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SeekingArrangement Site Updates
  • Posted Aug 4, 2016


Notice anything new when you logged in?

We’ve launched live desktop notifications to provide real-time indications of interactions between members. By enabling site notifications, you will be immediately notified when someone has interacted with you — when they message, favorite, or view you even when your SeekingArrangement.com tab is closed.

You’ll begin seeing notifications like this:


Not interested in desktop notifications? Simply select “Not right now” when prompted. You can always turn it on later from your settings page!

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429 Responses to “SeekingArrangement Site Updates”

  1. Anonymous says:

    Hello Bro, join me on the Dark side. Aka the other SA blog.

  2. TheLilly says:

    Okay the STD thing may prove a life saver(maybe literally) but I am a bit concerned about the pressures
    That caused its arrival.

  3. I’m not thrilled with the notification pop ups, as I check the site quite often. Some SBs. Don’t and this may prove indirectly helpful to me, but I don’t want something like this popping up in a business meeting, or worse, when I’m with a SB.
    The new diamond level makes me feel like a share holder that finds his stock has been watered. Aside from priority becoming second class, the stated benefits are “20 times the number of responses”!
    Good grief ! I can’t adequately handle what I have received! I don’t see the benefit myself, but I can enumerate the draw backs. Diamond being the new draw, my responses will suffer in quality and number.

  4. DC says:

    I don’t like the new features, don’t want desktop notifications. Also the new notifications on the top of the page suck too. I set my e-mail preferences to just who e-mails me. Though I can’t turn off who viewed my profile. Plus sometimes I have to search through pages of who viewed me to find new views. I wish the e-mail setting would be the same as the site settings.

  5. PayingMember says:

    So I log in this AM and check my search sorted by “Recently Active” but it would appear that no one has logged in for 8 hours.

    Is this part of the upgrade?

  6. Anonymous says:

    New Feature: site sponsored STD testing

    Will there be a badge in our profiles for this too like “Background Verified”?


  7. angie says:

    why ant I send messages?

  8. Anonymous says:

    This place has really gone down to dogs. In the short span of 3 yrs that I’ve been here. On technical side, every new makeover of the site just adds more disasters, glitches and hideous features. On the membership side, seems like a new crop of SBs have taken over, all they want, expect and demand is free money for NOTHING!! They can’t write more than a brainless hi or how are you and yet expect cha ching falling in their laps just for showing up with their pretty face. I’ve by now spent more money on membership cost than on actual arrangements. Can someone please recommend a better and more value-for-the-money arrangement site, pleeeease!

  9. yougottabekiddingme says:

    Oh no! The curse of the inbox glitch is upon me!! What ever did I do to deserve this???

    • OnlineNewbieSD says:

      ditch it…head to another forum I know you’ve been active on!

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        Hey Newbs…Im not active on any other sites…not a single other one, actually.

        Curious to know who youve mistaken me for. I hope she’s as sweet as pie 😀

    • theunanonymous says:

      How do I contact you offline, yougottabekiddingme?

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        Hey there, unanonymous.

        you can find me offline at yougottabekiddingme2014 at ggmmaaiill

        No sudden moves, no funny business 😉

        I have 8 firewalls, a sun-ripened peach, and a pair of iron panties.

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        Hi again, una…

        Thank you for your message and kind words.

        If you are open, please send your SA profile name in the subject line. No links, please.

  10. Anonymous says:

    I just want to find a sweet gay sugar daddy near the Boston area, but there seems to be no one. 🙁

  11. FisherMan says:

    When you hear something ridiculous, just move on. Disengage immediately, block and hit next. I was talking to an newbie average looking SB, with “Moderate” trying to figure out if she realized she made a mistake. Instead she pensively said: “I am gonna put Substantial…”. Disengage and move on. She will either text back, to inquire what you had to offer or quit. They all listen to escorts here and on tumblr, who claim to make thousands.

  12. sd with open eyes says:

    Run, don’t walk away from this catastrophe. If you co-sign their lease they will trash the place as stick you with the bill for repairs.

  13. GRINCH says:

    I am trying to find them a $200/month rent in trailer park, so it’s worthwhile, give that they are willing to see me only once a month.

  14. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    Re-post of the comment I originally submitted still in moderation…

    The notification to someone that a SB or SD has visited their profile is creating a problem…now, I cannot (even thought I’ve paid so I can hide my join date, last active date…hell even my profile is hidden from search results) hide my viewing of a profile? Now I get private pic requests from profiles I have no interest in just because I visited their profile and saw something that was a complete turn-off to me…now I am stuck either responding to them with a “thanks for no thanks, privacy, blah, blah, blah” type message (which I’ve done and gotten some pretty nasty replies) or I ignore the request and don’t say/do anything…

    SO much better to keep notifications to just “favorite” and “message”…wish it could go back to that…

    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      Online??? Is that you???

      I’ve never blocked anyone, but you might just have to use the block option for nastybabies. If it pains you not to reply, then try sending a cordial declination, and block the ones who go all batsdroppings on you.

      I can’t speak much to the premium membership option to browse anonymously. Somehow I remember someone making a similar complaint a while back.

      How are things, by the way?

  15. txrednekgirl says:

    I have only been on here a short time. I am a 44 yr old a Tx lady. I guess kind of old to be a sugar baby but figured I would try it out. Recently divorced I do have 2 younger kids but can definitely make time for the right SD. My profile is under txrednekgirl if you want to see my picture. I am not a skinny little girl I am a full figured woman with a heart of gold. I promise I am worth getting to know.

  16. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    How long does it take for a comment to get through moderation?

  17. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    Thought I’d try to connect again on blog…I tried commenting anonymously a couple of times over the last couple of weeks, but they never gave me an error or posted…

    I’m intrigued by the updates to the site. I’m also a bit frustrated by them. Now, if I’m on the app on my phone between meetings and glancing at my search results, I will get private pic requests from a majority of the profiles I viewed. I think that notifications for “favorite” or for messages make sense, but a notification for someone viewing your profile is actually creating a false sense of activity for both SB and SD.

    I’ve paid for the site so I can hide my join date, last visited date…hell, even my profile is hidden from searches…so…the only way I would get publicity to the SB is to send a message or favorite them. Now, I get publicity to the SB for just viewing…not the message I want to send, because now I’m politely sending a paragraph to the SB stating they’re not what I’m looking for…and getting some rude responses back.

    • msrising says:

      exactly why do you need to write a paragraph to say “I am not interested”?

    • Anonymous says:

      Why even bother responding back to them?? It’s your money, your playground, your rules. Ignore the message if the member doesn’t appear to fit your criteria. I’ve about 30 unread messages in my inbox from SBs of different ethnicities, age groups, locations etc. Since they don’t fit my interest, I just leave their messages rot in there.

      • sd with open eyes says:

        I delete messages like that. I scan the “preview” and if it is generic or if the sb is not a fit then straight to the trash it goes.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        @ Anonymous August 23, 2016 at 12:38 pm

        Did you mention in your profile that you weren’t interested in those ethnicities, age groups,etc. Or did you just expect them to be mind readers and know what you’re looking for?

      • Anonymous says:

        @Jaybird: yes for location I’ve it on top in BOLD. Ethnicity preference listed in the description, what else the fuck can I do? Yet I keep getting these fucktard time wasting scumbags attention hoes filling up my inbox. And yes I’ve had it upto here now.

      • Curious says:

        @Anon above

        You are an idiot. Would you rather care for no messages?

      • Anonymous says:

        @Curious: yes for me a no message is much better than a retarded attention hoe sending unsolicited junk. You obviously are the desperate one here who’d die to have even one message showing up in your inbox.

      • Curious says:

        I’m sorry you psychic, I thought this unsolicited junk was actually solicited because of you being on a sugar daddy dating site maybe? I didn’t know we were supposed to message ourselves, instead of other people who could be POTs.

      • Anonymous says:

        @Curious: You’re in fact the epitome of mental retardation and stupidity that’s so readily & overwhelmingly displayed by the SBs on this board. Obviously the part of my earlier comment where I mentioned some qualifiers in my profile, didn’t register in your peanut size brain. When you don’t meet those qualifiers yet send me a message, that’s called an unsolicited message. Must be hard to grasp simple ideas in life, yah? Were you born stupid or something tragic happened later in your lousy life?

      • Anonymous says:

        I think what Curious meant is that would you rather be no messages than any message at all? You don’t have to shoot down SB’s who might contact you from afar just because they actually might be attracted to you, like your profile etc. and decide to write to you, in spite of your ‘qualifications’, unless they haven’t read them, that’s a different thing.
        You should learn more about the female psyche is all I am saying.

      • yougottabekiddingme says:


        Would you rather peanuts for brains or peanuts for poop?

        In the case of the former, bang your head against the wall between each fit of tourettes. In the case of the latter, swallow peanuts whole without chewing.

        You’re welcome.

      • Anonymous says:

        @yougottabekiddingme: you couldn’t better than that? … probably not, must be that your brain stopped developing very early on.

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        yes…swallowed so many peanuts whole that they backed up and clogged my prefrontal cortex.

        whadya suppose i do about that?

  18. Anonymous says:

    @ YGTBKM on August 13th @ 4:11 . Hahaaa.

    Totally priceless. This is what makes you pricess. Worth every opportunity and adventure. Coin at YGTBKM and you will find your goldmine becomes a diamond mine that never exhausts itself.

  19. John says:

    That sounds what I’m looking for. Do you have a profile that I can view?

  20. FisherMan says:

    I think there still gems to be found. But they are harder to find. More work and time has to be invested.

    • GRINCH says:

      Yep, sometimes I ask myself a question – is it worth it?
      A lot depends on where you are, that has been my experience over the past 3 years. I tend to do well while I travel, and I don’t know whether that has to do with other cities, me being a transient who is viewed as someone exciting/discreet or a combo of both.

  21. Seriously says:

    So many entitled women on this site . All they care about in $$& and even state so . How delusional

    • La Bel says:

      maybe many but not all. I got here cos im too busy and hav no time to go out and for relations as well. Want smth light with no strings attached but i dont need any money or shopping and stuff. But thats a problem as well cos men get suspicious and think im fake or smth is wrong here so i dont even get wht i want. Mean smn i would like enough to meet and just hav a crazy sex!!!

    • La Bel says:

      dont know abt many but not all for sure 🙂

    • Anonymous says:

      maybe many but not all. I got here cos im too busy and hav no time to go out and for relations as well. Want smth light with no strings attached but i dont need any money or shopping and stuff. But thats a problem as well cos men get suspicious and think im fake or smth is wrong here so i dont even get wht i want. Mean smn i would like enough to meet and just hav a crazy sex!!!

    • Anonymous says:

      What state do you reside?

    • lelcomao says:

      It’s up to each individual man to avoid being played for a fool.

      Some women on this site expect men to pay for a platonic relationship. Is there a super-abundance of men who are so desperately lonely? maybe lonely to the point of paying for a woman to not think she is superior to him?

  22. Anonymous says:

    And all I remembered was snow in the air and an Amish man at a 4-way intersection.lol.

    Life is not complicated. I don’t ask questions because I do t like being bombarded by them. Sometimes in life,
    It throws you the perfect curveball you need that has always been a staple of the game. You just never noticed how good they were at it until now.

  23. Anonymous says:

    suggestion to the staff of this site: please don’t show “member since” on profiles,it saves time for unnecessary questions how long and why so long..Thanks!

  24. Anonymous says:

    Jersey005 says in her post “No sex”.. She should be thrown off this site for not understanding what this site is about. Plus she includes her monetary demands.

    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      Hi Jersey,

      What exactly is your understanding of what this site about?

    • Curious says:

      This site clearly states no expectations because otherwise it would imply prostitution WHICH is illegal. What did you expect, an escort site?

    • lelcomao says:

      thrown off this site? no.YOu just have to havve the temerity to write to her saying “You’ve got to be kidding”. If she gets enough such messages from others, she’ll get the idea.

      I have said that to a few women on this site who wanted a *platonic* relationship.

  25. London says:

    The only way I sleep with anyone is 20k for two of us for the night other then that the only thing i do is an evening out for 2k or for us both 3k

  26. UNSAFE WEBSITE?!?!?!?! WTF SA? says:

    Has any other SBs received an email supposedly from SA (Let’s Talk Sugar) regarding traveling part-time SDs? I tried to check it out and my computer warned me it was an unsafe website.
    I try to avoid STDs on this site….hope I didn’t get a virus!!!
    Nice :/

  27. FedUpAnon says:

    Potential 1: Pretty good so far! trying to sell some of my pics and vids to help with my uni funds, let me know if youre interested 🙂 xx

    Potential 2

    Ohhh right what about 10 pics now for £60 ?

    Sure, what would you like me to take photos of?
    Potential 2
    No I can send you 10 of my naughty photso for £60, cheeky! X

  28. Anonymous says:

    A lot of the girls are just testing the waters, often in conjunction with their friends. I think many don’t have intention of following through….. unless a young, hot millionaire comes along that wants to give them a bunch of money. A couple have even pretty much said that. They’ll be waiting a looong time……

  29. Julie says:

    Sure hope to find a nice gentleman to go out with to places I’ve never been before! 43yrs swf from TX.

  30. Anonymous says:

    Are there ever any sugar daddy conventions ? Like parties where sugar daddies and sugar babies can meet ?

  31. Fungirl94 says:

    Where do you find the list of fake SD listed by this site? Please advice.

    • Too Easy To Abuse says:

      If SA was smart, they’d discontinue the practice of “outing” supposed fakes altogether. Allowing allegations without any proof, or ramifications to a false accuser, is far too easy to abuse. Would you want someone to be able to accuse you of giving them an STD, being law enforcement, or an escort, out of spite just because you turned them down? On another site, I stopped talking to a SB after her conversations hinted at her not being the most upstanding citizen. Never met her, never gave any false hopes, I just dropped all contact because of the bad vibe I got from talking with her. Months later, I get a text out of the blue, accusing me of harassing her, leaving racist messages on her voicemail, and with a threat to sue me. Replied that she was to never text me again, and that her number was being reported to the authorities for attempted extortion. Never heard from her again after that … but the point is, THOSE are the sort of people who would quickly abuse a “report a fake” function. From a legal standpoint, SA is best off not opening that door for themselves. A defamation of character or slander suit can get ugly real quick, if the person has nothing to lose by pursuing legal action.

  32. sd with open eyes says:

    Some things that will make me not consider a sugar baby:

    * Too far away
    * Dependent children
    * Unappealing pictures
    * Poorly written profile
    * Smokes

    • lelcomao says:

      You are very smart. My notes to prospective SB’s say that I want someone I can be proud to help make something of herself; and smoking is definitely unhealthy.

      As for a poorly-written profile or unappealing pictures, you can tell her that she’s beating around the bush, and you can’t tell what she wants. And her subsequent messages might explain things. And you can tell her that she might be a very beautiful woman but a lousy photographer; it can be difficult to take good selfies.

  33. Anonymous says:

    Btw, the “Login using your SeekingArrangment account” does seem to be working.

  34. Anonymous says:

    I too sympathize with the ladies. Cannot begin to imagine the number of dudes blowing up messaging that just can’t take “no” for an answer.

    • NSA says:

      Then the SD gets angry and point a finger to the SB that she’s the one who turned him down a 1000 times and that’s the reason why he doesn’t want an exclusive arrangement anymore and starts dating and having sex with every date. Poor other SB’s. Lucky me!!!

    • Anonist says:

      Yes so the fucking creeps fuck it up for the rest of us. Just like in bars and any other online site. I think Seeking Arrangement should work like BUMBLE, where a lady chooses to message a man first and a man can start the conversation ONLY after the lady says hello.

      • Dizzy says:

        Why would they do that? ISn’t SA free for the women? Maybe it should be the other way around since we pay the $90. SB’s are way more dependent on the SD than the other way around

  35. looking for my SD says:

    I am looking for a SD i have very expensive taste and like a good lifestyle, everybody on here thinks im joking when i say what im looking for.

  36. yep says:

    anybody happened to fall in love with their SB/SD??? my SD and I both are in love with each other. we developed feelings before we even met up so couldn’t really find a chance to discuss about our arrangement.We both travel (he is the more frequent one) so we just pick a place to meet, he flies me out, nice hotel, nice dates..he just gives me some allowance when I don’t have to ask for it..but I need more and I feel like He is capable of providing me more however, I’m afriad I might lose him If whatever I bring up disappoints him but..! at the same time I believe I deserve more because honestly I’m a perfect woman any guy would ask for. so It’s all mixed feelings…Is it dangerous to be in love when it comes to sugar dating? I need some advice!

  37. FedUpAnon says:

    What I’m Looking for
    I am looking for a young, fun person who likes to have adventures and shop. I’m not looking for anything serious or sexual, just someone who can spend money with me and show me around.

  38. Anonist says:


    how come you can’t meet until October? What is the hold up? was REALLY curious about that. what can we do to get you into a lucrative arrangement? i see you have been burnt, but there is hope :p

    LailaMariee about 6 hours ago
    The hold up is that I’m 8 months pregnant and on bed rest I won’t be
    allowed off of bed rest until the end of October for the safety of me and my child.

  39. RiverofJordan says:

    I have two SD that have asked me to give them my username and password to my bank account to electronically deposit a check into my account, I don’t trust that and wanted to know if this is a way people are trying to get into our account an possible take money.

  40. yougottabekiddingme says:

    @ ” Anonymous says:
August 14, 2016 at 1:16 pm
You get ppl who want to be with a 1000, not with. You can only have one. If something falls thru, you are back to the drawing board. If you pay the average, the person who stays with you wants to stay with you, she can get her average elsewhere otherwise.”

    Ah. Interesting.

    So, do you have more than one at 1/4 so as to have more to enjoy and others to fall back on? Also, might these others also have others (3 others, perhaps) to comprise a preferred whole allowance?

    Am not sure that it can be concluded that the girl receiving 1/4 is not staying for the 1/4. I think that some may prefer quantity no matter how you slice it.

    I think that the fraction versus the whole is, in some cases, much to do with intention, need and practicality. One can both desire to stay for the person and simultaneously have a functional need which might not be fulfilled through the arrangement.

    This isn’t necessarily a mere matter of how one calculates what is a reasonable allowance based on regional medium income, housing costs, and comparable rates in the adult entertainment industry.

    When I set my allowance expectations, I didn’t check bkpage, crgslist, or local escort reviews to see what the going rate is. Didn’t look into the gross median income or my state’s minimum wage to juxtapose the hours Id spend on my feet versus the hours Id spend on my back. Im neither concerned with that a SD can share a smaller allowance with another SB, nor that another SB is getting an allowance larger than what I list and desire. What’s practical, sufficient and generous are subjective from person to person, arrangement to arrangement. The value can not be placed on the allowance alone, and thus can not be deemed good or bad solely based on the allowance in and of itself.

    I think that sugar relationships can fall into a few categories (perhaps more than a few, but I’ve only contemplated a few at this moment…feel free to add on).

    1. Those who wish to get the most bang for buck, or buck for bang.
    2. Those who desire help getting by, and those who are able to and wish to help someone get by.
    3. Those who desire an allowance that will help them get by and also allow them for further their endeavors, and those who are able and wish to provide an allowance that would support this.

    If the intention and desire align in either category, you have yourself a win-win situation. I am placing no value on either of these categories. I do, however, think that the more you wish to get out of an arrangement, the more you will have to invest in yourself, and the more intention you will have to apply if you wish for someone of your preferred caliber to invest in you in a consistent and longterm fashion.

    This, of course, applies to both SBs and SDs.

  41. MarRam97 says:

    just looking for a SD that will spoil me. i want something super casual, no relationship. i am super negotiable.

  42. Anonist says:

    I used to have a SA account before, outside of an occasional meet and greet, nothing came out of it. I am in early 40’s, not bad looking, make decent salary. Re-signed up for another month to give it a shot – messaged like 40+ women, most read and never reply, or reply with short answers, have gotten 2 lousy phone numbers, and convo dies down. I recognize a lot of the sugar babies from 6 months ago still hanging on the site. And I also see the ones who reply once and then stop replying, on the site at like 2 am. I am REALLY curious if anyone is having a similar issue(s) Are most sugar babies scared, not serious? I target 18-28, Caucasian, Asian and Latin. I am starting to feel like I am in the wrong city for this.

    • DoDo says:

      Yah it’s pretty much same everywhere. By now I’ve spent more money on subscriptions than on actual arrangement. Most girls are nothing but time wasting dolts who’ve no idea why they signed up here. Just like you mentioned, my experience has been a mix of girls not willing to exchange ph #s, not able even able to write a half decent message and yet somehow expect things to move forward, in many cases when it comes to texting, they don’t write more than a hi in all day long. Most of these time wasters are in some kind of fantasy world wishing for free money to fall in their lap for nothing.

    • Anonymous says:

      This is pretty much the norm on here. Not many serious ones.

    • Anonymous says:

      Same problem and going downhill. Ghosting, dead air. This generation of women being disrespectful and poor communicators lacking decency and respect.

      • Anonist says:

        No kidding. Granted, I have gotten more responses from Denver as I am traveling there for 2 weeks and did receive a handful of replies agreeing to meet while I am in town – maybe some SB’s are attracted to transients for discretion purposes.

    • Anonymous says:

      Right! Make an effort ladies. My estimate is 50% of women will not bother to courteously reply a no. 40% will message twice and vanish, never to reply or worse, block you. The 10% that will communicate and lead to a date… now the connection kicks in and the chances of a 2nd date from this 10% is half at best. FIVE PERCENT REALIZE A SB RELATIONSHIP. The other 95% are window shoppers and wannabees …. disgusting. Your turn ladies, how bad is it from your side?

      • Anonist says:

        Yep, a very accurate assessment. I am glad I am not the only one. I, however, noticed that women from other cities are replying more frequently when I say I am visiting them. I wonder if the “visitor” strategy would work better. If I listed myself in another city and emailed ladies in my city telling them I am visiting to work on a project. Maybe many are just wanting a lot of discretion …

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        Please write home to mom, and not here, when you end up rinsed and ghosted after starting an arrangement on such pretense.

        You guys spend an infinite amount of time talking about flaky SBs, scammers, gamers etc, yet spend an equal amount of time discussing duplicitous ways to get your slimy d**ks wet.

        How about thinking with your big head, having some standards, and offering a decent allowance instead of perpetuating shade.

    • Anonymous says:

      I don’t feel bad now.

    • Anonymous says:

      Keep scooping. The fish is there. Persistence pays off.

    • Anon16 says:

      Yes that is pretty much the norm these days. When I was looking, I sent a meaningful 3-4 sentence introductory message with access to my picture to about 200 women. Half of the women never read my message or even looked at my profile/picture. Of the women who did read and look, about 70 percent responded. Unfortunately, the response was often messages like — Hi or What’s up… Hru? or some other text speak bs. About 10 of the women provided meaningful responses, which lead to 4 meet and greets. Two of the M&Gs were solid, and I am casually seeing both of them now. It was a ton of work, and not sure it was worth it. A number of SBs demanded money just to continue talking and an even higher percentage wanted anywhere from $200 to $1000 to show up to the M&G. After things fizzle with my current two SBs, I am going to freestyle. that was a lot less painful.

      • Anonymous says:

        So what can a man, woman or SA do about this inconsiderate behavior? One reply said he’s going freelancing, as SA has a low return on time and investment…. too much effort for the result. Men initiate most contacts and women have the OPPORTUNITY to respond yes / interested…. and the POLITE COURTESY to say no.

      • Anonymous says:

        Look at it from a different perspective for a moment. If the SB doesn’t hear from the man and he shows are minimal interest. Just enough to get a “piece”. Should she really care that he is showing he doesn’t care? Turn about is fair play.

        Having a ‘Hay Day’ and ‘Calling me when you want to play’ are 2 worlds far, far, away. Cue Star Wars theme, boys. I digress.

      • Anon from NC - 3 says:

        I think it would be great if SA has a functionality where if a SB received a message, read it and never responded, after every 10 such occurrence, they would get a 1 point down-vote, so SD’s can filter those out. Another useful thing would be to start charging SB’s after a 3 month “lurking” period; that would eliminate the time wasters. Also a functionality where a SB has to initiate a contact, kind of like in the dating app Bumble, before a SD can respond, would “force” women to either, quit or proactively start talking to the SD’s of their choosing.


      • Wertie says:

        What the heck is freestyle?

      • Anonymous says:

        “what the heck is freestyle?”

        Going commando.

      • Anonymous says:

        Freestyling = The old-fashioned way, that is, just approaching women without the help of SA or other dating sites.

    • Anonymous says:

      Yes, absolutely. I have written countless messages, some just saying hi, how are you? Trying to elicit a response before I even invest more time and effort into getting to know the SB, and some more elaborated thoughtful ones. Same minimal to none response. Perhaps many profiles are fake, just to up the numbers? Perhaps many SB are just testing the waters looking for that whale SD? Perhaps they are just having fun with some of the responses, but do not care to reply. It does require a lot of effort, patience, and the results, sometimes are not up to par.

    • Wertie says:

      Where are you, friend? Large cities like New York, Chicago, Washington, LA is where most of the action is

    • A says:

      I have 3 SBs right now and each of them contacted me. The initial conversations were not very intensive until after we met. I’ve found that most young women will meet you almost immediately if you make them feel comfortable during your initial small talk. Try to txt them instead of messaging them on the site. Most of the ladies get so inundated with creeps emailing and many just don’t logon that often. You need to be mildly aggressive but respectful.

  43. SD_980 says:

    What is up with SB asking for 800 pr meet? I understand this is capitalism but I am fairly new here so I was told 300 to 400 a weekly allowance would be able to get me an attractive sugar baby.

    • Anonymous says:

      There is nothing wrong with SB asking for 800. As you said, this is capitalism. It is supply and demand economics. If there are plenty people who can offer 800-1k in your area, that is what she should ask for. If the average in your area 300-400, she will either accept that, cancel her account or just keep checking it, hoping to find an idiot or a newbie who will offer her that.

      • Anonymous says:

        There are a fair amount of women asking high per meet amounts. Some have the all or nothing attitude. They really don’t want be sb’s. They don’t want to sleep with old men. If they’re going to do that then they want to be paid. I can understand the thought process but I stay away from those types.

      • Curious says:

        Why do you think people would want to be SB’s if they had a chance, or if they had something else going on? No, babe, nobody wants to be an SB, at least not for long. This is a simple way to get money, and buy some stuff, or afford a nice education, for a SHORT PERIOD OF TIME in your life, not for your whole lifetime.

    • Anonymous says:

      300-400 allowance per week is plenty of money in most of US outside of expensive metropolitan areas.

    • Anonymous says:

      Some women view it as a pride issue, being able to say she “gets 800 a date”. She could have gotten that same after two dates x400. Logically it does not make that much difference, whether she spends 2-3 or 4-6 hours with you, to get to 800. But women do not think like that.

    • Anonymous says:

      They (SBs) can ask for $800 or more per meet in an area where only $300 per week is the average. The market will either correct them, and they will become more reasonable, or they will simply leave the lifestyle if they cannot or will not accept the $300/wk deal and remain arrangementless. You offer what you can afford that’s it.

      • Gtt_envy says:

        No, 300-400$ is laughable. Why would a 20yr old, pretty girl, hang out with, possibly sleep with, a guy 40-50 or 60 for what is 3 days work at entry level job?

        $500 per meet will get you something if you arent the typical “Comfort Inn tonight I’ll show you how a real man does it!!”

        The biggest issue I found when I would ask about previous experiences SBs had is guys flake.

        “Yeah, Ill give you $3000/mo 4-5 meets and we will do ppm our first time or two cool?”

        Then the guys bail after meet 1-2 and the guys had sex with a hot 20yr old for a few hundred bucks.

      • Anonymous says:

        That is why you always go after a monthly allowance with your guy. It hasn’t been the norm up till now to do pay per meets or P4P or whatever, but lately..I don’t know.

    • yep says:

      uhhhhhh 300~400 weekly allowance but I’m assuming we will at least meet up and fuck once in a week and we are saying you will pay 300-400 for it? gtfo here fuck a pro ? wait it will cost even more to fuck a decent prositute!

      • Anonymous says:

        If the prostitute doesn’t want to fuck the John otherwise. If it’s the prostitute’s boyfriend, the cost is either pizza and beer, or the prostitute paying the boyfriend’s bail. You decide where in that spectrum you want to be.

      • Anonymous says:

        Yep you are so VERY wrong. For 400 in my major metro area I have many options across the age ranges; many undergrad and graduate students happy with 400 per meet or week.

      • A says:

        Haha, I pay much less than that and I get lucky every week from my 3 Sbs. It comes down to whether the SBs likes you. Several of the women I have met didn’t want any allowances they just wanted companionship and a more mature man. BTW – most are considered a 7-10.

    • Anonymous says:

      My city it’s $500/meet and I’ve had three different long term arrangements at that rate. I find I get a lot of $300-350 offers and the SDs get very offended when I say that is too low. They all try to tell me that’s the going rate. I consider myself to be very attractive, I am educated, articulate, well dressed, classy but still sexually adventurous. I’ve been told other SBs I could make a lot more on here. I think people exaggerate on both side because women are trying to increase the market price, and men are trying to lower it. $300-400 will get you a backpages hooker – if you want a better quality woman and/or exclusive SB then I suggest you bump up your allowance. If you can’t, try a lower quality hooker because that’s what you can get for that price. SB deserve more than cheap hookers.

      • Anonymous says:

        If you want to focus on per-meet rate, you are backpage material, regardless how good looking you are. Some hookers are very pretty.

        Try to discuss per-month rate if you want to be an SB, instead of an escort pretending to be an SB

      • lelcomao says:

        Have any of you had a sexual holiday in a 3rd world country? or in Thailand?

  44. Chas54 says:

    2 things from me.
    1. it would be nice if the old message features were restored where you could see deleted messages. I had a long Arrangement and when I looked for a new one the messages for SB’s that I know were not interested were gone. I also don’t like the fact that if you delete one message all prior messages are gone as well.
    2. Adding a “Desired Age Range” would be nice too.

    • sd with open eyes says:

      “2. Adding a “Desired Age Range” would be nice too.”

      You can search by age on the search feature, but I agree that “Desired Age Range” should be part of the profile and searchable.

    • Anonymous says:

      This is a new – inconvenient “site uppdate” by SA. They’re trying to get you to pay a premium membership as a SB to be able to have massages over one week. They are slowly ruining the site. I preferred the days when SB had access to everything for free as long as you had photos. This site is going down hill on the quality and authenticity of SDs and is now charging the SBs. I’m assuming it’s because too many SBs were flakes so they’re trying to allow men to find the premium ones. I am a premium one but no way am I paying for a dating site when I already have a financial need.

  45. Anonymous says:

    SDs, offer monthly allowance, which will be paid at the end of the month and see how quickly SBs counter it with per meeting allowance. 🙂

    • msrising says:

      In this instance then sb’s can just say I’ll show affection at the end of the month when the allowances is due…but we can hang out all month up until then 😉

    • Anonymous says:

      Most women are w***es. Some just fall in love.

      • lelcomao says:

        Some prostitutes do fall in love, once they get a bit older are no longer as beautiful as they once were, and realize that men will no longer make fools of themselves for their attention. Mata Hari, for example.

        In Cosmopolitan Magazine, a well-known women’s magazine here in USA, there were articles saying that almost every woman alive has bartered sex (or maybe a sweet smile) for something — maybe to get out of a delicate situation. I guess this means that women generally are prostitutes, in some wide sense of the word.

  46. John Dough says:

    Here are some updates and enhancements that I would like to see:
    -Ability to filter or block messages and profile views from foreign countries — I get too many of them and they are almost always fake or scams. It isn’t enough to block them after you get them, it would be much better to not get them at all.
    -Remove the ability of someone to “favorite” your profile without actually viewing it.
    -Ability to hide your profile when viewing other profiles, so those who you viewed do not know you visited them.
    -New category for Transgender so those people can be readily distinguished and filtered on searches. It would make it easier for people who are looking for that sort of person to find them, and for those who are not so inclined to avoid them.
    -And speaking of filtering, how about a category or filter for “online only” or “platonic” arrangements? It would be helpful to be able to weed out those profiles from my searches.

    • lelcomao says:

      I noticed the women’s profiles that say they want a platonic relationship. I write to them and say “You’ve got to be kidding.”

  47. Just a comment says:

    Can you bring back the Save functionality for messages where the message was moved out of Inbox and into Save?

    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      I got a notification on the site stating that the “saved” function will soon be listed as “archived”…it said that you’d be able to do something old and something new, but I don’t remember exactly what.

  48. DeadForTaxReasons says:

    While we’re at it, a previous update of the site ditched the functionality that required someone to actually display a profile before they could Favorite-list it. Well over 1/2 of my Favorite-listings come from profiles that do not appear in my Viewed Me list. Since that update, anyone can run a screen and simply click all the Hearts down the right side of results pages. Smells like spam to me and it is an unnecessary nuisance. Unless the site is trying to satisfy the “escort-by-another-name” crowd.

    • .yougottabekiddingme says:

      It was possible to favorite a profile without viewing even before the update.

      No Johns, no escorts, by the way. Chicken or the egg?

      • DeadForTaxReasons says:

        I’m referring to a previous update, maybe a couple years ago now. Before that one, The only place a Favorite button ever appeared was on a profile page. Changes happen for a reason; Brandon seems to think that spam Favoritings are a good feature.

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        I get private photo flashes from guys with empty profiles. Similar bypass. It used to be that you had to have a complete profile before messaging. To me, access to private photos without a message from an empty profile is the same as saying, “Wanna phuck?” To which my answer would be somewhere along the lines of, “No, re-re.”


        It appears that if you aren’t already in an arrangement, you might as well invest all your time, money and effort into a fleet of selfie sticks. There’s simply no hope otherwise. Nope, seemingly none at all.

  49. FedUpAnon says:

    Today’s emails: past arrangements started online getting to know one another, a lot of the time people send me gifts or money in exchange for things and the eventually if we click this leads to actual meeting.
    however in the past people i’ve met have ended up to be nothing like they made out to be so im just looking to meet a nice, more honest guy- who’s also fun ofcourse.

    • FedUpAnon says:

      Another: 200 for the first date to meet up see how we get on and make another arrangements from then x

      That’s platonic

    • Anon from NC says:

      haha, you are hilarious, you want to be the “stereotypical” sugar baby, but nothing physical …

      _SunnyDelight_ 12 minutes ago
      You’re the “stereotypical” lame ass, loser on this website wanting to pay women for sex. I’m not a prostitue. I’m more of a companion or an escort for businessmen who don’t have time to have a real relationship.

      _SunnyDelight_ 4 minutes ago
      Get out of here with that mess, trying to talk down to me when you could’ve just kept searching. I meant strictly nothing physical right off the bat. If it lead into something more after I had gotten to know someone, that would be fine with me. But you definitely blew it. Have fun with that block, sir.

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        Would you care to display your username and the messages you wrote to her?

      • Jaybird923 says:

        @YGTBKM of course not he wouldn’t get to play the victim if he did…

      • yougottabekiddingme says:


        Uh huh

        There used to be men on blog who has positive experiences to share. All I see is whining and complaining these days. Am having a hard time believing that benevolent and regarding men are unable to find even one legitimate woman on this site.

      • Anon from NC says:

        That was the message I wrote her

        “haha, you are hilarious, you want to be the “stereotypical” sugar baby, but nothing physical …”

        and she went ape sh*t.

        I can find SB’s but like to poke fun with the “delusional” ones. I never offend them but I get a kick out of how offended THEY get.

      • Anon from NC - 2 says:

        Yes, the “businessmen” who are mostly married and get no sex from their old wives pay money to take these women to shows and dinners and PAY them for platonic hangouts. How often the fuck that happens, seriously? Unless the dude has problems getting the hard on, I really don’t think there are any SD’s who want to hang out and play bingo!

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        …but I like bingo 🙁

  50. Anonymous says:

    If a woman does not have a full body shot and upon request still does not send you a body shot, just “bits and pieces”, she has a “FULL” BODY.

  51. Anonymous_SSSD says:

    So I’m a mid 40’s SD and just made a fake sb profile to see what the ladies get to deal with and wow! I hadn’t even completed my profile when I had 3 messages already from guys wanting to meet me. In the space of 2 hours, I’ve received 12+ messages. Most were 50-70 years old, fat and hairy with a few 30 year olds mixed in. I declined several saying I wasn’t attracted and a few got nasty at being turned down so I had to block them. Also, a few more got desperate and tried to convince me their winning personality would help me see past their fat hairy face. Most that posted pics, it was pretty obvious that by their home surroundings, that they weren’t the multi millionaires they proclaimed to be. One guy said he was 39 and doctor with a graduate degree but misspelled platonic several times in his profile.

    Not trying to be a kiss ass here as this was just an experiment to view the competition in my area…Ladies, you have my sympathy!

    • NSA says:

      I’m also mid 40’s (in real) and no fake profile. I studied some psychology and the guy I’m describing is really good in avoiding questions, therefore I stayed mailing with him and at the end he made mistakes, he’s also not what he says to be. My membership ends in a couple of days, am I glad. A couple of hours ago he mailed me again privately, again trying to get that date. I just responded three time that I don’t want to receive mails from him, then he started saying you’ve mailed me to, trying to point a vinger to stalking. I said : if you want to , you can make all the mails public, it will only prove what kind of site this really mostly is and what you only want.
      No more mails so far. But I will remove my special mail address that I had made for him. curious if they will do something against him here on the site. I doubt it. The SB’s that believe his story…..he will not leave them alone, that kind of guys is dangerous.

    • kittenl says:

      I created account 3 days ago. Received one one message. Is it because I am 40?

    • Anonymous says:

      Probably so. I think those pigs like two 20-year olds instead of one 40-year old. 🙁

      • NSA says:

        Yes, that’s true. I put a picture with only a part of my body and no face. Reactions: you have beautiful breasts, you have a beautiful body. I’m in the 40 also. No interest in my person, I was a business woman myself in the past, these man are married pigs like you say. I know the business world.

      • kristylinda says:

        I’m new on this page, but I’m not fat and I have 29 year, It can work for you.

    • SD_NC says:

      Yep, I also have a fake SB account, and multiple times have changed profile photos, men message that profile like dogs, without reading what’s written there. It’s like a nice guy walking in a bar full of aggressive d-bags hitting on women, by the time the nice guy gets to the girl, she already has layers and layers of guard up. Yes, 30+ and minorities and single moms are the way to go. Heterosexual males should head over to eastern europe, where money goes looooooong way and where quality and quantity of young fresh women are of no issue.

    • Anonymous says:

      This is so true! I singed up and a day later had 93 messages. The ones I politely declined where so rude! I had to block few. The others all want to know financial expectations upfront. I haven’t met you, how would I know! These ones ALWAYs turn out to be low-ballers 200-300/date. I’m sorry but you want me to show up dressed to the nines, pay gas, parking etc. for $300? and you want sex? Yikes, I can make that bar tending in an hour – no sex required.
      I have a young career, am educated, articulate, classy, well dressed, down to earth, happy person, no crazy issue, sexually adventurous. I understand that women need to be reasonable and realistic on here, but the men need to too! It’s a SB/SD site, not a free/cheap sex site. And women, sex is expected – eventually. Just like dating, no man is going to stick around if they’re not getting any sugar by date 3-4. Men – you need to treat it like dating and offer a fair amount. Women – you need to treat it like dating and expect a fair amount.

      • Anonymous says:

        If you can bar-tend for $300/hr, 4hrs a night ($1200), 5 nights a week ($6000). That’s $300,000 a year. Why are you trying to be an SB?

    • Anonymous says:

      It seems that you can make good money tending bars but you choose to be a sugar baby instead.

      Where can you make $300/hour tending bar(s)? I would be more than happy to make $100/hour tending a bar on a consistent basis.

  52. NSA says:

    I had contact with a man. He directly wanted private mail contact. We had more than 500 mails, I found out that the only thing he wanted was sex during a first meeting. He also admitted that using the excuse that when there was an phychological click , he immediately wanted sex. I said I didn’t want that; I was on the site for a nice date, the man never talked about an arrangement. This evening he wanted to come to my home, not for sex he said first, but just to have a cup of coffee. Off course I refused. A mail later he talks about kissing me and showing me heaven with sex. I also found out that he was always online and he says to be a business man( 5 00 0000 neth worth), income 320 000 , budget high. I asked him why he was still online when he told me he wanted an exclusive dating with me, no arrangement, just have dates. He said he was not mailing with other SB’s. At the end he got angry and said I was the one who rejected him 1000 times. I reported it to the site but doubt if they will do something about it. Do other people have the same experience because Brandon himself says SD/SB is not for sex and when an SD asks that during a first date (here already in mails he doesn’t belong on the site.

    • FedUpAnon says:

      Yeah, guys join Tinder, iCupid, POF and Match not for sex. They join SA for NSA – no sex allowed platonic arrangements, and pay allowances unlike Tinder et al. Don’t forget SA’s marketing that there are 5 million pay pigs on SA too.

      Now back to reality.

      • NSA says:

        That 5 000 000 is not real, please don’t believe that, it’s just what you say “marketing” . We’ve got the most members, we’re the best so join us is the message behind it. But this won’t last forever. They’ve got the most fakers, that’s for sure!!!

  53. sd with open eyes says:

    Another suggestion for this website: get some old school BBS software and start a BBS for SA. Features:

    * You have to be logged in and if you are SD have a premium account to access the BBS. One can create a separate user name but it has to be unique and can only be changed by request to a SA moderator.

    * The BBS would have separate threads for each of the hot topics of the day. Each thread would either be moderated by SA or moderated by the person who suggested the thread (and any sub-moderators the moderator assigns).

    * some thread suggestions:

    ** Sugar Babies are crazy (post sugar baby “about me’s” that you think are humorously bad.

    ** Fix my profile! (Help sugar babies make their profiles better)

    ** Beware of Salt! (Sugar babies outing fake sugar daddies)

    Any ideas?

  54. Anonymous says:

    If a woman does not have a full body shot then she has “full” body. 🙂

  55. The Islander says:

    Caribbean SBs…do any more of us exist? What is your luck on here? I have a Trinidadian accent (often mistaken for British for one reason or another), long well taken cared of locks, hour glass shape, educated – yet I’m not getting as many messages as I used to.

  56. bye_bye_sugar_bowl says:

    I am a SD and have been playing in the sugar bowl for the past 12 months. I have met 24 SBs on this site in person. I ended making arrangements with a total of 6 SBs. None of the arrangements lasted long. 2 months was the longest. One was a scammer and a rinser. One was a land whale. All of the SBs were lousy in bed 🙁

    Total damage in the last 12 months was 14k. I’m not finding what I am looking for. So, I am leaving the sugar bowl for good. I learned a lot from this blog. Thank you to you all and good luck!

    • yougottabekiddingme says:


      Sorry to hear that your experience has been so unpleasant.

      Is there anyone, anywhere who has pleasant experiences to share??

      • Rick says:

        Yeah, I’ve had pleasant experiences. Over a 2 year period, I’ve had a number of successful arrangements. As one guy said, you have to send out a lot of messages, but if you are willing to keep at it, you get some replies, some turn into meetings, and a couple actually turn into arrangements.

        I’ve had one arrangement last a year, one 6 months, and a number that ended sooner for various reasons. Monthly allowance from 1000 to 1200, meeting weekly. Treat the nice, be dependable, polite, let them talk about their life, take them fun places.

        I’ve had a great time.

      • Anonymous says:

        I have had good experience. I pay $100 per meet. If I were willing to pay $200 or occasionally $250-300 then I would have more women than I have time to enjoy them.

        My “problem” is that I have a FWB that costs me next to nothing, and is a great lover. So I am cheap with the extracurricular activities.

      • Anonymous says:

        I just lost an amazing 19 year-old because she wanted 200 and I offered 100. 🙁

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        good for you

    • Anonist says:

      Which state is this in? I am surprised you got 24 meets. I have gotten only 5, got laid 2 times, and one of them gave me and STD. Good times. I should probably leave for good too.

    • lelcomao says:

      Ypu shouldn’t expect a SD/SB relationship to be long-term. As time goes on it will be more and more difficult for the woman to feign the enthusiasm that the man wants. As he senses it and emotionally can’t accept it, things can get ugly. So, SD/SB relationships should be NSA and short-term.There have been a few cases of a woman marrying a man for money and later on saying “If I had it to do over again I’d marry him for love.” But how often does that happen?

  57. Anonymous says:

    If a woman does not have a full body shot and upon request still does not send you a body shot, just “bits and pieces”, she is fat. Unless you like fat women, stay home and do not waste your time.

    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      Not always true. I don’t have a full anything shot. This does, however, mean that some choose to next me. Oh, the hurt!

      • Anonymous says:

        I used to offer $1000 per date. Cuz I can afford it.
        Now I don’t. See…I end up with all kinds of wrong ppl if I do that.
        Now… When I offer 1/4 of that..I get rejected a lot more.
        Oh, the hurt…

      • Anonymous says:

        Hmmm, what “kind of wrong” people were you getting for $1000/date?

      • Anonymous says:

        The ones that were not worth it.

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        What’s been your experience with the people you offer 1/4? What makes them worth it? Also, if you will, what made the people you offered $1000 not worth it, and what would have made them worth it? What kind of experience were and are you seeking?

        A lot of questions…thanks for considering!

      • Anonymous says:

        You get ppl who want to be with a 1000, not with. You can only have one. If something falls thru, you are back to the drawing board. If you pay the average, the person who stays with you wants to stay with you, she can get her average elsewhere otherwise.

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        Ah. Interesting.

        So, do you have more than one at 1/4 so as to have more to enjoy and others to fall back on? Also, might these others also have others (3 others, perhaps) to comprise a preferred whole allowance?

        Am not sure that it can be concluded that the girl receiving 1/4 is not staying for the 1/4. I think that some may prefer quantity no matter how you slice it.

        I think that the fraction versus the whole is, in some cases, much to do with intention, need and practicality. One can both desire to stay for the person and simultaneously have a functional need which might not be fulfilled through the arrangement.

        This isn’t necessarily a mere matter of how one calculates what is a reasonable allowance based on regional medium income, housing costs, and comparable rates in the adult entertainment industry.

        When I set my allowance expectations, I didn’t check bkpage, crgslist, or local escort reviews to see what the going rate is. Didn’t look into the gross median income or my state’s minimum wage to juxtapose the hours Id spend on my feet versus the hours Id spend on my back. Im neither concerned with that a SD can share a smaller allowance with another SB, nor that another SB is getting an allowance larger than what I list and desire. What’s practical, sufficient and generous are subjective from person to person, arrangement to arrangement. The value can not be placed on the allowance alone, and thus can not be deemed good or bad solely based on the allowance in and of itself.

        I think that sugar relationships can fall into a few categories (perhaps more than a few, but I’ve only contemplated a few at this moment…feel free to add on).

        1. Those who wish to get the most bang for buck, or buck for bang.
        2. Those who desire help getting by, and those who are able to and wish to help someone get by.
        3. Those who desire an allowance that will help them get by and also allow them for further their endeavors, and those who are able and wish to provide an allowance that would support this.

        If the intention and desire align in either category, you have yourself a win-win situation. I am placing no value on either of these categories. I do, however, think that the more you wish to get out of an arrangement, the more you will have to invest in yourself, and the more intention you will have to apply if you wish for someone of your preferred caliber to invest in you in a consistent and longterm fashion.

        This, of course, applies to both SBs and SDs.

    • The Islander says:

      Maybe you should facetime them? I have ample pictures on my page, but SDs always ask for more which is annoying. Let’s FT so you can just confirm you’re paying 1k for something you’re actually interested in.

    • Anonymous says:

      You must like fat women. It is a new PC requirement.

  58. FedUpAnon says:

    What I’m Looking for
    Hot, educated, gifts, fun, dinner and someone to touch my fat ass

  59. FedUpAnon says:

    What I’m Looking for
    I’m looking for a one off donation of £2,000 not a lifestyle change. If you want to know more and you think this is something you can potentially give me, send me a message! Let me know what your arrangement would look like and if I want to know more I will reply

  60. Joe says:

    Does anyone ever met up on this website? Is there anyone who just wants a companion; someone who can be real and authentic without the flaky tendencies of others? It would be nice to meet other men for quality friendships and if something develops, then it happens, but there should be no discussion of having sexual encounters.

    • Anonymous says:

      As soon as you do not require money, that should be possible.

    • FedUpAnon says:

      Huh? Sounds a bit gay.

    • FedUpAnon says:

      I don’t usually discuss having sexual encounters with people called John or Joe. Are you gender fluid today?

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        Just because you don’t fancy having sexual encounters with. John or Joe, doesn’t mean that others don’t.

        Besides, you can’t even seem to get a Joanne, Jocelyn, Julie, Jennifer, Jane, Jessica or Jezebel to engage in a sexual encounter.

        Ever consider that you are perhaps an equal opportunity sucketh?

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        Dearest FedUp,

        I, yougottabekiddingme, am an asshole. Had I read a little farther down, I’d have had the full reference to which your post applied.

        My foot is in my mouth. Feel free to replace it with something else should you find me an equal opportunity sucketh.



  61. Derek_58 says:

    Frankly I’m not a huge fan of the changes, but for the most part they’re tolerable. However the one thing that really needs to go away is the incessant SPAM in regards to Diamond memberships. Just STOP already. Having some kind of ad on the SA home page is well enough, but to constantly see that crap pop up in my messages is annoying as hell. At this point even if I believed for a second that a Diamond membership would net me 20X the response, I wouldn’t pay for it just on principle alone. Not to mention that in my experience the best connections made on here have absolutely nothing to do with the size of your wallet or allowance.

  62. Anonymous says:

    In case you ever consider doing an allowance, instead of PPM, don’t. Even the most reliable and seemingly honest SB, once the money is in her hands, can block your number and ghost. She might feel – rightly or wrongly – that she is gonna be dumped the next month anyway and will split. Yes, it may be stupid on her part to do that, but the result is that you are out of a couple thousand bucks. No reason to do this. If or once she insists on the “whole month on the first”, say goodbye and move on.

    • SensualErudite says:

      Just because you have had poor experiences with this format doesn’t mean all are like that. Personally I will NEVER engage in PPM with ANYONE. If I wanted a man to treat me as if I were his on call escort I would quite my career and enter a different “profession” all together. But to each their own. Some times that works best for both parties involved. Personally I have only had long term arrangements that were based on true friendship and chemistry so the gentlemen weren’t neurotic about “ghosting”. If the respect level you have for someone is PPM because you are too worried about here running off with your so called money then just hire an escort.

      • Rick says:

        I’m not a big fan of PPM, but after a couple bad experiences with monthly allowances, I understand PPM much better. I’ll still do a monthly allowance, but the allowance comes at the end of the month. If the arrangement in based ” on true friendship and chemistry” the SB shouldn’t be neurotic about “ghosting”.

        It goes both ways

  63. Eric says:

    What is it with the babes on this site who list their monthly expectations but say they’re not interested in sex. Maybe they should go to eharmony. Everyone knows what this site is about up front.

    • Kitty91 says:

      Because they think these are rich guys desperate to just talk or go out with a beautiful woman and will throw money at them for that “privilege”. They do not understand that not everything you see on tv and read on the internet is real.

      • Gtt_envy says:

        That started become popular last year, but the flipside is the amount of guys offering 1k a month for 2-3 meets and bolting after meet number 1.

        Starts sucking on both sides. If you offer a true $750 a meet you will have no problem…….but moat guys are fakes and think “Holiday Inn and $200? Im hung btw”.

  64. Anonymous says:

    On topic post for once: related to this site update. I think I may have found a bug/exploit. From what I understand, a user blocking you makes it look like the account was deactivated. With this new site feature, I’m able to see some things I don’t normally see – I won’t reveal the details, but I believe I have seen which users actually blocked me instead of deactivating their account. Yes, you can do this if you create a new dummy account, but this lets you do it with your normal account, and in a completely inconspicuous way.

    Before you get angry, it’s nothing nefarious from my side: I merely was able to confirm what I suspected earlier – that a person who I have an arrangement with told me they deactivated their account, but it’s actually still active and seeking.

    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      Oh wow. Thanks for sharing. Sorry to hear that.

      What, if you’re open to sharing, are you going to do with your newfound information? About your seeking SB.

      • Anonymous says:

        Actually I will do nothing. I didn’t ask her to do it, she did it on her own. I think she was just feeling ashamed of me seeing her updated profile (she now looks for older millionnaires as opposed to younger adventurers.) We aren’t exclusive so no harm done.

      • yougottabekiddingme says:


        Am interested to know how you navigated the site to discover this.

        Might you be open to sharing via email?

        I’ll share with you my inside knowledge on how to score a platonic relationship.


    • Whatever SB says:

      Just a heads up when you are blocked it looks like the user does not exist any longer. Remember you can never really delete a profile. You can only deactivate it. Deactivating does just that deactivating.

      • Anonymous says:

        So … in some of my sent email I have a circle with a line that when I click says the user is no longer active. In others, I have a picture that when I click it says the user is no longer active. I presume one of these is a block and the other is where the person shut down their profile. Which is which?

  65. Anonymous says:

    The site being down all the time really, REALLY sucks.

  66. sugar baby monkey says:


  67. Anonymous says:

    I honestly wish they kill that blog. I honestly do.

  68. RR says:

    There are, as usual, quite a few bugs, too. For example. Whenever 1 woman either Views my profile or Favorites me, the Interests tab shows the little red box with a “3” in it. But when I click Interests, there is only 1 incidence and the little red box then re-sets to “1.”

    • Anonymous says:

      I see bugs like that also in the messages tab. The most annoying is the phantom (1) in either the messages tab, or interests tab, which will simply not go away even though you have viewed everything. The phantom unviewed notices usually go away eventually.

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        The number 3 next to the interests tab represent the total of views and favorites.

        Ex: 2 views + 1 fave = 3 interests

        Try clicking on both, and the number should go away. Seems to work that way for me, anyway.

        I find it helpful, actually, as I don’t always think to view favorites. But because people are able to favorite your profile without actually viewing it?, simply looking at profile views doesnt show all potential interest.

        Have found, though, that my profile is sometimes favorited by a person sometimes days or weeks after they initially viewed it. Or after exchanging a few messages.

      • Anonymous says:

        Of course I know that. What I am talking about is a clear bug. I have a (1) which will not go away even though I have read everything. It has occasionally happened in the inbox, (1) unread and when I click on it, it says “no unread”. I also had it in the favorited tab, it kept saying I had 1 unchecked favorited, and even though I scrolled the whole list through it still wouldn’t go away.

        Related to deactivated accounts perhaps?

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        Hmmm…not sure. I’ve not had that particular problem.

      • Derek_58 says:

        I can confirm the same issue of phantom messages and it happens regardless of the browser. A bit annoying, but tolerable. I haven’t figure out exactly what makes it go away, but randomly clicking through stuff eventually seems to work.

    • Kitty91 says:

      I did not notice that issue, but I did have the problem with it showing I had 1 unread message after I’d already opened all the messages. Kind of annoying.

  69. FedUpAnon says:

    What I’m Looking for
    looking to meet someone and make a real connection. due to loads of people out there not being real, will not meet until i see some sort of benefit my way. i can prove its me though.

  70. TMJ says:

    I’ve been lurking on this blog for a couple of weeks and really enjoy a lot of what FedUpAnon posts, so when I saw this, I decided to put it up here:

    “Due to my paranoia, if you meet me in person, it has to be in a public area. Everything private must take place in a hotel room, and I will be escorted there and away by my bodyguard, who will wait in the hotel for me until I’m done. This is not because I am untrustworthy, but because I am terrified of getting abducted and sold on the black market. You would understand if you were an 18 year old white girl.”

    I’m running into some really crazy profiles and will probably post more as time goes on.

    • FedUpAnon says:

      How much is an 18 year old girl on the black market? Knowing my luck I would get Bryan Mills daughter lol

      • John says:

        Why would you be asking how much?
        And who would even think about buying someone off the black market?
        You are clearly a sicko and its men like you that put fear in women and young ladies all around this world.
        This site is here to help people who want a SB/SD and you leaving your ignorant and inapropriate comments is not wanted, putting more fear into women on here
        Good one
        Thanks for ruining it for all the good guys like me on the site, you twisted man

      • Chas54 says:

        Dear John,
        Chill Out.
        Even I can tell it was a joke.

    • FedUpAnon says:

      Does he wait outside the room, in the lobby, can you escape out the back doors or kitchen?

    • Anonymous says:

      How would she summon her bodyguard?

    • Down2Earth90 says:

      This blog is comedy gold!

    • Anonymous says:

      The “bodyguard” is her pimp/handler to handle collection issues, or to help blackmail him if the opportunity presents itself.

      • John says:

        Not really you
        You clearly have no interest in opening your mind to the fact that it is a dangerous thing to go alone to meet men off this site.
        Myself and 3 of my close friends that use this site have had multiple men slip away/RUN AWAY without giving the promised allowance
        So sorry for females feeling safe in the fact that if some dirty man trying to get a free root starts running that they have someone down stairs that isn’t going to let them…..
        People like you make the world not develop …..
        Hope you get scammed like this one day so you understand .

      • FedUpAnon says:

        What men ran away John? Confused.

  71. Anonymous says:

    You know what’s funny? There are like a million female members on the site in NYC alone, but SA puts the same mugs on the home page for days and days on end. One would think that there are only about 20 girls on this site and all 1 million men and banging their way through them.

  72. Sam Sam Z says:

    I am a SB i just want to speak my mind and keep it real.
    Some of you ladies are really fake as hell, most of you are not honest you lie much and allways have unrealistic Fantasise aksing for to much.

    Whats funny to me is that when they aks for a huge amount of money that they did not work for.
    As a SB have you ever thought of (CHANGING THE TABLE???) what about if a SD Dm you and aks you for money just like that what will you think about that SD (hummmm)sure you will be like WTF is (HE CRAZY) thats how they think about all of us. The way some of you sb behave your self to on SA is to bad.

    Dont be Mad at me ladies 🙂 My good friend is a male and he is on SA i aksed him if i can read his massages and he allow me thats how i got to know the way some SB acts.

  73. Sam Sam Z says:

    But i really love the new massage box

  74. Anonomnomnom says:

    so weird the screen cap image is the same profiles I see all the time.

  75. Anonymous says:

    It would be a great feature if there was a feature like in OKC or Match that allows you to hide profiles you aren’t interested in. It makes it much more user friendly.

  76. FedUpAnon says:

    What I’m Looking for
    A sugar daddy with no strings attached, looking for fun and good conversation. Looking for online arrangements, I may ask to meet please do not ask me

    • NC_HUSTLER_2 says:

      From a mother of 1

      About Me
      I am looking for someone to have an awesome time with who will take very good care of me 🙂 I am very high maintenance, I love to shop, I love to eat, I’m in school and a hard working student and time is of the essence! I’m a baggy full of fun! I’m very outgoing and laid back at the Same time. I love traveling and love meeting new people oh and I have a bunch of crazy girl friends who love to party as well

      What I’m Looking for
      I’m looking for someone who will treat me like the princess that I am and show me an amazing time. I’m looking for a typical sugar daddy and sugar baby relationship. I prefer to go to dinner and get to know each other and go from there… Girls just want to have fun and women just want to be paid to have fun 🙂

    • Anon says:

      Would her highness be ok to meet SOMEDAY? Perhaps, at some point, down the road? LOL

    • Anonymous says:

      I bet she has “Being a Princess” for employment in her profile. LOL!

    • Anonymous says:

      The gay side of SA is full of “straight” SB’s who insist that because they are so “straight,” there will be no sex. Keep on keepin’ on, studs, and let us know how many takers you get.

      • Anonymous says:

        I am a straight SD so I have never seen this but it takes the prize if true. The girls just can’t compete with that.

  77. Anonymous says:

    Messages Sent ?? Messages seem to show up in the receivers account 3 ways. ONE– Checkmark and time ago read. TWO– Arrow with time delivered. And THREE- No mark below the message. Is the No Mark below message blocked? What?

  78. Anonymous says:

    +1 on this.

  79. SBAnon says:

    I’m average looking with 2 kids and I’m looking for a SD that looks like George Clooney to magically pick me and spoil me. Preferably a platonic relationship.

  80. sd with open eyes says:

    Does anyone have suggestions on how to make the site better?

    My own suggestion would be some way to make the search function more powerful: add additional fields to people’s profiles and allow searchers to ignore people who have no interest in them. For example: suppose a sugar baby has no interest in someone over the age of 25. If this preference is added to the profile and is searchable then a 26 year old sugar daddy would be able to filter out all profiles would would reject them for their age.

  81. Anonymous says:

    Why don’t you have a platonic relationship with your boyfriend?
    You can cook, clean and pay rent; he can smoke weed, play video games and bring random chicks home?
    Oh…you think it is not fair to you? But taking money for nothing from me, just because I have them is peachy?

    • Anonymous says:

      Good one. LOL!

    • John says:

      Have a cry that a few females ask to be platonic
      Do you ever put yourself in their shoes that what is going on for this young girl for her to be on this site selling herself for money?
      And them girls to me are the saddest because they are that desperate for money but LEGIT DONT WANT TO SLEEP WITH OLD MEN but their family needs them to be making money or you know they can’t pay there one bedroom flat because they were born into a junkie family that they didn’t ask for now they are just trying to make something of themselves but they are scared…….
      LOL I love how in this world we think of all the possibilities before publicly bashing a situation… Real grown men on this site hey ?

      • Chas54 says:

        Why do all of the SB’s who want a platonic relationship show prominent pictures of their breasts?
        I guess that means that they will allow the SD to stare, but not touch….

  82. Anonymous says:

    Please return access to deleted messages. When deleted, member doesn’t know who she/he had previously contacted and/or what was said.

    Please return access to these messages.

  83. Anonymous says:

    No matter how “tactfully” the woman is trying to tell me that she expects to be paid for going to dinner…she will be politely nexted. As she should.
    Similarly, no matter how politely a man is trying to justify a free intimacy, to assure compatibility.
    A man should be a gentleman. Not a fool.

    • Dana22 says:

      Why don’t you just use an escort?

      • FedUpAnon says:

        Escorts have spunk in their hair from their previous clients, usually SB’s do not. End of discussion.

      • Anonymous says:

        Expecting money for a first meet dinner is silly. The idea of the first meet dinner is to figure out trust and compatibility. And, for me, I don’t have any expectations. It’s a time to figure it out.

      • Anonymous says:

        Just guess how long Wal-Mart can stay in business of you give them money for a box of tampons and they keep the money and tell you they want to have a platonic exchange with you. They keep the money and you don’t get your tampons.

      • O says:

        Okay you uneducated fuck….
        If you want someone high class with no spunk in their hair from the man before
        Have you googled the terms?
        Do you even know what you were signing up to be before you singed up?
        Men like you that get on here and expect a LOWSY $500 for a sexual night need to be put in a pig cage and then SHOT.
        Give me your number and come meet with me
        you sound like you want to take advantage of women on this site?
        I am a male user of this site and am legit laughing at the fact of how DIRTY D.I.R.T.Y
        You men are trying to score a cheap clean root….
        All my SBs are gifted upon arrival taken to get their hair done
        weekends away!!
        Why be a man on this site and not do that? Your legit not being a man at all.. To me your being a teenage boy doing the fastest thing to get your end off…. And to me that is the most embarrassing thing of all….. Take my advice little boy go to a brothel… It your style obviously

      • Chas54 says:

        Anyone who pays to meet for a “Chemistry Check” is a fool.
        On the other hand, the stipend (Allowances are for High School kids) should be provided at the beginning of the first “Arrangement” meeting.
        What happens next should be based on any prior agreements from both parties.
        It could just be a dinner date or something more intimate.

    • Dana22 says:

      Surely if you are just looking for ‘intimacy’ (starting to hate that word) then there are websites for that, that are LEGAL in the UK.

      • Anonymous says:

        Surely if you are just looking for “assistance” (starting to hate that word) there websites for this too. Like GoFundMe. Tell your story and sit back, watching your bank account grow. If you confuse SA with GoFundMe, that is your problem. SA is not a charity.

      • Anonymous says:

        Word! 🙂

      • NC_HUSTLER_33.3 says:

        Exactly! Sick of this fantasyland among the wannabe sugar babies!
        “I’ve meet many sweet old men who took care of me and it never got sexual” – really? Please, spare me!

        And then the profile disappears in 48-72 hours.

      • O says:

        Yeah bro its called go to a brothel
        How dumb are you hahahahhahahaha

  84. Mr says:

    So how do y’all guys start off a conversation with the girls?

    • NC_HUSTLER_33.3 says:

      I usually favorite them and if they favorite me back I say hello.
      If your profile is good and not vague, SB’s will contact you, especially if you are okay with having a picture up and being background verified helps too. Also, I rarely contact girls who recently signed up, as they get barraged by emails and are in the state of figuring out WTF is going on. Wait for 2-3 weeks and then you can engage them.

      • sd with open eyes says:

        Unfortunately, a large percentage of sugar babies ghost after three weeks, never to look at their profile again.

      • Anonymous says:

        This is my first time back on the site in over 8 months, and I’m having a difficult time adjusting to the new features and changes. It’s day 5 and my pictures and profile is STILL in the process of being reviewed. Normally it would take 3 days, if that. This is just awful.

      • Down2Earth90 says:

        Hi, just a quick question, I’m new and have read a few comments similar to yours, why is it that newbies are barraged by emails?

  85. Anonymous says:

    I would like a feature that guarantees completely anonymous browsing. I would also like an option to turn off the logos so that I don’t have to contend with people looking over my shoulder.

    • .yougottabekiddingme says:

      You can utilize private browsing from your device. Else, you can delete your browsing history, and hope that there isn’t a “restore deleted history” option 🙂

      Worried about people looking over your shoulders? Wear shoulder pads. Or sit with your back to a corner, or in a box. Or browse this site when you are alone.

  86. Dana22 says:

    IS there anyone on this site that is looking for a Platonic relationship with a Sugarbaby?
    A lot of people say absolutely not, this site is about money for sex, but then I have heard quite a few people say that they have had Platonic arrangements.
    Just curious as this is the best kind of arrangement for me personally.

  87. FedUpAnon says:

    What I’m Looking for
    The man I’m hoping to meet has a laid back attitude but is active and athletic enough to keep up and maybe even give me a run for my money. That kind of balance along with the positive energy that he surrounds himself with will supply us with endless laughs, adventures, and opportunities to broaden our horizons. Our personalities will compliment each other in a way that makes every pothole a little smoother and every black diamond a little sweeter. If this sounds like you, then send me a note. Last one to the bottom of the mountain buys the cocoa!

    • Anonymous says:

      Lmao. Your marketing department rules! How a out we sip coffee while we hang out at the water cooler and I oogle over your big brain? Whatfa ya say?

      Then again, I could just be sipping bitter coffee while I check out your well endowed package.

      Either way, I say it is a “win-win” scenario.

    • Anonymous says:

      Hmmm so SBs are bringing money to the sugar now?

  88. FedUpAnon says:

    I gave a fat ugly girl a chance, and she still wanted platonic lol.
    No, she hadn’t seen my photo lol.

  89. I'm done says:

    How updating real sd’s and Getting rid of salt…

  90. FedUpAnon says:

    What I’m Looking for
    A loose, relaxed, but affectionate and kind arrangement with a sugar daddy who is serious about helping me reach my goals and achieve my dreams. Distance does not matter to me! Like I said, I am very busy. So until I am in a position to travel and make meeting arrangements, I would love to provide sweet and discreet conversation in exchange for some support to help get me to a position where I can make sugaring a more full-time thing for me.

  91. FedUpAnon says:

    What I’m Looking for
    literally just a sugar daddy to spoil me, in return for nothing, safe.

  92. Anomenon says:

    Anyone know what else has changed on the site? I let my membership lapse months ago and made my profile very generic as to not attract attention. In the past 5 days I’ve gotten 10 random emails when I wasn’t getting 1 a week. Is there some incentive that’s getting the girls to contact an innocuous, boring profile?

    • AnotherAnon says:

      Are the girls local? If so, the interest is probably legit. Are you located near a college? I have 3 major universities within 50 miles and have seen an uptick in activity as the next crop of freshmen starts school.

      If you’re getting a lot of attention from girls across the country (or foreigners), it’s SA’s attempt to lure you into paying for a membership again. I let my membership lapse from time to time and it always seems like I get a rush of interest from girls in foreign countries and many who are obvious fakes when I’m not paying. As if a fake profile of some girl in Tibet is what I’ve been looking for and so worth $70 to talk to her.

    • FedUpAnon says:

      AM is alive and well.

  93. paul-f says:

    So when will you fix the messaging input box to remove the “temporary” 1400 character limitation that’s been there for months?

  94. Anonymous says:

    This new “Interests” count shown on the webpage in red.
    It’s a pain in the ass. I don’t want to be told about new random people viewing or favoriting my profile, I have no interest in that.

    Is there any option to switch this off?

  95. Anonymous says:

    Whoever came up with this dumb idea needs to get a nice (ok maybe not that nice) severance package.

  96. Anonymous says:

    This functionality is meaningless…SA needs to bring back the ability to restore deleted messages…if I don’t hear from someone for a week or two I delete the messages to keep my mailbox from filling up…I used to be able to restore old messages if I heard back later—that was removed—it was a very useful feature—now I typically can’t remember what was discussed previously 🙁

    • .yougottabekiddingme says:

      Copy and paste profile and message text into an email draft with the username and given name in the subject line.

  97. Kitty91 says:

    Hey, I’d appreciate if you guys would look at my profile and give me some advice or to let me know if it’s ok. I have not uploaded any private pictures yet, and my profile pic is just a pic I could find of myself and will be changed later when I can take a better photo. Username is Kitty91, location Goshen Indiana. Thanks

  98. Anonymous says:

    Everyone who comes here wants choices with a glossy coated finish. So do I.

    Guess what? They exist. They are here. And everyone has a 99.9 % rate of finding what they are looking for here inside of SA than they are in generic dating Site #bazillion that some Joe Schmo created in his basement.

    This site has the reputation you give it. I have never met a successful entrepreneur that didn’t have to dig a little deeper than the quitters to find a gold mine that others gave up on. If you don’t dress yourself every morning; do you whine that no one is there to do it? Didn’t think so.

    If you want a woman in stilleto’s and thigh highs to lick, caress and moan, breathing heavily on your chest all the while. Then, she continues to position your tie ever so proper, while fastening your cufflinks with ease.

    Please understand, maybe it is a high class girl you are looking for or perhaps it’s the girl litey next door. If you do not exude it, she cannot find you.

  99. Anonymous says:

    “Virgin blog” translates to “I have been playing with my selfie stick far too long!” I owe you @ YGTBKM

    You make this world sweet as candy. The rest on here kinda sound like they miss their golden ticket.

    Sassafrass and class = YGTBKM’s aasssskkkkk (winky wink), and she will tell. Better yet, I think it’s time for show and tell time in class. I’m all in!

  100. FedUpAnon says:

    The functionality isn’t really needed, but whatever.

  101. sd with open eyes says:

    At least it gives us the choice to not get the notifications. There were other changes as well, such as telling you how many new people viewed/fiended/mailed you, so it seems like a reasonable update. :thumbs up:

  102. Kitty91 says:

    So, my profile is pending approval, how long will that take? Although I’m not going to be looking for a SD yet, I want to have my profile ready and get some advice to make sure it’s ok.

    • Tasty Cupcake says:

      When I upgraded to the paid account, took about 24 hours. Not sure if it’s different with a free account.

      • Kitty91 says:

        Probably not. i completed my profile last night and it said it was pending but would be faster if i upgraded my account, which I did not, and now this morning it looks like it’s up already.

  103. Anonymous says:

    Why won’t it let me report a premium member? Money let’s you get away with everything?

  104. NC_HUSTLER says:

    Brook has 186 messages 😉

    • .yougottabekiddingme says:

      Brandon Wade has yet to view my profile. I don’t think he’s ready for this platonic kegelbite.

      [shakes head]

      I’ll give him time. He’ll come around. Or not. Actually, probably not. Mostly not. Ok, just not.

  105. Anonymous says:

    Who in god’s name would want these notifications to pop up.

    • Anonymous says:

      Yeah, really seems counteractive to the discreet nature of the site. I wonder how long it’ll take and how many people will complain before SA realizes this wasn’t a good idea.

      • Anonymous says:

        this update is for the SB, I’m guessing. a little less discreet than the SD side of the site. however, there are probably a few SD who have a computer they can use with confidence from a security standpoint (yeah, right)

        Better update for SD side would be some photo or video verification before the SB profile is live (fine, this would help the SB as well if implemented on the SD side). can’t stand showing up for an initial meeting and seeing the person who ate the profile I was talking to!

    • Tasty Cupcake says:

      Well, when I want my family to know I’m on SA, I use SA’s desktop notifications to inform them…!;)

  106. Anonymous says:

    Virgin blog!

  107. Katrina says:

    Awesome update!