After re-reading Fifty Shades of Grey last week, I decided to have a chat about it with a couple of my girlfriends (over wine of course). The surprised looks and some arguments after hearing that Anastasia Steele was essentially a Sugar Baby caught me off-guard. It seems that many people, women especially, didn’t draw the connection. Sometimes, I forget how those who aren’t exposed to the lifestyle may not see what I think are blatant signs of Sugar.
But, for those of you who are…I’ve prepared a three-part blog series on the 15 (50 is a little overkill) lessons that can be derived from Fifty Shades of Grey.
1.Start Out Innocent One
Let’s be honest here, sexual appeal is part of the Sugar Baby package. That certain ‘je ne sais quoi’. But take a lesson from the book of Audrey Hepburn, not Marilyn, and remember that perception is key if you want to leave your potential Sugar Daddy begging for more.
2. Try New Food
You can tell a lot about a person by the way they eat. Start small, like Anastasia did by meeting Christian Grey and having coffee (which he hated). An unwillingness to try new food, or activities for that matter, waves a red flag indicating relations could go stale awfully quick.
3. Negotiate Confidently
Unease is a sign of weakness. Remember that all successful men and inevitably business men in a sense. And what do they do best? Negotiate. The key is establishing a check and balance. If you want more money, then you may have to give up more time or be open to travel. And vice versa.
4. Take a Break from Sugar
There are two instances in a Sugar Lifetime this should be done. Once, after several Sugar Daddies, to ensure you don’t develop a dependency. Even the most disciplined Sugar Baby risks falling into temptation. The second is during any long-term arrangement somewhere past the one year mark. Be sure to let your Sugar Daddy know that you will be unplugging or taking it easy for that amount of time. Hash out terms in order to avoid any grey areas. It will refresh both of you and that once familiar Sugar will be as sweet as when newly opened.
5. Do Your Research
Surprisingly, a lot of Sugar Daddies will actually give you their name. Or at least some way to verify them. Read up on your Potential Sugar Daddy both in public record, business reviews, and other Sugar Baby blogs. That way you are 100% sure of who you are dating.
Knowing makes the leap easier. Now that you know, try out these lessons with a potential Sugar Daddy.
What are other things Sugar Babies and Sugar Daddies can learn from Fifty Shades?
Have you had a Fifty Shades type arrangement?