In keeping up the faith with finding and keeping a sweet sugarlife, there are many aspects of dating in the Sugar World a Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby may keep note of throughout their journey.
One of the biggest areas for opportunity (or difficulty) in sugar dating is communication and accountability. A sugar’s word means everything in a mutually beneficial arrangement. Words are carefully thought of and shared amongst potential and current Sugar Daddies and Sugar Babies. Even when it may not seem so, it’s likely that a SD or SB is always paying close attention to the words they use, and the words his or her sugar uses, in all their correspondence.
Since a major distinguishing factor for many sugars in sugar relationships is accountability and consideration, it’s not uncommon for more attention to be given to the choice of words, or the lack thereof, that a sugar uses when communicating to their SD or SB.
If you have ever been in or considered a sugar arrangement, you’ve probably thought of the ways in which you would have the potential to make your sugar’s life sweet. The approach someone takes when joining the Sugar World in having a positive relationship, is somewhat more scientific, from a practical standpoint, than most other approaches taken towards romantic ‘attachments’.
As Brandon Wade mentioned when discussing the sugar lifestyle to what the news anchor described as a ‘conservative’ audience on a Florida TV news appearance, he believes, as she suggested, that most of us are indeed looking for love, but the journey to actually finding love can be a really long process, “so in the meantime why not widen your net, meet a lot more interesting people, have fun along the way”. “The idea is we would all want a long-term mutually beneficial relationships, but in the meantime as you’re looking for that, why not form short ones?”
Here are some of the various types of elements a Sugar Baby or Sugar Daddy chemist may use (or not use) within their desired arrangement:
This phrase is commonly used by Sugar Daddies and Sugar Babies in their profiles, messages, and elsewhere when describing their intent to not place certain levels of commitment to their desired sugar relationship. This is often understood as a desire to refrain from investing as much emotional commitment as would be expected in a ‘traditional’ relationship. Some of the ‘strings’ that sugars seeking an NSA arrangement may want to avoid are: monogamy, marriage, and perhaps any form of ‘attachment’ (emotional, financial, etc.).
Many here on SA are quite familiar with this term, yet in-general, when a sugar mentions ‘mutually beneficial’, it may be a way for them to find out how they’d best benefit you in an arrangement, and a way of allowing you to confirm with them how you’d benefit them. It’s not always easy to ensure that any relationship is mutually beneficial, but as many here have mentioned, being as clear as possible (yet in a charismatic way), about what you think you can do for a sugar that would benefit them, and what you’d like that sugar to do to benefit you (perhaps without ever actually mentioning it directly), you’ll be able to better gauge whether the relationship is headed in a mutually beneficial direction.
Shorter or Longer Term
The time length of an arrangement can vary greatly depending on the circumstances, but according to a poll taken on SA and the blog, most sugars surveyed say they’re seeking arrangements that last from 3-9 months. There are many reasons why a sugar couple may last for relatively shorter, or longer periods, yet many here have found that with sugar, a relationship can be quite changeable and even restarted without as much drama as would be expected in many ‘traditional’ relationships.
What elements of a sugar relationship are most important to you now?
How comfortable are you ‘rejecting’ a potential sugar whom you’ve started communicating with? How much do you tell them about why you decided you wouldn’t be a great fit? Do you prefer to stop communication without providing explanation as your way of letting them know you’re not interested?
Have you ever rekindled a previous sugar relationship? Have you found sugar relationships more likely to end on a sweet or less-dramatic note than traditional ones? Does having an open and honest arrangement make it easier to separate amicably with a partner than would be typical for you in a non-sugar relationship?
***Check out the ‘Sugardaddy Chronicles‘ to read ‘What is NSA’ part 1, 2, and 3! ***