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Tips for Dating Safely During COVID and After


We want to make sure you stay safe during your online dating experience with SeekingArrangement. Keep these tips in mind when you are talking/texting with someone or setting up a Meet & Greet.

General Safety Tips for Online Dating

Keep your full name private. When talking with someone online, don’t create a username with your first and last name. Just use your first name or create a playful email account with a flirty nickname. Who doesn’t enjoy an air of mystery, while you get comfortable with the other person?

Don’t mix online dating with social media. Avoid using photos from your social media accounts in your online dating profile. Why? They’re too easy to trace. By the same token, don’t link any online dating sites to your social channels. This one of the fastest ways for someone to trace you and learn all about you, your friends and family.

Catch a glimpse of your date before meeting them. Did you know that SeekingArrangement now has a video chat feature? Users with verified profiles or upgraded memberships can’t get enough of it! It’s an easy way to meet virtually before setting up in-person dates, and also a safe way to spend time together between dates. No need to share your email, phone number or social media handle—just some quality face-to-face time with new friends. For your safety, here are a few things to keep in mind when using the SA video chat:

  • Don’t share any of your personal information
  • Be aware of your background and avoid displaying private info in your shot
  • While we don’t record any of your conversations, no video chat platforms can prevent users from recording their video chats

Nip uncomfortable conversations in the bud and take the appropriate measures to block and report the person who is making you feel uncomfortable.

Be cautious. Don’t send photos right away, get to know the person you’re chatting with a little bit more. Also, don’t give out your phone number and use the SA chat features instead. And when talking with someone, be careful in describing your location, events you’ve been to recently, your workplace or anything else that can easily place you somewhere that they may recognize or know. Though you’re probably talking with someone in the neighborhood, it’s best to keep it safe until you know for sure.

Never give anyone money or financial information online. It’s as simple as that! And the same principle applies to all your online activity, not just dating online.

Where you live and who you live with is private. Never give out your physical address or have someone meet you there. If you do decide to hang out in person, make sure to meet in a popular, public place. You can even have a buddy with you or share your date location with a friend.

Meet in a public place. Never meet an online date at their car, in the parking lot, at a motel/hotel or any place where you can’t get away safely and quickly.If at any time you feel uncomfortable, go with your gut and get out of that situation. Do not hesitate! You also can consider carrying a can of pepper spray, just in case.

Be observant. Pay attention to the body language and facial expressions of the person you’re meeting with.

Make sure you watch your alcohol, literally. Limit the amount of alcohol that you drink and never let your drink out of sight. Date rape drugs are easy to administer and don’t change the flavor or appearance of your drink. Keeping an eye on your drink at all times is the best way to stay safe.

Arrange your own transportation to and from the date. Drive your own car, take public transpo, call a friend or have an app to come get you. To make sure you get home safe and sound, don’t accept a ride or walk back with your date. This would let them know where you live and could result in them taking you somewhere else.

Always have enough cash or a credit card on you to get home. You never know what could happen and having some available cash or electronic funds to handle any unexpected situation is the best way to feel comfortable when you’re on a date.

COVID Safety Tips for Online Dating

Start with virtual dates. While COVID case rates are dropping and cities are opening up, virtual dates are still a great way to meet that new special someone. If you’re not comfortable with in-person dates just yet, virtual dates let you get creative and offer a chance for you two to get to know each other better. Consider using SeekingArrangement’s video chat feature to do this (see video chat safety tips above). Check out these ideas for your next virtual date:

  • Have a themed online dinner
  • Play online games
  • Learn a TikTok dance together
  • Take an online workout class

Talk about COVID. One of the best things about SA is the opportunity to be straightforward, and COVID is not the exception. As an open-minded community, our members understand that some daters are taking more precautions than others. So, don’t be shy to talk to your new friends about COVID and ask questions that help avoid an awkward first date. Some of these include:

  • Do you have any COVID symptoms?
  • Have you had COVID before?
  • Are you vaccinated?
  • Have you been tested for COVID?
  • Are you a special-risk individual?
  • Do you wear masks?
  • Do you prefer indoor or outdoor dates?
  • How do you feel about social distancing?

Take it outdoors. These days, everyone loves doing things outdoors. It’s the best way to keep your dates casual and shake off some of that pandemic fatigue. When planning a date, remember to observe your local health ordinances and use these ideas for outdoor dating inspo:

  • Hiking
  • Bike rides
  • Picnics
  • Lawn games

Choose a safe location. When deciding on where to meet, be sure to pick a spot that has proper ventilation and thorough cleaning practices. This will make you both feel safe and comfortable while you’re spending time together. And remember to wash your hands often!

Follow the regulations. Local and regional regulations are in place for a reason. And while they seem to change often, it’s easy to find the information you need to stay safe and comply with policies and procedures. So, even if part of your date means standing in line to enter that outdoor bar, remember this is for your well-being. Instead of getting frustrated, use this time to break the ice with your date.

Be mindful of symptoms. We all know the symptoms: cough, fever, headache, etc. If you’re feeling them, don’t just brush them off. Cancel the date instead! As long as you explain, your date will understand and likely appreciate it. When in doubt, it’s always best to get tested and wait until you have negative results to reschedule the date.

Consider testing. Some daters make a habit of testing before their dates. It’s considered good etiquette and offers you peace of mind. But it’s also important to remember that a negative test isn’t always good enough. You should still follow precautions and follow-up with a test a few days after the date.

Your safety is important to us at SeekingArrangement, and we want you to enjoy your dating experiences. To keep your dates happy on and offline, always remember to listen to your gut and follow your local health guidelines. Happy dating!

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526 Responses to “Tips for Dating Safely During COVID and After”

  1. Anonymouse says:

    What does this manifesto have to do with dating safety or building a community?

  2. [email protected]&them says:

    I think dave has women confused with his single drugged out trash of a single mother, his wife who stopped loving him 40 year ago, his daughter who pays him no mind, he just misses his single booger nosed tatted up moms tit being in his mouth. He cant get out of bed to do anything but troll the blogs he’s on government benefits and not the good one’s and any other money he has was passed down to him. He think he’s privileged or entitled to a woman’s time for free but he’s old and suffering from the crack he ingested while sucking his mom boob for 20 years after birth so pay him no mind it’s all an old unhappy unimportant irrelevant boy can do is rant on a blog cause he cant afford a membership on the site so he’s mad cause backpage was closed down and his boyfriend left him fir his wife and daughter. So dave instead of trying to bash women here you should tell your grandmother mother daughter and granddaughter how you really feel about them and then just get on with the rest of your lufe. No one cares about you or your emotional baggage. Thanks for the entertainment but its not worth a cent of mine so go tell your single coked out cracked out mother that she ruined you then tell your wife whom you support and take care of to give you a hand job i mean finger job cause you still puss on your balls and it cant get up but you want a virgin to F**k you lol tooooo funny. But good luck getting your single cracked out mother to love you but its to late the damage is done so no fixing you but i do have a 10 in that do your @$s some justice it’ll get you right and its what you really want but your 600 pound life has forbidden you [email protected] so all you can do is watch porn and watch your wife do the nice fit handsome wealthy man next door oops my bad actually you can’t cause you cant get your big miserable @$s out of bed. You’re a sorry sack of poop. I almost felt sorry for you but most if you have mummy issues and sucked the cracked out tatted tit for to long and it damaged your brain then mix that with your old age you’re just all messed up but its not not your fault who knew your uncle would f**k your mom and produce you. Lol lol lol

  3. yougottabekiddingme says:

    Please see Dave’s comments as posted under the October 7, 2019 article blog topic “Is Sofia Richie the Ultimate Sugar Baby?”

    Dave says:
    October 15, 2019 at 7:21 am
    I suggest you rip her off with fake money. If you want a real connection, then that’s tougher and you’ll have to find a young girl with a less entitled profile.”

    This is one of several such comments.

    Give up the protest, Dave. These are your words.

    • SA_Admin says:

      We have seen these comments before and as they are not just a violation of our blog’s CGs, but also of SAs terms of use, we are taking a serious look into this.

  4. yougottabekiddingme says:

    Don’t be fooled by Dave’s many personas.

    Nothing about my statement is in violation of community guidelines.

    I have simply restated and brought attention to the admissions of fraud and deception about which Dave has so loudly and proudly boasted on several occasions. The most recent of which was within the last 3 or 4 blogs or recent months.

  5. Sook says:

    Hola mi consulta es la siguiente es normal que te pidan de mudarse al pais donde el radica

    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      Hola Sook,

      No, eso no es normal. Sería muy vacilante y cuidadoso acerca de un acuerdo internacional. Muchos estafadores y personas con malas intenciones prometen lujo, amor e incluso matrimonio, y se aprovechan de las personas que viven en otros países.

  6. Anonymous says:

    Totally agree with these fake profiles and it’s like having a job you get a bunch of numbers and it’s ridiculous the amount of money they want and then they flip the script and say platonic. So I’m supposed to pay you to educate you? Clearly they haven’t been to college or a university yet. If you want to learn you have to pay!

  7. yougottabekiddingme says:

    I didn’t violate you, Dave. You violated yourself, as well as the many women you’ve admitted to giving counterfeit money, and mistreating in other ways.

    I’d rather not take the time to dig up, copy and paste your words, but I will.

    This is a blog about safety, and your admitted behavior of scamming women is appropriate in that regard. As are my stated concerns regarding your comments minimizing rape.

  8. yougottabekiddingme says:


    Dave is a self-admitted scammer who targets women to have sex with (sometimes in his car), then gives them counterfeit money. He has reported to have done this several times, and has encouraged other men to take up the tactic as well. He has also confessed to having girls order expensive bottles of wine at restaurants where he never intends to show up.

    Despite his protests and threats to rally up and vacate the multiple personnas he’s created on this blog, he is actually part of the problem about which he is complaining.

    SA and probably any woman he’d encounter is better off without his scams, his abuse, his counterfeit bill filled wallet, his stem education and athleticism bygone. He quite actually ought to be in prison.

    • Anonymouse says:

      Why is there a thread of people just insulting two posters on a post about safety? This exchange demonstrates why I, for one, don’t feel safe asking questions / posting here.

    • yougottabekiddingme says:


      @anonymous says

      “yougottabekiddingme no different to any women on this site who run cons and rip off men and they say they are justified to do that..get your own sex in order first before you criticize us men”

      What I think I understand is that you believe it is ok for someone to scam another with counterfeit money because other people scam in other ways, too. Did I get that right?

      Also, my comment was specifically about the documented comments of an individual on this blog (not “us men”) that has admitted to scamming people on several occasions, and quite actually prides himself, and seems to get a great sense of validation and satisfaction about it.


      The aforementioned individual is you. I am not violating guidelines. I am noting your admitted behavior as can be corroborated with your own documented posts on this blog. The internet is forever, Dave.

      Obsessed with you…if that what you need to cling to. I’ve popped in and out of the blog here and there to see if anything had changed, and the one thing that remained constant was you and your rhetoric. The only reason I even initially posted anything to this blog topic was because of your dismissive and dangerous comments about rape…on a blog about dating safely.

      Here’s what else I know…

      You enjoy being present in this space. You also have gripes about some aspects of the SA website, and elements of sugar dating. So do many. I think the blog would be a much more welcoming and enjoyable space if the conflict of satisfaction and dissatisfaction with the site and with relationships were discussed in a more civil manner among people who are open to considering different perspectives.

      Also, Dave…

      You should really stop giving people counterfeit money. Aside from the legal implications, it does strike me as odd that a successful individual would even be in possession of counterfeit money, and further that anyone with a moral compass would coerce a person into sexual acts under such fraudulent pretense. This type of behavior is appalling and illegal despite the gender of the perpetrator.

      I will also add…I know that men have been ripped off, scammed, and in some cases, robbed; and that women have been scammed, mistreated, and in some cases, abused. Both have shared experiences of blackmail and extortion. I agree that SA could do more to filter scam profiles and remove perpetrators. I would also say that the risk of encounters with maleficent and unscrupulous people is greatly reduced when people demonstrate decency themselves, use due diligence and selectivity when considering potential suitors, and set their intentions to relationship-based rather than transaction-based arrangements.

    • Anonymous says:

      Flag this comment admin it’s trashy and has no merits!

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        U.S. Federal Code 18 Chapter 480:

        “Whoever, within the United States, knowingly and with intent to defraud, possesses or delivers any false, forged, or counterfeit bond, certificate, obligation, security, treasury note, bill, promise to pay, bank note, or bill issued by a bank or corporation of any foreign country, shall be fined under this title or imprisoned not more than 20 years, or both.”

    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      Documented facts corroborated by your own blog posts. You simply can not lie and bully your way out of that truth.

    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      U.S. Federal Code 18 chapter 480:

      “Whoever, within the United States, knowingly and with intent to defraud, possesses or delivers any false, forged, or counterfeit bond, certificate, obligation, security, treasury note, bill, promise to pay, bank note, or bill issued by a bank or corporation of any foreign country, shall be fined under this title or imprisoned not more than 20 years, or both.”

      Federal crimes you’re committing with those counterfeit bills you use for sexual encounters with people you devalue, per your own admission.

      Again, these are documents facts as corroborated with your own blog posts.

    • SA_Admin says:

      Okay, as we have mentioned many times, we are not removing comments/moderating old posts as there are simply too many and the Community Guidelines are meant to be a fresh start. This comment section on this particular post is a prime example of why we have our new guidelines – the bickering and tattling has taken up so much room that we just got a comment from someone who said they do not feel welcome to post a comment/question they had about the blog topic – safety. That is exactly what we are trying to prevent. We’d hope that as SA members, everyone would not want that to happen either.

  9. Musingwallflower says:

    I wonder, even with following all these tips, I only find scammers. Men who ask for my bank information and personal details. I also have noticed that most of the men ive come in contact with are not seeking an actual sugar baby type arrangement. It’s more like hookup and almost prostitution like. Sometimes we will get as far as terms and when I inquire about an allowance, I am blocked or called out of my name, etc. I’m not sure how to navigate this at this point.

    • SB says:

      Sorry you have been called names I know what you mean because I get a lot of prostitution offers too and I’m really not with the one night thing.I would even prefer a short-term Arrangement doesn’t necessarily have to be long-term either.I will say why I haven’t been called names I have enjoyed some conversation but a lot of the guys are here for casual fun dating and that’s not what this is for!

      • Musingwallflower says:

        That’s what makes it crazy, why come to a sugar site and get upset that I’m not willing to be sexual in exchange for money? Of course I’m here for the financial aspect as well but I want someone to mentor and help guide me. I’m here to give you the companionship you desire and if we connect on a sexual level, cool. But in exchange you help finance and guide me. It’s not too hard to understand.

      • Dave says:

        So we should pay you for mentorship? That’s consultant work and people get paid for that , not pay the customer !!

      • Anonymous says:

        This is a dating site with benefits sometimes there’s chemistry sometimes there isn’t but being called names as a guy I will apologize for the other morons but usually a true sugar daddy will treat you good.

    • Dave says:

      You want men to pay you to mentor you ?

      • Anonymous says:

        Not just pay them brother but also take them to dinner shopping etc etc oh and we are the ones who are bad. All I see is I want this I want that but what do we get in return a headache? No thanks

  10. Bobby says:

    I was on SA for one month. I met one woman. She was horrible. Bad choice on my part. I collected numbers from a bunch more but I doubt I will ever have an arrangement. They want too much. Men we have options. Don’t settle for what’s on here

    • Dave says:

      I believe this is where we should focus our efforts . If enough men vote with their wallets and do not accept substandard or entitled women , then behaviors will have to change based on market pressures .

      • Bobby says:

        I’d pay for another month or more but it’s not worth filtering out all the scammers. They are destined to crash and burn in their little endeavors. I’ll came back on the site once the dust has cleared and their remains are nothing more than a figment of a long lost distant history

      • SA_Admin says:

        Please rest assured that we are working as hard as we can and taking steps to rid SA of any potential scams. Make sure to report any scams or misconduct to us, as well. Thanks!

  11. Filtersrus says:

    Ricky, I respectfully disagree. 2016 is about the time the feds finally cracked down on escort sites like TBD TER and others. A change in morality had nothing to do with it. What you have seen me back and forth with admin about was how to nail these pros when we saw them. They came here because they have been deprived of American eyeball views, and it’s a matter of economics.

    • SA_Admin says:

      Dear Anonymous, we have never mentioned law enforcement in our moderation comments. We simply want to make this blog a better, more considerate place with meaningful conversation.

  12. Anonymous says:

    So true!

  13. Anonymous says:

    Dave she’s a stalker watch out. Topic is safety and shes getting way to weird.

  14. Anonymous says:

    Safety is the topic and it’s safe to say stay away from these angry wannabe middle aged babies. Either they want you to give them a deposit or online only relationship! Not safe to be on here especially with a bias admin!

    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      Admin hasn’t even had a chance to admin anything ?. Hold your horses, Cowboy ?.

    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      [laces up walking boots]

    • SA_Admin says:

      I assure you, I have no bias. It is my job to not have bias. Please let me know your concerns about how this comment section has been moderated so I can address them before our Community Guidelines are posted today. Thank you.

  15. Anonymous says:

    Couldn’t have said it better thank you

  16. Jstar says:

    SA admin, Though I do agree with some of the members here who believe that the blogs shouldn’t be monitored as harshly as the website , I also agree that there are a lot of rude and bitter men (who are obviously old and beaten down) that need a wake up call. We are all smart enough to know that they can’t get anyone without paying and that’s why they are here therefore , if they can’t be considerate of the ladies , they shouldn’t be here . Also, too many men on here are just seeking an upgraded escort oh wait no they want a less experienced escort but and think that they have a little money that they can talk to women however they want . Let me say this, (as a man) your money doesn’t make you better than the ladies on here . Many of the crybabies here are depressed and lonely that’s why they take it out in the blogs because they can’t find anyone to supplement their time and they hate it . SA needs to be harder on these men who think their time is more valuable than the ladies. I agree, men shouldn’t be scammed but they shouldn’t be thinking because they have money that they make all the rules here and can disrespect women here. Take your “mutually beneficial” aka “sex for money” BS out of here along with your “I only supply allowance when there’s intimacy or when I feel that this is serious” this site allows men to be controlling and it needs to stop . Thanks SA

    • SA_Admin says:

      Dear Jstar, thanks for your feedback. We have become more active in moderating this blog just within the last week or so, unfortunately I do not work with the SA website moderators but have been passing on site concerns to them. As for this blog, where commenters do not have to be SA members & could be potential members thinking about joining, we are trying to make it a place for productive, on-topic discussion – we have such an intriguing member-base and we think that we can all be held to a higher standard where everyone is considerate to everyone (like you said). Spirited, constructive, on-topic debates are fine, but the personal attacks, discrimination and even hate speech that we have seen on here lately must stop. This is a place where all are welcome to have a meaningful conversation (again, that’s on topic 🙂 ) so we can be a positive voice of the Sugar lifestyle, encouraging more people to join. We do take all reports of scams seriously, try hard to prevent it and we are here to help anyone who has had an interaction that they suspect was a scam, fraud or misconduct.

      • James says:

        What are you thanking her for she’s bashing men and your not bias administrator? I’m 35 and choose the sugar dating because I can afford to do so without hurting some girls feelings and I can also help them at the same time what’s wrong with you? Why are you so angry are u on your rag? Or were u dropped on ur head?

      • SA_Admin says:

        Dear James, we thank anyone for taking the time to leave feedback. Jstar stated he was a male. He did not use any hateful speech, or personal attacks, he was advocating for people to be more considerate – which we are in strong favor of and would like to see more of around here. Your comment, however, personally attacking either myself or Jstar (I cannot tell from how you worded your post) with gender-biased language (“are u on your rag?”) that is also off-topic from the blog’s subject is an example of a comment we would remove under our new Community Guidelines, which will be posted today. Thank you.

      • yougottabekiddingme says:


        Lemme help. JStar has stated that JStar is a man. Not sure your rag argument will hold in this case ?.

        Though…it could very well be that he’s been dropped on his head. Yikes! ?

      • SA_Admin says:

        Dave, please let me know your concerns about this blog comment community and what Jstar had to say so we can address any issues. Thanks.

      • SA_Admin says:

        Mike, we are not moderating old posts – the guidelines are intended to be a fresh start. You are also calling him “pompous and arrogant” in the same comment where you are calling him out for saying negative things. This new start on the blog is not going to work like grade school where people tattle on others – the comments will all be moderated and action taken at our discretion.

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        Whoopsy-Whoops Mike says:

        “Hey admin you asked dave what his concerns were about Jstars comment and I chose to answer.”

        Oh, the irony!!! ??

      • SA_Admin says:

        Mike, we are simply pointing out the problem with your comment is that you said that he made a personal attack – a violation of our guidelines – by describing some men (not any specific men, so not a personal attack, and not all men, so not a blanket statement, both of which would be against our guidelines) in negative way and in the same comment you also describe him, personally, in a negative way. That is an example of a personal attack. And starting with the Community Guidelines post, these comments with personal attacks/name calling will be removed. We are letting you, as well as other members, know what we are now expecting instead of removing old comments; we want to give members a chance to learn how our comment section will be run from now on before we start removing comments or potentially banning members if they violate certain policies or repeatedly violate the guidelines. We explained in our comment to Jstar that we expect everyone (including him) to be considerate to everyone and everything else that will not be tolerated.

  17. SA_Admin says:

    Dear Dazed SD, thank you so much for your feedback – we truly do appreciate it and are always looking for ways to improve. I personally don’t work on SA’s website functionality/experience and am specifically in charge of this blog’s comment moderation, but I’m happy to take your concerns to the team. Also, if you could please fill out this page (click here) with all of the details you have, it will go directly to our support team that handles misconduct. We would really appreciate any and all details you have about anyone/anything violating the terms of our website so we can investigate and take action.

  18. yougottabekiddingme says:


    My favorite pastime. First I place the bags in a cup of near-boiling water, then I close my eyes, open my mouth, place said bags over my eyes until I feel rejuvenated and refreshed like a real princess should. Once my radiance has come to full fruition, I throw the depleted bags into the compost pile where they biodegrade into the earth for a second chance at proliferation as bean sprouts, maybe.

  19. yougottabekiddingme says:


    Please may I ask what exactly it is you’re proposing or opposing?

    From what you’ve posted, it seems that you’re upset that abusive language is being restricted.

    Why, in your opinion, is that a bad thing?

    Why do you object to that?

    Also, do you mind sharing where—after you, the guys, and your team of doctors and lawyers pack up—you intend to go? Further, do you imagine that there will be guidelines there, like anywhere?

    Also curious to know where these Anonymous Alliance meetings are taking place. Is impressive that you’ve been able to summons such a responsive coalition.

    • SA_Admin says:

      The entire point of the Community Guidelines is to make things better – here on this blog in the comment section. (To be clear, the guidelines are not for SA, these two things are separate). Less hateful/discriminatory language, more on-topic discussion, no gender bias (for both men & women), no members personally attacking each other, no trolling, no scams or spam and a place where everyone feels welcome to discuss the blog topics or ask questions – is there anything that we are missing that would make this blog comment section a better experience for you? We truly care about every user’s experience and are actively trying to make things better here.

    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      Thanks for your reply, Dave.

      Not insidious. Really just trying to understand why you’re so angry, and why you’ve always been so angry in your postings here. You’ve been making the same points using the same abusive language for quite some time…unprovoked, by the way.

      The questions I posed pertain to this blog space. You said “we” referring to “multiple men” who have allegedly posted anonymously, are opposed to community guidelines that restrict abusive language, and that, subsequently, you and the gang were going to pack up and go to Whoseville, but not before your team of doctors and lawyers wage war in all the media outlets to fight for your belief that you ought be able to disparage people without restraint because you’re angry about your experience on the SA dating site, and apparently with women in the world in general.

      Please correct me if I’ve mispoken.

    • Anonymous says:

      Yougottabekiddingme is a legend ?

    • SA_Admin says:

      Dear Dave, in my last reply to you I mentioned that we are moderating this blog now with guidelines that have “no gender bias (for both men & women)…a place where everyone feels welcome to discuss the blog topics or ask questions,” in other words, a place where everyone is equal – so I am not sure what you mean by this.

  20. Dave says:

    Boys, it’s time to pack up the bags

    • Anonymous says:


    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      You could also just act right, Dave. That, too, is an option. xo

      • Anonymous says:

        You’re attacking Dave that’s a violation of the rules Dave doesn’t need to change for anyone just be you brother and enjoy life to the fullest. Positive comment learn from it 🙂

      • SA_Admin says:

        The Community Guidelines, which are much more specific than my comments, have not been posted yet. Until then, there are no violations. I have started letting people know about them as a headsup that comments will be moderated with specific guidelines in place very soon, so people have a chance to change their behavior, language, etc. before breaking a policy that can result in comment removal or user banning.

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        I never said anyone should follow me. And I never suggested that I speak on behalf on anyone as a self-appointed ambassador of the nonexistent. K?

        Really, though, I think you’re getting yourself all riled up over much of nothing. There is a very simple “play nice in the sandbox” principle that applies in most every social setting.

        Those who do not or can not play nice with others should stay at home, play with themselves, and spare the rest of us.

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        Yes, between you and me, SA is my zaddy. Don’t tell ?.

    • Filtersrus says:

      Dave, you would serve us all better if you stayed and fought the good fight. I have seen my fair share of dating sites go to hell in a handbasket when caring members threw up their hands and said “eff it”. This place needs more people willing to fight to make things better. Granted, they cannot make us moderators for legal reasons I won’t explain here, but maybe we can work towards earning the next best thing.

      • SA_Admin says:

        The entire point of the Community Guidelines is to make things better – here on this blog in the comment section. (To be clear, the guidelines are not for SA, these two things are separate). Less hateful/discriminatory language, more on-topic discussion, no gender bias (for both men & women), no members personally attacking each other, no trolling, no scams or spam and a place where everyone feels welcome to discuss the topics – is there anything that we are missing that would make this blog comment section a better experience for you? We truly care about every user’s experience and are actively trying to make things better here.

      • Filtersrus says:

        Actually, there is something you could do that would immediately help. It would take a little coding effort on your part. but it IS quite doable. Give us a “flag” button in addition to the existing “reply” button. I just sent support a post where someone was soliciting on THIS blog where she obfuscated her phone number in the post. Took almost 3 weeks for you guys to take it down. A “flag ” button would not only immediately notify you of the offence, but also precisely WHERE the offence is located. You could wipe in almost real time what just took WEEKS. ??

      • SA_Admin says:

        I’m not sure if that is possible, but we will look into it. I will personally be going through all comments and any phone numbers or identifying personal information (addresses, social media usernames, etc.) will be removed from the comment. I wasn’t here moderating three weeks ago 🙂

      • Filtersrus says:

        I understand that. The offending post stated. ” ” I have changed the number to a dummy number I don’t know exists, but that type post is commonplace on other dating websites and are always bots and frauds. Being able to flag such content in real time would be immensely helpful.

      • SA_Admin says:

        It may be a tough system to implement as it has the potential to be abused, we also use a third-party host for the blog so if their capabilities don’t include that, then there is unfortunately nothing we can do – but we will investigate the possibility of users being able to flag comments ASAP, in fact, I am personally asking someone about this right now. In the meantime though, as the new eyes of the blog, I will be on the lookout for these (and I’m sorry, but in case it is a real number I am going to have to remove it from your comment right now – bam, consistency!) – thank you!

      • Filtersrus says:

        No worries. It was a hypothetical number so moderating it doesn’t offend. Next time I will put ex’s so that if others see that kind of post or profile they KNOW that it is a bogus one

  21. Dave says:

    Dear SA admin ,I have 2 attorney friends and 3 doctor friends . Also the internet is very powerful . You keep discriminating against men and we I’ll post on BBB, yelp , Reddit, 4chan, disqus and tell men to walk away from SA. This is a war Brandon does not want .

    • SA_Admin says:

      Actually, our new Community Guidelines are specifically designed to prevent discrimination and/or personal attacks against everyone, men & women. All comments will be moderated fairly, regardless of the gender of the person. We have so many comments from past posts that it would be nearly impossible to catch up on and moderate, so from here on out and when the guidelines are posted – the comments will all be moderated according to them. Moreover, they aim to keep the discussions on our blog on-topic. Please hang tight and wait for them to be posted, let us know if you have any questions about them in the post’s comments. Thanks!

    • Anonymous says:


    • Anonymous says:

      SURE you have friends

    • Anonymous says:

      I want to share a lil bit of love with you Dave, it seems like u really need it, u re spending way too much of energy here. 🙂
      If something doesn’t work for you, move, you are not a tree. But I would hug you anymore.
      Have a nice day/evening.

  22. Dave says:

    Dear SA admin please reprimanding yougottabefeedingme for making false accusations . I always post as Dave with my honest opinions and facts I state as facts.

    • Anonymous says:

      Don’t be bias towards women they can use profanity and we can’t?

      • SA_Admin says:

        Using profanity is not against our Community Guidelines. Graphic descriptions of sexual acts and sexually demeaning language is. Hold tight for the guidelines to be posted and you can read the specifics. Thanks!

    • SA_Admin says:

      Personal attacks on people won’t be tolerated – like calling someone a name – otherwise profanity is not something we worry about.

    • SA_Admin says:

      We have so many comments from past posts that it would be nearly impossible to catch up on and moderate, so from here on out and when the guidelines are posted – the comments will all be moderated according to them. Please hang tight and wait for them to be posted, let us know if you have any questions about them in the post’s comments. Thanks!

  23. Anonymous says:

    My last comment sa was a godsend when my friends introduced it to me made my busy life more fun. Now all of us are mad that this site caters to the women when we are paying you. And you can threaten to ban us but we will keep our money and move on to something better

  24. Anonymous says:

    Yougottabekidding me you’re wrong there are multiple men on here that are mad that after paying for a membership we have to put up with negative garbage on here hope that’s clean enough for you sa

    • Anonymous says:

      All we are doing is Sharing our opinions and experiences with fellow members. If it bothers you so deeply why not make a change in your life where you wouldn’t need a sugar daddy. But instead you will cry and shame men. You ask us to be honest and then get mad!

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        There is no we in you, Sir Anonymous.

        Sure there are multiple men who are displeased with certain aspects of the SA experiences. However, it’s predominantly you plus two who are abusive in your language.

        Not sure you can designate yourself the spokesperson of multiple men when it’s not been multiple men posting abusive comments, and then claiming free speech under Article 19 of the second amendment of the US Constitution. You do realize how ridiculous that is, no?

        Multiple men may agree with your frustrations with the site, and multiple men have demonstrated ability to express that in a way that is aligned with community guidelines and terms of use.

        Also, quite the flawed assumption that there must be something wrong with someone’s life if they’re in this space. Also flawed is the assumption that everyone here needs an sd. It will always be the case that I seek complementary and compatible relationships. Generosity is a natural progression when attraction and chemistry meet authenticity. Try it and be less angry, perhaps. xo

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        *first amendment

      • Anonymous says:

        Lol so at the end of the day you still want sugar lol reality is we all like different things and if you stopped trying to make us want what you want this Chatroom would be so much more friendlier. Agree to disagree move on already!

      • SA_Admin says:

        The thing is, this is not a chat room. This is a blog that has designated topics and what we are trying to do is keep the comments on-topic and welcoming to all. If you like the idea of a chat room, I’ll be sure to take that to our team.

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        Allow me to return your question…

        So at the end of the day, you still want sugar?


        Yes, let’s agree to disagree.

  25. SingleSuccessfulMom says:

    Dave you are ignorant! Even marriages end gone are the days when a woman stays with a man simply because she has a child or family support. If I need to be with you for you to be a father to your kids then you’ve been raised wrong! An unhappy couple for more damage to a child. Sometimes you simply outgrow someone. If you were raised by a single mom who was unable to meet your needs I am sorry. I like I noted before have a graduate degree and in my profession work for no less than 150 an hour unless someone can’t afford it or I’m doing volunteer work.

  26. SingleSuccessfulMom says:

    I’m a single mom but not a single parent! I also have a graduate degree and I’m looking to do my doctorate. I’m on here because I’m looking for someone on the same wavelength. I have no time for games or to meet people traditionally so I’m here. Maybe the reason why you meet all these scammers escorts etc is because you ignore genuine profiles or because of your stereotypical mindset. I have also found difficulty meeting people on this site because the first thing they ask are to view your photos I addition I have removed my photo because well I can’t have ppl with my photos because they are ppl who come on this site and take your photo to catfish others or to scandalize your name. I’m sorry that you had such an experience but try bring more open minded don’t judge the single mothers. Remember because a woman doesn’t have a child isn’t mean she did not have multiple men nor pregnancies just meant she does not have a child.

  27. Anonymous says:

    Hey guys look at anon and bessi in other article with 69 comments you can see her pic she’s fat asf

    • Anonymous says:

      Same girl replying different user names lol

    • SA_Admin says:

      Dear Anonymous, please note that we are about to enact new Community Guidelines for this blog within the next 24-48 hours and personal attacks of this nature will not be tolerated. Comments will be removed and the user is subject to banning for repeated violations. Thank you.

      • Anonymous says:

        I’m stating the obvious and I was being sensitive by saying African American so u want us not to comment at all ?

  28. Anonymous says:

    Basically if you sneeze or say hi to someone they will ban you lol

  29. Anonymous says:

    I’m not going to agree with new terms of service I’ll just keep my money lol

    • Dave says:

      Let’s walk fellas. I’ll make sure I let other guys know as well . I have attorney and doctor friends on this site and they will walk too .

    • SA_Admin says:

      There are no new terms of service for SA. The Community Guidelines we have been mentioning are for the blog’s comment section only.

      • Filtersrus says:

        You should open up a discussion about site TOS as well, as evidenced by all this sturm and drang you are seeing all over these boards. I think most all of us understand that you want succinct and pertinent discussion here for the topics posted, but what I think is getting lost here is many of us would like to see changes on the actual SA site too. How about a blog post for that subject???

      • SA_Admin says:

        That is a wonderful idea…I assure you I am writing that down now to pitch to our team. Thanks!

      • Filtersrus says:

        Kinda like herding cats, huh??

    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      Hate to see you and the fellas go, Dave. I was hoping things would work out.

    • dontbesouptight says:

      well damn where you guys going? im a female on this site and i can agree the scamming women are ruining it but why let them? anyways. ive found that going out to fancy bars and meeting classy men is more of the way to go. you can meet face to face and not have to talk about how you met from a sex site..

  30. Anonymous says:

    Doesn’t this violate terms of rules lol

  31. Filtersrus says:

    Dude, don’t finger the arse of the tiger unless you are ready to deal with its teeth.. just sayin’

  32. SA_Admin says:

    Personal attacks, inappropriate behavior, trolling, discrimination, hateful speech and off-topic comments will all be violations of the Community Guidelines. Please be on the lookout for them as they’ll be posted within the next 24-48 hours, and let us know if you have any questions.

    • Anonymous says:

      So if you try to explain something with an example let’s say books or cars in monetary value someone might get butt hurt that we are talking about objects instead of people. It seems like what you’re trying to do is publish articles and no one can chat about it at all or someone might get butt hurt lol

      • SA_Admin says:

        Please wait for our Community Guidelines to be posted, they will answer your specific questions. We ask that monetary value in regards to arrangements not be discussed, especially monetary values in regards to sex because that violates our terms of use and the user will immediately be banned. With these new guidelines, we are aiming to keep these discussions on-topic, related to the blog post. So yes, if someone randomly starts talking about what cars are worth on a blog post about dating safety, it may be removed since it is not on-topic.

    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      Anonymous is sometimes the decoy that Dave and friend use to troll and throw tantrums or to post self-praise and the perception of alliance. Probably safe to assume that no dozen independent anonymous posters have spontaneously and simultaneously erupted to threaten boycotts should they not be permitted to abuse people. Safe to deduce that much of the noise comes from a minute few.

    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      Also, I think I remember that “Anonymous” autopopulates if the poster doesn’t enter a name.

      Maybe SA could program a prompt that requires a typed-in name other than “Anonymous.”

      Might also consider posting a survey or open-dialogue blog post of sorts…Community Input: Creating a Fun and Engaging Blogspace or something. Many community members have shared recommendations and insight that might be worth considering. The top-down approach isn’t always best when you’re dealing with human interactions. Having consideration to the opinions and experiences on the ground level would serve SA well.

      Also, I’m not sure through what mechanism SA filters and moderates posts, but I think it has the unintended consequence of hampering productive dialogue at times. Maybe filters on words and phrases coupled with a max post per day cap. Though that probably wouldn’t deter some people from posting under multiple names. It’s too bad people can’t just be decent.
      Maybe allocating some of the budget to a live (human) moderator would better serve the nuance that computer programs might miss. Maybe even reputable guest moderators from LTS who have established presence and regard from the community.

      Anyway, thanks for making an effort to address this!

      • SA_Admin says:

        Hi yougottabekiddingme, I assure you – I am very much a live human! Our upcoming Community Guidelines post is intended to be just that – a place for input from the community, as well as facilitating the clean-up of this space a bit (along with the new addition of my moderation) so discussions are more on-topic, welcoming to all and rid of trolling. Thank you for those ideas, we will keep them in mind if things get out of control again.

        We have so many old comments that it would be impossible for me to get through, so with these guidelines it will be a new, fresh start and the start of any disciplinary actions.

    • yougottabekiddingme says:


      Thanks for your reply. That’s great! I’m glad to know there will be the presence of a human moderator on the blog. I think many have felt disconnected from the Admins or any respresenative voice at SA as there has been no commentary or interaction aside from the initial posting of blog topics. Of course there is no perfect system, but I think this is a step in the right direction :).

      • SA_Admin says:

        Dear yougottabekiddingme,
        No problem – we are glad to hear it! All of us at SA are committed to creating the best experience where everyone feels welcome and able to have meaningful discussion, and I just so happen to be on the front line of that here on the blog comments, so I will do everything in my power to create a positive yet constructive environment. Every once in a while, comments will slip through before we get to make the final call on them so it probably won’t be perfect at first but we are confident that things will improve here.

  33. Sassy says:

    I feel like that’s a good idea and I have actually done that for someone

  34. Sassy says:

    Yup, that’s what I’m here for. ?

  35. Sassy says:

    That’s too bad cuz Santa really knows how to spoil. ?

  36. Filtersrus says:

    To SA Administrator. Since this did not post the first time, I am rewording it. You need to incorporate into your guidelines behavior that happens away from the site like other sites do. One of the modus operandi of scammers is to redirect the user to chat applications like k1k, S-chat and others so that the pitch is done away from SA platform. I have had more solicitations via text. chat applications and others than I care to recall. At least with those applications you don’t lose the string when blocked and you can screen shoot the offense. That is not true here. Understand, the report features, like any other feature can be abused. I had contact with you not 4 months ago about a user who got banned for something they didn’t do and I knew for fact that they didn’t do it. You reinstated them, but if I had not intervened they still would be banned. There has GOT to be a better way to empower paying users to help keep the site clean while also providing consequences when they abuse their empowerment

    • SA_Admin says:

      Dear Filtersrus,
      Thank you very much for voicing your concerns. Unfortunately the Community Guidelines we have been mentioning here are just for the blog. We recommend to not take conversations away from SA in the beginning of an arrangement, as anyone with legitimate intentions should have no problem with this, plus we cannot control or moderate members’ behavior outside of SA. If someone is trying to scam you, or you suspect a scam, misconduct or fraud, and they block you so you cannot report them as usual – please contact our support team at this URL (click here) with any details you have about the encounter so we can investigate and take action. Again, thank you for voicing this, we take feedback like this very seriously, as we want our members to have the best experience possible, and we will address it (perhaps even make a blog post about it so more users are aware!)

      • Filtersrus says:

        Not to compare you to other dating sites, but those sites DO have projections in their TOS for their users for offsite behavior, such as stalking, extortion et al

      • Filtersrus says:

        And those sites WILL ban users who misbehave as a direct result of using their site to connect with the victim of the alleged abuse

      • Filtersrus says:

        Sometime you might want to check T1nder TOS and unacceptable behavior guidelines and you will see what I am referring to.

      • SA_Admin says:

        Our terms of use does state that by accepting our terms, members agree to not use our website to facilitate or engage in illegal activity of any kind. If you interact with members who are violating this, or that you suspect are violating this, we ask that you report this immediately (via the “Report” option or through this URL – click here) so we can investigate and take action. Again, thank you for your feedback, this is a concern we take seriously; and rest assured that this will be considered further.

      • Filtersrus says:

        What I am saying is that they DO have TOS guidelines that deal with offsite behavior.

    • Anonymous says:

      Most girls will not respond to how much is your arrangement they will send there textme number and or email

  37. Anonymous says:

    Hey Dave brother don’t stop commenting
    Your presenting true facts and your honest opinion if it ruffles the feathers oh well your not scamming or using profanity I actually enjoy sharing my experiences on here if this is going to be taken away I will permanently delete my account they can kiss my arse

    • Anonymous says:

      We live in a free country we can’t be controlled

      • SA_Admin says:

        Dear Anonymous, as the owners of this blog we have the right to moderate comments (approving and removing them) as well as banning users if they violate our Community Guidelines. They should be posted today so keep an eye out for them.

      • Anonymous says:

        It seems like your threatening us by saying you would ban us lol there are other sites that cater to sugar daddies so good luck with that it won’t affect us we will still have our money and will be enjoying it elsewhere

      • SA_Admin says:

        Being banned on this blog will not ban your SA membership – they are two separate entities.

  38. Anonymous says:

    Amen to that brother
    Now they got sa admin blocking our opinions
    Teach them a lesson

    • SA_Admin says:

      Dear Anonymous, we will only be removing comments that violate our Community Guidelines. These will be posted within the next 24-48 hours. Keep an eye out for them and let us know if you have any questions. Thanks!

  39. Filtersrus says:

    How do you report a user who exhibits escort behavior but blocks you first???

  40. Anonymous says:

    I would indeed leave a review on Amazon because that is an object. If I met with a woman and it turned out I didn’t find them attractive after all, I wouldnt ‘leave a review’ because attractiveness is subjective. Example, you find a single mother unattractive for whatever reason. Someone else, perhaps with kids, would find that attractive as they can relate and have good conversation and sense a maturity in her. You find ‘fresh out of high school’ attractive whereas I would be put off by that as I would feel like she was my equal and I would feel I was an adult looking down on her, resulting in me feeling a little creepy. Anyway, the point I make is that people are attracted to different things.

    • Filtersrus says:

      It would be nice to leave them here, BUT that puts SA in the same bowl as TBD TER and other review sites that the professional girls used to use. Federal law changed, and now those sites are defunct, or have restricted US users from access. I don’t think SA wants any part of that part of the market and that is a GOOD thing. Now if we can more effectively weed out the bad elements, this place would be great. What you are seeing here is a bit of a revolt because paying members have no way of knowing who is reputable and who makes free IDs as fast as their fingers can fly

    • Filtersrus says:

      And it is oftentimes too hard to prove to the site’s purveyors

    • SA_Admin says:

      Here are the situations that we ask members to report, in addition to scams:
      -Report members who request sexual offers in exchange for money.
      -Report members who identify themselves as escorts or prostitutes since this is strictly against our terms of use.
      -Report any member guilty of online harassment.
      -Report anyone who asks for money upfront and before meeting in person. This includes, but is not limited to sob stories asking for money, and individuals needing to pay their cell phone bills.
      -Report members who ask for your address so they can send you gifts.
      -Report members who ask for your bank account details, including account numbers or passwords.

    • SA_Admin says:

      We ask that any members report anyone who asks for money upfront before meeting in person. Thanks!

    • SA_Admin says:

      Dave, we are about to post Community Guidelines that prohibit personal attacks on people or groups of people. Comments of that nature will be removed and users subject to banning with repeated violations. Thank you.

    • Anonymous says:

      Very sad to hear that you guys think that way about single mums. I am one single mum of a 23 and a 19 year old, both studding and working. I have my own business, I’m
      Educated and I’ve eased my children very well and with good manners. Not everyone is a as bad as you think, and yes some of them are what you say but not all of them. You might as why I’m on here, well, I work long hours and I don’t have tome for a relationship. I thought of finding someone with mutual interest to spend some adult time together, ones or e few times a week. It doesn’t mean I’m after someone’s money, or to get payed. Other websites don’t have much going on and you have to commit to a relationship, which I do t want at the moment. I hope you you change your view on single mums, at least on some of us that are genuine.

    • SA_Admin says:

      Attributed facts are fine as long as they are on-topic, but negative attacks on a group of people, negative blanket-statements towards a gender – anything that makes anyone feel unwelcome here – and off-topic comments will not be allowed under our community guidelines. We will be posting these within the next 24-48 hours, so just keep an eye out for them and let us know if you have any questions. Thanks!

    • Anonymous says:

      You need help!!! Sounds like a woman complaining again! What’s new lol

    • Filtersrus says:

      I think the point Mike is making is the profile that is obviously misrepresenting the facts. Photos show one thing and the user ends up being 5-10 years older than advertised, weighs 30-50 lbs more than the picture shows, OR the actual user is someone completely different than their pictures portrayed. even though their profile text is somewhat accurate

      • SA_Admin says:

        Unfortunately, like most dating sites, we cannot moderate photos to make sure they match the user. We suggest the use of video chat before meeting, so each member knows what to expect, especially if they are considering an agreement between them.

    • Sassy says:

      So we can report Dave for saying that he wouldn’t give money to anyone who only ask for platonic? Technically that means he’s asking for sexual favors in exchange for $

      • SA_Admin says:

        We unfortunately cannot moderate innuendo or unclear intentions. Be on the lookout for our Community Guidelines post in the next 24-48 hours and let us know if you have any questions!

    • SA_Admin says:

      That comment would be removed under our new Community Guidelines. If a member repeatedly violates the guidelines, they may also be subject to banning. Once we have them posted, you’ll see that we have a zero-tolerance policy for some behaviors, as well.

    • Filtersrus says:

      Misrepresentation is fraud. Granted there are grey areas, but catfishing is rampant on this site. People are paying good money for the opportunity to meet people, and they are being exploited in many cases by people who are not who they say they are. Catfishing should be a banning offence if it isn’t already

    • Anonymous says:

      I’ve never heard of platonic dating
      Has anyone ever dated someone and didn’t kiss them or hold their hands together? How is that dating lol watch someone will get mad for asking a question lol

  41. Anonymous says:

    Yes I leave a review on Amazon because I am talking about an object. If I met with someone and turned out I didn’t find them attractive after all then I wouldn’t assume no-one else will be the same. For example, you find a single mother unattractive for whatever reason, someone else may find that attractive particularly if they have kids themselves and can relate to them and will have better conversation perhaps. Personally I would find the fact a girl is ‘fresh out of highschool’ slightly off-putting as I would feel like an adult looking down on someone. But my point is, people find different things attractive, so I wouldn’t ‘leave a review’, as it’s all subjective. And certainly not 100s of times over. X

  42. Mary says:

    I want to find shuger dady

  43. Dave says:

    When you buy from amazon , do you not post a review ? When I come here “to complain”
    I’m here to voice my opinion and as you can see many men are helped by it or reassured that they are not the only ones experiencing bad behavior .

  44. Anonymous says:

    I don’t consider women to be of ‘low value’ just because I personally don’t find them attractive. Plus, if I’m not attracted to them I just won’t contact them, not repeatedly complain about it on several posts.

  45. Dave says:

    * I don’t think of myself as unattractive. You make the women the object of your desire . I say it is men who have what is needed , NOT what is wanted . Men can go without vagina , women can’t go on without resources . But men like you allow low quality women to exist because you’re desperate for their affection .

  46. Dave says:

    Its how you frame your mind . I consider men to be the object here not women . Here’s less of us than them . I expect women to be held to a standard . You cater to them and will accept any bad behavior or low value woman because you feel you’re unattractive. I don’t feel that way . I’ve put my picture up here before and I’m now I think of myself as undesirable .

  47. Anonymous says:

    Lol love the sarcasm

  48. Anonymous says:

    That’s a little vague, can you explain a bit more what you mean by that?

  49. Dave says:

    You come into SA from a point of weakness . I come at it from a point of strength .I’m not desperate like you so instead you call it resentment

  50. Dave says:

    You sure can conclude a lot from my posts can’t you ? If you want to swallow the Kool aid have at it . Single moms are not intellectual equals , cll it resentment or whatever. Now an 18 year old fresh out of high school non platonic girl is exactly why i come here . However they are being obscured by the garbage daily

    • SA_Admin says:

      Hi Dave, please note that we will soon be posting Community Guidelines for our blog comments, and personal attacks on specific people and/or groups of people are forbidden under these guidelines. Any comments of that nature will be removed & the user subject to banning if the guideline is repeatedly being violated.

  51. Anonymous says:

    Well it seems you have a lot of resentment towards women which would have come from somewhere. And you speak about them as though they’re a commodity. I don’t think the fee is entirely based on how attractive you find them, I think it depends more on how unattractive we are, like compensation ?

  52. Avalonrxy says:

    And you accuse women of being “entitled”?!?

    In your defence, you provide a warning to women of many of the dudes here: Jordan Peterson addicts who washed up here after FOSTA closed Backpage and the other marketplaces for $50 dope addled escorts.

  53. Anonymous says:

    Dear adminsitrator if you would like to impose new guidelines wouldn’t that be a violation of freedom of speech and the women you’re protecting are the ones who try to scam us and join for free. We are paying members you should take care of us and get rid of the call girls on this site and we wouldn’t have to complain. Thanks

    • SA_Admin says:

      As owners of this blog, we have the right to remove comments and ban users as we see fit, according to our guidelines. Please keep an eye out for the guidelines, as we will be posting them shortly.

      • Anonymous says:

        So basically we have to pay you and follow your rules even though it violates our constitutional right of freedom of speech. I understand not using profanity but when sugar babies try to scam us and we report them they show back up the next morning with new profiles. I would fix that and watch we will never post negative comments

      • SA_Admin says:

        Like any forum or social media website, we moderate these comments to make sure it is a safe space for productive conversation. That being said, please report any scams, harassment and/or spam, users suspected of this will be addressed by the SeekingArrangement Misconduct Team and banned from our website – we want to ensure you have the best experience possible.

    • Filtersrus says:

      Contrary to popular belief, freedom of speech only applies to the government, as in they cannot make laws abridging it. As a private entity, if you walked into my store cussing your lungs out, I could tell you to leave and if you did not comply I can FORCE you to leave. Same applies here. Since this site is not a government entity, they can tell you to go pound sand simply because they want to and there is nothing you can legally do about it. It is their site, therefore their rules. Only thing you can do about it is vote with your dollars and go elsewhere. Thing is– they can do the same thing for the same reason

  54. Anonymous says:

    Me too lol
    Spending no money on self entitled women is a big win!

  55. Anonymous says:

    I think you have a few issues that need to be addressed I would suggest therapy. Genuine suggestion, not trying to patronise. I had some and learned a lot about myself and how I handled past rejection from women. I’m a lot less resentful and angry now and enjoy my life a lot more.

  56. SA_Admin says:

    Dear Dave, we do not condone hateful speech, personal attacks or gender bias and we will be removing any comments containing that language, and banning users that continually post comments of this nature.

  57. Anonymous says:

    You are sad, sad men ?

  58. Deciree says:

    Quiero un sugar daddy para q me consienta y consentirlo

    • SA_Admin says:

      If you are interested in Sugar dating, please visit our website and sign up for free!

    • Anonymous says:

      English! It’s the most common language in the world!!!

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        G00gle translate! It’s the most common translation site in the world!!!

        This is an international site with interface options in various languages.

        Get out of your backyard sometime, maybe.

      • Anonymous says:

        Well it’s good to know his anger gave me a hint of what origin they’re from definitely not american lol btw English is spoken in more than half the countries in the world the whole article is in English why would u bring ur Spanish crap in a English spoken chat room Deusche bag?

      • SA_Admin says:

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  59. GuyInTheTower says:

    No doubt this will get a backlash from the guys, but guys, seriously, Dave and Co. WTF. What’s with all the women bashing, what century do you live in. I’ve not had problems on this site, in fact I’ve discovered more normal ladies here than on ‘traditional’ sites like tinder. You guys should just go back to the country, or the last century, and quit giving real men a bad name.

  60. Filtersrus says:

    For some reason, I am reminded of Davincis Notebook right now

  61. A says:

    I’m a student sb and I see this as prostituting myself. Isn’t a bad thing, it is what it is.

  62. A says:

    well I’ll offer a different perspective as a student sb. I totally see this as prostituting myself. Unless I met a man I really fell for which is highly unlikely.

  63. H says:

    Speak for yourself
    I’ve been with older men without the money element off the site because I liked them. I’m 19 they’ve been 20+ years older

  64. Anon says:

    Still going on about that Mike from the other thread? I think everyone gets it now

  65. Anon says:

    Maybe they’re not interested in you

  66. Nickel says:

    I’m looking for someone how I can trust and ijoy with him

  67. Liv says:

    Wow. Some of you guys on here seem very insecure and like you have some deep rooted mommy issues. Super judgemental. Yikes!

  68. Evee says:

    Hey everyone look! This guy knows every single mom in the world!

    • Sassy says:

      But… 90% of the incarcerated…. ?. Apparently those are the only single mothers too. So I’m guessing the mothers of the incarcerated only amount to 10% of single mothers.

  69. Filtersrus says:

    True story. The hottest SB I have met here is a lesbian, but a true hedonist at heart. She will bond with her girlfriends, but she doesn’t think twice about getting down with a straight man who knows what he is doing. I have been seeing her for quite a while now, but I know she won’t be a ATF. Now THOSE kind of SB’s are as rare as boobs on a bull. A whole lot of fun…

  70. Hahaha says:

    A 2nd hand vagina. That’s hilarious. Where are you finding all the virgins on SA?

  71. Angie says:

    Women get super sick of the Wanna-be’s and liars. If your profile says you have an annual income of $250K yet your photo shows popcorn ceiling and a Formica countertop… I can only assume your a poser.

    I might be one the rare females in this site that is a PAYING member. It’s only $19.95 a month, big deal. I’m genuinely seeking a rendezvous, a real arrangement. Men here are horrible! It’s not just the men who can complain. This place is not what it used to be 5 years ago.

    I’m here because I’m successful, too and think the pof, aff sites are even more pathetic.

    I don’t want platonic… I want a GOOD thing. Mutually beneficial turns me on. It’s a Win/Win. To the men questioning this type of relationship… “just looking for Fwb” try something else. At the end of the day, all that matters is that I made you happy AF and you did the same for me. Why is it so complicated?

    Women have to put up with all kinds of BS, too. Trust me

    • Anonymous says:

      Your comment made me laugh. I make 300k a year and have popcorn ceiling in my house. I don’t love it but it came with the house and I’d rather spend my extra money traveling and living the good life.

  72. Bart says:

    2 tips or guys from Bart Black:

    1) Buy a BURNER PHONE. The last thing you need is a lunatic, or scammer to have your phone number. In 5 minutes with the right app she can know everything about you and your life. Until trust is earned use a burner. Buy a Tracfone with CASH (Dollar General in the south), buy airtime cards with CASH, and activate the device on a FedEx PC using CASH. Now you have an untraceable phone you can use for first contacts.

    2) Beware of Catfish and “Wild Boars”. A common trick used by scammers is to create a hot fake profile. She’ll agree to meet you, but when you do it’s not the girl from the pics. Now this boar will demand things from you on the spot you promised online, or the boar will make a scene. Yes it’s real… To avoid this sit your your car, or some other place where you can see her walk in. If she has tusk and a razor back you’ve won!

  73. Steven says:

    Starting to think this site is a waste of time. Better off getting an escort. At least she’s a professional. Anyone actually had a good arrangement? First chick I met was jabba the hut. I’m talking to other ones but their expectations are up in the clouds. They do know we have options right. Wtf is going on. How do we reach out to the men that are shelling out too much and tell them to pull back because they are ruining the game for everyone

    • J. says:

      I’m back to this site after a few successful long-term arrangements and agree with you. This is not what was used to be 3 years ago. Every second girl I got in touch wants ppm with upfront payment. Few girls didn’t show up.

    • Anonymous says:

      So true it’s like we have to work so hard to meet them and then some of these girls are weird asf and or a starfish lol

    • Anonymous says:

      Sa was awesome a few years ago but all the backpaige girls came on here they don’t follow the rules want to sell you pictures or deposit before meeting up and call you Splenda daddies for not giving them a $200 deposit without meeting up and when you voice your concerns they want to ban you!
      Sounds like this site needs to be reported to the authorities now. It’s not like they don’t know what’s going on. Girls who get there profile deleted they just open another one up the next day.

      • SA_Admin says:

        Seeking in no way, shape or form supports escorts or prostitutes using our website for personal gain. Profiles suspected of this usage will be addressed by the SeekingArrangement Misconduct Team and banned from our website. If you come across any profiles or users that you suspect of this, please report them. Thanks!

      • Anonymous says:

        Dear administrator only way for you to understand what I’m saying is by making a profile and watch 9 out of ten girls want Ppm 6 out of ten want online only and majority don’t even respond unless u look like someone they can take advantage of

      • SA_Admin says:

        We ask that you report any members who ask for money before meeting in person, if someone wants money online only, you may report them.

      • SA_Admin says:

        Please contact Customer Support (click here) with any details you have about scamming, member complaints, etc. so we can take action.

      • Anonymous says:

        Sa wants to act dumb as if they have no clue and want us to do their work of weeding out the crap
        By reporting them sounds like we have a new job do we get paid lol

      • SA_Admin says:

        Dear Anonymous, we monitor activity for millions of members and simply ask our community to let us know if they are experiencing issues, so we can work together to resolve them. Thanks!

      • Filtersrus says:

        That’s what we doing by having this open discussion

  74. Johnny says:

    Can I ask where you guys live? Just curious as I usually get lovely young ladies for $200 to come over for dinner and drinks and play time… but I noticed in NYC, they wont even consider anything less than $400. Do you find the same experience, city girls demand more?

  75. TickleTrick says:

    Is someone paying Dave and Mike to write on this posts? :Đ

    • Dave says:

      The blog girls don’t realize that we became successful becuase we. Didn’t prioritize vagina in our lives and we spent that time making money .

    • Anonymous says:

      You’re exactly right Dave majority of teens and 20’s and early 30’s it was all about my education and business now I want to enjoy but not with self entitled brats

  76. Bobby says:

    How do you all filter out the women that are trying to scam and hustle men? I already filtered out the ones with the “platonic” tag but I can’t think of anything else. Is there a particular question you ask and based on the response? I just need a quick way to make sure I don’t talk to them. I was thinking of including some language in my description to to make sure they read and don’t respond in case I hit them up

  77. Frank says:

    Hey how come I can’t comment on the most recent post?

    • Anonymous says:

      they selectively block comments thats why

    • Filtersrus says:

      Some they block entirely. Cannot get straight answers why either

    • Dave says:

      When men put their foot down , quit simping to leftover females , and vote with our
      wallets , things will change .

    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      They turned off comments because Dave ruins everything, as consistent with the history of this blog. Good work, Dave…and second fiddle/sweaty sac, Mike. Good work.

    • Anon says:

      They seem to comment excessively and constantly. I don’t think it’s actually two men logging in here multiple times a day everyday, seems a bit odd. Probably people who work for the site is all I can think

    • yougottabekiddingme says:


      Dave has been known to comment from multiple screen names. He does it to provoke conversation to stoke his theories about women and millennials; validate his perspective and ego; and praise and talk to himself. It’s actually pretty sad. He’s been at it for a long time. The blog used to be really active, but abusive and demeaning language led to moderated posts and blocks on certain screen names. Does make you wonder why Dave’s posts aren’t moderated out, yet credible reference-supported responses are blocked. Maybe SA feels that any publicity is good publicity.

    • Anonymous says:

      It’s powered by women if you notice the other blog only women can post. Funny thing is we are the ones paying $90 bucks a month good job sa we appreciate your support!

  78. Anonymous says:

    I really wish women would google how much pornstars make and then ask for a reasonable allowance! Majority of these girls have kids and want pornstar money. Please do your homework before asking us educated guys ridiculous allowance and I’m saying please lol

    • Anonymous says:

      Stop controlling men when you’re the ones asking and being paid the money!!!

    • Sassy says:

      Sounds like you are putting your friend Mike down now too.

    • alexaalex says:

      This is coming from porn addict! Seriously your comment is moronic at best. They are “porn stars” google the definition. There is no comparison with a educated girl next door type of girl or a fitness model or a model. you better off hiring a call I am sure they have a lot “porn stars “ lol

      • Filtersrus says:

        Those sites are not available to American consumers. Feds took care of that years ago. THAT SAID– I have enjoyed a number of porn stars in my almost 60 years and the point Dave makes is spot on. Time with an actual porn star is EXPENSIVE an can easily hit 4 figures. PSE ( porn star experience) is the most expensive dating you can do and I am sorry but there are not many on this site I would list in the same galaxy as porn star.. thus their allowance requests are a bit absurd

      • Anonymous says:

        Sounds like she a middle aged women with no future probably saggy with wrinkles lol so here’s a question why would you pay $140,000 for a 2010 Mercedes s class when you can get a 2019 for the same price ? Hopefully you can understand that we want something new and not old majority of pornstars are young so they can’t have a PhD. and if they did why would they be on here? If you’re a single mom stretched out nobody wants you let alone pay for you. Get a headboard with a cushion might help with your head trauma lol

      • SA_Admin says:

        Please note that we will soon be posting Community Guidelines for our blog comments, and any personal attacks are forbidden. Any comments of this nature will be removed and users subject to banning if the guideline is repeatedly violated.

      • Anonymous says:

        Sorry but teens can’t have a PhD they’re too young! And if a girl had a PhD why would she be on here? Who’s the moron now? It’s called simple math. go back to elementary school sweetheart!

  79. Dave says:

    For feminists a man’s opinion is called bullying . They don’t believe in free speech . Leftist mentality

    • Sassy says:

      “If you’re a single mom, you’re not decent”.
      “Single mothers are a danger to society”
      Might be freedom of speech but still bullying.

    • Sassy says:

      No, I just wish you would try and be a decent human being for once.

      • Anonymous says:

        Sassy get over yourself we are sharing facts not fictional stories!
        Dave said it really well why would you pay new car prices for a used up old car? If you’re thinking long term arrangement you want someone who you will want to continue to keep seeing. For example date a 21 year old For 5 yrs =26 date a 35 yr old for 5 years = 40 year old saggy droopy chick no thanks

    • Sassy says:

      “If you’re a single mom, you’re not decent”. How is that not bullying?

      • Jeeezzzexcell says:

        Sassy, because he is archaic as he can be mummy like. A total loser, and misogynist. It’s best not reply to any of his “brilliant” comments because that putting oneself to his level.

      • Sassy says:

        That has nothing to do with me.

      • Sassy says:

        And the number of incarcerated people is probably about the same amount of rapes. ?. How many incarcerated came from single moms?

      • Sassy says:

        *How many non incarcerated people came from single mother homes?

      • Anonymous says:

        And no offense but when a woman has a child that area there changes
        No thanks why would someone pay for a girl whose had kids? We are here to be picky and date girls we like not the ones you like! Stop trying to control men especially when they’re paying you!!!

      • Sassy says:

        Who am I trying to control, and how?

      • Sassy says:

        Lol, and I’m probably tighter than 90% of the “young women” you’ve been with.

      • SA_Admin says:

        Please note that we are about to enact new Community Guidelines for this blog, and any personal attacks are forbidden. Comments that include such language are subject to removal and ultimately banning of the user if the policy continues to be violated. Thanks.

    • SingleSuccessfulMom says:

      I’m 30 I look like 18 if that much I’m beautiful attractive educated about 100 pounds and I’m here because I’m want to !eet a successful attractive man who came on this site because perhaps if he is willing to pay for a relationship maybe just maybe when he meets me and realize how genuine I am and what I am seeking and we have a connection he will be loyal to me I’m not looking for an allownce though I’ve had ppl msg and be like I’ll give you 1500 a week. No replies necessary cause that’s not what I want I read in forbes you can meet single successful people here. All I found so far are people who lie and fluff they profile and Im just looking for love in what I thought to be a hopeful place.

      • Anonymous says:

        I’ve actually met someone similar to you before and it’s very rare they just want a successful boyfriend rather than dating some loser. Look the shaming of men makes us mad and we retaliate but majority of us have signed up to have a good time stay positive and it will be all good.

  80. Jessica says:

    Wannabe Sugar Baby writes: “I’m looking for someone who will help me out so I can cater to my one month old twins, I have no job, I need to buy them diapers, wipes, clothing, car seats, cribs, diaper bags, but I don’t like to meet up.”

  81. Jessica says:

    I love this app

  82. Sassy says:

    If we are going to play this way… So you must have been the bad boy cuz you definitely could not have been the “good man”

    • Dave says:

      No logic to that whatsoever. Women initiate 70 percent of divorces .

    • Sassy says:

      Well yeah there is, because even if she initiated it, she was either with a bad boy or left a good man. By how you talk here, I would definitely say it’s not the later.

  83. Sassy says:

    Seriously, is there not anyone actually monitoring these blogs. It seems like they have gotten way out of control and most of it is just bullying.

    • Sassy says:

      I’ve been reading some from about a year ago and I was like, “Wow, it’s not all about Dave.”

    • Anonymous says:

      no offense if your serious about finding a sugar daddy you should be on the site looking for one you won’t find one on here the blog this is a place to express opinions as far as it being bulling i won’t comment on that Dave is the most vocal but a lot of men are angry because were tired of being ripped off and cheated and this site does nothing to protect or help us i would suggest you go over to lets talk sugar it’s more women friendly there good luck in your search

      • Dave says:

        She’s trying to stifle free speech .

      • Sassy says:

        I already have one, thank you. I appreciate the information though. Some of us actually want a decent relationship but are told that no one wants us because of an opinion.

      • Sassy says:

        I understand that Dave wants a young girl who will do whatever he wants, but not all the guys on the site are that self centered. He will scare away the young decent ones.

    • Anonymous says:

      Lol so you found a way to sell yourself and call smart guys Splenda daddies because we don’t pay your outrageous asking amounts lol

  84. Sassy says:

    Oh, and there is actually the possibility of someone having a child because they got raped. Not really something that can be controlled.

    • Dave says:

      Feminist single mom detected . Even worse . Rape barely occurs 0.0001 percent in the USA . Single moms are societal lepers .they raise 90 percent of the incarcerated. It’s on the CDC website .

    • Sassy says:

      And what is the percentage of people that don’t report rape?
      You can’t find a number for that because obviously, they are too scared to report it.

    • Anonymous says:

      It’s called plan b or abortion

  85. Sassy says:

    And how would you know that? And btw, most likely you are getting second hand vagina no matter what, unless you are doing exams to see if they are virgins. ??‍♀️

  86. Anonymous says:

    Bitter men, While you all are looking for someone to actually meet, I’m looking for someone who doesn’t want my login and password to do a check deposits. I have my own everything, I’m a real female willing to actually meet but only in Oahu, Hawaii. You men pay and still scamm try to scam the women on here. I want something long term not just your money from the beginning.. just saying…

  87. Anonymous says:

    I’m an attractive male Im deff not rich tho so I make a profile looking for a sugar mama and so far I get favorited and viewed often I even say looking for sugar mama so I get this lady saying she is gonna treat me like gold and pay me an allowance then she ask’s for my credit information lol like that’s not how money gets sent and how is my info gonna help you treat me like a king lol fucking scammers

    • SA_Admin says:

      Sorry to hear about your experience, please report any member that asks for bank and/or credit card information. Thanks!

      • Anonymous says:

        The majority of women on here are here to scam us they ask for PayPal cashapp and even after we report them. They just make a new profile within minutes. You guys need to have them scan their id so you guys have it in the system. Please make it safer to be on here.

      • SA_Admin says:

        Please report any members who ask for your bank and/or credit card information, as well as anyone who is harassing you.

  88. Anonymous says:

    With your negative attitude you will lose the girl of your dreams. Girls will continue to play you and use you for being too biased.
    Good luck.

  89. alexaalexa says:

    I just don’t imagine how miserable in life you are, thus, these horrid and misogynistic comments. If it is so horrible why are you even here ? Oh wait, because you want to engage in your ephebophilia but not all 18-19 years old are dumb. attracting “men” like you. Weirdo!

  90. Karli says:

    Not all single moms is like that Dave.

  91. Anonymous says:

    What moron would pay $700 and not get laid wtf is wrong with this moron go to Vegas Tijuana strip club massage parlor lol

  92. Anonymous says:

    Freaking awesome I didn’t renew my membership I’m keeping my $3000 this month haha dumbtards thats what u get for being greedy lol

  93. Anonymous says:

    The girls getting married and her future husband is ok with a sugar daddy hmmm
    Yea sounds like trailer park trash NEXT!

  94. Sandy says:

    I enjoy this site, and these were really great tips to read. Women do need to be safe on this site. I’ve thought about it myself when i furry sign up that you really don’t know what kind of person your going to meet. I hope women read this and stay safe because I would never want to hear about missing because of this site. I was asked to travel with a surgeon one weekend. I didn’t feel comfortable getting on an airplane with them and I had the thought in my head I could end up with sold organs or something. I do have that fear however I’ve been very safe with my arrangements, and made the best decisions when and how to meet so far.

  95. Dave says:

    If tattoos are weird , which they are , why would you get them in the first place ? Duh

  96. Anonymous says:

    I agree with this blog. I don’t mind sexual stuff but I want to meet first in a bar to get a feel of them etc, same with them getting a feel with me too!

  97. Anonymous says:

    We should post all the usernames of girls who are asking for platonic online dating on here
    And start reporting them it will save all of us a lot of time and energy

    • Dave says:

      Better to let Father Time and poverty punish them .

      • Anonymous says:

        Lol your too nice Dave and I’m not being sarcastic but these materialistic retards need to learn sooner than later or else they will keep taking advantage of guys like a.x bragging about 2 sd and dating supposedly cute guys her own age

    • Sassy says:

      Reporting wouldn’t do much good since SA sort of encourages the platonic relationships.

      • Anonymous says:

        No sassy sa says that so they won’t get closed down like BPAGE

      • Anonymous says:

        Reporting would help us all men in the sense don’t even bother wasting your valuable time on this con artist! Like seriously do u think it’s ok to take money from a guy to have coffee with? How sad and or lonely is that guy? Or what disease does he have lol good luck with platonic you will meet a serial killer trying to get your info lol

    • Anonymous says:

      Platonic is fine but the ones that lie about it and take your money and ghost

  98. Anonymous says:

    Asian girls pull this crap all the time
    Lookskill that girl wants $250 just to meet up for compatibility test it’s like wow she started off with $400 lol

  99. Anon says:

    Well, i am a single mom with wierd tattoos. So i would actually like to know why you said that.

  100. Anonymous says:

    I look at the age and the way they chat if they say hun or love or baby Or daddy I’m out
    Not looking for a pro or a Victoria secret model but someone cool asf

  101. Anonymous says:

    They should make the girls pay the same price because they’re the ones making the money. The men should have free accounts.
    SA come up with a deposit system for men and have free membership

  102. yikes says:

    the hateful comments here exemplify why the safety guidelines above are necessary. y’all have PROBLEMS

  103. Sassy says:

    Apparently the few of us that are decent and will meet, are too old (35) and single mom leftovers. ?

    • Anonymous says:

      U killed it with single mom and 35 lol you know why we would rather pay to date a girl? No baggage and they’re young and down to have fun! Rather than come up with family emergency excuses or just being self entitled!

    • Dave says:

      Exactly why you would meet , your options are dwindling because well men don’t want to pay new car prices for a used car . That’s biology and preference . You watched too much sex and the city

    • Dave says:

      “i’m an independent , strong, empowered mother of a boy named Aiden . If you can’t handle me at my worst , you don’t deserve my best ” Every single mom

    • Sassy says:

      So single moms don’t like to have fun? And I have never had a “family emergency” when I have a meet planned. And as for the self entitled, that seems to be more you than me.

    • Sassy says:

      And btw Dave, I’ve never watched sex and the city. I can get a guy way better than you any day.

    • Dave says:

      Yeah sure , if you consider blue collar, with a regular job better , but we know you don’t , or else you wouldn’t be on here . You should go back to plenty of fish .

    • Sassy says:

      Better, as in one that actually respects women and not shallow as hell.

  104. Anonymous says:

    Deserve? Answer nothing ! Work for it like we have they choose to open their legs while we opened books

  105. Anonymous says:

    Lmfao so true!

  106. Anonymous says:

    fyi, yesterday feel victim to this scam from a “sugar baby” on SA

  107. Xalimo says:

    I gotta day that I don’t do most of these, but I’ve never had a bad experience on here.

  108. Dave says:

    you’re an incel loser fat man who stinks of smelly poo rapist !!!

  109. duh says:

    I am so looking forward to the day (however unlikely) that SA ever would dare to stage a ‘Sugar Daddy Summit’ where it invites PAYING male users to discuss the (grim) realities of sugar dating .. of course they would never do this; they prefer to promote women and foster unrealistic female-centric concepts and behaviours so they can drive female membership levels. Male users are the funding for this site but all the PR/Marketing is aimed at a female membership. There are so many girls here now that it’s a buyer’s market, would be great to have some sort of forum where all these illusions could be exposed and dispelled. Someone needs to start a site where the emphasis is more balanced towards men and females also have to subscribe and pay even a small amount to use the site.. without investment of any kind women join free, get premium memberships free and have nothing to lose. The majority of female profiles now are just superfluous clutter, time to eliminate single mothers, ‘deserving’ princesses; findom scumbags, closet escorts, platonic parasites, I have even seen male/female couples advertising for an SD to fund their lifestyles – this isn’t a swinger site

  110. Chi Chi says:

    These comments are gold. Thank you for my evening entertainment.

  111. Ashney Phillips says:

    Will a sugar daddy ask for you financial info online? Such as asking you to purchase a gift card and getting cash app. I dont know but I did not do it because it didnt feel right

  112. Sassy says:

    Maybe you should start citing sources if you are going to try and pass things off as facts.

  113. FruityFruit says:

    Wow Dave and Mike’s comments are exploding this session. I bet your both middle-aged men, right?

  114. DragonFairy says:

    These are good tips. Folks, please use common-sense and logic when doing online dating. I’ve dated someone for 5 years and it didn’t work out but he found out what college I was attending, which was a scary experience since he appeared in the middle of the night at my dorm one day. I also strongly stress no one night stands because STDS are very easy to catch if your just fooling around with random people. I don’t do one-nights and kissing may get viruses too so I substitute with a kiss on the cheek.

    On my other experience I dated an attorney and it was the most fun I had here yet. No pressure on the sexual part and we were able to have a logical conversation. I wouldn’t mind going out with him again!

  115. Filtersrus says:

    They lost their period. dontcha know.

  116. Anonymous says:

    true women won’t go out with older men that don’t have money but they won’t go out with any man on this site that doesn’t have money that is what this web site is for to spoil a lady with cash and gifts that only a rich man can provide doesn’t matter the age of the man the only requirement is he be able to provide that lifestyle

  117. Dave says:

    Report them as spam . Good idea

  118. Anonymous says:

    no the point of the money is to free up time and reduce her stress if she has to work two or three jobs she won’t have much time for you if you have to pay her because your older than her and she doesn’t really want to date you because she’s not attracted to you i would just move on i don’t need those kind of women in my life this kind of dating is not a necessity we can do without it but we do it to add fun and excitement to our life if a sugar baby benefits from sharing some of that life more power to them there are women that like older men you don’t have to pay them to be with you but they do enjoy a good time and some help in life do you not remember how hard it was at that age i do everyone needs a little help

  119. Anonymous says:

    I just like to have a good time, you all are too much drama

  120. Anonymous says:

    agreed you will not get busted for prostitution in your home no police force will waste resources trying to bust you in your home

  121. yougottabekiddingme says:

    Dave says…

    99.9999% of men DO NOT rape . We know what your true goal is . It’s not about stopping rape because
    there are laws in place that
    punishes rapists already . Secondly , go try telling actual rapists not
    to be one . Good luck there .This
    is about control. You want control
    over men . You don’t want a sugar
    daddy with the ability to hit it
    and quit it . About 90 percent of SB profiles state demand long term
    arrangements . But you can’t
    guarantee that . You Want to be able to cry rape if he gets laid
    and never calls you again . That’s
    what this is about . Problem is
    social engineering fails every
    time . Just ask the now defunct
    USSR. They tried that many times in
    80 years . They even tried to
    clone docile humans with genetic
    engineering. It didn’t work .”

    • yougottabekiddingme says:


      Am gonna guess you can see Russia from your back yard.

      You asked for help, you got it. Let’s start small with some reference-supported data as per w1kepedia (because aggregate data doesn’t get any simpler than that ).

      Please query “false accusations of rape w1kepedia” and refer to the studies that have been published on this matter.

      Please note that the studies that yielded the highest number of false allegations stemmed from those with the smallest sample sizes (no pun intended). As per the basic principles of research and statistics, studies with larger samples sizes are more transferable and generalizable to broader populations. At any rate, the validity of the studies depends on the methodology with which the data was collected, analyzed, and interpreted.

      As for your assertion of post-coitus, dump-and-dump regret…

      There’s no relationship I’ve ever had in any capacity that wasn’t ongoing. I don’t give per-meet desperados with shallow minds and shallower pockets such as yourself the time of day.

      Keep trying.

      As for control…Daddy has control. I’ve simply the power of the p**sy. Get it right.

    • Dave says:

      Don’t like facts yougottabefeedingme? Pure emotion only ?

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        I think you’re pretty pathetic, but my response to you is not emotional. Your “facts” are simply garbage…dangerous, destructive, and a disservice to anyone who comes across then and takes them as truth.

        SA should be ashamed for allowing you to vomit about as you do.

        Karissa, you authored this blog…perhaps you can lend some commentary to Dave’s claims since my posts are being blocked?

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        Dear Dave,

        The National Crime Vicitimization Survey is published annually. Is there a reason you chose to reference data from 17 entire years ago?

        Also, I don’t think you understand how numbers work. Let’s consider for a moment the data you provided…0.4 per 1000 people. The current figure, by the way, according to the same source you referenced, is 2.4 per 1000 people, but we’ll go with the numbers you provided. Using the figure you provided, 0.4 per 1000 people equates to more than 130,000. The most current data would bring that figure to nearly 790,000.

        At any rate, your reference you provided does nothing to support any claim you’ve made thus far.

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        Dear Dave,

        The National Crime Vicitimization Survey is published annually. Is there a reason you chose to reference data from 17 entire years ago?

        Also, I don’t think you understand how numbers work. The statistic you’ve referenced does nothing to support your claim that rape is nonexistent in the US, and that rape culture is a farce propagated by Millennials, feminists, and social justice conspiracists. Let’s consider for a moment the data you provided…0.4 per 1000 people. The most recent data (2018) is 2.4 per 1000 people as per The National Crime Victimization Survey, your chosen and provided source of reference. But even considering 0.4 per 1000 people, that statistic, with respect to the US National population, comes out to more than 130,000 documented reports of rape. The most current data would bring that figure to nearly 790,000. The current report also outlines an increase in crime data across categories.

        You can’t just ramble off made up and misrepresented statistics, and call them facts. At any rate, your claims remain unsubstantiated.

        What other “facts” would you like to present?

    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      Not sure why I’m not able to post…didn’t even call you the p-word.

      Also not sure why you’ve jumped from Saudi Arabia to the USSR.

      Am gonna guess you can see Russia from your back yard.

      You asked for help, you got it. Let’s start small with some reference-supported data as per w1kepedia (because aggregate data doesn’t get any simpler than that).

      Please query “false accusations of rape w1kepedia” and refer to the studies that have been published on this matter.

      Please note that the studies that yielded the highest number of false allegations stemmed from those with the smallest sample sizes (no pun intended). As per the basic principles of research and statistics, studies with larger samples sizes are more transferable and generalizable to broader populations. At any rate, the validity of the studies depends on the methodology with which the data was collected, analyzed, and interpreted.

      As for your assertion of post-coitus, dump-and-dump regret…

      There’s no relationship I’ve ever had in any capacity that wasn’t ongoing. I don’t give per-meet desperados with shallow minds and shallower pockets such as yourself the time of day.

      Keep trying.

      As for control…Daddy has control. I’ve simply the power of the ?. Get it right.

    • ygbkm says:

      Not sure why I’m not able to post…didn’t even call you the p-word.

      Also not sure why you’ve jumped from Saudi Arabia the USSR.

      Am gonna guess you can see Russia from your back yard.

      I don’t care much about most of what you talk about, but I do think it’s both dangerous and a disservice for you to just spew false information and made up statistics which you claim as fact.

      You asked for help, you got it. Let’s start small with some reference-supported data as per w1kepedia (because aggregate data doesn’t get any simpler than that).

      Please query “false accusations of rape w1kipedia” and refer to the studies that have been published on this matter.

      Please note that the studies that yielded the highest number of false allegations stemmed from those with the smallest sample sizes (no pun intended). As per the basic principles of research and statistics, studies with larger samples sizes are more transferable and generalizable to broader populations. At any rate, the validity of the studies depends on the methodology with which the data was collected, analyzed, and interpreted.

      As for your assertion of post-coitus, dump-and-dump regret…

      There’s no relationship I’ve ever had in any capacity that wasn’t ongoing. I don’t give per-meet desperados with shallow minds and shallower pockets such as yourself the time of day.

      Keep trying.

      As for control…Daddy has control. I’ve simply the power of the ?. Get it right.


    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      Dear Dave,

      The National Crime Vicitimization Survey is published annually. Is there a reason you chose to reference data from 17 entire years ago?

      Also, I don’t think you understand how numbers work. The statistic you’ve referenced does nothing to support your claim that rape is nonexistent in the US, and that rape culture is a farce propagated by Millennials, feminists, and social justice conspiracists. Let’s consider for a moment the data you provided…0.4 per 1000 people. The most recent data (2018) is 2.4 per 1000 people as per The National Crime Victimization Survey, your chosen and provided source of reference. But even considering 0.4 per 1000 people, that statistic, with respect to the US National population, comes out to more than 130,000 documented reports of rape. The most current data would bring that figure to nearly 790,000. The current report also outlines an increase in crime data across categories.

      You can’t just ramble off made up and misrepresented statistics, and call them facts. At any rate, your claims remain unsubstantiated.

      What other “facts” would you like to present?

  122. Anonymous says:

    the definition for prostitution I’m seeing is the business or practice of engaging in sexual activities for money if you take someone out to dinner and later pay money for sex at your home or room it is prostitution but i agree if you pay money over the course of a relationship then it is not you can get around this by paying her bills directly rather to her such as the rent car payments tuition that way it’s not directly linked to her providing sex for that money you are in effect gifting her money rather than paying anything to her

  123. Anonymous says:

    There are new ones coming in every day. Some have high expectations and are therefore worth nothing. Some will accept help and it’s almost a relatively fair arrangement but not quite as good as what’s out there in other places if you know what I mean. I’ll let you know when something good goes through.

  124. Anonymous says:

    no mike it is prostitution if you exchange money for sex it is prostitution doesn’t matter where you do it i don’t have a problem with that it fills a need but this is a sugar dating site your not paying for sex per say but a relationship out which sex should happen if both parties are happy it’s the theory here that a arrangement should be mutually beneficial but to me it’s a waste of time and money the juice is not worth the squeeze

  125. Filtersrus says:


  126. Yo Mom says:

    Great article!! Thank you for the tips!

    As for the responses on this.. one person said it best.. “they are warnings, suckers.”

    I thought this website was for mature adults.
    Not, grown men who are belittling women and basically wanting prostitutes! ?

  127. Stormcat says:

    Seems like we mostly have mike and dave here. Nitemaresd sounds kind of familiar.

  128. Anonymous says:

    I have yet to meet a woman that actually needs a sugar daddy. so far everything has been spoiled rotten to the core. I guess the only action here is quite expensive and not worth it.

    • Anonymous says:

      i don’t know what your experience is here but i agree it’s not worth it

    • Anna says:

      Unfortunately those girl make it harder for us girls who have life goals (mentorship, business ventures, etc.) to be taken seriously. We’d rather have a SD that’ll show us his way of success and won’t mind teaching, alongside the cute purses and shoes.
      snapchat✨✨: alynn.21

  129. Stormcat says:

    Well I’ve been around for many years. Back when all the bloggers here had avatars and we knew each other in person. The site seems hostile now. I thought I’d take a look here because some of my friends here remain in my mind and I wondered if I might be able to reconnect. I am Stormcat. Does anyone recognize me?

  130. Mia says:

    Hi, this may be a stupid question and I know that most guys on here aren’t trying to scam, but I don’t want to be scammed. A guy sent me to a site that wants me to put my bank info into it. He isn’t like asking for the info in chat, but idk. Sorry if I’m just being paranoid, I just am cautious.

    • SA_Admin says:

      Never give out your bank and/or credit card information directly to another member or through a third-party site, as there is no way to monitor who has that access to that information. Please report any member who is asking for this type of information in any capacity, whether it is asking directly or asking you to use a third-party site.

  131. Mia says:

    Hey, idk if this is the best place to do this, but I’m really scared of being scammed. I know most of the people one here won’t, but how do I know? If they want me to use a site to pay me and it wants me to put my bank info in should I? They aren’t asking for it directly, but its a payroll cite thing that I’m not used to. I am new to this so sorry if I sound stupid.

    • SA_Admin says:

      Do not give out any of your bank and/or credit card information to anyone, even if they are asking for it through a third-party site. Please report any members that ask you to do this. Thanks!

  132. Anonymous says:

    Every time I try and post something I get told slow down you posting to quickly. .wtf are you kidding me..must be run by women..

  133. Dave says:

    Indications she’s a pro … Hooker

  134. Dave says:

    But use it after the sugar daddy has already paid for the exquisite dinner , amirite?

  135. Anonymous says:

    Trying to join the mile high club emotional support lmfao

  136. Anonymous says:

    Call sea world gonna have to agree with Dave’s comment tell them Shamu is at the door lol

  137. Sassy says:

    if I’m enjoying myself, he’s going to be a lot happier too. I do a lot more for the people I actually like.

  138. Sassy says:

    Why shouldn’t I allowed to be picky? Technically, this is just so I can afford to do things I want to do. I can pay my own bills.

  139. Kayla says:

    Sounds like you’re looking for a low quality woman, because only a low quality woman would meet you straight in private. Don’t be mad when you get results you don’t like, when that’s what you are intentionally looking for

    • Anonymous says:

      There are actually good quality girls on here who understand how things work and are actually sweet but it’s like the saying to find a prince you must kiss a frog well in this case we need to keep at it to find our arrangement sad but true!

  140. Kayla says:

    Every time I read a blog on here, I’m reminded exactly why you men are even on here. There’s always nothing but arguing between grown a** men and talking down on women. No wonder your wife sleeps with her boss and treats you like a coward, and that’s why you’re here. Therefore you need to quit the 1k-2k allowances. My presence should be appreciated and respected, and if not, then you should be fucking your wife instead of looking for a young woman.

    • Fanon says:

      Wives we pay to stay. You would be someone I would pay to LEAVE. If for one moment you think the balance of pay should be in your favor, you should hire the rescue squad to extricate your head from your own backside. Not gonna happen. Ain’t no lady parts worth that kind of money

    • SDZombie says:

      Hmmm, what an odd post.

    • Anonymous says:

      Who said we are married? And you get to decide allowances? You sound like a self entitled uneducated turd! Good luck with that attitude. Whoever pays you what you want will probably get you a incurable disease lol

      • Anonymous says:

        “Uneducated”…? -_- Says the person without adequate grammar. “Will probably get you ‘a’ incurable disease” … It’s “an” incurable moron. And I guarantee I’m younger and more feminine than you. -_-

  141. Dave says:

    If you pay for platonic , you’re paying some other guy to bang your sugar baby .

  142. Dave says:

    Call your local save-the-whales office.

  143. Dave says:

    Mr Teddy Bear at 1800-toys-r-us

  144. Paleryder says:

    The advice says ‘Don’t link your dating sites to your social media’. But that’s exactly what SA ask you to do. Why? What’s the risk, if your social media FB is set to private, friends only?

  145. Anonon says:

    Picture how sad it must be to be Mike and Dave, commenting on every article just to get the attention every lady refuses to give to them (even when they offer money!!). Guys, no self respecting women will pay attention to men who treat women the way you both do, maybe that’s why they won’t reply to your messages (besides from the fact you are probably fugly). The sugar babies who take care of themselves, are young, beautiful students who have ambitions will want men who respect them. All those things come with great self steem and someone who is willing to date men who think rape most rape accusations are false and that single moms are “leftovers” (even if they are not single moms themselves) obviously doesn’t have a self steem. Maybe that’s why no one wants you.

  146. Yo says:

    Man these replies ain’t tips

  147. Anonymous says:

    You could offer car service. Uber or Lyft?

    • Anonymous says:

      yes they could do you think they won’t

      • Anonymous says:

        I wouldn’t it gives your full name easy to google who you are then bad idea just show them cash in a pic if they believe they will come if not move on to the next

  148. Reject Princess says:

    Love this!! Great tips. You may also want to include new scams and/or red flags.

    Haha aaand those comments, though…!! ???

  149. Anonymous says:

    All the new girls that join write platonic lol
    Good luck with that one do you think we are dumb? and or haven’t heard of massage parlors or stripclubs lol money for coffee what a joke!

    • Anonymous says:

      yes they do ask for platonic when their new so what let them do without we don’t have to pay for something we don’t want but having said that i wish them no ill well i believe everyone should pursue what they want the only thing extra is that they need to be realistic in what to expect

    • Primo says:

      The majority 18-29 year olds on here want an online and platonic arrangement. Yes I like to hear about all the experiences and advice you could impart on me that you have learned in the 18-20 years. I am sure I’ll be captivated. I thought the site was supposed to ban online arrangements. The site has evolved.

    • Anonymous says:


  150. Anonymous says:

    Hey Dave is sassy sugars new name facts and aks? Lol

  151. Anonymous says:

    Sassy no offense but when your getting paid why would you be picky? I mean seriously with most girls I won’t do less than x$x it’s like ok go do a 80 yr old lol

  152. Anonymous says:

    Actually wife too lol

  153. Steve says:

    What is with the platonic no – meet up silliness? Where do these morons come from?

  154. Dave says:

    $100 bucks or an hour with yougottabefeedingme , that she doesn’t know who the baby daddy is .

  155. Dave says:

    She should be arrested for child abuse . I’m sure she’s a single mom because of muh patriarchy and the guy didn’t make her “happy “.

  156. Dave says:

    Gawd single moms make me fvckin puke . Not only is she not at all bothered to bring her kids near another grown man , she acts as though a grown man , the SD, would be willing to pay for this waste of time and hang out with her bastard kids .

    • Anonymous says:

      Awesome couldn’t have said it better growing up it’s was frowned upon for Gavin kids without marriage now it’s wrong to frown upon them oh do I miss the good old days

  157. glucose says:

    This site and these blogs…da best! I love how these females say “platonic.” They offer great minds and great insight. Yes, please, 20 year old, I want your advice and thoughts because you already look like you make great decisions based on the fact that you are on this site and/or your awesome neck/thigh tattoo. Here is some money. thank you.

  158. SDZombie says:

    If I have any doubts, I ask to see ID at M&G.

  159. SDZombie says:

    In my experience, girls who have platonic label are DTF. It’s just a “good girl” cover.

    • Anonymous says:

      Idk I’ve been hoping that but these girls expect to be paid a couple hundred to have coffee forget dinner and fun I offered one $500 a week for non platonic she turned me down I was so surprised I should’ve bought a lottery ticket I would have better odds than finding a decent sugar baby lol

  160. fivetats says:

    I have never read these blogs before but I will say, I was just very entertained reading the comments.

  161. Larry says:

    I’m impressed with your service.

  162. Romantic_Bliss says:

    Yes, I met someone here when living in London. it was platonic because after learning more about me he decided i needed a friend to talk to. he paid for meals, trips, etc. and eventually proposed. I think its better than rushing into a sexual relationship given 1) emotional connection should be established and 2) the younger lady is probably in a more vulnerable position than you are. (socially, economically, and safety wise)

    • Filtersrus says:

      But what he is pointing out is that the profile already makes that choice FOR him. I see the same things. The person wants to be put through university (a responsibility for her PARENTS) but doesn’t want to do anything but “vibe ” or talk. What person in their right mind would through out THOUSANDS in tuition for someone who is no more interested in dating him than putting her hands through a buzzsaw?

  163. SD with Open Eyes says:

    Always fun to see how many different handles that “Dave” controls and “argues” with himself with.

    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      Hiya, SD with Open Eyes…

      Yes, “Dave” still enjoys both arguing with and flattering himself through multiple screen names. ?

    • Anon says:

      Now it does sound like Mike and Dave are the same person. He must feel very alone, I’m glad he found a place to talk to himself without feeling guilty

  164. Honey says:

    To Dave and Mike

    Sorry for whatever women broke your hearts. You guys need a lot of hugs based on these comments.

  165. Anonymous says:

    Yeah, just don’t be stupid and use some common sense. Meet in a public place. There’s risks for the guys on here, too. Lol

  166. Dave says:

    99.9999% of men DO NOT rape . We know what your true goal is . It’s not about stopping rape because
    there are laws in place that
    punishes rapists already . Secondly , go try telling actual rapists not
    to be one . Good luck there .This
    is about control. You want control
    over men . You don’t want a sugar
    daddy with the ability to hit it
    and quit it . About 90 percent of SB profiles state demand long term
    arrangements . But you can’t
    guarantee that . You Want to be able to cry rape if he gets laid
    and never calls you again . That’s
    what this is about . Problem is
    social engineering fails every
    time . Just ask the now defunct
    USSR. They tried that many times in
    80 years . They even tried to
    clone docile humans with genetic
    engineering. It didn’t work .

  167. Dave says:

    @A.x translation : you have a date with a Schnauzer watching Scooby Doo on Netflix and an ample supply of peanut butter

  168. Sassy says:

    Some people actually like my company Dave. And I’m not here to get my bills paid or to try and rob some guy out of as much money as I can get.

  169. Sassy says:

    But apparently you guys are allowed to be picky and we aren’t.

  170. Dave says:

    You’re a single mom, you should be lucky if you get offers for $50

  171. Dave says:

    @yougottabefeedingme … All these years I had some respect for your witty response . You just said the words “rape culture ” yeah …let me guess you have pink hair and hate the patriarchy ?

    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      Yes, the culture around minimizing rape.

      Never, in the farthest stretch of my wildest imagination, would having your respect be an aspiration of mine.

      And, no…I’ve not pink hair, I’ve pink lips.

      • Dave says:

        Take your fake rape cause to Pakistan but you won’t because you’re “woke” to their culture even though rape is pervasive there .

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        Non sequitur.

        Try again.

      • Dave says:

        There have been more men’s lives ruined by false rape accusations in the last 15 years than there has been actual rapes in the West .

      • Sassy says:

        And Dave just likes to baby shame. ??‍♀️

      • yougottabekiddingme says:

        “yougottabekiddingme is not trying to make friends or help men,” say they (Dave and/aka Mike) who do not play well with others.

        You do not present yourselves as the types anyone would want to make friends with, though you admittedly need help.

        Didn’t your inferably rape-proof mother teach you to play nicely?

      • Sassy says:

        Aren’t you pretty close to that?
        And if I wanted to be with an asshole just for the money, I’d go back to my ex.

      • Dave says:

        @sassy don’t get me wrong . I’d bang a single mom , but only on a Dutch date and I would never consider getting in a relationship with one . I make too much money and worked too hard in athletics to be the breadwinner for another man’s leftovers . In 45 and I’ll pay for youth and freshness

  172. Sassy says:

    Happens on our end too

  173. Sassy says:

    Ugh… won’t let me comment

  174. Sassy says:

    I wouldn’t want someone I had never met, picking me up. But might depend on how much I had talked to them.

  175. Sassy says:

    I have pics of my ex still on mine. But it is my daughter’s father.

    • Dave says:

      Single mom garbage alert . You should go back to plenty of fish .

    • Sassy says:

      Dave, you know nothing about me. 5 years into my marriage, he started abusing me, so I got out and made him get help. Keep your rude comments to yourself.

    • Dave says:

      Sure … He either was a bad boy or you nagged him . Im sure he has a side I’d like to hear . Don’t care . My money goes to young fresh women not leftovers

    • Sassy says:

      And you sound exactly like him. I’m sure you would get along great. Go knock someone up while you are at it then say it’s not yours. I learned from my mistakes.

    • Anonymous says:

      Sassy your 35 and have a kid and u want a sugar daddy when you’re already a mommy ? Does that even make sense ? Guys want a young vibrant girl with no baggage or else we would date girls and even then I wouldn’t date a girl with a kid just cuz I will never be the real father and they will just be an issue in the relationship kids are not easy to raise especially if they’re not your own

    • Sassy says:

      Doesn’t really matter if you would, and I don’t bring her around the men I see. That would only happen if it’s a serious relationship. She already has a dad.

    • Sassy says:

      And I’m with a 47 yo sugar daddy at the moment so your opinion is your own. Not all sugar daddies want what you want.

    • Anonymous says:

      47 yr old lmfao I don’t believe any real sugar daddy would want a 35 yr old lol are u sure he isn’t 87 lol

  176. Sassy says:

    That’s a hard situation though. We’ve always been told not to have a guy pick you up that you haven’t met. I might depending on how long we’ve been talking. But I also haven’t been without a car so it’s never been a problem.

  177. Sassy says:

    I’m pretty sure I still have pics of my ex on my Facebook, but that’s because I have a kid with him.

  178. Sassy says:

    I have a taser instead

  179. Me says:

    I think Mike and Dave are the same person and probably only have sweet n low

  180. yougottabekiddingme says:

    You’re doing it wrong.

    This isn’t Mayberry, Sir.

  181. A.x says:

    so true ? two old fogeys with nothing better to do hahaha

  182. yougottabekiddingme says:

    Way to flatter yourself, Dave.

  183. Kat says:

    Sounds like you met a pro. I thought that’s not what this site was about? #norespect

  184. Ruby says:

    What about the supposed SDs that demand money or bank info on first message “because they want to send an allowance right now”? Or the SDs that demand sex on the first date? Both sides of the coin can be seedy and both parties need to be safe.

  185. Seetroughit says:

    This article and the comments are sad to read.
    We are all looking for deep connection, and so many hurt people trow up hurdles and abuse situations. Potential sugar daddy’s as well as ladies who seek company.
    The borders are so thin and standards yet unexplored with this new way of interacting. And personally i find it difficult to navigate as well. I love my time and my life, and it is valuable to me. If the date is amazing and i like the guy or when it is a dirty guy who is pushing to get into your skirt. Western society is pretty messed up that we got ourselves till here. If these girls knew and had the confidence that they could make the money on their own and feel save from man, and not needing protection. I doubt many woman would be on here.

  186. A says:

    as a young girl I’ve had to show ID to some men which is fair, but then I get friend requests on FB which isn’t fair.
    Had a man threaten me because I missed my coach, said he’d have me beat up and he had a family of police officers so no one would believe me

    • A says:

      That same man said he’d write a letter to my mum, and get me kicked out of school. He was a nut job. Some need psych evaluations before joining

    • A says:

      Same man threatened to get me kicked out of school. Apparently nice people attract the crazies

    • A says:

      Same man threatened to have me kicked out of my sixth form. I’ve had a few men make passes unwanted and another fracture my finger cause he was so heavy on top of me also unwanted, apparently I’m a tease so that’s good reason for those nut jobs

    • A says:

      Also there’s this surge of men asking to meet abroad. I’m not sure that’s safe for anyone man or woman. Then giving out your number is becoming annoying because some SDs, especially the photo less ones give it to other people and suddenly you have weird men messaging

    • A says:

      Then there’s the weirdos who just wont quit. You have to block them and hope they don’t find your email
      One SD went through my phone to see if I had other SDs, thought it was ok because he admitted it. I said it’s fine then blocked him when I got home
      I think this site needs to regulate better, keep the crazy people out, men and women

    • A says:

      But…the majority of men on the site super cool to me that’s just my experience with the crazy ones

    • James says:

      You gotta read red flags better sweetheart. People like that, you can usually tell before meeting something is off.

  187. A says:

    I’ve got stories too with crazy SDs. I’ve had to send pics of my ID to men. Which is fair enough. Then suddenly I’m getting friend requests on FB, not fair. I’ve been threatened by a police officers uncle just because I missed my coach, he told me he’d get people to sort me out. He was a nut job, said he’d send a letter to my mum and get me kicked out of school.

    • SA_Admin says:

      We strongly advise against ever giving out your personal information, such as an ID, as this can lead members to know where you live and gain even more information. Please report members asking for personal information like this that includes your address.

  188. Anonymous says:

    and don’t believe them because they say they are 18 and are on the site if they look too young they are likely they are too young

  189. SDZombie says:

    You’re not kidding. I notice many of these girls have men looming in the background.

    • Anonymous says:

      I always meet up for drinks and show up early or late this puts me in the advantage point I always tip the waitress and tell her to let me know if she sees anything funny $20 bucks and ur golden

  190. SDZombie says:

    Reading these comments is relieving. Glad to see I’m not the only one noticing that there are a huge amount of seedy women on here. I thought perhaps it was my just my state.

  191. Dave says:

    Sex and the city told then that they have value over 35 . I’ve found that oder women are just as entitled as younger women and can act even worse , so why pay for an old bag ?

  192. Dave says:

    Statistics show that REAL rape occurs about 0.01% in Western societies . Young women will make babies with convicts becoming a single and 90 percent of rapists and the incarcerated come from single mother homes. Yet us men who have advanced degrees , stem education and come from nuclear families are the real danger . Yeah

    • Filtersrus says:

      I can tell you how to fix that one. Had it happen to me and I fixed her little red wagon really quick

    • Jane says:

      That’s not a real statistic and it can’t be until people of all genders can feel safe about coming forward. Rape happens more than we all know and most of the information we have on the subject is tainted because of people victim blaming. What you just did is shameful and I hope you feel it.

    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      Public Service Announcement:

      Rape is rape.

    • Sassy says:

      Not sure where you guys live but seems like you have more crazy women in your area.

    • Sassy says:

      Well I’m in the middle of Iowa. Seems like there are more down to earth people here.

    • Dave says:

      You’re a single mom leftover , that’s not down to earth . So hate to burst your bubble , you’re no better . Im in a large city BTW

      • Sassy says:

        Divorced. You are the one that said there’s a difference. I have a pretty solid life though. Almost done with school and a full time job in my field. The guys I go out with keep coming back so they must not have a problem with me having a kid and being 35. ??‍♀️

      • Sassy says:

        Divorced. You are the one who said there’s a difference

      • Sassy says:

        I’m good with where I am. Almost done with school and working full time in my field. The guys I go out with still come back so they must not have a problem with me having a kid and being 35.

      • Dave says:

        Ahh no I didn’t . I would give widows a chance but if you’re a single mom you either reproduced with a bad boy or left a good man . But of course in womansplaining land neither could make you happy . Regardless Single mom = leftovers

      • Sassy says:

        Wow. Who’s entitled?

      • Dave says:

        Entitled ? You’re the one who made the mistake not me ? That’s called a standard . Not wasting time on ugghh a single mom…. Hotdog down the hallway and over 30 ugghhh

      • Sassy says:

        Yes, I’m a single mom. At least I don’t lie about it and I don’t expect anyone to provide for my daughter but me.

      • LadyBird says:

        Sassy, you go girl! I am so proud of you! ? You got out of the wrong relationship, you manage to have your daughter by yourself. Ignore Dave, he is not worth your time! There are plenty of people who are :)))

    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      Yes, Mike, as a matter of fact I did. Minimizing rape culture is dangerous for your daughters, and your mother, and your sisters, and those of others.

      Don’t give yourself away so easily.

    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      Thanks for clarifying, Mike.

      The U.S. is less rapey than it used to be, and even less rapey than Saudi Arabia. Got it. Way to set the bar for your daughters.

      I don’t recall voicing any interest in a potential sugar relationship with you or anyone in this space. Also, this is a community blog, not a self-promotion platform. Am not here to pretend your sterile comments are climactic, nor am I here to stroke your flaccid thoughts and fragile ego.

      Try again.

    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      Wow, that was a leap.

      Rape culture is the culture of thought that suggests that the solution to rape is that women carry guns, rather than that men should stop raping and assaulting women.

      Way to go, Mike. You’re on a roll.

    • yougottabekiddingme says:


    • Anonymous says:

      I know this one girl very well she broke up with her boyfriend went to the bar with a friend got drunk made out with him they had sex then she cried rape and made him look like a rapist in front of everyone and got back with her boyfriend lol wtf?

    • Sassy says:

      Mike, doesn’t look like you are contributing anything at all except to put down anyone who comments.

  193. Dave says:

    But the tattoo artist with 4 actual rape charges and gang insignia is “hawt”

  194. Dave says:

    I got the same thing from a girl .so I got revenge . Isn’t her on a 2 hour drive to a restaurant and told her that i would pay her cash instead at dinner . I also told her to order me the cucina paradiso and a bottle of house wine before I got there . I never showed up .

  195. Dave says:

    They don’t think twice about reproducing with a convict but grip onto that can of pepper spray ready to use it on a date with a gentlemen .

    • Anonymous says:

      They follow their instincts they love the trailer park trash but aren’t comfortable with the clean cut money making machines