2 weeks ago
Is it Possible to Have a Sugar Daddy and be in a Relationship?
- Posted Oct 28, 2019
- Karissa
This is a question that’s just as hard to ask as it is to answer. If you ask your boyfriend if he’s comfortable with you pursuing a sugar relationship and he says no, the answer is clear. But what if he says yes? It can be tough to tell if he really means it, or if he’s just saying what you want to hear.
Discussing a shift into a non-traditional relationship with your partner can be a difficult conversation to have, and sustaining long-term relationships for young couples is challenging as it is. Add sugaring into it, and that makes it doubly so. You’re still learning how to navigate through your combined lives.
So is your boyfriend saying yes because he can’t provide for you yet? Does he think there’s a financial benefit in it for him? Is he saying yes because he feels he doesn’t have a choice? Does he care enough to be hurt, worried or jealous? Does this mean he can sleep with anyone as well? Will he feel emasculated, like he’s not contributing enough to your life? Worry and doubt will begin to creep into this relationship if you proceed with becoming a sugar baby, but will fade over time as communication continues. You need to have a long, hard conversation with him before embarking into the bowl, and then often afterward to make sure you’re both on the same page.
More mature couples may be able to sustain themselves through these multiple relationships, but every couple is different. Many sugar daddies would prefer that their sugar babies be single. It makes it easier to schedule dates, travel, or get togethers. They also want to feel like your provider. It’s hard for them to feel that way if you are already committed to another person. So if you are going to have a boyfriend, make sure you’re honest with you sugar daddy so he can make his own informed choices.
Sugar relationships can last months to years, just like vanilla relationships. Whether you’re looking for your forever partner(s) or something for the here and now, the key to success is in the honest communications you have about your needs.
Now dating while sugaring in a whole ‘nother story and a blog for another day…
Reading some of the comments on here, it’s a tremendous relief I’ve never been intimate with a man from this site.
good ideal this site is not safe for anyone
I get it , you saved money on razors and deodorant. Hashtag empowerment !
Given a lot of the replies you’ve left, it seems that you largely don’t enjoy being around women. As such, instead of looking for a girlfriend on SA why not just get a run of the mill sexworker? I don’t mean this to be snarky, but it’d benefit you and the other women on this site if you did so.
Omg I’m gonna die laughing lol
Dave bro that was awesome I’m gonna die laughing keep at it brother love your comments. These girls will learn today!
You sound broke and angry :/
This has got to be the most entertaining thing I’ve read in ages. Thank you all for your part
I agree, thanks to all of you!
So shouldn’t I get an allowance for providing you with entertainment and company ?
It is amazing to me how the some of the women act on this site.
1 – They act like they’re the only women on here. If I do a search of 50 miles (which isn’t a bad drive for something worthwhile) I see 8000 women. Yet they act like they’re so special ,sorry give me shit, I just click next. Act rude and entitled, next. It’s funny when I turn one down, now I’m a desperate old man ! LOL
2- what they’ve yet to learn. Don’t act like an entitled, spoiled “B” be humble be sweet, be sexy, just be freaking nice and reliable, the man will usually get you whatever you want and more. he will want to make sure you’re happy. But if you start out being ridiculous and demanding, he will dump you and move on to the next one.Wise up girls !
I’ve found the key is don’t mention money or expect it and you’ll be treated better than any sb ever
Must be some weird reverse psych thing but everyone ends up happy
@A, exactly. Most men don’t like spoiled, entitled women. I don’t like when women put, “like I deserve” in their profile.
@Dazed …. “Like I deserve ” I ask them to provide Biblical citations .
@ A Says ….Here’s an exchange I had on my most recent endeavor as we are ready to do the dirty deed:
SB: “Gotta pay up front sweetie. I don’t take off my clothes before I get paid”.
Me: “You sound like a Pro.”
SB: “No …. I’ve just been burned a time or two”.
Me: ” OK …..now you REALLY sound like a Pro.”
Not a “deal killer” by any stretch and we had a great time it just moved the “relationship” to a one time event for me.
I always break out the cash by the way upfront but I do this to see their reaction. If they are somewhat offended by that ….. they move WAY up in my book and I’ll see them often.
Rule #1 women are never happy . Rule #2 women are never happy .
Rule #3 Never forget Rules 1 and 2
Maybe if this is their life and everything they live for is the site
Not for all of us, I’m a student, this is a spare cash thing. I could easily get from my parents but no fun in that
You’re old when the tattoo artist baby daddy is in town . He smokes a few grams of coke, plays with his kid, bangs mommy then leaves. You’re the sugar daddy life
saviour when the rent is due.
This happened to me last week. She seemed so nice, we had a good time. Then the guy with the tattoos shows up and she hangs out with him and then texts me that she wants rent money in advance. I didn’t reply.
Hit it and quit it
it is because on other dating sites the men out number the women but on here it’s the opposite i don’t think most women on here have grasped the fact men have choices they continue to operate the same as they do on other sites then wonder why they don’t succeed here men do want to help on this site but you get what you give
It’s easier to fool a woman than tell her the truth . My experience on SA is a testament to this . When I tried being realistic and honest to women they get angry and insulted . When I’ve fooled them , I’ve gotten laid many times over . They will even deny what I just said .
True Dave. I need to get that through my head.
@Dave, Just the other day a woman called me a player and blocked me because I was being honest and she couldn’t believe me ! LOL
My favorite is “like the princess that I am.” Immediate disqualifier.
That’s when you ask them , what Royal blood line did you come from ?
Mike, oh my goodness YES ! LOL where do these girls come from. LOL
The nicer they are the more I want to see them again so the more I give them. The ones who act entitled don’t even get the first date.
soooo true
@Haley . Yes i’m sure the CIA and KGB are out running counter surveillance on women who smear peanut butter in the beaver in an attempt to save dogs from molestation . It’s very illegal to be sucking on doberman dong.
Reminds me of the man that messaged me this week asking if I was interested in doing things with dogs, swift block
Maybe he wanted to take you to PetSmart to see if you’ll sleep with fishes
No pretty sure he wanted me to bang his dog or something
Apparently those are the offers you get when you put ‘open’ on your profile
It rubs the lotion on it’s skin or else it gets the hose again . Probably a few buffalo bills on this site
I met these two women who had the dog so well trained that they didn’t need the peanut butter. They’d both lie on the bed and let the dog take turns.
…..and women have the audacity to call men perverts
and you met them?
One I knew invited me to meet her girlfriend for some fun and then the dog sprung on the bed. It was a surprise to me.
Gross asf!
I could make the case the marriage is prostitution. How many women stick with their husbands if he loses his money? Finances are the major cause of divorce.
You’d be reaching
Have you ever sat in divorce court?
A-fooken-men Mike
No it’s true look at all the divorces between 2008 and 2010 I know guys who lost their wives and girlfriends and normal guy friends too! No money no honey is so true!
What’s your point?
And the point that marriage is prostitution is the reach x
It’s just a matter of degrees. How long the relationship lasts. How much the guy gets out of it. It’s all terms and length of contract and services delivered.
I don’t understand
Prostitution you get quick sex. Sugarbaby or girl friend you get sex and companionship. Marriage you get sex and companionship and a baby.
the definition of a prostitute does not state the time period sex must occur in, so that point isn’t relevant rn
your points are quite heresay, not much facts there
Sorry heresy
But I’ll use concrete instead
I’m not going to spend my Sunday documenting my case for you. You seem like such a know it all.
ok fair enough
but I’m not btw
If marriage isn’t prostitution then why is divorce court all about getting the man’s money?
not sure how those link together tbf
Actually the only thing that happened with my divorce court, was custody arrangements. I don’t even get child support because I gave it up.
It is…. Wives you pay to stay— prostitutes you pay to LEAVE
He’s not reaching . With the no fault clause , women divorce for nonsensical reasons such as ” he didn’t make me happy ” then goes on to live an even more miserable
life while she ruins the ex husbands life .
He has ruined my life way more than I have his.
Can someone tell me the difference between a sugar baby and a prostitute??
I’d really like to know
Not all sugar baby’s have sex, some just get companionship and guidance.
There are so many women on here who think that they can be paid companions, but why would a guy do that? Think about regular dating, how long would two people date if sex never happened?
I know that but one man on here made a comment as though sex and money is all there is to it. Hence my question
Ask the men who do it?
Because they exist, some offer money just to meet for a coffee like I even asked
And this isnt regular dating that’s the point. We’re not adhering to those standards, because in regular dating men don’t have to pay the woman to incentivise her to sleep with him or meet him
Then they’re not a sugar baby there’re a companion
not all prostitutes have sex either so your argument doesn’t hold up either as far as I’m concerned it shouldn’t matter what you call yourself if there is no sex in exchange for money to me thats not prostitution
When you make your living by offering a sex act for a sum of money to someone you just met it is prostitution. A sugar baby is like a girlfriend, you date and get to know each other, financial help is expected and the man is usually much older and an arrangement is made between the two. Legally a sugar daddy isn’t different from a boy friend, but unlike most boyfriends he provides help and doesn’t cause drama.
Actually that’s not the definition Mike, it doesn’t have to be your job. It’s simply the act of payment for sex
So please explain again
Who said “job”? I said “living”. You don’t have to be working a job at the bunny ranch. Women who offer sex for money don’t only do it once. To get a conviction the prosecutor must show that the women did this regularly. And stings don’t happen between two people who just met on a date. Stings happen at motels or rented apartments
And a prostitute is what I said a sb and a prostitute. I wanna know the difference
Legally it boils down to if you just met or if you have an on going relationship and if the money is given for an explicit sex act or if it is just a part of the relationship.
But that’s also not the definition of a prostitute, which is what I asked.
And it’s not illegal in other countries so I’m not talking about what gets you prosecuted in America, I’m asking what the difference by definition is
I’m not hearing much of a difference tbf. Any sugar babies that want to deny this?
You clearly don’t like the idea of SBs so why don’t you go away now.
no thanks you replied to my comment. It’s just debate and I’ve remained respectful
Didn’t express my dislike at all thanks Mike x
You seem to have all of the answers already. why would you ask a question and then tell someone that their answer is wrong?
Christ did I use the word wrong lol
I’d like to be challenged that’s why, debate is healthy.
You said “actually that’s not the definition” two times. That is the same as saying “wrong”. You are acting as if you are asking a question but you are taking a point of view and trying to have a debate.
For a debate, I asked it for a debate
You’re not even debating about it anymore just going off on a tangent
And I didn’t say you were wrong that would be just rude
Sorry Mike …”A sugar baby is like a girlfriend, you date and get to know each other” … that’s not even remotely true for many SD’s on this site including me. The last thing I need in my life is another relationship …. jeez.
Ricky the number one compliant that I get from wannabe sugar babies is that guys on here treat them like hoes and ask how much for this and that. This is the main reason why they shut down their profile after just a few days. A sugar baby is like a part time girl friend. If that’s not what you want then you are looking for a call girl.
Ricky there are a lot of call girls on here who quote rates, but I like fishing in the pond and catching the newbies who are trying it out. I get a better experience and have some fun.
I disagree with that Mike. I aagree with Ricky, we’re not coming here to ‘get to know’ someone all over again. Just a headache. The girls don’t even want that, if I wanted to ‘date’ normally I’d not be giving away my money that’s for sure
It’s like one date. Meet and get to know them, then back to my place for play time.
To each his own Mike …..I have neither the time, the energy nor the desire to find a GF or wannabe GF on this site. Yes I am looking for women who know exactly what they want and trust me …. I DO NOT treat them like a hoe. I’m nothing but a gentleman to whom I am with and I know that goes for many other SD’s on this site. How do I know ? I ask the women. There’s plenty of good guys according to them. They’re only complaint it seems is the “relationships” don’t last for long. Men come and go ….. as do I. My motives are clearly different than yours and that’s perfectly fine. This is recreational intimacy for me ….. my zen moment of sorts.
Grace difference between sugar baby and prostitute is this:
Prostitute has sex and leaves simple money transaction. Sugar baby is a girl your dating and your paying for her books her nails her car payment. Like when you date a normal girl you would pay for her nails but her a dress etc. some girls will not accept money they want gifts instead. When a girl tells me hey buy me stuff I’m down as long they’re not wanting to go to rodeo drive lol
Okay, so you seem to be intent on making the case that there is no difference, as if finances are not a part of marriage or any relationship.
I asked a question that’s all
Everyone knows it’s not the same
With sugar dating it starts with financial attraction but won’t last if the guy is a jerk. In regular dating starts with physical attraction but won’t last if the guy is broke.
Exactly and in only one of those relationships the girl has sex with the male without financial incentive
In the other the girl has sex for financial incentive
So you answered my question thanks
Yes and in one the women is rationally driven and in the other she is biologically driven.
you’ve had enough of this so I can’t even ask what you mean by rationally
oh well
An SB is rational because she is getting money to work towards goals and ends up better off. A GF is just banging a hot guy and getting drama and ends up a broke single mom.
you’re being serious?
grace a sugar baby provides a relationship a prostitute provides sex for money in a sugar baby relationship sex is not required but it certainly desired but no woman has to provide sex just like no man has to pay for a relationship that has no value to him
Gentlemen it’s clear we have to take our money and health elsewhere . We should all meet up and go to Thailand .
Not really into ladyboys
That place is crawling with them, bloody good liars too
Or even trans, I prefer my women born with all their bits. No offence to anyone like that you’re just not for me
There’s plenty of American trans on this site if you haven’t noticed
I’m not from America
And they’re easy to spot, they look like men no offence
In Thailand not so much
I don’t know why you keep saying no offense . Regardless , the trans are everywhere now , laying American ones are just as difficult to spot .
*latin American ones
You’ve obviously never been to Thailand I guess John. Yes there’s tons of Ladyboys ….NO they do not attempt to hide it. All you have to do is ask and they will tell you the truth. They get quite punished over there for trying to lie about it.
Yes, Dave, peanuts go much farther in Thailand.
@ Dave … I’m in for Thailand. Was there in June. Epic destination to say the least.
I just wish I could find a Thai girl on this site. I’d be in heaven.
The Thai girls you’ll find on the site, specifically those located in the states, will not be like the Thai girls you’d expect to experience in Thailand.
Ruined by Western feminism and entitlement
In most cases very true yougotta …..if they are here they were brought here by some sucker farang only to have the chicks bail on them soon after. Still worth a toss in the sack …….not looking to get involved any further than that.
I am looking 2 2 for 5 2 a SD who 7 7 sincerely needs a 4 8 companion. We can 9 0 both fill the void in our lives and enjoy life’s sweetness together. I’m opening to trying with someone and see how it goes. I’m tired of too many fakes posting what they don’t have. Be real with me. We can make each other happy. Add the numbers and I will be looking forward to your message special one.
the men posting here are clearly misogynist assholes with no money and no class. that tells you everything you need to know about this site and the men it attracts.
Nice excuse for bad behavior . It’s misogynistic when women have to adhere to standards .
Feel free to get a career , job, and cats . Have fun . We will send you postcard from Thailand
With much pleasure, I always wanted a Siamese! perhaps a doberman as well to keep rude,immature and disgusting old men like you at Bay.
Since I already said we don’t want you anymore I guess the dog will be your new dildo … there’s always the peanut butter thing you girls like too
I’ll never forget the former GF who told me about her and a bunch of girls hanging out and getting drunk in their late teens and one of the girls deciding to go down on the family dog in front of all of them. Sure it happens all the time ….
Your former gf was a weirdo!!
You do realise that’s illegal, so no sorry it doesn’t happen all the time how disgusting.
Dave’s running a full stand up comedy routine in the comments of these threads.
@ Hayley … lol I never said “my” GF did anything with the dog …..her drunk 19 year old friend did. And I stick to my story …. it probably happens often.
She’s still a weirdo Ricky
Nothing against you but she is
And women don’t have any class either just money money money until they bleed you dry..
Im fine with them wanting money but they should act humble and feminine not demand it as if they are entitled to it .
My thoughts exactly when reading these comments. Ironically speaking about entitlement while being entitled themselves.
We don’t say we are entitled to anything. Most of us earned our keep and promotions at work . Don’t expect any money because you think you are a princess . You don’t see us calling ourselves Kings do you ?
Funny ass shit that wanna be sugar babies post. “While I would be open to meeting and going to dinner, I am not comfortable with any intimacy. Which means, no sex, no kissing.” That’s fine, how about no money, baby?
As if we should be honored to be in their presence and “intellectual” prowess .
And they’re probably 22 years old ….
So yeah go get yourself a hooker then if that is what you want??
Dude really that is not what sugar daddy is being about
I don’t see why that’s funny. Some of us don’t want to sleep with older men because we’re not attracted ??
and why would you want to sleep with someone who’s not even enjoying it? That’s quite sad. Maybe not to you but men I’ve spoken to wouldn’t
Then why on earth would you expect us to financially support your ass? Go get a real job then and buy your own meals and keep dating broke ass young guys. Get lost.
You sound immature
And ghetto
I don’t expect anything on this site, it’s not my life so your point is irrelevant
Plus you’re just admitting you want a prostitute, as I said they’re banned from the site so maybe you’re in the wrong place
Grace you are clearly not SB material. Why are you even on here? You seem like some SJW who is looking for a cause. Many of the SBs I meet like sex, but they don’t want a clingy BF and they have bills to pay so I’m a good choice for them. It’s not prostitution if they like being with me I give them money for their rent.
so a prostitute then?
Grace clearly you have never attracted someone who helped you out and you think any exchange of money is prostitution.
Grace I bet that you are fine with the government taxing me and taking my money by threat of force giving it to you because you are disadvantaged or marginalized, and you do nothing for it.
by definition it’s a prostitute, not a thought but a fact
sorry it offends you
I am just a student x
but I’m sorry the government are taking your money, trust me I did not ask them to
Grace you need to read up on the definition and also on what it takes to get a conviction. In my state you have to explicitly offer sex for money. If I give a women money because she tells me she needs supplies for her child it is not legally prostitution. If I’m seeing a young woman more than once there is no way of a conviction as legally she is my girlfriend and I can give her all the money that I want to and I can ask her to do whatever I like.
um I have. The definition hasn’t changed in the dictionary?
Plus I dont see how the conviction thing is relevant rn. I didnt call anyone a criminal x
I’m taking about the definition in the criminal code book, not in you feminist dictionary. Since prostitution is a crime you are calling people a criminal.
Oxford/ Cambridge dictionary x
I didn’t say prostitution I said a prostitute x
and it isn’t a crime in every country.
but you seem to be offended though
maybe the shoe fits
Grace just stop
sure ok
I can assure you ….. unless they are lesbians … they will enjoy it.
Ricky, so can prostitutes x
your assurance also is personal, not applicable to everyone. which seems to be the theme in this forum so yea x
You really are a know it all lol
I’m really not
but sure ok
Not an insult, I just think it’s the perfect title for you
Plus workers like that are banned from the site, it says it
It “says so” so they aren’t liable when the shit hits the fan and people get killed. Ever heard of the Santa Cruz case or the Oregon case ?
Doesn’t change the fact it still says it? It’s only a fact…I’m not talking why just facts. If you can’t find it, check the terms and conditions
Grace would you go and find another cause to rant about? We get it, you consider it prostitution no matter what.
I found this very entertaining to read. Thanks to the two of you!
Why on earth would a girl want a broke ass boyfriend she has to take care of with her SD money!? That doesn’t add up to me. Just get yourself a wealthy boyfriend so you don’t have to juggle. I would never be taking care of a man who sits on the couch all day and collects money I have gotten from other git’s. He isn’t your BF stupid, that’s your pimp. Unless you can’t get a wealthy BF and what you consider a SD is some guy giving you $40 a week for your nails. 🤦🏾♀️
Truth in most of that except most of you can’t KEEP any guy much less a wealthy one with your horrible attitudes and behaviors
They will go back to the broke ass boyfriend because you can’t fix stupid.
They use sex as blackmail to get what they want..a guy is stupid enough to give in just to get some sex at her wimm..
Until age 30 . After that threshold a woman using sex as a tool look ridiculous unless she’s Raquel Welsh
I want a sugar daddy, what do I have to do?
Just open up to him😆
Bingo!!
The comments on this make me dry heave. Why the hell are any of you seeking advice from this blog post, anyway. Do what you want. Apologize for it later.
Yikes from what I’ve read Dave is definitely a sad lonely incel
That’s impossible since you met me at a Motel 6 for $50 last week .
cheap date was she
It is possible if you keep both sides a secret. It’s none of anyone’s business. I have a boyfriend and a few SDs and I’m smart about it. Also in some ways I guess you can say my bf benefits from it because I can afford to get him nicer gifts on holidays and on his birthday. Kind of makes me feel less guilty
Hopefully your teeth don’t get pushed back when your boyfriend finds out. Oop too late
Decent people just get angry, shout and leave.
I’m a young girl, I have sds, I also have an older bf. He’s not rich, he’s comfortable and he’s not an sd, never will be, we dated the normal way.
he doesn’t know because I know he’ll be jealous
But my sds are also jealous I date an older man without the money element
So sometimes keeping things secret is just best
Sounds like a train wreck waiting to happen
I tend to like train wrecks 🙂
Until they get too expensive. I had a SB from here age 27 who just wanted something casual .then she wanted to move in. She had all.kinds of guys over the years never saved a dime
I don’t follow?
Sounds like she had poor money management skills?
You said train wrecks are fun , and they are , until they get old and broke .
hmm seems like you mean a person
I thought when you said train wreck waiting to happen you meant an event, that’s what I meant was fun
You’re doing as you should
You are the shining example of why I don’t date. You are all crooked on the inside and just can’t help it.
Not all women are evil but in today’s climate of feminism , many are not worth the squeeze
That’s the fun in things
I suppose one could but what would be the point of that? Sounds a little greedy to me.
Most sds are not single ?
Beside this is most peoples ‘secret’ life
It’s not a place to find emotional and psychological connections. It’s normal and ok to have that with someone else
I couldn’t imagine making this my life
It’s an addition
That’s why I see at least half the girls use the tag “emotional connection ” and some mostly used up single moms tag “marriage minded”
Means half the people you see have this as their only lives
Each to their own but I could never
Some sds also mention liking a girl who has her own life and isn’t ‘dependent’
Works out well
The marriage minded tag should be removed permanently from this site. I would never marry a woman I met on seeking arrangement
Some men would, some men have
And you do know you can filter out people that include that tag on their profile? It’s pretty simple
Yea if it’s a secret and depending on the type of relationship you have with the sd
All women have a strong preference for a taller man but some of them realize that will never work out and they make a better choice for a guy who helps them.
Uhhh what’s that got to do with what I said?
Men why is it if a girl is taller than you you still try your luck? Don’t you feel embarrassed if a girl is taller than you? I’m genuinely curious!
No. My money makes me look taller to her. People wonder what I got going on that taller women are with me. Besides once she is laying down I don’t notice.
Ah I guess those women don’t have strong preferences
I’m 5’9 I have a very strong preference for tall men
Only because being with a man shorter than me is humiliating and embarrassing, for me. Not the man himself, they’re fine just not for me
I’m with you on that . I don’t want a girl taller than me, temporary relationship or not, tradional or sugar .
The only women taller than me were born male. I have no interest in being with other men.
i haven’t met any women on here taller than me but most women don’t want to date a man shorter than them so this a mute point
All women have a strong preference for a taller man but some of them realize that will never work out and they make a better choice for a guy who helps them.
you didn’t read, my preference is VERY strong. Not even exaggerating but short men make me feel a bit sick. It’s an instant turn off, like bad breath. I don’t ‘settle’ and can never be seen with one.
Reah good luck waiting in line for your turn with the tall guy.
There’s no waiting line what are you on about.? Majority of men in this country are taller than 5’9, so stop trying to be confrontational.
And take back your luck I don’t need it
Lol Mike, the ladies really don’t like you in this thread.
Think Reah has hit a nerve. Mike how tall are you?
Almost all the men on this site are hideous or just really fat. Makes me want to get back to regular dating, I feel much better dating a hot guy with less money than a gross old man who wants to kiss in public!
Your comment tells us that you cant get rich or hot or else you wouldn’t need to announce it.
I only kiss when she is moaning in my ear and that gives her that little extra that she needed.
The comments here are killing me 😭
By all means, please do..
It’s not about fashion you feminist shill it’s bout appealing to a man’s boner . Boogers are not attractive just like being a creep or poor is not attractive to a female or are men not allowed standards ?
Ok so if it’s a boner men want then all they should care about is what the woman looks like naked?
Why care about what someone wears when they’re in social setting or to college etc
Unless you’re planning on taking her out and you’ll be embarrassed but if we’re talking about boners this argument is forced
I used the term as a synonym for male attraction. We want classy women not freaks .
Nose rings are ok, they’re pretty attractive on a pretty girl. But they can also come out
However heavily tattooed and pierced is a turn off , it’s stupid. You’ll regret it when you’re 80 trust me
If they want the luxury life style then they need to look the part for the place I take them. If it’s just about them coming to my place and having some fun then they can look how they like.
@Mike the second one I understand your comment completely think I said the same thing
@Mike the first one ok that’s your preference and that’s accepted
Where’s the sugar mama’s at?
their at home counting the money
Shitttt I need to find one. I won’t disappoint, I’m a fine young chocolate brotha with that……
Thailand is a dictatiorship yet the women are feminine and love pleasing men . Women need to.be controlled . Them wanting criminal bad boys aka Jeremy Meeks ,in the West proves that.
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Thailand is the ultimate paradise for men because it is the exact opposite of everything a man sees in a Western woman.
Philippines, isn’t bad also ! LOL
Philippines is good the women don’t hate men there
The reason why women in Thailand and Philippines are at your every whim is because they are SO SO dirt poor they will do anything like s%ck dick for 25c to provide for their families living in diseased alleyways.
They are poor … you are correct. Just like all of you SB’s on this site are poor. In fact YOU are worse off then them. The difference between you two is … THEY understand how to treat a man. You on the other hand …. do not.
then buy a mail order bride , trust me when she comes to greener pastures she’ll leave you once that VISA clears.
Question to all sd’s
Do you think other sds lie about their income on the site. Because I get messages from men apparently with 60 million income and I can’t imagine they’re not swarmed with messages from models
As for me I’m just a plain brunette who doesn’t wear make up, I’m not fancy or dress in heels and wear red lipstick
So I get suspect about messages like those
I’m also not malicious or entitled my profile is pretty chill so can’t imagine someone is messaging me to play a trick on me
I ask the SBs that I meet about their experiences on here. I have talked with many of them. They tell me that men lie about their income. They say that some men on here are looking for free test rides. Some men are creepy or kinky and want weird things done to them. Some act as if this is the Bunny Ranch and ask how much for this or that. In my experience this is the reason why SBs close their accounts. Don’t take it personally. Learn to sift through the creeps and find the good SDs.
I took part in the free test rides . I wouldn’t meet many of them otherwise . I love to be generous but because most women are like the ones on this blog , I don’t even want to but them a drink
Thanks for the reply x
I mean thanks for the reply Mike x was helpful
I talk to many, many SB’s. Not a single one over the course of 5 years on this site have I even had ANY that brought up my income. In fact even the one’s I get intimate with … the subject never comes up. I don’t know how or why this subject even presents itself.
I’m sure you can read, so read my comment again cause I never said that. It’s in black and white
You actually almost believe a guy who puts 60 mill? It’s so easy to fool women .
A guy anywhere near 60 mil will have a bird dog finding the SBs and not be anywhere near this site.
I’m 18, I don’t think I was fooled, just questioning. Only joined this site a couple months ago
Saw this forum and thought why not ask, but don’t think I was fooled by asking a question.
They all lie about their income sweetie. They lie about their “athletic” build (they’re actually fat and covered in wrinkles) they lie about their single status (most have kids they don’t take care of and a wife they can’t make happy) they lie about their “amazing” skills in bed (ew) they lie about being about to get women (they have to pay for sex because women at bats and grocery stores run the other direction after eye contact)
at bars*
“they can’t make happy if men were put on this planet to make women happy . There in lies then problem . Enjoy the cats sweetie
Most females on these sites are con artists sweetie tia that’s what we have to put up with..bet you are old and wrinkled and it’s healed over too..
I pay because I want to be with a younger woman and have control over the situation. I have a lot of fun and when they are no longer fun I move on to the next one. There is an endless supply. I could get on a regular dating site but I’d find women my age who want a long term relationship or even marriage. You know what I have not paid for? Alimony, child support, and divorce lawyers. No matter how much I spend on SBs it’s nothing near what my friends who got married and then divorce pay out.
Why on earth would it matter in the least what a man tells you about his income or his worth ? You come to an agreement on a price or you don’t. I don’t get it.
Errr i didn’t say that? lol
So many women posting pictures with their tongue out, torn jeans and nose ring. It says goofy, trashy, feminist. Not what I am looking for. Most of them don’t understand that they have to appeal to their sugar daddy to get the sugar. If I ask them anything about this they don’t reply, they just block me. As if there is another guy who wants to put up with them.
Bernie Sanders or Beto loves the nose ring booger look
Nose rings are in fashion again so is women now been Bi seems to be a bit surge in this..again to be noticed and boost their egos, personally i wouldnt go near a chick wearing any of that and the amount of studs in the lips, tongue etc has taken off just imagine kissing that..
listen “mike” trust me nobody wants your sugar you rich prick
There you go, urmom, just what I’m talking about. Entitled, out of touch, no idea how to market yourself and attract an SD. Why are you even on here? You are probably short, fat and broke. I’ve meet 20 women on here in the last 5 months since I moved to a new town. I have over 30 phone numbers. I hand out thousands of $ a month.
To meet 20 woman I had to read over 500 profiles, and skip the entitled ones. I wrote to over 200 of them, about half of them didn’t even read their messages. About another 1/2 read and didn’t reply. A bunch more texted and made a date and then flaked. I think I know what I’m taking about.
So much hostility urmom. Take a pill.
Have you really messaged that many?
Sassy I have messaged over 225 in the last 5 months since I moved to a new town. Meeting good ones is harder than finding a job. Most don’t read their messages or reply. The level of flakiness with young women is astounding. It’s no wonder they are broke.
May I ask what kind of messages you send?
I personally don’t respond to a message that just says hi, how are you, what’s up, etc. I also don’t respond to the ones that just ask to see my private pics. If you can’t at least seem interested, then why should you see my private photos.
Sassy I don’t to simple “hi” messages, but most women do. I don’t ask to see private pictures until after they reply to me. I message referring to something in their profile that they want and I ask something about them and I let them know what I’m offering and my profile is filled out with many pictures. Many women won’t even answer a simple question.
But that’s not abnormal
Maybe they’ve found an SD already or maybe they’re not interested
So I’m not really shocked by numbers like that.
I guess I’m a little surprised because I at least try and respond even if it is that I’m not interested.
Ripped jeans have always been a fashionable thing? Like mom jeans are now
I mean I get older people don’t understand it, my mum and aunts hate the ripped jeans thing
But we like it
Nose rings can look cute and sticking your tongue out is just a fun silly thing to do
I don’t know what age you’re referring to but some of us just turned adults. Isn’t the youth in young people what attracts you too?
@Emma, I understand that to the young it’s fashionable. The problem is you aren’t here appealing to the young. Most are here to try and get an older man’s funds. The women need to appeal to their target audience. Marketing 101
It’s not about fashion you feminist shill it’s bout appealing to a man’s boner . Boogers are not attractive just like being a creep or poor is not attractive to a female or are men not allowed standards ?
@Dazed I don’t know I think it’s different for you in the US than it is in the UK
I don’t find myself trying to be appealing for the men on the site
And I’ve not had anyone take issue in that?
I also don’t have to go out of my way to search for sugar daddies and ‘market myself’
I just find there is always someone to engage with in my messages and the marketing maybe comes from them
90% of men with money are over 50 and 70% are over 60. I’m over 60. I’m not looking for an SB who is trying to look good to her girlfriends. I want one that looks good to me. These women are asking for a luxury life style. If they want to go out for a fancy dinner they need to look like they belong in a fancy restaurant. I won’t be seen with someone who looks goofy, or slovenly or like some alternative type. If all we are taking is them coming over to my place for some fun then I don’t care so much. But if they want the vacation to their favorite place they have better make an effort to look good.
Ok Mike that’s good on you but that Just sounds all like a personal thing
It’s not the experience over here in the UK
Maybe we just do things differently men and women, your way works and ours does too
So let’s leave it there
Emma, British women used to dress classy and it was rare to see a fat one. Now the culture has devolved and they dress trashy and many are fat. Apparently many men tolerate that but many of the men have low standards these days.
That’s your opinion x
i don’t know what your response is to I’m sorry
the other guy and I kind of concluded
@Dazed thanks for responding
@emma, I always appreciate good conversation. Trust me I’m trying to understand. LOL
Yes it is
Any woman that is that bitter as to refer to SD’s as fat and dying must have forgot what they are after. His money. She obviously has no brains she better have a body.
She probably got knocked back cuz the SD choose a younger model and he didn’t want an old bat with attitude problems she must have forgotten to take her meds
SBs can do whatever they want because they’re not the ones fat miserable and dying
Projecting ? Many of us are / were successful ncaa athletes
Most older women are fat and fucken miserable and impossible to deal with..that’s why we prefer the young SB’s they are eager and keen to make us happy..😊
My search criteria is limited to 18-19 now. Too many old worn out feminists over 25 now. They look beat from partying too much.
Maybe that’s your experience because youre old fat and ugly yourself. I’m young chunky and handsome thanks. Chicks love me and never have a problem getting arrangements with me. Life must really suck for you. Sorry.
So many wanna be sugar babies are fat, miserable and broke. They have delusions of finding the ideal sugar daddy who will “spoil” them and treat them like the “princess that they are”, but most of them can’t even fill out the “seeking” section of their profile.
With tattoos and multiple baby daddies and they “deserve” to be spoiled.
I’m one of the good ones 🤪
Because you say so ? Actions speak …..
Fat broke miserable girls deserve nothing, except maybe a kick up the ass to sort themselves out… who wants to bankroll someone who is clearly a failure through all round lack of effort, thin super attractive fit girls with goals and ambitions who are eager to please first then enjoy the lifestyle as a result of that effort are what I look for
80% of the men don’t have their profile filled out at all.
I also feel like the generalization about most women is just plain rude. Seems like you don’t want to actually give anybody a chance.
Not a very helpful article. Any experienced SD will tell you that girls on the site lie non-stop. Almost no girl will tell their bf of having an SD on the side. If she thinks she can hide it from him, she will. End of story.
Western woman in general has no idea what she’s doing . With the plethora of cougars in bars trying to compete against their 20 year old counterparts , it’s easy to see they have no clue what they want despite what comes out of their mouths
yes indeed, a few weeks in Thailand will cure any man of any lingering attraction to most western women…
I’m poly so I would have no problem telling a bf.
EVERY relationship has drama like it or not, you just have to deal with it because nobody is perfect and no relationship is perfect. I think SBs should be able to have boyfriends because they’re young and attractive and full of life. You can’t depend on old men to take care of you because next thing you know you’re 35/40 and you’re single because you decided to leave your boyfriend for an old man that just wants sex..Think smart ladies..
So you’re telling women they “can have it all” ?
A lot of SD’s are married or separated so why can’t a SB have a little boyfriend? I don’t see anything wrong with it!
Perhaps to prevent STIs like HPV. Men are passing it around without even knowing it.
So do women pass it around don’t just blame males
I know a solution, find a boyfriend that’s established and generous then you won’t have to worry about sleeping with a bunch of desperate men to pay your cell phone bill
I agree. Date established men.
Problem is you want the perfect 9 man and most of you women are 7s at best . Those 9s sleep with multiple women and don’t commit . You women are delusional then you do turn 40 asking the question “where are all the nice guys ?”
You sure do claim to know alot about every female.You speak in generalizations without hard evidence and you rate women. You certainly are not one of the nice guys.
Instead of attacking me , go ahead and argue what I said . Do you have a counter or just want to disparage me instead ?
I think the person below just means your comment is subjective
Which it is, which is fine. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, she or he just doesn’t like yours. But you can argue subjective opinion of course, you know that
Statistics show what im saying is being played out . 80/20 rule . Women want it allprince charming , makes a lot of money , tall , handsome , makes them laugh whereas men just want thin feminine women . Look at the difference in standards . Those top men have women everywhere chasing them whereas the rest of the men have to pay especially on this site . Even women’s profiles have a list of 100 demands from men .
Woman can be over 40, short, fat, with children and broke and they are still after prince charming. They have no concept of what they have to offer or what their competition is. At the local singles club the tall handsome guy banged everyone of them while the shorter guys got nothing. I have seen this, and I have read studies about it. Of course the tall guy pumps and dumps and moves on to the next one.
You still go to clubs ? They became useless after 2005. Now only women go to clubs to get free drinks , free attention and bang the owner.
No I have not been to a club in decades. The story about the singles club was told to me by a friend who went and heard the gossip.
umm your rating part was kinda subjective Dave, no?
‘7 at best’ ‘perfect 9k’
Can’t imagine any plausible statistics using language like that, and if it did why would you trust the source?
I can somewhat agree about the attributes argument to an extent, statistics do show a large amount of women look for those attributes
sorry I meant 9 not not 9k lol
but anyway tastes and preferences are different within continents and countries, within different age brackets etc
I’m from the Uk I’m 18, my ideal is likely to be completely different to a 50 yo woman’s ideal
Also the preferences here in the UK for men may be different to the preferences over in China or Kenya or Puerto Rico
7 billion people in the world, we don’t all want the same thing in a partner
Most of the people on this site are from the USA. The comments are about women in the USA. It has been shown over and over that most of them are unrealistic in their expectations. I’ve seen it. My male friends have seen it. Articles are written about it. Studies are done on it. These women rely on dating coaches who tell them not to settle. To keep looking for the ideal man. A man that does not exsit for them.
Sorry I thought he meant globally apologies
But I still think the rating part was subjective, ‘7 and perfect 9’ I can’t imagine in any circumstance where language like that could lead to any concrete conclusion. Unless it’s a self rating but didn’t sound like it
But oh well
Most men have the same standard . Thin and feminine . A 9 is a supermodel . Women , take a picture on shitstagram with over caked makeup on, and they think that makes them a 9
I hope you’re talking the US and not globally?
but again subjective
with language I can’t imagine plausible statistics using
why would you read something that tells you a supermodel is a 9?
the language is as though teenagers wrote it, can’t even imagine an older man saying that
any man here that thinks this btw? A supermodel is a 9 to you?
Bear in mind it’s an occupancy and lifestyle, you gotta reach celeb status too
Cause I thought men liked petite girls more these days over tall
Desperate. That’s funny. This is entertainment for me. I can take it or leave it. It’s like fishing in a stocked pond. It’s the women on here who are desperate. They can’t make their rent or their car payment. An established boyfriend, that’s more funny. They can’t find a boyfriend who will even take them out for dinner, let alone pay their phone bill. I get to be their savior so their phone still works and they have a nice dinner.
And of course all these women are “models”
Who’s “desperate” ?
Some anon SB is calling the daddies desperate.
If it’s a non monogamous relationship then yea lol
Tbh even if it’s monogamous it may do if it’s a secret like most sd’s do on the site. None of their wives know so I’m sure a sb can pull off the same thing
Also luxury lifestyle is great, holidays etc but it’s always been about the person you spend it with. It’s likely to be greater with your bf than your sd, I’m just speaking from what I feel
Unless you’re getting into relationships for different reasons that are shallow etc
But sd dating isn’t like regular dating, think we all know this. So wanting and having a regular dating life plus an sd sounds normal to me
A sugar baby having a boyfriend means that she has love and fuck with and in the meantime she wants a stupid mature man around to take his money pretending a relationship. Come on! One thing is an open relationship, another is being an idiot!
This never works out . The boyfriend is usually more in love with her than she is with him . So he stalks her, then of that doesn’t work , the guy quits his job , becomes lame , the sugar daddy hits and quits it because he’s tired of the drama then the whole thing blows up .
I’m a woman married to a woman and in successful sugar relationships. Everyone has to be on the same page!
2 woman plus SD= 10X drama . I’ll believe it when I see it
I would be more surprised if an sb didn’t have a relationship/ bf/ whatever. Most daddies do anyways.
What a stupid article. Has this author talked with any would be sugar babies? Why would a potential sugar baby have a boyfriend? Most of the wanna be sugar babies I have met dropped their boyfriend because he caused drama and could not provide. Most of them don’t want a boyfriend. They want to pursue their goals unencumbered by a useless boyfriend.
The SBs all want long term but sorry that’s not happening unless they are exceptional and after going out with SBs from this site 90 percent have nothing to offer a man besides a vagina .
I agree that most are not worth longer term. In my ten years of being on here and dating dozens and dozens I have met 4 that I let go longer term and a few that were worth a 2nd date or so, but most where just a booty call.
Article looks rushed – very short and has errors.
agreed not a lot of thought put into this but i don’t think it matters seldom do people talk about the article
More fake than anything else , like 90 percent of women on this site .
Not really. Having a hubby that wants to share his spouse to the sugar daddy world complicates the whole arrangement. Not only are you supporting her, but by extension him too. All he has to do is pull the plug and POOF, steady arrangement goes up in smoke.