9 years ago
Interpreting the Sugar

9 years ago
Interpreting the Sugar

Many here in the online dating Sugarbowl are learning to communicate with people from very different backgrounds, generations, and scenes.

The average age difference between a pair on Seeking Arrangement is 20-30 years; and that’s just one of the many common gaps bridged between sugars in mutually beneficial relationships day in and day out.

Have you had any trouble interpreting a messages or other signals from Sugar Daddies or Sugar Babies because of ‘gaps’ in age, social customs, economic status, etc.?

What types of differences or ‘gaps’ are there between you and your sugar (current or potential)?

How much do sugars’ social, political, and economic differences factor into  making an arrangement with them? Do you prefer to keep certain subjects or areas of life out of your sugar relationships?

531 Responses to “Interpreting the Sugar”

  1. JamesNY says:

    TexasSugah, from what you wrote, I completely agree with your reaction, that was passive aggressive acting out against someone who wasn’t there (except in his head). I feel bad for you but you scoped it out immediately and didn’t lose any of your self-respect, he sounds like a child who doesn’t know what he wants and doesn’t care who he hurts. Hang in there.

  2. sugarbarbie says:

    so far my chicago meet sucks. I could’ve had a v8. I’m too peeved to go into detail right now. lame lame lame and more lame.

  3. Lisa says:

    Hard work has never gotten me anywhere, it’s all been luck for me.
    It is odd that he really seemed to understand the concept (he was a first time sd) and took iniative, he was really like a father to me, well except for ….

    I have to save every penny if I want to stay here in September as I have to prepay the entire lease because of my credit and I don’t even make half the income requirements of 2200 a month. The rent is only 100 more and the apartment is smaller but I don’t notice it and it’s soooo much nicer and safer.

  4. ESB says:

    Lisa, I am so sorry to hear that.. and it seems so strange after all he did for you that he would just poof like that. I hope all is well and you hear from him soon. I am the LAST person to ask for advice from about men. I just can’t figure them out. I think I’m going to just get as many jobs as I can handle, and forget about dating for a while. Just focus on getting my debt paid off and a place for me and BG to live. Men just aren’t helping. They are just making me feel bad about myself and thinking I am just to stupid to get things right.. I know that is my X talking, but today, I can’t seem to get his voice out of my head!!

  5. Lisa says:


  6. Lisa says:

    ESB, he just vanished. Last time I saw him was March 12th, everything was fine, he talked about things we were going to do, about getting me a dining room table, etc. Didn’t see him the next week because we were both busy, next week he emailed he was going out of town to play golf, and be back on Easter, said “i’ll keep in touch dear”. I have emailed him 5 times over the last 2 weeks and no answer. He was on the site 2 weeks ago but his profile was still hid so he might have been doing something with his account as he hasn’t been on except that one time. Can’t call him cause he’s married. Don’t know if I should send him an email later in the week expressing concern for him.
    I’m back on the sites getting junk emails from idiots that want to spank me, etc and guys who want serious relationships.

  7. Beach_Girl says:

    james.m~ I have no idea what customs are like… I will contact her… Thanks I didn’t think about that!!!

  8. ESB says:

    It seems there is never anyone here when I come out to play… darn… Guess I’ll go find somewhere else to get into trouble!! Night Everyone!!

  9. ESB says:

    Lisa, what happened? I am being lazy, I’ll read up and find out.. I hope all is well with you!! Spanking? LOL… um, next!

    james.m: I need a book on how to figure out men… I have NO idea how things are with me and he… he’s decided to stop calling and texting.. well, he did call me this morning for the first time since Tues. He texts once a day, to “check in” and I’m scratching my head thinking WTF?? I’m taking control of this… he’s done. I deserve better than that, and won’t keep a guy around who thinks I’m only good for one thing. He has NO idea who he is messing with here… or what he is giving up! (I have held back a little! 😉 )

    So, blog meet.. that sounds wonderful!! I’ll see if I can scratch the $$ together for this.. maybe if I can get VA to go, we can share a room! that would be a blast! She is one of the best!!

  10. Lisa says:

    Good afternoon everyone. Back from work. No word yet from sd :(.

    Got one message on SA after 22 view, just the same guy that has been on forever that wants to spank me. He’s not in Houston so I guess i’d have to travel there. Sent him a courteous response though. Not really into spanking

  11. The Lone Gunman says:

    Helllo all!

    New blog, it appears!!!


  12. james.m says:

    Shoog – two roads diverged ina yellow wood,
    and I too the one more rambunctuious
    Shoog (Robert) Frosty

    Beach – can Midwest get it for you and bring it across the border to you at the meet? Legally?

    Hey ESB – welcome back. How’s it going with you and he?

  13. ESB says:

    Whoa.. Lily and Shoog in the same town… did anyone alert national security of this event? 😉 Sounds like loads of fun!!

  14. ESB says:

    Good afternoon Sugar Family!! How is everyone today? Happy, healthy and full of sugar I hope!! 😉

  15. ChampagneSB says:

    Jade – lol. I hear you! I just did the equivalent using email 😉 NO, I DON’T WANT TO DATE YOU. OR SLEEP WITH YOU. (I wasn’t that blunt, but seriously he’s missed all the social clues I’ve put out for him) I could have tried to educate him on the sugar rules involved in NSA…but I met this guy IRL and he is clearly not getting it. Although, I’ll take the blame. I should have trusted my “this guy has nothing to offer” instinct…

  16. Jade says:

    Can I use the Kettle bell on my sugar daddies hard head? He keeps calling about that “doing it doggy style” and not getting the hint I am not seeing him anymore !

  17. Beach_Girl says:

    Hey AM~ already drinking lol… have one for me…

    I have to go back to work

    See you later Sugars!!!!

  18. ChampagneSB says:

    Good morning! Just finished a little workout myself – although the kettleball workout has my attention….Hmmm…although I feel the same as Shoogar regarding shopping at Walmart.

    Though Walmart doesn’t seem so bad compared to the guy at the gym who was grunting profusely and playing air drums the entire time. Uh…a little too enthusiastic one might say.

    Hope everyone’s Saturday is going well!

  19. Anna Molly says:

    Hey VC!! Good to see you 😀

  20. Anna Molly says:

    Shoog ~ Not only is it Wal-Mart, but Lowes and Home Depot as well! I have a love/hate relationship with all three. Although, I prefer Lowes over Home Depot any day and Target over Wal-Mart. 😀

  21. VillaCypris says:

    Hi SSSD and AM.

    I’m heading out for some sunshine!!!

    Hope everyone has a wonderful afternoon! x

  22. Anna Molly says:

    Hi everybody! Hope the weekend is a fun one! I was sick the last couple of days, but feeling better. I’ve started drinking already….LOL

  23. Beach_Girl says:

    VC~ I hope are emails aren’t lost in cyber space again lol… J’ai plein de nouvelle idea et un plan pour m’amuser!

    OMG I wish It was in the 70s, it’s 46 here this morning, brrrrr.

    Hi SSSD, hope you are having a good Saturday?

  24. Beach_Girl says:

    VC~ sounds good …

    Shoo~ We, up here in the cold, cold north lol, Cannot order from Walmart in the US, we have to order here, and here Walmart does not have it…
    It’s ok, i’ll find a way! lol

    Talk soon

  25. SSSD says:

    Shoogar wrote: I think SSSD, SDinLA and Sincere are all the same person. Kind of like Michael Jackson, Latoya Jackson and Diana Ross.

    Boy, you’re not giving me much to pick from. In terms of which one is SDinLA, Sincere, and me… I guess I’d have to pick Diana Ross. 😉

    Regarding the SA party, I’m dubious that powerful SDs will show up. They don’t need the media exposure.

    And Lily and Shoogar are going to meet tonight!? Can I join in? Just warm each other up, hot and wet, and then I’ll dive right in… I’ll bring the champagne and grenade launcher.

  26. Beach – you can order it online! I’m sure Wal-Mart dot com has it. (UGH! Can’t even believe I would recommend that as I am known for being anti-Wal-Mart, but what can you do when they carry EVERYTHING?)

    My disdain for them has nothing to do with the quality of their merchandise, rather the fact they are a Big Box parasite! When Wal-Mart enters a community, everything sinks to the lowest denominator (or is that dominator)—wages, prices, products, and services.

    I digress.

    That’s NOT a sugar topic so I will refrain for sharing more of my opinion on that one!

    Bye, everyone!

  27. VillaCypris says:

    Shoo – have FUN!!!!!!!! 😀

    Red – by “chilly” I assume you mean 70-75 degrees?? 😉

    Beach – salut!! I’ll send you an email….

  28. Ok, ladies. I am stepping away to pick up some last minute goodies (accoutriments?) for my sugar weekend with Lils. Enjoy your weekend and remember to always take the road most rambunctious! 😉

  29. Beach_Girl says:

    Hey everyone!
    Hope you are all having a good day!

    Shoo~ We don’t have that in Montreal :( The Danskin kettlebell workout with DVD
    That totally sucks… the only thing is the 149$ working with 5lb Kettlebell… totally sucks for me..Ah well…
    Have an awesome time with lily

    Hey VC~ how are you?
    Hey REd!

  30. RedMaru says:

    Hey Villa long time!
    Yes the pollen has blown away for the most part now the weather is slightly chilly

  31. RedMaru says:

    Hey Shoogar! I got it 😀
    Now you have mail

  32. VillaCypris says:

    Hi RedMaru!

    Hope the pollen has blown away by now….. :)

  33. RedMaru says:

    Kettleballs eh? I’m going to have to try that

  34. RedMaru says:

    Afternoon sugarfam!
    Sleeping late feels so great…hey that rhymed. I wish I could go to the SUGAR PARTY :(

  35. VillaCypris says:

    Bye OC!!!!!! I’ve missed you as well. Have a wonderful hike in the canyon!! xox

  36. RE: Kettlebells – You can buy the Danskin kettlebell workout with DVD for as low as $15.97 at Wal-Mart or Target. I recommend buying a 5 lb. for upper body and starting with an 8 lb. for lower body. Once you are advanced, move on to 10-15 lb kettlebells. I’m not kidding, after just 2 weeks of working on them daily, I noticed a huge difference! Just watch the entire part on safety because if you use a kettlebell without proper technique, you can take out a shin or worse, you noggin! Who wants to go out on a sugar date with a ginormous bruise on the side of their face?

  37. VillaCypris says:

    Shoo –

    thanks! I’m in Minneapolis…. a.k.a “fly over land”…. “geographically undesireable land”…. hahah… i jest (not really).

    Will send you an email. Yes, you and Lily and pink stilettos… if only I was up on the latest surveillance gadgets, would plant a few cameras around town and GPS chips in your heels in order to watch the fun! :)

    OC – I love lavendar as well. It’s the “universal oil”… has helped my wrist heal up quite well, and is pefectly relaxing / helps one sleep.

    I’ve heard good things about kettle balls… hmmmm…..

    • OCSugarBaby says:

      Have a great day ladies! I am putting down the box of cereal and
      getting my bunz out of bed.

      Villa I am so glad we connected today. I have missed you!

      Shoo have fun with Miss Lily 😉 xoxox ~OC

  38. Hey OC! – I tell EVERYONE about the kettlebell workout! Quickest way to get your entire body in shape quickly. I mean, ALL AREAS. I was skyping with a SB last night and showing her the moves and telling her you can get buns of steel with this workout. Pretty comical to try and show the moves on a little webcam – I think she got a kick out of it!

  39. Villa – Thank you! I am actually frightened at the mere thought of Lily and I in the same city – in our pink shoes! ha ha. Our robust personalities combined with our love for karaoke can only mean some fun ahead for all who cross our paths! Oh, not sure what city you are in…but wanted to make sure you know about the NYC Meet I am planning with SSSD (to take place in either June or September). If you are interested, send me an email to shoogar at nyc sugar meet dot com and I can send you the link. Enjoy your day, darlin’!

  40. VillaCypris says:

    oops….BUY a bottle…

    donaey – hmmmm…. tough call…. no pun intended 😉 … i’ve had that happen before, a couple times i have called the person, but usually i’d rather communicate by email and get to know someone before we talk on the phone. part of that, sadly enough, is with all the emails, text messaging, automated phone services, we’ve forgotten, or are no longer comfortable, as a society, interacting, “in person”. it’s weird.

    ha. i know that’s not helpful to your particular situation…. go with your guy instinct…does he seem like a gentleman? or someone just looking for instant phone sex, or something equally as tawdry?

  41. VillaCypris says:

    TexasSugah – good luck on your date tonight!!!

    Shoo and Lily – I can only imagine your weekend…. the poor men in _____ have no idea what’s about to hit them! 😉

    OC – I wish I was out there, we could go hiking together or powerwalk on the beach! Two of my best friends live on mulholland above runyon canyon, that sounds like a kick a** hike.

    i remember about your ankle… ugh… i am thankful i fractured my radius and not any lower appendages! so i could still walk. yea, i found a set of stairs 10 min from where i live, it’s 250 up and down, so i do 12-20 reps, depending.

    at the moment, i’m researching creme de violette, i want to but a bottle for my sister-in-law, it’s her birthday tomorrow and she mentioned it months ago…. the ‘old school’ cocktails are making a comeback, this one is used in “the Aviator” apparently… :)

    • OCSugarBaby says:

      Villa that sounds yummy! I had a gin martini the other night that had a hint of Lavender, shoot I can’t remember the name. All I know is that it was “Fully” intoxicating! Lavender is my favorite everything (flowers, scent, color). I even cook and bake with it. Creme de Violette sound wonderful!
      I took Shoo’s advice and bought a kettle ball. That is fun! Great work out too.
      I wish you were here I would love a walking partner. So many great hiking spots in Cali! Fantastic views.

      Hi Shoo! 😉

  42. Donaey says:

    Villa Cypris- Oh wow so I guess I am kind of lucky that they stop responding early on huh hehe. You are right, why was my time trying to figure out what is going on when I can just move on. I will do just that. I had a guy who gave me his phone # saying that he wants to me in his first email. I haven’t called him because I am not sure if I should… thoughts?

  43. Donaey– Yes, that is perfectly normal. There are many times I only have a few minutes to spare to read my email. Then I will wait until I have sufficient time to respond in-depth rather than sending a quick message back. It was always a big turn-off for me to return and have a message waiting that said, “I saw you read my message, but haven’t written back.” I am not saying this is always the case, but it is a good rule to follow as not to make yourself grow weary of wondering…WHY? Just be very patient in this type of endeavor. It is one of the best things you can do for yourself. :)

  44. Donaey says:

    You guys are all so helpful

    TexasSugah Thanks for the advice , I will definitely remind my self to stay positive :)

  45. VillaCypris says:

    Donaey – I’ve had people talk to me for hours, even from overseas, correspond via email for weeks, etc. etc. and even THOSE persons have just stopped responding or have disappeared (sometimes they “RE appear” at a later date, stating that they don’t check that email very often, or have been away on business) …. it’s been difficult for me to get my mind around, as I fail to understand why someone would invest that amount of time if he were not seriously interested.

    Alas, one could spend his or her entire waking moments trying to figure out what goes on in someone else’s head, it’s a futile pursuit.

    Just do not take it personally and not to sound cold, or dehumanising but you have to then ‘move on’ to the next profile and hopefully the person behind it will be a better fit.

  46. Donaey says:

    HI ,

    Thanks for the responses so far. I was sitting here thinking there was something wrong with me. I can see if I contacted them first and they didn’t reply but they contact me and then don’t reply. From this day forward I will not take it personal.

    Shoogar shoes- I do understand that they are busy but what gets me is that I see that they’ve read my response and just haven’t replied back. Have you found that even when they have read your response it takes them a week or so to respond?

  47. VillaCypris says:

    OC – thanks!

    Yes… I do love great wine… and fast cars… (ha, I sound like a guy)

    so nice you were thinking of me! :)

    NO! I’m not all healed… I went for my first bike ride 10 days ago, and was UNable to shift the gears with my left hand… not sure if it’s a strength issue or ligaments, but I need to go more exercises evidently. Have not been out on the rollerblades yet… mostly powerwalking and running 3-5000 stairs a few times a week. THAT is great exercise!

    Hope things are going well for you in CA!!! xxxx

    • OCSugarBaby says:

      Villa stairs? Wow, you are in great shape. Keep up the PE
      and you will be as good as new. Errr well almost. It took me
      a year to finally heal my ankle. But then I walked on it broken
      for 3 months. High heels and all! Ouch!
      Actually my heel on my Manolo’s got caught in a steel
      grate on the sidewalk and broke off! I was more worried
      about the shoes at the time then my ankle.
      Trust me you are NO guy! You are all woman. I am in awe
      of your vast knowledge. What’s on your adgenda for today?
      I am trying to get motivated to hike the canyon today. But still
      laying in bed feeding my dog my cereal. Haha

      TexasSugah I am so excited for you, have a great date tonight. Ohhh I think the Michael Kors “Uptown Astor” would be stunning!

  48. TexasSugah says:

    Hey Sugar Family…

    I’ve been away with sick family but haven’t given up on sugar dating. I have one today, finally. He’s coming in tonight for dinner and fun. He’s pretty nice but we’ll see how it goes in person.

    MindaNYC – I know what you mean.. what the hell with the girlfriend deal. I get that ALL the time.. Geez! This sugardate tonight is already calling me his girlfriend… I’m like yes but I want you to do this. If it’s a gift daddy I found that saying I have a __________ fetish works. Right now I’m big on accessories. So I want a new Michael Kors purse. Just cause I don’t have one.

    Oh… MiamiSD sent some funds. Suprising. We haven’t met and don’t really have solid plans to meet.

    PersonalInfo SD and I are still talking. He’s back in the states this week. I hope he goes well.

    Met another on SD4ME.. Lilly was right.. it’s a numbers game.

    Donaey – I get that too.. just keep plugging away.. something will give.. stay positive.

  49. Donaey – Keep in mind you are dealing with very busy businessmen. Most I corresponded with were often traveling abroad or running several operations. Give them at least a week before you send a friendly follow-up. In that follow-up message, it is okay to include a little closing such as, “if I don’t hear back from you, I will assume we are not a good fit and I wish you the best in your search!”

  50. VillaCypris says:

    LISA – As someone else mentioned, I would be shocked if, after the investment of time and financial resources that your SD has made, he would just “disappear” without a trace. That is just inexcusable.

    BUT, as ChampagneSB and I were discussing yesterday, such is the nature of these “relationships”… there are no guarantees in life, especially in this arena, and it highlights the fact that the only person whom you can ever really rely upon, is YOU!!


  51. Leaving soon to pick up Lily in her lipstick heels. Wow, she left me as her spokeswoman, huh? Not sure I can fill that job. Wait, I will just go to Wikipedia and copy/past all the information on the newly found hominid species Australopithecus sediba, believed to be an ancestor of either Homo habilis or Homo erectus and that should suffice as a Lily post.

    Lily in her pink lipstick adorned shoes and me in my pink Louboutin stilettos (the ones in the avatar). I smell T-R-O-U-B-L-E. If I don’t post again in the next couple of days, someone please call a SWAT team. I recommend they come prepared in high tech body armor and grenade launchers. This sugar mission could very well be the most dangerous mission of their professional life. And the most fun!

    Who says a sugar weekend always has to be SD/SB? Not I.

    Shoogar Shoes over and out.

  52. VillaCypris says:

    Good morning all!!

    OC!!!!!!!! great to see you 😀

    TMW – I, too, am in MN!! Yes, the weather *is* finally gorgeous.

    Lily – have a safe trip… I sent you an email yesterday, hope it was the correct address!

    Donaey – I’ve had that happen numerous times… don’t take it personally, it’s not a reflection on you, but rather on them, and their clear lack of manners or courtesy. As NYCSB says, “NEXT”!!!!

    • OCSugarBaby says:

      Villa! Omg how are you? Great to see you too.
      I take it you are all healed and roller blading again?
      I thought about you the other day. It was during a
      conversation with another sugar. The topic of great
      wine came up and so did your name! You always know so
      much about them. That and fast cars vroom vroom!
      Great news that it is finally nice in MN. Snow be gone!!!

      Welcome TMW :)

      Donaey seriously don’t take it personally, Villa is right! Next!

  53. Donaey says:


    Can some one please tell me what is going on… I’ve had several guys email me on this site and on another and each time I respond back to them( in a timely manner) They don’t respond back! It is very frustrating because I don’t understand why they bother to send me a message if they have no intentions on responding .

  54. TMW, you are so welcome!!!!

    Jetset, how are you, my ‘lil sis’? 😉

    Lisa, I’m sorry. Poofing sucks. The single most recurring theme on this journey. And most irritating.

    My dating adventures have turned up interesting results this week. Bald Hottie refused the “out” I gave him. Says no matter what happens between us romance-wise, he is standing by my side with career mentorshio and financial assistance wherever needed, until I am a huge success. So sweet. New guy from SA flew to me and auditioned himself as a traditional boyfriend. He kicked my kittens. NEXT!!!
    Second 24hr whirlwind date with Eurosexy last night and we are floating the idea of all the strings becoming attached. He claims I could never be a “side act” in his life. Wants to close his marriage with his wife and really focus on making it work, or then he will leave her and ask for my hand. He needs time to think about it. He has fallen for me these past months, and my heart teeters on being wisely valeted and opening myself up to him and really becoming weak and vulnerable to him. I’m still “safe”, emotionally, but any further and I will want the ring and the traditional life with him. Somehow, I doubt this is my Cinderella story, but the daydream is nice. Let’s see what he decides. Curioser & curioser. I just never would have believed that 41 year old men that tall & sexy could be millionaires. :) ya live & learn.
    I may bring him as my date to the NYC meet.

    Speaking of NYC, I’m on a flight to NYC right now. Radio silence from Lils for 9 hours but I defer any questions or comments to Shoo, my spokeswoman. She may speak on my behalf! :) *mwah* to you, sweet cakes, and put your party shoes on tonight! I’m wearing pink strappy sandals with heels, with bright red lips scattered on the straps as appliqué. I tried on all the Louboutins in the country and wanted the Minna Parikka shoes with the lips. Go figure. Finland designs fun heels–cool trivia you didn’t know!!
    Ok, plane really taking off now!!

    • OCSugarBaby says:

      Shoo I am so glad you love a good party too!
      Have fun with Lily. I expect a Karaoke blog update
      around 1am. I want your shoes Lil’s!

      Cleo you have the best sugar attitude! What-cha
      got to lose and curiosity would get the best of me too.

      Lisa I have put the word out in Cali for a lost SD. No word yet
      if anyone has seen him. My thoughts are… he came out here to
      play golf for a few weeks and got hit on the head with a golf
      ball. No major injury but then a bird (not related to Percy)
      swooped down while he was dazed by the ball and took
      his blackberry. Thinking it was food. Chances are he is still
      playing the 19th hole and will contact you shortly.

      We have been begging SA to host a Sugar Party since the
      begginning of the blog. The first one in Vegas was cancelled, which
      we were all very sad about. But now we have another one
      to look forward to. Yippee!!!

      *** SUGAR P-A-R-T-Y In the Big Apple NYC Tuesday May 4th***

  55. U & I both know there’s only 1 kind of party.




    Hotel suite.


  56. I think SSSD, SDinLA and Sincere are all the same person. Kind of like Michael Jackson, Latoya Jackson and Diana Ross.

    meet = intransitive verb 1 a : to come face-to-face b : to come together for a common purpose.

    Sounds like a party to me.

    But what do I know?

    Must be the wine talking.

  57. cleo says:

    boston honey: i think irlsd got an sb and disappeared… but i miss his thoughts
    sa party?

    i would go, i have nothing to lose in my day to day life and curiosity would have me there if nothing else. that and i do all right even in a room full of babes *g*

    that said, i wouldn’t come in from out of town for it.

  58. TMW says:

    Just stopping by to say hi to everybody! Lisa, something could have come up – after that interaction and help it would be very unfortunate if he poofed, just hang in there for now.

    Back to setting up my profile thanks to the wonderful help of Lipstick Lily! Thanks again! Hope everybody has a great, sweet, fun weekend. The weather here in MN is finally becoming nice.

  59. BostonHoney says:

    James.m thanks for asking! I haven’t been on SA or even following the blogs… Just hopped on today and saw the new posting for the NYC party.

    Doing great. Hope to be taking horseback riding lessons soon, excited for warm weather to be here as well. I was told that I am too sexy, must be something wrong with me… huh? Say what… LOL. Oh well.

    Planning to do a lot of Sporting Clay this year around New England. Also working on a start up business, new and emerging market, working on an seed competition application where there will be two winners on each coast…. Wish me luck….

    Jade your right. Potty is what the native Bostonian’s would say… he hee.. I am not from Boston so I say, “Party.”

    Is IRLSD still on here. I giggle every time I walk by a kiosk….and think of Polish Girl.

    Boston Honey

  60. Jade says:

    Ok people….what we learned today is: instead of calling your get together’s a meet, call it a party !

  61. james.m says:

    Long time no hear!

    What’s up with you?

  62. Lisa says:

    Good evening everyone. Back from taking my daughter to dinner.

    MindyNYC My sd was local and we had seen each other around 7 times in 6 weeks, weekly and then he went out of town, said he’d keep in touch and then disappeared. His profile is still suspended (we suspended our profiles the day after we met) but he was online once last week and not since. Not sure if he was cancelling his account because he couldn’t contact anyone with a suspended profile. I can’t call him because he’s married. Just very odd he had made plan for future dates and then vanished.

  63. Yaz says:

    James.m ~ Didn’t mean to make it sound like that….lol

    Is the media really going to be there??? Damn…I would have gone to the party lol
    You never know….One could meet some very interesting, funny, smart, strange, genuine, powerful SDs and SBs. And I think if the party turns out to be a success, many many more will follow 😉
    We shall see….

    Finally home!!!! :-) Time to relax and enjoy a nice meal and a movie :-)

    Have a good evening Sugar Fam! :-)

  64. BostonHoney says:

    Wow, party in NY. I bet it will not be as smashing as your small meet and greets because everyone got to know each other via the blog.

    It might be awkward but once the drinks start pouring and the interesting, delightful, and charming SD’s and SB’s arrive I am sure that it will be a very interesting night….

    Anyone planning on going? Or is everyone in stealth mode?

  65. photogirl says:

    OC – Meet – Party… either way, it is sugar related and I am assuming much less privacy and discretion than one we bloggers put together ourselves. Was just genuinely curious as those were two major concerns of yours.

    Have fun!

  66. MindyNYC says:

    @ Jade – wow! that is so uncalled for. On one hand I can understand is fears, but I am really disturbed that he could not find a better way to express them. Which makes me cringe at the thought of how he will express his other expectations.

  67. Lils – I would only ever crawl out of bed (in my skivvies) and video chat for you. Seeing your pretty kitty was worth it. Can’t wait for our sugar date this weekend! SO EXCITED!!!

  68. MindyNYC says:

    How often do you usually speak with him? Could he be ill maybe? Is his phone off? He made an investment in you and I doubt he would abandon it/you so easily…I have a feeling you’ll hear from him.
    I have a ton (like over 50) fitness dvd’s you can do at home. I’d be happy to send you some so you don’t have to rely on the gym.
    At least your mom took the news well. I remember you were concerned about that.
    Try to hang in there

  69. james.m – HA HA HA HA!!!!!!

  70. Lisa says:

    I am saving for my next lease but after bills, I’m broke. No money to join the fitness club across the street so I can lose the 5 lbs I’ve gained. I need to start shopping for healthy food again but i’m stuck eating junk. We lost both our fridge and microwave at work and they’re not being replaced so my lunch is now junk food since I can’t brink anything to heat up. I have to hide out one day a week because mom will be disappointed if she finds out I lost my sd. Oddly she was thrilled when I told her about SA and having a sd.

    Gotta walk over to her apartment now and head over to the mall which is in view of my door :)

  71. Lisa says:

    Thanks OC but he said he’d keep in touch 2 weeks ago and hasn’t replied to any of my emails. He is alot older so maybe he died or something?

    Off to meet mom and go to meet daughter soon.

    • OCSugarBaby says:

      Lisa oh I hope not! You both made some pretty amazing
      changes in your life. He would not have done that if he
      did not believe in YOU. In the mean time… SAVE!
      You can do it :) xoxo ~OC

      Hi James.M, Yaz, Jade and Molly!

  72. Anna Molly says:

    Hi Yaz!!! 😀

    LMAO James.M….where has SDinLA been? He still hasn’t told me about his Naughty Molly dreams yet!!

  73. james.m says:

    Yaz, you make it sound like a high school dance!
    That means SDin LA will be there!

    • OCSugarBaby says:

      Lisa, give him some time. I have a feeling he will pop back into your
      life. Have fun with your daughter!

      Hi Photo! It’s a party not a meet 😉
      Hope you are doing well!

  74. yaz...at work says:

    Re: SA party in the city
    This could go two ways. It could be a total FAILURE or it could be a great SUCCESS.

    It would be great to meet new people, talk to SDs ( who could turn into potentials) or make new SBs friends!!! However, this could be one AWKWARD party lol
    Imagine, SBs one side of the room and SDs on the other side. As an SB, I don’t know if I would be able to go up to a total stranger and start making small talk even if I was very interested in him..
    Will elaborate more on that later! My boss just showed up!

  75. Lisa says:

    Hi yaz, just sittting around bored. Going to take daughter to dinne tonight for her birthday. Sd poofed, back in the search

  76. yaz...at work says:

    SA Party in NYC?? LOL

  77. yaz...at work says:

    Hey y’all!

    Looks like I have missed a lot! lol It’s going to take me forever to catch up with all the comments…

    How is everybody? :-)

  78. Jade says:

    I would be willing to bet he is no male model !

  79. Anna Molly says:

    What a jerk!! Yeah, I’m sure he’s a real winner!!

  80. Jade says:

    I got such a rude email today :

    send me a promise that I WILL NOT BE DISAPPOINTED. My time is money just like everyone elses and I just went through a game of back and forth emails only to discover when I got the pic code that the girl was rather plain… as in nothing motivating at all to an SD. Like I said, if you are as amazing looking as you sound and your intellect is, than you are a winner, but please, don’t think I will fall for a plain girl just because we played internet games. (I truly do not mean to sound rude by this and it does sound rude… I hope you understand the spirit it was meant.)

    Thanks. : )

  81. Jade says:

    They should offer the party free to all paid vip and not try to make extra money off everyone !

  82. photogirl says:

    OC – I am curious… you mentioned before that you would not attend a meet planned by bloggers… people you have gotten to know(as it terrified you and you needed discretion). But now you will attend a meet hosted by SA… with people in attendance that you do not know…complete strangers along with media in attendance.

    May I ask what changed your mind?

  83. Anna Molly says:

    Hi Everybody 😀

  84. Lisa says:

    Good morning everyone
    Looks like my sd has poofed :( Haven’t heard from him in 2 weeks. He emailed me that he was going to play golf in California for a couple weeks and would be back Easter. Haven’t heard from him since. I can’t believe men his age act like that. He seems so serious and had things planned out for us, moved me to this new apartment a month after we met, etc. Now i’m in this nice new place with no money to enjoy as I have to save every penny for the next 6 month lease. Just put my profile back up on SA and sdforme.

    Today’s my daughter’s bday, gotta take her to dinner.

  85. Michael AZSD aka looking for 1+1=omfg says:

    Hey JetSet – I just think that the people atttracted to such a public event would be something I would not be interested in. Secondly, I am sure this is being done as a marketing event so there will be cameras and press there. Thirdly, this is all about discretion! Not for me.

  86. JetSet says:

    Don’t post often.. But many of you know me. Interested to see what people have to say about the NYC party… I’m on the opposite side of the map.. If it were in LA I’d probably check it out.. Seems like more of a time and $$ investment than i may care for being in NYC

  87. FLSB says:

    That’s not good, I hope they don’t make that show…

    • OCSugarBaby says:

      Hi Sugar’s!
      Lily I am sorry to hear that your prime SD
      arrangement may end. All good sugar
      must come to an end. (you can quote me
      on that)
      It is sad and I know you will bounce right
      back to that sassy Lily that I love! ((Hugs))

      Welcome back SweetRed!
      Fabulous news on the
      dieting! I am sure you look fantastic.
      Hi Cleo and FLSB 😉

      ****SA NYC Sugar Party!
      I will BE there ****

  88. FLSB says:

    Good Morning sugars!

    I feel like I have missed so much. I have been busy with potSD dates :)

    Regarding the may 4 meet, I wouldn’t go within a 100ft of that thing! I did get an email from the ceo of another site that I’m on asking, if I would like to interview for MTV true life show!!! :/

  89. cleo says:

    geeze lils you have friends who would go in your place… *g*

  90. By the way, TGIF! Thank Goodness it’s Friday, indeed!

  91. Mindy, that’s what I’ve been saying on my blog. Even if the arrangement is temporary, the friendship and alliance could very well last a lifetime, so treat it as such. Invest your “A game” (the very best of yourself and your character/heart) into him as if you were intending to be on good terms for decades.

    I just had to turn down an invitation for me + 2 of my girlfriends to fly first class to London for a major, exclusive party that was being held. (yes, I know the guy already, who invited me, and yes, we originally met on SA) That hurts!!!! But i’m heading to somewhere warm!

  92. Michael AZSD aka looking for 1+1=omfg says:

    Speaking of references, I am still looking for perfection. Anybody know anybody in Arizona? (serious question).

  93. Michael AZSD aka looking for 1+1=omfg says:

    Shoogar and Mindy – I agree with you. Wouldn’t go near it!! This site is all about discretion – I would not enjoy seeing my face all over The Gray Lady.

    The media willl totally be there and I know there will be a bunch of PR for the site. I think this is more a marketing event.

  94. James.m – I don’t mind you taking over my role of verbosity.

    SDinLA – I don’t know how you can speak of my trustworthiness with such authority. I’m a wild card with a rough style around here, didn’t you know that? (sorry, OC, couldn’t resist) You haven’t flown overseas to inspect for yourself. I await.

    re: NYC SA sponsored meet Oh hells no. I’ll stick with meets organized by myself or by someone I trust, with discretion ensured.

    re: SDs interviewing multiple potSBs He oughtta. I want a guy I’m with to be SURE he’s scoped out all the options and picked the creme de la creme.

    Shoo Only one hour and eleven minutes this time when we’ve video called! We are curbing our marathons as if we’re SBs who have willpower and prudence! wow! I forgot to ask, did you pick a date for the meet?

    as for me…. I’m not feeling too Lils-a-licious at the moment. Lilsalicious. That looks like Salacious. I like it. Oh but I digress. I have my primary SD complaining that he’s falling in love and worried about his ability to valet his own heart and enjoy having an arranngement with me. He has a very valid point and I’m afraid the arrangement needs to come to an end for that very reason. My secondary SD is becoming my primary business investor, but someone I see so little that I feel restless about it (twice in 2010, outside of a 4 day work trip I accompanied him on). It’s just…. unsatisfying.

  95. MindyNYC says:

    Congrats SweetRed on your weight loss efforts. I’m sure that took a lot of dedication! One day I hope you’ll share your secrets…

  96. MindyNYC says:

    Yeah, I think it’s great that the site is marketing and publicizing itself, but the publicity/media aspect can be disturbing for those of us who prefer discretion. I’m also a bit nervous about the type of people an event like this may attract…

    Lunch with newexSD was a lil’ too good. Catching up was so fun that we didn’t get a chance to order lunch. I carelessly drank 3 glasses of wine on an empty tummy, so was tipsy by 2pm in the afternoon lol – not smart…It was nice to have an opportunity to thank and reminisce about the things/experiences I appreciated most throughout our relationship. He was truly touched at the (little) details I hold dear, and I think it will make the break/transition easier. It just served as a reminder for me that even when a sugar relationship ends, the friendship that brought you together doesn’t have to. Even when things start to go sour, treat your sugar with respect and gratitude.

  97. Michael AZSD – The facebook, twitter, Linkedin, MySpace icons, including a conversation I had with a few SBs tonight brought one thought to mind regarding that event: Media and Press will probably be there. NO THANK YOU. I don’t want my mug showing up on any social networking sites or the NYT.

  98. Hello All – did you see the ad on sa.com home page? For the Seeking Arrangement Party? May 4th? NYC?

    hmmm .. makes me want to go, I think I’ll be there!

    the link also says “Your Attendance will help College Students” – I’m not saying a word about that one … :-)

  99. sweetredhead says:

    Good night, sorry got to run. hopefully I will be back tomorrow night. Have a great evening all.

  100. sweetredhead says:

    Midwest, it is hard to find Those special men. Money is not the thing for me. It’s the person. I have met some good sd’s on here (blog) and it seems the good ones have been snatched up lol

  101. sweetredhead says:

    I was bad, Had a slice of pizza, well it was thin crust and veggi lol. I have lost 20 lbs in the last 2 months. Don’t want all the work to go to waste.

  102. Midwest Mistress of the Dark says:

    SRH – I know what you mean. Same was true for me :)

  103. sweetredhead says:

    I am hoping to spend more time here again. I have missed my sugar family. Even though I have given up on the sugar search. Have not found that diamond in the rough lol.

    I talked to my first and only SD tonight. We still keep in contact. Poor man is even busier than he was when we were together. I wish we lived closer. He needs some serious stress relief. He told me he misses me and my special way of making all his stress melt away. Awww he is so sweet. I wonder if there is ever going to be a Sd like he was for me. He is one of those special people, kind and honest and easy to be with. sigh

  104. RedMaru says:

    The rain came but now its chilly outside guess you cant win em all

  105. RedMaru says:

    Evening sugars
    Made it home and debating what to have for dinner
    Thanks for the welcome Midwest great to be back

  106. Midwest Mistress of the Dark says:

    Evening sugars!

    MindyNYC – Thanks for the tips.

    james.m – You are welcome to entertain a car load of sbs…I highly recommend it!

    NYCSB – Keep us posted…I’d like to be a bridesmaid…or is that a sugar maid?

    RedMaru and Sweetredhead – I’m so glad to see you laides back!

  107. sweetredhead says:

    I have so many on my email, I have no idea who is who anymore lol.

  108. RedMaru says:

    sweetredhead – know the feeling
    still got my email right? Heading out but hit me up dont be a stranger!
    Heading out sugarfam talk to y’all later

  109. sweetredhead says:

    Hiya Redmaru :) Been busy. I have missed you all too.

  110. RedMaru says:

    Just as I’m about to head out
    sweetredhead(joyful squeal) 😀
    Where have you been? I’ve missed you

  111. sweetredhead says:

    Hello everyone. Been awhile sence I have been here. How is everyone?

  112. “…can’t ever get” is sort of exaggerated because if you are good, people will recommend you…but I think you get my point.

  113. MindyNYC – in business, you can’t ever get a referral unless you ask! Arrangements are the same – just be very eloquent in your delivery.

  114. cleo says:

    MindyNYC: i would TOTALLY recommend an SD who wasn’t into me to a friend… if i liked him. if he’s a putz like mr. last week i would of course disrecommend.

    and vice versa would be terrific. hey you mr. thinks i’m awesome but isn’t hot for me? don’t you have a friend who wants someone just like me?
    re multiples

    i used to drop everything for a good pot. now i sort of slow things down with the new ones but don’t in any way let them go. so many frogs….

  115. RedMaru says:

    Hey MindyNYC
    I also agree with NC Gent

    • OCSugarBaby says:

      Hey Red, you are welcome sugar. I could see your
      frustration with your cut and paste method of
      replying to emails. This blog is (still) dedicated
      to helping others!

      Mindy having lunch with an ExSD
      states a great deal of your character! You seem to
      understand that keeping those ties even after the
      arrangement ends is important.

      On the topic of multiple’s… The more the better!
      Having one or more SB or SD, pot or not can
      be done with care and tact and can be really fun for all

  116. SSSD says:

    I concur with NC Gent. It should be fine if you ask it well.

    A bit too much to catch up on, but I’ll just give my proxy to SDinLA and SincereSD. They seem to have my opinions covered.

  117. NC Gent says:

    Mindy — if you ask someone gently, I don’t think that is a problem at all. Just needs to be broached gently.

  118. MindyNYC says:

    Morning All!
    Off to go meet newExSD for lunch. Have missed him a bit and am eager to catch up with him. Lunch today should be fun.

    SouthernGent2 – I guess it works if you’ve established a friendship? Otherwise, no?

    BTW, my question is for everyone…Wondering from an etiquette perspective
    Is it tacky to ask a potSD/SB that is not interested in you (their call), if they have a friend who might be?

  119. james.m says:

    I still think JSO had the right idea – Just Sex Only, although I can think of a couple different Os that might work

  120. RedMaru says:

    SouthernGent2 – Aaah so the Pollen Fairy has visited you too? Day before yesterday I come home from work and ask myself when did landlord paint the roof? The question was answered when the wind started blowing and that yellowish green went from the roof to the porch.

  121. SouthernGent2 says:

    Red Maru – my cars have that that yellowish green sulphur looking pollen all over them right now. Just have to live with it a couple more weeks.

  122. RedMaru says:

    Morning sugarfam!
    NCGent, SouthernGent2 great to see you if you’re still here.
    Its supposed to rain today I hope to wash away this pollen overkill (count yesterday was 5733) my nose and eyes wont stop itching.
    I would like exclusivity in my sugar relationship especially if long term but since the concept is NSA I guess I’m not expecting it. Yeah I’m real wishy washy

  123. NC Gent says:

    Heya AM and SG2 — I had to take a hiatus from here of sorts :)

  124. SouthernGent2 says:

    About time you got back on here NC.

    I can respect a girl’s choice, but this attitude of entitlement is what gets to me.

  125. NC Gent says:

    well at least she will entertain other things…. I find it amazing when I see other profiles that say NSA (no sex allowed) and they want thousands of dollars a month — I am sure a few SDs will be up for that, but not many I am guessing.

  126. Anna Molly says:

    Hi NC 😀

  127. Anna Molly says:

    Sounds like she need a dose of reality…LOL.

  128. Anna Molly says:

    LOL…well, I found it amusing to say the least! I sent you an email back 😀

  129. NC Gent says:

    No Kissing allowed — wow that sounds like fun :)

  130. SouthernGent2 says:

    Good morning Molly. You will laugh at an email I sent to you. Remember the discussion of the two meanings of NSA? Well now we need to find something new to represent “No Kissing Allowed” lol

  131. Anna Molly says:

    Good morning everyone!! 😀

    Hi SG2! I’m being a good girl today 😉

  132. Lily says:

    Just checking in…. Have been dating up a storm. Gentleman from Paris is here now& for some more hours yet……plus, tomorrow Eurosexy is in town. It’s been 4 weeks. I’ve missed him like crazy.
    Date with potTravelSD this weekend, for a trial trip together. At least I’ll get some sun no matter what, and soon! 2 more days in cold climate!

  133. SouthernGent2 says:

    Mindy – Is it tacky to ask a potSD/SB that is not interested in you (their call), if they have a friend who might be?

    I know of a girl on the site that got back together with an ex bf, so she left the site. She ran a couple of small businesses where she probably had a lot of contact with some very attractive girls and women. Since she left the site on her own, I did ask her if she knew anyone that might be interested. I didn’t think it was tacky doing so. And to be clear, she and I met one time and had a great time, but our schedules made things impossible to continue from the point forward. But we do remain friends.

  134. MindyNYC says:

    CollegeSB, ‘Sea of Love’ is a goooood movie. Think you’ll like it…

    NYCSB – Forgot to congratulate you on reaching your sugar goals, and wish you luck with non sugar love pursuits! xo

  135. MindyNYC says:

    I, too, wondered if Macy and Barbie were meeting the same guy… Nothing wrong with SD’s and SB’s alike meeting multiples. There are subtle/tactful ways to let the potential know that you are scouting others. Juggling/flying them in on the same weekend? Bordering on tacky…Just as I would never fly out to meet a potSD, and schedule other potentials or plans for the same time I’m in town.

    Midwest – re money: He is going to have to skim/take out small ATM amounts cash daily, buy things on credit card but claim he used cash, setup a paypal acct so he can say he bought something on ebay, Do a mthly ‘subscription’ via paypal and he can claim it’s a biz periodical etc. Marrieds have a tough time gathering allowance when funds are so comingled, so he has to get very creative. As for the money trail, Western Union is great or he can direct deposit the money into your bank acct, and you’ll have to do the actual purchasing of tickets, hotels, meals etc. He can buy your gifts in cash.
    As for an arrangement (allowance), you may have to show him the pros of why it would be best to just make a mthly deposit, so he doesn’t have to worry about doing individual gifts, flights, spa etc. Your allowance can take care of all of that.
    BTW, that’s how my 1st SD relationship started. It was a petty cash acct that just turned into a mthly allowance.

    TLG– congrats on your recovery progress

    Shoo – You’re absolutely right. I tend to be a little stringent in my sugar search and may sometimes dismiss too easily. On date 2, I saw that he was making a genuine effort to show me his generosity – but he also asked me a lot of ‘love’ questions (gf alert radar went off). Since, we didn’t get a chance to broach allowance on date 2 (tho he admitted to having to work harder if he was going to be with me), I figured I would bring it up tonight and get specific about what we are both looking for and our expectations…umm… ‘How to lose a frugal guy in 10 days? Mention an allowance! LOL! ’nuff said!
    My instincts were correct, but I’m glad I gave him a shot and a chance to confirm them.

    I was wondering about Flo today, so pls tell her I said “Hi”. Hope she’s back soon.

    SouthernGent2 – I don’t quite understand “can’t go out with you since you went out with my friend” thing. Could it be the age group you’re involved with?…My attitude is just the opposite! If I find a good potSD, but it just didn’t work out for whatever reason, I’m happy to recommend him to a friend. Good SD’s are hard to find!!

    Which brings me to a question…

    Is it tacky to ask a potSD/SB that is not interested in you (their call), if they have a friend who might be?

  136. College SB says:

    James.m: I have not, but now I will have to watch it! (Plus, love Ellen Barkin!) Passionate tension in movies is always the best. . . so much better than those clinical “American Pie style” sex scenes that are in so many movies.

    On a completely unrelated side note, I just spent an hour watching the Food Network aka food porn. Oh my god, they were showing cheesecakes and not just your average grocery store cheesecakes, but the kind that are works of culinary art. Sigh. And the variety of flavors. . . I just. . . I need to go eat something.

  137. Beach_Girl says:

    NYC SB~ You are not looking for a SD anymore? when did this happen?

    Shoo~ hi , how have you been?

    TLG~ nice to see you! how have you been?

  138. TLG – I have met with some pot SDs who have expressed they typically encourage their SBs to date IRL outside of the arrangement (but exercise safety always) and then I have met some who prefer a monogamous exclusive arrangement/relationship.

    For me, I would prefer my SD be exclusive during the duration of our arrangement. However, knowing the reality of the relationship and accepting it is interim and not future, I would be understanding if he wanted to see others outside of our relationship.

  139. The Lone Gunman says:

    photogirl says:

    Unless of course he wants two SBs and you two are fine with ’sharing’ him…

    oh boy…that’s a whole other topic.

    That does raise the interesting question of how open-minded one expects their SD/SB to be; how many of us are able to be understanding of an open relationship when it comes to an arrangement?


  140. NYC SB says:

    Hi sugars!

    Been super busy with work… So gave up the sugar arrangement relationships because I am ready and want something real. Joined Seeking Millionaire… so far 4 amazing men have contacted me. Meeting one on Friday… and had to cancel on another due to work. It is amazing what a difference it makes to go out and talk to someone without the $$$ lurking in the back.

    On another note… clarity and closure are very powerful. Please be kind and provide them to your pot sb/sds if you have ever met them or started some sort of an arrangement… it makes all the difference in the world.

    talk to you guys soon

  141. Beach_Girl says:

    I agree with Shoo there!

  142. james.m – “…amount of hair.

    Ha ha. I know quite a few sexy, bald men.

  143. Beach_Girl says:

    James~ I think you can handle that very well! It would be so awesome to see you again too… and as for your french lol.. too cute!

  144. james.m says:

    Ok, it must be time for bed, my typing is going. that’s J’aime, not J’amie and “It would be good”, not “I would be good”. I’ve promised Naughty Molly never to do that!

  145. james.m says:

    B and C – I shall ponder coming, I promise. I would be good to see you again. Midwest and I have talked about it, since she could swing by here and we could all go together. Do you think I could survive the drive with a carload of SBs?

  146. james.m says:

    Sorry – that’s courtesy of google

  147. james.m says:

    Beach – J’amie a vous entendre parler. Je ne sais pas ce que vous dites.

  148. Beach_Girl says:

    Jamesm~ HA, sugar for me… no!!!! it’s ok though, I have crushes that keep me going lol…
    I know what you mean, bringing out all my research about my old business plan has got me going full steam … I am excited about it actually…
    The meet is may 1st you should come… it would be awesome to see you again

  149. james.m says:

    C – Why did I think it was tomorrow? Must be the change in daylight savings time

  150. james.m says:

    Hanging in there. Trying to rescusitate the business. A new opportunity popped up, so I’m energized about it, and working too hard, which is good. Any luck on the sugar front for you?

  151. cleo says:

    james it isn’t tomorrow it’s may 1

    why don’t you come?

  152. Beach_Girl says:

    Always James, Always…
    I have been so busy these last few days, Looking into a old business venture…
    How are you?

  153. james.m says:

    It’s just another wonderful part of your sexy persona, Darling.
    Are you behaving yourself?

  154. Beach_Girl says:

    Jamesm, what is this about me and a french accent???
    Hi sweetie how are you?

  155. james.m says:

    Hi Taz (and Cleo)
    I’m a little soggy tonight; hard rains for two days, perhaps mixed with a little snow tomorrow. Just when I have the golf clubs out and started practicing for the season.
    Business may be looking up a little, which would be nice. Although having to actually do something may cut into my blog time.
    Wish I were going to Toronto tomorrow with the “Midwest Express” to catch up with Beautiful Beach with the Funny Accent and meet all who will be there. Nice work, Cleo. We expect a report on all happenings to be posted in real time, please.

  156. TT (AKA Tantalizing Taz) says:

    SG2 – perhaps she is afraid of also being rejected? A bit backwards even for me…but plausible maybe?…

    Hi james.m – lol you definitely keep on filling the Blog Father’s shoes :) How have you been?

  157. james.m says:

    Yes, it is a numbers game in many different ways. SBs and SDs in geographically challenged areas have several problems, including depressed allowances and fewer pots to choose from, for example. Ones in larger cities will always have an advantage. (How many SDs travel to Tallahassee or Waco on business, as opposed to Chicago or SFO?) We are all challenged in some way – race, age, weight, amount of hair, financially, and many more. I sympathize with the frustrations that are often expressed here. But, it is always amazing and hopeful to see the number of people who do pair off happily, in many different ways (gift daddy, travel daddy, business/mentor daddy, blog crushes, brokeBF, many types of babies, and just some good acquaintances and friendships that happen).

    Heavens, I’ve gone from Scrooge to Tiny Tim in no time at all!
    Merry Christmas to all!

  158. cleo says:

    SG2 that’s just silly…

    i mean if you already turned down my hot friend it means you’re less likely to leave me for her

  159. Mz_Tender says:

    There was never a gap in communication nor relatable matters when dealing with my past SD. Although there was a significant age difference between us two, it did not complicate anything, the guy was young at heart and mind and we knew how to connect with one-another on every level (awwwwwww I miss that man)!

  160. TT (AKA Tantalizing Taz) says:

    I am TRYING to get online earlier to catch up with some of the fam..I’m a *bit* earlier…now to try and not get distracted with something else 😛

    Hey OC!! Unfortunately I have been MIA in every sense of the word…no sugar here yet….however life is FABULOUS! :)

    TLG – yay! So happy to hear you are recovering rather than enduring more surgery…maybe you mis-spelled “sugary” on your list to Santa this past xmas? :)

  161. SouthernGent2 says:

    James – good points on having multiple POT sb’s. That’s just the way it is. Its like an airline overbooking a flight. When one is searching, there has to be a backup plan. Girls can flake and disappear. And you know they are playing the same juggling act trying to find the best POT sd for themselves also. So in a way, it is a numbers game, even if the ultimate intention is to be with one person.

    And now having said that, my rant tonight is the sb’s that travel in pairs or groups. So I message someone, swap emails, and then get an email after my more personal info is revealed saying “you went out with a friend of mine a few months ago, and turned her down. So no thanks”. Just a dumb way to think I reckon.

  162. RedMaru says:

    Ypu’re right james.m that shouldn’t be a double standard. I aint mad at anybody who’s got multiples. I’m only hoping that the good luck will rub off on me and I get one genuine one…a nice lunch meeting at the least.

  163. photogirl says:

    Hi James! I am great, thank you :)

    RedMaru – I think I still have your email, I will get in touch…glad you liked it so much!

  164. james.m – my post was in favor of SDs and SBs meeting/speaking with multiple potentials.

  165. james.m says:

    Just saw what my post looked like.

    I’m Lily, tonight!

  166. james.m says:

    Shoog, et al:

    What is wrong with an SD meeting with multiple Pots? Some bloggers have so many pots they have to name them to keep them straight. If an SD is looking, you would expect him to contact a number of women, then eliminate some, and email the rest; eliminate some, and call the rest; and finally meet with one or two.

    If an SD is going to be in Chicago or LA or NYC on business, why not fly in a couple (on different days)?

    This is no different than several ladies who (as reported/bragged here) have met a pot for lunch, a second for tea, and a third for dinner.
    I agree they should be polite and say (although not as a condition of meeting) that they are still in the selection process, are meeting with more candidates, and will make a selection when all of the info is in.
    It’s common in job interviews.

    Sorry to get on my high horse, but I wonder about some ladies who chastise a potSD for doing something they themselves do. I never liked double standards.

    And, this has nothing to do with with either of you, Macy or SugarBaby, so please don’t feel like I’m pointing a finger at you. I appreciate you came to the blog for advice, and I apologize for raising the question.

    Hi! PG! How are you?

  167. MoonPatrol says:

    I’m looking at the person and not the conditions of my GF’s life, so I’m able to have visions of success and how a lot of my problems for one, could be resolved. I find if my heart and belief in myself is strong, that I will be able to pursue her without worrying about raised eyebrows among other people in my life. Thats the key for me is belief in my own convictions and where I would get my power to be content.

  168. RedMaru says:

    Hey photogirl good to see you too and yes I got and used and loved every last drop thanks sorry I didn’t let you know before 😀
    Where can I get some more?

  169. MoonPatrol – haven’t seen you in a while. It’s good to to see you are happy! Fear is a good thing – to a degree. We are all cautious in romantic pursuits, I think. But sometimes best to let passion override caution! Enjoy.

  170. photogirl says:

    Shoogar Shoes says:
    My take on SDs having contact with multiple SBs (as potentials), is that it is fine as long as the pot SD isn’t leading you on to believe you are the ONLY one.


    I am sure he is not the ONLY SD in Chicago meeting a pot SB… just as they are probably not the ONLY SBs flying into Chicago around the same time. Just a coincidence is all… and if it does happen to be the same gent, ladies keep that in mind… you have NOT yet started the arrangement, so keep an open mind :) Unless of course he wants two SBs and you two are fine with ‘sharing’ him…

    oh boy…that’s a whole other topic.

  171. Midwest – he can wire you cash (probably best to use Western Union for him so it isn’t a bank transfer) and then you purchase the tickets. Yes, the fees are high, but it is safest that way.

  172. MindyNYC – I’m curious. If his frugality (and the fact you’re even referring to him as Tight) is something you are noticing even into date two – as something that bothers you – coupled with your fear he is looking for a girlfriend, why are you continuing? Other than hoping things will change and line up with your needs? I could be wrong, but just from the outside looking in, it seems you two simply aren’t a fit? As far as an arrangement. Oh, and thanks for taking the NYC Meet poll! That site is proving to be helpful for gathering data to help with planning. (Thank SSSD too – we are doing this one together!)

    By the way, it only costs $6.99 to buy a domain for a year and I have responded to those who asked me how they can start a site. It’s easy breezy, Covergirl.

    Our beloved Flo told me to tell everyone hello!

  173. Midwest Mistress of the Dark says:

    MoonPatrol – Congratulations! Very nice to see you back. Don’t spend your time worrying about failing. She likes you, so seize the day and enjoy!

    Shoogar – I agree on the “shopping”. It’s expected that SDs and SBs are likely talking to other potentials until an arrangement has been made. It can be awkward when you know the other potential, but that’s when maturity kicks in. We are all here for the same reasons, so it is bound to happen.

  174. Midwest Mistress of the Dark says:

    Question for the married gents…

    I have typically stayed away from meeting with married gents, however one has intrigued me more than I can explain. We didn’t meet on SA, so I’m not sure it will turn into an arrangement. Truthfully, I’m not sure I’ll pursue it, but some chemistry cannot be denied. He does want to arrange for travel and ocassional gifts. Citing he is new to affairs, he doesn’t know how to be discrete with finances.

    Any suggestions on how to eliminate the paper trail when purchasing tickets or gifts?

    Any thoughts on how/if this could become an arrangement?

  175. MoonPatrol says:

    Got Gaps? I got gaps between me and my interracial, 20 year age-difference girlfriend. I am both thrilled and scared at the same time. I’m afraid to fail. She is not asking for anything from me which is nice but i give her what I can.

  176. My opinion may differ here from others, but here goes…

    My take on SDs having contact with multiple SBs (as potentials), is that it is fine as long as the pot SD isn’t leading you on to believe you are the ONLY one. I mean, until you go into a committed arrangement with someone and discuss if it is going to be exclusive, isn’t part of the process to “shop around” and not just count on that ONE hopeful to sign on the dotted line?

    If either SB or SD are checking out all possibilities before making a decision, fine. If they are being dishonest about it, not fine.

    As far as Craigslist – it’s just like any other online advertising service (whether it be dating, selling cars, whatever). Once it becomes saturated, the quality declines significantly.

  177. photogirl says:

    Midwest – You are right… It has happened with another blogger and myself… funny thing is it was in very early stages of email and he was using someone elses photos. Needless to say it went nowhere for all of us.

    TLG – YAY! I am sure your SB is looking forward to that proper hug!

    RedMaru – Good to see you… Did you ever get that lotion I sent you?

  178. Midwest Mistress of the Dark says:

    Evening sugars!

    TLG – Wonderful news!

    MissMacy and Suarbabie – james.m and photogirl are right. It happens more often than you think. I’m not in the city, but not too far if you need backup. Hope the meets go well ladies!

    OC – I sent a “good luck in your search” message after he failed to return any messages when he received my photos. He actually complimented my response and we are still in touch. You never know!

  179. RedMaru says:

    Thanks OCSugarBaby! Hugs
    (vigorously taking notes)
    I’m going to try these

  180. The Lone Gunman says:

    Hi all!

    The shunt was taken out of my arm today, and it feels great to have unrestricted movement in the upper body again! Now I can give SB a proper hug while tap-dancing….


  181. sugarbarbie says:

    missmacy, are you saying you think we are still talking to the same one? ok lets talk off line again.

  182. photogirl says:

    james.m says:
    SugarBarbie and Miss Macy — did it sound to anyone else like you are meeting the same guy in Chicago?

    You were not the only one james… I thought the same thing and am glad to see they have connected off blog.

  183. RedMaru says:

    OC…Cool thats what I would do if someone took the time to send me a message I would respond back.
    I try to tailor my messages to the specific even singling out something that I saw in their profile not cut and paste kinda just trying to break the ice. Maybe that doesn’t work….sigh

    • OCSugarBaby says:

      Red try this…
      Try a version of something like this for a return email…
      Thank you ____ for the lovely compliment! (based on what he complimented you on be it your eyes, positive outlook etc) You made my day!
      You seem to be on the same page as far as qualities we both seek in an arrangment. First and foremost is chemistry and mutual respect.
      If you don’t have those two items, it may fizzle quickly.
      (ask a question based upon something they stated in their profile. which may be like digging for gold but if they gave you a nugget within their profile use it) You state that you enjoyed traveling and do a great deal of it for business. What is your favorite city if you were to travel there for a visit other than business?
      I love art museums too! What has been your favorite exhibit at the MET? I hope to visit other art museums around the country some day. Art is a gift that takes your breath away!
      I know very little about Europe and the culture. It is fantastic that you have traveled there so extensively! I would love to hear the stories.
      End the email with a statement thanking them for emailing you and you can’t wait to talk further.

      Keeping it short and positive for the first reply will work wonders! Go Get’em!

  184. MissMacy says:

    james– I am still a little skeptical. Too many things match up..and I feel like when something seems sketchy on SA one has to assume it is in fact sketchy..

  185. RedMaru says:

    Hey thanks OC! That makes sense. You could sell your findings.
    Whats another statistic if you dont mind sharing I’m curious. I wish you had some findings about why some SD’s dont like returning messages even if its to say hey thanks but

  186. RedMaru says:

    Thanks OC 😀
    On another note – whats up with all these blue SD profiles. I’m not talking about the newcomers. I’m talking about the ones that have been around for three months or more, claiming more than $100K income and net worth of a million or more but still have blue. Well there are some fakes whose profiles are orange. And why arent more of them certified or is it just not cost effective? Just some thoughts

    • OCSugarBaby says:

      Red, the marketing geek in me did a quick study of the
      profile orange to blue ratio a few weeks back. I found that
      over 30 percent of the blue are still active but haven’t
      upgraded (either again or ever). You are right, why not
      pay for the membership if they are still logging in. Many
      reasons come to mind. 25 percent of them have created a
      starter or have a blue profile and a orange one.
      Stick with the orange and watch the last log in date.. You can
      only do that if you (SB) has an orange profile.
      My other statistics would blow your mind! I should sell my
      findings to SA! lol

      • OCSugarBaby says:

        Red that would be due to lack of “good” sugar karma.
        Not all Sugars have the time to reply to all emails. But
        if their message was sincere I always did my best to
        send a quick note. It was a polite e-note. My intention
        was not to let them feel hung out to dry in the sugar bowl without a
        basic reason why. Age range, geography and or both were
        two common reasons. I did let them know that the girl that finds
        them will be a very lucky girl!
        But you know deep inside we have our first gut reaction to either
        emails or photos. Some just got a polite not a good match due to
        errrr interests (what I didn’t say was… due to your shirtless photo, or
        10 pics of your cars, houses or what’s up with just sending a picture
        of scenery of their last vacation).
        My profile clearly stated that one word or crude or rude emails
        would not be replied to.

      • OCSugarBaby says:

        My Sugar got one of those polite “no thank you” emails from me.
        However what he came back with won my heart and still has me
        so very happy…

  187. sugarbarbie says:

    I actually had a dream last night that me and another sb was competing for a sd on like a reality show and she looked a lot like missmacy and he ended up saying he wanted us both. OMG that would be tragic lol!

  188. sugarbarbie says:

    lol I don’t think it is the same guy but wouldn’t it be trippy if he was flying us both in at the same time lol! That would take some cajones!

    • OCSugarBaby says:

      SugarBarbie it wouldn’t be the first time!
      What does happen by exchanging emails
      and talking off blog with each other is that
      you find out great info on SD’s that email
      the other SB’s. Note comparison so to
      speak! NYCSB saved me from a very icky
      one that was talking to both of us at the same
      time. Networking can be both good and bad.
      Sometimes it is nice NOT to know if an SD
      is talking to another sugar. It may cause
      friction, but for the most part is is a great
      communication tool!

  189. RedMaru says:

    Hey OCSugarBaby thanks for the heads up, yeah I’ve been gone a while

  190. james.m says:

    CollegeSB If you liked Basic Instict, have you tried “Sea of Love” with Al Pacino and Ellen Barkin? It’s a very good mystery/thriller with a strong undercurrent of passion.

  191. james.m says:

    SugarBarbie and Miss Macy — did it sound to anyone else like you are meeting the same guy in Chicago?

    • OCSugarBaby says:

      Hey we didn’t forget to welcome Miss Macy!
      We did the shout out a few days ago.
      It is just hard to find in all the naughty-ness.

      Hope everyone is having a good day.
      Hey Red, welcome back. Just an update
      we all try to not post our emails on here.
      Thought I would give you a heads up since
      you have been gone. Sugar meet email
      addresses have been sanctioned, I guess.

      Did I see a TAZ fly by? How is the sugar Sugar?
      Fabulous 80 degree day today in sunny Cali!
      It is hard to be stuck in an office with windows when you
      would rather be at the beach!

  192. RedMaru says:

    Just updated my pic yesterday. Any tips on my profile would be appreciated guys…Thanks

  193. Naughty Molly says:

    A Bromance in bloom…so sweet 😉

  194. Chitown SB says:

    Sugarbarbie- I just emailed you. I’d be happy to be a point person for you.

    Macy-Same goes for you, I told barbie to forward you my email.

  195. MindyNYC says:

    Thanks guys…
    Loving the bromances!

  196. RedMaru says:

    Aah the love in this blog its so cute!
    Hi Michael AZSD

  197. Michael AZSD aka looking for 1+1=omfg says:

    SDinLA – love you too man … bro … dude … mate. Manly slap on the back to you!

  198. RedMaru says:

    See ya SDinLA have a good one dont work to hard!

  199. RedMaru says:

    Hey MindyNYC : Good luck may it be sweet!

  200. Naughty Molly says:

    SDinLA ~ I still want to hear about your NM dreams 😉

  201. SDinLA says:

    Molly: OK, I have to go and get stuff done so I can free up the time for your visit. 😉

    Have a great afternoon/evening/whatever-time-it-is-where-Lily-lives everyone.

  202. RedMaru says:

    SDinLA : That was good! Thanks you made me laugh 😀

  203. Naughty Molly says:

    Good Luck Mindy!! I hope it all works out for you 😀

  204. Naughty Molly says:

    SDinLA ~ I’m checking on flights right now and I hope you’re ready….I’m not sure you can handle Naughty Molly 😉

  205. Naughty Molly says:

    I couldn’t take the temptaion any longer….I had to give in to the allure of Cadbury Eggs and spankings 😉

  206. MindyNYC says:

    HI ALL!!

    Just catching up and saying ‘hello’. How is everyone?…

    Shoogar, I emailed you at the gmale addy re: NYC meet and voted on the website. I’m in whatever the date. Thanks so much for putting this together.

    Chitown seems to be a hot meetup place! MissMacy and Sugarbarbie, good luck with your dates and let us know how things go.

    So, I took the blog advice and gave ‘frugal’ pot SD (aka potSDTight from this point forward) another chance. We went out over the weekend and had another fun time together. I genuinely enjoyed his company, and there is definitely mutual attraction. He offered me $40 for cab fare, which I declined, since the date ended early afternoon and I was a short subway ride to my pet volunteer gig. I observed during our date that he is definitely frugal down to the literal penny. But I see and appreciate that he is trying to be generous and accommodating with me. We are going to the theatre tonight and I hope allowance is finally broached, as he may be looking just looking for a gf. I’ll keep ya posted…

  207. Naughty Molly says:

    SDinLA ~ I will be there with bells on 😉

  208. SDinLA says:

    Molly: well, they did used to call me “Spanky” in my adolescent years, but I’m not sure they were referring to my proficiency with a paddle…

    All kidding aside, I guess you’ll have to come get these Cadbury Eggs and find out…

  209. Naughty Molly says:

    SDinLA ~ How good are you at dishing out those punishments that I love so much?

  210. SDinLA says:

    RedMaru: to bastardize the postal service credo, “Neither pollen nor bees, nor wasps nor glued-shut eyes stays RedMaru from joining the blog fun”

    SD FKA: Hey, a new SD! Welcome my friend. “I love you too man!!” (We’re doing a little male bonding today to offset the lipstick lesbianism)

  211. RedMaru says:

    Oops I said it twice!
    Hiya sugarbarbie!

  212. RedMaru says:

    very nice pic MissMacy 😀

  213. RedMaru says:

    I see it to very nice pic MissMacy 😀

  214. sugarbarbie says:

    Hi Red Maru!

    I responded MissMacy, love the avi.

  215. SDinLA says:

    cleo: Yeah, Sharon Stone was parodying Sally Field’s acceptance speech

    Molly: I wasn’t really asking you to behave, I was just being Austin Powers. I’m all for the misbehaving, especially since it leads to you-know-what as a punishment 😉

  216. SD FKA says:

    You got it MissMacy — nice pic and welcome to the blog! Hey Red Maru :)

  217. MissMacy says:

    ah I give up!

  218. Naughty Molly says:

    SDinLA ~ Yes, waiting for you! I want to hear about you Naughty Molly dreams 😉

  219. MissMacy says:

    ok I think I got it right?

  220. RedMaru says:

    SD and Molly I’m definitely staying around now! I am determined not to miss the fun!

  221. Naughty Molly says:

    Danger ~ Behaving is no fun!

  222. SD "Saving my Mojo for Fembot Molly" inLA says:

    “Waiting for moi?” Do tell?

  223. RedMaru says:

    No apologies necessary MissMacy! We love newbies here! Welcome to the sugarfam!

  224. SD "Danger is my middle name" inLA says:

    Molly: “Oh, behave!”

  225. Naughty Molly says:

    Hi SDinLA! I’ve been waiting for you 😉

  226. MissMacy says:

    thank you

    sorry for being such a “newbie”

  227. SDinLA says:

    There needs to be a blog FAQ

    sugarbarbie and MissMacy: if you don’t want to post your email, you can click on Lily or Shoogar Shoes names to get to their blogs and contact them. They are 100% trustworthy and will gladly pass on your email to someone else if needed.

    I was going to say “as safe as a Swiss bank account” but sadly that is no longer much of a guarantee of one’s anonymity being safeguarded. 😉

    Molly: you know it!

    Shoogar: you’re just jealous of the male bonding… you girls are practically making out with each other on here with the lascivious lipstick lesbianism, so I figure we needed a bit of testosterone to compensate.

    Michael: “I love you man!”

  228. Naughty Molly says:

    Me? Behave? Never 😉

    Hi Macy! I use gravatar.com 😀

  229. RedMaru says:

    MissMacy just go to gravatar dot com

  230. RedMaru says:

    Hey NaughtyMolly you behavin today 😀

  231. MissMacy says:

    helllooo naughty, how do I get the photo in the right hand corner?

  232. Naughty Molly says:

    OOOPS *Macy* 😀

  233. Naughty Molly says:

    Hi Red and MissMacey!

    Hi SG2 😀

  234. RedMaru says:

    Wow new faces! Well new to me anyway! Hi sugarbarbie and MissMacy!
    email is naeneq at yhoo dot com. Love to hear from either one of you!

  235. MissMacy says:

    just emailed you!

  236. sugarbarbie says:

    missmacy, and chitown sb and chicago in the knows sugarva yahoo
    sometimes you have to take risks i guess lol

  237. SouthernGent2 says:

    How is everyone today? Just taking a break from the normal routine. I see Molly is back to naughty today. And who is CollegeSB and where is she from?

  238. MissMacy says:

    yeah, how do we go about swapping emails?

  239. sugarbarbie says:

    Hopefully they can exchange our emails too. it would also be nice to get some advice on where to go. I checked online, but there’s nothing like first hand advice. Anybody in the know?

  240. sugarbarbie says:

    no way! how perfect. will this be your first meet?

  241. MissMacy says:

    Okay, same here..

  242. sugarbarbie says:

    Hi missmacy, yes I leave tomorrow

  243. MissMacy says:

    Sugarbarbie sorry to just jump in, I have also been talking with a pot about possibly going to Chi…do you have firm dates set?

  244. sugarbarbie says:

    chitown, I am meeting a pot in your neck of the woods, can you be my point of reference in case things go sour? Also I live in SE Virginia for future reference. Do the powers that be still help with exchanging email info or was that ended?

  245. RedMaru says:

    But onto the discussion :
    Greetings CollegeSB if I didn’t greet you before and I will add to the general consensus that Craiglist although good for some things(I actually found my new apartment and a wonderful futon) I wouldnt recommend it to find SD’s…

  246. RedMaru says:

    Afternoon sugars…. It would be a decent day here in GA if not for the pollen count of 5733 which just boggles the mind, defies all reason and covers peoples roofs, cars porches etc in a layer of greenish-yellow. Though my landlord had painted the roof till the wind blew. And no less than three types of bees and a wasp family have declared martial law on the porch so I was swatting them when I came home from work…fun fun and woke up with my left eye “glued shut”. Dont ya just love spring allergies. Its all actually funny when I look back on it.

  247. Naughty Molly says:

    Hi College SB! Yeah, CL is not a good place to search for sugar, but I do enjoy reading the “best of CL” section. You wouldn’t believe some of the ads people place….LOL

  248. College SB says:


    Since you mentioned Sharon Stone, I just had to say that Basic Instinct is one of my favorite movies and, in my humble opinion, has some of the best *ahem* passionate love scenes ever. Murder, sex, and intense eye staring (hello, tension!) – it’s all there! 😀

  249. College SB says:

    SD FKA and JamesNY: Yes, CL is definitely shady at best. I’m relieved my ad was flagged and removed – the incessant emails have stopped! While SA certainly has some interesting characters of its own, the caliber of men strictly in terms of base interaction is so much more reassuring. This reminds me that I should pick up my SD search, which I’ve put off the past few months!

  250. cleo says:

    SDinLA: you mean sharon stone was quoting gidget???


  251. Naughty Molly says:

    Where is everybody! I’m ready to play and no one is here :(

  252. Naughty Molly says:

    Good Morning!

    SDinLA ~ Dreaming about me I hear! 😉

  253. Lily says:

    Shoo!! So suggestive and blatant sexual content! I was being PG-13! 😉


    I hereby RSVP as “yes” for NYC unless budgeting sadness or sudden schedule conflicts keep me grounded here on the wrong side of the Atlantic.

  254. Haha, thank you and sweet dreams SDinLA! :)

  255. What text messages???? Let me go grab my phone. I know you want to have sex with me and all, Lily…but gain some control over there. Go play with your pussy….cats.

  256. BY THE WAY….one more thing then I’m really going to the gym (so I can give you guys TWO tickets to the GUN SHOW when you see me…) ha ha ha. Couldn’t help it.

    Once a date is locked in and we begin posting updates (venue, etc) nyc sugar meet dot com will be set to private and accessible only to those who RSVP. Discretion, my dears, discretion.

  257. you’re also playing dumb to the text messages coming into your phone. 😉

    what willpower!

  258. Oh, no…I will NOT get stuck in the Lily magnet pull!!! Last time I logged in, we skyped for almost THREE hours. I MUST go to the gym and have tons of other things to do….

    I will not get pulled in. I will not get pulled in. I will not get pulled in.

  259. Lils – Abso-FRICKEN-lutely!!!!

  260. Log on to Skype right now and your gym plans go RIGHT OUT the window. I have acrobatic kitties to display on cam. :)

  261. Shoo – your wish is my command. Shall we plan a duet karaoke number to perform for the group, with matching outfits? :)

  262. Oh, and I will buy you TWO margaritas! 😉

  263. ChampagneSB click on my name in blue, go to my blog, and email me that way.

  264. Lily – I don’t think it will be changed to Friday. However, I have had a couple people ask about Friday so if there is enough interest – perhaps a small group can get together on Friday evening and the regular meet be held as planned on Saturday. I am going to keep all updates on nyc sugar meet dot com.

  265. Love that you’re using my formula too, Michael AZSD.

    Those interested in attending a meet in NYC – please go to nyc sugar meet dot com. Check out the two quick polls on the sidebar. Really trying to lock in a date. Thanks!

    Hope everyone is well.

    I’m off to the gym – somewhat half asleep still…

  266. Re: NYC Meet – I am so there. I can do either date, and even if Shoo changes it to Friday night to suit AM, I can still be there at any time after 4pm when my overseas flight lands in JFK. I’ll look like ass after such a long travel day, and be tired and cranky and jet-laggy on a friday evening and would be more Lils-a-licious on a saturday, but I want AM to be there, so there you go. I’ll do it. Just someone, please, buy me a margarita to compensate for the 5k miles of travel, to help me get over my sore legs from sitting upright for 8 hours. 😉

  267. Michael AZSD searching for 1+1+MEP+sex+$=omfg and SDinLA are having a bromance. Naughty Molly is in between. 😉

  268. SDinLA says:

    Michael: Good on ya, mate! You’re a fair dinkum gent in my book as well. We’ll have to get drunk and sing “Waltzing Matilda” together sometime, maybe watch some rugby or Aussie Rules. I have friends and relatives Down Under and wish I had reason to visit more often.

    cleo: Aw, channeling the Flying Nun when she won her Academy Award, “You like me, you really like me!” You and the Aussie bloke are making me blush.

    IMHO, the very nature of online “dating”, especially in the unconventional arena we inhabit here, makes the process impersonal and fraught with the risk of bad experiences, so I’m glad this blog exists as a venue for SBs and SDs to interact in a more lighthearted manner.

    SweetEuropean: Good morning, alas it is after 3am here on the West Coast, so I am off to dream of Naughty Molly and spankings… have a wonderful day in France!

  269. Morning everyone!

  270. TT (AKA Tantalizing Taz) says:

    Ahh as usual I am too late and no one is around…**sniff sniff**

    I miss the sugar fam…

    Sucks being MIA. However, I AM looking forward to the Toronto meet :)

  271. cleo says:

    AM: mmm i’m folding laundry too, my favourite task…

  272. Michael AZSD aka looking for 1+1=omfg says:

    Is Siobhan on this site?

  273. Anna Molly says:

    I don’t watch American Idol.

  274. OMFG – who is watching American Idol – Crystal rocks!! and she has a guy playing a didge!!

  275. Naughty Molly says:

    I know! Fresh out of the dryer….the towels are hot and they smell so good, just like me! Well, at least I smell good anyway 😀

  276. cleo says:

    michael zomg: totally agree with you re sdinla, really glad he joined us and stuck!

  277. Naughty Molly says:

    Folding Laundry…LOL 😉

  278. To SDinLA – from the guy with the long ass name to the guy with the short ass … name…

    Love your personality on this blog – it makes it an even more fun place to be! Viva la sucre!!

  279. Naughty Molly says:

    Hi Everybody! 😀

    I’m doing something so exciting right now!!

  280. raregemgal369682 says:

    Hi from MO anyone want to meet in St. Louis a group maybe? even. Opinions on my profile welcome HI SUGARS

  281. Naughty Molly says:

    JamesNY ~ How did you get out of your cage!?! I should start double checking those locks!! Since you escaped, I’m going to have to punish you and if you’re a good boy I might let you bend me over YOUR knee 😉

  282. JamesNY says:

    College SB, agree with SD FKA. I met several perfectly nice SB’s years ago on CL. It’s changed a lot since then and I wouldn’t advise it now. I’ve used SA the last couple of years to find the same sort of women that used to be on CL. It takes a tough skin to survive that jungle, where the men don’t even have to take the trouble to create a profile and have no traceable identity whatsoever.

  283. RedMaru says:

    I’m headin out! I’m going to miss the fun again. But pay me a visit by my page or send me a shout naeneq at yhoo dot com

  284. RedMaru says:

    Evening sugar fam!
    Dropping in for a quick moment before heading home
    Was real busy today and I seemed to have missed the excitement 😛
    Darn! Aww a meet in NY Wish I could go….(mock pout) I’m in GA

  285. Midwest Mistress of the Dark says:

    Evening all!

    Shoogar – I vote for June!

    james.m – I’m shocked! You, of all people, should know better!!

    Breasts – “They’re real and they’re spectacular!” Best line EVER!!!

    SD FKA – Welcome!

  286. SD FKA says:

    Hi CollegeSB — I actually met my first SB on craigslist about 4 years ago. It worked out great, and I responded to an ad she had posted. We were together for a few years. After things ended, I tried CL again and it was a complete friggen disaster. But the good news was that I saw ads for SA on CL, and low and behold, I ended up here. SA is so much better, and I just got lucky I guess. CL has been spiraling downward, and it was a lot different a few years ago. Best wishes in your search.

    FKA = formerly known as

  287. james.m says:

    NM – I knew there was something I liked about you!

  288. Chitown SB says:

    NM- I couldn’t agree more!

  289. Naughty Molly says:

    James.M ~ I enjoy both…there is nothing like getting a spanking my dear 😉

  290. james.m says:

    AM – yes, I’m behaving, unfortunately. **sigh**

    I had to leave for a moment, because I was on a conference call, and I really didn’t want to accidentally slip into *dungeons* and *spankings* with a potential venture capitalist.

    SDinLA: you might want to check for accuracy. I’m not sure NM and MMD are into BEING spanked. I have a suspicion they expect to be the spankers, not the spankees.

  291. SDinLA says:

    You know how Commissioner Gordon can summon Batman with the Bat-Signal that appears in the sky? That’s what happens to me when Molly says “spanking” on the blog: there’s a giant searchlight that beams a silhouette of Molly being spanked into the sky wherever I am.

    OC: I don’t really understand the fascination many men have with breasts either, Freud et al have a lot to say about that though.

    Cleo: I agree, being endowed with very large breasts is usually just a recipe for back problems. I actually funded breast reduction surgery for a SB.

    SSSD: I’m actually with you re: preferences on size and a dislike for augmentation, but by the same token if she has all the other attributes I seek, having much larger or smaller breasts than my ideal is not a deal killer, and the last one just happened to be very slender and petite but also very well endowed (and all natural)

    Now I have to try to ignore Molly’s teasing and focus on getting things done…

    Have a wonderful afternoon/evening everyone.

  292. Naughty Molly says:

    Shoog a Friday would be easier for me 😀

  293. AM – is a Friday night better for you?

  294. Naughty Molly says:

    Shoog ~ Weekends are very tough for me so I don’t know if I’ll be able to make it.

  295. RE: NYC MEET

    Those interested in attending, we have narrowed it down to two tentative dates:

    Saturday, June 19 OR Saturday, September 18.

    Please let me know your preferences out of those two dates as soon as possible. Post here or most of you have my email address.

    Thanks and I hope everyone is having a fabulous day!


  296. Chitown SB says:

    hehe tied up…. I am a mature adult… I swear

  297. FL-SD says:

    AM: Yes, I have noticed ! So many naughty SDs and SBs I guess…
    My kinda place….

  298. Naughty Molly says:

    Hi James.M! Are you being a good boy?

  299. james.m says:

    TLG – I am a happy man. Just wish SB wasn’t tied up until next month.,/i>

    In Naughty Molly’s dungeon? I mean basement…

  300. Anna Molly says:

    Hi JamesNY! Sooo good to see you darlin’ 😉

    FL-SD ~ Spanking seems to be a topic that is brought up quite a bit around here….if you haven’t noticed 😉

  301. FL-SD says:

    Spankings ? Did somebody mention spankngs ?

  302. JamesNY says:

    AM/NM, spring has sprung and you are surely feeling frisky! Way to add some life to the room girl!

    College SB, the guys you’re going to find on CL are bottom feeders and sharks. They’re either looking for the young and naive, or a nasty ho. Maybe a few are legit and interested in something more than a one-hour stand, but if they know better they’d be looking somewhere else. Hanging out there is like hanging out at a bar by the docks after midnight. You’ll get attention, sure, but better be careful!

  303. cleo says:

    AM: and you didn’t even mention the thing about sdinla you like the most…

    the spankings

    er NM not AM *grin*

  304. FL-SD says:

    College SB:
    I had a female friend who tried the same thing with similar results…. and the emails kept coming for rather a while… I think Craigslist speaks to a different audience…

  305. Anna Molly says:

    Good to hear that TLG! 😀

  306. The Lone Gunman says:

    AM: All good and wonderful at this end.

    I am a happy man. Just wish SB wasn’t tied up until next month.


  307. College SB says:

    Out of curiosity, has anyone ever put up an ad for the hell of it on Craigslist?

    I did yesterday (cleverly wording it so that it wasn’t too incriminating lol) and WOW, I have received an incredulous number of emails. However, the catch is that 3/4 of these guys are automatically disqualified based on their introductory email (really? you calling me your “sweet sexy little slut” is supposed to make me jump for joy?) and it seems like the majority of the other 1/4 have serious sandbox issues aka pitching tantrums when I don’t grovel and thank them for emailing me.

    In addition, it seems like these guys expect me to respond to them asap and when I don’t, they start sending more and more emails with lines like “Yeah, I didn’t think you would respond” and “little girls play little games” and so on.

    Sigh, I am sticking to SA. Sure, it’s not perfect, but CL is just heinous.

  308. FL-SD says:

    Well, if I can stay caught up on projects here, I can join in the fun more often….

  309. Anna Molly says:

    SDinLA doesn’t help matters! Teasing us with black tie affairs and Cadbury Eggs!

  310. Anna Molly says:

    Hi TLG! How are things on the sugar front?

  311. Anna Molly says:

    We can get out of control especially with Naughty Molly and Midwest Mistress of the Dark around 😀

  312. The Lone Gunman says:

    Chitown SB says:

    photogirl, Tap Dancing hmmm?

    Breaks up the monotony of the traditional Nail-Driver Polka. 😉


  313. FL-SD says:

    Yes, I see that ! I’m jealous ! Snipe hunting, collars… oh yes, may things to occupy ones time…

  314. Anna Molly says:

    We have lots of fun! You should try and join us more often 😉

  315. FL-SD says:

    I’ve been catching up on the blog for a bit, I usually just sit back and lurk(usually don’t have time to read until everyone’s gone to bed) , but I finally had time during the day…. It seems like I miss all the fun…

  316. FL-SD says:

    Not to rub it in, but I’m thinking of knocking off early and heading out to the beach. I need to start working on getting rid of the winter palor…

  317. Anna Molly says:

    I’m so jealous!! I could go for some nice warm weather! Easter weekend was beautiful though!

  318. FL-SD says:

    Hi AM. It’s a beautiful, sunny day, abou 79 degrees :)
    Finally done with winter, yea !

  319. Anna Molly says:

    Hi OC and FL-SD! How are the both of you today?

    It’s rainy here :(

  320. FL-SD says:

    Good afternoon all. Seems like a quiet afternoon…

    • OCSugarBaby says:

      SSSD you would look awful silly with a
      either a B or a DD.
      A man’s infatuation with our breasts faciniates me. If men grew them and
      had to live and deal with the world seeing that growth happen, then
      they can have a say in them. Haha

  321. Anna Molly says:

    Slow today isn’t it

  322. Chitown SB says:

    SSSD you make me smile

    photogirl, Tap Dancing hmmm?

  323. SSSD says:

    Double D’s — still way too big for me.

    B’s or C’s on a slim body does it for me… :)

  324. photogirl says:

    That is ofcourse because he has been taking tap dancing lessons :)

  325. photogirl says:

    cleo says:
    oh yeah!
    So awesome! Soon you can actually move your body!

    Cleo – ohhh… he can already move his body… just sayin’ 😉

  326. cleo says:

    AM everyone thought she was fat

  327. Chitown SB says:

    Hi AM!

    TLG, Good to hear your condition is improving

  328. Anna Molly says:

    Double H! That poor girl!

  329. cleo says:

    AM: fair enough, but i didn’t take it that way

    my friend just had her double H’s turned into double d’s… she considers it a win. anything bigger than a double d gets pretty hard on the body

  330. Anna Molly says:

    Hi Chitown 😀

  331. Anna Molly says:

    Hi James.M and Cleo!

    I read my comment this morning and it just sounded conceded to me.

    TLG ~ So glad you’re on the mend and making great progress 😀

  332. cleo says:

    oh yeah!


    So awesome! Soon you can actually move your body!

  333. Chitown SB says:

    Good morning everyone

  334. james.m says:

    Good Morning, TLG: glad to hear you are finally making some tangible progress! Congratulations!

    Good Morning Cleo, AM, et al

    Interesting what I find out about people reading this…including things I never knew about Midwest…

  335. cleo says:

    AM: i am far more offended by tiger than i will ever be by your boobs *g*

  336. Anna Molly says:

    I’m so sick of Tiger Woods! The return of Tiger Woods is the BIG BREAKING NEWS this morning on HLN

  337. ChampagneSB says:

    Lily – I don’t have your email! Stephan – can you please send me Lily’s email? thanks! :)

  338. Lily says:

    Right, Champagne. And you haven’t emailed me!!

  339. Anna Molly says:

    Good morning!

    Hope I didn’t offend anyone with my comment about feeling inadequate. If I did I apologize.

    Happy Tuesday!! 😀

  340. ChampagneSB says:

    Lily – I can totally relate to your obsession with the $2K handbag. The best I can compare it to is the claim men think about sex every seven seconds, often times without even realizing it. Well, sometimes we sugar babies think of that beautiful item (handbag, shoes, whatever it is that has our attention for that moment) every seven seconds. No, we can’t help ourselves…
    Right Lily? 😉

  341. ChampagneSB says:

    Wow…collars and spanking? I’m with OC…no thank you! However, yes to La Perla :)

    Lone Gunman – Good Morning to you too! I’m pretty sure I aced a midterm exam, so that makes me happy! :) Although, I ca’t say it was unexpected as I studied my little butt off.

    Good morning everyone else!

  342. The Lone Gunman says:


    It’s Terrific Tuesday!!

    Just found out yesterday that I have reached End of Treatment with the 24/7 antibiotic and will (hopefully) have the shunt removed this week that was implanted after the surgery in February. The ankle looks like it will be cleared for physical therapy in a few short weeks as well. :)

    What’s made you happy so far this week?

    Did you get any unexpected news that cheered you up?


  343. Lily says:

    I don’t know what’s up with the bag with the 2k price tag.
    All I can think of is….”it’s sooooo pretty!”

    I’ll keep thinking.

    So what brings me to the blog or who do I bring to the blog??
    *evil grin*

  344. SSSD says:

    Shoogar, that new avatar of yours… those are SNIPE hunting shoes!

  345. Cleo – to the left, to the left…

  346. cleo says:

    shoogar: well, with the non luggage carying types i’m thinking the expiry date is last year…

  347. SSSD has spilled the beans on the dark alley arrangement we had! Or should I say, let the cat out of the bag? No longer a secret, I guess. Well, I have always openly admitted to requiring an expiration date on my arrangements. I never mentioned my desired duration, did I?

  348. cleo says:

    so about those shoes…

    the thing is i have this dress, the fantastic dress that has about fourteen colors in it… and no shoes to match it. i’ve tried every pair i own and they all look jarringly wrong.

    i have this other dress, this beautiful black sheath that i got for fifty bucks of all things and it makes me look like a zillion bucks… but no shoes that have the right shine to match with it

    i have these great jeans, just the right length, do my ass incredible amounts of justice (maybe more than it even earns on it’s own) and no boots OR shoes to wear with them that aren’t flat…

    shall i continue?

    women’s clothing is TOTAL ASS to match to shoes and bags…

  349. SSSD says:

    SDinLA, Molly and Midwest compiled a list of blog keywords:

    “Spanking” brings Molly to the blog.

    “Mistress” summons Midwest.

    “Shoegasm” never fails with Shoogar.

    Spanking keeps SDinLA’s attn

    Boobies for SDN (*)(*)

    Booty for NCGent ( | )

    Shoog brings Sam to the blog…LOL

    Great list. But the last one is wrong. I predated Shoogar on the blog. Where she brings me is into those dark alleys where she has her way with me. Then we straighten out our clothes and walk away as strangers. 😉

    Aren’t I an equal opportunity flirter?

  350. SSSD says:

    Cleo recounted a marathon sex moment: we woke up, still connected, and finished a few hours later

    Hot story, Cleo. Always good to have some of those memorable sex experiences tucked away, eh?

    SDinLA talked about not bringing SBs to SD business meetings. I definitely don’t want to mix the two. Work is a nearly perfect world for me already.

    I liked Shoogar’s arrangement examples of translations: I’m going to ask for something expensive.

    Very good… Funny!

    Lily mused: Speakoff of sweet, I gotta pull myself together & stop dreaming about the white leather gucci bag that’s calling my name…. I have a serious crush on a handbag and not altogether comfortable with this fact. Weird. I’m not even into having more than a couple of pairs of high heeled shoes.

    I don’t understand the female fetish with either shoes or hand bags. Lily, I hope as you experience this with your analytical mind you can figure it out and then enlighten us.

  351. SSSD says:

    I prefer B to E, Chitown. I’m not into large breasts or cosmetic enhancements. More into legs, torso, and such.

  352. cleo says:

    wow, suddenly i feel odd to be thrilled to have dropped from a d to a c. but then, other things drop in proportion :)

  353. Chitown SB says:

    Thanks OC! That means a lot since I usually hate my glasses, but the point was to show personality.

    AM, I am a petite B… talk about sometimes feeling inadequate. I am sure you are amazingly gorgeous and know how to carry yourself. I think E might result in back pain.

    Ok, I believe its time for me to retire for the evening as well. Sweet dreams all!

  354. Chitown SB says:

    and of course, as soon as I chime in about natural disasters, our thunderstorrm turns into a nasty hailstorm….sigh

  355. Anna Molly says:

    A 32E Wow! I’m just a D…I feel so inadequate :(

  356. Midwest Mistress of the Dark says:

    OC – I’m not a fan of LaPerla either. I love their quality, but am not excited about their style. My budget works for Felina/Jezebel and CK. Sun/Fun and skiing in one week…oh my! I haven’t ventured back on the slopes since the last misadventure :-)

    Time for a restless sleep. Sweet, sexy dreams!

  357. SDinLA says:

    AM: I think La Perla bras go up to E cup, last SB was a 32E and they had her size

    • OCSugarBaby says:

      ChiSb great pics on your profile! Loved the
      one with your glasses.
      Ok, I am going to snuggle with a good book and my glass
      of wine. Today was my first day back to work after
      my vacation. Ugh! I wish I took two weeks instead of
      just one.
      SDinLA we should meet up for dinner sometime!
      We are so close.
      Night everyone… Now get back to the Naughty! 😉

  358. Anna Molly says:

    Hey! There you are 😀

  359. Chitown SB says:

    thanks all, let’s see if it worked…

  360. Midwest Mistress of the Dark says:

    Chitown – remove any extra e-mails. If your e-mail doesn’t match the image, it won’t work.

  361. Anna Molly says:

    Chitown ~ Just use the email that your avatar is connected to.

  362. Anna Molly says:

    I’ve never owned any La Perla or tried any on for that matter. Not sure if they make bras that will fit me!

  363. Chitown SB says:

    AM- Thanks. I created one, but now don’t know how to get it to display here

    OC, Hope you are ok. I have that wierd Chicago thing going… midwest disasters seem to dissipate once the get close to the outlier suburbs

  364. Midwest Mistress of the Dark says:

    Chitown – gravatar dot com

  365. Anna Molly says:

    Chitown ~ Gravatar with a dot then a com on the end 😀

    • OCSugarBaby says:

      SDinLA I am not a La Perla fan.
      The sales girls in Nordstroms
      however do know me by
      name in the lingerie department.
      Elle Macpherson makes daily
      functional lingerie uber sexy!
      I don’t think she has ventured
      into the collar market yet.
      I am more of the girly girl sugar
      with my wild side simmering
      just under the surface. lol

      Thanks Midwest. I am sans SD
      tonight. I know many that were
      near the epicenter of the quake and
      am grateful they are safe and sound.
      After a full week of
      sun fun, snow and teenagers, I
      am welcoming the quiet time with
      my puppy. Ahhh I can actually hear
      myself think! 😉

  366. Midwest Mistress of the Dark says:

    Soooooooo close! Great effort!

    OC – Sorry for the bad experience…I’ve been through hurricanes, but pray I will never have to endure an earthquake or tornado. There are some things you shouldn’t get used to for safety’s sake. Snuggle up close to your beloved and know you will sleep tonight.

    Chemistry is a must. Trust a must. Technique can be learned. Talent is what we all wish we had, but only a small percentage of us do. The rest is a bonus!

  367. Chitown SB says:

    down to the final 3 seconds….

    ok now on an unrelated matter…. and I know it has been covered before, but how do I add my avatar?

  368. SDinLA says:

    OC: does La Perla balance out the collar?

  369. cleo says:

    invisible thread…

  370. Midwest Mistress of the Dark says:

    Nail biter!

    I will need a crash course on collars…I’m always looking for a new adventure!

    • OCSugarBaby says:

      You guys are too funny. My sleepless
      night comes from the earthquakes
      yesterday. I was without power
      for about 6 hours last night.
      The Midwest girl in me will never
      get use to them!
      Collars have nothing on technique!

  371. Chitown SB says:

    Midwest- I am watching the same game! Its so close!!

  372. Midwest Mistress of the Dark says:

    1 point game with 45 seconds left! Go Butler (like I know)!

  373. Anna Molly says:

    Sorry Cleo :(

  374. Chitown SB says:

    Collars can be an interesting accessory…and useful too!

    I agree, a little cheek is just the right amt of tease. It shows enough to make one want more, but still leaves a bit to the imagination. And that style looks good on most bottoms.

    sorry Cleo!

  375. cleo says:



    you guys are not helping my sexless life at all!


  376. Midwest Mistress of the Dark says:

    OC -as I understand it, HE would be wearing the collar

  377. Midwest Mistress of the Dark says:

    …and intrigued.

    Midwest will be having a hard time getting to sleep tonight.

    OC – I have a little bit of everything in my delicates drawer…love them all or nothing at all!

  378. Naughty Molly says:

    OC ~ I like the cheekies from VS…so sexy 😉

  379. Midwest Mistress of the Dark says:

    Oh my…I’m speechless!

  380. cleo says:

    shoog: what season are you thinking of?
    panties are for wearing under white skirts and the like… but if one can get away with it they shall be skipped

    unless super super sexy lingerie is involved…

  381. Naughty Molly says:

    You’re going to make me work for those eggs aren’t you? 😉

  382. SDinLA says:

    Midwest: collars are good for holding on to…

  383. Midwest Mistress of the Dark says:

    Chitown – Shhhh…our naughty little secret!

    OC – Even the small town ladies get a little naughty…Don’t act like you don’t know :-)

    • OCSugarBaby says:

      Midwest yes yes I know. Just save it all up and
      let loose on my sugar. Sans the spanking!
      Ouch! Plus SDinLA needs to know that
      sans panties is boring! Undies have come
      a long way baby. Boy shorts are HOT!

  384. SDinLA says:

    Molly: The cadbury eggs are tied up and gagged in my dungeon…. so you have to come rescue them…

  385. Midwest Mistress of the Dark says:

    Please excuse my manners…Welcome Linda, Miss Macy and Talluhah!

    The natives are a little restless tonight!

    SDinLA- As long as there is something to hold on to :-)

  386. Naughty Molly says:

    SDinLA is teasing me with the Cadbury Eggs! You could always bring or send them to me ya know 😀

  387. Chitown SB says:

    you are quite the mistress Midwest! I thought I sense a certain something…

  388. SDinLA says:

    Good thing I still have all my hair… or is it…

  389. Midwest Mistress of the Dark says:

    Chitown – so true! I’ve been know to pull hair…ears…shoulders…

    • OCSugarBaby says:

      Welcome Linda, Miss Macy and Talluhah!
      The sugar blog is a safe place to come and
      find the sugar truth and gain some useful

  390. Midwest Mistress of the Dark says:

    meant *subtle show of dominance*

  391. Chitown SB says:

    well its a show of dominance but it depends whose hair is in question… *wink

  392. Midwest Mistress of the Dark says:

    Mmmm…the hair pulling…a show of dominance, yet very erotic!

  393. Naughty Molly says:

    How could we forget the hair pulling! A little choking doesn’t hurt either 😉

  394. Chitown SB says:

    don’t forget the hair pulling!

  395. Naughty Molly says:

    Shoog brings Sam to the blog…LOL

  396. Midwest Mistress of the Dark says:

    Spanking keeps SDinLA’s attn

    Boobies for SDN (*)(*)

    Booty for NCGent ( | )

  397. Naughty Molly says:

    I also like ropes and gags

  398. SDinLA says:

    OK, I’m taking notes here….

    “Spanking” brings Molly to the blog.

    “Mistress” summons Midwest.

    “Shoegasm” never fails with Shoogar.

    What else am I missing?

  399. Midwest Mistress of the Dark says:

    There she is!

    Iron hand in a velvet glove? We’ve been very, very bad….

  400. Naughty Molly says:

    I’m sure Midwest likes a good spanking too 😉

  401. Naughty Molly says:

    Hey Midwest! 😀

  402. Midwest Mistress of the Dark says:

    It’s true! 3:)

  403. SDinLA says:

    Molly: Well, I’m more of a spanker than a spankee… at least that’s what people call me…. no wait, I get called a “wanker”, not a spanker 😉

  404. Naughty Molly says:

    I see, well, did you know that Midwest used to be Mistress Midwest? Oh yeah, she was 😉

  405. SDinLA says:

    Molly: I know how *you* feel about the spankings, but I didn’t want to make assumptions about Midwest’s predilections…

  406. Naughty Molly says:

    Spanking optional? I thought it was mandatory?

  407. SDinLA says:

    Alluring Anna/Naughty/Molly: Black tie *and* cadbury eggs! (spanking optional)

    Welcome to the blog MissMacy, sorry to hear of your bad experiences, just as in anything in life, one has to persevere and be willing to sort out the wheat from the chaff. The good SDs have no incentive to offer any assistance to the bad ones- why create more competition for ourselves?! 😉

    Michael with the long ass name: as much as I love my Antipodean friends and I am sure we would get along famously, I too would prefer to be with a SB, with or without panties, than with you… no offense.

  408. MissMacy says:

    Chi-I am going to begin to compile an archive…the self respecting SDs should offer some of these trolls proper grooming, deaaar lord!

  409. Michael AZSD aka looking for 1+1=omfg says:

    SDinLA – re panties, I am SO with you…. but would prefer to be with SB, sans panties…

  410. Hey everyone…I’m taking a temperature check to gauge interest on an upcoming NYC Meet I am coordinating/planning with SSSD.

    We are just on the ground floor of planning so would like to begin by requesting suggested dates that may/may not work.

    Once a date is locked in, other planning can begin!

    Send your ideas/requests to: nycsugarmeet at the gmail.

    Thanks, everyone! :)

  411. Chitown SB says:

    MissMacy, There are some good ones out there

  412. Alluring Anna says:

    Midwest ~ Black tie with SDinLA!! Oooo, that sounds lovely 😉

  413. Alluring Anna says:

    Good evening everyone!! Trivia night and I won two t-shirts and a brandy glass…nice! I was in the running for a party for 12 people food and drink included, but I was beaten by one point!! UGH! Oh well, can’t win them all. 😀

  414. MissMacy says:

    Ohhh how I long to publish some of the outlandish messages I have received from some of the so-called sugar daddies on this site….it’s turning out to be a great source of comic relief!

  415. SDinLA says:

    “Drop my panties?” What self-respecting SB wears panties on a date with a SD?


    james.m: no prom invites, I make sure they are in college at least. I did let one SB borrow a Ferrari to pick up her little brother from school once, and I was asked to a sorority formal by a friend of a SB, but I think she just wanted to use me for the Rolls and driver to make some boy jealous.

    I don’t have a problem with the “father figure” issue since I look like I am in my mid 30s, but I think the last SB’s friends just assumed I was a drug dealer based on the cars I picked her up in. :-)

    cleo: I saw your post on the last blog and I am having PTSD flashbacks from the nightclub scene in the 80s. 😉

  416. NYGent says:

    Tallulah: you may be blunt but are a breath of fresh air, welcome to the blog.

  417. Tallulah says:

    sorry if that was a bit too blunt but its the way I have seen it so far.

  418. Chitown SB says:

    Lily, I learned from the best *wink*. The arrangement with ArtistSD is indeed NSA. We exchange only a few texts between seeing each other and see one another a couple times a week. The rest of the time we go about our individual lives and don’t bother one another. Very “your life, my life, our life”. We both know what this is and where we stand. It allows our time together to be simpe and enjoyable.

    I am not sure if NiceGuySD will graduate to more than a pot. He was so sweet the first time we met and has been nice in the conversations we have had since, but when discussing potentially meeting up tonight for dinner he said “when do I get you into my hotel room”. Total turn off. At least wait to whisper it into my ear over a glass of champagne. Sigh. We may be meeting up for brunch tomorrow instead. I just hope I am not out of line for feeling that way.

    Still hoping pot meeting happens on Sat, and goes well.

    That doesn’t make me a floozy, just goal oriented and open-minded… *smiles sweetly.

    Welcome Champagne, Macy, Linda and Tallulah…. and anyone else I may have missed!

  419. tootsie says:

    umm, okay.

  420. Tallulah says:

    Hi, I’m real new to the sugarbowl, Its been really useful to read some of the blogs to get a bit of a feel for what its all about, so thank you all. I’ve not been on any dates yet but I am about to meet a few guys and I’m so excited about it all. There certainly seem to be plenty of weirdoes and odd balls but I have had heaps of messages from lots of guys and there also seem to be lots of very desirable guys on here too. Hey I have a question, what are all these guy’s wives doing? They seem to have landed really good guys but now are neglecting them, what is going on? Not that I’m complaining you understand, I’m really looking forward to meeting some of these guys.

    Now have I had any trouble interpreting what gusy 20 to 30 year older than me are saying? Unless I am completely missing the point and soem subtler meaning, no. They most all want to meet up with a hot young babe half their age, half the age of their wife, take me out for a dinner to a nice restaurant, buy me some presents, have me dressed in slinky outfits with sexy lingerie and 4″ heels and afterwards they want me to drop my panties. What’s not to understand?

  421. Beach_Girl says:

    Sincere~ I hope things are ok, I’m sure you will get a laugh at the translations provided lol…

  422. Beach_Girl says:

    Hey Everyone!

    SDinLA~ HAHah your list cracked me up! not sure it applies to all. 😀
    I am sure you can find one SB on here that can attend your black tie events!
    Jamesm ~ lol the prom, that is too funny! nice to see you again…

    Welocme to LindaSB and Miss Macy

    Midwest~ hi kitten!

    Champagne~I thought of that too when I first saw your name, lol…

  423. ChampagneSB says:

    James – LMAO at this comment…Ahahahaha!!!!

    SDin LA
    Don’t you just hate it when the won’t go on the business trip with you because of school? Have any reciprocated by asking you to take them to their Prom?

  424. ChampagneSB says:

    Anna Molly – Hi! Nice to meet you as well. Oh, and Naughty Molly too 😉 Lol.

    SDinLA -Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous? Lol…there’s that age gap that we are all referring to 😉 (Kidding…I’m not THAT young!)

    Oh, and ChampagneSB wishes for vintage Krug. Mmmmm….

  425. Midwest aka Charter member of the US Small Town SBs Club aka STSBC says:

    Evening Sugars!

    ChitownSB – Yay about ArtistSD!! I’m so excited!

    james.m and Michael – Shame on you! That was HILARIOUS!!!

    SDinLA – If you ever need a date for black tie- I will step in :-) I’ll have AM give some tips beforehand.

    Cleo – bouncing back soon.

    Have you had any trouble interpreting a messages or other signals from sugar daddies or sugar babies because of ‘gaps’ in age, social customs, economic status, etc.? Only once, but we straightened out expectations early on and were fine after that.

    What types of differences or ‘gaps’ are there between you and your sugar (current or potential)? I relate with most people regardless of age, economic status, etc. My biggest “gap” is geographically!

    How much do sugars’ social, political, and economic differences factor into making an arrangement with them? Do you prefer to keep certain subjects or areas of life out of your sugar relationships? I embrace differences fully! Social, political and economic differences are interesting, challenging and always enlightening! I have shared my sugar life with my bff with very limited information. I may share a few aspects of my life with my SD, but only upon request or for clarification.

  426. Lily says:

    Damn it. Got sucked into an impromptu late night dinner offer with a pal and have to disappoint everyone w/ no Idols-style clip of me singing karaoke. Ce la vie. There will be more opportunities very soon.

    Chitown, congrats! Second and third pots, when you already are in an arrangement? Yeah, I just don’t approve. I think sugar dating should be exclusive and monogomous, and you’re a floozy for juggling more than one gentleman on your dance card.

    *unable to hold a straight face anymore, bursting out laughing*

    NSA, right? Good for you for having options, but mostly for having fun. That’s my unabashed sweet tooth typing to you!!!!

    Speakoff of sweet, I gotta pull myself together & stop dreaming about the white leather gucci bag that’s calling my name…. I have a serious crush on a handbag and not altogether comfortable with this fact. Weird. I’m not even into having more than a couple of pairs of high heeled shoes
    (I’m simple and I get confused with too many options staring at me!), so crushing on a purse is a bit odd, for me. But I still believe that me & that bag were meant for one another.

  427. Michael AZSD aka looking for 1+1=omfg says:

    James – re Prom comment – actually shoved my nose into my keyboard, I laughed so hard. My nose now has an imprint of the letter G.

    I can hear the conversation now
    SB’s friend “is that your daddy?”
    SB “umm, no. Well, umm, like, yes. Umm, like, you know…”
    SD “can we go now?”

  428. linda sb says:

    Hello to all!
    I’m a new sb and I love to read this blog, I would like to have someone helping me with all this.
    All of you sound really nice, have a nice sugar day!

  429. MissMacy says:

    Just joined!! Boy oh boy there sure are a lot of toads on this site…plenty of sifting to find those princes! I respect the concept of an arrangement, though..hopefully I can find my place in this Candyland

  430. cleo says:

    sdinla go read the comment i left you on the other blog… that may distract you as well…

  431. Alluring Anna says:

    Sorry to lure you back in like that SDinLA 😉

  432. I should clarify, the video to the song above! Melanie Fiona, “Give it to Me Right.” YouTube it!! Hot.

  433. james.m says:

    SDin LA
    Don’t you just hate it when the won’t go on the business trip with you because of school? Have any reciprocated by asking you to take them to their Prom?

  434. Video is VERY sexxxy too!

  435. Lyrics to “Give it to me Right”

    I’m not, I’m not
    Tryin’ to run your life
    That’s why, that’s why
    I’m nobody’s wife
    But when I want, when I want it
    You gotta be ready…

  436. Lily – Melanie Fiona, “Give it to me Right” would be appropriate right now with all this talk of spanking and hair pulling! (But, alas, I’m sure they don’t have it. That’s why you carry around your own CDs) And, um, you promised video so find a way! What’s the fun in singing karaoke if you aren’t teasing those boys staring at you hungrily?

    ChitownSB – Congrats on your successful lunch date!

    cleo – That story was hot.

    SDinLA – Nice. Very nice. There are a few definitions you listed that should be altered for some types of sugar dating:

    Do you love me?= I’m going to ask for something expensive.
    You have to learn to communicate. = Just agree with me.
    We need to talk. = I need to complain

    Would be changed to…

    Are you happy in our arrangement?= I’m going to ask for something expensive.
    You have to learn to communicate. = I’m going to ask for something expensive.
    We need to talk. = I’m going to ask for something expensive

  437. james.m says:

    Chitown, Shoogar and Cleo:
    **rapidly writing your posts on the back of my hand**
    Thank you, thank you, thank you.
    I’ll never be relegated to the doghouse again (for that!)

  438. RedMaru says:

    Have a good evening SDinLA dont let em work you too hard

  439. Chitown SB says:

    SDinLA… just give it 5min and mention of hair pulling and you will be back, just you wait

  440. Chitown SB says:

    My goodness this weather is lovely! Chicago is in rare form today. I’m adoring it!

    Just got back from lunch date/romp with Artist SD… and we solidified our arrangement. I can breathe a little easier. Plus, he makes me smile in a silly breezy sort of way.

    Hopefully still seeing NiceGuySD tonight, he is dealing with some scheduling complications.

    Trying to meet a new pot on Saturday. It really seems like we would click very very well based on the emails we have exchanged. *fingers crossed*

    Those are all the updates I have for now. Oh, and I think I bought my flats from Aldo too small, now I have blisters on my heels. Darn. At least the sun is shining!

  441. SDinLA says:

    “Just when I thought I was out…. they pull me back in”

    Damnit AM, how am I supposed to resist the idea of a Peep-less, immediate spanking? I’m not sure your SD would like the idea much, unless he’s one of these voyeuristic types…

    RedMaru: Hello

    ChampagneSB: Glad you could decipher that post with the formatting! For some reason, whenever I see your handle on here I have to stop myself from saying “Champagne wishes and caviar dreams!” and “I don’t know whyyyy!” in my best Robin Leach voice.

    Back to work for real this time… no, really, I mean it…. I’m leaving now…

  442. RedMaru says:

    Yeah I spent it calling family, going to service, playing Dantes Inferno and Final Fantasy XIII

  443. Anna Molly says:

    Hi ChampagneSB! I don’t think we’ve met! Welcome to Blogville 😀

    Please look over my sister Naughty, she can get a little out of control sometimes..LOL

  444. ChampagneSB says:

    Maybe I should have said “geographical gaps” instead of “physical gaps”…
    When we are together, we are obviously physically close :)

  445. Anna Molly says:

    No worries Red! Did you have a nice Easter?

  446. ChampagneSB says:

    Hi everyone!

    SDinLA – lmao at some of those…I think I have been guilty of a few 😉

    Have you had any trouble interpreting a messages or other signals from sugar daddies or sugar babies because of ‘gaps’ in age, social customs, economic status, etc.?

    I think as women (or perhaps just as humans) our interpretations of messages and behavoirs can be entirely different. Maybe this is due to age gaps and/or other gaps, but either way, it’s important to find someone with whom you are compatible with. Constant misinterpretations are stressful on both parties.

    What types of differences or ‘gaps’ are there between you and your sugar (current or potential)?

    Well there are the obvious – physical gaps (we don’t see each other that often) and cultural (which I actually enjoy as I have learned a lot). Other than that, it seems as though we have learned to adapt to one anothers “preferences” in terms of communication and space. Actually, I think the “gaps” can be a beautiful thing, so long as both parties are clear on certain aspects in the arrangement. I’ve learned to appreciate many of these aspects, although initially, when first getting to know one another these gaps can cause issues if not discussed.

    How much do sugars’ social, political, and economic differences factor into making an arrangement with them? Do you prefer to keep certain subjects or areas of life out of your sugar relationships?

    I started out keeping many aspects of my personal life private. As trust builds though I find myself opening up more. Since my SD has been pretty involved and instrumental in a lot of my personal growth, keeping things “secret” isn’t something I do. However, as I said, trust is a huge part of this equation. That being said, I don’t expect (nor do I want) to be let in on all aspects of his life; that’s just more for me to worry about! (on top of my own life.)

  447. RedMaru says:

    AnnaMolly nice to see you to sorry for the late response. Between working and blogging.
    Hi SDinLA nice to meet you if we haven’t met yet 😀

  448. Naughty Molly says:

    and do we have to wait until next year?

  449. Naughty Molly says:

    SDinLA ~ Can we skip the Peeps and just go straight for the spanking?

  450. Anna Molly says:

    Thank you SDinLA! I didn’t know you were saving Cadbury Eggs for me!
    You’re so sweet 😉

  451. SDinLA says:

    AM: I saved all these Cadbury eggs for you, and you didn’t come by to get them! Next year you get Peeps and a spanking instead…

    Lily: Yes, *every* woman HATES it when men pay attention to her. It’s terrible.

    Back to business, have a great afternoon everyone.

  452. SDinLA says:

    Re: communication problems, not any more so than with anyone else or outside of the usual gender, generational, cultural, socio-economic stuff. And as others have posted, “Vive la difference!”

    I have actually kept my SBs apart from the other parts of my life for the most part, but not because they are my SBs, just because of their age. I don’t expose any woman in my life to my kids, until and unless I’m seeing someone I plan to keep around permanently that is true of them regardless of SB status or not. And since they’ve all been under the age of 22, they really don’t have any interest in attending my business or fund-raising events- what are they going to talk about with all of the wives and GFs who are much older? I don’t really care about the “what will people think” aspect of it, I’m in my mid-40s and dating women half my age, so it gets written off to “he’s divorced, he’s having a mid-life crisis” anyway. I’ve offered to have them join me many times and been declined every time, they usually have school as a higher priority than such things in any case, and that’s fine with me.

  453. Anna Molly says:

    Hey Red! Nice to see you!! 😀

  454. RedMaru says:

    Hey AnnaMolly

  455. RedMaru says:

    wow you stay away for a couple o hours and all the excitement happens
    Darn it

  456. Lily says:

    SDinLA, they don’t have Sir Mix a Lot!!!!! :(

    queen would rock, though.

    My girlfriends just left me for other plans involving men and I’m sitting alone with my red wine, so who would video me? Well, maybe one of the dudes staring at me in here while I pretend to be busy with my iPhone. 😉

  457. Anna Molly says:

    Hi everybody! Hope all of you are having a good day so far 😀

  458. SDinLA says:

    Damn, formatting didn’t copy and paste well, sorry all…

  459. Lily says:

    Jade, thank goodness. Rules to live by.

  460. SDinLA says:

    Shoogar: I’ve seen that in various forms under “Wife Speak” and such, i.e.

    Wife Speak English Translation

    You want You want

    We need I want

    It’s your decision The correct decision should be obvious by now

    Do what you want You’ll pay for this later

    We need to talk I need to complain

    Sure…go ahead I don’t want you to.

    I’m not upset Of course I’m upset, you moron.

    You’re…so manly You need a shave and you sweat a lot.

    You’re certainly attentive tonight Is sex all you ever think about?

    I’m not emotional or overreacting! I’m on my period.

    Be romantic, turn out the lights. I have flabby thighs.

    This kitchen is so inconvenient. I want a new house.

    I want new curtains and carpeting, furniture, wallpaper…

    I need wedding shoes the other 40 pairs are the wrong shade of white

    Hang the picture there No, I mean hang it there!

    I heard a noise I noticed you were almost asleep.

    Do you love me? I’m going to ask for something expensive.

    How much do you love me? I did something today you’re really not going to like.

    I’ll be ready in a minute. Kick off your shoes and find a good game on T.V.

    Is my butt fat? Tell me I’m beautiful.

    You have to learn to communicate. Just agree with me.

    Are you listening to me!? [Too late, your dead.]

    Yes No

    No No

    Maybe No

    I’m sorry. You’ll be sorry.

    Do you like this recipe? It’s easy to fix, so you’d better get used to it.

    Was that the baby? Why don’t you walk him until he goes to sleep.

    I’m not yelling! Yes I am yelling because I think this is important.

  461. SDinLA says:

    Lily: “Fat Bottomed Girls” by Queen methinks….

    or there’s always “Baby Got Back.”

    And you need to shake it on video, of course.

  462. Lily says:

    At karaoke. Need requests? Video available later. :)

  463. cleo says:

    james.m: the wise woman tries on five pairs of pants and then inquires of her chosen tortured male “which one of those made my ass look the best?”

    come on ladies, questions he can answer and live would be nice

  464. cleo says:

    hey redmaru *hugs* it’s nice to see you!
    OCSB: to my mind the best part of getting older is learning to get around your own shit. so it gets easier and easier to communicate when you’re feeling wounded.

    the hard one is when your hormones are pushing you along and you don’t notice.

  465. cleo says:

    SSSD: my ex husband (12 years ex so i say single on my profile) and i fell asleep one night in the middle of round two [we had been up for days.] we woke up, still connected, and finished a few hours later

    that is still one of the most intimate and romantic experiences i’ve ever had.

    [oh you tease! i haven’t had a lover capable of marathon sex in years… i nearly forget how good it can be. dammit dammit dammit!]
    Southern Gent 2 says: especially when at that certain point where things are just starting, and there is that certain spot where you have to make a decision to move forward or step back. Actions speak louder than words. I have found some sb’s say certain things in order to lure me in, but when it comes to the actions, it doesn’t always back up their words.

    you know? i don’t mind when they don’t like me but when they chase me and tell me they want to touch me and want to pursue a relationship and then fall off the planet it’s disconcerting. i really would prefer a text or something.
    james.m asks “what to do with ‘does this make me look fat?'”

    several answers
    “no, but it doesn’t do your fine ass justice”
    “nothing could make you look fat but you are way hotter than that dress makes you look”
    “oh please, as if you could look fat. that said, that outfit wouldn’t be flattering on kate moss”

    for things tried on in stores, if she owns it already? maybe “no, your body is still amazing but i think the fabric may have lost it’s shape”

  466. Jade says:

    Yes Lily, no more parking lot meetings for me or getting in a strangers car ANYMORE !!!!!

  467. RedMaru says:

    Hey OCSugarBaby how are you?
    Good dictionary it sums what were saying in a nutshell 😀
    Hey cleo long time hugs!

    • OCSugarBaby says:

      Red! Hola Chica.
      Yes, I know that as I get a bit older I have swap’d
      foul moods for better communication. IE…less pouting
      more communicating! The latter works far better. But a
      little pout now and then has it’s magical powers.

  468. cleo says:

    there i am, reading the old topic and commenting away…

    michael zomg

    i answered you there

  469. RedMaru – yes, meeting with a potential business opportunity so I couldn’t get FIRED if they caught me anyway. Heck, now that I think of it, one of the meeting attendees is an attractive older man – maybe catching me on a sugar site could HELP. hehehe Oh, my evil mind sometimes. A blessing and a curse.

    • OCSugarBaby says:

      I think this is what you were looking for…

      A Woman’s Dictionary
      1. “Fine”

      This is the word women use at the end of any argument when they feel they are right but can’t stand to hear you argue any longer. It means that you should shut up. (NEVER use “fine” to describe how she looks. This will cause you to have one of those arguments.)

      2. “Five minutes”

      This is half an hour. It is equivalent to the five minutes that your football game is going to last before you take out the trash, so women feel that it’s an even trade.

      3. “Nothing”

      “Nothing” means something and you should be on your toes. “Nothing” is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. “Nothing” usually signifies an argument that will last “Five Minutes” and end with the word “Fine.”

      4. “Go Ahead” (with raised eyebrows) This is NOT permission; it’s a dare! If you mistake it for permission, the result will be the woman will get upset over “Nothing” and you’ll have a “five-minute” discussion that will end with the word “Fine.”

      5. “Go Ahead” (normal eyebrows) this is NOT permission, either. It means, “I give up” or “do what you want because I don’t care.” You will get a raised eyebrow “Go Ahead” in just a few minutes, followed by “Nothing” and “Fine” and she will talk to you in about “Five Minutes” when she cools off.

      6. “Loud Sigh”

      This is not actually a word, but is still often a verbal statement. Very frequently misunderstood by men. A “Loud Sigh” means she thinks you are a complete idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over “Nothing!.”

      7. “Soft Sigh”

      Again, not a word, but a verbal statement. “Soft Sighs” are one of the few things that some men actually understand. It means she is momentarily content. Your best bet is to not move or breathe in the hope that the moment will last a bit longer.

      8. “Oh”

      This word – followed by any statement – is trouble. Example; “Oh, let me get that”. Or, “Oh, I talked to him about what you were doing last night.” If she says “Oh” before a statement, run, do not walk, to the nearest exit. She will tell you that she is “Fine” when she is done tossing your clothes out the window, but do not expect her to talk to you for at least two days. (“Oh” as the lead to a sentence usually signifies that you are caught in a lie). Do not try to lie more to get out of it, or you will get a raised eyebrow “Go ahead,” sometimes followed by acts so unspeakable that I can’t bring myself to write about them.

      9. “That’s Okay”

      This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can say to a man. “That’s Okay” means that she wants to think long and hard before deciding what the penalty will be for whatever you have done. “That’s Okay” is often used with the word “Fine” and in conjunction with a raised eyebrow “Go Ahead.” Once she has had time to plan it out, you are in for some mighty big trouble.

      10. “Please Do”

      This is not a statement, it is an offer. The woman is giving you the chance to come up with an excuse for what you have done. In other words, a chance to get yourself into even more trouble. If you handle this correctly, you shouldn’t get a “That’s Okay.”

      11. “Thanks”

      The woman is thanking you. Don’t faint and don’t look for hidden meaning. Just say “you’re welcome.”

      12. “Thanks A Lot”

      “Thanks A Lot” is dramatically different from “Thanks.” A woman will say “Thanks A Lot” when she is really ticked off at you. It is usually followed by the “Loud Sigh.” This signifies that you have hurt her in some callous way. Be careful not to ask what is wrong after the “Loud Sigh,” as she will only tell you “Nothing”.

  470. Chitown SB says:

    Lily, Thanks :) yeah, some pretty funny images do come to mind with that one, no offense taken

    Shoogar, good to hear my point of view is understood

    RedMaru, Thank you very much! Don’t feel lonely, there are still some of us here and I am sure plenty more still lurking or who may not yet be fully awake enough to chime in

  471. RedMaru says:

    Hey Shoogar you’re at work too eh? So you’ve also perfected the time honored art of “looking busy while sugar blogging” hee hee

  472. Hi RedMaru! Thank you. You aren’t alone in here – even though it was echoing earlier. I was in the middle of driving. Now I’m sitting in a conference room waiting for a meeting to start; my Powerpoint presentation minimized and the Sugar Blog open (hoping no one walks in and catches me on it). 😀

  473. RedMaru says:

    Hey Lily and Shoogar 😀
    Love your blog Lily
    Love your site Shoogar

  474. RedMaru says:

    Hey guys I was starting to get lonely
    ChitownSB – Your pictures are lovely my dear!

  475. Great way to sum it up, Lily. I really want to (and NEED to) live my OWN life. Let’s enjoy our time together when we’re together. When we’re apart, the little messages (email or text) are nice when we have the time. But SBs/SDs should never take it to heart when their significant sugar hasn’t had the time to write, call or reply. All situations are different, of course (Married SDs/SBs have a specific schedule that needs to be respected. SBs with children, the same.)

    It really should be simple. One reason I chose the arrangement-relationship route at this point in my life is because I’m not quite ready (nor do I want or have the time) to give of myself 100% to a serious, traditional relationship.

    chitownSB said: “While my pots are informed of some aspects of my personal life, it is merely so they can gain a further understanding of me as a person, not so I can involve them in it.”

    Well stated. EXACTLY how I approach it, chi.

    james.m said: “Shooger – WTH do I do with “Does this make me look fat?”

    Avoid answering at ALL costs! ha ha. Or, you could say, “No baby, not fat, just think of it as you are going to fill the room up with more SEXY.”

  476. Lily says:

    Chitown, I had to laugh at your “I prefer an economic disparity” comment. So cute, thanks for making me laugh. All kinds of funny mental images popped into my mind as to what an ‘arrangement’ would look like without a gap in economic status….(“No, seriously, baby, supersize it if want—nothing’s too good for you!” or “Honey, this weekend I’m gonna take you to DSW Warehouse and you can pick out any 1 pair of shoes in the building!”)

    hope my silly fit of the giggles doesn’t get taken the wrong way!

  477. Chitown SB says:

    James- while your question was directed at Shoogar, not me; I will add my 2 cents anyway. To the question “does this make me look fat” you should be honest but diplomatic. If it doesn’t say something like “it only enhances your beauty”, if you feel it is unflattering, say something more like “it doesn’t highlight your best qualities, let’s find something that actually does you justice”

    unsolicited advise I know… but it is a question many of my male friends have brought up as well

  478. Lily says:

    Yes, us SBs are supposed to be less tempremental than gfs/wives. That’s the idea in focusing in on having great fun in the moment, for a temporary period of time, rather than settling in and bracing yourself for the long haul with someone. It’s dating, simplified. Short term needs, short term goals, and whipped up into frothy goodness with romance/chemistry/friendship as the binding agent that makes everything possible and gives momentum.

    All this WITHOUT happily ever after (and accompanying niggling insecuritues –does he find me attractive, still? Am I successful enough for her to look up to me, nowadays? —-YES, or the arrangement would have ended yesterday)…as the point.

  479. Chitown SB says:

    Good morning Sugars!

    Busy day today… Lunch with ArtistSD, dinner with NiceGuySD. Both will hopefully determine whether or not I have an actual arrangement on my hands. Here’s hoping! Then rock climbing at the gym tonight.

    Have you had any trouble interpreting messages or other signals from sugar daddies or sugar babies?
    Sometimes, yes. It is disconcerting when lack of clear understanding leads to confusion, or worse… misunderstanding. I prefer when both parties lay everything on the table and do not play guessing games. I try to give that to any pot, and always hope for it in return. As we all know though, it is seldom that simple.

    What types of differences or ‘gaps’ are there between you and your sugar (current or potential)?
    With my current pots there is obviously an age difference. Usually with my potentials there is a gap in professional industry as well, though ArtistSD is much closer to my field. There is also a gap in life experience, but that just means we have more stories to share and more to learn from one another’s lives.

    How much do sugars’ social, political, and economic differences factor into making an arrangement with them? Do you prefer to keep certain subjects or areas of life out of your sugar relationships?
    I compartmentalize. My real/personal life does not mingle with my sugar life. While my pots are informed of some aspects of my personal life, it is merely so they can gain a further understanding of me as a person, not so I can involve them in it. I only have one IRL friend who knows about my sugar life, and that was originally for safety reasons. To meet my needs, I prefer an economic difference between my pot and myself.

    Hope everyone had a good holiday and is enjoying some sunshine!

  480. james.m says:

    Have you had any trouble interpreting a messages or other signals from sugar daddies or sugar babies?

    Duh! We’re men and they’re women! When HAVEN’T we had trouble interpreting them? That’s part of the fun that isn’t fun.

    Actually, it leads to another important characteristic of a good (great) SB: you can ask her, and she’ll explain it to you without getting upset that you’re acting like a man.

  481. james.m says:

    Shooger – WTH do I do with “Does this make me look fat?”

  482. RedMaru says:

    I feel so lonely :(

  483. RedMaru says:

    Good morning sugarfam hope all of you had a wonderful Easter. Mines was nice and lazy. The weathers heating up in GA and slowly moving towards the hot balmy days that irritate me to no end. And just found out my apartment has a cozy little colony of carpenter bees on the roof. Hope they dont sting…

    Have you had any trouble interpreting a messages or other signals from sugar babies?
    No not really since I am a SB

    What types of differences or ‘gaps’ are there between you and your sugar (current or potential)?
    Age gap of course…
    I have a pot whose in his forties….okay so not that older than me
    And I went to dinner with a guy in his fifties didn’t look it though
    Distance gap with the pot…which he’s having some difficulty with

    How much do sugars’ social, political, and economic differences factor into making an arrangement with them? Do you prefer to keep certain subjects or areas of life out of your sugar relationships?

    Definitely like to keep political out of the arrangement. But if it comes up no harm in having an intelligent discussion as well a intelligent disagreement.

  484. Lily says:

    Oops. Typo. Meant “definitely proves true IRL, and sometimes proves true online.”

  485. Lily says:

    Why is it that all my closest girlfriends are also the hottest ones? Bizzare coincidence. But it sometimes proves true here irl, and has once seemed to be the case with an online-turned-irl friendship. 😉

  486. SincereSD said: “Yes I need a damn translator and a lexicon. Will explain later as I”m a little peeved off.”

    I looked through my copies of Playboy mags to send you a funny article, but couldn’t find it. In one of their issues they actually had 2 pages of “A Woman’s Dictionary – What she really means when she says…”

    I couldn’t find it. :(

    But it had a breakdown of meanings. Some that I remember are:

    You have to learn to communicate. = Just agree with me.
    Are you listening to me!? = Too late, you’re dead.
    I’m not upset = Of course I’m upset, you moron!

  487. Lily – Yes, yes and yes!! And I have been fortunate to discover that in some SD friends as well as a select few close SB friends. :)

  488. I prefer to keep pretty much all aspects of my sugar dating private from my friends and family. I keep much of my personal life separate from my sugar.

    ditto. Except in extremely rare cases, when you run across someone in either ‘world,’ whom you can ‘spill all,’ about both, to. :)

  489. SouthernGent2 says:

    Have you had any trouble interpreting a messages or other signals from sugar daddies or sugar babies?

    Yep, and it can be frustrating, especially when at that certain point where things are just starting, and there is that certain spot where you have to make a decision to move forward or step back. Actions speak louder than words. I have found some sb’s say certain things in order to lure me in, but when it comes to the actions, it doesn’t always back up their words.

  490. Lily says:

    I haven’t altered the type of man I date, just because it’s sugar-style.
    Truly, I haven’t. Beyond a ‘first meet,’ anyway.

    Jade, seriously? Hope you learned your lesson about parking lot dates.

  491. Have you had any trouble interpreting a message or other signals from sugar daddies?

    Yes, I have, but I welcome those challenges in an arrangement. I enjoy the whole range of unexplored qualities and dimensions of another person. When those challenges of getting through misinterpretations are presented, they can only lead to growth (only if you are with an emotionally mature person, of course).

    What types of differences or ‘gaps’ are there between you and your sugar (current or potential)?

    The impermanence and the very nature of arrangements, including those very gaps are what prevent me from trying to turn it into a relationship that matches some fixed image in my mind or society’s mind.

    How much do sugars’ social, political, and economic differences factor into making an arrangement with them? Do you prefer to keep certain subjects or areas of life out of your sugar relationships?

    I am a person who finds opportunity in conflict and differences, so I say bring it on. When we welcome such gaps as opportunities (instead of as flaws) they provide for our own individual growth. The arrangement then becomes a powerful force in our development, providing just the impetus we need if we are to realize our larger potential. Arrangements are somewhat open-ended and malleable, and in them, we are forever discovering anew what we are capable of in giving and receiving from another.

    I prefer to keep pretty much all aspects of my sugar dating private from my friends and family. I keep much of my personal life separate from my sugar.

  492. Jade says:

    I do find that most the men I meet expect sex on the first date, even before any allowance or plan is in place. I think maybe to many men get the wrong idea .

    When I first started sugar dating an older man wanted to meet me, he said ” lets meet up real quick in a parking lot to see if we are both real and who we say we are” So I did. He asked me to get in his SUV and then right away, leans over and plants a big wet kiss on me, saying it was to make sure I felt comfortable kissing an old man ……………. His profile said 50 but in person he must have been more like 70 !

  493. SSSD says:

    Have you had any trouble interpreting a messages or other signals from sugar babies?

    Sometimes. There will always be some difficulty due to generation gap, gender differences, and so on, but if this creates regular misinterpretations then I don’t choose them for an arrangement. Communications is difficult enough without starting with a handicap. It’s difficult when they are super hot, of course!

    What types of differences or ‘gaps’ are there between you and your sugar (current or potential)?

    The gaps are what make it an interesting arrangement!

    In real world relationships it is the asymmetries that are microscopic flaws that turn into cracks that turn into broken pieces of life. In arrangements the limited term can make this into a feature. Only in arrangements can I embrace big “gaps.”

    So viva la difference!

    How much do sugars’ social, political, and economic differences factor into making an arrangement with them? Do you prefer to keep certain subjects or areas of life out of your sugar relationships?

    Because it is an arrangement I can tolerate more social, political and economic differences. BUT, conversely, because it is an arrangement I usually have less tolerance for poor appearance, impeccable manners, and bad moods.

    I keep my work life and some parts of my personal life out of my arrangements. Keeps things simpler.

  494. MindyNYC says:

    Have you had any trouble interpreting a messages or other signals from sugar daddies?
    Yes! I meet many men who are not familiar with how things work (geez, sometimes I’m not even familiar). I can be a bit daft at times and miss hints, which is why I prefer to keep things upfront.

    What types of differences or ‘gaps’ are there between you and your sugar (current or potential)? I tend to like most of the gaps that exist. I love hearing about my sugars experiences and views. I learn so much. I bring a bit of excitement, change in routine, and a different perspective. It all makes for an interesting mix.

    How much do sugars’ social, political, and economic differences factor into making an arrangement with them? Do you prefer to keep certain subjects or areas of life out of your sugar relationships? Every subject is open for discussion. How else can you have honesty without fear of judgement? I do find that some men have led such affected lives that they forget a sense of compassion and how the other half lives. They forget that charity is more than buying a seat at a gala…A sugar’s standing whether it be political, business etc does factor into if I feel the arrangement will be beneficial to me. Mentoring / expansion of experiences is a large determining factor, so if I feel a potential sugar can not broaden my experiences I may not become involved.
    I value my privacy, so do keep my friends and family out of my sugar life and do not allow my sugar into my private social life. Our time together is just that: ours. No need to confuse it with anything else. I relish our private escape time.

  495. Social differences are a big issue. Have to make sure that the person I am with is going to be comfortable enough to move easily move in the same social circles.

    The biggest gap I find is that of life experiences. I wear my life scars proudly. Some SBs are like “ewwww”, or just go glassy-eyed when I start talking about where some of the scars come from. Little do they know, these things will probably happen to them.

    “Do you prefer to keep certain subjects or areas of life out of your sugar relationships?” It depends on the person. Right now, yes. I keep them away from most of my friends, and certainly my family. In the right situation and with the right person, I would bring my SB into all aspects of my life. Haven’t found that person yet.

  496. SincereSD says:

    Have you had any trouble interpreting a messages or other signals from sugar babies?

    Yes I need a damn translator and a lexicon. Will explain later as I”m a little peeved off.