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Community Guidelines

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Welcome to the Seeking Blog! We love interacting with our members and/or potential members, and encourage meaningful discussion about the topics in our comments. However, recently as we moderate our comment section of this blog, we have discovered some discouraging trends—personal attacks; discrimination; trolling; a huge amount of gender-bias; trolling; distribution of personal information; trolling; hostile discussions that, quite frankly, have nothing to do with the topic of the blog; and lastly, trolling. We have such a unique and intriguing member-base with so much to offer, and we think that we all can be held to a much higher standard.

So, we are introducing a set of Community Guidelines that members should adhere to, and violating any of them may result in comment removal or banning. So before you post, take a quick look at our guidelines below. Happy Sugaring!

Blog Community Guidelines

  1. Be respectful.
    Remember that behind each username is a person—be respectful and act the way you would in conversation with any person in real life. Personal attacks, name-calling, etc. will not be tolerated. Treat others the way you’d want to be treated.
  2. No solicitation or spam.
    Any comments soliciting services for money will be removed, as well as any links posted that do not fit within the context of the blog post. If you do post a link to an article or webpage that you believe fits into the conversation, please explain why in your comment.
  3. No trolling.
    Deliberately making comments intended to provoke controversial or emotional reactions and arguments, that do not add to the conversation, will be removed.
  4. Absolutely no hate speech or harassment.
    We have a zero-tolerance policy for discrimination based on gender, race, nationality, religion and/or sexuality, as well as harassment, slurs or threats of violence—making anyone feel unwelcome in our community. Any member who breaks this rule will immediately be banned and comments removed.
  5. No graphic, sexually demeaning language.
    Graphic comments/descriptions about sexual acts are not allowed, as they are not relevant to our blog content. Sexually demeaning language towards others, including name-calling, is also prohibited.
  6. No gender bias.
    Refrain from making wide-sweeping, blanket statements with negative connotations towards men & women, or certain types of Seeking members, as a whole.
  7. Absolutely no identifying or personal information.
    Posting comments that include anyone’s identifying or personal information (usernames on Seeking, full names, phone numbers, addresses, links to social media, etc.), whether or not they are a Seeking member, is strictly forbidden and will result in banning.
  8. No “seeking”—keep it to the website.
    Soliciting arrangements in the comment section is not allowed. We ask that Seeking members use our website for this purpose, not the blog. If you are not a member, sign up here for free.
  9. No discussions regarding monetary value.
    Refrain from discussing specific monetary values for allowances, dates, etc. Monetary arrangements should only be discussed in private. Any language or activity regarding monetary arrangements for sex is a violation of Seeking’s user policy, and therefore this blog, and will result in immediate banning.
  10. Keep on-topic.
    Do not use the comment section as a personal soap box. It is meant for meaningful discussion, concerns and questions about the topic of the post. If you are continually veering off-topic, trolling, etc., this may result in comment removal and/or banning.
*Please note, these guidelines are for the blog comment section. They are not an update to SA’s terms of use, and banning on this blog will not result in your SA account being suspended, as the blog and SA have separate membership bases.

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313 Responses to “Community Guidelines”

  1. RMSD says:

    why does EVERY (relevant on topic) post I place here small or large so far just say awaiting approval and it never shows public… its been weeks, nothing in my posts merit censorship given the rubbish and flow of personal insults between contributors I am still reading here. How come some people posted like 15 times arguing just with each other and I cannot get one post published about the actual topic in this thread?

  2. Edg says:

    I have verified my email 4 times, yet each time I log in, I am greeted with the same message, to verify my email. When I try support, I cannot start a ticket because it says my email is invalid. I’ve been a member for years and my email hasn’t changed.

  3. Pearljamb says:

    Has anybody ever had a real relationship from this site ?

    • Anonymous says:

      well I’m sure someone has had a real relationship from this site or the business would die but SA is advertising a lot so that tells me they are losing paid membership and the complaints on the review sites are increasing so people are not happy with the way the site is run

    • Dazed SD says:

      @Pearljamb, I’m not sue what you mean about a “real relationship” But I’ve had 2 very long term (multiple years each) arrangements from this site. There is one thing for sure though, I don’t know what social media video or articles have come out lately, but it’s increasing more difficult now to find another one. They young girls have swamped this site with wanting “online, selling pictures, talk on the phone, text kind of arrangements. So it gets very frustrating at times. I do understand most of the comments by some of the men on here.

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        @Dazed

        What you described was more typical for many people, I think. I can appreciate the frustrations of matching in an ideal arrangement considering the current state of SA. I think that Pearljamb’s question and comments from other women suggest that it’s not just men who find the process frustrating. Many men on the site are looking ppm, sporadic flings, and many do not have incomes that would sustain an ongoing arrangement. I think SA has done itself and its members a disservice by playing the numbers game, and casting a wide net which has really only served to dilute its brand with substandard shortgamers. But some of those complaining really don’t stand a chance with a quality person regardless.

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        Yet you applaud the Daves of the world who tell men how to scam women. There are parallel sites dedicated to teaching men how to become con(fidence) artists.

        There are shitty people are shitty people, here and elsewhere.

    • Chrissty says:

      I have, only once, 3 years ago. Very genuine and loving relationship. Unfortunately my daddy passed away. Real people and connections are very far and between now these days here. But never give up.

      • Anon says:

        Lol what? He died? How old was he?

      • Anon says:

        LOL he passed away. Is this a joke??

      • Anon says:

        I’ve never met anyone over 60 from the site. That’s my limit. I only go over 30 to mid ish 50s. I’m 18.
        The ones in the 40s have a lot of money where I’m from. Theyre lots more fun I find too.
        So any older man in their 40s in this blog, appreciate you 🙂

  4. Anonymous says:

    Well I can see these new guidelines are certainly being followed in the comments lol

    • Anonymous says:

      nothing useful being said here any way time to move on

      • Sweetcheeks says:

        Some useful points raised:
        -platonic works for some, and not for others. Thankfully, SA allows users different options to pick what they want and decide what to offer.
        -girls only date wrinkly old men due to naivety/ socialisation/ desperation/ some form of mental or emotional issue.

      • Anonymous says:

        also the juice is not worth the squeeze

      • Anonymous says:

        sweetcheeks dont forget to take your meds you sounding abit depressed..must be hard for you getting old knowing that no SD will want you if he has the picks of young perkie chicks out there just waiting to please him

      • Sweetcheeks says:

        Baby, I turned 20 in September 😋 While I get through uni and my city internship, how can I be depressed when I have some old fool paying my rent and buying me stuff just for being, as you put it, “young and perky” 😊

  5. Duuuuuude says:

    It seems that Online only ladies are growing exponentially. I know that such users can be reported as Inappropriate Use. I am looking for somewhere in the guidelines that state that such use is inappropriate. Any help?

  6. BabyK says:

    Half way through reading the comments and now your definitely emotionally drained?……..your not alone

  7. Anonymous says:

    Do girls ACTUALLY enjoy spending time intimate or not, with these wrinkly, bitter old men??? Imagine these old prunes touching you.. 🤢🤢🤮 These sb girls must be really desperate or mentally disturbed

    • Anonymous says:

      who knows maybe they do maybe they don’t but no one cares as long as they do it but this is a poor use of the website if they are not enjoying themselves maybe they should do some serious thinking about if they want to be a sugar baby or not

    • Disme says:

      I have seen some younger girls with massive stretch marks and massive Cellulite..makes u wanna puke..so goes both ways u old faggot..

    • Disme says:

      Yeah must be hard for you old trout’s. .i have seen some younger girls with massive stretch marks and massive Cellulite..makes u wanna puke..so goes both ways u old
      faggot and get a life..girls enjoy older men..

      • Anon says:

        i have cellulite and stretchmarks and that’s NEVER been an issue in the bedroom or getting attention when i’m in swimwear. same for most girls to be fair. you’re just a little wuss

      • Sweetcheeks says:

        Actually girls just enjoy having financial freedom to do and obtain whatever they desire. And when still young, they don’t always have the means to fund themselves, so seek it out wherever they can get it

    • Mike says:

      Who fuckin cares! These women are on psych meds, have massive debt, have a shit job, have babies, had an abusive boy friend who dumped them. They are damn lucky if a daddy helps them out

      • A says:

        Uhh not all of us. I’m just a student. My schooling is my life. This is just a way of improving my experience as a student, I get to have a break and I get money for it. Quite a lot, way more than I’d make at 18 at a part time job

      • A says:

        wait not all of us!
        I’m just a student, my schooling is my life. I use this site to improve my experience as a student. In return I get a well needed break from my difficult course and I get given quite a lot from it. actually more than I can think of. More than I would ever make as an 18 yo part time worker.

      • A says:

        hey not all of us!

      • A says:

        I’m just a student. My education is my life. This site is here to improve my experience as a student

      • A says:

        In return I get to take a break from a difficult course, and I get to meet people and I’m making quite a lot from it. More than Ill ever need. More than I could ever as an 18yo part time worker

    • Ana says:

      You must be very bitter. My lover is an older man. I’m 20, he’s 65, but he’s the best man and lover ive ever had. I don’t pay any mind to anyone else when with him. To me, he’s young and sometimes I fell, I’d marry him if I could

    • A says:

      I’m actually attracted to older men (18), but not ever bitter men. I knew a bitter 65 yo a good part of my mid teen life. Massive bully and incredibly jealous. Not met anyone I would be with on this site without the finance part if I’m honest. That’s the truth. Even when they’re the nicest people ever. But I know older men off the site who don’t pay for female company and they’re more long term in my life, because they offer more in terms of personality and experience outside the bedroom.

      • Sweetcheeks says:

        I thought so too when I was a kid and society had drilled it into me that old men were hot. You’re going to grow up and look back at when you hooked up with an old man and the thought will make your skin crawl. Happens to me

      • A says:

        Hmm our lives are different and we are different people…
        Your personal reflection will not be mine

      • Sweetcheeks says:

        Sure 🙂

    • Anon says:

      What happens when you get older and inevitably wrinkly? Does that mean you’re no longer worthy of being wanted? We’re all gunna get old. I hope people don’t puke at the site of me when I’m in my 50s 😢

      • Anonymous says:

        Maybe if you have enough self-confidence when you’re old, you won’t feel the need to chase girls decades younger than you and their taunts won’t bother you. And maybe if you don’t become an entitled old bag, you won’t get angry and bitter when girls don’t feel attracted to your shrivelled up self. good luck!

    • j says:

      I notice i replied to 3 things and they all got censored, none of them violated the guidelines.

  8. Anonymous says:

    Oh, that’s interesting, what is ‘vibeing’ **sp

  9. UncleCracker says:

    Premium FREE and loving it. No longer will I support this place and give my money. Sa has allowed it to turn in to what it has become, a DISASTER! When I read all the posts from my fellow brothers who feel the same it saddens me that the playground has become contaminated as it has. I wait for the say that SA is gone. Then another can takes its place and hopefully be good for a few years also.

  10. Filtersrus says:

    Wow, at 58 yrs old, I was just given a lecture as to what a traditional SD/SB relationship was by a 20 yr old.

  11. Disme says:

    What on earth does this mean I see it a lot on profiles now..
    “call me, beep me and pay me”..wtf ??

    • Filtersrus says:

      Basically they are wanting pay for playtime. Report and move on

    • Mike says:

      All these women want to Vibe now and get paid for Vibeing.

      • Anonymous says:

        You guys sound like such old fogeys 😂😂

      • Mike says:

        You sound like a clueless idiot who doesn’t know how to appeal to the person with the money that you need. We don’t need to do this but you need us to.

      • Anonymous says:

        I’m not joined to SA because I don’t need a saggy old man’s money haha I just stumbled upon this blog to find some grandad’s trying to use young people’s terminology 😂😂

    • Mike says:

      All of these young women who think that it’s all about them are not getting anything from me. If they have their tongue hanging out and their torn jeans and their all about me attitude I pass them by. Learn to provide value if you want the money. Most women on here drop off with nothing.

  12. Hungry for a real woman says:

    The complexity of being a sugar daddy in today’s dating climate is causing me to completely isolate myself . What was once a stress free way of enjoying a females’ is company is morphing into a chore.

  13. Tim says:

    All profiles should require at least one face shot with no makeup. I don’t care how great a makeup artist a woman is, I care about her underlying beauty. A lot of the little narcissists are as plain as anything.

  14. Michael says:

    What’s with all the new platonics and online only girls? This site seems to be dominated by them now. Apparently lots of guys on here go for that sort of thing. And when they do say they’ll meet they want stupid amounts (ie anything over £0) for a meet and greet, or to make themselves look nice for me.

    • Mike says:

      No SD is looking for Platonic or Online.

      • Mike says:

        These women are deluded. They will last a few weeks and be gone with nothing.

      • Mike says:

        No guy is going to pay them to sit and drink coffee.

      • Jen says:

        My SDs were looking for platonic, so was I. There is something for everyone.

      • Mike says:

        Platonic is more like nothing for anyone, not something for everyone.

      • Jen says:

        And yet my past SDs and I were satisfied with our platonic arrangement. I got support through university and they had company for certain events.

      • Anonymous says:

        Jen nothing wrong with someone looking for platonic as long as they state that in their profile that is what their looking for if someone is not looking for platonic they can skip over to the next profile and not waste time on that profile

      • Jen says:

        I agree but Mike and some other men seem to have a problem with the fact that SA gives the option of platonic… A bit entitled and rapey if you ask me

      • Anonymous says:

        yes most men don’t want platonic but if you or others can find that kind of relationship no harm in that you just do you if other commenters have a problem with that this is their problem not yours

      • Mike says:

        Entitled and rapey! Really? Man hating feminist SJW. Get the fuck out.

      • Mike says:

        Some guys are cuckleberries and will settle for anything.

      • Mike says:

        You want all of the money but don’t want to deliver all of the relationship.

      • Jen says:

        My SDs weren’t cucks. One was married, had permission from his wife as he would get bored when in town on business so I met him in evenings he was free. And the other just wanted a +1 for special events as he’d no time for a gf that he could take. Neither “settled”, they knew what they were after- pretty + good company. And like it or not Mike, that is what I am ☺️

    • Tim says:

      Platonics shouldn’t come up in default search results. If Seeking doesn’t deal with it I suspect SDs that are sick of it will look to other SD sites.

    • Mike says:

      Platonic is not a sugar baby, it’s a companion and gets a much lower rate. Why would I pay sugar baby rates to get less of a relationship than her boy friend got who didn’t provide for her?

  15. Tim says:

    If a SD is paying hundreds of dollars per week he should expect a SB that treats him like a god and wants to empty his ball sack at every opportunity. Anything less than that is a bad deal.

  16. Tim says:

    Alpha phucs, beta bucks.
    Being a sugar daddy is presented as being in a position of power, it is not, the woman calls the shots. A sugar baby has the same opinion as a prostitute, you are just a walking wallet.

  17. Tim says:

    Imprisoned serial killers get a lot more positive female attention than most men, they call it hybristophilia. Men that bully or harm others to get what they want actually generate a lot of female attraction, women would never admit it though.

    • Mike says:

      Charlie Manson got married in prison but an ordinary dude with a good job in computers can’t get a girlfriend.

      • Tim says:

        Haha, so true! Sergey Tkach a police officer that raped and murdered over 30 women and girls fathered a child with a woman he married 40 years younger than himself during conjugal visits.
        The guy with a good job in computers is often the most suitable man to be a father yet often has to meet an asian woman or an ugly white woman if he wants a family after being an incel for many years.

      • Tim says:

        All through history the best killers aka warriors/chiefs were also likely to be wealthy, these are the men women are genetically programmed to be attracted to. Nowdays the only men that can be violent or truly alpha are career criminals, many of whom have attractive women. Middle class computer programmers/engineers earning $150k before tax are neither wealthy enough (or stupid enough) to engage in conspicuous consumption, which is how women usually judge wealth.

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        It appears you’re batting out of your league, Sir.

  18. Dadgoogy says:

    How many hours will I have to wait for to be able to send messages after spam limit ban.

  19. Sweetcheeks says:

    Update: Dave-Mike is now operating under the handle Tim.
    For those of you who don’t know, Dave-Mike et al., is an anti-semitic, racist, misogynist who preys on young, financially desperate girls for sex (see his past comments for proof).

  20. Tim says:

    Criticizing the enemies of stable families, white babies and everything else that is wholesome and good is hate speech!

  21. Tim says:

    1819: 40 year old male with stable income marries 18 year old virgin bride.
    2019: 40 year old white male sponsors SB, SB tries to even avoid intercourse, SB uses money to pay the rent where she and her non White “bad boy” tattooed unemployed boyfriend live.

    • Anonymous says:

      I think it would be better for you to save money and start sponsoring studies for the invention of a time machine. Maybe you don’t belong here.

  22. Tim says:

    Hate speech is the cornerstone of the Jewish elites.

  23. Tim says:

    The Jews and their media destroyed Western women.

  24. Mike says:

    Where has our wonderful moderator gone?

  25. Anonymous says:

    Bye, Dave 😂

  26. Anonymous says:

    I will miss reading Dave and Mike’s comments. I say this without any hint of sarcasm.

  27. Sassy says:

    Bye, Dave 😂

  28. SD with open eyes says:

    Is it against community guidelines to post under multiple handles to support or argue with oneself?

  29. Anonymous says:

    Due to how this site is run and bugs galore….i am never ever paying for this site again..

  30. Anonymous says:

    i hope they change the blog topic soon this is getting boring

  31. Anonymous says:

    i noticed my comments got deleted…this site is run by women thats probably why and that is against freedom of speech, there was nothing in my comments that was offensive ..men do not have a chance as everything has to be what women want

    • SA_Admin says:

      Many comments are not being approved as they are not on-topic. This is not a violation of your freedom of speech, as the owners of this blog we have the right to moderate it as we see fit. Also, you do not know my gender, nor will I tell you what it is. I work on a team equally made up of both men & women, who all worked on and approved these guidelines.

    • Mike says:

      Only comments by men get deleted. The woman can rage all they like.

    • A says:

      Actually, i’m a woman and a lot of my comments have been deleted as well.

  32. yougottabekiddingme says:

    I would like to recommend the following blog topics:

    •My Sugar Life Sucks

    •My Actual Life Sucks

    •Why, Mom?!

    •Platonic Sugar and Other Mutations of the Bubonic Plague

    &

    •Cha-Ching! The Pavlovian Bell(e) of Sugar

    Thank you for considering.

  33. Sweetcheeks says:

    Why is Mike’s comments not being moderated? He is trying to dictate how the blog should be in one comment, swearing in another. Nothing is being done, so what’s the point of having these guideline?

    • SA_Admin says:

      Sweetcheeks, technically I only work Monday-Fridays. I had a feeling I should make sure things weren’t falling apart over here though, so I am taking my personal time right now to do this. Please be patient with us. Also, profanity isn’t against the guidelines – unless it’s used as part of a personal attack, harassment, discrimination, etc.

      • Sweetcheeks says:

        Moderator, can’t you see there’s a gender war going on here??? You can’t just have the weekend off! I’m only kidding You deserve a break. Maybe you should just ban the misogynists on here so the blog would be a lot more pleasant and you wouldn’t have to take time out of your weekend to moderate it.

    • Mike says:

      Men who point out things that the women are doing are called misogynists as if the women never do anything bad and it’s all just bad men.

  34. Charlixcv says:

    For anyone discouraged by what’s on the site don’t be. Many dating sites are the same I’ve heard, this one is just more open about the money part. Personally if you’re young, sweet and nice and for the man if you’re just a good guy then there’s nothing to worry about. 95% of people I’ve met from here even if it didn’t go further were really nice men. And would have made great sds to some other girl. The men I’ve met also have had and met great girls. So the feedback on here seems like it comes from a small percentage of unfortunate people, or those who choose to dwell on the negative
    Your experience is not experienced across the whole site by majority of men, if so it seems they get over it easily. I rarely hear bad stories from sds, and it was getting so tedious seeing the boring comments so unrelated to the articles

    Everyone forgets this site works because of both the males and females. Not one or the other but both. I’d like to shed light for both sd and sb. I’m young and to some sd a perfect sb. But none of you ever talk about good stuff, it’s all dark and intense in these comments.
    Charli, 18, London

  35. Jess says:

    Don’t think they care Mike nor does anyone else. You men on this thread probably make up less than a percent of the men on the site. Your $3000 isn’t much of a loss to them
    There are plenty more men on the site, just walk away. Admin team won’t lose any sleep 🙂

    • Mike says:

      Men who have $$$ to spend on a monthly allowance are only 1% of the population.

      • Jess says:

        They’re really not
        That’s majority of the men messaging me.

      • Jess says:

        I don’t know where you get your stats from. But as I said if you’re young and good looking and nice then the offers are great. I didn’t even know men offered less than $$$ that’s quite sad for whoever has been offered that

      • Mike says:

        It’s not hard to look up. Your offers don’t reflect reality.

      • Jess says:

        Apparently you’re one of these men and yet you are the only one on this thread complaining
        As I said there are plenty on men on the site, decent ones at that
        Your $3000 won’t be missed

      • KidA says:

        From that, I guess you aren’t one of them. I suggest eHarmony.

    • Mike says:

      Income over $250,000 is the top 5% and of those only a very few are men who want a sugar baby. You are confusing offers with money in hand. You are getting teasers from guys who want to lure you in.

      • Mike says:

        If you look at the top cities the top 5% of household income is about $500,000. That often includes married couples with two incomes. A guy with over $3000 to spend on a monthly allowance is rare and but the number of women wanting it is huge.

      • Mike says:

        Women don’t check how many men in their area have money to spend, they think that it’s unlimited, but what’s really unlimited are the women desperate to have their bills paid.

      • Jess says:

        Mike you’re talking, as we say in the UK, utter bollocks
        Like I said before, and it’s simple to understand
        If you’re not young, hot and simply a nice human being (v important)
        Then, yes expect the low offers the women you speak to get
        It’s that simple
        Experiences that are better than yours don’t mean they’re a false reality
        Or an example of men ’luring’
        Once you start to realise people on here have greater experiences on SA then who knows maybe you’ll stop going on like everyone has this horrible experience you do

      • Mike says:

        If you live in London then your experience will be very different from most of the women on here. I’ve been doing this for 10 years. I have so many women who are desperate for money coming after me.

      • Mike says:

        There are very many men who have been complaining on here.

      • Mike says:

        most of the women on here are not hot and they are not nice, they are money grubbing mooches.

      • James says:

        Supply and demand. Its nothing more than a market. Men on here that are the true 1%, lets say income 50k or more per month, or net worth 5m or more, very rare in the world, and especially rarer if they are good looking and tall.

    • Mike says:

      You comment doesn’t even make sense. Just because you are getting good offers doesn’t change the fact the men with money for an allowance are in the top income bracket.

  36. Mike says:

    You have forgot who your paying customers are. It’s not you gotta be or the money for nothing girls or the newbies. It’s us guys. And we don’t care about your guidelines or your blogs. I like the comments from the regulars.

    • Mike says:

      I have paid $600 in fees in the last 6 months and donated $3000 a month to real sugar babies. So keep it how I like it or I will walk away.

    • Anonymouse says:

      $90 a month doesn’t entitle you to be disrespectful.

      It’s a big internet and I’m sure that you can find a place to share your complaints.

      • Anonymous says:

        actually there is no place for a man to complain but i agree $90 a month doesn’t entitle anyone to be disrespectful name calling is not necessary to get a point across

      • Mike says:

        My complaints are about things that on SA and how is point out real things that happen disrespectful?

      • Anonymous says:

        mike there are bad things happening on the site but complaining about them on here won’t change anything you can vote with your wallet also you can go offsite it’s not that hard to meet a woman if you have money plus you don’t have to pay a allowance then

    • SA_Admin says:

      Mike, if you don’t care about the guidelines and won’t abide by them, then the easy fix here is to just ban you from the blog’s comment section.

  37. pat says:

    Please moderate the comments as much as you can, as some comments in the past have really put a lot of people off on the idea of joining the site.

    • SA_Admin says:

      We’re sorry to hear that – we saw that things were getting out of hand, so with this post & from here on out – creating a moderated, on-topic comment section for meaningful discussion, where everyone feels welcome, is our goal!

      • Filtersrus says:

        I think what Pat is asking here is to moderate the previous thread for content, and I would agree. You can wipe it without banning since the content was ” pretty community guidelines “. The longer it stays up, the more it shines like a beacon to dissuade others from joining in the conversation. Just my .02

      • SA_Admin says:

        Dear Filtersrus, while I would love nothing more than to wipe that previous post clean – moderating isn’t my only responsibility at SA – and going through 730+ comments at this point is something that we simply don’t have the time to do, so we decided to start fresh & move forward here. Maybe one day when we do have the time that will be something we do, because you’re right, some of the stuff there is just not good.

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        @Filtersrus

        Meh, it’s not flattery. It’s called the building isn’t actually burning down, so no need for wailing and arm flailing.

      • Filtersrus says:

        Rome was built one brick at a time, and I misspoke. I really meant ALL the previous threads (some of which might be easier to tackle) the most recent is just the most egregious..😇😇

  38. Anonymous says:

    Thank you!! About timw!

  39. Nitemaresd says:

    These Community Guidelines make me think of the question , “How can I find comments in chronological order?” Because they can be left anywhere on any article page at any time, there is no way to find new things. Also, how about being able to follow chronologically each thread of replies to one particular comment, so it’s coherent and not jumping from one thing to another?

    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      @Nitemaresd

      Under a previous interface, blog comments used to appear in a chronological order. I find the current layout difficult to follow as well. I think the idea was for the most recent posts to appear first. However, if I am just coming into a blog topic, I generally scroll to the bottom, and try to get cohesive context as I read up. It’s not been particularly practical, in my experience.

  40. yougottabekiddingme says:

    SA_Admin,

    Thank you for you attention to the blog community, and for your intention with the community guidelines.

    Im thinking it could also be helpful to include an asterisked reference and link to the blog guidelines at the close of each new blog topic: “***Click here to review our Community Guidelines before posting.***” Or something like that, so that new and past posters are aware of the guidelines, and so that all are aware with each new posted topic.

    • Filtersrus says:

      From what I have seen with SAdmins recent responses here, it would appear rich HTML text doesn’t translate to an actual link. Or are you referring to a line of verbiage that is part of the backbone of the actual page??? If so, not a bad idea, not bad at all 😁😁

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        @Filtersrus

        Yeah, maybe as backbone as part of the page, though am not sure what that would look like. Am not especially tech savvy, but what I imagine is a hyperlink to this blog that can be embedded into each new blog topic. There have been some posts from SA_Admin that instructed, “click here,” though I was not able to see any link on my end. Not sure if it appears in the desktop interface. O did notice that there was mention of the posting of links in the guidelines, which I thought was interesting because posts with links have been moderated out for some time now.

      • Filtersrus says:

        I thought it odd that the admin in their posts were giving a supposed Click Here link that was dead as a doornail. Now I learned something. Fancy that 🤯🤯

      • SA_Admin says:

        Oops, sorry I didn’t know it wasn’t working! I am slightly new to this moderation platform, I’ll be sure to publish the actual links & URLs in the future.

      • Sassy says:

        There was one that I saw that said click here and it didn’t look like a hyperlink but it did actually work.

  41. Dan says:

    This “platonic” thing is going to bring SA down. Every other girl here is about not offering anything physical but ready to talk and give company. I’m sure 99% of men here are looking for a lover and not a counselor.

    • SA_Admin says:

      Per item 10 of these guidelines, please keep your comments on topic. This post is simply about the blog’s comment guidelines, not SA’s website or its terms of use.

    • Anonymous says:

      I’m sure Dan meant to write:

      This “Community Guidelines” thing is going to bring this blog down, just like how every other girl here not offering anything physical but ready to talk and give company’s going to bring SA down. I’m sure 99% of men on SA are looking for a lover and not a counselor, while 99% of commentators are looking to say whatever is on their mind at the moment, not just something about the blog topic.

      • SA_Admin says:

        Like we have mentioned above, this blog is not a personal soapbox and it is meant for conversations about the posts. There is good reason for this. For example, the Tips for Dating Safely post is absolutely overrun (over 730 comments) with off-topic comments, personal attacks, discrimination, trolling and gender bias – so anyone who is truly interested or has a question about safety may feel completely unwelcome to leave a comment, or they see that the comments aren’t about safety – so again, they decide not to leave a comment and get their question answered. That is what we are trying to prevent.

      • SA_Admin says:

        And sure enough, we had someone contact us today about wanting to make a comment/ask a question in that post about safety, but didn’t feel comfortable because of what is occurring in that comment section. That is simply unacceptable and exactly why we published these guidelines & will be moderating much more intensely. We would hope that SA members would agree that this it unacceptable that the conversation led someone to feel uncomfortable enough to not post their legitimate comment/question about safety, and work with us to make sure that never happens again.

      • @SA_Admin says:

        If you made people use their SA screen name here, with the threat of ban on SA also, this problem would clear up fast

  42. Nitemaresd says:

    I can’t think of a comment worth making that wouldn’t violate the Guidelines.

  43. Mike says:

    SA Admin is going to be busy deleting comments. He’ll be singing that song “Up all night, staying up all night.”

  44. Mike says:

    They should rename SA to Plenty of Catfish

    • SA_Admin says:

      Per item 10 above, please stay on-topic. This post is about the Community Guidelines of the blog’s comment section.

      • Mike says:

        What ever

      • SA_Admin says:

        We are being courteous by letting you know now what will/won’t be approved here now in the blog’s comment section and expect members to be courteous as well, we have such confidence in our wonderful member base that we think we can easily all hold ourselves to this higher standard. But if you’d rather, we can just ban you from the blog comment section altogether.

    • A says:

      Arrangements don’t have to be s*xual; it is for the individuals involved to decide whether it is or not. Either way, SA allows it’s users to make that choice for themselves by having different features. If it were strictly a site for people to meet and have s*x, then it would just be another escort site.

  45. Sweetcheeks says:

    Very glad to see the comments sections of the blog will be moderated. There were some really nasty and actually concerning comments, from two individuals in particular, who were making this place a very unpleasant for SBs reading the blogs/comments.

    • Filtersrus says:

      And here you go starting off the comments that you complain about. I am reminded of “physician heal thyself “. SMH

    • Filtersrus says:

      What part of Guideline number 5 was not understood?? Insulting name calling referencing one’s alleged sexual status is just as bad as what you complain about

    • Mike says:

      Starting out with a nice name calling violation. Incel, really? I’ve dated 20 women from here in the last 6 months. I have 15 texting me asking for another date. Anything that I write is about the grief that I went through to find the ones with dating.

      • SA_Admin says:

        The original comment has been moderated and words that violated the guidelines removed.

      • SA_Admin says:

        Okay everyone, now that the comment has been moderated, let’s keep the rest of the comments on-topic – they will be removed if they aren’t.

    • SA_Admin says:

      Dear Sweetcheeks, thank you for your feedback! Unfortunately I do have to remove one word from your comment because it violates the guidelines, I hope you understand. We just want to keep it totally civil in this space.

  46. Filtersrus says:

    I am going to toss another suggestion at you. Have a blog post about what features or feature improvements your members might like to see

    • Anonymous says:

      that is a good ideal but maybe we just need a chat room few people talk about the subject on the post

      • SA_Admin says:

        We’re always open to hearing what you’d like to see talked about on the blogs, as long as it doesn’t steer conversation way off-topic. Thank you Filtersrus for the suggestion! I have it entered into our blog pitches.

      • Anonymous says:

        i would like to hear what members think would make a arrangement better a lot of talk about bags and travel and that is good but what about the length of the arrangement that is ideal or does it matter what style laid back or very active everyone has different tastes but it would be interesting to find out what people prefer

      • SA_Admin says:

        That’s another great idea, thank you! I’ve written it down for our blog pitches.

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        @Filtersrus

        “Have a blog post about what features or feature improvements your members might like to see.”

        I agree! I imagine that SA isbusing data analytics and executive consulting to inform their decisions about features and feature improvements. I think there’s much to be gained from the input of members. I hope they’ll consider it!

        @Anonymous

        “I would like to hear what members think would make an arrangement better.”

        Same!

      • Filtersrus says:

        @yougotta aw shucks.. kicking grain of sand… flattery will get you everywhere. I tend to think that as user friendly as the site can be made, the more likely users, including female users would be more willing to buy premium memberships. Where that ties into this blog, is that if community guidelines can be fashioned here to clean up this blog, there HAS to a way to do similar on the main platform.

  47. Filtersrus says:

    First!!!!! Thank you for clarification of what is and is not allowed on these blogs. Hopefully you will be open to suggestions as to other areas you may not have considered

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