Drafting the perfect dating profile can be daunting. It’s impossible to know exactly what someone else wants, but you can attract potentials by representing yourself the right way. You can easily charm your way into a mutually beneficial relationship by following these guidelines.
This is easier said than done. When faced with the challenge of listing hobbies, most people aren’t sure what to note. Be specific, but not so unreachable that you drive people away. If you like to read, drop your favorite author. If you like to eat out, mention your go-to restaurant or cuisine. The only way to find something in common is to mention the details. Otherwise, you just like to eat food. Spoiler alert: Everyone eats food.
Are you relationship minded or just looking for fun? Do you want an allowance or just lavish dates? These are exactly the sorts of things you should list when laying out your ideals. Acknowledge what you want, and also what you don’t. Non-smokers only? Must love dogs? The quickest way to a dating failure is a clash of codes that could have been avoided by being up front. The point of an arrangement is for everyone to get exactly what they want, so be honest.
Online dating frauds exist. From the scheming catfish to the sexual predator, it’s a jungle out there. Honesty is your best asset since most sugar seekers can smell bullshit. Starting a relationship with lies will only make things difficult, and lead to a disappointing end. If you tell the truth, you are free to be yourself.
Don’t be overtly sexual, but a little sensuality goes a long way. If you like to wear thigh highs and stilettos, that visual is better than a skanky line about your sex position preferences. Hints and subtle sexual nodes get them interested, so leave them wanting more instead of bearing all.
Both sides of an arrangement want an intelligent counterpart. The quickest way to turn off an intellectual is a spelling error or improper syntax. Good grammar is a rarity in millennials. I recently read a girl’s profile who said she was a “Collage girl wanting to be spoilt.” Perhaps she should have paid more attention in English 101.
While a picture can be worth a thousand words, your pictures are going to be worth one of two: Hot or Not. Images are the first thing people see to determine their interest level. Make it easy for them to get a feel for your appearance with these tips.
No group shots. Online daters are not detectives, and don’t have time to figure out which one is you. It’s just confusing. This is online dating, not Where’s Waldo.
Steer clear of action shots. Some might say this helps people get to know your hobbies, but save that for your profile text. A picture of you skiing where you’re the size of an ant sends the message “I look great from a distance.” More than likely, people want to see what you look like close up.
You are not a duck. A recent phenomena in which girls impersonate ducks by pursing their lips in an unnatural way is sweeping the nation. It is no wonder ducks are commonly shot down. Do not get caught in the crosshairs with a duckface.
Clarity is vital. Blurry pictures might mask your blemishes, but this little soap opera trick won’t get you any sugar. A fuzzy or darkened image only leaves them wondering if you look pixelated and washed out in real life. Let’s hope you don’t.
Get Current. Even if your most flattering image is from several years ago, please choose a more recent picture. Dyed your hair or just got it cut? Posting a current picture of these changes will reduce uncertainty, and increase contact from members.
Ditch the shades. One picture with sunglasses is okay, but you want to reveal your eyes. Concerned about privacy? These tips aren’t for everyone, but if you want more profile traction, take off your sunnies and let your eyes shine. You can always share these photos privately.
Do you love life? Do you like having fun? I’m sure you do, but those are not the pieces of information to add to your profile. This is a one stop shop for potentials, so don’t litter it with overused and subsequently meaningless phrases. While you’re out “living life to the fullest,” someone is skimming over your cliche ridden profile and moving on to the next one. So skip the YOLO, and get creative with your wording.
Your profile is a chance to showcase all the reasons people would want to date you. Try not to list your baggage and self-deprecating flaws. Even if you’re being honest, an unfavorable financial situation or your inability to find a decent partner is not profile material. Instead, say you are looking to improve your career, and still searching for the right person. You can stay truthful without being a Negative Nancy.
There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. Walk the line and even blur it, but don’t be a braggart. Give yourself credit where credit is due. What are your talents? What makes you a catch? Inserting musical ability or special skills can be the difference between a pass and a partner.
Mozart didn’t compose Requiem in an hour, and you probably won’t execute a perfect profile with haste. Take notes of things you want to disclose, then make a first draft. Since each profile gets manually screened by Seeking Arrangement support, it takes up to 24 hours to get posted. Therefore, it’s in your best interest to have it edited and perfected before submission. If you want someone to invest time and sugar in you, devote at least some effort to your profile.
Hopefully this provides some clarity for the wayward sugar seeker on a quest to compose perfect profile. If you’re still confused, take a look at our video, embedded above.