You put together an amazing profile that is bringing you tons of emails per day. What do you do now? Do you spend hours each day reading messages, looking up profiles and answering all of your messages? NO! So, how do you sort out the emails that just seem to pile up as the days go by? And most importantly, how do you guess which POT is going to be a better investment?
Here are my top 10 TIPS for you to navigate your message inbox. Good luck!
TIP #1. Delete all messages that have zero words.
No introduction? Why should you answer? Just like many other dating sites, the faux pas of sending a “hey” or equally bleak message should let you know that this person is not worth your time. With our site, when someone messages you with a “Request to View Your Private Pictures,” this can feel the same, but it may just indicate a busy Daddy or someone who doesn’t quite know how to flirt. So give them the benefit of the doubt, send them a message (before sharing your photos) and see if they reply!
TIP #2. Stop messaging if they don’t respond.
You are on a Sugar site to find a Sugar Daddy/Baby. What in the world are you doing engaging with people who do not respond?! There are zero reasons to speak to any person on this site that does not give you the time of day.
If a Sugar Daddy is not responding, he may not have a premium membership. In order to see if the member you are writing to is a paid member, you will need to upgrade your account. You can read more about the benefits of a premium here.
TIP #3. Escort & Prostitution Emails
Any man who is outright asking you to exchange sex for money is looking for a prostitute and not for a Sugar Babe. Report these profiles immediately and block them. Our community is about connecting successful and wealthy men with attractive and usually younger Sugar Babes who are considering support, in order to achieve their financial and business goals. Seeking is not about facilitating prostitution and it is not an escort service. These men are in violation of the service agreement.
TIP #4. Abusive Messages
Any message that tries to shame you, that tries to be mean to you, that says mean things to you, and ANY message that is rude in any way, REPORT it. Many men are on the site looking to insult women because they are just mentally ill, sick individuals. Remember that some stranger’s verbal abuse on the Internet is nothing more than a coward hiding behind a screen. Their negative words have nothing to do with who you are as a human being and everything to do with who they are: abusive losers.
TIP #5. Requests for an Immediate Phone Call
Any message that includes a phone number and is asking you to text and call them immediately, might deserve you taking a deep breath and keep the conversation ON THE SITE longer, just to make sure this isn’t some strange creep who cannot afford their membership. Remember, these are strangers. You do not know who you’re giving your number to. (Talkatone is an app that will give you a free burner phone. Protect your identity until the man has earned your trust. Don’t be naive. Be cautious at all times.)
TIP #6. Nice, Polite Messages
A message that has a nice tone, that has a nice introduction, that shows that they read your profile, and is engaging you into nice and polite conversation, deserves for you to take a look at their profile. Up until this point, all prior messages need to be reported, deleted, and blocked. When you finally receive a nice message, take the time to consider this POT. If his profile confirms that he is looking at what you’re looking for, then, consider sending him a message back. Before getting off the site, make sure to ask plenty of questions to make sure that you both are a good match.
TIP #7. Verified and Background Checked Profiles
Always give priority to messages with men who have verified their background, are Diamond members, and who have been part of the community for many years. These men might be experienced SDs, who know how to properly treat an SB.
TIP #8. Be prepared with your Q&As.
Have a set of questions ready and a set of pre-thought out answers before you start answering any of your messages? Ask what types of dates they’re looking for. Ask what types of financial compensation they’re willing to provide. Ask their SD experience. Ask as much information as you want, to feel comfortable, BEFORE giving your number out. Keep the conversation as long as possible on the site. This will ensure that you have evidence of your conversations and you will let the man know that you don’t just go around giving out your number to any stranger. Also, have the answers prepared. This will also help you save time by copy and pasting, instead of having to type the same questions and the same answers over and over again.
TIP #9. You Want What You Want
Make sure that your age preferences, ethnic preferences, religious preferences, married or not married, etc. Make sure that your entire profile is filled out correctly so that these men know upfront that you’re NOT looking for married men, for men over 30, etc. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU STATING YOUR PREFERENCES. Men do this all of the time on their profiles. They only like certain types of girls. It is important that you check their profiles for their specifications, to make sure that you’re only answering men who fit your search criteria.
Another benefit of having a premium membership is searching based on your specific taste and criteria. For example, with a premium profile, you can search for specific profile text, see if they are premium (and can reply), their body type, net worth, and much more. So make sure you state on your profile what you want, and then you can search for it too!
TIP #10. Have a FaceTime before your first date, if you can.
If you receive a message from a POT that you like, he is a Premium member, and his profile looks great, the next step is to set up a date. I strongly suggest that you schedule a FaceTime call before you leave your house to go and meet him. By doing this, you are able to take a look at who you will be meeting and make sure that he looks like who he says he is. I don’t suggest that you go out into dates blindly. With a FaceTime call, you can take a look at their house in the background, their car, their office, etc. They will have a chance to see you and you will have a chance to get a good or bad “vibe” from the man that you’re looking at.
Use these tips and limit the number of time wasters you meet. Of course, it can be fun to have a bad date or two. But no more than that. If you have any tips you want to share, please leave them in the comments below. Now, go forth and sugar!