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Report & Avoid Online Dating Scams


Online scammers abound: They’re hiding out in your email inbox, in ads on your favorite websites and even sliding into your DMs on online dating websites and apps. By far the largest team at SeekingArrangement.com, Customer Support works diligently to filter out users breaking our Terms of Service. We sat down with SA’s Head of Fraud Investigation to learn about the most common scams in the online dating world.


Personally Identifying Information

Scammers love personally identifying information. From your address and bank account number to your phone number or even your full name, scammers can turn seemingly innocuous details into gold mines. Wait until trust is established with a POT to give out basic personally identifying information or maintain privacy using services like Google Voice, WhatsApp, or Hushed.


Too Good to Be True

If it’s too good to be true, it’s probably not true! Potential partners offering or requesting money before meeting are most likely a scam. Requests for emergency funds due to wild circumstances (e.g., “my car broke down, and my phone AND laptop were simultaneously struck by lightning!”) or offers to “send $10,000.00 provided you just wire a measly $1000.00 to my bank account in return” seem like scams because they probably are!


Reportable Offenses

Listing phone numbers and asking for money up front in a profile are both examples of reportable offenses on SeekingArrangement.com. While SA’s customer support team works diligently to remove offenders before they even make it to the live site, users can help make the Sugar Bowl a safer place to play by reporting users with bad intentions. Below is a list of guidelines for reporting on SeekingArrangement.com.


  • Use the most accurate “report reason.”
  • Don’t falsify reports.
  • Don’t report the same account multiple times.
  • If you are violating the terms of service and report someone else for violating the terms of service … it’s likely you’ll be booted as well!
  • If someone is annoying you but not breaking Terms of Service, block, don’t report!


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53 Responses to “Report & Avoid Online Dating Scams”

  1. MH Nguyen says:

    I swear the media makes seeking arrangement sound too fancy! First two meet and greets? Ended up in Tim Hortons 😓😒 and fat burger! The last few I spoke too? Before even asking my name or nationality? All morons hound for was bank information. Right when I said no? Either blocked me or nagged me for days. I don’t even trust family with pw’s why would I trust a total stranger? This other idiot wanted my online banking pw so he can “ deposit my money faster through the deposit cheque”function . Ha! I’m not stupid . Another idiot wanted me to buy him some gift cards and send it to him? He’d reimburse me later. Haha if u so rich biotch why aren’t you buying your own gift cards?? 😒😫

    I’m not ugly why am I attracting weridos

  2. Anonymous says:

    somethingsweetxoxo is selling videos collecting on Casado but not sending anything

  3. NoName says:

    i haven’t been on this site that long but a sugar momma told me she would give me 300 a day for allowance she then asked me for my routing and bank account information i asked why she couldn’t send it through paypal and she told me because she was sending a check. so there’s sugar daddies and mommas that need to make sugar babies accounts instead of trying to scam people out of their money.. if they can’t send the money through paypal or any other way without your bank info it’s safe to say they’re scammers google check their numbers because they’re using app numbers as well

  4. Rayel says:

    I talked to a SD and gave him my phone number to talk. He called me and when I called him back I got a message that said “call voice is trying to connect your call please say your first name”. I have never received anything like that before and the area code is in the states. He now wants my phone information so he can pay my phone bill and order me a new iPhone X. Which my phone is an Android. I have not given him any information because I think he is a fraud. Has anyone else had this happen? If so, how did it go? TIA

    • NoName says:

      happened to me i’m guessing the only real sugar daddies and mommas are diamon members because anything less seems to be scammers

  5. pi says:

    Why are all the sugarbabes really hot? Just signed up and I’ve got favourited by two 9.5s already. Pity I need to fork out 90 bucks to get back to them. Why aren’t there any ugly ones?

    I’ve got that submarine dive-alert sounding in my head.

  6. I had this guy message me his number. I message him and he asks for pictures of me so I send them and he asked me about myself. I tell him I’m young looking to go back to school and get my degree. He then tells me he wants to pay me $500-$1,000 a week as allowance. Tells me he’s from San Diego also. First he wanted me to set up a bank account and get a debit card then he would send the money. That didn’t work out because of credit issues so he tells me to load $5 on a debit card and download WAVE where I would send $4 to a woman in kenya and then I would receive my allowance. That didn’t work out because it was a prepaid card. He claims he wants to help me out and send me any state I choose but yet he’s making it hard to send me the money. He says he doesn’t send money through western union and he would only send money through a credit union. Am I being scammed?

  7. Anonymous says:

    I’m getting vibes I don’t like from one of my messages. Said he gives 4k a month, and just had a 2yr arrangement that ended, but his account was just made a few days ago (maybe he just didn’t use the site then?) He did text me photos though (don’t worry, I use an app, not my actual number for this), and they look fine. Hasn’t asked for any bank info yet (and I know to never give that out).
    I’m just worried I’ll show up for the meet (in public at a restaurant) and I’ll have been tricked and wasted my time getting there.

  8. Kristen says:

    Kilan is a scam, I’m a young lady from Africa Kenya and I’ve known him for about a year and he never honours his word only to tell you an excuse later, His profile name is Kilan, Ladies be ware of him he acts very modest and it’s all part of his tricks for a way out.

  9. Cat says:

    Not first time, but today I called to the supposed SD, he started with “Honey I’m willing to make you my sugar baby” than he asked of my bank information, of course I used a app phone # and I said another bank that I don’t have and he asked if I have another one, I said why don’t u call me so we can talk a little bit. And he said oh I’m shy about my European accent, I said it’s ok, so he called.. with a African American accent. I was like wait.. your voice do not match with your pict period ? And I said you are a scammer and he Hang up lol.. it’s the 3rd time this happened on SA. And all those buffet guys also, those who wants different lady’s every week! ? Bout delete my profile! Too much BS.

  10. Chris says:

    I have reported many scammers on here and yet to see SA do a damn thing. This site is a joke. All SA cares about is selling you a membership and some type of upgrade crap. Very disappointed with this place as it’s going downhill fast.

  11. Anonymous says:

    Ky L. Ann Arbor stole 300 from me. Went to get chapstick in her car and I saw the money gone.

  12. Xaviar says:

    Don’t forget some of these accounts are set up by police in order to sting you. Be careful.

  13. Annoyed by Scams says:

    Okay, so anonymously, I have to admit; Scam accounts are all I’m really finding. The only person I spoke to thus far as an actual person wouldn’t accept the distance between us to meet up and backed out with no wording. It’s pretty disappointing. However I’ve not left the site. There is always bad apples where good seeds can also be found.

    • Anonymous says:

      I am a young lady in SA Nelinko i have been scammed in this website by old men who supposed to support me.
      This website is like the world , you meet bad and good people but the important its a school to learn from

  14. Mandy says:

    If he can’t even send $50 he’s a scam not me lol

    • Alex74 says:

      An SD refusing to send you money in advance of ever meeting you is not a scam, you have unrealistic expectations.

      • Mandy says:

        It is a scam. You’re living in a fantasy world…and that’s why you’re paying on a site and not getting any results. You’re probably broke.

      • Anonymous says:

        Hes not broke. A man could go broke if he was dumb enough to advance to every fake/filtered pic babe on this site. If you’re real you meet, it’s that simple.

      • Anonymous says:

        Nah he’s probably broke…I know the men on this site aren’t that wealthy but $50 shouldn’t mean anything regardless of the situation lmao. If you have money you prove it, it’s that simple.

    • Anonymous says:

      Looks like Mandy is the one who scams.

    • craig says:

      Oh Mandy, guys please don’t fall for this. I’m afraid that it probably works if people keep trying it

  15. RobertInCT says:

    Once or twice I’ve been asked for money up front and then blocked when I declined. But what’s the deal with “ghosting”? (At least I think that’s the term). Where everything seems to be going swimmingly online. You arrange a meeting to gauge the chemistry. And she doesn’t show and you never hear from her again! I think a lot of young women need lessons about basic etiquette.

    • Eva says:

      Rampant ghosting is the reason why I left the site in the past. It is not just younger SBs who do it, some men who should know better have no problem going ghost.

      It seems like most SD think their time is highly valuable and yet they have no respect for the SB’s time.

  16. Spirit S Angasan says:

    This guy I wqas talking to tried to get me to give him my bank info log in. I was like why he said to pay me, thats not how it works.

  17. Joe Winko says:

    Seeking Arrangement is FULL of scammers! I was having men messaging me saying that they wanted to pay me before they even met me and THEN they were asking me for my ‘bank information’ and when i tell them i don’t have a bank account, they stop talking to me! it’s sick!

    it’s so fucked up that people on the site are trying to scam young people who don’t have any money in the first place! it’s bad to scam anyone, but that’s just really low down 🙁 the site needs to do something about that!

  18. Miffy says:

    I wouldn’t go so far as to say that requesting money before meeting is a scam. In arrangements where the sugar baby has to fly out to meet the POT, the POT should be sending money for the flight as well as accommodations before the sb books anything.

    • Mandy says:

      Exactly, why would I go out of my way to meet some random old man off of the internet who doesn’t have any proof of financial credibility without some form of money sent first? If he can’t even send $50 he’s a scam, not me.

      • Alex74 says:

        It is completely unreasonable for you to expect an SD to send you money before you ever meet them. You think you deserve to be compensated simply for existing?

      • Erik Swanson says:

        But SDs have been told never to send money online to someone you haven’t met. It’s a bit of a vicious circle. But yes, there are lots of scammers preying on lonely people. I had a SB I haven’t met just this morning asking me for 700.00 to pay her phone bill.

      • Mandy says:

        Yes. Sb’s are doing YOU men a favor. You guys pay to be on a site, so pay for us to trust you.

      • Anonymous says:

        interesting theory

      • SD RME says:

        Get with the program Alex74. The example Miffy gives for expecting travel expenses up front is reasonable and happens all the time. In fact, if he is a real SD, she doesn’t have to ask for it.
        These little boy chumps are entertaining. Go back to work so when you’re 50, you can REALLY afford a SB, like us adult men.

      • Rick says:

        Here’s my experience with travel expenses. Whenever she wants me to pay her to come see me, I simply offer to come see her. With accumulated miles the tickets will be free, so it’s just hotel for me and dinner for 2.

        It’s amazing how often (always, actually), they don’t like that idea. Much better for me to send them money, etc. Send money seems to be the key here.

        Actually, even if the SB is local, I make the attempt to come to their area to minimize their travel issues.

        If I were a SB, I’d have serious issues about going to a strange city to meet a stranger. Images of kidnapping and rape come to my mind.

    • Annoyed by Scams says:

      I can’t argue with this, I’ve expressed to the SD that if they do not provide the means to get that far, I don’t feel that they are too serious in meeting. Even if it’s just buying lunch… which seems like it shouldn’t even be a request just an obvious.

    • Anonymous says:

      That can be avoided by the POT making the arrangements. I pay for airline tickets and make hotel reservations. I NEVER send $$ for ANY reason — ANY time I have, I’ve been scammed. 100% of the time.

      • Miffy says:

        This is unsafe for the sugar baby, she has the right to make her own arrangements so that she is in control and not at his mercy. Sorry, if you actually have the money to spend on a sugar baby her safety and comfort should be more important than risking what should be pocket change to you.

      • Carmel says:

        I’m ready

    • Anonymous says:

      I agree that perhaps travel money could be arranged. But meeting local for dinner and asking for money to eat and “see how it goes” is a scam. Money should only be given to a sb (not a potential sugar baby). Bc until that is established, she is a mere stranger. I don’t give money to strangers to watch them eat. IMO

      • alternatedating says:


        I don’t meet anyone that I’m not interested in sponsoring. If they’re asking for money to meet for lunch, they’re not my type. It’s evidence that they’re really looking just for money rather than looking for a great sponsor who will provide many multiples of a “lunch allowance.”

    • Alex74 says:

      I would estimate that 99% of the time an SD you have never met suggests you fly somewhere to meet them it is most likely a scam of some sort.