You’ve been messaging back and forth with a potential Sugar Baby or Daddy for a while now, and it seems like this has all the makings of a perfect arrangement. They’ve read all your favorite books, know how to make you laugh, and the conversation flows effortlessly. It’s finally time to set up a Meet and Greet, and you agree to meet at the new Italian restaurant you’ve meant to try. But what happens if you realize things aren’t quite what you expected them to be?
As interested as you may be in them, occasionally sparks just don’t fly. Sometimes the feeling is mutual, while other times you may find yourself searching for clues to what they’re thinking. If you’re not sure the chemistry is there, ask yourself these questions:
Your date should want to talk to you, not to their friends. It’s always rude to spend too much time on your phone during a date, and if they never seem to put their phone away, it may be a sign that the two of you are missing some chemistry.
First-date jitters are normal, and there’s bound to be some small talk as you get to know one another. If the conversation never moves beyond her favorite movie or how much he loved “Infinite Jest,” though, it’s probably time to move on.
Once you get past the small talk (or maybe as soon as it begins), in which direction do they take the conversation? If they spend most of the M&G talking about themselves and rarely think to ask about you, this arrangement may be dead on arrival. The same goes for if they can’t let you get a word out without interrupting or jumping ahead to the point you were about to make.
Sometimes people’s nerves get to them, and they aren’t their best self on an M&G. Trust your instincts if you feel like someone has a heart of gold underneath it all and take the time to get to know them better. If you can just tell that an arrangement wouldn’t be right, though, keep the following in mind:
Ghosting is a reportable offense on SeekingArrangement.com, not to mention being just plain rude. If you realize partway through an M&G that there’s no potential, be friendly and finish the date in style, rather than making up an excuse to use the restroom and disappearing out the back door. Don’t leave them with both the dinner bill and a reason to report you.
We take the safety of our members seriously at SeekingArrangement, and our team works around the clock to make sure Sugaring is a positive experience for everyone involved. In most cases, if an arrangement doesn’t work out, it will simply be because you aren’t compatible with one another. For reportable behavior — which is against our Terms of Service or doesn’t fit with the mission of the site — check out The SeekingArrangement Guide to Reportable Salt.
Don’t feel down if you’re just not hitting it off with a potential arrangement. Not every M&G is going to lead to the perfect arrangement, but there’s plenty of potential on SeekingArrangement.com. Start a conversation with someone new, and you’ll be well on your way to finding your perfect arrangement.
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