There’s a reason why sugar and love are not usually mentioned in the same sentence. In a traditional relationship, you aspire to love, and by default transpire drama (which is why you may have ended up here in the first place). But sugar is meant to be a fantasy, an alternate reality that is absent of the normal drama that comes with love. You enter into a sugar relationship knowing exactly what you are going to get out of it, and exactly what to give. It’s supposed to be an arrangement; you’re not supposed to fall in love. But we all know things don’t always go according to plan…
When love replaces lust in a sugar arrangement, it’s hard to know what to do. Whether your Sugar Daddy is married, or you and your Sugar Baby agreed to an NSA arrangement, someone is bound to get hurt if your feelings don’t match your sugar partner’s. Which is why your arrangement should be carefully discussed upfront, and all scenarios presented before you enter a sugar arrangement. If your Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby has made it clear that a romantic relationship is not in the realm of possibility, then don’t set yourself up for a heartache.
“Am I the only one that realizes that sugar is it’s own little fantasy and has dangerous consequences in the real world? This goes for both sexes. When emotions get carried away, things get messy…drama gets involved….and inevitably people get hurt. IMHO, taking sugar and trying to make it into something real defeats the purpose of sugar. If you want strings, why not have a mistress or a girlfriend? Would you risk your marriage, your family, your assets for the hope that sugar becomes real? It may work for the .01% but we all know that’s the exception. I want to believe in happily ever after, but I am not convinced the sugar bowl is the place. – Midwest SB (May 2010)
“Your best bet for a long term, faithful mate who remains interested only in you would be a well bred Labrador or Golden Retriever puppy. The downside is, of course, that there is no sugar, just an abundance of love. “ -flyr (June 2012)
“When going into a relationship with a married SD – you have to know you can’t fall in love. Yes, support him, care for him, enjoy your time together, enjoy each other – but don’t fall in love. I know many times that’s easier said than done…but, it’s a mind-set you have to have. I know it’s hard to keep deep emotions out of any relationship, but this isn’t an IRL relationship. It is, at heart, an arrangement. I’m not the girlfriend, I’m not a candidate for the next Mrs., I’m someone to spend time with and that time will be nothing but enjoyable.” – CA Dreamin SB (December 2009)
Don’t get us wrong, we love a happy ending! We have been invited to many sugar weddings over the years, and nothing makes us happier than two people who found love on our site. But it’s the exception to the rule, and setting yourself up with unrealistic expectations will only hurt you in the long run. So be honest, tell the truth and fall in love with sugar, not your Sugar Daddy (or Baby).
Have you fallen in love with your Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby?
How do you deal with unrequited love in a sugar arrangement?
Do you think love and sugar can coexist?