Here’s the scenario: you really like your new POT, you’ve been on multiple dates, and you’re ready to bring them back to your place. The inevitable question of hosting comes up in every Sugar Daters’ life at some point or another. Here, you’ll find some pros and cons to hosting.
So, why is hosting preferred by both newbie and mature Sugar Daters? This is an easy one, the convenience of it all. There’s no traveling required, and you’re in a comfortable, safe environment.
Besides the convenience of it, you’re showing your POT a new, different side to yourself. Bringing someone into your personal space is a big step, and it shows more of your personality.
While it is convenient to host, there are some cons. Neighbors are nosy, and a lot of people value privacy. Having POTs in and out might draw unnecessary attention that some of us don’t want.
Then there’s the obvious issue, your POT now knows where you live… While this may not be an immediate issue, if the arrangement ends on a sour note, there is potential for stalking or unpleasant confrontations. Of course, this isn’t as common, but being aware of possible issues will help you determine your best decision.
Whether or not you choose to host, you should never feel pressured to do something you’re uncomfortable with. Bringing someone into your home is a big decision, and should not be taken lightly. Sugar relationships are all about finding a comfortable, mutually beneficial situation so keep this in mind when deciding if it’s time to bring home your POT.
The Sugar Bowl has millions of people around the planet, participating in this lifestyle. There is no need for a Sugar Dater to be shamed or made to feel guilty over their boundaries or preferences. If they are someone who hosts and likes that lifestyle, that is their choice. If someone else doesn’t believe in offering that option, then that person deserves the same amount of respect.
The Sugar world is best enjoyed when two mature and healthy adults find a great match in similar needs and equal expectations. This lifestyle is about finding mutually beneficial and equally matched needs and wants. There is nothing wrong with hosting. There is nothing wrong with not hosting. The choice is ultimately up to the Sugar, just as all choices are in a relationship. Find a POT who shares your views, wishes, and desires.
Trying to change your preferences or forcing yourself into a situation that you’re uncomfortable with, will lead to unhappiness for you both. Make choices that boost your happiness. Happy sugaring everyone!