People might think luck has a lot to do with it, but we think meeting the right match on is more about being intentional, persistent, and selective. But just to be sure, we asked some of our most successful Attractive Members to share their secrets with other Attractives. Here’s what they said about how to succeed on Seeking:

1) Know what you want out of Seeking and make it clear on your profile.

There are hundreds of different reasons why Attractive and Successful people sign up to be part of one of the biggest, most effective dating websites on the planet. What’s yours? Do you want someone to take you on exotic travel adventures? Or are you looking for a long-term connection with someone who will be there for all the big moments in your life? Whatever you seek, make it crystal clear so the right person can find you.  

2) Don’t settle for anything less than exactly what you want.

Did you know J.K. Rowling had her first Harry Potter novel rejected 12 times? Or that Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team? See what we’re getting at here? Keep your eye on the prize and you’ll get it. And for goodness’ sake, don’t waste your time and energy on people who don’t align with what you desire. “Settling” is not the way to succeed on Seeking. There are way too many fabulous fish in the sea, babe! And on that note…

3) Don’t feel like you have to reply to everyone who reaches out.

This is simply an exercise of self-worth. Yes, having the attention of many successful suitors is encouraging—flattering, even—but many of them know their chances of getting a bite on the hook is better if they chum the waters. Hear what we’re saying? Be honest with yourself, be selective, and you will find someone worth chatting with and then getting all dolled up for.

4) Be persistent and don’t get discouraged by a few bad matches.

Hey, we’ve all been on bad dates. Sometimes we choose people we probably shouldn’t have and sometimes we’re just gobsmacked by bad luck. But remember that blah matches can help us hone in on what we really want. Or they can just remind us to be more selective the next time. Giving up is not how you succeed on Seeking. This leads us to suggest…

5) Don’t force a connection that doesn’t feel right because you’re feeling impatient.

Sometimes a great connection takes time – but you’re worth it! We have to look at dating like any other important pursuit and remember that good things come to those who wait. Why waste precious minutes with the wrong person when the right person could be out there waiting for you? And, in truth, you owe the wrong guy a chance to move along and find someone else who might be better for him. That’s just good karma, right?

6) And remember, success on Seeking can mean many different things, not just a relationship.

Maybe you’ll meet someone you’re comfortable growing old with. Or, perhaps you’ll meet a mentor to help you achieve your life or career goals. Even if you go out with someone who doesn’t check all your boxes, that person might be a great influence in some way, shape or form. Whatever you gain from the experience, we support you! Celebrate it, girl! We’re all on here to make connections, no matter how deep or long-lasting (and, of course, to have fun!). 

We can’t wait to hear about how YOU succeed on Seeking!

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