u like the challenge but please be thoughtful of the hurt you may bring to others although to you n in your mind, Money can do all the wonder for u. Just my two cents. :)

  575. IRLSD says:

    Photogirl, what I was referring to earlier with the few e-mails exchanged back and forth was the Christmas day SB with whom I hit it off awesome, but this other one was the Christmas eve SB and I was not intimate with her. Christmas eve SB met me at the mall and then we went to my place. Christmas day SB just came straight over to my place (everywhere was closed). And yes, in both cases we had exchanged a few e-mails over an hour or two. Polish girl is different from either of these. The other SB who brought a baby brought her four month old to Starbucks to meet me.

    But don’t judge them harshly. I think if any of you met me for fifteen minutes, I’d have you at ease enough where you’d come home with me and not be worried one bit about me. It’s just how I am. I think it is my profession (don’t ask what) that makes me able to put people at enough ease within just a few seconds to trust me with anything. All it takes is a genuine look in someone’s eyes and a nice smile and everyone is at ease. But the key is that it is always genuine, never fake. Also, in some cases (not these two latest ones), I let people know my name and if they look me up they’d know they have nothing to worry about. People in my capacity just don’t do dumb things (OK, other than sugar-dating, lol).

  576. photogirl says:

    IRLSD – 2nd time??? This really bothers me. As a mother myself I cannot imagine ever taking my children(at any age) on a first date… ever!

  577. cakepatty40 says:

    IRSD- You probably won’t get herpes if you use protection which I hope all married and attached men do to protect their unsuspecting partners who trust them with their health and safety

  578. Sweetpea says:

    oh..IRLSD–I refer to your polish girl, gosh this post response is fast and hard to catch up :)

  579. Yaz10 says:

    Oh my God…..I will not comment any further on this…..

  580. IRLSD says:

    Yaz, yup, second time someone brought a baby to a first date from SA.

    CA Dreaming, the beauty of bad English is that it allows both sides to say a lot and leave a lot of hints without the other side being sure what was really meant. That creates curiosity, which leads to the challenge of figuring out the truth, which leads down the road I am taking her. This is exactly how it worked for me before, lol.

  581. Sweetpea says:

    IRLSD: That sounds like you seem to have a good chance.. :) In fact, to be frank, I do hope that she is accepting your offer if she is clear what is involved since you are genuine in wanting to help her.

  582. photogirl says:

    IRL SD – If I remember correctly you said you exchanged a few emails back and forth earlier in the day with this pot SB and then met that evening(Christmas Eve)… I am floored that she would bring her child to a first date and only talking with you for less than a day.

  583. Yaz10 says:

    Please pardon what I am about to say but…….she let a COMPLETE STRANGER play with her baby????????? I am NOT saying you could be some kind of weirdo or cold blooded killer but that was a HUGE risk on her part! You just dont bring your child to a first date!!!!!!!
    I am only 23 and I dont have any kids but there is no way in hell I would do that! I know you were “bored and lonely” but then you could have just asked someone else to keep you company!
    Sorry but I am shaking my head in disbelief here…….

  584. CA Dreamin SB says:

    IRLSD – I’m on the fence on this one – some things she said seem like she might have an idea of what you want…but then, that could be issues with the English language and the words she chooses.

  585. Yaz10 says:

    IRLSD~ She brought her baby to a first date????????

  586. IRLSD says:

    Reading through my own exchange that I posted again, it almost sounds like she was hinting at things and I was the one tempering it. Probably the opposite of what everyone would expect from me or what I should have done. Any help deciphering what she meant. Is she totally innocent and I am over-reading into things? Or does she have the intuition to figure out what I am after?

  587. IRLSD says:

    Boston Honey, the pros usually have very provocative professional pictures and profiles with few words and lots of sexual innuendo.

    Actually I met someone on Christmas eve from the site who was treading a fine line with being an escort. She told me about a site where she’d get texts asking her to meet up with a complete stranger and then the guy would ask for sex and offer some paltry sum (less than $100) and she’d suggest more and the guy wouldn’t have it so she’d give them a blow job or something instead and supposedly never slept with any of them. She got scared after meeting a few guys that way and quit only to join SA. I was lonely and bored and so I offered her $500 to spend X-mas eve with me till about 10 PM and her immediate answer was that she’d feel uncomfortable having sex with me with her baby there and it would be hard to find a nanny on the spot (yes, she brought her baby to the first date as I had told her it was OK). I told her it’s fine, I just wanted her company because I was bored. Mostly I ended up just playing with her adorable baby and it made for a wonderful X-mas eve for me. But she epitomizes the fine line that exists on the shadier side of sugar-dating.

  588. Sweetpea says:

    Yaz10: haha…yes yes… I think so too. “*cough* tiger woods* cough* lol ( I mean look at his wife and look at his mistresses; in the looks and class department they are day and night….Enough said…)”

  589. CA Dreamin SB says:

    IRLSD – very interesting exchange…

  590. IRLSD says:

    OK, Polish pot found her missing cell phone and started texting me this morning. We are meeting at a French restaurant on Wednesday and the following exchange occured (I have corrected her grammar/usage so it is easier to understand):

    Her: “Hi [Joe], it is [Jane]. Thank God, a friend of mine found my phone yesterday. In adition, i read your e-mail yesterday, I like French cuisine very much, for me it is perfect. Have a nice day.”

    Me: “Hi [Jane]. I’m glad you found your phone and that you like French food. Are you in your masters program now or you plan on starting soon?”

    Her: “I am planning to start a master’s program in a year. Now, I am just saving money and starting to prepare for the GRE.”

    Me: “OK. Sounds great. Which university are you planning to attend?”

    Her: “If I get my way, my goal is xxx University xxx program.”

    Me: “Wonderful.”

    Her: “I have a lot of questions on my mind. While I work and interact with people, my aim is to figure out who I am.”

    Me: “Lol. We never figure out who we are.”

    Her: “I know, but partly I just want to find an occupation in which I will be self-actualized and satisfied not only materially but also emotionally.”

    Me: “To be honest, it is very important to me that you pursue your degree and your goals.”

    Me: “Yes, that is very important. You need to stand strong on your own feet after school. I love my work, my employees, and my life. I hope that for everyone and try to help people have that as well.”

    Then we just talked about her going to work today and whether she’d be able to meet today or not, but she was worried that she might be kept well after closing and would hate to cancel on me so Wednesday would be better.

    Now, is it just me or some of the things she said funny things to bring up to a potential employer, primarily about discovering herself? Also, I am not used to being called by my first name by my employees. I guess that is normal at the mall. Or maybe it’s normal in Poland.

    I think we are headed towards having a very confused SD on our hands, lol.

  591. TXSB says:

    OMG…I’m so sorry to hear about your friend! :( I agree…meeting pot SDs should always be done in a public place….no exceptions.

    Of course I don’t mind you answering my question. :) I actually really like your response.


    Hmm…funny….I always thought of sugar dating a certain way. I know I’m very new to this “world” but yet….I had certain expectations from a “good SD” and I had a certain way of conducting myself as a SB. But my views on SDs (on what they say and how I treat them), and also my thoughts on how to conduct myself as a SB has totally changed. I now wish I knew many of these “lessons” months ago….but oh well. As a friend always said…..such is life…

  592. CA Dreamin SB says:

    Morning Yaz

    I don’t think it’s a bad thing to be the type of SB the SD’s say they want…you just have to keep them wanting more :)

  593. Yaz10 says:

    Morning everyone :-)

    NYGent~ no I am not behind bars yet lol

  594. Yaz10 says:

    TXSB: I know your question is directed to SDs but I would like to answer it if you dont mind…
    The answer is yes…
    Yes because if the SB is just too “perfect” and predictable then they will get “bored” with her after a few weeks or months. The grass always seems greener on the other side no matter what we have. Men are hunting creatures and love the “thrill” of chasing after something new. Even men with perfect and gorgeous wives sometimes end up seeking a different type of women outside of their marriage *cough* tiger woods* cough* lol ( I mean look at his wife and look at his mistresses; in the looks and class department they are day and night….Enough said…)

  595. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Time for me to get off here for awhile to. Have a good day everyone :)

  596. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    I have an SB friend who was raped at a meet. Not a SD from SA but from another site. Always meet in a public place. Never, never meet them in a hotel. Your safety is important. An Sd will understand your concerns and be gracious and want you to feel safe.

  597. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    TXSB there are chances we all take in this sort of relationship. I have heard many stories, both good and bad on both sides. Go with your gut. If it seems wrong, then it is.

    There have been many times it sounded to good to be true and they usually are. Get to know someone. Ask questions. Chat on the phone before a met. There has been times I thought someone was fishy and after talking to them on the phone, I did not go forward to meet them.

    BTW you get their number, because you can block yours when you call them :)

  598. ESB says:

    I’ve been here for way to long, gotta go DO something today. Hope you all have fun! I’ll come back later and try to catch up again.

  599. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Hi OC, yes live and learn :)

    Have a great time!!

  600. TXSB says:

    Reading many of the latest posts…here are some thoughts going through my mind:

    Just how many SDs are looking for just “conquer” and move on? Most SDs and SBs claim to be looking for a long term arrangement…..obviously it’s not meant to last for years and years. But I always thought “long term” meant at least 6 months…perhaps a year.

    I know we have several SDs on the blog and I would honestly love to hear your thoughts on this. Do you really get “bored” with a stable, drama free SB after a few weeks and move on? SDs are always talking about SBs that’re escorts, money hungry, drama queens etc. *BUT* if a SD did find a SB who wasn’t any of the above….who was essentially a “perfect SB” in terms of availabity, being drama free, not constantly asking for $$ etc, and who showered her SD with affection…..how many SDs would get bored with that? Is this a scenario where the grass is greener on the other side? SDs say they want a LTR…a drama free SB who adores them and showers them with affection, and is sexualy attracted to them. But is that what they truly want?

    Again….just sharing some thoughts going through my head…..

  601. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Both Sb’s and Sd can be taken advantage of. Of course in different ways. So yes it is important to get things set up and out in the open.

    I also am a working girl and enjoy my job. I pot Sd must know that and not expect me to travel at a moments notice. All these things must be considered in choosing a pot SB/SD. Your availability. and your limits. Your likes and dislikes, are you compatible, is there chemistry?

    The search is not an easy one, but the rewards for patients can be worth the wait.

  602. Sweetpea says:

    Mike: I actually would like to comment on your posting previously, but it was closed then was forgotten.

    You have got good points to tell the SDs/SBs.

    As for SD part #2—Talking about your successful work experience is not a boring topic. Instead of buying a book to read about a great guy became rich, hearing from the horse mouth who has a story to tell about his own successful experience, is just as interesting as reading.

    As for SB
    #1: Have goals.
    #2: Get some sort of job
    #6. Avoid the Bait and Switch

    I agree to certain degree.

    It sound to me most SDs have an impression that most SBs seem to be a load to their shoulder—asking for more money, or taking advantage of SD to give more gifts. Hmm…I think then SD has to put up with his choice, because not all SBs can think right. So if a SB has turned out to be different from what a SD think, then he will have to prepare either to stop or to mentor.

    SD/SB should have been upfront in making all thing clear before starting a relationship in order to avoid future drama or misunderstanding. If a SB is asking for a ‘pay’ rise, a SD should know then he fails to put it upfront before the arrangement. Then I think SD should do some homework. I am not siding SB, but if a SD allows all that happen, then why does he complaint? Do it when you are willing, stop it when you have enough.

    I myself has a great job, and I see SD’s help is an additional who can inspire and mentor me in various aspect of live.

    Great points for all below, we need to learn to be a better person. Thank your for your efforts. ☺
    #3 Be on Time
    #4 Take initiative
    #5 Show Appreciation
    #7 Be thoughtful (This goes the same to SD may be in different way to show some respect??!! My 2 cents ) :)

  603. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Then after you are sure he is lidget and someone you would like to get to know, then and only then do you give out your true info. You really do need to be careful, and a true SD will understand this. Just has a true SB will understand the need for discretion.

  604. ESB says:

    Good tip OC. No one has said anything bad about me, mostly just “curious” questions. I find it interesting.. so I just changed my name and no one can conect me to my profile anymore… just incase I slip and say something I shouldn’t 😉

  605. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Good advice OC. Also if you have yahoo mail you can change your last name on it. Because it does show when you email someone.

    Another thing you can do is have a separate email for pot sd’s. Yahoo let’s you have several emails.

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Hi ya Sweetred, those are good too! Oh the silly lessons we veterans have learned!!! lol

      I am heading out to Big Bear for a week of Sugar (or just plain old BF/SD lovin). Have fun Sugars!!! :)

  606. LASB says:

    Good morning everyone!

    IRLSD – This is a very interesting study you are presenting us with. It’s not often that I see what is going through a pot SDs head as he is moving in on the SB. As a voyeur, I like learning about your trial and error tactics. Plus, you seem to have a good sense of humor.

    CASB – I’ll just say I live east of the 405. Seems that a huge pool of SDs in LA are west of the 405. Oh well. Where are you?

    TXSB – Now go back and read that paragraph one more time! 😉 I like that on SA so many people are open to so many scenarios. A lot of what got me to join was the potential for “out of the norm” relationships. Like IRLSD, I can get bored quickly and I enjoy the challenge.

  607. Boston Honey says:

    IRLSD – didn’t mean actual profile numbers, goodness no! I meant in general, make it up, what type of profile general gist’….do you like? Versus of course that of a pro? Just curious as I sure as heck do not want my profile to ever even appear “pro”… If that is the case, I am outta’ here….gone forever.


  608. If I remember correctly, Mid is with her SD this weekend? sigh.. so jealous. Anyone else have SD plans for the weekend or coming week? My date with Baby Girl last night was a blast. We so enjoyed the movie, “Sherlock Holmes”. She didn’t know much about the character, so we had a great discussion on the way home about who he was. Then picked up her best friend for a sleep over, and they took turns on the new PS3. I fell asleep to the sounds of girls giggling and laughing at the game. Love Christmas!!

  609. Yes there are many lurkers out there :)

  610. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    EasternSureBaby good point. You never know who is reading our posts. So the less personal info you give the better.

    Now that the technical part of our show is done, back to our regularly scheduled banter :)

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      The best tid bit of advice on keeping your posting life separate from your SA potential SD emailing life.
      1) Do not use your blog name on your profile
      2) Make sure the email address you give a potential does not have your blog name any where in it
      3) Keep your posts discreet. You can change the names places date
      4) Your posting or writing style will also be a tell tale sign. If you have a signature XXOO or (((Hugs))) that you use in your emails and blog posts they will figure it out.
      5) Never burn your bridges! I know for a fact I have several SD’s that know who I am and lurk. I also know that they would say nothing but kind things about me :)

  611. Good afternoon everyone! I hope we are all having a wonderful Sunday. I have been given orders by a friend to stay home, do nothing and GET OVER THAT COLD!! Said he was going to come here ground me (take away my car keys, cover me in blankets, keep me in the house) until I got better. I AM better, but still have a cough, & I think it is my asthma more than the cold.

    2Chic: Honey, I hope you read this. My last BF was a smoker. I too, have asthma. He was VERY Conscientious of the fact, and would always smoke down wind of me, or go outside, and kept gum on him at all times. He cut WAY back, even tried to quit, and he made sure to have my inhaler on HIM at all times incase I had a problem. Maybe this SD will be the same, put your well being in front of his need to smoke, and you can work something out? Worth having the discussion.

    Interesting topic; grooming…. I won’t go there. To private for me. I need to stop giving out TMI!!

    Now about the “Lurkers”. Ladies, and gents, there are so many who read and never post. I have spoken to several who have asked me a question or 2 about a few things I have posted. SO, if you don’t want someone to know your business, best not post it. You never know what POT may be reading your every word trying to get a handle on you.

  612. IRLSD says:

    CA Dreamin SB, I think you’re right. If I can keep explicit sexual innuendo out of it (of course indirect hints and flirtation are a necessity), then it will be fun and keep me going. I did this once with an IRL SB in a similar situation (though I knew her personally and did not pick her off a mall kiosk), and it was absolutely the most rewarding relationship one can hope for (for both of us). I guess I am trying to replicate that relationship, which is always a bad idea, but we’ll see how it goes. In the other case, it took no time for her to fall for me.

  613. IRLSD says:

    I don’t think I would feel comfortable posting profile numbers for either SBs I’ve asked out or SBs I thought were escorts on the blog.

    Funny, a while back one of the SDs had a post on the tell-tale signs of an escort, and one of them was that they claim to be new to the city and want someone to show them around. But actually my current SB’s profile (the one I met this weekend and hit it off with) said she was new and it turns out she is really is new to the city.

    My new SB has an IRL BF but they are having problems mostly because he is apparently very attractive so he doesn’t feel that he needs to treat her that well and shows little affection, while I am the affectionate one who treats her well and makes her feel spoiled. So she uses me for affection, which is in essence what I use an SB for as my wife is totally unaffectionate. I can’t say I am used to this sort of situation, so I’ll see how it pans out.

  614. IRLSD~ And expensive sport lmao…. 😀 that is funny!!! If it works for you Great!

    Taz~ hey, it’s ok i’ll be on later

    Sweetred~ I know isn’t it funny!!! lol…. remember what the convo was back them lmao….

    Hi everyone!

  615. IRLSD – I think this approach may keep you interested in her longer…

  616. IRLSD says:

    I am in my 30s. As for trusting her, if I don’t ask for anything sexual, what is she going to say to anyone? That this guy was really nice and offered to pay my tuition? Essentially, I have decided to take a gamble–high risk, higher reward. I won’t bring up anything sexual at all, just wait for her to fall for me. Sure there is lots of peril, but heck, the reward will be far greater than what I think I can find online. Why? Because the fun is the challenge, the flirtation, the romance, and the conquest. Is it possible that I will spend $20K on her and get nothing sexual in return? Absolutely. But I’ve spent more than that on SBs from SA and gotten nothing but headaches and blue balls in return. Maybe I see this more like an expensive sport. I have friends who pay $40K for a one-season hunting lease to hunt some deer.

  617. cakepatty40 – IRLSD gave her his business card already – that ship has sailed – I’m sure it has the address of the company on it

  618. Morning Sugar fam!!

    BG – we totally missed each other last night hun – sorry! Hope it all worked out? Fill me in later 😉

  619. cakepatty40 says:

    IRLsd wrote:

    “Now the point of the office tour will be to show her who I am so she has no doubts and does not think I am some sort of scam artist, as I won’t have her working at the office anyways. Also, I will tell her that she will be hired directly by me as an “independent conttractor” and not by my office as an “employee” and that she will be paid in cash. Unlike what some people suggested, I cannot realistically hire through the office–hasn’t anyone heard of sexual harassment laws?”

    ** Am I the only one who finds this weird. You are worried about your wife/family finding out I guess because it would hurt them right? but you are going to show her where you work? You already know from 20 minutes that you can trust this girl?? Yes, you are asking her to lie to all of her friends because you want her to be discreet but then why would you show her where you work? If things go south she could stalk you or talk to the people you work with and eventually it gets back to your wife. This is not making much sense to me.

    ** IRLsd- may I ask approximately how old you are?

  620. Good morning all –

    Sweetredhead – I second everything you said to IRLSD

  621. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    I met him as a Pot SD. He knows that. I am not looking for a BF and he knows that too. I have been very clear about that. Guess that ball is in his court has to how he wants to proceed.

    I do really like him, he is a great guy. I enjoy our conversations, and that goes both ways. We have chemistry, which is important.

    I am not going to worry about it. Let the chips fall where they may lol.

  622. TXSB says:

    If this guy isn’t interested in you as a SB (for whatever reason) and he’s not your BF…..then as your *friend* he’s just going to have to deal with you getting attention from other men. I have quite a few male friends and it’s very clear to both of us that we’re platonic friends…..they have no say in the men I date (or get jealous)…..and I have no say in the girls they date (or get jealous). Anytime there is “jealousy” b/t a male/female *friend*…..that’s usually the 1st sign of trouble in my experience.

    Off to get ready for brunch…..see you all later! :)

  623. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Good point txsb. I guess I just don’t like the Idea that I made him jealous. I don’t play those games. I think that is what is bothering me. I am a shoot from the hip sort of girl, playing games is not in my nature.

  624. TXSB says:

    Good Morning Everyone! :)

    Hope you had a wonderful holiday! Enjoyed reading the 3 part post on “ex-sbs”

    Nope, never tried making it a reality. The appealing part is what you wrote….less pressure on that 1 SD since there’s a 2nd one. Of course more sugar to be spoiled by….and a better sense of “security”…as in if 1 SD needs to leave the arrangement….hopefully the 2nd one won’t leave at the same time! Hmmm….never gave much thought to a 2nd SB, although I’ve seen plenty of profile that’re looking for someone to join a couple. I suppose in that case the other SB and I would have to have incredible chemistry, of course the SD has to have enough $$$ to support both of us generously….and the SD also have to be able to treat us equally and not play favorites. I dunno….I guess I’m not opposed to most ideas…lol. It all depends on the people involved and how well I get along with them. :) BTW, I re-read that paragraph after posting my post last night…lol.


    Hi! As for your friend, if he hasn’t offered you an arrangement, and if him/you are not looking to be each other’s BF/GF….then him being jealous doesn’t really matter….does it?

  625. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    I don’t think the discreet factor bothers him, he is not married. And I would never even hint at who he was.

  626. Boston Honey says:

    IRLSD-Thank-you for answering my questions. I wouldn’t tell her about the “blog” only that you asked a few “friends”… Give us an example of a profile description that works for you versus someone you think is an escort?

    Perhaps logged in because they received mail?

    SweetRed- This is NSA, does your friend like you more then you think? He might just want to stay super discreet as I suppose that the fact that we blog could be a very big “no no” to some people who remain private.


  627. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Beach_girl I got you FB, lmao too funny!!

  628. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Morning Anna Molly :)

  629. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Someguy good point. Especially being a married man. You need to be careful how much information you give her about your personal life, until you know you can trust her completely.

    I was with a married SD and I knew where he lived, where he worked ect. He knew he could trust me. But you need to be very careful. Some woman do not have all their marbles lol.

  630. Anna Molly *397377* says:

    Good morning everybody! :)

  631. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    I was talking to a “friend” last night and he says he is jealous of me being back on the blog. He says I will get to much attention from men and he could lose me.

    He is not my SD. We having been talking for several months and we have only met in person one time. He is very busy. I am not sure how to take this.

    He can see everything I write here, as he has a link to the blog. I am not hiding anything. We do not have an arrangement and not sure he is even willing to commit to one at this point.

    Any feed back would be welcome, thanks.

  632. CASB says:

    It’s definitely way too cold in SoCal when I can see my and my dog’s breath outside!! Brrrr!!

  633. D D says:

    Good day all.

    SincereSD (and other ‘SD’s): referring to ‘SB’s you don’t want to stay in touch with (incl those you put in the ‘drama queen’ category), do you ever tell them things are over and that you don’t want to stay in touch? Or do you always rely on them ‘getting the hint’? I personally like to be told in any case if a man doesn’t want to see any more of me, even if it’s a polite “thank you, but I don’t see this working”.

    IRLSD: Congrats on your success to date. It seems like everything you are doing with Polish ‘SB’ appears legit and above board. And structured in not always a bad thing…at least she knows how things will play out. However, I’d skip out telling her “if I were single, I would ask her to be my girlfriend and put her through school”. What purpose will it serve? Just tell her you want to be “special friends” and don’t complicate matters beyond that. Thinking back to JSMN1229’s post in the previous blog entry, if an ‘SB’ feels that her ‘SD’ wants her beyond what their relationship permits, that could bring on some heavy feelings neither of you want to entertain, especially if you’re married. Keep it light and have fun.

  634. Someguy says:

    It’s nice you can tell your tactics on this blog, in the regular world you would be whipped and called a perv lol. i hope it all works out for you irlsd but keep in mind the more women you pursue the greater the chance it will come out and bite you in the ass whether that be professionaly or personnaly. Tread carefully. 😉

  635. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    BTW good morning all :)

  636. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    IRLSD very business like and well defined. I think all SD’s should lay out their expectations and what they are willing and not willing to do. It saves a lot of misunderstandings later. Also The Sb has the option to decline or except. I feel it is beneficial for the SD, so he is not taken advantage of. Sort of a business contract.

    I know some of you girls may not agree with me, but I like things laid out. Get all the “stuff” out of the way and then you are able to have a casual, friendly and meaningful arrangement. No hurt feeling, no wondering because it is all laid out.

  637. IRLSD says:

    TXSB said, “it seems like you just pick *any* girl whose looks match your criteria.” To be honest, the answer is more or less yes, unless they have an absolutely unbearable personality. As for the pot I met from SA on Christmas day (and again yesterday), I exchanged maybe two or three e-mails back and forth over an hour and we met that evening and she was great and we were intimate. She is actually very very intelligent (I wish I could disclose what she does, but let’s just say it would be similar intelligence to an astronomer or engineer and she did very well in school) and is a ton of fun. It doesn’t take fifty dates to figure that out. I mean let’s be real here, every single SB I have met I saw once and decided not to pursue or to offer an arrangement to after one date. So I would conversely pose the question—why would an SB accept money from an SD she has just met on one date? How many dates did you go on with your SDs before accepting an “allowance” if things seemed like they had potential? The point of sugar dating is that I give an allowance and we try out the relationship, and then it fizzles out when it fizzles out. IRL dating is the same—I see a girl once, then half of them I never ask out again, the other half I do and out of that half another half never make it to a third date, etc, until I marry one person and regret it for the rest of my life. Now in sugar dating there is just a payment that sets boundaries and maintains the secrecy of the affair. But otherwise it is no different than IRL dating and it has never felt any different to me, except for its secrecy.

    As for, “What about this particular SB was so amazing that you *had* to set up a date with her?” Honestly, 90% her picture plus the fact that she had no escort-like qualities in her pictures and profile and the fact that she had a real job. Yes, and the smell of smoke does bother me, and she is well aware of that. But I am not looking for perfection here—just someone to enjoy some of the fleeting moments of life with. If I can enjoy them for a long time, then wonderful, but if not, then I am still grateful for the few moments we shared (unless I get herpes that is, lol).

  638. IRLSD says:

    LASB said, “IRLSD – I think looks as a requirement is fine as a baseline qualifier. Maybe what the women were implying is that adding another requirement or two (personality and intelligence) may help you have some longevity.” I totally agree. Find me that girl who is drop-dead gorgeous, has a MENSA-level IQ, and who has a great personality and I will divorce my wife and marry her, lol. Can’t ask for more longevity than that. But until I come across that, I guess I will make do with just attractive SBs who have enough personality to get themselves past the first date.

  639. IRLSD says:

    Boston Honey, I did not mean to ignore your questions and I did answer some of them already. But to answer the ones I did not address, I might tell Polish girl about the blog but only after I know her well. My friend (the “scout”) knows about it but I doubt he has ever looked here as he is not looking to be an SD per se himself. Sometimes I read him interesting comments from the blog. I never sent the original letter I posted—I followed the advice of the blog and sent the second letter instead and will discuss things in person with her.

    I think my approach to the “interview” will be that once we meet I will tell her that the interview will be composed of three parts. First, I will find out about her background and financial/educational needs with a big focus on how much money she would need for tuition and cost of living expenses and how long it would take her to complete her degree. Then I will discuss what I do and what I am offering and I will basically tell her that what I want to offer is whatever she needs to complete her master’s degree without any financial worries and without taking up too much of her time and that the job is really to serve her interests and as such unlike any other job offer. I will also explain to her that it is a very generous offer but that she will have to essentially keep it a secret and lie to her friends about what she does because I cannot have my wife find out that I am hiring a stunning young lady to be my “personal assistant.” I will tell her that if I were single, I would ask her to be my girlfriend and put her through school, but that is not an option, but what I can do is put her through school anyways and have us just be “special friends”. Then for the third part, we will visit my office for a tour. Now the point of the office tour will be to show her who I am so she has no doubts and does not think I am some sort of scam artist, as I won’t have her working at the office anyways. Also, I will tell her that she will be hired directly by me as an “independent conttractor” and not by my office as an “employee” and that she will be paid in cash. Unlike what some people suggested, I cannot realistically hire through the office–hasn’t anyone heard of sexual harassment laws?

    Any comments on this approach? Harsh criticisms are welcome, but keep in mind that just because she might be offended does not mean that I will not pursue her.

  640. SincereSD says:

    Good morning. Hope everyone had a good xmas/holiday and santa was good to you!

    About the question of remaining friends with your former SB, my experiences are summarized below. Sadly I can’t say I’ve been too successful remaining friends with previous GF or SB. Despite the obvious reasons we first got together, it was ultimately some other form of friendship and connection that kept us together.

    1. Lingering breakups
    Despite “breaking up”, I have had several SB want to remain friends and we continued see each other occasionally. We (she?) found it hard to extricate ourselves from each others lives. In both cases, we continued to be intimate for sometime afterward … and with one, I continued support at a reduced level because she needed help for college and other debts. Ultimately, we each got into other relationships and I stopped returning calls and emails.

    2. Drama Queens and bitter breakups
    It’s clear that you wouldn’t want to continue being friends with former SB in this group. I’ve found that some will try to maintain some form of unwanted contact via text, phone or email until they give up or contact info (cell phone?) gets lost.

    3. Maintain casual contact
    Only one instance to report here as I exchange emails with a former SB who was an exchange student on important occasions such as birthdays and xmas. The relationship came to a natural end when she completed her program. I am reminded of an unrelated story with her as she felt she had to hide the source of our support from her mom … ironically her mom was also a SB who received support from a married man for more than a decade (and my ex-SB thought of him more as her father than her biological dad).

  641. IRLSD says:

    “Sugar is meant to dissolve (fizzle) in it’s purest form” (OC). So true. And it is also true that I sugar date people whom I would never date IRL and that is much of the fun. I cannot fully blame the fleeting nature of my sugar relationships on the SBs, as I am typically the one who within a few weeks feels unhappy, bored, or trapped and start looking again. I suppose if there was someone who could keep me on my toes without either being overbearing or overly aloof, it would last longer, but not forever.

    There is also the issue of temptation and the curiosity of seeing what else is out there. And once I browse the new options, it is hard not to get tempted. In all fairness, most SBs do this as well, and I have noticed that most will continue to log in regularly into their account on SA even if things are seemingly going very well. Although it does arouse my suspicions as to what the SB is looking for, I have learned based on experience that it is rather unlikely they’re going to find another real SD (i.e. one who is willing to pay an allowance and not just ask for something perverse) on this site in the short period my relationships tend to last.

    As for the comments that I don’t need or listen to advice, it is not true at all. Just look at what I had planned on writing Polish chick versus what I ended up writing her. It was the blog comments that helped me refine what I said and I truly appreciate those comments. I do not mind harsh criticisms of my techniques or standards, etc, but to personally judge me when everyone on this site is treading along the edges or clearly outside of traditional morality is a bit hypocritical.

  642. CASB says:

    Hmm.. so I was wondering. Do SD’s have “featured” SB’s when they log in like we have featured SD’s? How to get my profile up there… hmmm. 😉

  643. CASB says:

    LASD: I’m right there with you.. either the two SD’s or finding a nice SB to share a SD with, to make a friend out of it too. I’ve thought about that before. :) As far as the 2 SD’s sounds like IRLSD could do that with foreign girl and his friend if his friend has any money as well, but given that he’s getting a “commission” I’m going to assume not. If I find a very wealthy SD looking for a 2nd SB, I will let you know. :) What part of LA are you in?

  644. Sweetpea says:

    LASB: Yeah, cutting all ties to ex, it all depends. 2 SDs..haha..I guess it can be my fantasy too…but soon to be SD requested to be exclusive.

    Boston Honey: “although someone may offer more money, if I don’t feel a connection or have any interests that match then I will choose the guy offering less because I like him more…and we have a connection too.”

    Exactly my situation now!!! :)

  645. Yaz10 says:

    Hey everyone! :-)

    Ok, looks like I missed everybody…

    NYGent~ Oh my God! Will I get in trouble for that???? Can I claim insanity? lmao 😀 ( I hear a lot of people get away with that) Or I’ll just be honest and tell the judge that I was having a “moment” LOL
    Omg, I have never been into a courtroom before!!! :-) Must be intimidating! Would love to see you at work! I dont know if I will be able to keep a straight face with you next to me tho lol
    Don’t worry, I am still on the run so I dont need bail money………yet! LOL

    Seriously tho, I loooooove Paul Davis voice. It is soooo suave, sooo aaaah 😉 I wish I had a SD with his voice whisper sweet nothings into my ear. I would totally melt in his hands 😉

    NYCSB~ Sounds fabulous! Lucky you! Santa didnt really stop at my house this year but I did get something…Nothing big or expensive but it came from the heart and I loved it….

  646. Sweetpea says:

    Gemin21: Thanks. I will always respect my ex-SD, and am still grateful to his generousity and trust. He was and still is a charming person in most area and GIB. But the most important point I realized is–I need to move on with my life to have a more connected relationship, so that I can have a more meaningful and purposeful life to upgrade myself. Yes, I need more money. Money may do a wonder, but I think I am not desperate for it. I will keep him just a ‘text’ friend so that we do not complicate the matter.

    About the word ‘arrangement’, I came across reading a SD’s profile saying “if you ask what arrangement it is, then you do not belong here”. And I thought, isn’t this site called ” Seeking Arrangement”??!! There are so many type of arrangement to start a relationship, different one has different idea to go about arrangement in a relationship, why can’t people be open-minded to tell what they want? We can choose what suit us the best, or be polite to say ‘No Thanks”.

    NYCSD#2: Like most of the wonderful suggestions here, I will always make sure I am in my tip-top condition to attend a date or meeting SD–from head to toe, whatever you know the best how to do it. Yes, I like to feel classy, tasteful and sexy when I go out to meet SD, and I know I am not a disappointment to most of them. However, many times, the pot SD killed the sexy feeling in the first date. I believe some SD felt the same about the date with some SBs who may not concern much about ‘presenting’ themselves too.

    Sweetredhead: I like your dating story. Most SD are rich, some may offer generously, but it takes more than that. Some rich SD I dated killed the sexy feeling inside me in certain ways, then it would be a no no to me too.

    NYC SB: How nice to receive all the sweet gift. I am so happy to hear that.

    Sweet dream.

  647. LASB says:

    TXSB – You have me grinning. Have you ever tried to make it a reality? What about it appeals to you? How fun would it be to have that with sugar on top?!! Actually, I’d even be ok with it the other way around where it was FFM, and the other female was super cool. She and I could then go spend our allowances together, shopping for lingerie or getting pretty at the spa. :)

  648. MusicCityMistress (MCM) says:

    Hi Sweet Sugars!

    I hope everyone is enjoying the holiday season!

    NYC SB: Santa was very good to you :)

  649. TXSB says:

    Wow….umm…you’re not alone in your “desires”. I re-read that paragraph quite a few times! :)

    NYC SB:
    Lucky girl!

  650. NYC SB says:

    thanks guys… sometimes its ok to stay friends with an ex sd… given an amicable break up

  651. 2Chic says:

    NYC sb… awesome gifts! Good for you.

  652. NYC SB~ wow you are one lucky girl!!! congrats on the gifts!

  653. NYC SB says:

    BH – In my experience most of my arrangements have lasted about 3-4 months…

  654. NYC SB says:

    Merry Christmas Sugar Fam!

    Santa was super good to me this year… My three ex SDs mailed me in some sparkly gifts.

    My first SD gave me the most amazing pearl and diamond choker (I always wanted a 3 string pearl chocker so while we were together we always were on the look out for one)

    Gift daddy sent me a lovely pearl necklace, bracelet and earings.

    Daddy Waldorf, stunned me with an amazing diamond necklace and earing set.

    Last but certainly not least, broke bf, has redeemed himself by giving me an awesome vs pink sweats and the most fabulous dress for NYE (forever 21 but still amazing)… 😀

    Even though I hate jewlery (except for pearls) I am quickly changing my mind.

    What a good year this has been… I am so glad to have virtually met all of you 😀

  655. Sweetred~ good night girl, did you get my FB? if not go look!
    Talk soon and don’t be a stanger…

  656. OCSugarbaby~ I don’t know if it’s meant to fizzle so quickly though…. It doesn’t last for ever, but I do hope it’s more of a long term arrangement!

  657. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Boston Honey says:
    December 26, 2009 at 3:46 pm

    Sweetredhead…I like your profile…very sweet and to the point. You sound like a very intelligent women.

    Thank you.

    I am off to bed, just popped in to say good night.

  658. Well I think this is the end of the evening for me everyone…goodnight all!

    NYGent – hope you enjoy Cali while you’re here

  659. Boston Honey says:

    OC- excellent point…it will fizzle but shouldn’t it last more then a month or so? Most of the SD’s I have talked with have had relationships for:

    1. 4 years several of them and it was amazing, she got married, graduated, and it finally fizzled out….
    2. 2 years, she moved and went to grad school, started business etc…
    3. 18 months, introduced her to future husband and was best man at wedding…I love that story
    4. 1 year…

    No one really talks about a month or a STR, most talk about a LTR and it was wonderful.


  660. Boston Honey says:

    I actually wasn’t talking about a poly marriage…..but that is another topic too…


    Ohhh, I see an eyeball….finally…Ok, I am off to bed. I think I have blogged enough and upset OC Sweetie SB…..

  661. Boston Honey says:

    I think as women we hope that someone likes us for more then just “beauty”… We really don’t want to hear that I like you for your looks and your sex appeal. Sadly, men are visual….and sometimes it stops just at this… Hopefully, some men appreciate beauty and brains…no offense IRLSD…. You can have hot sex, but doesn’t it fizzle after a while? I guess everyone beats to a different drum and whatever floats your boat. I disagree with you IRLSD because although someone may offer more money, if I don’t feel a connection or have any interests that match then I will choose the guy offering less because I like him more…and we have a connection too.

    Not sure what the other SB’s think but I am not Ivana Trump, although my past SD was intrigued by her success…. I am just a women and I like to be happy, have fun, and enjoy life. I don’t have to have a SD to do these things although it doesn’t hurt…. I am smart, sassy, and have goals and believe in engaging the mind…

    IRLSD – You never answer any of my questions that I have asked either… :-( I don’t bite….

    “I am not a separate woman, I am the throat of the Sandia
    Mountains, a night wind woman who burns with every breath she takes.” Joy Harjo

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Sugar is meant to dissolve (fizzle) in it’s purest form. This is sugar dating not dating in real time. Find the heat and you will quickly melt the sugar. Enjoy it while it lasts. It is fun to be in a sugar relationship with someone you would not pursue in the normal dating realm. ~OC

  662. LASB says:

    Gemi and 2Chic – I’m so on that page with you!!! I’m not allergic to smoke, but I just hate everything about it. I don’t want to kiss an ashtray. I don’t like smelling like cigs after I leave their place, and I don’t want to stand out in the cold with them as they suck down the nicotine, since you can’t smoke in any buildings in Cali. (Thank goodness!)

    Boston – Yes, I don’t know if I’d want a poly marriage, but it does sound interesting to learn about. I like the idea of keeping things light and fun, sort of the way I would in a sugar relationship. Of course, as someone else here said, “easier said than done.”

    IRLSD – I think looks as a requirement is fine as a baseline qualifier. Maybe what the women were implying is that adding another requirement or two (personality and intelligence) may help you have some longevity. It is fine to want what you want. :) Many of us SBs are into looks too, hence the previous discussion regarding certain men who put “athletic” on their profiles.

  663. IRLSD – You’re not being frowned upon – I’m sure no one meant it like that, though it may have come across that way. Like I said, we all have our standards and what one person finds attractive another may not. It’s very subjective. I think you’re a good guy at heart! :)

  664. 2Chic says:

    Thanks for the input, I am taking all in. I like him, but I would hate to gag in his face. I will talk to him first, and hope that if nothing else we will always be friends.

  665. IRLSD says:

    Don’t worry, I was not offended by anyone, just found it funny that I was frowned upon for using beauty as my primary means of selecting an SB. Let us say that I consider a 7 or 8 to be minimum and don’t consider anyone below that. How is that different from an SB not considering an SD who offers less than let’s say $3000/month? Now is the SD offering more than that by nature a better catch? The answer I suppose is yes, because if he offered less he would not meet the requirements of the SB. Similarly, a more attractive SB is a better catch. But beauty is in the eye of the beholder and some of the SBs I like may not be traditionally that hot while others I can tell are hot just do nothing for me.

  666. Boston – I still see the Dallas one

  667. Boston Honey says:

    Can you all see an eyeball or what? It says it is caching’….

    Well, there are several books on this topic exactly and other lifestyles.. It just depends on what kind of lifestyle you want and how society affects you or not….i.e. Your values, morals, and place in society. Some of the best experiences in life for some of these women are with their husband and their lover, or lovers…… And in this case everyone knew what was going on…. Interesting eh’? Someone to go shopping with, someone to work in the garden with and someone to go dancing all night long….. And no, this is not me..never been married. I like to read a lot and like history such as studying the Greeks and Romans and their oh so interesting lifestyle and beliefs….


  668. Gemini29 says:

    Something I can comment on…finally!

    2Chic- I’ve got the asthma, and I’m also allergic to cigarette smoke. I dated a smoker once…and it SUCKED! horribly. There is just no two ways around it….I could never do it again. Not only did he do it in front of me, but then his hands and arms and face reeked of it…and his clothes…and all his stuff… and yeah, it is just a deal-breaker for me. So maybe see him again on a date and see how it goes…or just cut your losses now before you get too attached. :(

  669. LASB says:

    Taz – Yes, BH sounds like she has some experience there, wouldn’t you say? 😉

  670. Boston Honey says:

    LOL…. I have read that it exists…..not in the SA world per say….


  671. LASB says:

    Boston – LMAO! Ok, so perhaps I’m not alone in my desires? haha!

  672. Boston Honey says:

    LASB….keep going….

  673. LASB says:

    Sweetpea –
    1. if I had an ex SD, it wouldn’t be unusual for me to stay friends with them. I am friends with my ex bfs except for one. I am ok with cutting all ties, but they usually want to keep a friendship going and that’s fine too.

    2. The 2 SD thing? I’m having a tough enough time finding just one! However, I have an unconventional fantasy where I date two men who are friends with each other. Probably it would require two rather highly evolved men who weren’t jealous types. I believe it would take the pressure off of each of them. For example, if man #1 planned a date but was stuck at the office, he could call man #2 to step in . Maybe one of them is more into sports and the outdoors and the other is into books and opera, so between them, there would be an wide array of activities. Maybe sometimes we all hang out together doing something fun. Now imagine putting sugar into that scenario!

    Ok, ok, I’m coming back to Earth now. I did say it was a fantasy. 😉

  674. Boston Honey says:

    OK, ya’all…I changed it… It was me in my Dallas Cowgirl costume that I made….but now, just my eyeball….LOL… for the eyes are the key to the soul..

  675. Anyone watching the Emerald Bowl? USC player just made one heck of a catch…amazing.

  676. Boston, I can’t make out what it is – maybe a woman wearing a pink boa? But it’s nice colors :)

  677. NYGent says:

    boston: looks like a girl in black mask? hard to tell

  678. Boston Honey says:

    Ok, weird. I can see it with IE and not Firefox. I don’t like windows…. I am switiching to linux based operating system and buying a MAC or a geeky Alienware face recognizing computer….yeah….. I still can’t see this in Firefox….


  679. lol I don’t see it either BH 😛

  680. Boston Honey says:

    Really? Just wonderful…I can’t see anything….. Ok, how does it look?
    I just see a blank box….arghhhh….


  681. NYGent says:

    boston: your avatar is showing up, what’s the problem?

  682. Boston – I can see your avatar – it’s working on my end

  683. Boston Honey says:

    2 Chic – That is a big deal for a non-smoker. If he is a light smoker, smokes outside and uses a lot of gum, and mouthwash…then it is slightly do-able….. If not, then it is quite a challenge. You will have to decide what you really want and if you can make it work….

    Oh, still can’t get my avatar to work…sigh…..


  684. NYGent says:

    2chic: it sounds like a deal breaker unless he is a very “light” and “occassional” smoker, is that possible? if not i hate to say move on but i don’t have any other advice. for me smoking would be a deal breaker unless it was very, very occasional. and if “heavy” forget it.

  685. BH – try to clear your cookes :)

  686. Boston Honey says:

    bueller, bueller, bueller…test

  687. 2Chic – as a fellow asthmatic – I don’t know how you’re going to get around this one – unless you keep your inhaler out and use it frequently when you’re with him and he’s smoking…guys? Your opinions?

  688. 2Chic says:

    Maybe.. (uh I am sure) I can get the answer to my dilemma. I recently met a POT who was absolutely wonderful. Inside and out. He is not from this country, but is a high profile figure. He is a gentleman and treated me like a queen on our first meeting. Later that evening I learned that he smoked. I felt crushed in my heart. I can not stand cig smoke, I actually have a phobia with them. I get nautious when I see them on the ground. So considering how great the date went, and to learn he smokes has put me in a mess. I do not know how I over looked the smoking part on his profile, but when I went back to review it, he had stated that he was a smoker. He is a wonderful, wonderful guy, and I am just trying to figure out how to handle this. I also have asthma, … which also a major problem with a smoker.

  689. Boston Honey says:

    Maybe not….it isn’t showing up.. Help me OC….

  690. Boston Honey says:

    Ohhhhh, thank you so much OC Sugarbaby…I have an avatar! Yeah….

  691. NYGent says:

    yes good night AM.

    yaz: you behind bars yet? need bail money?

  692. 2Chic says:

    You see them tooo! I knew they where pretty bright today, I said to myself…. “self….you are just too good, you are lighting up the world today”……lol.

  693. 2Chic says:

    ROFLMBO…… OC Your are funny!

    Never want to start trouble.
    I will be a very good girl…. (my most angelic look)

  694. 2Chic says:

    In regards to IRL sd…. I do agree with TxSb. And it is not meant to be harsh, but he did ask for our input. When we (females) ask for input, we get honest opinions. I can not bring myself to appease a candy man when I differ with him. If he can’t stand the heat, get out the kitchen.

  695. Muse says:

    night AM!

  696. O.K. everyone can come back now :)

  697. Gute Nacht! I’m going to bed. I can’t be staying up until 3:AM anymore! TTYL :)

  698. Boston Honey says:

    Hmmmm, ok. I will go out and search for designer jeans tomorrow that fit well and make my butt look great! LOL, the most I have ever spent is $80.00 Michael Kors Outlet store….. I am not really a designer girl and hate to spend the money. Now, my Beretta and Browning are another story and they don’t lose value…..lol. Or my Dagger Kayak and Fisher racing skis…I love gear and if taken care of it lasts…. Ok, you all will have to help me out in the jean dept and some other areas…LOL…..

    I used to be terrible with makeup too until I spent 10k went to school and became an Aesthetician to help my career as a Spa Director….The more modalities you have the better….so you can be hands on if needed. I can do diva makeup, but not like some of the women Aestheticians I know who are amazing and I still feel like I fell off the turnip truck with makeup. I usually go without…. until they all yelled at me for not wearing makeup each and every day.. But oh, I am so much better…. I do give one amazing facial and massage though……

    Boston Honey

  699. UncommonSB says:

    Boston: Once you find a great designer fit, and see how amazing your butt looks… you’ll never go back. I promise.

  700. UncommonSB says:

    CA Dreamin: Darn you for forcing me to go to TJ Maxx tomorrow! JK
    Seriously though, that’s a steal. What do I love more than a $200 pair of jeans? A $200 pair of jeans that I can get at 40% off! After alterations, it’s still a savings!

  701. Boston Honey says:

    Sweet. I am headed to the stores tomorrow. It doesn’t have to be discount. I am not really a designer girl.

    I am not a cut-throat corporate women either. I wear my heart on my sleeves, and don’t do political game playing very well. I will not have any more women bosses as I am always a threat and they become jealous with my relationship with the CEO/GM. Not an SA/SD thing either…just a transformational visionary thinker…. and bond with them…. I will only work for myself. Entrepreneur all the way! I am too innovative, creative, and live/work with passion.

    Ohhh, jeans that fit will be wonderful…


    Boston Honey

  702. Uncommon – I couldn’t beleive they had them there! They also had Lucky brand jeans and others – I stocked up! They were about 40% less than retail.

  703. UncommonSB says:

    Boston: Not sure about discount retailers, maybe someone can chime in with suggestions. Full retail… Nordstrom, Neiman, Saks, Bergdorf. You can find all of the brands I mentioned at those retailers.

  704. Boston Honey says:

    Ok, headed to TJ Maxx. Who else sells them?


  705. UncommonSB says:

    CA Dreamin: Thanks for the TJ Maxx tip! I haven’t been there in forever, but I guess I’ll have to stop by. I’m kind of a denim junkie…

  706. Boston – the ones at TJ Maxx were 7 For all Mankind

  707. UncommonSB says:

    Boston: Be prepared… they are not cheap. Also, make sure you don’t confuse “Seven Jeans” for “7 For All Mankind”, the former is a less expensive brand and I can’t confirm whether or not they offer long lengths. I can however confirm that my friend is a 35-36″ inseam, and the 3 brand that I mentioned above offer that inseam for several of their styles.

  708. Boston – just a tip on the jeans search – I’ve found several pairs of 7 jeans at TJ Maxx – WAY under retail :)

  709. Boston Honey says:

    UncommonSB—oh, I haven’t tried those…thanks for the tip….True Religion 7. And yes, one of my gf’s told me, “You know what I can’t stand, none of your pants are long enough…it drives me crazy…stop wearing short pants….” Ooops…

    OK, I am off to look for True Religion, 7 Jeans tomorrow….. Yeah….


  710. Boston Honey says:

    Maybe my handle and profile should be long legs or these boots are made for walking….LOL

    Boston Honey

  711. Boston Honey says:

    That is why I wear skirts and long boots… ha…

    Boston Honey

  712. UncommonSB says:

    Boston: I have a really tall friend that I affectionately refer to as my ‘glamazon’ girl. We’ve talked about our totally opposite vertical issues while shopping together several times. She always buys True Religion, 7 For All Mankind and Paige denim because they make extra long lengths. Hope that helps. They’re pricey, but I don’t skimp on jeans anyway. The right fit makes it all worth it.

  713. nycsb #2 says:

    Boston Honey: WOAH, those are some long amazing legs! flaunt those suckers!

    Uncommon SB: totally agreed! i feel your pain…

    OCSugarbaby: will def you posted, thank you! have you walked out on a dinner date before?

  714. Boston Honey says:

    NYSB number 2. I always wanted to be short. I wanted to be the sparkle girl on the cheerleading/dance team who got to be on the top. Not the spotter. Although, I got to be in the middle almost always….

    My leg inseam are 34 to 36 inches. Now you try to find pants and heels that go with that….arghhh……LOL… So most pants are clam diggers on me…it is a running joke with my girlfriends.

    Boston Honey

  715. Boston Honey says:

    OCSugarBaby are you in California? I was thinking of personal experiences with women on the senior team and in the resort…. Sorry, I am confident that there are amazing, sexy, and lovely gals all over San Diego and SoCal…

  716. UncommonSB says:

    nycsb#2: Ditto on the ‘short’ thing. Oh to be able to wear pants off the rack… I can only dream. I get everything hemmed to be 29-30″ and I swear it must keep my tailor in business!

  717. DesertBunny says:

    OC – Yes, in need of one our marathon phone calls, girlie!

  718. Boston Honey says:

    Let me re-phrase…sorry. My bosses were cut throat and some of the other bulldog eat you alive women were fake…. I have never been with women that were so non-women like…. sorry didn’t mean it that way. Other gals, I met there were amazing….and you sound great….. I realized that I belong on the East Coast….

    Boston Honey

  719. nycsb #2 says:

    thank you all for your inputs. i’m meeting a pot sd soon for dinner and i just wanted to make sure not to overdress or underdress. it’s going to be my first time to meet a pot sd, feel kind of nervous/anxious… and it’s a dinner date so i hope it won’t be dreadful(ly long) if we don’t end up making some kind of connection.

    the grooming comments were also very helpful as well, haha. thanks to all that answered it.

    Boston Honey, I’m jealous! Wish I had long legs, I usually end up buying ‘short’ and they fit perfectly on my legs… ugh!

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      nycsb#2, enjoy your dinner date. However if you don’t feel the connection or want to stay for dinner, LEAVE! You are not obligated to be in a position that you don’t want to be in. Being polite and honest with the gentleman is important, but if it is dreadful, just be honest and excuse yourself. Some how I think you will enjoy the conversation and the dinner. Just take a deep breath and relax. Let us know how it went!

  720. Boston Honey says:

    OC SugarBaby…I would trade with Norma Jean in a heartbeat! I love So Cal. I worked/lived in San Diego on Executive Senior Team Level at a prestigious five star resort and it is one of my favorite places. Except the women were cut throat and rather fake, very fit, and into spas…..meaning plastic surg etc… Ohh, thanks for the compliments…wish it was true….

    Norma Jean – So just you and I think we know who the lurkers are? I always wear skirts too? Where are you at in So Cal? I was in Coronado.

    Boston Honey

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Boston, SoCal women are not cut throat or fake. Ok, fit maybe. Ouchie you just took a very pointed jab at the Cali girls! lol

      • OCSugarbaby says:

        DB- You are on! I am off until (Monday) the 4th. I can’t believe what a year it has been. We need to catch up!

  721. DesertBunny says:

    OC- Nice! That’s a Monday, right? I will be over on Tues. to check it out 😉

  722. OC – Thats great! How exciting

  723. DesertBunny says:

    OC – How is your ‘delivery’?

  724. OC – :) I’m a Northern California girl! About an hour south of Napa, general East Bay area

  725. We NoCal girls are fun too!!!

  726. It has been entirely too cold and damp today in Northern Cal – I was debating taking myself out to dinner, but, can’t get motivated :)

  727. DesertBunny says:

    NYGent – Titillating! One of my favorite words! I know where you are…I moved to SoCal from a city near you 😉

  728. NYGent! Welcome to my neck of the woods!

  729. NYGent says:

    heloo all hope you had a good christmas. I’ve been in transit and in Cali now. not so sunny at this moment but this isn’t socal it’s teh rugged northern coast. Think “The Birds.”

    on subject of past sbsds as friends: i remained semi-friendly with one from a year or so ago for a while but stopped when she started hitting me up for $$ for various “emergencies” saying things like “$500 is nothing to you.” my most recent sb was a clean break and we havent spoken since, although it was a relatively amicable ending as these things go. On the one hand i think staying friends with an SB would be easier than with a former GF/BF since the SA arrangement is (supposedly) more “casual” and the “hurt” is likely to be less; on the other hand former gfs/bfs generally have spent more time with each other, have had more bonding experiences, and whatever it is that drew them close in the first place can have a powerful and continuing effect for years after, so they may very well become or remain “friends” once/if they can get over the hurt.

    IRLSD: sounds like you’re having a fair amount of success on your own, not sure you really need our advice! You describe yourself as young, attractive and wealthy and guys with that combination generally don’t need a site like this anyway to attract the women they’d like to have. but feel free to continue to solicit input . . .

    anna molly: yes there are some direputable SDs out there (maybe even a majority?) but stick with it. Others on the blog have reported being discouraged only to have someone fall right in their lap.

    speaking of laps, i discovered while flying today that you are not allowed to keep anything on your lap (e.g., a blanket, pillow) for the last hour of a flight, due to yesterday’s terrorist incident, and no access to the overhead comartment for carryons either during that time.

    speaking further of laps and below, grooming, etc. i think i will stay out of that convo, titillating as it is.

  730. Boston Honey says:

    How are you adding an avatar ladies and how are you making your blog posts bold. Are you using html or am I in the wrong browser?

    Anna Molly very cute pic and nice profile. You sound fun.


    Boston Honey Bee
    bzz, bzzz, bzzzz.

    I had bees once and they all died…I still have my sexy bee suit though…NOT….I have it but it’s not sexy…they all got that nasty mite disease. Yummy honey though…

  731. Thanks Boston Honey! I’m glad you liked the pic….I’m not too thrilled with it though.

  732. UncommonSB says:

    Curious, how are you linking to your profiles?

  733. Boston Honey says:

    Sweetredhead…I like your profile…very sweet and to the point. You sound like a very intelligent women.

    Midwest I have been meaning to tell you that I love your profile too. Sexy, and Classy women. Like the pearl pics…

    Anna Molly – love the sexy hair…makes me think alluring goddess….VS I just woke up sexy hair model…

    Taz and Gemini I think I mixed you two up…. Taz is in Toronto and Gemini is in MD. Gemini love your bag and profile too. If so, Taz please go to check out Flirty Girl Fitness for me flirtygirlfitness dot you know the rest….


    Boston Honey

    PS: I think I know who the lurkers are too…..

  734. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    I am off to play video games with my son. HE likes to beat my butt lol. Evil child!!

  735. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    That is great Lisa :)

    Lol CA maybe. Or recouping from Christmas lol I know I am. I have done Nothing but shower all day, no makeup and wearing boxer pants and a tee shirt lol. I know attractive right? But I d look cute :)

  736. CASB – there is NO leftover Christmas wine! 😛

  737. CASB says:

    Whoops! QUITE, not quit! :)

  738. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    I’m going to do some housework now. Be back later

  739. CASB says:

    Quit the conversations in here today! Everyone must be drinking leftover Christmas wine! :)

  740. Boston Honey says:

    I think all the “manscaping” talk has all the guys staying mum…and lurking…


    Boston Honey

  741. Where is everyone else? You think James, Midwest, NC Gent and NY Gent are all out returning / exchanging gifts? :)

  742. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    He wants and needs me :)

  743. Hello to ~ CA Dreamin SB, SDN, DB and everybody! :)

  744. Boston Honey says:

    Bonjour mon amies….. Wow, you all are having a fun conversation. I prefer to keep my grooming to myself and for my SD to discover.

    However, I am also a licensed Aesthetician so I can answer any and all questions. Send them my way…. SD’s please feel free to ask as with SB’s. I personally do not know of any damage a B can cause. Can you share more on this and what damage you are talking about?

    I like what Norma Jean said, “Conservative with a dash of sexy.” I always wear heels or sexy boots, a skirt, and a nice top with appropriate jewelry, nice nails, my signature scent, and classy but girl next door glowing skin makeup, and a fab hat and fantastic clean purse with just the essentials as mentioned in earlier posts….:-)…. I like to show off my legs because they are super long and most women go for cleavage…… Never do both, it is one or the other…

    I can’t buy regular jeans I have to special order them tall for them to fit right. Oh, I usually wear red or black too….makes me feel sexy… Although, an SD might not see that red or black lace the first few times we meet. I also prefer VS garters with lace because they are ultra sexy and totally beat panty hose…. Don’t forget a great coat too….

    Great day on the slopes…


    Boston Honey

  745. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    I didn’t mean tell me who he is lol. I meant tell me about how he makes you so happy, silly girl!

  746. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    Sorry i’m not telling .

  747. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    I am so happy for you! I can see how happy you are. It’s a wonderful change!!

  748. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    You know my email, tell me all!! lol

  749. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    I don’t think so. He prefers to remain discreet. He lurks though

  750. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Do I know this SD lisa?

  751. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    How sweet, tell him thank you :) I know there is. But watch it with the “feelings” talk lol

  752. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    Yes :)

  753. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Opps sorry, working in the medical field lol

    WOw lisa I am impressed!! How long did we try and get you to do that? You kept making excuses. Glad to see you let yourself go :)

  754. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    Sweetredhead, my sd just told me that there is a perfect match for you out there, someone with similiar feelings and will feel the same way about you as you do about him :)

  755. DesertBunny says:

    Lisa – And aren’t ya glad ya did!

  756. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    “patients” ? lol

    Now he was actually there all along, hiding in the shadows.

    So I got on a plane, flew somewhere i’d never been, got in the car with a stranger, etc

  757. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    NormaJean SoCalSB now I am wondering what was on YOUR mind lmao

  758. DesertBunny says:

    Sweet – You can’t buy class!

  759. NormaJean SoCalSB says:

    Oh my…did I say GSpot? Pardon me. I meant G Place….giggle….

    Oh Manscaping is in….LOL…

  760. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    Good for you Lisa. I am so glad to hear it. Did I not tell you that with patients you would find him? Next time listen to me lol.

  761. SD NEOhio (SDN) says:

    DesertBunny: We are saving you a seat!

  762. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    UncommonSB lmao I know my sence of humor is a little off at times but hun I am shaved :) Neet clean and sometimes you can even take me out in public lol

  763. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    sorry sweetredhead, I alway snatched him, you’ll have to go for second best, lol

  764. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    You know me Lisa, always holding out for the perfect man lol. As I have said before. I do not NEED and SD. I would like one. So I can pick and choose what I like.

  765. UncommonSB says:

    Sweetredhead: LOL! Men’s razors work best, any one of them will do. Just get into the habit of shaving that area everytime you shave your legs and it becomes a pretty easy habit. If you are not used to shaving, your skin might be sensitive at first, but you can by a bikini zone product at any drug store.

  766. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    I know Desertbunny. Some men just do not have class. They may have money, but it takes more than that.

  767. Lisa that Actually Has an SD says:

    Good evening everyone

    Back from a long day at work.

    No sd yet sweetredhead??

  768. Sweetredhead*269443* says:

    The g spot? lol. Ok I will contain myself.