Leading a life of sugar can be unconventional, but this doesn’t mean it lacks aspects of a traditional relationship. In a sugar relationship, laying your feelings out on the table is standard procedure. Communicating with one another is vital, and speaking the languages of love comes more naturally in this type of relationship.
The languages of love explain how we understand the expressions of romance from others. There are five major components, and each of them being experienced within a mutually beneficial relationship.
A healthy arrangement is based on communication. Verbally discussing your needs is the first step. I always insist that couples discuss their needs prior to the initial meet, but during the first encounter the time to vocally affirm your goals for the relationship. Because sugar is so open and honest, Sugar Babies and Daddies have experience using their words of affirmation before the arrangement begins. Should it become more serious, the people involved already have a solid ability to use their words as a language of love.
This language is all about displays of love by easing the burden of responsibilities. For a Sugar Baby, the financial obligations of college and young adult life may be stressful. When a successful man is able to mentor her and alleviate some of that pressure fortifies the bond they share. Some claim that the financial aspect of an arrangement lessens the sincerity, when in actuality it makes their love even more real. Once the relationship is established, the Sugar Baby may show her Daddy an act of service by preparing him a fancy dinner or giving him an at-home massage.
Gift-giving is only partially about the material aspect. Receiving a gift means the other person was really thinking about you. They took the time to learn your sizes, valued your taste, and picked out something just for you. Those who speak this language find contentment in a partner who tangibly expresses their affection through generosity. Sugar epitomizes this mentality, and each person becomes closer when they share the appreciation and reciprocation of a gift.
Opportunities to be physically together may not be as frequent for sugar couples. Due to hectic schedules, meeting for quality time is highly valued in the relationship. When it’s less frequent, the moments shared mean more and allow for a break from the demands of everyday life. For someone who responds to this language, giving their full and undivided attention is an essential component of love. Putting down the phone and having a meaningful conversation is the norm for a sugar encounter, where quality time holds true merit.
When appropriate, physical contact is a perfect way to convey caring. A simple touch on the arm while talking, or holding hands makes all the difference for someone who cares about this language. While this can imply a certain level of intimacy, it’s more about how “touchy” a person enjoys being. The two people should share similar ideas of physical touch as a sign of love, and regularly express their affections.
Finding out which languages of love you feel most strongly towards is about figuring out what truly makes you happy. Discovering your love language can take your relationship from casual to monumental and could you find the perfect companion.