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The Perfect First Message
  • Posted Mar 8, 2016


Crafting a quality first message is an art. Coming up with the perfect amount of information, while maintaining some mystery is the balance you need to secure a date, and hopefully an arrangement. Here are some tips for creating the perfect first message.

Information Overload

One thing you should try to avoid is writing a novel in your first message. Keep it short, sweet, and to the point. Your profile bio is the perfect place to list everything she’s ever wanted to know about you, not your first message. Ideally this should be about 2-3 sentences. An opener, mention what you like about her, and end it with a question or prompt her to respond if she’s interested.

Currency Chat

Your first message is not the place to list amounts or allowances. While some women might like that, most will find it strange that you’re offering her a price when she hasn’t even spoken to you. Sugar Babies are not for sale, so don’t bid on her affection. Use your words and insight to open the line of communication so that conversation can happen later.

Good Grammar

This is your only chance to make a first impression, so leave her thinking you are intelligent and well-mannered. To do that, you’ll need to maintain good grammar. “How r u?” is not a proper message for a woman you’d like to court. At least have the decency to spell your words out.

Detail Oriented

Take the time to (briefly) read her profile. Casually mention something you like about her so she knows it’s a special message you took time to write. Even if it is a copy and pasted message, change out a small detail that will apply to her. Bringing up a small nuance about her will make you seem like as a man who actually cares.

The Perfect Message

So, what is the perfect first message, you ask? Use something like this template if you’re really stuck, and feel free to be creative.

Hello (Her Name),

You seem like the type of woman I’d love to get to know. I’m a sucker for blue eyes like yours. Read my profile and let me know if you’re interested in meeting me, too.



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739 Responses to “The Perfect First Message”

  1. Klaton says:

    Brook Thank You..
    Used the template with a genuine complement about the baby’s picture. Received a positive response “Im willing to give anything a try when you start off the conversation with a compliment” six minutes later.
    It is a magic icebreaker..

  2. bambi#2427 says:

    how can you get more attention to your profile to get a sugar daddy i have been in site for fews days now i still don’t get nothing they look my profile no one answer i messages then no answer

  3. bri says:

    I like a guy to prove he is real by sending money

    • Michail says:

      I am not so sure you will do well if your belief is that someone is not real until sending you money. I believe you will be better off looking at backpage.

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  5. Anonymous says:

    I actually like messages that signal something about the type of arrangement the person is looking for/offering. The one thing that is a big NO for me is when the only thing the person sends is a request to view my private photos, and no other message. That gets no response.

  6. UniversityMichigan says:

    I find a simple message normally receives a response.

    -Introduce myself
    -Name my college, and field of study
    -3 hobbies that may be similar and maybe one that differs to that of a POT

    I always stay away from any form of allowance talk, because that’s not what it should be about. I have to feel a mutual chemistry, and once both baby and POT are comfortable then it would be okay.

    My thoughts.


  7. Sugar Baby says:

    “Above all, to your own self be true.” What about something interesting that happened to you today? Or something you’re looking forward to? I’d like to know those things, the things that make you tick! After a genuine connection here x

  8. Dr. Austin says:

    I disagree with this first message advice other than using proper grammar and spelling. I write a paragraph that exactly outlines what I want, with details and usually include a dollar amount. My arrangements are NSA, no dating activities, I don’t need or want a girl friend. Just a friend to meet occasionally for hot sex and fun over a couple bottles of wine. I’ve had pretty good success my current girl has been seeing me 18 months. I don’t make any small talk over messages, and I never give any personal information. I would say about 1/3 of the girls I message respond positively with interest. In the past 2 1/2 years I’ve met with and had sex with 11 ladies and have had a great time.
    Doc Austin

    • Anonymous says:

      When you say you include a dollar amount, do you state your amount you willing to pay per meeting? or a monthly? I avoid monthly allowances b/c I never know how often will i see them so I usually offer anywhere from 200 to 500 depending on the girl/age/hours spent. Are you directly telling them you just want a sexual arrangement for such and such amount?

      • Dr. Austin says:

        Yes, typically I do, but sometimes I don’t. I also stay away from allowances because I don’t have the time to see a lady weekly, plus it often takes two to three sessions to see if I have interest in continuing. I personally for my needs feel this has worked the best, and I’m usually pretty good at picking out girls open to these types of arrangements. Here is an example of one I sent and most are like this:
        You are certainly an attractive girl. My interest in you were peaked by you being married, in the Plymouth area (not to far), and being somewhat flexible with your schedule. Afternoon meeting times are best for me typically. I’m very busy so typically I would look to meet occasionally 1-2 times per month for 2 or 3 hours each time. I am a laid back humorous guy and love good conversation. Typically we would meet at a hotel, have cocktails and a good relaxed time. Of course, the main purpose of the meetings/dates would be mind blowing hot intimate play. Passionate kissing with the feel of my shoulders being and clawed while we engage in intense intercourse, multiple and changing positions, oral both ways, integration of sex toys, role playing, a little kink, and sensual massages. So, I look for a girl that is very sexual and will be into it every bit as much as I am. Still, I treat her like my private princess and truly enjoy each others company on a personal level, not just sex. Each meeting I contribute $200. If there is any interest we can talk further. Doc Austin

        I usually offer $200-300 and have found plenty of ladies interested in that amount from all age ranges. The biggest problem I have in working out an arrangement is logistics of our schedules. I am limited with my schedule, and can’t do any weekends and rarely anything after 6:00. Plus, they need to be a certain distance from me. More arrangements have never happened just because of scheduling.

      • Anonymous says:

        Nice, you seem to be outlining all the details. I personally found that if I write a lengthy paragraph especially with that type of content, unless someone is experienced and DTF, it gets ignored, but then again, SA is full of young girls who just sign up having fantasies of some rich man paying off her school loans, car payments, and in return them just hanging out on dates (nothing sexual) So are you personally going for older, married ladies? I found that milfs are ready to come out and play sooner than 18-22 year olds. I also get a lot of interest from out of town but hesitate to commit to them b/c without seeing them in person, you running a risk of a girl showing up at your doorstep looking completely different.

        DO you try to meet them in public first or just arrange a hotel meeting? I live by myself so that is not an issue.

        Can you take a look at my profile and let me know what you think.

        id dj_seventy7


      • Dr. Austin says:

        I try to look for ladies that are mentioning NSA, FWB, ect. The one I copied that message above was a married 26 y.o., things didn’t work out because she had a crazy schedule and wanted to meet up in the mornings. The range I’ve seen is 21 to 38. What I’m looking for

        …My current regular girl is great and she is 25. Like I said, about 1 in 3 respond as being interested. I really look at profiles and try to get a perfect fit………Here is an example of one I Favorited and will contact her down the road: What I’m looking for

        No judgement/No commitment/NSA, just casual fun times and no drama. I don’t want to be your real girlfriend/significant other, but instead be your fun time girl and do all of the things you have been wanting to do but havent been able to. I value everyone’s time and I don’t want to waste it, I am a real person looking for a real arrangement. I understand the circumstances needed by most men and that we all have our own lives outside of this. No, I do not want you to buy me a boat, condo, or Western Union me money LOL! Let’s get a drink and have some fun…
        She maybe a winner, but I’ll see how much money she wants.

  9. Another Anonymous says:

    @ Anonymous

    Yes, correct about domestic MD and educational debt. On the other hand MD degree from Europe shaves off 2 years of time and virtually all educational debt. So a foreign MD at the age of 30 can have no debt and attending salary. Very reasonable start.

    • Anonymous says:

      who gives a shit salt daddy

      you aren’t an MD

      • Anonymous says:

        I think he is really pompous. He might be another MD with an overinflated sense of importance. I can see that actually


    • Another Anonymous says:

      @ Anonymous

      Would you care to test your statement? You bring your troll license, I will bring my licenses and we will see. 🙂

      • Anonymous says:


        Based on his writings, I have long felt that AA is a legit MD and a legit SD. Some of the trolls and escorts pretending to be SB’s simply have no clue about sugar reality.

  10. Rob12550 says:

    I’m seeing responses here on almost everything except the aspect of a “first message”. In the “blog” above on that topic, I see mention of not talking about “currency” during the first message. Well, I take exception to that statement. Many ladies here have a pretty specific idea of what they think they’re worth. I’ll not get into the aspect that some have relatively nothing but debt to present to a potential SD, yet think they’re entitled to “allowances” equating to a six figure annual income. It’s a waste of both the SD & SB time if such discrepancy of perception related to “negotiable” isn’t addressed right up front.

    SA is a “candy store” with many profiles. I’ve met several ladies from here and have not been disappointed, but sorry I had not know what made at least one lady “happy” prior to our meeting. She indeed is worth effectively whatever she wants, but unfortunately I’ve not the ability to provide what I feel would make her happy DESPITE her actually requesting that I contact her to get together anyway. I would feel like I would be holding her back from potentially finding what would make her happy. Some SD’s might be comfortable with that situation for their own desires, but I would feel like the lowest heel if I lead her on. I truly hope she finds someone who could make her enjoy a nice meal as well or better than I did.

    As it is, there’s (unfortunately) plenty more ladies here that are more appropriate to my current situation to potentially choose from. So I’d prefer to deal with clarifying expectations of what the financial arrangements would be as soon as possible so both sides could move forward if they don’t coincide.

  11. TheSensualChristy says:

    Do guys on here prefer girls to send the first message? I get a lot of views on my page and the guys usually just window shop, but when I send the same people that view me, they reply immediately.

    • sd with open eyes says:

      Not particularly. Almost all of the messages I get get sent to the grifter file. Unfortunately, so do almost all of the people who favorite my profile. Having a well written catchy profile is more likely to raise my interest, as well as being cute and having a good sense of style.

      On the other hand, profiles that randomly send me permission to see their private pictures will usually get me to look at their pics. Unfortunately, these pics are usually pretty lame and way less racy than many members use as regular pics.

    • Rob12550 says:

      It depends on whether I see your profile first or you see mine. There’s something sensual about a lady taking control of her own desires.

    • Neicole says:

      I wondered the same thing when I first got on! A lot of views but not as many messages. Are these guys intimidated or shy? Maybe I should fix some of the wording on my profile? I needed answers because it slightly bothered me! lol At one point I was just like “f it i’ll write him, I’m cute and he knows” lol after convincing myself of this; it worked! I write guys who I see view my page multiple times. One time viewers not as much, I compare them to me as i’m reading a novel summery on the back of the book and placing it back on the shelf in Barnes and Nobles.

      Take care!

  12. VirtuousOne says:

    there is no perfect way, just start…. if there is a response, make an effort down the line. don’t sweat it, for the most part there wont be a response. if something won’t caught the attention of the person or a string of mystery one would like to unravel. or a common interests so be sure to fill that profile… don’t leave it empty if you don’t even have the pic. i wont read the responses to this comment, don’t even bother….

  13. Meme says:

    I’m new to the site but received 4 favored me. One commented twice and I answered back with a simple answer, also mentioned we could meet for coffee if he would like. He hasn’t answered back and it’s been a week now. What do I do next?

  14. Another Anonymous says:

    @ Anonymous

    Well a guy making 120k at the age of 30 is probably on the beginning of his earning career. And if now the couple decides to become millionaires instead of chasing the Joneses, then they have a very good chance of making the million. But it will require discipline, patience and living significantly below their means, and those three requirements are usually not typical traits of a SB.

    • Anonymous says:

      A woman who has “the discipline, patience and living significantly below their means,” especially in terms of avoiding keeping up or out-doing her female peers, is as rare as a man who deliberately seeks out ugly girl to marry because she is “a family asset” in terms of staying loyal to him (for lack of better options; no other men would tempt her) and having developed a good personality because she could never use her looks and sexual appeal to get ahead.

      A man making $120k at 30 is in the top 3-5% among his age peers. However, that relative standing can easily deteriorate if that income is from W2 salary. Most of the 30yo making that level (but not more) are likely engineers/specialists in booming industries. That boom can fizzle in a few years. He’d be setting himself up for divorce rape (and setting her up for disappointment) by converting his income to marriage instead of investing properly. Over 10% of households make more than $120k/yr, but only around 1% manage to accumulate a net worth over $1Mil. Marriage, and subsequent disappointment, is a big reason why 90+% of those making $120k/yr never become millionaires.

      • Anonymous says:

        in terms of avoiding keeping up or out-doing her female peers, is as rare as a man who deliberately seeks out ugly girl to marry because she is “a family asset” in terms of staying loyal to him (for lack of better options;

        You really are a shallow small-minded little man.

      • Anonymous says:

        @Anon 1:02pm

        Marrying an ugly woman is not my personal preference. That’s why I’m on SA instead of match.com or eharmony. I can’t care less what the woman sleeps with after I’m done with her.

      • Anonymous says:

        @anon 1:02pm

        Are you trying to say that women commonly avoid competing against peers or men commonly seek out ugly women to marry?

        Both behavior patterns would be very logical for the respective gender but also very much against their own biological instincts.

        In case you are wondering, no I’m not interested in marrying an ugly woman, therefore I don’t expect my women to fully control their vanity . . . therefore I’m not marrying them! That’s why I’m on SA, not on match.com or eHarmony.

    • Another Anonymous says:

      @ Anonymous

      Agree about that rare find of a lady not competing with her friends. As to the guy making 120k at the age of 30, vast proportion of MD residents are exactly at the cusp of making it and having a decent job security and income progress. So a newly minted surgery attending and an ICU RN stand very good chance of becoming millionaires if they want to. But that wanting to will require unuusual level of discipline, you are right.

      • Anonymous says:

        MD residents make on average $40-50k a year while working 80hrs a week. Surgeons require a minimum of 5yrs of residency; that means 5 + 4 + 4 = 13 years, putting the person at (18+13=) 31 years old before any chance of finishing residency. He is not making $120k at 30.

        Even after residency, a newly minted domestic MD nowadays typically has a quarter to a half million dollars of educational debt. He is literally starting off deep in the hole, extending the 20-yr time horizon of becoming a millionaire to 30+ years. He won’t be a millionaire until his 60’s and 70’s.

        The high cost of medical degree in US in recent years has made it unprofitable to pursue a medical degree in the US. If price competition comes in the near future, the older doctors and imported doctors without the huge educational debts may well drive the newly minted domestic MD’s into bankruptcy.

  15. Another Anonymous says:

    @ Chasing billionaires and millionaires

    Those are completely different games. Finding a billionaire is a statistical oddity. Being married to a millionaire is within reach of every lady in her mid 20s, who marries a 30 y/o guy making north of 120k a year.

    • Anonymous says:

      The take-home pay of someone making $120k a year is only about $6k/month. If he stays single and/or lives at his parents’ house, he can become a millionaire in 20 years by saving half his pay check every month. If he gets married, the chance is reduce to near-zero. . . because his wife will first insist on keeping up with the Joneses and her sisters, buying a house near the peak of the market (statistically far more people buy near the peak than near the bottom), pumping out 2 very expensive kids, then divorce him and takes more than half.

      Millionaires make up for about 1% of the population. The cut-off line for top 1% individual income is just over $300k/yr. $120k/yr is below the cut-off line for top 10% for household income, around the cut off line for 5% for individual income.

      Remember, a man in a married household that is worth exactly $1M is at most $500k after divorce, probably much less.

    • Anonymous says:

      James Packer seems like a sucker who could be easily lured/tempted into giving out money for women.

  16. Anonymous says:

    I realize everyone as a whole sees that either on purpose, as a bad sport, or not on purpose while wishing for a wedgie from leotard and a man on his knees delicately moving the leotard aside to impress his oral skills in motion, this space, scarcely reflects a mirror of its former life.

    I had not read any comments for almost 2 weeks until tonight, only to see why it is where it is. At least when one loses interest, we all do. Talk about boring and the excitement is picking there toenail jam in the meantime. Lmao.

    Having exquisite sex with a stranger that can lure, taunt, and fullfil list up desires over a dinner and encompass a slow sultry dynamic of euphoria, certainly capsizes on commenting on a blog any day of the week.

    Where are the sensual stories fellas? Where are the dicking down stories where you toss the female a $2.00 bill at here and tell her to pick it up and beg for your co$k, while you tell her it is freedom?

    There are over 2,000 Billionaires in Forbes 2016 list. Millionaires…I am sure triples or quadruples that number. There are plenty of men in this world that leave no illusion. They actually honor the female physic, pamper th female body, cater to her whims and finally are the ones who with good intentions, spend the weekend to weeks, taking advantage of the persperation sex that drips until the elevator dings, while ignoring the bell hop. And who cares about the cameras on the floor while you freely deliver ever so classically close to porn in a hotel corridor while trying to enter your Penthouse suite. There are very good men (at east once upon a time) on this site that did not penny pinch women and exhausted their sexuality with great pleasure and excitement.

    This must be the hospice ward now where they are working on a pension plan at the ripe old age of 35-50 and feel that raunchy sex or sweet, slow, orgasmic love making will cut into their life alert plan. Only time will tell.

    • Anonymous says:

      Some math to put things into perspective:

      1 billion = 1000 million, not 10 million.

      There are about 2000 billionaires (in terms of US$) in the world. Every year, about 1.3 million people get killed in road crashes in the world; that is, 3200+ people get killed in road crashes everyday in the world. You have a better chance of getting killed in a road crash TODAY than becoming a billionaire in A LIFE TIME. If each billionaire sleeps with 300 people after becoming billionaire (highly inflated assumption, as most billionaires are either married or too old), then you are more likely to be killed in a road crash in a single year than ever sleeping with a billionaire in your life!

      There are about 200,000 people in the world with networth over $30 million each. If each of them sleeps with 300 people after they achieve that level of wealth, (say, 1 or 2 new partners per year for 20 years, do-able level of activities if not tied down in marriage, although the average age of millionaires being 62 might impose physical limit) then the chance for any random person to sleep with one of them at all in a life time is comparable to chance of dying in a road crash (in a life time).

      Locality does matter. Here in the US, about 1% of the population are millionaires. There are 536 billionaires in the US, if spread evenly among 320 million people would mean 0.0001675 billionaire per 100,000. I live in a town of about 80k people, but has 3 billionaires. I have met two of them in private setting (wedding and private party), neither looked or acted any differently from the thousands of millionaires living in town, who in turn are not that much different from people in thousands of other towns that do not have billionaires or only have a few dozen millionaires among the thousands of people living in them.

      • Anonymous says:

        BTW, both of them are happily married for decades, so neither are on the market.

      • Anonymous says:

        Brain fart: 1 or 2 new partners every year for 20 years results in 30, not 300, girls having the opportunity.

      • Anonymous says:

        I never said I was chasing or even trying to chase a billionaire or a millionaire down. I still find it sad that where there is a spark of hope or belief in anything around here, that it is always shot down by statistics and a mindset of “not”. Now I know why I stopped reading. Have a good night.

      • Anonymous says:

        @Anon 5:53pm

        No need to be sad, and statistics was not meant to discourage you from chasing millionaires, which are quite attainable goals. Like I said earlier, in my town of 80k people, there are thousands of millionaires; wouldn’t surprise me if there are over 10,000. In an average American town of 80k people, there is on average close to 1,000 millionaires. If you are good looking and smart, finding that 1% to play with should be achievable, provided you know what you are doing and don’t easily toss away good opportunities; SA has done a decent job of distilling the 1% concentration among general population (0.1-0.3% among the dating population) to around 10-20% of concentration among male members on this site.

        As for chasing the 0.00017% (536 among 320,000,000) who are billionaires, that is a statistical impossibility. Statistics and probability is your friend in helping you setting and achieving goals, part of helping you know what you are doing.

  17. Another Anonymous says:

    @ Anonymous

    Well sure, but it starts to sound like a pure and simple business transaction. No details about each other’s life, just cash and intimacy. Hardly a way to built a long term connection.

    • Anonymous says:

      1. I said I would tell him about my children when he asked.
      2. I would have found out about his job, being married etc soon enough.

      So yes, of course there will be details shared about our life, but not out to see for every stranger who visits my profile.

    • Anonymous says:

      Would you share your name, place, work and other family or personal details to your SB, and if you had a wife?

  18. joe says:

    I totally agree with the grammar part!!! way too many guys think this is teenagers texting each other, when they write things like “How r u?” in the first message (huge turn off!) – or when they simply can’t spell!
    worst than that is when they obviously did not read your profile and by reading yours you can tell that right away- very lame and a waste of your precious time!

  19. Another Anonymous says:

    @ Anonymous

    Of course SBs with children can be here. But we all know that an SB with children will be less available because of duties of motherhood. So the whole prefer not to say sounds like taking the fifth.

    And to say “It is none of your business” is of course possible. But it will become SD’s business very soon, when the SB has to cancel because of her child.

    Overall I view that response as silly. It sure means at least one. It can mean an adorable three y/o or 5 difficult teenagers with five different fathers.

    And lastly how about SD stating that their job, income and assets are nobody’s business. Would you like that? How silly would be a pot SD saying: Marital status – prefer not to say?

    • Anonymous says:

      My SD will not even notice the existence of my children.
      I am organized well and it doesn’t influence my availability to them. I have never canceled a single meeting. So none of my SDs ever had problems with it. Because yes, of course I tell them when they ask straight.
      I am not telling lies about my children, I just prefer to not mention it in my profile, that’s different.

      For SDs stating their profession, income, assets or marital status are nobodies business is fine, as long as they can fulfill their obligations to a SB it is not that important or a dealbreaker. Most SDs are lying anyway.
      But since often money is the most attractive they’ll have to offer, it will bring down their chances a lot.

      “Marital status – prefer not to say” is not an option in the menu.
      I’m sure a lot of people would use it if it was!

    • Anonymous says:

      Well the job, income and assets are nobody’s business too, unless they can’t bring to the table what they promised they would, then it becomes everyone’s problem.

  20. Anonymous says:


    OMG I cannot describe with words that awful God-forsaken thing of a profile.
    Any eagle eyed bloggers here who can detect his name, as he surely likes to wear that name tag and ID in every pic. Guess he ain’t a professor after all. Cannot be! He clearly has a mental illness. I hope he gets help and asks a therapist’s help which he stated he did not want on his profile. Guess he got so many offers to help him.

    • Anonymous says:

      It is a clearly written profile, designed to avoid wasting time for all parties. He probably is a legit professor at a teaching hospital / medical school.

      • Anonymous says:

        I doubt it. I mean he clearly is mentally ill, plus with the stating of no therapists, I wonder how many messages like that he gets. His eyes tell all.

      • Anonymous says:

        “No pseudo therapist” doesn’t mean no therapist. Many legit doctors do harbor antipathy towards chiropractors and psycho-therapists, whose industries are considered by real doctors to have much lower licensing standards.

      • Anonymous says:

        At least he acknowledges SOME therapists.

    • Jaybird923 says:

      I read it and thought this is a man who’s had enough lol I wonder if he thinks wpmen will resd that and think “yeah I should definitely send him a message”

      • rembodler says:

        I think you nailed it, Jay. To get in woman’s panties, one has to be likable. If you are not, you have a much steeper climb, money or not. Talking about lack of fitness…:)).

      • rembodler says:


      • Anonymous says:

        True Rem, that’s what you have, that and charm. Even if you were to do me rough, I would not hate you. In fact, I might like it.

  21. Anonymous says:

    And if you wanted to persue a legitimate sexual relationship, you could?

    Brook Urick: Absolutely. Every relationship is different and some people on the site are looking for platonic relationships only and don’t want to engage in sex and that’s fine.

    Let’s have a drop down so we get rid of this BS. Do I want a platonic arrangement? Yes or No. Do I want an intimate arrangement? Yes or No. Do I want a tranny? No or No

  22. Anonymous says:

    I have found a few good men on SA in my time. They were extremely intelligent, very gentlemanly and even dressed me for the occasion prior to the date, by sending me the outfit I chose. O course, with the man’s insight, approval, suggestion and bias on compromised tastes.

    Good men reside her. They have either Lyle time and are stressed traveling to and fro, or they are close to retiring, well off, and have the ability to enjoy a vacation with their SB. Wen if it is business, they invite their SB to accompany them on their trips.

    I don’t know where and why everyone has become so sour for so long here…But, the best time, sex, and emotional feelings received have come from men here or adjacent sites that SA owns.

    • Anonymous says:

      Here..not “her” and as always, the typical verbal corrections needed in text form.

      This place is a great forum in finding people of all walks of life. Finding the right niche for both parties and appreciating the impact that each one has in theirices. It truly could be just sex. What if that’s what a single mom is missing? Not saying all, just posing a point to ponder.
      What if it is sex for the man? Because his wife or significant other has medical problems or has ail ianated him based on bi-polar issues, medicine, resememt, low sex drive?

      You name it…we are l human. We know the instant when We look in another’s parties eyes I we would mount them so fast that you can go ahead and call the race, we won. It is an unspoken formula. Why would anyone want to downgrade the oasis here and the other sites SA owns? To be-little people is just one blogger saying we’re not impressed by the others looks. Ok, cool. Valid point. But, if a man was wealthy enough…why not invest in looks and a sexually charged woman after you coc*?

      It is done daily. It’s just not posted on this blog.

    • Anonymous says:

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      • Anonymous says:

        Lol, pretty sweet indeed! I wish I was paid by them to tell the truth. Maybe you can put a good word in for me.

        Not lying. I have met oddities and i have met some fine ass men. Still o drool when I think of them. That is life and life on SA as a whole has been good to me.

  23. Another Anonymous says:

    @ Anonymous

    Well we get it, the SB does not want to discuss children. But she still has them, she will very appropriately prioritize them over a SD, so even if she does not talk about them, they are most likely a part of her time management. Sure if SB has children that live on different continent and she has no contact with them, it is different.

    • Anonymous says:

      So what you mean is SB’s with children should not be here, are you getting there or am i just misunderstanding it?

      • sd with open eyes says:

        My own opinion is that if a SB has children then she should prefer to be up front about it. Saying that they “prefer not to say” fools no one and makes them look bad. There’s nothing wrong with having kids, it’s just that some (not all) SD’s will not want the added complications.

      • Anonymous says:

        Prefer not to say is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. That’s basically it. It’s not about fooling anybody, because people who don’t have kids, put it like that. It’s simply not wanting to disclose how many kids you have, or are expecting.

  24. Anonymous says:

    Hands down the best SD profile ever LMAO enjoy ?

  25. Anonymous says:

    Okay, I give up. I am no longer looking for an SB. They can’t be found on SA. I am now officially platonic, rinser, scammer and cam girl baiting 😉 It can be fun, as Ron Weasley said – How stupid can you get?

    • sd with open eyes says:

      Don’t forget that you can screen shot pics of SB’s even if they don’t give you the time of day.

    • Anonymous says:

      Platonics get so excited when they think you are interested, virtual girls jump at virtual allowances, scammers really think you will send an advance to prove you are genuine. So much fun!

    • Anonymous says:

      Why put platonics on the same map with rinsers or scammers? These are totally different things. Platonic arrangements are what two people agree on that would constitute platonic because you’d be surprised how many people interpret that differently and yes, they exist. If they are upfront about not wanting a sexual arrangement, what’s so wrong with that? At least shows they have morals and/or principles they are not willing to break. C’mon

      • Anonymous says:

        If someone puts no intimacy or platonic on their profile I move, if they use weasel words such as nothing serious etc I email and ask if they seeking an platonic arrangement. They get so excited hahaha

      • Anonymous says:

        Some people associate platonic with a BJ only arrangement or a GF/cuddle experience, not just your typical arm candy. It varies from person to person though. The ones not even wanting to meet are the ones who are time wasters.

  26. Anon Baby says:

    Why are my comments being modetated?

  27. sd with open eyes says:

    I wonder how many SB’s realize that when they enter “prefer not to say” about kids then many SD’s will automatically skip their profile no matter how many hoochie-mama pics they put up?

    • Anonymous says:

      Well, I put “prefer not to say”, like many SDs do too. My children have nothing to do with my sugarlife. It’s not my SDs business or problem ?

      • IHF2030 says:

        I don’t get involved with women who have children so it is my business.

      • sd with open eyes says:

        Putting “prefer not to say” for children tells a SD that you do have at least one kid (probably many) and want to pretend to your SD that you don’t have them. I would think that many SD’s would prefer to know that their SB has 5 kids up front rather than being surprised by having dates interrupted by calls by the kids or their baby-daddy(s).

      • Anonymous says:

        My friend, you didn’t get what the anonymous above was trying to say. She said it’s nobody’s business if they have 1,2,3..10 children, they’re simply not willing to discuss about them but don’t want to lie either. People with no kids usually would put no children there.

      • joe says:

        when a SD puts “prefer not to say”, it is NOT because they think it is “none of your business” – not at all. many SDs have told me after I met them that they do that in order to NOT be identified. If they put their profession, age, geographical location, marital status, AND correct number of children, they can more likely be identified. that is the reasoning I heard over and over again, and in each case they told me the truth shortly after I met them – and never lied about it.
        when a SB however says ” prefer not to say”, it clearly means she DOES have children, rather than just say the number or say 0.
        huge difference here, not to be compared.

      • Anonymous says:

        Well maybe then you should always take it that she DOES have and leave it at that.

  28. Ms simple says:

    American ladies of this blog, a question, in the state where I live (DC) every time a guy try to offer his seat to a ladie on the bus they will kindly rejected. Why? I don’t use the bus every day but when I do I have NEVER seen a lady accepting the nice gesture. Can someone give me an idea of why?

    • Anonymous says:

      go take your issues elsewhere, preferably a forum which discusses stuff like that. Here we discuss SUGAR RELATED MATTERS.

  29. Ms simple says:

    Hello hello hello, Is Josh still around?

  30. Another Anonymous says:

    @ anon anon

    Absolutely. Of course men do not deserve sex, but men usually understand that and we are usually willing to put some effort to get it. With the exception of ISIS I cannot thing about a place where men demand sex based on legal mandate. Unfortunately I can think about many places, where men can be deprived of their assets because voters and government think they need them more.

    Btw why don’t you post under your old name?

    • anon anon says:

      Actually family law in most countries awards women with a pretty good parting settlement and in fact a guy was supposed to be able to provide for a wife. Now SD/SB arrangement is something in lieu of marriage, and if he wants a wifey substitute, we want a good level of support for it too :p. No government needs to get involved, no money = no honey. Unless the guy is a scammer, in which case, personally I would probably cry rape or publish the fact he is on SA … …

    • Another Anonymous says:

      The family law from other than Western countries is a very poor place to learn. The custody of the children frequently went to father without any questions, domestic violence against spouses and children was the norm, wifes had much tougher time initiating divorce, it was legally imposibble to charge a man with the rape of his own wife. I doubt people want to go there.

      SD/SB as a substitute for marriage would be a terrible way for custody issues, but from men’s standpoint a “divorce” of a sugar baby is a huge improvement comparing to assets issues in regular divorce.
      In the regular divorce the no honey = no money rule does not apply. At least I have not heard about a divorce where assets split and alimony are contingent to ex-wife providing sex twice a week. 🙂

      And that issues about government was a little different one. Obviously no Western government will order ladies to provide their vaginas and wombs just because men want sex and government wants future citizens. It would be decrided as a legalized rape. Yet voters and governments have no qualms about confiscatory taxation, just because poorer voters want money and government wants more spending. And remember, in other area there is the disparate impact theory, if a statue has an adverse impact on a subgroup of population, it can be struck down. The current taxation system has very disparate and adverse impact on older Caucasian couples and single men, yet nobody cares.

      But we really digress from areas where we can easily agree, ie no money = no honey and no affirmative action in sugar bowl.

      • Anonymous says:

        Until the 1990’s, claims from wives of being raped by husbands would have been thrown out of court in many states in the US. It was assumed that consenting to marriage and staying in marriage was evidence enough for consenting to sex.

        The change in law was yet another Fabian Socialist attempt at breaking up the family: without the promise of steady supply of unconditional sex, there is no real incentive for an average man to get married and pledge himself to life-long slavery to his woman, any woman.

      • Anonymous says:

        You mean the 1900’s? Because no way in 1990 would a judge overthrow a claim from a married woman who was clearly raped/abused, maybe even had domestic abuse, with enough proof.

      • Anonymous says:

        @Anon 8:07pm

        1990’s. The criminalization of marital rape in the United States started in the mid-1970s and by 1993 marital rape was a crime in all 50 states, under at least one section of the sexual offense codes. A 1992 Georgia case was the landmark case prompted several final holdout states to make new laws.

        At the current pace, kids attending college in 2036 might be surprised at hearing sex on college campus was legal in earlier generations. Just like professors marrying their students were common 1 or 2 generation ago, whereas today there are often explicit prohibitions on dating between professors and students.

  31. Anonymous says:

    My point is that, on a well moderated blog, the verbose idiot posting her feebleminded puke and Dave will be equally policed and banned if they continue in the same venue.
    Do not pretend that is not true.

  32. Another Anonymous says:

    @ Anonymous and socialism

    The word socialism means way too many things. I hope we can agree that national socialism of 1940 Germany or international socialism of 1950 Soviet Union are pure evil. In a way I am surprised that present day socialists did not invent a better word. Unless of course we do not count the attempt of present day liberals to promote socialism using the term “liberal policies”, that classical British liberals of 19th century would not recognize as their own.

    Racism is another strange word. Obviously it can cover anything from South African apartheid through the academic work of Charles Murray to a SD prefering a blond Norwegian.

  33. Another Anonymous says:

    @ Nobody deserves financial support.

    Well we obviously disagree here. IMHO a 10 y/o orphan whose father died in the line of duty as a firefighter does deserve the support.

    • Anonymous says:

      You can make the argument that he deserves financial support from you personally.

      A carte blanche “deserve” however brings up much more complicated issues, such as from whom? and who will be disbursing funds in the name of the widows and orphans.

    • Another Anonymous says:

      @ Anonymous

      Agree, very complicated. maybe the old Victorian notion of deserving and undeserving poor had something into it.

  34. Another Anonymous says:

    @ Anonymous

    MOST people NEED financial support. And they should get it in sugar bowl. Really?

    Actually people who really need financial support
    are either too young, too old or too sick to be in the
    sugar bowl and they deserve financial help without conditions. The SBs nearly by definition are healthy able bodied adults in the prime of their life. They do not need help, they want it.

  35. Carter says:

    Anyone caught the seeking arrangement segment on that TV show the real. Caught it during my break, don’t know how they got on the topic but was presented in non bias way. They put an offer for people to contact them if they want to appear on the show.

  36. Anonymous says:

    This is human right #1 everyone is equal and we are one ….

    Let’s just try make this dating something better ….

    Ladies that are SM and men that are SD …most people really need financial support …it’s not like them saying you should give them a house or buy car …just support them a little monthly …

    • Anonymous says:

      Go to the nearest street section, and strip yourself naked, then allow any and every passerby to fornicate with you. It’s not like they want to lock you down as their wife . . . just a little sex, which many men really need 🙂

      If you huha is not an equal opportunity office, why should my wallet be?

      In fact, just like if your huha would be cheapened to the man you really like if you were giving it to just about everyone, my giving money to just about everyone would reduce the relative purchasing power (due to inflation) to the girls to whom I actually want to give.

  37. Ms simple says:

    Hey is Joshy still around?

  38. Anonymous says:

    Has anyone noticed that if you date a mixed race or someone outside your country is far more better than your race or someone in the same location …for example if a white girl is dating a black guy from Africa or UK. ..

  39. Ms simple says:

    This is annoying

  40. Anonymous says:

    Then again ladies. If you are a top penthouse suite or a top of the life suite, with a man who does not view you as, (that we do not speak od$, the. Your
    Affluent, well-endowed, financially free SD, should/will, be taking care of you. Period. If they are all talk, all promise and do not deliver to you what they promised, try to skip out in evasiveness. Or just…regardless of their excuse, cannot cough, fork up, extend a credit card toes be on file. Call in advance with a credit card on file, pay cash, you name it ladies…If none of the above can be provided.

    Ummmmmm….the obvious is that your drink, ladies…is a way for the man to tempt you that it is a blue wave, that crashes into the sand upon which you sit (relentlessly), while you cascade your thoughts on the twilit moon on high, in order to finally close the deal where he somehow exclamates that this lame a$$ SD “basks in your moon light”.

    I think I just gagged on myself. See my point? There is 1). speedy 2). Queasy. 3) sleezy, 4). Easy, 5). Finesseasy, 6). Heated and sweetly that leads to romanti-ceasy. Which leads to sex where I am wheasy, pleasy, my bid daddy, who mounts me with easy. (7.8,9,10). 🙂

    • Anonymous says:

      It is the idiots like this^^^ ruined the blog. Do not blame it just on Dave or FunDude.

      • Anonymous says:

        You can just skip it.
        This Anon is not attacking other posters, is not pushing an agenda, is not calling names, is not hating or shaming groups of people, is not a racist.
        So there is no comparison to the resident trolls.

        Talking about trolls, most of them seem to left now that they have accomplished what they were after. To stupid to understand their “tactic of scorched earth” has ruined their own playground.

      • Jaybird923 says:


      • Anonymous says:

        Obviously, neither of you read what she is writing…why didn’t you apply same to Dave and Fundude?
        And sorry I forgot, it is always men’s fault. Female logic 101, chapter 1.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        She uses the blog as a diary and just writes whatever pops into her head or what she feels. She does not personally attack anyone. She does not make up stuff and try to pass it off as other posters’ comments. She does not attack other people who disagree with her. And she does not disrupt the flow of conversation by building straw man arguments that have nothing to do with the subject at hand.

        It has nothing to do with whether she’s female or not and everything to do with the impact her post have on the blog. Which amounts to nothing more than slowing down the blog occasionally with long/many post.

      • Anonymous says:

        This is what she wrote in the post directly below, March 15, 2016 at 9:37 pm :

        “no wonder the men of the blog sicken me.”

        Seems she is clearly attacking all men of the blog.
        Most of her writing is straw man tactic, and bitter venting.

        The equivalent of her behavior would be if Dave were a 70 year old and have no money, yet keep writing long ass complaints about how bad all women are, and how women of the blog sicken him. How would you feel if that were happening?

        Unlike all the women kicking Dave, most men on the blog have refrained paying attention to the nonsense from the female worse-than-Dave.

      • Anonymous says:

        “Seems she is clearly attacking all men of the blog.”

        Ohhh, really!? Did she? And how often?
        Is she guilty of any personal attacks?

        Yes, of course, you are right! It is nearly as bad as what has CONSTANTLY been posted by Dave, Fundude and the rest of the “brah” trolls, about whores, cunts, old hags, feminazies etc. etc.etc.

        “And sorry I forgot, it is always men’s fault”
        Look, now THIS is exactly what has ruined the blog, this kind of unconstructive whining!

      • Anonymous says:

        @Anon 9:24am

        So now it’s changed from “she doesn’t” to “how often?”

        You may want to check the frequency yourself just by counting up how many posts she made in the last 24hrs vs. how many Dave or Fundude made in the same time period. The ratio is staggeringly high.

        Lacking objectivity? or are you being self-centered and manipulative?

      • Anonymous says:

        Yes, I think you are right.
        I am self-centered and manipulative.

        If that is al you can come up with…..

    • Another anonymous says:

      @ Anonymous at 8.18 am

      You cannot win here. The local thought police already knows that you are wrong and what you are supposed to think. Take the comments above.

      For example she is not a racist. Obviously being a racist is a disqualification for writing. All that on the blog where people proclaim to be feminists or socialists. Obviously some ideologies are allowed and some are not, despite the fact that they are equally wrong and disgusting. But we digress. 🙂

      • Anonymous says:

        It is about personal attacks and name calling.

        Is that so hard to understand?

      • Anonymous says:

        Being a socialism fan is wrong? Hey man, I think you are confusing fandom with fanaticism. Two different things entirely. Feminism is wrong, well I guess half or maybe more of US population is wrong too. Don’t confuse racism or white/black supremacy, Nazi ideologies and/or other stupid and discriminating doctrines with the first ones.

      • Anonymous says:

        Most Germans in the 1930’s were not fanatic about socialism. A plurality to a majority were enthusiastic about socialism. That was sufficient to plunge that country into dictatorship and disaster.

        How many Bernie fans stood up and criticized Bernie when he suggested he’d rule by executive orders (i.e. dictatorship)? None!

  41. Solo yo says:

    Helloooooooo probando probando 1 2 3

  42. A latin opinon says:

    Hmmm let’s see if it’s the language.

  43. Anonymous says:

    Oh yeah, we forgot. It’s called a free meal and a man that is a stranger to us that desires to “D”us down and we pretend to moan in exicitement while the man leaves us dry as a bone and we hope it’s over soon bc he sucks At s:e:x, and we still hope for the best, only to see his cheap ass drive us home with no incentive and want to stay till the morning in order to save on hotel costs? more like crash N burn. You can only pull it off once, pet female men. UnleSs her self esteem is in the gutter. Otherwise, I imagine you are paying the $300-600 diffrtent fee of room and board as a hotel, overnight. If not, no wonder the men of the blog sicken me.

    • sd with open eyes says:

      If your experiences are so bad and your expectations are so low then why are you still here?

      • Sugar Baby says:

        Hi there its so true you need to be dedicated in life being a sugarbaby and be loyal if they are not real about this arrangements they sho7ld move over and let a girl or guy in that really wants this p.s. I’m becoming sugarbaby I’m dedicated x

      • SugarD says:

        You reap what you sow -Clean up your attitude and good things will happen.

  44. Anonymous says:

    Jimmy Fallon is so full of BS. He knows he desires to be like Trump. There are approx over $2,000 Billionares baEd on Forbes 2016 edition. Educate yourselves, ladies and gentlemen. Trump ranks 4.8 or 4.5 billion. I would be exact, but I happened to be so peeoed at present, based on a character that I used to adore and semi-still due. The whole point is “insanity is doing the same thing over and over and getting the same result”. Therefore, it should not surprise the masses that Donald Trump is winning. Blue collars and under are now educated of the 80/20 rule. They are cognizant and no longer desire a version of Rubio and cry going at it on the stage, in the same way they waste our tax dollars daily for the past 10 yrs. With,, wait for it…no results!

    Now, let’s examine why women are intrigued and drop their panties in a consonant that is not even really a word, for prayed same. More like a silent film with a moan. Do you want to know why? Bc the people on the other end moaning make decisive, steadfast decisions that are based on the non communicative sounds that most ignore. Why do you seek out a financial advisor to balance your funds instead of you? He/she has contacts, relationships, and when theyake a sound or utterance of tone….everyone in the room pauses. Hesitates, and waites for
    A final decree of words. No different than in dating, no different than talking, no different than “prove it or Lose it”, bc the price has proved that you cannot afford it. Stop digging the women out here bc if you continue, you will be jacking off for relief or scamming the bottom of the barrel unles you throw c-Notes in theassea. Now, if you? Then stop digging out the other men who do that have class. Ya’ll are either
    Going to step up or die off.

  45. Anonymous says:

    He is “cute”. Puppies are cute. Flowers are cute. The clothes you are wearing that so not accentuate your cleavage, your elongated cock, oh my god, aren’t they “cute?”

    You can “look” cute as hell if you like…but if your persona and your mannerisms and your ambiance do not express “liquid sex in motion that calls me forth in liquid desire
    And presentation And show of how bad you want me?’ Well, then…I cannot help you and certainly cannot apparently help yourself. Any questions?

    • Anonymous says:

      This place s a two sided coin. The women will eventually stop chasing of you nothing better to offer than the random. Un personal responses that are me at to purposely lead a woman on. They are old are tiring a full of cow manure each time it is spoken. You have your underground (quote in quote reliable groups of authenticit), so do we. It is.now called, “if you can’t show it, we will hoe it” to see what you are made of and what you are worth. Shucked corn to cook you a meal, can you do the same without your face embased in pus** for free?we shall see. My money is on the line.

  46. PychoKiller says:

    A guy that looks like the picture used in this article doesn’t have to pay for pussy.

    • Sugarlushsugar says:

      Depends whos pussy he wants and on what conditions.

      Btw,he seems to have a boner. What do you see?

    • Anonymous says:

      Agree with the poster above. If he wants different pussy on a different day (say, 3 different pussies on three different days) and he wants none of them asking what he is doing tomorrow…he probably has to pay.

  47. Anonymous says:

    There is hope:
    My desired arrangement would be a nice wealthy man, preferably one with a big dick who’s going to wine and dine me in manchesters most exclusive places, and take me shopping in return I can offer good company and a bit more

    • anon anon says:

      There you go – a half unicorn, at least she fancies some sort of a d*ck lol

    • Anonymous says:

      What woman doesn’t want a man with a big d*ck? That is like saying a man wants a woman with a loose pu**y, where he thinks he is swimming in the ocean like “free willie the whale”. Really? Like, no seriously, are you for real in that comment?

      A balancing actually called respect from both parties. If you want hot nasty sex on a consistent basis, then pay for it. But do it in a chilvaristic fashion where you not only respect the woman, desire intelligent conversation, intrigue and conversation prior to the meet. However, if you just desire to fuc* her brains out like a whore, and you have no aspect about you that is respectable….then..”ah , tell her. Tell her in advance of what you want, desire, and can offer and finally deliver.” Because of you cannot so that, trust me, eventually after trial and fail from enough women from young to old, they will call you out ahead of time. All o a sudden, she has a free meal and knows you are gross and lame and probably a stick it, hit, quit it mantra, that you certainly are nothing to remember and they won’t.
      If that’s all you guys have to offer…how about to baxkpage and stop polluting SA. Just saying. The ladies will own you if you continue your scams.

      • anon anon says:

        Well, personally, I do not care – they can be a eunich, if they help me to get property 😉

  48. Anonymous says:

    I do not understand all this fuss about race. Attraction and sex are not equal opportunity employment, people can chose who they want to go to bed with. As for specifically AA SBs, if she is pretty, she will have plenty of men willing to scoop her. One’s man loss is another man’s gain. There are many reasons why people aren’t compatible. Race is just one of them.

  49. Anonymous says:

    Most of the SM and SD are racist. …and also they would write something they aren’t and want something you have but won’t reply cause of you race or distance ….then why are you an SM or SD. …you broke to handle the distance ??

    And if you don’t reply cause of the race then you are such a terrible person we all are one …#SayNoToRacism

    • Another Anonymous says:

      @ Anonymous

      OK, so race should not matter, distance should not matter, many blogettes here subscribe to theory that age should not matter. Can SDs have personal preferences at all? Or is it an ugly gender discrimination if a SD wants to have a female SB and automatically rejects all male applicants? 🙂

    • IndianaSD says:

      If they don’t reply, how do you know it’s because of your race? Maybe they just don’t find you attractive. Stop being a victim and playing the race card every time something doesn’t go your way.

  50. Anonymous says:

    Has any male SB had any luck getting one SM ??

    • Blake says:

      Yeah but not on here LOL

      • Sugarlushsugar says:

        I’m a girl and had a platonic heterosexual SM. She was feeling alone and needed intelligent company. She also gave me my first job here in this country, but we mostly drank wine, talked about poetry, gossip, men and fashion in my working hours.

        She was/is bibolar and possessive. We had a fight and I avoid her now. Met her through common contacts.

        Are you a woman or a man? I think it is easier for girls and you must have certain cultural level, ’cause a woman who is that freeminded is probably also quite educated.

      • Sugarlushsugar says:

        Ah, ok, a man. So, yeah, look around your contacts. Find out what she is lacking etc.

        The same woman I had had also a 25 y.o guy for a while. Invited him to come to Spain and was willing to give him a work and home (her home. :D) He was a philosophy master but not really handsome :S and he blew it up.

      • Anonymous says:

        @Lush did you meet her here for the first time or someway different? How did you approach her?

      • Sugarlushsugar says:

        No, not SA. I was looking for work and a friend introduced me to her. So I went all nicely prepared to the work interview but after few words about job she told me I have it and gave me glass of wine.
        The first day of work we spent also drinking wine in cafes. I just went with the flow, what ever she wanted.

  51. Anonymous says:

    Their app is poor ….nothing fun…they should improve

  52. sd with open eyes says:

    Is there some thing going on in the Philippines that I don’t know about? About one in every seven SB who favorites my profile is from there. (And, about one in ten is from England.)

    • Anonymous says:

      Your one stingy SD….you have a closed eye…if you’re an SD…you can chat with an SB in Philippines …who knows…she might be the one for you…you think having a local would be a good experience like having one outside the country. ….your such a Ffffooooollll

      • sd with open eyes says:

        My desire or lack of desire to have a SB from the Philippines is not important. The question is why are so many of them making profiles of users in the US their favorites?

      • IndianaSD says:

        It’s a common scam. They think you’ll start talking to them and hand over wads of cash. There is a similar scam going on on Match where all these women with phone numbers in their profile favorite you. If you text them, you’ll soon find that they are all in Nigeria on work. Keep talking to them and they’ll ask for money to get back to the US.

      • Anonymous says:

        Or maybe they just want you to visit them in philippines for a meet and greet and start an arrangement as probably there are very few Sds there.

      • Anonymous says:

        They can be Pilipino (per say), but who knows if they are actually located physically in the Philippines?

        If you work for a global company no different than contacting someone from SA these days. You could definitely being a North Carolina number. While, the owner of that same phone number technically resides in Omaha. It is what it is.
        Location means absolutely nothing in 2016.

      • Anonymous says:

        The log in details would be in her profile. I’ve seen many that mismatch.

  53. Anonymous says:

    All of you are saying nonsense …that’s why you all have no SB or SM…..and I’ve noticed most of the women are racist

  54. Anonymous says:

    @Anon 5:44pm

    Yes, there are Redpill Women, or Women’s version of Redpill. It is about what women can realistically expect from associating with men in sexual relationship, very similar and complementary to the men’s version of Redpill. It does not involve propagating scams to con men for resources . . . just like Redpill for men is not about pickup artistry conning women for sex.

    • Anonymous says:

      The red pill women thread is a joke. It only discusses issues related to men’s sexuality.

      • TVC15 says:

        Well, who else’s sexuality matters?

      • Josh says:

        For the most part, since woman’s sexuality is her tool and man’s sexuality is his “itch”, man’s sexuality matters more.

        Disclaimer: Exceptions exist.

    • Another Anonymous says:

      @ Who else’s sexuality matters?

      Obviously that of a sugar mommy. By simple but inconvenient realities SDs and SMs have an advantage and SBs of either gender a disadvantage in the sugar bowl.

      • Anonymous says:

        This is about the red pill, not the characters of a sugar lifestyle.

      • Anonymous says:

        The red pill / truth is simply that sex being enjoyable is:

        1. 90% a tool that women are given via evolution/biology to manipulate men for resources in order to achieve reproductive success . . . men are susceptible to it (aka having sex drive) due to the same reproductive success.

        2. 10% enjoyable to women too so they are party to the game of reproduction, without having to be raped in every instance when there is no resource shortage.

        That’s why men produce 10+ times as much testosterone as women do. Testosterone is the hormone primarily responsible for sex drive.

        In such a 90:10 distribution in terms of “sex drive” and “love” (willingness to sacrifice oneself for someone else genetically unrelated), guess whose “sexuality”/ vulnerability to resource exploitation by the opposite sex matter?

        Of course, there are small sub-cultures/populations where the women have high testosterone levels while the men’s sex drives are killed by long term consumption of drugs. Then the focus in that netherworld would be how to exploit women financially via sex.

  55. Anonymous says:

    It is very simple;
    If @IHF is not interested in women of colour, why is always hanging out on the “brown baby” blog topics? You should think one stays away form those topics then, wouldn’t you?

    But he is only there because he is a ignorant racist and gets his kicks out of throwing poop at black SBs.
    You don’t like chocolate? Well, stay away from it and don’t try to convince other people to not eat it!

    Insulting people has NOTHING to do with personal preferences!

    • Anonymous says:

      Yes, telling them they are delusional for being on SA is nothing short of a person’s preference right?

    • Another Anonymous says:

      @ Insulting

      Let us face it, being in a sugar bowl requires a thick skin indeed. If an attractive college age lady writes here, that she does not like older overweight, bold, marginally broke guys, it is not an insult, it is a reality. They do have harder time in the sugar bowl. Nothing wrong in telling them, that if they offer minimal, they will wait a long time for the Victoria secret model.

      I know, I know, everybody was told at home, that if you do not have anything nice to say, please keep quiet. But this is a blog for thick skinned people, not a garden party conversation in a palace.

  56. Celestial says:

    sugar DADDIES OF THE BLOG… You MUST realize at some point, if not in my view, the view of the impression you wish to impress upon, to another females physique.

    Are you a man that can talk a good game and deliver one? or are you all talk and no deliverance?

    Because when it all comes down to the come d0own, no different than science comparisons, and no different than financial equations and algorithms based on the equivalences of the outcome on that algorithm that you can prime…If you do not change the real outcome, ah hummm…

    What are investor’s truly looking at? And, viewing as a satisfactory outcome in order to produce dividends? Not only to the investors, but the masses?

    • Celestial says:

      Please excuse the lame zero that was placed upon my request. LMAO. It is not as though all of the other written candidates here, have perfection in writing… I dare ask you to take the bet and re-focus on the fact that no one among us has perfection.

      Yet and still, I agree greatly with Josh, Elaine and Jaybird.

      Why? Because it truthfully, all depends on the circumstances. They will not tell you that some will be played for far lesser than their actual value.

      The trick in itself is, is to always alue your own self. Man included. Regardless if the last relationship has left you famished and secluded. It truly, makes no never mind. If you find another that you actually bond with, or lust for and continue to do so, for a lonh haul…What doess it rally matter? It mans they were there for you and them, when they neeced it the most and the outcome, was, shall we say? Orgasmic! Need we really say more?

      That is in truth why SA really exists. SA is a true form of what should be organic and if not, at least straight forward bluntness of crudity of sexuality at its best. period. The on lookers can accept or deny, who really cares? I damn sure don’t.

  57. Anonymous says:

    SA must being doing an AM. I can see no other explanation for what happens. Same profiles, same email replies. Very odd 🙁

    • Anonymous says:

      SA has become an adoption agency, except the babies are up to 50 year’s old. Pay for my education, take me out to dinner or shopping.
      But NSA, no sex allowed 🙁

  58. Anonymous says:

    If the founder of the website (a.k.a blog), was so consumed with the press of this blog, or the constituents of this websites, based soly upon race, then he never would have we’d/contimplated an Anglo Saxon (a.k.a. White woman).

    So every contributer here, comes to the
    realization that breads do cross, regardless of
    their upbringing. Sexual attraction is called
    “each to their own”. What is the problem?

    I have never crossed boundaries but once, wait…apparently twice, in my life. But, if neither had of owned up to their background/raising, in today’s society, I would have never known the significant difference. Wake up people.

    When you have a hottie like Kristy Tiegan (sp) and

  59. Anonymous says:

    How dirty. Yeah u are far from a secret spy. Where is HR when you need them? I feel like a Jimmy Fallon show, saying, yeah..”go talk to the hand, bc our minds already know you have been listening. The sad factor is, is when truth I spoken and you mock it. Seriously, you should be above the grain. Not the one killed in a factory. Apparently, you just can’t help your self. Smh.

  60. Another Anonymous says:

    @ Jay

    Well I have not read other blogs where IHF2030 is contributing. By the standards of this blog he is well within usual behavior.

    As to disrespecting others for their race, gender and ethnicity, that would be a long discussion for
    outside of this forum. We both know, that there are protected and unprotected groups.

    • Jaybird923 says:

      I’m not talking about outside blogs. You want an evidence of the behavior we’re talking about… [https://www.seekingarrangement.com/blog/blog/2014/05/16/brown-beautiful/]

  61. Jaybird923 says:

    Are we still automatically going to moderation?

    • Sugarlushsugar says:

      Two of my comments are still waiting for moderation. Since then only if I do not incert my email, they go through. 🙂

      I think SA blog uses keywords to sort out bad content. But apparently nobody bothers to moderate the waiting comment.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        If you want to put a email in your post you have to put it between[]or it will automatically get moderated

  62. sd with open eyes says:

    I wonder if anyone else is having this problem? Even though I have heart-ed many profiles and many profiles have heart-ed my profile, I have yet to heart a profile that has also heart-ed my profile. (I am not much of a traveler so heart-ing a profile from the Philippians or from Russia would only be misleading the other person.)

    • SSSD says:

      I never use “favorite.” This is not junior-high. If you receive a “favorite” from a girl, the correct interpretation is that she is carpet-bombing the SD’s with favoriting.

      If you find yourself interested in a girl, the correct assumption is that she is attractive enough to be approached by numerous other guys, most of whom are either too chicken-little or can’t afford her. It is your turn to approach her with a legit offer; when you are done with her in a few months, put her back on the shelf 🙂

      We men of Gen-X and earlier were raised to treat sex as part of a serious relationship, whereas, for whatever reason, millennial girls are super easy. No need to over-analyze, just have fun.

  63. Another Anonymous says:

    @ Anonymous

    Is there anything wrong with specifically targeting female blogger? I thought we could speak on equal basis and female bloggers do not get any special protection.

    As far as his racial preferences, I do not share them at all, but he is obviously entitled to them. There is nothing wrong with expressing preferences. Sugarlushsugar just expressed her dislike for older guys, fine, it is her preference. Nobody is going to criticize her for age discrimination.

    • Jaybird923 says:

      there is quite a difference from having a preference and expressing that preference and what IHF does and you know it. He spends his time on the brown sugar blogs antagonizing the SBs there for no reason. Expressing his own personal preference as if he was elected by the caucasian race to speak on their behalf.

      Everyone has characteristics that they personally find appealing and everyone has a right to take pride in their heritage and culture but that all can be done without disrespecting others preference or race/ethnicity

  64. Josh says:

    Since I have not been visiting this blog as often as I did in the past, I wouldn’t know if the blog is “ruined” currently/permanently or not.

    One thing is for sure…bloggers, such as, @TVC15, @FunDude, @Dave, etc., are mega experts in the fine art of going in circles.

    • Josh says:

      Also, don’t expect SA to come to help improve the quality of this blog any time soon. This blog is extremely critical of their business practices and they don’t give a shit about this blog’s existence one way or the other.

      • Anonymous says:

        Spoken like a true hottie that knows what’s going on around the “buzz” and in the “buzz!” 🙂

        Make no mistake about it…Hosh takes the emotion out and comes to a solid conclusion I each situation, wether any of us care to admit to the obvious or not. Applaud you, my friend.

      • Anonymous says:

        Buzz in the Biz… St. Patty, asks for a pot O’ Gold at the end of me tunnel. We just might lean in to the rainbow of Josh. At his worst or
        his best. (?)
        He tends to erect topics of blog discussions that no one else can. Sighing on my palms, that are perched, holding my chin up opon the table, in excitement, beyond boredomn for once. 🙂

    • Sven says:

      and it is true that You ve visited this blog A LOT in the past

  65. Sugarlushsugar says:

    After 1,5 months I’m going to leave SA.
    Here are definately some interesting ppl, but no one with whom I would like to have a sugar relationship….or anything else. Most of them are just way too self obsessed.
    Bunch of CEOs working in the same field as me (did not pursue because of obvious reason of ruing my reputation). Bunch of grayhaired grandpas (local or doing their grandpa tourist trips) – not my taste. Bunch of semi-young English lads. One obvious scammer. A lot of random men who I did not answer, or they stopped writing me after saying “Hello”. The only man I felt attraction for was an unstable Salt who made me feel bad about my sexuality ’cause I didn’t let him have me in my house coridor, and later blamed me for being tastless. Left me speechless…

    Almost forgot the middle aged couple with (sex) Training arangement proposal.

    So, I’m just going to find my fun elsewhere and earn the money doing some extra days at work. Seemed like a good plan, though ?

    Ood luck bitches! ?

    • Another Anonymous says:

      @ Sugarlushsugar

      Good luck, but you will be missed as one of the sane voices here.

      • Sugarlushsugar says:

        Thanks! I like this blog comment section. Everybody is so disdurbed from the common status quo what to say in public and what not.
        Like beeze of fresh air:)

  66. IHF2030 says:

    That nasty, moronic tvc15 character ruined this blog!

    • Anonymous says:

      No @IHF2030, it is the woman haters and PUA like you who have ruined this blog!

      If you and the other trolls wouldn’t haved pushed your misogynist agenda’s all the time and would have stayed on your red pill blogs, this would still be a nice place to discuss sugar.

      Exactly how it originally was meant to be!

      • Anonymous says:

        “Red pill” just means reality. Your hostility to reality indicates you as a peddler of fictions.

      • Anonymous says:

        Red pill doesn’t mean reality these days you idiot. It means reality as perceived by men, not everyone. Anon above is right.

      • Anonymous says:

        @Anon 4:55pm

        So you are a woman. Are you in a happy intimate sexual relationship with another woman? Have you ever been? If not, then your “perception” about how it is like to be in a sexual relationship with a woman is not exactly relevant, is it? You have never had first-hand experience dating women.

        Your jumping at the gun calling me “idiot” is only proving that you are a very subjective person incapable of thinking from another person’s perspective . . . exactly as the Red Pill statistical claim on a typical woman.

        FunDude and Dave, especially Dave, are actually men who have failed to swallow the Red Pill. Dave still aspires to finding his unicorn that is “worthy” of his love and devotion. The bitterness in their writings is only reflective of their disappointment at how far real life deviates from their DisneyWorld Blue Pill fantasy (brainwashed into boys). They will be much happier after actually swallowing the Red Pill, and proceed to “inspire”/”induce” behaviorial standards from women (because the women want to) instead of expecting women to abide by rules. Women are natural-born realists and sociopaths, for evolutionary survival reasons; men are better off not to project men’s own romanticism onto women.

      • Anonymous says:

        Oh those red pill blue pill poppers crack me up. How can anyone take them seriously? Whiny whiny whiny -women are evil – whiny whiny women stole my manhood-whiny whiny whine whine whine- women are evil bwwahahaha!

      • Anonymous says:

        Do you consider meat eaters are evil? Do you consider people whose nourishment necessitating terminating or dismembering plant lives (i.e. vegetarians) evil? Eating other animals and plants is simply part and parcel of human survival.

        Likewise, being self-centered and manipulative is simply part and parcel of evolutionary survival for women, who had less muscles and was practically crippled during pregnancy and child-rearing, which accounted for the bulk of her life during most of human history. Why would you consider that evil?

        Men being self-centered and manipulative is evil in most cases because it is disruptive to collaboration with other men. The exception is when he can use those sociopathic talents to achieve leadership, then he is the man who most other men look up to, and most women want to mate with.

        It’s called reality. Red pill, if you will, which is amoral and does not make moral judgement per se.

      • Anonymous says:

        Shame upon you for reading and then elaborating on my 5th grade science project. What snark you are. Sheesh, had you let me alone, I could have solved the whole burger problem between the $200m-$300M market issu3es in regards to replenishment of the market. That is of fcoursem basd on scientific factors, actual taste comparison and genetic make up, that has yet to hit the ,market as a feasible component, much less an opposition to real beef. Way to go, you may fairing creatures of like as usual. Continue your bark and branch “marathon”, which leaves no leafs to blossom as usual. Notice if you will, only the intellectic inquire, which request no dividends to their brainiatic composition to date. You and Google should feel quite relieved.

        Now, would you like to know why the Googles exec iurgers are so pristine that they taste with such a hunt for byson? As the rest of the hunters hunt for deers and byson alike? it is no less than a male deer hunting for a female. If the adrenaline is “stoked” beyond comparison”, whether it be lab made or in the field, the taste of the meat is gamey and far from a natural resource. The strong gamey taste has to be removed.

        Just like if I take a number at the DMV….
        My adrenaline is spiked. I am “pissed’, that I am a mere number to another human being, much less a state proram, that digests my monetary value as a number. And, as I am corralled in a line, my heart races to the point of a deer racing to be released from the hunted, as the one who stands at the opposite counter to inflict the damage of the taxes, with which I owe for my $400K and up vehicle.

        Get my drift?

        It truly has nothing to do with the value of the vehicle with I can afford. IT HAS EVERYTHING TO DO WITH THE ABXIETY OF BEING CORALLED AS A NUMERICAL FIGURE OF NO VALUE TO THE STATE.

      • Anonymous says:

        First you said red pill means reality and now you’re talking about a sexual relationship. Shouldn’t reality encompass all fields and not just that of dating, and shouldn’t the red pill also include the woman’s perspective on a sexual relationship with a man, not only the other way around?

      • Anonymous says:

        @Anon 11:26pm

        Is she trying to demonstrate the fragility of her own grasp on reality?

    • Another Anonymous says:

      @ Anonymouses

      Actually IHF2030 is right. And not every opinion you do not like is misogynist.

      • Anonymous says:

        This one is because he’s specifically targeting a female character on the blog instead of the usual, out there suspects such as fundude or dave who in fact are the ones who have ruined this blog. He’s also known for trolling the brown sugar baby blog, while trying to flaunt his white preferences all over the blog.

      • Anonymous says:

        The blog was ruined long before they came. They only blew up what little was left. SA does not care, so no one else should either at this point.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        I don’t think the blog was ruined before. Did we have flare ups every so often? Yes, but we were still a functioning community. We were able to disagree and move on until some individuals started intentionally stirring the pot.

  67. Jaybird923 says:

    Total mind fuck! Did anyone else know that the historical information on Mr. Peabody and Sherman was not accurate?

    • Anonymous says:


    • sd with open eyes says:

      It wasn’t? That’s horrible! How could such a thing happened? Never trust a talking dog with glasses.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        If you can’t trust a dog with glasses then who can you trust…

      • sd with open eyes says:

        After helping some SB’s “fix up” their profiles, I would say you can’t trust anyone on this website. Always verify!

      • Jaybird923 says:

        You help SBs fix up their profiles so they can deceive SDs or to avoid untrustworthy SDs?

      • sd with open eyes says:

        Mostly, to get them to not advertise things that would turn off most SD’s. Of course, some things they would have to be up front about if it was obvious, but some things the doesn’t really need to know about.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        Why not let them advertise them? Don’t you think you’re doing a disservice to your fellow SDs by helping them shield traits that they would find unappealing?

        After all people are who they are and most can not keep the facade up for long and those negatives will eventually rear their ugly heads sooner or later.

      • sd with open eyes says:

        Because their profile should be putting their best foot forward and trying to make them sound appealing. As for doing a disservice to fellow SD’s, I think allowing a SB to put too much information on their profile can also be a disservice if it turns them away from a compatible SB.

    • Anonymous says:

      What about Mr. Bean? We can’t forget him, right? The nerdier they are, the better they are in bed. No? Purrrr.

  68. rembodler says:

    As I said before. If I am in the insane asylum and you are a patient throwing feces at me, please do not expect me to behave like a gentleman.
    If I am in the psychiatric ward and there are a couple of strong nurses who can assist me, should you become violent, I will honor my oath and behave accordingly.

    • Anonymous says:

      Well I have seen quite a few cases where it was YOU who started to throw feces without reason, only because a poster had a different opinion.

      • rembodler says:

        Whatever you say, Hun.
        I have no idea who you are, but sure. Whatever you say.

      • Anonymous says:

        I hear u @Anon ^There is something wrong with that guy. He is always confrontational and douchey

      • rembodler says:

        To both Anons above:
        I am sure you think that you are throwing roses at me… that u pluck straight out of your a-holes.
        It is not advised to directly contradict mental patients…

  69. IHF2030 says:

    I miss all of the delusional females who used to post on here; they were plenty entertaining.

  70. rembodler says:

    Maybe that was the whole point of SA?
    Burn this place down and hope it will emerge, like Phoenix?

    • Anonymous says:

      They wanted it dead and move over to that Disneyland princess site “Let’s talk sugar”
      And Fundude, Dave and you did that job for them.

      • rembodler says:

        Anonymous…you were, are and will be the worst (cowardly) offender.
        So STFU, maybe?

      • Anonymous says:

        Well, I am one of the last posters you can talk to Rembodler, so better be kind to me. 🙂

      • Anonymous says:

        That entails 99% of the blog presently, if you have not taken notice of all the anonymi (-:
        It makes me happy to irritate old farts trouble makers like yourself who claim to be brave i guess? Pretty funny!

        Right back at ya!

      • Anonymous says:

        Yea @rembodler is so brave isn’t he? aLWAYS full of venom hiding behind his keyboard and blurry photo. A regular troll blog hero. LMAO 🙂

      • Anonymous says:

        Considering a fool and low class person says something like that then think you picked an appropriate thing to say.
        Well done!

      • IHF2030 says:

        The remboogie is a serious cat!

  71. Dashing says:

    So where do I start reading for the latest drama

  72. Gabriel... says:

    it’s okie to wait …it’s worth it. be patience .
    would be happy to get some advices for my profile.

  73. lady D. says:

    Looking for simple no drama no kiss and tell dating I’m a very private lady,that can make you very happy with your private dating relationship with me

  74. TVC15 says:

    I sure miss FunDude and Dave. I don’t have anyone to argue with and prove how smart I am. I loved it when I was the center of attention on the blog.

  75. WTF says:

    wow finally I see no more fighting in here , where is everybody ? are they all banned ?

    • TVC15 says:

      The men here just finally realized that I know what is best for everyone. It took them a while, but in the end, I won.


    • Anonymous says:

      It’s just fundude trolling. ^

      • Anonymous says:

        I don’t think it is FunDude — it is just another person that wishes she would leave. She was just as much of the problem as those guys.

      • Anonymous says:

        I guess not even1 out of 10 of her messages where really hers….

        And c’mon, the only real problem here was Fundude and Dave!!

      • TVC15 says:

        The TVC fakery has only really been out of control since FD’s cocaine meltdown a week ago. It was only intermittent before that.

        The only way the trolls can get away with posting now is to pretend to be me. How sweet and funny is that? Thanks, mods, good work at last!

      • rembodler says:

        “Good work”???
        This place is deader than the door nail…if that is the purpose of moderation, just delete that space altogether.

    • Anonymous says:

      The idiots where probably banned, but too late.
      Al sane posters had already left earlier.

  76. Ashley says:

    Oh man I get so annoyed when I get messages requesting thins I’ve strictly said I couldn’t do in my profile. It’s a complete turn off and I often won’t warrant a response. Then again I barely ever respond to people on here unless they really catch my interest by personality/details/kindness.

  77. DamnVixen says:

    One more try …

  78. ms says:

    What does it mean when someone posts- ecc66df9 or something like that? Is that referencing a profile?

    • sd with open eyes says:

      Yes. Copy the code and then go to your “favorites” section and pick one of your favorites that you don’t mind that they know that you looked at their profile. Go there and then go to the URL line and paste the above code where the code for your favorite is. Go to this new URL to see the profile being talked about.

  79. Anonymous says:

    My pick of the day, ecc66df9. Kind of supports Fundud’s tired arguments all in one profile.

    • DamnVixen says:

      Yeah, but there’s always the possibility that some 70-80’s SD doesn’t care. One thing that I’m seeing on the opposite side now, from my own SD continuing to search for sugar babies and his friends … they sometimes think with the “little head” … sometimes a little drunk, don’t read the profiles or don’t care. Especially when looking for the P4P type, who they bang twice and forget.

      FunDude is ridiculous, and always has his nose pressed to the glass of the candy store, worried about what the people were doing inside that doesn’t concern him.

      • DamnVixen says:

        Interesting … why did my post go immediately to moderation?

      • rembodler says:

        DV…do not be ridiculous. No one will want to pay money to an entitled old hag. Any old fart of a man can go to something like Ourtime and scoop these by the dozens.

      • Anonymous says:

        @rembodler, we know you speak from experience in being a grumpy old fart yourself but you are an ass. That is all.

    • Anonymous says:

      I hope it is a joke. I really do…

    • DamnVixen says:

      I guess the people who told me this blog has been ruined by whatever shenanigans were happening, were right. Seems you can only post now “anonymously” from email.

  80. AliziaTS says:

    Bad grammar is definitely a turn-off. As a person who is an intellectual and well educated I definitely don’t want to be around people who won’t get my jokes or will ask stupid questions. Apparently you don’t need to be smart to be rich and that’s clearly evident on this website. I think I’ll stick with my day job than be with Mike Tyson incarnate.

  81. sd with open eyes says:

    I had a new idea for answering SB who want cash for a virtual relationship. Tell them that you are already in a virtual relationship with Hatsune Miku …

    • Anonymous says:

      If they want a virtual relationship, tell them you will gladly pay them with virtual money aka pics of money not bitcoins

      • Anonymous says:

        Just ignore those profiles. The turn over rate is very high when they realize nobody is paying money for it.

      • Anonymous says:

        Nah man it’s bitcoins

      • Anonymous says:

        You would be surprised how many salty guys want a text, phone, email virtual relationship but have absolutely no intention of paying any type of coin – real or virtual.
        Another form of time waster ladies deal with constantly.

      • Anonymous says:

        meaning they pretend to want to meet or have a real arrangement but they know all along that they never plan to meet or honor an arrangement.

        They are lonely men desperate for attention, pretend to be a SD and do not care they are leading you on as long as they get their ego stroke and kicks from getting attention from SBs they scam for time and attention.

        They are worse than the girls who ask for virtual or phone only arrangements. At least those girls are being upfront and honest about what they want.

      • sd with open eyes says:

        Those guys would be called “Horny Broke Men” (HBM). There are a lot of them on SA unfortunately.

      • Anonymous says:

        Agree. They need to revamp the site and get rid of the bad profiles. The site is starting to remind me of POF now.

        They won’t though.

      • sd with open eyes says:

        How would you be able to tell if a profile is bad? I can tell if a profile does not appeal to me, and sometimes I can tell that something is wrong (pictures are of more than one person), but I know of no way to tell if a profile is bad.

      • Anonymous says:

        Well, it is not rocketscience to recognize bad profiles…

      • sd with open eyes says:

        How would you recognize a “bad” profile?

      • Anonymous says:

        If the profile gets complaints then delete it – or a better solution would be to vet new profiles and only approve the verified ones. It would be more work but the could charge higher prices for the memberships. The site used to vet every profile long long ago.

        It is called quality control and is indeed not rocket science or any other science. It is called common sense of keeping your site from being inundated with losers, men pretending as a SD who are poor or not able to afford a certain amount per month and women who are not attractive or are escorts.

  82. LittlePrincess221b says:

    One thing is for sure – I tried to be real on my profile. I tried to explain a bit about who I am and what I’m on the site for. I try to make an impression when I send the first message.

    So far, I’ve been asked to give a blow job for for $25.00 ‘a couple times a week’ and I’ve met someone who I had really high hopes for, but he’s constantly beating around the bush on the financial aspect. We’ve met up in person a few times already and he still seems to have no intention on actually providing me with any money.

    I think there are a lot of SBs who have the wrong idea, but there are just as many SDs who aren’t up to snuff either.

    I want a mentor, someone I can enjoy hanging out with and I’m damned good at what I can do behind closed doors – but I would have stuck with plenty of fish or something if I wasn’t also expecting to be in a relationship where I could count on having the extra money for me to do the fun and frivolous things with my kids that I can’t afford otherwise.

    And I /do/ want to finish my degree.

    I just wish there was an easier way to weed out the crap, and I know that I’m at a disadvantage anyway because I’m older, I’m curvy, and I’m divorced with kids. But at least I have no interest in asking for a $500.00 purse.

  83. Anonymous says:

    The UK is full of idiots:

    My name is . I am 18 years old from Lincoln, United Kingdom. My hobbies involve ice skating, swimming and going to the gym. I’m studying Maths, English and Business Retail at Lincoln college. My future plans are to succeed in college and enter the armed forces by joining the Royal Navy or Army.

    • Anonymous says:

      Hmmm, I took out her full name with left and right arrows.

      • Anonymous says:

        She mentioned her true name and city?
        Maybe you should have warned her instead of exposing her here in public, she seems young and naive…

        Not nice! 🙁

      • TVC15 says:

        Yes, please do send her a message requesting that she smarten up and explaining how. You will have done your good deed for the month.

      • Anonymous says:

        I have done that before, I will only get told to **** off!

      • Anonymous says:

        They put their full names, employers, job titles. I don’t need to use the email system, I can go to my nearest coffee shop and ask the girl behind the counter. She’s on SA and has told the world what she does and where she does it 😉

      • Anonymous says:

        She is seeking an virtual arrangement, so as you guys have advised. Leave them alone, if you don’t approve 😉

  84. sd with open eyes says:

    I am scratching my head, trying to figure out what a sb means by this:

    “I’m looking for someone who can help me finacially, or just shower me in money. I don’t meet up or skype, but we can figure something else out.”

    • Anonymous says:

      It means:

      1. She is high on drugs;

      2. She is either ugly or her personality is so terrible that every SD coming into contact is shunning her.

      Either way, don’t walk, Run!

      • Anonymous says:

        This is a long way of saying she wants a phone pal. Basically text or talk on the phone for an allowance. The sugar world has opened up possibilities for the old phone sex business.

  85. sd with open eyes says:

    Why do SB’s favorite your profile without even looking at it?

    • Anonymous says:

      My friend:
      You will be a lot more productive if you focus on yourself, instead of “why do SBs do X”. Trust me, it is largely irrelevant why SBs do X, Y or Z. They are mostly young and not very smart. What is important, is how to get a particular SB in bed with you. Keep your eyes on that goal and you will do well in the Sugar race.
      Just IMhO.

      • Anonymous says:

        ‘if you focus on yourself,”

        If? There is no *if* when it involves men focusing on themselves.

      • rembodler says:

        That is not really true. Many a girl sufferes unnecessarily when a hapless gent is trying too hard in her hindquarters with his tongue. She would rather he focus on himself and be done already…but is too polite to ask him to stop.

  86. Kore says:

    I think SA should make it possible to search for POTs by continent… That would really help.

  87. rembodler says:

    I do not listen or argue with you. In my position, I do not contradict the insane.
    I just come check on my other, less hopeless patients…;))

    • rembodler says:

      …and by the way, TVC, I agree with your assessment of me, I am a bit of a “drama queen”…:). When you are right, you are right.
      It is just that you want to be right all the time…and be the participant and the judge in every argument – as another blogger keenly noted.

  88. Anonymous says:

    Such a sad person, to post as TVC ….

  89. Anonymous says:

    Great background in the pic to impress POTs.


  90. TVC15 says:

    @SDs – where is your favorite place to shoot your load?

  91. Anonymous says:

    This place is dead.

    I wonder if @Fundude and his brah’s already realize they have ruined their own playground?
    They’re like little kids who have destroyed their own toys.

    • Anonymous says:

      SA is dead 🙁

    • TVC15 says:

      The only upside is that now I can talk politics here without feeling guilty for posting off topic.

      • Anonymous says:

        I would not call it “the upside”, TVC. IMO, yet another downside.
        But since you, TVC, cannot tolerate or even entertain for a minute, any opinion that differs from yours…I can see why you would consider that an upside. Nothing is easier than proselytizing in the empty room… no one is arguing with you…or listening, for that matter. Certainly not the nurses.

      • TVC15 says:

        Does that make you “no one”?

      • Anonymous says:

        LMAO, he doth protest too much.

  92. Anonymous says:

    I have just renewed, so far three hidden platonic’s, one rinser – requires an advance to prove I am genuine, two have already removed their profiles – I have got as far I am doing well too, thanks. So I didn’t scare them off 😉 And one cam girl. 0/7

    • TVC15 says:

      Tsk, and here I thought I might have to lower my standards because I heard SD’s are totally inundated with quality bargains. Life is full of surprises!

      • Anonymous says:

        You do have to lower your ask if you are not getting any.

        As for the 0/7, is he waiting for girls to contact him? In that case, even a dripping wet pussy would dry up.

      • Anonymous says:

        Lower my ask? I haven’t asked for anything yet! I have asked what are they looking for? The 0/7 means that I have struck out in seven contacts, as I am not looking for cam fun, pics, or sending 2k to prove I am genuine. Honestly, did you read the above or did you read garbage between the lines that does not exist.

      • Anonymous says:

        As for the 0/7, is he waiting for girls to contact him? In that case, even a dripping wet pussy would dry up.

        WTF does that mean?

      • Anonymous says:

        “Lower your ask” was addressed to TVC, who obviously doesn’t have any SD yet despite being on the blog for months trying to talk up price.

        As for the 0/7 SD, you’d have much better success initiating contacts. Show some initiative. Even from a purely statistical perspective: a girl who is in a relationship is not going to initiate contact with you; a girl who is busy trying to pick out an SD from several prospective SD’s is not likely to initiate contact with any one; a girl who has initiated contact with you is likely doing the same to several other prospect SD’s, yet without much success . . . statistically, you have a much higher chance of encountering lemons when you are only answering instead of simply throwing a dart at the screen and initiate contact with whomever the dart hits.

      • Anonymous says:

        I am initiating contact, I am also allowing them to hang themselves first by stating what delusional idea they have is an arrangement…

      • Anonymous says:

        “Lower your ask” was addressed to TVC, who obviously doesn’t have any SD yet despite being on the blog for months trying to talk up price.

        I do not think the blog has magical powers for anyone to drive prices up or down. Perhaps you refer to escort prices bc SB are not supposed to be described as *prices or rates* moron. Most in the lifestyle do not read this blog and even if they did, any sane person would read a few of the common posts here that can only be described as a clusterfu*k and never read again. Who can take it seriously when trolls constantly post, anyway

      • Anonymous says:

        The apparent paradox/riddle that you are observing was solved many weeks ago: TVC is an escort or wannabe escort.

      • Anonymous says:

        Fundude is an idiot. ^

    • Anonymous says:


      I am looking for financial support in return for pics.. I work part timing and I am studying so don’t really have the time to meet.

    • sd with open eyes says:

      I have not renewed. I have 16 messages but looking at the profiles of the senders I am not interested in reading what they have to say.

      As for you, you are lucky so far. You haven’t had to deal with psychos who flood your messages with hate messages on the slightest offense.

      • Anonymous says:

        I am currently on 0 for 30-40. I have found out where they all came from, the Daily Mail did an article where a girl got 6K (about $10K)
        for a platonic arrangement. Hahaha 😉

      • Anonymous says:

        I mean who wouldn’t want a platonic 50 year old 😉

      • Anonymous says:

        Just had another search:
        1. Looking to be paid for an online relationship talking about anything and everything you could ever want.
        2. Financial help in exchange for online relationship.
        3. i am looking for an online arrangement

        Now which one?

      • sd with open eyes says:

        For the SB’s who want an online relationship for money, you should tell them that you want a physical relationship for free.

      • Anonymous says:

        Just propose to send her pictures or a video of the money, as allowance for her pictures and video’s 🙂

  93. SweetYoungNatalia says:

    The first message should show your personality without being 800 words long. Keep it short and simple and always be respectful. It’s amazing how things work out if you show respect and interest.

  94. Anonymous says:

    Every profile is the same:
    I am seeking a gentleman. Someone honest, direct, and kind. I’d like to meet someone who is wise, generous and willing to share his insight. Someone who’s company I can enjoy, who simply has the means and desire to support me,dote on, and guide me.Treat me respectfully and I will do the same for you.

  95. Florence says:

    Blake Anonymous the funniest guy of this blog, i want to e-mail youuuuuuuu lollllllll

  96. xNebula says:

    I’ve been on here for a little bit and am just curious to see the man’s perspective on the kind of initial message you’re generally more inclined to reply to. 🙂 While I understand I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, some feedback would be appreciated

  97. Jaybird923 says:

    I see things have quieted down a bit… let’s see if it stays like this

  98. IHF2030 says:

    I came across this gem of a profile today, enjoy:

    About Me

    usually when describing myself on social media i gravitate towards oscar wilde’s phrase, “to define is to limit” – however given the nature of this website i realize that such a description may not be ideal. i like poetry. i like philosophy. i like art. i like food. i like film. i like sex. and most importantly, i like money.

    What I’m looking for

    – you, me, a small french cafe with the best coffee in the city, good conversation, and a envelope containing a fat wad cash. – i’m more intelligent than most girls on here, in fact i’m more intelligent than most girls, period. i’m looking for someone who can appreciate that and mentor me because they value beauty and also brains. – i want to be your retreat from the monotony of everyday life, someone who you can be completely relaxed and comfortable with and who takes your mind off of whatever else you have going on – an escape. – i know a lot about sex. i mean a lot. and i’m naturally submissive in bed which means i’m always eager to fulfil another mans fantasies. if that intrigues you then good – pay me.

    • Anonymous says:

      It was all fun and games until the What I’m looking for section.

      • Anonymous says:

        Probably one of the most if not the most eloquent and articulate escort I have seen online.

      • AnonymousSSSD says:

        She did say she was more intelligent than most girls. Lol! She’s definitely not very humble though. Humility seems to have pretty much disappeared in American society.

    • Anonymous says:

      I fail to see anything wrong with the profile.

    • Rick says:

      Great until the last two words. But it does make it clear what’s important to her

      • TVC15 says:

        Imagine, money being important to someone.

      • rembodler says:

        We know that money is important to you. In fact, we know that noting, but money, is important to you.
        TVC… do you have a…soul?

      • Anonymous says:

        What did you expect Rick?

      • rembodler says:

        since the moderator has an issue with my comment – I will say it anyway.
        We know that money is important to you. In fact, we know that noting, but money, is important to you.
        TVC… do you think you have a…soul?

      • rembodler says:

        …and to give you an example of what having a soul means.
        Do u think, TVC, people in Netherlands who were hiding Jews from Nazis were primarily motivated by money?

      • Anonymous says:

        Rem, you are asking TVC the wrong what-if response-to-Nazi question. For someone like TVC, the relevant question is: if you find yourself in a concentration camp with fellow SJW Fems, would you volunteer to put on the arm band to oversee other inmates, in exchange for some extra morsel of food every day and perhaps a later turn to be shot and buried, after you bury the others.

        The Milgram Experiments seemed to indicate that 50% of men would, and 80% women would! OTOH, not even 1 out 10 people would follow in the steps of the 117 heroic Dutch villagers of Nieuwlande. The memorial wall for the Righteous Among the Nations only has about 26k names, out of about 2 billion people living in the world around 1930-40.

      • Anonymous says:

        BTW, the Milgram Experiment phenomenon also explains why Socialist Utopia, wherever tried, always turns into Dystopia very quickly: when individual freedom to choose from multiple options in the market place is removed, other people are incredibly adept at inflicting pain and suffering on the objectified person, who is perforce operating under a monopoly. Incidentally, that is also the role of the husband trapped in a marriage that he can not easily replace.

      • TVC15 says:

        Anon, you’re perfectly describing the position of the 99% under late stage capitalism.

        Rem, you’re a drama queen.

      • Anonymous says:

        TVC, with that expression “late stage capitalism,” are you now debuting as a Marxian Communist?

        As Joseph Schumpeter observed, capitalistic market success and prosperity do produce socialist-leaning offsprings, who are the least charitable people in the society. Parents sending their kids to schools instead of raw market exposure, in hopes of giving the kids a leg up on other kids, end up conditioning the kids to a sort of “benign dictatorship” under the professors brainwashing them into socialism / central planning / slavery / dictatorship.

    • Kore says:

      Haha. A real life troll.

    • Anonymous says:

      (as another potSB) is it completely creepy to ask about her profile id? i imagine so, but she sounds fantastic, haha.

      note to self: this is a sugar site, NOT A BFF SITE.

  99. Taylor says:

    Has anyone ever attended one of these SA Summits before? If so, what are your thoughts?

    • Ava K says:

      For the women the classes taught during the day can be extremely informative and helpful.

      For the evening cocktail event they’re a great opportunity to not only network but to also meet and feel immediate chemistry for both men and women.

      I recommend them 🙂

      • Anonymous says:

        Haha, yes sure, but you work for SA! LOL

      • Jaybird923 says:

        Glad someone else noticed that. That’s unethical to do that without disclosing that you are an employee. I guess now everyone should be skeptical about posts on the blog from now on. If SA has decided to start pushing their products and services on the masses in this nature.

      • TVC15 says:

        They have no interest in moderating the abusers, yet they want to use the blog as a marketing tool. What a joke!

      • Sugarlushsugar says:

        One of my comment is still waiting for moderation ?

  100. Patrucio71 says:

    At the risk of bringing this blog back on track, a first message from either party involved should show *some* indication that your recipient’s profile has actually been read. I love exchanging a few messages and then I get the “Oh! I didn’t realize you were married.” or “Oh, I’m just looking for platonic.”
    Clearly written and spelled goes a long way in both profiles and messages. I don’t think they have a number that high yet for the number of SB profiles I’ve read that have the phrase “I am an intelligent women.” (Don’t get me started on the there/their/they’re your/you’re rant… I was a copy editor in a former life 🙂 )
    Guys and girls are just as guilty as sending a photo request as their initial and only message. That, or just “hey.”

    • sd with open eyes says:

      Most of the messages I get are “hey”, usually form women who are not in the same country. 🙁

      On the other hand, I have often used “What’s good?” as a first message. I have found that if you comment on anything more detailed than their smile they will think that you are a creepy stalker.

      • Anonymous says:

        If you’re willing to travel or have them travel to you I don’t see any problem.

      • Kore says:

        My guess is that they’re postponing reading the profile until you give them an allowance range. I can’t imagine that they are willing to be intimate with someone and not even start with the basics.

    • sd with open eyes says:

      My favorite sign of a poorly written profile is a woman who claims to be a collage student.

      My second favorite is a woman who spews out several dozens lines of exposition with no white space.

  101. Kore says:

    Me: …We should discuss some arrangement details before meeting, don’t you think?
    Then I have an idea of what to expect before we meet.

    Him: Dear K.
    au contraire to many people on SA, I am not a professional Sugardaddy looking for a professional Sugarbabe. I know those people exist but I still have no idea what important arrangement details have to be discussed beforehand. I am not like that.

    Sympathy, mutual attraction, lust and loyalty are things I value and I’m more looking for a partner in crime. A friend who enjoys f**ing me more than getting paid for it (which doesn’t mean you wouldn’t).

    It is important to set rules but in my opinion that’s all for later. I am a generous person and would share a lot of what I have with those who are important to me. But if you’re looking for an agreement on how much/what for, I’m probably not the one.

    …I just think that probably you should tell me about what you are looking for and what you expect from an ‘arrangement’.

    So… enough talk about me. Let me know what you think!

    Me: Hello ********,

    I avoid people who are looking for one-night-stands (effectively escorting) and people who demand things with their money that money can not buy. Such as loyality (exclusivity).

    I was already in a very long relationship and want to avoid emotional attachment, even though I enjoy the emotional connection. There’s a big difference and not everyone understands this or is looking for it.
    This is why I like SA – an arrangement is beneficial to both parties.

    However, just because I am looking for something genuine doesn’t mean I will sleep with anyone who tells me that they are nice OR generous. We have to share similar approaches and goals.

    The fact that my asking you a simple question and your reaction to it shows me that you are a bit too rigid for me. Of course, the relationships here are a bit delicate and that is exactly why they have to be dealth with with tact.
    I’ve made no mention of an allowance.. I actually never bring it up myself (probably why we have been in touch for so long?), but I am not about to travel to another city for a more or less blind date.

    If you wish, you can come to where I am instead and after we’ve figured out if we have chemistry, we can think about starting something.

    This is what I think.

    • Kore says:

      I wanted to share this because I think it’s a good way to deal with someone who wants chemistry, is vague about arrangement details and still wants that the SB puts all the effort into it…

      • rembodler says:

        There is WAY too much beating around the bushes on his part. While I try to avoid talking about numbers before MG, I think the SB should have a general idea that there will be allowance and roughly how much. I have yet to see an SB who expected less than what she was offered, but many women have a bottom line (£/date) below which they would not go or they are truly negotiable.
        On your part, if you expect £££/date and consider anything less being an insult…why didn’t you tell him?

      • Kore says:

        The closest we’ve ever come to discussing an allowance is what I’ve posted here.

        I wouldn’t have taken insult since my self worth doesn’t depend on how much money someone else earns and how they decide to spend it. 😀 Honestly, the lower offers are also mostly from people with lower incomes & net worth anyway, so it explains a bit.

        With this particular guy.. Well, maybe he’s just a bit weird.

      • TVC15 says:

        He’s weaselly and full of it. I would have said something like, I’m looking for some financial support. Then if he continues to contort himself, I don’t think this is going to work, thanks, bye. Don’t let the timewasters waste too much of your time.

      • TVC15 says:

        “I am not a professional sugardaddy”? Really. How long do you think he spent making that one up?

      • Anonymous says:

        That’s basically how you get scammed. You can’t be that dumb. This is what Dave deals with, not real SDs.

      • rembodler says:

        While this guy could be a scammer, that is not really something necessarily true, that “shines through” his message. He might just be extra careful and/or looking for a woman who likes him first and his money second. There is nothing wrong with wanting that. Finding that – is, obviously, the whole different ballgame.

      • Anonymous says:

        Bottom line is, you need Jesus!

      • Kore says:

        Not sure if it’s a scam – that depends on the agreement, but a time waster definitely.
        I’m still not used to people looking for everything but an arrangement here. It looks like more are just using it as a first filter to find classier women as girlfriends or for a cheap alternative to escorts… And it’s kind of weird how quite a few like the one I’ve posted here want exclusivity despite being in a serious relationship/marriage.


    • AnonymousSSSD says:

      That whole response to you @Kore reaks of being scripted. Real people speak plainly

    • Anon Baby says:

      He’s a Salt Daddy. Anyone that says a “friend that enjoy fu***** me more than getting paid” just sounds like he signed up because he’s tired of paying. This means that it will be more imporant to not provide any allowance than to enjoy a mutually beneficial arrangement.

      • Anon Baby says:

        Avoid this pot at all costs as he feels owed from his decades of escort purchases. A sugarbaby to him is his chance to get it all back without giving. These types don’t even count as Splendas and they really do give me the creepd.

  102. Carter says:

    Does anyone know more details about party in la on may 20th

  103. Anonymous says:

    Right clicking is back, woo hoo!

  104. TVC15 says:

    Pretty soon, America will have either its first woman president, or its first socialist president. I’d prefer the socialist, but the woman kinda works for me too.

    • Anonymous says:

      Socialist president, you mean Trump? I don’t think he’s socialist per se (as obviously he is a Republican) but has some of those tendencies. That is the worst thing that could happen to the US though, they have been fighting communism all their existence, and a rich bastard with no prior political involvement cannot come and change that! George Washington would roll on his grave.

      • TVC15 says:

        It’s time for the US to stop fighting socialism, and just lie back and enjoy it.

      • Anonymous says:

        I know you are the fake TVC but that wouldn’t be convenient for you either. Capitalism is what keeps SA alive and you know it.

      • TVC15 says:

        SA is capitalism’s inevitable result.

      • Anonymous says:

        “SA is capitalism’s inevitable result.”

        TVC would rather prefer the alternative: being abducted and raped by an invader like Genghis Khan.

      • Anonymous says:

        Hasn’t Genghis Khan been dead for a thousand years now?

      • Anonymous says:

        Which is why his name can be cited as a prototypical invading barbarian rapist (that bored women dream about) without offending the P/C crowd.

    • Anonymous says:

      There have been plenty female presidents and socialist presidents in Latin America. Surprisingly, none of them turned out well. I can understand why a population that elected socialist presidents would deserve the giving up of individual choice to slave masters exactly as promised and the subsequent mutual predation. The lack of any prosperity from the woman presidents so far where they have been tried is rather surprising. Perhaps the totally corrupt warmonger candidate we have might prove otherwise if she is elected.

      • TVC15 says:

        Agree she’s a corrupt warmonger, that’s why I’d prefer the socialist (Sanders, natch). She’d still be incomparably better than anyone the GOP’s offering, and that barrier would be broken.

      • Anonymous says:

        So the message is loud and clear: your top choice is someone who wants to make you into a plantation slave who gets free medicine, free education, free housing, free food and free clothing, sometimes even a free mate. “Free” meaning the slave master gets to choose instead of allowing you choice via an instrument called “money.” Have you ever thought what “socialism” in sugar would be like? Every girl will have an SD, but it’seems not up to her to choose; most SD’s in that scenario would be like Dave but makes even less, as the average male individual income is only just over $30k/yr. That’s how low the line has to go if every girl is assgned an SD. That system would be good news to sub-Dave guys indeed. Socialism is the dream for the ugly and unproductice. However, even for them it quickly turns into a nightmare.

        Your second choice is a woman, if elected, will turn voters off on the idea of woman presidents for at least 2 generations.

      • Anonymous says:

        All presidents, including female ones are led by their party or hidden government.

      • TVC15 says:

        Um. Have you looked at who the GOP is offering?

      • Anonymous says:

        GOP is offering a former Democrat who will win the general election for not being a professional politician, who are the fundamental mechanism for political corruption.

        Just like the Ancient Greeks, people in a Democracy will eventually figure out that office holders should be chosen by lottery. What people should vote for is ostracising: banishing the guy too influential for the rest of the society.

      • TVC15 says:

        Sorry Anon, I don’t know which one of the clown parade you’re referring to.

    • AnonymousSSSD says:

      Doesn’t matter who sits in that oval office. Nothing will change. Our whole political system has long since been corrupted by lobbyists, special interest groups and big money banks & corporations. The only goal with our political leaders is to
      maintain power and enrich
      themselves in the process.

      • Anonymous says:

        I am afraid you’re damn right about that….

      • TVC15 says:

        Bernie’s different.

      • Anonymous says:

        Bernie doesn’t understand that power corrupts. The new nexii of power that he is proposing would only lead to greater corruption. Ruling by executive orders would only lead to his impeachment or the country becoming a Monarchy.

      • Anonymous says:

        The only kingdom where Bernie can be a monarch is the magic kingdom in Anaheim.

  105. Sugarlushsugar says:

    Grrr…I just got a long copy-paste first message telling how pretty I am and how he can fulfill the arrangement and asking me out.
    Makes me wanna reply “OK”.

  106. Anonymous says:

    Can you imagine someone with the username ‘Way too good for you’ contacting you and then reading that profile? It makes you wonder what is everlasting.


    • Anonymous says:

      Despite all the temptations of a unicorn, I would not be able to get past that profile.

    • SugarD says:

      That guy is so FOS his eyes are brown I bet.

      • Anonymous says:

        What do you think this guy’s eyes are? It’s Make yourself feel better because your profile doesn’t suck that bad day.


      • sugar sugar says:


        this can’t be serious right — are Xbox players SDs now too?

      • Anonymous says:

        XBox players don’t need to be SD’s. They are the ones the SB’s are fucking for free everyday. Only multimillionaires with a stable job enjoy the privilege of being a SD so they can support the SB without enjoying the benefits of sex. The SB’s are already too tired from fucking XBox players all day long. But somebody has to pay their bills and shoes.

      • A Nonnymouse says:

        If you think that’s the way the world works anonymous, you have a rude awakening coming right up. 😀

    • Anonymous says:

      Worth $60 million, but can’t get a decent shave. He is more Bic than Art of Shaving 😉

  107. Cat says:

    In my opinion, the worst first messages are the ones that are only enabling access to private photographs or offering a sum of money for a few encounters. Considering I have made it clear on my profile that I’m not an escort, it’s a bit of a pain.

    • Cat says:

      Unless you look like Christoph Waltz – then show me as many private photos as you like!

    • Anonymous says:

      As was discussed here and elsewhere, saying that you are not an escort is not very helpful. People who want to message you as they will escort, will not be dissuaded by that; people who will message you as a POT SB do not need that reminder, it comes across as unnecessarily combatitive. Same as a man saying “Do not treat me as an ATM”.

      • AnonymousSSSD says:

        I agree in general with what you say, but she does mention it a polite and non abrasive manner. I kind of like her profile. She seems like a down to earth gal. I hope she finds the right arrangement.

      • Anonymous says:

        Correct, the sugar forum has covered this extensively.

        The SDs have come to that conclusion.

        Very productive discussions, unlike around here due to the anon trolling.

      • Anonymous says:

        Says Fundude posting as anonymous…..

        You’re laugahable and sad at the same time clown.
        You’re a joke.

      • Anonymous says:

        Eagle-eyed anon at 12:02. Love ya!

      • TVC15 says:

        Yes, very good

    • Anonymous says:

      @ Cat

      Just a small question. When and where did you start to study cardiology, that you have already dropped it by age 24?

      • Anonymous says:

        I cannot answer for her, but in Europe the medical education is undergraduate. You can start specializing in cardiology by the time you are 20.

      • Cat says:

        I’m in England and so an undergraduate degree is usually three years long. I didn’t drop Cardiology (I should probably make that clear on my profile), I just moved onto further education as an extension of it. I just wrote that I’m not longer doing it because my profile was pretty old and I hastly updated it.

      • Another anonymous says:

        @ Anonymous

        Even in Europe you practically cannot graduate from a medical school before 23 years and 8 months of age. But it is a minor point. 🙂

      • Anonymous says:

        @Another, in my country medical school is only 5 years. So if you start at 18, you will be able to graduate at 23, if you don’t drop any classes/grades.

      • MD2016 says:

        I think you most not really mean cardiology, as in the medical speciality. I assume you mean you did some kind of undergrad science degree, maybe with an honours year doing CVD research?

      • Another anonymous says:

        @ MD2016

        Yep, that was my point. Studying cardiology can mean various things, but for many people it implies MD degree and pursuing further education in cardiology specialty/subspecialty. Hardly a career choice at 24 and it sounds a bit odd, if you use it outside of this context.

      • Cat says:

        For privacy reasons I obviously don’t want to go into the specific details of what I do but studying Cardiology does not necessarily mean you are training to become a practicing medical doctor. It can also mean that you plan to go into research, or to become a lecturer/professor. An undergraduate degree whilst working with a tutor on his research into specific areas of Cardiology before beginning a combined Masters and Phd. There are many routes in education, for the sake of being as basic as possible without giving too much away to people I don’t know before speaking to them. If you start an undergraduate degree at 18, 3 years = 21 years old. Then beginning a Masters and combined Phd – it adds up.

      • TVC 15 says:

        If you’re concerned about privacy, have you considered not using an identifiable photo?

    • Anonymous says:

      No sex no problem keep the $ugar comin, yeah baby!

    • Anonymous says:

      What are you talking about, there have been countless arrangements like this. Even more so than the ‘regular’ ones. Haha

    • Anonymous says:

      Your rinsing mind games, don’t work on me 😉

    • FatB'StardSA says:

      Organic, and natural (any other new age/hippy jargon used to describe a relationship) is rinser code.

      The openly platonic SB’s are mocked on the blog but at least they are up front about their limits. Do not fall for these scum bag rinsers!

      Have a nice day :-).

  108. Anonymous says:


  109. Anonymous says:

    Thank you very much, and my congratulations to @Fundude, @Dave, @Monkey and some others I forget to name. Sorry!
    You did such a great job killing this blog! Tumbs up for all you trolls!

    I also want to thank SA for the excellent job of letting it happen! Good work guys!

    So, since now this blog is officially dead, can the last one who leaves put out the lights please?

  110. Florence says:

    Wow this mod doesn’t delete comments where clearly someone is offending me but yes my comments

  111. sd with open eyes says:

    I wonder if SA would add a new ability: instead of being able to favorite a profile, how about being able to “disapprove” of a profile. It might sound like a negative thing, but it could also be seen as a sign that they cared enough to give an opinion and might even have suggestions on how to make it better. Just being able to heart a profile is bland an not exciting.

    • TVC 15 says:

      (1) Brand new sugar baby signs up
      (2) A horde of FD-style assholes neg her profile just because they are assholes
      (3) Brand new sugar baby deletes profile
      (4) Sugar daddies complain on blog about poor selection of available sugar babies

      • Anonymous says:

        Kind’ve sucks to find to have to post in places where other people get to vote, especially SDs!

        Damn those SDs! They should just give money to women without any complaints!

      • TVC15 says:

        SDs should not vote. They are imbeciles. They should just put the money into my PayPal account once they realize how intelligent I am. I went to a free collage in Canada and took a bunch of women’s classes. I know my worth and so should they.

      • sd with open eyes says:

        SB would be able to “neg” a SD’s profile as well.

        But, it doesn’t necessarily have to be a neg, it could be a “I think this profile could be better” thing.

    • Kore says:

      Not very classy.

    • AnonymousSSSD says:

      Not a fan of the whole disprove thing. Nor the favorite thing for that matter. I show my favoritism by writing a msg to a pot sb and my disapproval by not. This ain’t Facebook lol!

  112. Florence says:

    I wonder why my comments were deleted when there are worse comments lol. It was crypt? yeah i recall him and his weird taste

  113. Anonymous says:

    So, now @Florence/monkey is moderated for racist comments, well done SA moderators!
    But what are you going to do with the rest of the idiotic comments?

    • Anonymous says:

      how can you moderate someone that is anonymous or can fake any moniker?

      • Anonymous says:

        Just cancel their messages when they are offensive or name calling?
        ANY message, from whomever!

        You can see how good that works on the other blog.
        Once they know their messages got cancelled the trolls will stop posting and normal people will feel free again to start posting.

    • Florence says:

      Probably you have a prob in your eyes, cause now my name is Florence and not monkey!

  114. Honey says:


    OAN: What’s with all the bickering? doesn’t seem to be related to the post…

  115. Anonymous says:

    As soon as both sides come out of this cycle satisfied…who cares?

  116. Anonymous says:


  117. Anonymous says:

    Certainly, if a poster says that BBW are pretty, that is not fundude. If a poster says men are people too, that is not TVC. I think I can work with that…

    • Anonymous says:

      Remember fundude had his pictures stolen and a fake profile made which posted on here as well.

      Fake email addresses with a copied picture is all the gravatar.com needs to link it to a name.

      Nothing can be verified here.

      TVC and Jaybird are even worse since they have nothing identifiable

  118. Anonymous says:

    We don’t know if Fundude is actually Fundude. Hasn’t his profile and name been faked already? I remember when he had some gay profile made to troll things

    Jaybird is actually Jaybird

    TVC is actually TVC

    They need to attach blog posters to their profiles, then we can actually tell if they are who they say they are!

    • Anonymous says:

      Psychopath @fundude do you actually think SA is going to give you your way since you are trolling like you are on crack?
      You appear to want profiles linked to every message or emails and think trolling nonstop and shutting the blog down by impersonating other posters will get your way? Not going to happen. Now go away and get the mental help you desperately need.

    • Anonymous says:

      Well, if you would have 2 braincells you would know it is not TVC posting as TVC now.
      Here nick is hijacked by one of the idiot resident trolls.

      And sinds the regular names don’t post with their emailadress anymore because it will get them moderated and so they appear without their avatar, there is no way to tell who is who.

      Only thing that’s sure, is this blog completely being out of control.

      Clever job SA moderators!

      • Anonymous says:

        Avatars can be faked. All you have to do is make a fake email address with gravatar and use the pic.

        Nothing can be verified here!

      • Anonymous says:

        I know, but they actually TOLD they posted without emailadress because of the moderation.
        So even if not verifiable, at least it is likely.

        Whereas the TVC figure is obviously a troll.

      • Anonymous says:

        We all know it is FunDude causing trouble as usual.

    • TVC 15 says:

      I support this idea!

      Oh wait, no I don’t. I would be unable to post with sockpuppets then, which would be bad for me.

  119. Jaybird923 says:

    I see the stupidity is still going on great job SA at moderating. See what you’ve unleashed by flagging the emails instead of getting rid of anonymous posting. Real smart. I won’t be posting on the blog today so any post with my moniker isn’t from me just like the shit from last night.

  120. Jaybird923 says:

    I see the stupidity is still going on great job SA at moderating. See what you’ve unleashed by flagging the emails instead of getting rid of anonymous posting. Real smart. I won’t be posting on the blog today so any post with my moniker isn’t from me just like the shit from last night.

  121. Jaybird923 says:

    I see the stupidity is still going on great job SA at moderating. See what you’ve unleashed by flagging the emails instead of getting rid of anonymous posting. Real smart.

  122. Anonymous says:

    I don’t know how fundude can come and post on the blog, and be taken serious again. No idea!

  123. TVC 15 says:

    And due to the worth moderation on this blog plus the anonymous posting where no one is linked to a profile on SA, I can basically say anything that I want as anonymous!

    This is the perfect place for me!

    • Anonymous says:

      Funny thing is what TVC says at least makes sense, because she’s in this lifestyle. We all should take what Fundude says with a grain of salt because he doesn’t know any better and is apparently a great troll too.

      A simple thing such as removing the email address from the posting can result in a major trolling armageddon.

    • Anonymous says:

      How do you even know if Fundude is posting as Fundude?

    • Anonymous says:

      As if it wasn’t troll armageddon before. Nothing will top that nut job @FunDude from posting. Nothing, except if SA starts giving even a slight flying fuck and bans him like they should have long ago.

  124. Anonymous says:

    Fundude’s trolling has gone off the rails. It’s plain racist now.

    Where is my black slave Jaybird? I need her to tell you off

    • TVC 15 says:

      Fundude, Rem, Dave and all the other usual suspects are a bunch of racist bigots and woman haters.

      We all know that my alter ego sock puppet

    • x says:

      So much for Fundude being a “doctor”. No doctor will have time to be on a blog harassing people ALL day. What a joke.

      • Anonymous says:

        Fundude is a miserable excuse of a man.

        Apart from the time, what intelligent, handsome, happy, 35 yo doctor, owning plaid boxers and a fast Mercedes, fucking a 23 yo hot and thin blonde GF for free, would WANT to troll on diverse blogs?

  125. Anonymous says:

    Great job moderators of SA!
    But really! Blog has never been good as it is now you are moderating!

  126. FatB'StardSA says:

    @TVC15’s posts are more interesting today!

    Have a nice day :-).

  127. Florence says:

    😛 😀

  128. sd with open eyes says:

    I wonder if someone can help me out. There was a porno movie in the eighties that had an interesting premise, 95% of the population had become “sex negative” and the 5% of the people would could still have sex would perform “shows” for adventuresome sex negatives to see how much they could take. These “shows” were often pretty arty with bosses dressed as bosses doing secretaries. There were two versions, on a sci-fi movie, the other porn. Does anyone remember the title of this movie?

  129. Jaybird923 says:

    TVC just ignore those trolls!

    Maybe we can go together to TUMBLR to bitch about salt daddies together!

    • TVC 15 says:

      Bitch please.

      As a true SJW, you better recognize I am a White female making me inherently superior to you.

      I tell you what to do and you listen like my puppy dog.

      I might let you in on this feminist racket if you know your place.

      Now bitch, get my shoes

    • rembodler says:

      And I thought the place was fukced up before… Look at it now.

    • Nameless says:

      jay what the hell happened here

      • Jaybird923 says:

        @Nameless SA automatically flagged all the posters that had Gravatars so people started posting with out it. And fun idiot and the nit wit crew decided to start posting using other people’s monikers.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        @nameless SA automatically flagged all the posters that had Gravatars so people started posting without it. And fun idiot and the nit wit crew decided to start posting using other people’s monikers. And this is the result of the combined stupidity of SA and the trolls

      • TVC 15 says:

        thanks, jay it looks like this blog is done then I’m out of here it’s been nice knowing you take care

      • Nameless says:

        wow this is really messed up now

  130. TVC15 says:

    I am so hot! I rule this place! All of you – allegiance!
    Obey! Sing “TVC is my Mistress!” Bow!

  131. Anonymous says:

    Hello, fellow Sugarbowlers!

    Been gone for quite a while; I see TVC is still monopolizing things on the blog here, eh?

    How have things been?

    • TVC 15 says:

      I have to monopolize this place!

      I am making the world safe from the evil patriarchal fatties like Fundude who don’t understand the worth of older fat women!

      I will continue my shaming language methods to silence all dissent like a true SJW!

    • Anonymous says:

      It’s a fake halfwit, can’t you read the comments? I don’t think TVC would ever state those things and troll the blog. It’s either:
      1. Fundude (most probably) or
      2. Dave the stalker

      • TVC 15 says:

        No, actually I did that. I freely admit it.

        What else did you want me to do? I can’t do the anonymous posting shit over there and can’t use shaming language.

        I thought if I made a socket puppet that claimed I easily get men worth >50 million dollars because I am picky, I would fool the SDs into paying much higher allowances!

        It didn’t work though because all the SDs didn’t believe me and called me a TUMBLR troll! They even shut down the thread!

        Fuck that place!

      • Anonymous says:

        You’re a loser, with no life fundude. Sad thing is you aren’t even a SD. You are just here to troll. It’s pathetic to watch.

  132. Jaybird923 says:

    You guys should be ashamed of yourselves. Thanks for ruining this space for everyone else.

    • TVC 15 says:

      Why u so salty Jay? Besides the giant saline bags in your tits?

    • TVC 15 says:


      I know these bastards have ruined such a wonderful space!

      I can’t believe these fucks like Rem and Fundude question my stories about older fat assed women getting >100K/week allowances from billionaires routinely.

      it was so much better when I could use shaming language on those bastards and shut them up! those were the days!

  133. TVC 15 says:

    What is up with all these weak guys who are making sock puppets on here!

    You guys are all SMALL PENISED LOSERS who can’t get laid. Dave, Fundude, Rem, and the others!

    You fucks better started reading some Betty Freidan when it comes to sugar relationships. I expect you bastards to pay me 10K/month while you lick my crusty vagina that I am unable to wash due to my obesity problem!

    And yes gentlemen, you better like BBWs!

  134. Anonymous says:

    FD, Dave, Rem all the types of guys who got pushed around in HS. Tough luck. Tough call maybe better time next life. They even came to a site where they pay women and still couldn’t find women to be with them. It’s a tough life for some.

    • TVC 15 says:

      I am TVC15 and I approve this message.

    • TVC 15 says:

      Yeah they are all weak losers!

      My SD is a billionaire that pays me 100K/week to lick my va jay jay and feed me Haagen Daaz while we recite Betty Freidan discussions together.

      I usually take his money after I bang my ripped 22 year old 6 pack boyfriend and let him drop his load on my face!

      These guys better recognize game!

      Down with the Patriarchy!

  135. sd with open eyes says:

    Wow, the blog responses are still 95% one guy arguing with his sock puppets. Some things never change.

  136. Anonymous says:

    That damn FUNDUDE!

    He is so damn fat!

    Fuck Dave and Rem too! They are losers who can’t ever get a female as great as TVC!

    I only deal with ripped celebrity type men who give me 200K/month to read them my feminist poetry!

    They eat me out while I read them Betty Friedan novels.

    • TVC 15 says:

      You forgot to attempt to pose as me again, nitwit.


    • TVC 15 says:

      Friedan never wrote a novel, fool. Why don’t you pick up a book sometime? Or cheat, and use Google?

      • TVC 15 says:

        You can’t help but be a twit, can you?

        Freidan wrote ‘books’ rather than ‘novels’. 6 of them. That’s one more than the fingers you have on one hand (probably).

        Does that make you happy, Mz. “Blog comments need to follow AP formatting”?

      • TVC 15 says:

        No, because you misspelled “Friedan”.

      • TVC 15 says:

        Way to be racist against someone for whom English is obviously their second language TVC. Tsk tsk.

        Yeah, using ‘novels’ in place of ‘books’ totally obscured the point he was trying to make and that wasn’t actually a bitchy little correction for no reason whatsoever.

      • TVC 15 says:

        I can’t actually address anyone’s arguments, so I address their spelling and grammar instead!

      • TVC 15 says:

        Actually, the English is perfect. I’d say “nice try”, but it wasn’t.

      • FunDude says:

        I’m intimidated by smart, confident women. That’s why I get obsessed over them on blogs.

      • TVC 15 says:

        Arguments? Bwah ha

  137. Anonymous says:

    Somebody appears to be taking stimulants while trolling. Scary

  138. Anonymous says:

    Looks like it’s more than just one guy who dislikes you TVC.

    SA has a posting filter that blocks you from posting too often, which you probably are aware of from your own sockpuppet activities.

    This is at least…4-5 people here on the TVC train. Maybe more! FD, Dave, and Rem weren’t enough, eh?

    • TVC15 says:

      Bitch, Im a superstar!

      I teach SBs like the European 60 year old BBW below how to get 1 million/month allowances from 23 year old billionaire men damnit!

      I won’t let them deal with any dude worth less than 1.5 billion in net worth.

      They also know that I am an independent woman who doesn’t take their shit if they give me lip, so they damn well better not get out of line!

      Billionaire SDs come crawling on their hands and knees to give me money!

    • Anonymous says:

      am sure she is crushed considering the creepy sources. It should be the highest honor to be disliked by those slimeballs. she must be doing something right 🙂

    • Anonymous says:

      Lol then why is me and other Anons agreeing with her? Because we fucking hate that bitch LildickDude.

  139. TVC 15 says:

    Wow… the insanity’s going nuclear. Looks like someone’s headed for a straitjacket!

    • Anonymous says:

      Im a European SB that was taught by Elaine how to get 200K/month platonic relationships from 25 year old billionaire men despite being 60 years old and a BBW!

      Stop being a troll and let the real Elaine and TVC teach stuff around here!

    • Anonymous says:

      I think SAs failed attempt at moderating him today was the final piece of thread that took him off the edge.

  140. TVC15 says:

    Too bad Im just an angry fat feminist that ruins this blog speaking TUMBLR type nonsense

    I know Fundude is superior to any male I could achieve in real life, who am I kidding?

    • TVC 15 says:

      ^ – This comment was actually by the real TVC.

      You can tell because she did subtle stuff like leave out the space between TVC and 15, her all-capsing of TUMBLR, and her misuse of achieve.

      Attempting to agree and ampify, real depictee detected beep beep boop

      • TVC15 says:

        Damn right on the real TVC!

        Now let me read my romance novels and eat my Haagen Daas while pretending to get 10K platonic allowances on TUMBLR!

        Get the fuck out of here troll!

      • TVC 15 says:

        OK, Now I know you’re NOT the real TVC.

        She DEFINITELY knows there is a dash in Haagen-Daaz. Poser.

      • TVC15 says:

        I damn well know what the fuck Haagen Daaz is!

        What do you think me and my morbidly obese feminist friends eat while getting together to complain about the patriarchy!

        Damn trolls!

  141. TVC 15 says:

    Aw, who am I kidding?

    If the blog was moderated, I’d have to behave like I do on Reddit. Wouldn’t be able to snark, wouldn’t be able to do anything much more than meekly agree with people. Where’s the fun in that?

    Here I have my sockpuppet swarm to shield me from the withering gaze of others though!

    • TVC15 says:

      Fuck no Im not meek! Stop it sock puppet!

      I am very aggressive in kissing mod ass in a failed attempt to get them to regulate the SDs on the reddit forum that call me out on my delusions!

      I made a fake name on the reddit website that got downvoted by many SDs and called a TUMBLR troll but no one will figure it out! I fooled them!

      Now I will continue to troll on here with my many anonymous proxy accounts while eating my Haagen Daas ice cream

    • TVC 15 says:

      Fuck off, fake TVC15. I don’t need sockpuppets;I’ve at least got the courage to put my own pseudonym to whatever I post, unlike you.

      • Anonymous says:

        Bitch, now Im my anonymous self!

        See all the support I am getting from other people on here!

        Oh wait, let me pretend I am someone else besides TVC.

        Im another EUROPEAN SB that has been taught by TVC how to get 200K/month allowances from platonic super fit men! They worship me damnit!

      • Anonymous says:

        I see you are still pushing that agenda Fundude/Anon. It’s not going to happen.

  142. Jaybird923 says:

    @TVC and Fundude I think this animosity can be remedied with sex… you know work out all your frustration in bed. There’s a thin line between love and hate ?

    • TVC 15 says:

      I’ve actually been having a dream where him and Dave double team me for a while now. It’s a bit of a guilty fantasy 🙂

      • TVC 15 says:

        Fuck off please, fake TVC15. Now I’ve asked you nicely, and if you don’t cut it out, I’ll be forced to drop the “please”.

      • TVC 15 says:

        Yes, please quit faking it, fake TVC 15. But not my real sockpuppets, I want you to keep at it.

        The dream wasn’t about being double teamed by FunDude and Dave at all.

        It was about being triple teamed by FunDude, Dave, and Rem.

      • TVC 15 says:

        Omg. Good thing I haven’t eaten

      • Anonymous says:

        @FunDude you do realize this is not your own personal blog to ruin with your nonsense. This is not the FunDude show. Do stop posting as other people and causing trouble- again.

      • Anonymous says:


        Please disregard my previous comment. I’m a bit of a nutter you see and have multiple personalities that just can’t seem to agree on anything.

      • TVC 15 says:

        He will never stop. He can’t, it’s compulsive. The only way to stop it is moderation. I understand they tried that but did it badly?

      • Anonymous says:

        Grown ”men” behaving this way.

        LOSERS who need meds.

      • Anonymous says:

        I can’t fucking picture 40+ year old men going in to a blog like this to troll the living shit out of it. WTF is wrong with you?

    • TVC 15 says:

      Sorry Jay, I only have sex with intelligent men. Thanks for trying to help, though!

      • rembodler says:

        Since intelligent men run away from @TVC like they will from a plague…I hope that Hitachi Magic Wand works for you @TVC…;))))).

      • Anonymous says:

        Sex with small minded men whose only entertainment is insulting women on a blog is still worse than the smallest hitachi and dead batteries )))))-:

      • Anonymous says:

        I wonder what Rem’s problem with TVC is now? Is it because she expresses her opinions on an arrangement without questions asked?

    • Fundude says:

      Depends on her body habitus.

      Usually thinner, attractive women don’t have that angry of an attitude. S\\o I would be frankly worried to have relations with her lol

      • TVC 15 says:

        You’re definitely fatter than I prefer, but that’s not why the idea is so horrifying.

        Honestly Jay, the FB post from yesterday and now this. Are you trying to see if you can induce vomiting at long distance?

      • Jaybird923 says:

        @TVC ROTFLMAO No I’m not but I can see how one could think that. Was just trying to provide a bit of comic relief but it looks like it failed since the trolling has gotten worse instead of better.

      • TVC 15 says:

        Jay, that wasn’t the real me. Please don’t even engage further with these trolls.

      • Anonymous says:

        Where does he get these conclusions man? From my experience young entitled women are the worst in attitudes. They will tell you they want 10k straight up for a platonic meet and greet once a month.

  143. Fundude says:


    Seriously, your trolling is getting worse and worse under Anonymous lol

  144. Anonymous says:

    If TVC would just ignore FD and FD would ignore TVC maybe we’d have a better blog. If FD would drop dead we would probably have an even better blog. If Dave and FD got in an arrangement we would have the best blog

    • Anonymous says:

      Get on Reddit, anon. See if your opinions hold up in an arena where you can’t control the frame of the conversation.

      Here’s a tip; they won’t. Just like they didn’t for Elaine, TVC, or the rest of the SA derp patrol. Funny how the SDs and non-mongo SBs do just fine over there though. Quelle surprise!

      • Anonymous says:

        I went on reddit FD. Too much political correctedness for me. Don’t even see why you’re bringing it up. Do you farm much?

      • Anonymous says:

        Translation: “My ideas completely failed to gain traction there with anyone, and I only enjoy participating in conversations where peoples’ actual support or disagreement with me is hidden, so I can pretend that I’m scoring points against them and feel better about myself rather than starting at downvotes.”

        Got it!

      • Fundude says:

        LOL so true.

        She got her ass run off there due to the mods doing a far better job than here.

        This place is a joke. Now they are putting everyone with an email on “moderation”.

      • Anonymous says:

        I never posted there. Just checked it out. Not wasting my time. It’s even more delirious over there than here but keep it up FD under Anonymous.

  145. Anonymous says:

    And TVC, you were warned in Reddit.

    There is a thread there called “General Reminders for SA Blog “Refugees””

    Right after “Welcome to the community”, they say:

    Your drama is very unwelcome here, the mods will not tolerate it.

    I suppose you think that was meant for FunDude, and not you. You would be wrong, as you are about oh so many things.

    You grasp this also, which is why you at first tried to stick your tongue up the arse of the moderator there (you responded on that thread with a comment of “Thank you! It’s great to have a respectful place to talk sugar” as if you yourself aren’t one of the most disrespectful wastes of oxygen around, and then promptly proceeded to police your own tone and language so diligently ever since.

    It’s disgusting and hilarious all at once, please keep it up.

    • TVC 15 says:

      Wrong again, Anon. You really make a habit of it, don’t you? And you’re obsessed with me as well. How embarrassing for you, I’m just a little person. Why don’t you find a star to stalk or something?

      • Anonymous says:

        Yeah, it’s really annoying when people piss all up in your cornflakes, isn’t it.

        Now you understand how the rest of the blog feels about you and your swarm of sockpuppets.

        You keep asserting that 1 click on your username in Reddit entails obsession on my part though. Makes as much sense as anything else you say, I suppose.

      • TVC 15 says:


    • Anonymous says:

      That was a general and very appropriate message to the new participants from the SA blog who were then posting in the reddit forum, since they knew about the trolling here. It was not meant for TVC15 but in warning new posters to their forum the drama that goes on here will not be tolerated on reddit.

    • Anonymous says:

      @TVC 15 At this point I think it is fairly obvious that the troll who keeps mentioning your blog name and talking crazy was hoping you would come back here so they could argue with you.

    • Fundude says:

      She appears very unpopular on that Reddit with mostly down votes lol

      Now she is trolling with anonymous accounts. This “anonymous” stuff ruins this blog lol

  146. Letsgojasmine says:

    I love when a guy messages me about something he read from my profile… brownie points:)

  147. GeorgiaG16 says:

    Maybe it’s a Midwest thing, but I get plenty of interesting messages everyday! Haha the guys up here crack me up.

  148. Jaybird923 says:

    How ridiculous! They locked that post from the SB with a platonic arrangement.

  149. Fundude says:


    Very true. She has nothing productive to say once the shaming language/attacking language is removed.

    Interesting, once all that “noise” is filtered out, the discussions become eerily similar to mine!

    I would speak in a “nice” manner too if afford that luxury on this website. Since there has been no moderation of “tone”, it has to get nasty here.

    • Anonymous says:

      Actually, the reason the blog took a downward spiral into nasty is a large part bc of you.

      Take the hint since you were blocked from reddit and now are having your comments moderated and deleted here. Your nasty trolling is not welcome.

    • TVC 15 says:

      What’s the purpose of the quotation marks around “noise”, “nice”, and “tone”?

      • Fundude says:


        You aren’t fooling anyone with your anonymous nonsense.

        How come you don’t make more posts on the sugar forum? You seem very tame over there.

        Some chick (probably your throwaway account) that sounded IDENTICAL to you got totally shut down by all the SDs, so bad they had to close the posting lol

      • Anonymous says:

        You are dim enough that it needs to be spelled out? OK, I’ll bite:

        “Noise” – he’s implying that all of your commentary is basically static; white noise, if you will.

        “Nice” – he’s talking about the faux-considerate tone you’re using on Reddit now to avoid further warning and punishment. It’s obvious that you’re being forced to be civil, and your fist-clenching rage and venom veritably seethes, and drips off every word of your uncharacteristically short posts, etc.

        “Tone” – he’s referring to the spirit of your comments, despite your polite language. He’s pointing out that no one can moderate your bitchy tone out, even when you are, technically, ‘polite’.

        Does that help you understand?

      • TVC 15 says:

        Duh. I understand the words. What I asked was why he put quotation marks around the words, as they serve no obvious purpose. Try reading before you respond with a lengthy, irrelevant post.

      • Anonymous says:

        He put quotation marks around them because:

        1) Your words aren’t actually “noise”, despite the aptness of the metaphor.

        2) Your words aren’t actually “nice”. In fact, they’re full of venom/bile as described in my previous comment.

        3) “Tone” – on this one, FunDude is guilty. No reason to put tone in those air quotes, because he actually did mean tone. Forgive him and chalk this up to the psychological propensity that people have to do things in threes.

        That’s a legitimate psychological principle you know. Google rule of three and read the page on rule of three (writing) to learn about it.

        I’ll keep holding your hand through this TVC, don’t worry. Please participate more on Reddit though, lol.

      • Anonymous says:

        Extra hilarious that the halfwit in this conversation is making remarks that begin with ‘Duh’ also. How apropos!

      • Anonymous says:

        Oh, blog commenting sections require literary formatting now, do they?

        Everyone knows, you included, what he meant with those quotes. In fact, I bet 99% of readers can even envision him doing the exaggerated physical motion while using those words.

        Are you an aspie or something that you need this pointed out?

      • TVC 15 says:

        It’s nice of you to stick up for the poor fool, but you’re reaching. He’s just one of those idiots who think quotation marks add emphasis.

        Thanks for following my posts on reddit! If you’d like me to post for your pleasure, let’s look into setting up a PayPal account where you can pay me by the word. Fortunately, unlike your favourite troll, I’m quite concise so you should find it good value!

      • TVC 15 says:

        Oh, and just to clear up any confusion: I’ve never been moderated nor warned on reddit. That’s just another one of FD’s lies. Pity he’s too mentally ill to create a life of his own.

      • Anonymous says:

        “Nice” – he’s talking about the faux-considerate tone you’re using on Reddit now to avoid further warning and punishment. It’s obvious that you’re being forced to be civil, and your fist-clenching rage and venom veritably seethes, and drips off every word of your uncharacteristically short posts, etc.”

        Is this person for realz? LMAO if it were not so disturbing. This is a person who is actually filled with rage and over a sugar blog person? wowzars the way they described clenched fists seething with rage? LOL

      • Anonymous says:

        I don’t follow your posts there, and neither does anyone else apparently. No one likes you much either – You have 12 upvotes in ~3 dozen comments over 2 weeks. How embarrassing.

        RE FunDude’s quote marks, personally I envisioned him doing Dr. Evil style air quotes around your words. Yes, for emphasis. Because it’s funny. Everyone who isn’t a chimp grasped this.

      • TVC 15 says:

        You don’t follow my posts and nobody likes me, yet you’re begging me to post more. And you think Fundude is funny… I know you’re not FD because you write too well, but you seem to be almost as crazy.

      • Anonymous says:

        ‘I don’t follow your posts there, and neither does anyone else apparently.’

        ‘You have 12 upvotes in ~3 dozen comments over 2 weeks. ‘

        ya huh suuurrreee you are not following her.

      • Anonymous says:

        @TVC 15 you must be like a troll magnet or something.

        Is that Dave posting as Anon or Fundude. Both write equally stupid nonsensical ramblings, so who can tell.

      • Anonymous says:

        It takes me one click to look at someone’s post history on Reddit, dear.

        The same one click also displays their total user upvote count.

        Me clicking once on your name =/= me following you.

        Your horrendously poor upvote count despite sustained participation = no one else is following you either. Or, more precisely, if people do follow you, they explicitly disagree with your sentiments and opinions.

        You might want to try registering on Reddit, other Anon, if you aren’t one of TVC’s sock puppets. You’ll have to deal with logic and people pointing out you’re retarded though; maybe you should stick to Tumblr after all.

      • Anonymous says:

        ‘It takes me one click to look at someone’s post history on Reddit, dear. ‘

        Yeh but how much time have you devoted to talking about her or what she has posted in other places HERE? you crazy.

      • TVC 15 says:

        It’s amazing I have any upvotes at all, considering how much time my fans must devote to downvoting me.

      • TVC 15 says:

        Too well-written to be Dave or FD, not pompous enough to be AA. Just another sad, lonely low-level psycho, following after women and yapping like a little dog chasing a parade.

      • TVC 15 says:

        Maybe if I continue to comment on the tone of the statement, and the person delivering it, I can effectively divert other peoples’ attention from the fact that he’s right, and that I’m unable to counter his actual argument. That’s so crazy it just might work!

      • TVC 15 says:

        If you actually think Anon’s made an argument, you’re not smart enough to play me.

  150. Anonymous says:

    Are they really censoring all the regular commenters here now?

    That’s hilarious.

    Just need to force registration so that the few specific idiots who constantly fling poop like caged baboons (cough TVC and her sock puppets cough) can’t pull their shenanigans and appear to have support, as she so often does.

    I’m still LOLing at her oh so meek and mild behavior on reddit. Here has been the extent of her participation there the past few days:

    Today – “A respectful approach.” [That’s seriously it! What she said ALL DAY if you can believe it.]

    Yesterday – “Yes, it’s hard to get good help when everyone’s making a living wage, isn’t it?” [Bit of snark, OK, but still a lot less mouthy than usual]

    No comment for TWO DAYS prior to that if you can believe it!

    Friday – “Talk – action = 0” [Yep, that’s it for the WHOLE DAY AGAIN!]

    Compare and contrast that with her typical swarm of 15 snarky comments using 5 anonymous sockpuppets here.

    It’s good stuff. And FunDude is right about the lilies of the valley here wilting in the harsh but polite ambiance of reality currently present at Reddit. Notice how it’s all ‘anonymous’ people disagreeing with him, except for that one cabal of SBs here…who all, completely coincidentally, get panned and lambasted at Reddit, where they can’t pull their BS.

    • Anonymous says:

      FD stop it.

    • Fundude says:

      So true

    • Fundude says:

      So true lol

    • Anonymous says:

      Hey @TVC you apparently have a stalker who is so obsessed by you that they actually think we would like a play by play recap on all of your posts and activities on other forums.

      Guess what person who is most likely @fUNdUDE- We DO NOT CARE.

      • Anonymous says:

        P.S. – Because you’re probably retarded, all you have to do to see all of someone’s comments on Reddit is click their name. The moar you know.

      • Anonymous says:

        U need serious help. U are cray cray.

      • Anonymous says:

        I’m crazy because I pointed out something I can do with one click doesn’t equate to me stalking someone? Projection much?

      • Anonymous says:

        Please continue to demonstrate how much you don’t care by telling us specifically how much you don’t care. That makes it extra believable, you see.

      • Anonymous says:

        ‘I’m crazy’

        Yes. yes you are.
        Anyone that follows someone else to another forum then posts what they are saying from another forum onto this forum is not mentally stable or normal. That is crazy behavior.

    • Fundude says:

      Her behavior is far more tame.

      Notice how she is unable to add productive value to the conversations when she has been removed from her shaming language/insults.

      That is why she essentially doesn’t even know what to post.

      • Anonymous says:

        stalker alert.

      • Anonymous says:

        Definitely stalker alert. How can one write 5 freakin’ posts about a person or better yet a blog personality in one day without seeming needy, obsessed or outright insane?

      • Anonymous says:

        Looks like they need some medication for some serious mental issues. Not normal reaction to behave that way about someone who posts on forums. Live and let live weirdo.

      • TVC 15 says:

        I almost feel sorry for him.

  151. MaryO. says:

    I personally can’t stand the “you’re so hot” generic BS. Makes you sound like a desperate horny 14 year old who just saw his first set of boobs. Something witty usually catches my eye and compels me to respond.

    • ATLSD says:

      But You are Hot MaryO. But curious how it’s going for since you only want Platonic?

    • Jaybird923 says:

      You’re very pretty but your profile sucks…

      • MaryO. says:

        Your personality and lack of decorum suck. Maybe worry about that instead of my profile. More productive use of your time.

    • Anonymous says:

      Hate those. Are they supposed to impress if that’s their only line, about how hot you are? If they actually put that into a longer message, there would be no quarrels about it.

      • MaryO. says:

        Right. The only benefit is that it weeds out the fellas who aren’t worth a message back. Straight to the deleted file you go…

    • historicgal says:

      I love the “You’re hot” or “Hey sexy” type messages! I’ve taken to responding with “Tell me something I don’t know” or “Nice job stating the obvious.” Entirely for my own amusement, of course, but at least I get a giggle out of them this way.

      • Anonymous says:

        Says the divorced woman with kids … should be thankful if someone wants to spend money on you!

      • Kore says:

        Wow Anon… I mean, the number of married men on SA. Then the fact that some are looking for exculsive SBs for 2 – 4 meets a month.
        It’s ridiculous how some men think they can demand whatever for their scraps. That money buys everything.
        And then there’s the hypocrisy – if you see a hot woman walking down the road and you think she’s hot – all you’ll care is if she’s single. Not if she has children or is divorced. If I’m wrong, it’s probably because you’re the exception and not the rule.

    • Anonymous says:

      She just joined a month ago or so. She is just “checking things out” If I had a dollar for every time waster like her I’d be a millionaire … wait, I am already a millionaire.

  152. Somethingwicked says:

    I’m guilty of adoring when a SD compliments my makeup. It’s a harder art to master than most people realize. And it’s also my chosen profession. (So double compliment! Haha.)

    Copy and paste messages are a big no-no, in my opinion. I had someone accidentally send me the exact same message after I told them I wasn’t interested the first time. I feel as if that shows a level of classlessness that shouldn’t be tolerated.

    • MaryO. says:

      Oh, totally with you on the people who message you again after you’ve said no. I have to wonder…are you just stupid or just going senile and forgot you messaged me? haha.

      • Somethingwicked says:

        I feel like they don’t even pay attention to who they’re messaging. If they were genuinely interested, you think they’d remember getting rejected, right? Kind of shady.

        But the guys who INTENTIONALLY message again are even more obnoxious sometimes. I remember this guy wanting to get coffee once. I, very politely, told him no. Three days later he wrote me what was basically poorly written erotica.

        It’s like when a male sends you an unsolicited dick picture – “Maybe if she sees it, she’ll want it.” Lmao.

        I’ll never understand the logic. Quite possibly because there is none.

    • rembodler says:

      A lot of these are none of the above, actually.
      I would say, about 50% of women abandon their profiles in a couple days. It is not worth the time trying to write a long thoughtful message that will not even be ever opened.

  153. Fundude says:

    TVC makes a throwaway name on sugar forum and gets called out by blog SDs.

    Awesome stuff lol

    • Anonymous says:

      @FunDude why don’t you write a love letter to @Elaine to come back and @TVC since your aim is just that. You miss them so much it is obvious! Just say so instead of trying to instigate fights. You are like the little kid pulling the girls pigtails and calling her names just to get her attention.

      very transparent!

    • Anonymous says:

      Again making up stuff about the other blog @Fundude?
      Since you are so fascinated by it, why don’t you move your sorry ass over there?
      Maybe TVC give you a moment of her attention and make your day!

      Oh wait, you where blocked by the moderators? ….. Awwww, soooo sorry for you! 🙂

  154. Fundude says:


    The moderation doesn’t appear to occur when email is removed.

    Ergo, it appears they are placing on specific people on “moderation”. I am assuming the normal blog characters or maybe some toxic blog SBs complained or something.

  155. Anonymous says:

    @Darling Girl, where exactly are you located? I assume that may be the issue as to not receiving many messages. You look fine to me:)

  156. Raeeeee says:

    Seems like a lot of men send the same messages to multiple girls. I like a message that I know was personalized:)

  157. rembodler says:

    It told me my comment is awaiting moderation? No email address there, no nothing…anyone had similar experience?

    • Anonymous says:

      That’s weird. How do they know it’s you?

    • Jaybird923 says:

      They started doing it on the other blog mines went straight to moderation too and it didn’t have an email address

      • Jaybird923 says:

        They jist did it to this comment lol ok first they never moderate now they’re flagging everything… nice

      • Fundude says:

        Funny, the ones when I remove the email don’t go to moderation.

        They should just fix the place into a message board like that sugar forum.

        This is garbage compared to that setup.

  158. naturallynxo says:

    hi there everyone! can someone view my profile and tell me what it is i need to do to make myself more appealing? i changed my bio a little so that’s still pending, but my previous one should be up. i havent been on sa for too long at all but i’m not having any luck. i’ve sent a few messages but no responses. thanks!!

    • Darling Girl says:

      No worries, It sometimes takes a while to get noticed by the right one. Just do the basics on the profile, explain yourself. But don’t write a crazy novel, leave some intruigue so you have something to talk about with the SD, Make sure to express what you are looking for in a SD/SM. Otherwise.. Most of them come on here knowing what they already want and some of us are just not it. Believe me.. Ive been on this site for years and haven’t had a successful one yet.

      Best of luck to you!!!

    • Anonymous says:


      looking good (to me anyways, fwiw)

      how long have you been on sa? i am no expert but i get a general sense that one has to be willing to try the site for more than a month (not paid to say that btw, just being real)

      • naturallynxo says:

        i’m willing to try for more than a month if that’s what it takes! thanks so much for your response!

    • Anonymous says:

      You are young and AA, which will be an uphill battle. Based upon your picture, you look like you might be a few pounds extra. If that isn’t the case, you should put up a full body picture to alleviate those concerns.

      It can take several months to find someone and you have only been on the site one day.

      • naturallynxo says:

        thank you for your honesty, i did read some things on another blog about it being harder for african americans to find someone.. but i’ll try! thanks for your response.

    • Anonymous says:

      Why are you seeking an attractive guy on an SD site? If they are handsome, they could pull 😉

    • Anonymous says:

      Why are you seeking an attractive guy on an SD site? If they are handsome, they could pull ?

      • Anonymous says:

        You don’t think there are any attractive older men, who could be married or way too old to date a 23 year old? Just look at rem…

  159. VA Gent says:

    No novel, but nothing too short/curt, either. Address any concerns/issues mentioned in their post. A compliment or other highlight as to why their post prompted you to reach out. And, yes, leave with a question or something intended to elicit a response.

  160. Anonymous says:

    1-5 Don’t write a pot sb at all. It’s a waste of time. Let them come to you. That’s how you discover who will actually put some effort into this.

    • rembodler says:

      I do not publish my profile. I prefer to contact the ones I like myself. I probably miss some this way, but I do not think it is a huge segment of the SA.

      • SugarD says:

        One thing about publishing your Profile ,is that girls who contact you have already expressed an interest given your pic,posted age ,and other stats .

        I think my age eliminates me from consideration right off the bat ,just like I filter out over 30 yr old. Nothing to be done about that except fudge a bit . But is a 22 yr old cuts off at 40 -that is it .

      • ATLSD says:

        I’ve done the same thing, works well and i don’t bogged down with delusional SB that favorite me and never undo it.

    • Sira says:

      I seek out SDs all the time and send them messages. I’ve gotten *maybe* one response so far. I think most of them join with a good idea of what they’re looking for, and prefer to do the hunting themselves.

      • Darling Girl says:

        I know the feeling. I would write to them, Something along the lines of
        “Hello There,
        How are you today? I took a look at your profile and liked what I saw. Would like to chat with you.

        And next to nothing comes back… And I’ve been on this site for years now! I don’t know what I’m doing wrong but I haven’t had a successful one yet. A couple got cold feet and others just never came through. Sad Face.

      • AnonymousSSSD says:

        Darling girl…if your not having success then I would advise you that it might be your appearance. Most sd’s want a classically feminine looking woman and by all appearances, your look is more “alternative” given the tats and what appears to be short spiky hair. Your audience for that look is extremely limited. I would try glamming things up a bit and looking a little more mainstream. The few extra pounds is not adding to your appeal either.

      • Anonymous says:

        Maybe attraction isn’t there?

      • Jaybird923 says:

        Why would you copy and paste a blog post into your profile?

      • Anonymous says:

        Some of your dealkillers: married ink smoker kids few extra pounds and location.

      • Anonymous says:

        2 children, and you probably want to take sexier pictures …

      • rembodler says:

        I was going back and forth on having my photos out. When I did, I was getting a lot of messages, but most were from people not in my city or even state. It is not too much work to do a search once every two-three days to find candidates. I now prefer to only share my photos upon request. If one does not have a photo, there is almost no traffic, which is OK.
        Plenty of women view this traditionally, in a sense a guy has to chase them. Once chased, they will respond, but will not initiate.

      • Kore says:

        Women aren’t used to feeling unwanted. If I didn’t have some sense of being chased, I’d think that he wasn’t interested in me, especially when there are so many other SBs he can choose from.

  161. Anonymous says:

    The perfect opening message: YourRichDaddy requests to view your photo(s).

    • Anonymous says:

      no, no, no…. a much better opening line is…. what color panties, if any, are you wearing today?

      chics love that type of message 🙂

  162. Jillian S. S says:

    I have not seen any impressive first message yet thus far.