If you’re anything like us, the release of “50 Shades Darker” has pushed your imagination into overdrive. Could anything be better than an attractive, unbelievably wealthy bachelor fulfilling your every wish (both in and out of the bedroom!)?
During the first installment of the “50 Shades” trilogy, you may have noticed some of the similarities between the “50 Shades of Grey” version of the Dom/sub relationship and the traditional Sugar Relationship. When Christian Grey demands that protagonist Anastasia Steele accepts any and all gifts that he chose to lavish upon her or insisted on replacing her old car with an expensive luxury ride, we swooned with envy. Does Christian Grey even realize that with his proclivity for contracts and negotiation he could have easily found a Sugar Baby to happily consent to privacy and contract in exchange for Louboutins and the occasional Maserati? In fact, SeekingArrangement even wrote a blog about the 15 Lessons from 50 Shades for the Sugar Baby Lifestyle.
Sugar Babies are a smart, business savvy breed, way more comfortable than mousy Anastasia in negotiating high-value arrangements with billionaires. But before you dive head first into the deep, dark world of BDSM within the SugarBowl, we at SeekingArrangement.com wanted to put forth a bit of sage advice to make sure you don’t get in over your head.
Does BDSM exist in the Sugar Bowl?
Yes! Kinksters live in the Sugar Bowl too. As a decidedly small niche within the Sugar community, finding the perfect Dom within the bowl will probably take more time than your average sugar search. Instead of tailoring your profile strictly towards this small niche interest, we’d recommend leaving hints in your profile that you’re interested in exploring this type of relationship dynamic. A Sugar baby who “loves catering to the interests of her partners” might be of interest to all types of Sugar Daddy while subtly hinting to Daddies of kink that this might be an interesting relationship to explore.
For more on BDSM in the bowl check out our video discussing Fifty Shades of Grey!
As with all interests, each individual will enjoy different aspects of Dom/sub or BDSM relationships. Many kinksters agree that the relationship portrayed in the “50 Shades” trilogy does not accurately represent the attitudes of many within the BDSM community. Everyone is different – make sure you do your research and learn the terminology! Research can help you to determine the type of relationship you’d like to create and is helpful when negotiating that type of relationship with a partner. As in all relationships, it is paramount to only engage in arrangements where mutual trust exists- especially when exploring new relationship dynamics for the first time!
When discussing power dynamic exchanges within relationships, safety and trust should be emphasized above all else! Sugar baby subs must remember that in all relationship types (vanilla, sugar, or Dom/sub sugar) they have the power to re-negotiate the terms of the relationship at any time or to leave the relationship at any time. This power dynamic is true (or should be true) for all involved members and in all types of relationships, but is especially important to keep in mind when a power exchange is a part of the relationship dynamic.
Would you explore a Dom/sub relationship inside or outside of the Sugar Bowl?