Happy Friday, Sugar World! Big things are happening at SeekingArrangement this quarter, but that’s no excuse to rob you all of some fresh, new content. Seeing that it’s Friday night and I’m currently browsing through my Netflix queue, I thought we’d do something a little different.
So while you’re probably curious about what I am alluding to, I’m not going to tell you about our new matchmaking service or our upcoming event in New York…at least, not yet.
Instead, I thought we’d discuss some of the lessons brought to us by our favorite fictional Sugar Babies. After all, TV plot lines are always applicable to real life. Let’s get started.
Ms. Barnes went from a nobody to high-profile journalist in the matter of one byline thanks to her relationship with Frank Underwood. He fed her stories that no one else could get, while she shared her bed. But Zoe didn’t follow the rules of their arrangement. She began to want more and when she didn’t get it, she broke the rules.
If your Sugar Daddy confides in you, don’t spill his secrets or threaten to use them against him. That never works out for anyone in the long run… right Zoe?
Ashley seemed to have a knack for making connections that elevated her social status. First by befriending millionaire heiress, Emily Thorne, then by dating men with access to power and wealth, each one more well off than the one before. In just a few summers she went from party planner to the Hamptons’ elite, to public relations executive at one of the biggest corporations in the country.
But Ashley broke one important rule. She chose to make an arrangement with the father of a man she was previously in a relationship with.
Burning bridges on your way to the top is risky. Ashley stepped over so many people to get to where she wanted to be, that she didn’t last long in her position. She found herself out of a job, and exiled from a community she desperately wanted to be a part of.
Remember, you should never tear down others in the pursuit of your ambitions. Sugar can help you get where you need to be, but it doesn’t have to be at the expense of others. Don’t choose your arrangement over your friends, or yourself for that matter.
When the storyline of Jess and Nick ended, Nick got an involved in an interesting new plot. Nick’s new girlfriend preferred to pay Nick to stay home with her, instead of have him leave her to go to work. While this sounds like the ideal arrangement for some, it’s never a good idea to become too dependent on Sugar. The complacency began to eat away at Nick as he realized he no longer felt the need to work towards his goals.
It’s important to remember that Sugar should be a supplement to your life, not the driving force. Have your own projects, and don’t forget about your ambitions even if the Sugar is that good.
There are all kinds of power arrangements on How To Get Away With Murder. Student sleeping with professor, lawyer having an affair with a cop, intern sleeping with a supervisor (times two), and even several cases of a law intern sleeping with a witness to get evidence. And while there are many different lessons we can learn from this show, there is one painfully obvious one: Don’t enter into an arrangement that isn’t truly mutually beneficial.
I have yet to see a relationship end on HTGAWM on good terms. It’s okay to break the rules, but don’t break the law. Don’t become someone’s alibi, scapegoat or doormat. It just isn’t worth it.
What are some lessons you’ve learned from your favorite fictional Sugar Babies?