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“Pretty Woman” The Musical: A Lesson for Sugar Babies

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I watched the movie “Pretty Woman” back when I was a Sophomore at MIT. I had forgotten about it and its relevance to the Sugar community until this past weekend when I went to Manhattan with my girlfriend, Zoe.  As usual, every time I have a chance to be in the Big Apple, I ask Zoe which Broadway show she wants to watch. We had seen ‘Hamilton’ the last time we were in the city, so naturally we felt like seeing something a little less serious. So when Zoe suggested “Pretty Woman,” I was all game.

While the New York Times did not give “Pretty Woman, The Musical” much of a rave review, we thoroughly enjoyed the performance.  There is no doubt “Pretty Woman” dealt with a difficult and socially uncomfortable topic. Another challenge it faced was the fact that the original movie and its strong lead characters (Richard Gere and Julia Roberts) were tough acts to follow. Yet, despite everything stacked against it, the cast delivered a powerful performance that was extremely entertaining and highly relatable to all of us in the Sugar community.

Naturally, there are a number of important lessons to be learned from the show.

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Lesson 1:  Be a sugar baby, not a prostitute.

Reporters often ask me the question, “What is the difference between a Sugar Baby and a prostitute?” If there is one lesson to be learned from “Pretty Woman,” it would be the answer to that question.  Vivian was a prostitute at the beginning of the movie but became a Sugar Baby by the end. It wasn’t because she had experienced the luxurious lifestyle of being the girlfriend of a billionaire that changed her.  Rather, it was his kindness and desire to form a genuine connection with her when few would. She’s initially abrasive and cynical because that’s what the world taught her. The chance encounter with Edward, his money and the luxury he was able to afford were all gateways to forming a genuine connection since she valued money greatly.  But it was the genuine connection they had that changed her. After that, she could never go back to being a prostitute. She saw life from a new perspective and had transformed herself from a simpleton into a Sugar Baby. The difference between the two couldn’t be clearer. The contrast between the two could not be more black and white.  The desire of wanting to form and keep a genuine relationship is the defining quality separating out Sugar Dating from prostitution.

Lesson 2:  It is okay to want a Fairy-tale ending.

At the end of their week together, Edward, the billionaire, made an offer to Vivian.  He offered her a new car, an apartment, and an allowance. Vivian rejected his offer to be his kept woman.  While most would jump at that opportunity, and she may have also had it been made a week ago, but she no longer wanted that.  She wanted her fairy-tale, and she taught us all that it is okay to want more. By the end of the show, she had transformed herself into the ultimate Sugar Baby, following the footsteps of many like her, such as Melania Trump, Eloise Broady, Kristy Hinze, Katsia Zingarevich or Jade Forest. Strong women who have incredibly high standards for the lifestyle they want to live, know exactly what they want and have been successful in upgrading their relationships.

So, if a reporter were to ask me again if a Sugar Baby is a kept woman, I would have to ask them to watch the ending of “Pretty Woman”.  A kept woman may certainly be a Sugar Baby, but a Sugar Baby is most certainly not always a kept woman. Some Sugar Babies are girlfriends of successful men or wives of Presidents or billionaires.  Most Sugar Babies, however, are single and looking, but they know what they want, and they have a high standard for whom they want to be in a relationship with. They aren’t afraid of seeking their fairy-tale.

Lesson 3:  It is important to have a dream.

There are many critics for those of us who live the Sugar lifestyle.  Many are usually sour because they aren’t rich enough to be Sugar Daddies, or they feel they aren’t beautiful enough to be Sugar Babies.  Yet, there is one more important lesson to take away from “Pretty Woman”. A lesson that will benefit everyone, including those naysayers.

The song, “Never Give Up On A Dream”, sang towards the end of the performance tells us of the importance of having dreams. In that scene, Vivian’s roommate who had been a prostitute for years, but was not as lucky as Vivian in love, decided it was time to pursue the dream she had when she was young.  She signed up with the police academy and started to pursue her dreams of a career in law enforcement.

Dreams lead to actions, and taking action leads to dreams coming true.  And hence the importance of never giving up on one’s dreams.

For those critics who fret because they are not rich or pretty enough, l will say that I was neither rich nor successful nor beautiful 20 years ago when I was struggling with shyness and loneliness.  Yet, my dreams eventually led me to where I am today. Confidence, success, personality and even physical beauty can all be changed and improved, if only one sets their mind to it.

Even though I found some of the casting choices to be puzzling (for example, Andy Karl, who clearly spends a lot of his time at the gym, playing the role of Edward who clearly had no time for anything else other than business and work), I highly recommend “Pretty Woman, The Musical” for those who may have the opportunity to watch it.

So next time, if you happen to be in New York and you are lonely or bored, get on SeekingArrangement. Find yourself a date and buy two tickets to the show.  At the end of the show, let’s not forget to share some sugar with those in need by donating to Broadway Cares, the charity that fights HIV/AIDS. I’m sure you won’t regret any of it.

For those of you who have questions for me, or who are interested in following me on my journey to improving my life, relationships and business, feel free to follow me or write me on one of my social channels:

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89 Responses to ““Pretty Woman” The Musical: A Lesson for Sugar Babies”

  1. Anoniem says:

    More than half of the men who send me a message expect me to open my legs. Do they not know that this is not a website for prostitutes? Respect for each other is often hard to find.

    • SDZombie says:

      I hope you mean on first meeting, or you may just be on the wrong site.

    • Simple guy says:

      So what do u want the guy to do run a charity just because u showed up to have a drink with him? Have u heard of strip clubs girls sit on ur lap and have a drink with you and don’t waste your time with endless messaging and they’re probably way hotter and smarter google how much pornstars make

    • Ricky says:

      Lol …. yeah I won’t ask you to sleep with me on our first meet over coffee.

    • Simon says:

      I understand your point if you mean for the first meeting. I don’t do that on a first meeting either but I also don’t give my date anything either. But if you mean in general then you’re on the wrong site. What do you think men want from a woman who is twenty or more years younger then them?

  2. Merricksmom says:

    I have met a few good guys on here, and I’m 48 years old!! I find that being genuine and having some modesty goes a very long way. I live by those 2 words in business and personal life. Women, let’s not always use sex as a tool. Be happy and confident with yourself and your body and good things will always follow. (Of course, only share yourself when comfortable)
    I do agree with the person who said DO NOT shame sex workers. You never know what certain people are going through.

  3. StrawberryPop says:

    Pretty Woman is truly an inspiration!

  4. EF says:

    You pay to be on SA!

  5. EF says:

    Many fake profiles and splenda boys.

    • Simon says:

      Yes there are a lot of fake profiles on both sides. What is Splenda to you is sugar to someone else. And the person who accepts a smaller allowance then you isn’t inferior then you. They may just be in a more difficult situation? Or they may understand the concept of supply and demand in economics? There are a lot of possibilities.

  6. Someonewithclass says:

    Being paid for sex? You’re a prostitute. Close your legs and open a book maybe then you won’t have to rely on sex to pay your bills 🤦🏻‍♀️

    • EF says:

      And you pay to play. Don’t judge

    • EF says:

      You pay to be on SA!

      • Simon says:

        Why do some people try to demean SD for “pay to play”? I’ve been a SD for a decade now and I chose this lifestyle because it enhances my life in a positive way, not because I have to “pay to play”. In case you don’t realize a simple truth about rich men, we don’t have trouble with going to bed with women. And I don’t mean “pay to play”. Just because a rich man isn’t famous doesn’t mean he has any more trouble getting laid then his famous counter-parts.

  7. RiderMama says:

    I’m in SB and I can’t even find an SD and I agree you know if the SD wants to open up their wallet then yeah I will open my legs it’s just the arrangement but I’ve been having no luck on this site

    • EF says:

      Many fake profiles and splenda boys.

      • Von says:

        You sound like a man hater and with the personality of a street walker. With attitudes like that, any true sugar daddy knows the difference between a hustler and a woman. The Fake profiles may be a valid concern, and your multiple responses come across angry and desperate.

      • Simple guy says:

        I’m curious how much is your arrangement and then google how much pornstars make not top ten normal ones then consider the fact is the guy really offering you what’s fair or is he still being in your words a Splenda boy so what does that make you?

      • Simon says:

        What is Splenda to you is sugar to someone else. Something is only worth what someone else is willing to pay. If you can’t find someone to give you the allowance you want then you are not worth it. Plain and simple. And yes, there are a lot of fake profiles on both sides of the coin.

    • GeeGee says:

      Are you a POC??

    • Simon says:

      You probably won’t find what you are looking for on this site. Try meeting rich men where classy rich men spend their free time when they are out on the town. Best of luck.

  8. SpecialDelivery says:

    Massively agree. About leveling up in life. Evolving with one another. Theres so much more to life.

  9. Anonymous says:

    Not sure how to handle this site because i don’t get responses from anyone on here

  10. Anonymous says:

    being a sugar baby is prostitution lite. don’t kid yourself.

  11. jay says:

    This website is total bs it’s hard to find real SD on here

    • Nikki says:

      Not true! I came across too many time wasters myself..

    • Anonymous says:

      My last SD had secret financial troubles. The man hadn’t paid his taxes in like 4 years and his children were worthless. He finally came clean that he was spending more than he was earning. Glad he told me before we slept together. I don’t hand out my cookies to just anybody. Bye, Felicia.

      • Anonymous says:

        My profile specifically states IF YOU ARE IN DEBT OR HAVE ANY FINANCIAL ISSUES don’t message me lol

    • Mrs reyna says:

      I agree I haven’t had any luck on her but a bunch of lies and bs.

    • Simple guy says:

      It’s hard to find a sub on here that doesn’t cost an alllowance of living in Beverly Hills

    • Simon says:

      @jay True statement. But it is also hard to find a SD in the “real world” too. Try spending time at venues where rich men socialize after work. Best of luck.

  12. Charlie says:

    I met a prostitute in a Thailand bar. One of those where you buy them a drink and they get 50% of the cost from the bar owner. I told her I was there for a drink – ONLY.
    At 0200 am the bar closed. She begged me for a trick, she could not go ”home” as she had not paid the rent and would get ”troubles”. 4000 Baht became 2000 baht became an she sleep in my hotel for free. I felt sorry for her and agreed. We did not have sex or anything. In the morning she was distraught.
    I spoke with her landlord, I settled her debt, and we parted company. That evening she was waiting outside my hotel, she wanted to thank me – as she called ”properly”. I declined but we had lunch .

    I thought of Pretty woman a lot, and we have become great platonic friends. With my small help she now runs a small store in her home town far from Bangkok.

    The film inspired me to help her.

    • SpecialDelivery says:

      Trully beautiful.

      We are a community in this world if we have ability to help one another we should do so and not have to take something in return. Much love to you. Stay blessed

    • EF says:

      Still a few good people out there, good blessings to you!

    • Anonymous says:

      That was so nice Charlie. I hope you find what you’re looking for.

    • Anonymous says:

      Such a reoccurring pattern seeing men with money and women without. Thanks for helping her that was a very decent thing for you to do

    • Tiffany says:

      This is what humble compassionate action looks like. God bless you, sir.

    • duh says:

      along with ‘buffalo sick’ ‘mama need money for house’ and ‘brother have motorbike accident’ and 1001 other routines Thai bar girls play on their naive punters….. there’s a new farang mug every minute for the old sob story.. then they are back to servicing the next customer for cash.. the old routine’ you can take the girl out of the bar, but you can’t take the bar out of the girl’ Clearly you haven’t really been to Thailand much

    • Adventurous_Indian says:

      yes … wonderful gesture and a great karma

    • Simon says:

      You got played.

  13. Charlie says:

    I met a prostitute in a Thailand bar. One of those where you buy them a drink and they get 50% of the cost from the bar owner. I told her I was there for a drink – ONLY.
    at 0200 am the bar closed. She begged me for a trick, she could not go ”home” as she had not paid the rent and would get ”troubles”. 4000 Baht became 2000 baht became an she sleep in my hotel for free. I felt sorry for her and agreed. We did not have sex or anything. In the morning she was distraught.
    I spoke with her landlord, I settled her debt, and we parted company. That evening she was waiting outside my hotel, she wanted to thank me – as she called properly.

    I thought of Pretty woman a lot, and we have become great platonic friends. With my small help she now runs a small store in her home town far from Bangkok.

    The film inspired me to help her.

  14. Sugar_damsel says:

    Interesting

  15. Lindy says:

    Any SD that’s whilling to splurge on his sb should always Get what he deserves , ALL OF HER, it’s only fair

  16. Amanda says:

    I love this. Very well said.

  17. Rachelle says:

    I love your writeup. I feel that beauty to a man is equivalent to a mans net worth. Men will never date a less good looking one if they can get the most beautiful girl to fall in love with them so why should women do any less. I do believe money in a relationship takes the pressure and worry off and truly allows a woman to thrive in her femininity. Ladies keep going after your dreams and gentlemen, do not be afraid to message us even a hi is okay. xx

  18. Kisha Barton says:

    Thank you for confirming how I felt for many years. I have always wanted a luxurious lifestyle and I have always thought that I deserved it. Because of this article I will continue to follow my dreams and not be fearful of what is ahead of me. But I want to embrace what I want, and who I want, but most importantly what I deserve. Thank You and May God continue to bless you on your journey.

  19. Anonymous says:

    As long as my SD opens his wallet, this SB will open her legs…It’s a fair deal.

    • Anonymous says:

      very fair

    • Dazed SD says:

      I like how you think ! LOL

    • I totally agree with you.

    • Anonymous says:

      i agree

    • Anonymous says:

      A traditional relationship is about companionship and intimacy, not sex. If the wallet and the legs open at the same time, that’s prostitution. The gifts and the money establish trust. Once that is reached, then maybe she gets to decide if her legs open.

      • Ricky says:

        Who cares about a traditional relationship ? I’m here (and most SD’s are here) …… for anything BUT a traditional relationship.

      • Simon says:

        You are on the wrong website if you are looking for a traditional relationship. Oh, and traditional relationships are all about money too. That’s why, for the most part, broke dudes have unattractive women in their lives and rich men usually have attractive wives/girlfriends. That is why “money trouble” is the number one reason for divorce. Because it’s all about the money.

  20. Sarah says:

    In the spirit of having that fairy tale ending, will there be an SA party this year? I haven’t seen a date advertised yet.

  21. Graceylicious says:

    i agree with what you are saying
    if you are a woman like me who has the brains, the looks and the heart who wants genuine connection BUT also wants I want in a relationship
    I am no slut and no player but yeah I want to end up with a fine , successful gentleman who has the resources to be a power team and power team mate and who has maybe some of the things I don’t have but I have also the things he does not have.

    • Anonymous says:

      I could not imagine talking to a male that I thought had even a modicum of self respect and him telling me he was a part of a “power team”. I would feel so impolite if I was not able to refrain from laughing in their face and asking them what time their cartoon came on Saturday mornings or what reality show they were just voted off of. And no male that would be a part of a “power team” would have things that you do not have. They will lack male bits and pieces even if they think they have them.

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