This is a going to be a big week for SeekingArrangement.com.
On Friday (September 16, 2011), Dr. Phil will air a full episode featuring Sugar Baby students from SeekingArrangement.com. While I am honored that Dr. Phil chose to work with SeekingArrangement.com rather than other Sugar Daddy dating websites to create a segment to educate the world on the sugar lifestyle, I was not too happy with the approach taken by the show’s producers.
I had originally thought the show would be an intelligent discussion into the sugar lifestyle, and an opportunity for me to showcase that sugar babies were intelligent and goal-oriented ladies, while sugar daddies are respectful gentlemen. I was sadly misled when I showed up for the taping a few weeks ago.
Like most television shows, the goal of Dr. Phil’s producers were to create as much controversy as possible to attract viewers. There are really only a few ways for them to accomplish that. One way is to focus on the usual question of whether “sugar dating” is really just “prostitution”. They succeeded in their goals by inviting an out of control legal expert on the show who would not stop calling me or the Sugar Baby participants names. They also invited the “father” of a Sugar Baby member to show up at the show to tell me he was unhappy with the website (even though he did shake my hand and tell me how glad he was to meet me before the segment started).
While I am open to debating issues (such as the merits of sugar dating) with logic and reason, I am honestly appalled when educated and intelligent people resort to name calling in an effort to create TV buzz.
I have said this many times, and I will say it yet again … On a website such as SeekingArrangement.com, where hundreds of thousands of wealthy and beautiful people mingle, there will always be those who try to misuse the system or break the rules. However, I will not tolerate those who cross the line. At SeekingArrangement.com, we take this very seriously and enforce our policies by banning all members that attempt to use the website against our terms. More specifically, we remind all our members when they join and every time they log in that:
Modern Sugar Daddy Meet Goal Seeking Sugar Baby
As a result of recent coverage, I believe it is time to take the focus away from the question of whether “sex” and “money” is involved in a sugar relationship. It is just silly to keep asking such questions, because “sex” is always involved in any romantic relationship and because “money”, too, is always exchanged in any relationship. So yes, two Mormons, Christians or Muslims who meet each other on a religious dating website are doing it to eventually have “sex”. And yes, most boyfriends or husbands do at some point in their relationship spend “money” on their girlfriends or wives, and vice versa. The truth the media seem willing to conveniently ignore is that “sex” and “money” are always involved in all romantic relationships.
Because the relationship between a Sugar Daddy and a Sugar Baby is romantic in nature, most sugar relationships will likely involve “sex”. A survey we conducted shows that approximately 80% of all sugar relationships result in “sex”. And because a Sugar Daddy is expected to be the generous gentleman, “money” will always be spent on the Sugar Baby. I don’t see anything wrong (or illegal) with that!
Over the next few days you will see some big changes coming to the SeekingArrangement.com homepage, as we start to focus our messaging on the positive qualities of being Sugar Daddies and Sugar Babies. Sugar relationships are in their ideal form relationships that empower individuals. They are win-win relationships formed as a result of two people (a modern Sugar Daddy and a goal seeking sugar baby) who were brutally honest with each other up front.
Finally, I’d like to sincerely thank the four SeekingArrangement.com Sugar Baby members (Kristen, Jennifer, Janelle and Tracy) who had the courage, and took the risk and time to appear on the Dr. Phil show to defend the sugar lifestyle.
And if you would like to contribute to Dr. Phil’s discussion, one thing you can do is to answer a poll on Dr. Phil’s website where he asks people what their view is on Sugar Daddy Dating. Perhaps it is time you share your views… CLICK HERE >>
What do you think of the media’s coverage of “Sugar Babies” lately?
What are some of the positives of being a Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby?
If you had to defend the sugar lifestyle to those who say this is just “prostitution”, what would you say to them?