Sugar is sweet, but sooner or later your favorite Sugar may lose its flavor. The problem is that many Sugar Babies and Sugar Daddies aren’t on the lookout for telltale signs that an Arrangement has run its course. That’s when, like an old piece of gum, it goes from sweet and juicy to bitter and stale.
1. One person wants more commitment i.e. marriage, but you can’t commit.
The best way out of this sticky situation is to talk it out. Let your Sugar know why you aren’t ready to settle down. Give them a clear idea, for example:
“I am not ready to commit until I am able to support myself on my own and finish my master’s degree.”
However, you should understand their needs:
“I would love to keep seeing you, but if you need something more serious I won’t have any hard feelings about ending this.”
That way no one is being led on and you maintain a good relationship … just in case he’s thinking marriage was a bad idea.
2. The other person threatens legal action if you don’t [insert demand here].
This is a big no-no. Try to appease the situation by talking it out and SUBTLY implying that you too have legal power if they choose to be unreasonable.
3. Sugar Daddy or Mommy wants to do something intimate you aren’t comfortable with or wants to become intimate and you don’t want to.
Remind your Sugar of your arrangement. Know your rights! No one is allowed to intimidate you into doing anything you don’t want to do. In our book, this is one-sided and goes against what a mutually beneficial relationship is all about.
4. Sugar Baby only wants to meet when he or she needs something.
If he or she only wants to see you when they need money or are in trouble, but not when you are in town or have time off from work—steer clear. A Sugar Baby should enjoy their Mommy or Daddy’s company. (Note to SB/ SMs: Be clear what as to what your expectations are. Choose an arrangement that works for both of your schedules.)
5. Sugar Daddy or Mommy sends less monthly allowance or no allowance at all.
Hey, things happen. It is possible that something has come up on their side of things. Have an open conversation about what their new budget is. If their new offer doesn’t work for you, then it is time to respectably part ways. (Note to SB/SMs: It is bad form to suddenly change your baby’s allowance without first talking to them. If No. 4 applies to you, then you have the right to stop allowance-giving altogether.)
What are other signs that it is time to end your Sugar Relationship?