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SeekingArrangement Etiquette Agreement: What You Need To Know


Treat others how you want to be treated… remember that saying? This is the premise of our new SeekingArrangement Etiquette Agreement. In order to start messaging, you first need to agree to follow our Etiquette Agreement. We know many of you were asking about it, so we’re going to explain. You should have been prompted with one of the two following messages.

Sugar Babies

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Getting started in the Sugar World is a fun and exciting journey. However, you need to know how to keep yourself safe. All Sugar Babies are advised to thoroughly understand and agree to our following guidelines.

Sugar Daddies

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Finding the right Arrangement should be exciting, not stressful! Keep in mind, there are always right and wrong ways to approach it. That’s why all Sugar Daddies receive the same pop-up message to inform them how to maintain good standing in the community while searching for their perfect Sugar Baby.

All consenting members are expected to approach each other in a respectable and mature fashion. The agreements are meant to clarify communication and expectations. So, take these guidelines seriously and remember the following…


Be Respectful

This is something we all learn in school, and something we all need to remember. Follow the golden rule: treat others how you want to be treated. This goes for Sugar Babies, Sugar Daddies, and individuals in general.


No Pay-Per-Meet (PPM)

“Pay-Per-Meet” is considered escort terminology and will result in the suspension of your account if you are found using this terminology with other members. It’s important to establish a connection with a potential Sugar Baby or Sugar Daddy in person before discussing financial terms of an Arrangement.


No Online Only

“Online-Only” arrangements are against the spirit of our website where most members are looking to meet in person. Carrying out an online only Arrangement is against our terms of use and should you come across some requesting online only, make sure to report them to our support team.


Don’t Share Your Bank Information

This goes both ways. Be smart and never give out any of your personal banking information to anyone over the internet. Only send or receive money from people that you know and trust. We want everyone to stay safe.


Finally, stay safe and be nice! Our goal is for everyone to succeed in finding their best Arrangement. For more information on our Etiquette Agreement, visit our social channels below:

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126 Responses to “SeekingArrangement Etiquette Agreement: What You Need To Know”

  1. Anonymous says:

    Why is it that every man who contacts me want to know if I have a bank account or a credit card. That’s so wrong. After I’ve showed them this blog from 2/26/18 they all disappeared. They don’t read rules of SA site

  2. Chas says:

    If all you are trying to do is saying no PPM to prevent LEO from targeting you, fine. Otherwise the entire ban on PPM is harmful to the entire experience.
    I have been burned so many times by paying a monthly “Allowance” and only seeing the SB once.
    On the other hand, I have no issue to switching to Monthly once trust has been established.
    There is nothing illegal about paying per meeting UNLESS you are explicitly paying for sex during that meeting. I never expect or require intimacy during the first meeting and the fact that you are paying a monthly allowance does not change what happens behind closed doors.
    If you are paying Monthly for sex, it is still illegal.

  3. Anonymous says:

    Just had a man wanting an online arrangement. Asking me to write our my bills. Probably would’ve ask me for bank and credit card soon enough.

    • SA_Admin says:

      Thank you for letting us know, please make sure to report any members who ask for your personal financial information such as bank account and credit card details.

  4. Lacey says:

    I’ve been on this site for a few months now and I just can’t wrap my head around the logic of the people on here. How come it’s a huge deal when a woman is “transactional” when the entire goal of YOU as a man is to get in my pants, and then do so with the next woman and so on. So shall we accuse you men of being “too sexual?” Isn’t this supposed to be mutually beneficial? So you can get everything you want from me, but when I tell you what would make me happy, it’s a big deal or I’m rejected, and then you just message another girl and pick the cheaper one. It’s all just a bunch of low class, sorry BS on this site. You men have got to do better.

    • Lana says:

      Agreed, low class in my opinion and a darn shame. They should not be on the site if that’s all they’re seeking and not putting the effort etc. It’s a disgrace.

    • Chas says:

      Interesting female perspective.
      Lets review the accuracy first.
      I am a guy. I obviously enjoy Physical Affection and Intimacy, but that is NOT why I am on SA. There are many Escort sites that satisfy this need. In fact I just saw that a formerly popular escort rating site is back online in the US so guys can know exactly what to expect.
      Now lets talk the reverse.
      Why do so many women think they are so special that we will pay a hefty sum just to communicate online or for the privilege of buying them dinner?
      It’s an “Arrangement” because both parties should get what they need/desire out of it. That may or may not involve access to your pants.

  5. Simon Jester SD says:

    Why can’t I post

  6. Letricia says:

    So annoyed with the men keep asking for my banking info…I just want to get to know someone first, why is it so hard.

  7. Raleigh says:

    Don’t give up just yet , not all of us are bad 😀

  8. Annonymos says:

    I’m sorry to say, but the men complaining woman are asking for ppm, is because we are now conditioned to ask for ppm. Since no man I ever met up with was ok with a monthly allowance. The ppm they suggest are less then one would gamble away or throw away in bottle service. So many cheap men who don’t want to spend time doing anything fun unless it in the bed and all for a low ppm.

    I might as well vanilla date at this point.

    When a man negotiates a price that’s a low ppm run for the hills. They never come through and help with shopping or things you need for school.

    My advice to the men:
    Stop only offering ppm and woman will know to ask for an allowance.

    • Maineman says:

      Agreed, however the vast majority of women always want some type of meet and greet fee.

      I’ll gladly cover expenses, and offer some type of gift upon meeting, I have found that most want the allowance up front, and then vanish after the date!

      Total lack of honesty.

      • Chas says:

        And how are you supposed to “prove” to SA that you have been ripped off!
        I’ve even had women ask for the money up front and then find a way to vanish during the date!

      • Sparty says:

        This is why I refuse to offer or agree to anything prior to meeting. If she’s not willing to meet in advance of an agreement, she’s not worth my time. On the other side, she’s probably thinking the same thing about me – which is fine. We want different things: me, a connection, her, money.

    • Simon Jester SD says:

      It is because there are too many cons on the site now who have no intention of getting into a relationship/arrangement. In most areas that I’ve seen, the going monthly allowance is more than the post tax income from an average job. The average job in the US only pays 29k a year and that’s before taxes. If the work an average job they will more than double their incom. Just rip off 12 suckers a year, without doing any real work, and they live better than all their friends working a real job.

      • Simon Jester SD says:

        Sorry about the spelling errors but I couldn’t get my phone to scroll up the text to allow me to proofread:)

    • Simon Jester SD says:

      But yes. There are so many insincere people on both “sides” of this community that we are all becoming jaded and are completely distrusting of each other. Now finding anyone genuinely interested in the sugar lifestyle is like finding a needle in a haystack.

  9. david says:

    I can no longer see the $ ranges for the lifestyle categories. Can you instruct me where to find it?

  10. Lynn says:

    I’ve been a legitimate SB for over six years. In the last seven years I’ve had two successful long-term relationships. This site was always my go to for finding legitimate SD’s But Brandon Wade was right. We have been flooded by the crowd that once used the Craig’s List section that was shut down.
    You have to be careful because men get frustrated when they can not subdue you into their PPM’s. They will report you as if you have. My advice is to report and block right away before they report you out of upset. Im learning how to handle this new crowd and what to look for. Unfortunately I have become very leery of the newer profiles and take extreme precautions. Make sure everything matches up. Example: If the photo is an older white gentleman and the profile says he is Latin-Hispanic there’s your clue!! If they instantly want to go to email or text in the first message and it’s a new profile, be careful.

    I’ve been heading out old school style searching. Museums, Car shows and other events. It won’t be long before the feds come after us on this site as well. All because of a bunch who choose the old hobby from the 1800’s I have been reading up on it and it seems all the sites they would have used in the past are either shut down or being run by the feds.
    I haven’t given up on the web completely but if this site goes down I’m done with online searching. All the other sites are not worth anyone’s time I tried them.

    • G says:

      Look, nobody should tell you who to go to bed with, but Hispanic is an ethnicity, not a race. So some people (google search Argentina Polo player) are light skinned and Hispanic. Most people have Native American blood and it shows. Some people are Hispanic of African decent (common in Belize, Cuba, DR)

      Here are some clues without racial profiling. Just rules of thumb: their are exceptions:
      Clue #1: says he is CEO of a big company, local politician, big-wig and shows his face (or worse, sexy pose) on the dating site in the current political climate. So it can be posted on CNN? The local news even? Probably a liar.
      Another clue: insists on meeting at Starbucks dutch. (Although some sugarbabies suggest this for some reason.) He should be able to afford a waiter.
      Good signs: Wants to ask you about yourself before meeting (even if it is just things like how often can you meet and are you free on Wednesdays), the waiter knows him (and likes him. Is he a good tipper?), brings a present. This is a great way for a guy to show he is willing to spend without the awkward and potentially illegal exchange of cash.

      My bad signs for babies:
      -any mention of “the rent” (she’ll sleep with you but where did you leave your wallet?),
      -Any mention of money before meeting (if they are looking for someone they even kinda like, why bother with the uncomfortable negotiation if you don’t want to see him again anyway?,
      -Again, pictures posted that you would not want shown to an employer. Unless you want to support someone with no day job, no prospects. Their employer might be a modeling company to so class is more important than skin.

      If this sounds too slow, you are in this for the wrong reasons. Monthly allowance assumes the relationship will last for months.

    • Maineman says:

      Here here, well said, thank you.

    • Anon_SD says:

      Maybe you should be out searching for a real job instead.

  11. SDscammers says:

    No gifts, no intimacy. Why is it okay for a SD to request sex and forget the mutual part? If men get what they want shouldn’t the sugarbaby get what she wants? Mutual…

  12. Katherine says:

    Ive only been on the site for 4days. And its not just the woman the scam on there. Ive had every other man hit me with the PPM crap. Ive been a SB for 10yrs. and have had 3 sd sb arrangements all long term. It amazes me how low some folks have stupped to change the best lifestyle there is.. Simply Amazing!

    • Anon_SD says:

      3 arrangements, congratulations! Sounds like you have had adequate training to join the world’s oldest profession.

  13. jon says:

    I feel like SA is not explaining the rules to these girls good enough when they sign up. All the girls asking for money upfront and “online arrangements”. It’s as if they have no idea it’s against the rules. Or they just don’t care.

  14. jon says:

    hey where is my post

  15. jon says:

    I’ve been on this site for a while now and have met some great girls. But an incredible amount of girls on here tell me they don’t meet in person, they just want to send pics or text, sell pics, have an “online arrangement”. They even have this written in their profiles. I am assuming there must be tons of guys that want these online arrangements for all these girls to be on here saying that is all they do. I just ignore and report the girls that ask. But it’s as if they have no idea they are breaking any type of terms of service – at all. I feel like SA is not making it very clear to them when they sign up its against the rules.

  16. No ideas says:

    Scammers never have their profile removed all guys can do is boycott SA don’t pay no fees hit SA were it hurts

  17. Anonymous says:

    Girls are still asking for pay per meet in LA.

    • Anonymous says:

      women asking for PPM is the norm i guess only SD are not allowed to ask for PPM

      • Anon_SD says:

        Sugar should only be discussed at the m&g, off this site. Like with any GF, it is then a private relationship.

    • David says:

      Katanna, your use of the word “our” before “Terms of Use” suggests that you are SA staff. Perhaps you can do something about the following, or talk to someone else who can…

      I’ve tried reporting quite a few profiles for seeking ppm or saying things like “don’t expect to even meet me without a ‘gift’ of at least $X” (where X is anywhere from 200 to 500 usually). But it makes no difference. The profiles are still there some time later. So something is wrong with the reporting process, but the problem goes deeper than that.

      As others are noting here (eg. see jon’s post above), those two popups are not doing the job.

      I’ve been on and off this site since 2006 (previous profile 2006-2011, current profile 2011 to now). The first few years it really was like those notices described: real in-person relationships, none of this PPM or online only stuff. But the last few years the quality of the membership has taken a huge nosedive. I don’t have much trouble with girls on here seeking the online only thing, but almost EVERY girl I talk to here expects to be “paid” for their “time” (per meet). When I tell them that’s not what the site is for, they belittle me for wanting a “relationship” and that I should go to a normal dating site. No I don’t want a “normal” relationship, I want a sugar relationship, but paying someone on an ongoing basis for each booty call is not a relationship.

      It’s not just a problem with the girls. It’s the guys too. From the occasional girl I meet that isn’t pushing ppm, they tell me I’m a welcome relief as most of the guys have been pushing to pay them for hookups, etc. Like others are saying here, people here on both sides just don’t seem to know the rules.

      Two problems I think:

      1. Most of the girls I’ve talked to claim they have never seen the Etiquette Agreement, so either they’re all lying through their teeth, or they’re telling the truth and something’s not working in the system. But also…

      2. It’s too easy to just toggle those switches and move on and forget about it.

      I suggest those Etiquette Agreements pop up at least once a month and require every member to agree to it again every month in order to continue on the site.

      I realize these agreements can’t be enforced (other than by reporting and removing as we find the breachers), but if you were to do the above, then at least when I tell someone that what they’re after isn’t what the site is for, then at least I can remind them of the agreement they must have agreed to sometime in the preceding month in order for them to be there talking to me in the first place…. before I report them.

      I have to wonder if you and the customer support people are just a marketing gimmick but you’re not actually doing anything. As I said the quality of this site has plummeted in the last few years, and so has the quality of the customer service. All I ever get when I talk to customer service now is a standard “Thanks for your suggestions/bug report/whatever. I’ve passed that on to the appropriate team.” And never hear from them again, and nothing would change. That’s not how it used to be. What the hell happened?

    • Maineman says:

      I agree with many of the comments here, I am also a long-term member, I think you should take it a step further, more than once a month, perhaps W
      Weekly, pertaining to the user agreement acknowledgement. Additionally, long-term members have a great amount of insight and experience on this site and certainly would be a value to the staff and administration of this site, I’m certain many members, myself inckuded, would be more than willing to share their experiences, insight and thoughts on improvements to this site.

  18. Bailey says:

    Men should not be sending money unless its with an SB that they have known for a good period of time, I’d say two months minimum.
    You should be giving your SB gifts in person for the most part.

    Men should understand that if you only talk about the sexual aspect of an SD/SB relationship, that the women will only care about the financial aspect.
    ^This goes vice versa, Women can’t solely talk about the financial aspect of the SD/SB relationship, and then get mad when the men only care about the sexual aspect.

    I have been a SB on and off for 6 years now. I know the deal, and the most important things about these relationships are having respect for one another, being open and honest, and being courteous.

    Both the majority of new men and women on this site have a problem with that, and it is why they don’t succeed.

    If you’re reading this, as an SD or SB please have respect for one another. Don’t come on this site looking for an SD/SB relationship if you’re only considering your own needs, because that is NOT what this site is about.

    If you are a true SD/SB you will be on here looking for someone that you genuinely want to care for/ help. This site is not to meet with people to get your kicks out or use people. And true SD’s and SB’s like myself can smell that from miles away, as we watch your behavior and listen/read your vernacular.

    As the world of SB/SD relationships become more mainstream, it makes it harder for serious and genuine people to find one another, because of all these newcomers that don’t understand what this is actually about. It’s very frustrating for me to watch.

  19. FIREFIRE says:


  20. Anonymous says:

    if you want free sex there is tinder lol

  21. Anonymous says:

    woman are on this site for your money men are on this site for vagina. money for sex. stop complicating it lol

  22. Anonymous says:

    omg these comments are so pathetic its hilarious

  23. Anonymous says:

    Ive found that if either side doesn’t want to move forward in 2-3 msg then it’s a waste of time. Either they’re fake or not real.

  24. Anon_SD says:

    Or a goddess!!! so many of those on this site. Best to ignore.

  25. Anonymous says:

    What happened to your treasure chest if you’re a princess or a queen?

  26. Anonymous says:

    Shittons of money is a great magnet to attract shittons of *****.

    You can spend shittons of money and you will get all the ***** you want. You don’t need to be on this site then.

    They key is to not spend shittons of money but still get shittons of *****.

  27. derek says:

    are there any seeking arrangement forums ?

  28. Anonymous says:

    First things first…there are only a limited number of young women in your geographical area.

    The Diamond Membership merely ensures that the gold diggers will approach you and their expectations from you would be much higher than the regular sugar daddy membership.

  29. Anonymous says:

    Men, stop whining. This site works great. Keep in mind you’re dealing with women. Women behave perfectly fine with other men and women until it comes to even remotely romantic interactions with men. That’s when women act utterly crazy. It is what it is. Learn to deal with it and you will be swimming in *****.

    • Anonymous says:

      I am swimming in ***** and I don’t spend a whole lot. I have my process which I have developed over the past 5 years of sugar dating through SA.

      • Andy says:

        New to this!, can you please share your method so that others can benefit.

      • Anonymous says:

        can you share your process? or any tips for new SDs would be appreciated.

      • Anonymous says:

        Well, any valuable knowledge that can save you tens of thousands of dollars, precious time and most importantly frustration is going to cost you. Are you willing to spend some coins or was just looking for the free info?

      • Anonymous says:

        yes of course. I will pay whatever it takes so I can be swimming in **** just like you.

      • Anonymous says:

        josh12390 at outlook dot com

        I will only entertain serious men.

        I can also help women but they don’t have money to spend.

      • Anonymous says:

        can you just give me your phone # so we can meet in person. I’m excited to meet you so you can teach me everything you know about women. I will pay you anything you want.

      • Anonymous says:

        Not yet bro. At this time stick to the email. 😉

    • Anonymous says:

      First things first…there are only a limited number of young women in your geographical area.

      The Diamond Membership merely ensures that the gold diggers will approach you and their expectations from you would be much higher than the regular sugar daddy membership. So save yourself at least $110 per month and get to work UNLESS you want the god diggers to contact you and you can afford their expected allowances.

  30. Feddy Uppy says:

    I report online only and fake photo’s, but nothing happens.

    • Anonymous says:

      I have reported hundreds of scammers, and escorts and most of them get removed. You need to provide proper supporting evidence.

    • Anonymous says:

      I report all the times, and they are eventually banned. You just need to provide some proof of what happened. SA is not going to randomly banned women because women attract men and hence their membership fees.

  31. christina says:

    I enjoy the outdoors. Travel is what I enjoy most. I am outgoing

  32. Anonymous says:

    If Online Only is not allowed then it should not be one of the options in the tags section.

    Also, the Platonic option should be removed. Unless a woman is celibate, platonic means that she does not accept the man fully.

  33. Vishnu vishwakarma says:

    Hi i like garl

  34. No ideas says:

    They say no online yet one off the options is online only…in the what are you looking for

  35. Steve says:

    IMHO PPM is a perfectly legitimate compensation model. Only a fool hands over a stack of money to someone you barely know, and that takes more than just a handful of dates. Trust and dependability have to be established. Hand over a month’s worth of money and you remove all incentive to show up. Never mind PPM offers flexibility both parties benefit from.

    • Anon_SD says:


    • jack handy says:

      let’s be honest…..ppm is the only smart thing to do until an arrangement is solid. we all know it. but we also know sa has to say it’s against the rules so they stay on the right side of the law. plausible deniability and all that.

      • Anomym says:

        I agree with you. But SA must be aware, the law is different in different countries.
        it is a little bit paranoid by SA to “forbid” it. In the end the terms will be agreed between SD & SB.
        Additionally SA could be hold responsible in some countries, if the SD pays and the SB does not show up again because SA is seen as a portal like Ebay in this cases.

        Well and in some countries this agreements including Sex are absolutely lawfully, e.g. Germany and Switzerland.
        In others the agreements will be lawfully except for SA like in the UK, if it is only about SEX.

    • Anonymous says:

      Forget monthly. If you agreed on a pm and gave most of these women the allowance for two meeting they will not show up for the next meeting. Maybe 5% will honor their end of the bargain.

      Expecting otherwise is unnatural. Women believe that they deserve free money from men.

    • Anonymous says:

      only spend money you can afford to lose women are undependable on this site PPM is illegal now so you need to rethink about how to get a sugar baby and if it’s worth getting one

    • Feddy Uppy says:

      She should get in her rear or arrear…

  36. Ravi says:


    Verified Buyer

    I am pleased with the success in finding relationships from the site.

    I have had several great experiences thus far. The selection of people to socialize with is greater than any other in the industry. I appreciate the attention to detail and ease of use and looks of the site and the app.


  37. Anonymous says:

    How do I go about providing my services to men, if I have a legit service for men to get the best out of this site?

    • ThisIsNotGoFundMe says:

      This is not website for businesses to sell services. In fact that is clearly against the rules. Someone that refers to what they do as services, is clearly only here for the money, and not for a mutually beneficial relationship.

      Being a Sugar Baby is not a job, there are no services, and you do not get paid. Selling services almost sounds like your using escort terminology, and clearly here only to use men as an ATM.

      Being a Sugar Baby is about a mutually beneficial friendship, where the two people have an arrangement. In regards to any money or gifts your SD gives you, it is not payment for anything you do, it is an allowance, no different then a Husband might give his wife or GF, and neither one of them is getting paid. He just gives her what he can afford, so she can take care of the things she needs to spend money on, and doesn’t haven’t ask him to buy for her. It is done purely because he wants to spoil her, for what she brings to his life.

      Sugar Babies are more like part time GF’s, mistresses, or Friends w/ benefits. If your not here to actually date an older wealthy man, for more then his $$, then you don’t belong in the Sugar Bowl.

      You have to find someone you are connected with, and have chemistry, so that both sides get the benefit from the relationship. And even though most are NSA, it is still a relationship of sorts. And if your not looking at it like that, then you’re clearly here for the wrong reasons, and most SD’s will figure that out pretty quickly.

      • Anon says:

        It sounded like she was talking giving the men advice on how to find the best match and get the most out of a sb/sd mutually beneficial arrangement.

      • Maineman says:

        I agree with much of what you said, thank you.

    • Anonymous says:

      what do you mean by ‘legit service’? Seeking Arrangement is about creating normal adult relationships, within certain limits and boundaries. When you’re together, you’re together. When apart, not so much. Something mutually beneficial for both sides. It’s not about women providing services for men.

    • Klaton says:

      When you say a legit service to help men get the most out of this site, it sounds like you are thinking of some form of consulting.
      I have thought about this and see the effort that SA has put into advice for SB’s, profile writing to picture advice the forum is full of articles, I am surprised there is not a Positive Sugar Magazine.(–SA don’t steal that idea without consulting me)
      For the Daddies there are some reddits and a couple men’s sites, and one really good book I have found so far. I do see an opportunity, and a market.
      My advice would be to work on getting your idea/service into a marketable form and ask on reddit for the places the guys are going for advice, then look there for partnership opportunities.
      Contact SA and ask if they would be interested.

      • Anonymous says:

        Good suggestions. Thanks. I have done great at this site without spending too much money. I can help others…of course for a some consulting fee. 😉

  38. Anonymous says:

    I asked because way too many women are promoting the “arm candy” thing on the site.

  39. Anonymous says:

    In the age of #MeToo, are men still doing the “arm candy” thing?

    • Anonymous says:

      Very, very few men are looking for the “arm candy” thing. Most are looking for a normal adult relationship, and all that entails, during the hours that you’re together.

      • Anon says:

        This isn’t true. Arm candy is what majority of older men are looking for. I have the inbox and experiences to prove it.

  40. Anonymous says:

    The “no online

  41. ThisIsNotGoFundMe says:

    I for the life of me, cannot understand why SA doesn’t make new SugarBabies read a terms and conditions page, and some sort of guideline on what it means to be a Sugar Baby.

    Too many new girls signing up requesting Substantial and High Allowances and only want platonic or phone / text relationships. They should really school them that this is not what it means to be a Sugar Baby.

    Also, should be telling them that this is not a job, they are not getting paid for their time, they are not escorts. Seems a good majority of them, believe thats how it works. And don’t understand that whatever gifts or monetary donations an SD gives them, it is not payment, it is a gift, because we appreciate them, and like to spoil them.

    I’ve read plenty of blogs and heard podcasts where SA explains all of this to POT Sugar Babies, but 99% don’t even know about these blogs or podcasts because they only use the SA App, and have no access to them at all. SA should basically come up with something they have to read during the sign up process explaining what it means to be a Sugar Baby, and what it doesn’t mean to be one.

    • Anonymous says:

      Western women act like grown up kids. Why else would there be so many super-broke “princesses” and “queens” on the site.

      SA basically lets these women believe in various fantasies to bring them here.

    • David says:

      @ThisIsNotGoFundMe: You are spot on.

      I have been advocating for this site to make all members re-agree to the Etiquette Agreements (which is what this blog post is about) at least once per month. And the agreements need to be elaborated on.

      Perhaps we could start a movement for continuing to advocate that to the decision makers behind SA… 😉

  42. What ever others,i love this site and i need to join your team

  43. It’s about time that something gets done about these issues on this site! The quality of men sure has gone down since I originally got on with my first profile in 2015. It’s a shame, and I hope these guidelines help. But not soon enough for me.. I’m tired of the flakiness of many of the guys on this site. If you can’t keep a date, then don’t make one.. of course, it’s absolutely a two way street. Smh, people don’t seem to care about others time anymore, and that’s truly a shame.

    • Just Me says:

      Quality of women has all dropped right off. Most are just escorts now one way or another. Or the ones who expect to be paid just to meet or only offer platonic.

    • No ideas says:

      The quality off girls has dropped 10 fold too many asking for $ before meeting.

      • Ya, unfortunately it seems there are issues on both sides. Women shouldn’t be asking for money before meeting. Either they are scammers, or they have no idea what being a sugar baby truly means.

      • Allen says:

        Don’t ever give money before meeting. Never. If she presses you just have to decline and move on. She’s 99% chance a scammer.

        If any hint is given that money is needed before m meeting, just block.

    • Anonymous says:

      EVERY girl is flaky here.

    • David says:

      @Classy NYCGal…

      Your comment is spot on. Yes. It’s a two way street. I’ve heard from the girls that the quality of men has dropped dramatically, and I can certainly say my own experience with the girls has done the same.

      Most of the time the girls don’t even know what the site is for. They join because they think it’s easy money.

      Supposedly this site has a 7 to 1 ratio or something of women to men. That’s very enticing for us men, but when 6.5 or more of those 7 “have no idea what being a sugar baby truly means” as you say and come on here expecting to get $5K per month to see them twice a month or idiotic expectations like that…

      I’d rather the site take action to scare those members away, or at the very least much more proactively educate them to have more realistic expectations, so the site can have quality instead of quantity.

      I’m close to canceling my membership unless things improve.

      • Raleigh says:

        @David don’t give up just yet . There’s still some of us good ones left , just a matter of finding . Like a diamond in the rough😀